Maybe Feminism is affecting how men relate to their children | Dingaan Khumalo

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  • @bellatalkssa405
    @bellatalkssa405 Рік тому +37

    One of the best interviews....thanks King David and crew. Dingaan is so authentic, I love men like his step dad, I have a friend who also met her strpdad when she was 3, she's 35 today, she sings only praises for that man. I remember the other time 3 yrs ago pur manager gave her a very hard time, she took her phone went outside and called her dad(stepdad) crying, and after that call she took her things and left because her dad said we didn't chase you from home. You'd swear in that moment she'd have called her mother, but no, and the dad didn't disappoint her. She has respect for 1000 lifetimes for her dad....she says this man met me and fell in love with me when I was 3 till today. And oh she knew her biological father was in Soweto, she went to meet him but guy was still not accepting so she said anyway I was not lacking father's love so keep your cold heart. So men like Dingaan's stepdad actually do exist and I wish God can make morr of them. Thx David

    • @zanelemofikoe4800
      @zanelemofikoe4800 Рік тому

      This just made me cry, some humans are truely special yazi!!!

  • @makaumasetla4576
    @makaumasetla4576 Рік тому +27

    The fact that this guy has been solving problems of fellow South Africans while he is also having these problems is just something else. Hope his issues gets resolved as well.

    • @SandisoGonise
      @SandisoGonise 8 місяців тому +1

      I agree bro ,i like him and understand his side but i think in this case he could have tried more to engage with her child.

  • @moremogolomoremogolo5328
    @moremogolomoremogolo5328 Рік тому +40

    Wow. What a great interview. Story of Dingaan resonates with me. I like how Dingaan speaks so well of his stepdad.

  • @shakesmudau167
    @shakesmudau167 Рік тому +23

    King David is truly a King on meaningful conversations. Thank you DSK for sharing your story with pride. I resonate a lot with it.

  • @hlonni_chelsea6711
    @hlonni_chelsea6711 Рік тому +14

    One of the grootmans who will talk to you like you are their neighbour. This grootman is humble, i feel like i am watching Ntate Mashabela interviewing himself.
    Thanks Ntate Mashabela for this interview.

  • @OfentseMMM
    @OfentseMMM Рік тому +15

    i can identify with so much in this interview, i am at the for of the road of my life and this kind of got me teary and got my heart heavy and it reaffirmed one stement i always say: "if you have not walked a mile in my shoes and looked at life through my windowpain you never understand why i am the way i am today"

  • @manny8042
    @manny8042 Рік тому +31

    There's so much I've learned in this interview. Big respect to Dingaan man, very real and authentic african man.

  • @thembabambani4555
    @thembabambani4555 Рік тому +126

    Still remember that episode at SPEAK OUT.... WHERE ARE THE POTS😂😂😂😂😂

    • @senzizwane8635
      @senzizwane8635 Рік тому +9

      I made the pots to be made or something like that 😂

    • @thembabambani4555
      @thembabambani4555 Рік тому +8

      Remember it like yesterday

    • @trosh5783
      @trosh5783 Рік тому +4

      The Pots😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @thatbyochic90
      @thatbyochic90 Рік тому +3

      😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @thembabambani4555
      @thembabambani4555 Рік тому +4

      😂 😂 😂 😂 "i don't know where are the pots"

  • @NoloMamps
    @NoloMamps Рік тому +12

    To speak so highly of your dad ❤ love this

  • @sandilekhenisa9689
    @sandilekhenisa9689 Рік тому +15

    Being a father is hard. My brother keep pushing for that relationship to your child. Your kid will one day find you. Big up to being a stand up guy and not speaking bad to the mother ❤ keep pushing my guy

  • @mmerekomoshomo5412
    @mmerekomoshomo5412 Рік тому +14

    Mr Mashabela , well done on the jacket , from K-Way to Mashabela , good branding ....

  • @beautifulblessed5445
    @beautifulblessed5445 Рік тому +39

    I swear the caliber of guest you bring us is 10/10 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🤞🤞🤞Weather I'd be artists /politicians/entrepreneurs/religion etc. One always take something from that podcast. Keep it up.

  • @bulihlongwane4893
    @bulihlongwane4893 Рік тому +15

    Mr Mokebe is a real gentleman 🎉

  • @KaraboMasemola6408
    @KaraboMasemola6408 Рік тому +13

    I can empathize with Dingaan's perspective, however, it seems that his past traumas have influenced his outlook on the future, much like the belief that marriage is a sacred institution created by God and should be followed according to His guidelines. Personally, I have been married for 5 years and while it certainly has its difficulties, the rewards and joys are remarkable. It is important for individuals to enter into marriage for genuine and heartfelt reasons.

  • @innocentglenn8627
    @innocentglenn8627 Рік тому +13

    Mr. David, we really appreciate the content. Can I say, today alone I listened to 2 episodes; Dingaan Khumalo and Jerry Mofokeng. Yesterday I listened to Bonang Mohale. I really enjoy the content. Thank you.

  • @AfricaIsNextPodcast
    @AfricaIsNextPodcast Рік тому +24

    This is the interview I didn’t know I needed but I know it’s the one I deserve. ❤🎉 Dankie bra David le bra Dingaan.

  • @Ziqelekaziiii
    @Ziqelekaziiii Рік тому +16

    Every interview is profound.. Loved it!! Thanks to Dingaan for bring vulnerable, hope God restores his relationship with his daughter!

  • @pulengbrigitte7646
    @pulengbrigitte7646 Рік тому +5

    DSK very intelligent and i must say, i am proud of you for saying that you acknowledge the fact that you might have had an impact in the break up and the situation with the mother of your daughter. It takes maturity and a whole lot but it takes nothing away from you

  • @sollynkgalabimankga6012
    @sollynkgalabimankga6012 Рік тому +23

    When it comes to marriage I agree with Mr Dingaan 200%

  • @SenzoHD
    @SenzoHD Рік тому +4

    Long live Dingaan, long live Mntungwa. What a gentleman.

  • @diamondroof87
    @diamondroof87 Місяць тому

    My brother I can relate your story 95% exactly like mine, I almost cried,growing in different places, hustling at young age, caddy, gardening, selling apples, been treated bad by aunties, raised by stepfather, bartending and many more, we sometimes go through similar incidents, salute bro and God bless you big time

  • @zinhlenkosi5202
    @zinhlenkosi5202 7 місяців тому +1

    Beautiful story about growing from having to everything that you are and have today. Incredible how you help South Africans solve their problems while you got your own going on. You sure depict "DO NOT LOOK LIKE YOUR PROBLEMS" very well. I hope someday your issues will be solved someday...

  • @mercy903
    @mercy903 Рік тому +7

    Dingaan you truly have a deep sense of gratitude. Not all people do what you do. You don't even choose sides? I'm really surprised. No wonder why you are this successful. God bless you more and more. 😅

  • @phumlanindlovu5653
    @phumlanindlovu5653 Рік тому +2

    1:42:15 the contradictory of how we raise children 🤞🏾😭💯

  • @drivewithmat
    @drivewithmat Рік тому +7

    Enjoyable and on-the-line interview. I missed some parts of it as I was busy doing some stuff. The marriage part till the end, hit home. I hope nobody comes for this man's truth.
    Bra Dave should've asked more about the amapiano song Dingaan has😅😂to dilute the mood even more. Bra Dave is a natural.

  • @manyamamashakodavid4104
    @manyamamashakodavid4104 Рік тому +6

    It's a pity to hear that even the mediator (Mme Lilian I guess) could not succeed in reconciling Dingaan and the mother of his daughter. Overall, I enjoyed the interview and I am inspired by Dingaan.

  • @LethoHali
    @LethoHali Рік тому +5

    Love that you are vocal about your daughter. She needs to know she’s loved and wanted. I hope she get to see this and hear how much you want to be in her life. Blessings and all the best! ❤🙏🏾😢

  • @takalaniteddymanyuha9039
    @takalaniteddymanyuha9039 Рік тому +3

    I grew up in mavimbela section the same section Dingaan's home is situated. I used to see him walking whilst he was an extra on generations and most of the time I will pass him washing his golf, he was an inspiration and a guide on how to handle success. And his young brother Hloni used to visit my home so often without boasting that his brother appears on TV. Wow I'm still glad that nothing has changed and success keeps on rooting it's way❤

  • @zakesnyambose
    @zakesnyambose Рік тому +3

    What a great conversation, thanx grootman David ❤

  • @maitemogelocorporatesoluti3093

    King Dave o bogale bathong. This podcast concept is making sense.

  • @matlou-ka
    @matlou-ka Рік тому +6

    An episode i didnt know i needed😊 love the relationship convo nkare Malome James o hurtilwe mo bophelong😂

  • @thulindhlovu4672
    @thulindhlovu4672 Рік тому +7

    i think the secret is with King David himself, this guy is the greatest host. love it for him. his guests get so comfortable

  • @WandileAmos
    @WandileAmos Рік тому +5

    What grootman Dingaan is explaining about marriage and relationships, its maturity only, he is absolutely correct to a larger extent.👌 ❤

  • @abtshoni
    @abtshoni 9 місяців тому +1

    These are the type of conversations that need to be had because for the longest of time, black men are always portrayed as failed fathers especially in the media space, so shedding light on those who want to do better even when the odds are seemingly stacked against them brings about another dynamic which is positive.

  • @ziyandaduka8798
    @ziyandaduka8798 Рік тому +5

    Seeing a different side of Dingaan & I'm happy that he's addressing the Tsholo issue. I was so shocked and saddened when the Kaya FM thing happened on Mapaseka's show! 😢

  • @tembisamkunqwana7497
    @tembisamkunqwana7497 Рік тому +3

    Powerful Dingaan! Your stepfather is one of a kind. Be blessed abundantly for acknowledging him. We need to hear more stories like that of your step-dad. 🙏 🙏 🙏

  • @deedelicacy6674
    @deedelicacy6674 Рік тому +3

    Wow what a marvellous talk, Bra Dave you are in your own level, or in your own lane! Uhamba wedwa👌🏾🤟🏾🙌🏾

  • @sibongisenisakhele3114
    @sibongisenisakhele3114 Рік тому +6

    So painful to hear how willing fathers are unable to raise their children. The system and our culture needs to adjust.

  • @mandisabitterhout7584
    @mandisabitterhout7584 Рік тому +2

    This is beautiful conversation. Thanks Digaan for opening up. Please reach out to your daughter. Die trying. She will always wonder why me, what if. Thanks King David I am also listening to Radio 200 12h00 to 15h00. My King. In my mind I am ur number 1 supporter

  • @valentine_b_ndlovu
    @valentine_b_ndlovu Рік тому +2

    Amazing conversation with Dingaan 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽chilled guy and brutal honest 😂love love him 👌🏼

  • @sejomonoane9226
    @sejomonoane9226 Рік тому +11

    I can actually relate to this, its so painful.😞

  • @luckymajova6528
    @luckymajova6528 Рік тому +9

    I have a friend who is going through this child situation and looking from outside youll think he is the problem and he doesnt care, but because he is close to me ive been there when we walked to the babby mamas house for him to see his son and they didnt welcome us very nicely, i was there when he delivered a birth day toy and it was damaged the very next day. i was there when he got a protection order openned against him because he wanted to see his kid so bad that he went to the house unannounced. These are very tough situations.

    • @msimemelochristofferoloba9366
      @msimemelochristofferoloba9366 Рік тому +4

      Such stories break my heart. Anyway I hope your friend has been been transferring money and keep proof of payments or slips. The money reference must be specific. Reference: Son Maintenance. School fees, Christmas deposit, son Laybay dip. He must never Eva give the month in cash. This is to have proof of his contribution to his child.
      Communication must be done via WhatsApp texts and voice notes.
      He must just do that for 12 months bra. Then approach the court for a formal legal arrangements.

  • @drlovelife9096
    @drlovelife9096 Рік тому +1

    What an amazing interview.

  • @Mbalings
    @Mbalings Рік тому +5

    I need the jacket 🥹 the exact one on King Mashabela 😍
    I enjoyed every minute of this episode! Wishing Mr Dingaan all the best with his daughter. 🙏

  • @ntokozolizwimkhize8340
    @ntokozolizwimkhize8340 Рік тому +1

    He Mr Khumalo was the only reason i started watching Muvhango. My parents made sure of that

  • @tiisetsomalunga2457
    @tiisetsomalunga2457 Рік тому +3

    I love his honesty.

  • @mphosikhakhane1668
    @mphosikhakhane1668 Рік тому +2

    hmmm. This interview made me realise something about this life. Sadly Siyabonga, some hurts are beyond an apology. If in a moment of anger and "wanting nothing to do with the other" some things are said or done that can never be taken back, no apology can erase the aftermath. A betrayal of trust where things are thrown in ones face that make people re-live childhood traumas or difficulties that they had no control over and tried all their lives to sort and work through leaves the other knowing for a fact that they want nothing to do with you.
    Just sharing, maybe a littel bit from a personal experience. It is even beyond wanting access to your child. I wonder how many things were said one to the other. Some words leave wounds that no amount of apologising can heal.
    I wiped away tears hearing you share about your difficulties with this lady. I wish you well and more than that I wish your daughter well.

    • @edmundsishange3608
      @edmundsishange3608 Рік тому +1

      Tswanas say "lefoko ga le bowe" which is basically what you're saying, words are indeed very hurtful and one may never totally heal from what was said, I know it all too well.

  • @MisterSiba
    @MisterSiba Рік тому +2

    This was a great interview 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @ThandazaMK
      @ThandazaMK Рік тому

      Dlamini ungifanela nosbari ingabe ughane uNaKhuzwayo?😅

  • @AfricaIsNextPodcast
    @AfricaIsNextPodcast Рік тому +15

    I think bra Dingaan forgot the storyline. Masebobe gave Sonny the lotto numbers and money but Sunny forgot to purchase the ticket. Dingaan saw the numbers and wrote them down then went to purchase the ticket and won.
    I remember the beach scene clearly. Dingaan said “ah, if only my fans could see me now”. 😂😂😂
    Also there was a classic scene where Dingaan accidentally dropped a tomato sauce bottle and some sauce was spilled on his face. Sonny thought Dingaan was seriously injured. Lol it was a funny scene. They both played it well.
    I think the reason I remember these moments so well is because my sister and my cousin loved the character so much. To this day whenever the topic of what I would do with the Lotto earnings comes up I always think about Dingaan especially when he spent it quietly because he knew if he told his family they would suck him dry.

  • @realtalkwithamu
    @realtalkwithamu Рік тому +3

    David was enjoying this interview, he was so relaxed in this interview, beautiful interview this was though.

  • @SamDaZain9843
    @SamDaZain9843 Рік тому +1

    Wow,Dingaan so inspirational...His gave great advices....
    Thanks for the wonderful interview.
    And to KingDavid,u held this interview like a king as always..like i felt how you got skills of being a psychologist,social worker and a real mediator..danko

  • @jabulanibaloyi9402
    @jabulanibaloyi9402 Рік тому +2

    The question technique the style and the respect in which u ask its brilliant thank you bra D

  • @ReshoketsweMthombeni
    @ReshoketsweMthombeni Рік тому +10

    Dingaan! What a gem of a human being! My long term crush❤️ thank you David for this interview.

  • @thabo5015
    @thabo5015 Рік тому +2

    David, this is beautiful, if people look forward to be called as Dingaan puts it, wow

  • @Khomotjo-g2h
    @Khomotjo-g2h Рік тому +1

    Great interview King David and Bro Dingaan, so much respect for you MaGrootman❤❤👍👍👍

  • @truthteller1984
    @truthteller1984 Рік тому

    Bra Dave you brought one one of the brightest and intelligent stars of Mzansi. This man is grateful, its a breath of fresh air to listen and watch a man who is this positive about his parents!

  • @WandileAmos
    @WandileAmos Рік тому +5

    With regards to the issue of grootman Dingaan and not being able to reach his child, I would advice that the matter should be taken to Social Workers, they will resolve it in line with section 21 of the Childrens Act 38 of 2005 or an application to the high court in terms of section 23 and 24.. (Childrens court)

  • @Sanusinextdoor
    @Sanusinextdoor Рік тому +5

    i love this, King David you're giving us beautiful content grootman

  • @isaaczulu3761
    @isaaczulu3761 Рік тому

    Brilliant interview King David, DSK is crying for help here, Tsholo please reconsider what ever issues you had for the sake of your daughter. Life is too short.

  • @elizabethmahlodinchabeleng4750

    I respect 🎉🎉🎉 you Dingaan your such an amazing person ❤️ 💛 💖 what a humble beginning praying you meet with ur daughter ❤️ ♥️ 🙏🏼

  • @Mank_Mindset
    @Mank_Mindset Рік тому +3

    Sensational🔥❤️... Yeses! I resonated so much with this interview. A true life is him Bra Khumalo thanks so very much. #KINGDAVIDstudioprodcast

  • @LcMaqekoane
    @LcMaqekoane Рік тому +2

    Great Interview Mntungwa took out a few pointers from this interview to apply it to my life ....

  • @andiledladlaad
    @andiledladlaad Рік тому +10

    He is from Limpopo because of Muvhango 😅

  • @Lebzlee
    @Lebzlee Рік тому +1

    Throughly enjoyed this episode, great guy 👌🏽
    Ke kopa Florence Masebe if she accepts the invite .
    I always enjoy it when you have artists ,the story telling of their lives and the experience is just unique 👌🏽

  • @maswanamagagane1702
    @maswanamagagane1702 Рік тому +5

    Bafowethu, these relationships needs more than love, but bana ba tla gola and they always do.

  • @nonhlanhlamonama6011
    @nonhlanhlamonama6011 9 місяців тому

    Trully loved this interview, the honesty from Dingane. We all can relate.How the boy child is pushed to the side in SA is a heartbreaking reality. Hope he gets to see his child soon❤.

  • @monwabisitekete6190
    @monwabisitekete6190 3 місяці тому

    I really learned a lot from today interview 👏👏👏

  • @connymontsho
    @connymontsho 9 місяців тому

    Can we stop for 5 min and appreciate Dingaan's hottness at his age hle.
    I hope you reconcil with your daughter❤

  • @leratomatlala9716
    @leratomatlala9716 Рік тому

    This one was a conversation between friends, thanks for being vulnerable Siyabonga..

  • @lesedinkili
    @lesedinkili Рік тому +5

    Big up to the Camera man, And the quality... damn it's out of this world, let alone content. Damn🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @phutikgafela
    @phutikgafela Рік тому +1

    Nice show learned a lot.

  • @nathitshabalala5414
    @nathitshabalala5414 Рік тому +5

    That "Pause" on the marriage question. Marriage is not for people who don't know what they are doing.

  • @nozipholuthuli2318
    @nozipholuthuli2318 11 місяців тому

    King David youre such a pleasant interviewer! really you ask all the relavant question and just you can remain steady, really trying to understand the PERSON.....and and and. thank you so much

  • @lucyquasimodo
    @lucyquasimodo Рік тому +1

    beautiful story

  • @kgothatsomothata3443
    @kgothatsomothata3443 Рік тому +4

    The power of believing in yourself by Dingaan Khumalo calculating his moves for being in front of the cameras

  • @Lightrifumo
    @Lightrifumo Рік тому +3

    He has to come back for another one, this was amazing

  • @MrCharlesMega
    @MrCharlesMega Рік тому

    What a mic drop closing. 🔥🔥🔥 thank you Groot man DSK! That Andrew story. RiP

  • @lazaruslesufi6664
    @lazaruslesufi6664 Рік тому +2

    Great interview and guest DAVE ..as always..Keep it up..

  • @MightyMike55
    @MightyMike55 Рік тому

    Love DSK. He is a voice of reason and has contributed a lot to the media industry

  • @campingwithtshidiso
    @campingwithtshidiso Рік тому +2

    Bra D and Bra D... great talk gents, my brothers...

  • @LomileMoreki
    @LomileMoreki Місяць тому

    when you started talking about clothes and Katlehong i knew Abuti Lebo will come up, may his soul rest in peace

  • @pietmaphoto566
    @pietmaphoto566 Рік тому +6

    17 __25 . minutes. he's telling my exact story how I grow up ..😥😥😥 grow up under survival not love ...I hated that women...she use to abuse me ...

  • @matlou-ka
    @matlou-ka Рік тому +13

    May i also add that i like how the interviews dont feel like they are interviews ❤love the bromance between the two gentlemen ❤

  • @wilf_moyo
    @wilf_moyo Рік тому +4

    I like the honest about Mam'kete. There's nothing good to say about her 🤞🏿

  • @mercy903
    @mercy903 Рік тому +9

    The problem with baby mama's is they walk away and regret afterwards. Then they develop a lot of anger, wanting you back when it is no longer possible. She still wants you back, and lives with regrets, disadvantaging the baby in the process.

    • @jabulilenkosi-v3v
      @jabulilenkosi-v3v 6 місяців тому

      Let us not pretend like men don't do anything wrong in these scenarios. Men act bad and expect good results. Guys, don't be an asshole and expect roses.

  • @mzikayisentuli4449
    @mzikayisentuli4449 Рік тому

    Great interview .When you talked about the guy offering you to steal from his work, i am remaindered of the same incident where they offered me to pay through back door at far cheaper price .When i came back 2 month later to buy again , the business was closed .This thing of stealing from your employer is backwardness as the business losses money, and the employer will start to cut work hours ,retrench or close the business.

  • @mrisjuly
    @mrisjuly Рік тому

    Beautiful interview... Very special.... Refreshing. It's always a blessing for me to hear from people from traditional media... Big fan of this new digital world. But being honest. it killed the professionalism and quality content🔥🔥🔥🔥

  • @zuzilezungu5899
    @zuzilezungu5899 Рік тому

    My heart goes out to you, Dingaan. Kuzolunga mfowethu 🙏🏿

  • @SIMPLYKESA
    @SIMPLYKESA Рік тому +2

    I love Dingaan weitse..a humble man❤

  • @campingwithtshidiso
    @campingwithtshidiso Рік тому +1

    Eish my brothers... decided to finish the show, Bra D, we have the same dilemma... Same same, 3 years past 5 years ago and its not easy. Everyday Im in the area I know that Im around. How many of us are living the same... Bra D's thank you...! By the way I was dumped because I was broke and they were taken away... Too much gents, too much!

  • @MonicaTyambetyu
    @MonicaTyambetyu Рік тому +1

    Wow Dingaan what a story ❤

  • @gomotsegangkhunou2062
    @gomotsegangkhunou2062 Рік тому +2

    "And i wanna say this to you now" King David's fav line

  • @Makumz_
    @Makumz_ Рік тому +11

    I feel sorry for Dingaan maan , no man should be denied access to their offspring. I hope Tsholo get over whatever it is she has against Dingaan resolve it and let Dingaan have a relationship with his daughter.
    P.S David whenever you ready for marriage I'm here boo ❤

  • @nqobilencube4511
    @nqobilencube4511 Рік тому +5

    Eish bra Dave my brother is going through this ya this is a painful story and somehow comforting that he is not alone even though the journey is rough I commeserate 😢

  • @luciatsotetsi3026
    @luciatsotetsi3026 Рік тому +1

    He shared so much of himself ❤

  • @modiredipelekekae6034
    @modiredipelekekae6034 Рік тому +5

    When two elephants fight the grass suffers🙉🙉🙉🙉🙉🐘🐘🐘🐘🐘🐘

  • @Mastavee_2920
    @Mastavee_2920 Рік тому

    I'm in a same situation you in via your daughter, but all i can say is nature has it own ways to restore its self nakanjan. Uzozi buyela i Ndlovukazi yakho MBULAZI.....

  • @asielsereme2501
    @asielsereme2501 Рік тому +3

    M with King David on ths one.....i cnt wait for Ditedu to be out of fashion lenna😂🤣😂😂

  • @ntuthuzelontantiso5394
    @ntuthuzelontantiso5394 Рік тому +4

    One thing I'd say is that, that woman (Dingaan's girlfriend) messed up messed up his father, family, daughter and all of us as men on how we view certain women around us.

  • @bonganimagawula6844
    @bonganimagawula6844 Рік тому

    Dingaan Khumalo we share the same story i grew up all over the place not my uncle not at home my mom was in durban hustling. so i end up in mpangeni my mother denies me the access to know my father and sad part i met my father and i didnt knew is my father , the surname that im using is wrong im typing this message im hurt , im always crying all the time of my life because my mom fight with me when we get into this conversation . it sad it hard i have kids now one of my baby mama we always fighting i end up ending the communication with my daughter still very young . so everyhting ive been through it affecting me now i wish to be better i wish i can do better but eac and everytime when i have to visit my mom i cant watch her in her eyes due to her dishonesty . this really sad im dying inside i wish i can share this because theres a lot .