Young Men 18 to 29{ Why Being A StepDad Is A Bad Deal For Young Men}
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- Опубліковано 12 жов 2024
- Young man 18 to 29. In this video I tackle the subject of Step Fathering. I give my opinion and views, which is based on my personal experience, on why I believe it to be a very bad deal for men in general, and young men in particular.
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I have dated single moms in my past. it can definitely be a gamble with risks in my opinion it can comes with responsibllity if a man chooses to commit to a single mom with kids. im glad that I had experience with it. Single moms with kids are a package deal. my advice for mens if they choose to date a single mom be ready for everything that comes with it
Gid bless you i have one in my Head who has a child god bless you for the message ✝️
38 year old dude here. I can give some perspective as one who was the "child" in this situation. My parents had me early (like right at the end of high school) and broke up probably before I could even speak, but I still saw my dad every weekend/during summers and vacations and whatnot. My mom's first long term (7 years) after that who eventually became my sister's biological father... was an ass (petty, slightly abusive but not egregiously compared to stuff you might hear about). Most of the family didn't like him either. I went from liking him, to fearing him, to eventually not respecting him by the time I was 12 and we did fight at one point... they finally broke up shortly after.
This made me wary of any future bfs she might have, but eventually she had another 7 year relationship. He was relatively cool and laid back and I respected him way more throughout, but he had diagnosed bipolar issues and it ended on something unexpected: I was working and in college by then and they asked me for help with the rent... close to a grand. Then instead of paying it he took the money and abandoned us. There isn't bad blood now due to that lapse (he actually helped me with some money later while I was still in college), but the level of trust definitely isn't there (they're no longer together... been over 15 years since that).
Out of those 3 "father figures", I don't talk to or want to talk to my sister's dad at all. My mom's second bf, I wouldn't mind touching base with and we have talked after the breakup, but we all drifted apart due to living in different states and I only get updates about him occasionally from my mom. I talk to my real dad several times a week and we hang out a few times a month. So despite what they may have contributed either financially or whatever their raising style was, I'm only still close to my biological father. The conflict points probably hurt that with them as well.
Now, I wouldn't want to deal with any potential step-parent situation when looking for a relationship, not only because of the imbalance of responsibility vs rights, but also because my experiences tells me the relationship with the child doesn't have a high chance of being great or worthwhile anyway (less of a chance than with a biological child). And I only mentioned my personal experiences... I had some friends with step-parents too and more often than not, they didn't have great experiences or a high opinion of them.
I agree 100%
No matter how people feel, people encourage young people of danger of dating people who have kids💯
Just want to thank you for your insight
Thank you Cold, for the comment and the view!!!
Absolutely True!
Very bad deal …..
Thks for the comment and the view Bill
I wouldn't do it for two reasons:
1. When it comes to rebuking or disciplining the child, you'll hear the kids say, "You're not my daddy," or the mother saying, "You don't talk to my child like that" or "You don't spank my child. He's my child, not yours."
2. That bond between the child's parents. You never know what can happen. One day, the child's father may re-enter the picture, saying, "Baby, I'm back! Let's try again."
Agreed. It’s a bad deal, but it depends on the women.
@@bailewe2 I agree Bail. The Mother can make it easier, but it doesn't make any of my points in the video less true.
The worst decision you can ever make as a man!!!!!!!!!!
I would have to agree with you parable!!
I agree with you i tryed but i had to learn the hard way im 24
Hey Tech
Thts fine. Learn and move on. Definitely don't do what I did, which is do it twice!!!
I usually agree with Big Will but on this one I have to disagree 90%.
Hey Lake
No worries. I appreciate the comment and the View. I'm curious, what part do you disagree with? You said you were with me 90%😊
So true
Hey Mario. Thanks for the comment and the view!!!
Well I was a step mom. At 21.
So ladies don't date a man that has kids then
😂😂 lady seek therapy
Hey Shavannesparks
Thank you for the comment and the view. I absolutely can see women having the opinion, for the same reasons!!!
Fair game.
@@shavannesparks6733 that’s fine … we don’t expect it both ways
Definitely a bad deal not worth it