My son was non verbal until the age of 3. He wasn't social til he was 8. He is 12 today, a famous youtuber, and cant wait to go to college to learn more about CGI animation, web design and sound in filmaking. He has taught himself. He has even helped me design websites for clients, he can do coding, he has made many animations, created his own characters, he can mix and create his own original music with studio software. I spent the first five year at home teaching my son his ABC's, how to write before he turned 4. I took him to kids drop in centers to socialize with other kids. The first time he actually played with another child, I cried uncontrollably. Today he is has too many friends to keep up with from school.
Hi i'm also a Mom of a child who's also non verbal can I chat with you if your free so as I can get the advice from you please he is 3pluse 2months but private
Sarah Bellum I'm so glad to hear that things are working out for you and yours. This gives me hope for the children that I know that are on the spectrum. That's the way that I think about them....it's a spectrum and the patients can move up and down on that spectrum.
My son is 38 and was diagnosed when he was 15 with Aspergers. There was the teasing, bullying and ostracization which Shaun was plagued with and you can't imagine how much sorrow was in our hearts. He put those struggles behind him and shone threw. The biggest hardship was that he never had a friend and still doesn't. I, his mother, have been his only true friend and I am so proud of that. We witnessed his fight to know who he is. Shaun has overcome the obstacles and is a strong, intelligent man with a heart full of gold. There are blurring of the lines on the autism spectrum but I never cared because he IS MY SON. God has given me such a precious gift. I am SO PROUD of him.
@@divinebeing2476 from all reader perspective... I wish I was a hand to be held .most lately I blend with any surrounding not visible. I wish just me was a good enough freind
I am close to 70. In the past 10 years I figured out I have autism. There was never any doubt I was "different" but until discovering the label nothing made sense. Fortunately I was really intelligent and motivated to work in school... but I was very isolated because I just couldn't understand other children. I was trying to learn how to be interactive... but the effort it took was often overwhelming. Thanks for your presentation.
I'm also a woman diagnosed with Austim(Very High Functioning, Aspergers) I have a very different time getting, keeping employment and keeping friends especially female friends In school especially HS I did struggle with certain subjects. It just hard living with this, its hard to be independent finacially live on your own and be comfortable. I did manage to find love in my life but it took me years. It not easy living on the Austim Spectrum but we like everyone else need to try our best. We are very bright smart people though as far as common else and logic.
23M diagnosed Aspergers when I was 4 if I recall correctly. Relationships with friends and family feel weird awkward to me. Family more than friends really. Like I feel for them and I love them, but when I’m with them I can not for the life of me really say anything other than, “Thanks for dinner”, “Love you too”. It’s weird, but according to my grandma I “Haven’t let it define me or really hold me back”. It’s weird to say the least, glad to know there’s another one making it. Sorry for long reply
I was diagnosed at 31 after having a complete breakdown at work. That's what happens when you have to try and mask your whole life. At least I finally found out why I felt so different.
I am 53 and still undiagnosed because I can't find somebody who will do the test in person because online doesn't do any good. I had a therapist who in 15 minutes could not notice that I wasn't making eye contact with her either that or she just thought it was because it was on the phone. I can't live alone literally I cannot live alone I've tried it doesn't work.
You brought tears to my eyes right off the bat. My twins are autistic. One just got diagnosed last week, and the other behind him. Listening to you speak alone helped and gave me hope. I needed to hear this. I needed to hear you speak from the point of view from where my sons are right at this moment. You have filled my heart with a lot of hope and strength. Thank you so much, Kerry.
I am a young adult with autism. The one thing that always helps along the way is to never give up on your children or child ever. Even though I was young I remembered how supportive and how loving and how they NEVER gave up on me and I'm grateful for that. The reason I say this is because I saw a mother on TV with an autistic boy and she gave up to quick. When an autistic child was having a melt down or they weren't talking and gave up too quickly. Another mother speaking to an autistic child like they were babies. Make sure to push your kids even if it hurts. i remember my mom and dad pushing me to my limits. Now I'm a 19-year-old when telling people I have autism they are very shocked. I may be slower than everyone else, all people from my school left college while I'm still here, but its ok one step at a time and I'm living my dream and plan to live with my best friend in the future. There is certainly hope. I promise you.
It is very hard at times. All I want to do is speak with my kids and I can't like I do with my older daughter. I don't know if I am talking too much at times cause they do not respond, but I talk anyways. It warms my heart and gives me a LOT of hope and happiness for you to tell me this. Thank you so much! I will NEVER give up on my kids, they are the reason I breathe. Did you go through therapies? I am so curious. If you don't mind talking about it: authorhmarie@gmail.com I would absolutely LOVE to ask you questions if you are up for it! Again, thank you so much!!! *hugs*
Heather Marie Ah I get it I understand! I know how hard it must be on the other end when you talk and they dont know how to response. but your kids are still very young and have many chances! And Oh yes I certainly did have therapy! I had speech therapy and in the first half of my life I went to a special needs school to teach me some basic's. Then I was put in a mainstream school. It was hard but I did it and I was taught about time and stuff but it never got in my head. I also recommend being prepared to teach some things to your kids because although I learned pretty much the basic's I never passed maths and my parents are teaching me. But dont worry like I said every Autistic child is different. I have Asperger Syndrome. Oh I wouldn't mind at all! No problem! Oh! Id also recommend reading more on Autism but on a Autistic persons perspective. But any questions please do ask!
I like how when I defend myself it's called "aggressive tendencies"... but if anyone messes with me it's just no big deal. Good for any autistic who refuses to take any crap. (I know that wasn't the whole point here, but leave it to an aspie to lock on to a comment like that!).
+ExRepro Guitaro Amen ExRepro, back when I was a youth Autism was unheard of, so we grew up being called stupid, out of it, different and non-verbal and shy. Lucky for me I am large male that actually enjoys physical contact. One good thing about those days was fighting was an accepted thing for boys to do and many a bully met my fist first hand, then left me alone for good. I learned to embrace solitude as my baseline, and to this day remains my sanctuary. Peace
I wish this video advocated more for adults who were never diagnosed. Also wish this video didn't pathologize autism so much. Not everyone has parents who recognize you have autism and get you the help you need. And not every person with autism sees it as something to overcome.
This is so true, generally people have alot to deal with, are overwhelmed and often are self absorbed. Then the quieter or more challenged people are discarded or overlooked and I think it is happening more now as we work and often have to live on our own. Try to reach out to others, but most importantly, find what it is you enjoy doing most that would be your productivity interest. So that when you feel a little forgotten, full fill your good time with what you like to do mostly. God bless you, we live to have life.
It's not that the autism is something to overcome, it's that all the challenges that comes with it are something to overcome. I had to overcome having meltdowns. I had to overcome my inability to communicate effectively with my peers. I had to overcome not knowing how to act in a professional environment. I had to overcome all my problems with executive function. And I still have some things to overcome, like not knowing how to approach people for the first time, and using the phone at work, and learning to drive. (And there are things I won't overcome, like face blindness.) I'm 34... other people have all this figured out by now. (Although, if someone is NT and doesn't have it all figured out, I totally get that.. there is a lot to figure out, after all, and most people aren't driven by the shame that comes with the possibility of being a perpetual outcast and a burden on your family for the rest of your life.) Autism isn't all bad, but it comes with some major hurdles, even on the high end.
@Electro Power well yeah it's different for everyone, but the problems they describe are very typical for autism. I have some of them as well and they ain't fun.
I'm autistic and I wont be diagnosed. That cant happen in my line of work. I would be disqualified, somehow. We need to speak up! Nobody ever asked me MY side of the story in my early childhood. I remember some events like yesterday. Does that sound like I'm disabled? Oh please.....
Erik was 24 and suicided himself. My son told after his first attempt in the hospital the year before. "I can't function in society". I said "but you did so well in school". He said "I didn't want to disappoint the teachers". Been three years that he is gone and a year ago I drempt that he was autistic. That through me curve ball. I now see the signs but I was so blind to it while Erik was growing up. He was like the invisible child, always content or I thought and never complained about anything. He was always grateful for every day little thing, a real sweetheart. Then he was introduced to drugs. Where you are understood you are at home... it went down from that moment on. Thank you for what you do. Information is key for parents that go see the doctors and being told that he or she will grow out of it. Like I've lived. God bless and keep on the good work. Love ya! 🌞
When he stated, "what will happen to my son when I'm gone?", brought tears to my eyes. I have 2 sons with autism and epilepsy. I deal with that question everyday and the worry I have for them is insane. My sons are 19 and 15, as my sons get older the fear becomes stronger.
I am deeply concerned for your worry, I hope over time you can connect with a like minded community. Keep reading and researching it's all part of the wonderful journey. We don't all live in the one place, thankfully! each place has offerings of different things and circumstances but there always seems something special and worthwhile in each. Don't limit yourself nor your son's keep them learning too. Sometimes connecting with a local church for support resources can also mean alot and at times, lighten the load. Keep reaching and growing. God bless you and your son's.
@@thicctony6236 Considering the fact that you told somebody to just will away a livelong medical condition he can't really do anything against but learn how to better cope with it you seem to have a greater need for it.
Check her hearing. Autistic people can be over or under sensitive. My son has over sensitivity in noise. It took me 13 years to find that out. Perhaps change diet and try cbd oil.
@@victoriawardrope9843 funny you mention that..my granddaughter is 7 and when we turn the vacuum on she screams and runs from the room...other noises bother her too..she’ll cover her ears ...
I love how he concluded with, “All of our brains work differently. Just be weird.” ❤ Having experienced both weirdness (in my case, autism) and Substance Use Disorder, I can say, from experience, that being weird is what’s up! That really hit home for me, one day, when I was a room of people using drugs, which I used to mask my weirdness and someone in that room pointed out that I was weird. There’s nothing we can do to stop being who we are. Embracing ourselves and our weirdness is much more helpful!
I lived my whole life up til recently, (almost 20) without being diagnosed or knowing I'm autistic. Going though harassment, bullying, shunning, from students and teachers alike. I have trauma from school to this day
Is there an option for changing your school? If not, keep going. Tap into your talents and focus on that and the people around you who are supportive. Keep researching, learning and keep with like minded people. Protect your self and stay safe. Indulge in your life not others who are harmful. God bless you.
My advice keep doing what makes u happy and don't bother about others reaction. Always remember if u stop giving response to their billing they will stop billing automatically. Dear try this and believe me it will work.
i have high functioning autism and i just lost my job, it was in the finishing department of a company that makes expensive antique lamps. they said i wasn't meeting the speed requirements of the job, i started this year in may. i miss my co-workers most of all...
I totally get the difficulty of meeting the high demands the work environment places on us. It's like I have to always try extra hard to keep up with the dynamics of the job and expectations. It gets exhausting to have to work so hard day to day when it should be able to come naturally.
I'm 21 and I have autism myself and my problem is basically I get stressed very easily it can happen just by the most simple things like tying my shoes. but one thing that has helped me most of my life is my interest for cosplay and Star Wars. maybe it's just me but this helps me a lot.
andrew kruse same here I reenact civil war and later and I feel that it helps me communicate especially if I'm doing volunteer work for the park service
Man, this man here is one of the few people in the world I actually care about. Because he actually cares. It actually matters to him concerning others. So I honestly wish him every success. I mean, whether Taylor Swift or Kanye West or Trump or Putin do well or poorly, I couldn't care less. But a person like him, completely under the radar, someone only those close to him would know, but the public would never find out about, unless they go out of their way to look for him, whether he lives or dies, it truly truly matters to me.
I'm 30 something right now, and I'm autistic. I currently have 4 degrees. My first degree is in aerospace and I was trained by NASA right before the man space flight went away. After that, the only job I was able to get was janitor type work. Many weeks I was paid $8 A WEEK. I worked in manufacturing, freelance, and a number of other things. I've dealt with extreme workplace harassment in most of the jobs I worked, I've been laughed out of interviews, and I found there is virtually no protection for people who are autistic. After a given age getting jobs became more and more rare to the point it isn't happening anymore. Sure, I can get a HS level job. But with all I went through when I was in HS I tried to off myself and I wish it was successful. My backup plan for if I couldn't get a job and what kept me from offing myself for many years is I figure if I couldn't get a job at least I can go into the military as an officer. It turns out there is policies against people who are autistic from joining. And to be blunt about it. I've been burnt by this society so much that I honestly just want to be retired. Right now I make little to nothing on UA-cam, some 3D printing, and I'm getting into independent product development. I would be more than happen if some of them just works out and I can do that. So it isn't like I will be sitting and doing nothing. But I'm so tired of things that if it doesn't get better by 2022 then I doubt I will see 2023. It's sad in the USA to get disability you must have an extensive work history, and autistic people have near 0% chance of getting anything. And with SSI if you're valued of $2k or more then you don't qualify. So by me trying to improve myself and have a chance I'm out of luck. My 3D printer setup mix with my computer and laser/cnc alone goes way over that. Something I use to make what little I do now and that gives me any shot of getting into a better life to start with. Something to note is some might think my dream is to have a job. But my overall goal was to have a stable life and I always wanted to have a stable family. Something I never had since many family members even today has nothing to do with me to the point they blamed me once saying my parents and I tried to kidnap my grandparents when my grandparents and I went to look at where they grown up. I can get deeper, but the reason why getting a job was so important to me is that I always believed if you're not financially stable then you shouldn't bring a kid into the world. So if I was retired, then financially stable enough to at least keep them out of poverty and help guide them to a better future than I had hopefully. Sadly, I doubt I will even have the ability to have a stable family and stable life before I die. For those of you who have that or can. Know that you're lucky.
I hope you're doing OK. You're not alone through this and we're thinking of you. Could you not use the NASA aquired skills in the engineering, IT or aeronautics space? Maybe just send out your resume to different companies and be transparent about who you are, what you feel you can contribute and how best they could accommodate you. It's sure to land in the right hands at some point. Just don't ever give up.
I wasn't diagnosed with Autism until I was 52, and only after my big sister pestered me for several years to get tested because she wanted to know why I was such a little weirdo growing up. I am 55 now. I may know a little on why I am what I am, and I missed a lot of life experiences for people not understanding me and letting me go it alone because all they knew about me was I could accomplish anything I put my mind to, but it wasn't what they wanted me to apply myself in. To me, if I held a job for a year, I was considered successful: my longest job was 5 years.
I have a son on the spectrum and he’s brilliant, especially when it comes to his passions. I’m amazed at his knowledge when it pertains to topics he interested in. He has taught me so much, and I’m so grateful for him everyday. I want parents who have had a recent diagnosis to know that autism can be a gift as long as you channel their interest. Focus on them and allow them to flourish.
This was a great TedTalk by Kerry Magro. My concern as an adult diagnosed with Autism is that lack of effective and efficient programs that help adults with autism/Asperger to be successful in life. We need to find a way to bring a solution to this problem. Thank you Kerry for what you do in the community.
Yes, for parents this is a daily worry. My daughter is 20, diagnosed with HFA at the age of 17 after years of significant problems. She can't drive, college is too stressful, restaurants overwhelm her. I wish she could blossom as this man did, but she hasn't and I worry constantly about her future.
Yeah I really am trying to juggle somewhat of a school life along with watching the latest series and movies and playing video games while keeping my religion and learning life skills it has been a journey
Does she have any hobbies or interests? Things that she’s naturally attracted to? It’d be good if she can focus and build her future on those interests. Alternatively, certainly Tech companies hire autistic people to ‘clean code’ which i think involves checking the quality of coding. It’s worth looking into that as a potential employment opportunity for her. Generally the tech sector is a bit more welcoming area for autistic people than the other industries.
I am the mom of a 32 year old son on the autism spectrum. He is able to work and he lives in a IDL home and loves it. He has so many dreams. I feel inadequate in trying to help him. He was lucky he didn’t get picked on growing up. He was like you and didn’t speak until he was 3. He has always been outgoing and has a great deal of support.
My 8 year old was diagnosed when he was 3 years old and been in ABA therapy since his diagnosis... it has helped him learn to talk, get potty trained and overall help his behavior. He is doing amazing and your proof that anyone’s future can be bright no matter the circumstances !!! Thanks for sharing I subscribed and hit your bell!!!
I am 19 years Old female young adult in art college and I am working independently and respected by my peers. I have been told by my teachers that I encourage others and lighten up the mood in the room. I am told I am kind and caring and can understand somewhat emotions of other people its recognizing those emotions that I find difficult and cannot tell what people think about me just by what they say or how they look at me and sometimes I think people hate me when it isn't the case. There IS hope no matter what anyone says. When you have an Autistic child they DEPEND on you, they LOVE you they ADORE you. I have so much to say on autism and I want to become a national speaker or do talks like this myself but all I got to say there is hope and all the hard times will just be a distant memory. We are like everyone else and our Autism does NOT define who we are and even though we are born with Autism it is not our personality or what makes us, us. Sure it is a small part of us but it is not a label to bare. Autism is my pride at this point. Showing others that it is not what everyone says it is and that I am a living example of what an Autistic child can be when not given up on. (also sorry if it sounds like I have a ego here. XD)
You dont sound like you have a big ego darling, it sounds to me like you're awesome & in your later years you just may be a GREAT EDUCATOR ✌❤ GODS SPEED. Xo LOVED YOUR COMMENT
I am from India. My 5 yrs old son is autistic. Since last year, lot of improvement as he started speaking few words, 3-4 words sentences.. still not properly pronouncing few letters like G J L .. Most of time he repeats question and then try to answer. He can write A-Z, numbers up to 200 but takes lots of time as he goes day dreaming lots of time (not good hand writing). Just recently, I have taught him some math like < > = signs, basic addition,, now starting subtraction.. He can play few rhymes on piano too. He open his games, plays and shut down PC on his own. Lots of improvements. Started playing with elder bro. Just passed Lower KG class, now starting Upper KG. Teacher was so supportive in school, that helped a lot as school wasn't keen to admit my son initially. Can't say how long he will be able to continue in school. Trying my best to teach him max. But yes, worried life after me. In my country, most of people dont even know what autism is. Forget about any help or support from any part or govt. Have to manage by our self. His hyperness has come down quite a lot. He has some amazing skills I feel. But unfortunately, will be very tough for me to support him long, as i said no support at all from govt here. So, hope is a great word. God is another. Blessing too. Love you all. Love to your kids
Hi Nadir, I am from India too and my 4 years old son has also been diagnosed autistic last month. We r yet to get admission for OT and speech therapy. I have heard that there is a government scheme called Niramaya for autistic children. U may want to check it out. May your child continue to flourish.
@@snigdhadas3507 hi. Thank you for the information. I didn't knew about it. Will definitely look in details. My son is now 7. Going class 2. Improving every year. Process is slow though. But better late than never as they say. Wishing your son lots of happiness and the best of everything.
I'm 23 and I am autism without asperger. this year i will change, lose some weight, excerise, and get a job. when my family told me that I have to learn something different like going to college or go to work. but I've always be with my family and friends and it's because I'm autism
Well... It's like having the right skill set and knowledge for various jobs but zero ability to socially interact where needed to seek promotions and better jobs. I'm usually regarded as being a top performer in almost any job I have but am forgotten quickly as the silent ghost that keeps the wheels turning. It's difficult and leaves much to be desired in pay and growth potential.
You're describing my father in describing yourself. I'm autistic and I think my father was too. He had these same complaints despite the fact that he seemed naturally charming and gracious (no doubt that was hard-won). There are people who get ahead because they have both the skills to do the work and the ability to self promote. However, far too many only know self-promotion and as they get promoted they end up hurting the departments and companies they work for. I listened to my father complain and realized that if I were going to get ahead, I was going to need to promote not me but my ideas. Someone who hired me later said, "I've had plenty of people sell themselves in a job interview, and you're the first one to deliver." I'm pro-social so perhaps this is a bit easier for me. Yes, I have communication deficits. I do not understand indirect communication and can't memorize and intellectually interpret body language because I can't focus on listening to words while integrating visuals. (I seem to be more profoundly affected in that way than other autistic friends of mine who have had less success in the world of work.) What I learned to do was be direct and speak up when I had an idea. I looked for opportunities to show what I had to offer. My goal was to make wherever I worked better. It's clear that you can organize thoughts and write well. If you haven't already tried this, consider writing out your ideas, making written proposals where appropriate, and then write a script for how you're going to present it to whomever. Rehearse that with a friend until it is natural, and until you can say it with a few prompts on a 3x5 card. Take the card with you. There's no harm in that. One of the things that helped me get ahead is that I took every opportunity to do things that scared me. One of those things was to become a public speaker. Doing begets doing. Skill sets improve. Sure, I'll never get indirect language, but in work, where I was generally well-liked (with some haters because others think if you shine, you steal their shine) direct communication worked well for me. I also joined committees, took on extra work, and was never a YES man. THAT, and my ability to gently point out where something that was in the works was likely not going to work and why and what might work instead, beyond anything else earned me respect. Also, the motivations for many people on the job who appear to be actively pushing themselves have to do with ego. When you're working with people if you pay attention, you can see who is goal-oriented or more ego-oriented. (Everyone wants to get ahead but some people are testier and potentially dangerous.) That's important information when talking with people. Many of us are good at seeing patterns, and while I have trouble with the one-to-one, by observing others when I'm not part of the interaction, I can generally see the politics of the situation (e.g., like systems language... what system is at play?) If I didn't dive in when first employed, took my time to observe the pace of work around me (usually slower than I'd produce) and match it initially, took my time to observe those around me before I got to know them, I could suss out who to be careful with and who to trust. (I'm terrible at this socially, but as I said, work motivations are much easier to ascertain.) If you're pattern-oriented, try applying that to the behavior you see around you. In this way, you can see who might be an ally and who is potentially dangerous to you if / when you speak up. I'm not saying this was easy. I have a few horror stories, but businesses also grew because I took what I had to offer seriously enough to learn how to communicate my ideas to the powers that be. I wish you the best. I hope some of these strategies work for you.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS I don't usually write comments, but I feel it is important to say that the way you write and explain things has made me feel very understood, which is just about the rarest feeling for me. This has made me see why it is important to not mask oneself; there are people who understand, but I'm not finding them because I hide. I need to just be direct. Thank you for expressing your thoughts.
My step-brother has aspergers and he's probably the funniest, kindest and smartest person I've ever met but sometimes I feel like he feels that nobody understands him. He has trouble at school (goes to a special-ed school) because of teachers that don't understand him and the kids in class sometimes mock him, making him hate school more. I feel so incredibly bad for him and his mom does everything she can to make him have the best experience at school and life in general. He has a really bright future but just wish we could understand his ways of thinking better.
I am a adult with Autism and I started talking at age 3 used the restroom at age 5 tied my shoes at age 14 in 1999 and got my high school degree in 2006 at age 21 now I am turning age 32 and nobody knows about how I changed I met Jesus in January 27th 2009 and I came back from heaven more normal.
Blessings! Your young life sounds like my grandson, he’s going on 5 in November. It’s wonderful to hear that one day he too can function in life. I do believe every human on earth is on the spectrum somewhere! Thank you for giving me a ray of sunshine! Grandmother Bear !!!
I can tell you what happens to those with Asberger's: We become alienated, lonely and depressed. That's assuming you don't manage to off yourself somewhere along the ride.
@@medfreak Appreciate the sentiment. But someone's imaginary friend hasn't created anyone. And there are plenty of people who are not just useless, but even a burden to the world.
@@tiptoes9847 hey, only seen this now. Are you ok? Don't give the world the satisfaction. It is them that are broken, not us. We have more compassion and heart than most people, we love much, but also hurt much. Keep your chin up, be stubborn and keep living. Life is a gift even when it hurts ❤️
@sydefx yes, autism is horrible, but God is amazing. He uses the weak things of the world (like us) to shame the world. Today, I feel awful, but tomorrow is a new day and another new beginning and if I can help one person feel better today, it's worth it
Being a father i was worried about my son .. Even i dont know my 6 month old son is autistic or not .. But now im really relaxed as before .. Because society told me that autistic is something like abnormal or mental .. Autism is just social .. Behavioral .. Physical interaction .. Easy its not a big deal .. My son recognized me and its enough for me :)
There's so much of my th thoughts in this video. Knowing I'm going to die one day. Who will love my son. My hearts so heavy thinking my baby will never speak.
Well there are other means of communication besides verbally speaking. You just gotta explore what his best means of communication are. Just because he’s different does not mean he’s lesser than anyone else
My son talked only when he was 8 y old....now he is 15 and he doesn't keep quiet for a minute...he speaks 2 languages and he thought himself to read and write. The future is killing me , as I worry 24/7 about it. Thank you
I am a 49 year old female with PDD-NOS, I have learned to live with it and despite the challenges and limitations, I am a single mom and living a happy life, I have a full time job and drive a car, there's always hope for things to turn out fine. But I have to thank my family who have helped me get here where I am now. Getting the right support is vital in life.
No wonder you get invited to do a second one. You have very good stage presence. You deserve to be who you are in the autism community... being one of the recognisable faces amongst autism advocates (self or parent). I am actually going to be a 2x TEDx Talker myself soon. I didn't get to where I am without the loving support of my family and my colleagues in the field of OT... aside from my determination to succeed after realising there is immense value of my work. Unlike many autism self advocates who get on the TEDx stage, though, I think the topic of my second TEDx will surprise many not only in the OT community (since many know my strengths and weaknesses very well), but also the autism community. I say that because the topic will be nothing about autism. In fact, it is actually a topic that is not even in the top 3 of my preferred subject areas. Yet, through some support of my colleagues (as well as my willingness to challenge myself), I muster the courage to do it. One thing for sure... I will LOVE to see what the autism community thinks about my second TEDx Talk that will be out later this year.
Wow this guy is a real inspiration. My 7 year old boy is autistic and just watching and listening to him fills me with hope that my little boy will be capable of living independently, follow his dreams and live his dreams..all through the love and support that me and his mother give him. He was diagnosed with ASD and mild development delay early on which then enabled him to receive the right support at school and since then he has come on leaps and bounds and has overcome a lot of things already. Yes there will be many more but he has the strength to overcome them too, coupled with our love, support and encouragement. God bless you Kerry and you are living proof that anybody, autistic or not CAN become a success like you have, again all through love, support and encouragement!
When my mum was sick with stage 4 cancer I was only 21 an 23 when she died and my step Father made a promise to her that he would look out for me and help me his whole life so she could leave feeling better. It help. So I would say find someone if you who can be there for them. It will give you peace of mind
I was turned down for disability because I am a high functioning autistic person and had a good gpa in school but I’m 29 and never had a job and can’t find a job. I just got turned down for a dishwasher job at red lobster. I’ve got 45k in debt for my degree and I can’t graduate because I can’t pass math. I was homeschooled after 3rd grade, never went to high school. So I never got into programs for autistic people. I have lived at the same house my whole life but because my grandma ran out of money she has to sell the house and move to a rental out in the country. It’s July 28th and I’ve got till the 31st to find a place to live. I have no savings and I’m so scared of ending up homeless especially out in 110 degree heat. I apply for so many jobs but I never get hired. If I do get hired I’m going to spend the rest of my life paying off my debt with minimum wage jobs and living in a cheap apartment. I see these programs for adults with autism and they are all in California or Chicago. I’m in Phoenix Arizona and I can’t afford to move and those cities are even more expensive. The cost of living here has skyrocketed. I got no savings. I wish there were more services for autistic adults. I’m just terrified of my future.
My son who is 3.8 yrs old, 1 year back he diagnosed with Autism. Below are symptoms- 1. Poor eye contact 2. Poor response 3. Poor understanding and sense 4. Excess self talk 5. Repetitive behavior Since 1 year, he is going through Speech therapy, ABA, occupational therapy hence he has improved a bit but still a lot to go. Hope he will be able to live independently. My main goal is help him to live independently as I won't be with him for whole of his life.
Kerry Magro this is the first time i listen to you. You warmed my heart with your kind thoughts for others, thank you for sharing the importance that children in the spectrum need tenderness, caring and loving parents, and this is not what some children receive at home...my best regards to the children that don't have a village, parents, other family members to let them know that they're love, awesome, smart and that they have the power to do their best.
I’m a newly diagnosed ADHD/Autism Spectrum Disorder at 43! I have 2 children who are Autistic and ADHD and it has not been easy. I have struggled with this since childhood but never felt like I had never fit in and struggled with so many issues that I am also working with my children.
My son have autism and the biggest problem for me is the financial burden as my wife is working and I have to look after my son but I'm always worried that he can get lost and he would not be able to communicate with somebody in a way for him to find his way home it is something that scare me everyday and I always make sure to arrive at his school on time but they will be a day that i'll be too old or cease to exist that worried me as I couldn't care less about my own mortality but people are cruel and my son is the sweetest kindest person I know that I ever had the pleasure to meet and I worry that people will take advantage of his good nature and mistreat him without me being there to protect him.
I know the feeling. I'm autistic, and it looks like my daughter is too. I'm also fated to not be around for much longer, so I fear everyday what will happen when I'm not here to protect her. The truth of parenting is "protect the king". The next generation. Do everything you can to set the stage, and pass along your knowledge and values. The king is vulnerable, but not defenseless. Just handicapped. Same as me. Same as all of us. My personal plan is to teach her everything I can about how to use her talents to keep herself safe. It's all I can do. From there, she'll have to forge her own path. As scary as it is, that's the way of the world. My mother kicked me out at 17, and for 6 years we didn't speak. I know now that she was cutting the cord and forcing me to use what I had learned to cut a swathe through the world. It was the only way I ever would. I thank her every time I see her now. Think about that.
Kerry you’re an Angel 👼. From beginning to end, his speech was very emotional, but when he referred to the question, what will happen to my son when I’m gone? That made me cry and I felt a great inexplicable emptiness in my chest. Thank you for your courage and for making us feel how beautiful and important human beings you all are. Also, why should we and have to change our way of seeing life, be empathetic with children and adults with Autism and give you all of our support and love that you all deserve. A big hug Kerry. My best wishes for you forever💓💓👏👏👏
Autism advocacy for high functioning is really poor. I have that college degree but the only support out there is for high school type work like retail and fast food. I graduated with honors in college and was top in my class as a flight attendant because seeing the world was my dream but apparently my dream should have been to not try and get government help because I would have more money coming in. I lost my independence in the process trying. Not enough employers out there that will support someone with Autism. If they have to provide a certain amount of jobs to people with Autism it's being a Janitor. It's sad because I tried to keep up with my peers but instead just get blocked at the door when I am more than qualified.
I'm 17 with autism and I'm so scared I do not want to live with my parents forever and I can't drive because I'm visually impaired. I want to go to college for fashion design and I have an extreme love for music. I'm trying to be independent but I fall behind my age group and I don't have any real friends.
. Go with facts, go with a job that requires not driving, taking a bus, is nearby. You need to save to get into an apartment. Millions try to get into that inner circle of fashion design, and don't get there. What are your chances--not good odds. Find something you could study to make a good living, be realistic. What about taking a few classes at a time and becoming a music teacher for kids? If you can learn the mathematics of design, you can learn music theory and that is your passion. Think about it--just a suggestion. Making a point, you need to be realistic.
I'm 18 and I'm in the same boat as you. I don't have any friends and I don't want to live with my parents. (they're abusive, and I grew up in poverty. I'm temporarily living with my granny atm) If you ever want to text me, I'd love to be your friend.
Besides advocating for autistic children it's more important to teach everyone about autism itself. There are way too many autistic individuals out there getting diagnosed at late age, just because they are intelligent enough to mimic "normal behaviour". If the people around them would know about autism and what comes with it, that wouldn't be necessary and can literally save lifes. I'm 29 years old, got my diagnosis just 1,5 years ago. For 27 years nobody noticed that I can't express feelings or the pictures I have in my head, that I have real difficulties in communication. That's because I'm one of those intelligent people able to "blend in". These "autistic masks" are using a lot of energy, because the behaviour we show is not based on intuition like normal people do, but it's almost completely based on cognitive efford. That means autistic people can indeed learn to be "normal", but the price for that is way too high. If the people around us would know about this, this "blending in" wouldn't be necessary at all and we could use that energy for the topics we're really interested in - and achive our dreams.
Please continue to share your story. We need more awareness surrounding Autism. I see too much negativity on it or such conditions being labeled as “bratty.” We need more positive influences to better support those in need. More awareness hopefully means more help and ultimately understanding. I wish you the best in life.
As a mom of a 23 year old son who is autistic and not a day goes by that I don't worry about my son when I pass on. I Love him to the moon and back. He has been the most happiest kindest person I have ever known. There are no help from anyone just me. My son has never had friends no party invites no girlfriends and just lives in his own world. He lives with me and I not able to work due to my son's disabilities so life with a lot of worry and no answers.
Thanks for your talk, my son is 13 years old now we found out when we noticed he's losing his eye contact and speech at age 2, the most lovely child, the kindest. It's heart warming to hear you, however, we're dealing with so much as he has become aggresive and violent in the last 3 years. We are worried about everything that you talked about. 🙏🙏🙏❤
I have 4 boys on the spectrum and they are all very different. They range from severe to very high functioning autism. No one knows how I ended up with 4 out of 5 children with autism but I know they are all headed down different paths and that it will be challenging but I’m encouraged every single day by any progress they make, no matter how small. Thank you for this speech.
Captcha Neon you sound like a wonderful parent. Please continue to stay strong for your sweet and dear children. My grandson age 3yrs. has autism. God bless you.
dbcooper2 Thank you so much. Awww so sweet about your grandson, I bet you must be so proud of him 💜 You know I had someone ask me “Wouldn’t you like to change it all?!” And without thinking I immediately said “No, why?!” And I can still remember the strangest look on their face. You know, I don’t regret any of them or how they turned out, they will always be my sweet boys and they light up my world.
my son is non verbal autistic with sensory processing disorder (SPD) ... this subject is my biggest fear... I've lost sleep over this... I've cred over this... it scars the hell out of me... to think what will happen if something happens to me..........
Thank you very much for this video. It was sad to know that I am not the only parent who struggles with these questions. I loved the self reflection piece. I often get so worked up about the school calls, the youth center calls, etc and forget how wonderful my baby is. I loved this video sooo much and will keep cherished as a motivational reflection always.
Well good for you. My parents didnt do anything about me being this. And now im 34 im feel so alone. Only my cat is with me, comforts me a little. In the philippines its really hard to get diagnosed since psychiatrist aren't updated.
It really is not easy having autism and is a constant struggle. It is a nightmare . There is not any support due to governments and cut backs. Finding love is almost impossible. It is awful and I would pay a million dollars to make it go away.
Donna Summers It is impossible for us to lose, but infuriatingly difficult to win. But some, like me, think we've found the one person who see us for what we are, not for the label others put onto us, a label that is a horrendously obscured little piece of paper, on our diagnosis, on our prescription, that one word, the word that others use on us, is autism, and it's image is so blurred that the people who have not seen an autistic except for in a hospital from a distance think that it is from vaccines. They're just mere pawns, on the side of the media, and they are in the grand chess game between fact and the media, the chess game, that I believe we are losing. I am that pawn making that heroic journey to the other side of the board to revive the queen so that we can muster up the strength to pick ourselves up off the ground and say "Checkmate you assholes". I, Jack Armstrong, have autism, and I am a functioning member of society. I fish not to catch fish, but to escape all the hate.
OMG Jack! Amen! I am sick of the constant stigma that is placed upon ASD. It's like I am an outcast and even though I am somewhat functioning through these narrow tunnels of society, I am in constant inner turmoil and being a 44-year-old female with ASD, I am in my own abyss.
As a father of an autistic child, couldn't help crying when watching this. He's now 6 and the sweetest boy, rather stuck in funiculars at the moment. He learned to read and write when he was 5, so he'll maybe not having much trouble at school. He's going to speech and occupational therapists, though I don't really know how much it helps.
In Ontario there is lots of funding for autistic children but almost nothing after you turn 18. My advice is to look for resources at your local mental health services as there may be activities and groups to give you a bit of structure in your life. Also volunteering can be helpful.
It is especially horrible because many women get diagnosed later into adulthood because they often have different symptoms. Women often send themselves to a specialist in adulthood, to get tested. At adulthood, just diagnosed, they have no options. It’s terrible.
Here are some more questions: 1. How many families have the 50k+ a year for the extensive therapies needed for an autistic child? 2. Current predictions are that 1/2 of all boys and 1/3 of all girls will be on the spectrum by 2032 at the latest. Is there a place for all of them to become inspirational speakers, aritists, musicians, cheerleaders, etc.? Who will hold down the jobs required for their support? And where will all the money for the expensive theriapies come from? 3. Why is qutism now being promoted as a new nuerorype? Even an advanced neurotype by some? 4. Where or where is all of the critical research that should be being done to shut down the cascade new cases daily? 5. I applaud the progress this young man has made. Does he live and function completely independently?
I'm 32 and have Autism I have 12 UA-cam channels covering a wide verity of topics and over 100 million total online views because of my plastic chair passion been on national TV four times and in the local paper twice with my collection of now 300 chairs.
I PG, Yeah, I think I see what you mean...but who gon' pray for me? Take my pain for me? Save my soul for me? Cause I'm alone, you see! If I'm gon' live alone, if I'm gon' die alone, then I'll spill my blood with glee, hey! I fight the world, I fight life, I fight myself, yeah!
As a person with Aspergers, I am very alone. I grew up with a single father and three older sisters. My Dad had to work a lot, so he wasn’t really able to be there for me and I don’t hold anything against him for that. But I am essentially a self risen child, and I am alone. Finding love, and even friends, is incredibly difficult. I’ve only ever made friends with a guy who doesn’t have internet and doesn’t talk much at all, online I have friends, actual friends, who accept me for who I am, let me vent, and overall actually acknowledge me, unlike the serval hundred other people at my High School. I don’t blame my father for my position, I blame society, people, I may not like people, but I would never wish or want to hurt anyone, unless that person was trying to hurt me or someone else. Kids teased me as if I would be a school shooter even, I did get real mad, but only used my words to express how I felt, but people thinking I would hurt others just because I have a mental disorder is horrible. All I want is to make people happy, and smile, laugh. When I make others happy, I’m happy, but nobody accepts me. I wish people would understand my disorders, and would be more accepting.
@@deviritter5232 thank you for the support! This comment was made three years ago, and I'm glad to say I have grown a lot as a person. I've accepted many different things, and I don't feel as alone as I used to be. I have a stable job and a proper home to stay in. My social skills and the like have increased significantly over these past 3 years. Again, thank you for the support.
My friend Marcus has a seveare condition of autisim and he has it really Hard he would be locked in a room with No Windows and blocked the door... He has deppression... I try My Best to help him but it's Hard when i myself has ADHD but I try My Best... To help him as much as I can cause hes My Best friend...
I had all this questions and I fought for my son to have all services he could but Medicaid doesn’t do much. My son has been in group homes we need to fight to make this group home to get this behavior specialist to do whats right. this videos only have shown were this parents have the money or the good insurances but what about the poor the unfortunate parents. I would like to see TEDEX to show the real life of so many
My grandson never some till 3 just couldn't understand anything he said he started mainstream school but never seemed to fit in he accepted an invitation to church around the corner and made dozens of friend he eventually went to college far from home and worked in cafe God bless him I have 3autistic grandchildren at different ages I just hope they all get the same help x
My son was diagnosed with autism this week. I’ve had a mixture of emotions. Mostly worry and fear for his future. Thank you for speaking out it has helped me find some comfort and strength. You are an amazing person!
This video hit me hard. I am over 50 with so many concerns to keep me up at night every night. We are thrown under the bus on a daily basis. Some people believe that autism is the result of demons. Other people want an autism free world. They want us to be "cured" so that we are normal. It is a sad situation for everyone. We need more programs that make meaningful changes. Autism feels like a curse. I want a normal life.
Seems like a smart man. I myself was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, back before they took it out of the DSM. So my heart goes out to all autism people.
I was diagnosed with pdd nos when I was 16 and denied for 4 years that I didn't have it and now I am finnaly accepting what I have and I need to live with it
Thanks! this is an answer for me. I have a son 26 years old, he is Asperger, he is part of a juzz orchestra but he decided to abandon it because he wants to work as a seller in Amway, i was sad but now I feel better, maybe he find his way for his independent life.
Hi, I am also on the Autism Spectrum. I was first diagnosed at the age of 2 1/2 with language difficulties and sensory processing sensitivities. However, after further testing, I was diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder that was then known as PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified). However, my parents (particularly my mom) felt that I fit more of the criteria for another Autism Spectrum Disorder that was then known as Asperger Syndrome. My parents did not have any concerns about speech delays or losses, as I was an early talker, and never lost this ability (this was part of what led my parents to believe that an Asperger Syndrome diagnosis fit me better). My issues were more in the area of echolalia. If my mom said, "Leanne, do you want a glass of water," I would repeat, "Leanne, do you want a glass of water?" I also had some social issues. I have never had too many behavior issues, other than a few here and there, and if I did, it was very rarely anything that my school, bus driver, or parents could not handle. Growing up, I always had some difficulty understanding how my behavior affected others. Even the thought of people assuming that I simply did not care about how they were feeling was very heartbreaking for me, because that is, and always has been, far from the truth. It is much deeper than that. I do not pick up as easily on subtle emotional responses, such as twitching of the eyes (the beginning stages of crying), or clenching of the face (another early stage of crying or anger). However, I do understand more obvious emotional responses, such as crying. If you say that your feelings are hurt, I also understand this as well. However, I might not understand how what I did or said could POSSIBLY have hurt your or someone else's feelings! After all, I was only stating the obvious!
Think you so much for sharing this, you do not know how much this has helped to give me some releaf. I recently found out my daughter has autism and that same question has been haunting me. From the both of my heart, think you for sharing this.
As a 40 years old with asperger, I kept thinking what helped me all this while? I realized several things really help. The words of god and prophet who are the kindest, your motivation and support from others. We all need more support. I dont know what will happen next, but i sure if I still have those mentioned things, I can make it.
My son is Autistic but never really professionally diagnosed now he is 35 years old unable to find a job, unable to find love. Live in my basement. I feel so guilty, I feel that I fail him as a mother I should have get help for when he was a child. I tried to get some financial help for him now by applying for SSI but he was turned down. Help!!!!
His story is the typical media story: the non verbal kid that recovered. But for every success story there’s nine others who don’t even get close to developing their language skills or self help skills who will need to be in a 24 hour care supervision when the parents are unable or dead. And no one can provide peace of mind to those parents who wonder who will take these adults in and live them and not abuse them?
From my experience, it seems like the world totally abandons adults with autism.
Not those of us who have the privilege of working with them!
thank you
Unless you have a good support system in place.
Yes, I totally agree with that! Unfortunately, there is still the lack of resources and the assumption that ASD is only in childhood.
thats why humans are good at adapting
My son was non verbal until the age of 3. He wasn't social til he was 8. He is 12 today, a famous youtuber, and cant wait to go to college to learn more about CGI animation, web design and sound in filmaking. He has taught himself. He has even helped me design websites for clients, he can do coding, he has made many animations, created his own characters, he can mix and create his own original music with studio software. I spent the first five year at home teaching my son his ABC's, how to write before he turned 4. I took him to kids drop in centers to socialize with other kids. The first time he actually played with another child, I cried uncontrollably. Today he is has too many friends to keep up with from school.
Sarah Bellum Congratulations can you share yoir experience more with us do you have any blog
whats the youtube account of your son
@EdgyMonster Look at you your name is Edgy monster And lets be honest that kid probably will have a better future than you.
Hi i'm also a Mom of a child who's also non verbal can I chat with you if your free so as I can get the advice from you please he is 3pluse 2months but private
Sarah Bellum I'm so glad to hear that things are working out for you and yours. This gives me hope for the children that I know that are on the spectrum. That's the way that I think about them....it's a spectrum and the patients can move up and down on that spectrum.
My son is 38 and was diagnosed when he was 15 with Aspergers. There was the teasing, bullying and ostracization which Shaun was plagued with and you can't imagine how much sorrow was in our hearts. He put those struggles behind him and shone threw. The biggest hardship was that he never had a friend and still doesn't. I, his mother, have been his only true friend and I am so proud of that. We witnessed his fight to know who he is. Shaun has overcome the obstacles and is a strong, intelligent man with a heart full of gold. There are blurring of the lines on the autism spectrum but I never cared because he IS MY SON. God has given me such a precious gift. I am SO PROUD of him.
Hi Emma you have my respect and admiration, keep supporting your son 😊.
I'm 27 and have Asperger's and my mom wishes I was never born I'm going to kill myself no one loves me or wants me
@@divinebeing2476 You are worthy of living, don’t listen to your mom she is delusional. Surround yourself with positive people. Stay strong.
@@divinebeing2476 from all reader perspective... I wish I was a hand to be held .most lately I blend with any surrounding not visible. I wish just me was a good enough freind
@@divinebeing2476 hope you haven't
I am close to 70.
In the past 10 years I figured out I have autism.
There was never any doubt I was "different" but until discovering the label nothing made sense.
Fortunately I was really intelligent and motivated to work in school... but I was very isolated because I just couldn't understand other children.
I was trying to learn how to be interactive... but the effort it took was often overwhelming.
Thanks for your presentation.
I'm also a woman diagnosed with Austim(Very High Functioning, Aspergers) I have a very different time getting, keeping employment and keeping friends especially female friends In school especially HS I did struggle with certain subjects. It just hard living with this, its hard to be independent finacially live on your own and be comfortable. I did manage to find love in my life but it took me years. It not easy living on the Austim Spectrum but we like everyone else need to try our best. We are very bright smart people though as far as common else and logic.
Lauren Marzlock I’m the same as you I’m a 37 year old woman diagnosed with Aspergers at 23.
23M diagnosed Aspergers when I was 4 if I recall correctly. Relationships with friends and family feel weird awkward to me. Family more than friends really. Like I feel for them and I love them, but when I’m with them I can not for the life of me really say anything other than, “Thanks for dinner”, “Love you too”. It’s weird, but according to my grandma I “Haven’t let it define me or really hold me back”. It’s weird to say the least, glad to know there’s another one making it. Sorry for long reply
I was diagnosed at 31 after having a complete breakdown at work. That's what happens when you have to try and mask your whole life. At least I finally found out why I felt so different.
Jo 🦇 can you tell us more about your work breakdown?
I am 53 and still undiagnosed because I can't find somebody who will do the test in person because online doesn't do any good. I had a therapist who in 15 minutes could not notice that I wasn't making eye contact with her either that or she just thought it was because it was on the phone. I can't live alone literally I cannot live alone I've tried it doesn't work.
You brought tears to my eyes right off the bat. My twins are autistic. One just got diagnosed last week, and the other behind him. Listening to you speak alone helped and gave me hope. I needed to hear this. I needed to hear you speak from the point of view from where my sons are right at this moment. You have filled my heart with a lot of hope and strength. Thank you so much, Kerry.
aww god bless you and those twins it will be ok.. I am a autism mom to a 5 year old spunky daughter. This also gave me hope and reassurance.
I am a young adult with autism. The one thing that always helps along the way is to never give up on your children or child ever. Even though I was young I remembered how supportive and how loving and how they NEVER gave up on me and I'm grateful for that. The reason I say this is because I saw a mother on TV with an autistic boy and she gave up to quick. When an autistic child was having a melt down or they weren't talking and gave up too quickly. Another mother speaking to an autistic child like they were babies.
Make sure to push your kids even if it hurts. i remember my mom and dad pushing me to my limits. Now I'm a 19-year-old when telling people I have autism they are very shocked.
I may be slower than everyone else, all people from my school left college while I'm still here, but its ok one step at a time and I'm living my dream and plan to live with my best friend in the future.
There is certainly hope. I promise you.
It is very hard at times. All I want to do is speak with my kids and I can't like I do with my older daughter. I don't know if I am talking too much at times cause they do not respond, but I talk anyways. It warms my heart and gives me a LOT of hope and happiness for you to tell me this. Thank you so much! I will NEVER give up on my kids, they are the reason I breathe. Did you go through therapies? I am so curious. If you don't mind talking about it: authorhmarie@gmail.com I would absolutely LOVE to ask you questions if you are up for it! Again, thank you so much!!! *hugs*
Heather Marie Ah I get it I understand! I know how hard it must be on the other end when you talk and they dont know how to response. but your kids are still very young and have many chances! And Oh yes I certainly did have therapy! I had speech therapy and in the first half of my life I went to a special needs school to teach me some basic's. Then I was put in a mainstream school. It was hard but I did it and I was taught about time and stuff but it never got in my head. I also recommend being prepared to teach some things to your kids because although I learned pretty much the basic's I never passed maths and my parents are teaching me. But dont worry like I said every Autistic child is different. I have Asperger Syndrome. Oh I wouldn't mind at all! No problem! Oh! Id also recommend reading more on Autism but on a Autistic persons perspective. But any questions please do ask!
well I am autistic and I have wanted to die for years, no money, no friends, no partner
I like how when I defend myself it's called "aggressive tendencies"... but if anyone messes with me it's just no big deal. Good for any autistic who refuses to take any crap. (I know that wasn't the whole point here, but leave it to an aspie to lock on to a comment like that!).
+ExRepro Guitaro Amen ExRepro, back when I was a youth Autism was unheard of, so we grew up being called stupid, out of it, different and non-verbal and shy. Lucky for me I am large male that actually enjoys physical contact. One good thing about those days was fighting was an accepted thing for boys to do and many a bully met my fist first hand, then left me alone for good. I learned to embrace solitude as my baseline, and to this day remains my sanctuary. Peace
I knew it! Autism is nothing more than an arbitrary, self-contradictory concept, to oppress people for failure to conform.
ExRep Fiddlero do you have meltdowns? My son is 23 and still has problems. Just curious.
@@TheRojo387 what kind of degree do you have in science/medicine?
@@wonderbreadjumps Cert I Marine Biology, why?
I wish this video advocated more for adults who were never diagnosed. Also wish this video didn't pathologize autism so much. Not everyone has parents who recognize you have autism and get you the help you need. And not every person with autism sees it as something to overcome.
This is so true, generally people have alot to deal with, are overwhelmed and often are self absorbed. Then the quieter or more challenged people are discarded or overlooked and I think it is happening more now as we work and often have to live on our own. Try to reach out to others, but most importantly, find what it is you enjoy doing most that would be your productivity interest. So that when you feel a little forgotten, full fill your good time with what you like to do mostly. God bless you, we live to have life.
It's not that the autism is something to overcome, it's that all the challenges that comes with it are something to overcome. I had to overcome having meltdowns. I had to overcome my inability to communicate effectively with my peers. I had to overcome not knowing how to act in a professional environment. I had to overcome all my problems with executive function. And I still have some things to overcome, like not knowing how to approach people for the first time, and using the phone at work, and learning to drive. (And there are things I won't overcome, like face blindness.) I'm 34... other people have all this figured out by now. (Although, if someone is NT and doesn't have it all figured out, I totally get that.. there is a lot to figure out, after all, and most people aren't driven by the shame that comes with the possibility of being a perpetual outcast and a burden on your family for the rest of your life.) Autism isn't all bad, but it comes with some major hurdles, even on the high end.
@Electro Power well yeah it's different for everyone, but the problems they describe are very typical for autism. I have some of them as well and they ain't fun.
You can do anything you set your mind to: start with one goal at a time, take driving lessons. Adios
I'm autistic and I wont be diagnosed. That cant happen in my line of work. I would be disqualified, somehow.
We need to speak up! Nobody ever asked me MY side of the story in my early childhood. I remember some events like yesterday. Does that sound like I'm disabled? Oh please.....
Erik was 24 and suicided himself. My son told after his first attempt in the hospital the year before. "I can't function in society". I said "but you did so well in school". He said "I didn't want to disappoint the teachers". Been three years that he is gone and a year ago I drempt that he was autistic. That through me curve ball. I now see the signs but I was so blind to it while Erik was growing up. He was like the invisible child, always content or I thought and never complained about anything. He was always grateful for every day little thing, a real sweetheart. Then he was introduced to drugs. Where you are understood you are at home... it went down from that moment on. Thank you for what you do. Information is key for parents that go see the doctors and being told that he or she will grow out of it. Like I've lived. God bless and keep on the good work. Love ya! 🌞
26 and newly alone as far as parents so points to you for caring.😓
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I'm sorry for your loss. I identify myself with his story, 22 years old, trying to get a diagnosis, recover and grow.
Hope you're fine.
When he stated, "what will happen to my son when I'm gone?", brought tears to my eyes. I have 2 sons with autism and epilepsy. I deal with that question everyday and the worry I have for them is insane. My sons are 19 and 15, as my sons get older the fear becomes stronger.
I am deeply concerned for your worry, I hope over time you can connect with a like minded community. Keep reading and researching it's all part of the wonderful journey. We don't all live in the one place, thankfully! each place has offerings of different things and circumstances but there always seems something special and worthwhile in each. Don't limit yourself nor your son's keep them learning too. Sometimes connecting with a local church for support resources can also mean alot and at times, lighten the load. Keep reaching and growing. God bless you and your son's.
That question makes me worry, too. My son has asperger. But I try to struggle. Now Im researching ABA method. I hope it will help
Try GAPS diet for your children. It might help.
That's a worry for most if not all autistic mom's. I had this very conversation last week and came up with a plan.
Me too. My 3 year was just diagnosed. Everything is unknown. It’s scary.
My best friend was non verbal until age 5. Today he has a great job, married and have 3 kids. He is a bit reserved but has always been there for me
That’s inspiring! Thanks for sharing this!
Im 13, I have autism and I can thankfully still attend a normal school but its not that easy but im happy that people help boys and girls like us .
@@thicctony6236 Good advice, why don't you try it?
Luna Fowler I have no need it’s just that our *special friend* has to try it
@@thicctony6236 Considering the fact that you told somebody to just will away a livelong medical condition he can't really do anything against but learn how to better cope with it you seem to have a greater need for it.
@@thicctony6236 I don't need to try.
Normie Lover Lmao
My daughter is 7 with only a few words. I will never give up on her!
Check her hearing. Autistic people can be over or under sensitive. My son has over sensitivity in noise. It took me 13 years to find that out. Perhaps change diet and try cbd oil.
@@victoriawardrope9843 there are herbs to cure these
@@angonsframes Which herbs? Can you explain
u cant cure autism with herbs.
@@victoriawardrope9843 funny you mention that..my granddaughter is 7 and when we turn the vacuum on she screams and runs from the room...other noises bother her too..she’ll cover her ears ...
I love how he concluded with, “All of our brains work differently. Just be weird.” ❤
Having experienced both weirdness (in my case, autism) and Substance Use Disorder, I can say, from experience, that being weird is what’s up! That really hit home for me, one day, when I was a room of people using drugs, which I used to mask my weirdness and someone in that room pointed out that I was weird. There’s nothing we can do to stop being who we are. Embracing ourselves and our weirdness is much more helpful!
I lived my whole life up til recently, (almost 20) without being diagnosed or knowing I'm autistic. Going though harassment, bullying, shunning, from students and teachers alike. I have trauma from school to this day
I'm so sorry honey. Ppl can be sO cruel. Show them your better....bc you ARE.
Blessings to you dear.
Gods Speed ✌❤
maryann Hope ❤️❤️❤️
Is there an option for changing your school? If not, keep going. Tap into your talents and focus on that and the people around you who are supportive. Keep researching, learning and keep with like minded people. Protect your self and stay safe. Indulge in your life not others who are harmful. God bless you.
I am so sorry to hear that, i pray u get some loving and caring friends who can make u overcome this trauma💖love from pakistan 💖
My advice keep doing what makes u happy and don't bother about others reaction. Always remember if u stop giving response to their billing they will stop billing automatically. Dear try this and believe me it will work.
i have high functioning autism and i just lost my job, it was in the finishing department of a company that makes expensive antique lamps. they said i wasn't meeting the speed requirements of the job, i started this year in may. i miss my co-workers most of all...
awww...so sorry friend! I lost my job too.... I will keep you in my prayers!
Yoko's Variety Channel I'm sorry, I hope you both get back up on your feet.
I totally get the difficulty of meeting the high demands the work environment places on us. It's like I have to always try extra hard to keep up with the dynamics of the job and expectations. It gets exhausting to have to work so hard day to day when it should be able to come naturally.
I can't wait to get a job
I hope you find an amazing job with new amazing co-workers! ✌
I'm 21 and I have autism myself and my problem is basically I get stressed very easily it can happen just by the most simple things like tying my shoes. but one thing that has helped me most of my life is my interest for cosplay and Star Wars. maybe it's just me but this helps me a lot.
andrew kruse do whatever makes you feel happy.. also if it helps qith stress thats a bonus... we all need good coping mechanisms
andrew kruse - I am autistic adult too and my interests in Star Wars and comic book art really help me too!
andrew kruse same here I reenact civil war and later and I feel that it helps me communicate especially if I'm doing volunteer work for the park service
When did you begin to speak?
That is basiclly meh
Man, this man here is one of the few people in the world I actually care about. Because he actually cares. It actually matters to him concerning others. So I honestly wish him every success. I mean, whether Taylor Swift or Kanye West or Trump or Putin do well or poorly, I couldn't care less. But a person like him, completely under the radar, someone only those close to him would know, but the public would never find out about, unless they go out of their way to look for him, whether he lives or dies, it truly truly matters to me.
I'm 30 something right now, and I'm autistic. I currently have 4 degrees. My first degree is in aerospace and I was trained by NASA right before the man space flight went away. After that, the only job I was able to get was janitor type work. Many weeks I was paid $8 A WEEK. I worked in manufacturing, freelance, and a number of other things. I've dealt with extreme workplace harassment in most of the jobs I worked, I've been laughed out of interviews, and I found there is virtually no protection for people who are autistic. After a given age getting jobs became more and more rare to the point it isn't happening anymore. Sure, I can get a HS level job. But with all I went through when I was in HS I tried to off myself and I wish it was successful. My backup plan for if I couldn't get a job and what kept me from offing myself for many years is I figure if I couldn't get a job at least I can go into the military as an officer. It turns out there is policies against people who are autistic from joining.
And to be blunt about it. I've been burnt by this society so much that I honestly just want to be retired. Right now I make little to nothing on UA-cam, some 3D printing, and I'm getting into independent product development. I would be more than happen if some of them just works out and I can do that. So it isn't like I will be sitting and doing nothing. But I'm so tired of things that if it doesn't get better by 2022 then I doubt I will see 2023.
It's sad in the USA to get disability you must have an extensive work history, and autistic people have near 0% chance of getting anything. And with SSI if you're valued of $2k or more then you don't qualify. So by me trying to improve myself and have a chance I'm out of luck. My 3D printer setup mix with my computer and laser/cnc alone goes way over that. Something I use to make what little I do now and that gives me any shot of getting into a better life to start with.
Something to note is some might think my dream is to have a job. But my overall goal was to have a stable life and I always wanted to have a stable family. Something I never had since many family members even today has nothing to do with me to the point they blamed me once saying my parents and I tried to kidnap my grandparents when my grandparents and I went to look at where they grown up. I can get deeper, but the reason why getting a job was so important to me is that I always believed if you're not financially stable then you shouldn't bring a kid into the world. So if I was retired, then financially stable enough to at least keep them out of poverty and help guide them to a better future than I had hopefully.
Sadly, I doubt I will even have the ability to have a stable family and stable life before I die. For those of you who have that or can. Know that you're lucky.
Dear Craig, I hope things are better for you and I hope that you are still around.
I pray things get better for you 🙏
Never give up. If you cant find employment, be self-employed. I believe in you.
I hope you're doing OK. You're not alone through this and we're thinking of you. Could you not use the NASA aquired skills in the engineering, IT or aeronautics space? Maybe just send out your resume to different companies and be transparent about who you are, what you feel you can contribute and how best they could accommodate you. It's sure to land in the right hands at some point. Just don't ever give up.
I'm praying for you. Hoping your prospects are improving ❤
I wasn't diagnosed with Autism until I was 52, and only after my big sister pestered me for several years to get tested because she wanted to know why I was such a little weirdo growing up. I am 55 now. I may know a little on why I am what I am, and I missed a lot of life experiences for people not understanding me and letting me go it alone because all they knew about me was I could accomplish anything I put my mind to, but it wasn't what they wanted me to apply myself in. To me, if I held a job for a year, I was considered successful: my longest job was 5 years.
I can relate, I was diagnosed last year at age 31. I'm still a little weirdo 😄
You are sucess and great💖
Karl Peterson 3 years was the longest I ever lasted a nightmare job
@@nunpho Hello, where did you get tested? I am 30 and wanting answers... thanks
@@natashaarango1304 I was seeing a psychotherapist/mental health nurse
I have a son on the spectrum and he’s brilliant, especially when it comes to his passions. I’m amazed at his knowledge when it pertains to topics he interested in. He has taught me so much, and I’m so grateful for him everyday. I want parents who have had a recent diagnosis to know that autism can be a gift as long as you channel their interest. Focus on them and allow them to flourish.
This was a great TedTalk by Kerry Magro. My concern as an adult diagnosed with Autism is that lack of effective and efficient programs that help adults with autism/Asperger to be successful in life. We need to find a way to bring a solution to this problem. Thank you Kerry for what you do in the community.
The most difficult thing is the constant guilt I feel from feeling useless and unable to support, love or care
same here which is why i deleted my facebook
Yes, for parents this is a daily worry. My daughter is 20, diagnosed with HFA at the age of 17 after years of significant problems. She can't drive, college is too stressful, restaurants overwhelm her. I wish she could blossom as this man did, but she hasn't and I worry constantly about her future.
How is she doing? I hope things are improving for your daughter.
See if she can get social security disability if you haven’t already. We did it with our ASD daughter, and it’s a relief.
Yeah I really am trying to juggle somewhat of a school life along with watching the latest series and movies and playing video games while keeping my religion and learning life skills it has been a journey
Does she have any hobbies or interests? Things that she’s naturally attracted to? It’d be good if she can focus and build her future on those interests.
Alternatively, certainly Tech companies hire autistic people to ‘clean code’ which i think involves checking the quality of coding. It’s worth looking into that as a potential employment opportunity for her. Generally the tech sector is a bit more welcoming area for autistic people than the other industries.
I am the mom of a 32 year old son on the autism spectrum. He is able to work and he lives in a IDL home and loves it. He has so many dreams. I feel inadequate in trying to help him. He was lucky he didn’t get picked on growing up. He was like you and didn’t speak until he was 3. He has always been outgoing and has a great deal of support.
I have autism and I’m 17 and I don’t know how to grow up my mom is helping me but still it’s really hard
Im at where you were, how'd it go for you?
My 8 year old was diagnosed when he was 3 years old and been in ABA therapy since his diagnosis... it has helped him learn to talk, get potty trained and overall help his behavior. He is doing amazing and your proof that anyone’s future can be bright no matter the circumstances !!! Thanks for sharing I subscribed and hit your bell!!!
My son is 2 years old and he’s diagnosed with level 2Autism, i dont know how to deal with it. But I gotta be strong!!!
I am 19 years Old female young adult in art college and I am working independently and respected by my peers. I have been told by my teachers that I encourage others and lighten up the mood in the room. I am told I am kind and caring and can understand somewhat emotions of other people its recognizing those emotions that I find difficult and cannot tell what people think about me just by what they say or how they look at me and sometimes I think people hate me when it isn't the case.
There IS hope no matter what anyone says. When you have an Autistic child they DEPEND on you, they LOVE you they ADORE you. I have so much to say on autism and I want to become a national speaker or do talks like this myself but all I got to say there is hope and all the hard times will just be a distant memory. We are like everyone else and our Autism does NOT define who we are and even though we are born with Autism it is not our personality or what makes us, us. Sure it is a small part of us but it is not a label to bare. Autism is my pride at this point. Showing others that it is not what everyone says it is and that I am a living example of what an Autistic child can be when not given up on. (also sorry if it sounds like I have a ego here. XD)
You dont sound like you have a big ego darling, it sounds to me like you're awesome & in your later years you just may be a GREAT EDUCATOR ✌❤
GODS SPEED. Xo
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@@maryannhope8276 thank you
I have a child with autism,your word it just inspiring it make me think about my son ...may God bless your father and your mother being there for you.
Amen
My son is my school. They are able to teach us more than we ever imagine
I am from India. My 5 yrs old son is autistic. Since last year, lot of improvement as he started speaking few words, 3-4 words sentences.. still not properly pronouncing few letters like G J L .. Most of time he repeats question and then try to answer. He can write A-Z, numbers up to 200 but takes lots of time as he goes day dreaming lots of time (not good hand writing). Just recently, I have taught him some math like < > = signs, basic addition,, now starting subtraction.. He can play few rhymes on piano too. He open his games, plays and shut down PC on his own. Lots of improvements. Started playing with elder bro. Just passed Lower KG class, now starting Upper KG. Teacher was so supportive in school, that helped a lot as school wasn't keen to admit my son initially. Can't say how long he will be able to continue in school. Trying my best to teach him max. But yes, worried life after me. In my country, most of people dont even know what autism is. Forget about any help or support from any part or govt. Have to manage by our self. His hyperness has come down quite a lot. He has some amazing skills I feel. But unfortunately, will be very tough for me to support him long, as i said no support at all from govt here. So, hope is a great word. God is another. Blessing too. Love you all. Love to your kids
Hi Nadir, I am from India too and my 4 years old son has also been diagnosed autistic last month. We r yet to get admission for OT and speech therapy. I have heard that there is a government scheme called Niramaya for autistic children. U may want to check it out. May your child continue to flourish.
@@snigdhadas3507 hi. Thank you for the information. I didn't knew about it. Will definitely look in details. My son is now 7. Going class 2. Improving every year. Process is slow though. But better late than never as they say. Wishing your son lots of happiness and the best of everything.
@@nus786 Thanks a lot. I wish your son also does great. Keep working on him. Stay strong.
I'm 23 and I am autism without asperger. this year i will change, lose some weight, excerise, and get a job. when my family told me that I have to learn something different like going to college or go to work. but I've always be with my family and friends and it's because I'm autism
Well... It's like having the right skill set and knowledge for various jobs but zero ability to socially interact where needed to seek promotions and better jobs. I'm usually regarded as being a top performer in almost any job I have but am forgotten quickly as the silent ghost that keeps the wheels turning. It's difficult and leaves much to be desired in pay and growth potential.
Couldn't have said it better my self
You're describing my father in describing yourself. I'm autistic and I think my father was too. He had these same complaints despite the fact that he seemed naturally charming and gracious (no doubt that was hard-won). There are people who get ahead because they have both the skills to do the work and the ability to self promote. However, far too many only know self-promotion and as they get promoted they end up hurting the departments and companies they work for. I listened to my father complain and realized that if I were going to get ahead, I was going to need to promote not me but my ideas. Someone who hired me later said, "I've had plenty of people sell themselves in a job interview, and you're the first one to deliver." I'm pro-social so perhaps this is a bit easier for me. Yes, I have communication deficits. I do not understand indirect communication and can't memorize and intellectually interpret body language because I can't focus on listening to words while integrating visuals. (I seem to be more profoundly affected in that way than other autistic friends of mine who have had less success in the world of work.) What I learned to do was be direct and speak up when I had an idea. I looked for opportunities to show what I had to offer. My goal was to make wherever I worked better.
It's clear that you can organize thoughts and write well. If you haven't already tried this, consider writing out your ideas, making written proposals where appropriate, and then write a script for how you're going to present it to whomever. Rehearse that with a friend until it is natural, and until you can say it with a few prompts on a 3x5 card. Take the card with you. There's no harm in that.
One of the things that helped me get ahead is that I took every opportunity to do things that scared me. One of those things was to become a public speaker. Doing begets doing. Skill sets improve. Sure, I'll never get indirect language, but in work, where I was generally well-liked (with some haters because others think if you shine, you steal their shine) direct communication worked well for me. I also joined committees, took on extra work, and was never a YES man. THAT, and my ability to gently point out where something that was in the works was likely not going to work and why and what might work instead, beyond anything else earned me respect.
Also, the motivations for many people on the job who appear to be actively pushing themselves have to do with ego. When you're working with people if you pay attention, you can see who is goal-oriented or more ego-oriented. (Everyone wants to get ahead but some people are testier and potentially dangerous.) That's important information when talking with people. Many of us are good at seeing patterns, and while I have trouble with the one-to-one, by observing others when I'm not part of the interaction, I can generally see the politics of the situation (e.g., like systems language... what system is at play?) If I didn't dive in when first employed, took my time to observe the pace of work around me (usually slower than I'd produce) and match it initially, took my time to observe those around me before I got to know them, I could suss out who to be careful with and who to trust. (I'm terrible at this socially, but as I said, work motivations are much easier to ascertain.) If you're pattern-oriented, try applying that to the behavior you see around you. In this way, you can see who might be an ally and who is potentially dangerous to you if / when you speak up.
I'm not saying this was easy. I have a few horror stories, but businesses also grew because I took what I had to offer seriously enough to learn how to communicate my ideas to the powers that be. I wish you the best. I hope some of these strategies work for you.
Wow. I have not been diagnosed but this is my life experience. I can totally relate. I'm in the process of having my son tested.
@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS I don't usually write comments, but I feel it is important to say that the way you write and explain things has made me feel very understood, which is just about the rarest feeling for me.
This has made me see why it is important to not mask oneself; there are people who understand, but I'm not finding them because I hide. I need to just be direct.
Thank you for expressing your thoughts.
My step-brother has aspergers and he's probably the funniest, kindest and smartest person I've ever met but sometimes I feel like he feels that nobody understands him. He has trouble at school (goes to a special-ed school) because of teachers that don't understand him and the kids in class sometimes mock him, making him hate school more. I feel so incredibly bad for him and his mom does everything she can to make him have the best experience at school and life in general. He has a really bright future but just wish we could understand his ways of thinking better.
Hannah Sweens this warmed my heart! Being kind, loving and accepting is the most wonderful thing you can offer him. 💕
I am a adult with Autism and I started talking at age 3 used the restroom at age 5 tied my shoes at age 14 in 1999 and got my high school degree in 2006 at age 21 now I am turning age 32 and nobody knows about how I changed I met Jesus in January 27th 2009 and I came back from heaven more normal.
Blessings! Your young life sounds like my grandson, he’s going on 5 in November. It’s wonderful to hear that one day he too can function in life. I do believe every human on earth is on the spectrum somewhere! Thank you for giving me a ray of sunshine! Grandmother Bear !!!
I can tell you what happens to those with Asberger's: We become alienated, lonely and depressed. That's assuming you don't manage to off yourself somewhere along the ride.
Lord Victor Halgaard I'll probably do that soon.
God hasnot created anyone useless, we all have something to contribute and feel fulfilled, i hope u get some caring people around u💖
@@medfreak Appreciate the sentiment. But someone's imaginary friend hasn't created anyone. And there are plenty of people who are not just useless, but even a burden to the world.
@@tiptoes9847 hey, only seen this now. Are you ok? Don't give the world the satisfaction. It is them that are broken, not us. We have more compassion and heart than most people, we love much, but also hurt much. Keep your chin up, be stubborn and keep living. Life is a gift even when it hurts ❤️
@sydefx yes, autism is horrible, but God is amazing. He uses the weak things of the world (like us) to shame the world. Today, I feel awful, but tomorrow is a new day and another new beginning and if I can help one person feel better today, it's worth it
You are an amazing speaker kerry!! Keep going!
Being a father i was worried about my son .. Even i dont know my 6 month old son is autistic or not .. But now im really relaxed as before .. Because society told me that autistic is something like abnormal or mental .. Autism is just social .. Behavioral .. Physical interaction .. Easy its not a big deal .. My son recognized me and its enough for me :)
The best and beautiful answer 👍
There's so much of my th thoughts in this video. Knowing I'm going to die one day. Who will love my son. My hearts so heavy thinking my baby will never speak.
Well there are other means of communication besides verbally speaking. You just gotta explore what his best means of communication are. Just because he’s different does not mean he’s lesser than anyone else
I feel that way too. My son has autism.
My son talked only when he was 8 y old....now he is 15 and he doesn't keep quiet for a minute...he speaks 2 languages and he thought himself to read and write. The future is killing me , as I worry 24/7 about it.
Thank you
I am a 49 year old female with PDD-NOS, I have learned to live with it and despite the challenges and limitations, I am a single mom and living a happy life, I have a full time job and drive a car, there's always hope for things to turn out fine.
But I have to thank my family who have helped me get here where I am now. Getting the right support is vital in life.
Nice how's your kid doing?
Wow...that’s wonderful...
No wonder you get invited to do a second one. You have very good stage presence. You deserve to be who you are in the autism community... being one of the recognisable faces amongst autism advocates (self or parent).
I am actually going to be a 2x TEDx Talker myself soon. I didn't get to where I am without the loving support of my family and my colleagues in the field of OT... aside from my determination to succeed after realising there is immense value of my work.
Unlike many autism self advocates who get on the TEDx stage, though, I think the topic of my second TEDx will surprise many not only in the OT community (since many know my strengths and weaknesses very well), but also the autism community. I say that because the topic will be nothing about autism. In fact, it is actually a topic that is not even in the top 3 of my preferred subject areas. Yet, through some support of my colleagues (as well as my willingness to challenge myself), I muster the courage to do it.
One thing for sure... I will LOVE to see what the autism community thinks about my second TEDx Talk that will be out later this year.
Wow this guy is a real inspiration. My 7 year old boy is autistic and just watching and listening to him fills me with hope that my little boy will be capable of living independently, follow his dreams and live his dreams..all through the love and support that me and his mother give him. He was diagnosed with ASD and mild development delay early on which then enabled him to receive the right support at school and since then he has come on leaps and bounds and has overcome a lot of things already. Yes there will be many more but he has the strength to overcome them too, coupled with our love, support and encouragement. God bless you Kerry and you are living proof that anybody, autistic or not CAN become a success like you have, again all through love, support and encouragement!
You gave me hope from your words. I am so proud of you for advocating for adults with Autism. We need it. Thank you!
When my mum was sick with stage 4 cancer I was only 21 an 23 when she died and my step Father made a promise to her that he would look out for me and help me his whole life so she could leave feeling better. It help. So I would say find someone if you who can be there for them. It will give you peace of mind
I was turned down for disability because I am a high functioning autistic person and had a good gpa in school but I’m 29 and never had a job and can’t find a job. I just got turned down for a dishwasher job at red lobster. I’ve got 45k in debt for my degree and I can’t graduate because I can’t pass math. I was homeschooled after 3rd grade, never went to high school. So I never got into programs for autistic people. I have lived at the same house my whole life but because my grandma ran out of money she has to sell the house and move to a rental out in the country. It’s July 28th and I’ve got till the 31st to find a place to live. I have no savings and I’m so scared of ending up homeless especially out in 110 degree heat. I apply for so many jobs but I never get hired. If I do get hired I’m going to spend the rest of my life paying off my debt with minimum wage jobs and living in a cheap apartment. I see these programs for adults with autism and they are all in California or Chicago. I’m in Phoenix Arizona and I can’t afford to move and those cities are even more expensive. The cost of living here has skyrocketed. I got no savings. I wish there were more services for autistic adults. I’m just terrified of my future.
Hang in there. It is always darkest before the sun rises.
Do you have any specific accommodations for you in college? Do you have dyscalculia?
Be patient with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Take little steps.
My son who is 3.8 yrs old, 1 year back he diagnosed with Autism. Below are symptoms-
1. Poor eye contact
2. Poor response
3. Poor understanding and sense
4. Excess self talk
5. Repetitive behavior
Since 1 year, he is going through Speech therapy, ABA, occupational therapy hence he has improved a bit but still a lot to go. Hope he will be able to live independently. My main goal is help him to live independently as I won't be with him for whole of his life.
Kerry Magro this is the first time i listen to you. You warmed my heart with your kind thoughts for others, thank you for sharing the importance that children in the spectrum need tenderness, caring and loving parents, and this is not what some children receive at home...my best regards to the children that don't have a village, parents, other family members to let them know that they're love, awesome, smart and that they have the power to do their best.
I’m a newly diagnosed ADHD/Autism Spectrum Disorder at 43!
I have 2 children who are Autistic and ADHD and it has not been easy. I have struggled with this since childhood but never felt like I had never fit in and struggled with so many issues that I am also working with my children.
My son have autism and the biggest problem for me is the financial burden as my wife is working and I have to look after my son but I'm always worried that he can get lost and he would not be able to communicate with somebody in a way for him to find his way home it is something that scare me everyday and I always make sure to arrive at his school on time but they will be a day that i'll be too old or cease to exist that worried me as I couldn't care less about my own mortality but people are cruel and my son is the sweetest kindest person I know that I ever had the pleasure to meet and I worry that people will take advantage of his good nature and mistreat him without me being there to protect him.
I know the feeling. I'm autistic, and it looks like my daughter is too. I'm also fated to not be around for much longer, so I fear everyday what will happen when I'm not here to protect her.
The truth of parenting is "protect the king". The next generation. Do everything you can to set the stage, and pass along your knowledge and values. The king is vulnerable, but not defenseless. Just handicapped. Same as me. Same as all of us.
My personal plan is to teach her everything I can about how to use her talents to keep herself safe. It's all I can do. From there, she'll have to forge her own path. As scary as it is, that's the way of the world. My mother kicked me out at 17, and for 6 years we didn't speak. I know now that she was cutting the cord and forcing me to use what I had learned to cut a swathe through the world. It was the only way I ever would.
I thank her every time I see her now. Think about that.
@@ExcuseZero what was it like getting kicked out? Did u have money to get an apartment or something?
Wow ! What will happen in our world to him ? We need comprehensive medicare for all
Kerry you’re an Angel 👼. From beginning to end, his speech was very emotional, but when he referred to the question, what will happen to my son when I’m gone? That made me cry and I felt a great inexplicable emptiness in my chest. Thank you for your courage and for making us feel how beautiful and important human beings you all are. Also, why should we and have to change our way of seeing life, be empathetic with children and adults with Autism and give you all of our support and love that you all deserve. A big hug Kerry. My best wishes for you forever💓💓👏👏👏
This is so true. The disability doesn’t end at 17.
This guy's parents sound amazing.
I sure hope my son will be surrounded with loving people who will help him when I'm gone 😥
Autism advocacy for high functioning is really poor. I have that college degree but the only support out there is for high school type work like retail and fast food. I graduated with honors in college and was top in my class as a flight attendant because seeing the world was my dream but apparently my dream should have been to not try and get government help because I would have more money coming in. I lost my independence in the process trying. Not enough employers out there that will support someone with Autism. If they have to provide a certain amount of jobs to people with Autism it's being a Janitor. It's sad because I tried to keep up with my peers but instead just get blocked at the door when I am more than qualified.
That's so disappointing when you put in so much effort. Hugs. I'm so sorry.
Get your story out. Maybe eventually society will change.
I'm 17 with autism and I'm so scared I do not want to live with my parents forever and I can't drive because I'm visually impaired. I want to go to college for fashion design and I have an extreme love for music. I'm trying to be independent but I fall behind my age group and I don't have any real friends.
Jazzy Glo girl litteraly me
. Go with facts, go with a job that requires not driving, taking a bus, is nearby. You need to save to get into an apartment. Millions try to get into that inner circle of fashion design, and don't get there. What are your chances--not good odds. Find something you could study to make a good living, be realistic. What about taking a few classes at a time and becoming a music teacher for kids? If you can learn the mathematics of design, you can learn music theory and that is your passion. Think about it--just a suggestion. Making a point, you need to be realistic.
You can achieve anything. Autistic people wear clothes too. You can design clothes for people who have autism. Good luck x
I'm 18 and I'm in the same boat as you. I don't have any friends and I don't want to live with my parents. (they're abusive, and I grew up in poverty. I'm temporarily living with my granny atm) If you ever want to text me, I'd love to be your friend.
@@realtinobrien2140 i don't have friends either
Besides advocating for autistic children it's more important to teach everyone about autism itself. There are way too many autistic individuals out there getting diagnosed at late age, just because they are intelligent enough to mimic "normal behaviour". If the people around them would know about autism and what comes with it, that wouldn't be necessary and can literally save lifes.
I'm 29 years old, got my diagnosis just 1,5 years ago. For 27 years nobody noticed that I can't express feelings or the pictures I have in my head, that I have real difficulties in communication. That's because I'm one of those intelligent people able to "blend in". These "autistic masks" are using a lot of energy, because the behaviour we show is not based on intuition like normal people do, but it's almost completely based on cognitive efford. That means autistic people can indeed learn to be "normal", but the price for that is way too high. If the people around us would know about this, this "blending in" wouldn't be necessary at all and we could use that energy for the topics we're really interested in - and achive our dreams.
He has so much empathy ❤️
You are brave to overcome the obstacles of autism..God bless you youngman..Always be happy
My brother has autism, this is so relatable. I cried from the start.
Awe...I know how you feel....
Please continue to share your story. We need more awareness surrounding Autism.
I see too much negativity on it or such conditions being labeled as “bratty.”
We need more positive influences to better support those in need. More awareness hopefully means more help and ultimately understanding. I wish you the best in life.
As a mom of a 23 year old son who is autistic and not a day goes by that I don't worry about my son when I pass on. I Love him to the moon and back. He has been the most happiest kindest person I have ever known. There are no help from anyone just me. My son has never had friends no party invites no girlfriends and just lives in his own world. He lives with me and I not able to work due to my son's disabilities so life with a lot of worry and no answers.
Thanks for your talk, my son is 13 years old now we found out when we noticed he's losing his eye contact and speech at age 2, the most lovely child, the kindest. It's heart warming to hear you, however, we're dealing with so much as he has become aggresive and violent in the last 3 years. We are worried about everything that you talked about. 🙏🙏🙏❤
I have 4 boys on the spectrum and they are all very different. They range from severe to very high functioning autism. No one knows how I ended up with 4 out of 5 children with autism but I know they are all headed down different paths and that it will be challenging but I’m encouraged every single day by any progress they make, no matter how small. Thank you for this speech.
Captcha Neon you sound like a wonderful parent. Please continue to stay strong for your sweet and dear children. My grandson age 3yrs. has autism. God bless you.
dbcooper2 Thank you so much. Awww so sweet about your grandson, I bet you must be so proud of him 💜 You know I had someone ask me “Wouldn’t you like to change it all?!” And without thinking I immediately said “No, why?!” And I can still remember the strangest look on their face. You know, I don’t regret any of them or how they turned out, they will always be my sweet boys and they light up my world.
If you were smart you would have caught on that vaccines cause autism so that at least your younger children could live normal lives.
Captcha Neon because there is a high genetic component
@@BenKlassen1 and then they would die of measles and give it to your other kids and kill them too.
I ask this question over and over again....thank you for this!
I’m about to be 18 and autistic. I’m terrified about what I’m gonna do in life.
my son is non verbal autistic with sensory processing disorder (SPD) ... this subject is my biggest fear... I've lost sleep over this... I've cred over this... it scars the hell out of me... to think what will happen if something happens to me..........
Joe Phillips what do u mean.. if something happens to you...
Like a car accident... or I get hurt at work ect.
Or I'm 80yrs old and pass away from old age.. then who's to care for my 55 year old autistic son
seek a therapist.. the more options you have the better... they can help..
i think preparation is key...
Thank you very much for this video. It was sad to know that I am not the only parent who struggles with these questions. I loved the self reflection piece. I often get so worked up about the school calls, the youth center calls, etc and forget how wonderful my baby is. I loved this video sooo much and will keep cherished as a motivational reflection always.
My son will be Two soon. Hasn’t been diagnosed but he has all the signs. This gives me great hope...thank you.
Well good for you. My parents didnt do anything about me being this. And now im 34 im feel so alone. Only my cat is with me, comforts me a little. In the philippines its really hard to get diagnosed since psychiatrist aren't updated.
Sorry too hear this hope you have made some friends
God bless Kerry and all those on the spectrum ♥️ thank you Kerry for all that you are doing.
It really is not easy having autism and is a constant struggle. It is a nightmare . There is not any support due to governments and cut backs. Finding love is almost impossible. It is awful and I would pay a million dollars to make it go away.
Donna Summers It is impossible for us to lose, but infuriatingly difficult to win. But some, like me, think we've found the one person who see us for what we are, not for the label others put onto us, a label that is a horrendously obscured little piece of paper, on our diagnosis, on our prescription, that one word, the word that others use on us, is autism, and it's image is so blurred that the people who have not seen an autistic except for in a hospital from a distance think that it is from vaccines. They're just mere pawns, on the side of the media, and they are in the grand chess game between fact and the media, the chess game, that I believe we are losing. I am that pawn making that heroic journey to the other side of the board to revive the queen so that we can muster up the strength to pick ourselves up off the ground and say "Checkmate you assholes". I, Jack Armstrong, have autism, and I am a functioning member of society. I fish not to catch fish, but to escape all the hate.
I know your feeling.
It is a nightmare but it doesn't have to be. The best thing that you can do is, "Make the difference."
OMG Jack! Amen! I am sick of the constant stigma that is placed upon ASD. It's like I am an outcast and even though I am somewhat functioning through these narrow tunnels of society, I am in constant inner turmoil and being a 44-year-old female with ASD, I am in my own abyss.
Foxmanded42 it isn't bad but I'm lower on the spectrum
As a father of an autistic child, couldn't help crying when watching this. He's now 6 and the sweetest boy, rather stuck in funiculars at the moment. He learned to read and write when he was 5, so he'll maybe not having much trouble at school. He's going to speech and occupational therapists, though I don't really know how much it helps.
In Ontario there is lots of funding for autistic children but almost nothing after you turn 18. My advice is to look for resources at your local mental health services as there may be activities and groups to give you a bit of structure in your life. Also volunteering can be helpful.
It is especially horrible because many women get diagnosed later into adulthood because they often have different symptoms. Women often send themselves to a specialist in adulthood, to get tested. At adulthood, just diagnosed, they have no options. It’s terrible.
i wish people could know u can seem like a normal person, employed and have a family, living indepdently and still be autistic...
We are in New Jersey and our 3 years old son diagnosed with autism.
Please please please recommend us therapists!
Good ABA, speech and OT and
of course good nutrition food for the brain.
Here are some more questions:
1. How many families have the 50k+ a year for the extensive therapies needed for an autistic child?
2. Current predictions are that 1/2 of all boys and 1/3 of all girls will be on the spectrum by 2032 at the latest. Is there a place for all of them to become inspirational speakers, aritists, musicians, cheerleaders, etc.? Who will hold down the jobs required for their support? And where will all the money for the expensive theriapies come from?
3. Why is qutism now being promoted as a new nuerorype? Even an advanced neurotype by some?
4. Where or where is all of the critical research that should be being done to shut down the cascade new cases daily?
5. I applaud the progress this young man has made. Does he live and function completely independently?
I'm 32 and have Autism I have 12 UA-cam channels covering a wide verity of topics and over 100 million total online views because of my plastic chair passion been on national TV four times and in the local paper twice with my collection of now 300 chairs.
It is amazing, Bryan! :)
I would like to take a look at those
Bryan Ropar's Plastic Chair World
Bryan Ropar's Plastic Chair World
I am interested. I want to check your channels.
Wow,,, so good to hear that💖
Very well expressed. He has truly arrived.
It was a pleasure meeting you in Saint Augustine Florida! Maybe I can catch you speaking in November in Sydney Australia!
Regardless of your condition, always push yourself and never settle.
I PG, Yeah, I think I see what you mean...but who gon' pray for me? Take my pain for me? Save my soul for me? Cause I'm alone, you see! If I'm gon' live alone, if I'm gon' die alone, then I'll spill my blood with glee, hey! I fight the world, I fight life, I fight myself, yeah!
As a person with Aspergers, I am very alone. I grew up with a single father and three older sisters. My Dad had to work a lot, so he wasn’t really able to be there for me and I don’t hold anything against him for that. But I am essentially a self risen child, and I am alone. Finding love, and even friends, is incredibly difficult. I’ve only ever made friends with a guy who doesn’t have internet and doesn’t talk much at all, online I have friends, actual friends, who accept me for who I am, let me vent, and overall actually acknowledge me, unlike the serval hundred other people at my High School. I don’t blame my father for my position, I blame society, people, I may not like people, but I would never wish or want to hurt anyone, unless that person was trying to hurt me or someone else. Kids teased me as if I would be a school shooter even, I did get real mad, but only used my words to express how I felt, but people thinking I would hurt others just because I have a mental disorder is horrible. All I want is to make people happy, and smile, laugh. When I make others happy, I’m happy, but nobody accepts me. I wish people would understand my disorders, and would be more accepting.
Sending hugs and care. I get all that. I hope things are better.
@@deviritter5232 thank you for the support! This comment was made three years ago, and I'm glad to say I have grown a lot as a person. I've accepted many different things, and I don't feel as alone as I used to be. I have a stable job and a proper home to stay in. My social skills and the like have increased significantly over these past 3 years.
Again, thank you for the support.
You're amazing, Kerry. You brought me to tears, You're such an inspiration.
My friend Marcus has a seveare condition of autisim and he has it really Hard he would be locked in a room with No Windows and blocked the door... He has deppression... I try My Best to help him but it's Hard when i myself has ADHD but I try My Best... To help him as much as I can cause hes My Best friend...
Not enough thumbs up I can give.
I had tears in my eyes in certain moments. I hope you and your family have a wonderful life. Best regards
I had all this questions and I fought for my son to have all services he could but Medicaid doesn’t do much. My son has been in group homes we need to fight to make this group home to get this behavior specialist to do whats right. this videos only have shown were this parents have the money or the good insurances but what about the poor the unfortunate parents. I would like to see TEDEX to show the real life of so many
My grandson never some till 3 just couldn't understand anything he said he started mainstream school but never seemed to fit in he accepted an invitation to church around the corner and made dozens of friend he eventually went to college far from home and worked in cafe God bless him I have 3autistic grandchildren at different ages I just hope they all get the same help x
My son was diagnosed with autism this week. I’ve had a mixture of emotions. Mostly worry and fear for his future. Thank you for speaking out it has helped me find some comfort and strength. You are an amazing person!
The best thing that happened to me as a mom was meeting Dr. Richard Solomon. Please look into.
This video hit me hard. I am over 50 with so many concerns to keep me up at night every night. We are thrown under the bus on a daily basis. Some people believe that autism is the result of demons. Other people want an autism free world. They want us to be "cured" so that we are normal. It is a sad situation for everyone. We need more programs that make meaningful changes. Autism feels like a curse. I want a normal life.
😢 I relate so much
Seems like a smart man. I myself was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, back before they took it out of the DSM. So my heart goes out to all autism people.
I was diagnosed with pdd nos when I was 16 and denied for 4 years that I didn't have it and now I am finnaly accepting what I have and I need to live with it
I was very touched by this speech.❤️
I will look for your TED talk, so that I can watch it again (and again). Well done. Thanks. Mary
Thanks! this is an answer for me. I have a son 26 years old, he is Asperger, he is part of a juzz orchestra but he decided to abandon it because he wants to work as a seller in Amway, i was sad but now I feel better, maybe he find his way for his independent life.
Hi, I am also on the Autism Spectrum. I was first diagnosed at the age of 2 1/2 with language difficulties and sensory processing sensitivities. However, after further testing, I was diagnosed with an Autism Spectrum Disorder that was then known as PDD-NOS (Pervasive Developmental Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified). However, my parents (particularly my mom) felt that I fit more of the criteria for another Autism Spectrum Disorder that was then known as Asperger Syndrome. My parents did not have any concerns about speech delays or losses, as I was an early talker, and never lost this ability (this was part of what led my parents to believe that an Asperger Syndrome diagnosis fit me better). My issues were more in the area of echolalia. If my mom said, "Leanne, do you want a glass of water," I would repeat, "Leanne, do you want a glass of water?" I also had some social issues. I have never had too many behavior issues, other than a few here and there, and if I did, it was very rarely anything that my school, bus driver, or parents could not handle. Growing up, I always had some difficulty understanding how my behavior affected others. Even the thought of people assuming that I simply did not care about how they were feeling was very heartbreaking for me, because that is, and always has been, far from the truth. It is much deeper than that. I do not pick up as easily on subtle emotional responses, such as twitching of the eyes (the beginning stages of crying), or clenching of the face (another early stage of crying or anger). However, I do understand more obvious emotional responses, such as crying. If you say that your feelings are hurt, I also understand this as well. However, I might not understand how what I did or said could POSSIBLY have hurt your or someone else's feelings! After all, I was only stating the obvious!
Think you so much for sharing this, you do not know how much this has helped to give me some releaf. I recently found out my daughter has autism and that same question has been haunting me. From the both of my heart, think you for sharing this.
So according to his steps my mom did raise me right without knowing I was autistic
As a 40 years old with asperger, I kept thinking what helped me all this while? I realized several things really help. The words of god and prophet who are the kindest, your motivation and support from others. We all need more support. I dont know what will happen next, but i sure if I still have those mentioned things, I can make it.
ASD,ADD,OCD,and ODD Are Hard!!
My son is Autistic but never really professionally diagnosed now he is 35 years old unable to find a job, unable to find love. Live in my basement. I feel so guilty, I feel that I fail him as a mother I should have get help for when he was a child. I tried to get some financial help for him now by applying for SSI but he was turned down. Help!!!!
His story is the typical media story: the non verbal kid that recovered. But for every success story there’s nine others who don’t even get close to developing their language skills or self help skills who will need to be in a 24 hour care supervision when the parents are unable or dead. And no one can provide peace of mind to those parents who wonder who will take these adults in and live them and not abuse them?