We homeschooled for 3 years, i have 3 boys, i was so depressed, anxious burnt out, i sent them back to school in the fall, the first few months were rough they wanted to be back home so bad, now they like it and have made friends. I totally get how youre feeling mama ❤ youre an amazing mama and love your kiddos so much, my boys fought 24/7 and were addicted to screens too, now they get time apart and its been so nice for our family!!
I'm so proud of you mama! They don't have to be in public school forever. You can do a year or a few and bring them back home whenever you're ready if that's something you want. You're awesome!
Good for you for making the decision to put your family's best interest above the fear of judgment for backing off homeschooling. You are the highest qualified person to make the call. It requires a very strong mom to recognize the signs within herself and her family indicating the stress is outweighing the benefits. Good for you for having the humbleness and courage to admit and own the decision!!!!!
I'm so proud of you momma. Don't cry! You are doing the best thing for all of you at this time. It doesn't mean you might not homeschool later on. Hugs to you!
Homeschooling is hard. I’ve contemplated throwing in the towel too. The good thing is you know what is best for you and your family. Take this time to re-strategize and implement a plan to retransmission back to homeschooling or continue public school. Especially, it’s all up to you. Thank you for your transparency and don’t stay too long feeling blue. This is a great time to enjoy your little ones and home educate them. Much love.
Lord knows I needed to see this video. I have been feeling like a failed as a homeschool mom because I send my older two to public school last month after homeschooling for 4 years. Long story, they are doing great. Struggling only with science because we never really did any 🙈 Don’t feel bad Mama, every season is different. God bless
How is it going now? If you feel like sharing. Sent mine this week and I feel mixed feelings if I'm honest 🙈. Never thought I'd send them and I'm both happy and sad.
Thanks for the vulnerability. It’s rare to see here on social media. You voiced much of what I’m struggling through right now. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
I'm contemplating putting my 8 year old into school. I've been homeschooling him from the beginning but as a single mom this just doesn't work anymore. I'm frustrated, nervous and stressed out all the time. I've been playing with the idea of sending him to a public school for a year now. But I'm really taken aback by the bad curriculums, woke agenda and bullying... I'm so scared. 😢 I understand it when you say you don't want to send them to public school.... I soooo understand this. 😢😢😢😢
Big hugs from one mom to another. Please,be kind to yourself. I have done some homeschool, private school and ended up public school. My kids...adults now, turned out great! A happy peaceful mom with energy is what they need...they need you!!❤❤
This is my story, except I am a single Mom and only have one son who has dyslexia. Public school really let us down related to his learning disability and we started homeschooling 4 years ago in 2nd grade. "Strong willed" is the nice way to say it - he fights me about doing anything and everything! It is affecting our relationship negatively and I loose my temper with him daily. I feel so defeated. I have been wrestling with sending him back to school for 2 years. Last year he did private school online school in a live classroom. It took ALOT off of me when I was desperate for a break, mostly because of other stressors in my life. Unfortunately, his assessments from the beginning and end of the school year had not improved at all, ntm I can't afford to send him back this year. We're gonna 'try again', but I too can see me sending him to school after it starts if he continues to refuse to cooperate. Accepting our limits is so HARD, esp. when we're determined to do what we believe our kids need! Thank you for sharing your story. You are not alone. I can see that you are a great Mom!
I feel you on such a deep level and all the emotions that come with the decision to quit homeschool. I never thought I would. I just want to thank you for being vulnerable and transparent as it helps other homeschool mommas know they are not alone nor a failure for deciding maybe homeschool is not the best decision in this moment. Big hugs!
Believe me there are moms like me. Who now have grown children. That went to public school. Who have good jobs and live on their own. The values that my parents taught me. Are still in me 51 years later. I went to public school. So did my younger siblings. We went to church every Sunday. Along with Sunday school. Your kids will be just fine.
I can completely relate to not wanting them in public schools! We’re in Oregon, some of the worst schools in the nation. I commute 2 of my kids to a small town where schools are much better but it means I’m driving 2 hours a day. My middle child has a lot of challenges including a recent autism diagnosis and was kicked out of those schools. I want so badly to homeschool like we did 2 years ago but our house needs major repairs and I have to work. Not only that I need a break from him. It kills me to say that but he needs more help than I can give him.
I felt so bad seeing you cry. SIX kids is NOT easy let alone having to teach them all. It’s better that your mental health is good and they go to public school. Because what they need the most is a present and happy mother. You’re amazing. God bless you.
Im sitting here tearing up with you! Ive been homeschooling for a little over a year and I’ve been struggling with this decision. I have a 2nd, 1st grade, preschool and a 2 year old foster child. I work part time and my husband full time, im overwhelmed and my older 2 are giving me push back, i called the public school 2 days ago and im fighting putting them in, but seeing this is helping me to know im not alone and not a failure if need to put them in. 😢
Hey its ok amber ❤️ let God give you rest and restoration. I homeschooled my oldest until 1st grade and had the same moment with her I was so overwhelmed i had my baby i was doing daycare it was too much in that season she went to public school along with my son until she was in 3rd and he was in kindergarten then for whatever reason I was called back to homeschool she is now in 9th and my son is 7th and my youngest 5th. God has plans for you and your family just trust in him public school homeschool private were ever he takes you he's got you girl. Take a deep breath its ok to mourn your plans you had but remember his plans are greater then ours. Praying for your journey.
❤I get it!!! Thanks for sharing, it doesn't seem that moms are open with sharing the difficulties, it is ALOT on one person. Also, it puts a damper on enjoying a baby when you are stressing to get school done.
God led me to this video today. Right down to the roblox, the fighting etc. I'm just done. I never thought I'd make this choice either. ❤ just know your video is speaking others and God is using you to push me into taking a leap of faith. Thank you so much. If you ever want to connect, feel free to reach out we are in the same season and head space.
Thank you for this video and go you for doing what's best for YOUR family! The beauty of Homeschool is the flexibility. I know people that have never homeschooled, did only for elementary, or only for middle and high school, some that have 1 kid at home and 1 kid at public school, etc. There is no shame in any of those options.
Hi, I just stumbled across this video/your channel and just wanted to thank you for your honesty. There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting your kiddos in school. You have a lot on your plate right now and you are doing what is best for everyone at this point in your lives. This gives you a chance to enjoy your time with the little ones and your older ones get out of the house and have fun. God has a plan and everything will work out.❤
I soooo feel you mama. Life comes in seasons. Sounds like now this is what's needed for you to find your ground again. This stuff is so. So. Hard!!! Your kids need you. They need momma and they need us to have it together. We were never meant to wear so many hats. So, for now, take in deep the breath. Enjoy your little ones. Find your ground. Things can change. I know my kids would appreciate me more if they had time away from what Ive provided for them. My school system stinks. Im a little stuck. But it sounds like a good deal for you right now. Its really okay. God Bless. Youll be in my prayers.
Thank you for these videos. I am also quitting. My social butterfly first grader is heading to school. I’m devastated but hopeful. This just doesn’t work for my kids. And that’s ok. We are doing what’s best for our kids. ❤
Thank you for sharing! As embarrassed as you are, I'm really thankful you put this video out! I was homeschooled (for all but 7th and 12th grade. Debatable 10th and 11th depending on how you classify charter school) and I HATED IT! I'm a full time Active Duty Soldier with a 5yo (who should be school age this September) and a 2yo. As much as I like the idea of homeschooling my kids, I just feel like I don't have it in me; which combined with my own horrible experience of being homeschooled, I have to wonder if HS is always the best option of the parents are ill-equipped. The problem I'm having is that I'm seeing many hoemschool advocates go on podcasts to say that ANYONE can homeschool! ("Yes! Even YOU!") and something about that just doesn't seem right. In fact, in the last podcast I listened to, the woman who advocated that there are no good excuses to not homeschool and anyone can do it recounted a story of a really bad day she was having: she was falling apart and felt like she was failing and couldn't do it anymore and her husband looked her in the eye and said "an ordinary women would be dead by now." Of course that's high praise and many good husbands can see what makes their wives so special. They can see where their wives excel. But what is the audience supposed to take from this? Can anyone homeschool, or can only the extraordinary homeschool? Ultimately, I think that people who act like their are clear right decisions and clear wrong decisions should be viewed with caution. The world is not simple and neither are people. Some of the most INCREDIBLE moral and intelligent people I have ever met came from public schools. If you love your kids and have a healthy relationship with them, public school probably won't be their doom. I myself would like to homeschool one day but I also have to be realistic about my skills and abilities and about my personal capacities. I truly thank you so much for sharing. It's been really helpful for me
Why did you hate being homeschooled? Were your parents bad teachers? Did you feel you didn’t receive the education you needed? Or friends? I want to homeschool and would like to know what kids who were homeschooled didn’t like about it.
@@onedayatatime6646 1. My mom was abusive (at the time I just thought of it as "mom is really angry" and "mom doesn't get it") 2. She stopped being hands-on after a while and left us to our own devices. Not sure how much was related to health issues and how much was that she just didn't feel like it, but we kind of just got left in the school room and she'd show up every once in a while to ask for progress 3. I had no developing work ethic 3a because there wasn't structure in my day, 3b there wasn't really a short term motivation to do work. The only motivation I had was "I won't be able to get into college x years from now if I don't learn this stuff" which isn't enough to persist throughout an average day. In school there are cumulative grades, deadlines, and teachers to impress 4. The expectations on me were somewhat unrealistic and they overwhelmed me. I was told that when I was 16 I would be taking college classes simultaneously with homeschooling which I was so far from being ready for. Instead of being taught with where I was, it felt like it was never good enough 5. I had low self-esteem and one component that added to it was lack of physical fitness. I had no gym period and the only physical activity was local swim team in the summer (which I sucked it) and it bothered me how weak I was and how easily winded I would get 6. Lack of friends(and boys). I knew other homeschool kids and kids from church but I didn't get close to any of them. It was a limited selection of people to be "friends" with, many of whom either; lacked interest in being friends with me, were jerks, were autistic (which isn't bad but when you're neurotupical AND you're both young, it's a lot harder to make a meaningful connection), and there was the element that all the parents seemed be friends with each other so it didn't feel like friendship was a choice for me, only for them. 7. I didn't think of it till now but I had that brain-mush feeling low grade through my days from being "trapped" in a small radius all the time. I had no car, there were limited places I could walk/bike to. 8. Lack of personal space. We had so many kids I always had to share a room and I never felt like I had a space space that was just my own were I could go to have some privacy and alone time. 9. No summer break. Summers off is a moral booster that I definitely wanted 10. Missing out. It felt like I was being deprived of access to the world of school busses, principals, and classrooms. All we knew about school was what we saw on TV and I longed for it 11. Lack of direction or ability to imagine my future. The idea of adult life was an abstract concept because all I knew was "you'll go to college and move out when you're an adult" and I think exposure to ideas about what adult life looks like was lacking. That might not be a homeschool thing but I feel like having more adults in my life would have helped give more perspective then just the homescholl families we knew. 12. Lack of clubs, extra curricular, and classes I actually wanted. I loved music and acting and I wanted to be part of clubs adn activities that were well organized 13. My mother is not a very good teacher. When I was little, it didn't matter because I was only taught simple concepts. But her ability to teach really fell short the older I got (which is probably a part of why she got more hands-off as time went on). Plus, English is not her native language so she taught a lot of things wrong when it came it English and spelling This is all I can think of for now. I'm sure homeschooling works sometimes for some kids, but a lot of things have to fall in place. If you love your kids (aren't abusive), and you are attuned to them and your needs, I think you'll be able to work around a lot of the problems I had due to a mother who failed to see us.
That genuinely sounds like your mother did not meet the needs you had a student. No wonder you hated it. It sounds very unsatisfying and unfulfilling. I hope I’m able to listen to my kids when they give me feedback on our homeschool experience and like this poster, am able to make choices that will best suit their needs regardless of my desire to homeschool, should it come to that. Despite your experience you seem to have persevered to be able to make something of yourself. I hope you are proud of yourself for what you have overcome!
@@onedayatatime6646 Thanks! Sounds like you'll do well 😊 How old are your kids? Also, I am very proud of myself. I'm naturally an agreeable person so I'm afraid of bragging, but I'm trying to get comfortable tooting my own horn a little bit 😜😅 Anyway, life as a free adult is SO much better than I ever imagined!
Don't beat yourself up about this. It's going to be OK. Take a deep breathe. I only homeschool one after sending her to private preschools and then did 1st grade in the public school here in Las Vegas (yes, Las Vegas with literally the worst schools in the United States!) We've been homeschooling for the past few years and she is in 7th grade now. With one it's easy, but with multiple in different grades I applaud you for doing that, and clearly you did well, because I know that wasn't easy! Middle school it hard on all kids no matter where you are, so who knows, when they reach middle school they will change their minds. As far as sports go, the public school are supposed to all homeschoolers to participate. My adult kids went to public school when we lived in Virginia and they survived, but now days, in the last 10 years or so, things have changed so much in public school and so many things/beliefs/etc are being forced upon kids these days that most parents are not OK with, so just keep that in mind. I have a grandson in high school and the stories he tells would blow your mind. Its scary! Hang in there, you got this, you made the best decision right now for your situation. Everything is always subject to change, so don't stress!
Don’t be so hard on yourself. You have six kids that is a lot to handle. I have worked with kids from 6 weeks-11 years old for 30 years. Now part time as Nanny. Be patient with yourself. You are doing what is best for your kids. My always said to me. When my son was little. Angela you can’t take care of Joshua. If you don’t take care of yourself. She is absolutely right. Hopefully you will realize that soon.
You deserve a break, you’ve done a wonderful job, the Lord knows what we are able of, He will take care of the kids at school for this time, recharge, rest a bit, give thanks and trust He is leading, a great mum stays a great mum even when the kids take a break at school 😁❤️❤️well done, your loving heart for your kids is the one that matters, and if it’s God’s will He will bring them back when you’ll be ready again. (Romans 8:28)
We homeschooled out child for 9th and 10th grade, but Advanced Algebra kicked by behind. It was also eye opening realizing that her scores on the math test they gave her landed her not only repeating her 10th grade math class, but it also placed her in the "slow" class, not the faster half of the class. She had been in the upper tier in math before she was pulled for home school. Like you said, it is too easy to put off or barely do the subjects either you or your children don't really like. Teachers don't have that luxury. They have a scope and sequence that they have to follow.
Oh mama, you have no idea how much I needed this. I cried right along with you and I am in the exact same situation. Filling out public school paperwork right now, just like you, a few days after school started. I snapped at the kids one too many times and realized I had bed working past my capacity for a long time. My oldest daughter is such an amazing person and so bright, but I suspect she has a learning disability of some sort. I’m so worried people will think I did nothing with her when in reality I worked hard day in and day out to help supplement her learning, but I just didn’t have the time and energy to truly give her all the help she needs. I’m hoping to homeschool again too. I’m hoping the school can help my eldest daughter build a stronger foundation for math and reading (which I can also supplement at home) and help her learn some good habits that I can build on in the future with further homeschooling. Right now I really need to focus on my health and my baby. I’ve been neglecting my physical health for a long time. Thank you again for sharing this❤❤❤ you helped me feel like I’m not a failure.
Good for you. Hopefully it is still going well. Seasons change and your and your families needs change and it’s ok. I went through this too as my children got older. You need to take care of yourself so that you have enough in your tank to take care of your family. And it’s nice to just be their mom again.
Wow. Thanks for sharing this. I am considering homeschooling but not certain about it for these very reasons. God understands that we are dust as the word says. He will compensate for our inadequacies
I know this was last school year but I literally just did the same thing. School started last week, I almost enrolled them three weeks ago but couldn't bring myself to go through with it. I still reached my breaking point this week and enrolled them anyway so they'll be starting late. The guilt from not being able to do it all and do it perfectly is crushing me. I'm heartbroken and I feel like such a failure. I keep thinking of all of the things people say about how public school is a brainwashing camp for kids, sending them there is letting them be raised by strangers, etc. I'm sure we've all heard these sentiments. But I have my reasons and they're good reasons. I hope in time this will be less painful.
God bless you! You obviously love your children very much, and want what is best for them. Pleeeeeease look into unschooling. It is a different approach to homeschooling that takes so much of the stress and anxiety out of the equation. It sounds scary and fringe at first, but I promise the more you understand the philosophy, the more you will see it is actually the most natural and healthy way for children to learn and grow. I know I'm just a random stranger on the internet, but I was unschooled myself, and that is mine and my wife's approach for our children as well. I see so many homeschool families burn out because they are trying so hard to recreate public school at home, and it just breaks my heart. Your kids are going to be ok, and so are you. You are all made of tough stuff and literally designed to be adaptive and resilient. Stop worrying about standards, stop worrying about other people, stop worrying about UA-cam. Also, please don't think that you've failed, it sounds like you just needed a break. You got this!
Thanks for sharing you honest opinions. You got to do what’s best for the family and also for your mental health. Just subscribed. I have considered quitting many a times. I also have a channel and would love to be friends and connect here! I pray that this year goes smoothly for you and your family with all the new changes.
Based on this video it’s clear you needed time to refill your bucket. You can not pour from an empty cup or serve your family if you are running on E. Hope things are smoothing out for you!
Mama, quit whipping yourself over this! It doesn’t mean you can’t support them with learning, it means you have made a great decision to “share the care”.
I have two I am homeschooling. A rising second grader and rising 9th grader. I am keeping the 9th grader at home but I am still contemplating what to do with the second grader because everyday was a fight to get her to do her work. So hard to get anything done. I found a small charter school I plan to let her stay for maybe two years or three years then will bring her back home. And this is my fear that she will be put back a grade. I have a hard time accepting that. Please update us since school is ending for summer of how it went.
Don’t cry. The fact that you have 6 kids already tells us you have a hard job in your hands. Us moms ate so hard on ourselves. I have one and i work 6 hours a day and I had to send him back to School and I was heart broken but he loves school and he’s so happy. So if I sent my one kid back to school you did okay for having sent yours to school. They’ll be ok. I went to public schools and I turned out pretty good I think lol
We all have our limits. Parenting and homeschooling and being on call 24/7to children is extremely tough. I homeschooled our daughter til she was 5 then put her in Kindergarden through 1st grade (we had a son as well he was 2 at the time) and when covid hit I went to homeschooling them both. My son was 6 when we decided to put them both in public school. The mornings were becoming stained to their lack of unwillingness to listen to me and do the routine. It was frustrating but now my daughter is asking to be homeschooled again...we shall see...not sure yet if I'll go back homeschooling.
My kids are the same, if we get out of a routine with school, all they want to do is watch Minecraft. I feel for you. I homeschooled my kids from the start, but I've considered quitting, mainly because of my bipolar diagnosis and ny mental health struggles. As of now we're still homeschooling tho.
I say as long as you know the teachers/principals/school board and you know that they are teaching things you are okay with and agree with, then do what you gotta do! My kids are all in our local public school and for the most part, they are great! I know they aren't teaching any ridiculous stuff. The only suggestion I would have for you is in reference to your little girl (or any of your kids) who is struggling with reading and writing. Do NOT solely rely on the school to figure out how to help her. If she is making good progress while at school and at the end of the year she's doing much better, then great! But if you don't see her making much progress, I would definitely suggest looking into dyslexia or other types of reading disabilities. For years, my son had a really hard time with anything that was related to reading and writing and the school kept telling me that he would either grow out of it or that he just wasn't working hard enough. It wasn't till he failed out of seventh grade and was having to repeat it and was already failing everything a second time when I finally checked him out to home school him and that is when I am the one who figured out that he has dyslexia. I am also the one who tutors him since the public school doesn't offer dyslexia specific tutoring. In no way am I saying that your daughter has any sort of disability, I just wish someone would have urged me more and been there to make these suggestions and maybe it wouldn't have taken so long to figure it out and he could have been a lot further ahead than he currently is. If you ever have any questions about stuff like this, please feel free to reach out to me. I am more than happy to help and share resources! You got this momma!
To be completely honest, as a believer, i never had even a hint from a Holy Spirit that i have to homeschool my kids, to the contrary, i was hearing to let them go to school and let go of fear, because if i would have done homeschooling, i would have done it out of fear of someone possibly corrupting my child, also i was afraid of them getting sick often and me not being able to mentally handle thatt. My oldest daughter started going to preschool, and she absolutely loves it, she can’t wait to go there, she is very social and loves to be around other kids. Me and my husband both went to school, in our home country- homeschooling wasn’t even an option, it was outlawed. We live in Finland by the way. Social media puts unnecessary pressure on us parents, that Jesus(Yeshua) never intended to put such burdens, didn’t He say “go into the World, but be not of the World”, then why are we pressured to grow our kids in green houses. I think we have to let our kids go to school and demand schools to live up to Godly moral standards, we can’t always run away, we have to sometimes fight and push back.
Kudos to u for even trying to home school. I have 6 kids, and there is no way I could home school. I can understand wanting to, but public school isn't bad. They meet and make new friends, have fun learning and get to do fun things like have pj day, or spirit week. Be happy that they are learning, and be happy you have a tiny bit of less stress in your life 😂. It's all ok 🙂 Good luck!
Do you by chance follow JamerrillStewart ? She has been homeschooling for almost her entire married life and has 9 children! She has so much good advice! Good luck whatever you do!❤
I completely get it. Roblox is addictive. Screens are addictive and if you don’t have a strict routine it can go south easily. I totally get it. But we also need to recognize that schools aren’t that terrible. Most of us went to public schools and we survived right? Come on now.
One of my favorite quotes: "even your worst day of homeschooling is better than a day spent within the school system." You can do it. One of the biggest challenges is letting go of what we think school has to look like.
Lady, your kids are behind the curve, and you have only yourself and husband to blame. You obviously did not do adequate research, and its safe to assume you're not a licensed teacher. What you said about letting your kids do what they want; that's not schooling. To deprive your kids of a proper education is tantamount to child abuse. People need to stop with these Stranger Danger/Satanic Panic type hysterics and use some critical thinking skills. You did this all for the wrong reasons, which mainly included following a very misguided trend. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, thank your lucky stars you weren't investigated by CPS. I do laud you for admitting your mistakes before it was too late, and hope in the future you will vote for lawmakers that will create policy as to have the same kind of accountability in homeschooling that there are in regular schools.
Good grief! What an atrocious comment. If you were swinging for the fence on being a gigantic a**, then congrats, you got your homer. It's not everyday (well maybe) that you get to see someone put their ignorance and insensitivity on full display for all the internet to see, but that's exactly what you've done here. You have a lot to learn about human childhood development and education, but I'll give you a start here: Not all of your assumptions are correct. CPS... give me a break.
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We homeschooled for 3 years, i have 3 boys, i was so depressed, anxious burnt out, i sent them back to school in the fall, the first few months were rough they wanted to be back home so bad, now they like it and have made friends. I totally get how youre feeling mama ❤ youre an amazing mama and love your kiddos so much, my boys fought 24/7 and were addicted to screens too, now they get time apart and its been so nice for our family!!
I'm so proud of you mama! They don't have to be in public school forever. You can do a year or a few and bring them back home whenever you're ready if that's something you want. You're awesome!
Good for you for making the decision to put your family's best interest above the fear of judgment for backing off homeschooling. You are the highest qualified person to make the call. It requires a very strong mom to recognize the signs within herself and her family indicating the stress is outweighing the benefits. Good for you for having the humbleness and courage to admit and own the decision!!!!!
What an encouraging comment. God bless your heart
I'm so proud of you momma. Don't cry! You are doing the best thing for all of you at this time. It doesn't mean you might not homeschool later on. Hugs to you!
Homeschooling is hard. I’ve contemplated throwing in the towel too. The good thing is you know what is best for you and your family. Take this time to re-strategize and implement a plan to retransmission back to homeschooling or continue public school. Especially, it’s all up to you. Thank you for your transparency and don’t stay too long feeling blue. This is a great time to enjoy your little ones and home educate them. Much love.
Lord knows I needed to see this video. I have been feeling like a failed as a homeschool mom because I send my older two to public school last month after homeschooling for 4 years. Long story, they are doing great. Struggling only with science because we never really did any 🙈 Don’t feel bad Mama, every season is different. God bless
How is it going now? If you feel like sharing. Sent mine this week and I feel mixed feelings if I'm honest 🙈. Never thought I'd send them and I'm both happy and sad.
Thanks for the vulnerability. It’s rare to see here on social media. You voiced much of what I’m struggling through right now. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
You are definitely not alone!
I'm contemplating putting my 8 year old into school. I've been homeschooling him from the beginning but as a single mom this just doesn't work anymore. I'm frustrated, nervous and stressed out all the time. I've been playing with the idea of sending him to a public school for a year now. But I'm really taken aback by the bad curriculums, woke agenda and bullying... I'm so scared. 😢 I understand it when you say you don't want to send them to public school.... I soooo understand this. 😢😢😢😢
Big hugs from one mom to another. Please,be kind to yourself. I have done some homeschool, private school and ended up public school. My kids...adults now, turned out great! A happy peaceful mom with energy is what they need...they need you!!❤❤
This is my story, except I am a single Mom and only have one son who has dyslexia. Public school really let us down related to his learning disability and we started homeschooling 4 years ago in 2nd grade. "Strong willed" is the nice way to say it - he fights me about doing anything and everything! It is affecting our relationship negatively and I loose my temper with him daily. I feel so defeated.
I have been wrestling with sending him back to school for 2 years. Last year he did private school online school in a live classroom. It took ALOT off of me when I was desperate for a break, mostly because of other stressors in my life. Unfortunately, his assessments from the beginning and end of the school year had not improved at all, ntm I can't afford to send him back this year. We're gonna 'try again', but I too can see me sending him to school after it starts if he continues to refuse to cooperate.
Accepting our limits is so HARD, esp. when we're determined to do what we believe our kids need! Thank you for sharing your story. You are not alone. I can see that you are a great Mom!
Thanks for this video. I’m going back and forth on what to do in the fall, public school or homeschool. I’m so overwhelmed homeschooling.
Same 😢 I feel like if I quit I fail Gods plan
I feel you on such a deep level and all the emotions that come with the decision to quit homeschool. I never thought I would. I just want to thank you for being vulnerable and transparent as it helps other homeschool mommas know they are not alone nor a failure for deciding maybe homeschool is not the best decision in this moment. Big hugs!
Believe me there are moms like me. Who now have grown children. That went to public school. Who have good jobs and live on their own. The values that my parents taught me. Are still in me 51 years later. I went to public school. So did my younger siblings. We went to church every Sunday. Along with Sunday school. Your kids will be just fine.
@@angelaschaefer5883 thank you for some reassurance. My kiddos are actually doing great in school right now. :)
I can completely relate to not wanting them in public schools! We’re in Oregon, some of the worst schools in the nation. I commute 2 of my kids to a small town where schools are much better but it means I’m driving 2 hours a day. My middle child has a lot of challenges including a recent autism diagnosis and was kicked out of those schools. I want so badly to homeschool like we did 2 years ago but our house needs major repairs and I have to work. Not only that I need a break from him. It kills me to say that but he needs more help than I can give him.
Oh that is sooo tough and my heart breaks for you!
I felt so bad seeing you cry. SIX kids is NOT easy let alone having to teach them all. It’s better that your mental health is good and they go to public school. Because what they need the most is a present and happy mother. You’re amazing. God bless you.
Im sitting here tearing up with you! Ive been homeschooling for a little over a year and I’ve been struggling with this decision. I have a 2nd, 1st grade, preschool and a 2 year old foster child. I work part time and my husband full time, im overwhelmed and my older 2 are giving me push back, i called the public school 2 days ago and im fighting putting them in, but seeing this is helping me to know im not alone and not a failure if need to put them in. 😢
Hey its ok amber ❤️ let God give you rest and restoration. I homeschooled my oldest until 1st grade and had the same moment with her I was so overwhelmed i had my baby i was doing daycare it was too much in that season she went to public school along with my son until she was in 3rd and he was in kindergarten then for whatever reason I was called back to homeschool she is now in 9th and my son is 7th and my youngest 5th. God has plans for you and your family just trust in him public school homeschool private were ever he takes you he's got you girl. Take a deep breath its ok to mourn your plans you had but remember his plans are greater then ours. Praying for your journey.
❤I get it!!! Thanks for sharing, it doesn't seem that moms are open with sharing the difficulties, it is ALOT on one person. Also, it puts a damper on enjoying a baby when you are stressing to get school done.
God led me to this video today. Right down to the roblox, the fighting etc. I'm just done. I never thought I'd make this choice either. ❤ just know your video is speaking others and God is using you to push me into taking a leap of faith. Thank you so much. If you ever want to connect, feel free to reach out we are in the same season and head space.
I’m very happy this resonated with you! It’s soooo tough! ❤️
Glad you shared! i struggled with this as well as school just started.
Thank you for this video and go you for doing what's best for YOUR family! The beauty of Homeschool is the flexibility. I know people that have never homeschooled, did only for elementary, or only for middle and high school, some that have 1 kid at home and 1 kid at public school, etc. There is no shame in any of those options.
It’s tough I totally get it. No worries, it will all be fine. Thank you for your honesty.
Thank you so much for making this video ❤ I’m struggling with this decision and this made me feel not so alone.
Oh my goodness I want to give a big hug !!! You did what was best for you and your family! Praying for you all! ❤
Hi, I just stumbled across this video/your channel and just wanted to thank you for your honesty. There is absolutely nothing wrong with putting your kiddos in school. You have a lot on your plate right now and you are doing what is best for everyone at this point in your lives. This gives you a chance to enjoy your time with the little ones and your older ones get out of the house and have fun. God has a plan and everything will work out.❤
Thank you so much!
I needed this today. Thank you so much for this video. It’s so hard but you can’t pour from an empty cup. I’m proud of you for making this decision
Thank you so much for making this! I needed it so much!
Your honesty is beautiful, do not hold this against yourself. Your relationship with your kids is more important than homeschooling. ❤
I soooo feel you mama. Life comes in seasons. Sounds like now this is what's needed for you to find your ground again. This stuff is so. So. Hard!!! Your kids need you. They need momma and they need us to have it together. We were never meant to wear so many hats. So, for now, take in deep the breath. Enjoy your little ones. Find your ground. Things can change. I know my kids would appreciate me more if they had time away from what Ive provided for them. My school system stinks. Im a little stuck. But it sounds like a good deal for you right now. Its really okay. God Bless. Youll be in my prayers.
Thank you so much!
Thank you for these videos. I am also quitting. My social butterfly first grader is heading to school. I’m devastated but hopeful. This just doesn’t work for my kids. And that’s ok. We are doing what’s best for our kids. ❤
Thank you for sharing! As embarrassed as you are, I'm really thankful you put this video out! I was homeschooled (for all but 7th and 12th grade. Debatable 10th and 11th depending on how you classify charter school) and I HATED IT! I'm a full time Active Duty Soldier with a 5yo (who should be school age this September) and a 2yo. As much as I like the idea of homeschooling my kids, I just feel like I don't have it in me; which combined with my own horrible experience of being homeschooled, I have to wonder if HS is always the best option of the parents are ill-equipped.
The problem I'm having is that I'm seeing many hoemschool advocates go on podcasts to say that ANYONE can homeschool! ("Yes! Even YOU!") and something about that just doesn't seem right. In fact, in the last podcast I listened to, the woman who advocated that there are no good excuses to not homeschool and anyone can do it recounted a story of a really bad day she was having: she was falling apart and felt like she was failing and couldn't do it anymore and her husband looked her in the eye and said "an ordinary women would be dead by now."
Of course that's high praise and many good husbands can see what makes their wives so special. They can see where their wives excel. But what is the audience supposed to take from this? Can anyone homeschool, or can only the extraordinary homeschool?
Ultimately, I think that people who act like their are clear right decisions and clear wrong decisions should be viewed with caution. The world is not simple and neither are people. Some of the most INCREDIBLE moral and intelligent people I have ever met came from public schools. If you love your kids and have a healthy relationship with them, public school probably won't be their doom.
I myself would like to homeschool one day but I also have to be realistic about my skills and abilities and about my personal capacities.
I truly thank you so much for sharing. It's been really helpful for me
Why did you hate being homeschooled? Were your parents bad teachers? Did you feel you didn’t receive the education you needed? Or friends? I want to homeschool and would like to know what kids who were homeschooled didn’t like about it.
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1. My mom was abusive (at the time I just thought of it as "mom is really angry" and "mom doesn't get it")
2. She stopped being hands-on after a while and left us to our own devices. Not sure how much was related to health issues and how much was that she just didn't feel like it, but we kind of just got left in the school room and she'd show up every once in a while to ask for progress
3. I had no developing work ethic
3a because there wasn't structure in my day,
3b there wasn't really a short term motivation to do work. The only motivation I had was "I won't be able to get into college x years from now if I don't learn this stuff" which isn't enough to persist throughout an average day. In school there are cumulative grades, deadlines, and teachers to impress
4. The expectations on me were somewhat unrealistic and they overwhelmed me. I was told that when I was 16 I would be taking college classes simultaneously with homeschooling which I was so far from being ready for. Instead of being taught with where I was, it felt like it was never good enough
5. I had low self-esteem and one component that added to it was lack of physical fitness. I had no gym period and the only physical activity was local swim team in the summer (which I sucked it) and it bothered me how weak I was and how easily winded I would get
6. Lack of friends(and boys). I knew other homeschool kids and kids from church but I didn't get close to any of them. It was a limited selection of people to be "friends" with, many of whom either; lacked interest in being friends with me, were jerks, were autistic (which isn't bad but when you're neurotupical AND you're both young, it's a lot harder to make a meaningful connection), and there was the element that all the parents seemed be friends with each other so it didn't feel like friendship was a choice for me, only for them.
7. I didn't think of it till now but I had that brain-mush feeling low grade through my days from being "trapped" in a small radius all the time. I had no car, there were limited places I could walk/bike to.
8. Lack of personal space. We had so many kids I always had to share a room and I never felt like I had a space space that was just my own were I could go to have some privacy and alone time.
9. No summer break. Summers off is a moral booster that I definitely wanted
10. Missing out. It felt like I was being deprived of access to the world of school busses, principals, and classrooms. All we knew about school was what we saw on TV and I longed for it
11. Lack of direction or ability to imagine my future. The idea of adult life was an abstract concept because all I knew was "you'll go to college and move out when you're an adult" and I think exposure to ideas about what adult life looks like was lacking. That might not be a homeschool thing but I feel like having more adults in my life would have helped give more perspective then just the homescholl families we knew.
12. Lack of clubs, extra curricular, and classes I actually wanted. I loved music and acting and I wanted to be part of clubs adn activities that were well organized
13. My mother is not a very good teacher. When I was little, it didn't matter because I was only taught simple concepts. But her ability to teach really fell short the older I got (which is probably a part of why she got more hands-off as time went on). Plus, English is not her native language so she taught a lot of things wrong when it came it English and spelling
This is all I can think of for now. I'm sure homeschooling works sometimes for some kids, but a lot of things have to fall in place. If you love your kids (aren't abusive), and you are attuned to them and your needs, I think you'll be able to work around a lot of the problems I had due to a mother who failed to see us.
That genuinely sounds like your mother did not meet the needs you had a student. No wonder you hated it. It sounds very unsatisfying and unfulfilling. I hope I’m able to listen to my kids when they give me feedback on our homeschool experience and like this poster, am able to make choices that will best suit their needs regardless of my desire to homeschool, should it come to that.
Despite your experience you seem to have persevered to be able to make something of yourself. I hope you are proud of yourself for what you have overcome!
@@onedayatatime6646 Thanks! Sounds like you'll do well 😊 How old are your kids?
Also, I am very proud of myself. I'm naturally an agreeable person so I'm afraid of bragging, but I'm trying to get comfortable tooting my own horn a little bit 😜😅
Anyway, life as a free adult is SO much better than I ever imagined!
Good on you for making a hard but reasonable choice for the good of your children.
Don't beat yourself up about this. It's going to be OK. Take a deep breathe. I only homeschool one after sending her to private preschools and then did 1st grade in the public school here in Las Vegas (yes, Las Vegas with literally the worst schools in the United States!) We've been homeschooling for the past few years and she is in 7th grade now. With one it's easy, but with multiple in different grades I applaud you for doing that, and clearly you did well, because I know that wasn't easy! Middle school it hard on all kids no matter where you are, so who knows, when they reach middle school they will change their minds. As far as sports go, the public school are supposed to all homeschoolers to participate. My adult kids went to public school when we lived in Virginia and they survived, but now days, in the last 10 years or so, things have changed so much in public school and so many things/beliefs/etc are being forced upon kids these days that most parents are not OK with, so just keep that in mind. I have a grandson in high school and the stories he tells would blow your mind. Its scary! Hang in there, you got this, you made the best decision right now for your situation. Everything is always subject to change, so don't stress!
Thank you!
Don’t be so hard on yourself. You have six kids that is a lot to handle. I have worked with kids from 6 weeks-11 years old for 30 years. Now part time as Nanny. Be patient with yourself. You are doing what is best for your kids. My always said to me. When my son was little. Angela you can’t take care of Joshua. If you don’t take care of yourself. She is absolutely right. Hopefully you will realize that soon.
Thank you for your vulnerability in sharing this
You made the best decision for you at this time! More power to you....
Thank you for this video. Very helpful.
You deserve a break, you’ve done a wonderful job, the Lord knows what we are able of, He will take care of the kids at school for this time, recharge, rest a bit, give thanks and trust He is leading, a great mum stays a great mum even when the kids take a break at school 😁❤️❤️well done, your loving heart for your kids is the one that matters, and if it’s God’s will He will bring them back when you’ll be ready again. (Romans 8:28)
You are so real for this conversation. I have been here myself.... it's so hard. I hope now your more at peace with your decision. ❤ your a great mom.
New friend and supporter! I've had this on my heart recently and glad I found you!
The shakiness in your voice is how I'm feeling atm. 😭❤️ you are speaking to my heart girl.
I’m glad too! Feel free to message me if you need, I’m here to support you!
We homeschooled out child for 9th and 10th grade, but Advanced Algebra kicked by behind. It was also eye opening realizing that her scores on the math test they gave her landed her not only repeating her 10th grade math class, but it also placed her in the "slow" class, not the faster half of the class. She had been in the upper tier in math before she was pulled for home school. Like you said, it is too easy to put off or barely do the subjects either you or your children don't really like. Teachers don't have that luxury. They have a scope and sequence that they have to follow.
its completely understandable. you will be able to be their Mother now and enjoy each other again. This is not necessarily forever!
I appreciate your transparency ❤
Thank you!
Oh mama, you have no idea how much I needed this. I cried right along with you and I am in the exact same situation. Filling out public school paperwork right now, just like you, a few days after school started. I snapped at the kids one too many times and realized I had bed working past my capacity for a long time.
My oldest daughter is such an amazing person and so bright, but I suspect she has a learning disability of some sort. I’m so worried people will think I did nothing with her when in reality I worked hard day in and day out to help supplement her learning, but I just didn’t have the time and energy to truly give her all the help she needs.
I’m hoping to homeschool again too. I’m hoping the school can help my eldest daughter build a stronger foundation for math and reading (which I can also supplement at home) and help her learn some good habits that I can build on in the future with further homeschooling.
Right now I really need to focus on my health and my baby. I’ve been neglecting my physical health for a long time.
Thank you again for sharing this❤❤❤ you helped me feel like I’m not a failure.
My kids have been in school for a few months now and I can say you won't regret it! I'm so happy you found my video because you are not alone. ❤
Thank you!!@@1898Mama
Good for you. Hopefully it is still going well. Seasons change and your and your families needs change and it’s ok. I went through this too as my children got older. You need to take care of yourself so that you have enough in your tank to take care of your family. And it’s nice to just be their mom again.
Wow. Thanks for sharing this. I am considering homeschooling but not certain about it for these very reasons. God understands that we are dust as the word says. He will compensate for our inadequacies
I know this was last school year but I literally just did the same thing. School started last week, I almost enrolled them three weeks ago but couldn't bring myself to go through with it. I still reached my breaking point this week and enrolled them anyway so they'll be starting late. The guilt from not being able to do it all and do it perfectly is crushing me. I'm heartbroken and I feel like such a failure. I keep thinking of all of the things people say about how public school is a brainwashing camp for kids, sending them there is letting them be raised by strangers, etc. I'm sure we've all heard these sentiments. But I have my reasons and they're good reasons. I hope in time this will be less painful.
One year later, I can tell you it will be less painful.
@@1898Mama Thank you for replying. I appreciate that so much. After I left this comment I saw your update video and I was so so encouraged by it.
God bless you! You obviously love your children very much, and want what is best for them. Pleeeeeease look into unschooling. It is a different approach to homeschooling that takes so much of the stress and anxiety out of the equation. It sounds scary and fringe at first, but I promise the more you understand the philosophy, the more you will see it is actually the most natural and healthy way for children to learn and grow. I know I'm just a random stranger on the internet, but I was unschooled myself, and that is mine and my wife's approach for our children as well. I see so many homeschool families burn out because they are trying so hard to recreate public school at home, and it just breaks my heart. Your kids are going to be ok, and so are you. You are all made of tough stuff and literally designed to be adaptive and resilient. Stop worrying about standards, stop worrying about other people, stop worrying about UA-cam. Also, please don't think that you've failed, it sounds like you just needed a break. You got this!
I feel you so much!!! 😢❤
Thanks for sharing you honest opinions. You got to do what’s best for the family and also for your mental health. Just subscribed. I have considered quitting many a times. I also have a channel and would love to be friends and connect here! I pray that this year goes smoothly for you and your family with all the new changes.
Based on this video it’s clear you needed time to refill your bucket. You can not pour from an empty cup or serve your family if you are running on E. Hope things are smoothing out for you!
I wouldn't be able to do it either with 6 kids. I pulled my kids out of public school, and put them back in, and out a few times so I understand.
Mama, quit whipping yourself over this! It doesn’t mean you can’t support them with learning, it means you have made a great decision to “share the care”.
I’ve never heard the phrase “share the care” before! I love that!
I have two I am homeschooling. A rising second grader and rising 9th grader. I am keeping the 9th grader at home but I am still contemplating what to do with the second grader because everyday was a fight to get her to do her work. So hard to get anything done. I found a small charter school I plan to let her stay for maybe two years or three years then will bring her back home. And this is my fear that she will be put back a grade. I have a hard time accepting that. Please update us since school is ending for summer of how it went.
Don’t cry. The fact that you have 6 kids already tells us you have a hard job in your hands. Us moms ate so hard on ourselves. I have one and i work 6 hours a day and I had to send him back to School and I was heart broken but he loves school and he’s so happy. So if I sent my one kid back to school you did okay for having sent yours to school. They’ll be ok. I went to public schools and I turned out pretty good I think lol
This is exactly what’s going on with me when we don’t do school all my kids want is screen I feel like sending them back
We all have our limits. Parenting and homeschooling and being on call 24/7to children is extremely tough. I homeschooled our daughter til she was 5 then put her in Kindergarden through 1st grade (we had a son as well he was 2 at the time) and when covid hit I went to homeschooling them both. My son was 6 when we decided to put them both in public school. The mornings were becoming stained to their lack of unwillingness to listen to me and do the routine. It was frustrating but now my daughter is asking to be homeschooled again...we shall see...not sure yet if I'll go back homeschooling.
My kids are the same, if we get out of a routine with school, all they want to do is watch Minecraft. I feel for you. I homeschooled my kids from the start, but I've considered quitting, mainly because of my bipolar diagnosis and ny mental health struggles. As of now we're still homeschooling tho.
Thank you so much for this video. I’m going through the same decision
I say as long as you know the teachers/principals/school board and you know that they are teaching things you are okay with and agree with, then do what you gotta do! My kids are all in our local public school and for the most part, they are great! I know they aren't teaching any ridiculous stuff. The only suggestion I would have for you is in reference to your little girl (or any of your kids) who is struggling with reading and writing. Do NOT solely rely on the school to figure out how to help her. If she is making good progress while at school and at the end of the year she's doing much better, then great! But if you don't see her making much progress, I would definitely suggest looking into dyslexia or other types of reading disabilities. For years, my son had a really hard time with anything that was related to reading and writing and the school kept telling me that he would either grow out of it or that he just wasn't working hard enough. It wasn't till he failed out of seventh grade and was having to repeat it and was already failing everything a second time when I finally checked him out to home school him and that is when I am the one who figured out that he has dyslexia. I am also the one who tutors him since the public school doesn't offer dyslexia specific tutoring. In no way am I saying that your daughter has any sort of disability, I just wish someone would have urged me more and been there to make these suggestions and maybe it wouldn't have taken so long to figure it out and he could have been a lot further ahead than he currently is. If you ever have any questions about stuff like this, please feel free to reach out to me. I am more than happy to help and share resources! You got this momma!
To be completely honest, as a believer, i never had even a hint from a Holy Spirit that i have to homeschool my kids, to the contrary, i was hearing to let them go to school and let go of fear, because if i would have done homeschooling, i would have done it out of fear of someone possibly corrupting my child, also i was afraid of them getting sick often and me not being able to mentally handle thatt. My oldest daughter started going to preschool, and she absolutely loves it, she can’t wait to go there, she is very social and loves to be around other kids. Me and my husband both went to school, in our home country- homeschooling wasn’t even an option, it was outlawed. We live in Finland by the way. Social media puts unnecessary pressure on us parents, that Jesus(Yeshua) never intended to put such burdens, didn’t He say “go into the World, but be not of the World”, then why are we pressured to grow our kids in green houses. I think we have to let our kids go to school and demand schools to live up to Godly moral standards, we can’t always run away, we have to sometimes fight and push back.
Loved your video... 😢Know it took a lot... I get it .. I totally get it. .. virtual hugs... xoxoxo...
Kudos to u for even trying to home school. I have 6 kids, and there is no way I could home school. I can understand wanting to, but public school isn't bad. They meet and make new friends, have fun learning and get to do fun things like have pj day, or spirit week. Be happy that they are learning, and be happy you have a tiny bit of less stress in your life 😂. It's all ok 🙂 Good luck!
12 years… Beyond tired.
Do you by chance follow JamerrillStewart ? She has been homeschooling for almost her entire married life and has 9 children! She has so much good advice! Good luck whatever you do!❤
I've never heard of her but I'll go check her out!
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I completely get it. Roblox is addictive. Screens are addictive and if you don’t have a strict routine it can go south easily. I totally get it. But we also need to recognize that schools aren’t that terrible. Most of us went to public schools and we survived right? Come on now.
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One of my favorite quotes: "even your worst day of homeschooling is better than a day spent within the school system." You can do it. One of the biggest challenges is letting go of what we think school has to look like.
But Roblox and UA-cam ain’t it either.
Just a thought - I promise... but maybe being a you tuber takes too much time
Yes, she should've quit youtubing and keep the kids at home. She is just overwhelmed. A vacation and complete break from schooling would've helped.
This is her outlet. She needs to do this for herself. She’s also helping people. When she cares for herself she’s better able to parent.
Lady, your kids are behind the curve, and you have only yourself and husband to blame. You obviously did not do adequate research, and its safe to assume you're not a licensed teacher. What you said about letting your kids do what they want; that's not schooling. To deprive your kids of a proper education is tantamount to child abuse. People need to stop with these Stranger Danger/Satanic Panic type hysterics and use some critical thinking skills. You did this all for the wrong reasons, which mainly included following a very misguided trend. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, thank your lucky stars you weren't investigated by CPS. I do laud you for admitting your mistakes before it was too late, and hope in the future you will vote for lawmakers that will create policy as to have the same kind of accountability in homeschooling that there are in regular schools.
Good grief! What an atrocious comment. If you were swinging for the fence on being a gigantic a**, then congrats, you got your homer. It's not everyday (well maybe) that you get to see someone put their ignorance and insensitivity on full display for all the internet to see, but that's exactly what you've done here. You have a lot to learn about human childhood development and education, but I'll give you a start here: Not all of your assumptions are correct. CPS... give me a break.
Oh boo hoo if schools weren’t so infested with garbage agendas and just a poor educational system we wouldn’t feel pushed to homeschool….