HTSM (So Far) #47 - The Things That BORE ME About Being Married To YOU
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- Опубліковано 23 сер 2019
- Boredom is a necessary part of any relationship. How do we deal with it? Should we allow for it, and what exactly is it that can bore us about each other.
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Nadia wasn’t saying marks mental health issues are boring she was simply saying and before i continue i myself suffer from Deprssion etc and struggle everyday but what Nadia was saying fromher p.o.v was that there is always more that Mark could do ,she wasn’t deminishing his struggles
you forget that they do these podcasts to show real struggles etc from both sides in the relationships .
King Star PRECISELY!!!! Everyone needs to read your comment / this is how I took it too!!! Mark here 👍👍
Totally agree!!
King Star exactly !! Xx
Exactly....clearly they have a great relationship otherwise they wouldn't have done this...
If this is aimed at me I only told it as I saw it I am afraid I suffer from clinic depression and have lost my husband through, i also suffer from chronic illness, I wasn't attacking Nadia it just came over on screen as very harsh, that was all I was saying guess I won't be following any more if not entitled to voice an opinion as some one who has been on both sides of this and now feel I have lost a forum which was actually helping my own situation oh well back to solitude
Hmm boring is the wrong word, annoying and to be honest this is not a podcast I would be making when someone is struggling with their depression. Also not a podcast to make when the other party cannot take self criticism. Are you two looking for a means to fight. I found this so uncomfortable. Focus on the positives and allow each other sometimes to not be perfect x
Agree totally
WE PURPOSEFULLY THREW THIS CHALLENGE DOWN TO PROD AT OURSELVES - we aren’t interested in doing Vanilla podcasts - we are about challenging each other. It is a KEY part of actually dealing with mental health issues. Nadia is consistently and constantly supportive and the point of this podcast was to allow us to say what we sometimes feel we can’t. It has helped us both immeasurably. No need to worry at all. mark here
Nadia 🤦♀️ telling Mark to ‘pull himself together’, surprisingly and disappointingly insensitive response to someone with depression. I know it’s hard for friends and family when loved one is depressed.
Oh my goodness the one thing you should not say to anybody with 'clinical depression' is pull yourself together it's a red rag to a bull...
@@jacquelineroddawales2024 and very unkind..especially when you know they are struggling..talk about kick someone when they are down..and she is supposed to love him..hmmm use the word love loosely...I think she is the most important person in their relationship
Mark is right Nadia, you do sometimes give off an air of everyone is wrong about everything and everyone except you.
You got to stop Nadia , you asked a person to say how they feel and when you don't like what they say you go over the top , you do come across bossy and if it not your way you don't like it , and I can see what Mark is saying and I think it sad that someone is made feel like that , Nadia you are even doing it now Mark is not saying what he really wants to because you go over the top , as soon as he said about the hair in the shower you had to start , don't ask if you can't take the answer , I think the biggest problem is everything Nadia is saying is who she is herself , so Nadia I think it would be good if you look at yourself in your videos and I think you will be shocked how you are
Sadly Mark it will end in a row or bad feeling,because Nadia can’t take criticism,and everything has to be her first
Blimey I don't think so
We must be watching different vloggs
but nor can mark. he is ALOT worse than Nadia!
Mark is just on tenterhooks all the time not to upset her,she keeps on at him,saying he goes over the mark,then turns round and does thing well over the mark herself.
@@lauslora6511 I disagree, I can see straight away in Marks face that he listens do Nadia, and takes the criticism. I think he gets annoyed because he doesn't feel listened to
What’s missing is a few ground rules and a chores job for the girls,how easy is it to put your pots in the dishwasher when finished with,clothes in the linen bin at the end of the day........children of 5-6 yrs are doing that.
I think what I’m hearing Nadia say is that she wants the best for Mark. It’s typical that women wouldn’t actually listen to what another women has to say and jump to sticking up for Mark.
She literally spoke sooooo much about how amazing Mark is and everyday she is trying to help Mark get better but HE isn’t taking the necessary steps in order to start feeling better. How many times has Nadia said Mark let’s meditate Mark let’s go to yoga with each other Mark let’s do something that will help your mind. She’s said these things so many times. I know when you’re depressed it’s hard to get up and try to better yourself. But it’s hard to see someone batter themselves when you know their full potential and I think that’s where Nadia is coming from. Stop being so hard on her honestly.
Kelleshell horsford - Well said, I agree with you
kelleshell horsford ahhh thank you ., that’s what I’m always thinking and saying I my own way , mark knows I love and support him in everything x
Totally agree, nadia is a brilliant wife and mother, booking trips and cooking mark lovely meals, allways saying how proud she is about mark doing Joe wicks, lovely woman, and mark is brilliant too xx
Julia Hulston thank you .. I try my best and fail more often than succeed but that’s life !! C
@@sawalhaadderleysyour doing a better job than most, and putting it all on UA-cam for us to see, which is an absolute pleasure to watch, you and mark remind me so much of myself and my partner, the little quirky things you do, brilliant! Carry on guys your doing great xxx
Why is anyone washing up when you have a dishwasher
I always feel Mark is walking on eggshells for fear of upsetting Nadia, seems like he has to backtrack on many occasions, don't think that helps his self belief. Two entirely different personalities, must be really hard work living together.
Wish there were more people like you guys in the world. I’ve said it before, you keep it real, you are such genuine and honest people with no egos, that is rare. Your vlogs will help many, you bravely discuss things that most like to hide or are in denial about. You stick your head above the parapet and your courage in revealing warts and all of relationships, is what we need, no sugar coating, but great conversation and sharing of thoughts and opinions. You face those ‘elephants in the room’ we all have, and turn them into positive conclusions. Massive kudos to you both, I hope you never stop giving us a platform for debate along with great entertainment 💕😎
Mark, your description ‘Nadia Sawalha off the telly’ is so apt. Nadia Sawalha OTT... the description of her caricatures of you are spot on
Wow 😲 bit harsh Nadia , depression is really hard you can’t just switch it off I’m sure Mark doesn’t want to hear you saying pull yourself together and he’s boring ....
Nadia, I really can't believe how harsh and very misunderstanding you are towards Mark. How dare you speak to him that way!!! Get into Mark's head just for 1 day and then you will truly understand why he is and acts the way he is!! I feel so so sorry for Mark who so eloquently explains his mental health struggles on a day to day basis. Through his brave discussions on this channel, I'm able to finally realize my mental health issues in which I have struggled in silence for 53 years. It brought tears to my eyes the way you spoke about "the little fuckers is his head" So sad to hear your true feelings about Marks struggles ..... I hope you never get to experience those fuckers in your head!!!! Hearing you speak this way to him was so BORING !!!!
She was really mean..and swearing all the time just shows her up...do all the little fuckers in her head make her untidy...or is she choosing it...no idea..why they are together..they have a very unhealthy relationship
Wow Nadia you were so harsh saying that Marks mental health issues are boring. He looks crushed. He knows full well what he needs to do but the effort to get there is huge.
Paula Farren FAS WE PURPOSEFULLY THREW THIS CHALLENGE DOWN TO PROD AT OURSELVES - we aren’t interested in doing Vanilla podcasts - we are about challenging each other. It is a KEY part of actually dealing with mental health issues. Nadia is consistently and constantly supportive and the point of this podcast was to allow us to say what we sometimes feel we can’t. It has helped us both immeasurably. No need to worry at all. mark here
@@thedoghouse3450 ok Mark just felt so bad for you. It's what you weren't verbally saying it's was your facial expression which pulled at my heart for you especially in light of you going to the Drs and trying to break the cycle of depression/anxiety.
This was not the best topic. A pox on whoever suggested it. It was a topic for failure.
Gosh that was hard to watch....sometimes you just have to stop talking and analysing and feeding the issues and just hug each other and reconnect....in relationships people are always going to irritate each other as everyone is so different ....the best thing to do is to stop bickering and feeding the nonsense and remember all the reasons why you love the person in front of you and hug them a bit tighter, it’s those moments that ego leaves the room and the heart takes over x
MissH that would t make much of a podcast !!! Ha ha ha
Oooohh Nadia...hard viewing with the low blow about Marks mental health 😱 x
Jackie Wignall WE PURPOSEFULLY THREW THIS CHALLENGE DOWN TO PROD AT OURSELVES - we aren’t interested in doing Vanilla podcasts - we are about challenging each other. It is a KEY part of actually dealing with mental health issues. Nadia is consistently and constantly supportive and the point of this podcast was to allow us to say what we sometimes feel we can’t. It has helped us both immeasurably. No need to worry at all. mark here
Don't take this the wrong way cos I love you both and the blogs but Nadia I have to ask this and I am not expecting an answer. Are you happy being Mrs. Nadia Adderley? Cos sometimes I feel Mark is married to "Nadia Sawalha of the Telly" not Mrs. Nadia Adderley. Sadly.
@@Janeylou70 I meant it as is she happy being his wife as she has a unique way of crushing his spirit and then she says she is bored of his mental health battles cos as a wife as Mrs Adderley the vows in which most couples take in sickness and in health it's done with a good heart and come what may you deal with it together. But I sometimes find that when she is being " Nadia Sawalha of the Telly" she can be quite acid tongued in her approach and soul destroying. TBF maybe she thinks she is giving Mark a wake up call or a kick up the butt by saying it's boring but for someone who is struggling just to get through the day sometimes like Mark is currently. She needs to be a little more sensitive. Like a wife/partner should be. If the shoe was on the other foot I don't think Mark would ever say he is bored of his wife's mental health. Just saying and like my opinion counts for anything. It's comments like I am bored of your mental health issues that could potentially cause a weaker person to spiral down to the point where suicidal thoughts and actions can happen. Then those left behind are left wondering why didn't they come and talk about it when how can they when they have been told their mental health issues are boring. Keep going Mark with your fight. You Got This.
Wow Paula .. just wow .. I can only take it and your reply in the way you said it.
@@paulafarrenfas6420 Mark is just as bad , he said Nadia is boring in the bedroom SNORING !!!!! We all knew what he really meant . Nadia keeps him real .
@@gailgeary9973 I genuinely think that he meant he feels like there is no room for him in the bedroom not anything sexual because he has been sensitive to the fact of that while Nadia was/is going through the menopause he gave her that space. But he must feel a bit dejected when he can't even get into their bed and dare not disturb her whether it be for being on her phone or snoring or star fishing in the bed.
@@paulafarrenfas6420 lol 🤣
Shouldn't this be called "things that irritate me about being married to you???
Siobhan O'neill either or ! X
Painful to watch 😖😁...boring?...more like 'things that annoy me about you'...can only end in a row 😏...but shows how real you are 😘😊 x
I am amazed that you are still on good terms when you finish these HTSM videos (apart from the dog gate one) !!!!
Sophie Wallace we actually laugh our heads off at each other !!
Nadia, you have made me mad now😡 as someone who suffers from depression myself it takes us so much strength to even want to breathe sometimes. We don’t want to be depressed. I take antidepressants every day and being constantly being told to be someone else is SO hard. You are not the only one, my partner is the same. Try zoning out with maybe a mindfulness talk or mindfulness colouring. It helps me.
Maybe you shouldn’t watch this stuff if it triggers you so much. I admire their openness and honesty. If you want fluffy clouds and rainbows and the perfect relationship, try somewhere else, like Disney or something.
WE PURPOSEFULLY THREW THIS CHALLENGE DOWN TO PROD AT OURSELVES - we aren’t interested in doing Vanilla podcasts - we are about challenging each other. It is a KEY part of actually dealing with mental health issues. Nadia is consistently and constantly supportive and the point of this podcast was to allow us to say what we sometimes feel we can’t. It has helped us both immeasurably. No need to worry at all. mark here
Stn THANKYOU - as I’ve said to others : WE PURPOSEFULLY THREW THIS CHALLENGE DOWN TO PROD AT OURSELVES - we aren’t interested in doing Vanilla podcasts - we are about challenging each other. It is a KEY part of actually dealing with mental health issues. Nadia is consistently and constantly supportive and the point of this podcast was to allow us to say what we sometimes feel we can’t. It has helped us both immeasurably. No need to worry at all. mark here
The Dog House, Mark could we have a ‘ the things I love about you’ HTSMSF sometime. 🙂
The Dog House ahhh love you baby .. Nads♥️♥️♥️NO TO VANILLA !!!!!
Oh dear 🥴 10 mins in and I can’t watch anymore. Too uncomfortable for me but I’m not going anywhere and will watch out for the next one! 😉
Julie Allen ahhh watch to the end !! We love each other very much and like to push and prof each other . Challenge each other . We never want to be bland it vanilla in here xx
Chloe Jessop I am hugely respectful . Many of the people I love suffer . Sending much love and kindness 🌈
Clare Bridges ahhhh we are so heart warmed by this . Sending love x
You are such a loving couple, get that bedroom sorted, get a king size bed.. Get a good nights sleep.🚿room door left open Mark, nothing worse thn going into a wet steamy shower room. But love you guys. xxxx
You need to get your ADHD properly diagnosed and stop using it as an excuse for the way you are. As a mother of a child who has ADHD I see her struggles but she is on medication to help balance out her brain in order to cope with daily life.
Paula Farren FAS sending love xx
So it’s ok for marks depression to be an excuse for everything he does and everyone saying poor mark but not ok for Nadia to have ADHD and that be an excuse !!? As someone who has had mental health issues and who also lives with someone with more severe depression , I feel Nadia has been unfairly bashed and criticised on these comments , she is saying these things to mark out of a place of love and wanting him to work on improve his self worth etc , this is the first comment I’ve ever made on one of these things but I felt so strongly that this comment thread has been so unfair to Nadia . Mark bringing up bedroom activity is also quite a low blow and the podcast is all about marriage issues so people saying it was uncomfortable or shouldn’t be aired are ridiculous , I applaud both Nadia and mark for their honestly and authenticity it’s what makes me want to watch at least they are not fake like most things nowadays, thank you for showing us your lives , there is so much I can relate to watching you both . X
@@kirstywilson8052 hear hear Kirsty
Kirsty Wilson I really really appreciate this Kirsty . Sometimes I get overwhelmed with the negativity . Mark and I want to confine to be honest and unfiltered but it’s not always easy when people want to look for the negative ♥️
Nadia Sawalha - Family, Films, Food & Fun I am so pleased that you appreciate it , I felt so strongly that you were being attacked and I know how hard it is , my partner is very like mark in a lot of ways and it’s soul destroying wanting to help him in every way but he won’t do things to help himself , his behaviour then very much affects me and my mental health however I try and push through mostly - I really like mark and respect you and him so much for opening up the way you do . I have binge watched most of your content over the last couple of months and loved it , keep doing what your doing ignore super negative comments says more about the people writing them , I would never write something horrible and negative even if I thought it , can’t believe people don’t think about how it might affect you ! You obviously are a human , not just “Nadia Sawalha off the tele !” 😂 your family are beautiful , real and inspiring so keep doing what you do “up there for thinking , down there for dancing 💃 “ xxxx
Oh this is very uncomfortable guys. I'm really seeing the strain on Mark's face towards the end
Love your vlogs but was left A little gobsmacked! A really lovely couple but Nadia really hurtful comment..it's all about you luvvy isn't it ...regretful conversation me thinks. Live a day in Mark's shoes and you would not have said that.
Mark everyone loves you and what you are looking for is that seal of approval because that is all you have known in your life...do the things that strikes your heart to make your happy moments😁😁
Touchy subject 😂🙈 my hubby would throw a major tantrum if I listed all the things I find boring about being married to him
Hanifah Allott 😂😂
Thought it was going off in the wrong direction to begin with but it was a good discussion. Hilarious to be talking to a therapist about your fear of being boring and they fall asleep while listening to you!! Feeling down on yourself can be hard on those around you, but it can be difficult to pull yourself out of it.
I have found changing the phrase from ‘you are...’ to ‘it is...’ so helpful. Whether that’s about irritations, being bored, frustration, love,... depersonalisation from the pointy finger of saying ‘you are’ is less threatening and more accepting to the other person.
I also see how Marks self esteem impacts Nadia when you are both polar opposites. Nadia appearing to be a glass half full and Mark, on occasion, doesn’t even have a glass, let alone it be half empty. Mark, your use of humour is an excellent tool for masking anxiety and depression, and can help diffuse the ticking time bomb in your head. Don’t lose that, it’s a great thing to have. I know it pisses Nadia off, especially some of the more flippant and rude comebacks (such as the very long pubes jibe tonight), but it’s Marks quick witted thinking, his humour, his charm.
Great vlog. Loved your honesty.
Mandy Griffin ahhhhh thank you Mandy . ♥️♥️
Why is it that the whole family must be sensitive to Mark's depression yet he seems intolerant of Nadia's menopausal moods which I assume lasted a lot less than 16 years.
Reel Janet very good point Janet! Mark here - cogently and sensitively presented.
Oh Nadia....how could you....he's just seen his Doctor for medication....it doesn't matter how many times people tell you good things...you can't take it into yourself until you are ready if ever. It's an ILLNESS Nadia....in sickness and in health...I think Mark is doing more than most for self care..but it's debilitating....I didn't even realise I said it but my last counselling session I said I loathe myself...yet I know people find me kind, caring and strong...I now understand this is clinical depression and not just low mood.
Let his medication kick in at least.
I find it boring that ill informed people say pull yourself together.
Oh bless, you two really put yourselves through it on some topics..As an outsider though I could see you both had valid points of irritation & tedium to be fair, but isn't the whole concept of marriage acceptance, tolerance & working through things together?..Which you both are doing...You both have & still are finding ways of becoming better versions of yourselves...I remember Mark said in his vlog when he went to the Drs that as a family you're all about kindness & how important it is..Perhaps you both should be a lot more kinder to yourselves!..Yes you have flaws & annoying habits..Nobody's perfect & habits can, overtime can change..I know you two can overcome anything together..Stay strong & never give up!..Sending you both much love and big brummie hugs!😊🤘❤🕊🇬🇧xx
I’d prefer to see you do a “what excites me about being married to you” as that’s actually much more of a challenge probably after 16 yrs of marriage. Would be great for you two to put some thought into that as a topic and actually vocalise it xx
When I saw the title of this one, I thought oh sh-t this could turn out bad. I always feel Mark panicking about what these how to stay married so far vlogs are going to throw up. And I start to panic with him. I love all your vlogs. But I wish you wouldn't put yourselves through these torturous sessions.
But I feel other than your last big subject which I found very sad. Everything you brought up needed the word boring replaced with annoying. I they were things that annoy you about each other. I noticed a few others voicing the same observations.
Nadia,when you spoke about what torture Mark goes through each day I thought bless his heart. Because how awful it must be to feel like that every day of your life. To fight the same battle in your head, but with no progression. My heart really goes out to you Mark. But living with this from Nadia 's side I also can understand. had a 5 year relationship with somebody with all the same attributes as Mark. And he suffered from depression anxiety and self doubt. And I found it absolutely draining. I loved him, and always empathised.
And would always be there for him. But it used to suck all the joy out of me at times, just ike Nadia said. I watched your vlog yesterday Mark. The one before and after seeing the doctor. When you came out you were saying you lied about various things you knew the doctor wanted to hear. EG, going to AA meetings for one. These are the same things Nadia knows will help you to cope better. So why not go? The doctor thinks you should. Nadia does too. So there must be something beneficial for you. You are doing so well with your exercise and gardening. It seems a shame to try to deal with all of this on your own. It isn't failing by admitting you need a little help. Speaking to like minded people can remind you that you are not the only one suffering from these feelings that depression and anxiety bring to your life.
I had a break down over 20 years ago. This eventually led to me becoming a Christian. I am not trying to advocate that Mark. But becoming a Christian doesn't suddenly make your life easy. It is something you have to work at. The reason I am telling you this is because one night at a group meeting a man said when you become a Christian it is like jumping off a cliff. And there you are bobbing around in mid air with all the other Christians you have surrounded yourself with. All quite happily bobbing up and down together. Then all of a sudden you will have something happen in your life and you start to drop through the air. And another Christian will come to your aid and pull you back up. And then you all bob around happily again for a while. And then that Christian will drop and somebody will pull him back up. And It is so true. Nobodies life is perfect. We all struggle. And I think to surround yourself with people who go through the same struggles with life can help to strengthen and support you. And in turn, you them.
So maybe take Nadia 's and the doctors advice? It might not have been a total success in the past. But that was then. It could be totally different this time.
Getting back to me saying I had a boyfriend of 5 years who suffered with depression and anxiety. He too was very good looking, funny, kind and highly intelligent. Like Nadia says about you. He could speak to anybody on most subjects. And was always the funniest person in the room. But he thought he was ugly, boring, and had no self worth. I sometimes think you intelligent guys that suffer so much because you can't switch off. Always questioning everything. And self doubting.
Our childhoods effect our whole lives. We carry the baggage from what happens to us in our formative years like a beast of burden on our backs. As much as we love them, our parents can have a lot to answer for.
It is sad the way we can analyse how we are. And trace things back to when we started to be effected by things. And totally understand why we have our doubts and anxieties. But we still let them effect our lives again and again.
Anyway I am rambling thinking about things you have said. Things that have happened to myself and friends over the years. And how we all get effected in so many ways. It is all very sad really.
But life is also kind to us. You have a lovely wife and family. And now a lovely relationship with your Mum. They all value you Mark. You don't doubt their judgement on other things. So why should they be wrong about you?
Anyway I wish you guys wouldn't put yourselves through these how to stay married podcasts. It's not good for you. And its flippin stressful for your subs who care about you both. Please cover nice subjects instead.
Thank you both for all you share with us. I love all your madness. Long may it continue. Deb.xx
I’m learning alot from how Nadia navigates arguments properly. She’s so wise
I’m 19 minutes in and I’m now thinking this was a bad idea 😂
Hi guys, for the first few minutes I thought it was going to turn in to another doggy disaster of a podcast, but you really turned it round!! You are both so honest, funny, hard on yourselves and each other sometimes, but I thought your love for each other really shone through tonight. As you said, communication is key, and honesty. Thanks Nadia and Mark, another brilliant podcast 💜😘
Mark dont say that about yourself. Upu are NEVER ANNOYING. FAR FROM IT YOU ARE SO ENTERTAINING. YOU HAVE NO NEGATIVE TRAITS YOU ARE PERFECT
I watched Mark’s face as Nadia was saying “ you’re the best person I know....” The face of low self-esteem and years of negative self-talk. I admire how honest you are with each other, even when it’s painful and a millisecond from becoming an argument. Thanks for sharing the highs, lows and In betweens. 👍 😘
These podcasts are always focused around the negative. They feel like you are just arguing rather than sharing helpful info. Can you do some on what you appreciate, enjoy, are impressed by. What about “what you give each other in way of support” or “ how you affirm and build each other up” or “ what impresses you most about how you handle the hard stuff in life” ? Just saying. Love you guys 🤣
I dont know about Mark's past but honestly from experience...a deeply damaged person will never be able to heal the damage caused to them....I think the answer is accepting and loving them for who they are (which mark is lucky to have) I dont think I'll ever have that
Todd The Bunny sending love xxx
Made me cry talking about the anxiety depression thing. Be kind to each other. Sort your bedroom out, maybe redecorate new bed, bedding etc make your room your sanctuary in order for you both to spend quality time together and turn off your phones and talk to each other. Your lives are busy take time to chill. Love you bothxx
I have already commented under someone else’s comment , it is the first time I have ever commented but have been watching every vlog podcast etc . I really strongly feel that everyone has been very unfairly harsh on Nadia ! I myself have had bouts of depression and my partner has major issues depression with bad upbringing etc , I can only applaud both of them for their honesty and bringing authentic subjects to the forefront , how brave to lay yourselves bare like this , I can see from both of you that everything comes from a place of love and I actually learn things about myself and my partner by watching you and hearing you unpack things . Nadia listed so many amazing things about mark but just said it was so hard for her to watch him mentally destroy himself it is as hard being the partner with someone with mental health issues as it is having mental health issues and their issues can severely impact your own mental health too ! I think they both conduct themselves in s very articulate way discussing these issues and should applaud them both for that not tear someone down when she is in love with her husband and does nothing but try to help him constantly !!! X
Nadia you have been captured in a vlog complaining about the washing up being left...haha!
Matthew Dunne ha ha ha !!
This conversation was not a good idea guy's!!!!
Great podcast guys... love listening whilst washin up...such a fantastic couple xxx
NADIA WAS BEING SO LOVELY PEOPLE!omg ive got her speech on repeat and have showed it to everyone. shes fabulous x
I've read a lot of the comments on this video having a go at nadia about how she was towards mark at the end of this video, but, this is marriage,and this is how married couples behave in privacy, personally, I think your both very very brave to put such private issues out for us all to see, it's clear to see you both love each other very much, but the same as all relationships there are issues, thanks for sharing guys, I allways love watching you, p.s I also agree with nadia at how interesting and intelligent mark is, I could listen to him all day, very interesting man x
Boring is a tricky adjective as sometimes it can mean others and they are all intertwined aren’t they. Love your honesty and non-edited conversations. You guys are so real xx
This is brilliant. Have you ever listened to Chris and Rosie Ramsey's weekly podcast? There's a section called "whats your beef". Every couple that lives together have the same "issues". YOU ARE BOTH BLOODY BRILLIANT!
Debbie DooDaas ahhh thank you Debbie ! And yes I follow them
On Instagram ! Love them !
I totally heard the love and passion from both sides all the way through while being honest, and Loved how conciliatory it all became as both felt more and more heard in this format. Great precedent of how positions can soften guys 🌹Well done! Brilliantly executed listening all round I thought. PS I knew what Nadia meant, it was said with great love which I why it was heard by the 1 person that mattered. Xxx
This made me lol..this is so familar especially pulling hair out of the shower!! and Mark saying thats not soap!! omg PMSL!!! 🤣🤣🤣
Cit must be hard for you Mark with your illness but i also feel for you Nadia. It’s also difficult for you x
Ros Linney I really appreciate this , we want to keep it real . You can’t do a marriage podcast and be vanilla . It’s not an easy thing to do . So thank you ♥️
You are both in the spotlight and feed off of an audience. The trouble is you cant please all of the people all of the time. Dangerous game when you rely on others for your self worth.It must come from within and from a higher source. Take care x
Good vlog guys 👏 you both made some really good points 👍
Nadia, you often attempt to immasculate Mark by constantly scolding him on video, and projecting the attitude that you know better than anyone in the family about virtually everything. But, you do, to your credit, Mark's very high intelligence and brilliance in expressing himself, and his courage in sharing with all of us, his fears, worries, anxieties, etc. This "I'm better, smarter" regarding matters of the home front" projection from you, I strongly believe adds to Mark's depression and feelings of inadequacy.. There is a simple answer to many of the points you both bring up. A list of responsibilities, for each day, on the wall of your kitchen, or wherever, for every member of the family. It doesn't have to be monitored like the Gestapo, but each person could cross off what they have completed each day. These are Life Lessons for your girls, for their own homes, and the possible conflicts they may have with their partners. There is no excuse to live in chaos and constant disarray, which also causes chaos and disorder in the mind, unless that's what makes you comfortable and content within your own home. But, you are all able bodied, and can tidy up your own messes in a flash, if you take the time to do it. Pube hairs in the bathroom drain would send me over the edge, and I'm a woman!! And why suddenly are pube hairs disgusting when Mark brings it up, but, Nadia you have discussed it on Loose Women, but, of course, used the word "bush", which sounds really gross, but I accept it, if that's the word you are allowed to use on the painfully PC show Loose Women. I love the show, but hate the school marm (moderator) at my left of the table, frantically jumping in to give an alternate or fair and balanced opinion that sounds sooo fake. Now, there's boring for you!!!! Besides, the issues you two are talking about as being boring, are merely things that annoy you about each other. I suspect neither of you want to go so deep as what bores you about each other. That would be too introspective, and bring on hurt feelings, or a hell of a row. You wouldn't be able to handle it!!! Carry On.
I agree with previous comment, this was so uncomfortable. Nadia seemed very close to exploding very quickly. You two obviously cannot handle these serious discussions, sorry but wanted to switch off before witnessing anymore arguing. I also agree, that Mark is trying to sort out his depression so not good to go into a subject that Nadia is going to flare up on!
Jan Sinnott I think it’s best to comment when you e watched the whole thing . Trust me !! We love each other very much and want to deliver a warts and all podcast . There is no point to us just doing hearts and flowers !!!
I watch all your videos etc and I see that when you guys are not in your home you are totally different much more relaxed enjoyable people. I bet many others have suggested, get a housekeeper in each Friday to clean up so your weekends together can be spent enjoying your home and surroundings without petty arguments about cleaning dishes etc . Enjoy and keep making us happy to watch you guys instead of sad that you are picking each other to pieces. hugs and love Be kind keep smiling for real from the Soul
As someone with depression/anxiety, I get what Nadia is saying. If you had listened, you would have too. It was not offensive or insensitive.
Thank you guys for being so real, none of us are perfect and this is very comforting to see we all have issues and perhaps we all need stop sweating the small stuff so much, in the end it’s so unimportant. Could not love you guys more. ❤️❤️ also as a woman I do feel that we can cause an atmosphere without actually saying anything (sometimes very deservedly but not always 😊) x
Just wanted to send you guys some love and thank you once again for helping me with various bits n bobs in my life. If I could repay this to you now with all that’s going on for you I would but hopefully this message can help a smidge. ❣️
There’s nothing boring about you two. Love you both xx
Love you guys so open, honest and REAL!! Shhh People are on the bus! 😂 😂 😂
You guys never bore me you are both a breath of fresh air thank you for being who you are real people 😊🇨🇦
Do love you guys ....I have massive respect for you both, thank you for being as honest as you are ! That takes a lot of courage....thank you 💋 xx
This was good ❤️
Ouch, this for me was painful to watch. It went from "boring" to "attack"! Also I felt Nads was on the defensive right from the start. I know you guys like to keep it real and that's what we love about you, but this was uncomfortable watching 🙈
Nadia you seriously need to grow up, you want to do these podcasts/UA-cam vlogs, is Mark just meant to say things that you constantly agree with. Your arrogance is on another level x
Jackie Wignall erm ? No ?
You haven't bored me 😊 I think you're both brave to do this x when Nadia said how amazing Mark is and wished he would believe in himself more, I wish someone would say that to me 🙈😊 I also have periods of depression and anxiety so I know why Mark is like this x
I think you two were very brave to tackle this as it’s a very dangerous subject. Nadia puts everything out there while Mark keeps it all in so basically you are two sides of the same coin. My partner has severe anxiety and depression and takes various meds for it all and so I get where Nadia is coming from with some of the points she made...I find it tiring at times dealing with him. He focuses so much on small things and sometimes I just want to shout ‘Oh ffs let it go will you’. But I can’t as it would hurt him and perhaps set him back and I don’t want to do that. I end up saying nonchalantly ‘Oh babe, don’t sweat the small stuff’ and I really try to be mindful of what he’s going through and how things appear to him.....but it is soooo exhausting. And I’m pretty sure I don’t know the half of it.
The truth of your relationship/marriage really shines through on this vlog!
Claire Papadatos hopefully that we live each other dearly x
Honest and true as usual. Thanks Nadia and Mark for saying how you sometimes feel in your marriage you're both very brave for being so transparent and it is always appreciated.
Nadia, like I said, you honor Mark by reminding him how wonderful and extraordinary he is!! I hadn't listened to the entire video before hearing the last part. I feel that what you said was what he needed to hear. It was fair, bc, if Mark is not being his best advocate, and not continuing to consistently do what is available to him, to get better. That is willful on Mark's part. Sorry Mark!!
Mark, when you learn to not care what other people think about you, you will be free. I was like you and I hit fifty and all of a sudden it didn't matter. I realised as long as my family loved me it didn't matter. You don't live your life for anyone else, choose freedom. It's an amazing feeling.
Nadia sometimes taking the rights steps to help oneself can be exhausting. Sufferers sometimes know the steps but can’t take them for many different reasons. It’s similar to knowing the right thing to eat but choosing the less healthy foods. Nadia I totally understand your frustration though. Love you both for your honesty and willingness to share.
How about a 'the things I love most about you ' podcast we've all got faults , life's far too short to be getting so deep about small stuff neither of you are boring , your camping weekend had me crying with laughter, just love each other guys we never know when the road were on is going to veer off in a completely different direction, give each other a hug and feck the dishes 💗
I love you guys!!!!
First of all... Nadia you look so naturally beautiful on this!! ❤️
Guys, fantastic pod cast as always, you could never be boring!!
I love your candidness... I’ve been with my husband for23 years, we have developed a deep friendship and love through that time, but my god do we irritate the hell out of each other at times? Yes!! He’s my best friend, but also the person I am completely myself with... marriage is an ongoing thing of highs and lows but god I am I lucky to know a love like ours❤️ x x x x
Love you guys, your love and respect for each other always shines through ❤️ x x x x
This is a brave one to do! Quite comical that Nadia was thinking about people on the bus hearing Mark😂.
You are very handsome Mark, I think you have a gorgeous face & a gorgeous smile /laugh 😊
Ok, I snore and sleep diagonally. However, the diagonal sleeping isn’t all my fault, because the dog sleeps between my partner and I.
Hi guys, I seem to be getting loads of ads, have youtube increased them do you know? X
I love these sessions... it is as if someone had hidden a camera in my own home. We argue about similar things but we don't think of it as " boring" ... rather we would call it BLOODY annoying.
You guys are amazing and entertaining to watch. It’s really interesting but I also find myself in hysterics. Luv it guys. From Kerry in New Zealand
I've only just discovered your How to stay married so far.. podcast, and although I'm not married or even in a relationship yet, I hope once I meet the right person we can communicate like you two do :) it's very inspiring x
Love it guys! I can totally relate to this due to being married to a man who has very little self confidence and belief too. Totally understand how draining and hard it is for Nadia to keep Mark positive and going. But Nadia says these things because she loves you Mark! My husband I am sure would say exactly the same regarding household chores.....a feeling of dis satisfaction But guys you are fab together and the chemistry and love shines out. The arguments and discussions are part of trying to figure it all out . Btw your youtube channel is addictive!
I thought this was good sharing. In the grand scheme of things, they are nuts about each other. Patience, tolerance and love does prevail. 💜💜💜
Omg iam only five minutes in and Nadia face is priceless lol XXX sending love to you both xxxx
Not boring at all, found this extremely honest & interesting, so good to know your both so normal 👍🌺
Im Scorpion Rising, I get it. Honesty and clarity every time for me too. Anything less is just insulting. Great podcast guys, your love shines through and warms my ❤️ heart. Xx
I admire Nadia and Mark for their openness and honesty with each other and sharing it on UA-cam. Very mature to be able to speak so candidly to each other. Wow what beautiful words Nadia used to describe Mark and so true. Both of you are wonderful, amazing people. I often feel these HTSM are one-sided those, of Nadia against Mark :/ and yeah this is more about annoyances than boring things about the other person
Takes guts to do this. Thanks guys. Aussie Bob x.
Iv been watching these two for about a year now, love their channel. Does anyone else think if mark knew his self worth then he wouldn’t be with Nadia????
As someone who has both anxiety, depression and is married, i know from the conversations my husband and I have and my own introspection that at times it can be just as hard for the other person in the relationship
Nadia i completly understand your point of view
you are so honest and funny:)
You two crack me up! 😂 I could think of things about my partner but I’m not brave enough to bring it all up in a Vlog/podcast. Well done you two x
Hi Nadia and Mark this was tough but it happens, u both r great to talk about this as many couples won't talk to each other