My sister was a virgin until her mid 30s. She was really shy around guys her whole life. She's only kissed 3 guys, has only had 1 boyfriend who is now her husband. A little jealous she's never had to deal with shitty guys. Her husband is lovely and treats her so well.
@@Xaviar_Western because they didnt have to deal with shitty partners and heartbreaks, trauma from past relationships? I dont get what's difficult to understand
People are so weirdly attached to whether someone is a virgin or not, I’m glad you guys mentioned that there’s no need to feel uncomfortable as long as you’re comfortable with yourself. It’s no one else’s business, and whatever your natural pace is is what’s best for you, and that’s perfectly fine!
@@mohamedbanni9421 You got me in the first 1/3 lol if someone wants to be a virgin(for whatever reason) or is asexual, why does age matter? They aren’t hurting anyone
I love the positive note at the beginning. It always sucks when people make fun of someone for being a virgin. People have different reasons for waiting and it sucks that there’s this pressure to lose it quickly because a lot of people end up losing it before they were ready to or they’re so desperate they end up in bad situations.
Chill out, what ya yellin' for? Lay back, it's all been done before. And if you could only let it be, you will see that I am the funniest YouT*ber of all time. Admit it, my dear follow*r jol
I waited to lose mine until I was a sophomore in college, and it was STILL something I regretted afterwards because the dude turned out to be a total creep. Do what makes you happy, but also be safe
@@NotesOfMusica this is exactly why I stay a virgin. Bad enough I hate people. I really don't want to hate the first person I have s*x with. I'm about to be 29. Isn't that sad? I mean...I don't feel like I'm missing out. I don't really want to be around people at all anyway. I just want to cruise through life. I talk to people. But I usually keep it moving.
@@alexryherd9810 , they are there by choice, though, yes, even the priests and nuns. However, the priests and nuns do it for the wrong reasons, whereas the people that choose to wait until they are married are actually following the Holy Scriptures in their lives.
You dont become a 41 year old virgin by accident. Some people develop social skills, others dont. Its also a factor that she is just unattractive by common beauty standards.
I am a 21 year old virgin and I've recently come to the realization that I actually want more friends and hobbies rather than a significant other at the moment. It's almost like when you're younger and wanna be a teenager or adult already but then you realize that once you turn 21, you'll have the rest of your life to be an adult but your time as a kid is limited. Once I got to this realization, I've been more content with my life in general. It still gets me down every once in a while but not so much anymore so as to call it an insecurity. My time will come and I'm sure that by then I'll be ready 👍
She says she doesn't have a social life yet she has enough friends to have a party? Who are these people? Work associates? Random strangers off the internet? Family members?
Her best friend pulled a high school kegger move and drove past a group of random people and yelled, "Hey any of you want to go to a party?......well get in your car a follow me!:
She's treating this as if she's coming out of the closet. Not being a virgin isn't that big of a deal, some people probably don't ever lose theirs before they die. Society is messed up
For a brief second I actually thought she was going to explain why by coming out as asexual. I'm not sure why I expected anything more than what we got.
@Nathaniel Shrock lol that was one of the worst cases of second hand embarrassment I’ve had in a long time. I’m so confused how you were refreshed in any way after that announcement lmao
So true. Trust me, if your best friend is a virgin then they will remind you of that every single day until and unless they lose it. Once they lose it they are gonna tell you that every single day 🤣
@@reconsoldier135 When it's actually selfish to get kids now a days, there is a huge overpopulation problem.. But people don't give af and still get like 5 kids..
@@reconsoldier135 yeah, actually having kids just for the societies sake is selfish. It is big responsibility and because of bad parenting plenty kids suffer from it through their life time
Some people are such creeps that they are virgins for a reason, they repulse the people they try to approach. Those people should be ashamed, not for being virgins, but for being absolute creeps. And I think most people think of those type of bad examples when they think 30 yo virgin. And I think if you go around announcing to everybody that you are a virgin and makes this big a deal of it I think it's safe to say I can see why that person is a virgin to begin with. "Hey I'm Beth I'm a virgin". "What-- who--what??! I didn't ask for such personal information wtf is wrong with you! I literally just met you!" I think announcing such personal info to randoms is pretty creepy so this lady just shot herself in the foot there. I bet after that party everyone went home and talked about how weird she is and that they never want to hang out with her ever again and then warn other people how weird she is too.
I think the worst thing about being a virgin in your 20’s is that everyone assumes that you’re either religious, “saving yourself” for marriage, waiting for someone special or that something weird is going on. Like no, I’m just shy, and it just hasn’t happened yet. It’s really no big deal
As a non-virgin I can say that I 100% understand and sympathize with these insecurities, and only once you've actually done the deed will you learn to know how little it actually matters.
@@alleycat616 i mean it kind of does tho. It means you've biologically fulfilled your duty to the species... which is how our species has survived. To struggle to do it means somethings fundamentally wrong with you.
Not only does our society make a big deal out of being a virgin but people are also shamed and made fun of for choosing to stay virgin. What never made sense to me is that women with “high body counts” are shamed and those who are virgins are shamed. It’s like you’re supposed sleep with a pre-determined number of people decided for you by society.
Then there's the inverse effect where if a guy doesn't have a large body count he's seen as a failure and less of a guy. Both extremes can be incredibly toxic.
It might sound silly but Ken saying it's okay to be a virgin honestly meant a lot to me. It's something I'm really insecure about and it's nice to hear someone not be judgmental about it for once.
I wish I would have waited till I was at least in 20s. Never be insecure about that bec you have no idea how special will you be to someone oneday. Be who you are.
I wouldn't be embarrassed by telling someone that i was a virgin if i were her. what would embarrass me is that i gathered a group of people and even bought a cake to tell them. EDIT to add: as soon as she said im a virgin the way she said it sounded like this wasn't a clothes-on party.
There’s a whole group of people that don’t care what society tells them to do.. they do things when they’re ready and comfortable. It’s how it should be.
@@deliriouswhome1 What was the point of this comment? We're literally exposed to society if we want to be or not, of course everyone follows society in some way, shape or form. The guy's point was you do you and don't listen to overly judgemental shitheads
I'm a 23 year old virgin, I've had offers from men and women both but I'm just not interested in hook-ups, I wanna find someone special and if it doesn't happen then I'm not worried about it. I have OCD and Depression so relationships make my life more stressful anyway. Thanks for understanding people have different scenarios Ken, one of the reasons I love your videos!
I lost my virginity at 25. It wasn’t with a boyfriend or someone I loved. It was with a friend and the moment was right. I don’t regret it and we had fun. Do what works for you and when it’s right
Look, I'm nearly 28 years old and still a virgin. Sure, there's some religious reasons for me, but also I know I was not ready for that emotional impact as a teen or even early 20s. I also did not want the heartbreak that could come with something like that. But also I'm not hung up on it. This woman is. . .obviously hung up on it. And its creepy. I would never feel the need to announce it to my friends--the only person that needs to know that is someone romantically involved with me (that and this comment but that's pretty anonymous for me, lol). It's like she's looking for validation or expects that its going to become someone's goal to take her virginity once they know about it--which is odd. I don't think there's so much value put on virginity anymore once you've hit a certain age, that seems like high school nonsense.
Totally agree! Props to you for knowing your boundaries at such a young age! 👏 Your view on it is amazing but the pressure this lady feels is super sad and creepy that she wants to tell everyone at a party makes me nauseous.
High five girl…I was in my 30’s before I had my first time. It’s just how we are raised and nothing to be ashamed about or proud of. It just is our belief system. However knowing what I know now I’m not sure I would’ve waited.
I’m 25 and I lost mine a couple of months ago. My fiancé and I know each other since school. Been together 5 years. He proposed years ago I just didn’t feel ready to be married or be intimate that young. It’s not because of religion or having to be married or anything. I’m very lucky I found a very loving and understanding man who didn’t pressure me to do anything I didn’t felt comfortable with, he patiently waited.
I lost mine at 29 years old, it used to really bother me, and the whole stigma behind that is awful. about a year and a half later, as I look back on all that, I don't really see the big deal all that much and why everyone seems like you HAVE to lose it at a young age or there's "something wrong with you". I just wanted to wait for the right person is all...nothing wrong with that.
I was 26 and after I did it I realised I shouldn't have felt like a weirdo because sex is not a big life-changing thing. I kinda wish I hadn't done it but it did make me more confident.
I never understand why people make fun of others that are still virgins. There's absolutely NO shame in being a virgin. I did lose my virginity to someone I loved, but I was way too young and wish I would have waited longer. Guys, gals and NB peeps... If you're not 100% sure it's something you want to do, wait until you are. And don't EVER let anyone pressure you into it or make you feel bad for not wanting it. No means no.
@@thewatcheronthewalls4809 thanks, as dumb as it is to genuinely insult someone over it, Im also tired of people acting clueless about it. The implication is clearly that the person is undesirable (not that this is true)
I'm a 24 year old male who is still a virgin. And i can tell you it can get difficult because of the social standards. But anyone out there who is still a virgin and is struggling with it. Stop immediately. It won't change. Live your life and if it happens it happens. Don't let your happiness depend on how others see you. Having popped the cherry doesn't make u cooler or whatever.
same boat as you mate and agreed. worrying about it doesnt change anything. im fine with the fact i may die a virgin if thats the case. if i meet miss right then all good but if not well i still lived a happy life doing what i wanted to do. people let that shit worry them too much just wish i worried less about it as a teen because it dominated my life for a long time that i was single and that probably creeped girls out of dating me more than if i just didnt care and tried less lol
I remember all my girl friends who lost their virginity in high school would brag about it in the halls, I guess because it made them feel mature. But one on one, they'd tell me how awful and painful it was. My older sister got pregnant very young and seeing the struggle she had was definite birth control for me! I waited until I was older, had a decent job, was on the pill and was with someone that I really cared for. My first time was really nice. He took the time to make it special and made sure I was ready. People should do it when it feels right for them, not just to please someone else. It's definitely an important part of a healthy relationship as a way to physically show someone how much you care, but it's not the end all be all of loving someone.
Plus teens gossip about what they’re told feels good but they don’t actually understand what feels good. And in high school it’s more of a novelty/status thing
I can relate to that except i was/am 24 when i “lost” it(technically i kinda didnt but kinda did? I wanted to wait for someone special but the guy didnt give a shit about my countless no’s. But long story short, it couldnt go in all the way and I had belly pain for 2 weeks.
@@Beaneabean That's absolutely horrific and I'm really so sorry and pissed that happened to you! I hope that bag of human garbage has karma hit him like a ton of bricks 🤬 I just want you to know that when you're ready to be with someone you care about, on YOUR terms, who will take the time to make you comfortable and feel loved, it can be a very beautiful thing! I sincerely hope that you are doing well now! And please know that I will be saying a prayer that the lowlife criminal who assaulted you steps in dog doo and doesn't realize it so he goes around the whole day smelling like the piece of shit he is! Meanwhile, may a gentle breeze always carry the sweet smell of roses your way to remind you that you are worthy of beautiful things in this life! ❤️
@@queenb1119 its gonna sound bad but I still talk to him. I kinda feel like I need to try to make something work with him since i wanted my first everything to be with the person I end up being with forever….yea i know it makes no sense
@@Beaneabeanthat's a very good way to end up in a toxic relationship. The fact that he didn't have the basic decency to listen to your "no's" tells you enough about the kind of person he is. I can promise you it'll be much harder to get out of a relationship like that if you end up in one with him and recover from those years than it may be now to accept that your first love isn't always your forever love. Please make the smart choice here and try to let go of that ideal picture. I'm very sorry it happened to you, I hope that the first time you will have enthousiast consensual s*x it'll be with a great person who respects you. Take care❤️
I remember having this talk with a guy on Snapchat.. he wanted to know if I was a virgin. He seemed very awkward and shy, so I figured he didn't mean anything bad by it, so I responded. "No.. why? Is that a problem?" "No, jw.. I am. Sorry if that's a turn off." "Nah, not really, lol. I'm not the girl that's turned off or on by it." We talked on the phone a few days later, I asked him on a minecraft date, he said yes. I planned a little Minecraft picnic and on our Minecraft date I asked if he'd be my Valentine. We went on our first in person date on Valentines day last year.. three days later he asked me to be his girlfriend. I've been in love with this awkward, dorky guy ever since and I wouldn't have it any other way❤🥰
I'm of the, "why does this have to have a party?" Club. I understand that she's thinking it's time to for her to admit it and accept it, but I don't see why someone's sexual history or lack there if is something to "admit" in the first place to anyone who you're not building or trying to build a sexual history with. It's weird.
Hey man, in several cultures in Asia the legend goes that if you stay a virgin and you turn 30 you'll become a wizard with awesome powers which sounds way cooler than ten minutes of getting gross and sweaty
Theres a yaoi series called cherry magic thirty years of virginity can make you a wizard. Which is literally about this coment its a about a man who finds he can mind read on his thirtieth birthday and that a guy in his office has a crush on him its really cute and wholesome
Being a virgin can definitely effect how you perceive yourself and your desirability and attractiveness especially if you’re virginity isn’t intentional.
@@MAT999 I mean... you can have a pet 😸 Being single isn't sad. You can still have a life. It's even more horrible being in abusive relationships etc. Or being with someone who doesn't love you at all. Get a hobby, find new interests, new friends who cares if you're ugly you can still be happy and pets will love you anyway lmao they don't care how you look.
@@MAT999 Bruh are you me? I am also 32 and ugly. I'm also incredibly introverted so I get nervous around guys. But I did get a cat and I can confirm he loves me unconditionally regardless of I'm ugly lmao.
I remember one of my friends boyfriend asked my if I was a virgin since they had been in an intimate relationship for a little over a year. I said yes and because he was kind of a stereotypical jock dude I was waiting for the jokes. Hated the guy but he was surprisingly nice about it and we had a talk about it and abuse. It was a very meaningful conversation and as much as I dislike him to this day, it was really helpful and anxiety relieving to talk to someone who sympathized about the whole thing
I actually have a condition called vaginismus, which is where the muscles of my pelvic floor tense up and contract, preventing penetration. I am working through it with a pelvic floor physical therapist. It makes me a virgin by definition and it is something that affects my self esteem so much. I have a partner who is so amazing and supportive. We have an amazing intimate relationship in other ways. Just spreading some awareness :)
I knew a co worker who was a virgin in his late 20s. Was a cool dude. Handsome. He just enjoyed life and time for himself. I kept checking the news if it turned out he was a serial killer. Nothing. Lol it's been years. Hope he's well. Hope you guys have a good day and ty for the daily content. Appreciate it
I'm a 30 year old "virgin." In college, I thought I was gay or bi, but at 27, I realized I'm asxul. Lots of people are. And ppl finding it weird or shameful is just as harmful as telling someone they're not really gay until they try it with the opposite sx. Know yourself and love who you are.
it's so nice to read about other people who are around my age and still haven't done it. I am pretty comfortable with myself and my choices, but seeing this video I got a bit self-conscious. It's a refresher to know it's not such a rare occurrence as the general mind tries to make it
@God of Lovers I see people as objectively appealing, like I can say "he/she is f-ing hot," but I don't invision them nked or having sx with them or having them touch me when I'm nked. Maybe it's an element of my OCD. I don't know. But I've never felt the desire to have sx with someone else.
@MerryBerry so true. It's such an odd concept; a majority of people don't think it's a real sxual orientation. And it IS difficult for asxul people to understand their sxl orientation, especially in our current dating era. It's why it took me so long to realize it lol. I've had multiple guys and girls offer me sx, and I've always felt offered/disgusting by it.
Ik people back then linked it with being pure and "not sinned" "losing purity/innocence" or whatever, but I like to think of it now as in losing the *inexperience* . But the whole thing with hymen and that women are virgins until it's penetrated is whole BS, that sadly some people still believe it.
I don't agree. I don't attach any morality to it but it is a life event that should have some acknowledgement as virginal has some practical definitions - not just religious or moral attachments. Like snowfall can be called virginal. At the very least for health purposes regarding lifestyle. You don't have to erase something to give give it a more societally balanced connotation. We don't have to stop using certain terminology to become indifferent to it.
Same and i always hit them with a don't worry about it it's a total invasion of privacy fr when people ask "are you a virgin?" Like bye done with this conversation.
I feel like it's our body our choice. People who save thier virginity and those who have many sexual partners shouldn't be shamed. It is life. Let people live it.
Wat? You are saying people live their life exactly how they want? No way Jose, most people don’t know what they are doing and make horrible decisions based off of fear and confusion. I don’t understand this idea that shame should not exist. If I spend my nights masturbating to henti and gnawing on a stick of cookie dough, I should be ashamed. Because that is all I will ever get out of life and I will descend into a placid life of misery and contempt. People say, “as long as they are not hurting others then it’s not an issue.” But we hurt ourselves more than we hurt anyone else, we lie to ourselves more than anyone lies to us.
Agreed! And it is all what you are comfortable with. If you find many partners you are attracted to and want to be with (in a healthy not addicted way) then go for it. If you haven't found anyone you want to take that step with and are less saving and more waiting, then go for it. It is a made up concept anyway as, unless you get a disease or pregnant, it changes nothing.
@@DenDarEmi my mother lived “free”, she is now living out of her car with a deep hatred for men. She lived it up in her 20s and thirty’s. Never committed to anything, never lived with a semblance of a moral code. What you do now effects what you will have in the future. There is nothing freeing about hedonism. To be free you must first be a slave, no one is willing to work for anything, to sacrifice a moment of pleasure for the prospect of greatness. Loneliness and degradation is what is waiting you all in the future , I can see it in my mothers eyes.
When Ken was like "if the roles were reversed and this was a man saying he wa a avirgin and not by choice, would he be weird?" I said "yes Ken, they have a name and we call them INCELS." this woman is still the definition of an incel - she's making it more of an issue that it should be.
@@leighnicole100 Incels are actually virgins by choice lol. It kinda changed meaning bc men that weren't *actually* V by choice joined the fray and were quite hateful towards women for not wanting them. But no, the true (or original) meaning of incel is celibate by choice.
When she said it wasn’t a choice, she meant that it wasn’t for religious or personal reasons. It wasn’t saving herself for marriage or because she was asexual.
@@leighnicole100 the term just seems odd to me. i dunno if i am considered incel but to me its always attributed to creepy people who make a big deal out of being a virgin and attack people randomly for it because they are sensitive. i never had luck with women because of my low self confidence and i have nerdy hobbies in an area where its not very common. but it was never a big deal for me nor did i blame or attack others for it. i just move on with my life and work on myself.
Honestly it was so nice hearing ken and buff say how you shouldn't be embarrassed to still be a virgin. I'm 22 and still a virgin, never even kissed a guy, and I feel really ashamed of it sometimes
It's totally cool to be a virg. Honestly it's a lot better than what a lot of people do. Don't get down on yourself. Know your value and if the time comes it will
I'm 23 and in the same situation, I don't really feel ashamed or anything, but it does make you feel out of the loop with others at times. There's probably plenty of others in the same place too, it's just that they don't really mention it, probably because it's not such a big deal anyway, we each go through life in different ways and at different paces!
@@deathdealer312 Yes! How do think I heard them make fun of the girls hair and her weight. I as well thought that was very mean. Not everyone can afford a nice hairstyle and some people use food to cope with depression. I think it’s mean to make fun of someone so no one asked you either so be quiet
@@Spyrobeamer and lots of overweight men make fun of overweight woman. Do we live on the same planet? I love these two but they wouldn’t like it if someone put down their wives now would they? Yup! Didn’t think so.
When her friend said “ I’m a virgin as well” it made me imagine a plot twist where everyone at the party turn out to be virgins as well. 😂 Honestly nothing wrong with being or not being a virgin. What bugs me about this lady though, she is trying to make it seem like not a big deal, she wants to get rid of it, she’s uncomfortable about it and yet she turns around and throws a party for her “big secret” while being filmed for a show about her being a virgin. She goes between “ Oops I kinda forgot” personally to “ it makes me feel uncomfortable” to “ let’s throw a party that may circulate some interest” in a span of 8 minutes. Not trying to be mean but dude pick one. It’s either not a big deal or it’s something that you’re uncomfortable about to where you wanna “ get rid of it” quietly and forget about it or you want attention to the fact that you’re a virgin so you dedicate a party to it…
Every last one of you mental midgets, honestly, do you all know what it is like to be virgins? At least she is legitimately trying to escape being one, whereas you lot love being them in your lives.
My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. Exploring and learning about that side of our relationship has been extremely fun. I am grateful that I waited as long as I did. There were times when I was ashamed of the fact that I was a virgin and hated that I was one, but waiting was so worth it to me.
@@Blox117 yeah no. Same happened with me and my husband. Well ok it was technically a few days before the wedding lol but close enough. He was a real champ waiting for me the way he did. Honestly if I could go back in time I would have just done it earlier lol (I had a religious/strict mother, was afraid of getting pregnant, wanted to finish college first etc). But you live you learn. We are still happily together 20 years later.
@@Blox117 lol some loser on the internet who’s never met me acting like he knows what he’s talking about so he can feel superior. Boy, I was told by many I should model when i was younger and am still attractive in my late 30s for whatever that matters. Now run along and go be a troll somewhere else. Sounds like you’re just bitter you are incel yourself and can’t comprehend someone might actually wait out of other reasons than being “ugly”.
as an asexual being, i'm still one at 30, and probably will be till i die lol, i don't care about it even as a concept or whatever. but hey, i hope this lady gets laid & enjoys life however she sees fit. kudos to her.
@@bigtombowski you can legit use 'being' as a common noun. it's not that complicated. 'Human being' 'extraterrestrial being'. it's English. & I can refer to myself however I'd like..?
As a woman I am highly doubtful that her friends didn't know. Like, we talk about sh!t, even if we're not close, we talk about sh!t. There is no way in Hell these friends didn't know she was a virgin. I'm down for any excuse to party but this was the dumbest reason ever. The word you're looking for for men is "incel", involuntarily celibate.
I waited 'til marriage for religious reasons, and I don't regret it at all. I consider myself very lucky to not have relationship baggage/trauma, even if others think I "missed out" lol. Missed out on what? Getting my heart broken? No thanks.
I was always disgusted by the idea of intercourse; I wanted to be a virgin for life. Then I fell in love, and two years into the relationship it happened. Despite the fact that this is the person I’m committed to, and we plan on marriage and all that forever stuff, I still have the occasional path of shame and guilt and disgust. Sexual education is so important, and I wish that I wasn’t raised with such a fierce hatred towards something that is… normal.
...It sounds like you had self esteem issue's until you "fell in love". The only issue I have with everything you said though. Is if you were so disgusted by the "idea" of intercourse why would you just be in a "relationship" and then give it away. That's why you still feel the shame and guilt and disgust... Cause you do NOT know or have a 100% certainty that he's going to stick around or even marry you & yet you already gave it up...
I'm almost 24 and still a virgin but after this long of waiting I've realized it's definitely been for the best. There's no religious values or anything keeping from losing it and I'm not waiting for marriage (I'm just incredibly introverted) but now that I'm here I've learned that what I want is a deep connection with someone more than the actual act itself and so if I ever find someone it's going to be so much more meaningful because of it rather then like my friends who lost it to some random girl in high-school or college.
That's a valiant aspiration, but you are setting yourself up for some serious heartache and depression when your first really serious relationships go to shit. They almost always do. Just a heads up.
I hope you find the person you're waiting for. I waited until I was 20. A few blokes left me at 16/17 as i wasn't ready . 16 years and a 10 year old later and he still sends me stupid pics of Uranus 🤦😂
Couldn’t have said better myself. 25 and haven’t either. I waited this long, I’d rather be it with someone that I actually care for and feel close to. People make it such a big deal for some reason and I don’t get it.
Same here. Call me old fashioned but I believe I should be able to tell someone I love you and mean it with my whole heart before I sleep with someone. The hardest part is finding someone that feels the same, most guys just want an easy lay.
I was cracking up! Kens videos are very “family friendly” and when he said that, I really don’t think he realized what he said until Buff started howling😅😅😂😂🤣
I'd add something to that speech like, "I'm announcing this because I feel a bit awkward dating and socializing. As might be obvious by this party. But, I'm hoping you as my friends might be able to help me meet people." Give them something actionable, a mission, a reason this is happening at all.
I'm 36 and I'm still a virgin. It used to bother me, thinking something was wrong. But these last 2 years I realized that I'm asexual or at least demisexual, and it was incredibly freeing. And finding more people like me was awesome!! There's nothing wrong with you, you're valid and you can live your happy life the way that you prefer (mine has dogs, plants and music lol)
I always found it interesting how if a women in her teens/20s was still a virgin it was almost idolized by some guys where as if a guy was still a virgin around that age he was viewed “not as manly”. Or on the other aspect if a women has a high body count she is shamed but if a man has a high body count he is praises by “the boys”. There is just heavy double standards around the whole topic
There’s a reason for that, guys have to put in work to get laid whereas women don’t. From an evolutionary standpoint women can get pregnant so they have more to lose and men only have everything to gain from sleeping around biologically speaking
Ole' girl needs to go to a film production and schpill her predicaments and make a film a Steve Carrell knockoff from the 40 Year Old Virgin and make a sequel, the 41 Year Old Virgin! But anyways, i freaking admire these 2 bro's tremendously!!! Talking about one of my favorite sitcoms ever, SUPERNATURAL!!! ♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️
I was a virgin until I was 24. I absolutely felt self conscious for people to know because of the stigma. People just think it's weird for some reason. I wasn't really ashamed but I hated how people made me feel like I was odd for it. And it made me feel alone since the main reason was a never had a real relationship.
I was a virgin until I was 24 too, and it was actually a pretty good point in my life for that. Like, I don't think doing it earlier would have been better, because honestly, I probably wasn't ready for that before. No idea why some people make such a big deal out of it.
it's probably a lot more common than people think. i'm not very social, i have like 30 facebook friends, but i know 2 people in my friend group personally who are above 30 and never had anyone. and they aren't asexuals either. It's just that people are more aware about what they want and what to avoid. dating is not that easy for those who don't want one night stands and just parties. genuine human connection is super rare , it feels like.
That's a good way to put it. I remember even in high school and early college I would take all pains for a hookup, and being not necessarily unpopular but also not one of THEE Cool kids, I definitely made a lot of bad decisions in that time. This whole hypersexual culture we live on edges out the people who aren't social superstars but rather are having a more prolonged search for the right person to share themselves with, and God forbid that if anyone has to deal with, well for lack of better phrase, involuntary celibacy for this, then it is imperative that we not participate in the rites of shaming those already hurt. Wish you luck.
I love that message in the beginning. I wanted to lose mine so badly that I put myself into a bad situation with an older lady. I regret it every time I think about it.
Ken is right. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. My father taught me if I want to lose my virginity. Make sure the guy loves you first. I never had that feeling before. I thought there was something wrong with me till I met my bf. He's really kind and caring and doesn't shame me for being a virgin. He's happy to wait until I'm ready 😊😅
@@rickbautista2504 what does that have to do with anything? Are you saying that it’s wrong bc ken says you can wait but he’s already done it and has kids? If he wants to he can?? I don’t understand what you’re saying
I'm 29 and I'm still a virgin. Society needs to get over the "stigma" of those who still own their v-cards past their teenage years. I am a virgin by choice and will never be intimate with someone I don't see myself wanting to be in a relationship with or be able to trust. There are too many douchebag men out there that think a woman's virginity is like a hunting trophy, the more they get the more alpha male they are. Honestly I am happy being a virgin and I won't give it up to just anyone. I've dealt with creeps and I'm glad I respected myself and have strong enough morals to avoid them. It is not a bad thing to wait until you're ready and feel comfortable. Any man that rushes you is not worthy of getting yours.
Diehard supernatural fan over here. If I hadn’t been so emotionally invested in the show I probably would have stopped watching around season five as well.
As a virgin, it made me happy and strangely relieved to hear you say that it's nothing to be ashamed of. Always felt it was awkward being a virgin and having almost reached 30.
As a non virgin wish I did it differently and with a totally different person. It will happen when it feels right for you. Just don't throw a weird coming out party
Congrats to that! I wish I wouldn’t have given those parts of myself to ppl who didn’t deserve it when I was young and dumb. I think ppl should feel the opposite of shame about it imo.
I really appreciate how they handled the subject. It's pretty obnoxious how much peer pressure there is into losing your virginity, like it's some horrible disease or something. On top of what was discussed, it is much better to wait and give it to someone who truly cares about you. I lost mine with an ex, and I seriously regret it. Especially on retrospect, there wasn't any romance or love in it or any of the times. Maybe it was just me, but, if it is a goal of yours, you'll be much better off if you don't jump at the first opportunity. If you don't care either way, don't give in to the social pressure of it. It's your life, you do what makes you happy and leaves you with as few regrets as possible.
I appreciate your attitude towards virginity. In a lot of ways, this woman is me. I’m forty-one and still single, and I come from a religious background that teaches to keep pure until after marriage, and then only with your spouse. So I wouldn’t be as brazen as she is, but I know what she’s going through. The loneliness and the FOMO are really bad, and it seems like everybody else your age is married and has kids.
In the meantime there's me who has had a few partners and some of them turned out to be lessons for the future. You are on your own path, whatever you do, make it worth it in the end. Hang in there.
Roman Catholic virgin woman nearing 30 here, and you hit the nail on the head. But I'd rather work on myself and just enjoy the single life than cave in to the expectation of being a wife and mom. It's lonely at times for sure, but in this loneliness you appreciate the value of solitude and discover your own inner strength and confidence. 🙂
For all you virgins out there, as someone who’s not a virgin, I can tell you it’s really not something to rush for, I lost it to someone I really cared about and that made it a more valuable experience to me, and recently I said no to someone’s advances and it was way more empowering than being able to say I’m not a virgin. They say it’s not all it’s cracked up to be which is true, but what they don’t say is it’s such a good feeling to be in control of your own body. For y’all horndogs out there: if you can think of more than two conflicts of interest between your potential partner and you, it’s probably not worth your time.
What matters is the experience, and the DESIRE. I remember being a pre teen and having that be just about the only thing on my mind.. once it becomes a regular thing you kind of take it for granted.. until you can’t have it😂
I'm a proud almost 21 year old virgin. I have a boyfriend, but I'm saving myself for marriage, but I'm happy being a virgin right now. I don't have to worry about pregnancies or STIs
I’m absolutely LIVING for the positivity from Ken and Buff, and the whole comment section. Virginity is just a word. You do whatever you’re comfortable with, and when you’re comfortable doing it. 💛
Imagine, One day you wake up, and realize that you are virgin, and there is a sudden urge to tell everybody about it on international TV show. Could you imagine, cuz I can^t
If she said it was a party to reveal a secret her friends mustve 1000% thought she was about to come out as gay. Especially if they noticed she doesnt do anything with guys.
38 male and still one as well. I'm still dealing with the social stigma of carrying an unpunched v-card. being introverted and socially uncomfortable doesnt help things, but hey... im learning to love myself more everyday
as a 24 year old going through the same as you being introverted and liking very nerdy hobbies i gotta say i found enjoyment from working on myself trying to find out more about what i like in terms of music, games, books, movies etc etc and learning what my personal beliefs are politically and religiously etc and of course physically. ive been trying to learn to speak better especially in social situations, be more confident, contribute properly to conversations, read social ques and have a healthier diet and workout (which i admit is the one im the worst at). end of the day if your not happy with yourself how can you be happy with somebody else because it doens't fix the you problem. i have improved a ton in just a year and all my work friends have even commented on it. simple things like standing up straight, being more vocal, getting involved in activities and simply smiling more. i dont mean to sound condescending because im 24 and your in your 30s you you have more experience than me but i find i learn a lot from people of all ages. a big inspiration for me was jordan petersons work on self improvement (not all of it but some of it) and im a big fan of guts from the anime berserk who basically works on himself all the time and strives to be better and doesnt let things tear him down, he sucks it up and deals with it head on even if it nearly kills him. i know its fictional but its still inspiring.
Not a virgin, but it happened in my teens. I'm now 36 and haven't been with anyone since. I don't understand why the V card is such an issue to some people. Just save it for the right person.
It's like you want to introduce them to the concept of demisexuals, asexuals, etc. Some people just aren't interested ever, some people are only interested if they find the right person (and being a hermit doesn't help you run into prospects). It's not something she needs to remediate.
I have a friend who got married last year She was 41 and he was her first kiss and everything else too. It's really sweet ...and she is so very happy with him.... I'm not sure I could have ever done that so I give her mad respect!
The person I am currently dating was a (33 year old) virgin when I met him. The biggest struggle for me to overcome, was my worry that he was desperate or just settling because I was the only person giving him attention. I was also worried that maybe he had some huge red flags that I was blind to, that scared off everyone else. Turns out he is just really shy, doesn't really go out to meet new people, and has a really hard time expressing interest to others. If I hadn't been so forward in expressing interest to him, he never would have the confidence to pursue me. I'm very happy with him, and feel pretty lucky I was able to find him
The guy you described is similar to the guy I currently like…I’m worried that if he reciprocated my feelings he would just be settling for me cuz he hasn’t had a gf before (I haven’t told him that I like him)…how did you know that his intentions were good? Like he’s just shy and all?
This story is very interesting. I never thought of the insight of that situation. I would feel insecure as well. I'm glad it turned out in a lovely relationship. It made me smile
I haven’t watched the video yet…but by the title I already am a virgin sort of by accident, but also due to religious views. But also due to PTSD from the military and losing interest and thoughts of not being good enough. So it’s a mix of things. I’m 34, never touched a woman before, and guys are always perplexed and ask “how?” Because they always say I’m a very attractive guy who could get any woman I want, from what they say. I don’t go into the “I have PTSD and don’t feel good enough” with them. I only tell people I’m a Virgin and they are always confused. At this point I don’t even know anymore. I feel like more woman were interested in my early 20s now everyone is married and more into their own lives.
Trauma is something a lot of people have to work through in order to be intimate mentally or physically with someone else, don't worry, eventually the time will come when you feel ready, and you might find someone in a similar situation who understands. I was sexually assaulted in high school, and it took me years to finally be in a good place mentally to engage in relationships or be intimate again. During the time though, I felt like I was behind the curve and missing out on experiences because of my trauma. Later on, when I got better, I realized that I needed that time to heal. And once I healed I found people who went through similar things to me, and connected with them. :) Keep your head up
You know what they say, "In order to love another person, you gotta love yourself first." No need to be ashamed, man. It's understandable. Just gotta work on that road to recovery first, at least if you want your first time to be positive and meaningful.
It’s ok Jacob. You’ll find the right one if you decide you want to get married. Some things just take time and “good things come to those who wait”. In the meantime, all you have to do is work on being the best man you can be.
To be honest I can understand waiting due to PTSD. I have PTSD as well and it has made it to where I hate physical contact with others. When people try to hug me it freaks me out and gives me severe anxiety.
My sister was a virgin until her mid 30s. She was really shy around guys her whole life. She's only kissed 3 guys, has only had 1 boyfriend who is now her husband. A little jealous she's never had to deal with shitty guys. Her husband is lovely and treats her so well.
What a lucky woman, I'm jealous too lol
@@paulakerner7923 right!? No heartbreak, no fights, no past relationship trauma. Some people have it easy.
I mean, take some responsibility.
@@Xaviar_Western because they didnt have to deal with shitty partners and heartbreaks, trauma from past relationships? I dont get what's difficult to understand
@@paulakerner7923 Same and I’m a dude.😅
People are so weirdly attached to whether someone is a virgin or not, I’m glad you guys mentioned that there’s no need to feel uncomfortable as long as you’re comfortable with yourself. It’s no one else’s business, and whatever your natural pace is is what’s best for you, and that’s perfectly fine!
Agreed, I don't know why people are so ignorant if you do or don't get some
Totally agree, unless you're like pushing 40. Then it's an issue.
@@mohamedbanni9421 You got me in the first 1/3 lol if someone wants to be a virgin(for whatever reason) or is asexual, why does age matter? They aren’t hurting anyone
Definitely a virgin
@@mohamedbanni9421 an issue for you maybe. I don’t think anyone here is too concerned with your standards.
I love the positive note at the beginning. It always sucks when people make fun of someone for being a virgin. People have different reasons for waiting and it sucks that there’s this pressure to lose it quickly because a lot of people end up losing it before they were ready to or they’re so desperate they end up in bad situations.
Chill out, what ya yellin' for? Lay back, it's all been done before. And if you could only let it be, you will see that I am the funniest YouT*ber of all time. Admit it, my dear follow*r jol
I waited to lose mine until I was a sophomore in college, and it was STILL something I regretted afterwards because the dude turned out to be a total creep. Do what makes you happy, but also be safe
I am still a virgin by choice due to certain circumstances but people still made fun of me for that choice but I don’t regret it
@@NotesOfMusica this is exactly why I stay a virgin. Bad enough I hate people. I really don't want to hate the first person I have s*x with. I'm about to be 29. Isn't that sad? I mean...I don't feel like I'm missing out. I don't really want to be around people at all anyway. I just want to cruise through life. I talk to people. But I usually keep it moving.
@@lisadooley3872 100% wait until you're ready
As someone who wishes they would have waited, don't ever let someone make you feel weird about being a virgin
Yea I wish I would have waited too
Barring religious reasons, you should not feel bad at all for not waiting. It's a completely normal part of life.
@@chrisr5649 well this is how I feel
Yeah, don't make them weirder than they already are. These people aren't virgins by choice. Not saying it to be mean but we know it's true.
@@alexryherd9810 , they are there by choice, though, yes, even the priests and nuns. However, the priests and nuns do it for the wrong reasons, whereas the people that choose to wait until they are married are actually following the Holy Scriptures in their lives.
I can't imagine having an "I'm a Virgin" party. That's like something that would happen in a nightmare.
Or a really good sitcom or really bad sitcom.... no in between
LITERALLY LMFAO
Reminds me of that first moon party commercial from awhile back 🤣
I would’ve been mortified. It’s not that it’s embarrassing per se, but projecting it is weird afffffffff
... certainly not if you were a guy!
Inviting all of your friends to a party to tell them you're a virgin is the most virgin behavior I can imagine
True. But free cake and food, I'm here for it.
@@kikinatrone sheesh
You dont become a 41 year old virgin by accident. Some people develop social skills, others dont. Its also a factor that she is just unattractive by common beauty standards.
Haha
It’s the only thing I can imagine, other then a missed handshake
I feel for them. As a virgin myself, it weighs on me how to tell my children.
lmao
Underrated comment 🤣🤣🤣
Hold up LOL
Lol, I had to read that twice to get it.
........ did you adopt them?
I was 21 and got made fun of. The same people that made fun of me are broke from paying child support. I hold my head up high.
I am a 21 year old virgin and I've recently come to the realization that I actually want more friends and hobbies rather than a significant other at the moment. It's almost like when you're younger and wanna be a teenager or adult already but then you realize that once you turn 21, you'll have the rest of your life to be an adult but your time as a kid is limited.
Once I got to this realization, I've been more content with my life in general. It still gets me down every once in a while but not so much anymore so as to call it an insecurity. My time will come and I'm sure that by then I'll be ready 👍
King shit👑💯
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I'm 40 and I am a virgin. It's lonely most times but there are a lot more to life than worrying about this particular issue
News flash, child support is just paying for the child you made. It isn't money someone just told you you owe one day.
She says she doesn't have a social life yet she has enough friends to have a party? Who are these people? Work associates? Random strangers off the internet? Family members?
Literally. She has more friends than me and I am married with a kid 😂
Her best friend pulled a high school kegger move and drove past a group of random people and yelled, "Hey any of you want to go to a party?......well get in your car a follow me!:
ik i have no friends online or irl this lady is drama
Random family associates 🙃
Maybe Paid actors
She's treating this as if she's coming out of the closet. Not being a virgin isn't that big of a deal, some people probably don't ever lose theirs before they die. Society is messed up
For a brief second I actually thought she was going to explain why by coming out as asexual. I'm not sure why I expected anything more than what we got.
@Nathaniel Shrock how is it refreshing that she is that cringe?
@Nathaniel Shrock lol that was one of the worst cases of second hand embarrassment I’ve had in a long time. I’m so confused how you were refreshed in any way after that announcement lmao
It’s more upsetting that she’s alone and doesn’t have a family. Being a virgin isn’t the problem here.
Getting a girl or guy was easy for me. The hard part is finding someone and knowing if you even want to be married or not.
There is no universe where your BEST FRIEND doesn't know that you're a virgin.
So true.
Trust me, if your best friend is a virgin then they will remind you of that every single day until and unless they lose it.
Once they lose it they are gonna tell you that every single day 🤣
Right!?!
that is exactly what i was thinking
@@SkeppyCat you may not tell your best friend, but your best friend probably knows.
My sister used to moan at me for over-sharing 🤣
The second woman was just like "So what you're saying is this could've been a phone call..." lmao
Better yet-a text
I find it so sad when virginity is considered shameful by our society.
Almost as bad as not having kids, tell people you don’t want kids and you’ll get called selfish
It’s impressive and not to be ashamed of it should t be a huge deal
@@reconsoldier135 When it's actually selfish to get kids now a days, there is a huge overpopulation problem.. But people don't give af and still get like 5 kids..
@@reconsoldier135 yeah, actually having kids just for the societies sake is selfish. It is big responsibility and because of bad parenting plenty kids suffer from it through their life time
Some people are such creeps that they are virgins for a reason, they repulse the people they try to approach. Those people should be ashamed, not for being virgins, but for being absolute creeps. And I think most people think of those type of bad examples when they think 30 yo virgin. And I think if you go around announcing to everybody that you are a virgin and makes this big a deal of it I think it's safe to say I can see why that person is a virgin to begin with. "Hey I'm Beth I'm a virgin". "What-- who--what??! I didn't ask for such personal information wtf is wrong with you! I literally just met you!" I think announcing such personal info to randoms is pretty creepy so this lady just shot herself in the foot there. I bet after that party everyone went home and talked about how weird she is and that they never want to hang out with her ever again and then warn other people how weird she is too.
I think the worst thing about being a virgin in your 20’s is that everyone assumes that you’re either religious, “saving yourself” for marriage, waiting for someone special or that something weird is going on. Like no, I’m just shy, and it just hasn’t happened yet. It’s really no big deal
Exactly. Thank you for that
Let me know when you tryna change that 😁😈
@@loganjohnson8797 Ew
@@randomperson7556 offer is up for you too okay no need to be jelly
Agreed. Lots of people are what they call "Love Shy". Everyone always assumes it's on purpose or like you said, religious, etc.
As a non-virgin I can say that I 100% understand and sympathize with these insecurities, and only once you've actually done the deed will you learn to know how little it actually matters.
Exactly. It’s weird how much stock people put in it. I mean yes it’s fun but it doesn’t change who you are as a person or anything.
That's fr
@@alleycat616 i mean it kind of does tho. It means you've biologically fulfilled your duty to the species... which is how our species has survived. To struggle to do it means somethings fundamentally wrong with you.
@@Acvdsxbfz saying there is something fundamentally wrong with someone for being a virgin is extreme
@Steven Moody Saying there’s something wrong with being a virgin is virgin behavior
She rockin' the lord Farquaad haircut.
Damnnn 😂😂😂
☠️☠️☠️
Lol yes
She has to know it looks like a storm trooper helmet, right?
That’s fuckn hilarious bro
Not only does our society make a big deal out of being a virgin but people are also shamed and made fun of for choosing to stay virgin.
What never made sense to me is that women with “high body counts” are shamed and those who are virgins are shamed. It’s like you’re supposed sleep with a pre-determined number of people decided for you by society.
"If the kill count is over 30 then be wary of the curse called herpes"
- Master Oogway
Then there's the inverse effect where if a guy doesn't have a large body count he's seen as a failure and less of a guy. Both extremes can be incredibly toxic.
Well I'm not ashamed of being a virgin. Gonna take mine to the grave. 😎 But I also mad respect those with high body counts.
It's one of those 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' situations unfortunately, which sucks.. 😑
I’ve received a lot of the shaming from other women when I was a virgin so 🤷🏽♀️
It might sound silly but Ken saying it's okay to be a virgin honestly meant a lot to me. It's something I'm really insecure about and it's nice to hear someone not be judgmental about it for once.
Imo it is good to be a virgin. I'm not one, and it makes me sad. I wish I could take it all back
I wish I would have waited till I was at least in 20s. Never be insecure about that bec you have no idea how special will you be to someone oneday. Be who you are.
I get it, it’s ok dude or dudet’.
@@christopherbryan4077 not funny dude. The person is embarrassed enough
Same! I just never got around to do it 😬😬. It’s not as big of a deal people make it out to be
"how creepy you want this whole party to be?"
This woman: *"yes"*
More like cringy?
@@elisanoro both. Both is good.
@【BL4NKTTY】 eeeeeh not even sus this is just straight creepy
I wouldn't be embarrassed by telling someone that i was a virgin if i were her. what would embarrass me is that i gathered a group of people and even bought a cake to tell them.
EDIT to add: as soon as she said im a virgin the way she said it sounded like this wasn't a clothes-on party.
There’s a whole group of people that don’t care what society tells them to do.. they do things when they’re ready and comfortable. It’s how it should be.
Everyone does something according to society..
My life hasn't been "normal" by societal standards and I don't care. What's happened in my past has made me who I am, for better or worse.
@@deliriouswhome1 too true. However, it's not bad to see people bucking the trends.
@@feraltaco4783 depends on the so called trends in which thier bucking.
And what might be seen bucking one trend might become a trend itself.
@@deliriouswhome1 What was the point of this comment? We're literally exposed to society if we want to be or not, of course everyone follows society in some way, shape or form. The guy's point was you do you and don't listen to overly judgemental shitheads
Her: *Turns 41, still a virgin*
Also her: "Aw crap, I knew there was something I forgot to do!"
Same vibe as teen moms claiming they don't know how it happened 😂
Haha! 🤣 She seems like such a fun lady. I hope she finds someone who can appreciate her.
I love how sensitive and considerate they are of others, whilst maintaining a funny atmosphere
Yeah it’s not like malicious but it’s funny
a lot of people assume funny = being mean. but the two are completely unrelated.
Yes I am also relieved 😌
They have definitely matured. Good for them.
Are you ace or that just a coincidence?
@@ParadoxFree Wondering the same lol
" What an awful idea... I'm with it!"
Dane is definitely the one in the friend group that supports you no matter what and I love that about him! 🤣
I'm 45 & still a virgin. I grew up thinking I was broken, until I learned about asexuality. It makes sense.
I am also asexual. When I found out it was liberating!
@@willowen3074 *Raises hand* me too discovering I was ace just made everything make sense and feelings I had had since I was a teen I knew were valid
This comment section has all the ace-positivity that I love to see.
@@willowen3074 I wish I also had that so I could be focused more on my work and not keep getting distracted
Yes! Learning that asexuality was a thing was a game changer. I didn't know it was a thing until my 30s or so, and wow. Amazing, isn't it?
I'm a 23 year old virgin, I've had offers from men and women both but I'm just not interested in hook-ups, I wanna find someone special and if it doesn't happen then I'm not worried about it. I have OCD and Depression so relationships make my life more stressful anyway. Thanks for understanding people have different scenarios Ken, one of the reasons I love your videos!
I'm the same way :)
I lost my virginity at 25. It wasn’t with a boyfriend or someone I loved. It was with a friend and the moment was right. I don’t regret it and we had fun. Do what works for you and when it’s right
@@Chestersgirl1981 i mean that's basically what he said.
I'm a virgin too with depression & Anxiety...I understand the struggle mentally.
I got depression too and other issues as well I want be with someone who love and care about me for me.
Look, I'm nearly 28 years old and still a virgin. Sure, there's some religious reasons for me, but also I know I was not ready for that emotional impact as a teen or even early 20s. I also did not want the heartbreak that could come with something like that. But also I'm not hung up on it. This woman is. . .obviously hung up on it. And its creepy. I would never feel the need to announce it to my friends--the only person that needs to know that is someone romantically involved with me (that and this comment but that's pretty anonymous for me, lol). It's like she's looking for validation or expects that its going to become someone's goal to take her virginity once they know about it--which is odd. I don't think there's so much value put on virginity anymore once you've hit a certain age, that seems like high school nonsense.
Well personally I want to applaud you. The maturity you've possessed as a teenager is admirable 💕💝 you maybe don't think so but I think it's cool af
I love how you made it quite reasonable and I like that honestly 🙂
Totally agree! Props to you for knowing your boundaries at such a young age! 👏 Your view on it is amazing but the pressure this lady feels is super sad and creepy that she wants to tell everyone at a party makes me nauseous.
High five girl…I was in my 30’s before I had my first time. It’s just how we are raised and nothing to be ashamed about or proud of. It just is our belief system. However knowing what I know now I’m not sure I would’ve waited.
I’m 25 and I lost mine a couple of months ago. My fiancé and I know each other since school. Been together 5 years. He proposed years ago I just didn’t feel ready to be married or be intimate that young. It’s not because of religion or having to be married or anything. I’m very lucky I found a very loving and understanding man who didn’t pressure me to do anything I didn’t felt comfortable with, he patiently waited.
I lost mine at 29 years old, it used to really bother me, and the whole stigma behind that is awful. about a year and a half later, as I look back on all that, I don't really see the big deal all that much and why everyone seems like you HAVE to lose it at a young age or there's "something wrong with you". I just wanted to wait for the right person is all...nothing wrong with that.
U rite
And it's not "physical loosing", it's more of a phycological thing
That actually does make me feel better
I was 26 and after I did it I realised I shouldn't have felt like a weirdo because sex is not a big life-changing thing. I kinda wish I hadn't done it but it did make me more confident.
As someone who is almost a 30 year old virgin I can’t fathom caring what people think about that aspect in MY life.
Same and same!!
You change yo mind, hit my line 👀
@@Goopy2tymes I was about to say the same
@@Goopy2tymes I think that attitude is probably the reason she's still celibate my guy. Gross 😂
I bet my house on the fact you and most the commenters saying they are. Actually aint a virgin
I never understand why people make fun of others that are still virgins. There's absolutely NO shame in being a virgin. I did lose my virginity to someone I loved, but I was way too young and wish I would have waited longer. Guys, gals and NB peeps... If you're not 100% sure it's something you want to do, wait until you are. And don't EVER let anyone pressure you into it or make you feel bad for not wanting it. No means no.
They make fun because they assume that person has no pull or that no one is attracted to them. It’s stupid but yeah.
@@thewatcheronthewalls4809 thanks, as dumb as it is to genuinely insult someone over it, Im also tired of people acting clueless about it. The implication is clearly that the person is undesirable (not that this is true)
youre either a guy, a gal, or a combination of both. you can identify as whatever you want but doesnt mean unicorns are real
@@rainwhenidie666 so what's your dumb point here that doesn't contribute to this conversation at all?
bro it's literally how women insult men. THey call them virgins or incels. It's literally used as an insult so clearly society does care a lot.
I'm a 24 year old male who is still a virgin. And i can tell you it can get difficult because of the social standards. But anyone out there who is still a virgin and is struggling with it. Stop immediately. It won't change. Live your life and if it happens it happens. Don't let your happiness depend on how others see you. Having popped the cherry doesn't make u cooler or whatever.
Exactly
You are correct, bro. Theres so much that makes life rich, I promise.
same boat as you mate and agreed. worrying about it doesnt change anything. im fine with the fact i may die a virgin if thats the case. if i meet miss right then all good but if not well i still lived a happy life doing what i wanted to do. people let that shit worry them too much just wish i worried less about it as a teen because it dominated my life for a long time that i was single and that probably creeped girls out of dating me more than if i just didnt care and tried less lol
go get laid bro, you dont want to be focusing on something like that
When ken said "wieners were gonna come flying out of nowhere" i spit my soup all over my phone i was laughing so hard
Stop with the hyperbole that's annoying here on UA-cam
"She thinks weiners are just come flying out of no where"
I spit my water out! 🤣🤣🤣
For some girls they do lol
I wish I had that issue lol
I remember all my girl friends who lost their virginity in high school would brag about it in the halls, I guess because it made them feel mature. But one on one, they'd tell me how awful and painful it was. My older sister got pregnant very young and seeing the struggle she had was definite birth control for me! I waited until I was older, had a decent job, was on the pill and was with someone that I really cared for. My first time was really nice. He took the time to make it special and made sure I was ready. People should do it when it feels right for them, not just to please someone else. It's definitely an important part of a healthy relationship as a way to physically show someone how much you care, but it's not the end all be all of loving someone.
Plus teens gossip about what they’re told feels good but they don’t actually understand what feels good. And in high school it’s more of a novelty/status thing
I can relate to that except i was/am 24 when i “lost” it(technically i kinda didnt but kinda did? I wanted to wait for someone special but the guy didnt give a shit about my countless no’s. But long story short, it couldnt go in all the way and I had belly pain for 2 weeks.
@@Beaneabean That's absolutely horrific and I'm really so sorry and pissed that happened to you! I hope that bag of human garbage has karma hit him like a ton of bricks 🤬 I just want you to know that when you're ready to be with someone you care about, on YOUR terms, who will take the time to make you comfortable and feel loved, it can be a very beautiful thing! I sincerely hope that you are doing well now! And please know that I will be saying a prayer that the lowlife criminal who assaulted you steps in dog doo and doesn't realize it so he goes around the whole day smelling like the piece of shit he is! Meanwhile, may a gentle breeze always carry the sweet smell of roses your way to remind you that you are worthy of beautiful things in this life! ❤️
@@queenb1119 its gonna sound bad but I still talk to him. I kinda feel like I need to try to make something work with him since i wanted my first everything to be with the person I end up being with forever….yea i know it makes no sense
@@Beaneabeanthat's a very good way to end up in a toxic relationship. The fact that he didn't have the basic decency to listen to your "no's" tells you enough about the kind of person he is. I can promise you it'll be much harder to get out of a relationship like that if you end up in one with him and recover from those years than it may be now to accept that your first love isn't always your forever love. Please make the smart choice here and try to let go of that ideal picture. I'm very sorry it happened to you, I hope that the first time you will have enthousiast consensual s*x it'll be with a great person who respects you. Take care❤️
I remember having this talk with a guy on Snapchat.. he wanted to know if I was a virgin. He seemed very awkward and shy, so I figured he didn't mean anything bad by it, so I responded.
"No.. why? Is that a problem?"
"No, jw.. I am. Sorry if that's a turn off."
"Nah, not really, lol. I'm not the girl that's turned off or on by it."
We talked on the phone a few days later, I asked him on a minecraft date, he said yes. I planned a little Minecraft picnic and on our Minecraft date I asked if he'd be my Valentine. We went on our first in person date on Valentines day last year.. three days later he asked me to be his girlfriend. I've been in love with this awkward, dorky guy ever since and I wouldn't have it any other way❤🥰
That is so darling ❤
That's so sweet. Maybe all awkward guys/gals have a chance, well except for Skippy but he's more than just awkward.
You’re dorky yourself. It makes sense
@@User-718_ he and I are dorks together and we wouldn't have it any other way ❤️
That is adorable 💙 Wishing the both of you all the best !
This is the first video that I’ve seen of these guys but I’m subbing because they’re so chill and non-judgmental. It’s a breath of fresh air tbh. ♥️
I'm of the, "why does this have to have a party?" Club. I understand that she's thinking it's time to for her to admit it and accept it, but I don't see why someone's sexual history or lack there if is something to "admit" in the first place to anyone who you're not building or trying to build a sexual history with. It's weird.
Same and I find it disrespectful that she dubbed it as a “coming out” party
Hey man, in several cultures in Asia the legend goes that if you stay a virgin and you turn 30 you'll become a wizard with awesome powers which sounds way cooler than ten minutes of getting gross and sweaty
Underrated comment! xD
Yeah except it’s fake
Japan or China?
Hey those sweaty and gross 10 minutes are the best 10 minutes of my life lady 😭😂
Theres a yaoi series called cherry magic thirty years of virginity can make you a wizard. Which is literally about this coment its a about a man who finds he can mind read on his thirtieth birthday and that a guy in his office has a crush on him its really cute and wholesome
Being a virgin can definitely effect how you perceive yourself and your desirability and attractiveness especially if you’re virginity isn’t intentional.
That's such a shame. In my opinion being a virgin is attractive and desirable.
dobt tell me bruh 32 over here, i understand that i will live alone for rest of my life becouse im ugly :(
@@MAT999 I mean... you can have a pet 😸
Being single isn't sad. You can still have a life. It's even more horrible being in abusive relationships etc. Or being with someone who doesn't love you at all.
Get a hobby, find new interests, new friends who cares if you're ugly you can still be happy and pets will love you anyway lmao they don't care how you look.
@@Bayloy I wish I find a girl like you who thought that way lol
@@MAT999 Bruh are you me? I am also 32 and ugly. I'm also incredibly introverted so I get nervous around guys. But I did get a cat and I can confirm he loves me unconditionally regardless of I'm ugly lmao.
I remember one of my friends boyfriend asked my if I was a virgin since they had been in an intimate relationship for a little over a year. I said yes and because he was kind of a stereotypical jock dude I was waiting for the jokes. Hated the guy but he was surprisingly nice about it and we had a talk about it and abuse. It was a very meaningful conversation and as much as I dislike him to this day, it was really helpful and anxiety relieving to talk to someone who sympathized about the whole thing
I actually have a condition called vaginismus, which is where the muscles of my pelvic floor tense up and contract, preventing penetration. I am working through it with a pelvic floor physical therapist. It makes me a virgin by definition and it is something that affects my self esteem so much. I have a partner who is so amazing and supportive. We have an amazing intimate relationship in other ways. Just spreading some awareness :)
Is your partner able to help with your vaginal homework?
same i have that that’s why i’m still a virgin at 28 lmao it’s so hard to deal with 😂
yes i agree. I get off more on clitoral to make up for it, no penetration involved 🥰
Well that's interesting.
I can think of a few ways of not ever needing to penetrate ;)
I knew a co worker who was a virgin in his late 20s. Was a cool dude. Handsome. He just enjoyed life and time for himself. I kept checking the news if it turned out he was a serial killer. Nothing. Lol it's been years. Hope he's well. Hope you guys have a good day and ty for the daily content. Appreciate it
that me bruh, im serial killer now
Wtf does being a serial killer got to do with this?
a serial killer... so-o-o where my mind would go
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I thought you were going to say he was a serial killer 🤣🤣
Bruh that was so wholesome. Thanks man. Have a good day!
I'm a 30 year old "virgin." In college, I thought I was gay or bi, but at 27, I realized I'm asxul. Lots of people are. And ppl finding it weird or shameful is just as harmful as telling someone they're not really gay until they try it with the opposite sx. Know yourself and love who you are.
it's so nice to read about other people who are around my age and still haven't done it. I am pretty comfortable with myself and my choices, but seeing this video I got a bit self-conscious. It's a refresher to know it's not such a rare occurrence as the general mind tries to make it
Are you ever sexually attracted to anyone?
Watching this I wondered if she is asexual without realizing it
@God of Lovers I see people as objectively appealing, like I can say "he/she is f-ing hot," but I don't invision them nked or having sx with them or having them touch me when I'm nked. Maybe it's an element of my OCD. I don't know. But I've never felt the desire to have sx with someone else.
@MerryBerry so true. It's such an odd concept; a majority of people don't think it's a real sxual orientation. And it IS difficult for asxul people to understand their sxl orientation, especially in our current dating era. It's why it took me so long to realize it lol. I've had multiple guys and girls offer me sx, and I've always felt offered/disgusting by it.
0:14 I needed that
Even saying "losing our virginity" is whack af. We don't lose anything. It's just an event that happens that should be pleasurable
Ik people back then linked it with being pure and "not sinned" "losing purity/innocence" or whatever, but I like to think of it now as in losing the *inexperience* .
But the whole thing with hymen and that women are virgins until it's penetrated is whole BS, that sadly some people still believe it.
I don't agree. I don't attach any morality to it but it is a life event that should have some acknowledgement as virginal has some practical definitions - not just religious or moral attachments. Like snowfall can be called virginal. At the very least for health purposes regarding lifestyle. You don't have to erase something to give give it a more societally balanced connotation. We don't have to stop using certain terminology to become indifferent to it.
I mean, one "loses" their hymen... :P
Unless your robbed which then you can lose something
Pleasurable? Noooooo
I’m on the asexual spectrum. The social construct around virginity is absolutely wild.
Especially straight people that tell you to try it out when they haven’t done it with their own gender and yet say they’re not gay 😂
@@Otaku-xd6xd Stealing this comment next time someone tries to tell me that.
I love when people try to explain the hymen as some sort of freshness seal. That’s not how that works. 😂
Same and i always hit them with a don't worry about it it's a total invasion of privacy fr when people ask "are you a virgin?" Like bye done with this conversation.
Same, it is really bizarre
The idea of having a coming out party for being a virgin is so funny to me.
I'm surprised that instead of having a cherry cake she didn't have a giant vagina with an intact hymen lol
Ikr
I'm guessing it was the TV show's idea to create drama x
lol I lived the same way she did and still ended up pregnant in my 30s. There's no way shes avoiding men by accident. This is 100% intentional.
I feel like it's our body our choice. People who save thier virginity and those who have many sexual partners shouldn't be shamed. It is life. Let people live it.
THIS^^
Wat? You are saying people live their life exactly how they want? No way Jose, most people don’t know what they are doing and make horrible decisions based off of fear and confusion. I don’t understand this idea that shame should not exist. If I spend my nights masturbating to henti and gnawing on a stick of cookie dough, I should be ashamed. Because that is all I will ever get out of life and I will descend into a placid life of misery and contempt. People say, “as long as they are not hurting others then it’s not an issue.” But we hurt ourselves more than we hurt anyone else, we lie to ourselves more than anyone lies to us.
Agreed! And it is all what you are comfortable with. If you find many partners you are attracted to and want to be with (in a healthy not addicted way) then go for it. If you haven't found anyone you want to take that step with and are less saving and more waiting, then go for it. It is a made up concept anyway as, unless you get a disease or pregnant, it changes nothing.
@@boxing388 How is it hurting yourself though? If anything it's freeing yourself
@@DenDarEmi my mother lived “free”, she is now living out of her car with a deep hatred for men. She lived it up in her 20s and thirty’s. Never committed to anything, never lived with a semblance of a moral code. What you do now effects what you will have in the future. There is nothing freeing about hedonism. To be free you must first be a slave, no one is willing to work for anything, to sacrifice a moment of pleasure for the prospect of greatness.
Loneliness and degradation is what is waiting you all in the future , I can see it in my mothers eyes.
No way is that lady's friend a virgin, too. I call shenanigans.
SHENANIGANS EDRTFGHUJIKJHYGTRDE
Imagine her friend thought she was joking and went with it and moment she realized she was serious she was to afraid to admit it.
I don't think it's impossible.
You and me both need to get the broom
“I’m a virgin, but it’s not a choice.”
If only there was a word for people who are _✨involuntarily celibate✨_
When Ken was like "if the roles were reversed and this was a man saying he wa a avirgin and not by choice, would he be weird?" I said "yes Ken, they have a name and we call them INCELS." this woman is still the definition of an incel - she's making it more of an issue that it should be.
@@leighnicole100
Incels are actually virgins by choice lol.
It kinda changed meaning bc men that weren't *actually* V by choice joined the fray and were quite hateful towards women for not wanting them.
But no, the true (or original) meaning of incel is celibate by choice.
@@Ilive_420 ...What? Incel is literally an *abbreviation* for involuntary celibate. INvoluntaryCELibate. Incels are not virgins by choice.
When she said it wasn’t a choice, she meant that it wasn’t for religious or personal reasons. It wasn’t saving herself for marriage or because she was asexual.
@@leighnicole100 the term just seems odd to me. i dunno if i am considered incel but to me its always attributed to creepy people who make a big deal out of being a virgin and attack people randomly for it because they are sensitive.
i never had luck with women because of my low self confidence and i have nerdy hobbies in an area where its not very common. but it was never a big deal for me nor did i blame or attack others for it. i just move on with my life and work on myself.
Omg . thank you for the Supernatural rant . you hit that nail on the head . 😆
And if theres not a stipper at this party im going to freak out ...lol
Honestly it was so nice hearing ken and buff say how you shouldn't be embarrassed to still be a virgin. I'm 22 and still a virgin, never even kissed a guy, and I feel really ashamed of it sometimes
Same
It's totally cool to be a virg. Honestly it's a lot better than what a lot of people do. Don't get down on yourself. Know your value and if the time comes it will
Being a virgin at 22 is really not that uncommon
I'm 23 and in the same situation, I don't really feel ashamed or anything, but it does make you feel out of the loop with others at times. There's probably plenty of others in the same place too, it's just that they don't really mention it, probably because it's not such a big deal anyway, we each go through life in different ways and at different paces!
@@Fusso it isn’t? I’m 22 in the same boy and I’m feeling really alone out here lol
When nobody reacted to the revelation that she is still a virgin
I cringed so hard that i felt my soul leaving my body
Really goes to show how, sometimes, the shame doesn't come from normal people you surround yourself but rather media.
@@PoptartParasol you nailed it in one word
I just need to say how incredibly appreciative I am of how kind you two were about people being virgins. Hearing it from men especially is comforting.
But you're ok with them talking about her weight?
@@Drea62621 They dont body shame, have you seen any of their other videos?
@@Drea62621 Buffpro is also big, why the F would they body shame??
@@deathdealer312 Yes! How do think I heard them make fun of the girls hair and her weight. I as well thought that was very mean. Not everyone can afford a nice hairstyle and some people use food to cope with depression. I think it’s mean to make fun of someone so no one asked you either so be quiet
@@Spyrobeamer and lots of overweight men make fun of overweight woman. Do we live on the same planet? I love these two but they wouldn’t like it if someone put down their wives now would they? Yup! Didn’t think so.
"Maybe she realized she loved her friend and they lived happily ever after. That would be the best scenario" 😂😂😂 10/10 agree
When her friend said “ I’m a virgin as well” it made me imagine a plot twist where everyone at the party turn out to be virgins as well. 😂
Honestly nothing wrong with being or not being a virgin. What bugs me about this lady though, she is trying to make it seem like not a big deal, she wants to get rid of it, she’s uncomfortable about it and yet she turns around and throws a party for her “big secret” while being filmed for a show about her being a virgin. She goes between “ Oops I kinda forgot” personally to “ it makes me feel uncomfortable” to “ let’s throw a party that may circulate some interest” in a span of 8 minutes. Not trying to be mean but dude pick one. It’s either not a big deal or it’s something that you’re uncomfortable about to where you wanna “ get rid of it” quietly and forget about it or you want attention to the fact that you’re a virgin so you dedicate a party to it…
Every last one of you mental midgets, honestly, do you all know what it is like to be virgins? At least she is legitimately trying to escape being one, whereas you lot love being them in your lives.
Including the husband 😂
My wife and I were both virgins when we got married. Exploring and learning about that side of our relationship has been extremely fun. I am grateful that I waited as long as I did. There were times when I was ashamed of the fact that I was a virgin and hated that I was one, but waiting was so worth it to me.
your wife lied to you LOL
@@Blox117 Just like your parents did to you when they said you were "wanted and planned"
@@Blox117 yeah no. Same happened with me and my husband. Well ok it was technically a few days before the wedding lol but close enough. He was a real champ waiting for me the way he did. Honestly if I could go back in time I would have just done it earlier lol (I had a religious/strict mother, was afraid of getting pregnant, wanted to finish college first etc). But you live you learn. We are still happily together 20 years later.
@@alleycat616 unattractive ♀dont count. you have to be attractive and abstain
@@Blox117 lol some loser on the internet who’s never met me acting like he knows what he’s talking about so he can feel superior. Boy, I was told by many I should model when i was younger and am still attractive in my late 30s for whatever that matters. Now run along and go be a troll somewhere else. Sounds like you’re just bitter you are incel yourself and can’t comprehend someone might actually wait out of other reasons than being “ugly”.
as an asexual being, i'm still one at 30, and probably will be till i die lol, i don't care about it even as a concept or whatever. but hey, i hope this lady gets laid & enjoys life however she sees fit. kudos to her.
THIS ^
You are a 'being'? I mean, so am I but ... i'm more specifically a _person_ ... maybe you are too?
@@bigtombowski you can legit use 'being' as a common noun. it's not that complicated. 'Human being' 'extraterrestrial being'. it's English. & I can refer to myself however I'd like..?
@@DaisyPainted yikes being. Extraterrestrial being? Ahh explains your paranoid defensiveness.
@@DaisyPainted have you ever been to a head doctor?
As a woman I am highly doubtful that her friends didn't know. Like, we talk about sh!t, even if we're not close, we talk about sh!t. There is no way in Hell these friends didn't know she was a virgin. I'm down for any excuse to party but this was the dumbest reason ever.
The word you're looking for for men is "incel", involuntarily celibate.
I waited 'til marriage for religious reasons, and I don't regret it at all. I consider myself very lucky to not have relationship baggage/trauma, even if others think I "missed out" lol. Missed out on what? Getting my heart broken? No thanks.
I was always disgusted by the idea of intercourse; I wanted to be a virgin for life. Then I fell in love, and two years into the relationship it happened. Despite the fact that this is the person I’m committed to, and we plan on marriage and all that forever stuff, I still have the occasional path of shame and guilt and disgust. Sexual education is so important, and I wish that I wasn’t raised with such a fierce hatred towards something that is… normal.
...It sounds like you had self esteem issue's until you "fell in love". The only issue I have with everything you said though. Is if you were so disgusted by the "idea" of intercourse why would you just be in a "relationship" and then give it away. That's why you still feel the shame and guilt and disgust... Cause you do NOT know or have a 100% certainty that he's going to stick around or even marry you & yet you already gave it up...
@@coldheartedtruth1374 ... sounds like someone's projecting...
@@coldheartedtruth1374 I'm very confused by this reply
@@thegoblincoward1217 it was scattered
@@coldheartedtruth1374 bro, what?
I'm almost 24 and still a virgin but after this long of waiting I've realized it's definitely been for the best. There's no religious values or anything keeping from losing it and I'm not waiting for marriage (I'm just incredibly introverted) but now that I'm here I've learned that what I want is a deep connection with someone more than the actual act itself and so if I ever find someone it's going to be so much more meaningful because of it rather then like my friends who lost it to some random girl in high-school or college.
That's a valiant aspiration, but you are setting yourself up for some serious heartache and depression when your first really serious relationships go to shit. They almost always do. Just a heads up.
Dude, same, and I'm 28. Just introverted and don't really care. It's really not a big deal even though parts of society constantly tells us it is.
I hope you find the person you're waiting for. I waited until I was 20. A few blokes left me at 16/17 as i wasn't ready . 16 years and a 10 year old later and he still sends me stupid pics of Uranus 🤦😂
Couldn’t have said better myself. 25 and haven’t either. I waited this long, I’d rather be it with someone that I actually care for and feel close to. People make it such a big deal for some reason and I don’t get it.
Same here. Call me old fashioned but I believe I should be able to tell someone I love you and mean it with my whole heart before I sleep with someone. The hardest part is finding someone that feels the same, most guys just want an easy lay.
Buffs face when Ken said "Here's my cherry cake, lets eat it" killed me. Lmao.
I was cracking up! Kens videos are very “family friendly” and when he said that, I really don’t think he realized what he said until Buff started howling😅😅😂😂🤣
I'd add something to that speech like, "I'm announcing this because I feel a bit awkward dating and socializing. As might be obvious by this party. But, I'm hoping you as my friends might be able to help me meet people." Give them something actionable, a mission, a reason this is happening at all.
I'm 36 and I'm still a virgin. It used to bother me, thinking something was wrong. But these last 2 years I realized that I'm asexual or at least demisexual, and it was incredibly freeing. And finding more people like me was awesome!!
There's nothing wrong with you, you're valid and you can live your happy life the way that you prefer (mine has dogs, plants and music lol)
demisexuals unite!!!
I also had a similar exp. Great to hear others finding their peace and happiness.
❤️ thanks for saying this. Some one needs to see it
Asexuals Assemble
@@fairytailgirl123 Ready!! :D
I always found it interesting how if a women in her teens/20s was still a virgin it was almost idolized by some guys where as if a guy was still a virgin around that age he was viewed “not as manly”. Or on the other aspect if a women has a high body count she is shamed but if a man has a high body count he is praises by “the boys”. There is just heavy double standards around the whole topic
Yeah, I don't understand why thats the case. It doesn't make any sense at all
There’s a reason for that, guys have to put in work to get laid whereas women don’t. From an evolutionary standpoint women can get pregnant so they have more to lose and men only have everything to gain from sleeping around biologically speaking
"It's called the double standard, Bobby. Don't knock it. We got the long end of the stick on that one."
Hank Hill
Right!
@@patrickfleming253 and women have to put in as much work as man. "Women get pregnant" ok? And men have children who they have to take care of as well
Ole' girl needs to go to a film production and schpill her predicaments and make a film a Steve Carrell knockoff from the 40 Year Old Virgin and make a sequel, the 41 Year Old Virgin! But anyways, i freaking admire these 2 bro's tremendously!!! Talking about one of my favorite sitcoms ever, SUPERNATURAL!!!
♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️🖤♥️
I was a virgin until I was 24. I absolutely felt self conscious for people to know because of the stigma. People just think it's weird for some reason. I wasn't really ashamed but I hated how people made me feel like I was odd for it. And it made me feel alone since the main reason was a never had a real relationship.
Same here!
They think it’s weird because it doesn’t fit their social construct of an “adult” you have to fit into their box of “normal”
I was a virgin until I was 24 too, and it was actually a pretty good point in my life for that. Like, I don't think doing it earlier would have been better, because honestly, I probably wasn't ready for that before. No idea why some people make such a big deal out of it.
I’m 27 and I’ve never even been in a real relationship. It’s not hard for me to believe a 41 year old could be a virgin.
it's probably a lot more common than people think. i'm not very social, i have like 30 facebook friends, but i know 2 people in my friend group personally who are above 30 and never had anyone. and they aren't asexuals either. It's just that people are more aware about what they want and what to avoid. dating is not that easy for those who don't want one night stands and just parties. genuine human connection is super rare , it feels like.
That's a good way to put it. I remember even in high school and early college I would take all pains for a hookup, and being not necessarily unpopular but also not one of THEE Cool kids, I definitely made a lot of bad decisions in that time. This whole hypersexual culture we live on edges out the people who aren't social superstars but rather are having a more prolonged search for the right person to share themselves with, and God forbid that if anyone has to deal with, well for lack of better phrase, involuntary celibacy for this, then it is imperative that we not participate in the rites of shaming those already hurt. Wish you luck.
It just depends. My entire life I've been seeking the hook up culture, but only ever attract ladies looking for steady dating.
I love that message in the beginning. I wanted to lose mine so badly that I put myself into a bad situation with an older lady. I regret it every time I think about it.
Ken is right. There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. My father taught me if I want to lose my virginity. Make sure the guy loves you first. I never had that feeling before. I thought there was something wrong with me till I met my bf. He's really kind and caring and doesn't shame me for being a virgin. He's happy to wait until I'm ready 😊😅
Ken says nothing wrong with being a virgin and that's it's not that important. Yet he's done it 3 or more times already.
@@rickbautista2504 what does that have to do with anything? Are you saying that it’s wrong bc ken says you can wait but he’s already done it and has kids? If he wants to he can?? I don’t understand what you’re saying
@@hehehe4260 pretty sure it's a joke
@@theizzyrobbo what’s the joke?
@@hehehe4260 the joke is he has 3 kids, it's a dad joke.
I'm 29 and I'm still a virgin. Society needs to get over the "stigma" of those who still own their v-cards past their teenage years. I am a virgin by choice and will never be intimate with someone I don't see myself wanting to be in a relationship with or be able to trust. There are too many douchebag men out there that think a woman's virginity is like a hunting trophy, the more they get the more alpha male they are. Honestly I am happy being a virgin and I won't give it up to just anyone. I've dealt with creeps and I'm glad I respected myself and have strong enough morals to avoid them. It is not a bad thing to wait until you're ready and feel comfortable. Any man that rushes you is not worthy of getting yours.
This is exactly what they were saying, your making your virginity sound sort of creepy but in the other direction
I bet everyone is thinking she's coming out as LGBT with all the emphasis she's put on it
Diehard supernatural fan over here. If I hadn’t been so emotionally invested in the show I probably would have stopped watching around season five as well.
As a virgin, it made me happy and strangely relieved to hear you say that it's nothing to be ashamed of.
Always felt it was awkward being a virgin and having almost reached 30.
As a non virgin wish I did it differently and with a totally different person. It will happen when it feels right for you. Just don't throw a weird coming out party
Congrats to that! I wish I wouldn’t have given those parts of myself to ppl who didn’t deserve it when I was young and dumb. I think ppl should feel the opposite of shame about it imo.
I really appreciate how they handled the subject. It's pretty obnoxious how much peer pressure there is into losing your virginity, like it's some horrible disease or something. On top of what was discussed, it is much better to wait and give it to someone who truly cares about you. I lost mine with an ex, and I seriously regret it. Especially on retrospect, there wasn't any romance or love in it or any of the times.
Maybe it was just me, but, if it is a goal of yours, you'll be much better off if you don't jump at the first opportunity. If you don't care either way, don't give in to the social pressure of it. It's your life, you do what makes you happy and leaves you with as few regrets as possible.
What are you giving away exactly? Virginity is not a possession. It's simply an outdated concept that should be done away with.
Honestly good for her and I hope she finds the right one for her. I wish I would have waited because I regret who I gave it to.
Virginity is a dumb concept. You can’t lose or give it away. It’s just an experience.
Can't tell you not to regret it, but rest assured it's not that big a deal
Same same! I hope she finds the right person who will make her happy and comfortable enough for it😌😌
Sorry to hear that. It only has the value that society gives it, nobbody here judges you.
*ME TOO!*
😬 Ugh-
Also, I got pregnant.
Ken your stance and thoughts on this subject are spot on, you are a good guy.
I appreciate your attitude towards virginity. In a lot of ways, this woman is me. I’m forty-one and still single, and I come from a religious background that teaches to keep pure until after marriage, and then only with your spouse. So I wouldn’t be as brazen as she is, but I know what she’s going through. The loneliness and the FOMO are really bad, and it seems like everybody else your age is married and has kids.
In the meantime there's me who has had a few partners and some of them turned out to be lessons for the future.
You are on your own path, whatever you do, make it worth it in the end.
Hang in there.
Roman Catholic virgin woman nearing 30 here, and you hit the nail on the head. But I'd rather work on myself and just enjoy the single life than cave in to the expectation of being a wife and mom. It's lonely at times for sure, but in this loneliness you appreciate the value of solitude and discover your own inner strength and confidence. 🙂
You don’t have to do what others tell you as an adult, if you’re ready, you can if you want(:
The religious background is rooted in misogyny so good job for you
Sad to see what the modern abrahamic religions is doing to people.
I wish I had waited. Not for as long as this lady but I really wish it had been with someone I loved.
Yes me to
For all you virgins out there, as someone who’s not a virgin, I can tell you it’s really not something to rush for, I lost it to someone I really cared about and that made it a more valuable experience to me, and recently I said no to someone’s advances and it was way more empowering than being able to say I’m not a virgin. They say it’s not all it’s cracked up to be which is true, but what they don’t say is it’s such a good feeling to be in control of your own body. For y’all horndogs out there: if you can think of more than two conflicts of interest between your potential partner and you, it’s probably not worth your time.
What matters is the experience, and the DESIRE. I remember being a pre teen and having that be just about the only thing on my mind.. once it becomes a regular thing you kind of take it for granted.. until you can’t have it😂
I'm a proud almost 21 year old virgin. I have a boyfriend, but I'm saving myself for marriage, but I'm happy being a virgin right now. I don't have to worry about pregnancies or STIs
good for you! i waited until i found someone i wanted to be with and i was also almost 21 when i lost it. it’s definitely worth waiting.
You stay proud, girl! 😎 Taking mine to the grave with me.
I admire you because I was young and foolish and that is not the way to be. You are smart!
I wish our society was like this
@@whyme8762 or leave people alone and let them make the decisions that are best for them.
I’m absolutely LIVING for the positivity from Ken and Buff, and the whole comment section. Virginity is just a word. You do whatever you’re comfortable with, and when you’re comfortable doing it. 💛
Imagine, One day you wake up, and realize that you are virgin, and there is a sudden urge to tell everybody about it on international TV show. Could you imagine, cuz I can^t
Thanks!
If she said it was a party to reveal a secret her friends mustve 1000% thought she was about to come out as gay. Especially if they noticed she doesnt do anything with guys.
38 male and still one as well. I'm still dealing with the social stigma of carrying an unpunched v-card. being introverted and socially uncomfortable doesnt help things, but hey... im learning to love myself more everyday
as a 24 year old going through the same as you being introverted and liking very nerdy hobbies i gotta say i found enjoyment from working on myself trying to find out more about what i like in terms of music, games, books, movies etc etc and learning what my personal beliefs are politically and religiously etc and of course physically.
ive been trying to learn to speak better especially in social situations, be more confident, contribute properly to conversations, read social ques and have a healthier diet and workout (which i admit is the one im the worst at). end of the day if your not happy with yourself how can you be happy with somebody else because it doens't fix the you problem. i have improved a ton in just a year and all my work friends have even commented on it. simple things like standing up straight, being more vocal, getting involved in activities and simply smiling more.
i dont mean to sound condescending because im 24 and your in your 30s you you have more experience than me but i find i learn a lot from people of all ages. a big inspiration for me was jordan petersons work on self improvement (not all of it but some of it) and im a big fan of guts from the anime berserk who basically works on himself all the time and strives to be better and doesnt let things tear him down, he sucks it up and deals with it head on even if it nearly kills him. i know its fictional but its still inspiring.
Not a virgin, but it happened in my teens. I'm now 36 and haven't been with anyone since. I don't understand why the V card is such an issue to some people. Just save it for the right person.
stop eating bad lift a few weights and ditch the anime that could help
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GOOD FOR YOU!
It's like you want to introduce them to the concept of demisexuals, asexuals, etc. Some people just aren't interested ever, some people are only interested if they find the right person (and being a hermit doesn't help you run into prospects). It's not something she needs to remediate.
Watching Ken and Dane talk about Supernatural - even if trash talking - makes me happy. That was funny 😂 should do a whole segment reviewing TV shows
I've never had to stop the video because of laughing before. The cherry cake got me good
🤣🤣 same. I made the mistake of eating while watching so I almost choked laughing 😂
Me too!! I couldn't breath for a full minute I was laughing so hard! 😂
It was kinda gross lol but really funny too
I did the same thing and paced around my room when seeing it too🤣🤣
But seeing Ken and Buff's reactions were so good🤣
The second hand embarrassment! Bless her heart. I hope it wasn't as awkward as it looked.
The cake had me literally cringing and my face stayed like that for a solid minute. 😂
I have a friend who got married last year
She was 41 and he was her first kiss and everything else too.
It's really sweet ...and she is so very happy with him....
I'm not sure I could have ever done that so I give her mad respect!
I love Supernatural and also would kill for Ken and Buffs commentary on every episode!
The person I am currently dating was a (33 year old) virgin when I met him. The biggest struggle for me to overcome, was my worry that he was desperate or just settling because I was the only person giving him attention. I was also worried that maybe he had some huge red flags that I was blind to, that scared off everyone else.
Turns out he is just really shy, doesn't really go out to meet new people, and has a really hard time expressing interest to others. If I hadn't been so forward in expressing interest to him, he never would have the confidence to pursue me. I'm very happy with him, and feel pretty lucky I was able to find him
Aww sweet
The guy you described is similar to the guy I currently like…I’m worried that if he reciprocated my feelings he would just be settling for me cuz he hasn’t had a gf before (I haven’t told him that I like him)…how did you know that his intentions were good? Like he’s just shy and all?
This story is very interesting. I never thought of the insight of that situation. I would feel insecure as well. I'm glad it turned out in a lovely relationship. It made me smile
All ♀want the bad boys who sleep with lots of ♀
"I'm embarrassed by my virginity but I wanna have a big party to tell everyone"🤣🤣 wut
I haven’t watched the video yet…but by the title I already am a virgin sort of by accident, but also due to religious views. But also due to PTSD from the military and losing interest and thoughts of not being good enough. So it’s a mix of things. I’m 34, never touched a woman before, and guys are always perplexed and ask “how?” Because they always say I’m a very attractive guy who could get any woman I want, from what they say. I don’t go into the “I have PTSD and don’t feel good enough” with them. I only tell people I’m a Virgin and they are always confused.
At this point I don’t even know anymore. I feel like more woman were interested in my early 20s now everyone is married and more into their own lives.
Trauma is something a lot of people have to work through in order to be intimate mentally or physically with someone else, don't worry, eventually the time will come when you feel ready, and you might find someone in a similar situation who understands. I was sexually assaulted in high school, and it took me years to finally be in a good place mentally to engage in relationships or be intimate again. During the time though, I felt like I was behind the curve and missing out on experiences because of my trauma. Later on, when I got better, I realized that I needed that time to heal. And once I healed I found people who went through similar things to me, and connected with them. :) Keep your head up
You know what they say, "In order to love another person, you gotta love yourself first." No need to be ashamed, man. It's understandable. Just gotta work on that road to recovery first, at least if you want your first time to be positive and meaningful.
It’s ok Jacob. You’ll find the right one if you decide you want to get married. Some things just take time and “good things come to those who wait”. In the meantime, all you have to do is work on being the best man you can be.
To be honest I can understand waiting due to PTSD. I have PTSD as well and it has made it to where I hate physical contact with others. When people try to hug me it freaks me out and gives me severe anxiety.
If you aren't going already, I'd encourage you to seek out a therapist who specializes in trauma. ❤️
The supernatural commentary in the middle 😂 10/10