Aside from race, what he's saying is so deep and true...you owe your children the very best you have to offer but not for repayment later, only to pour into another to prepare him/her to do the same later in life.
This conversation I should have had with my mother who I supported her despite being married to a bum who refused to work. However, I had no rights and felt as Sidney felt. The same feelings I had to my mother.
The actor that Sidney Poiter is, only comes before us once in a generation. His pathos and deep regard for the craft of acting is beyond words. This scene is legendary and should be played in every acting class where film students are. Well done, "Sir"
Powerful scene by Mr. Sidney Poitier to his father. He made it very clear that I don’t owe you anything you chose or decided in conceiving me. Don’t get credit for choosing a decision no one place a gun to your head to do. Classic moment in film cinema!
It reminds me of a Chris Rock comedy bit where he talks about how some people want extra credit for things that they are just SUPPOSED to do! If you bring a life into this world, you are SUPPOSED to do EVERYTHING YOU CAN to set him or her up for life and survival!
This is my favorite speech of all time! Every parent should hear this, especially my mother. Always throwing in my face what she did for my brother and i. We didn't ask to be here and i told her if i had the choice of whom my parents should be she wouldn't even be on the list. I always say not everyone is meant to be a parent.
Cress you damn right! With all my heart I wished I could have said this to my mother who wouldn't work but kept dumping her problems on my shoulder until Iit too a loan to get the hell out that hell house!
Cress- you said a "mouthful!" You see some in the Hispanic community or poor ones- the parents have children as an agenda to have us work so they can sit on their "butts" and reap the profit. Not everyone in my mother's family was like that but she was.
Cress Reeves be grateful though. Many presents do more than they should because some kids don’t just get it. Not matter what we aspire for we all have different means to it. Don’t make someone’s way yours, it may not lead to the same end. Follow your path.
This is an incredible speech Sidney Poitier gave to his father as I wished I had given to my mother. It made me realized I felt as Sidney did. However, his father did more than my own mother but expected me to support her for the rest of her life which she wanted a "free ride" which was tough for me with a high school diploma and no further education because I was paying a mortgage with my older sister to help support this parent with, he lazy husband. So how, I made my intentions clear once I turned 28 and moved out to have the life I wanted and got. The sad truth - she resented me for wanting a life of my own.
This scene replayed itself in my mind for years. And I finally saw it again here for the first time. It made me cry. Thank you for sharing this memorable moment.
Rest In Peace Mr Poitier🙏🏾💓Not only were you an intelligent, beautiful and fine actor, you also carried yourself with dignity and grace, which is rare for Hollywood actors today
You cut off one of the biggest points in the entire scene..."You're my father. I'm your son, I love you. I always have and I always will. But you think of yourself as a colored man. I think of myself... as a man."
A "coloured " man is a man. So to me old Sidney makes a feeble case. The best partner for a black man is a black woman .. very simple. How beautiful and natural it is to see a black family and also a white family exactly how nature intended.. Anyone who negates this has lost there mind even if its a long time ago.
And this is very complex.. It deals with race, parent child relations, pain , and other issues....overall one of the best scenes ever IMO. For those who say it has nothing to do with race...you have to see it all....race plays a big part in how these 2 characters function and how they see them selves. This clip cuts the very last part off, which highlights one seeing himself as a racial entity and the other as a person.
First time i heard this dialogue, especially the ‘I owe you nothing… because you brought me into this world.. and from that day you owe me…. ‘ i live by this with my son and his 1/2 sister (my god daughter)
On the one hand, I appreciate the commentors for adding the additional lines of dialog that are missing from the cut. On the other hand, because the OP didn't post those lines, this scene became hugely universal to the human experience in a way it wasn't with those last two lines, as moving as they are.
You can only be correct, if you restrict the meaning of those final lines, to people of color, when, in point of fact, those final lines apply to ANYONE who thinks of himself in an exclusive, or hyphenated manner. Too many think of themselves as an xyz-American, or Person. Those final lines are important because they preclude exclusivity of any kind.
I find impossible to hold back the tears every single time i watch this unbelievably touching scene ... this movie is really a masterpiece without time ...
de78show: I agree...this is much bigger than race...What Sidney is saying trancends race, its something anyone can identify with regards to being an "adult child". Thanks again for posting. It's my favorite movie quote ever and makes me think of my mom.
No green screen or outrageous costumes, just incredible acting based on excellent dialogue. Is there anybody alive today under the age of thirty who can "act" like that? Me thinks not.
I think some parents look at their kids as a possession, or something that they have dominion over. Yet the most loving thing that you can do for your child is, after you raise them and, hopefully, teach them what you can, let them go. Yes, it will break your heart, and you will still feel like you need to protect them, but you have to let them go. There are things you can’t teach them, that they have to learn on their own. You can’t protect them from everything. All you can do is love them.
I love this scene because its so true we owe are parents respect but what they did or do there suppose to do for us that the agreement the first day that sperm cell takes root. An I like when Sidney say's his father sees himself as a black man he sees himself as a man. (Bravo) skin color is surface but your a human being first. I just see myself as a human being and I get along with all kinds of people that way. I think people would get along better that way.💝
Amazing that there was a time, some script writers had a wonderful grasp of life, and the truth, in general. I do wish, the uploader had'nt cut the last line of this debate. Poitier says to his "father", : "You think of yourself as a colored man, I think of myself...as a man !" Very pertinent, in a day, where so many are "HYPHENATED" individuals, or Americans. Why can't we all just be Amercan ? Citizens of the nation we populate !
OMG !!!!! You cut off before Sidney gives one of the best lines in cinema history . To his father says : "You think of yourself as a colored man, I think of myself ......as a man " Bravo Sidney !!!!!! He is in two of my favorite movies of all time , this one and --To Sir with Love-- Sidney Poitier is one of the best actors ever !!!
I agree with parts of what each of them say here. The son should not be telling his father to shut up, that was out of line. Also, the son does owe his father respect and gratitude. The son is right also, he must find his own way in life, not as a colored man but as a man. I love Sidney Poitier and for the first time in my life watched Lilies of the Field a couple days ago. Beautiful film.
Respect and gratitude is not owed, to anyone. It must be earned, by everyone. The son has every right to speak to his father as he pleases. They are equals, two human beings. Children are not possessions. Children are not to act blindly and are not bound to a lifelong formal address of their parents.
You are correct. The "...shut up..." was rude and ill thought out. Each man does indeed, show his faults, here. That is also the brilliance of this scene. While Poitier's character is basically, correct, he does have that moment of emotional lapse. His "father" deserves the son's love and respect. And I think we see that, at the end of the speech. The Poitier character is under tremendous pressure, does lose it, for a moment there.
The way the father talks, he sounds a lot like Willy Loman in Arthur Miller's DEATH OF A SALESMAN from 1949. It just goes to show how influential that character was on American movies and plays.
kkoo, I cannot speak for what you experienced as a child of your father, mine (a HS dropout) on the other hand sacrificed his life, time, and money, so his 4 children could be educated at private schools and graduate from universities. We were more sophisticated, educated & were able to provide for our families even better than he did, but without it being necessary for us to work 7 days a week like he HAD to. He was the reason why. On the rare occasions my dad was out of line? I bit my lip!
such a shame that this was truncated just before Poitier's most important words, "I love you, but you think of yourself as a *colored* man. I think of myself as a man."
This scene in this movie about generation gap. I have heard the generation gap in America a lot recently especially with political opinions. So good listening to older generations opinions but young people educated me on what they call modern politics. I learn about music and culture I how society has changed
Isn't Poitier a bit harsh with his father? Matt Drayton's position was quite the same and Poitier said he would respect it even if it implied the cancellation of the marriage, and when it comes to his father, he attacks him, unfairly accusing him to be an 'Uncle Tom'. Not that I disagree with everything he said, but I thought he was a bit cruel sometimes, and unfair, especially considering how respectful he was to his stepfather.
This is true when he told him to shut up. But I think, although not saying its justified, his buttons were being pushed BECAUSE it is his dad. That's not uncommon for one's composure to be lost when clashing with someone close to you. Sensitivity is higher compared to someone not close.
Black people don't speak like this to their parents. A white person wrote this scene...this screenplay...this movie. I would never say this to my grand-parents or great-grand parents...it's so disrespectful of their sacrifices, and suffering. I bet a Jewish person wouldn't write a scene like this where their children disrespected the sacrifices of their ancestors who survived the Holocaust .
No, fathers have to understand they raised their children the best they can in order for their independent children go forward to continue with their own lives with the knowledge and wisdom they received from parent.
Aside from race, what he's saying is so deep and true...you owe your children the very best you have to offer but not for repayment later, only to pour into another to prepare him/her to do the same later in life.
Amen!
If investing in and doing the best for one’s children is not payment enough then they shouldn’t have kids
Beautifully put! I recently told my 58 yr old son,just bc I gave birth to you…doesn’t mean you owe me anything!
@@DippyHippieI had to tell my mother this over the last few years and, sadly, it put a lot of distance between.
This conversation I should have had with my mother who I supported her despite being married to a bum who refused to work. However, I had no rights and felt as Sidney felt. The same feelings I had to my mother.
Pointier is 40 years old making this speech. He's the voice off a whole generation here. 67 was a good year for him.
Consider the trifecta--In The Heat of the Night, To Sir With Love, and, of course, Guess Who's Coming to Dinner.
The actor that Sidney Poiter is, only comes before us once in a generation. His pathos and deep regard for the craft of acting is beyond words. This scene is legendary and should be played in every acting class where film students are. Well done, "Sir"
So not true. They just don't get the opportunities to shine.
What part is not true ? I'd really
ike to know.
Rip to a phenomenal actor, Sidney Portier.
Wow. This blew me tf away. Why don't we have movies like this anymore???
D.E.I
@@avantegarde7797
Ahh the latest conservative buzzword. First sjw, then woke, then CRT, now DEI. Let's see what comes next in a couple of months.
Powerful scene by Mr. Sidney Poitier to his father. He made it very clear that I don’t owe you anything you chose or decided in conceiving me. Don’t get credit for choosing a decision no one place a gun to your head to do. Classic moment in film cinema!
Yep,.
It reminds me of a Chris Rock comedy bit where he talks about how some people want extra credit for things that they are just SUPPOSED to do! If you bring a life into this world, you are SUPPOSED to do EVERYTHING YOU CAN to set him or her up for life and survival!
The most powerful movie scene ever!!!
I don't know about "most" but definitely top 5.
This is my favorite speech of all time! Every parent should hear this, especially my mother. Always throwing in my face what she did for my brother and i. We didn't ask to be here and i told her if i had the choice of whom my parents should be she wouldn't even be on the list. I always say not everyone is meant to be a parent.
Cress Reeves but it is a collosal generational gap problem
Cress you damn right! With all my heart I wished I could have said this to my mother who wouldn't work but kept dumping her problems on my shoulder until Iit too a loan to get the hell out that hell house!
Cress- you said a "mouthful!" You see some in the Hispanic community or poor ones-
the parents have children as an agenda to have us work so they can sit on their "butts"
and reap the profit. Not everyone in my mother's family was like that but she was.
Cress Reeves be grateful though. Many presents do more than they should because some kids don’t just get it. Not matter what we aspire for we all have different means to it. Don’t make someone’s way yours, it may not lead to the same end. Follow your path.
It's so sad when parents do not even know who their kids are and only see them as an extension of themselves.
This is an incredible speech Sidney Poitier gave to his father as I wished I had given to my mother. It made me realized I felt as Sidney did. However, his father did more than my own mother but expected me to support her for the rest of her life which she wanted a "free ride" which was tough for me with a high school diploma and no further education because I was paying a mortgage with my older sister to help support this parent with, he lazy husband. So how, I made my intentions clear once I turned 28 and moved out to have the life I wanted and got. The sad truth - she resented me for wanting a life of my own.
My mother straight up told me this speech doesn't apply to me
Sad news today.
Sidney Poitier 1927-2022.
He blessed us all with his talent.
[Sidney Poitier] "owned" this role and this line. He will be missed 😢
SO PROFOUND IN EVERY GENERATION!!!!
This scene replayed itself in my mind for years. And I finally saw it again here for the first time. It made me cry. Thank you for sharing this memorable moment.
They need to put this on a banner for all those narcissistic parents! Damn right, "I owe you nothing!".
I need to memorized this speech so I can recite it word for word at my mother god I love this speech
Such a powerful performance by Sidney Poitier. Rest in Power.
I learned Syndey's speech by heart as a kid, I loved it so much!!!
By far the best scene in movie history ever and excellent acting
Rest In Peace Mr Poitier🙏🏾💓Not only were you an intelligent, beautiful and fine actor, you also carried yourself with dignity and grace, which is rare for Hollywood actors today
Thanks so much for posting.
You cut off one of the biggest points in the entire scene..."You're my father. I'm your son, I love you. I always have and I always will.
But you think of yourself as a colored man.
I think of myself... as a man."
Thanks for posting that. Very important lines left out!
thanks for saying that, cause I was waiting for it, cause it cut to soon
Exactly. that's the best line of the scene. It would have taken , what, 10 more seconds??
That was an incredible speech no matter what race you are.
A "coloured " man is a man. So to me old Sidney makes a feeble case. The best partner for a black man is a black woman .. very simple. How beautiful and natural it is to see a black family and also a white family exactly how nature intended.. Anyone who negates this has lost there mind even if its a long time ago.
I wondered if I was going to cry after hearing the sad news of Sidney’s passing today. After watching this scene, I wonder no more. RIP
Sydnie Portier ,
You are a great Alchemist of the soul .
I miss You
Long Goodbye
I love this scene, so valid even today.
Powerful and emotionally heartfelt scene.
And this is very complex.. It deals with race, parent child relations, pain , and other issues....overall one of the best scenes ever IMO. For those who say it has nothing to do with race...you have to see it all....race plays a big part in how these 2 characters function and how they see them selves. This clip cuts the very last part off, which highlights one seeing himself as a racial entity and the other as a person.
It's actually quite simple, and syraight forward..you're really over thinking on this one !
First time i heard this dialogue, especially the ‘I owe you nothing… because you brought me into this world.. and from that day you owe me…. ‘ i live by this with my son and his 1/2 sister (my god daughter)
I sent this to my mother just seconds ago.
Best actor that ever came through Hollywood, literally
Wow 😳 that's a powerful statement, he deserves a Oscar
I LOVE THIS SPEECH WISH I HAD SAID THIS TO MY NARCISSIST MOTHER!
Beautifully written, beautifully acted by both Poitier and Roy Glenn.
On the one hand, I appreciate the commentors for adding the additional lines of dialog that are missing from the cut. On the other hand, because the OP didn't post those lines, this scene became hugely universal to the human experience in a way it wasn't with those last two lines, as moving as they are.
You can only be correct, if you restrict the meaning of those final lines, to people of color, when, in point of fact, those final lines apply to ANYONE who thinks of himself in an exclusive, or hyphenated manner. Too many think of themselves as an xyz-American, or Person. Those final lines are important because they preclude exclusivity of any kind.
Sydney Poitier at his best Powerful and to the point. A Great actor.
My fave scene from this great movie.
Wow. Bloody hell, what a heavy scene. That was fire
Powerful! Every parent, especially Indian, should hear Poitier's words. 🙏🏼👏🏼
OMG!!!! THIS'[S PRICELESS!!!! What Amazing actor , so Great !!!!! We all are going to miss you, Sydney. Love from Australia
This is a Great scene to study for a monologue! I absolutely LOVE this movie, it is a classic & one of favorite movies!
I find impossible to hold back the tears every single time i watch this unbelievably touching scene ... this movie is really a masterpiece without time ...
de78show: I agree...this is much bigger than race...What Sidney is saying trancends race, its something anyone can identify with regards to being an "adult child". Thanks again for posting. It's my favorite movie quote ever and makes me think of my mom.
Every parent should hear Sidney's speech in this scene!
This scene was unbelievable,,,!!!!!!!!
Farewell Sidney. Thanks for the memories.
No green screen or outrageous costumes, just incredible acting based on excellent dialogue. Is there anybody alive today under the age of thirty who can "act" like that? Me thinks not.
What a powerful acting.
It's missing the end - the most important part of Poitier's speech.
"You think of yourself as a colored man. I think of myself as a man."
"That's the first thing you said that makes any sense."
I couldn't help but laugh at that comment.
I also love how calmly he said it! 👍
powerful.
This is the greatest example of a master class in acting...
@hlywdplayer That was perfectly articulated. I didn't know that line. Thank you for that.
I have a son and I think about this scene a lot
me too, i must remember this in the future
best scene ever
Hello Maria . Hope you’re having a great day?
I think some parents look at their kids as a possession, or something that they have dominion over. Yet the most loving thing that you can do for your child is, after you raise them and, hopefully, teach them what you can, let them go. Yes, it will break your heart, and you will still feel like you need to protect them, but you have to let them go. There are things you can’t teach them, that they have to learn on their own. You can’t protect them from everything. All you can do is love them.
yep,.
if only i could speak as fluently as sidney in my parent's native language
I love this scene because its so true we owe are parents respect but what they did or do there suppose to do for us that the agreement the first day that sperm cell takes root. An I like when Sidney say's his father sees himself as a black man he sees himself as a man. (Bravo) skin color is surface but your a human being first. I just see myself as a human being and I get along with all kinds of people that way. I think people would get along better that way.💝
True, indeed.
Yes yes good movie man!
Great film 😍
Thanks de78show for uploading this regardless if U cut that part...I show this clip to everyone because it means so much to me :-)
Well damn.. This is great.
I love your comment....simple, and to the point
This is the most Brilliant speech made by Sidney Poitier. ❤️
Such a great scene.
He said,his mind,made things straight with his father,that he was his own man,took charge of his own life,well done!
Dammit! That is good acting!
Love this
So your children can have a better life and future then you had
Amazing that there was a time, some script writers had a wonderful grasp of life, and the truth, in general. I do wish, the uploader had'nt cut the last line of this debate. Poitier says to his "father", : "You think of yourself as a colored man, I think of myself...as a man !" Very pertinent, in a day, where so many are "HYPHENATED" individuals, or Americans. Why can't we all just be Amercan ? Citizens of the nation we populate !
Sydney, such a great actor.
So much like "A raising in the sun" with Sidney vs. the mother.
Rip, Sidney Poitier
🙏🌹🌹
Asian parents should watch this movie
And Latino parents.
Every parent. Especially the white ones.
powerful scene
Excellent
What a great acter
As Chris Rock said, "'I take care of my kids! ' You're SUPPOSED to take care of your kids!"
OMG !!!!!
You cut off before Sidney gives one of the best lines in cinema history .
To his father says :
"You think of yourself as a colored man, I think of myself ......as a man "
Bravo Sidney !!!!!! He is in two of my favorite movies of all time , this one and
--To Sir with Love-- Sidney Poitier is one of the best actors ever !!!
I agree with parts of what each of them say here. The son should not be telling his father to shut up, that was out of line. Also, the son does owe his father respect and gratitude. The son is right also, he must find his own way in life, not as a colored man but as a man. I love Sidney Poitier and for the first time in my life watched Lilies of the Field a couple days ago. Beautiful film.
Respect and gratitude is not owed, to anyone. It must be earned, by everyone. The son has every right to speak to his father as he pleases. They are equals, two human beings. Children are not possessions. Children are not to act blindly and are not bound to a lifelong formal address of their parents.
You are correct. The "...shut up..." was rude and ill thought out. Each man does indeed, show his faults, here. That is also the brilliance of this scene. While Poitier's character is basically, correct, he does have that moment of emotional lapse. His "father" deserves the son's love and respect. And I think we see that, at the end of the speech. The Poitier character is under tremendous pressure, does lose it, for a moment there.
I want him so much, he’s so handsome
Wow❤
@de78show
I agree completely. The whole point of this speech is NOT being of ANY color, but being a son and a dad and growing up.
AMEN!!
WHAT A SCENE IS IT NOT!!!>>>WOW>
hes right, but his name was SIDNEY POITIER. one of the best actors ever, my generation. class of 1973 here.
The way the father talks, he sounds a lot like Willy Loman in Arthur Miller's DEATH OF A SALESMAN from 1949. It just goes to show how influential that character was on American movies and plays.
RIP SIdney Poitier: 1927-2022
kkoo, I cannot speak for what you experienced as a child of your father, mine (a HS dropout) on the other hand sacrificed his life, time, and money, so his 4 children could be educated at private schools and graduate from universities. We were more sophisticated, educated & were able to provide for our families even better than he did, but without it being necessary for us to work 7 days a week like he HAD to. He was the reason why. On the rare occasions my dad was out of line? I bit my lip!
Every boomer grandparent needs to be reminded of this scene and its message.
Love it
I am here today for obvious reasons 2022-01-07
@de78show Agreed. This is an amazing scene that brings in a whole new theme to a wonderful movie.
You tell him, Sidney! ;-)
Brillante, sobresaliente !
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Why did you cut off the end of the speech? That was the most pertinent part...
such a shame that this was truncated just before Poitier's most important words, "I love you, but you think of yourself as a *colored* man. I think of myself as a man."
Agreed ...YT probably would've banned it tho. 🙄
My thought precisely. Thank you. Such a crucial point to have been omitted.
This scene in this movie about generation gap. I have heard the generation gap in America a lot recently especially with political opinions. So good listening to older generations opinions but young people educated me on what they call modern politics. I learn about music and culture I how society has changed
Did Roy Glenn (father) crack any type of smile in that whole movie? I can't remember.
Well, we see him smiling when he first arrives at the airport if that counts.
In that scene, HE DID NOT ! Only a grimmacing scowl. Yikes !
@TheKenfig Truly is.
This seems like a scene that got cut from the Black Panther movie (the 1st movie)
Isn't Poitier a bit harsh with his father? Matt Drayton's position was quite the same and Poitier said he would respect it even if it implied the cancellation of the marriage, and when it comes to his father, he attacks him, unfairly accusing him to be an 'Uncle Tom'. Not that I disagree with everything he said, but I thought he was a bit cruel sometimes, and unfair, especially considering how respectful he was to his stepfather.
This is true when he told him to shut up. But I think, although not saying its justified, his buttons were being pushed BECAUSE it is his dad. That's not uncommon for one's composure to be lost when clashing with someone close to you. Sensitivity is higher compared to someone not close.
Black people don't speak like this to their parents. A white person wrote this scene...this screenplay...this movie. I would never say this to my grand-parents or great-grand parents...it's so disrespectful of their sacrifices, and suffering. I bet a Jewish person wouldn't write a scene like this where their children disrespected the sacrifices of their ancestors who survived the Holocaust .
No, fathers have to understand they raised their children the best they can in order for their independent children go forward to continue with their own lives with the knowledge and wisdom they received from parent.
RIP Brotha