Thank you. I was made to feel bad about how I felt about wanting space. Anytime I had an emotion and spoke about it candidly, she would make it about herself. The one time I need to be understood, because I was not agreeable to her actions, I was told it's not about me...
This is exactly it. I could never understand that the very few times when I was really upset about a situation, instead of understanding and support I would get yelled at or told I needed to see a therapist. The other thing is that even when you are "perfect", always in control and never needing anything from them, you still aren't getting love. You just convince yourself that it's love because you have been conditioned to not expect much and you don't know what real love looks like. Omg, I've been free for 6 years after a 41 year marriage!
this is not exactly it.. She is missing very crucial points of view, she literately started the videos by saying Her emotions are negative, im not even going to explain the rest after that~
Well said. Also impossible to be your authentic self when they interrupt you and cut you off every time you speak. Interrupt your jokes on purpose to ruin them. Don't laugh at and dissect your jokes, (especially in groups to embarrass you). Ignore you. Talk over you. Criticize you constantly. Poke fun at you. Talk down to you. Refuse to compliment you. Talk about you behind your back. Etc. Etc. Etc. Even when you know they're doing it intentionally they can still succeed in isolating you and hurting your mental health. If nothing worse.
I know plenty of narcissists in the workplace that know exactly how to use your emotions and what to do with them. They turn around and use them as a weapon against you all while staying cool, calm and collected. The more the culture at your office asks you to be more authentic, be aware!
Thank you. I was made to feel bad about how I felt about wanting space. Anytime I had an emotion and spoke about it candidly, she would make it about herself. The one time I need to be understood, because I was not agreeable to her actions, I was told it's not about me...
Yeah even when they ‘try not to’ be the worst their nasty aura sucks the energy and life out of you when it’s around
This is exactly it. I could never understand that the very few times when I was really upset about a situation, instead of understanding and support I would get yelled at or told I needed to see a therapist. The other thing is that even when you are "perfect", always in control and never needing anything from them, you still aren't getting love. You just convince yourself that it's love because you have been conditioned to not expect much and you don't know what real love looks like. Omg, I've been free for 6 years after a 41 year marriage!
this is not exactly it.. She is missing very crucial points of view, she literately started the videos by saying Her emotions are negative, im not even going to explain the rest after that~
So true! Thanks for sharing 😊
This came on the very day i was struggling the most with this, so thanks for the timely helpfulness and clarity on this issue! 😊❤
Well said. Also impossible to be your authentic self when they interrupt you and cut you off every time you speak. Interrupt your jokes on purpose to ruin them. Don't laugh at and dissect your jokes, (especially in groups to embarrass you). Ignore you. Talk over you. Criticize you constantly. Poke fun at you. Talk down to you. Refuse to compliment you. Talk about you behind your back. Etc. Etc. Etc. Even when you know they're doing it intentionally they can still succeed in isolating you and hurting your mental health. If nothing worse.
Yeah even when they ‘try not to’ be the worst their nasty aura sucks the energy and life out of you when it’s around
Thanks very supportive info ❤
she's nuts lol
I know plenty of narcissists in the workplace that know exactly how to use your emotions and what to do with them. They turn around and use them as a weapon against you all while staying cool, calm and collected. The more the culture at your office asks you to be more authentic, be aware!