@@PolygynyAnd when it is done for The Pleasure of Allah, it is security for Allah's Goodness in this life as well as the next. There is no deity (or person) worthy of worship, except Allah, alone!!!!
Rubbish! "Should" is a word that is not relevant here. No telling women what they "should" and "should" not do. Women have their rights, especially regarding marriage. It is the men who need to train to respect women and their rights more. Maybe they start by growing up and not behave like spoilt brats!
There's no way u can be happy for having a co wife!. it's a big betrayal de only way u can control yo emotions is to ingnore and struggle for yo success where yo values will be shown to people who can see it .
Sisters wake up! You should not go into being a co wife if it threatens your sanity!! It is better to be a single woman than to have your sanity threatened by a polygamous marriage. Come on women, your needs and mental well being comes first before men. Don't EVER compromise yourself. As for someone going through a divorce like myself, there is a lot to be said for being single. More freedom, more control over your life. Non of this over self sacrifices. In all relationships some sacrifice is needed but from both parties based on a give and take from both parties. Why should the men have it all their own way! For goodness sake we are living in the 21st century, not the 6th.
Bambi we enjoy the program so much naye the music is so loud at the point where I feel it’s your voices that is background music. It’s not the 1st time am experiencing this. Bambi mukendeezeko ku music so that we can hear. Otherwise thanks for the program. Much love from Denmark
Thank you lucky for the kachais. We enjoy them. But everytime you promise us part 2 and we never see it. So please increase the time of the conversations atleast to an hour or 30 minutes. Thanks
Hello guys. I hope you all good with your family. Guys you are teaching the wold so please use English not mixing with your language. Because we want to know everything thank you
But if the first wife drives him crazy by never being available for his needs, what else should he do as a hunan being? She didn't want all of the marriage, so he found one who did want it, his heart and sharing his happiness. Then, women being mostly selfish, she will suddenly start wanting him after the second wife has taken the bait that the first one is tired and is no longer available to him. Then, the 2nd wife suddenly faces sharing him completely (bc the 1st one suddenly wants him out of selfishness to keep him now), so later in the 2nd wif's marriage, she has much less of him available to her after being always there for him in every way (unlike the 1st wife). This is painful for the 2nd wife and not what she signed up for either.
I’m going through the same thing as a second wife. The first wife is super jealous and insecure, and I feel like I’m getting less and less time with my husband. It’s so frustrating.
I will have a co-wife. It’s not about sex. It’s actually to help my wife. It’s not about sex. I would never put one over the other. We are all one. I hope they become best friends
@@darkmattersproject2951 I am glad your wife is okay about polygamy. There is no problem with her. Unfortunately, not all Muslim women feel the same way. The question now is how would your propective co wife feel about it, if you already have one in mind. Does she know you already have a wife? If she does and she doesn't mind, then that is okay. It is important that all parties involved are happy with the arrangement.
Agree to disagree a man can love u with high lust n no matter what u do they Will still cheat. Let us not women always take the blame. If ur husband is bn cheating b4 marriage they Will even after. The word i do doesnt change a person
@@cadeaumbabaziso let him another wife and stop with the "jealousy" and "I own my man" stuff that makes marriage toxic and unnaturally restrictive for men
Lucky.....you are likely to advise men how to share women too, 😃😃, planning to advise them too? If he marries a second wife please move on, you deserve better than being a second wife, this male gender supremacy doesn’t sink in, why settle for the bare minimum...Dear laddies, the last thing you are going to do is accommodate disrespect from your man_being the other woman. If he can’t choose you he doesn’t deserve you.
I have always felt like a woman deserves wayyy better than being a co wife. Ladies we have alot to accomplish than being disrespected in any manner by this creature called a man who needs to feed his eagle to feel like a man.
Sara Dodo A man of value who is focused to his future and the future of his family will not waist his time trying other women to compare and contrast, focused men have no time for that kind of nonsense, Focused women deserve far better as you have suggested .
Women stop equating your relationships with men. Men and women are different ! We bring different aspects to a relationship. We have different strategies for relationships.... And this Ka man pondering to female imperative is sad. Women would are led... and much as they complain.. to them it's of attention but not to effect. Relationships aren't emotional but conditional. Stop prioritising feels before reals. Men lead, give directions and women follow and appreciate so said men.
Thanks for show, being a co-wife wouldn't be a problem but our husband and the other wife's conduct plays a big role.
The worst can happen to those whose lives are centred around their husbands. But emotional betrayal isn't smthing to joke with.
Self love is the best thing learn how to put yoself first and create yo own happiness Oba nze Ndi mukowu
Life isn't about self-love
@@Polygyny Not as far as women are concerned, eh? Okay for men though!
Tolerating infedility in our homes and communities is the greatest cause of high HIV/Aids rates in Africa :(
Polygyny is not Infidelity - it's a marriage structure
@@PolygynyAnd when it is done for The Pleasure of Allah, it is security for Allah's Goodness in this life as well as the next. There is no deity (or person) worthy of worship, except Allah, alone!!!!
We should train ourselves as first wives to forego and not let our co-wives to be a threat
Healthy attitude 👏
Rubbish! "Should" is a word that is not relevant here. No telling women what they "should" and "should" not do. Women have their rights, especially regarding marriage. It is the men who need to train to respect women and their rights more. Maybe they start by growing up and not behave like spoilt brats!
Please reduce the soubdtracks in future..Its creating echos..Loving your content..much love from Nairobi
So is divorce not an option if polygamy is not in your destiny?
There's no way u can be happy for having a co wife!. it's a big betrayal de only way u can control yo emotions is to ingnore and struggle for yo success where yo values will be shown to people who can see it .
Am so glad I have gotten perspective on this topic way earlier in my life.
These advise are so individualistic.
Thanks for the show l always say no to disrespecting me ...no and no
You should have a broader view were we talk about a situation were the man tells d wife he is going to be having a second wife.
Get yourself a co husband.
Co-husbands serve no productive purpose which is why it is virtually non-existent
Nice one
Nyc show munyoro🥂
I like the discussion but the echoes...the background noise is too much..can someone who produces bump love help ko... Thanks ☺️
Eeeey. I thank God am hearing this just before walking into marriage. Really.
Good for you. I am going through a divorce to escape a polygamous marriage.
Sisters wake up! You should not go into being a co wife if it threatens your sanity!! It is better to be a single woman than to have your sanity threatened by a polygamous marriage. Come on women, your needs and mental well being comes first before men. Don't EVER compromise yourself. As for someone going through a divorce like myself, there is a lot to be said for being single. More freedom, more control over your life. Non of this over self sacrifices. In all relationships some sacrifice is needed but from both parties based on a give and take from both parties. Why should the men have it all their own way! For goodness sake we are living in the 21st century, not the 6th.
In fact there are a number of good step mothers but the real mothers of these kids are the ones who initiate trouble
Bambi we enjoy the program so much naye the music is so loud at the point where I feel it’s your voices that is background music. It’s not the 1st time am experiencing this. Bambi mukendeezeko ku music so that we can hear. Otherwise thanks for the program. Much love from Denmark
The audio bad for anyone else?
Brian...we shall not accept co wives coz polygamy isnt for us.
Asanteni sana
Thank you lucky for the kachais. We enjoy them. But everytime you promise us part 2 and we never see it. So please increase the time of the conversations atleast to an hour or 30 minutes. Thanks
Hello guys. I hope you all good with your family. Guys you are teaching the wold so please use English not mixing with your language. Because we want to know everything thank you
The background musci is to loud
Sound is not great
Second wives will always do suffer
Submisiveness does not mean you disrespect me or tumble on my rights
What's your rights.religion has toxicated u
Women don't have a right to own a man to themselves
Meet the other who.... what business do you have in meeting her,,, who initiates the agenda,,,
@ Aminah Kaherebu , Senga, I hear you😜😜😜
In that situation where the main has another wife, i get him a co husband too. Its that simple.
Love the show but the sound in the background is irritating. I couldn't enjoy the show this time
But if the first wife drives him crazy by never being available for his needs, what else should he do as a hunan being? She didn't want all of the marriage, so he found one who did want it, his heart and sharing his happiness. Then, women being mostly selfish, she will suddenly start wanting him after the second wife has taken the bait that the first one is tired and is no longer available to him. Then, the 2nd wife suddenly faces sharing him completely (bc the 1st one suddenly wants him out of selfishness to keep him now), so later in the 2nd wif's marriage, she has much less of him available to her after being always there for him in every way (unlike the 1st wife). This is painful for the 2nd wife and not what she signed up for either.
I’m going through the same thing as a second wife. The first wife is super jealous and insecure, and I feel like I’m getting less and less time with my husband. It’s so frustrating.
Polygamy is the best solution to increse birth rate
Improve on your sound please
I will have a co-wife. It’s not about sex. It’s actually to help my wife. It’s not about sex. I would never put one over the other. We are all one. I hope they become best friends
What does your wife say to this. Or does she not have a say in the matter.
@ My wife is fine. She’s from a country that practices polygamy
@@darkmattersproject2951 I am glad your wife is okay about polygamy. There is no problem with her. Unfortunately, not all Muslim women feel the same way. The question now is how would your propective co wife feel about it, if you already have one in mind. Does she know you already have a wife? If she does and she doesn't mind, then that is okay. It is important that all parties involved are happy with the arrangement.
@ Of course it’s important. Why would I bring in trouble
Lucky not when ur a housewife it’s never easy to handle even if u love itself soo much when u hv nothing to keep u busy
The way we treat our husbands also matters ....our behaviors ehhhhh
very true dear
Agree to disagree a man can love u with high lust n no matter what u do they Will still cheat. Let us not women always take the blame. If ur husband is bn cheating b4 marriage they Will even after. The word i do doesnt change a person
@@cadeaumbabaziso let him another wife and stop with the "jealousy" and "I own my man" stuff that makes marriage toxic and unnaturally restrictive for men
Men who talk like brian are taking marriage very casual.
They are better off not entering marriage.
Double standards Brian.
Marriage is NOT a life sentence...I reserve the RIGHT to quit.
YES!!! WOMEN DONT LOVE THEMSELVES. I DONT KNOW WHY???? LUCKY R WE WHO HAVE SELF LOVE. I AM THE FILM STAR IN MY LIFE . Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
If u can't lv me alone it's better we part
Lucky.....you are likely to advise men how to share women too, 😃😃, planning to advise them too? If he marries a second wife please move on, you deserve better than being a second wife, this male gender supremacy doesn’t sink in, why settle for the bare minimum...Dear laddies, the last thing you are going to do is accommodate disrespect from your man_being the other woman. If he can’t choose you he doesn’t deserve you.
Don't say that. There are situation where a second wife is necessary
I have always felt like a woman deserves wayyy better than being a co wife. Ladies we have alot to accomplish than being disrespected in any manner by this creature called a man who needs to feed his eagle to feel like a man.
Also these low value men are the ones that keep on disrespecting us. High value men value and respect their women.
Sara Dodo A man of value who is focused to his future and the future of his family will not waist his time trying other women to compare and contrast, focused men have no time for that kind of nonsense, Focused women deserve far better as you have suggested .
MTUMWA MTUMWA such men need help, I would suggest a therapy for them
Being cowives is not easy
Women stop equating your relationships with men. Men and women are different ! We bring different aspects to a relationship. We have different strategies for relationships.... And this Ka man pondering to female imperative is sad. Women would are led... and much as they complain.. to them it's of attention but not to effect. Relationships aren't emotional but conditional. Stop prioritising feels before reals. Men lead, give directions and women follow and appreciate so said men.
Oh please 🙄
Komamyoko
children are lead. im an adult now
@@wesleytrisha123the miserable feminist who thinks a man's world revolves around a woman 😅
@@chelseashamim9148have you said that your boss at work? I bet you haven't - the hypocrisy 🙄