GAY DATING RED FLAGS YOU NEED TO WATCH OUT FOR 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
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- top 30 worst gay red flags in a guy when it comes to dating. BEWARE OF THESE!!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
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what are some red flags for you guys??? 🚩 🚩🚩🚩🚩
crappy taste in music 🥴
Doesn't have his own transportation
@@dalecherne5377 Lots of college students don't have their own transportation.
Bi guys!
Straight guys who want to experiment..will never end well.
You missed the biggest red flag...always texting "someone" when he's with you.
Yep 👍!
Always texting period, with or without you.
This is the biggest red flag
Depends if he's not telling you who it is.
If he doesn't like pokemon, run! And, if he chooses Charizard, he's a top
iam gay and idont even like Pokémon 😜😭
What if he chooses...Magikarp?
@@danielwells1734 That person is probably waiting until marriage because, it takes forever to level up that thing. Probably a grower. Dominant. Top. Milotic? Total bottom
Does not like ice coffee? I don’t like any kind of coffee. I am feeling so triggered right now. LOL 🤣🤣🤣
I have never drank coffee in my life.
Dudes get so upset when you ask about safe sex. They literally get mad. Such a no-no. Good thing I never got anything while I was doing crystal meth and using grindr 10 yrs ago!
Ikr!!!
Red flag: If he asks you for money
"I mean asking to borrow $10 isnt a big d-"
"I lost $10,000 to a guy"
"okay holy fuck"
A good rule of thumb.... watch how he treats people who can do nothing for him. How he treats people like store clerks, waiters, etc.
Also, if dogs don't like him,,....run. Dogs know.
I remember the video about the money and your surreptitious trip across the country. It was such a personal and emotional story. Sharing it and being so vulnerable made me feel close to you. It's when I subscribed.
I once dated a Communist. I can't believe a missed all the red flags.
And a serious one. There is no overlap in your musical tastes.
Bravo 👏👏👏
I’m gay and I don’t like iced coffee. I do like Frappuccinos though.
Only wanting to top is not okay, but only wanting to bottom is? It's the double standard for me. 😒🚩
Imma just put this out , I’ve hook up with too many guys and ghosted them b/c I was scared of coming out . It doesn’t validate me the reason to the hurt the hears of the guys I’ve been with. Since then I stopped hooking up and apologized the boys I’ve hooked up with .
So have a voice and come out.
StanChris: A very thoughtful analysis. A well thought out job. As for ice coffee, the truth is that in my case I don't drink coffee. Not all of us drink ice coffee. I congratulate you for the video.👍🤗
This sounds comprehensive. I’m taking notes
Dating shouldn’t be this hard! Of course, I have been single for 5 years, so….. 🙄
I once called the POLICE on a date. The guy was a psycho, got mad at me on the date, didn't say a word to me on the way home, he dropped me off and then sat outside my apartment for hours. When I saw him DUCK because a cop drove down the street - I called the cops. They warned him not to come back to this area, and informed me had stalking complaints.
Good job! It heartening to see some wisdom in a young man. Here's a few more: 1/ the bi guy that won't kiss, or another version of that is "you can do anything you want below the neck" or similar signals that their capacity for bonding with men is emotionally limited. 2/ Is rude to waiters or other help or to you (like texting at the dinner table). 3/ agree with you on no sex first few dates, then try to get into your pants after dinner. 4/ Overly insecure or clingy. 5/ Overly negative, hypercritical 6/ their picture misrepresents them. 7/ any dishonesty. 8/ Also, generally be aware of the behavior patterns of narcissists and borderline personalities...Remember that we are at our best on those first few dates. Any red flags seen then are a strong indication that things will only go downhill from their.
I can relate to two of these. My first partner tried to keep me a secret from his family. We lived together in a one bedroom apartment, with one bed...he told his parents that I slept on the couch. This was my apartment that he moved into. We lived in the same small town that his family did and I was never invited to his family's, although he always went to my family functions. After 3 1/2 years, I moved to Chicago without him. My second partner was a Scorpio and all I can say is NOOOOOOO! Don't ever make that mistake. Great sex but bad for your mental health.
@@thewolfman775 I think scorpios are usually hot
What does him being a scorpio have to do with that
Great sex with a scorpio... Definitely true! Bad for my mental health!? Of course.
New red flag, he judges you by your starsign
#27. I fell in love with my partner the second we met. There were times I felt he loved me more than I loved him. And times when I felt he loved me more than I loved him. Currently, I am more in love with him than he is with me. Politics are deal breakers sometimes for sure.
Many of these are on point. My biggest ones are asking for money, catching them in lies and being on the D/L. Been burned by all 3.
“I only bottom in a relationship.” I really don’t see how this is a red flag. Bottoming puts you in a very vulnerable position and requires a lot of trust. The last time I “bottomed” it resulted in sexual violence, so yeah, I will only allow someone I truly trust to top me.
Lol Scorpios!
I don’t really believe in zodiac sign descriptions, but I’m a scorpio and I’ve dated scorpios, & I can tell you two things: we’re the best kissers, and we’re always, always ready for sex, whether we act like it or not.
As for married/dl/conservatives/religious guys: they are the most fun and adventurous lovers (Sometimes they even become your husband. ) Just always approach with caution and without expectations.
Love your channel. 😻❤️❤️✌️
Fellow Scorpion here.... I am so with you😊😊
Anotha Scorpio here ✋🏻😌 the way this description is so accurate
Damn, I've seen a lot of these first hand. Glad it's over. Stay safe people.
What is wrong with Andriod??? Apple are made for eating...
Chris: 31.) "His cake is flat as a cookie sheet." You already know...🤣🤣😁🥰
Caution! They say cake flat = nispe big size
Number 27 did it for me. I admire ur wish to have a guy who likes you as much as you like him. I’m 20 years with same guy and we still have trouble with that from time to time. AS ALWAYS THE CONTENT WAS GREAT CANT WAIT TO HEAR YOUR NEW SONG 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌈
I’ve never completed a cup of coffee of any kind in my life lmao
Great video! I've seen these 🚩🚩🚩 tons of times. Even been a few of them before. We all grow and change I guess. Thanks for the video 🙂
Hey Chris ❤️🤗 I agree with most of them some are just funny Looking forward to your song coming out!
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This was a good one. The first three are the main ones.
I probably possess about a third of these red flags 🤦🏼♂
That’s exactly right all of us have different circumstances and things that have and are going on in our lives I have definitely made the mistake in judging someone without knowing the situation by saying to myself they just threw up a red flag...
Dyes his hair blond
I've never really thought there were differences in finding a man as a man myself, so I mainly came across many female videos like "red flags in men," but some of these are way different, and I feel more illuminated because of them 😭😭
I'll go with most of these except 22. Let me explain. I dated a guy once who had PTSD and Depression. It was really difficult for him to take care of himself, but he had really good sense of romance. He saved money. He was intelligent and fun. We didn't hang out at his parents' house that often. We usually went out for dinner or whatever. But none of this is why we broke up. He was misdiagnosed and actually had Borderline Personality Disorder on top of all his other problems. We're still friends, but I just couldn't be in a romantic relationship with somebody whose personality turned on a dime. That's just too much for me. I'm sorry if that's selfish, but you have to do what's best for you. Had he not had that issue, who knows?
“I love you” too soon is another. I had a guy say that to me before he even knew what my name was.
Another is the barrage of texts or IMs after only a few minutes chatting online. Especially if he loses his mind because you didn’t respond immediately. Like, not everyone is on Growlr 24/7 and some of us have jobs. My phone is turned off when I’m at work.
And don’t even think about showing up at the hospital where I work asking if anyone has seen me. Yes, that totally happened. Just from a single 5 minute chat on a dating app.
Crazy stalker vibes are not hot or sexy.
I agree with all of these!
Except for the Scorpio slander 😩
I can’t help when I was born! Lol
For a guy who as yet doesn’t have a boyfriend, this is a well-thought out set of recommendations. Well done. And BTW, my own experience has been that Scorpios are really bad news. Really bad.
Anyone that believes in horoscopes is a red flag 😂
@@daniel-1489 Not true. Astrology character wise is not mystical it is a very carefully calculated by thousands of years constellation watching & analayzing. It's only like 80% correct but all the tributes are just so right on the money. Scorpions (see #CanYaman 🔥) are EXTREEEEMLY sensitive & driven & love money & ambitious & actually loyal but very hesitant to trust & mostly kinky 💋👊🏳️🌈💝🇮🇱🇱🇺🇪🇺
@@corkycarla 🚩🚩🚩
from personal experience. Libra is just the worst decision you can make to date.
@@43erasfred it all depends on your element & if you believe in charts. but unfortunately I know what you mean. They are EXTREEEEMLY diplomatic & a lot of the times impersonal & distant & great politicians cause they know how to shush to avoid confrontation but it comes on the expanse of their integrity. Some are great but I have great difficulties TRUSTING libras. Men & Women & everything in between alike. Scorpions I get cause I know how they operate but all air element signs are hard to trust. The last guy I dated was a gemini. He rocked eveeeeery characteristic possible & made me feel like shit. I actualy ran into him today by accident after 8 whole years running to catch my bus. Our eyes locked into each other for a split of a split of a second. he looked the same except I know he has 4 kids from a woman he got involved with basically while he was still with me. I just gained 22 kg's & am misserable. I know I will see him again & I'm going to be SUPER NONCHALANT ABOUT IT! Won't give him ANY satisfaction. actually got my revenge on him back then when I threw aaaalll of his forgotten boxes he left with me away. I'm a virgo. ask Bionce. WE DON'T TAKE PRISONERS! WE ALLLLLLWAYS GO FOR THE KILL! If I love you with aaalllll of my everything & give in to you body mind & soul & you hurt me or humiliate me IN ANY way shape or form...You gotta deal with the white bitchy witch inside of me cause I'mma voodoo your ass out! 🤪 But he won. HE has a family. I don't. he was allready divorced & broke off an engagement at 33 when I met him. He was my first & only in many ways. I atill got his poems & love declarations. I don't regret anything. I just swore I would never let ANYONE ruin my female pride. I am not an expert but personality horoscopes are soooo accurate it is eeeeeary 💝💖❤️🌹🍓🏳️🌈🇪🇺🇬🇧🇮🇱🇱🇺
5:07 Hey Chris, you should make another video to help protect younger guy's about this issue !
Well, you certainly were too trusting, but if that's the biggest mistake you're made so far in your life, you're doing pretty good.
(I'm assuming the consequences of losing $10,000 (US) weren't too dire.)
Awesome advice! I know some of the cases are just to be funny, and commenting on the comments you've received, but I hope people understand and relate to this video. Oh, and... Android boyfriends? Yup, a total pain in the neck to communicate with, but I have worked around that.
Neediness. He wants to be with you 24/7 and is always calling you or texting you to find out where you're at and what you're doing.
Spends all his time on his phone even if you are out for a nice dinner. Constantly ignores you. Also, vanity obsessed. I recently saw a legit couple at a gay night club and one guy did nothing but check himself out in the mirrors surrounding the dance floor while never dancing. At one point the ignored boyfriend went in for a kiss and his boyfriend abruptly and aggressively pushed him aside simply to stare at his own body in the mirror to no end. If this was a first date I would have noped out of there so fast!
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Whats wrong with guys who's names start with the letter J?
hahaha its just a meme
@@StanChris OK Chrissy Stannie lmao 🤣😂
@@StanChris also what's the number 7 red flag?
Interesting, most of these don't apply to me though a few do. Some of these I think are a bit silly and I think you just threw in to be funny like the Andriod and 3 in 1 body wash. Maybe I don't quite get the joke as why those would be red flags but to each their own. I am curious, you didn't mention anything along the lines of mental health or addictions which I think are important red flags. Though I also believe some of these are more so yellow flags that represent caution to things that are contrary to what you might be comfortable with within a relationship. I struggle with mental health every day and to some, I guess that could be a red or yellow flag depending on the person. I am still capable of living a normal life with the help of therapy and medication, as everyone is different in their minds and illness, isn't their fault. My point is that I would have loved to know your standpoints on that front and to express that they are still people that can be in relationships too. Same with people who struggle with addictions or bad habits. Red and yellow flags but still optional for dating. I think making a disclaimer that even though ya these are red flags to some people but that doesn't remove them from the table of having working relationships. I dated a man online who lacked empathy and he later disclosed to me that he had psychopathic tendencies that were backed up clinically. Those are automatic red flags. Even though my relationship with him failed doesn't mean that it can't succeed with somebody else. The bottom line is that we all have red flags in some way and these are just generalized ones that can vary from person to person. I think we all have our weaknesses and strengths in any capacity of a relationship those get tested but if love is firm with transparency then in theory that is all that should matter. I ain't the love doctor or anything I just believe that everyone is capable of love and being loved. Therefore, everyone is capable of having a relationship no matter the red flags someone gives them. I do like this type of content. I think you did great with this video. You gave some good insight and from your experiences, it counts. Great Job buddy!
ok now I have to talk about this , my name start the j and I am a Scorpio But i think I am a good guy or a ok guy not all of us are bad 🤣🤣
Now I see why our generation has such a hard time dating because they’re so picky it’s like they want to build a human robot. It has every criteria that they want and then one run thing happens there quick to throw that person under the bus that’s not how relationships work
when a guy says sus repeatedly
Damn this video made me realize I'm just one huge red flag... at least like 5 of those can be said about me :v
Scorpio here. Been with my husband 8+ years . Most people cant handle the passion we carrier.
OK- so I have just now subscribed because i do watch your videos per your point #1😀. You put out quality content.
But if I may say, one does not have to be politically active, but as part of the LGBTQ community we must be aware and ready to take action beyond voting. The right(Repubs, conservatives), not all, but most would eviscerate all the gains made by the LGBTQ community. This includes marriage equality. Clarence Thomas is on record about revisting OBERGEFEL(2015 marriage equality Supreme Court decision).
Anyway, no intention to sound preachy. Just my 2 cents. Been around much longer than you.
@StanChris, with all due respect, your #22 isn't always that black and white. There could be genuine reasons why the guy still lives with his parent(s). It doesn't necessarily mean that he's a creep.
Some people just don't understand the things others have to go through.
You’re so cute.
Yep 👍!😍
He is close with his homophobic family
So you don't want your so to be close to his family? That's really weird to say
I have been thinking a lot about this video. I feel you shouldn't judge someone. As long as they are honest and loyal. I feel your labeling people. That would be like me saying I void people who dye their hair blonde. Please do not judge others. They maybe thinking the same about you. Sorry If I'm coming off too forward. Just wanted to get this off my chest.
My name starts with J what!!!!!!
i think you describing me..I'm the one with all the redflags. i talk hard with my mouth but when time comes I'll be half way to mars...not even the moon :D
I have no car and I've been married for 10 years!
Red flag: he thinks you and he are engaged to be married after the first date. (this actually happened to me!)
He says “I’m comfortable living with my parents forever”
I know I'm going to sound really stupid here but what does DL mean? Also what's wrong with tats and piercings, I get that not everyone like them but why is that a red flag?
Not a red flag to me with piercing and tattoos.
DL means on the down low
Friends with his ex is an absolutely pathetic one that smacks of insecurity and immaturity. I finished with a guy six years ago now and we still text as friends on fb messenger. He recently moved in with his boyfriend which I'm really happy for them about, and his boyfriend is stable and secure enough not to have any issue at all with us keeping in touch. Guys that have issues with their partner keeping in touch with an ex as friends are the ones with the issue and it speaks volumes about them as a person as far as their own trustworthiness is concerned. Some relationships can end with no messiness,no bitterness believe it or not. It isn't all about sex ,often times you find that you get on better as mates.
Agreed. I’m extremely close friends with my 1st boyfriend because we never had a bad break-up and we genuinely get along and care about each other. Just this morning he called me to tell me he had finally met someone new (after 4 years) and I couldn’t have been happier for him.
I agree!
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I don't handle relationships!
I'm single because ...
I'm "neurotic "
I will never settle!
I can’t drink coffee💀😭😂 oops
Guy who talks about himself lots. Hardly even asks you about yourself. Red Flag.
Not sure I agree with you about friends with EX.
Let’s See How I do:
1. I have no exes. The plan is to not have any.
2. I don’t do drugs or smoke. I drink occasionally. Being drunk isn’t my first choice of having fun anyway. I just wake up the next morning with a migraine and indefinitely thirsty.
3. I wouldn’t do that. Seems like someone who does, has something to hide.
4. I’m not DL, though I don’t automatically look gay. I suspect if someone wants to stay DL, then it means they don’t love themselves, so how can they love you? I agree.
5. Nah. I don’t know why anyone is strictly top or bottom. But I mean, if you’re normally just one or the other I think you should give the other a go with the right person.
6. Depends on what it is. If you’re talking about sexual things and someone wants me to eat shit, not going to happen! Lol
7. You skipped.
8. Yeah. I hate people who do that.
9. I have no piercings and no tattoos. I don’t see what this has to do with anything, however, unless you spend so much money on tattoos and piercings that you can’t pay bills.
10. Ooops. Got me there.
11. I have a shampoo and conditioner combo for my hair but use a separate body wash.
12. Nah, if I have a problem with someone, I tell them straight up. And if someone tries to come back after leaving, it means they see you as an option.
13. Nah, don’t like girls.
14. I like iced coffee, just prefer hot coffee. Not all straight people like football though, and conversely, not all gay people dislike it.
15. I have an account on Grindr but if I were to be in a relationship, I would stop using it.
16. I think this is a matter of preference. I am a chub bear, prefer smaller guys, I’m okay with fem guys, as long as they are not completely girl acting.
17. Never will be offended. I’ll probably be the first to ask. I’m HIV+. I take my meds regularly and many people do not realize that meds make an HIV+ unable to infect others. This is a proven fact, stated by the CDC and the NIH. If someone reacts to this by saying, “I don’t care, I don’t believe that.” It’s a red flag for me because they are saying that they would rather avoid truth than be with me. Not good.
18. Oops, got me there too!
19. Got me again! I’m a Scorpio, supposedly we are the best kissers and are always in the mood. Not sure if that’s true with me though.
20. Nah, I am 100x more likely to give someone money without them asking, than I am to ask someone else for money.
21. Oh wow, yeah that’s not good. Oh well.
22. 33 here, not living with parents.
23. Nope, don’t have an android. Not sure that means anything in actuality though.
24. I’m not popular so not me. That is sus but it could mostly just mean he’s popular. Unless he screwed around with everyone there.
25. Nah, I’m not bitchy. I try to be nice to everyone I meet. I really do.
26. Nah, when I have a job, it’s always indefinite unless I find a better one. I have a car. I have 3 degrees and make 45k a year so I live on my own and pay my own bills.
27. I get text anxiety so if I text a person and they don’t reply for a while I start to think it’s something I did. I always try to respond to texts in a timely manner and when I cannot I’m usually very apologetic when I do. It’s just a habit I picked up, being ghosted and ignored many times.
28. I’m not conservative, nor a Trump supporter. I am a Libertarian, which means I am liberal on most social issues, but conservative when it comes to things regarding the constitution. If someone has a particular political affiliation it should not be a big deal unless it becomes a fighting point for you both. Sometimes opposites attract though!
29. I post no thirst traps. Considering that most guys would not consider me attractive, I wouldn’t even attempt it.
30. I enjoy very much being kind, so I may tend to give more than receive and that is okay with me, as long as my partner is appreciative of it. Because the whole reason I would give so much is because of the appreciation. If it becomes expected, then I’m like, no.
Sorry Babe, I'm gay af and I voted for Trump twice and will again if given the opportunity. I'm not "conservative." I just care about my country.
I’m a trans woman and the amount of guys that said they wanted to date me but wanted to keep me secret and there was no way I was going to be anyone’s dirty little secret!
😁iced coffee no . . . iced tea yes😁
I’m a huge red flag I guess.. 😂😂😂 good thing I’m Asexual.
Very good list. I had an ex that would always turn his phone from me when we laid together in bed. Definitely found out why later on.
I know the trying new things one wasn't that serious, but being pressured into trying new things, especially if they make you feel uncomfortable, is a serious red flag, imo.
According to both Kabbalah astrology and Conventional astrology the sign of Scorpio is the most sexually intense of all the signs.
Intense how? In a good way? 😉
@@danielwells1734 The intensity can be either extreme (either intensely positive or intensely negative), but again that's in potential form. Doesn't mean every Scorpio is like that because the Sun sign (the most dominant) can be either accentuated or mitigated by the signs of the other planets in someone's individual chart. .
The family thing secret is not really for me a red flag , it depends mostly under asian parents since majority are still you know. But hey we're 7 years already :). As long as we don't step on anyone :) because we're transparent to each other
J name, don't like iced coffee (hot for me), and a Scorpio. Come at me bro! 🤣
Number 10 will ALWAYS be a deal breaker for me when it comes to gay dating.
All in all - good cautions - stop ten seconds before you act - sleep on it! Eager to hear/see your new song/video! Thanks! Peace-Love!☮-💗
4:41 Finally found out the reason why I am single!!
The problem with trying to date a conservative or Trump supporter is that most of the time they try to defend themselves by saying, “but I don’t really follow politics or spend time researching things.” That basically translates to “I don’t care enough about what’s really going on so I’m just going to pick the side someone else told me to pick.”
Feel personally attacked for the Android phone.😮😂
His name starts with J me and my boyfriend have been together for 13 years and both of of our names start with J people call us J&J LOL
Remember this is just one man's red flag list, it means nothing.
Met my husband on Grindr.... 6 year together and 1.5 years married! He is my rock!
Well that’s awkward, I saw like 6 things that both of us do or have done lol good thing we’re actively working on ourselves
Has an Iphone, Political, lots of tattoos, brings up marriage early on, believes material things are important/determine success ;)
Where were guys like you when I was in my 20's? Ha-ha! Enjoying your channel. Keep up the good content!
« I don’t like fems » how is that a red flag ? It’s called preferences. You wouldn’t date a girl, well it’s the same thing, I just don’t feel any attraction to them. If they wanna be friends then ok but that’s it, I’m sorry.
I need to hear the story behind the 3 in 1 shampoo
Number 10 is definitely true lol the reply one is kinda stupid cuz there a lot more to do in my life then sit there a text someone over and over I got shit to do and sleep to catch up on.
As a Scorpio…yeah it is true LOL.
The concept of "red flags" is based on the assumption that everyone has the same value system and priorities -- which isn't the case.
Being a UA-camr should be a red flag. If they get mad at you, they can trash you before the entire world 😎🤣😳
Thank you. It seems like I've watched you grow up here. You were a bright and cute youth and you are turning into a fine young man.
Asking $ DEEP RED FLAG, especially if they request gift cards. Also claims "I'm in the military" are almost always lies☹️
That settles it Chris. We are a match....lol except..I am a 49 yr old in shape Scorpio.. pix upon request. Luv ya!!!
Whats with the red flag about tattoos? I feel attacked.
Welcome back i love your videos ❤️.
Great video so looking forward to your music video!!!
5:07 Wait what Chris !? 10K ! But what happen ? I did lose 2-3K with one of my ex...
How is 3 in 1 shampoo, not dating fems, not liking ice cofee,, has an Android name starting with J and being gay bad?
My 1st boyfriend wanted to keep me a secret, and my 2nd boyfriend was toxic and believed in Satan. It’s tough for romantic gays frfr. I just want a husband. Is that too much to ask for? Lol