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Grindr is primarily for and used by gay men, and there is a huge sex-forward hookup culture within gay male culture (as I'm sure everyone knows lol), so if anyone out there is finding trouble with getting matches or any kind of positive attention on grindr, just remember the primary group using the app may not be romantically or sexually interested in people of your identity. And if the hookup thing isnt for you, that's 100% fine. It isn't really for me, which is kind of a problem cuz im a kinky gay guy... However, I am really happy to here that you've had good experiences on grindr as a non-binary person :)
Thankyou I really appreciate it! And yes I've definitely accepted that some of the people on there are not interested in my identity, and that's fine, because some people still are. But thanks!
I'm really glad you have had good experiences. I had heard about the diversification of people using Grindr but I don't know anyone personally who isn't gay who has. So I'm really happy that there are fellow NB folk having a good time on there. But yeah like the other person said. While I know that occasionally people have started long term relationships through Grindr that's really not the aim of the app. I suppose if you find the right other person on there though. I think the people that aren't looking for hook-ups definitely get intimidated by the very overt sexual nature of Grindr. So that's something to consider.
Thanks for your comment :) And yeah I get that it's definitely more for hookups than long term commitment, probably not the best place to go looking for the love of your life
Glad to hear that you've had some good experiences on Grindr. It is primarily for gay and bi men and most folks report that heart connections are few and far between there. Long before the apps gay men tended to compartmentalize sex quite a bit when in sex-specific spaces (now Grindr is one of those spaces, similar to what bathhouses, cruising parks and T-rooms, gym saunas, etc were in the past and still are in many places). I am a gay man, but not in cruise mode these days so don't do the apps myself.
Thanks, yeah I've heard that grindr has taken the part of those spaces. Hope that there are still some physical spaces for that, I know the apps have replaced a lot of them but would be so sa to see them all dissapear. But yeah definitely would agree thata heart connections are few and far between on there.
@@QueerDesireDen For what it's worth, I work as a counselor for gay/bi/trans men and many express a wish that more in-person spaces still existed! Those of us who are old enough to remember them often miss them. But then again, if there were many still here we probably wouldn't go to them nearly as often as we did back then.
@@tatsf Yeah that totally makes sense! I mean the internet is great for hookups and sex and all but just nothing compares to the feeling of cruising in person. But yeah that also makes sense that not as many people would go to them anymore, now that you can just go on Grindr, everything is just at our fingertips on our phones nowadays. It's a bittersweet thing I guess.
if you feel nonbinary but also really want to be a gay man, you can!!! I know its easy to get caught up in semantics but I have quite a few queer friends who consider themselves nonbinary AND gay men at the same time. get weird with it!!! it doesn't have to make sense to others for it to be the right descriptor for you!!! [: hope this doesn't feel like I'm telling you who you are, just wanted to offer another perspective!
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Patreon: patreon.com/Onyx771 Get access to the raw unfiltered versions of my stories via audio, live bimonthly Q & A sessions, a private discord community, and even direct 1-1 video calls with me.
Grindr is primarily for and used by gay men, and there is a huge sex-forward hookup culture within gay male culture (as I'm sure everyone knows lol), so if anyone out there is finding trouble with getting matches or any kind of positive attention on grindr, just remember the primary group using the app may not be romantically or sexually interested in people of your identity. And if the hookup thing isnt for you, that's 100% fine. It isn't really for me, which is kind of a problem cuz im a kinky gay guy... However, I am really happy to here that you've had good experiences on grindr as a non-binary person :)
Thankyou I really appreciate it! And yes I've definitely accepted that some of the people on there are not interested in my identity, and that's fine, because some people still are. But thanks!
I'm really glad you have had good experiences. I had heard about the diversification of people using Grindr but I don't know anyone personally who isn't gay who has. So I'm really happy that there are fellow NB folk having a good time on there. But yeah like the other person said. While I know that occasionally people have started long term relationships through Grindr that's really not the aim of the app. I suppose if you find the right other person on there though. I think the people that aren't looking for hook-ups definitely get intimidated by the very overt sexual nature of Grindr. So that's something to consider.
Thanks for your comment :) And yeah I get that it's definitely more for hookups than long term commitment, probably not the best place to go looking for the love of your life
Glad to hear that you've had some good experiences on Grindr. It is primarily for gay and bi men and most folks report that heart connections are few and far between there. Long before the apps gay men tended to compartmentalize sex quite a bit when in sex-specific spaces (now Grindr is one of those spaces, similar to what bathhouses, cruising parks and T-rooms, gym saunas, etc were in the past and still are in many places). I am a gay man, but not in cruise mode these days so don't do the apps myself.
Thanks, yeah I've heard that grindr has taken the part of those spaces. Hope that there are still some physical spaces for that, I know the apps have replaced a lot of them but would be so sa to see them all dissapear. But yeah definitely would agree thata heart connections are few and far between on there.
@@QueerDesireDen For what it's worth, I work as a counselor for gay/bi/trans men and many express a wish that more in-person spaces still existed! Those of us who are old enough to remember them often miss them. But then again, if there were many still here we probably wouldn't go to them nearly as often as we did back then.
@@tatsf Yeah that totally makes sense! I mean the internet is great for hookups and sex and all but just nothing compares to the feeling of cruising in person. But yeah that also makes sense that not as many people would go to them anymore, now that you can just go on Grindr, everything is just at our fingertips on our phones nowadays. It's a bittersweet thing I guess.
if you feel nonbinary but also really want to be a gay man, you can!!! I know its easy to get caught up in semantics but I have quite a few queer friends who consider themselves nonbinary AND gay men at the same time. get weird with it!!! it doesn't have to make sense to others for it to be the right descriptor for you!!! [: hope this doesn't feel like I'm telling you who you are, just wanted to offer another perspective!
Thanks so much, I really appreciate that! I like that a lot! Maybe I'll do that