The problem is not sex being “overhyped”. The problem is that it is under-appreciated. The fact that it is valued so low to the point where it is normal for people to sleep with multiple people and receive praise bottles my mind. To all the young people who haven’t experienced it yet, wait. If you wait for who you think is the right person instead of just going after every person who just gives it to you, you’ll have a greater chance of enjoying it and not regretting it.
Thank you. I’m surrounded by so many “beautiful” women in my high school and this has made it very clear to me. Thank the Lord for answering my prayers and guiding me. Bless you and your ministry.
This video confirmed a prayer I made a few days ago. Recently I've been thinking about beauty vs character, and I told God that I'd much rather be with someone who's deemed average by society's standards and has character rather than a perfect 10 who'll bring dysfunction to my life. Thank you for this video.
@@User61918 But it most often is. Plus, which would you rather settle for? Thats the point of Jonathans prayer. God can give you a 10 in looks with godly character, he can give you someone who only becomes more attractive to you over time, but ultimately character is MORE important and looks can decieve.
Even Christians are guilty of this. We hype up marriage and sex but don't consider enough the path of celibacy. Sometimes being alone is the best way to serve the LORD.
Yup indeed - the way Paul talks about it in the Bible makes it very much a choice driven by whether or not you have that desire. It always seemed silly to me that churches or society as a whole would make a strong suggestion for one way or the other. Sure, there's data that married people generally live longer, and often live more fulfilling, happier lives, for those who don't fall into the massive divorce statistic (which by the way, that high ~50% consists primarily of repeat divorcees, not necessarily unique people getting divorced; so don't be discouraged by the statistics for anyone reading this).
@@jokerpilled2535 I personally disagree because I believe marriage is more for commitment than it is just reserved for sex. "Marriage" is just a social construct. Saying that someone is sinning because they have sex with someone they have been with for YEARS is a ridiculous claim to make.
@@TailorDFox am sorry but it's definitely not something normal, God has plans of joy and peace for us not of sorrow, anxiety and much less of depression brethren
@@TailorDFox no not at the cross definetly not but He went through it and gave His life up not only for our sins, He traded them with forgiveness and life in abundance (in every aspect of our lives and that includes joy which is greater than happiness)
@@TailorDFox that couldn’t be any further from the truth. As Christians, it’s actually *NOT* normal to be depressed and anxious all the time. Maybe for *A* time but never all the time. If a Christian *IS* that way, the need deliverance from Jesus. 💙
@@TailorDFox just because we are in the end times, it doesn’t make it *normal* for any Christian to be living under the bondage of anxiety and depression *all the time!* Christ suffered and died so we wouldn’t be bound to such things. It’s not to say we aren’t susceptible to those things here and there BUT depression and anxiety are not to be a consistent, continuous struggle for disciples of Christ. If that’s ever the case, again, said Christian needs deliverance asap. God doesn’t delight in letting that keep us in bondage. He YEARNS to us free- permanently! That’s never God’s will for those who love Him
My friend and I have recently been taking steps in our relationship to something more than friends and this is just reminder I needed, thank you Alex. All glory to the Most High.
Recently I wanted to tell a guy in my friend group I liked him but he looked like he liked another girl so I'm pretty sad about it but this does make me feel better so thank you Alex ☺️
May God (Jesus Christ The Son, The Father, The Holy Spirit) Our 3 In 1 God The Holy Trinity Bless You Muriel, Your Family And Everyone On Earth, In Jesus Name Amen ☦️❤️✝️ Stay Blessed, God Will Set You Uo With A Partner Soon
A Muslim here enjoying this. I can’t agree more. It’s hard to stay pure at this time but I promise the honor and pride and light you will feel is nothing like it. Peace and blessing to you all.
Our culture is saturated with sex. It's everywhere. It's in movies, TV programs, music, schools, etc. It is an addition that we all need to recognize and deal with because so many are being taken advantage of because they appeal to the masses sexually. Amen.
not but seriously, your so right! guys in my class talk about how they use lubricants and watch porn every night like its a daily routine and i'm like "harry your literally 12, why would you watch things like that? do your parents know?" his response was "my parents don't mind, after all everyone is doing it" and in my head i was just like. wtf bro like ur 12 don't be falling into addictions like this! i obv didn't say it to his face. but even in movies, music, school ugh its all so sex-driven. whilst i was in an adult pysch ward, i had this nurse named audrey ( gorgeous person strong in her faith ) and as we were watching cheesy romcoms from the 90's/ early 00's, she made the remark 'i wish movies these days could be like this. everything is so sex-driven now' and wow, was she right! its sad tho seeing people value the experience of sex over having a genuine connection with someone where you guys could laugh and chat like there's no tmrw, you'd have inside jokes and cheeky mannerisms all that is what love is to me. sure romantic affection is important bc without that its merely a friendship but to me i value the other aspects of love more. don't get me wrong ( well i'm not one to talk since i've never had my first kiss or anything for that matter ) i'm sure its nice but tbh if i had the scenario where i'd meet two guys 1 - hot guy who would just offer sexual affection, 2 - okay looking guy with a big heart, who would make me laugh and smile, we'd have inside jokes and just have fun, sure some kissing but no sex. imma pick number 2. its hard bc so many kids around me maybe without saying it out loud but would opt for number 1. it actually blows my mind how carefree people are, no respect for their bodies its just sad tbh. i can't even listen to most music nowadays cause it all about one thing. thank the Lord for christian music especially christian rap, bruhhh its so good. anyways thats like my 3rd rant in this comment section but yeah i 100% agree with what u said.
Wow. That hit hard. This was very timely. I loved that part where you said that some people in a relationship now are with self-centered and immature people who don’t focus on inward character. I’m a freshman in college rn and I can’t count how many times I’ve started overthinking or being hard on myself for not being in a relationship like everyone else around me is, or for not having a stable “relationship” in my past because it was built around physical attraction. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the culture and the way things are defined by them. But in that past “relationship” God taught me to 1)value myself and love myself first, 2) to take my time with dating, and 3) to be aware of who really has a beneficial inward character that is worth being attracted to rather than their appearance. It’s taking time to let go of my trust issues, and it’s taking time for me to grow as a person and begin to truly love myself so that I can have the right people surrounding me. God’s been showing me that my identity doesn’t lie in a relationship or a guy who loves me and cares about me and takes me out on dates and stuff. My identity is rooted in Christ alone and that I need to be focused on the life He wants me to live, whether I’m married or still single years from now.
I love how your videos always come from a gentle, genuine, humble spot. Just like a father teaching his kids or simply sharing life stories. Thanks Alex. 😊
Alternative title: inner beauty Seriously, this talk has really helped me with my inner beauty. It’s something God has been talking to me about. Thank you.
thank you sm.. this came on my recommended and when u mentioned ur ninth grade gf it rlly hit for me. i was in a relationship (i’m a teen) and sexual things happened not sex bht stuff and when we broke up ans even till now it’s been 2 years, the amount of depression and pain i felt was unbearable. till now i question why it still hurts me so badly snd i still cry when thinking about that person, and i wonder if it was a soul tie. As a teenager sex is overhyped over talked about and over glamourized. i found myself feeling ashamed for not having sexual experience and stuff when i’m young. it’s so sad. i would sometimes pressure myself and it’s also sad bc i only did these things searching for love snd worth and wanting to be enough. But Jesus is enough, and hes all i need. edit: also guys pls dont be in unequally yolked relationships. i was a Christian ad they were not. this means that if i felt convictions about something and didn’t want to do something they ofc were not convicted snd didn’t understand why i felt that way.
U juat remeber the coke like high u had after she touched u. U felt your self esteem everyone beat down raise. Your guy friends saw u as a man who could get some. On and on. But the relationship was not real
that's because you're only meant to experience "sexual stuff" with the one person you're going to marry and commit to for life. It bonds two souls, and when those two souls are not committed in holy matrimony is makes for disaster.
@@xmaddog8359 hello i pray that this comment finds you well ^^ Let it be known that i say this out of love. I think you might what to change your icon picture, the hand genstures in it are inappropriate.
I wish more people knew about this. I got to know a girl in a video game and we played together for a few months. One night I asked if I could add her on Discord so I could talk to her while in bed. I had known her for almost 2 months so I thought I'd share a picture of myself so she knew how I looked. The next day I noticed she hadn't sent me any messages or asked to play together. Just thought she was busy so I gave her some time. Days became weeks which then became over a month. I asked her why she had been so quiet, she simply said that she was busy "studying for school". I knew for a fact that she was really good at time management, so she was able most of the time to study first and then play a bit. I also saw her online playing games when she was giving me radio silence. Such a shame, we were pretty good friends and chatted almost everyday. Suddenly when she knows how I look I get total silence. Really hurts. TL:DR Met a girl via a video game, chatted for a couple of months and after giving her a face reveal she stopped chatting with me.
In my teens I used to talk to this boy online and after some time we met and after that meeting he just avoided me and would post stuff about short girls being cute and how every tall guy(like him) deserves a short girl( unlike me, because I happen to be a very tall girl). I know how it feels to feel rejected because of how you look and I'm sorry you went through that. I got over it and you can too!
Sex addiction is not empowering. The same way food addiction isn't. Drug addiction ect ect. Our nation encourages these vices and the only reason corporations and the government push it is because it makes them allot of $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.
After getting saved, I encountered many obstacles, many of them were temptations to sin. One of those things I struggled with the most was doubt; not too long after my doubts began I started sining more frequently, and it hasn't ceased. It has been about a year since i have been in constant loosing battle. For that reason, I need prayers for myself to be restored by GOD and also for my family so that they may be born again.
I’m in the same situation in you. I became a believer at 18 and it’s so difficult to try and let go of the wrong things I did before being saved. I’ll pray for you
Amen, alex. Thank you for delivering God's word to those who need it. For those who are listening to this video, just from a married person's perspective on sex: after you're married for a while, it's normal for it to become just an every routine thing that you do sometimes and you don't at other times. Sex is just sex, sex is not God, sex is not your purpose in life, sex is not a defining factor for anything at all. It's literally just a tool that God uses to create intimacy between two married people so that they can have a closer relationship.
I needed this. I recently walked away from something that consisted of a friends with benefits for almost two years. It’s been hard to just try to grow from it and surrender it to God. Any verses to help? Thank you.
Matthew 6:33 Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Your need for intimacy and companionship, God will fulfill in His perfect way, wait for it. Meanwhile, seek His face.
I had to do the same thing a few years ago and it was honestly the best decision I’ve ever made! After I left her I was able to get so much stronger with God, and I had no more guilty conscience. Keep on reading your Bible every morning. Praying, and try to get in christian community!
Matthew 16.24 “Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.” God bless you have a blessed day 😇
Matthew 7:11 Literally says that if these Fathers subject to Earth and Sin know how to give good gifts how much more will the father in heaven that's limitless know how to gift you? I promise that God had set out a person for you That will be such a gifttt but until then he'll give you everything you need to sustain yourself until then
Your story is what I'm going though rn literally crazy this was in my recommendations, currently still healing, it's been 4 months since the breakup, glad god has had my back!
Me and my fiancé started as almost a completely physical relationship, and it has created a lot of problems for us. Even now that we have worked on our emotional connection, I can often still feel the physical side overpowering. We are both Christians, so God helps us, but at this point we both acknowledge we would have been much better off if we were able to control ourselves. I'm jealous of those that were able to connect emotionally before physically 😂
@@BobHenry4161 It’s not a problem at all lol. If anything that’s a good thing. That’s what most people want and can’t get. You don’t want to be attracted to someone that isn’t attracted to you. The more a relationship is bound to break off lol I don’t understand this personality crap because it sounds like bs. Physical attraction matters way more than personality imo
@@TheElixirProductionsIt is a huge problem because you can get sex from anyone it’s lust and the spirit of lust. Sex is meant to deepen your connection and love not some sport that you keep seeking from anyone and everyone because deep within you want a connection. God knew how he created us and that is why those who marry as virgins statistically have the lowest divorce rates you can look it up. Loving someone and their soul is the true love guided by Christ and that is a blessed union in Christ even with challenges because beauty is fleeting and lust dies as fast as it builds up. Sex is not something where you need to have chemistry because the one that is for you will learn your body as you learn each other and that is where the so called chemistry happens which is even deeper because it’s rooted in love, respect and understanding for each other after developing that emotional connection. Sadly so many will only know sex as a sport of lust forever looking for the next best thing because they actually crave deep connection, bonding and understanding which does not come from the physical act of sex but true intimacy comes from the emotional connection and understanding of the person. I have the most amazing sex life and have always been satisfied with my husband being the only man I have slept with and the deep connection we share is just a blessing because the bond and love is what makes the sex amazing.
@@TheElixirProductions starting a relationship on a completely physical level can and will be a problem. It will create intimacy and a bond, but it'll create it with someone you don't really know well on a personal level. You've now bonded yourself to someone you might not even like once the horny feelings wear off.
insane how this was on my recommended, ive been going through a similar situation and it's just crazy how we can get so caught up on outer beauty when the inner isn't matching. thank you Lord for allowing me to receive this video and thank you for this great message. I know I was meant to see it.
definitely needed this. Today I talked with a girl I've known for like a year and I see her pretty often, and more recently even more often and talked to her and really saw her physical attractiveness as well as knowing her good character. The one thing I keep telling myself watching this video is to not think of this girl I talked to just last night and really felt connected with while I was hanging out with some friends and family. My big thing is that I want to rush relationships and get close to people friends or girlfriends fast, my biggest attribute I need is patience and focus on my faith.
@@BrokeMalone Context is, I'm 17, she's 15, and I also don't want to date and she doesn't either. I go to her house often for bible studies with her family and another family. I'm just trying to make my life not revolve around girls or thinking about them.
I respect it Alex, thank you man. I struggle with porn addiction in my life right now but due to your videos you help me resist the temptation to relapse man.
@@starsthedog unfortunately no man. Went on about a 60 day sober streak but relapsed, I usually go 15-20 days and fall back in. It’s frustrating but through Christ I know I’ll succeed. I’m not giving up. Everytime I fall down I feel horrible and I don’t like abusing Gods forgiveness because that’s what it feels like but I know I’m loved and I know he wants me to keep pushing. I’ll never give up but I really do hope that I can clean up my act and get rid of this addiction for good. Thank you for checking in a year later, this seriously warmed my heart and motivates me. God bless you brother
I was sleeping with a different chick every week until I got chlamydia lol. Dealing with that for 3 weeks really changed how I viewed hook up culture. It's not worth it.
I’m a new sub, and I’m loving your truth- filled videos and shorts. You’re such a wonderful teacher and it’s so abundantly clear you are guided by the Holy Spirit!! May God bless your family and your ministry. All glory to Him! ✝️
Thank you Alex! This video teached me AND others that We should look for the inward beauty ( inward character) because only a fool would choose to go for a beutiful women but doesn't have a good heart.
Thank you Alex for all the videos that you make. But most importantly just being straightforward with situations no matter what they are. Among all of the content on UA-cam. There is nothing like that of a Christian brother or sister who shares any part of God in a genuine way. Hope you have a great day as well, happy Friday :)
Aye Alex, thank you so much for your consistent testimonies. Your shining a bright light on the lies this culture has impeded on everyone. Been learning a lot from your short and meaningful videos. I pray that your ministry grows and that God can help you move mountains. I know for a fact that in Kauai people struggle with worldly pleasures. Sexual immortality, drugs, enjoyment of life, pride, and so much more. I’m not saying this only happens in Hawaii, but everywhere else. Hope I can meet you. I’m also in Kauai
Once you damper into sexual immortality you're dead... as in it's very hard to stop! The Bible warns us many times to flee from it but many of us, including myself, have slipped up in it. Once you slip up in it you virtually block your blessings!
I don't really care about love at this point of my life, I'm focusing more on myself rn, but this will be good help when I turn more responsible to be in a relationship
i disagree. i think our culture undervalues it, and that is the reason why we treat it the way we do. Sex is never 'just sex'. it's always something more. we should treat it with some reverence, care, and respect.
Wow. I don’t usually comment, but the Lord answered my prayer with this video. I was talking with my boyfriend about how instagram is down right now, and we got to talking about how we can have expectations for each other in terms of physical appearance & instagram largely contributes to that. I was feeling pretty insecure & wondering in what ways I don’t live up to those expectations. But then the Spirit lead me to pray that I’d continue to find my worth in who God says I am and how He has created me with such purpose. Few hours later this popped up on my recommended and I didn’t even think of how it could relate to how I was dealing with that today. I watched the video & thought about what a good reminder it is but then didn’t even realize how timely of a reminder it is! I praise God for His providence and for answering my prayers in such a caring & loving way❤️
Meeting someone has become a very abysmal task because people can’t differentiate between sex and intimacy. Lots of people mistake the physical task as being the main ingredient to forming bonds and connections they don’t bother and sometimes don’t know you can connect with an individual on a deeper level without even touching each other.
You always remind me why modest dress is important. It is honestly so hard! I’m not even the most immodest dresser but wow I feel the desire so much to dress with my midriff showing or wear shorter or tighter things and I just have to keep growing closer to the Lord and pray that he changes my desires. I love your videos and vulnerability in talking about sex and lust and sexual sin because it reminds me what truly is beautiful, which is not what the culture tells us is beautiful.
God really brought me to this video I kid you not. I searched up on google thoughts on waiting till marriage mind you my UA-cam was already opened up because I was watching shorts and I was scrolling through bible versus and opinions of others on waiting and I come back to UA-cam scroll a few more videos and this one pops up. I feel like God is really speaking to me in many ways. I prayed tonight as well because I feel like I don’t have a good relationship with sex either. Always worrying if I’d look good naked or just thinking way too much about it. I hope I keep very strong to wait till marriage
Thank you for being respectful with women. You bring me relief because you believe in the father. And it's comforting to hear words from him but from a human. I've seen a lot of people disrespect women and make fun of them because of the way that they look and it's not always necessarily beauty it's the opposite of what they think is pretty. And it's amazing to me how low they put someone due to the way that they look. And it made me upset but I have to learn not to get angered Just pray I'm struggling with that cuz I want to speak and stand up, but who am I to say something. It's on the internet you know. In real life is different that I can handle. But to hear people's opinions constantly just shows how deep the challenges to control
It's one of those things that if you don't get it, you constantly obsess over it and if you do you don't think of it as much more than a neat thing you do.
I can relate so much to your description of how you met your wife. That’s similar my story too. I dated different girls and it was always lust focused and I met my wife and I liked her inward character first. Very cool
This really speaks to me. I was also introduced to pornography at a young age (under 10), and I never really considered the impact it made on my life until recently. To this day I've almost always prioritized sex over actually knowing a woman and learning about her and knowing her heart. I also struggled with addiction to alcohol from around 22 years old to 28 years old, and this August 31st I will be three years sober (praise God). I think I've learned that I have an addictive personality which makes it difficult to not over indulge in things I like. I was also raised in a Christian home and went to church as a child and a teen but once I hit my late teens/early twenties and got into drinking, I walked away from God and got into partying because I was in such denial of the pain I was experiencing due to certain life events that alcohol/sex/partying became my vices. I moved out of my parents house at age 24, finally got a new job after almost two years of being unemployed since 22. The drinking didn't stop though, it continued and so did my other habits. The years passed and I finally began to accept the fact that I had a drinking problem and I started fearing I wouldn't be able to stop. Meanwhile I had many dark drunken tear-filled nights that lead to me crying out to God for Him to save me and admitting I couldn't do it on my own anymore and I needed Him. This happened for a few months until He finally broke the addiction in one day and I'll never look back. Since then I went back to college, graduated, got a good job and I'm doing well. Now that that's out of the way, I can get back to how I can relate with this video. Considering all of my current struggles, I was finally able to quit watching porn, which I was typically watching 1-2x a day, because I realized how distorted of an idea it gave me to how a woman should look and it affected me in other ways too. Now, my main struggles are lust and prioritizing sex above actually getting to know a woman, and having the best intentions, seeing as I still crave validation/physical affection/words of affirmation. However, I do think I should start focusing on women who believe in God like I do. I was on and off dating apps for years, and it started to mess with me if I didn't get matches etc, making me feel like I wasn't good enough, when in reality I know that's not true and those apps are really only good for one thing - validation. I know plenty of people have actually met their husbands or wives on there and that's awesome. But for me, that's not what I wanted even though I knew it was what I needed. I finally deleted the dating apps almost two weeks ago and I'm trying every day to resist re-downloading them again because I just know it's not right for me. I've been in the process of going back to church and staying the course. I recently started going to a new church called MAPS Global, it's amazing and the community is awesome. Slowly but surely it seems like it's making a difference in my life, especially being in a community that's full of encouragement and the Holy Spirit. I now realize my entire comment might be kind of all over the place but I just wanted to chime in and give my piece. I hope one day I meet a woman and love her the way you love your wife, because that's a blessing. Thank you for this.
Wow, what a story. Thanks for sharing. I thank and praise God that he’s pulled you out of the darkness and into his light by his grace. I’ll be praying for you to fight the good fight of faith (1 Tim 6:12) and if the Lord wills, that you’ll find the love of your life.
I can relate... I was also exposed to porn at a young age and it completely warped my thinking and my perception of women. I almost missed out on my amazing wife, because the first time I met her I didn't think she was "hot" enough.
Thank you for this video, definitely refreshing to hear. I just read the verse about the woman with the gold ring and your note about getting in the mess helped it make more sense. Also, Psalm 119:8-16 are really powerful for fighting temptation! I highly recommend reading, studying, and memorizing it. I’m working on memorizing it now 💪
I stumbled across your channel through the shorts and I’m so happy I did. Thank you for your words. They truly bring me to think about my lifestyle and the kinds of things I choose to serve.
So true I'm in 8th grade and there is this beautiful girl I have her in almost all my classes I was Inlove then ... She told me she was a satanist and so I stayed away from her from then and been staying away
thank you for the talk. it was simple and easy to understand and i appreciate that people are speaking more on this topic. i didnt understand it much but now i think i get it.
Thank you so much for this. I am so thankful to this page and this message. I truly needed this because I used to be the Pig with the gold nose ring smh God has delivered me and I am fighting to stay on the path of righteousness. God is good, AMEN!!!
I was introduced to the same this at the same age and I still struggle with it please just pray for me I could use it. I pray too and I just feel I keep messing up what I'm gifted by God.
You mentioning how Jesus had no beauty that we should desire Him from Isaiah, it really spoke to me of the humility of our Lord and God. We still do this today as creatures of God. By judging the physical appearance, you reject the Him because He had no outward beauty. WOW.
I'm Muslim and I just want to say that I really enjoy it when Christians are engaged in their Religion and praising god. I live in Germany and Christians here are not really practicing or even believing. And it is considered foolish or even worse. So I really enjoy it when I see People like you talk so enthusiastically and freely. I eventually found a lot of competent people to talk to learn about Christianity. It is really interesting and maybe you could do an interreligious dialog too.
Yeah, Christianity is dying. They themselves admit it. God and Jesus are false idols. Equality is a false God. We'll probably live to see some other new religion replace Christianity.
@@theemanuella9456 I really don't See it. And I live in Berlin, which is very multi cultural. Maybe being religous means something else to you. And to whom are you referring when you say non-german. Because I can't think of a single ethnicity. The only practising Christians i know are the theology Professors and priests I discuss Religion with.
Unclean spirits cause these cravings, most of us need delivarance, as the lord has been delivering me I realize why I struggled with all these things in my Christian walk.
Alex: "So me and my wife were "talking" about sex. A lot this week." Camera: zooms to wife waiting in the tent. Me: yes... talking... right... All jokes aside. It was a good message.
Hi Alex. Watched this video twice because it was so good. My gf and I are struggling with this topic and you’ve given me so much clarity on how to discuss with her. Thank you!
I too have had an experience where I thought I loved a woman after sex, only to have my heart broken in a few days later. Sex cannot only be the reason we love someone.
it should be noted that the video is correct but the title is a tad backwards. the culture overhypes the fake version of sex, and completely neglects the true sex. so sex is technically underrated and always will be because sex is God's design and will always be under appreciated.
@@stawbrykiss353 it's rather complicated, hence why sex is reserved for adults. most adults in today's age are too incompetent to manifest correct sex. corinthians describes the husband like christ, and the wife like the church. so marriage is a symbol of the cosmic and significant relationship between christ and his followers. sex is also a means of bonding two people together. this is also scientifically proven. (oxytocin) which is why polygamy is so dangerous, because it greatly disrupts the humans mind. sex is also unlike porn. porn deviates from real sex in multiple ways. porn excludes the soul element of sex, and only is portrayed the bodily element. porn also portrays sex in a technically stupid way. porn teachs awful lessons about sex. real sex takes patience, communication, *consent,* and a mindset of servitude, but porn is about rushing, and submitting to the brainless desires of the brain. yea, ironic. porn also is terrible for usage because biologically, one orgasm a week is the perfect frequency (for most people) but the porn experience is constant stimulation without allowing the mind to enjoy anything. real Godly marriage and sex is about the husband serving the wife, and the wife serving the husband, but worldly sex is about FUNFUNFUNFUNFUNFUNFUN which is very childish and lowly. the culture overhypes stupid shallow fun, but God has prepared a genuine deep experience for those who follow his principles and not their own. so the culture technically underhypes the real deal by sticking to what's easy. because real good sex requires work and dedication, but worldly sex is for the lazy and ignorant.
@@stawbrykiss353 sex as God intended: two virgins coming together (both literally and figuratively) in marriage. It creates a bond that lasts a lifetime. For people who have already had sex with other people, it's much more difficult to form that bond.
I don’t think I’ve ever related and needed to hear something more than this! This is incredible brother! God spoke through you today. Excited to follow and watch more of your videos! This was super relatable. Thank you!
Do our souls get connected? The bible says we become one flesh not one soul or one spirit, one flesh which I always assumed referred to how children are just their parents put together thus one flesh. Asking genuinely
I can say yes from experience. When a man and woman have sex, even if it's just purely out of lust... there's a physical and spiritual bond taking place. You're sharing DNA, sharing emotion and pleasure, and something spiritual that I can't quite describe. It's not to be taken lightly. If I had to do all over again, I would definitely remain a virgin until I got married.
Lust is a distorted version of love
Amen
Agree to disagree
Facts
It did. Introducing kinks and fetishes to the world made it more complicating.
It also blinds you like love. The thing that is different is that one is from God, the other is from the devil
The problem is not sex being “overhyped”. The problem is that it is under-appreciated. The fact that it is valued so low to the point where it is normal for people to sleep with multiple people and receive praise bottles my mind. To all the young people who haven’t experienced it yet, wait. If you wait for who you think is the right person instead of just going after every person who just gives it to you, you’ll have a greater chance of enjoying it and not regretting it.
Agreed
nah
Honestly, I say it's both. It's overhyped in how it is sold and undervalued by how we treat it.
"Only a fool would spend all their time on how they look on the outside but not work on their inward character"
Literally 21st century women
oh I do work on the inward
once you work in your inner self, you will also start seeing changes in the outside
now that hit deep
Thank you. I’m surrounded by so many “beautiful” women in my high school and this has made it very clear to me. Thank the Lord for answering my prayers and guiding me. Bless you and your ministry.
Praise God
Just wait till you get to collage the bar is raised.
All girls look beautiful when you're horny. Highschool is tough
Keep your trust in God and his timing! Wait for marriage! I'm 25 an still waiting for my wife the Lord has for me.
exactly!
This video confirmed a prayer I made a few days ago. Recently I've been thinking about beauty vs character, and I told God that I'd much rather be with someone who's deemed average by society's standards and has character rather than a perfect 10 who'll bring dysfunction to my life. Thank you for this video.
Yes yes and yes my brother in Christ!
You can a 10 with character. The two aren’t mutually exclusive
@@User61918 But it most often is. Plus, which would you rather settle for? Thats the point of Jonathans prayer. God can give you a 10 in looks with godly character, he can give you someone who only becomes more attractive to you over time, but ultimately character is MORE important and looks can decieve.
I'm married to an 10!
Even Christians are guilty of this. We hype up marriage and sex but don't consider enough the path of celibacy. Sometimes being alone is the best way to serve the LORD.
They preach like sex is a reward when u marry. No its not its more then that
Yup indeed - the way Paul talks about it in the Bible makes it very much a choice driven by whether or not you have that desire. It always seemed silly to me that churches or society as a whole would make a strong suggestion for one way or the other.
Sure, there's data that married people generally live longer, and often live more fulfilling, happier lives, for those who don't fall into the massive divorce statistic (which by the way, that high ~50% consists primarily of repeat divorcees, not necessarily unique people getting divorced; so don't be discouraged by the statistics for anyone reading this).
Celibacy is only for women. Men are naturally meant to be promiscuous
@@sadhu7191 sex should only be reserved for marriage. Otherwise marriage is pointless.
@@jokerpilled2535 I personally disagree because I believe marriage is more for commitment than it is just reserved for sex. "Marriage" is just a social construct. Saying that someone is sinning because they have sex with someone they have been with for YEARS is a ridiculous claim to make.
I wasn't expecting Alex using the word simp lmao
hahahahahaha thought the same thing
Man of Culture
same lol, remember to use lmbo btw just a reminder
it makes me sad to hear you've been in a horrible mood often :( praying for you, Alex! love you guys so much!
@@TailorDFox am sorry but it's definitely not something normal, God has plans of joy and peace for us not of sorrow, anxiety and much less of depression brethren
@@TailorDFox no not at the cross definetly not but He went through it and gave His life up not only for our sins, He traded them with forgiveness and life in abundance (in every aspect of our lives and that includes joy which is greater than happiness)
@@TailorDFox that couldn’t be any further from the truth. As Christians, it’s actually *NOT* normal to be depressed and anxious all the time. Maybe for *A* time but never all the time. If a Christian *IS* that way, the need deliverance from Jesus. 💙
@@TailorDFox just because we are in the end times, it doesn’t make it *normal* for any Christian to be living under the bondage of anxiety and depression *all the time!* Christ suffered and died so we wouldn’t be bound to such things. It’s not to say we aren’t susceptible to those things here and there BUT depression and anxiety are not to be a consistent, continuous struggle for disciples of Christ. If that’s ever the case, again, said Christian needs deliverance asap. God doesn’t delight in letting that keep us in bondage. He YEARNS to us free- permanently! That’s never God’s will for those who love Him
I call it relatable
Alex saying "simp" is the funniest thing I've heard on this week
My friend and I have recently been taking steps in our relationship to something more than friends and this is just reminder I needed, thank you Alex. All glory to the Most High.
Recently I wanted to tell a guy in my friend group I liked him but he looked like he liked another girl so I'm pretty sad about it but this does make me feel better so thank you Alex ☺️
aw trust God sum1 will come in due time bro
Don’t rush it, so many of my friends rushed it and they always tell me how they regret it
Awww don’t worry God has someone very special for you coming up in your life
Trust him and be patient God’s timing is always perfect!
May God (Jesus Christ The Son, The Father, The Holy Spirit) Our 3 In 1 God The Holy Trinity Bless You Muriel, Your Family And Everyone On Earth, In Jesus Name Amen ☦️❤️✝️ Stay Blessed, God Will Set You Uo With A Partner Soon
Wait on the lord and he will pick a better man then you ever could
A Muslim here enjoying this. I can’t agree more. It’s hard to stay pure at this time but I promise the honor and pride and light you will feel is nothing like it. Peace and blessing to you all.
Our culture is saturated with sex. It's everywhere. It's in movies, TV programs, music, schools, etc. It is an addition that we all need to recognize and deal with because so many are being taken advantage of because they appeal to the masses sexually. Amen.
not but seriously, your so right! guys in my class talk about how they use lubricants and watch porn every night like its a daily routine and i'm like "harry your literally 12, why would you watch things like that? do your parents know?" his response was "my parents don't mind, after all everyone is doing it" and in my head i was just like. wtf bro like ur 12 don't be falling into addictions like this! i obv didn't say it to his face. but even in movies, music, school ugh its all so sex-driven. whilst i was in an adult pysch ward, i had this nurse named audrey ( gorgeous person strong in her faith ) and as we were watching cheesy romcoms from the 90's/ early 00's, she made the remark 'i wish movies these days could be like this. everything is so sex-driven now' and wow, was she right! its sad tho seeing people value the experience of sex over having a genuine connection with someone where you guys could laugh and chat like there's no tmrw, you'd have inside jokes and cheeky mannerisms all that is what love is to me. sure romantic affection is important bc without that its merely a friendship but to me i value the other aspects of love more. don't get me wrong ( well i'm not one to talk since i've never had my first kiss or anything for that matter ) i'm sure its nice but tbh if i had the scenario where i'd meet two guys 1 - hot guy who would just offer sexual affection, 2 - okay looking guy with a big heart, who would make me laugh and smile, we'd have inside jokes and just have fun, sure some kissing but no sex. imma pick number 2. its hard bc so many kids around me maybe without saying it out loud but would opt for number 1. it actually blows my mind how carefree people are, no respect for their bodies its just sad tbh. i can't even listen to most music nowadays cause it all about one thing. thank the Lord for christian music especially christian rap, bruhhh its so good. anyways thats like my 3rd rant in this comment section but yeah i 100% agree with what u said.
It’s all part of satans agenda to make us more like the animals
Wow. That hit hard. This was very timely. I loved that part where you said that some people in a relationship now are with self-centered and immature people who don’t focus on inward character. I’m a freshman in college rn and I can’t count how many times I’ve started overthinking or being hard on myself for not being in a relationship like everyone else around me is, or for not having a stable “relationship” in my past because it was built around physical attraction.
It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the culture and the way things are defined by them. But in that past “relationship” God taught me to 1)value myself and love myself first, 2) to take my time with dating, and 3) to be aware of who really has a beneficial inward character that is worth being attracted to rather than their appearance.
It’s taking time to let go of my trust issues, and it’s taking time for me to grow as a person and begin to truly love myself so that I can have the right people surrounding me.
God’s been showing me that my identity doesn’t lie in a relationship or a guy who loves me and cares about me and takes me out on dates and stuff. My identity is rooted in Christ alone and that I need to be focused on the life He wants me to live, whether I’m married or still single years from now.
I love how your videos always come from a gentle, genuine, humble spot. Just like a father teaching his kids or simply sharing life stories. Thanks Alex. 😊
Alternative title: inner beauty
Seriously, this talk has really helped me with my inner beauty. It’s something God has been talking to me about. Thank you.
thank you sm.. this came on my recommended and when u mentioned ur ninth grade gf it rlly hit for me. i was in a relationship (i’m a teen) and sexual things happened not sex bht stuff and when we broke up ans even till now it’s been 2 years, the amount of depression and pain i felt was unbearable. till now i question why it still hurts me so badly snd i still cry when thinking about that person, and i wonder if it was a soul tie. As a teenager sex is overhyped over talked about and over glamourized. i found myself feeling ashamed for not having sexual experience and stuff when i’m young. it’s so sad. i would sometimes pressure myself and it’s also sad bc i only did these things searching for love snd worth and wanting to be enough. But Jesus is enough, and hes all i need.
edit: also guys pls dont be in unequally yolked relationships. i was a Christian ad they were not. this means that if i felt convictions about something and didn’t want to do something they ofc were not convicted snd didn’t understand why i felt that way.
U juat remeber the coke like high u had after she touched u. U felt your self esteem everyone beat down raise. Your guy friends saw u as a man who could get some. On and on. But the relationship was not real
Imagine 25 years relationship she breaks up and now your old and have no idea who u are or what makes u happy
that's because you're only meant to experience "sexual stuff" with the one person you're going to marry and commit to for life. It bonds two souls, and when those two souls are not committed in holy matrimony is makes for disaster.
I wish I had this kind of guidance as a teenager.
Thank you I needed this. I’m struggling with lust currently and pray to overcome this and follow the light
camera quality went ⬆️ 📈
🤩 wow
@@xmaddog8359 hello i pray that this comment finds you well ^^ Let it be known that i say this out of love. I think you might what to change your icon picture, the hand genstures in it are inappropriate.
they aren’t but ok 😂 i changed it to a dr phil m and m
@@xmaddog8359 i can see that lol. Maybe i misread the hand symbols, you can let me know if i did, but weren't they representing an explict act?
I wish more people knew about this. I got to know a girl in a video game and we played together for a few months. One night I asked if I could add her on Discord so I could talk to her while in bed. I had known her for almost 2 months so I thought I'd share a picture of myself so she knew how I looked. The next day I noticed she hadn't sent me any messages or asked to play together. Just thought she was busy so I gave her some time. Days became weeks which then became over a month. I asked her why she had been so quiet, she simply said that she was busy "studying for school". I knew for a fact that she was really good at time management, so she was able most of the time to study first and then play a bit. I also saw her online playing games when she was giving me radio silence. Such a shame, we were pretty good friends and chatted almost everyday. Suddenly when she knows how I look I get total silence. Really hurts.
TL:DR Met a girl via a video game, chatted for a couple of months and after giving her a face reveal she stopped chatting with me.
Don’t worry you’re fearfully & wonderfully made! ❤️❤️ & you are loved.
In my teens I used to talk to this boy online and after some time we met and after that meeting he just avoided me and would post stuff about short girls being cute and how every tall guy(like him) deserves a short girl( unlike me, because I happen to be a very tall girl). I know how it feels to feel rejected because of how you look and I'm sorry you went through that. I got over it and you can too!
@@oneofthesaints I'm definitely in a better place now, thanks for sharing your story :)
Moral of the story: Remain anonymous online and mysterious in real life.
How do you now she's a real girl?
Sex addiction is not empowering. The same way food addiction isn't. Drug addiction ect ect. Our nation encourages these vices and the only reason corporations and the government push it is because it makes them allot of $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$.
May God continue to bless your ministry brother! Thank you for being obedient.
After getting saved, I encountered many obstacles, many of them were temptations to sin. One of those things I struggled with the most was doubt; not too long after my doubts began I started sining more frequently, and it hasn't ceased. It has been about a year since i have been in constant loosing battle. For that reason, I need prayers for myself to be restored by GOD and also for my family so that they may be born again.
I’m in the same situation in you. I became a believer at 18 and it’s so difficult to try and let go of the wrong things I did before being saved. I’ll pray for you
@@arthurmiranda3804 thank you brother I will too
Amen, alex. Thank you for delivering God's word to those who need it.
For those who are listening to this video, just from a married person's perspective on sex: after you're married for a while, it's normal for it to become just an every routine thing that you do sometimes and you don't at other times.
Sex is just sex, sex is not God, sex is not your purpose in life, sex is not a defining factor for anything at all. It's literally just a tool that God uses to create intimacy between two married people so that they can have a closer relationship.
Yes and a tool for procreation ofc haha. well said brother 🙏🏻
I needed this. I recently walked away from something that consisted of a friends with benefits for almost two years. It’s been hard to just try to grow from it and surrender it to God. Any verses to help? Thank you.
Matthew 6:33 Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Your need for intimacy and companionship, God will fulfill in His perfect way, wait for it. Meanwhile, seek His face.
I had to do the same thing a few years ago and it was honestly the best decision I’ve ever made! After I left her I was able to get so much stronger with God, and I had no more guilty conscience. Keep on reading your Bible every morning. Praying, and try to get in christian community!
Matthew 16.24 “Then Jesus said to his disciples, “Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross and follow me.” God bless you have a blessed day 😇
Song of Solomon chapter 8
Matthew 7:11 Literally says that if these Fathers subject to Earth and Sin know how to give good gifts how much more will the father in heaven that's limitless know how to gift you?
I promise that God had set out a person for you That will be such a gifttt but until then he'll give you everything you need to sustain yourself until then
Your story is what I'm going though rn literally crazy this was in my recommendations, currently still healing, it's been 4 months since the breakup, glad god has had my back!
Me and my fiancé started as almost a completely physical relationship, and it has created a lot of problems for us. Even now that we have worked on our emotional connection, I can often still feel the physical side overpowering. We are both Christians, so God helps us, but at this point we both acknowledge we would have been much better off if we were able to control ourselves. I'm jealous of those that were able to connect emotionally before physically 😂
What problems does it create?
@@BobHenry4161 It’s not a problem at all lol. If anything that’s a good thing. That’s what most people want and can’t get.
You don’t want to be attracted to someone that isn’t attracted to you. The more a relationship is bound to break off lol I don’t understand this personality crap because it sounds like bs.
Physical attraction matters way more than personality imo
@@TheElixirProductions Its like waiting years just to figure out you guys don't have any sexual chemistry.
@@TheElixirProductionsIt is a huge problem because you can get sex from anyone it’s lust and the spirit of lust.
Sex is meant to deepen your connection and love not some sport that you keep seeking from anyone and everyone because deep within you want a connection.
God knew how he created us and that is why those who marry as virgins statistically have the lowest divorce rates you can look it up.
Loving someone and their soul is the true love guided by Christ and that is a blessed union in Christ even with challenges because beauty is fleeting and lust dies as fast as it builds up.
Sex is not something where you need to have chemistry because the one that is for you will learn your body as you learn each other and that is where the so called chemistry happens which is even deeper because it’s rooted in love, respect and understanding for each other after developing that emotional connection.
Sadly so many will only know sex as a sport of lust forever looking for the next best thing because they actually crave deep connection, bonding and understanding which does not come from the physical act of sex but true intimacy comes from the emotional connection and understanding of the person.
I have the most amazing sex life and have always been satisfied with my husband being the only man I have slept with and the deep connection we share is just a blessing because the bond and love is what makes the sex amazing.
@@TheElixirProductions starting a relationship on a completely physical level can and will be a problem. It will create intimacy and a bond, but it'll create it with someone you don't really know well on a personal level. You've now bonded yourself to someone you might not even like once the horny feelings wear off.
insane how this was on my recommended, ive been going through a similar situation and it's just crazy how we can get so caught up on outer beauty when the inner isn't matching. thank you Lord for allowing me to receive this video and thank you for this great message. I know I was meant to see it.
This is so insightful. Thank you, I honor the way your daughter brings your heart peace. I relate to this indubitably pure & beautiful experience.
definitely needed this. Today I talked with a girl I've known for like a year and I see her pretty often, and more recently even more often and talked to her and really saw her physical attractiveness as well as knowing her good character. The one thing I keep telling myself watching this video is to not think of this girl I talked to just last night and really felt connected with while I was hanging out with some friends and family. My big thing is that I want to rush relationships and get close to people friends or girlfriends fast, my biggest attribute I need is patience and focus on my faith.
what? what is wrong wit pursuing a relationship wit a female? bruhh
@@BrokeMalone Context is, I'm 17, she's 15, and I also don't want to date and she doesn't either. I go to her house often for bible studies with her family and another family. I'm just trying to make my life not revolve around girls or thinking about them.
I respect it Alex, thank you man. I struggle with porn addiction in my life right now but due to your videos you help me resist the temptation to relapse man.
Praying for you
Any improvements bro?
It's been one year since you commented, I hope Jesus took the burden away and has set you free
@@starsthedog unfortunately no man. Went on about a 60 day sober streak but relapsed, I usually go 15-20 days and fall back in. It’s frustrating but through Christ I know I’ll succeed. I’m not giving up. Everytime I fall down I feel horrible and I don’t like abusing Gods forgiveness because that’s what it feels like but I know I’m loved and I know he wants me to keep pushing. I’ll never give up but I really do hope that I can clean up my act and get rid of this addiction for good. Thank you for checking in a year later, this seriously warmed my heart and motivates me. God bless you brother
Wow, thank you for this Alex. I talk about this with my mum all the time, the way you talk about your wife is so beautiful.
I was sleeping with a different chick every week until I got chlamydia lol. Dealing with that for 3 weeks really changed how I viewed hook up culture. It's not worth it.
I’m a new sub, and I’m loving your truth- filled videos and shorts. You’re such a wonderful teacher and it’s so abundantly clear you are guided by the Holy Spirit!! May God bless your family and your ministry. All glory to Him! ✝️
AMENNNNN!!!!
Thank you so much for this Alex
Reminding us and making this very more clear
This video should be spread around the youth especially
Thank you Alex! This video teached me AND others that We should look for the inward beauty ( inward character) because only a fool would choose to go for a beutiful women but doesn't have a good heart.
Thank you Alex for all the videos that you make. But most importantly just being straightforward with situations no matter what they are. Among all of the content on UA-cam. There is nothing like that of a Christian brother or sister who shares any part of God in a genuine way. Hope you have a great day as well, happy Friday :)
came along this right when i needed it. Thank you sir
seeing you talking about life from this perspective makes me happy man. god bless you
Aye Alex, thank you so much for your consistent testimonies. Your shining a bright light on the lies this culture has impeded on everyone. Been learning a lot from your short and meaningful videos. I pray that your ministry grows and that God can help you move mountains. I know for a fact that in Kauai people struggle with worldly pleasures. Sexual immortality, drugs, enjoyment of life, pride, and so much more. I’m not saying this only happens in Hawaii, but everywhere else. Hope I can meet you. I’m also in Kauai
I love this video it’s crazy this video popped up when literally I was on Twitter looking at romance books 😂🔥❤️✝️
Im not even christian, but the way he talked made my day, thank you man!
Once you damper into sexual immortality you're dead... as in it's very hard to stop! The Bible warns us many times to flee from it but many of us, including myself, have slipped up in it. Once you slip up in it you virtually block your blessings!
I don't really care about love at this point of my life, I'm focusing more on myself rn, but this will be good help when I turn more responsible to be in a relationship
So genuine! God Bless you and your ministry man! May this message touch many people and redirect their focus. It changed mine!
i disagree. i think our culture undervalues it, and that is the reason why we treat it the way we do. Sex is never 'just sex'. it's always something more. we should treat it with some reverence, care, and respect.
Im a Muslim but I 100% agree with what you said in this video. Great Chanel with just a lot of positivity and teaching from own experiences😁👍
This dudes voice is beautiful, sounds like he’s narrating a magical story every time he speaks
Been binging your podcasts bro. So much love from here in London. Also just received your hoody in the post today, I love it!
Wow. I don’t usually comment, but the Lord answered my prayer with this video. I was talking with my boyfriend about how instagram is down right now, and we got to talking about how we can have expectations for each other in terms of physical appearance & instagram largely contributes to that. I was feeling pretty insecure & wondering in what ways I don’t live up to those expectations. But then the Spirit lead me to pray that I’d continue to find my worth in who God says I am and how He has created me with such purpose. Few hours later this popped up on my recommended and I didn’t even think of how it could relate to how I was dealing with that today. I watched the video & thought about what a good reminder it is but then didn’t even realize how timely of a reminder it is! I praise God for His providence and for answering my prayers in such a caring & loving way❤️
Meeting someone has become a very abysmal task because people can’t differentiate between sex and intimacy. Lots of people mistake the physical task as being the main ingredient to forming bonds and connections they don’t bother and sometimes don’t know you can connect with an individual on a deeper level without even touching each other.
You always remind me why modest dress is important. It is honestly so hard! I’m not even the most immodest dresser but wow I feel the desire so much to dress with my midriff showing or wear shorter or tighter things and I just have to keep growing closer to the Lord and pray that he changes my desires. I love your videos and vulnerability in talking about sex and lust and sexual sin because it reminds me what truly is beautiful, which is not what the culture tells us is beautiful.
Sad to admit it, but I needed this. Thank you
Why’s that sad to admit
@@drpepper1053 it's sad for anyone to have admit they have a flaw; especially when they have/had an addiction/struggle.
it’s actually not, it’s actually kinda relieving
Thank you Alex for sharing this! God is using you to work miracles in the lives of others!
God really brought me to this video I kid you not. I searched up on google thoughts on waiting till marriage mind you my UA-cam was already opened up because I was watching shorts and I was scrolling through bible versus and opinions of others on waiting and I come back to UA-cam scroll a few more videos and this one pops up. I feel like God is really speaking to me in many ways. I prayed tonight as well because I feel like I don’t have a good relationship with sex either. Always worrying if I’d look good naked or just thinking way too much about it. I hope I keep very strong to wait till marriage
Alex, Thank you for this. You're a blessing from God man, love the way you teach.
Thank you for being respectful with women. You bring me relief because you believe in the father. And it's comforting to hear words from him but from a human. I've seen a lot of people disrespect women and make fun of them because of the way that they look and it's not always necessarily beauty it's the opposite of what they think is pretty. And it's amazing to me how low they put someone due to the way that they look. And it made me upset but I have to learn not to get angered Just pray I'm struggling with that cuz I want to speak and stand up, but who am I to say something. It's on the internet you know. In real life is different that I can handle. But to hear people's opinions constantly just shows how deep the challenges to control
It's one of those things that if you don't get it, you constantly obsess over it and if you do you don't think of it as much more than a neat thing you do.
I can relate so much to your description of how you met your wife. That’s similar my story too. I dated different girls and it was always lust focused and I met my wife and I liked her inward character first. Very cool
Amen!! With God all things are possible Matthew 19:26
Love you Alex I pray that God bless your family Amen Alex is great keep spreading the word of the Lord Amen
Amen God bless you too
I think the problem is is that people dont value sex. You wouldn't share something so sacred with just anyone
I related to you that's why I clicked this video thank you bro for you virtuous words I appreciate people like you in life much live bro
Thx Alex for the subtitles cus I’m watching this at 1:13 am and don’t want my parents to wake up and kill me
This really speaks to me. I was also introduced to pornography at a young age (under 10), and I never really considered the impact it made on my life until recently. To this day I've almost always prioritized sex over actually knowing a woman and learning about her and knowing her heart. I also struggled with addiction to alcohol from around 22 years old to 28 years old, and this August 31st I will be three years sober (praise God). I think I've learned that I have an addictive personality which makes it difficult to not over indulge in things I like. I was also raised in a Christian home and went to church as a child and a teen but once I hit my late teens/early twenties and got into drinking, I walked away from God and got into partying because I was in such denial of the pain I was experiencing due to certain life events that alcohol/sex/partying became my vices. I moved out of my parents house at age 24, finally got a new job after almost two years of being unemployed since 22. The drinking didn't stop though, it continued and so did my other habits. The years passed and I finally began to accept the fact that I had a drinking problem and I started fearing I wouldn't be able to stop. Meanwhile I had many dark drunken tear-filled nights that lead to me crying out to God for Him to save me and admitting I couldn't do it on my own anymore and I needed Him. This happened for a few months until He finally broke the addiction in one day and I'll never look back. Since then I went back to college, graduated, got a good job and I'm doing well.
Now that that's out of the way, I can get back to how I can relate with this video. Considering all of my current struggles, I was finally able to quit watching porn, which I was typically watching 1-2x a day, because I realized how distorted of an idea it gave me to how a woman should look and it affected me in other ways too. Now, my main struggles are lust and prioritizing sex above actually getting to know a woman, and having the best intentions, seeing as I still crave validation/physical affection/words of affirmation. However, I do think I should start focusing on women who believe in God like I do. I was on and off dating apps for years, and it started to mess with me if I didn't get matches etc, making me feel like I wasn't good enough, when in reality I know that's not true and those apps are really only good for one thing - validation. I know plenty of people have actually met their husbands or wives on there and that's awesome. But for me, that's not what I wanted even though I knew it was what I needed. I finally deleted the dating apps almost two weeks ago and I'm trying every day to resist re-downloading them again because I just know it's not right for me.
I've been in the process of going back to church and staying the course. I recently started going to a new church called MAPS Global, it's amazing and the community is awesome. Slowly but surely it seems like it's making a difference in my life, especially being in a community that's full of encouragement and the Holy Spirit. I now realize my entire comment might be kind of all over the place but I just wanted to chime in and give my piece. I hope one day I meet a woman and love her the way you love your wife, because that's a blessing.
Thank you for this.
Wow, what a story. Thanks for sharing. I thank and praise God that he’s pulled you out of the darkness and into his light by his grace. I’ll be praying for you to fight the good fight of faith (1 Tim 6:12) and if the Lord wills, that you’ll find the love of your life.
Pray and ask God for a wise woman
And never ever be discouraged cause Christ is with you always 😁❤
*thank you for sharing !!*
What a gorgeous comment. Well done for getting your life on track 🎉
I can relate... I was also exposed to porn at a young age and it completely warped my thinking and my perception of women. I almost missed out on my amazing wife, because the first time I met her I didn't think she was "hot" enough.
Thank you for this video, definitely refreshing to hear. I just read the verse about the woman with the gold ring and your note about getting in the mess helped it make more sense.
Also, Psalm 119:8-16 are really powerful for fighting temptation! I highly recommend reading, studying, and memorizing it. I’m working on memorizing it now 💪
I stumbled across your channel through the shorts and I’m so happy I did.
Thank you for your words. They truly bring me to think about my lifestyle and the kinds of things I choose to serve.
speaking for the rest of us teenagers, I hope you know how powerful and refreshing this is for us
So true I'm in 8th grade and there is this beautiful girl I have her in almost all my classes I was Inlove then ... She told me she was a satanist and so I stayed away from her from then and been staying away
thank you for the talk. it was simple and easy to understand and i appreciate that people are speaking more on this topic. i didnt understand it much but now i think i get it.
Thank you so much Alex!! 🙏🏻 I look forward to your videos everyday. Thank you so so much!!🙏🏻
Walk By Faith 2 Corithains 5:7🙏🏾
Thank you so much for this. I am so thankful to this page and this message. I truly needed this because I used to be the Pig with the gold nose ring smh God has delivered me and I am fighting to stay on the path of righteousness. God is good, AMEN!!!
Love you brother!
You really inspire me, youre authentic and genuine. It shows so strongly. Keep doing what your doing!!
Wow, thanks so much, Alex! So needed to hear this reminder! Love you guys! 🙏🏾✨
Thanks for being honest about your sins. You are my brother in Christ and I have also sinned at an early age may God bless you and I love you.
I was introduced to the same this at the same age and I still struggle with it please just pray for me I could use it. I pray too and I just feel I keep messing up what I'm gifted by God.
You mentioning how Jesus had no beauty that we should desire Him from Isaiah, it really spoke to me of the humility of our Lord and God. We still do this today as creatures of God. By judging the physical appearance, you reject the Him because He had no outward beauty. WOW.
4:05 “but yet she was the one Covid” your captions be saying something else😂😂
I'm Muslim and I just want to say that I really enjoy it when Christians are engaged in their Religion and praising god. I live in Germany and Christians here are not really practicing or even believing. And it is considered foolish or even worse. So I really enjoy it when I see People like you talk so enthusiastically and freely.
I eventually found a lot of competent people to talk to learn about Christianity. It is really interesting and maybe you could do an interreligious dialog too.
Yeah, Christianity is dying. They themselves admit it. God and Jesus are false idols. Equality is a false God. We'll probably live to see some other new religion replace Christianity.
That’s not true alot of Christian’s are very religious in Germany but there are usually non-Germans
@@theemanuella9456 I really don't See it. And I live in Berlin, which is very multi cultural. Maybe being religous means something else to you. And to whom are you referring when you say non-german. Because I can't think of a single ethnicity.
The only practising Christians i know are the theology Professors and priests I discuss Religion with.
@@the_CodingTraveller That's the problem- you're in Berlin. Cities are breeding ground of debauchery and sin.
Men looks at the outward but God looks at the heart
Unclean spirits cause these cravings, most of us need delivarance, as the lord has been delivering me I realize why I struggled with all these things in my Christian walk.
God bless you man. I needed to hear this today. Thank you.
Alex: "So me and my wife were "talking" about sex. A lot this week."
Camera: zooms to wife waiting in the tent.
Me: yes... talking... right...
All jokes aside. It was a good message.
One of my biggest regrets is not waiting til marriage
This blessed me. Thank you for your ministry.
Hi Alex. Watched this video twice because it was so good. My gf and I are struggling with this topic and you’ve given me so much clarity on how to discuss with her. Thank you!
I too have had an experience where I thought I loved a woman after sex, only to have my heart broken in a few days later. Sex cannot only be the reason we love someone.
it should be noted that the video is correct but the title is a tad backwards. the culture overhypes the fake version of sex, and completely neglects the true sex. so sex is technically underrated and always will be because sex is God's design and will always be under appreciated.
This is really interesting…excuse my ignorance but what exactly would be the true version of sex in God’s design ?
@@stawbrykiss353 it's rather complicated, hence why sex is reserved for adults. most adults in today's age are too incompetent to manifest correct sex. corinthians describes the husband like christ, and the wife like the church. so marriage is a symbol of the cosmic and significant relationship between christ and his followers. sex is also a means of bonding two people together. this is also scientifically proven. (oxytocin) which is why polygamy is so dangerous, because it greatly disrupts the humans mind. sex is also unlike porn. porn deviates from real sex in multiple ways. porn excludes the soul element of sex, and only is portrayed the bodily element. porn also portrays sex in a technically stupid way. porn teachs awful lessons about sex. real sex takes patience, communication, *consent,* and a mindset of servitude, but porn is about rushing, and submitting to the brainless desires of the brain. yea, ironic. porn also is terrible for usage because biologically, one orgasm a week is the perfect frequency (for most people) but the porn experience is constant stimulation without allowing the mind to enjoy anything. real Godly marriage and sex is about the husband serving the wife, and the wife serving the husband, but worldly sex is about FUNFUNFUNFUNFUNFUNFUN which is very childish and lowly. the culture overhypes stupid shallow fun, but God has prepared a genuine deep experience for those who follow his principles and not their own. so the culture technically underhypes the real deal by sticking to what's easy. because real good sex requires work and dedication, but worldly sex is for the lazy and ignorant.
@@stawbrykiss353 sex as God intended: two virgins coming together (both literally and figuratively) in marriage. It creates a bond that lasts a lifetime. For people who have already had sex with other people, it's much more difficult to form that bond.
I don’t think I’ve ever related and needed to hear something more than this! This is incredible brother! God spoke through you today. Excited to follow and watch more of your videos! This was super relatable. Thank you!
I’m so glad this popped up in my recommended. I had no idea how much I needed to see this video and this channel.
Where do you find such women today bro?
Or men
Porn is so destructive man
Bro this was so timely. Thank you fam
Amen! ❤️ Thank you for sharing Alex. God bless your family and ministry 🙏🏼
I love you and what you doing🙏🏾 don’t ever stop. God bless you and may your year be transformational
Do our souls get connected? The bible says we become one flesh not one soul or one spirit, one flesh which I always assumed referred to how children are just their parents put together thus one flesh. Asking genuinely
Well it also says when I husband and wife have sex they become one or something like that
I can say yes from experience. When a man and woman have sex, even if it's just purely out of lust... there's a physical and spiritual bond taking place. You're sharing DNA, sharing emotion and pleasure, and something spiritual that I can't quite describe. It's not to be taken lightly. If I had to do all over again, I would definitely remain a virgin until I got married.
Can you guys pray for me im going through some stuff and I just need the body of Crist and the lord 🙏
I’m am so glad this pop popped up in my feed, thank you.