🌟What Clutter Does to Your Brain & How to Declutter for Good! | TRACY McCUBBIN
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- Опубліковано 12 чер 2019
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Today I’ll be talking with decluttering expert Tracy McCubbin, founder of dClutterfly and the author of a liberating, excavating new book, Making Space, Clutter Free.
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Tracy always referred to herself as “Obsessive Compulsive Delightful,” but who knew she could turn that trait into a booming business? While working for a major television director in Los Angeles, Tracy discovered she had the ability to see through any mess and clearly envision a clutter-free space. Coupled with keen time management and organizational skills, Tracy soon found more and more people were asking her for help. Before she knew it, dClutterfly was born.
Ten years and thousands of clients later, dClutterfly is Los Angeles’ premier organizing and decluttering company. Tracy is a regularly featured expert on Hallmark’s Home & Family, has a column on MindBodyGreen, and has regular declutter segments on Fox 5 and ABC Eyewitness News, KTLA Morning Show, KCAL9, and Good Day Sacramento. She and her company have also been featured in Real Simple, Women’s Day and ShopSmart.
When not decluttering, she is the proud Co-Executive Director of OneKid OneWorld, a non-profit building strong educational foundations for children in impoverished communities throughout Kenya and Central America.
She lives in Los Angeles and knows where her keys are.
Key Topics:
* Is our clutter killing us?
* What can we learn from the kitchens and carrots study?
* What happens to our cortisol levels when there is clutter?
* Does science show that clutter decreases happiness?
* How does clutter affect our (and our kids’) focus and concentration?
* What led to the clutter crisis in the 90s?
* How did Tracy discover her dad was a hoarder?
* When it comes to clutter, are we just lazy and disorganized?
* Is clutter an emotional issue?
* What are the seven emotional blocks to clutter?
* What can clutter tell us room by room?
* What can we learn from clutter in our kitchen?
* What can we learn from clutter in our entryway?
* What can we learn from clutter in our living room?
* What secrets do our bedrooms hold?
* What do we need to know about our garages and attics?
* What are the five decluttering questions?
* What on earth do we do with our kids’ rooms?
Terrific interview! Thank you! With the death of my wife and two sons, I've downsized 3 times. Moved into a new home, with a clutter free life. It is so liberating mentally, emotionally and physically. The memory of my loved ones is in my heart and head, not with clutter. It's been nice.
im so sorry for ur losses. 🥺
So, sorry for your loss as well. I'm glad you found a way to get some peace where you can!😇
I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you’ve found some healing ❤️
"Done is better than perfect." "Clutter is a Constant To-Do List and leads to Decision Fatigue." "Your closet at the end of the day is a tool for you to get dressed ...in a healthy, non-stressful way. Set yourself up for success... don't start the day in a panic." "Clutter is directly related to stress." WOW. YES. AMEN.
Love that "Done is better than perfect"... so powerful
@@MyOver50 Exactly, we spend so much time trying to make things perfect that we end up not getting anywhere. Just doing it, getting it done - that is the key!
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Done is better than perfect. This even rhymes in my language: “Feito é melhor que perfeito.”Thank you.
The biggest ahh ha moment to me was when Tracy said "Clutter is a to-do list" I spend all my free time trying to move clutter around, organizing it in boxes, deciding to keep it or not.... This is it for me. It is gone. By this weekend it is gone. I will donate and give away till I'm blue in the face, but this is NOT consuming my life anymore. My next to-do list will begin with taking my grandson to the zoo, planting that new plant outside, giving myself a facial.... what a waste of precious time things have robbed me of.
Congratulations Joyce on making the shift. I know you will feel a new freedom.
exactly that's what got me too I'm so sick of moving all this crap around and that's what I spend most of my time doing.... I want to be free!!!!!
clutter is a to do list, so true, never looked at that way.... and time to put that donate stuff in the car, I've been staring at since Thanksgiving !!! OMG
Joyce, it’s a month later; how did it go?
Joyce was you able to declutter as much as you wanted?
I have 5 garbage bags going on 6 on it's way to the Goodwill. I just simply can't take the stuff anymore. It's so liberating.
I’m doing it right now, I’m in bag #1. More to go!
Great job and Me too I’m finally getting rid of all the STUFF that has been keeping me so stuck and stressed! I’m tired of managing all this random stuff I’ve collected too, it will no longer hold emotional sentimental power over me!
It feels great! Each item and bag I got rid of felt like another 5lbs lifted off my shoulders.
@@pdlc3581 YES! You know the feeling
@@loj3268 You got that right hun. Good for you
“Clutter is a constant to do list.” This advice is so true and priceless!
It really is! 😊
Loved it so much I started on the kitchen before video was over
But how do you keep going, cause I look at it and it is so overwhelming.
@@bonjobi2860 It can definitely be overwhelming. Start again with one thing, make a decision about the item. Then just keep doing that over and over until your home is how you want it.
Oh, and take breaks when you need them. Every big job is just a bunch of small jobs. Once the small jobs are done, so is the big one.
Years ago I inherited my grandmother's teacups. I really love them, and they remind me of her. And I was using them before I moved to my mother's house. I broke one, and it was no big deal. Use your heirlooms. Enjoy them.
I'm using my great-grandmothers special teacups, and I feel like a queen every time. They sat untouched for special occasions that never came, for decades. Enough!
Wow, I really like what she said about and does with backpacks. I was that "foster kid" that she's speaking of. It got bad when I was 12 or 13. I was moved in and out of 5 foster homes in the matter of 3 years. Talking about and actually donating her backpacks is doing a huge service to kids that dont have all that much, including a father or mother, to love look after & provide [backpacks] for these kids. It means sooo much to foster kids (As I was) when stuff like this is donated to them. I really experienced kindness and love from communities that didn't even know my name. Even after being in the foster system for a few years, I was still in crisis mode and once people found out my situation and why and how I became a foster kid in the 1st place, a lot of people wanted to help me anyway they could, not with $ but with positivd relationships mentorship and odd jobs to take my mind off me losing my whole family. So, thank you very much. You hit a soft spot in me when you said this and you are 100 percent with what you just said. God Bless You
God Bless every one who helped me understand what love, kindness and stability really is, really what it means.
Westside dannyboy I met the BAD fosterers. who can in a jiffy turn the child 'bad' but it is their doing as the want to appear 'good". but the child is good but the fosterer is evil. not all there are some angels out there.
In the UK and Australia they still carry their possessions around in black bin liners despite somebody years ago raising awareness and organising a fundraiser to buy suitcases for them.
It takes a powerfully strong person to be incredibly vulnerable, and vulnerability is how we feel love. You have invited love into your life by being vulnerable. We are sending you the love you deserve...❤️
@@lemsip207 Why? Is there a reasonable and compassionate reason for this choice by the foster care authorities? Please reply, I sincerely want to understand. Thank you.
Westside Dannyboy...your story is so sad. When a friend of my son (they were about 11) was dealing with an alcoholic mother, and no dad, my son came to me and asked if his friend could stay a few days. Long story short, my husband and I took foster parenting classes (much of which INFURIATED me!) just so this kid would not have to go into the system, but stay with us, and on his birthday, December 23, and 2 days before Christmas, we got actual custody of him. All of us were so happy. He had an amazing b'day and Christmas that year and was with us until he graduated high school and a bit after. He still comes and sees me and is still "bro's" with my son. I feel so bad for what YOU went through, but I learned that the training that they give to/for foster parents is absolute BS and just plain lousy, and NOT conducive to the love a young person in trouble needs. I am so sorry we failed you, and I pray that God will bless you as you go on the rest of your journey! Take care, my love...
Thank you 💗. I gave up shopping after divorce. I only buy essential healthy food. I pay my bills online. I get rid of things little by little from my home, and feel ighter for everything I get rid of.
Congrats, Pauline! I am excited to soon do this too!
I did the same thing. I think my shopping was fulfilling a need that my ex-husband wouldn't fill.
I'm so much happier now and I don't even shop unless it's for necessities.
In 2009 I read 'Clearing your clutter with Feng shui ' & it changed my life. To this day I have a very clean, simple & highly organized home. & I love when people start with decluttering as it can lead to many beneficial things in future.
Christine Anne I'm pretty sure I have two copies of that book... both lost in my clutter. Well done, you, for actually changing your life for keeps. I need to revisit, that book was life changing for me, too. Way back when. 🤓
That is so awesome! I am so motivated that you read “Clearing your clutter with Feng shui”. How did “Clearing your clutter with Feng shui” change your life?
@@GODpermeatesEveryWherewhen I began decluttering I was in a very unhappy & unhealthy marriage & the Process released alot of bottled up emotions. I continued until I left all my belongings & the house to my ex, found a new life and a new love 😀 & to this day I live clutter-free.
I can't say it, but I did read it! I simply cannot GET IT! Call me stupid, because I could NOT understand it!
Deb Judisch you're not stupid! I am not sure what you're referring to, but please don't judge yourself, not every book make sense to everyone in the same way. Change can take time. Letting go can take time. I like to watch videos more than actually clear my clutter. 😇
My mom had a drawer filled with lovely pajama sets she received as gifts beginning in the early 1970s. I loved looking at them when I was a little girl, and when I asked my mom why didn't she wear the pretty, silky pajamas and robes she told me she was "saving" them so she would have nice garments to wear if she traveled or was hospitalized. My mother passed away in 2019 at age 74 and her lovely (now vintage) pajamas and robes are still neatly folded in that drawer.
So you are wearing them? Sorry about your mom.
@@deadmanswife3625 I would love to, but my mom was a tiny, little thing and I'm a fattie. :)
@@lynnfendlason4277 girl shred that heavy feeling. Or send them to me. I'm a fattie losing cares & woes by the week.
Make a quilt out of them.
@@tanyaivory8528 or certainly wear them yourself
27:25. “Clutter is a constant to do list.” Wow. Lots of gems in here, but this one SHINES in my world. 🙏🏻
I had a mover tell me that everyone should move every 5 years to declutter. Or at least pretend they are moving. I'm sure he's seen a lot of useless stuff packed up!
Absolutely. I spend hours organising my food cupboard, even having to write dates on food, as I cant see the small writing. And just realised its because I buy too much each time. i shop online and shop every 4-5 weeks, as i hate shopping.
@@patsyw4141 hi pat I live alone with my cat and come back sometimes with 3 or 4 bags of food.!!!
My ex and I used to move about every 3 years... meaning, we got rid of 90% of everything...
Great advice. Thanks for sharing 💖
I am pretending to move also...and who knows it is so exciting thinking about it, I just might do that....either way the house will be much neater and feel lighter when I am done. Thanks for the tip!
For memorabilia, my best weapon is my camera or phone. I take pictures of the stuff (even clothes), and upload them to the computer. Then I get rid of the stuff, either by donating, selling, or tossing it. I find that I look at the photos and reminisce much more often than I ever pulled out the old things to look at.
What a great idea, Shiboline! I certainly agree that memories are more precious compared to material things. ❤️
@@inspirenation Thank you! 🙂
I do this too...recently took pics of my beauty pagent trophies then through them out
I did the same with all the artwork my son painted from nursery and primary school. I kept a few though, and have framed them. It's a great idea and I think I'll do the same with my stuff too 😁👍
Brilliant tip Shiboline!
l carry too much emotional stuff from place to place which COSTS. l still have my dance costumes from Age 4 so now l can photograph them instead 📸 There will never be anyone interested to show them to - but l will still have the images to marvel how teeny + brave l was going on stage 🎭👯♀️ 😘
I’ve been telling myself “progress not perfection” and it helps me to move forward.
Yes! You can do it, RJ F! 💕
16 years ago, I moved into my current house; this house was my husband's house (and his exwife and kids' house). Even though he threw out his ex's belongings he was holding onto the crappola that belonged to his kids in their childhood. I had some of my kids items there as well. When quarantine started in March 2020 I went through EVERYTHING and gave things back to all 5 kids and if they didn't want them I sold them on Facebook marketplace or donated it or threw it out. SO liberating and felt SO good! Don't be afraid to declutter - it's a freeing event. If there's 'something' that I'm not sure about giving up, I put it away and re-visit it some time down the road and make a decision at that point.
I decluttered 30 years worth of old photos while listening to this. It’s my third time through them. I find if I just go fast through them and trust my gut response to each photo and only keep the ones that make my heart react it’s obvious the ones that don’t do it for me anymore. Thank you for the inspiration : )
Good for you! I have been putting this off forever! Ugh. Tupperware containers full of photo albums and ziplock bags of pictures too. Almost fills half my hall closet. 🤷♀️
After living abroad in a small 3 room home, I returned and downsized from a 2700 sq ft home to a 1200 sq foot home. Since then I have donated about 20 boxes of stuff a year. Every week I seem to find more. My goal is to keep only what I love, and to feel no guilt for my antique travel books, my vintage christmas decorations etc. I have started cutting spending beyond Needs to almost nothing. My goal for 2021 is a no spend year.
Same with me .This is so inspiring.
I went a whole year without buying anything for myself....it was back in the 90’s.... going to do my best and do it again now/2021
Just awesome 👏
You guys inspired me! I’ve come a long way in curbing my shopping over the last couple years but I love the challenge of going a whole year! There are no coincidences I’m seeing this today and it’s also my birthday what a perfect day to just START! I’m doing it. Thank you 💓
This is so inspiring.
I'm so sick of holding other peoples junk. Take my space. I'm getting rid of everything. Gonna fly away from all toxic things and people.
Toxicity is truly something we don’t need. You can do it, Unsim Kim! 👍🏼
unsim Kim. I need to get away from a toxic person who lives across the road. but not sure I should give in and move. he is a narcissist. he does or says things to wind me up and it's hurtful things. I need to block myself from dialling his number from my land line and mobile fone. but don't know if such a thing is possible..
@@janeyd5280 good luck! Narcissists are the worst😕
@@janeyd5280 Look up going no contact. Best way to deal with a narcissist is not to. You got this!!!
@@janeyd5280 Hi love, it is easy, you have to get to the conclusion that this person is bad for your health; and just stick to this. Treasure your heart and peace of mind. Decluter! 😄👍 God is love!
I love bright yellow, too -- if there's one thing I wont get rid of, it's an amazing wool J Crew "lady day coat" in French's mustard bright yellow. It's an elegant shape, but the color really pops. I find that wearing the coat is a mood enhancer! People stop me all the time, just random strangers, to smile and say how much they love the color of this coat. "It's so cheerful" or "it brightens up a winter day" etc. Children smile on the subway. I feel a boost from seeing them smile and it makes me smile. Objects you cherish SHOULD be enjoyed rather than saved for later, you should take good care of quality things, and they should make you feel GOOD. :-) You should feel like "whoooooo HOOOOOO". ;-)
i totally agree, plus i love yellow!
I remember a Mom at my daughter's school that wore a bright, cheery yellow raincoat. Her coat always made me smile.
A cluttered home is a sign of a cluttered mind !
Causative or correlation though?
@@leoniejazz7962 both. It's a vicious cycle.
I’ve always felt that the state of your home is a reflection of your mind....
@@favoritemelodies9995 , Absoulutely!
You are so right if I could only make a start it's just so overwhelming and not being able to throw things away because you might need them in the future.
I only found this interview a year after it was published but it came at the perfect time: I’m downsizing from a four bedroom+office+double garage house into a 2 bedroom small apartment. Her guidance is gold for me.
I agree! It came at a perfect time for me too!
Same here. I need to yard sale my apartment.
Watching Hoarders is enough for me to instantly declutter. I don't have much, but it still feels like too much when you look at a hoarders house somehow.😵
Very helpful!!
Good questions and answers.
my refrigerator is never cleaner than it is after I've watched an episode of Hoarders 😂
It's the best motivator for me too
@@swish6754 I wish I CD get that inspiration.!!
Yes !
Please, please more interviews with this amazing lady, thank you 🤗
The attic is a great place to make a library in your home. Put one or two chairs with a small table and lamp near a window, and you will go up there to read.
I can relate to this soooo much!!! Growing up I was OCD about organizing, & now all these years later I am overwhelmed with stuff! It literally weighs me down and I’m on a mission to get my space clear. I also have a mom who is a hoarder so it’s in my DNA. I was raised by a man who was alive during the Great Depression and as a result he became a hoarder because of the fear of not being able to get things. I’m so ready to clear my life out! I love this, & appreciate the content. Very helpful!!! 🙏🏻🙌🏻
Thank you for this...All these years, I thought it was just me. I cannot concentrate or work in a lot of clutter.
They need a show on Amazon: “CLEANING FOR ADHD/ADD” I moved today and threw out so much, all I have is dog food for my dog, a new wardrobe I love from h&m I picked mindfully, the bare basics for the bathroom, a pot a pan a knife, Home Depot mats to sleep on, Home Depot crates I use as tables, 3 pairs of shoes, my electronics, and pillows and blankets..... literally! That... is ... it xD!!!!
As bad as it is, like with ADHD I just can’t have anything in my room, only cabinets can have things in them, and I threw out EVERYTHING I know I haven’t been touching often in the last place I was at. I don’t regret anything I threw away so far xD!
So it's a redo. You're 16 years old just moving out of the house again
@@deadmanswife3625 totally what my first apartment looked like! 🤣🤣
To this I say...at least you have your dog, he has you and he has food! I love that because in what little stuff you DO have, you are taking care of your dog! And with no distractions, he probably gets lots of love. Hope you are loving your journey and God bless...you sound very self-diciplined!
I always had and inkling my clutter problem contributed somehow to my weight problem. Now I have scientific proof. Best interview on decluttering ever! ❤️
I just finished decluttering my linen closet because we are moving. I should have done this years ago, it looks so nice now.
Decluttering always gives such a liberating feeling! 😊
This is my go-to way to de-clutter! I think “if we were going to move, would I want to box and move these items?” CLEAN LIKE YOU’RE MOVING is my mantra. It makes a big difference.
I decluttered our linen cupboard.
I love walking past it as there’s minimal amounts there and it is very freeing.
Three important additions to the conversation: Get a companion to help out, exercise and eat to get your adrenaline working, snd set a date to have company over for dinner to show off your home. Thank you for all the clever and useful sayings which helped create new motivations in my mind for taking action. I will watch this video again.
Great additions, Elizabeth! 💕
I cried when she told the story about the closest. What a beautiful ideal.
Yes in a hectic busy cluttered environment I would need a cookie for comfort.. a carrot would not help me. Now in a clean stress free environment I would feel like I can breathe and feel somewhat organic and stress free so a carrot is raw an organic & healthy. I need more carrots!!
My stress would go from too much clutter to, "OMG...I'm outta carrots!!!!" LOL
This wa a great show. I knew a girl whose house burned down...a big family home stuffed with things from decades. She said it so liberating they all determined to have a much simpler place. I don't think people even question the "Affluenza". Family members who bring is stuff and expect the one housewife to look after it all alone are showing great cruelty. People who stack stuff all over a dining room table are telling others to keep their distance. I hate to get all shrink talk, but I learned after years to read people's actions, not their front. Then there are those who stack their meds and health issues everywhere....the housewife or caregiver MUST have a retreat place inside their own house to get away from the shrines and collections of family members.
I agree with u hundred percent. It's hell cruel when people dump whateva they want on your head to deal. I have decided to b extremely cruel and trash whatever is useless and not needed
A few years ago, I had a bunch of nice smelling lotions I kept saving for “special occasion.” Finally, one day I was like “every day is a special occasion!!” And I used them on a daily basis instead of just collecting dust.
Love, love, love that Nancy and completely agree!!
Yes Iam replacing my loss’s in my life with this stuff I have all over my small home 🏡 I realize this as I listen to you both ☘️☘️🇮🇪🇮🇪🙏
I'm sorry for your loss! Perhaps you can fill the empty space in Your Heart by volunteering doing something you love! And or getting a hobby that you've always thought about wanting to do! There are so many wonderful videos on UA-cam that would make it very easy to learn something fun to do! I wish you the best!
Me too! I wish I had figured this out before spending and accumulating!
@@janebadon3988 perhaps as you go through the things that you have accumulated you can do positive things. Can you have a garage sale? Do you have friends and co-workers that would enjoy receiving these items? Do you have a thrift store that helps an organization that you would like to support that you could donate items to? Or maybe there's a church that would take the items and use them to help people get the things they need for their home. I love Recycling and donating to thrift stores because as I benefit by letting the things go and I know that it is helping others also! I wish you and all who read this the very best!
What a nice conversation.I love the way she gives advice and the same from he in return. They convey good feelings of enjoying your home again by keeping it simple, more like having it ready for company as well.
Yes, exactly! Thank you for putting it succinctly, Elizabeth! ♥️
True about Foster kids stuff being thrown into Garbage Bags... it’s heart breaking that their possessions are tossed into bags because they have no luggage... These kids already feel bad about themselves/ their lives. Please donate small pieces of luggage / backpacks to these organizations.
Cleanliness gives us a very high, attractive frequency.
This is the VERY BEST advice on decluttering that I have seen
Thank you so much for watching! 💕
Best description of clutter I've heard is "visual noise". Clutter is loud! De-cluttering with compassion is when you listen to what each piece is saying before getting rid of it/keeping it. Tends to be a lot of emotion when it's problematic.
Now I really want to build the shelves in my kitchen.
Also... this video is making me very aware that I have more issues than I thought.
I'm very happy for you! And I say that because awareness is the first step towards a solution! Enjoy your de-cluttering journey and have fun choosing the things that you love the most!
You not alone we all have issues!!
@@agnesi8690 Amen😃😃😃
Most thoughtful and useful to donate seasonal items at the beginning of the season.
Even items that are not trash become trash with time, I have to keep this in mind when declutter.
Her book has helped me more than anything else I read
Yes, her book is awesome! Thank you for watching, Ashley! 💕
Yet I'm going to Amazon prime to purchase.... 😂😂😂
@@yukonsusie haha 😆 me too!
I just gave my mother’s cooking implements from the nineteen forties and fifties to a friend who works in the food preparation business for the movies!
I decluttered while listening to this interview! But I have a lot more to do. Great topic and so important.
Me too! Greetings from Australia 😊
I turned it on while decluttering and organizing a bit as well! :-) I’d never watched either of these people before, and enjoyed it. Hello from Germany!
Hey Hippie HW your comment inspired me to do the same so thanks !
Just came across your video very helpful 💕
Me too!!
Thanks for this video…..now the work begins…..let’s declutter!
I love this lady, her energy and her biz.
As I'm listening I am decluttering my room. :)
Me too
I know this is a older video but I'm so happy I came across it because it explains what I been trying to tell the little family I have left because I use to keep my house so clean I would literally clean over stuff I just cleaned but now my home is so full of clutter and dirty I don't even know when the last time I actually dusted are mopped my floors I have been trying to find help like where someone comes here and helps me cause I first had a horrific childhood and then I lost a daughter at 8 months old 3 brothers both my parents but I was still holding myself together yes I had fallen into a deep depression but I had my sister living with me and she helped me so much but I have recently lost her and I have been so depressed and I spend more time in bed and yes shopping online makes me feel so much better but I'm disabled so there is alot of stuff I actually can't do but there is stuff I can do I just can't get the motivation to save my life I do have 1 brother left and 1 son but my son lives 14 hours from me and my brother lives about a hour from me but they are dealing with stuff there self's so I can't ask them to come help me I only have like 2 friends I was married for 32 year's but he abandoned me and moved straight in with another woman and then tried to come back to me but I just couldn't do it because what if he decides to do the same thing I can't go through that pain again I do have a bf but he is straight up lazy he got a job but he hates working and I don't feel like he really cares about me yes he will buy things for me but if I get sick I can't count on him to take care of me it's more like it's his way are no way I have to ask him to fix me soup are something when I'm really sick and I feel I shouldn't have to ask him he knows I'm very sick I feel he should check on me and ask can I get you something when he's sick I am constantly checking on him and asking can I get you anything and I rarely eat so I feel he should clean the kitchen but he thinks it's my job to do everything and 1 thing that annoys me the most is he will leave a trail everywhere he leaves clothes everywhere plates drinks anything you can think of and I actually think he does it on purpose because he knows my house being like this is making me crazy but yet he not only will help me but he adds to it on a daily basis and I have no motivation at all I will go in a room to start but I look at it and it's so overwhelming I just come back to bed and cry and it's been really getting to me I feel I have no choice but to get a professional but I don't know how to find 1so if you could please help me I would be forever grateful to you
Missy...so very sorry about your losses. Life is a road that is not always easily travelled. I recommend watching Laura Moore (clutter clarity) as a start- she really helped me. It is not about our stuff but our relationship with our stuff. Clutter truly is delayed decisions. There is so much you are working through it’s no wonder you are overwhelmed. Start by taking care of yourself first...I’m not sure of your disability or limitations but there are many resources available. I use online books from the library and enjoy the audible books. If possible talk to your doctor/ counsellor about the emotional clutter you are working through. Maybe look into joining a community social arena...coffee club, book club, knitting club, or card playing club (when safe to do so of course. The physical clutter you need to start small...one purse, drawer, tabletop, shelf or room at a time. Before you purchase something try not to impulse buy- I have waited several weeks before I buy something to see how much I really need it. If possible sell what you don’t love on Marketplace and then set up a retirement fund or wellness fund (massage, chiropractor, yoga classes etc) for yourself. Try not to live in the past (depression) or the future (anxiety) but stay focused on the present (that is why it is called a 🎁). Meditation is something I’m trying.
❤️ Your loved ones past and present want you to be happy. Know you are not alone and there are so many people who are struggling with the same things you are going through. Ask for help and advice from the people you trust. Decluttering isn’t something that is done in a day but a life-long process and needs to become a daily habit. Go easy on yourself it’s a personal journey looking at your past self, present self and what you want your future self to be. Remember to enjoy the ride. 🤗
I am sorry for your loss. It sounds like your boyfriend is adding to your stress and to your clutter. Your statement that you don't think he cares about you is concerning. What are you getting out of the relationship? Are you being used? I don't know your age, but there are organizations in some communities that have lists of volunteers who can do odd jobs around your house. When I was in my twenties a few of us from our church got in touch with the local senior center. We used to volunteer to cut grass, clean house, fix gutters, or whatever the person needed. Sometimes they needed help once, other times it was weekly. As we worked it seemed like the most important thing that people wanted was just to talk and know someone cared about them. There may be others who are older but able bodied and would gladly help out if they knew your needs.
This reply is a year after your original comment and I truly hope you have made progress in cleaning your house.
I can relate so much to what you wrote, except I’m not disabled, so I don’t really have any justification for not clearing out my house. I’ve just always had too much stuff, too little storage and too little motivation to tackle the problem. I look at an area I want to clean and I don’t even know where to start….so I don’t.
When I was a kid, my bf and I would go to each other’s house to help clean. It’s so much easier to clean someone else’s place.
I wish I could find someone I trust enough to not judge me, so I could ask for their help.
I wish you the best, just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Peace!
I had 5 bags of self help and psychology books. Nobody would take them. I had the idea to take a bag on a transit ride and leave the odd book on the seat in hope that it could help someone.
I love that!
That’s funny
I used to do that when I traveled..... I would take magazines and read them in the airport and on the plane and would leave them for others to read when i would depart. It helped me make sure I read the magazine, it helped me get rid of it and it also helped me share with others.
Your local library almost certainly has a used bookstore. Assistance league and virtually every thrift store takes books, including self help. And the prison system will take any that are paperback. They have an actual need for them.
Since it was a month ago you may have given them away already but if you happen to have a jail or prison or even rehab centers in your area that might be a good place to donate if they will accept them! Especially self help books.
I use my nice stuff all the time. Wear my good clothes even if I’m home because they make me feel better and ready for the day 🥰
I totally relate to if you have 5 years of taxes next to your bed you are not going to sleep well! Yes, it’s true!
A slow-cooker and an Instant Pot are NOT the same thing. The Instant Pot has a slow-cooker button on in but the heating elements are totally different and in a different place and it can burn your food. the Instant Pot is really designed to be a pressure cooker and that's where it shines. A slow-cooker is designed to cook all day and not burn the food. They only appear to do the same thing to someone who doesn't do a lot of cooking. This was an awesome video, thank you!
Thank YOU 😊 ❤️ CORRECT!
I considered myself a rock hound, but after seeing this, I think I may be a rock/gem hoarder, But, I love, love, love them.
I still have the journal of my trip to Morocco, including three days in the Sahara Desert on a camel. I wrote for two hours every morning. All I had was a backpack. I want to recover the clarity, purity and freedom that I found in the desert, which is why I write: To share those stories and memories to inspire others to make their lives an adventure.
I can honestly say, Amazon has never been a part of my life. (I'm one of the lucky ones.) I do love the new mantra " don't put it down, but put it away! Woooooohoooo!
Inspired by a comment below, I started de-cluttering while listening to this video and got so much done. Even my brain feels better ;) Thanks so much ! Can't wait for Covid restrictions to end so I can donate lots of things I can easily do without. PS Hello from Ireland.
Every thing is said so true. My mother pass last year leave all her lovely stuff. I am overwhelmed with my own. Her too good stuff will go to who??? She never enjoyed them. What a shame. I agree u work hard to have. U are special use yr special stuff. People not hearing this point.
Me too .But we started a year ago .
I not only save my purses (one of every colour to match every outfit) but I still have my mother’s evening bags from when she attended the symphony. She died almost twenty years ago!!
GOOD! Some @$$h0les stole Almost every thing I had that was special... I still hurt from that attack. But, The Lord WILL REPAY "Them." And RESTORE my JOY. I await His JUSTICE. Lisa Rae Rousseau ✝️ TRUTH🙋💖✝️🏁💎🔫🏎️
the laundry room is a great place to be creative in decorating and organizing
OMG I can't make decisons to save my life on a regular basis, even what to order at a restaurant. Its a brain issue I have bad ADD and struggle to complete things. I have been eating TERRIBLE lately and get irritable. This makes so much sense. I want to eat healthy, even buy the food, yet I grab chips and string cheese. Ugggg. thanks for this video. This is what I need to hear, it is killing me and affecting my life on every level.
I used to struggle with that due to not wanting to make the wrong decision so I’d buy all the shoes or none but I hope it will help you to know that rarely will a decision be life or death. Just make a choice in the moment and allow yourself to be human and if not thrilled with that choice, you can choose differently next time and it’ll be ok. 💕🌞
Dana K. WHITE also has great vids about decision making while decluttering.
Me too - Pandemic - being isolated 😞
@@camm8832 she does! Dana is great
im all about the dont put it down put it away. my bedroom is always tidy. and mail! i immediately go thru it when i walk in the door from the mailbox! no reason to stack it up, just open the bills, pay them and throw away the credit card offers and fliers u wont look at. 🎉
I am busy moving home, while listened because I lived in Africa most of my life and you could always give it to someone, I have difficulty just throwing away, but got up and started to do the stuff I was leaving for last, like drawers, thank you for the inspiration ♥️
We’re happy to help, Ivone! And wishing you all the best as you move to a new home! 💕
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Thank you very much! 💕
Tsundoku - piled up, unread books. I know it because I'm so extremely guilty of it! Love this show!
I've just cleared out one cupboard and two drawers and filled a
bag with clothes I no longer need or want..whilst watching this video....thank you so much.....❤
I'm crying listening to this because this is me. Thank you sooo much.
After listening to this I after listening to this i decluttered my kitchen counters! I've been moving my counters have been a mess. Now that the kitchen is tidy I do feel so much better! Thank you!
Great program! I am struggling to declutter big-time and the city is fining me for each day my yard and drive are cluttered with stuff. But I am 70 and physically challenged and slow. No family. Friend says she would come if it weren't for the virus. I had attended a number of churches and recently asked one (U.M.) for help and the minister laughed at me then hung up on me! He even stopped the church lawn guy who wanted to help me. Sometimes a person could really benefit from a buddy to talk to. I slog on as I truly want a clean organized home!
Hang in there rcat32, sending you love. Put the intention out there to draw in the perfect person or persons who can help you, the others were not a good fit! ;)
I had a similar experience with asking churches for help. THREE churches actually!!! Not one has called me with an offer to help…and money wasn’t an issue…never asked for any financial assistance whatsoever, and wouldn’t even if I needed it. In fact, I offered to pay them to more than cover any transportation costs, as well as 40% of anything of value they sold. People who try to appear as real Christians, many are NOT! Christ consciousness is inside a person, not in the church building…the building stands there for all to see, but the love, compassion, empathy, kindness and genuine goodness inside a human being is not so easily visible just from the outside. I empathize with you on every issue you brought up. I too am a senior widow without family, with physical challenges, and am slow. I have been listening to Abraham-Hicks often, and Law of Attraction talks, which seems to be helping me with the depression. I continue to love Jesus, and all the wonders of divinity, but have understandably become very disillusioned with “religion” and the “church “. Thank you for being so candid with what you’re going through. Just knowing there’s someone else who understands is helpful in lessening the pain of all this. I’ll think of you with encouraging thoughts…👍🏻 👋🏻 🙂
Now, I wish I had kept more of my L.A. Weekly newspapers!!! I have a few and treasure them.
After Covid, there are no events coming up soon, in L.A. & I used to look forward to Thursdays for the Weekly, a week of possibilities, music, art, social events, ect.
I found a page lately, it was full of ads for events that I would wanted to go to, and wished I had saved more. Beautiful newspaper! Great writing, editorials, reviews. It's very bittersweet. I don't want to forget my life when I went to concerts, ect.
I had a problem with them piling up. who's to know what you will want in the future. Save a lot, save nothing? So hard to know.
Thank you thank you thank you! (Don't declutter any of those thank you's! 😅) I listened to this while decluttering and it helped make my 'keep or toss' decisions so much faster!
Morning. May the Lord bless you in all ways
Good morning Mrs
Buy 3 beautiful tops instead of 10 cheap ones !!
I read this book! I didn’t want to return it to the library. I ended up buying it. It’s that good! Best clutter book I have ever read. ❤️
I totally agree! ☺️
What a great topic… of course this video found me two years later. God hasn’t given up on me yet! 🌟 Thank you Michael and Tracy! Your work and it’s value and impact endures.
This is so useful! I come from a home where present giving is a fascistic pressure. If I missed my mom's birthday, I got into a lot of trouble with my aunt. These days, I am on the hoarding scale, only a 0.5 out of 10, but I'm on the scale. Thank you both for so many good ideas. The 2020 lockdown is a great time to declutter, but you need to check on which thrift shops are taking donations of goods, and what they want and don't want.
My take on this: For birthdays and Xmas - start with giving something that doesn't last, something that the receiver doesn't keep for too long, but do know the person. If you happen not to know him/her, just call and invite him/her for a walk, a cup of tea, a night at the cinema, or the like. If he/she is too busy, then tick it off, the ball is now in their court and the next move is their's. Writing a simple (!) card is also fine and not intrusive!
I look back at raising my kids and how many times I told them hold on I’m busy with stuff ! I mean that really is sad and ridiculous . I’m watching this saying no more !
My mother had so much clutter and when she passed I inherited it. It's been 5 years and I'm still having a hard time letting things go. I am great at thrifting which doesn't help. Thank you for this video!!
Having inherited in the same way I really sympathise. You need to let go because inherited clutter holds you in the past more than any other imo. Good luck.
Oh wow, I did that "saving" thing too, & my Mum did the same thing. I often feel I'm *not quite good enough yet" to wear my nicest clothes.
I am calling it “LIGHTENING UP!!” Thank you!
This popped up while I'm decluttering and organizing today. Thank you for this. 🙂👍
So, so helpful. Glad I stumbled upon this. I’ll check out your other content. I’m a fellow ADHD-er. I needed this today as I attack a corner I’ve been avoiding like crazy.
You can do it! We're rooting for you! 😊
I enjoyed watching this interview as I was cleaning and decluttering my kitchen while listening to it.
Whooooo
I don't have the energy and time to wash dishes,and when I do some,it never gets done. And I have to firstly survive and manage to get through the days. YT has become an accidental addiction, out of near-isolation.
My sleeplessness does not come from the clutter, although it influences me of course, and takes time and energy.
Get a dishwasher if U can and just stack dishes as U use them
Wonderful, wonderful interview!
Some good tips, decluttered kitchen cabinet while listening. Shes a pleasure!
Cleanliness is next to Godliness. Creativity is God's character. 💛💛💛
27:55 I think she meant to say “Tsundoku”(積読). Stack of books unread.
The Kanji(Chinese characters) means “積=piling” and “読=reading”. And it sounds like ”just leaving it piled” in Japanese😆
When mom passed, I asked younger daughter which of her grandma's items she wanted. She could've had furniture, the silver, china. What did she want? Her Grandma's sewing basket. She makes a living sewing anyway, and she had fond memories of playing in that old sewing basket.
You are both so positive! Love it!
what a great interview! Clutter is like having a never-ending to-do list :-( :-( :-( it is so exhausting! I get a lot of satisfaction putting an item in my online cart -- I just don't check out :-)
I also just started ding this , I thought it was just me
I had a house that I rented furnished. I sold it, and had two of everything. I still have the linens, extra sets of dishes etc. I downsized to a mobile home. It’s a real challenge to do this, but you are showing me how to get to a zen state of mind, create space for my creative mind to be present. This is what we call a mitzvah!
Great information! And I enjoyed your interview style. Thank you for asking her a question and letting her answer💗
I consider this video life changing!!! I decluttered the whole time while listening to it! Thank you.
Good for you RMA!!!
"Clutter is a constant to-do-list." - TRACY MCCUBBIN
I so relate to that.
I'm in the process of minimalizing and "Zen-ing' my home but have downsized from a house to a beautiful 2 bedroom/1 bath condo with living/dining area, washer/dryer/dishwasher and huge wrap around deck. I've gotten rid of lots of stuff from over the years and after raising a family, but it never seems to end despite that I don't have as much as others. But during this pandemic Amazon has been a god-send because I'm 72 and have MS, a disability and can't drive! Haven't been to a mall in years and never really liked them,the crowds etc. I only buy what's necessary for the most part, but am a bookaholic. Have passed on some of those as well. Amazon is not only a god-send to me but millions of other elderly people and disabled people who can't get out to shop and get it delivered right to their front door! Minimalized my kitchen and it always feels good to clear things out! Donate your stuff when you can, someone needs it! Gave a fairly new blender to my oldest granddaughter and an ice cream maker and frying pan that was too big to my oldest grown daughter! "charity also begins at home" old saying! BTW, a lot of us Baby Boomers are still around, alive and kicking, still young at heart! We're not all dying off...yet! lol Thanks for another great video, didn't know about the link between clutter and high cortisol,but not surprised!
Thank you for your comment Brenda! You should be proud of yourself!!
Best series of insightful interview questions ....
With the most Inspiring answers delivered.. thank you thank you
You’re very much welcome! And thank you for watching! 💕
Michael you are very KIND hearted and extremely smart. I learn so much from your videos. 🙏 thank you!
Thank you Shirl!
thank you for sharing the story about the cooking knives. I use my Grandma's dish set that had been staying in the plastic tubs after finally forgiving her of my resentment and gratitude towards her - the time I spent with her and the stuff she has given me.. I got rid of my dumpster dive dishes (Apt that is near two major Universities, students get rid of good stuff - one clutter source).
Glad this video helped you, Katherine! 😊
I took time off from my software job to focus on my mental health. My mind and environment are totally scattered. I want to get organized but I'm an all or nothing perfectionist so I put my all into things like work and my environment has been ignored. I know that organizing my space will reap huge benefits because I'm sensitive to my surroundings but it's so disorganized I don't even know where to start or how to effectively keep it up once I manage to get it under control...
Start small. Tackle a cupboard or drawer. Its a step in the right direction & will encourage you to carry on.
I agree with start small! Even a table, get a table free of clutter. Also a small drawer, etc. In the kitchen, start with spices for example, and don’t be afraid to throw away old things or recycle them! I have my car loaded with things ready to go. Good luck 🍀
You might need some personal help, at least at the beginning. Look at it the same way as you would pay a nutritionist to help with your diet. Your mental health would probably thank you for it. :)
I’ve been trying the one thing a day system. Just take one thing a day and throw it out, donate etc. but I’ve actually been working on six separate rooms so it’s six things a day instead of one thing a day. Been easy to get rid of one thing from each room. So much less overwhelming for me.
That's brave of you. I too was in IT (since before the mouse) ... lol. So I stayed too long & also with a chronic pain disease for 35 yrs. It's a very hard thing to walk away from. I found highly organized systems, such as file cabinets & precisely configured drawers appealed to my analytical side
The hardest thing to ditch are the books. I tuned as I decided to clear my books during lockdown. Great advice. 👍
Awesome job Norma!