Thank you for helping me realise that I do the emotional heavy lifting in all my relationships. It stops now! I'm worth more and deserve more than I've been getting in return.
We must protect this man by all means necessary. I love listening to him. He always on point and giving u valid advice from a mans standpoint and how they think.
@@CoachKenCanion Kim from London 😊 I'm looking through UA-cam... And came across you... Your videos are so right and I know that... I know you are so so so right... and yes I need to pull back... But it's not easy 😔 and I love that you recognise that... I appreciate your time in posting this... I think my fear is what if it doesn't work... But I know I need to do something different... Every word you say resonates with my situation.. I know I need to self reflect (your other video) wish me luck.. xx
I have done everything you have requested. I am getting married in June of 2024. Thanks for all your help directing us on a positive path . I appreciate you and all your advice. Now if my grown son can get right, I ll have another blessing.
I agree. Happened to me twice. When I decided just forget it. Months later they both started calling at the same time. I was so hurt. I don't feel anything anymore. I ignore there calls I no longer rush to answer the phone. I don't want to be bothered anymore. Now i get more text and calls. what a shame
When I see your content, it comes through my feed as shorts. Right now I’m going through a breakup and decided to come to your channel, and I am sooooo impressed!!! Thank you so much for doing this work ❤❤❤ binge watching tomorrow
Excellent advice - Tolerating bad behavior becomes a habit, so when our partner does something nice we think this reaffirms commitment - This is false security and clever ploy men and sometimes women use to stay in control of a relationship.
Thanks Coach Ken. I used your advice. I pulled back just a tiny bit and he knew he needed to adjust himself. That opened up an opportunity to communicate. It was so beautiful. Our connection continues to grow because I’m not making the mistakes I used to. I’m really happy right now….thanks to you coach.
Not chasing anything, not even goals. If it’s meant that I have it, God will make sure that I have all the tools I need to complete it. In regards to a man, he needs to be whole before he steps to me because you ain’t getting anything for free. Yes. I made the distinction between ‘hate’ and ‘indifference’ years ago. Indifference is when you don’t want nothing to do with that person. Fall back game on ♾…
Absolutely agree with the posture of INDIFFERENCE!! You are spot on Coach! Keep telling us the RAW truth! This is not easy and I'm so very thankful for your help❤❤❤
I love this message so much. I appreciate all that you do. I'm newly single and it's a struggle out here in the dating world. But I'm up for the challenge with your guidance.
I have done like EVERYTHING wrong.... everything.....and now my once amazing relationship is a mess....and yes, I dont wanna lose him. He is a great guy. I hope I am not too late. And actually I hope that while pulling back, if it doesn't work, it will prepare me to walk away. Cause right now I am not willing to walk away...God help me
Thank you for showing me another way to communicate how I truly feel without feeling like I am the one that's running him down. This video was extremely helpful 👏. I was raised in a house full of men but I still have a lot to learn about the man in my personal life. Thank you for helping me to understand on my journey.
Thank you sir! Thank you for giving valid advice from a man’s standpoint and telling us how they think. It meant a lot for me bc I don’t have that male figure in my life that I can pick up the phone to ask for advice from. So since I don’t have that in my life I look forward to your videos. So…. Once again thank you for your advice!!
I just came across your videos. You are a God send. I was meant to see your videos.. I have made colossal mistakes in with this man.. I am going to correct them now, by walking away. It's been almost 3 years. My needs are not being met, I have complained, said I am done and still allowed him back in. I wished him a happy birthday yesterday, he did not even reply. My pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing. Thank you so very much for what you do. Stay Blessed.. 🧡🧡🧡🧡
I’m afraid of losing the friendship. Which is why I keep fighting for the relationship. I make excuses that he is dealing with grief, and loss of a close loved one, that he is adjusting to being a single father, he just isn’t ready for a relationship. I know and say all these things but still fight for the friendship and relationship that we had for so many years, and he is inconsistent, and pushing my love away. How do I be there for him without involving my emotions or feelings for him? Which normally leads to sex and giving into what he wants?
Yes it was very useful. I keep asking why i keep going back..what am i doing wrong..feeling like maybe it is me..why cant i openly talk to him about shifts that i see without it turning into him getting upset. Me learning things not going to change. Its a lot sir lol. Im just looking ti be better for me and if i ever meet someone who really sees me and wants to grow with me i wont be so untrusting and nervous that they gonna do the same thing. And that im not either through my triggers and trauma from hurt in life and relationships. Sorry for the ling post.
I venture tonsay of all this is seen before the commitment it shouldn't be a commitment and lets just say, we dodnt commit. I got the balls to walk away from the dating 3 mts and keeping in touch the following 3 mts. To now where i left with a nice text
“If a man doesn’t fear losing you he will always devalue you.” This is golden, thanks for sharing. 👍🏼
My pleasure!
Very golden. ❤
Thank you for helping me realise that I do the emotional heavy lifting in all my relationships.
It stops now! I'm worth more and deserve more than I've been getting in return.
Always be willing to walk away. I rather be alone than settle for disrespect
Amen girly !!💗
I love this guy! Very smart advice!❤
I have ALWAYS said, "indifference is so much more damaging than active hate."
Thank you .
We must protect this man by all means necessary. I love listening to him. He always on point and giving u valid advice from a mans standpoint and how they think.
I want to add value to peoples lives
@@CoachKenCanion Kim from London 😊 I'm looking through UA-cam... And came across you... Your videos are so right and I know that... I know you are so so so right... and yes I need to pull back... But it's not easy 😔 and I love that you recognise that... I appreciate your time in posting this... I think my fear is what if it doesn't work... But I know I need to do something different... Every word you say resonates with my situation.. I know I need to self reflect (your other video) wish me luck.. xx
@@kimyork4945 You got this. I am here to support u
@@CoachKenCanion thank you... Appreciate it... It started this evening and I feel good.. one step at a time and I am trying to be kind to myself... Xx
I agree he valuable to us women this stuff works
I miss my father. He would give me good advice like this. Glad to find a UA-cam daddy.
We don't demand what we deserve. We demand what we tolerate. That's good Coach!
I have done everything you have requested. I am getting married in June of 2024. Thanks for all your help directing us on a positive path . I appreciate you and all your advice. Now if my grown son can get right, I ll have another blessing.
I agree. Happened to me twice. When I decided just forget it. Months later they both started calling at the same time. I was so hurt. I don't feel anything anymore. I ignore there calls I no longer rush to answer the phone. I don't want to be bothered anymore. Now i get more text and calls. what a shame
When I see your content, it comes through my feed as shorts. Right now I’m going through a breakup and decided to come to your channel, and I am sooooo impressed!!! Thank you so much for doing this work ❤❤❤ binge watching tomorrow
Excellent advice - Tolerating bad behavior becomes a habit, so when our partner does something nice we think this reaffirms commitment - This is false security and clever ploy men and sometimes women use to stay in control of a relationship.
Thanks Coach Ken. I used your advice. I pulled back just a tiny bit and he knew he needed to adjust himself. That opened up an opportunity to communicate. It was so beautiful. Our connection continues to grow because I’m not making the mistakes I used to. I’m really happy right now….thanks to you coach.
Great job!
Not chasing anything, not even goals. If it’s meant that I have it, God will make sure that I have all the tools I need to complete it. In regards to a man, he needs to be whole before he steps to me because you ain’t getting anything for free.
Yes. I made the distinction between ‘hate’ and ‘indifference’ years ago. Indifference is when you don’t want nothing to do with that person.
Fall back game on ♾…
Absolutely agree with the posture of INDIFFERENCE!! You are spot on Coach! Keep telling us the RAW truth! This is not easy and I'm so very thankful for your help❤❤❤
Just was dealing with this in dating this guy. You are describing him to the T.
I love this message so much. I appreciate all that you do. I'm newly single and it's a struggle out here in the dating world. But I'm up for the challenge with your guidance.
A woman must create the standard✨and a man must either adhere or not♥️chin check tht ninja if he falls below the standards‼️Got it✅
God is my guide first and foremost. This should be everyone’s declaration.
We dont demand what we deserve. We demand what we tolerate. Great advice.
Forget how I feel, think on what I deserve 👏👏👏
Best advice I heard from a guru. And a sane blk man at that. Lord protect this man! ❤
This is good information
So glad I came across the video. So applicable to me right now. Thanks ❤️
Thank you for watching my channel. Please share
I had to stop fighting, I’m gone
I totally agree with you especially with the toy analogy. Thank you
Thank you for watching
I could really use your help lol
@@latrice3748 email me at kencanion@gmail.com
@@latrice3748 email me at kencanion@gmail.com
This is some dam good advice!
I have done like EVERYTHING wrong.... everything.....and now my once amazing relationship is a mess....and yes, I dont wanna lose him. He is a great guy. I hope I am not too late. And actually I hope that while pulling back, if it doesn't work, it will prepare me to walk away. Cause right now I am not willing to walk away...God help me
Omg this was FACTS so on point. Keep blessing us. I walked away 10 years was too long 😢
That’s why I’m practicing no sex outside of a marriage bed.
Until the pain of staying the same becomes GREATER than the pain it takes to CHANGE....you WON'T ❤️❤️
Chin checked mine and he got mad and went silent.
You are a brilliant coach. God bless your wife as well.
in my current situation I'm so happy I ran across your videos they help me in my weak moments.
Very good advice Coach!
This video has very great information. Thanks for sharing. Now how about hitting that like button to show our appreciation
All your old videos are coming right in clutch omg. Thanks you Ken!!
Thank you!! Much needed insight. Love this!! Thank you!!!!thank!!!you thank you!!!
You are so welcome
Thanks alot
Awesome, Beautiful, and Wise message!!
Thank you kindly!
I Thank God for you
I thank God for you
Thank you for showing me another way to communicate how I truly feel without feeling like I am the one that's running him down. This video was extremely helpful 👏. I was raised in a house full of men but I still have a lot to learn about the man in my personal life. Thank you for helping me to understand on my journey.
You are so welcome
Chasing vs attracting, I love that logical breakdown. Thank you.
You're so welcome!
After listening to this I had to subscribe
You are Amazingly HONEST!!!
Thank you ❤️
Thank you. I really want to empower people
Thankyou so much ❤
Thank you sir! Thank you for giving valid advice from a man’s standpoint and telling us how they think. It meant a lot for me bc I don’t have that male figure in my life that I can pick up the phone to ask for advice from. So since I don’t have that in my life I look forward to your videos. So…. Once again thank you for your advice!!
At least he is articulate and can speak eloquently
My guide is the Holy Spirit !!!!
I second that u have had a major impact on my life perspectives and reconditioning my mindset
Coach your saving my life love you❤
Thanks coach Ken you have opened my eyes so wide. I put in so much and get nothing back.
Excellent!
I just came across your videos. You are a God send. I was meant to see your videos.. I have made colossal mistakes in with this man.. I am going to correct them now, by walking away. It's been almost 3 years. My needs are not being met, I have complained, said I am done and still allowed him back in. I wished him a happy birthday yesterday, he did not even reply. My pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of changing. Thank you so very much for what you do. Stay Blessed.. 🧡🧡🧡🧡
Thank you for watching
Wow, some nuggets here . Thank you 😊.
So nice of you
I deserve BETTER! Amen.
I'm back in the dating pool, and your lessons are valuable. Thank you.
Welcome back!
Thanks
Much needed to hear this. Thank you. Back in the dating pool.🙏🏽
Amazing advice I always chase this relationship ❤️
Excellent advice
Thanks for watching
This is so good!!! Thank you sir
Great advice
I needed this thank u!
Thanks!
I appreciate you!!!!!!!
Man, speak yo ish! This is so true!!
This got to me at the right time, thank you coach
So true
Well put..
I appreciate this wisdom so much ❤
Impactful!
It's crazy to me that any of this game playing is needed. Two human beings should be able to respect and love each other without all of this extra.
Thanks so much for the advice 😊
Thank you coach
There you go.
Truth.... Thanks
I’m afraid of losing the friendship. Which is why I keep fighting for the relationship. I make excuses that he is dealing with grief, and loss of a close loved one, that he is adjusting to being a single father, he just isn’t ready for a relationship. I know and say all these things but still fight for the friendship and relationship that we had for so many years, and he is inconsistent, and pushing my love away. How do I be there for him without involving my emotions or feelings for him? Which normally leads to sex and giving into what he wants?
Love your wisdom.. Very good info!
Thanks for watching!
dealing with this now with my husband I'm separated from. Thanks
Thank you! This was on time!!!
This is Absolutely!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✊🏿✊🏿👍🏾👍🏾 Spot on advice to live by.
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I kept going back only to go through a repeated cycle.
I’ve been there too sis. I had to decide I was more important than the relationship, and finally walked away…
This is AMAZING advice. Thank you so much ❤
You're so welcome!
Good stuff thank you
Thank you.
You're welcome!
I like your personality. Subscribed
❤❤
Thanks for keeping it real coach. 🙏🏼
Thanks for appreciating the content
This message was powerful. Thank you so much. 💪🏽💯🙏🏽
You are so welcome
I needed this TADAY!!!!
I just found you and you are awesome!! Thank you.
AHHHH, Thank You so much. Please share
@@CoachKenCanion I did already!
Just came across your Channel and i must say u made a lot of sense for me...much love🙌🙏keep teaching.
Thank you. Glad you are here
Damn this was good 👍
Awesome advice thank you appreciate you coach blessings.
You are so welcome
I appreciate the advice you give always 😊
You are so welcome
I recently subscribed to you! I love listening to your videos and you’re a major blessing to me seriously!!! Thank you so much!❤️
I appreciate you!!!
Im definitely going to apply ds
TRUTH!!!! THANK YOU!
I don’t chase I replace
1st time seeing video.
Hope you enjoyed it!
Yes it was very useful. I keep asking why i keep going back..what am i doing wrong..feeling like maybe it is me..why cant i openly talk to him about shifts that i see without it turning into him getting upset. Me learning things not going to change. Its a lot sir lol. Im just looking ti be better for me and if i ever meet someone who really sees me and wants to grow with me i wont be so untrusting and nervous that they gonna do the same thing. And that im not either through my triggers and trauma from hurt in life and relationships. Sorry for the ling post.
Hi, can this dynamic work in marriage?
Thanks for the video; I like the positivity.
Yes, absolutely
@@CoachKenCanion that's exactly what I needed to know cause he is tripping. i never thought I would have to play cat and mouse game in my marriage
Staying with him when he's like this is giving up.
It takes too much to be with one, don't put yourself through it, you'll be better off.
💯💯💯 I have a few different “guides” as long as their aligned with my core values.
-relationship
-financial
-spiritual
-academic
-entrepreneurship
I venture tonsay of all this is seen before the commitment it shouldn't be a commitment and lets just say, we dodnt commit. I got the balls to walk away from the dating 3 mts and keeping in touch the following 3 mts. To now where i left with a nice text