This is good! Wondering how to implement the technique when a child talks back to another adult in front of you, like a teacher or friend’s parent. This is my current dilemma.
I wish we could just hire you 😂 I’m sure you have heard that many times. my five children are really draining my husband and myself lately. And my 10 year old really has a back talking problem. We can’t even get him to see he is doing it as he believes everyone back talks. And even attempting to explain it to him causes him to get more argumentative and defensive.
Nicholeen, When a child gets overwhelmed and escalated or grows the sense of being treated unfairly because the parent gets what they want and they don't then disagreeing appropriately may go out the window and they may talk back or say no to what the parent wants from them. Trust me, I mumbled at my parents on numerous occasions back when I was an autistic child and on rare occasions that risked them threatening to pull the belt out and start whippin` butt. Never use a child's respect as a license to provoke their anguish nor dictate their response when they are angry nor dictate what should or should not cause them anguish. Refuse to argue with a child. Give the child time and space to process and deescalate. Be consistent and model what you want to see the child be like. And ultimately, that child might begin to come back around to you.
Such great advice! I’m new to your teachings and am curious if you’ve talked about reconnecting with a teen after it seems you’ve lost their heart and they’ve pulled away. My daughter just turned 16 and we had a great relationship up until about one year ago after she did some sneaky stuff with her phone. Started a friendship with someone online and hid this secret. Sigh….. Thank you
The drop the subject part. Wondering if some of the neuro diverse teens you fostered found that the hardest good habit to learn? It goes so against the grain for strong willed kids, doesn't it.
This is good! Wondering how to implement the technique when a child talks back to another adult in front of you, like a teacher or friend’s parent. This is my current dilemma.
Honestly, I think this will help me with my husband even more.
I wish we could just hire you 😂 I’m sure you have heard that many times. my five children are really draining my husband and myself lately. And my 10 year old really has a back talking problem. We can’t even get him to see he is doing it as he believes everyone back talks. And even attempting to explain it to him causes him to get more argumentative and defensive.
Nicholeen,
When a child gets overwhelmed and escalated or grows the sense of being treated unfairly because the parent gets what they want and they don't then disagreeing appropriately may go out the window and they may talk back or say no to what the parent wants from them.
Trust me, I mumbled at my parents on numerous occasions back when I was an autistic child and on rare occasions that risked them threatening to pull the belt out and start whippin` butt.
Never use a child's respect as a license to provoke their anguish nor dictate their response when they are angry nor dictate what should or should not cause them anguish. Refuse to argue with a child. Give the child time and space to process and deescalate.
Be consistent and model what you want to see the child be like.
And ultimately, that child might begin to come back around to you.
This is extremely helpful! Thank you!!
Such great advice! I’m new to your teachings and am curious if you’ve talked about reconnecting with a teen after it seems you’ve lost their heart and they’ve pulled away. My daughter just turned 16 and we had a great relationship up until about one year ago after she did some sneaky stuff with her phone. Started a friendship with someone online and hid this secret. Sigh….. Thank you
The drop the subject part. Wondering if some of the neuro diverse teens you fostered found that the hardest good habit to learn? It goes so against the grain for strong willed kids, doesn't it.
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Im dealing 😂with an adult child and living with them