Supporting them? Will you support a man who sits on his duff while you work to pay the bills for both of you? I know not. And if you would, I would question your self-esteem. DOORmatting is not a good look for anyone.
The bar is in hell for ppl to think he’s a great husband 😂 there’s no reason he can’t pursue his dreams when he can just like she does then he has the audacity to nag her straight after work!? The ones acting like she has a good mother in law are nuts all she did was criticize her and act like her son is the prize 😂 “he takes care of everything” “she doesn’t make much” what a joke. I hope she wakes up and realizes she can do better🤷♀️ theres a reason he got dumped maybe he told her he wants to stay at home with his degree while she works 😂
I think he should get a job with his degree and practice midnight like her. She is realistic she knows she needs a realistic job and sacrifices to live her dreams, this dynamic of only her working might work for them but is really hard on her.
I don't think she is in agreement. Didn't you hear his mother's conversation? They are double-teaming Deborah. If she takes care of him financially, it lets his momma off the hook.
Or he could still teach guitar classes for beginners. He would still be doing what he likes. But the guy seems to have gotten too comfortable with her doing all the hard work while he can enjoy his carefree life.
@@jazz_ramcynothing wrong with their setup? she practices her passion during her lunch break or late at night while he gets to do it anytime he wants at home. BOTH of them having a job would mean she could probably lessen her hours and they would have more time together while less of the burden is only on her.
The husband comes across lazy and inconsiderate when he knows playing with his guitar is not bringing in income home, while your wife works long ass hours. All he can say is I’m sorry with a chuckle. No mama
A musician makes a good amount of money for each performance they do and while it's indeed not consistent and unstable, it's enough to say that he's working hard too. you won't say the same thing if it's a woman. bcs that's just how the world is. women forgot that while they're fighting for misogyny they ignore the misandry. I'm a woman too. But saying this to a househusband OR a housewife is sick. And while y'all think that she should leave him or she needs to find someone better than him, you don't realize that he's the best for her.
@@keisha-cg8qjyou’re clearly delusional in your obsession of defending this 40 year old man. She is 10 years younger and supporting his lifestyle while she gets 4 hours of sleep a night. To reward her work her husband critiques everything she does within the house. He is fully capable of working, high qualified, even for part time. But he chooses to stay in the house and work this unblossoming music career. It doesn’t matter for shit that he’s “working hard” you can work harder plunging shit in a toilet. He can put that hard work in something tangible like money instead of trying to micromanage her life.
I don’t think he’s lazy I think his wife wants him to stay home. Some women take care of their husband and vice versa. He’s sweet and does all the cooking.
Just because his Korean doesn’t mean you have a say in his life and who he chooses to love you’re the ridiculous one here love has no colour You’re a complete stranger the only thing you have in common is that you’re both Korean that doesn’t mean your somehow close enough to comment on who he loves get a grip and come back to reality kid
Glad to have a Korean man say this! Was beginning to think that Korean culture was like many people raised without honor AND pride. Guess the mom didn't train him properly. She seems to think living like this is okay.
@@sunnyuutinn He is a narcissistic, lazy, self-centered, musically talented man WHO is lacking proper home training and the ability to care about anyone but himself.
She hard worker and he should feel blessed that he has her. His mother and him should lay off the nagging. No one wants to clean when your working long hours. If he a stay home husband he should do all the housework with a smile. Team work makes a successful and happy marriage.
How would I know that information? Nothing was stated in the UA-cam video. Do u have inside information? I am basing my opinion on what I viewed and heard. One must never jump to conclusions without evidence. That how nasty rumors start.
@@moontwo1360then you shouldn't be judging their relationship based on a video. you actually shouldn't be having any opinions at all about someone's relationship. It's weird and uncomfortable
They decided as a couple to post their private life not me. In the United States it called freedom of speech. UA-cam has a comments section. I suggesting if u don’t like other’s opinions and don’t respect their opinions don’t read them.
When I was a housewife and my ex came home and made a mess in the house, I also complained because doing all the housework (cooking, washing dishes, clothes, etc.) is a job that takes more than 8 hours , 365 days. So if my ex came home and left socks in the living room, leftovers on the table, underwear on the floor, etc., etc., of course I would say something to him because I worked a lot and his behavior was unacceptable. I was also concerned about him eating and resting well.
Here in Europe we consider men (or women for that fact) of 39 years old without a job or any job experience and just tingling their hobby guitar in their room, hoping some music giant will notice them, as losers.. No hope for them. he ruined his career and get a afro American women to compensate for his mistakes. But he thinks wrong because this black woman is beautiful , intelligent and talented. Maybe if they get children he can contribute by becoming staying home dad, but now he is just hanging around like students mostly do.. So they better decide to sit around the table and talk realistic things and not dreams of a middle aged not working man. Maybe they can both decide she will stay the first provider of the family and he will try to learn how to take care for kids . If they want kids…🤔 then he can become a house-man.. He still can pitch financially in when he plays with his group or give guitar lessons . But if they don’t want kids.. then she has to decide if she wants to keep him as her trophy and pay for him just being with her. That’s her choice of course but please remember he will gets older and at the end she will be left with an old guitar player to keep. Nothing wrong with that either as he fulfill her in any other way.. IT is her choice to make..
Yes and no. He does exactly what a stay-at-home wife would do , It's not like he stays on the couch all day, he does chores, makes food, and actually tries to make a living out of his passion. They both do the best they can at the moment. It's actually hard having a stable job as a performer you know...
@@lenjon7478 be kind to the man, but i think he should consider taking part-time day job as a delivery man because its quite common nowadays such job and make music at night.
He can totally create a pre recorded teaching program online for students and have video meetings once a week especially for requests in particular songs and genres. They could pay $200.00 or more for sessions. She can make animations for the website and courses along with each lessons. Also goal coaching and making the process of learning guitar fun and exciting. They can work together to create the program then enjoy the profits for their future.
He CAN do that. He appears to be a narcissistic person. (Allegedly). He feels better when he nags her so she won't see his short comings. She NEEDS her FREEDOM. I saw no love on his part and she seems in love with the word LOVE. LOVE FEELS GOOD. She looks EXHAUSTED and so sad.
@@ceegabe1555 I see your perspective and agree to an extent. My concern is, from my perspective, that she's also exhusted due to working all day, until 11pm. Then by the time she has any inkling of time to do a hobby for herself, her husband comes in to tell her that it's time to go to bed, because, bills. :( While, I'm very much impressed he's able to pursue his dreams to make them a reality. His wife is pursuing a job that's a blessing and convenient for them both, but unfortunately, she's the breadwinner at this point of their marriage. :( She needs a job that either pays way better, so she can work shorter days, so she also has the ability to pursue her own dreams. Or he also needs to find another part time job, so they both can equally pursue their dreams. If the roles were reversed and he had to be the breadwinner, and he finally sat down to practice his jazz music after working all day, I'd bet he'd be upset, too. If his wife had all day to persue her dreams of art and such, but came in to tell him he now needs to go to bed, he'd feel restricted, too. But the partner telling them to go to bed would just be the final cherry on top the cake. Where as his worklife would be taking up majority of his week. There's definitely a lifestyle living gap between them. He has all this time to work and chill out and breathe, where as she finally can catch a breath when she gets home, but wait! She still can't, because she has all these cleaning stipulations she has to go over, that the husband has brought up before they can even eat. I can already tell, she will burn out first from so much workload being demanded of her daily. Just to keep a roof over their head, clothes on their back and food on the table. Unfortunately, this is a teammate partnership for survival only. Not a couple married in terms of a loving connection. Already, halfway through the video and I do not see them staying home to watch a movie. I do not see them taking a break and going for walks at the park. Is there ever a time that they can find the time and just chill in each others' presence and appreciate each others' existence? If I were in a situation where a guy I've come to know, suddenly is broken up with or vice versa, I honestly would see that as a red flag and run. His vulnerability would be the red flag. Temporarily. Because his feelings were just crushed by someone who allegedly loved him. And that is visibly apparent that he loved her, too. Her red flag was swooping in when he didn't get time to balance his emotions and well being and heal from that heartbreak. Something tells me that she's starting to see why his previous ex-girlfriend broke up with him and potentially dodged a bullet. I do have a question. What are some things you see in this video linked to narcissistic traits? I appreciate you seeing these flags and would like to know what those are to you. I'm always trying to learn. Although I've had to learn the hard way, but am getting better at seeing red flags better for my overall safety, health and well being. Definitely a time-saving heartbreak preventative measure.
@@ceegabe1555Update in my last comment. I did see them do a couple of fun things together at the end of the video. But overall, she's definitely tired from the workload dynamic in the relationship. ☹️
The love between them is heartwarming, but he should also work and pursue his passions on the side like her. My heart hurt seeing how exhausted she looked this whole ep. I pray things get easier for her.
Literally idk why ppl aren’t calling him out more in the comments. He’s literally unemployed but keeps nagging at her when she works the whole day to support him 🥲
@@junkaeuru You know what he should be doing since he's unemployed. Vlogging. He should just vlog about their daily life and his music. Content creation is the way to go given that jobs are hard to come by, especially for him with skills only in music.
@@ceegabe1555 Why are you putting him down? Would you say the same things about a wife whose husband has a job, and she just takes care of the house? Or is it that any time a man is a househusband/assumes an unconventional role, he must be a deadbeat?
@@in00n For his own sake, if he expects to earn the RESPECT of his wife and other family members, he needs to assume the responsibilities of a MATURE, responsible man. (Same as most men who want to carry a REAL MAN card.) Remember the Golden Rule! Whoever has the gold, makes the rules! ...the internet He might be hiding behind his mop and broom. He can't be the MAN of the house when his woman makes the gold. A woman NEEDS to BE able to RESPECT her spouse. The ex-girlfriend surely dumped him for a reason. That's (allegedly) why he was sobbing like a child in the restaurant where she met and felt sorry for him. She thought she was in love but DIDN'T elect to support this deadbeat for the rest of her life. This beautiful young lady is losing her youth, ambitions and hair color because if this hanger-on. (He needs to try to move back in with his mother if she will life-time financially support him.) He is wasting his ability to grow up and assume the responsibilities of life by hanging on to the apron strings of any woman available. He is NOT a bad guy, he is definitely musically talented BUT seems immobilized by the FEAR of becoming an active contributor to his own mature ADULT life. Feel so sorry for Deborah, she tried to be empathetic and ended up caught up in a web of his (unrealized, frightened BUT talented immaturity) deceit. Pray he will grow up AND she will pray to OUR ALMIGHTY CREATOR GOD for her direction. 🔆🔆
@@in00nhe is not doing anything beside hanging around , playing the loving husband and be a kept man. There are no children to take care of so there is no purpose on him hanging in the house ( a small apartment ) and playing guitar. When she gets home she is not welcomed with a warm meal or something like that, I think she is creating a monster
She was lonely. Yes, she giggled because he held her hand. Imagine HOW she would react if he got off his tail and got a real job to help pay their bills.
She'd giggle more IF he got a real job to HELP her pay THEIR bills. Many people find themselves afraid to go out and deal with real workforce realities but it gives them no right to USE other people to carry their burdens. I FEEL SO SORRY FOR DEBORAH. And also for him, that he appears AFRAID TO step OUT and be that responsible MAN that he CAN be. I thought he was attractive and amazingly musically talented at FIRST look. But viewing him USING this lady to pay his bills (as presented online) and trying to lower her self-esteem, I just feel that he might not have had male role models that he actually modeled to become a MATURE responsible man. I'm done. This situation as presented has placed a dark cloud in the atmosphere. GOOD luck and GOD bless and MATURE the both of them soon. 🔆 This IS a comments section?
@@ceegabe1555 I mean yea, I and basically everyone else feel sorry for Deb and thinks she deserves better from her husband, but that's literally what every other comment on this video was saying so I didn't think I needed to myself. I just wanted to point out how cute she was at that moment.
@@tanimal3964 No offense meant. But been almost where she is. Good man normally BUT has some fears of life-thus finds seemingly confident person-seems to hang on for salvation. He has SO much going for himself but maybe needs counseling to release his more CONFIDENT IN TACKLING REAL LIFE SELF. Loneliness lowers our discernment guard sometimes. We giggle because... (Been almost there). I pray that BOTH of them will mature where needed and determine the best path for their lives. Blessings
I'm a Korean man. He seems like he should work because if she is not there, he has to work. This is not fair. Also, there are more women like him in Korea.
The guy in the yellow is spot on. But it’s her life. As long as she’s happy. She looks so exhausted all the time tho. She truly deserves more in my opinion. Her husband’s mother also should tell her son to get a good job. Heaven forbid Deborah leaves lol
Agree. Passion is one thing but if it isn’t giving u a good living and your making the other one do all the work then get yourself a god damn job too lol
He could at least get a part time job. They don't even have pets or kids to take care of. Many wives cook, clean, take care of children and have jobs. She's also teaching and working on her artwork. At this rate his wife is going to get burnt out and get sick of him.
They are both gaming her. If she supports him and ruins her own future, it lets his mom off the hook. Now, I can understand why he cried so hard when ex-girlfriend quit him. He IS truly musically talented but seems immature and lacking in other skills. His mom probably knows this, which explains the need to put Deborah on a guilt trip.
I agree. No matter how smart a woman is, when we truly love someone unfortunately when the guy is bad we don’t see it. I’m surprised because usually Asian men are the opposite which is why the panel were judging him. @@ceegabe1555 Surely she can get another guy that’s better living there. There’s so many Asian men black women married couples over there that treat the woman amazing and WORK lol
LOVE FEELS GOOD. A man who loves you will help pay the family bills. THEN she wouldn't be so exhausted from working both days (and nights to prevent losing her passion: animation skills.) He NEEDS to get a job or move in with his mom again. Wonder why ex-girlfriend dumped him?
데보라만 너무 피곤한거 같아 가여워요 가장인 데보라에게 닥달하는 시어머니가 이해가 안되네요. 오히려 고마워해야 하는데 수치심을 주는게 어이가 없었어요. 자신의 꿈을 쫓더라도 생계잡을 꼭 갖아야 하는데 그가 이해가 안되네요. 제 남편도 하고 싶은일이 있지만 수입이 작아서 직장다니며 하고 있는데 그래야 되는거 아닌가요.데보라의 짐이 넘 무거워 보여요
So you can't SEE the elephant in the room? She is supposed to be a wife-NOT his slave. The girlfriend who dumped this parasite is probably rejoicing that she DIDN'T get stuck with this "dependent-on-women" babyman LEECH.
@@ceegabe1555how about you give them money since you’re so invested. They chose the roles of the wife being the bread winner and the husband being the house husband to let them rock.
I think he feels a bit guilty and jealous that he's at home and not out having a job like his wife. That's one reason he nags her. He's also been cleaning and wants her to appreciate him by showing it when she puts her socks in the laundry. It's easier to just stay quiet and pick up the socks than nag her about it!! Pick your battles wisely!!!
He is guilty that he is NOT acting like a mature, head-of-house- hold male Provider. RESPECT IS EARNED. Don't bite the hand that you FORCED TO feed you!
Or maybe he is tired of constantly "picking up" after her? As someone in the video stated, housework is not easy and it feels like a HUGE disservice to the person putting in a ton of work only to have a mess, that could have been simply avoided, in a really short span of time. It is not easy to cohabitate with people, close family or not. I would know. I am typing this with deep sadness in my heart after having to scour my bathroom AGAIN, when I deep cleaned it YESTERDAY.
@@shanonbrown6170 This guy needs a FT job. Did she ask him to escape work life stress and responsibility by leeching off her? He is not doing childcare. Maybe she wants to switch up and send him OUT to bring home their bacon. If he can get up early to send HER out to work, he can go outside to work also. She shouldn't be his overworked beast OF burden. She is NOT his slave. She is losing her youth, animation future and hair color dealing with this unfair STRESS. GOD HELP us all. 🔆
@ceegabe1555 I do agree with you. I was just trying to give him the benefit of the doubt on the nagging. Maybe he really dislikes untidiness? In any case, it's inconsiderate to constantly nag his overworked partner. Him getting a job would certainly (and rightfully) reduce her load and create a more sustainable life for them both.
the gaslighting that they are doing to this girl is incredible. a husband who refuses to work and nags her for small things and the mother changing the reality lol meanwhile she is working her ass off. i feel so bad for her.
Sounds like you don’t know any artists. 9-5 grind kills all creativity in artists, in this case they are both artists and are balancing support and finances together.
@@CammyMoto I think the mother in law really is the only issue, going on about how she doesnt make enough and the son takes care of everything. shes a bitch honestly
@@CammyMoto they arent balanced at all. he should work more outside of the house. she is also an artist why does he passion not get killed? also being an artist is not more important then taking care of the people who are also taking care of you.
btw my mom is an artist and was still being financially responsible and care taking her FOUR kids running her shop and working part time. This guy is too much.@@CammyMoto
you literally ignore the fact that he only asks her to keep their place clean bcs he cleans it everyday. only nagging bout her work bcs he's worried she might be lack of sleep and afraid her health will worsen. y'all say anything bad about a man but y'all won't do the same if it's a woman. she also wants him to do what he loves enough to say he's not forcing her to accept his dream while she has her own too.
Apologies up front if I offend or sound negative. But here's the thing. I feel a bit strange abt this couple. Especially for the wife. I've seen in other vids some old pictures of her from USA before she met him. Goshhhhh what a huge difference. Se looked mighty fine. Shining, Glowing. Nothing left of that since she's married & moved to Korea. Other thing that bugs me. I saw another scene where she shows her MIL her bankaccount savings to reassure her MIL that they can come by wt money. The MIL gives her (or them) a bit of a hard time abt money. I feel it's inappropriate of the MIL to give her a hard time since her son doesnt brings much 2 the table. DIL is the main breadwinner, she works her a$$ of to provide. She writes childrens books as well to earn extra money. She loves her husband so much, who is an "unknown" musician & doesnt earn much. Her husband naggs a lot. Girl, take care of yourself. Is this all worth it? I really do feel you lost your glow. In USA you had ur hair done, a bit of make-up, dressed up. It's ur love, ur live. I respect that but I just wanted 2 let u know the huge difference of you. Sending u some sister love❤❤❤
@@T0T91 Im not blaming the guy. What we see in the vid is just 1 day of recording edited into 3 min. or so. We cant judge if he's good or not. In this vid She's working hard so he's nagging her to take a break. I just want her to see the difference of b4 & after. She should take more care of herself & the MIL should stop medling and let them be.
I love the way he's so willing to help her do her hair and nag her about her rest and health. He truly loves her. He is playing the support role in their marriage. He does everything a loving wife would do in the home. He's not sitting on his butt all day.
She would have TIME to do her own hair if she didn't have to be THE breadwinner AND pursue her own career passion at night. He NEEDS to stop nagging her and get an outside job too.He is looking awfully weak and lackluster as a man in the internet world although he IS musically talented. He needs to grow UP and act like a mature responsible man and not a person ALWAYS dependent on hardworking women. His ex-girlfriend might have smelled the wilted flowers just in time. 🔆
This must be the lazy but musically talented hubby replying. Many fearful, timid BUT talented people choose to ride another person's financial back rather than working to support themselves. He thinks he CAN sit home on his butt and practice while she sacrifices her own future by financially supporting herself and this seemingly frightened (but extremely musically talented ChildMAN). Time to grow up grown man, sir. PRAY. GOD can help you do it. Don't ROB Deborah of her best youthful, career productive years. If an Asian man treated an Asian woman in this manner, what would the Asian community say?
@ceegabe1555 where in the video did he sit home on his butt, though? The man was working in the home throughout the day deep cleaning everything. Does that not require effort as well?
She doesn't need fun--she needs a mature husband who is a (financial) working family provider. She can do her own hair. She IS exhausted working day and night while he focuses ONLY on his own career. I wonder if he thinks she is his personal slave. I DON'T see his love. I think he is using her. She is not gaining from this liaison at all. IMHO
They had these problems before they got married. We aren’t in their marriage so we dont have any right to an opinion. I am a feminist so i think either person can be a stay at home spouse. We are on this man because he is a man does that really matter.
I’m Korean American and proud of her too! But some nasty racist Koreans in the comment section think European people are better because of their skin color!!
This couple is adorable and their struggle relatable. I've watched their episode three times. I hope they are doing well and are working in their dream jobs. 💛
@@career5690 Maybe he will grow up and assume a responsible husband's position. Thus earning his RESPECTED MAN CARD that mature, responsible men earn in time. You have to FEEL THE FEAR- BUT DO IT ANYWAY. If he lacks confidence and motivation, places like Toastmasters or one-on-one positive counseling might help him grow up into the man that he can feel proud of being. Actively engaging in life helps to builds our character. He has what it takes already-except maybe positive SELF-esteem and SELF-directed positive motivation. Praying for BOTH of them. OUR ALMIGHTY CREATOR GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.
love that she has taught him the correct way to care for African hair and he loves her. Its so beautiful. They are so talented, beautiful and smart. I love the way they are living their dream. This was lovely look at two very brave people who love and support each other.
She wouldn't need help with her hair if he would get off his sad tail and ALSO get a job. If she can work AND pursue her passion at night so can he. This woman is EXHAUSTED. He needs to act like a mature man who provides for his wife. I couldn't RESPECT a grown man who won't provide for his wife. He appears to be using her. LOVE FEELS GOOD-and this can't be love. She looks so sad. Deborah and his mom should nag his lazy tail about getting a job to help out. IMHO
I am so happy I found this channel! I lived in Busan back in the late 1990's. I started my international teaching career there. I love seeing these stories and how others have come to see how amazing the Korean people are. This couple is so lovely. I found myself tearing up as you told their story in this video.
This is my opinion: The mother and son form a collaborative duo, with her assisting him in identifying individuals with promising potential. Their goal is to secure a comfortable life, leveraging the fruits of his wife's dedicated efforts.
Wife is so pretty and sweet. Helpful and works hard.The kind K-parents love. She understands Korean. She plays along and don't get mad when Mom took husbands side. She understands the Korean sarcasm. Plays along and just say agree to mom. Even enjoying a song he sings for her. Thoughtful people belong on a thoughtful culture. She is so Korean it's not even funny.
If allowing yourself to be worked like a slave. with no complaint is Korean culture- someone lied to us. Thought Koreans were honorable and hardworking. NOT leeches on the work- blood of beautiful, talented foreigners.
Girl…I don’t know if you’ll ever see this. But girl you’re tired! I know money doesn’t matter and your enduring cause you love him. But he needs to get a part time job…he can work 12 hours like you! 5 hours part time and 8 hours on his passion! You are decaying….her family needs to fly there and intervene!!!”my son is here taking my care of everything” taking care of what?! Them bills?! He cleans a small apartment how long is that 2 hours max! What’s he doing the rest of the time? Your being gas lit
You Americans obsessed with ambition and career it’s sickening! Nobody wants your workaholic ,lack of family , 30s and not married, no social programs and hyper capitalistic lifestyle!!
When she cried I felt like it mist be extra hard since it had probably been 2 years since she last had to interview in Korean and to realise you have to get income soon which relies on interviewing in Korean after 2 years... so much stress. I can imagine how hard it felt when practicing.
I hope she won't have to have a medical crisis before this guy and his mom realizes that he NEEDS to get a job to help out. If she gets sick, I doubt if he will do anything differently. Probably (Allegedly) just move back in with his mom or leech off another sympathetic person. Such a shame as he is definitely musically talented. But showing love is NOT using someone else to pay your bills while you pursue your passion. (She was tired from work and he forced her to sing at his gig. He is so self-centered.) RUN!
If he's home all day the least he can do is help around the house instead of complaining over dumb stuff. She's exhausted after working long hours. I can't imagine hearing a grown man complaining over socks when you're unemployed
Darn she is the freaking bread winner, so that you can play music.😢 she's also pretty and cool . Someone else will appreciate her.But she likes that fool.
Each other's pillars? She could wake up AND do her own hair if he got a job to help out. He appears to be using her TO pay his bills while he lays around on his behind. She is EXHAUSTED, sad and looks STRESSED OUT.
He is a pillar in progress. The first stone for his pillar is his guitar and his wish to become a jazz guitarist. Maybe he will succeed in Korea, but elsewhere he will not been seen as a good jazz singer and I cannot evaluate his guitar skills because I only hear his practice and a little simple playing in a bar. so while her pillar is almost cracking at carrying his load also,, his pillar will not be finished as he he refuse to built this kind of support. Real Love begins to take a lost course when it is not balanced
좋은 부부같은데, 어디 지방이면 몰라도 서울 그것도 강남... 나중에 애라도 낳게 되면 돈 때문에 못 산다. 극복하기 힘들어. 남편이고 가장이면 자기 꿈을 버리고 돈을 벌어야지 3년이 되도록 자기 꿈을 쫓는다는 건 자기를 더 사랑하는 와이프를 은연중에 착취하고 있는 것임.
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS. It seems most people have forgotten that the man is the provider. Passion is cool but the wife cannot be the only breadwinner🤦🏽♀️, he needs to get a job to earn stable income. (Also sorry you'll have to maybe translate this, my Hangul studies have been on pause lol😊 )
I wish them a long, happy, healthy and prosperous future. I don't know if he's nagging, that's a strong word, I think the moment your partner loses interest in having conversation with you ( even if it's nagging) then that's when you know the relationship is dead.
Put YOUR glasses on! This beautiful, talented lady is EXHAUSTED, sad and tired of financially supporting this immature man. He NEEDS to get a job or move in with his momma. He is ruining DEBORAH'S future AND her youth. Maybe his mom will appreciate financially supporting him and listening to his songs and childish, immature play. The young lady works like his slave while he lays on his tail and practices his musical passion. IMHO 😩
@@younghokim1994 Bless you. But I stand by my comment. I almost got stuck with a musically talented young man who fearfully grabbed the apron strings of women to survive. Probably not entirely his fault. IF he had no appropriate male role-model while growing up. He IS definitely talented. He can still learn to become more socially interactive by joining Toastmasters or a beginner's acting class. He HAS to feel the fear but DO it anyway- that's how we ALL grow. Initially, it will BE hard but when he realizes that most people feel fearful when they step out of their comfort zone. He will be okay. (He will be smiling). I'm worried that she might be dragged down unnecessarily at this rate. Praying for BOTH. 🔆
Her man acts like an immature leech/parasite, what does she have to smile about? He appears to be using her so he can lay around the cozy apartment pursing a musical passion that may NOT happen. There are millions of musically-talented people with self- motivation and drive out there. He can't even get a job to take some stress off his wife.
As someone who fell in love with Korean culture a couple of years ago, this was such an inspiring story. Thank u guys for sharing ❤ I hope to be as fluent in Korean as her one day. I also want to be able to go to Korea to live and immerse myself in the culture one day. 🫶🏾
Thanks for sharing how you felt about it. Please elaborate more if you want. We all see and interpret things differently. I’m always open to hearing other view points. That’s how we grow as individuals and come together as people. What inspired me was her resolve and her courage to move to another country.
If I may insert something here too. I too would like to visit Korea one day and am learning the language, but wherever you go in this world, you have to be careful to not be blinded by all of the good things you may exspect or even see. (Especially by love!) While she did have the courage and bravery to move away from home and marry him, it does not appear to be everything that she thought it was cracked up to be including the type of person he is. Just a shot in the dark with this next statement, but It seems that people are romanticizing something here that isn't romantic at all with this situation or their marriage. At least from what it appears to be as well as her actual life there in reality.
I love this couple. The husband is so supportive and loving. The wife is so hardworking and driven. Together they seem so sweet. Would love updates about them
Man this woman's an angel, she deserves so much more. The man is so frustrating to watch throughout it all, especially at the end when she starts to cry for something very simple and HE CAN'T EVEN COMFORT HER PROPERLY. GIVE HER A HUG AND REASSURING WORDS MAN WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU. This man is a waste of space, time, effort and emotions. Until he stops being a little boy and actually becomes a man, this dude needs to work.
Loving men work hard FOR loved ones. He pushes her out the door to work while he piddles and FOCUSES only on his own musical career. I pray this beautiful lady figures out HOW he and his mom are using her soon.
My husband also nags me! It's also out of love & he's usually right (which is the most annoying kind of nagging 😂😂😂). Hope these two have a long, happy marriage!
Happy marriage? She needs to NAG him about going outside to find a job to help out financially. She works days and pursues her passion at night. Why can't this grown man do the same.
I’m sorry but it’s clear a lot of you don’t know the difference in showing love and being loving. He’s being loving but this woman is clearly tired. Her face shows it all. She’s doing all the work PLUS following her dreams as an artist, while ol boy is following a passion. And then says, “sorry to Deborah”. He needs a real job and he need to stop nagging her. If you see her mistakes, clean them up. Because as of right now she’s doing all while you’re making a mistake on not taking up a better job to help her. Now imagine if she had kids? I hate that this was laughed out. This is not fair at the least. Why are women always supporting men in every matter without them assisting or helping as well?
Easy to say, not easy to do. While I don't agree with nagging someone, especially if they are exhausted, it is quite challenging-painful even-to clean up after someone over and over again (cleaning the SAME messes time after time makes it even worse). I don't know ANYBODY that loves to do that. I can empathize with the man on that front. I also would not say he is "not helping in any way." Homemaking is not an easy task. Imagine if the tables were turned and she was at home instead?
Brother he is literally braiding her hair I don't know many black men who know how to upkeep their own hair let alone their girls hair and he does it whilst being from a completely different culture
I really love them but why cant he work as a chemistry teacher while pursuing his dreams as a guitarist? If he truly wants to also have a stable income to support his wife as well he couldve became a chemistry tutor since he majored chemistry. His wife was a teacher yet she still did art he couldve been a tutor with a stable income and still do jazz... I dont get it
I would RESPECT husband if he got off his behind and also got a job to pay his bills. If she can work days and pursue her passion at night, so can he. Wonder why ex-girlfriend quit him?
@@김윤서-m6b That guy seems immature and only interested in pursuing his musical passions (from a nice warm apartment) while she goes out in the cold or hit weather to bring in the financial bacon. She is probably wasting her life and own future while financially supporting him. Knew another woman who did this. Once the guy got a good job, he dumped her.
I say they are a beautiful couple, and they both understand each other..Him nagging just shows that he worries for her wellbeing.. Good luck to them both, hope there dreams come true..
Sooo why can't he get a part time job? They don't have pets or children to take care of. There's no reason for him to be at home all day. Even house wives have part time jobs.
I feel so sorry for her... he is the sole breadwinner and then the husband still treats her like he does and even lets his mother do so. 🥺😰😰 She is beautiful and so capable, she deserves so much better. 😔 Like this, she is on the brink of burnout. The husband really needs to step in now and maybe be the sole breadwinner for a change. He did his hobbies until now, so it would be about the time he now works in a lucrative job or at least half-half. If that's not possible, he really needs to be a better husband and a partner at least. My heart really aches for her, this has reminded me of my mentally abusive ex. The mother is absolutely delusional too, the "son is taking care of everything"? He just sits home and does his hobbies and then when Deborah comes home, he is nasty to her.. like what? Without her, he wouldn't be able to even buy her guitar, or do something he likes doing instead of stepping up and helping her by getting a well-paying job. They live in a molded house. He isn't even able to provide her a good place to live, even if he stays at home. Seriously. I feel so sorry for her.
Deborah is talented and amazing also with a heavy heart of pure gold. I actually applaud her to holding them down in a foreign country. I love their story and I think their relationship is real special but buddy gotta get a job . Atleast part time if he is doing gigs. He can also set up music classes online not only in Korea but over seas too. There is a lot he can do but choose not to . I really hope in the future they reevaluate so she can have less of the work load.
I'm a Korean man. He seems like he should work because if she is not there, he has to work. This is not fair. Also, there are more women like him in Korea
We all have our own love language. Some people like to express themselves through words, some just listens attentively to people, others like to cook or surprise their significant other with small gifts. To each his own.
Being used as crutch while someone FOCUSES ONLY on their musical passion while you work days to pay your bills and hia bills. AND also have to work nights (at home) to pursue your own passion is not a POSITIVE thing. This guy is leeching off her future while he pushes her out the door to pay their bills. LOVE FEELS GOOD. Guess his ex-girlfriend saw the writing on the wall early and escaped. Maybe he was crying so hard because He lost a possible female crutch. He needs to move back in with his mom.
Came across this channel and watch Deborah and Yungeon all the way through. Was disappointed that it wasn't their own channel. I always cheer for good couples to make it work especially when they are in love. Their love are so different than I normally see. I would definitely subscribed to their channel about their journey. I think others would agree. I'm the first to say this...
I wholeheartedly DON'T agree! I see love "for him from her" for no real reason and from him a "narcissistic, immature, low self-esteem user-type of guy." She is appears to be his financial (outside home) work slave. She appears to be in love with real Korean culture AND the word love. He and his mom appear to love only him. LOVE FEELS GOOD. Nagging a working person while you lay on your lazy butt is NOT love. He needs to move back in with mom. He is working her youth and future out of her. If they had a baby, what then?
You are not wrong. I see your side before you mention it. Yes if both side is not pulling the weight. It's gonna be tough. It has to be balance, unless "only" in some circumstances "one partner" could be the main provider and doesn't mind doing so as how their relationship are not struggling. It doesn't seem to be the case at this moment for. I was cheering for the struggles.
@@ronalize LOOK at her younger person premature grey hairs, her hopelessly trapped attitude and inability to stop being used as a "working for the both of us only type doormat while he sits home in a small WARM, stressfree apartment JUST waiting for her to nag her to do better FOR them. Most of us can feel her pain and disenchantment with this forced workslavery type situation.
This was sooo cute ❤ I really wish to have a Korean husband. They are perfect for each other and balance each other, understanding each other.. is so good ..
I hope He can get a job soon! She is NOT his personal work slave. She is beautiful, hard-working and talented. He has become her immature dependent, living on her "financial dole live-in" acquaintance. He is not operating like a REAL mature husband. RESPECT IS EARNED! He has so much talent- he needs to grow UP soon. She also has even more talent and would benefit from NOT having a burden-on-her back.
Where is the LOVE? A man who loves you will work hard TO provide for his family. He pushes Her out the door to pay their bills. And so he can pursue his musical passion, he nags her so she won't realize that he is using her like his personal slave. What a SHAMEFUL male image of the Korean culture. Wonder why ex-girlfriend ditched him?
@@낌짱exactly. This weirdo keeps bringing up her being black, like that’s something to be ashamed of. Yet it’s ok for the husband to be unemployed and play guitar all day 😒.
This was a extremely painful watch. Deborah looked exhausted and her husband is absolutely spineless . How he sits and watch is wife work like a dog and have the nerve to scold her for leaving socks at midnight is abusive. The mother in law has not cared and protected her as a daughter in law. He wont get bills paid with his music . I pray a real man finds her soon and takes her from this abusive relationship.
This is a cold case of him love bombing in the beginning and then him finally getting comfortable enough to relax and show his narcissistic tendencies. I do feel he has grown fond of her, but he does not actually love this woman. If she were to fall sick or lose her job, the tables would turn really fast and this “nagging” would develop into hard cold gaslighting and control. The black woman being “strong & resilient” is not just something valued by Americans, foreigners pick up on those qualities as well and typically love a woman willing to sacrifice herself for so called “love”. This relationship is unequally yoked. A classic example of a man with peter pan syndrome and a mom who participated in instilling narcissistic tendencies in him. The MIL is a part of the issue participating in triangulation and being dismissive. Even her using the pillars of destiny book was manipulation. People love to paint struggle and sacrifice in women of color as loving. It’s toxic, and sadly she is out in another country isolated in this experience with no validation that she is worthy of so much more. Im not saying they couldn’t work, but therapy, boundaries with the mother in law, and a transfer of responsibilities needs to occur. Next thing would be, he will trap her with a baby, and scold her for not being “mom enough” because she can’t live up to his standards, or she won’t be “present enough” because shes a mom and still working overtime. Women in this situation are married but still single mothers. Im praying for her, her mental health, and for the husband to recognize his role as the headship and the leader. Gods order is imperative for an equally yoked marriage that will last without one or both parties drowning in their issues. God bless them and their union, but correction should happen fast. Sidenote: Many narcissists will isolate their partners from family so that when you want to leave after being fed up, you can’t or are embarrassed to. Red flags.
I honestly don’t really understand all the hate towards him, he’s a loving and supporting husband. Alright, he may have different work and worktimes, but he’s doing what he loves, and he supports his wife too when she wants to do the same. He acknowledged all her hard work and her support towards him. And the “nagging” is not that bad. He said 3 things to her and the rest was about him wanting her to get enough sleep and rest. He didn’t push her to stop working, he just simply asked, and it was for her own good… He’s clearly just worried about her. I think they are a lovely couple and I wish for them to both of their dreams come true❤️
They have such a loving relationship but he does need to do better, she seems so exhausted:( Watching him help with her hair made me happy though🥹I know the struggle of having a lot of natural, thick hair🤞🏾😭
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Not only is this girl gorgeous, she's also driven, intelligent, and talented. I hope the best for her.
Hope she wakes up before she gets sick or loses her youth and own future passion.
@@ceegabe1555facts😂 he’s a parasite
The dude in yellow is me and I am him
He didn't spare the husband for even a second 😂
I LOVE the dude in the yellow shirt for speaking his mind. 😅 Not cutting the husband no slack! 😂
He's gay
I know right 😂😂 and I truly support what he was doing 💯
@@ericsohn5084 okay…
@@ericsohn5084and?...
@@ericsohn5084And? 😂
She seems like a very good hearted person both with how they met and how she is supporting them in a foreign country.
He is the man, she works AND at night pursues her own passion- why can't he do the same. He is looking like a male Korean leech. 😩
Supporting them? Will you support a man who sits on his duff while you work to pay the bills for both of you? I know not. And if you would, I would question your self-esteem. DOORmatting is not a good look for anyone.
@@ceegabe1555 Nobody successful likes you either. So, relax and touch some grass.
Do YOUR female relatives need a man like this?
She is so freaking pretty
She is gorgeous without any makeup on.
I keep thinking that the whole video
The bar is in hell for ppl to think he’s a great husband 😂 there’s no reason he can’t pursue his dreams when he can just like she does then he has the audacity to nag her straight after work!? The ones acting like she has a good mother in law are nuts all she did was criticize her and act like her son is the prize 😂 “he takes care of everything” “she doesn’t make much” what a joke. I hope she wakes up and realizes she can do better🤷♀️ theres a reason he got dumped maybe he told her he wants to stay at home with his degree while she works 😂
People are insane he and his mother are insufferable.
Absolutely agree! She is way too good for him and they’re using her!
@@Aced90exactly!!! Agreed
real
it's crazy she deserves waay better
I think he should get a job with his degree and practice midnight like her. She is realistic she knows she needs a realistic job and sacrifices to live her dreams, this dynamic of only her working might work for them but is really hard on her.
I think if he got a job she would also work less they could both do 5-6 hours a day and have more time to practice and enjoy each other’s company
There's nothing wrong with their setup though.
Cause if they are both working it would possibly they don't have time to each other.
I don't think she is in agreement. Didn't you hear his mother's conversation? They are double-teaming Deborah. If she takes care of him financially, it lets his momma off the hook.
Or he could still teach guitar classes for beginners. He would still be doing what he likes.
But the guy seems to have gotten too comfortable with her doing all the hard work while he can enjoy his carefree life.
@@jazz_ramcynothing wrong with their setup? she practices her passion during her lunch break or late at night while he gets to do it anytime he wants at home. BOTH of them having a job would mean she could probably lessen her hours and they would have more time together while less of the burden is only on her.
The husband comes across lazy and inconsiderate when he knows playing with his guitar is not bringing in income home, while your wife works long ass hours. All he can say is I’m sorry with a chuckle. No mama
A musician makes a good amount of money for each performance they do and while it's indeed not consistent and unstable, it's enough to say that he's working hard too. you won't say the same thing if it's a woman. bcs that's just how the world is. women forgot that while they're fighting for misogyny they ignore the misandry. I'm a woman too. But saying this to a househusband OR a housewife is sick. And while y'all think that she should leave him or she needs to find someone better than him, you don't realize that he's the best for her.
@@keisha-cg8qjyou’re clearly delusional in your obsession of defending this 40 year old man. She is 10 years younger and supporting his lifestyle while she gets 4 hours of sleep a night. To reward her work her husband critiques everything she does within the house. He is fully capable of working, high qualified, even for part time. But he chooses to stay in the house and work this unblossoming music career. It doesn’t matter for shit that he’s “working hard” you can work harder plunging shit in a toilet. He can put that hard work in something tangible like money instead of trying to micromanage her life.
@@aquaaria3489exactly
I don’t think he’s lazy I think his wife wants him to stay home. Some women take care of their husband and vice versa. He’s sweet and does all the cooking.
As a korean man, this is ridiculous!
Bro needs to grow up, sacrifice, and give back!
he is NOT A REAL korean, ETHNICALLY NOT A REAL korean , he is a south east asian
Just because his Korean doesn’t mean you have a say in his life and who he chooses to love you’re the ridiculous one here love has no colour
You’re a complete stranger the only thing you have in common is that you’re both Korean that doesn’t mean your somehow close enough to comment on who he loves get a grip and come back to reality kid
Glad to have a Korean man say this!
Was beginning to think that Korean culture was like many people raised without honor AND pride. Guess the mom didn't train him properly. She seems to think living like this is okay.
@@sunnyuutinn
He is a narcissistic, lazy, self-centered, musically talented man WHO is lacking proper home training and the ability to care about anyone but himself.
@ceegabe1555 every culture has its spectrum of lazy and responsible
I love the guy in the yellow shirt and his sense of humour. I was laughing throughout!!!
He didn't let up criticizing him. It wasn't joking. He was serious.
She hard worker and he should feel blessed that he has her. His mother and him should lay off the nagging. No one wants to clean when your working long hours. If he a stay home husband he should do all the housework with a smile. Team work makes a successful and happy marriage.
Who says she agreed to let him laze around the apartment, cozy and warm, while she worked and paid all the bills?
How would I know that information? Nothing was stated in the UA-cam video. Do u have inside information? I am basing my opinion on what I viewed and heard. One must never jump to conclusions without evidence. That how nasty rumors start.
@@moontwo1360then you shouldn't be judging their relationship based on a video. you actually shouldn't be having any opinions at all about someone's relationship. It's weird and uncomfortable
They decided as a couple to post their private life not me. In the United States it called freedom of speech. UA-cam has a comments section. I suggesting if u don’t like other’s opinions and don’t respect their opinions don’t read them.
When I was a housewife and my ex came home and made a mess in the house, I also complained because doing all the housework (cooking, washing dishes, clothes, etc.) is a job that takes more than 8 hours , 365 days. So if my ex came home and left socks in the living room, leftovers on the table, underwear on the floor, etc., etc., of course I would say something to him because I worked a lot and his behavior was unacceptable. I was also concerned about him eating and resting well.
She is a 28 year old woman taking care of a 39 year old man. She looks tired and overworked. She deserves so much better
Here in Europe we consider men (or women for that fact) of 39 years old without a job or any job experience and just tingling their hobby guitar in their room, hoping some music giant will notice them, as losers.. No hope for them. he ruined his career and get a afro American women to compensate for his mistakes. But he thinks wrong because this black woman is beautiful , intelligent and talented. Maybe if they get children he can contribute by becoming staying home dad, but now he is just hanging around like students mostly do.. So they better decide to sit around the table and talk realistic things and not dreams of a middle aged not working man. Maybe they can both decide she will stay the first provider of the family and he will try to learn how to take care for kids . If they want kids…🤔 then he can become a house-man.. He still can pitch financially in when he plays with his group or give guitar lessons . But if they don’t want kids.. then she has to decide if she wants to keep him as her trophy and pay for him just being with her. That’s her choice of course but please remember he will gets older and at the end she will be left with an old guitar player to keep. Nothing wrong with that either as he fulfill her in any other way.. IT is her choice to make..
He doesn't need to say anything but praise to her with his old a@$
You'll be overworked if you work in korea/japan/china
Yes and no. He does exactly what a stay-at-home wife would do , It's not like he stays on the couch all day, he does chores, makes food, and actually tries to make a living out of his passion. They both do the best they can at the moment. It's actually hard having a stable job as a performer you know...
@@lenjon7478 be kind to the man, but i think he should consider taking part-time day job as a delivery man because its quite common nowadays such job and make music at night.
He can totally create a pre recorded teaching program online for students and have video meetings once a week especially for requests in particular songs and genres. They could pay $200.00 or more for sessions. She can make animations for the website and courses along with each lessons. Also goal coaching and making the process of learning guitar fun and exciting. They can work together to create the program then enjoy the profits for their future.
He CAN do that. He appears to be a narcissistic person. (Allegedly). He feels better when he nags her so she won't see his short comings. She NEEDS her FREEDOM. I saw no love on his part and she seems in love with the word LOVE. LOVE FEELS GOOD. She looks EXHAUSTED and so sad.
Excellent ideas! I hope they see your comment.
Thank you this constructive comment.
@@ceegabe1555 I see your perspective and agree to an extent. My concern is, from my perspective, that she's also exhusted due to working all day, until 11pm.
Then by the time she has any inkling of time to do a hobby for herself, her husband comes in to tell her that it's time to go to bed, because, bills. :(
While, I'm very much impressed he's able to pursue his dreams to make them a reality. His wife is pursuing a job that's a blessing and convenient for them both, but unfortunately, she's the breadwinner at this point of their marriage. :(
She needs a job that either pays way better, so she can work shorter days, so she also has the ability to pursue her own dreams. Or he also needs to find another part time job, so they both can equally pursue their dreams.
If the roles were reversed and he had to be the breadwinner, and he finally sat down to practice his jazz music after working all day, I'd bet he'd be upset, too.
If his wife had all day to persue her dreams of art and such, but came in to tell him he now needs to go to bed, he'd feel restricted, too.
But the partner telling them to go to bed would just be the final cherry on top the cake. Where as his worklife would be taking up majority of his week.
There's definitely a lifestyle living gap between them. He has all this time to work and chill out and breathe, where as she finally can catch a breath when she gets home, but wait!
She still can't, because she has all these cleaning stipulations she has to go over, that the husband has brought up before they can even eat.
I can already tell, she will burn out first from so much workload being demanded of her daily. Just to keep a roof over their head, clothes on their back and food on the table.
Unfortunately, this is a teammate partnership for survival only. Not a couple married in terms of a loving connection.
Already, halfway through the video and I do not see them staying home to watch a movie. I do not see them taking a break and going for walks at the park. Is there ever a time that they can find the time and just chill in each others' presence and appreciate each others' existence?
If I were in a situation where a guy I've come to know, suddenly is broken up with or vice versa, I honestly would see that as a red flag and run. His vulnerability would be the red flag. Temporarily.
Because his feelings were just crushed by someone who allegedly loved him. And that is visibly apparent that he loved her, too.
Her red flag was swooping in when he didn't get time to balance his emotions and well being and heal from that heartbreak.
Something tells me that she's starting to see why his previous ex-girlfriend broke up with him and potentially dodged a bullet.
I do have a question. What are some things you see in this video linked to narcissistic traits? I appreciate you seeing these flags and would like to know what those are to you.
I'm always trying to learn. Although I've had to learn the hard way, but am getting better at seeing red flags better for my overall safety, health and well being. Definitely a time-saving heartbreak preventative measure.
@@ceegabe1555Update in my last comment. I did see them do a couple of fun things together at the end of the video. But overall, she's definitely tired from the workload dynamic in the relationship. ☹️
The love between them is heartwarming, but he should also work and pursue his passions on the side like her. My heart hurt seeing how exhausted she looked this whole ep. I pray things get easier for her.
Literally idk why ppl aren’t calling him out more in the comments. He’s literally unemployed but keeps nagging at her when she works the whole day to support him 🥲
@@junkaeuru You know what he should be doing since he's unemployed. Vlogging. He should just vlog about their daily life and his music. Content creation is the way to go given that jobs are hard to come by, especially for him with skills only in music.
Lol what. This dude is brokeeeee and constantly complains
@@junkaeuru i mean maybe he wants to stay home to cook and clean. I think of she's exhausted she needs someone to help out at home. At least for now.
@denniszenanywhere but its not like he can't get a good job since he majored in chemistry
it’s so sweet how he helps her fix her hair 🥹🥰
Better if he got a real job to take the stress off her. If she wasn't tired all the time she could do her own hair.
@@ceegabe1555 Why are you putting him down? Would you say the same things about a wife whose husband has a job, and she just takes care of the house? Or is it that any time a man is a househusband/assumes an unconventional role, he must be a deadbeat?
@@in00n
For his own sake, if he expects to earn the RESPECT of his wife and other family members, he needs to assume the responsibilities of a MATURE, responsible man.
(Same as most men who want to carry a REAL MAN card.) Remember the Golden Rule! Whoever has the gold, makes the rules! ...the internet
He might be hiding behind his mop and broom. He can't be the MAN of the house when his woman makes the gold. A woman NEEDS to BE able to RESPECT her spouse.
The ex-girlfriend surely dumped him for a reason.
That's (allegedly) why he was sobbing like a child in the restaurant where she met and felt sorry for him.
She thought she was in love but DIDN'T elect to support this deadbeat for the rest of her life. This beautiful young lady is losing her youth, ambitions and hair color because if this hanger-on. (He needs to try to move back in with his mother if she will life-time financially support him.) He is wasting his ability to grow up and assume the responsibilities
of life by hanging on to the apron strings of any woman available. He is NOT a bad guy, he is definitely musically talented BUT seems immobilized by the FEAR of becoming an active contributor to his own mature ADULT life. Feel so sorry for Deborah, she tried to be empathetic and ended up caught up in a web of his (unrealized, frightened BUT talented immaturity) deceit.
Pray he will grow up AND she will pray to OUR ALMIGHTY CREATOR GOD for her direction. 🔆🔆
@@ceegabe1555If it were the other way around, would you think the same?
@@in00nhe is not doing anything beside hanging around , playing the loving husband and be a kept man. There are no children to take care of so there is no purpose on him hanging in the house ( a small apartment ) and playing guitar. When she gets home she is not welcomed with a warm meal or something like that, I think she is creating a monster
When he told the story about the first time they held hands and she started giggling, that was too cute.
She was lonely. Yes, she giggled because he held her hand. Imagine HOW she would react if he got off his tail and got a real job to help pay their bills.
She'd giggle more IF he got a real job to HELP her pay THEIR bills. Many people find themselves afraid to go out and deal with real workforce realities but it gives them no right to USE other people to carry their burdens.
I FEEL SO SORRY FOR DEBORAH. And also for him, that he appears AFRAID TO step OUT and be that responsible MAN that he CAN be.
I thought he was attractive and amazingly musically talented at FIRST look. But
viewing him USING this lady to pay his bills (as presented online) and trying to lower her self-esteem, I just feel that he might not have had male role models that he actually modeled to become a MATURE responsible man.
I'm done. This situation as presented has placed a dark cloud in the atmosphere.
GOOD luck and GOD bless
and MATURE the both of them soon. 🔆
This IS a comments section?
@@ceegabe1555 I mean yea, I and basically everyone else feel sorry for Deb and thinks she deserves better from her husband, but that's literally what every other comment on this video was saying so I didn't think I needed to myself.
I just wanted to point out how cute she was at that moment.
@@tanimal3964
No offense meant. But been almost where she is. Good man normally BUT has some fears of life-thus finds seemingly confident person-seems to hang on for salvation. He has SO much going for himself but maybe needs counseling to release his more CONFIDENT IN TACKLING REAL LIFE SELF.
Loneliness lowers our discernment guard sometimes. We giggle because... (Been almost there).
I pray that BOTH of them will mature where needed and determine the best path for their lives.
Blessings
I'm a Korean man. He seems like he should work because if she is not there, he has to work. This is not fair. Also, there are more women like him in Korea.
The guy in the yellow is spot on. But it’s her life. As long as she’s happy. She looks so exhausted all the time tho. She truly deserves more in my opinion. Her husband’s mother also should tell her son to get a good job. Heaven forbid Deborah leaves lol
Agree. Passion is one thing but if it isn’t giving u a good living and your making the other one do all the work then get yourself a god damn job too lol
He could at least get a part time job. They don't even have pets or kids to take care of. Many wives cook, clean, take care of children and have jobs. She's also teaching and working on her artwork. At this rate his wife is going to get burnt out and get sick of him.
They are both gaming her. If she supports him and ruins her own future, it lets his mom off the hook.
Now, I can understand why he cried so hard when ex-girlfriend quit him. He IS truly musically talented but seems immature and lacking in other skills. His mom probably knows this, which explains the need to put Deborah on a guilt trip.
I agree. No matter how smart a woman is, when we truly love someone unfortunately when the guy is bad we don’t see it. I’m surprised because usually Asian men are the opposite which is why the panel were judging him. @@ceegabe1555 Surely she can get another guy that’s better living there. There’s so many Asian men black women married couples over there that treat the woman amazing and WORK lol
She's such a good wife. She's ambitious and hard-working. And you can tell there's love there.
Horrible husband unfortunately 😢
LOVE FEELS GOOD. A man who loves you will help pay the family bills. THEN she wouldn't be so exhausted from working both days (and nights to prevent losing her passion: animation skills.) He NEEDS to get a job or move in with his mom again.
Wonder why ex-girlfriend dumped him?
Love without money is useless. As the saying goes, a lazy person will have no food.
The guy in the yellow kept violating the husband like every chance he got he just kept on violating him😂😂
데보라만 너무 피곤한거 같아 가여워요 가장인 데보라에게 닥달하는 시어머니가 이해가 안되네요. 오히려 고마워해야 하는데 수치심을 주는게 어이가 없었어요. 자신의 꿈을 쫓더라도 생계잡을 꼭 갖아야 하는데 그가 이해가 안되네요. 제 남편도 하고 싶은일이 있지만 수입이 작아서 직장다니며 하고 있는데 그래야 되는거 아닌가요.데보라의 짐이 넘 무거워 보여요
Both incredibly kind & beautiful souls. I wish them the best of what life can give, God Bless!
Head in sand? He needs to get an outside job to take some STRESS off her.
So you can't SEE the elephant in the room?
She is supposed to be a wife-NOT his slave. The girlfriend who dumped this parasite is probably rejoicing that she DIDN'T get stuck with this "dependent-on-women" babyman LEECH.
@@ceegabe1555 you are on every comment, so annoying lol it's their marriage, they do whatever they want, why do you care so much?
@@buritycarol
Seems you are also. Since you can have an opinion as a COMMENTer, doesn't everyone else have the same RIGHT? 🔆
@@ceegabe1555how about you give them money since you’re so invested. They chose the roles of the wife being the bread winner and the husband being the house husband to let them rock.
I think he feels a bit guilty and jealous that he's at home and not out having a job like his wife. That's one reason he nags her. He's also been cleaning and wants her to appreciate him by showing it when she puts her socks in the laundry. It's easier to just stay quiet and pick up the socks than nag her about it!! Pick your battles wisely!!!
He is guilty that he is NOT acting like a mature, head-of-house- hold male Provider. RESPECT IS EARNED.
Don't bite the hand that you FORCED TO feed you!
Or maybe he is tired of constantly "picking up" after her? As someone in the video stated, housework is not easy and it feels like a HUGE disservice to the person putting in a ton of work only to have a mess, that could have been simply avoided, in a really short span of time. It is not easy to cohabitate with people, close family or not. I would know. I am typing this with deep sadness in my heart after having to scour my bathroom AGAIN, when I deep cleaned it YESTERDAY.
@@shanonbrown6170Well maybe he should get a job. Spending 1 minute picking up socks everyday isn’t as hard as working everyday for 11 hours.
@@shanonbrown6170
This guy needs a FT job.
Did she ask him to escape work life stress and responsibility by leeching off her? He is not doing childcare. Maybe she wants to switch up and send him OUT to bring home their bacon. If he can get up early to send HER out to work, he can go outside to work also. She shouldn't be his overworked beast OF burden. She is NOT his slave.
She is losing her youth, animation future and hair color dealing with this unfair STRESS.
GOD HELP us all. 🔆
@ceegabe1555 I do agree with you. I was just trying to give him the benefit of the doubt on the nagging. Maybe he really dislikes untidiness? In any case, it's inconsiderate to constantly nag his overworked partner. Him getting a job would certainly (and rightfully) reduce her load and create a more sustainable life for them both.
the gaslighting that they are doing to this girl is incredible. a husband who refuses to work and nags her for small things and the mother changing the reality lol meanwhile she is working her ass off. i feel so bad for her.
Sounds like you don’t know any artists. 9-5 grind kills all creativity in artists, in this case they are both artists and are balancing support and finances together.
@@CammyMoto I think the mother in law really is the only issue, going on about how she doesnt make enough and the son takes care of everything. shes a bitch honestly
@@CammyMoto they arent balanced at all. he should work more outside of the house. she is also an artist why does he passion not get killed? also being an artist is not more important then taking care of the people who are also taking care of you.
btw my mom is an artist and was still being financially responsible and care taking her FOUR kids running her shop and working part time. This guy is too much.@@CammyMoto
you literally ignore the fact that he only asks her to keep their place clean bcs he cleans it everyday. only nagging bout her work bcs he's worried she might be lack of sleep and afraid her health will worsen. y'all say anything bad about a man but y'all won't do the same if it's a woman. she also wants him to do what he loves enough to say he's not forcing her to accept his dream while she has her own too.
Apologies up front if I offend or sound negative. But here's the thing. I feel a bit strange abt this couple. Especially for the wife. I've seen in other vids some old pictures of her from USA before she met him. Goshhhhh what a huge difference. Se looked mighty fine. Shining, Glowing. Nothing left of that since she's married & moved to Korea. Other thing that bugs me. I saw another scene where she shows her MIL her bankaccount savings to reassure her MIL that they can come by wt money. The MIL gives her (or them) a bit of a hard time abt money. I feel it's inappropriate of the MIL to give her a hard time since her son doesnt brings much 2 the table. DIL is the main breadwinner, she works her a$$ of to provide. She writes childrens books as well to earn extra money. She loves her husband so much, who is an "unknown" musician & doesnt earn much. Her husband naggs a lot. Girl, take care of yourself. Is this all worth it? I really do feel you lost your glow. In USA you had ur hair done, a bit of make-up, dressed up. It's ur love, ur live. I respect that but I just wanted 2 let u know the huge difference of you. Sending u some sister love❤❤❤
I agree 100%
I agree her eyes says what she won't, she's exhausted 😢
Yeah their marriage is doomed. She better get out while she can. No joke. This guy's toxic.
@@T0T91 Im not blaming the guy. What we see in the vid is just 1 day of recording edited into 3 min. or so. We cant judge if he's good or not. In this vid She's working hard so he's nagging her to take a break. I just want her to see the difference of b4 & after. She should take more care of herself & the MIL should stop medling and let them be.
Send me the link to the other vids. She is gorgeous here I’d love to see her older pics.
노래만 부르지 말고 나가서 파트타임이라도 능력도 되시는 분이 와이프 고생 그만 시키고 ㅋㅋㅋ
I love the way he's so willing to help her do her hair and nag her about her rest and health. He truly loves her. He is playing the support role in their marriage. He does everything a loving wife would do in the home. He's not sitting on his butt all day.
She would have TIME to do her own hair if she didn't have to be THE breadwinner AND pursue her own career passion at night. He NEEDS to stop nagging her and get an outside job too.He is looking awfully weak and lackluster as a man in the internet world although he IS musically talented.
He needs to grow UP and act like a mature responsible man and not a person ALWAYS dependent on hardworking women. His ex-girlfriend might have smelled the wilted flowers just in time. 🔆
This must be the lazy but musically talented hubby replying.
Many fearful, timid BUT talented people choose to ride another person's financial back rather than working to support themselves. He thinks he CAN sit home on his butt and practice while she sacrifices her own future by financially supporting herself and this seemingly frightened (but extremely musically talented ChildMAN).
Time to grow up grown man, sir. PRAY. GOD can help you do it. Don't ROB Deborah of her best youthful, career productive years. If an Asian man treated an Asian woman in this manner, what would the Asian community say?
@ceegabe1555 where in the video did he sit home on his butt, though? The man was working in the home throughout the day deep cleaning everything. Does that not require effort as well?
Whyyy isn't he getting a job that makes more money, so she doesn't need to work such long hours?????
@@ceegabe1555 your comment just disregarded all the housewives of the past and now lol
He has no right to nag this beautiful hard working woman when he doesn't even have a job
so he sings for her lol
He is stay home men that cleans
Why is it OK for women but not for men
@@Kkkkk22572thats a job
He works at home. It’s the same nagging that I did with my ex when I was house wife and he did some mess around. 🤷🏻♀️
They seem like a very lovely, fun couple. I wish both of them nothing, but happiness and success.
She doesn't need fun--she needs a mature husband who is a (financial) working family provider. She can do her own hair. She IS exhausted working day and night while he focuses ONLY on his own career. I wonder if he thinks she is his personal slave. I DON'T see his love. I think he is using her. She is not gaining from this liaison at all. IMHO
They had these problems before they got married. We aren’t in their marriage so we dont have any right to an opinion. I am a feminist so i think either person can be a stay at home spouse. We are on this man because he is a man does that really matter.
데보라씨 얼굴에 피로가누적됀것같아요….
안쓰럽네요! 하고싶은일을 빨리이루고싶으시면 건강이 먼저입니다.
그래야 좋아하는일을 오래,재미있게 즐기면서 하실수 있을거에요.
꼭 꿈을 이루시길 기도합니다.
I’m proud of her as a black woman making black anime which is lacking in an industry for so long. He cares about her, but he need to work.
I’m Korean American and proud of her too! But some nasty racist Koreans in the comment section think European people are better because of their skin color!!
love his music so much lol
This couple is adorable and their struggle relatable. I've watched their episode three times. I hope they are doing well and are working in their dream jobs. 💛
She isn't in her dream job, he is using her as a crutch to further his own dreams. Hope she wakes up soon. He needs to move in with his momma.
We need to see a follow up.
@@career5690
Maybe he will grow up and assume a responsible husband's position. Thus earning his RESPECTED MAN CARD that mature, responsible men earn in time. You have to FEEL THE FEAR- BUT DO IT ANYWAY.
If he lacks confidence and motivation, places like Toastmasters or one-on-one positive counseling might help him grow up into the man that he can feel proud of being. Actively engaging in life helps to builds our character. He has what it takes already-except maybe positive SELF-esteem and SELF-directed positive motivation.
Praying for BOTH of them.
OUR ALMIGHTY CREATOR GOD IS STILL IN CONTROL.
Supporting a man who is 10 years older than the woman is in no way shape or form relatable. He's a bum. Who can relate to that?
love that she has taught him the correct way to care for African hair and he loves her. Its so beautiful. They are so talented, beautiful and smart. I love the way they are living their dream. This was lovely look at two very brave people who love and support each other.
She wouldn't need help with her hair if he would get off his sad tail and ALSO get a job. If she can work AND pursue her passion at night so can he. This woman is EXHAUSTED. He needs to act like a mature man who provides for his wife. I couldn't RESPECT a grown man who won't provide for his wife. He appears to be using her. LOVE FEELS GOOD-and this can't be love. She looks so sad. Deborah and his mom should nag his lazy tail about getting a job to help out. IMHO
I love how their genuine care and love for each other's passion shines through
I am so happy I found this channel! I lived in Busan back in the late 1990's. I started my international teaching career there. I love seeing these stories and how others have come to see how amazing the Korean people are. This couple is so lovely. I found myself tearing up as you told their story in this video.
This is my opinion: The mother and son form a collaborative duo, with her assisting him in identifying individuals with promising potential. Their goal is to secure a comfortable life, leveraging the fruits of his wife's dedicated efforts.
I loved the dude in yellow shirt he literally speaks my mind 😂😂
Wife is so pretty and sweet. Helpful and works hard.The kind K-parents love. She understands Korean. She plays along and don't get mad when Mom took husbands side. She understands the Korean sarcasm. Plays along and just say agree to mom. Even enjoying a song he sings for her. Thoughtful people belong on a thoughtful culture. She is so Korean it's not even funny.
If allowing yourself to be worked like a slave. with no complaint is Korean culture- someone lied to us. Thought Koreans were honorable and hardworking. NOT leeches on the work- blood of beautiful, talented foreigners.
Girl…I don’t know if you’ll ever see this. But girl you’re tired! I know money doesn’t matter and your enduring cause you love him. But he needs to get a part time job…he can work 12 hours like you! 5 hours part time and 8 hours on his passion! You are decaying….her family needs to fly there and intervene!!!”my son is here taking my care of everything” taking care of what?! Them bills?! He cleans a small apartment how long is that 2 hours max! What’s he doing the rest of the time? Your being gas lit
He said the only he can give a song 😂😂 yellow man shirt was crazy with the commentary. My kind of sense of humor
데보라 너무 아름다워요.😍👍너무 멋져요.
너무 피곤해 보여 마음이 아픕니다.건강히 행복한 시간을 보내시길 바래요.
Debora needs to rest...overall shes too talented.. May your goals do come true
She deserves a man who’s just as ambitious as she is. I wish Deborah the best 🎉❤
Ambition is one thing but being truly loved and well treated is another
You Americans obsessed with ambition and career it’s sickening!
Nobody wants your workaholic ,lack of family , 30s and not married, no social programs and hyper capitalistic lifestyle!!
he is NOT A REAL korean, he is every bit of a south east asian
elaborate.@@sunnyuutinn
@@sunnyuutinnsouth East Asian are hard working people what are you saying
the dude in yellow speaking his mind is a LEGEND
When she cried I felt like it mist be extra hard since it had probably been 2 years since she last had to interview in Korean and to realise you have to get income soon which relies on interviewing in Korean after 2 years... so much stress. I can imagine how hard it felt when practicing.
I hope she won't have to have a medical crisis before this guy and his mom realizes that he NEEDS to get a job to help out.
If she gets sick, I doubt if he will do anything differently. Probably (Allegedly) just move back in with his mom or leech off another sympathetic person. Such a shame as he is definitely musically talented. But showing love is NOT using someone else to pay your bills while you pursue your passion. (She was tired from work and he forced her to sing at his gig. He is so self-centered.) RUN!
If he's home all day the least he can do is help around the house instead of complaining over dumb stuff. She's exhausted after working long hours. I can't imagine hearing a grown man complaining over socks when you're unemployed
He does do all the house work
Darn she is the freaking bread winner, so that you can play music.😢 she's also pretty and cool . Someone else will appreciate her.But she likes that fool.
Oh i have a new favorite couple! Hope to see more of them.. They obviously love each other so much.. They are each others pillars..
Each other's pillars?
She could wake up AND do her own hair if he got a job to help out.
He appears to be using her TO pay his bills while he lays around on his behind. She is EXHAUSTED, sad and looks STRESSED OUT.
@@ceegabe1555 That's your take from this? Jaded.
He is a pillar in progress. The first stone for his pillar is his guitar and his wish to become a jazz guitarist. Maybe he will succeed in Korea, but elsewhere he will not been seen as a good jazz singer and I cannot evaluate his guitar skills because I only hear his practice and a little simple playing in a bar. so while her pillar is almost cracking at carrying his load also,, his pillar will not be finished as he he refuse to built this kind of support. Real Love begins to take a lost course when it is not balanced
좋은 부부같은데, 어디 지방이면 몰라도 서울 그것도 강남... 나중에 애라도 낳게 되면 돈 때문에 못 산다. 극복하기 힘들어. 남편이고 가장이면 자기 꿈을 버리고 돈을 벌어야지 3년이 되도록 자기 꿈을 쫓는다는 건 자기를 더 사랑하는 와이프를 은연중에 착취하고 있는 것임.
THANK YOU FOR SAYING THIS. It seems most people have forgotten that the man is the provider. Passion is cool but the wife cannot be the only breadwinner🤦🏽♀️, he needs to get a job to earn stable income. (Also sorry you'll have to maybe translate this, my Hangul studies have been on pause lol😊 )
I wish them a long, happy, healthy and prosperous future. I don't know if he's nagging, that's a strong word, I think the moment your partner loses interest in having conversation with you ( even if it's nagging) then that's when you know the relationship is dead.
He's definitely nagging. The moment she came home from work at 11 at night he started complaining that she bought too much lettuce 🙄
She’s doing the most 😢 I used to be like her in relationships and they don’t last!!! But I wish her the best
She needs to NAG this able-bodied man to also get a FT job to help pay their bills. She is NOT his (to be-overworked) slave.
@@Miss_Kisa94
He is using her as his careercrutch slave. His mom appears to support this treatment by her ambitionless, immature son.
You can feel the love they have for each other.
They look so cute together, truly like newly weds. Adorable. 🥰
Put YOUR glasses on! This beautiful, talented lady is EXHAUSTED, sad and tired of financially supporting this immature man.
He NEEDS to get a job or move in with his momma. He is ruining DEBORAH'S future AND her youth.
Maybe his mom will appreciate financially supporting him and listening to his songs and childish, immature play. The young lady works like his slave while he lays on his tail and practices his musical passion. IMHO 😩
@@ceegabe1555 Hey come on, we don't know the full situation at hand. They will figure it out.
@@younghokim1994
Bless you. But I stand by my comment. I almost got stuck with a musically talented young man who fearfully grabbed the apron strings of women to survive. Probably not entirely his fault. IF he had no appropriate male role-model while growing up. He IS definitely talented. He can still learn to become more socially interactive by joining Toastmasters or a beginner's acting class. He HAS to feel the fear but DO it anyway- that's how we ALL grow. Initially, it will BE hard but when he realizes that most people feel fearful when they step out of their comfort zone. He will be okay. (He will be smiling). I'm worried that she might be dragged down unnecessarily at this rate. Praying for BOTH. 🔆
Omg... the man in yellow shirt is killing me. When he said stop your nagging. 😅😅😅
데보라는 천사~!!
부디 앞으로도 더욱더 웃을일만
가득하시길~^^
Her man acts like an immature leech/parasite, what does she have to smile about? He appears to be using her so he can lay around the cozy apartment pursing a musical passion that may NOT happen. There are millions of musically-talented people with self- motivation and drive out there. He can't even get a job to take some stress off his wife.
she so talented and capable of many things she will do well in everything hopefully she achieved her dream soon ❤
As someone who fell in love with Korean culture a couple of years ago, this was such an inspiring story. Thank u guys for sharing ❤ I hope to be as fluent in Korean as her one day. I also want to be able to go to Korea to live and immerse myself in the culture one day. 🫶🏾
I hope you won't meet a lazy Korean mate also. His low self-esteem AND drive paints a negative image of the male Korean culture.
For me this was a cautionary tale
Thanks for sharing how you felt about it. Please elaborate more if you want. We all see and interpret things differently. I’m always open to hearing other view points. That’s how we grow as individuals and come together as people. What inspired me was her resolve and her courage to move to another country.
If I may insert something here too. I too would like to visit Korea one day and am learning the language, but wherever you go in this world, you have to be careful to not be blinded by all of the good things you may exspect or even see. (Especially by love!) While she did have the courage and bravery to move away from home and marry him, it does not appear to be everything that she thought it was cracked up to be including the type of person he is. Just a shot in the dark with this next statement, but It seems that people are romanticizing something here that isn't romantic at all with this situation or their marriage. At least from what it appears to be as well as her actual life there in reality.
I love this couple. The husband is so supportive and loving. The wife is so hardworking and driven. Together they seem so sweet. Would love updates about them
Supportive??😂 you kidding or smth?
I pray that they achieve their dreams together.
Man this woman's an angel, she deserves so much more. The man is so frustrating to watch throughout it all, especially at the end when she starts to cry for something very simple and HE CAN'T EVEN COMFORT HER PROPERLY. GIVE HER A HUG AND REASSURING WORDS MAN WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU. This man is a waste of space, time, effort and emotions. Until he stops being a little boy and actually becomes a man, this dude needs to work.
I love how loving and real they are together. Such a talented duo.❤
Loving men work hard FOR loved ones. He pushes her out the door to work while he piddles and FOCUSES only on his own musical career. I pray this beautiful lady figures out HOW he and his mom are using her soon.
bruh shes mad pretty 😍😭
My husband also nags me! It's also out of love & he's usually right (which is the most annoying kind of nagging 😂😂😂). Hope these two have a long, happy marriage!
Happy marriage? She needs to NAG him about going outside to find a job to help out financially. She works days and pursues her passion at night. Why can't this grown man do the same.
From college to projects!!! Oh my god!!! Girl you’re suffering you just blinded by niceness & great personality!!!smh🫣🫣🫣🫣🙏🙏🙏🙏🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣🫣
I’m sorry but it’s clear a lot of you don’t know the difference in showing love and being loving. He’s being loving but this woman is clearly tired. Her face shows it all. She’s doing all the work PLUS following her dreams as an artist, while ol boy is following a passion. And then says, “sorry to Deborah”. He needs a real job and he need to stop nagging her. If you see her mistakes, clean them up. Because as of right now she’s doing all while you’re making a mistake on not taking up a better job to help her. Now imagine if she had kids? I hate that this was laughed out. This is not fair at the least. Why are women always supporting men in every matter without them assisting or helping as well?
Easy to say, not easy to do. While I don't agree with nagging someone, especially if they are exhausted, it is quite challenging-painful even-to clean up after someone over and over again (cleaning the SAME messes time after time makes it even worse). I don't know ANYBODY that loves to do that. I can empathize with the man on that front.
I also would not say he is "not helping in any way." Homemaking is not an easy task. Imagine if the tables were turned and she was at home instead?
For real. Glad the hosts grill him for being jobless
@@shanonbrown6170yes!
Brother he is literally braiding her hair I don't know many black men who know how to upkeep their own hair let alone their girls hair and he does it whilst being from a completely different culture
My ex tried to pull that on me 😂 I told him he can pursue his dream after work 🤷♀️ sometimes you have to be honest with them and yourself
She is absolutely stunningggggggg!!!! 😍😍😍
남자분 전생에 나라를 구하셨나보네.
너무 이쁘고 똑똑하고 부럽다. 내 며느리 삶고 싶다. 최고의 여자다.
재택?근무중이면, 집안청소와 냉장고 정리 뿐만아니라 약이 오래됐으면 미리미리 남편이 그냥 버리면 되는데 그걸..밤늦게 들어온 와이프에게 잔소리를 하다니..
좀 더 분발하세요 남편분.
음.. 공감되네요….
I can see her eyes looks sad and unhappy. I don't know , it just me seeing it. Sending loves to you Deborah. ❤️
I really love them but why cant he work as a chemistry teacher while pursuing his dreams as a guitarist? If he truly wants to also have a stable income to support his wife as well he couldve became a chemistry tutor since he majored chemistry. His wife was a teacher yet she still did art he couldve been a tutor with a stable income and still do jazz... I dont get it
데보라씨는 미인인데다 웃는 얼굴이 한국인이 좋아하는 관상입니다 그리고 현명한 사람인거 같아요 뭔들 잘 될듯해요 응원합니다 남편분도 똑똑하신 분이라 지금처럼 믿고 응원하면 다들 잘 되실것 같네요 언제나 사랑하며 존중하며 살아요😊😊😊
여자 희생만 늘어가겠죠
남자가 예술인 만분의일 성공하면 모를까 지금 상태론 여자 고생만 될것 같습니다
I would RESPECT husband if he got off his behind and also got a job to pay his bills. If she can work days and pursue her passion at night, so can he. Wonder why ex-girlfriend quit him?
@@김윤서-m6b
That guy seems immature and only interested in pursuing his musical passions (from a nice warm apartment) while she goes out in the cold or hit weather to bring in the financial bacon.
She is probably wasting her life and own future while financially supporting him. Knew another woman who did this. Once the guy got a good job, he dumped her.
@@ceegabe1555 vc falou tudo e ele só tá usando ela,a mulherada precisa acordar.
I say they are a beautiful couple, and they both understand each other..Him nagging just shows that he worries for her wellbeing.. Good luck to them both, hope there dreams come true..
Bless her husbands soul. He’s so helpful & loving.
He CAN get a job to help her pay the bills and pursue his passion at night like she does, if he really loves her. She is EXHAUSTED!
I know you lying. The man is a BUM! Mooching off her while he does absolutely nothing. He’s embarrassing.
Sooo why can't he get a part time job? They don't have pets or children to take care of. There's no reason for him to be at home all day. Even house wives have part time jobs.
Because he's a loser. On top of that he nags at her after 11 HR shift man that girl is too nice.
I feel so sorry for her... he is the sole breadwinner and then the husband still treats her like he does and even lets his mother do so. 🥺😰😰 She is beautiful and so capable, she deserves so much better. 😔 Like this, she is on the brink of burnout. The husband really needs to step in now and maybe be the sole breadwinner for a change. He did his hobbies until now, so it would be about the time he now works in a lucrative job or at least half-half. If that's not possible, he really needs to be a better husband and a partner at least. My heart really aches for her, this has reminded me of my mentally abusive ex.
The mother is absolutely delusional too, the "son is taking care of everything"? He just sits home and does his hobbies and then when Deborah comes home, he is nasty to her.. like what? Without her, he wouldn't be able to even buy her guitar, or do something he likes doing instead of stepping up and helping her by getting a well-paying job. They live in a molded house. He isn't even able to provide her a good place to live, even if he stays at home. Seriously. I feel so sorry for her.
Deborah is talented and amazing also with a heavy heart of pure gold. I actually applaud her to holding them down in a foreign country. I love their story and I think their relationship is real special but buddy gotta get a job . Atleast part time if he is doing gigs. He can also set up music classes online not only in Korea but over seas too. There is a lot he can do but choose not to . I really hope in the future they reevaluate so she can have less of the work load.
What a kind soul she is. I hope she is always happy and fulfills her dreams, she deserves it.
잘 됐으면 좋겠다!!! 데보라씨는 한국쪽 뿐만 아니라, 미국, 일본이나 중국 쪽도 알아보시면 좋겠어요. 면접관분 말씀처럼 업계에서 바라는 게 있는건데 다른 나라는 한국 업계와는 또 다를테니까요. 우선은 커리어부터 쌓을 수 있으면 좋겠습니다!
Both are so talented and good humor. I💜 jazz. Peace and Blessings to you both.
Hiding head in sand? LOVE FEELS GOOD! Not immature posturing.
Wow so much complaints for a jobless husband. Let her rest a bit.. Girl has so much patience and understanding..
Very beautiful couple and wish the best for them as time moves ! 😊
She will need it.
I'm a Korean man. He seems like he should work because if she is not there, he has to work. This is not fair. Also, there are more women like him in Korea
We all have our own love language. Some people like to express themselves through words, some just listens attentively to people, others like to cook or surprise their significant other with small gifts. To each his own.
Being used as crutch while someone FOCUSES ONLY on their musical passion while you work days to pay your bills and hia bills. AND also have to work nights (at home) to pursue your own passion is not a POSITIVE thing. This guy is leeching off her future while he pushes her out the door to pay their bills. LOVE FEELS GOOD. Guess his ex-girlfriend saw the writing on the wall early and escaped. Maybe he was crying so hard because He lost a possible female crutch. He needs to move back in with his mom.
She left her socks on the floor for literally two seconds 💀😭
Such a sweet couple. Hope their marriage lasts a very long time 🥺🥺
Came across this channel and watch Deborah and Yungeon all the way through. Was disappointed that it wasn't their own channel. I always cheer for good couples to make it work especially when they are in love. Their love are so different than I normally see. I would definitely subscribed to their channel about their journey. I think others would agree. I'm the first to say this...
I wholeheartedly DON'T agree!
I see love "for him from her" for no real reason and from him a "narcissistic, immature, low self-esteem user-type of guy." She is appears to be his financial (outside home) work slave. She appears to be in love with real Korean culture AND the word love. He and his mom appear to love only him. LOVE FEELS GOOD. Nagging a working person while you lay on your lazy butt is NOT love. He needs to move back in with mom. He is working her youth and future out of her. If they had a baby, what then?
You are not wrong. I see your side before you mention it. Yes if both side is not pulling the weight. It's gonna be tough. It has to be balance, unless "only" in some circumstances "one partner" could be the main provider and doesn't mind doing so as how their relationship are not struggling. It doesn't seem to be the case at this moment for. I was cheering for the struggles.
@@ronalize
LOOK at her younger person premature grey hairs, her hopelessly trapped attitude and inability to stop being used as a "working for the both of us only type doormat while he sits home in a small WARM, stressfree apartment JUST waiting for her to nag her to do better FOR them. Most of us can feel her pain and disenchantment with this forced workslavery type situation.
Love is not enough, this relationship is not sustainable she will eventually burn out lord thing she looks exhausted 😕😕
Verdade
데보라 누나 ...너무 멋있어요....
미인이시구,,,,능력자 이시구.....
행목한 생활이 되시길....
He's loving. Period.
They're both artists, so she understands that drive he has. She'll get there and so will he.
God bless them both.
She is so beautiful gorgeous, smart, talented and hardworking.
This was sooo cute ❤ I really wish to have a Korean husband. They are perfect for each other and balance each other, understanding each other.. is so good ..
I hope the husband can channel his appreciation for Deborah into his music, it would be the most genuine and touching.
I hope He can get a job soon!
She is NOT his personal work slave.
She is beautiful, hard-working and talented. He has become her immature dependent, living on her "financial dole live-in" acquaintance. He is not operating like a REAL mature husband.
RESPECT IS EARNED!
He has so much talent- he needs to grow UP soon. She also has even more talent and would benefit from NOT having a burden-on-her back.
I feel like he should at least try to get a different job and still do music ….
She's so pretty!
I can see SO much love between them. I hope they are able to find a good work/life balance so things get easier for them. ❤❤
Where is the LOVE?
A man who loves you will work hard TO provide for his family. He pushes Her out the door to pay their bills. And so he can pursue his musical passion, he nags her so she won't realize that he is using her like his personal slave. What a SHAMEFUL male image of the Korean culture. Wonder why ex-girlfriend ditched him?
@@ceegabe1555Yo you’re on every single comment 💀 we get that you’re passionate about this but pls calm down 😭
She needs to leave him. A women should not support a man;it should be the other way around.
어차피 한국에서는 흑인여성은 별로 인기가 없습니다
@@갓본-s3l Who cares? She is still better than him and do more than him... What a shame
@@낌짱exactly. This weirdo keeps bringing up her being black, like that’s something to be ashamed of. Yet it’s ok for the husband to be unemployed and play guitar all day 😒.
@@갓본-s3l What dose that have to do with what i said.
@@Yua-hz2mr Lazy behaviour. This type of person should not be in a relationship.
노 잔소리..그냥 직접하세요. 와 진짜 그림 너무 멋짐
This was a extremely painful watch. Deborah looked exhausted and her husband is absolutely spineless . How he sits and watch is wife work like a dog and have the nerve to scold her for leaving socks at midnight is abusive. The mother in law has not cared and protected her as a daughter in law. He wont get bills paid with his music . I pray a real man finds her soon and takes her from this abusive relationship.
This is a cold case of him love bombing in the beginning and then him finally getting comfortable enough to relax and show his narcissistic tendencies. I do feel he has grown fond of her, but he does not actually love this woman. If she were to fall sick or lose her job, the tables would turn really fast and this “nagging” would develop into hard cold gaslighting and control. The black woman being “strong & resilient” is not just something valued by Americans, foreigners pick up on those qualities as well and typically love a woman willing to sacrifice herself for so called “love”. This relationship is unequally yoked. A classic example of a man with peter pan syndrome and a mom who participated in instilling narcissistic tendencies in him. The MIL is a part of the issue participating in triangulation and being dismissive. Even her using the pillars of destiny book was manipulation. People love to paint struggle and sacrifice in women of color as loving. It’s toxic, and sadly she is out in another country isolated in this experience with no validation that she is worthy of so much more. Im not saying they couldn’t work, but therapy, boundaries with the mother in law, and a transfer of responsibilities needs to occur. Next thing would be, he will trap her with a baby, and scold her for not being “mom enough” because she can’t live up to his standards, or she won’t be “present enough” because shes a mom and still working overtime. Women in this situation are married but still single mothers. Im praying for her, her mental health, and for the husband to recognize his role as the headship and the leader. Gods order is imperative for an equally yoked marriage that will last without one or both parties drowning in their issues. God bless them and their union, but correction should happen fast.
Sidenote: Many narcissists will isolate their partners from family so that when you want to leave after being fed up, you can’t or are embarrassed to. Red flags.
I honestly don’t really understand all the hate towards him, he’s a loving and supporting husband. Alright, he may have different work and worktimes, but he’s doing what he loves, and he supports his wife too when she wants to do the same. He acknowledged all her hard work and her support towards him. And the “nagging” is not that bad. He said 3 things to her and the rest was about him wanting her to get enough sleep and rest. He didn’t push her to stop working, he just simply asked, and it was for her own good… He’s clearly just worried about her. I think they are a lovely couple and I wish for them to both of their dreams come true❤️
I agree 100%
They have such a loving relationship but he does need to do better, she seems so exhausted:( Watching him help with her hair made me happy though🥹I know the struggle of having a lot of natural, thick hair🤞🏾😭
I love these guys, they're soo cute and dedicated to one another.
Very cute couple. I wish them the best.