I look up to these beautiful women so much simply because they acknowledge the beginning and they are real with it. They don't make it seem like ohhhh it was always beautiful... They're like no sister and here's why here's our story.. These two are so mature 💞
Thank you for sharing. I get to meet my future co-wife in December. We have already started conversation via phone. So I am hopeful, but nervous. Thanks Again!
Asalaamu alaikum Family. Great content; I’ve learned to understand polygny better by listening to your great videos. Although I am not participating in this form of marriage, your tips have helped me in my own marriage. @ Sister Fatimah: you remind me so so much of myself that I can’t help but to tune in. May Allah grant you love, peace and happiness for your entire family. Ameen
I am 21 not married yet but educating myself around polygyny. You made me cry Coach Fatimah, may Allah bless your marriage it's really amazing and how well you care about each other as co-wives.
Amazing content and heartwarming! I got tears in my eyes when I heard you say "She she's got me for life". I applaud you and Couch Nyla. May Allah bless your wonderful family! ❤️
Having that conversation back then cleared a whole lot of future problems and opened the door to a healthy relationship befitting a Muslim family. All I see is you both are healthy individuals on a healthy journey together.
As Salaamu Alaikum It's a blessing to hear the truth of the ups and downs and the different perspectives of how if you're in it to win as a family, it can be achieved.
Im just going to be blunt. This is kind of smart. This happens in hoods all over anyway. This makes yall a healthy team. I see how this could make an individual extraordinary.
I do listen to you sisters but I can’t cope with my hubby having second wife it’s over a year since I found out he has a second wife and was hiding for 4 years. It’s causing my family to break apart I have 5 children my youngest is 3months old..
For my case not jus one but 2 of them wit kids for a period of tym i dont kno but f I estimate it's like 3yrs.I subscribed to this channel to see f I can hold on t,but f I fail I still will say ,Alihumdullah.
As salaamulakium Coach I'm so glad you guys are teaching The Women in North America. MAY ALLAH BLESS YALL. I LOVE YOU COACH NATHIR CANT WAIT TO WORK WITH BROTHER.. BRO.MANSA MUSA
Looks like, because she wasn't from an islamic background, she didn't quite know that she could specify no-polygamy as a condition before marriage. It's important to have these conversations before marriage and not shock the first wife with a sudden second marriage.
@@zxcccccc1 Yes, Allah has permitted it with certain conditions. The prophet also wed his multiple wives under certain circumstances and for particular reasons. A lot of those don't exist anymore.
Asalaam o alykum sister, I've been thinking to contact my co wife so i can get some answers but i still feel maybe im not ready yet. I have never met her or spoken to her, its as though shes a ghost, shes their but i don't know who she is lol Its been 8 months since my husband married again and its been the worst year of my life, an emotional rollercoaster and i blame her for alot but then i think i need to know her side too in order to move on.
Meet her with an open heart. You need to have trust in Allah that nobody can destroy or take away what's yours. Believe in yourself and put your worries in your questions. Meet her like a friend. Like how u would meet someone in a gathering and just talk to her. Be gentle but show her if she puts problems your way your not going to take it. May Allah swt help you and guide you. Aameen 💗
سلام عليكم..جزاك الله خيرا.. Dear Sisters. Such wisdom here 🙌 As wife .. 🏡 Home Caring.. May Allah Guide and Bless you and us all.. Our kids.. Including.. As a Muslima I did play it out what to do if it happened 🤔 And Sisterhood ✨️ would been a important part to me .. Reacting healthy but real .. We are Not asked about more than we can carry.. الحمد الله I am listening from Egypt 🇪🇬 Sisterhood Motherhood..
The problem is in such marriage one wife will be loved less and specially the first because the love faded and specially if you spoke to her before marriage the love fades there responsibilities comes. He taking pics with her happy marriage with second wife and first just seeing her husband smiling on her and happy when he looks at his first wife just a calm faded love smile.After years love fades in second marriage as well the first marriage suffers in such case
Can we have a video on how the husband can mediate conflict between the co wives? Or is he even the best one to mediate? What should the husband’s part be in the dissolving the conflict.
We are focusing on putting that type of content in our Polygamy Community because it requires more than a short video about it and we want to serve our audience at the highest possible level.
I understand it's in the Quran but we all live at different times where it's absolutely not necessary to marry more than one wife. Plus if the husband wasn't all about his personal desire he would have discussed it first before going ahead to secretly marry her. The second wife knew her husband is married so the act was intentional on both of them. They cheated the first wife
Sadly, what you stated is a typical first wife response and it's very weak. Let's dig into this: 1. We do live in different times, every second that passes is a different time. Are you saying the Quran, which didn't reveal polygyny, because it was already practiced in many cultures, is somehow not applicable or just the part relating to polygyny isn't applicable today? 2. We're from the USA, where is every man married, that would still leave over 6,000,000 women unmarried! Do you care about other women or just yourself? Do they deserve a chance at love, companionship, intimacy, children, etc... or do we just say too bad? See how the wisdom of Quran is still applicable? It's not like the USA suffers from prostitution, porn addiction, casual sex, STDs, children born out of wedlock, children who don't know their fathers, casual abortions, or sexual degradation and deviance at all, right? All things that a form of moral marriage should help prevent and safeguard against. Make no mistake about it, this is what you get from men who are all about their personal desires! Men who marry build families. It's so tiring to keep hearing the same old lines that dismiss men as knuckle dragging sexual predators that don't really care about women when in reality, your comment shows no compassion or concern for women who desire to practice an honorable form of marriage like polygyny. To me, that's shameful!
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi I have compassion for women who aren't informed , not financially independent , who aren't able to differentiate between a real man and the selfish man who cares about one's personal desire and intentionally quote the Quran to rationalize his bad behavior. I care about us women the same way I care about men. None of men will be like Prophet Muhammad.
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Knowledge is power, as far as US history with porn , children Born out of wedlock and STD's I just can't argue with you because I'm licensed so you can assume the affected percentage but I have the proof of the actual census of the affected individuals in the entire country.
If man are yo marry a second wife why don't they marry someone much older than the existing wife , someone widowed or divorced someone who has children , what makes polygamy indecent is the fact that man looks for the younger ones every next marriage , which means they're looking for pleasure more than doing what pleases Allan 😊
Here you go again with another false narrative. What does it matter to you whether an additional wife is young, old, widowed, or a single mother if a husband fulfills the responsibility of being a good husband? This response is one that many first wives like to use to make them feel superior to any incoming wife. Many first wives mistakenly feel that a widow, single mom, divorcé, or older woman is less than themselves. How shameful to dismiss women in this fashion. Polygyny isn't indecent whatsoever, it's people who try to run their own weak narratives which destroys families and inserts all kinds of stereotypes where they don't belong. When it comes to high standards and morals, there are those who build and those who destroy. Ask yourself which are you? 🤔
It's fair to say it's the same mentality most second,third or fourth wives use especially if they are younger to feel superior and belittle the first wives
I look up to these beautiful women so much simply because they acknowledge the beginning and they are real with it. They don't make it seem like ohhhh it was always beautiful... They're like no sister and here's why here's our story.. These two are so mature 💞
Even though we aren’t picking teams I relate more to coach Fatimah because I am also an initial wife ❤️😩😩
Same. I do not have a cowife but just informing myself just in case!
I feel sorry for you . May God grant you peace and happiness
@@zandilekilani1807 You don’t need to feel sorry for her. Why discourage her like this?
Thank you for sharing. I get to meet my future co-wife in December. We have already started conversation via phone. So I am hopeful, but nervous. Thanks Again!
Asalaamu alaikum Family. Great content; I’ve learned to understand polygny better by listening to your great videos. Although I am not participating in this form of marriage, your tips have helped me in my own marriage. @ Sister Fatimah: you remind me so so much of myself that I can’t help but to tune in. May Allah grant you love, peace and happiness for your entire family. Ameen
I am 21 not married yet but educating myself around polygyny. You made me cry Coach Fatimah, may Allah bless your marriage it's really amazing and how well you care about each other as co-wives.
Amazing content and heartwarming! I got tears in my eyes when I heard you say "She she's got me for life". I applaud you and Couch Nyla. May Allah bless your wonderful family! ❤️
Having that conversation back then cleared a whole lot of future problems and opened the door to a healthy relationship befitting a Muslim family. All I see is you both are healthy individuals on a healthy journey together.
As Salaamu Alaikum
It's a blessing to hear the truth of the ups and downs and the different perspectives of how if you're in it to win as a family, it can be achieved.
I find people are loved because of their character and spiritual connection, not because of a title.
I appreciate the fact that you do make us know it was painful
Being the first too, it’s painful but then we will push through beautifully insha Allah
Im just going to be blunt. This is kind of smart. This happens in hoods all over anyway. This makes yall a healthy team. I see how this could make an individual extraordinary.
I do listen to you sisters but I can’t cope with my hubby having second wife it’s over a year since I found out he has a second wife and was hiding for 4 years. It’s causing my family to break apart I have 5 children my youngest is 3months old..
For my case not jus one but 2 of them wit kids for a period of tym i dont kno but f I estimate it's like 3yrs.I subscribed to this channel to see f I can hold on t,but f I fail
I still will say ,Alihumdullah.
❤Beautifully done this presentation and your family Alhamdillah ✅
As salaamulakium Coach I'm so glad you guys are teaching The Women in North America. MAY ALLAH BLESS YALL. I LOVE YOU COACH NATHIR CANT WAIT TO WORK WITH BROTHER.. BRO.MANSA MUSA
Looks like, because she wasn't from an islamic background, she didn't quite know that she could specify no-polygamy as a condition before marriage. It's important to have these conversations before marriage and not shock the first wife with a sudden second marriage.
I was a so called first wife and I have a problem banning something Allah has permitted but communication is key for any relationship.
@@zxcccccc1 Yes, Allah has permitted it with certain conditions. The prophet also wed his multiple wives under certain circumstances and for particular reasons. A lot of those don't exist anymore.
Asalaam o alykum sister, I've been thinking to contact my co wife so i can get some answers but i still feel maybe im not ready yet. I have never met her or spoken to her, its as though shes a ghost, shes their but i don't know who she is lol Its been 8 months since my husband married again and its been the worst year of my life, an emotional rollercoaster and i blame her for alot but then i think i need to know her side too in order to move on.
Meet her with an open heart. You need to have trust in Allah that nobody can destroy or take away what's yours. Believe in yourself and put your worries in your questions. Meet her like a friend. Like how u would meet someone in a gathering and just talk to her. Be gentle but show her if she puts problems your way your not going to take it. May Allah swt help you and guide you. Aameen 💗
Jazaaki Allahu khayrun....See you soon In shaa Allah! Wa alaikum ma salaams
Asalaamu alaikum. ...from south africa....Allah protect u All Always. In shaa Allah.
سلام عليكم..جزاك الله خيرا..
Dear Sisters.
Such wisdom here 🙌
As wife ..
🏡 Home Caring..
May Allah Guide and Bless you and us all..
Our kids..
Including..
As a Muslima I did play it out what to do if it happened 🤔
And Sisterhood ✨️ would been a important part to me ..
Reacting healthy but real ..
We are Not asked about more than we can carry..
الحمد الله
I am listening from Egypt 🇪🇬
Sisterhood
Motherhood..
The problem is in such marriage one wife will be loved less and specially the first because the love faded and specially if you spoke to her before marriage the love fades there responsibilities comes. He taking pics with her happy marriage with second wife and first just seeing her husband smiling on her and happy when he looks at his first wife just a calm faded love smile.After years love fades in second marriage as well the first marriage suffers in such case
Can we have a video on how the husband can mediate conflict between the co wives?
Or is he even the best one to mediate?
What should the husband’s part be in the dissolving the conflict.
We are focusing on putting that type of content in our Polygamy Community because it requires more than a short video about it and we want to serve our audience at the highest possible level.
On year two with both ribs working and figuring this thing out thanx for all of ur insight all coaches. We are isrealites as well...
Great sisterhood
I understand it's in the Quran but we all live at different times where it's absolutely not necessary to marry more than one wife. Plus if the husband wasn't all about his personal desire he would have discussed it first before going ahead to secretly marry her. The second wife knew her husband is married so the act was intentional on both of them. They cheated the first wife
Sadly, what you stated is a typical first wife response and it's very weak. Let's dig into this:
1. We do live in different times, every second that passes is a different time. Are you saying the Quran, which didn't reveal polygyny, because it was already practiced in many cultures, is somehow not applicable or just the part relating to polygyny isn't applicable today?
2. We're from the USA, where is every man married, that would still leave over 6,000,000 women unmarried! Do you care about other women or just yourself? Do they deserve a chance at love, companionship, intimacy, children, etc... or do we just say too bad? See how the wisdom of Quran is still applicable?
It's not like the USA suffers from prostitution, porn addiction, casual sex, STDs, children born out of wedlock, children who don't know their fathers, casual abortions, or sexual degradation and deviance at all, right?
All things that a form of moral marriage should help prevent and safeguard against. Make no mistake about it, this is what you get from men who are all about their personal desires!
Men who marry build families.
It's so tiring to keep hearing the same old lines that dismiss men as knuckle dragging sexual predators that don't really care about women when in reality, your comment shows no compassion or concern for women who desire to practice an honorable form of marriage like polygyny. To me, that's shameful!
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi I have compassion for women who aren't informed , not financially independent , who aren't able to differentiate between a real man and the selfish man who cares about one's personal desire and intentionally quote the Quran to rationalize his bad behavior. I care about us women the same way I care about men. None of men will be like Prophet Muhammad.
@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Knowledge is power, as far as US history with porn , children Born out of wedlock and STD's I just can't argue with you because I'm licensed so you can assume the affected percentage but I have the proof of the actual census of the affected individuals in the entire country.
MashaAllah tabarak Allah
If man are yo marry a second wife why don't they marry someone much older than the existing wife , someone widowed or divorced someone who has children , what makes polygamy indecent is the fact that man looks for the younger ones every next marriage , which means they're looking for pleasure more than doing what pleases Allan 😊
Here you go again with another false narrative.
What does it matter to you whether an additional wife is young, old, widowed, or a single mother if a husband fulfills the responsibility of being a good husband?
This response is one that many first wives like to use to make them feel superior to any incoming wife.
Many first wives mistakenly feel that a widow, single mom, divorcé, or older woman is less than themselves. How shameful to dismiss women in this fashion.
Polygyny isn't indecent whatsoever, it's people who try to run their own weak narratives which destroys families and inserts all kinds of stereotypes where they don't belong.
When it comes to high standards and morals, there are those who build and those who destroy. Ask yourself which are you? 🤔
It's fair to say it's the same mentality most second,third or fourth wives use especially if they are younger to feel superior and belittle the first wives
Allahu Akbar