You will cry/tear up for years when you tell this story every birthday. My son was born via c-section and was dark purple, no sound. I wasn’t the one who carried him, so I could follow him/them around to see what going on. They immediately took him over to work on him. There was a team there “in case.” But an even more experiences team came in. They determined that he needed to be rushed to surgery for a chest tube as he was born with a collapsed lung. Over the next few hours, with the chest tube, he perked up, coloring normal, I was relieved but still nervous. However, it seemed safe enough that I could run home to feed the dogs and let them out to pee. On the drive back (less than 10 minutes each way), my partner called to say to come directly to her room, not the NICU. I thought he had died. Thank goodness he was alive, but his other lung had collapsed and he had received another chest tube, plus was showing signs of jaundice. We lived far from an appropriate hospital so he and I were life-flighted to a children’s hospital. In the plane I fell asleep and woke to sounds of them trying to keep him alive. In the ambulance from the airport to the hospital, we were stuck in traffic. I was up front with the driver. The people in the back were yelling to get us there or “this baby is not going to make it.” Luckily he did. He is 19 years old now and still hears the story every year.
We had a traumatic birth with our 3rd babe. The nurse looked at me and said we are gonna get this baby out now and the way she looked at me and said that I knew it was serious. It was like me and that nurse were the only 2 people in the room. I was so laser focused on what she was telling me. Baby was born not breathing and it took them 6 minutes to get him going good. Longest 6 minutes of my life. We spent 2 nights in the NICU just to be sure he was doing good. He is now 8 and as healthy as can be. Traumatic birthday are HARD and we don’t talk enough about it. Much love! Glad baby and momma are safe and sound. CONGRATS!
My husband was born with his umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and was also purple. Fast forward 37 years, he's strong, very tall, and the bravest person I know! Indie has been a fighter from the beginning and she has so much potential, mom and dad! All of your kids are gonna make you proud! ❤
Just hoping to make you feel a bit better. My 2nd daughter was born purple and that was the scariest few minutes of my life. We had already survived swine flu, which was killing pregnant mothers and fetuses, then at 28 weeks, I went into labor, went to the hospital, they gave me meds to stop the contractions, it didn’t help but they were ready to send me home. I refused and said something is wrong. The next morning my dr came in and told me the nurse gave me the wrong medication. Instead of stopping labor, it put me even more into labor. She was a veteran nurse, too. I had to be on meds until 36 weeks to stop contractions. When I chose the delivery date, I requested that nurse. I knew no one on this planet would take better care of my baby and I, and boy was I right. She was so down on herself and when she heard I requested her, she came and just hugged me and thanked me. I told her no need to thank me. We’re human. I was safe, my baby was safe and I’ll never forget her. 💜 also want to add everyone in my life told me to sue her and the hospital. I thought about it, then put myself in her shoes. Long shifts, a lifetime career, one mistake. Wasn’t worth it to me. She watched us like hawks and held my hand the whole way. Oh, and my daughter is almost 15 now 🩷 she’s still perfect.
2010 then. I had my son Oct 2009 and was admitted not knowing i was positive for swine flu after only going to the ER because it felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest. Little did i know I was having contracts, and his heart rate was elevated. 2 weeks later i had him.
@ December 2009 she was born. We were sick with swine flu over hallloween. I remember bc I was sad I couldn’t go with my older daughter lol. Glad you and your son are ok! 🫶🏼
Thank you for being a solid Good person...... the world needs more of you. That nurse could've been fired but instead she was allowed through your grace to become better!
I was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck. I got cerebral palsy out of the deal but I am doing extremely well. I am currently 59 years old. I’ve been employed since I was 19 on July 10, 2027. I will have my condo paid off. I’ve been living with my partner for 20+ years I drive a 2017 Dodge caravanand I’m completely happy. I do use a wheelchair but it never interferes with my life.
Watching the first time and seeing her turn purple and not crying my heart was breaking as I was crying and cheering her on. I'm so happy she's doing well. You are a beautiful family.❤❤❤
Look at all these amazing stories of survival! And you guys have joined the ranks ❤️ My son was born by c-section 4.5 years ago. He cried a little bit and then stopped. They took him away like they did with Indie, and it felt like forever. In the end they told me he needed to go to NICU as his breathing wasn’t the best. I didn’t even get to hold him as they needed to prioritise his care, but I have a photo of when they wheeled him past me and paused so I could reach out and touch him. Hands down one of the hardest experiences of my life. Fast forward to now - he is an absolute force of nature, and a very big tall energetic boy!!
having good nurses, and birth team makes all the difference. So glad to see baby Indie healthy, and Allie recovering well from the birth, and the 2 of them physically doing well now. It is an emotional experience for both parents in a birth experience and you 2 make such an amazing team for your little family. So happy that everyone is doing well now.
Thank y’all for sharing your experience with us. I’m sure with it you are helping another family make it through it too. She’s a fighter like her daddy. Congratulations she’s precious and Remi is awesome with her. Which shows that y’all are great parents.❤
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. She is home with you now. Cherish every moment. Cob webs 😊. I’m glad you were able to get the epidural, to reduce pain. It has to be traumatic coming from a constant waterbed and all you can eat buffet. Your team sounds like they were prepared for things and able to make sure you weren’t traumatized completely. To hear her cry was a beautiful sound. I’m sure you sharing this will help future parents know what could be expected. Indie is lucky to have such attentive parents and medical team. Hi to Remi. Thumbs up for being a rockstar big sister.
I had my daughter when I was 32, 5 years after my youngest son. He was born at 11 lbs so my doctor induced me a month early with my daughter so she wouldn’t be 13 lbs. I was induced at 6am and was in labor all day, being a month early she was fully developed, but was not ready to leave. It was about 10:30pm and I was pushing and she would come out and go back in and come out…and this was 29 years ago and they had just come out with the suction pump that they place on the baby’s head to help with the delivery and my doctor had had one available for him to use, but had never used one it real practice. He asked if I would be okay if he used it with my delivery. Now I loved this doctor, he was our family doctor and delivered my 11 lb son, he was the biggest baby he had ever delivered, but I wasn’t comfortable trying something new on my baby. My first baby had been delivered with forceps, so if that was need I was more comfortable with that. My husband and I could kind of tell something might be wrong, but he had been joking around his wife was out of town and he needed to get home soon to feed his dogs. The thing you have to know is all my doctors know that if something is wrong, I don’t want to know. That is what they are for. My husband is an MRI Tech so he is around doctor and he picks up stuff and understand what they are talking about more than I do, so anyway about 11:46pm my daughter was delivered by forceps and taken straight to the bassinet and my doctor just kept talking to me telling me how beautiful she was and finishing me up and by then they were done with her, she was 10 lbs 3oz, 21” and I never found out her cord had been wrapped around her neck 3 times till I needed her records when we moved when she was in high school and I picked them up. She’s a perfect, beautiful 29 woman with no health problem and a pure joy of my life.
The thing, I think, to remember is the nurses and doctor have handled that before and efficiently. You were scared. We could tell when you showed that portion of the video. She was a little stubborn but she's beautiful, healthy and awesome. You were very scared by it, but you've come through the other side. One of the great things about you sharing this is that others who may experience this may have more confidence. 😊😊👋👋❤❤
My 6 month old daughter was born in this same way. The silence is still deafening. I remember the nurses just stood in between me and my baby, and all my husband saw was them doing the “reflex test” and slamming her on a table. I do envy that they talked you through some of it or at least distracted you. Mine said nothing- even when I was brought to my own room.. didn’t even mention a word of what happened in the labor and delivery room. Thank you for talking about this. Your fears are valid, your emotions are real, and your baby is so so healthy! Congratulations Allie and Charles!
I’m 53 now and my first child, my daughter was also born very quickly in under 15 minutes after 3 pushes. They lay her on me and she was silent. They quickly got my husband to cut the cord and rushed her off. The staff were amazing and while I knew something was going on and was asking if she was ok, they were very calm and said as she was born so quickly she was in shock. She was away from me for a few minutes before they brought her back to me after she had started crying. She is 25 years old now and I still remember it like it was yesterday.
That is a scary story. Glad it all worked out and you both can laugh about it. Listening to this takes me back to my airline pilot days. When you literally hold peoples lives in your hands for a living, the nurses reactions were the same as we would experience in the plane when something goes wrong. You instantly go into calm mode. It was burned into our brains to "Slow down!!!". Don't make the situation worse by rushing. For us it was follow the procedures we've practiced many times in the simulator and perform the items on the checklist. We were taught to stay calm so we could focus. Stay calm so the people we were working with would stay calm. Stay calm so the passengers (or in your case the mother and father) would stay calm. Excitement in an emergency will never help the situation. Simply put just like the nurses, we were taught to slow down, stay calm and work the problem. There's plenty of time to get excited in the bar later but in the moment... Stay calm. Staying calm leads to happy outcomes :)
The staff were great calming down the situation. I pushed my baby out in 4 minutes without an epidural so I had a non numbed episiotomy that was not too bad but it burned badly. The staff in my situation were not calming one bit and it made the entire situation so much more intense and scary. I’m glad Indie is safe and home with her Trippy Family. ❤
So I was the baby that was like Indie. I scared the life out of my parents too. I want to assure you that it has never effected me in a bad way. I am so sorry that you got such a scare on such a beautiful day.
My son was one. After labouring for 10 hours I wasn't dialiating.They decided it was time for a c section. Thank God because the cord was around his neck and his head was tilted in my pelvis. Had I pushed, my boy wouldn't be here today. Sending you all love 💜
Although it is traumatic to think about but I think it's ultimately helpful to talk about it and share. Especially hearing other people's stories. Well done you too! Lots of love
Thanks for sharing your story! I had a very similar experience, except the cord was wrapped about 10x around her whole body. She ended up spending a week in the NICU. Again, thanks for sharing and making some of us feel less alone in those scary events. So happy both of you are okay! Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl you two 🤗
Props to the staff for keeping their cool during that time. I cant imagine that being an easy task to manage but they did really well from what I saw in the video. Bless you guys and your precious little family. I've been watching you guys since 2011 and it's been a treat to watch your family grow all these years. Can't wait to see how little Indie grows into her beautiful little features! Hopefully keep the dark hair, haha! ❤️
Allie & Charles this was SO informing!! This is important to show people that scary moments in birth can happen despite a beautiful outcome ♥️ im so sorry for these scary moments but congratulations on your beautiful baby girl!!!!
Hey lady! I had 7 babies. 4 of mine I pushed out within the first 10 minutes. The other 3 were within 30 mins. I’m so glad you all are ok and doing well. Such a scary thing to deal with. Don’t forget to talk about this and let it out. PTSD and anxiety is all too real as you know. Hang in there ❤️
Same thing happened to me I left not knowing really what happened over 40 years ago. It’s was so scary. I’m glad you are sharing this info. It’s good to know info thank you 🙏 and my daughter had issues as well
My first born was born purple too. She didn’t cry and the room was so silent. I remember it was the scariest moment of my life. The team at the hospital I was in worked so fast and did a phenomenal job of clearing her air ways. When she finally cried I remember feeling so relieved. It was the scariest moment to have to go through. I feel for you! She too also had her umbilical cord wrapped around her neck
My younger sister was born with the cord wrapped around her neck as well. My mom said the Dr said it was the longest cord he had ever seen. I also had a similar scary situation with my son. He was purple and was not making a noise. A team of people rushed into the room and started working on him. They did not say anything to me. I remember just laying there freaking out, waiting to hear a cry. It took a little while. Finally, I heard him cry. It was the scariest moment of my life. 8 years later, I still find myself looking at him and am so very grateful I did not lose him that day. I am so glad your little one is okay! She is precious!❤
Ya and why proper c sections get needed but a baby unable to breath until the cord gets cut the cord being around the neck means that a good chance of the baby never breathes
@jacquelinebennett I got told once that the cord isnt a threat or something stoopid like that when I typed about how proper c sections the best way to give birth
I had a C-section after an induction. I labored for 30 hours, it was very exhausting. After they gave me an epidural I got really light headed, I thought it was because I was a bit woozy after over thinking about the needle and the whole room quietly moved around me and that's when I knew something was wrong. My blood pressure dropped down to 60/80 and they rushed me into the OR, I barely had time for the epidural to kick in and I was able to feel quite a bit of pressure as they opened me up and when they pulled her out. When they told me my baby was out I waited forever to hear her cry, after 10 seconds I confirmed she was out and it felt like a minute or two before she actually cried. It was scary to not know or see what was going on. Birth is traumatizing, I'm so glad indie made it here safe and sound and that she is thriving beautifully!
My little brother came out with the cord around his neck and not breathing. My mum had 3 kids before him and just knew things were not right. Thankfully, the amazing team with my mum that day helped him start breathing. We all found out when he was 3 that he has cystic fibrosis, so all the odds stacked against him, but he is now 19, almost 20 and causing choas 😂 I'm glad Indie is healthy. She will definitely be your wild child!
That "legal" person was likely a social worker or patient advocate who often during scary situations come in to assist with answering questions and conveying information between medical staff and patients.
I’m so sorry you had to go through this and I’m grateful you had a healthy baby and are looking wonderful! My daughter was born with the cord around her neck, luckily my midwife unwrapped it as soon as she could, her face was bruised from coming out quickly, and she had to be suctioned out because she kept chocking on amniotic fluid in the post partum room. She’s now almost two and perfect.
I’m 28 and was one of the 25%! My mum gave birth to me in under an hour. Apparently I “came out like a rugby ball, and haven’t stopped since”… And on Christmas Eve too! I was also born with the cord around my neck. Two crash teams were sent in; one for my Mum and one for me. They took me away to get me all sorted like they did with Indie. My Mum shouted “GIVE ME MY BABY BACK” until they did. They then put me in, what my Mum likes to call “a little fishbowl” until I was all acclimatised. Analogy checks out Charles! I’m sure it was very scary at the time but she laughs about it now. My poor Dad stepped outside for a few minutes and then it all happened so quickly! Apparently he needed more gas and air than my Mum did. He didn’t come to the hospital for my sister (baby number 3 - I was baby number 2)😂 Lots of love to you and your family. I’m sure the birth was a very traumatising experience, and the footage was hard to rewatch. Well done for being so brave. Hopefully you can laugh about it with Indie some day too 🩵🩵xx
Thanks for your story, while it doesnt apply to me (for the moment), god knows it probably does to someone out there right now. Thank you for sharing and Thank god for the little one's future! I dont get a chance to watch as often as I used to but I love you guys!!!!
4 out of our 5 babies had their cords round their necks when delivered. No. 2 had meconium in her waters so she was whipped off to be suctioned and checked out straight after birth. I had 3 geriatric deliveries. By baby number five I was known as a geriatric multi 😂 All five of my deliveries were spontaneous precipitous labours with fetal ejection. Longest labour and delivery was four hours shortest was 49 minutes.
So sorry you had to go through this! I was a purple baby cord wrapped around my neck also my mom didn’t get to see me after I was born for awhile. My son was losing heart rate when I was giving birth and he was born with the cord wrapped but nothing crazy but my daughter had umbilical cord issues so when she was born I already had every branch of doctors in the room on top of the cord wrapped around her neck as well..both my 6 & 7 year olds are doing amazing and I can’t wait to watch remi and indie grow up ❤️
I had my daughter back in March and because she ended up as an emergency c-section she had the common problem that because she didn’t get “squeezed” out naturally her breathing was affected. We got wheeled to recovery together and then she stopped breathing so NICU was called in. She ended up in the NICU for a week. Short time thankfully in the grand scheme of NICU stays.
I had my second child at 37 also! His cord was also around his neck but never turned blue. I feel so sorry that you guys went through that. I'm 66 yrs old now! They referred to me as a mature woman back then. He's a healthy young man now and stands at 6'9"! I'm 6'2 & my late husband was 6'6"!
I’m glad to hear Indie is healthy and safe now! I can’t imagine how scary that was. Allie you’re so strong and it’s very encouraging. As a 25 year old looking upon my future and hearing people’s birth stories it lowkey makes me absolutely terrified to birth a baby. I’d be too weak 🙈
It's maybe worth asking your ob or the delivery team for a review of the birth. That is offered in the UK to help understand, to ask questions and to process trauma. Congratulations on your lovely addition 👶x
My little girl (just a couple of months younger than Remi) was born with the cord wrapped around her neck. She was silent and had to be taken away just like Indie to clear her airways and get her to start breathing and crying. I remember feeling that panic and fear and then when she started crying I didn’t believe it was my baby until she was handed back to me. She also brought up quite a lot of fluid/mucous for the first day or so.
Omg this must have been so hard to talk about but thank you for doing it!! I feel like so many people have traumatic births but end up feeling alone because there’s just no information out there about it ❤️
I’m so glad she’s okay! My niece that was born 2-3 years ago was born still birth due to her cord being wrapped around when her mother was induced to have her 😢 so heartbreaking. But so glad your precious baby is okay!!
My cousin was one of the 25% she was born with the cord still wrapped around her neck and if I remember correctly it took them 10 mins to get her to breathe. But she’s now 26 and an incredible human. Congrats on your newest addition 🥰
I was born with the cord around my neck as well. It was wrapped twice. I’m 57. My son was born that way too, but he was a c section. He was way too big to have naturally. Glad it all worked out well! Congrats!!
Yup, i was born with the cord around my neck and purple. I turned out OK and cuddling my 3 week old while watching your video. Thank you for talking about it. My parents never wanted to talk about it, and I can now see why.
The act of coming through the birth canal also helps squeeze some of that fluid out, but if the cord was obstructing that process she was probably a little bogged down with fluid in her lungs. She wasn't holding her breath in the same way a little kid would, she didn't have the instinct to breathe kick in (probably because she came so quickly and there was still lots of fluid in her lungs). Back when I was born, they used to hang them upside down by their ankles and whack the bottoms of their feet to stimulate a cry and use gravity to move out the excess fluid.
Thanks for taking time to share with us I watched the video and don't know you personally but I felt then like I did in that moment. God has blessed you with 5he best gift
First of all congratulations on your new addition to your family….3 out of 4 of my kids ended up with the cord wrap around the scariest was the birth of my son they didn’t even let me see him before rushing out of the room with him.. they all are grown now.. youngest 20…but it is a scary moment to have…
I came out purple as well. They said it’s like I came out asleep (I was a C Section baby) and they actually had to snap my butt to see if I’d wake up and voila! I am totally ok. I’ve been told this story several times by the nurses that were in the room when I was born. I grew up right behind the children’s hospital and my grandfather was a pediatrician there so they knew who I was and thus why I’ve heard the story many, many times.
My daughters chord was wrapped around her neck 3 times. Scarey thing was she was an unplanned home birth and thankfully the ambulance and a dr arrived in time. She was fine and now is a lovely Mother herself😊
My first son was breach and they tried to turn him but it didn't work so I ended up having an emergency c-section. When they pulled him out he was purple and when they did his APGAR test he was a 1 but very quickly they got him breathing and moving and put him in an incubator and took him to the NICU. He was fine and grew up to be 6 ft. 7 in. tall and works for the police dept. I am incredibly proud of him.
This becomes why scheduled c sections needed more then anything and then water births because well known fact until the cord gets cut a baby never breathes it uses the cord so it stays under the water for a good amount of time before the cord gets cut Most want c sections over natural birth anyways
My son was also born with a cord wrapped around his upper chest then around his neck tightly. He was purple and not breathing for a silent 2:17 second. I’ve never experienced such silence. It felt longer than my actual labor. Now he’s 7yrs old and thriving in first grade. He has a small birthmark on his chest from the compression; Other than that he’s perfect.
My son decided to get stuck on my pelvic bones and his heart rate ramped up. I had to be rushed for a emergency C-section. He was born safe and sound but I didn't make it out of there for several hours because they almost lost me on the table twice. Husband stayed with our son those first few hours. I didn't even know what happened. After they removed him and I saw him and heard him crying I passed out. So so scary. Glad we're okay and glad you both are okay as well.
My son was born emergency c section with cord wrapped around his neck twice. Scariest experience of my life. I went into shock after everything that happened, and I knew he was okay.. he is 3 and I still get emotional thinking about it!
My first baby had the cord around the neck and everything turned out fine... It is very scary. And the well dressed lady may have been a patient advocate to help keep you calm.
I'm so glad you guys are doing well now! definitely a traumatic birth experience for you guys. I just gave birth on saturday and had basically a copy/paste of your birth as well. was admitted for heart attack risk, and they broke my waters, pushed baby out in 6 minutes (3 contractions) and they had to take him away right away and brought him to the NICU. we're still here hoping to bring him home this week.
I’m assuming she was from NICU, they are called during instances such as this. She would be specialized in NEO natal intensive care. I’m sorry both of you had this experience. It must have been terrifying. Indie is a perfect little angel.
Both my kids came out in two pushes.. literally the same contraction. I have a connective tissue disorder so that's why but my son had the same thing happen with his cord. It was really scary! He later was diagnosed with autism and is almost 5 now and such a special little guy!
Birth is a dangerous time for mother and baby. Lots of babies need help breathing when they're first born or they have to have the mucus suctioned out. I'm so happy she is doing well and is safely home. ❤
It is terrifying for parents & obviously stressful for the medical team. But it is unfortunately common in babies who come out so quickly. When a baby comes down the birth canal, any amniotic fluid normally gets removed from the lungs as part of the process. But when a baby is born so fast, that doesn't always happen & the baby struggles to realise they're outside the uterus. These two things combined do in a way make the baby unconsciously hold their breath, although it may not look like that. The fluid still in their chest makes it difficult to breathe & the part of the brain that tells the baby to breath hasn't quite kicked in yet. It is frightening for parents & I'm so sorry you all went through that. I'm just glad & relieved that Indie is now doing well. For context I'm a health scientist & ex-midwifery assistant.
I had a scary delivery with my second child. My first child, a daughter, was born in 2007. I have to say that was the best delivery I could’ve asked for as my first. I went into labor at 6 in the morning , at the hospital by 9 and pushed 3 times and she was born by 4:47 that same day. Now my second, my son, was born in 2021. So it had been 14 years since I was pregnant last. I was 35 so I was considered high risk plus I have type 1 diabetes. He was due January 4th 2022. I woke up at 6 in the morning on November 22, 2021 and was bleeding a lot. I honestly thought I was miscarrying and was so scared. We rushed to the hospital and they told me I was in labor and 4 centimeters dialated. So they gave me medication to stop the contractions since I was so early. About halfway through the day they told me the medication wasn’t working and would most likely have the baby that day. I got my epidural and later on the nurses came in because they wanted me in a different position because his heart rate was all over the place so they turned me on my side and were getting ready to place a birthing ball between my legs when the nurse said, “Oh, his head is almost out. Guess you’re ready to start pushing.” It was a very hard delivery because I couldn’t catch my breath enough to push as much as they wanted me to. As they were giving me oxygen and to let me rest for a second, I looked down and he had completely come out by himself. I guess he was sick of being in there. But because he was so early his lungs were not fully developed so he was having trouble breathing on his own. My obgyn said they didn’t usually do this for premies but she let me have a few minutes of skin to skin before they took him to NICU. He was 7lbs. It was such a scary and heartbreaking experience. Seeing him hooked up to a feeding tube and oxygen in the NICU. But everyday he did better and better. At first they told me that he’d probably be in the NICU until his due date of January 4th but we got to take him home December 14th 2021. And now my baby boy will be turning 3 on Friday. I’m so thankful Indie is doing great and congratulations to the Trippy family on the new addition. I live near St. Pete as well. Sorry this comment is so long winded. Lots of love to you. 🩵💜
The way the doctor explained my son holding his breath the way he did (& he did it over 100 times after bringing him home from the hospital) was that a baby is like a new car, and they’re learning new things each day, but they forget to breathe sometimes. When they do this to blow gently in their face to remind them to take a breath again. I swear it scared the life out of me, butttttt after 6 months of that, he finally quit doing it. I’ll strongly suggest you buy one of those pair of socks that has a heart rate monitor built into it. That way if Indie does quit breathing, it will alert you to rush and check on her. I really wish they had those when my son was born. ❤️
Did your doctor answer this? When they forget to breathe won't they eventually breathe again without blowing in face when they're blue and held it for a while or does that not happen?
I had a similar experience. Backstory I had a stillbirth my first pregnancy at 29 weeks and had to be induced. With that experience every pregnancy is terrifying for me. When I had my second daughter she had fluid in her lungs (they claim because she wasn’t in the birth canal long enough to push the fluids out). She came out purple and not breathing. The room went silent and they brought her over to the baby table and I was panicking the entire time. After 15 minutes of them with her she finally came to but it was the most terrifying experience. I’m glad she is healthy and wish you the best!
I relate so much to your experience and I hope you know it’s ok to feel however you feel about what happened. I had a traumatic birth with my last baby and all people told me afterwards was how I should be happy she was ok now. Which of course I was happy about that but I felt like they weren’t giving me the ability to process my feelings. It’s one of those times where I know others had it worse than me and people are saying I should be grateful it turned out well, so I just felt guilty for essentially feeling sorry for myself. Eventually I stood up for myself and told people I was allowed to feel sad, and even a little angry, about what happened while still feeling grateful my baby was alive after everything and if they weren’t ok with it then we didn’t need to talk about it anymore. I think the “at least she’s ok” comments were just really triggering for a postpartum, traumatized mother. The story may be triggering so I put it down below but maybe someone else can find comfort in knowing they aren’t alone in their experience either. I had to listen to my baby’s heartbeat stop on the fetal monitor, just after my husband left to get me food, and have a group of people rushing in with no explanation. The person who was nicest to me the entire time was the anesthesiologist who explained what was happening because no one else would, even when I asked repeatedly. No one even stopped to tell me if my baby’s heart started beating again until I heard her cry after the C-section. I spent the entire time thinking I had lost her already. This was all after being strong armed into staying at the hospital for one case of elevated blood pressure that was not repeatable even after I went to the hospital and had readings repeated over an hour along with normal bloodwork. My regular OBGYN doctor sent me to the hospital “just in case but you’ll probably be discharged and come back tomorrow for another checkup”. I even asked if I could leave since everything was normal and they said unless I signed paperwork saying I was leaving against medical advice then I had to stay. I ended up being induced, which I don’t have issues with because I was induced with my first baby with no issues, and everything went downhill from there. There’s a lot more but I don’t want to vent too much and I am happy the entire experience is behind us and our baby girl is perfectly healthy. But I do feel strongly about allowing yourself to be upset that that was your experience. I have a friend who’s had two premie babies that lived in the NICU for 2-3 months and she advocates for this as well. You CAN be upset that it was your experience and still be grateful your baby is ok. One doesn’t take away from the other.
Babies often have difficulty starting to breathe and it really wasn't long for her to get breathing on her own. Scary but the nurses and Dr knew how to handle things and it all was fine. My daughter was born wrapped in her umbilical cord and had to be suctioned several times because she had aspirated. The nurse said she had one of the longest umbilical cords she had ever seen. I remember the nurse telling me to push hard because the baby wasn't liking being in anymore which most likely meant her heart rate was going down. I never felt scared though and had a gut feeling everything would be fine and it was, thank goodness. You have a beautiful new daughter and it may have been a bit of a rocky start but she is fine and that's what's most important.
That's always the hardest part of not knowing where the umbilical cord is located. To this day at 36 years old, my mom will always call me on my birthday to tell me how I came out purple like Barney and the silence was the longest 2 minutes of her life and to always be grateful for the little things because it's always a 50/50 chance. ❤ ❤ indie is that little sparkle that everything became okay ❤
I totally understand. My daughter was emergency csection because the cord was wrapped around her neck and she couldn’t descend. She did not scream when she came out. But she’s 18 and full of life and sass lol
When I was born in 1965 the doctor knew I had the cord wrapped around my neck. They were taking multiple X-rays to check my position before full labour. This was back when they didn't worry as much about radiation, I'm disappointed I didn't get any super powers.
Thanks for all this-- Remember, they have many more actions to take if things go south. Luckily it was just a dip. I was one of the 25%ers! (back in 1954...)
It sounds like you had an excellent care team and group of professionals. I think you got lucky she didn’t need a stay in the NICU- even for a night. Clearly she didn’t need it since they always take the best precautions but sometimes babes just need a little extra help till that fluid breaks up and they can breathe easier. Obviously Indie could handle it on her own!! Tough cookie already! Just like the rest of the fam! ❤ Also sometimes silence is the best in those situations so the nurses can just assess, and listen to sounds coming from the baby. Plus there is never a need to work up a new mom before you truly know what’s going on. ❤ I can see how hard this was, but don’t think you were ever not in the best hands possible. Thank god for them ❤
I didn't sense a feeling of silence. They were just focused and doing their job. It's not uncommon for babies having difficulties to breathe in the beginning, having fluid in their throat, judging from birth vlogs, but it needs to be done. So they focus on doing it right.
@ well they did, which they said in the video. It’s their birth story. It did fall silent. I do agree everyone was just focused and doing their job- I didn’t say otherwise
This brought me back to having our first son…he was our first baby so we obviously knew next to nothing. You’re very lucky to have such amazing nurses during it. My experience was a bit different. Knowing what I know now his cord was around his neck the entire time I was in labor and there was obvious signs of this with how his heart rate kept dropping but nothing was done about it and they had me pushing for nearly 3 hours…so when his head finally came out a nurse jumped on my stomach to get him the rest of the way out and then all I hear my doctor say is call NICU. No one was telling me anything and I didn’t even see him. They took him out of my site immediately. My husband said he was blue. Luckily he was okay pretty quickly but it felt like a lifetime. I’ve had two more babies since him and had amazing experiences thankfully! My second was out in 3 pushes and my third was out in 5. I would never go back to my first doctor, she was awful compared to my current OB who delivered my second and my third was delivered by a midwife who was also great. It’s so important to have a strong team of people around you. 🤍 Congratulations on another beautiful little girl 🥰
for my first, I never dilated past a 6 and constant contractions so I had a c-section where It went up instead of down so I stopped breathing. I woke up after he was out. He was perfect. My 2nd had to be a planned c-section. The doctor said later I wouldn't have been able to deliver normally. Still don't know what that means. But I was awake the whole time and wished I was asleep. She had to get basically a stomach pump because she couldn't keep formula down. They said since she was a c-section, she didn't get the fluid squeezed out then was fine. Months later she spit up and swallowed it down the wrong pipe. she was cry, stop breathing and cry again. I finally had to flip her upside down for her to spit it back out. Scared the crap out of me. My kids will be 22 and 17 in a few weeks.
I know what was happening with your baby, my youngest son, we only have two boys, had the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck 3 times & also had 2 knots in it. My labor was induced also, but we didn’t get numbed with an epidural, back then, they numbed you right before the baby was born, so stupid & horrible pain, a 10, the worst you can imagine. My son was quiet like Indie at first, scared me. They got him crying & I felt relief. Later when the Doctor came in, he told me my son could’ve been born dead, the cord was coming ahead of him & his oxygen was being compromised. Luckily, he was ok & cute as ever! I’m happy your baby is ok & cute as ever!👍👏👏👏♥️♥️♥️♥️🐾🐾🐶💞🐾🐾🐶💞🐾🐾🐈⬛💞🐾🐾🐈⬛💞
I'm sorry you and Allie experienced this. It's hard to predict what will happen when giving birth because every birth is different. I'll always tell parents to expect anything to happen. Giving birth you have to go with the flow and be flexible to whatever happens. Allie don't think this in anyway is your fault for giving birth too fast. As much as we want to say we can control it we cannot. Birth is out of our control. That is why the medical team is there to help when things are out of our control. You had no way of controlling it or knowing the cord was around her. You did the right thing letting the nurses do what they needed to. You showed the right attitude so that you could do your job and let the nurses do theirs so everything flowed well. You are praising the nurses for doing their job so well. But you and Charles also did so amazing. You brought her in the world as safely as you could. You pushed quickly and her cord didn't stay long around her neck. Then when you wanted to hold her so tightly you let the nurses take her and do their job to get her to breathe. The nurses tried to not make it traumatic for you. And you did the awesome job of letting them do their job. And Indi was safe the whole time with you all looking over her.
My third had meconium in the water when it broke. So I was told he would not get to go on my chest, and a team would be coming in. I so feel you for your first night his breathing sounded horrible.
When babies are pushed out, that pushes the fluids out of their lungs. If you push quickly, they don't alwats get that. (Or enough of it) My son was similar. He luckily didn't have any difficulties breathing, but he was very "gunky" for a bit after he was born.
That's important to keep in mind, when looking at this situation, that the fluid wasn't removed yet, so it just needed the extra attention to do it manually.
Good EVENING GUYS!! Today is already NOVEMBER 12th. And you guys are talking about happened with INDIES delivery at birth it bought back some memories of My birth 56 years ago too I was purple at birth due to loss of oxygen and not breathing and I was almost near passing away at one point its kind of what your describing to what happened with indie!! As well a she didn't have any oxygen and not breathing and I think she was also near death judging by the silences and I think she was choking to death from that cord around her neck and I had difficulty of my delivery during my moms pushes and doctors had to get special tools to get my head out of mothers belly ..and to this day 56 years later I have learning disabilities and asheburgers .. I know its a scary situation to go through and its a worse nightmare... I know for indie it was a close call to near death just from your discription and watching those first clips and reading that description you guys posted in that video..strange I heard those things in background as well including a faint code blue..when I saw the baby she was purple on her face .. I think she was briefly unconscious when the doctors are slapping there basically trying to revive her ...she may good right now maybe by the time she reaches school age she could have some disabilities developing like learning or depression in later years Like around adulthood!! I think I remembered that procedure Charles too About the slapping on the stomach.. Im thankfull for the medical team the end for saving her at the end!! And I think indie looks like a twin of remi at birth with the same facial features and allie I think she has some of your genetics .. I think I remembered coughing at birth .. I believe that Indie had a near death experience ... I don't blame you crying I would do the same thing if it was my kid dying ..but thank goodness they saved her in time ..sounds like Charles you have allergies or a cold developing.. And remi is adjusting very well and even napping with the little sister the other day when I was watching the episode.. I think this episode was interesting to watch and looking forward to next chapters of indie meeting the rest of the family in next several days!! ✌✌ PEACE OUT❤❤🍼🍼👍
The nurses didn't talk because they all knew what to do and did it, very well I might add! What a great team you had!
You will cry/tear up for years when you tell this story every birthday. My son was born via c-section and was dark purple, no sound. I wasn’t the one who carried him, so I could follow him/them around to see what going on. They immediately took him over to work on him. There was a team there “in case.” But an even more experiences team came in. They determined that he needed to be rushed to surgery for a chest tube as he was born with a collapsed lung. Over the next few hours, with the chest tube, he perked up, coloring normal, I was relieved but still nervous. However, it seemed safe enough that I could run home to feed the dogs and let them out to pee. On the drive back (less than 10 minutes each way), my partner called to say to come directly to her room, not the NICU. I thought he had died. Thank goodness he was alive, but his other lung had collapsed and he had received another chest tube, plus was showing signs of jaundice. We lived far from an appropriate hospital so he and I were life-flighted to a children’s hospital. In the plane I fell asleep and woke to sounds of them trying to keep him alive. In the ambulance from the airport to the hospital, we were stuck in traffic. I was up front with the driver. The people in the back were yelling to get us there or “this baby is not going to make it.” Luckily he did. He is 19 years old now and still hears the story every year.
We had a traumatic birth with our 3rd babe. The nurse looked at me and said we are gonna get this baby out now and the way she looked at me and said that I knew it was serious. It was like me and that nurse were the only 2 people in the room. I was so laser focused on what she was telling me. Baby was born not breathing and it took them 6 minutes to get him going good. Longest 6 minutes of my life. We spent 2 nights in the NICU just to be sure he was doing good. He is now 8 and as healthy as can be. Traumatic birthday are HARD and we don’t talk enough about it. Much love! Glad baby and momma are safe and sound. CONGRATS!
My husband was born with his umbilical cord wrapped around his neck and was also purple. Fast forward 37 years, he's strong, very tall, and the bravest person I know!
Indie has been a fighter from the beginning and she has so much potential, mom and dad! All of your kids are gonna make you proud! ❤
This comment section is full of love and perserverence
Just hoping to make you feel a bit better. My 2nd daughter was born purple and that was the scariest few minutes of my life. We had already survived swine flu, which was killing pregnant mothers and fetuses, then at 28 weeks, I went into labor, went to the hospital, they gave me meds to stop the contractions, it didn’t help but they were ready to send me home. I refused and said something is wrong. The next morning my dr came in and told me the nurse gave me the wrong medication. Instead of stopping labor, it put me even more into labor. She was a veteran nurse, too. I had to be on meds until 36 weeks to stop contractions. When I chose the delivery date, I requested that nurse. I knew no one on this planet would take better care of my baby and I, and boy was I right. She was so down on herself and when she heard I requested her, she came and just hugged me and thanked me. I told her no need to thank me. We’re human. I was safe, my baby was safe and I’ll never forget her. 💜 also want to add everyone in my life told me to sue her and the hospital. I thought about it, then put myself in her shoes. Long shifts, a lifetime career, one mistake. Wasn’t worth it to me. She watched us like hawks and held my hand the whole way. Oh, and my daughter is almost 15 now 🩷 she’s still perfect.
2010 then. I had my son Oct 2009 and was admitted not knowing i was positive for swine flu after only going to the ER because it felt like an elephant was sitting on my chest. Little did i know I was having contracts, and his heart rate was elevated. 2 weeks later i had him.
@ December 2009 she was born. We were sick with swine flu over hallloween. I remember bc I was sad I couldn’t go with my older daughter lol. Glad you and your son are ok! 🫶🏼
Thank you for being a solid Good person...... the world needs more of you. That nurse could've been fired but instead she was allowed through your grace to become better!
I was born with the umbilical cord wrapped around my neck. I got cerebral palsy out of the deal but I am doing extremely well. I am currently 59 years old. I’ve been employed since I was 19 on July 10, 2027. I will have my condo paid off. I’ve been living with my partner for 20+ years I drive a 2017 Dodge caravanand I’m completely happy. I do use a wheelchair but it never interferes with my life.
Mike the legend!
Watching the first time and seeing her turn purple and not crying my heart was breaking as I was crying and cheering her on. I'm so
happy she's doing well. You are a beautiful family.❤❤❤
Look at all these amazing stories of survival! And you guys have joined the ranks ❤️
My son was born by c-section 4.5 years ago. He cried a little bit and then stopped. They took him away like they did with Indie, and it felt like forever. In the end they told me he needed to go to NICU as his breathing wasn’t the best. I didn’t even get to hold him as they needed to prioritise his care, but I have a photo of when they wheeled him past me and paused so I could reach out and touch him.
Hands down one of the hardest experiences of my life.
Fast forward to now - he is an absolute force of nature, and a very big tall energetic boy!!
having good nurses, and birth team makes all the difference. So glad to see baby Indie healthy, and Allie recovering well from the birth, and the 2 of them physically doing well now. It is an emotional experience for both parents in a birth experience and you 2 make such an amazing team for your little family. So happy that everyone is doing well now.
Wow what a community. You are both so level headed. I could tell you were both terrified but you handled with grace. Happy all are well!! 💗
Thank y’all for sharing your experience with us. I’m sure with it you are helping another family make it through it too. She’s a fighter like her daddy. Congratulations she’s precious and Remi is awesome with her. Which shows that y’all are great parents.❤
Y'all are the sweetest most precious families. So happy everyone is ok
I can't even begin to imagine what you felt at that moment. I'm so glad everything went well in the end. Much love to this beautiful family ❤
I’m so sorry you had to go through this. She is home with you now. Cherish every moment. Cob webs 😊. I’m glad you were able to get the epidural, to reduce pain. It has to be traumatic coming from a constant waterbed and all you can eat buffet. Your team sounds like they were prepared for things and able to make sure you weren’t traumatized completely. To hear her cry was a beautiful sound. I’m sure you sharing this will help future parents know what could be expected. Indie is lucky to have such attentive parents and medical team. Hi to Remi. Thumbs up for being a rockstar big sister.
I'm 60 now and was one of the 25 percent so was my granddaughter who is now 7, glad everything worked out in the end ❤
I had my daughter when I was 32, 5 years after my youngest son. He was born at 11 lbs so my doctor induced me a month early with my daughter so she wouldn’t be 13 lbs. I was induced at 6am and was in labor all day, being a month early she was fully developed, but was not ready to leave. It was about 10:30pm and I was pushing and she would come out and go back in and come out…and this was 29 years ago and they had just come out with the suction pump that they place on the baby’s head to help with the delivery and my doctor had had one available for him to use, but had never used one it real practice. He asked if I would be okay if he used it with my delivery. Now I loved this doctor, he was our family doctor and delivered my 11 lb son, he was the biggest baby he had ever delivered, but I wasn’t comfortable trying something new on my baby. My first baby had been delivered with forceps, so if that was need I was more comfortable with that. My husband and I could kind of tell something might be wrong, but he had been joking around his wife was out of town and he needed to get home soon to feed his dogs. The thing you have to know is all my doctors know that if something is wrong, I don’t want to know. That is what they are for. My husband is an MRI Tech so he is around doctor and he picks up stuff and understand what they are talking about more than I do, so anyway about 11:46pm my daughter was delivered by forceps and taken straight to the bassinet and my doctor just kept talking to me telling me how beautiful she was and finishing me up and by then they were done with her, she was 10 lbs 3oz, 21” and I never found out her cord had been wrapped around her neck 3 times till I needed her records when we moved when she was in high school and I picked them up. She’s a perfect, beautiful 29 woman with no health problem and a pure joy of my life.
The thing, I think, to remember is the nurses and doctor have handled that before and efficiently. You were scared. We could tell when you showed that portion of the video. She was a little stubborn but she's beautiful, healthy and awesome. You were very scared by it, but you've come through the other side. One of the great things about you sharing this is that others who may experience this may have more confidence. 😊😊👋👋❤❤
My 6 month old daughter was born in this same way. The silence is still deafening. I remember the nurses just stood in between me and my baby, and all my husband saw was them doing the “reflex test” and slamming her on a table. I do envy that they talked you through some of it or at least distracted you. Mine said nothing- even when I was brought to my own room.. didn’t even mention a word of what happened in the labor and delivery room. Thank you for talking about this. Your fears are valid, your emotions are real, and your baby is so so healthy! Congratulations Allie and Charles!
I’m 53 now and my first child, my daughter was also born very quickly in under 15 minutes after 3 pushes. They lay her on me and she was silent. They quickly got my husband to cut the cord and rushed her off. The staff were amazing and while I knew something was going on and was asking if she was ok, they were very calm and said as she was born so quickly she was in shock. She was away from me for a few minutes before they brought her back to me after she had started crying. She is 25 years old now and I still remember it like it was yesterday.
A baby breathes once the cord gets cut probably a lot more stuff in your babys throat then they first thought
That is a scary story. Glad it all worked out and you both can laugh about it. Listening to this takes me back to my airline pilot days. When you literally hold peoples lives in your hands for a living, the nurses reactions were the same as we would experience in the plane when something goes wrong. You instantly go into calm mode. It was burned into our brains to "Slow down!!!". Don't make the situation worse by rushing. For us it was follow the procedures we've practiced many times in the simulator and perform the items on the checklist. We were taught to stay calm so we could focus. Stay calm so the people we were working with would stay calm. Stay calm so the passengers (or in your case the mother and father) would stay calm. Excitement in an emergency will never help the situation. Simply put just like the nurses, we were taught to slow down, stay calm and work the problem. There's plenty of time to get excited in the bar later but in the moment... Stay calm. Staying calm leads to happy outcomes :)
The staff were great calming down the situation. I pushed my baby out in 4 minutes without an epidural so I had a non numbed episiotomy that was not too bad but it burned badly. The staff in my situation were not calming one bit and it made the entire situation so much more intense and scary. I’m glad Indie is safe and home with her Trippy Family. ❤
So I was the baby that was like Indie. I scared the life out of my parents too. I want to assure you that it has never effected me in a bad way. I am so sorry that you got such a scare on such a beautiful day.
My son was one. After labouring for 10 hours I wasn't dialiating.They decided it was time for a c section. Thank God because the cord was around his neck and his head was tilted in my pelvis. Had I pushed, my boy wouldn't be here today. Sending you all love 💜
Props to you two for having so much strength and courage and sharing this with us.
Although it is traumatic to think about but I think it's ultimately helpful to talk about it and share. Especially hearing other people's stories. Well done you too! Lots of love
Thanks for sharing your story! I had a very similar experience, except the cord was wrapped about 10x around her whole body. She ended up spending a week in the NICU. Again, thanks for sharing and making some of us feel less alone in those scary events. So happy both of you are okay! Congratulations on the birth of your beautiful baby girl you two 🤗
Props to the staff for keeping their cool during that time. I cant imagine that being an easy task to manage but they did really well from what I saw in the video.
Bless you guys and your precious little family. I've been watching you guys since 2011 and it's been a treat to watch your family grow all these years. Can't wait to see how little Indie grows into her beautiful little features! Hopefully keep the dark hair, haha! ❤️
Allie & Charles this was SO informing!! This is important to show people that scary moments in birth can happen despite a beautiful outcome ♥️ im so sorry for these scary moments but congratulations on your beautiful baby girl!!!!
Hey lady! I had 7 babies. 4 of mine I pushed out within the first 10 minutes. The other 3 were within 30 mins. I’m so glad you all are ok and doing well. Such a scary thing to deal with. Don’t forget to talk about this and let it out. PTSD and anxiety is all too real as you know. Hang in there ❤️
I'm sorry you guys had to go through this scare but I'm so glad she is okay. Congratulations to growing your beautiful family.
The many blessings your family possess is astonishing and admirable, congratulations love you guys!! 🎊
Same thing happened to me I left not knowing really what happened over 40 years ago. It’s was so scary. I’m glad you are sharing this info. It’s good to know info thank you 🙏 and my daughter had issues as well
My first born was born purple too. She didn’t cry and the room was so silent. I remember it was the scariest moment of my life. The team at the hospital I was in worked so fast and did a phenomenal job of clearing her air ways. When she finally cried I remember feeling so relieved. It was the scariest moment to have to go through. I feel for you! She too also had her umbilical cord wrapped around her neck
My younger sister was born with the cord wrapped around her neck as well. My mom said the Dr said it was the longest cord he had ever seen. I also had a similar scary situation with my son. He was purple and was not making a noise. A team of people rushed into the room and started working on him. They did not say anything to me. I remember just laying there freaking out, waiting to hear a cry. It took a little while. Finally, I heard him cry. It was the scariest moment of my life. 8 years later, I still find myself looking at him and am so very grateful I did not lose him that day. I am so glad your little one is okay! She is precious!❤
Ya and why proper c sections get needed but a baby unable to breath until the cord gets cut the cord being around the neck means that a good chance of the baby never breathes
My mom says the doctor said the same about my cord when I was born, I was discolored and not breathing at all when I came out
@jacquelinebennett I got told once that the cord isnt a threat or something stoopid like that when I typed about how proper c sections the best way to give birth
Congratulations on your new daughter ❤ We had homebirths and never experienced our babies even crying at birth. Momma of 1/2 doz. Blessings
I had a C-section after an induction. I labored for 30 hours, it was very exhausting. After they gave me an epidural I got really light headed, I thought it was because I was a bit woozy after over thinking about the needle and the whole room quietly moved around me and that's when I knew something was wrong. My blood pressure dropped down to 60/80 and they rushed me into the OR, I barely had time for the epidural to kick in and I was able to feel quite a bit of pressure as they opened me up and when they pulled her out. When they told me my baby was out I waited forever to hear her cry, after 10 seconds I confirmed she was out and it felt like a minute or two before she actually cried. It was scary to not know or see what was going on. Birth is traumatizing, I'm so glad indie made it here safe and sound and that she is thriving beautifully!
My little brother came out with the cord around his neck and not breathing. My mum had 3 kids before him and just knew things were not right. Thankfully, the amazing team with my mum that day helped him start breathing. We all found out when he was 3 that he has cystic fibrosis, so all the odds stacked against him, but he is now 19, almost 20 and causing choas 😂 I'm glad Indie is healthy. She will definitely be your wild child!
She might also be a calm addition to the family.
That "legal" person was likely a social worker or patient advocate who often during scary situations come in to assist with answering questions and conveying information between medical staff and patients.
I’m so sorry you had to go through this and I’m grateful you had a healthy baby and are looking wonderful!
My daughter was born with the cord around her neck, luckily my midwife unwrapped it as soon as she could, her face was bruised from coming out quickly, and she had to be suctioned out because she kept chocking on amniotic fluid in the post partum room. She’s now almost two and perfect.
I’m 28 and was one of the 25%! My mum gave birth to me in under an hour. Apparently I “came out like a rugby ball, and haven’t stopped since”… And on Christmas Eve too! I was also born with the cord around my neck. Two crash teams were sent in; one for my Mum and one for me. They took me away to get me all sorted like they did with Indie. My Mum shouted “GIVE ME MY BABY BACK” until they did. They then put me in, what my Mum likes to call “a little fishbowl” until I was all acclimatised. Analogy checks out Charles! I’m sure it was very scary at the time but she laughs about it now. My poor Dad stepped outside for a few minutes and then it all happened so quickly! Apparently he needed more gas and air than my Mum did. He didn’t come to the hospital for my sister (baby number 3 - I was baby number 2)😂
Lots of love to you and your family. I’m sure the birth was a very traumatising experience, and the footage was hard to rewatch. Well done for being so brave. Hopefully you can laugh about it with Indie some day too 🩵🩵xx
Thanks for your story, while it doesnt apply to me (for the moment), god knows it probably does to someone out there right now. Thank you for sharing and Thank god for the little one's future! I dont get a chance to watch as often as I used to but I love you guys!!!!
4 out of our 5 babies had their cords round their necks when delivered. No. 2 had meconium in her waters so she was whipped off to be suctioned and checked out straight after birth.
I had 3 geriatric deliveries. By baby number five I was known as a geriatric multi 😂
All five of my deliveries were spontaneous precipitous labours with fetal ejection. Longest labour and delivery was four hours shortest was 49 minutes.
So sorry you had to go through this! I was a purple baby cord wrapped around my neck also my mom didn’t get to see me after I was born for awhile. My son was losing heart rate when I was giving birth and he was born with the cord wrapped but nothing crazy but my daughter had umbilical cord issues so when she was born I already had every branch of doctors in the room on top of the cord wrapped around her neck as well..both my 6 & 7 year olds are doing amazing and I can’t wait to watch remi and indie grow up ❤️
I had my daughter back in March and because she ended up as an emergency c-section she had the common problem that because she didn’t get “squeezed” out naturally her breathing was affected. We got wheeled to recovery together and then she stopped breathing so NICU was called in. She ended up in the NICU for a week. Short time thankfully in the grand scheme of NICU stays.
I had my second child at 37 also! His cord was also around his neck but never turned blue. I feel so sorry that you guys went through that. I'm 66 yrs old now! They referred to me as a mature woman back then. He's a healthy young man now and stands at 6'9"! I'm 6'2 & my late husband was 6'6"!
I’m glad to hear Indie is healthy and safe now! I can’t imagine how scary that was. Allie you’re so strong and it’s very encouraging. As a 25 year old looking upon my future and hearing people’s birth stories it lowkey makes me absolutely terrified to birth a baby. I’d be too weak 🙈
It's maybe worth asking your ob or the delivery team for a review of the birth. That is offered in the UK to help understand, to ask questions and to process trauma.
Congratulations on your lovely addition 👶x
My little girl (just a couple of months younger than Remi) was born with the cord wrapped around her neck. She was silent and had to be taken away just like Indie to clear her airways and get her to start breathing and crying. I remember feeling that panic and fear and then when she started crying I didn’t believe it was my baby until she was handed back to me. She also brought up quite a lot of fluid/mucous for the first day or so.
Omg this must have been so hard to talk about but thank you for doing it!! I feel like so many people have traumatic births but end up feeling alone because there’s just no information out there about it ❤️
I’m so glad she’s okay!
My niece that was born 2-3 years ago was born still birth due to her cord being wrapped around when her mother was induced to have her 😢 so heartbreaking.
But so glad your precious baby is okay!!
My cousin was one of the 25% she was born with the cord still wrapped around her neck and if I remember correctly it took them 10 mins to get her to breathe. But she’s now 26 and an incredible human. Congrats on your newest addition 🥰
I was born with the cord around my neck as well. It was wrapped twice. I’m 57. My son was born that way too, but he was a c section. He was way too big to have naturally. Glad it all worked out well! Congrats!!
Yup, i was born with the cord around my neck and purple. I turned out OK and cuddling my 3 week old while watching your video. Thank you for talking about it. My parents never wanted to talk about it, and I can now see why.
The act of coming through the birth canal also helps squeeze some of that fluid out, but if the cord was obstructing that process she was probably a little bogged down with fluid in her lungs. She wasn't holding her breath in the same way a little kid would, she didn't have the instinct to breathe kick in (probably because she came so quickly and there was still lots of fluid in her lungs). Back when I was born, they used to hang them upside down by their ankles and whack the bottoms of their feet to stimulate a cry and use gravity to move out the excess fluid.
Thanks for taking time to share with us I watched the video and don't know you personally but I felt then like I did in that moment. God has blessed you with 5he best gift
First of all congratulations on your new addition to your family….3 out of 4 of my kids ended up with the cord wrap around the scariest was the birth of my son they didn’t even let me see him before rushing out of the room with him.. they all are grown now.. youngest 20…but it is a scary moment to have…
I came out purple as well. They said it’s like I came out asleep (I was a C Section baby) and they actually had to snap my butt to see if I’d wake up and voila! I am totally ok. I’ve been told this story several times by the nurses that were in the room when I was born. I grew up right behind the children’s hospital and my grandfather was a pediatrician there so they knew who I was and thus why I’ve heard the story many, many times.
My daughters chord was wrapped around her neck 3 times. Scarey thing was she was an unplanned home birth and thankfully the ambulance and a dr arrived in time. She was fine and now is a lovely Mother herself😊
So happy the baby is healthy and you guys are a family of four 😊 I’m also a part of the 25% #25%club lol
My first son was breach and they tried to turn him but it didn't work so I ended up having an emergency c-section. When they pulled him out he was purple and when they did his APGAR test he was a 1 but very quickly they got him breathing and moving and put him in an incubator and took him to the NICU. He was fine and grew up to be 6 ft. 7 in. tall and works for the police dept. I am incredibly proud of him.
This becomes why scheduled c sections needed more then anything and then water births because well known fact until the cord gets cut a baby never breathes it uses the cord so it stays under the water for a good amount of time before the cord gets cut
Most want c sections over natural birth anyways
My son was also born with a cord wrapped around his upper chest then around his neck tightly. He was purple and not breathing for a silent 2:17 second. I’ve never experienced such silence. It felt longer than my actual labor.
Now he’s 7yrs old and thriving in first grade. He has a small birthmark on his chest from the compression; Other than that he’s perfect.
My son decided to get stuck on my pelvic bones and his heart rate ramped up. I had to be rushed for a emergency C-section. He was born safe and sound but I didn't make it out of there for several hours because they almost lost me on the table twice. Husband stayed with our son those first few hours. I didn't even know what happened. After they removed him and I saw him and heard him crying I passed out. So so scary. Glad we're okay and glad you both are okay as well.
My son was born emergency c section with cord wrapped around his neck twice. Scariest experience of my life. I went into shock after everything that happened, and I knew he was okay.. he is 3 and I still get emotional thinking about it!
My first baby had the cord around the neck and everything turned out fine... It is very scary. And the well dressed lady may have been a patient advocate to help keep you calm.
I'm so glad you guys are doing well now! definitely a traumatic birth experience for you guys. I just gave birth on saturday and had basically a copy/paste of your birth as well. was admitted for heart attack risk, and they broke my waters, pushed baby out in 6 minutes (3 contractions) and they had to take him away right away and brought him to the NICU. we're still here hoping to bring him home this week.
So scary ! Glad she and mom are all good.
I’m assuming she was from NICU, they are called during instances such as this. She would be specialized in NEO natal intensive care.
I’m sorry both of you had this experience. It must have been terrifying. Indie is a perfect little angel.
Both my kids came out in two pushes.. literally the same contraction. I have a connective tissue disorder so that's why but my son had the same thing happen with his cord. It was really scary! He later was diagnosed with autism and is almost 5 now and such a special little guy!
Birth is a dangerous time for mother and baby. Lots of babies need help breathing when they're first born or they have to have the mucus suctioned out. I'm so happy she is doing well and is safely home. ❤
It is terrifying for parents & obviously stressful for the medical team. But it is unfortunately common in babies who come out so quickly. When a baby comes down the birth canal, any amniotic fluid normally gets removed from the lungs as part of the process. But when a baby is born so fast, that doesn't always happen & the baby struggles to realise they're outside the uterus. These two things combined do in a way make the baby unconsciously hold their breath, although it may not look like that. The fluid still in their chest makes it difficult to breathe & the part of the brain that tells the baby to breath hasn't quite kicked in yet. It is frightening for parents & I'm so sorry you all went through that. I'm just glad & relieved that Indie is now doing well.
For context I'm a health scientist & ex-midwifery assistant.
I had a scary delivery with my second child. My first child, a daughter, was born in 2007. I have to say that was the best delivery I could’ve asked for as my first. I went into labor at 6 in the morning , at the hospital by 9 and pushed 3 times and she was born by 4:47 that same day. Now my second, my son, was born in 2021. So it had been 14 years since I was pregnant last. I was 35 so I was considered high risk plus I have type 1 diabetes. He was due January 4th 2022. I woke up at 6 in the morning on November 22, 2021 and was bleeding a lot. I honestly thought I was miscarrying and was so scared. We rushed to the hospital and they told me I was in labor and 4 centimeters dialated. So they gave me medication to stop the contractions since I was so early. About halfway through the day they told me the medication wasn’t working and would most likely have the baby that day. I got my epidural and later on the nurses came in because they wanted me in a different position because his heart rate was all over the place so they turned me on my side and were getting ready to place a birthing ball between my legs when the nurse said, “Oh, his head is almost out. Guess you’re ready to start pushing.” It was a very hard delivery because I couldn’t catch my breath enough to push as much as they wanted me to. As they were giving me oxygen and to let me rest for a second, I looked down and he had completely come out by himself. I guess he was sick of being in there. But because he was so early his lungs were not fully developed so he was having trouble breathing on his own. My obgyn said they didn’t usually do this for premies but she let me have a few minutes of skin to skin before they took him to NICU. He was 7lbs. It was such a scary and heartbreaking experience. Seeing him hooked up to a feeding tube and oxygen in the NICU. But everyday he did better and better. At first they told me that he’d probably be in the NICU until his due date of January 4th but we got to take him home December 14th 2021. And now my baby boy will be turning 3 on Friday. I’m so thankful Indie is doing great and congratulations to the Trippy family on the new addition. I live near St. Pete as well. Sorry this comment is so long winded. Lots of love to you. 🩵💜
The way the doctor explained my son holding his breath the way he did (& he did it over 100 times after bringing him home from the hospital) was that a baby is like a new car, and they’re learning new things each day, but they forget to breathe sometimes. When they do this to blow gently in their face to remind them to take a breath again.
I swear it scared the life out of me, butttttt after 6 months of that, he finally quit doing it.
I’ll strongly suggest you buy one of those pair of socks that has a heart rate monitor built into it. That way if Indie does quit breathing, it will alert you to rush and check on her.
I really wish they had those when my son was born. ❤️
Did your doctor answer this? When they forget to breathe won't they eventually breathe again without blowing in face when they're blue and held it for a while or does that not happen?
I had a similar experience. Backstory I had a stillbirth my first pregnancy at 29 weeks and had to be induced. With that experience every pregnancy is terrifying for me. When I had my second daughter she had fluid in her lungs (they claim because she wasn’t in the birth canal long enough to push the fluids out). She came out purple and not breathing. The room went silent and they brought her over to the baby table and I was panicking the entire time. After 15 minutes of them with her she finally came to but it was the most terrifying experience. I’m glad she is healthy and wish you the best!
I relate so much to your experience and I hope you know it’s ok to feel however you feel about what happened. I had a traumatic birth with my last baby and all people told me afterwards was how I should be happy she was ok now. Which of course I was happy about that but I felt like they weren’t giving me the ability to process my feelings. It’s one of those times where I know others had it worse than me and people are saying I should be grateful it turned out well, so I just felt guilty for essentially feeling sorry for myself. Eventually I stood up for myself and told people I was allowed to feel sad, and even a little angry, about what happened while still feeling grateful my baby was alive after everything and if they weren’t ok with it then we didn’t need to talk about it anymore. I think the “at least she’s ok” comments were just really triggering for a postpartum, traumatized mother. The story may be triggering so I put it down below but maybe someone else can find comfort in knowing they aren’t alone in their experience either.
I had to listen to my baby’s heartbeat stop on the fetal monitor, just after my husband left to get me food, and have a group of people rushing in with no explanation. The person who was nicest to me the entire time was the anesthesiologist who explained what was happening because no one else would, even when I asked repeatedly. No one even stopped to tell me if my baby’s heart started beating again until I heard her cry after the C-section. I spent the entire time thinking I had lost her already. This was all after being strong armed into staying at the hospital for one case of elevated blood pressure that was not repeatable even after I went to the hospital and had readings repeated over an hour along with normal bloodwork. My regular OBGYN doctor sent me to the hospital “just in case but you’ll probably be discharged and come back tomorrow for another checkup”. I even asked if I could leave since everything was normal and they said unless I signed paperwork saying I was leaving against medical advice then I had to stay. I ended up being induced, which I don’t have issues with because I was induced with my first baby with no issues, and everything went downhill from there. There’s a lot more but I don’t want to vent too much and I am happy the entire experience is behind us and our baby girl is perfectly healthy. But I do feel strongly about allowing yourself to be upset that that was your experience. I have a friend who’s had two premie babies that lived in the NICU for 2-3 months and she advocates for this as well. You CAN be upset that it was your experience and still be grateful your baby is ok. One doesn’t take away from the other.
Holding breath like when a small child hurts themselves and they loose their breath while crying. The struggle to breathe in.
Sending lots of love to you all ❤
Babies often have difficulty starting to breathe and it really wasn't long for her to get breathing on her own. Scary but the nurses and Dr knew how to handle things and it all was fine. My daughter was born wrapped in her umbilical cord and had to be suctioned several times because she had aspirated. The nurse said she had one of the longest umbilical cords she had ever seen. I remember the nurse telling me to push hard because the baby wasn't liking being in anymore which most likely meant her heart rate was going down. I never felt scared though and had a gut feeling everything would be fine and it was, thank goodness. You have a beautiful new daughter and it may have been a bit of a rocky start but she is fine and that's what's most important.
❤ You both are phenomenal ❤
That's always the hardest part of not knowing where the umbilical cord is located. To this day at 36 years old, my mom will always call me on my birthday to tell me how I came out purple like Barney and the silence was the longest 2 minutes of her life and to always be grateful for the little things because it's always a 50/50 chance. ❤ ❤ indie is that little sparkle that everything became okay ❤
I totally understand. My daughter was emergency csection because the cord was wrapped around her neck and she couldn’t descend. She did not scream when she came out. But she’s 18 and full of life and sass lol
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17:00 Hospitals also have social workers! And she very well might have been one, coming to check if you two were actually okay
Thanks!
Wow thank you!!! So kind of you
One of my granddaughters was born purple looking. The Dr also mentioned she was delivered so fast so it sounds very common. She then picked up.
When I was born in 1965 the doctor knew I had the cord wrapped around my neck. They were taking multiple X-rays to check my position before full labour. This was back when they didn't worry as much about radiation, I'm disappointed I didn't get any super powers.
Ya i heard L3 too. Oh, Allie, its ok. Its not ur fault.
🙏🏻 Bless Indie❤ Love & hugs guys.
Thanks for all this-- Remember, they have many more actions to take if things go south. Luckily it was just a dip. I was one of the 25%ers! (back in 1954...)
It sounds like you had an excellent care team and group of professionals. I think you got lucky she didn’t need a stay in the NICU- even for a night. Clearly she didn’t need it since they always take the best precautions but sometimes babes just need a little extra help till that fluid breaks up and they can breathe easier. Obviously Indie could handle it on her own!! Tough cookie already! Just like the rest of the fam! ❤ Also sometimes silence is the best in those situations so the nurses can just assess, and listen to sounds coming from the baby. Plus there is never a need to work up a new mom before you truly know what’s going on. ❤ I can see how hard this was, but don’t think you were ever not in the best hands possible. Thank god for them ❤
I didn't sense a feeling of silence. They were just focused and doing their job. It's not uncommon for babies having difficulties to breathe in the beginning, having fluid in their throat, judging from birth vlogs, but it needs to be done. So they focus on doing it right.
@ well they did, which they said in the video. It’s their birth story. It did fall silent. I do agree everyone was just focused and doing their job- I didn’t say otherwise
This brought me back to having our first son…he was our first baby so we obviously knew next to nothing. You’re very lucky to have such amazing nurses during it. My experience was a bit different. Knowing what I know now his cord was around his neck the entire time I was in labor and there was obvious signs of this with how his heart rate kept dropping but nothing was done about it and they had me pushing for nearly 3 hours…so when his head finally came out a nurse jumped on my stomach to get him the rest of the way out and then all I hear my doctor say is call NICU. No one was telling me anything and I didn’t even see him. They took him out of my site immediately. My husband said he was blue. Luckily he was okay pretty quickly but it felt like a lifetime. I’ve had two more babies since him and had amazing experiences thankfully! My second was out in 3 pushes and my third was out in 5. I would never go back to my first doctor, she was awful compared to my current OB who delivered my second and my third was delivered by a midwife who was also great. It’s so important to have a strong team of people around you. 🤍 Congratulations on another beautiful little girl 🥰
for my first, I never dilated past a 6 and constant contractions so I had a c-section where It went up instead of down so I stopped breathing. I woke up after he was out. He was perfect. My 2nd had to be a planned c-section. The doctor said later I wouldn't have been able to deliver normally. Still don't know what that means. But I was awake the whole time and wished I was asleep. She had to get basically a stomach pump because she couldn't keep formula down. They said since she was a c-section, she didn't get the fluid squeezed out then was fine. Months later she spit up and swallowed it down the wrong pipe. she was cry, stop breathing and cry again. I finally had to flip her upside down for her to spit it back out. Scared the crap out of me. My kids will be 22 and 17 in a few weeks.
I know what was happening with your baby, my youngest son, we only have two boys, had the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck 3 times & also had 2 knots in it. My labor was induced also, but we didn’t get numbed with an epidural, back then, they numbed you right before the baby was born, so stupid & horrible pain, a 10, the worst you can imagine. My son was quiet like Indie at first, scared me. They got him crying & I felt relief. Later when the Doctor came in, he told me my son could’ve been born dead, the cord was coming ahead of him & his oxygen was being compromised. Luckily, he was ok & cute as ever! I’m happy your baby is ok & cute as ever!👍👏👏👏♥️♥️♥️♥️🐾🐾🐶💞🐾🐾🐶💞🐾🐾🐈⬛💞🐾🐾🐈⬛💞
Charles Allie and Remi congrats
I'm sorry you and Allie experienced this. It's hard to predict what will happen when giving birth because every birth is different.
I'll always tell parents to expect anything to happen. Giving birth you have to go with the flow and be flexible to whatever happens. Allie don't think this in anyway is your fault for giving birth too fast. As much as we want to say we can control it we cannot. Birth is out of our control. That is why the medical team is there to help when things are out of our control. You had no way of controlling it or knowing the cord was around her. You did the right thing letting the nurses do what they needed to. You showed the right attitude so that you could do your job and let the nurses do theirs so everything flowed well.
You are praising the nurses for doing their job so well. But you and Charles also did so amazing. You brought her in the world as safely as you could. You pushed quickly and her cord didn't stay long around her neck. Then when you wanted to hold her so tightly you let the nurses take her and do their job to get her to breathe. The nurses tried to not make it traumatic for you. And you did the awesome job of letting them do their job. And Indi was safe the whole time with you all looking over her.
My third had meconium in the water when it broke. So I was told he would not get to go on my chest, and a team would be coming in. I so feel you for your first night his breathing sounded horrible.
When babies are pushed out, that pushes the fluids out of their lungs. If you push quickly, they don't alwats get that. (Or enough of it) My son was similar. He luckily didn't have any difficulties breathing, but he was very "gunky" for a bit after he was born.
That's important to keep in mind, when looking at this situation, that the fluid wasn't removed yet, so it just needed the extra attention to do it manually.
Bless yur hearts!! ~~ 💙💜💜💜~~
Good EVENING GUYS!!
Today is already NOVEMBER 12th. And you guys are talking about happened with INDIES delivery at birth it bought back some memories of
My birth 56 years ago too I was purple at birth due to loss of oxygen and not breathing and I was almost near passing away at one point its kind of what your describing to what happened with indie!! As well a she didn't have any oxygen and not breathing and I think she was also near death judging by the silences and I think she was choking to death from that cord around her neck and I had difficulty of my delivery during my moms pushes and doctors had to get special tools to get my head out of mothers belly ..and to this day 56 years later I have learning disabilities and asheburgers .. I know its a scary situation to go through and its a worse nightmare... I know for indie it was a close call to near death just from your discription and watching those first clips and reading that description you guys posted in that video..strange I heard those things in background as well including a faint code blue..when I saw the baby she was purple on her face .. I think she was briefly unconscious when the doctors are slapping there basically trying to revive her ...she may good right now maybe by the time she reaches school age she could have some disabilities developing like learning or depression in later years
Like around adulthood!! I think I remembered that procedure Charles too
About the slapping on the stomach.. Im thankfull for the medical team the end for saving her at the end!! And I think indie looks like a twin of remi at birth with the same facial features and allie I think she has some of your genetics .. I think I remembered coughing at birth .. I believe that
Indie had a near death experience ... I don't blame you crying I would do the same thing if it was my kid dying ..but thank goodness they saved her in time ..sounds like Charles you have allergies or a cold developing..
And remi is adjusting very well and even napping with the little sister the other day when I was watching the episode.. I think this episode was interesting to watch and looking forward to next chapters of indie meeting the rest of the family in next several days!! ✌✌ PEACE OUT❤❤🍼🍼👍
I was born with the cord around my neck, and my oldest daughter was also. We also share a birthday. She was born on my 25th birthday.