Anatomy of Love | Dr. Helen Fisher | Talks at Google
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- Опубліковано 25 лис 2024
- Dr. Helen Fisher joined us at Google New York to talk about the neuroscience behind falling in love, why we love who we love, and the future of romantic love.
Dr. Helen Fisher is Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute, Indiana University, Member of the Center for Human Evolutionary Studies in the Department of Anthropology, Rutgers University, and Chief Scientific Advisor to Match.com. She has written six internationally best-selling books on the evolution and future of romantic love and attachment, including her newest book, ANATOMY OF LOVE (2nd Ed), published this year. Helen is also studying the biological basis of personality and is a pioneer in examining the neuroscience of leadership and innovation.
Get the book here: goo.gl/URThhh
I just want you to know Helen, that I've been tracing human brain activity when it's in love since an early age, when I was 10-12 years old. I heard about diverse studies that were made and I recently found that most of them were yours. So now days, for making such an incredible job, you have become an idol and inspiration for me.
Studying human behavior and the brain is fascinating, and Im so glad you enjoy it. You don't have to have a bunch of degrees to be an amateur anthropologist. ❤️ Keep up your studies!
30:23 Dopamine types (explorer)
32:04 Serotonine guys (builder, guardian, pillars of society)
34:43 The testosterone folks don't get a fair exposure of their slide
38:30 Presents the estrogen / oxytocin ones
41:32 The brain switchboard
44:06 if you want to know more
45:40 a patisserie recap
Treat your partners as THEY want to be treated, and you'll win
Thank you
“...We had our first female president...” 😂
Super helpful time stamps! Thank you:)
Thank you... This was very helpful.
Thx
100% Explorer and 75% Director. I have read both of her books and really liked Why Him Why Her. It is a must read! It is written for romantic relationships but is applicable to platonic and business relationships too.
Heaven only, i want to be aSaint and i belong to Jesus .Take care of your Soul cause i cant do it for you,and nobody can or will do it for you frequenting our Sacraments of Communion in Mass,and Confession with our loved ones to a priest anytime we are readdy.Praying our Rosary above all everyday for love of our mother of perpetual help.Heaven only nothing else matters.i consecrate myself to the immaculate heart of Mary,the motherofGod,Smiling always cause i have all the reasons in the world.God is Good,Yes.He is Goodness itself .Thank you Friend for your just being you.Beautiful inside.Beingand Acting like a True child ofGod. I respect you so so much.Peace brother
46:31 THE CAKE IS SO CUTE OH MY GOSH!! I really love listening to Helen Fisher, by the way
Informative, fascinating, valuable, and credible. She is an amazing scholar. Starting the first of two her audiobooks. Who knew that learning could be so utterly captivating?
can you share her audiobooks ? i also like audiobooks. I can share some with you.
I do not think so, I prefer our mexican Neurologist Dr. Eduardo Calixto, he makes you laugn in the meanwhile he speaks about the differences of the brain of men and women and how they work at the scientifical level, much more info in 1 hr and better humor than here at 25 mins and so boring and nothing really of importance to me, I prefer to go and look for another video of Dr. Calixto in spanish ! So much super info from him that I have learned from him. Here nothing relevant!!
Simplistic pop neurology captivates a lot of people.
Not even 100.000views in almost 4 years. This must be shared more. Thank you for this talk. Helen I am following in love with listening to you. Luca
Fascinating! I relate to the Dopamine type, and there are many explorers, like John Muir, who were driven away from their home and family, due to what John Muir, referred to as being shunned, or abused. But, then, the impetus, to explore became paramount! He then discovered Yosemite! What a fascinating story, really, of how the Explorer evolved.
Amazing clarity in the anatomy of love. Thank you
Wonderful presentation and delivery thank you
12:26 - This is a great point actually. Courtship in the stone age probably looked very similar to what we do today.
Amazing ! Thank you Dr. Fisher
Wow! So wonderful, very informative❤
this is so informative
All the 4 types of people are super masculine in the way they were described. She also gave more masculine examples which made it even more obvious
I would have been very interested to hear more about the integration of the 4 types within each person. For example, even if someone is dominant in one type, that doesn't prevent them from having aspects of the other types. Like a highly empathic person who is estrogen dominant can also possess many qualities from the serotonin and dopamine categories, and even some from the testosterone category. Wouldn't the combination of these 4 within each person be a more accurate picture of how we experience love as an individual? Rather than only talking about individuals as being completely encompassed in 1 group, I think it would be much more applicable to understand individuals by the complexity of the interactions between these 4 groups within that individual.
I think the book contains that more granular data. the book is Why Her; Why Him and you make a good point I think. I'm a psychologist so I have some knowledge to back up that statement.
She is very tuned into the Hunan Psyche of The correlation of Brain Chemistry’s mimicking the synergistic integration of many facets working in unison on the depth s of the unconscious drives we seldom consider
Pigeon-holing (well, in quite literally the sense suppose) is all about today's dating market, mate.
Nobody's ain't gonna have the time: that's why the talk was so well received. Perhaps you are thinking too much? 😄
Great woman.
Great video thank you
8:20 to skip the intro and get to the qns straight
Lol
I'm excited to see what part time job I get between dietary and Marcs either one is fine though
It's sad that most people get wrong about the Golden rule.... I hear a lot of academicians use it out of context... It doesn't say do everything what you like on to others; rather it says do unto others as you would like it to be done unto you...or don't do something unto others that you would not like it to be done unto you... The main idea is: I don't want people to be rude, cruel, nasty, criminal etc...to me...So is true that I need to realize I need to avoid those bad behaviors towards others...or as I would like to see some sort of caring, loving and compassion from others towards me...I need to be aware of others needs for those attributes too... It is NOT meant to be taken as follows: because I like vanilla ice cream, other people should love vanilla ice cream too... Because I love soccer ⚽⚽⚽, all other people should love soccer too....No, no my friends... This is completely either from misunderstanding or out of hate for The Lord Jesus Christ.... Most academicians, they don't even mention who said it... It's probably the biggest plagiarism that any academician has committed for not even quoting the author... it has to stop somewhere!!!
So the whole point of the golden rule is : respect others as you would like to be respected... Do not hurt others as you would like not to be hurted.... Take care of others who are really in need just as you would like to be taken care of by others when you are in times of tragedy... It doesn't say give the person Orange fruit because that's what you like to eat... No no, completely out of the context...
“Nobody gets out love alive, nobody”….
I love the biology of it and the research however I'd be interested in the measurement of how the finer spiritual matter or energy of each person coincides with the Love and attachment as I've been taught that even after death the energy of a persons spirit still exists and can never be destroyed and I don't believe that spiritual matter can be measured with any existent tools of science today but the attraction of spirits to one another is real and relevant in Love.
I don't know how you'd get at that data scientifically. I'm not saying what you say isn't true; just nearly impossible (or completely) to measure.
Read Mcgilchrist's the Matter with Things
I don't think treat others like they want to be treated is plausibel except in you know flowing there wishes they specifically voices
There's an issue with the audio - you need to increase the volume it's really hard to follow this talk
I love it 🥰...!
I have a question hope someone here can answer and also I think I know the answer but u like other ppl opinion. I think I am a dopamine person because when I was little I use to be more drawn to this temperament, but when I got anorexia and depression I started to be more introspective and estrogen type and now I think I have a balance between dopamine and estrogen. When I feel happy it balance I go more to dopamine and when I am in bad mood or struggling with stuff I go to estrogen, but u use both of them, the only difference is that my goal in life and what I enjoy the most is change, culture, ideas, inovation, curiosity and new things to study or investigate.this make me think that maybe you can have two of the temperaments one that is your biological one that is the one you born with the "temperament one" and then another one that might me the cultural one that is the one you create as a mechanism of defense toward coping with life difficulties. I donr know maybe I am right maybe I am not I will love that someone ask this question to her or if someone wants to give their opinion let me know please. What do you think? 🤔
Astrology attracts people to each pther. Planetary alignments
Me encanta!!
Who's Got The Power?
Who Can Make You Feel Good 4
Anybody
Everybody
Perfect Body?
In Lght of the Above
Who Says Yes...
LOUDER PLEASE
Has anyone considered putting a link to the test that she created up?
What about the Braverman Assessment ? It doesnt fit together ... :(
Help me !! Tradutor em português.
David. Hubler. I miss u
I was enamored of Fisher's first edition of this book, then I read Thomas Szasz's classic, The Meaning of Mind. Neurological reductionism is attractive nonsense.
The reason may be that she seems to leave out the spiritual aspect of people. A person's conscience and belief systems has a huge effect on a person, even if they try to hide it. It's there if they have been indoctrinated in any way.
@@debbychapmandavis8778 She subscribes to the present hubris, which is that people can be reduced to neurons firing. She has far too much confidence in research, most of which is hooey.
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So... you're the Estrogen type!! --->LOL
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Seriously... you think a person's personality is ONLY socially constructed?
"a person's conscience (whatever that means) and belief system (which comes from society and particularly family"
You notice though, that the post you answered to is wrong... this is NOT "neurological reductionism".
She also did NOT leave out the "spiritual side" of people, she tried to explain how that side is related and can emerge AS A RESULT OF ALL the types and things she said.
I would. Work. Old. Folks. But it's an easy opportunity I work with kids instead working with older people is much more harder like working with the disabled
Could there be a better word than "adultry?" It is an Abrahamic and a secular legal term I don't it really reflects something that is actual and prevalent
😂 As if you could change it all for just one person......
52:35 - The gene for social norm conformity is most prevalent in China and Japan...interesting.
Twenty-one million years ago? Spare me.
I'm taking Samantha's advice not working with disabled for sure
Laura freaks me out saying that about touching the picture that's false witness
This is bs. It's nice to see somone you love in love. It makes you (me) happy. I just want to be in love with them too then.
Monagomy is probably how some people are wired but it's not everyone
I am Dopa-estrogen type......
Your voice is a lot more easy to listen to than what your voice sounded like in the Ted talk. Why did you talk like that? Please only talk like this
Probably because she was nervous TED talkers are in the spotlight and a lot of pressure put on them
Mom it would be nice if we had more pictures of us together the living room
Ever since Jung I find personality typology problematic and specious. To type people according to traits based on neurochemicals is no more meaningful than astrology or the Hindu chakra system
they were earlier stabs at guessing how it all works, saying that, they have the personality descriptions down to a tee but the assignment to the planetary positions as influencers were wrong. I bet with a scanner you can narrow down peoples characters by which hormones they enjoy stimulating. She's done a lot of the work already. You will find later there will be recreational drugs to enhance or alter your type.
RJ Lindsey have a good day in Texas
Logicaly the 12ppl and multiple personality types doesn't make that much sense. One if gentics are that imposrtant it's probably not a wide destricbution and two it's so or so not a remotly clear prictured one
But these types is Mayers-Briggs idea. How come they are "new" again? Okay, a bit modified, but definitely not new.
I had. Fun. Art. Museum. With. Ashley
Where is the evidence for half of this?
The idea that opposites attract I hear is true in regard to immune systems (which we detect subconsciously through smell).
But what about assortive mating and the fact that the happiest, longest relationships have been found to exist among similar people as opposed to opposites. Much of what she says seems to be pseudoscience and actually just her theories rather reality.
Plus all of the talk about different types of intelligence. Where does IQ factor in this? IQ is one of best researched phenomena in psychology and explains differences in math ability far better than the ideas she gave here.
Would like a response. Maybe I’m wrong who knows.
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Vicky. Baker. Have. Good. Day
I miss. Rita. Granata
My theory for each personality is influenced by their mum and dad.....
I wonder if she thinks you can be Iove with 2 people at once
if i recall correctly she says you can't because it was important throughout evolution to focus 'mating energy' on one subject at least untill the conception, she also mentions these different mechanisms in the brain, you can be attached to your partner while having passionate feelings for somebody else so technically you 'love' two people at the same time but in a different way
Awe Helen you lost me at arranged marriages in India. These are not good for women. They just pressure women into being unpaid labour while the men are free to play around but women can get killed for doing the same. And furthermore, women don't really get to say no to many of the parents' choices. They are definitely pressured into marrying men that they would never choose for themselves.
I’m a high testosterone woman and I can contest I am attracted to the high estrogen men ….cause they’re intellectual and I like that ☺️ is it possible to be more then one type of personality
Uhhh
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I like. Women. Laura walker. U wrong
Add cortisol and you get OCEAN
I listen to this for 25 mins, and bad! For the ones who can speak Spanish there is this "Neurofisiologo" Dr. Eduardo Calixto researcher of neurosciences and the Director of the National Psichiatry (mm, not sure aabout the spelling!) Institute "Ramón de la Fuente" in México, he is amazing! He would have explained in the Scientific way a lot of stuff at the level of how the brain in the meanwhile she talks and talks but after I had listened to him this feels lacking lots of scientifical approach, what happens in the brain? Why is there a tremendous drive in commitment and this and that and what in the brain is making this patterns? How is it that the brain works, nothing about that! Talks aabout many things but nothing about how the brains of people work! NOOOOOOO I GO OUT FROM HERE, THAT IS A PITTY THAT IN ENGLISH IS LIKE THIS! Talk talk talk talk empty talk, nothing so that we can see the differences in the brain of men and women, ok. Ciao
The mgtow seem better able to reach the truth of the matter. People waiting later for marriage and then staying in said marriages is likely due to them not being able to do better in the sexual market place at that point. Survey questions like "would you marry your partner again" are pre filtered by the very fact that they are still with their partners, the others have already divorced, and I have doubts people with so much to lose due to the legal system would dare admit it anywhere regardless. Nothing is private anymore, just look at the Ashley Madison database leak.Channels like Colttaine and his biology/culture/ideology trilogy are closer to the truth. Talk is cheap, what people do is the data that matters.The conditions which have led to a feministic, hedonistic and nihilistic society aren't going to change. I do wonder, even with googlers being able to afford a family, how many actually do.How far below replacement rate are even you?
MGTOW are just a bunch of cry-baby hurt guys who are afraid to get into a relationship. Who would listen to guys that copulate with rubber sex toys and tell everyone they know 'all" about females yet never get involved with them?
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Ya I stay in later, simply because i know i ain't getting any younger. 🤣
Me. Colleen. Dont. Trust. Franklin
Ashley. Bonart. I got. You. A. Ring.
Helen missed literature that shows the alteration brains undergo with technology over time, one being early, and constant exposure to porn/suggestions. Avoided the heavy lifting, uplifting argument well placed. 👍
I would say that's with all the types of addiction. Not just porn addiction... Her field is not addiction so I don't see what would she work with that.
I love. Aunty. Pic. There
I have more practical experience than all of you put together, there is no such thing as love, even under the most stable relationships there's only self-motivation and self-preservation, sorry to burst your PhD bubbles
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*talks* uhh ... *talks* uh... *talks* uhm....
4 freaking personality types... based on chemicals we already know. Super "new insights" here.
Black Forest Kirsch psychology and neuroscience is a death sciences. Like how a heart work once we discover how it work there is no new things. No more new "insight". Yeah brain is a mechanical object that work on protein and hormone.
but what is the contribution, then, if there's nothing new? also this is based on previous science which already found out these substances.. people get money and recognition for this job, while others have to pray to get a job. it sounds like a very comfortable job to be able to speculate about things in front of people and be believed everything because of the authority, though partly only repeating what other scientists have already found out. and to do research however one pleases, barely someone will question them. do you know what else is happening in science? they take theories which have actually no scientific evidence but are seen as plausible among scientists and they as scientists present them to others as truth together with scientifically proofed things as if there was no difference.
Lion. King. Will. Be. Fun. See. U. If. U want
Laura walker. Im. Still. Game. Hit. A. Maps. Museum. With u
The forstee children thing🤏
Helen. Teen mom should be. Banned
Bone. Head
she keeps repeating that technology cannot change the way we cour, parade, and love, etc, but this claim is absurd. there is now a huge community of men who have cracked the code on dating. pick up artists have shown that it is possible to manipulate attraction by purposefully (and insincerely) exhibiting the behaviors that unconsciously trigger attraction in others. these techniques are being taught online to thousands, perhaps millions of men.
Agreed.....She seems to be always reach to a conclusion about something and stick to it religiously! I find her just a 'biased' and stuck person!
socaltop10 She said technology is changing the way we courtship and go about looking for love, and your example of the pick up artist is only validating the claim that these are old, universal structures within the brain that is due to our evolutionary history. Why is a pickup artist able to hand a individual a set of skills that he can use on most women and it be successful if there were not innate drives at the helm of sexual selection that we're not going to do anything about changing as pick up artistry is predicated on the understanding of female psychology.
of course she claims that technology hasn't changed love. guess what, she is working for a dating website. wouldn't be a good advertisment for the site if she said technology has a negative impact.
It's all bullshit mate.
Truth is, confidence is attractive and all pua is teaching is to take risks and be confident.
Not true. Mystery Method is outdated and worked because it made guys confident and actually go for it as opposed to sitting at home. The focus of modern PUA's lies in gaining sincere experience in social skills.
Estrogen and contribution to the science? Are you kidding me?
The more I watch this lady, and other brain scientist, the more I realize how smug a lot of them are.
every fool can come up with a whatsoever typology............why after C.G. Jung we need another one......
Your talks are wonderful but they seen to center on marriage. Marriage may still be the norm but it is not intrinsically human having been invented after the advent of farming and I don't think marriage is the point of human relating and love. Most marriages are sexless and all marriages end even if death by spouse. Your insistence on marriage as the point of it all makes it's seem like you are mainstreaming so you can make more money and you actually know better
She believes in monogamy so of course she speaks highly of marriage
bad public speaker, i can barely understand her through all that stuttering
Nah. A lot of times touch is at best annoying. But also I am so touch starved🥲
@@darthvader1793 I love hugs for example, but it can be annoying a lot of times. Maybe the best expression would be I have specific wants and unlike that is there I do not like it?