I'm still trying to understand how and why cheating is considered being 'cool' these days. I mean if you can't be committed to one person then keep your ass out of a relationship!
Nique Toons it isn’t. Don’t pretend cheating is widely accepted in today’s society. When have you ever heard that cheating is “cool?” Memes? That doesn’t count!
“Hi there I’m Laura!” “Hey Laura I’m -Insert name-“ -they chat for a bit- -Insert name-: “Wait how old are you?” Laura: “26.” Insert name: “Your job?” Laura: “Oh nothing much just a professional thot.”
Alexander Hamilton's excuse: "I hadn't slept in a week, I was weak, I was awake, you have never seen a bastard orphan more in need of a break" BRUV ANGELICA AND ELIZA GAVE YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO T A K E A B R E A K. _i'm sorry_
I might be annoying for this, but I have seen people cheat on their partner. My father has cheated on my mom, many times. He has destroyed my mother so much to the point where she couldn't admit that he didn't love her anymore. Turns out, he never loved her since 2006, after we moved. The reason why he didn't leave? He didn't want to pay child support for me and my little brother. He prolonged my mom knowing that he didn't care until 2016, which was when the divorce happened, then stalled the process, until September, right when I was about to turn 18, so he wouldn't have to pay for child support for me. This guy was so smooth, that he was cheating on my mom with a woman who already had a kid, and a woman who was already married, and these two women knew that he was married and had two kids. But they still got together. Currently, the married woman is in the middle of a divorce with her husband, and my dad moved the woman and her kid in with him, and is trying to screw over my chances of continuing to go to college. Yay dad.... Ugh... Sorry if this was unnecessary or annoying.
Oh, he has suffered a lot. Almost got squeezed to death by a car, he dropped a car part on his finger, preventing him from bending his finger anymore, and he got fired from protecting his mistress from being fired. Plus, I have posted on his facebook with evidence that he was falsely accusing my mom for stalking him, when she was too sick to even leave her bed, and how he threaten to make my family homeless by ramming his truck into the house, where my room is. Luckily we don't hear from him anymore. The way we get him to leave, is asking where my mom's stuff was.
Blackmail is also illegal so chances are he would be in more trouble. Your dad is a piece of shit though. My father worked for CPS and he had to deal with scumbag parents like that.
My gf cheated on me for several months. I feel so broken, I sacrificed so much for and supported her through really hard times. She even tried to deflect all blame to me. It just hurts so much, I trusted her so much.
@Moxyar I feel you. You deserve better to find someone that never cheats on you. She doesn't deserve to be with you at all. She just playing your emotions. Thank goodness I never want to have a bf ever.
@@ShortWingedAngel Yeah,but Shane isn't a sociopath. Shane isn't Jefree Star. People can talk about stuff/do research about something without it happening to them
Yo WHY is laura Jessica rabbit? JESSICA RABBIT IS NOTHING BUT LOYAL TO HER FURRY BOYFRIEND, MKAY? and you can totally ignore this I'm just messing around lol
Ooof my mother used all of these excuses when she cheated. She also said that she had broken up with my father earlier in the year which was just like the most dumbest lie ever.
OK don’t get mad but I think I found a situation that it may be excusable if you’re forced into a relationship for example if your parents sold you to someone you don’t like especially if you’re really young and you can’t leave that relationship or you will probably die or something like that but this one is very rare
Forgotten Wolf yeah but after the first time he still did it and either way, if he had cheating tendencies then he would of done it at a different time anyway, all Maria did was she presented it when the timing made sense
Alcohol dosn't reveal your true self, it lowers inhibitions and lowers impulse control. An impulse by it's very nature isn't static/part of your "main" personality.
this is out of topic but it seems you are a reasonable person Do you know how to block a channel/stop recommendations? I think I'm looking wrong because I can't find anything on google about this
I dont know. I kinda agree. The person i would like to be (which is relaxed, finds it very easy to be sociable, not on edge every second involving interaction with someone) comes up when i drink. When im sober, it feels like my mental and emotional health is almost on constant repeat of- SOMETHINGS GONNA HAPPEN. ITS GONNA RUIN EVERYTHING. I CANT INTERACT WITH PEOPLE FOR SHIT DICK. Its hell. I wish i was the person who comes out all the time when i drink.
There's a whole cheating sub-culture & they share methods of hiding it. It's sickening. I wish people would just either be open or take _2 seconds_ to think of the other person & leave, for both of their sakes.
o0Avalon0o if I even received a break up text right before they cheated that would have been way better than them cheating on me while keeping me in a fake relationship. And break up texts are shitty lmao, but it would still be a thousand times better than someone keeping me locked in a relationship while they take advantage of my trust when I could be out there looking for someone who would actually love me.
If you need more then you need consent. Ask her/him if they want to be in a poly relationship. Ask! If you don't feel good in a 1 on 1 relationship then don't drag them along.
Hamilton: IT WAS AN ACT OF POLITICAL SACRIFICE! Angelica and Laurens: Sacrifice...? Laurens: *Le adorable cinnamon bun cries* ...How is that... Sacrifice...?
@@nicolea8205 I'm a girl and I have never cheated on a guy but I have never had a relationship but I personally have a hard time leting someone go so it is not a big chance I'll cheat on someone so its kinda offending saying girls cheat more XD
I hate how people keep saying "Drunk you is the real you" or some shit like that. "Drunk you is just saying/doing what sober you was afraid to do" No. Being drunk is a different state of mind, its not "the real you" and I'm not defending cheaters, drunk or not, don't cheat. I'm just saying the idea that the decisions you make while drunk are not the same decisions you would/want to make while sober.
@Dat Technically, I guess it needs to be about 13fps for the human eyes to see something moving fluidly, but I still say it's semantics. Her avatar doesn't stay motionless like in a Google Hangout.
I cheated on someone I care about but I came clean & I'm working it out with her I feel like shit(as I should) I don't think anyone should make excuses or lie or hide it! If you care about someone be honest & don't run from it( I did for so long I was scared but!) I did & it feels better to be honest! uhh to the point don't cheat don't lie& if you can't be honest don't be in a relationship I'm lucky to still be with this girl & I thank God everyday in doing all I can to make everything right! Pls people don't cheat it not worth it, and it's not cool!!
Deadman flames I was too scared to post my cheating story. I cheated on someone and felt horrible about it too and confessed. It’s nice to see someone in the same boat as me.
Shanna11037 same I'm currently helping my gf going through the healing process , I know it will be a long time to heal but I will continue to work hard& support her and be there for her, also cutting off contact with toxic people helps alot. I only keeped me,my gf some close friends and some people from the cardshop. It feels good
MistrzSzopen I don't, I was younger...I was curious I lost faith and gave in to curiosity 😖 then I just went down hill asked other for advice they said it's normal just keep it till ya die if you love her...I should of been honest in the start but it just caused me to change in a toxic way... I let that girl convince me to hide it & manipulate me as well as friends say it normal to cheat but deep down I wish I never gave into the curiosity , I wish I remained pure , I wish I never met that (fake friend ,who used& abused me..I'm to soft I was scared & in too deep) it feels good now to have it out. I was blind to there toxicness I let them use me because it felt good, people Said it was normal, but the regret kept eating at me. I'm glad I finally came forward & in working it out I couldn't he happyier
I think there are two and only two exceptions to this rule. 1. A forced relationship (ex. Arranged marriage) or 2. A relationship in which you can’t leave, or it’s dangerous to leave (ex. An abusive relationship) I feel like those two situations should be acknowledged in this video, because there are exceptions to every rule.
If they're in an abusive relationship, cheating isn't going to solve the problem, it's more likely to get them abused worse or killed if the abuser finds out. If they're married, then they need to find a way out of the marriage before they enter another relationship, because the other person shouldn't be dating them, if they knew they were married. If it's only a private marriage, in church no civil marriage, and the church won't let them divorce, and they reject that church, then they should be free to date other people, but they should probably tell those other people their situation if the relationship becomes serious. Short of some movie romance type situation, I don't think a person would be cheating in those situations in a way that would seem acceptable.
i feel like she should have mentioned that open relationships or poly relationships are okay too, and they are not wrong to be a part of. bc she mentioned that "if they just wanted the excitement from another place then they dont love their partner" i personally am bisexual, and my bf is too. so we have desires that are literally impossible to fill on both ends so, we've deemed it an open relationship as long as we talk about it before doing something. it doesnt mean we dont care about each other.
I'm a lesbian. I remember that this video came out when I was still in the closet and was in a relationship with a boy. I hadn't quite figured out what my sexual orientation was, but I remember being with him and thinking of being with women. I watched this video, realized that if I was thinking about other people and not him that the relationship wouldn't work, and immediately felt so guilty. So I came out to him and apologized for leading him on. He understood, forgave me, and we're still close pals. Thank you for making this video, Spechie. It made me realize I was wrong and it stopped me from cheating, and I feel so horrible that I even had those thoughts in the first place. I didn't deserve to feel unhappy, and he didn't deserve to be in a relationship with a girl who didn't feel the same about him.
Okay finally someone, I'm gay and my last boyfriend had the lamest excuse, "I was curious about my sexuality.". First things first, if you were curious just tell me and we could have ended it, especially because he cheated and then he broke up with me. Secondly, why did you think it was okay to go behind my back and do that. If he loved me then why did he do it?
@@temperamentaltyrant4599 Cheating is something that can happen in any relationship and I mean, come one, in today's society every 10 year old knows what sex is. And her audience aren't like kids younger then 12 (You aren't even supposed to be on youtube under the age of 12) so it's something we all are dealing with.
Quick story. So there was this guy I talked to online everyone once in awhile. He would flirt and say things like “hey sexy angel” or “I feel better now that your here” and stuff. He creeped me out so I didn’t talk to him much. But I am a person that gives people too many chances and people take advantage of me for it. That’s exactly what he did and to others. So one day he texted me asking if we could VC (voice chat not video chat cause I didn’t and don’t do those with people I don’t know) he was saying how there was like seven girls wanting him (probably a lie since he was weird and flirted with almost any girl and got turned down all the times I was present.) he said that he didn’t want to “choose” so he dated all of them at the same time. I was like “DUDE! You are being so shady!! If any of them find out they will be so mad and upset that such a sick thing to do!” And he just said “I love too much” and I said “no dude ur weak.” Then he switched the conversation. Then this dude had the GUTS to flirt and insult me after he just admitted he cheating on like seven girls. He said I was pretty and stuff. Then (I have ADHD and it came up in conversation after he switched it) he asked me about my ADHD. I told him a little bit like how their was no cure, I can’t control it and blah blah blah. He then said there was (not true) and I could control it (this is partly, the older you get the easier it is but no one can completely control it, it also depends on a lot of things) but I take medication and stuff but I can’t “control it”. He googled it and said if I went to see him in real person he would tell me how. I said very angrily “you hardly knew what it was!! I have been to professionals, and doctors who have confirmed I have it (took the tests) you do not know more than a professional in this condition” long story short, I don’t talk to this person anymore. :)
Personally I liked the video but the point about being under the influence of liquor isn't an excuse I find yes and no. Although it isn't much of an excuse the fact that it doesn't at all matter is blasphemy, alcohol does make you a different person I'd say even less of the person you are, saying that being drunk shows your true colors is blatantly wrong
It is wrong but if still, cheating, even under the influence of alcohol is wrong. If you know there would be a possibility to cheat, then don't get drunk. If that "cheating" was against your will then its rape or sexual assault, contact the police. Otherwise, being drunk is no excuse to cheat.
Im not trying to excuse cheating but being drunk changes your mental state and how you think so it might make sense in the moment but when you wake up the next morning you will regret it again I'm not trying to justify cheating.
She literally said. And its been proven. When someone is drunk. That reveals their true self. So if you cheat while drunk. That shows youre just unloyal
@@dustnstuff7729 Alcohol is known to alter brain chemistry. Its not a Jeykll and Hyde thing where you think that you have no consequences to your actions because you say, 'I'm drunk'. Yes, it does alter your brain chemistry and it isn't the real you. Its your decision to drink. Also, who has proven it? In my science class, we learn that its bad because it damages your body and cause your brain to function differently.
no buddy. your drunk behavior is just a reflection of your sober thoughts. I doubt you would do something you consider wrong, such as killing someone just because drinking changes your mental state.
@@queserasera588 And you were dumb enough to believe her. Just because she is your favourite UA-camr, doesn't mean everything she says is true. That is pretty much false information you heard on the Internet and were so dumb to believe it. I can already tell your age, which is definitely lower than 12.
Thank you for telling me this because I know the reason because my parents are divorced because they weren't happy and I realized and also my friend's mom actually did cheat on her dad yikes
This is exactly why im subbed, not only passionate about it but like, you can hear the actual anger in speechie's voice and tbh, i know this feeling all to well, you couldn't've given it a more straight telling
Not gonna lie cheating sucks and it fricken *HURTS* it's like someone saying "oh hey I don't care for you and you're not good enough for me byeeeee~" it feels like ripping ducktape of an extremely hairy leg *multiple* times
You should look up the effects of being cheated on, I personally have experienced being cheated on and I can tell you that it changes you inside. You'd think that you could just easily move on from what just happened but you can't, you're scarred and you'll start having thoughts in your mind that are so toxic and self-destructive
Thank you! I hate how people try to justify cheating when there is no justification! Also I'm new to the channel and after seeing this, I'm subscribed. Not only because of the topic but I love your art style.
I have to say... your channel name SUITS you so much! Spechie, your so good at speeches. I think this is like the 1st or 2nd video I've watched from your channel and I already love them! You have evidence and stats and support them. You even looked up the psychology behind cheaters!! I didn't even know that was a thing. Keep making great videos! They're amazing 💞
I'd like to tell you my own experience. I know I will probably take a lot of flame for this, but I think it might be also helpful for those who are really intrested in dialogue. I was a person that cheated. I was in a 6 years long distance relationship and in six years I never cheated on him. After 4 years I started to smell there was something bad between us. We weren't talking. Everytime I made him notice we weren't sharing anything, neither our feelings anymore he said «It's just the distance!». Yeah but ... what about actually having something more than only conversation about sex? And each time I was pointing this out, his reaction was about «Oh come on! You are always exagerating things!», «Stop creating problems that don't exists». So I litterally felt in those 6 years (where we used to see each other like once or twice every month or two) that I slowly started to not love him mentally. I wasn't really conscious of that. I started to feel slowly and slowly more attracted to other boys, but I repressed these feelings for long time, because "WE BUILT A FIVE YEARS RELATIONSHIP". Even through the distance we wanted to share a future, build a family, it was a serious relationship .... or his intentions were masked like he was really desiring this. We had plans but nothing to share. It started to be really heavy. [this is the point where a well formed self esteem person should totally interrupt a toxic relationship, because ..... it was obviousely toxic. But not me! I didn't have a self esteem!] So "finally" I moved in his own city for studies. I planned to combine studies with my relationship. «GREAT! WE CAN SEE MUCH AND MUCH MORE ... and FINALLY SHARE!!! HAVE SOME SERIOUS DIALOGUES WE ARE NOT HAVING FROM MONTHS!!!» I thought. Actually, I forgot to say that our relationship started after we met on a videogame mmo, and .... I AM STUDYING VIDEOGAMES as core subject at my university (yeah curious fact right? Actually some Academies for these are real, but that's not the point!). How can you not find something to share with your girlfriend that IS STUDYING WHAT MADE YOU AND HER MEET??? Seriousely I was trying to fit in every of his interests, but he never did the same effort as big as mine. So my euphoristic plans just saw his lack of emotions .... like hello man? Are you really caring for the fact I just moved next to you? AFTER SIX YEARS OF LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP? No. He just had time for everyone, except me. He had energies to drive to his friends pubs (20 minutes by car) but not to come to me (30 minutes by car or something more, and 40 minutes by underground). I was the only one that had to move every weekend. No caring about the studies, or exams, or what. Still zero comunication. I felt SO ALONE, in his city, distant from my family. I was ripped in pieces. So I started (finally) to question seriously my relationship, opening to him and saying that his lack of comunication was deeply changing my feelings. Aproximately nothing made him change or question his attitude. So I met a boy at my university and I fell in love for him. I MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY fell in love for this boy. I was stupid. I was like beliving that what we build togheter could fix any problem because six years are heavy, you know. I am not justifying me. Cheating is horrible, and I had to be braver to tell him that maybe our relationship was really over. After thinking about him for too much time, I thought only about myself doing the ONLY REAL SELFISH THING in this relationship. Spending time with the other guy was really fullfilling me in certain ways, but I wasn't sure it was "for some stupid selfish desires" or for "the self care I lacked in my relationship". I didn't cheat for so long because I FELT SO DIRT INSIDE. I cheated mostly because I felt repressed from my responsabilities with the other person that was lacking of caring. But my ex boyfriend wasn't a BAD GUY at that time, you know... he applied in his own way. He made his effort in his own way. So I wasn't sure he wasn't really caring of me. I had a complete confusion inside of me because of his double way of being so supportive and so absent at the same time. Those litterally drove me crazy, because it gave me so many UPS and DOWNS, expectations and pains of feeling abbandoned.. I mostly couldn't recognise that my relationship was toxic because of these. I couldn't recognise the red flags, stucked between them while just being at this point is a red flag itself. So I cheated. I wasn't brave enough to face him, again, before and breaking up all the promises that I totally had written in my soul with a knife. I was scared to be seen as an incoherent asshole if I would break up a long distance relationship, after so much time and after I just moved in his own city. I didn't want to disappoint anybody, while anybody was really caring of what I was actually thinking. What an I R O N Y. I am not proud of saying so ... but FOR MY CASE, cheating was the solution for my mental conditions, and yes... it helped me to answear some crucial questions, but I mostly can say: people cheat also when they feel REALLY ALONE, like I was. This is NOT a way of justyfing the act. This is not a way of encouraging the thing, because I T ' S W R O N G. So I got my responsabilities back and I told my ex boyfriend the whole thing. Just I told myself: «Yeah! I made a huge bad thing, but both of us NOW deserve honesty» and at least, both of us had some responsabilities in it. So even if we are both broken, maybe we can learn something from our mistakes. We really lacked of respect each other, so we can maybe start again. But this was and it is just my point of view. I am a person that struggles a lot with loliness in her own life, (and he knew my whole story) and being abbandoned when I moved into his city was a HUGE shock to me. I think love is also calling out our own mistakes, even if the other one's are bigger or heavier, and it doesn't mean it has necessarely to work out. By doing so, I understood who (finally) he really was and the true nature of his feelings. He totally used my confession to manipulate the reality of the facts with my friends, totally saying another version of it: «I found out she cheated all by myself». He made this after two months where he said to me «No no, it's fine. I was an asshole with you» and I: «Do you really think so? I'm not okay. I am glad you forgave me, but I am worried for you. I would have being shocked at your place, fullfilled with anger. I would understand if you say "I want to make my own experiences now with other women", but just be sincere. I would totally understand the consequences of my own actions» «No no, it's fine». Two months like these before exploding like I said before, before lying on my honesty. I am not saying he is the devil, because I know: finding out a person cheated on you it's the worst thing. I was crying the whole day, because I knew I was doing something wrong, lacking of a total respect, but I was trying to search my TRUE self care. I am glad I got a lesson from this that was: NEVER ACCEPT EVER COMPROMISES WHERE YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE MAKING THE COMPROMISE AND THE OTHER PART IS JUST ACTING BLIND. So sorry for my bad English. But I was really into this topic for ... you know, those reasons. I know, not every situation is just like mine, but I just learned to not instantly judge so bad people that do bad decisions in their lives. You don't have to accept those mistakes, and forgive without seriousely thinking how they impact on you, but just don't condamn people for the rest of their lives. Always give them the possibility to show the best of them, even when they touch the worst they can do. You don't know really their situation. It's so easy to judge.
When you hit your moment of greatest intensity of preaching (by the way, YESSSS YOU PREACH IT GIRL TRUTH TRUTH), a meditation app ad began to play and I was very confused for a moment.
Omg where has this channel been all my life. I found it today at work and have now watches every video. Anyway speechie I love your content, attitude, and art style (mostly the eyes). I hope everything goes well for you cus you are super talented.
Can we get a laura is a thot in the chat bois
LAURA IS A *THOT*!
Heck yes we can, girl!
Spechie don't mind me just going to take up some of the chat space
Spechie I can’t say that lol
LAURA IS A THOTTY THOT
you're only cool if you pee your pants
-Billy Madison
GingerPale lol
YES! I knew I wasn't the only one who remembered that movie!
I LOVE YOU GINGERPALE-
Epic
GingerPale *cough*
-James Maddison
Gingerpale commenting on the video is the only good thing about this video.
I'm still trying to understand how and why cheating is considered being 'cool' these days. I mean if you can't be committed to one person then keep your ass out of a relationship!
The person should make it clear that they want an open relationship where they can date other people. Otherwise, they're a piece of shit.
@@litigioussociety4249 I 100% agree
Nique Toons it isn’t. Don’t pretend cheating is widely accepted in today’s society. When have you ever heard that cheating is “cool?” Memes? That doesn’t count!
Literally.
Vine.
“Hi there I’m Laura!”
“Hey Laura I’m -Insert name-“
-they chat for a bit-
-Insert name-: “Wait how old are you?”
Laura: “26.”
Insert name: “Your job?”
Laura: “Oh nothing much just a professional thot.”
hmmm
I wish I was in a relation ship that didn't involve me getting the short end of the stick and being treaded like trash and a living joke.
sshiiit
*you can't get cheated if you never had a partner*
**Black guy pointing to his head*
@@ronispadez ???
Apparently you can't meme
@@reshikawarriorsamino3379 ...
@@williamafton9280 What?
As William Shakespeare once said, “if she breathes, she’s a T H O T
A wise young man he is
a wise man he was..
Adventurer20 I thought Jesus said that
Yes
You forgot to put end quotes. (sorry I don’t like when people leave out end quotes)
Alexander Hamilton's excuse:
"I hadn't slept in a week, I was weak, I was awake, you have never seen a bastard orphan more in need of a break"
BRUV ANGELICA AND ELIZA GAVE YOU THE OPPORTUNITY TO T A K E A B R E A K.
_i'm sorry_
lillmissm00rgiemoo HAMILTON WAS A DOUCHE LIKE HONESTLY ELIZA LOVED YOU
"I gotta say no to this-"
YEAH YA FUCKING SHOULD!
TRUEE
lillmissm00rgiemoo he had a chance to take a break!!!!!
@@moonlightthewolf7737 They said that, already!
Damn I can't believe Goofy would cheat on Mickey like that 😔
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Ikr XD
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I just don't get into relationships, no cheating, no troubles, ez pz.
I feel dead inside...
You can't get cheated on in a relationship if you never get into a relationship 😉
arent we all dead inside?
Same. Same brotha.
Can't get cheated on if nobody wants to love u 😂 .
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Bjoris same bro
Where is my single group 😄
right here bud
I have never had a relationship ever 😂
@@yomom1748 same
@@yomom1748 same aswell XD
I'm engaged so wish me luck
the nick cage drawing lmaoooooo
Hi sweetie
Yo papa timmy
OwO
Father
OwO
I might be annoying for this, but I have seen people cheat on their partner. My father has cheated on my mom, many times. He has destroyed my mother so much to the point where she couldn't admit that he didn't love her anymore. Turns out, he never loved her since 2006, after we moved. The reason why he didn't leave? He didn't want to pay child support for me and my little brother. He prolonged my mom knowing that he didn't care until 2016, which was when the divorce happened, then stalled the process, until September, right when I was about to turn 18, so he wouldn't have to pay for child support for me. This guy was so smooth, that he was cheating on my mom with a woman who already had a kid, and a woman who was already married, and these two women knew that he was married and had two kids. But they still got together. Currently, the married woman is in the middle of a divorce with her husband, and my dad moved the woman and her kid in with him, and is trying to screw over my chances of continuing to go to college. Yay dad.... Ugh... Sorry if this was unnecessary or annoying.
Oh, he has suffered a lot. Almost got squeezed to death by a car, he dropped a car part on his finger, preventing him from bending his finger anymore, and he got fired from protecting his mistress from being fired. Plus, I have posted on his facebook with evidence that he was falsely accusing my mom for stalking him, when she was too sick to even leave her bed, and how he threaten to make my family homeless by ramming his truck into the house, where my room is. Luckily we don't hear from him anymore. The way we get him to leave, is asking where my mom's stuff was.
Unlucky Kitty13
Lemme call da POLEECE
Oh, please don’t. He has stuff on us that can put my mom in serious trouble and destroy her for life.
Blackmail is also illegal so chances are he would be in more trouble. Your dad is a piece of shit though. My father worked for CPS and he had to deal with scumbag parents like that.
That's so sad I feel bad for you :'(
My gf cheated on me for several months. I feel so broken, I sacrificed so much for and supported her through really hard times. She even tried to deflect all blame to me. It just hurts so much, I trusted her so much.
Moxyar then f*cking leave her you trusted her and she broke that trust
Leave that bich and find a better gurl or stay single and chillax! Which ever will work for you
@Moxyar I feel you. You deserve better to find someone that never cheats on you. She doesn't deserve to be with you at all. She just playing your emotions. Thank goodness I never want to have a bf ever.
@DuckBill I actually never have boyfriend in the whole of my life. I'm proud that I'm still single forever 😂😂
*kill her*
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Jack M omgsame
Oof
Fragile Venus23 OOF indeed
Same
Jack M me too sis
A girl in my class was talking about how she wanted to cheat on her 10th boyfriend. She's 13
Thots...will...always...be...thots
Te Kohu Wallace
Lord I'm 13 and I've only had like 2 online boyfriends and never thought of cheating..
Shes clearly a hoe if she already has 10 boyfriends at a yound age
Ok we r now taking bets on how old this girl will be when she gets pregnant. 15, Im calling she will be a mom at 15. Anyone else have a guess?
Lol
Alexander Hamilton should have said no to this
Eeeeeeeeeeyyy
xD
aye
Laurens: *cries in the corner* ...Alex... How could you....
Kuniko Swirl @justhamilfans on insta 😂 for daily hamilton content
Comments:
50% Professional Thot Laura
50% Hamilton
Got that right
muffin trueeee IM One of the Hamilton part thooo
I can imagine this being a series: "The mind of cheaters"
Shane Dawson should do that lol
*Shane Dawson entered the chat*
@@ShortWingedAngel Yeah,but Shane isn't a sociopath. Shane isn't Jefree Star. People can talk about stuff/do research about something without it happening to them
@@kaitlor7 Lol
Animation Fan I’m waiting for the Shane series
Yo Alexander Hamilton go learn how to say no
alexanader: no
me: * claps *
@@rainbl00rry Laurens: *Slides in* Try to say no to this~
Eliza: Oh he's so cute so go ahead. Plus I totally ship you to... So...
Imagine congratulations but Angelica shows Alex this video.
"Watch this, congratulations..."
Insomniac Raven
to this
Ikr he can say no to his wife but not Maria like... wtf Hamilton
Alexander Hamilton, looks like you'll be roasted one more time lol
Don’t know how to say no to this
TELL ME HOW TO SAY NO TO THIS
don’t say no to this
ALEX SAY NOOOO
Cinnamon Mist *PEGGY INTENSIFIES*
Cheater should get a lower credit score when caught
Why?
@@kagemaru397 why not
IMO, if it's to get back at them for what they did, there's better, more relevant ways to do that.
freakin brilliant
Imfao
Leave Jessica Rabbit out of this. She loves her husband.
Yeah how she gonna do her like that😱??!!
Yeah they love each other
True
And....? She's a fake character
BRO I KNEW I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE WHO THOUGHT THAT WAS WHO SHE LOOKED LIKE
Yo WHY is laura Jessica rabbit? JESSICA RABBIT IS NOTHING BUT LOYAL TO HER FURRY BOYFRIEND, MKAY? and you can totally ignore this I'm just messing around lol
J E S S I C A R A B B I T
didn't she try to kill him or have him killed
... Read the book.
RockBeauty :3 DEre'S a BOoK???
@@dystopyxrose Yes.
*The only cheating I accept is eating ur brothers food*
Mood
I steal my boyfriends food a lot.
I have commit cheating. Because I love food more than anything else
That’s unacceptable how could you do that
Factssssss
TNumber 0 food is everyone’s first love
I also don't understand why people would cheat on there significant other it makes me so maaad
I knew my girl was cheating on me when she said she was with her friend...
Her friend was right there in bed with me...
Can't trust them!
Lmao
* THEY HAVE THE BIG GAY *
NO U
Welp, I call hypocrisy, bad karma, and a hilarious story XD
Wow....
Ooof my mother used all of these excuses when she cheated. She also said that she had broken up with my father earlier in the year which was just like the most dumbest lie ever.
I LOVE the new art style and background with the little you talking in into the microphone
You know your character looks pretty with their hair in a bun.
Just
*SAY*
*NO*
*TO*
*DISS*
*HOW DO I SAY NO*
To commenting on this.
Couldn’t resist commenting
@@thatonetheotherone9169 Yeah I can tell you're that *HELPLESS*
But god she looks so helpless~~
Can’t resist, I’m a true Hamilfan.
Picky Potato but lord how show me how to say no to this show me how
Get ,slapped by sister, NO MORE SINGING!!! But I’m so helpless
:):):):))::)):):))))
OK don’t get mad but I think I found a situation that it may be excusable if you’re forced into a relationship for example if your parents sold you to someone you don’t like especially if you’re really young and you can’t leave that relationship or you will probably die or something like that but this one is very rare
Pokes Pokemon
Exactly ^^
My mom said that to. I believe this is the only time it is okay to cheat.
Its illegal to sell humans you dip
@@sgmalick It's not everywhere in the world.
Saucey Shinobi in other places and even though they still do it
Listen up Hamilton.......
I love this more than you think
"That's when miss Maria Reynolds walked into my life..."
Forgotten Wolf Wut?
Forgotten Wolf yeah but after the first time he still did it and either way, if he had cheating tendencies then he would of done it at a different time anyway, all Maria did was she presented it when the timing made sense
Trash Bags Anxiety I love this more then you know-
So it’s another Hamilton? Well time to write a pamphlet
Zuzu Rai @justhamilfans on insta 😂 for daily hamilton content
YASSSS
Stubeii THE raynolds pamphlet
Alcohol dosn't reveal your true self, it lowers inhibitions and lowers impulse control.
An impulse by it's very nature isn't static/part of your "main" personality.
Mystogan Edolas Ikr.
this is out of topic but it seems you are a reasonable person
Do you know how to block a channel/stop recommendations? I think I'm looking wrong because I can't find anything on google about this
Rylic Lour you go to their channel and press the button furthest to the right corner
@@dannyslemonade976 thank you very much
I dont know. I kinda agree. The person i would like to be (which is relaxed, finds it very easy to be sociable, not on edge every second involving interaction with someone) comes up when i drink. When im sober, it feels like my mental and emotional health is almost on constant repeat of- SOMETHINGS GONNA HAPPEN. ITS GONNA RUIN EVERYTHING. I CANT INTERACT WITH PEOPLE FOR SHIT DICK. Its hell. I wish i was the person who comes out all the time when i drink.
whats more important:
a wife?
or a N U T?
d a d family or STDs 🤷🏽♀️
Love or HIV?
ֆ ǟ ɖ ɨ ֆ ȶ ɨ ƈ ӄ ɨ ռ ɢ paper? or PLASTIC
Idk
If they are chilli nuts then yes yes yes yes yes!!!
Seeing Laura 26
In head: damn where is a thot slayer when you need one
Great Reaper 12371 We need a thot slayer on the level of goblin slayer
We don't slay thots for thots
I cant get cheated on because im single.....
Im not crying *you're crying shut up
Can I hug you 🙃
@@ronalfons409 plz do
I knew that.
But trust me, relationships can be emotionally draining if the person you are with is mentally abusive *that was my Ex*
*does Fortnite default dance*
@@binomanners6343 wtf XD
There's a whole cheating sub-culture & they share methods of hiding it. It's sickening. I wish people would just either be open or take _2 seconds_ to think of the other person & leave, for both of their sakes.
o0Avalon0o if I even received a break up text right before they cheated that would have been way better than them cheating on me while keeping me in a fake relationship. And break up texts are shitty lmao, but it would still be a thousand times better than someone keeping me locked in a relationship while they take advantage of my trust when I could be out there looking for someone who would actually love me.
If you need more then you need consent. Ask her/him if they want to be in a poly relationship. Ask! If you don't feel good in a 1 on 1 relationship then don't drag them along.
If someone trys to get ya to cheat
*S A Y*
*N O*
*T O*
*I T*
WHY ARE PEOPLE LIKING THIS HELP AHHHHHH
Random Thoughts! *Hamilton flashbacks intensify* sAy nO tO tHiS
SAY NO TO THIS.
Smh. What would Laurens say?
Random Thoughts! SAY NO TO THIS!
Say no to this Hamilfam!
*cough cough* Looking at you alexander hamilton and maria reynolds. *cough cough*
Yep
GG Drawz hahaha yeah Ehem Alex be fine thit go awayyyyy IM a man of god awwwww
And mah god is lin-manuel Miranda
*BEGONE*
*T H O T*
ALL WOMEN.
ARE QUEENS!
@@highfunctioningsociopath3767 IF SHE BREATHES SHE'S A THOT.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! * pulls out plastic lightsaber *
@@highfunctioningsociopath3767 AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH *starts fighting*
*Hamilton-Angelica new roasted ham*
Leah Playz @justhamilfans on insta 😂 for daily hamilton content
Leah Playz lol yass
*Listens to the Hamilton Soundtrack once*
Amanda Lohrey yassssss
@justhamilfans on insta 😂 for daily hamilton content
S A Y N O T O T H I S
YASSSS I LOVE HAMILTON
Hamilton, you there?
Hamilton: Yes? I am here.
Moon Pasta @justhamilfans on insta 😂 for daily hamilton content
YESSSSSSSSSS
*Cough cough*
ALEXANDER
*Cough cough*
Hamilton: IT WAS AN ACT OF POLITICAL SACRIFICE!
Angelica and Laurens: Sacrifice...?
Laurens: *Le adorable cinnamon bun cries* ...How is that... Sacrifice...?
Mia Barnes @justhamilfans on insta 😂 for daily hamilton content
iT wOuLd bE a sHaMe iF sOmEboDy......
cOuLdNt sAy nO tO sOmEtHiNg--
*Intense coughing*
Congratulations.
ONG SOO MANY YASSSS
I lost my Virginity to a girl who was cheating with me on 2 other guys for 4 months.. I didn't even know. And she stomped my heart to pieces.
I feel like ladies cheat more than men.
@@nicolea8205 I'm a girl and I have never cheated on a guy but I have never had a relationship but I personally have a hard time leting someone go so it is not a big chance I'll cheat on someone so its kinda offending saying girls cheat more XD
Yo can’t trust the hot thots
young love never lasts.
Don’t dwell in it.
expect it to end one day.
I hate how people keep saying "Drunk you is the real you" or some shit like that. "Drunk you is just saying/doing what sober you was afraid to do" No. Being drunk is a different state of mind, its not "the real you" and I'm not defending cheaters, drunk or not, don't cheat. I'm just saying the idea that the decisions you make while drunk are not the same decisions you would/want to make while sober.
If my gf cheats on me then....
I would cry
Because I’m a push over
Saw you under Rebecca's video! :)
I'm the same ;v;
Phoenix Drawz *S A M E*
I’d cry too :P
I would as well ;;
I love how your animation looks with her hair tied💜💜
Edit: Omg thx for all the likeees💜💜
@LunasRevenge I just finished this video
@LunasRevenge Semantics. One frame per second can still be animation.
Pau Barba SAME
@Dat Technically, I guess it needs to be about 13fps for the human eyes to see something moving fluidly, but I still say it's semantics. Her avatar doesn't stay motionless like in a Google Hangout.
Litigious Society I once confronted her about this. Her response was, "I don't do animation.".
What about people who are in an abusive relationship.
RAZZLEDAZZLEDO you ok
Then you leave the relationship, if the relationship is toxic then you try to leave the best you can and cheating isn’t gonna make anything better
Starlight Girl but what if they’re psycho and will physically and emotionally hurt you if you try to leave
Sansthebomb Skeleton call the police
RAZZLEDAZZLEDO dump them change your country and identity and get plastic surgery
*The Reynolds Pamphlet flashback*
*_OH NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO_*
O h nn o
*_HIGHLIGHTS_*
HAVE YOU READ THIS
Cloudy Drop12 SAY NO TO THIS
Spechie: you will almost never find a cheater fess--
Alexander: HEY EVERYONE I CHEATED ON MY WIFE
*scrolling through the comments for hamilton trash*
yEs? I aM hErE.
Kellie Mackey HelLO FellOW TrAsH
yay same
yup i have found a lot so far ALEX TAKE NOTES
Yes, it’s one of the only reasons I clicked. And I like watching spechi (sry can’t spell)
I cheated on someone I care about but I came clean & I'm working it out with her I feel like shit(as I should) I don't think anyone should make excuses or lie or hide it! If you care about someone be honest & don't run from it( I did for so long I was scared but!) I did & it feels better to be honest! uhh to the point don't cheat don't lie& if you can't be honest don't be in a relationship I'm lucky to still be with this girl & I thank God everyday in doing all I can to make everything right! Pls people don't cheat it not worth it, and it's not cool!!
Deadman flames I was too scared to post my cheating story. I cheated on someone and felt horrible about it too and confessed. It’s nice to see someone in the same boat as me.
Shanna11037 same I'm currently helping my gf going through the healing process , I know it will be a long time to heal but I will continue to work hard& support her and be there for her, also cutting off contact with toxic people helps alot. I only keeped me,my gf some close friends and some people from the cardshop. It feels good
@@deadmanflames1726 But why did you cheat in first place if you say you loved your partner? I hope you don't mind me asking.
MistrzSzopen I don't, I was younger...I was curious I lost faith and gave in to curiosity 😖 then I just went down hill asked other for advice they said it's normal just keep it till ya die if you love her...I should of been honest in the start but it just caused me to change in a toxic way... I let that girl convince me to hide it & manipulate me as well as friends say it normal to cheat but deep down I wish I never gave into the curiosity , I wish I remained pure , I wish I never met that (fake friend ,who used& abused me..I'm to soft I was scared & in too deep) it feels good now to have it out. I was blind to there toxicness I let them use me because it felt good, people Said it was normal, but the regret kept eating at me. I'm glad I finally came forward & in working it out I couldn't he happyier
@@deadmanflames1726 excuses, excuses if you cheat on someone that means you did not love her.
How you going to do my man Mickey like that
lmao
I think there are two and only two exceptions to this rule. 1. A forced relationship (ex. Arranged marriage) or 2. A relationship in which you can’t leave, or it’s dangerous to leave (ex. An abusive relationship) I feel like those two situations should be acknowledged in this video, because there are exceptions to every rule.
If they're in an abusive relationship, cheating isn't going to solve the problem, it's more likely to get them abused worse or killed if the abuser finds out.
If they're married, then they need to find a way out of the marriage before they enter another relationship, because the other person shouldn't be dating them, if they knew they were married. If it's only a private marriage, in church no civil marriage, and the church won't let them divorce, and they reject that church, then they should be free to date other people, but they should probably tell those other people their situation if the relationship becomes serious.
Short of some movie romance type situation, I don't think a person would be cheating in those situations in a way that would seem acceptable.
Most arranged marriages are in countries where sleeping with other people means Big jail time or Big death. Sooo... huh.
i agree it can be justified on some situations :/
@Yanarch Kyle im sorry i hope you are well
i feel like she should have mentioned that open relationships or poly relationships are okay too, and they are not wrong to be a part of. bc she mentioned that "if they just wanted the excitement from another place then they dont love their partner" i personally am bisexual, and my bf is too. so we have desires that are literally impossible to fill on both ends so, we've deemed it an open relationship as long as we talk about it before doing something. it doesnt mean we dont care about each other.
I'm a lesbian.
I remember that this video came out when I was still in the closet and was in a relationship with a boy. I hadn't quite figured out what my sexual orientation was, but I remember being with him and thinking of being with women. I watched this video, realized that if I was thinking about other people and not him that the relationship wouldn't work, and immediately felt so guilty. So I came out to him and apologized for leading him on. He understood, forgave me, and we're still close pals. Thank you for making this video, Spechie. It made me realize I was wrong and it stopped me from cheating, and I feel so horrible that I even had those thoughts in the first place. I didn't deserve to feel unhappy, and he didn't deserve to be in a relationship with a girl who didn't feel the same about him.
Okay finally someone, I'm gay and my last boyfriend had the lamest excuse, "I was curious about my sexuality.". First things first, if you were curious just tell me and we could have ended it, especially because he cheated and then he broke up with me. Secondly, why did you think it was okay to go behind my back and do that. If he loved me then why did he do it?
I can understand your pain since I got cheated on as well
gAy
Like me
No you're bi
PSI Trainer Birdie yes thats true
8:57 "10% more" lol the graph shows a 1% difference
“You need to think about what he has you don’t and change yourself for her.”
Girl you what
*The Reynolds Pamphlet*
* claps *
have you read this!?
Alexander had a torrid affair, and he wrote it down right there!
Highlights!
The charge against me
Is a connection with one
James Reynolds! (James Reynolds!)
For purposes of
Improper speculation
NO ONE! BOSSES! THE GARNET! My real crime is an Amorous connection with his W I F E
for a considerable time
_with his knowing consent_
*_DAAAAAAMN_*
Every person who disliked cheated
no i havent, just sex repulsed! and her audience is kids sooooooo she shouldnt really talk about this
@@temperamentaltyrant4599 Why does someone has to change what they want on their channel to accustom to certain subscribers?
-MadisonK - yeah she should she’s giving good reasons why anyone shouldn’t cheat and as the video said it mostly are millennials who cheat
@@temperamentaltyrant4599 Cheating is something that can happen in any relationship and I mean, come one, in today's society every 10 year old knows what sex is. And her audience aren't like kids younger then 12 (You aren't even supposed to be on youtube under the age of 12) so it's something we all are dealing with.
12-15 year olds are kids....
Quick story. So there was this guy I talked to online everyone once in awhile. He would flirt and say things like “hey sexy angel” or “I feel better now that your here” and stuff. He creeped me out so I didn’t talk to him much. But I am a person that gives people too many chances and people take advantage of me for it. That’s exactly what he did and to others. So one day he texted me asking if we could VC (voice chat not video chat cause I didn’t and don’t do those with people I don’t know) he was saying how there was like seven girls wanting him (probably a lie since he was weird and flirted with almost any girl and got turned down all the times I was present.) he said that he didn’t want to “choose” so he dated all of them at the same time. I was like “DUDE! You are being so shady!! If any of them find out they will be so mad and upset that such a sick thing to do!” And he just said “I love too much” and I said “no dude ur weak.” Then he switched the conversation. Then this dude had the GUTS to flirt and insult me after he just admitted he cheating on like seven girls. He said I was pretty and stuff. Then (I have ADHD and it came up in conversation after he switched it) he asked me about my ADHD. I told him a little bit like how their was no cure, I can’t control it and blah blah blah. He then said there was (not true) and I could control it (this is partly, the older you get the easier it is but no one can completely control it, it also depends on a lot of things) but I take medication and stuff but I can’t “control it”. He googled it and said if I went to see him in real person he would tell me how. I said very angrily “you hardly knew what it was!! I have been to professionals, and doctors who have confirmed I have it (took the tests) you do not know more than a professional in this condition” long story short, I don’t talk to this person anymore. :)
SandStoneArtist Bruh that dudes a b, and thanks for sharing the story
Personally I liked the video but the point about being under the influence of liquor isn't an excuse I find yes and no. Although it isn't much of an excuse the fact that it doesn't at all matter is blasphemy, alcohol does make you a different person I'd say even less of the person you are, saying that being drunk shows your true colors is blatantly wrong
subject 42 THANK YOU.
subject 42 if u cheat when u r drunk then dont get drunk
subject 42 that why you have to drink responsibility
SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE BACK 👏🏼
It is wrong but if still, cheating, even under the influence of alcohol is wrong. If you know there would be a possibility to cheat, then don't get drunk. If that "cheating" was against your will then its rape or sexual assault, contact the police. Otherwise, being drunk is no excuse to cheat.
Omg the thumbnail POOR MICKIE
"Moments of weakness talk " thank you finally someone said it
The drunk one means YOU GOT RAPED even if the person says yes they are not in the right state of mind so don’t do it
It's still consent. Do you realise how much this happens? It's not rape
Try telling a judge that someone who's too drunk to drive and can just bearly walk gave you consent.
They would have to be pissed drunk for it to count as assault
If you’re under the influence, you can’t give consent. It’s as simple as that.
@@foxmcfog7809 if you are drunk you cannot give consent
If only this was around when Alexander Hamilton was alive.
ChaoticDucky YASSS
Being drunk itself is a sin. Can't be an excuse for sleepin' around.
Im not trying to excuse cheating but being drunk changes your mental state and how you think so it might make sense in the moment but when you wake up the next morning you will regret it again I'm not trying to justify cheating.
She literally said. And its been proven. When someone is drunk. That reveals their true self. So if you cheat while drunk. That shows youre just unloyal
@@dustnstuff7729 Alcohol is known to alter brain chemistry. Its not a Jeykll and Hyde thing where you think that you have no consequences to your actions because you say, 'I'm drunk'. Yes, it does alter your brain chemistry and it isn't the real you. Its your decision to drink. Also, who has proven it? In my science class, we learn that its bad because it damages your body and cause your brain to function differently.
Maybe you shouldn't get drunk then and she literary just told us when someone gets drunk it shoes their true self
no buddy. your drunk behavior is just a reflection of your sober thoughts. I doubt you would do something you consider wrong, such as killing someone just because drinking changes your mental state.
@@queserasera588 And you were dumb enough to believe her. Just because she is your favourite UA-camr, doesn't mean everything she says is true. That is pretty much false information you heard on the Internet and were so dumb to believe it. I can already tell your age, which is definitely lower than 12.
Relationship cheaters are extremely traitorous and evil!
I have to admit spechie is quite very serious about relationship cheaters.
That was the funniest thumbnail I've ever seen
I like ur hoodie cuz it matches your personality LAME
*Nice one!*
Thank you for telling me this because I know the reason because my parents are divorced because they weren't happy and I realized and also my friend's mom actually did cheat on her dad yikes
This is exactly why im subbed, not only passionate about it but like, you can hear the actual anger in speechie's voice and tbh, i know this feeling all to well, you couldn't've given it a more straight telling
Not gonna lie cheating sucks and it fricken *HURTS* it's like someone saying "oh hey I don't care for you and you're not good enough for me byeeeee~" it feels like ripping ducktape of an extremely hairy leg *multiple* times
sisters SO cheated on er and said "I thought we were in a open relationship" like wth no they never even talked about haveing one
Counselor: we cant do divorce because of insanity.
Mickey: shes not crazy, shes flipping goofy.
Never been cheated on because I’ve never had a relationship. I guess you can say I *cheated* the system
I’ll let myself out
You should look up the effects of being cheated on, I personally have experienced being cheated on and I can tell you that it changes you inside. You'd think that you could just easily move on from what just happened but you can't, you're scarred and you'll start having thoughts in your mind that are so toxic and self-destructive
Thank you! I hate how people try to justify cheating when there is no justification! Also I'm new to the channel and after seeing this, I'm subscribed. Not only because of the topic but I love your art style.
5:31 - when you needed one more point on the test to get a better grade😂😂 I loved this video so much! You’re really inspiring me :33
I have to say... your channel name SUITS you so much! Spechie, your so good at speeches. I think this is like the 1st or 2nd video I've watched from your channel and I already love them! You have evidence and stats and support them. You even looked up the psychology behind cheaters!! I didn't even know that was a thing. Keep making great videos! They're amazing 💞
in the words of swoozie : "You either choose me or you lose me."
I'm so glad people like you exist. We need more people who feel this strongly about how wrong and inexcusable cheating is. Like seriously. Thank you.
I feel bad now for all u people that went through that
this is the first video of yours that I'll be watching.
who knows, perhaps I might enjoy it.
Wooo well done on 400k!!
"So.. you want to divorce Minnie because she was.. extremely silly?"
Mickey: "I said she was fugkcing goofy"
i stole this joke from tumblr hhhhhhhhhh
I'd like to tell you my own experience. I know I will probably take a lot of flame for this, but I think it might be also helpful for those who are really intrested in dialogue.
I was a person that cheated.
I was in a 6 years long distance relationship and in six years I never cheated on him.
After 4 years I started to smell there was something bad between us. We weren't talking. Everytime I made him notice we weren't sharing anything, neither our feelings anymore he said «It's just the distance!».
Yeah but ... what about actually having something more than only conversation about sex?
And each time I was pointing this out, his reaction was about «Oh come on! You are always exagerating things!», «Stop creating problems that don't exists».
So I litterally felt in those 6 years (where we used to see each other like once or twice every month or two) that I slowly started to not love him mentally.
I wasn't really conscious of that. I started to feel slowly and slowly more attracted to other boys, but I repressed these feelings for long time, because "WE BUILT A FIVE YEARS RELATIONSHIP". Even through the distance we wanted to share a future, build a family, it was a serious relationship .... or his intentions were masked like he was really desiring this.
We had plans but nothing to share. It started to be really heavy. [this is the point where a well formed self esteem person should totally interrupt a toxic relationship, because ..... it was obviousely toxic. But not me! I didn't have a self esteem!]
So "finally" I moved in his own city for studies. I planned to combine studies with my relationship. «GREAT! WE CAN SEE MUCH AND MUCH MORE ... and FINALLY SHARE!!! HAVE SOME SERIOUS DIALOGUES WE ARE NOT HAVING FROM MONTHS!!!» I thought. Actually, I forgot to say that our relationship started after we met on a videogame mmo, and .... I AM STUDYING VIDEOGAMES as core subject at my university (yeah curious fact right? Actually some Academies for these are real, but that's not the point!). How can you not find something to share with your girlfriend that IS STUDYING WHAT MADE YOU AND HER MEET??? Seriousely I was trying to fit in every of his interests, but he never did the same effort as big as mine.
So my euphoristic plans just saw his lack of emotions .... like hello man?
Are you really caring for the fact I just moved next to you? AFTER SIX YEARS OF LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
No.
He just had time for everyone, except me. He had energies to drive to his friends pubs (20 minutes by car) but not to come to me (30 minutes by car or something more, and 40 minutes by underground). I was the only one that had to move every weekend. No caring about the studies, or exams, or what.
Still zero comunication.
I felt SO ALONE, in his city, distant from my family. I was ripped in pieces. So I started (finally) to question seriously my relationship, opening to him and saying that his lack of comunication was deeply changing my feelings.
Aproximately nothing made him change or question his attitude.
So I met a boy at my university and I fell in love for him. I MENTALLY and PHYSICALLY fell in love for this boy. I was stupid. I was like beliving that what we build togheter could fix any problem because six years are heavy, you know. I am not justifying me. Cheating is horrible, and I had to be braver to tell him that maybe our relationship was really over. After thinking about him for too much time, I thought only about myself doing the ONLY REAL SELFISH THING in this relationship.
Spending time with the other guy was really fullfilling me in certain ways, but I wasn't sure it was "for some stupid selfish desires" or for "the self care I lacked in my relationship".
I didn't cheat for so long because I FELT SO DIRT INSIDE.
I cheated mostly because I felt repressed from my responsabilities with the other person that was lacking of caring. But my ex boyfriend wasn't a BAD GUY at that time, you know... he applied in his own way. He made his effort in his own way. So I wasn't sure he wasn't really caring of me. I had a complete confusion inside of me because of his double way of being so supportive and so absent at the same time.
Those litterally drove me crazy, because it gave me so many UPS and DOWNS, expectations and pains of feeling abbandoned..
I mostly couldn't recognise that my relationship was toxic because of these. I couldn't recognise the red flags, stucked between them while just being at this point is a red flag itself.
So I cheated. I wasn't brave enough to face him, again, before and breaking up all the promises that I totally had written in my soul with a knife. I was scared to be seen as an incoherent asshole if I would break up a long distance relationship, after so much time and after I just moved in his own city.
I didn't want to disappoint anybody, while anybody was really caring of what I was actually thinking.
What an I R O N Y.
I am not proud of saying so ... but FOR MY CASE, cheating was the solution for my mental conditions, and yes... it helped me to answear some crucial questions, but I mostly can say: people cheat also when they feel REALLY ALONE, like I was. This is NOT a way of justyfing the act. This is not a way of encouraging the thing, because
I T ' S W R O N G.
So I got my responsabilities back and I told my ex boyfriend the whole thing.
Just I told myself: «Yeah! I made a huge bad thing, but both of us NOW deserve honesty»
and at least, both of us had some responsabilities in it. So even if we are both broken, maybe we can learn something from our mistakes. We really lacked of respect each other, so we can maybe start again.
But this was and it is just my point of view.
I am a person that struggles a lot with loliness in her own life, (and he knew my whole story) and being abbandoned when I moved into his city was a HUGE shock to me.
I think love is also calling out our own mistakes, even if the other one's are bigger or heavier, and it doesn't mean it has necessarely to work out.
By doing so, I understood who (finally) he really was and the true nature of his feelings.
He totally used my confession to manipulate the reality of the facts with my friends, totally saying another version of it: «I found out she cheated all by myself».
He made this after two months where he said to me «No no, it's fine. I was an asshole with you» and I: «Do you really think so? I'm not okay. I am glad you forgave me, but I am worried for you. I would have being shocked at your place, fullfilled with anger. I would understand if you say "I want to make my own experiences now with other women", but just be sincere. I would totally understand the consequences of my own actions» «No no, it's fine». Two months like these before exploding like I said before, before lying on my honesty.
I am not saying he is the devil, because I know: finding out a person cheated on you it's the worst thing.
I was crying the whole day, because I knew I was doing something wrong, lacking of a total respect, but I was trying to search my TRUE self care.
I am glad I got a lesson from this that was: NEVER ACCEPT EVER COMPROMISES WHERE YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE MAKING THE COMPROMISE AND THE OTHER PART IS JUST ACTING BLIND.
So sorry for my bad English.
But I was really into this topic for ... you know, those reasons.
I know, not every situation is just like mine, but I just learned to not instantly judge so bad people that do bad decisions in their lives. You don't have to accept those mistakes, and forgive without seriousely thinking how they impact on you, but just don't condamn people for the rest of their lives.
Always give them the possibility to show the best of them, even when they touch the worst they can do.
You don't know really their situation. It's so easy to judge.
confess to girl you like her, then she turns into “matchmaker” and refers you to her friend or accuaintance that’s not as good looking
Congrats on 400 k ^^
the thumb nail is perfection
When you hit your moment of greatest intensity of preaching (by the way, YESSSS YOU PREACH IT GIRL TRUTH TRUTH), a meditation app ad began to play and I was very confused for a moment.
Omg where has this channel been all my life. I found it today at work and have now watches every video. Anyway speechie I love your content, attitude, and art style (mostly the eyes). I hope everything goes well for you cus you are super talented.
The first five relationships I’ve gotten cheated on
My dad used the “it meant nothing to me” to my mom ON CHRISTMAS which is why I despise Christmas
CONGRATS ON 400K! WE ALL LOVE U!!!
Cheaters will get what's coming to them
Also your sprite in a bun is ADORABLE
I got so disappointed when I realized what little amounts of people discovered how freaking awesome you are. Your art is amazing !