We’ve been chasing people most of our lives until we hit a certain age and realize people you chased were horrible reflecting back. Nothing wrong with dining alone or going to the cinema alone. I don’t understand why some people are embarrassed to do things alone.
You will never be good enough for the wrong person is very true. What they see is only the negative nothing good you do is registering in their mind. They only want to take and take but give nothing back. Don't chase your boss, GF, business or even the repairman.
I’m gonna listen to this everyday until I GET IT. I’m so lonely. It sucks. I’ve been chasing people trying to find friendship. It’s not working and I’m even more miserable. I need to be ok being alone.
I've had this problem forever. I'm talking about family and friends, colleagues etc...One thing I have found that helps is asking myself what do I want? I have made a list of 3 things that i want to work on. If i stick to this not only will the attention go from them to me but they will also be jealous and probably want me back in their life. Upgrade and do better...it always works. Change your look, get fit, ignore people, be positive smile but say the least. Create mystery and show them you're not that one anymore. Whatever you do don't go back because you will show them that in the end they have power over you. People who give breadcrumbs love the control. They know they're no good for you but they want to control you, keep you there 'just in case...Just in case someone flakes, just in case they get bored, just incase that person isn't available. Now you're not available. Make new acquaintances by joining a group or a new hobby, volunteer if you have to. Don't go back because you will only live to regret it later.. [Edit 1 month later...] Just wanted to pop back and say one month later and here i am again, in the same boat. Feeling undervalued and unappreciated and so it's funny looking back on this advice I've given so freely to others yet i have found myself feeling frustrated and rejected again. But here's why I'm editing this..is because this is life. We will go back and make many many mistakes and find ourselves feeling worthless asking ourselves " Why am i putting up with th is BS again?" I feel gross,embarrassed and undervalued by the same people that have done this to me for many years. So what do i do? Accept the poor treatment and being ignored and accept this as my reality. I'le accept this as reality for the past but going forward i refuse to accept this anymore. Yes I feel horrible and ashamed for allowing myself to be treated this way but maybe this had to happen again for the 20th time for me to finally realise that they are not going to change! Keep it moving because it's a difficult journey but we have no option than to openly accept the mistakes that we make, forgive ourselves and move on! Good luck to anyone who is in this boat. You've got this!!
Just flew two hours to meet up with people to go to an event and all 7 were either too tired or said let’s try another weekend like we didn’t plan this a month ago
Looking for someone to admire you back will only give you heartache the best thing you can do is to focus on you and only you. Stop looking for someone to care. Learn to be alone and accept your own company and stop worrying about others. Cause your journey is not about them. Its about you. Stop looking for acceptance or approval. If they want to go let them go. Dont stop them. Just keep moving foward and dont look back. People come and go like the seasons. Nothing is permanent and everything changes. You learn to live with those changes or you can keep going on a rabbit chase. You'll still be a hungry wolf. Point is they already moved on and you havent.
Not everything is romantic relationship, your relationship with yourself is what matters. Chasing isn’t good and trying to be in relationship when you have a lot of self work it’s better to be single. I’ve never chased a guy but I have been in long term relationships since I was 19 . You get to a point where , your time is running out, and you realize what you need more time with is yourself. For me I was in these relationships I was looking for love. When I started giving myself love suddenly you don’t need these people. Relationships don’t have to be romantic. A lot of most interesting people I know are single.
Totally agree I'm already on this journey yes I tend to be the one checking on people but no more you don't check on me bye I also dont give a hoot.why should I care you are not my problem
exactly, you are free, at your own pace, only leaders act like this, the rest are beggars, and adult play that stupid game until they loose you. only keep the good people, life is too short to be ignored by idiots
I love your videos. I can hear it a whole day 💗 You will never be enough for the wrong person... You deserve better . Yes. I will try to remember it. 10 years of my life I've spent in a toxic narcissistic relationship. Try to get back on my knees but it's so difficult
This is your best video SCG. I've probably listened to this over 20 times now. I really can hear that this comes from the heart when you talk about this topic and I have really listened to what you have said about chasing people. You just do not do it, it's that simple. When I started to put this mantra in my mindset, everything became so much easier in my life. Thank you so much for inspiring me. This video helped me alot
You are exactly right brother. I pulled the plug on my narcissist in May. I much enjoy eating a good steak by myself listening to jazz than sitting across from that emotional, entitled, controlling witch. Even if she is a cute blonde. I’m done and happy now.
I loveeeeeeeee your PHILOSOPHY..same as MINE..i dont CHASE any HUMAN because i know EXACTLY thatttttt im a WORTHY HUMAN..and i hold STANDARDS and BOUNDRIES firmlyyyyyyyy..yesssss i do BELIEVES the MAGIC OF WALKING awayyyyyyyy..still SINGLE at 45y.o but yesssssss im HAPPY AT PEACE still and will carry onnnnnnnn remain WHO im in this BEAUTIFUL worlddddddd..i mingle with only a GENUINE HONEST HUMAN..love all your videosssssssss..very IMPRESSIVE i must sayyyyyy thattttttt..well DONE.. NIA.J
You are the best. ❤️❤️❤️ I’ve watched so many self help videos on you tube listened to some very educational ones but this makes it so simple thank you so much. It’s on my level of understanding. ☺️☺️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👌👌👌
In the past, I have chased friendships, because I thought that's what friends do, but it seemed to be one sided... I don't chase anymore because they don't actually care about me, my life or my feelings...I do what I want to do now, I chase my own dreams not friends...yes I talk to people but no chasing. I'm happy doing my own thing now...I know alot of people who never seem to be content being themselves, and don't seem to want to spend their time at home...they have to be out all the time... I'm happy being at home, and I do have a few healthy friendships with no dramas and no bs... I really cant be with people who gossip and go on about their petty problems... I have standards and boundaries.. there are so many that actually don't care about us. So we need to wake up and move on... be happy living your life...
I have 5 rules when it comes to attracting healthy friendships: 1. Don't FOLLOW. Leave that for puppies. 2. Don't ATTACH. Co-dependency does not work. 3. Don't CHASE. Or you will attract unhealthy people. 4. Don't TRY. I never try to get someone to "like" me. 5. Don't SUBMIT. Unless you want to lose your true identity.
I don't chase my boyfriend when we get into it. I did the No Contact rule and blocked him when we broke up and he came back to me by doing that. He told me that he went through anxiety without me. He also apolagised which he has never done before.
I feel you in this video SCG, im in same position as you are, and im starting to rediscovering and loving myself more. Thank God i stumbled onyour channel, you got me really motivated. I lost friends , and im doing myselfalone coz idont want to stay in a secluded forest full of snake friends and lover who played and fucking your so called friends because its their narcissistic nature. I am not chasing no one.
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We’ve been chasing people most of our lives until we hit a certain age and realize people you chased were horrible reflecting back. Nothing wrong with dining alone or going to the cinema alone. I don’t understand why some people are embarrassed to do things alone.
Thanks for watching
I'm never chasing anyone again
True 🇯🇲
I'm not embarrassed I'm lonley and depressed chasing a friend.
Nvm I'm pursuing
You will never be good enough for the wrong person is very true. What they see is only the negative nothing good you do is registering in their mind. They only want to take and take but give nothing back. Don't chase your boss, GF, business or even the repairman.
I’m gonna listen to this everyday until I GET IT. I’m so lonely. It sucks. I’ve been chasing people trying to find friendship. It’s not working and I’m even more miserable. I need to be ok being alone.
Thanks for watching
I can relate but I'm done chasing people.
I've had this problem forever. I'm talking about family and friends, colleagues etc...One thing I have found that helps is asking myself what do I want? I have made a list of 3 things that i want to work on. If i stick to this not only will the attention go from them to me but they will also be jealous and probably want me back in their life. Upgrade and do better...it always works. Change your look, get fit, ignore people, be positive smile but say the least. Create mystery and show them you're not that one anymore. Whatever you do don't go back because you will show them that in the end they have power over you. People who give breadcrumbs love the control. They know they're no good for you but they want to control you, keep you there 'just in case...Just in case someone flakes, just in case they get bored, just incase that person isn't available. Now you're not available. Make new acquaintances by joining a group or a new hobby, volunteer if you have to. Don't go back because you will only live to regret it later..
[Edit 1 month later...]
Just wanted to pop back and say one month later and here i am again, in the same boat. Feeling undervalued and unappreciated and so it's funny looking back on this advice I've given so freely to others yet i have found myself feeling frustrated and rejected again.
But here's why I'm editing this..is because this is life. We will go back and make many many mistakes and find ourselves feeling worthless asking ourselves " Why am i putting up with th is BS again?"
I feel gross,embarrassed and undervalued by the same people that have done this to me for many years.
So what do i do? Accept the poor treatment and being ignored and accept this as my reality. I'le accept this as reality for the past but going forward i refuse to accept this anymore. Yes I feel horrible and ashamed for allowing myself to be treated this way but maybe this had to happen again for the 20th time for me to finally realise that they are not going to change!
Keep it moving because it's a difficult journey but we have no option than to openly accept the mistakes that we make, forgive ourselves and move on!
Good luck to anyone who is in this boat. You've got this!!
Good luck and God bless... IT IS POSSIBLE!
Just flew two hours to meet up with people to go to an event and all 7 were either too tired or said let’s try another weekend like we didn’t plan this a month ago
I so needed this. Spent my life chasing people to find nothing but hurt. I give too much. I am gojng to listen to this again and again. Thank you xx
Thanks for watching!
Same!
Same.
Looking for someone to admire you back will only give you heartache the best thing you can do is to focus on you and only you. Stop looking for someone to care. Learn to be alone and accept your own company and stop worrying about others. Cause your journey is not about them. Its about you. Stop looking for acceptance or approval. If they want to go let them go. Dont stop them. Just keep moving foward and dont look back. People come and go like the seasons. Nothing is permanent and everything changes. You learn to live with those changes or you can keep going on a rabbit chase. You'll still be a hungry wolf. Point is they already moved on and you havent.
Be alone with high standards and healthy boundaries...I will never forget that. God bless you
Never chase...just let go.
Love this :) I’m such a loner out of respect for myself and people are empty and negative
It is lonely life sometimes but less hurtful in the end
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So you are great but the rest sxcks ? Hmmm i don t think so
This IS MY LAST YEAR CHASING PEOPLE !! I DESERVE TO BE CHASED! A matter of FACT ILL CHASE GOD HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU OR FORSAKE YOU!!
He was the one who helped me in restoring back my ex partner three days ago without delay
I know of a man who could help you restore back your relationship either your ex or soulmate
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Not everything is romantic relationship, your relationship with yourself is what matters. Chasing isn’t good and trying to be in relationship when you have a lot of self work it’s better to be single.
I’ve never chased a guy but I have been in long term relationships since I was 19 . You get to a point where , your time is running out, and you realize what you need more time with is yourself.
For me I was in these relationships I was looking for love. When I started giving myself love suddenly you don’t need these people.
Relationships don’t have to be romantic. A lot of most interesting people I know are single.
Totally agree I'm already on this journey yes I tend to be the one checking on people but no more you don't check on me bye I also dont give a hoot.why should I care you are not my problem
exactly, you are free, at your own pace, only leaders act like this, the rest are beggars, and adult play that stupid game until they loose you.
only keep the good people, life is too short to be ignored by idiots
Thanks for watching
I love your videos. I can hear it a whole day 💗
You will never be enough for the wrong person...
You deserve better .
Yes. I will try to remember it. 10 years of my life I've spent in a toxic narcissistic relationship. Try to get back on my knees but it's so difficult
So true!
This is your best video SCG. I've probably listened to this over 20 times now. I really can hear that this comes from the heart when you talk about this topic and I have really listened to what you have said about chasing people. You just do not do it, it's that simple. When I started to put this mantra in my mindset, everything became so much easier in my life. Thank you so much for inspiring me. This video helped me alot
You are exactly right brother. I pulled the plug on my narcissist in May. I much enjoy eating a good steak by myself listening to jazz than sitting across from that emotional, entitled, controlling witch. Even if she is a cute blonde. I’m done and happy now.
I'm 67, it is never to late to learn. Spot on video.
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yes ur right if they really like u they will pursue but if not then dont waste time to prove that ur real one to.them
Thanks matee its really helped my mental health rn.
I will never chase ever again 😊🙏
I’ll rather be alone than to be with someone who’s ugly in the inside!!
Good word, wisdom.
Amazing motivation and very helpful mentally
Thanks for watching
You were preaching on this one
I loveeeeeeeee your PHILOSOPHY..same as MINE..i dont CHASE any HUMAN because i know EXACTLY thatttttt im a WORTHY HUMAN..and i hold STANDARDS and BOUNDRIES firmlyyyyyyyy..yesssss i do BELIEVES the MAGIC OF WALKING awayyyyyyyy..still SINGLE at 45y.o but yesssssss im HAPPY AT PEACE still and will carry onnnnnnnn remain WHO im in this BEAUTIFUL worlddddddd..i mingle with only a GENUINE HONEST HUMAN..love all your videosssssssss..very IMPRESSIVE i must sayyyyyy thattttttt..well DONE.. NIA.J
Thank you SCG for your videos. What I love about your show is that it is not sugar coated...it is great advice presented in a nutshell. 👍
You are so welcome!
Very incredible video. Better not to chase anyone and let things evolve to a better you. The best thing you can do is to be a better you.
This appeared perfectly at the right time for me
Thanks so much for your videos. This is just what I need to hear! I'm going to try to apply this in all relationships in my life that are not healthy.
Your videos are INCREDIBLE. I needed to hear this more than you know. Thank you. Can't wait to listen to your other videos.
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You are the best. ❤️❤️❤️ I’ve watched so many self help videos on you tube listened to some very educational ones but this makes it so simple thank you so much. It’s on my level of understanding. ☺️☺️👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👌👌👌
In the past, I have chased friendships, because I thought that's what friends do, but it seemed to be one sided... I don't chase anymore because they don't actually care about me, my life or my feelings...I do what I want to do now, I chase my own dreams not friends...yes I talk to people but no chasing. I'm happy doing my own thing now...I know alot of people who never seem to be content being themselves, and don't seem to want to spend their time at home...they have to be out all the time... I'm happy being at home, and I do have a few healthy friendships with no dramas and no bs... I really cant be with people who gossip and go on about their petty problems... I have standards and boundaries.. there are so many that actually don't care about us. So we need to wake up and move on... be happy living your life...
Dynamite video, Brother! Right on time as usual. Thank you.
Iam still chasing people idk why ? .. unconsciously iam doing this..
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I have 5 rules when it comes to attracting healthy friendships:
1. Don't FOLLOW. Leave that for puppies.
2. Don't ATTACH. Co-dependency does not work.
3. Don't CHASE. Or you will attract unhealthy people.
4. Don't TRY. I never try to get someone to "like" me.
5. Don't SUBMIT. Unless you want to lose your true identity.
You are chasing me trying to get a check. You are on MY UA-cam. 💅💅
Greatest advice ever
Very nicely explained Sir!Thankyou soo very much
You are most welcome
You are amazing 👏❤ thank you so much on this, it was quite of a story I just needed now . God bless 🙌
I felt this ❤️
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this is so damn true
This is my first time listening ..you give positive facts..thanks
My pleasure
Superb! You are so clear and correct. Love you
Thank you, SCG....You have really helped me....God bless you!!!
You are so welcome
I don't chase my boyfriend when we get into it. I did the No Contact rule and blocked him when we broke up and he came back to me by doing that. He told me that he went through anxiety without me. He also apolagised which he has never done before.
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May God bless you bro
Had to listen again. Thanks
Thanks for listening
great wisdom - and so true
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Very good talk
Thanks for watching
This is incredible, thanks!!
I don’t feel like I am chasing anyone. I am just speaking my mind. Everyone wants to tell me what to do, but I can’t express how I feel.
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Wise words indeed
Very helpful and makes sense 😄
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Excellent
Love ur channel..
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So true thank you❣️
You are so welcome
Pivotal moment @10:00!!!
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Great content!!! 🙏🏾✨🪐
Thank you 🙌
Thank you!!
You're welcome!
Exactly❤️
Great!!!!!
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Needed this 🙌🙏❤
Am gonna watch this until I get it.........
Your channel is such an inspiration...thank you 🙏🏽
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Pursuing and chasing is the same thing and both is bad. Women should chase men.
7:00 to 7:31 for me... I’m so good now❣️
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I agree!!!
I feel you in this video SCG, im in same position as you are, and im starting to rediscovering and loving myself more. Thank God i stumbled onyour channel, you got me really motivated. I lost friends , and im doing myselfalone coz idont want to stay in a secluded forest full of snake friends and lover who played and fucking your so called friends because its their narcissistic nature. I am not chasing no one.
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SCG you are such a deep thinker, i enjoy listening to you. That's why there is never BS in your content. It is so refreshing ! 🫂🤩🥳🥳🥳💝
Really hit home! THANKYOU!!
This channel deserves way more credit & 👍👍
Thank you so much 😀