Dad, It's Been 8 Years, Where Have You Been? | KARAMO
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- Опубліковано 27 лют 2024
- Ji'Nae and Jalaya say they haven't seen their father in nearly 8 years. Their dad, Hayward, says part of that reason is because he's in and out of prison but also their mother, Jennifer, has created a divide between him with their kids. Now grown women, Ji'Nae and Jalaya, want to be reunited with their dad but he wants to know if he's really their biological father. Can Karamo help this family work through their division?
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He left his two daughters in the park alone to get his girlfriend. He seems delayed from all that time in jail. Beautiful daughters ❤
It was 4 kids. 2 were this ladies and the other two were his other baby moms.
I agree
Me too…he needs some parenting skills from Karamo Forreal Forreal!!! He’s a little off!!
He’s a bit slow and women are out here trying to communicate and coparent w people who are mentally unstable. Stop arguing w w them.
He may have been delayed before.
Them girls look identical to him. He tried it 😂
right mouth and all!!😭😭
Yes he did. That's tell us his character. Shame on his ass . It sad. He really needs to grow up.💯👍🤗👌
Especially the oldest
Having an absent father is so hard for a growing girl
Yes it is. I'm 40 and I'm still there
Agreed I'm almost 36 and it was damaging
Absolutely 💯 I'm 40 & my father wasn't around growing up until 2018 we became close before his passing, he passed 2021🙏🏾
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@@laurena5335 🙏🏾
This mother is EVERYTHING!!
She's also a known liar my uncle said a lot of truth
On the dad’s behalf…
I think he’s slow🤷🏽♀️
Can’t expect too much from a turtle 😂😂
lmfao
😂😂😂😂dad is slower than a turtle 🐢 and a tortoise put together. 😂😂😂😂
🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢🐢
Is giving sloth 🦥 behavior 😂
No seriously 😂 like it’s so cringy cus idk wth he’s talking about and why he’s talking about it . He keeps mentioning those messages they saw when they were younger 😂 like sir we are beyond that
I’ve always heard “an absent father is better than a part-time father” and this is so true. The in-and-outs of your children’s lives cause more hurt and confusion than just being gone completely (in my opinion).
I most certainly agree
Facts
my dad is kinda the same rn
That is not true. You could only speak for yourself.
Definitely agree
Dad can't take accountability, even after being in and out of prison.
"I wouldn't say that" is kinda like accountability.
You right 💯
@@nicoleraheem1195it's not
The father is emotionally immature. The only way he seems to know how to cope is by blaming his children's mother, which is unfair because she seems to have gone over and beyond to try to accommodate him. I don't agree with the children reading the arguments between the adults, but I understand how they would want answers. I wish them all healing.
Do you know how a mother can turn the children especially girls against their parents.most people don't seem to understand what fathers go through in marriages.
@@quincyquinnilmanjem5088 oh shut up you lying, whiny baby. Nobody kept him for this girl's except HIM! Nobody told him to go to jail and even when he was out he still didn't call them because of his feelings towards their mother. Stop the pity bull and take accountability for the fact that if your kids have a strained relationship with you its YOUR OWN damn fault!
@@quincyquinnilmanjem5088They're not against him though!
@@quincyquinnilmanjem5088Then the father should be around or at least make an effort to have a relationship with them so that is less likely to happen :)
@@quincyquinnilmanjem5088but that’s the opposite she was tryna make them be better
He just sorry AF...he RARELY acknowledged them. Constantly fighting with their mom, and then nit picking over small IRRELEVANT s**t is so infuriating to watch. NO ACCOUNTABILITY whatsoever. the daughters are absolutely gorgeous!
He was angry . He said she showed their private argument to them and that’s absolutely disgusting and damaging
And then at that the mother didn’t even put him down she left the door open he stupid as fuck
@@Shania-od5pnso what they not kids! I start looking at shit without my mother even knowing with my dad .
@@Shania-od5pn i get what you're saying, but that is NO excuse to ignore your kids for 8 YEARS. He never really answered WHY he didn't talk to them either. Like I said before, he is sorry AF as a person.
@@Shania-od5pnstop defending a man that wasn’t there for they kids for 8 years…
Dad isn’t ready to take any responsibility
Yet his niece is on the comments defending him..🙄😂
Their mom is a wonderful woman. You can tell she’s telling her truth and the whole truth, she stood on everything she said, ain’t stuttered once.
Mom has a lot of patience because I would cut off all contact with him. And honestly, I wouldn’t even want my daughters communicating with him either.
Well that's selfish 😂 THE KIDS WANT CONTACT WITH HIM 💯
Toxic. Your kids come first and a parent should always fight to have the other parent involved unless the other parent is physically or sexually abusive. Especially if thats what the kids want
Yes it is even in my big age I find myself sad bec he wasn’t there
Your kids come first. But I understand cause you don’t want your kids becoming so emotional and depressed because of an immature parent. But you don’t give up on having your children part of their father life. But if the situations get me to the point where you have to cut him off as far as things getting out of control and your kids are becoming depressed with the situation.
You have to put your kids needs above your feelings.
loving the locs! 🧡
He has a childlike mentality, and doesn’t want to take ownership of anything. He’s to busy playing the blame game instead of saying I apologize for not being there like I should’ve been and can we start anew. Thank goodness they had their mother.
He did apologize but they cut that part out for whatever reason.
Jennifer's locs are beautiful ❤ i love the color
I’m addicted to karamo be itching for new vids 🤣😭
Me too!
The girls have a great mom. The father needs help!
9:05 love the look they gave each other 😂❤they like '' momma is killing it , she's spitting facts ''. 10:02 look at them laughing 😂love them , beautiful black girls
Yes I loved that “okayyyy” look 😂😂
Very beautiful and sweet young ladies, their dad missed out and their Mom is a Queen ❤
I said the same thing ❤❤
Thumbs up to the mum.. she has raised these babies so well. So calm and respectful while talking to their father who they had not seen in 8 years. unlike some other disrespectful childred i have seen on this show. There could have been screaming all the way
Mummas a class act ❤😊
Omggggggggggggg not only is he not taking accountability but I don’t think he has the capacity to.
That right there he don’t have the tools to be a father. Prison breaks people. And the government keep them broken!!! But emotion for people like that is a commodity. And an expensive one. Because they feel so low. Still not an excuse. If u want to u will. My mother was on drugs and in and out of jail. And when she got tired she stayed outta trouble. But it was hard for her to feel she had a right to her children because other people raised them. But she did the best she can and her biggest lesson to me is letting me know it’s not what u go through it’s how u get through it!!!!
@@blackice112 yea it’s a hard cycle to break, in fact any cycle is hard to break. I hope he evolves into the man and father he needs to be.
These girls are the sweetest, mom did a good job, I hope dad gets help and grows up.
Poor Karamo , does he ever take a break ,,,???? 🎉🎉 we love you Karamo
To all that have a absent parent. I just want you to know, I had an absent mother and we were in the same house. I learned how to become a woman from a man. I decided to leave her where she is in her life. I voided our “relationship” for the betterment of my sanity……I decided to respect our “relationship” from afar….BOUNDARIES.
Same here. I had an absent mother as well; that I lived in the same house with. Everyone around us( my siblings and I) ; was more important to her than us. Never supportive , couldn't speak to her about serious things, important things that I needed to know ( how to be a wife, how to love, have a relationship with God, respect myself , etc) it was all the opposite . My dad was no help either. My own truth; he was never really there. When we did see him; he went in private with her for like an hour or two, play like he wanted to spend time with us for a few minutes then he was gone like the wind. My mother would tell us bad things about him; but she was no different. I think the both of them didn't want us; she just happened to have gotten stuck with us. She wasted no time each day, to show us; that she didn't care for us. Many times, she would say it. We have heard worse but that one always stuck with me; along with other hurtful things. I have love for the both of them, but I keep my distance. I pray for them every now and again. I always told myself to never be like neither one of them. Now I have God, My husband, my children and myself. I've been the happiest I've ever been in my life. God has given me , more than I've ever wanted or needed; and I am grateful for him.
❤❤
@@PerryGyalTyngzMan, this episode hit hard. And ur comment made me 😢tear up. I wish u nothing but the best. Ur, dad( the man that raised you) must have been amazing. ❤
Did you ever think that she had problems that as a kid you were unaware of. She could've had Depression or been Bipolar. It's wrong for a child to punish a parent.
@@kirag001 I’m not punishing her….I respect her fro afar….
He’s the same as my husband. Blaming me for everything. His focus too much about his reputation. Narcissist! Arrogant, playing victim. Shallow!
Please. I know it’s easier said than done, but leave him.
I am so sorry you're going through this, boo.
Please leave him
I had one just like that. Happily divorced now. It's hard...I'm for marriages lasting if (and only if) it's healthy, functioning, managing and loving. If it's not...😔 Hard decisions have to be made. Blessing to you. 💛🙏🏽
Is he a good and present father
@@imell372 Nearly impossible for narccisstic people to be "good and present" for anyone. They aren't cherry picking who they should be "good" to, including their own children.
He’s sad as hell. Slow as hell, the whole park situation!!
Take accountability, he’s blaming the mother, gaslighting her!!
That mother was so real I love her. Her energy was beautiful. 💯 Good mother 💯 I'm with you when you right love 😘😢
This dusty behavior is far too prevalent in our community smh. Excuses...no accountability...absent...toxicity. Our men need to step up and HEAL!!!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤ I owe you one
That mother funny 😂
I feel so bad for the oldest child. Her eyes were glazed over, and she was out of it, poor girl
The mother had me rollin when she said I had to have a meeting with Jesus in a few minutes. I like that lady.
Yes ma’am; Jesus on the main line. He got you and your family; Queen.
Yes having your father in your life but the fact they mother was there is amazing some dont have neither one
Not only there but it seems like she was emotionally healthy too! I love to see it!
I have neither parent,but this momma is brilliant hey
Dad still is in love with their mother. He is still hurt that she left him. He has been and still is suffering from a broken heart and does not know how to deal with it.
@bigideas3004 You are Absolutely right. He is still in love with me till this day. He cheated on me numerous of times during both pregnancy so I had to walk away.
@@jenniferwhite2324you are a FANTASTIC and classy/dedicated mother,huge love from Australia ❤❤😊😊
U inspired me to be a better mother
@@jenniferwhite2324 I knew it!!! Look at my comment from a few minutes ago. I can see it in his eyes that he loves you.
She sounds like a really good person and I love her hair.
hayward is a mess! who would put a baby on him 😂😂😂
My father has been in the grave since I was 6 years old; he was only 28. All these years later, the pain is still beyond words. I try to understand that we all go through things in life, but when males like Hayward make decisions to not be available for his children, I find it very difficult to show empathy. If I want to see my dad, I have to go to the cemetery and look at a headstone. I am glad that he's staying in contact with his daughters, but they'll need serious therapy to heal from his inconsistencies and lengthy absences. He looks and sounds sort of mentally challenged or on some kind of substance that has altered his ability to comprehend, in my opinion. I hope he and his daughters can have a consistent relationship, and that they'll be able to grow stronger as a family unit. Hopefully, he'll own up to his shortcomings and ask for forgiveness instead of blaming their mother. Big shout out and kudos to their mom.
Father looks so young they look like brother and sister's❤
My dad wasn’t around much but I really didn’t give a dam 😅 it’s interesting to see how it effects some people though
The daughters are likely done with the DNA questions.... They chatted, but are fine with no communication now. Biological father is emotionally immature.
He's seems simple and slow 🐌. I doubt this will be fixed any time soon
HAYWARD, WHAT ABOUT IM SORRY? RUDE SIR
Smfh. He need intensive therapy. He is a child.
Jennifer is way more mature than Hayward..glad she ditched his slow ass
My feelings is I would focus on the parent that was there for me because obviously he didn't give a damn if he would abandoned his flesh and blood 😢
He got too many excuses and he's outta line for that asking for that DNA text he outta be happy that his children even like him.
O wow! Dad has the emotional intelligence, awareness and accountability of a ddea sea turtle. Dad, you dropped the ball on your daughters, Ummmkay! Step up dude & become the Dad your children can be proud of.
They werent prepared to see their dad and i felt it cause i always had an absent father he never was around all 26 years and i learned to accept that i cant make him come around but i can make myself continue to be the best version of myself ❤
They have the best mom! ❤
Honestly the mom is amazing to even be doing some of the work he's suppose to be doing, keeping them in contact, traveling so they can see him, she shouldn't have to do any of that but she did. There's too many stories like this where the men think that not only should the moms be responsible for his communication with his children, but to paint him in a positive light when he isn't around and that's simply not fair to do especially when their actions prove otherwise. Some people need to really grow up
My dad basically just paid Child support and made sure we was good financially which I needed more then that smh
Feel you. My daddy paid child support my whole life and yes, I did see him and spend time, at times but I most def would’ve preferred HIM!!!
My dad did nothing but berate and bash me when I finally did come to live with him as a teen. He really emotionally abused my azz.
These girls are absolutely beautiful 🙌🏽
The beautiful daughters are so proud of their mother , you can evidently see it when she is talking
They skin is flawless..... beautiful women
He is a whole grown man but mentally stuck in his 20s.
the mother and the daughters are so gorgeous
Your dad seems to want to “start over” with his grandchild. He seems stifled emotionally. When dad said, “I’m unstable”-he wasn’t kidding! He needs help to develop insight into himself and his relationships. He’s clearly TRYING to heal but he needs support. So does the birth mother and the grown daughters.
sometimes you cant force a relationship with an absent father its a hard pill to swallow sometimes as a child you have to accept the fact that that door being closed is better than opening it . this man is full of excuses and would rather sit there and argue with the mother than acknowledge his two girls. I don't think he should even be around them.
hayward stuck mentally age 23
23? Nah.. more like 14
I've never been a "single parent" & with 2 people it's very expensive & time consuming to take care of children. I can't imagine doing all of it by myself. I say that because I don't like how the custodial parent has to be so accommodating to the person doing the bare minimum or NOTHING.
Dad owes Mom 18 years of child support & him being in jail is no excuse. She was so desperate for him to see his kids, he got away paying NOTHING.
And why would Mom be a bad person for talking about him. He was immature, wasn't a good father, & was constantly in jail. Mom had no obligation to make him look like a Saint to their kids. And hell yes I'm monitoring phone calls if Dad is calling from jail or prison. No child is gonna give out my personal info over a jail/prison line.
The last sentence took me out 😂😂😂
Soon as the mum came out, he barely looked at his girls. He has no clue whatsoever.
I’d rather say bye than have him half ass fatherhood
2:42 those beautiful young ladies was soo happy to see their father again 😢❤ hope all is well with their connection..would love them back on the show ❤
I had to find this one after seeing the short. 😊
Me when I read the title: Twin where have u been😂
Ight 😂😂😂😂
All of their locs are beautiful 🩵
This is exactly the dynamic with my biological father. Absolutely no accountability for his absence and he seems to think everything wrong is due to us being brainwashed in some way (and not him being a terrible and absent parent). Overall, I’m glad these girls went on to graduate and not let this dictate their life. Im doing the same thing and will graduate with honors next year. It’s never impossible ❤❤
Karomo has done it again 😂😂❤
Beautiful young ladies ❤❤❤❤continue to love and respect your parents ❤❤❤❤
Jennifer, BIG respect for you. God bless.
I feel for them. My daughter’s father hasn’t seen my daughter since she was 8 months old. She’s 3 today. Idk why but I never moved or changed my phone number. I pray every day
I feel you. My son’s father Mia. He’s seen him 3 times in his life and he just turned five. Same number. He could never say I kept him from him. I tried & I pray. At the end of the day, I focus on taking care of him to the best of my ability. Nothing or nobody else.
You didn’t see the red flags?
@@Heyitschy03 Men lie. Sometimes there are no red flags and everything seems fine. It sucks either way though honestly. When there are no red flags, it makes you feel like you’re crazy and wonder how a person could lie so well. Something is wrong with a lot of these men.
@@Heyitschy03 Umm well given the fact I met him in Jan 2020 and by Feb 2020 we moved in together I was seeing the red flags through the pandemic. It’s crazy how ppl sit up and judge so fast like damn everybody relationship don’t go the same.
@@Nivea_Walker womp womp
These girls look like their Dad. Meeting with Jesus 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Can't get water from a rock; sometimes we have to understand that our parents can't give us whatcwe need. My dad is the same EXACT way!
Dad is mentally and emotionally stunted clearly due to being in jail and whatever trauma he’s been through. You listen to the nonsense he spews about the mom who was not only there for her kids but his too and realise he’s just not ready to look in the mirror and call out the person he sees. He has to blame someone else because he doesn’t have the tools to be able to take accountability and still cope. Sad and disappointing.
As each individual we need to learn how to be there for the kid and no matter what and life is going to be hard for the kid and be there will make the difference. All I can say is be there for the kid and love them unconditionally no matter what .
They are loving their momma defending them !! She is their safe place .
I feel like I'm listening to my childhood. My father was incarcerated the majority of my life give or take a year up until I was 18. My bonding time with him was either at a halfway house or getting dressed up like I'm going to church to talk to him on a phone behind plexi glass. I reunited with him when I was 5 months pregnant at 18. And he picked me up and I stayed with him for a little while. When I got home within the next month. He expressed how disappointing it was to know his daughter was going to be a teen mom. I had snapped and I had a real coming to Jesus moment and gave all my pain and trauma to God and told him I will have what he wants me to have. He came when I had my daughter and we visited him and his new wife and step kids here and there and stayed with them from time to time since they lived about 4 hours away. My mom never discouraged me from having a bond with him, she knew how he was but she wanted me to have my own experience. I had to realize first hand that him and me will never be on the same page bc he was never given the tools to be a dad and he suffered his own trauma and also carried trauma from his mom and lack of father figure when he grew up. So it was repeating the toxic cycle of pain and hurt and trauma. I'm almost 30 and I still carry this and we haven't spoken in 5 years. Last year he sent me a request for gas money on cashapp. It hurt me and I got upset. Here again I thought I was over it I thought i released this pain. But truth is I don't think I will ever get over it bc he is my dad and I am apart of him and I carry that pain . The lack of his presence taught me a lot about people and I know people deserve 2nd ,3rd and 4th chances. Nobody is perfect. But what i struggle with is the little girl that was hurt and alone and afraid that didn't have that safety and security of her father. My mom could only do so much. She is my superhero. But like I would love to talk to Karamo about the steps to take to healing. Because this is almost 30 years in the making. This is my life and all I know. I'm sorry for this but I felt compelled to share this part of my story. I hope everyone is having a good evening and I hope everyone has a great week and stay safe. 🙏🏼❤
I Have Always Felt that Time will always Stay 💯 Gifts and Material Things will always Fade Away 💯 Time don't Cost a Thing that's
All his Daughters were asking for ❤ Also THE THINGS THAT YOU DO TODAY 💯 WILL Always FOLLOW YOU Tomorrow 💯 YOU might Forget about your PASS but Everyone else will Always Remember 💯 I Commend the Father for TRYING to Change 👏 His Doubts Created His Distance💯 and I Respect the Daughters for giving him a Chance 💯 and The Mother for her Efforts of Trying so Hard 👏 To break the cycle of Daughters without Fathers 💯 mostly Daughters without Fathers likely will run into the Arms of the Wrong type of man 💔 I 🙏 for the Healing for ALL them
He’s trying to justify his bull 💩. I feel so bad for these young ladies. And mom need to stop with the having her children read messages between her and their father. But they both need to grow up. And the father has a lot of growing up to do. He’s disgusting!
i loveddd this one
Karàmo, I love watching your show...I'm from Jamaica 🇯🇲
I love this show❤
You Beautiful Young Ladies Deserve So Much More From Your Father 🙏
I went through this with my bd I’m glad they even could get to this point RIP Jarvis
The parents are cool, nice daughters 😊
Those girls are absolutely gorgeous! They literally are two different versions of him! One is the lightskin version one is the brown skin version 😂 he a cornball for questioning the paternity 🤦🏽♀️
I love how the girls let him talk. I know they’re hurting and usually we see girls argue their father. But they let him talk. ❤
Why is no one talking about how beautiful this family are,like am looking at the mom and dad and am like daymmmnnnnn
He didnt question their paternity. He compared them questioning his younger child because of a lack of dna, to the fact that he hadnt had any dna with them either.
Exactly. That's why karamo said flippant.
God bless mothers
I will not leave my children's alone in my entire life I will not not not that is my life never in history, even get tired of my wife I will not get tired of my children children is my whole world that's why I'm out here working for the better tomorrow for them I will not
The truth for me, in as much as I blame the Dad, we cant just pretend like a man can focus on his kids squarely when he has bad relationship with their mom. He just mentioned DNA and every one is behaving like we all have not watched people train others kids in this show. I am not in anyway validating the father, but for you to get total healing it is beyond 15 minutes show. The accountability should not just be for show but from a genuine place. My 2-cents thought🙃
@collinsugonnalawrence7113 We really don't have a bad relationship until he can't have his way in my life. We get alone well until he let his so called other bm and sisters get in is ear
@@jenniferwhite3346 oh I see. Thanks for sharing that insight
ohhhh baby when she said I need a meeting with Jesus I FELT THAT BABY
This is all over the place lol. Blessings.
That look. ❤❤❤They may have pain from him but they got love from somewhere. 9:05😊 that look was so cute.
They’re beautiful 😍❤
Good...I like the out-come of this one.
see The park situation makes me understand his maturity what ever age he went in that’s where his mind is an he steady going back an back he just said he been out 3 months he has a mental problem or truama
This is the same situation I’m in .😣💔
The parents still love each other . They just need to give each other the chance . He needs to mature and get his life together and just love on each other
@olatujaadenike481 I love him do to the fact that he gave me two Beautiful girls. I Don't see myself being in a relationship with this man do to the damage he gave me and our girls.
These are beautiful people
he wanted all the blame off of him 😂 that’s why he wanted that test
Lord mama is beautiful❤
I understand that Hayward wants to give us and especially back in the day everything. He said just time wasn’t enough. But honestly it is. It seems as though back then he was grinding and hustling for his kids, but he has a ton of mental issues that is not causing him to take accountability. Cause honestly 8 years is a long time.