1) He goes all in when he is ready for a relationship. 2) He goes all in when he is inspired to because of a woman's great qualities. 3) He goes all in when he knows he can't find better than you. 4) He goes all in when he thinks he is gonna lose you, be careful with this one cause he might get comfortable again.
1. WHEN A MAN HAS THAT NEED FEELING FOR YOU AND NOT JUST WANT YOU. WHEN HE FEELS LIKE HE CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU 2. WHEN HE FEELS LIKE YOU ARE IRREPLACEABLE. WHERE HE KNOWS ON A DEEP LEVEL THAT HE WON'T FIND ANYONE LIKE YOU 3. WHEN THE WOMAN IS NOT SUPER INDEPENDENT AND NOT WILLING TO LET HIM HELP. YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM PERMISSION TO PROVIDE FOR YOU 4. WHEN A WOMAN IS SUPER AVAILABLE TO YOU. WHEN YOU ARE READY TO RECEIVE ALL OF HIS LOVE. YOU HAVE TO BE ALL IN 5. WHEN HE SEES YOU AS A WIFE AND NOT HIS BIKE. WHEN HE DOESNT SEE YOU AS A TOOL BUT AS A TRUE COMPANION.
Tell me, does this happen after sex? Because my bf and I want each other and we have been desiring sex but becoming distant, and he said we will get married in less than a year that we need to save money for the wedding. He has been keeping himself busy with work, and I am starting to feel little lonely because I want to be with him all the time and I want to be sexual with him as well , but his very religious as well.
@@MyPodcast111sounds like you need to share these feelings with him. He’s a noble man working hard and promising marriage to you all while refraining from sex so not to defile you. Share your thoughts and feelings… emotional intimacy. It’s a great way to keep y’all bonded and close even while busy
@@MyPodcast111it happens before sex. Keep waiting. Trust me, it’s worth it. Those feelings don’t develop for a man, as it does for women when we have sex
@@MyPodcast111you need to realize that he values you and wants to prepare for you. What you need to do is to gently have a discussion with him to express your feelings that you need him. Men do not talk much but they can only become sensitive to your feelings when you teach him.
If you won't give it 5 years , then dont give it 5 minutes. This is real teaching about survival mode too for women and not able to commit. Good stuff! Thank you
He says he wants to take care of me because I deserve it ,so ,I have had to learn to just shut up and say Thank You. I'm not used to being treated so well.
Yes this is so true.. I started dating man he told me I was added bonus to his life. He knew he loved me very early as he could see my kindness and pure of heart.. ❤
Exactly. I think there are so many more unspoken conditions beyond what was mentioned, because most women in today's dating scene will tell you that no matter what they do, and no matter what a dude says, dudes are always looking for some kind of disposable human blow up dolls @ the amount of porn guys consume and actually think women should be for them, especially for the younger generations who grew up with so much access. Especially since once he knows he won over the woman who he was hunting, who showed that she is available & ready & willing to let him help, as described, he'll start getting bored, complacent, lazy, even rude, treat her like a doormat, lose interest or begin seeking "bikes to ride" since men inherently love conquest and to spread seed wheras woman want to nest and nurture. It's worse than ever these days b/c of porn, too. Young girls and celebrities are emulating porn so much now that women being pornified is normalized, and being normal, natural or dignified makes younger and sometimes middle aged women invisible or undesirable. Men looking at women as more than an object or a quick fix in the dating scene is becoming rarer and rarer. Even when a guy does develop respect for one woman, he'll still justify going after thots or imposing pornified expectations on his gf once they plateau, usually. Respect where? The narrator forgot the part about males getting bored and complacent, even disrespectful once they know a woman is all in, usually. Men value women they can never ever do better than or who will always keep him on his toes even if she's a bit mean and mentally manipulative. That's when men give their all ... let's be real. Otherwise, he'll try to get over and get away with as much as he can no matter how good, sweet ,accomplished or beautiful a woman is, he'll take her for granted if there's not some kind of continual challenge dynamic, constant conquest, weird power dynamic setup where she has him in some spell &/ or fear of consequences. There's a lot of weird creepy fetishy & codependent things that keep people in relationships where both seem to benefit. I'm not sure the things the narrator mentioned can exist without these ugly aspects of human psychology like always wanting what you can't have, etc that people don't like to admit about ourselves. It seems more like f-boi culture is taking over, and if loving partner type relationships can work, it's realistic to know they work under certain conditions til they become toxic, which may be inevitable as they evolve and as we grow as people, and then you gotta call it a day. The unrealistic pornified expectations placed on women by society also aren't really addressed in the video that kind of puts most of the oness gor not finding a committed & wonderful guy on women, since that factor seems to impact mens' values most of all nowadays.... there's nothing healthy about expecting us to emulate or be sex objects that are humiliated in order to "get a man" or "keep a man". Most women want men who value our wellbeing and minds, feelings, opinions, thoughts, input, and especially true bonding beyond sexual intimacy. Emphasis on porn kills all of that, and especially intellectual bonding, emotional intimacy as well as opening the door to us being dehumanizing and physically hurt for sexual gratification. None of this is healthy
This world has transformed into a place i barely recognize.being recently back in the dating game, I went to trust men, but my intuition tells me this guy only wants a bike… Thank you for sharing this information and experience… I have to be brave, because I am irreplaceable. I am someone that another needs… Although he wants me,he’s gonna lose me. Im a teacher… I am a role model to young ladies and how could I live with myself I didn’t practice what I preach too… Thank you so much for giving me courage! Many Blessing to you and yours!
That’s crazy… I’ve been a “bike” to all of the men who I’ve been in relationships with.. there was only one who didn’t give me that vibe, but even then, he was way too old for me.. so idk.. this is very helpful though. This makes you realize how much time you’ve wasted and invested… Especially hearing spot on what you’ve experienced.. I was a bike to my ex husband too.. It’s a shame.. Marriage doesn’t mean shit to some people anymore, I was a bike and single mother, while living with my ex husband. 😂 I learned my lesson the hard way.. I should’ve listened to my GGMA when she told me to keep my head in school & not on these niggas.. cuz they’re always gonna be there. 🤷🏾♀️
I hear what you are saying, yet worry that being needed can also result in a loveless, transactional situationship. I can tell you that being with someone who is only with you because he needs you for the things you do for his business, as his cook, as his personal shopper, as his maid…it is not fun. Not when there is zero affection, not when there is zero conversation unless it relates to the things he needs you to do for him. It hurts. REALLY hurts. Reality? He has nowhere else to go. Regardless, he can be unkind, dismissive, hyper critical and very passive-aggressive. No giving his all because he “needs” me. Yes, he needs me to be successful. Not sure he can find anyone else to deal with him and the little he gives. Will he find another woman stupid enough to tolerate the little he does. Ugh.
i think in this case the guy talking means “needing “ as in making him a better man…bringing out the best in him Rather than being his cook maid & bottle washer You will leave this man when you are ready Take your time i have learned that when i was really ready & left i never went back There’s no guarantees of a better man However there is peace of mind & learning to love yourself & enjoy the beauty of each day And if it’s in your destiny there may be a kind loving man to walk beside you later Keep your head up :)
Well said..seen men marry women coz they need them to smooth their lives in a home..like she can be a good mother,maid, take in my crap etc... calling us wife material 😮.
This would’ve fell into what he said about a man “wanting” you, or treating you as a “Bike/tool”. The relationship is transactional, he wants you around because of what you can do for him. You’re providing, shelter, food etc. This is where boundaries come in, if you allow yourself to be used, you have to take accountability for it. He can’t be all in and ready to give you his all, if you’re the one providing already. You’ve already taken on the masculine role, so where does that leave him? He’ll stick around because it’s convenient and you can get him from point A to point B. Once he gets on his feet, he’ll leave you. I would leave him first 🤷🏾♀️
The question is how did you get into providing these services for someone who adds nothing to your relationship? This is a rhetorical question, I am a woman, I understand. But start at that question. Don't be a suckered for a loser.
Thank you for this great point! I myself would rather be wanted and desired by my man. Always. I don't want to be in a relationship that's about attachment. I love knowing my man doesn't NEED me (including my love) that he loves himself enough to strive even if I decided to leave at some point if I decided that was MY NEED to be truly happy. There is no human on earth I need like I need air and water. I would die without it. I wouldn't die without a man I was in love with. Some people in relationships who feel like they can't live without their partners end up with an attachment disorder that's confused with love. Relationships based on needy people can get messy. NEED doesn't usually equate to true love and desire for your partner. He can need you, find you irreplaceable, but still cheat on you and find others to fulfill other "needs" that maybe you don't, but still not want to lose you or break up because he selfishly still wants to keep whatever it is you provide to him and always have you around to fall back on. So there are different sides to being "needed" that doesn't always indicate a healthy happy relationship. I do respect where this gentleman in the video is coming from and I get that HIS opinion about a man NEEDING a woman adds more depth and substance to his motivation to "go all in" than just a lustful attraction. But there are different situations and sides to this. It's more complex and not always pleasant.
Thank you, dear sir for your wisdom. I haven’t cried in a long time but when you shared that Bible verse (and I’m not even a religious person) I broke down and sobbed. I remember saying that Bible verse to my ex husband a few years back as a way to convince and beg for love and respect. I experienced extreme verbal abuse and the control that comes along with verbal abuse in my marriage. I will never ever beg anyone to love me again and really what I begged for and tried to convince him of was, to give me the bare minimum. I’m okay and comfortable staying single forever. I love my alone time and I find peace in my own company. My small family, small tribe of friends and my dogs are enough. I’ll try to keep my heart open just in case, however this seems rare and that is sad and unfortunate. What you speak of is rare. You are a unicorn. It’s nice to see that there are unicorns though. So thank you. 🙏🏻
I’m glad I discovered you not long ago. You speak the truth and nothing but truth. I appreciate for your support and service you provide to the community. May God bless you abundantly. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm soooo glad that you touched on someone ending it because you are too good to be true. My ex (and favorite man) told me this yrs ago. We are now talking again and he said it feels like home ❤️.
Hello my handsome friend. You were on point about everything. Noticing the difference from my current relationship and my past relationship explains everything you mentioned. My ex did not give his all. He half ass everything during the relationship. I did all the giving and he did all the taking. My current relationship is all in. He was all in the first week we met. Like you said. I was very hesitant when he offered or just went out his way to assist me with whatever I needed. I felt he was moving too fast. But he slowed down for me. It's been 5 years now. He calls me his wife. To his family and friends. And now he's really going all in. He's doing exactly what you described a good man will do.😉😇
*Understanding the signs of when a man is ready to give his all can guide us towards a fulfilling relationship. Let's use this knowledge to embrace love, trust, and emotional connection.*
Hi Sealz the man, you are indeed the man! Thanks for all you do, for all you teach and for all you share. You are truly a great teacher, a wise coach and an amazing motivator. God bless you Sealz the man.
@sealz the man Please can you expand on this video and talk about some of the qualities the women would have in order for a man to see her like a wide or irreplaceable etc. That would be much appreciated. Your words of wisdom are truly medicine to the soul and I thank God we have strong biblical men like you preaching from an unbiased perspective.
It depends on the man. Part of finding happiness with a man, is to find the man who actually sees value in what you have to give in the first place. And so many times that means giving up a man that you think you want. Because you like certain qualities he has. Often, we disregard that a man isn’t receptive because we’ve been taught he can change. He can realize you’re wonderful if you show him enough love. Not true. Do you know the only time a man will ever change? When he already thinks he needs you, but he can’t have you until he is bringing you stability and happiness. Men want simple things. Warmth. Respect. To feel sexy to their partner. To feel attracted to their partner. But giving that to a man doesn’t mean he will wife you up. There’s something deeper that goes on. There’s usually something he doesn’t even know he needs until he meets the one. She gives it without even knowing what it is. And for her, he will do it all. Even though plenty of nice women have come and gone. What flips that switch can be different for each man. But i can say this- require of a man. That’s the only way to know if youre “the one” or not.
Love your perspective on what men think about women. Many men who have these channels to discuss relationships, are too wordy. They get off track and I lose the subject and the point. You get straight to the point and you stay on it. As a woman I find your explanations are on point, and you express it in a straight forward way. Thank you. It's a breath of fresh air to hear how men really feel about us, and what is going on inside of them. Appreciate this very much. Very insightful.
I think your nieces will appreciate this advice just as we do. Thank you. Your words here are very true. It's not hard as we make it to know if a man is all in or if a woman is the type that a man should be all in with. Words n actions need to line up. Show n tell.
TGIF! Great video, as always! I was thinking about your description of want vs need. That got me thinking of need vs. value. I do need water, but do I truly value it or take it for granted because it’s easily attainable? I like to be needed to a healthy degree, but what I really want is to be valued. Keeping that wall up can be easier than the pain of being taken for granted, discarded or not valued. That’s the question lingering in my mind. He may say he needs me, but does he really value me? Guess I won’t really know until I’m willing to try again and take my guard down.
You are unique man of Yah ❤ halleluyah. I was raised off survival in and the South im trying to break being so independant. thank you for helping me.. ❤
An another if he's sick, had surgery, mental health issues an can't do as he needs to. If you can be there for spourt an be his backbone an hold down things until he can get back on his feet. That will mean a lot to him as well. An dont put him down. Be there for him an love him an hold him down be his spourt an be his help mate have his back until he can get back in the game speaks volumes to him.
Wow! I’ve never heard anything that good in my life. It answers a question I’ve had for a long time. Really, really like the bike analogy. Now for the next question.., How can you tell if a man needs you as opposed to just wanting you?
A man that inconveniences himself without hesitating, to be there for you. Thats the real answer. Anyone can do gifts and dates- but to drop everything because you need him? He’s real. My phone battery died before i got home and i decided to vacuum while it charged. I came back to 3 messages asking if i was ok. I always text my boyfriend when i get home from work. He stepped out and talked to me. “Oh my gosh. I was about to leave and look for you. I thought you got in an accident. You just always tell me you’re home. You’re ok. Everything is good.” That man has driven way out of his way to come get me. He has helped mow the lawn when i said i’m mowing. He drives over with his mower in the hot sun. My ex, he was all about how much he couldn’t live without me, but he disappeared when he was needed. Real quick.
My man tells me from time to time "I need you". He already treats me like his wife even though I'm not yet. I moved to another state when the lockdowns happened because he wasn't in my life at the time. He's been back in my life for over a year and a half and keeps asking me to marry him. Due to his work, I have to move back. I'll be doing that soon.
Greetings, Salutations to you and all the beautiful souls out there. Great video. Thank you for sharing. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 💙💥🩷💥🩵💥❤️
Thank you for this powerful video! You put everything in such clear perspective. There’s a man I’ve been friends with for a while that I would like a real relationship from, but he doesn’t see me as irreplaceable although I’ve made it clear what I’m looking for. I’m “available” as you described it, but he is not. I put my trust in God that He’ll bring the type of man that I deserve. 🙏😇❣️
I wish there was a cousin of yours who makes a channel that is aimed at men. Many of them do not have what it takes to fulfill their role. And I speak for many women when I say that we really are in the place where we should be. We are independent, but we give them their space to act, we are irreplaceable, we are necessary, etc. and many of the points you mentioned
So damn smart!! Ive watched many different channels on men giving out dating & relationship advice & most of it is all the same. This, that you're putting out is very unique & detailed, things we women haven't thought about. I've been in many relationships & married & sadly just ended a 5 yr relationship/engagement...so looking to establish some relationship "training" before getting back out there...I don't want to make the same mistakes again. Thank you for your valuable insights!
I was the ginger ale. He drank it, left it open, I lost my bubbles. And then he got the water from a "friend" with whom he's getting all the nutrients. I'm just watching and souring. And I'm usually the ginger ale.
Open, ready, sitting in feminine energy, available..but I run into men never married, but not emotionally ready , not traditional , don’t know how to court you, want u to “chip” in on house duties when I don’t live there .. that’s a no for me .
Eu don't really know a man until he has Confidence so fuel a man's confidence not only to make him feel good in the relationship fuel a man's confidence to sea who he really is
1) He goes all in when he is ready for a relationship.
2) He goes all in when he is inspired to because of a woman's great qualities.
3) He goes all in when he knows he can't find better than you.
4) He goes all in when he thinks he is gonna lose you, be careful with this one cause he might get comfortable again.
You def nailed it & it's sad but true guys get too comfortable to feel they can start acting out NOT TODAY LOL
Key phrase: "a GOOD MAN will put his all in you."
A good man will also put everything into a hoe too.
1. WHEN A MAN HAS THAT NEED FEELING FOR YOU AND NOT JUST WANT YOU. WHEN HE FEELS LIKE HE CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU
2. WHEN HE FEELS LIKE YOU ARE IRREPLACEABLE. WHERE HE KNOWS ON A DEEP LEVEL THAT HE WON'T FIND ANYONE LIKE YOU
3. WHEN THE WOMAN IS NOT SUPER INDEPENDENT AND NOT WILLING TO LET HIM HELP. YOU HAVE TO GIVE HIM PERMISSION TO PROVIDE FOR YOU
4. WHEN A WOMAN IS SUPER AVAILABLE TO YOU. WHEN YOU ARE READY TO RECEIVE ALL OF HIS LOVE. YOU HAVE TO BE ALL IN
5. WHEN HE SEES YOU AS A WIFE AND NOT HIS BIKE. WHEN HE DOESNT SEE YOU AS A TOOL BUT AS A TRUE COMPANION.
Tell me, does this happen after sex? Because my bf and I want each other and we have been desiring sex but becoming distant, and he said we will get married in less than a year that we need to save money for the wedding. He has been keeping himself busy with work, and I am starting to feel little lonely because I want to be with him all the time and I want to be sexual with him as well , but his very religious as well.
@@MyPodcast111sounds like you need to share these feelings with him. He’s a noble man working hard and promising marriage to you all while refraining from sex so not to defile you. Share your thoughts and feelings… emotional intimacy. It’s a great way to keep y’all bonded and close even while busy
@@MyPodcast111it happens before sex. Keep waiting. Trust me, it’s worth it. Those feelings don’t develop for a man, as it does for women when we have sex
@@MyPodcast111you need to realize that he values you and wants to prepare for you. What you need to do is to gently have a discussion with him to express your feelings that you need him. Men do not talk much but they can only become sensitive to your feelings when you teach him.
When a woman is super available to you? Please explain 🤔
It is a shame that all men can't be like you. You are a special man for sure! Love your channel!
You got that right
Agreed!
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Agree 100% 🙏
It's true but we don't really know him either. Love his content though.
A man will never give his all to a woman unless he sees it as a reward to be with that woman. ❤
Yes i agree esp😅ecially when he is dating an older rich woman.
@@Gretchen0426 well damn 🤣❤️
When a guy doesnt want to settle because he still wants to play with more women
If you won't give it 5 years , then dont give it 5 minutes.
This is real teaching about survival mode too for women and not able to commit. Good stuff! Thank you
A good man doesnt break up, only confused people do only to regret.
He says he wants to take care of me because I deserve it
,so ,I have had to learn to just shut up and say Thank You. I'm not used to being treated so well.
Girl I’m in the same boat but I’m loving it here
Yes this is so true.. I started dating man he told me I was added bonus to his life. He knew he loved me very early as he could see my kindness and pure of heart.. ❤
You are very right about a woman who is independent. Make her feel secure and she will be more willing.
I have met such a man. God is good all the time ❤. Bless 💋
It's hard to admit it to yourself when they are not putting their all in. Especially when you are a woman who does everything you mentioned.
Exactly. I think there are so many more unspoken conditions beyond what was mentioned, because most women in today's dating scene will tell you that no matter what they do, and no matter what a dude says, dudes are always looking for some kind of disposable human blow up dolls @ the amount of porn guys consume and actually think women should be for them, especially for the younger generations who grew up with so much access. Especially since once he knows he won over the woman who he was hunting, who showed that she is available & ready & willing to let him help, as described, he'll start getting bored, complacent, lazy, even rude, treat her like a doormat, lose interest or begin seeking "bikes to ride" since men inherently love conquest and to spread seed wheras woman want to nest and nurture.
It's worse than ever these days b/c of porn, too. Young girls and celebrities are emulating porn so much now that women being pornified is normalized, and being normal, natural or dignified makes younger and sometimes middle aged women invisible or undesirable. Men looking at women as more than an object or a quick fix in the dating scene is becoming rarer and rarer. Even when a guy does develop respect for one woman, he'll still justify going after thots or imposing pornified expectations on his gf once they plateau, usually.
Respect where? The narrator forgot the part about males getting bored and complacent, even disrespectful once they know a woman is all in, usually. Men value women they can never ever do better than or who will always keep him on his toes even if she's a bit mean and mentally manipulative. That's when men give their all ... let's be real.
Otherwise, he'll try to get over and get away with as much as he can no matter how good, sweet ,accomplished or beautiful a woman is, he'll take her for granted if there's not some kind of continual challenge dynamic, constant conquest, weird power dynamic setup where she has him in some spell &/ or fear of consequences.
There's a lot of weird creepy fetishy & codependent things that keep people in relationships where both seem to benefit. I'm not sure the things the narrator mentioned can exist without these ugly aspects of human psychology like always wanting what you can't have, etc that people don't like to admit about ourselves.
It seems more like f-boi culture is taking over, and if loving partner type relationships can work, it's realistic to know they work under certain conditions til they become toxic, which may be inevitable as they evolve and as we grow as people, and then you gotta call it a day.
The unrealistic pornified expectations placed on women by society also aren't really addressed in the video that kind of puts most of the oness gor not finding a committed & wonderful guy on women, since that factor seems to impact mens' values most of all nowadays.... there's nothing healthy about expecting us to emulate or be sex objects that are humiliated in order to "get a man" or "keep a man". Most women want men who value our wellbeing and minds, feelings, opinions, thoughts, input, and especially true bonding beyond sexual intimacy. Emphasis on porn kills all of that, and especially intellectual bonding, emotional intimacy as well as opening the door to us being dehumanizing and physically hurt for sexual gratification. None of this is healthy
So true
So true
Agree 💯
This world has transformed into a place i barely recognize.being recently back in the dating game, I went to trust men, but my intuition tells me this guy only wants a bike… Thank you for sharing this information and experience… I have to be brave, because I am irreplaceable. I am someone that another needs… Although he wants me,he’s gonna lose me. Im a teacher… I am a role model to young ladies and how could I live with myself I didn’t practice what I preach too… Thank you so much for giving me courage! Many Blessing to you and yours!
I feel like guys these days mostly care about attractiveness and looks or they have options we have to compete 😔 for them. It’s sad.
"Your body's here with me but your mind is on the other side of town"
😮😮😮
I really love the part you said about being super independent. Every men should listen to this.
Great message! Even for a middle aged woman, like my myself.
That’s crazy… I’ve been a “bike” to all of the men who I’ve been in relationships with.. there was only one who didn’t give me that vibe, but even then, he was way too old for me.. so idk.. this is very helpful though. This makes you realize how much time you’ve wasted and invested… Especially hearing spot on what you’ve experienced.. I was a bike to my ex husband too.. It’s a shame.. Marriage doesn’t mean shit to some people anymore, I was a bike and single mother, while living with my ex husband. 😂 I learned my lesson the hard way.. I should’ve listened to my GGMA when she told me to keep my head in school & not on these niggas.. cuz they’re always gonna be there. 🤷🏾♀️
key word to all of this "a good man"
I hear what you are saying, yet worry that being needed can also result in a loveless, transactional situationship. I can tell you that being with someone who is only with you because he needs you for the things you do for his business, as his cook, as his personal shopper, as his maid…it is not fun. Not when there is zero affection, not when there is zero conversation unless it relates to the things he needs you to do for him. It hurts. REALLY hurts. Reality? He has nowhere else to go. Regardless, he can be unkind, dismissive, hyper critical and very passive-aggressive. No giving his all because he “needs” me. Yes, he needs me to be successful. Not sure he can find anyone else to deal with him and the little he gives. Will he find another woman stupid enough to tolerate the little he does. Ugh.
i think in this case the guy talking means “needing “ as in making him a better man…bringing out the best in him
Rather than being his cook maid & bottle washer
You will leave this man when you are ready
Take your time
i have learned that when i was really ready & left i never went back
There’s no guarantees of a better man
However there is peace of mind & learning to love yourself & enjoy the beauty of each day
And if it’s in your destiny there may be a kind loving man to walk beside you later
Keep your head up :)
Well said..seen men marry women coz they need them to smooth their lives in a home..like she can be a good mother,maid, take in my crap etc... calling us wife material 😮.
This would’ve fell into what he said about a man “wanting” you, or treating you as a “Bike/tool”. The relationship is transactional, he wants you around because of what you can do for him. You’re providing, shelter, food etc. This is where boundaries come in, if you allow yourself to be used, you have to take accountability for it. He can’t be all in and ready to give you his all, if you’re the one providing already. You’ve already taken on the masculine role, so where does that leave him? He’ll stick around because it’s convenient and you can get him from point A to point B. Once he gets on his feet, he’ll leave you. I would leave him first 🤷🏾♀️
The question is how did you get into providing these services for someone who adds nothing to your relationship? This is a rhetorical question, I am a woman, I understand. But start at that question. Don't be a suckered for a loser.
Thank you for this great point! I myself would rather be wanted and desired by my man. Always. I don't want to be in a relationship that's about attachment. I love knowing my man doesn't NEED me (including my love) that he loves himself enough to strive even if I decided to leave at some point if I decided that was MY NEED to be truly happy. There is no human on earth I need like I need air and water. I would die without it. I wouldn't die without a man I was in love with. Some people in relationships who feel like they can't live without their partners end up with an attachment disorder that's confused with love.
Relationships based on needy people can get messy. NEED doesn't usually equate to true love and desire for your partner. He can need you, find you irreplaceable, but still cheat on you and find others to fulfill other "needs" that maybe you don't, but still not want to lose you or break up because he selfishly still wants to keep whatever it is you provide to him and always have you around to fall back on.
So there are different sides to being "needed" that doesn't always indicate a healthy happy relationship.
I do respect where this gentleman in the video is coming from and I get that HIS opinion about a man NEEDING a woman adds more depth and substance to his motivation to "go all in" than just a lustful attraction. But there are different situations and sides to this. It's more complex and not always pleasant.
Thank you, dear sir for your wisdom. I haven’t cried in a long time but when you shared that Bible verse (and I’m not even a religious person) I broke down and sobbed. I remember saying that Bible verse to my ex husband a few years back as a way to convince and beg for love and respect. I experienced extreme verbal abuse and the control that comes along with verbal abuse in my marriage. I will never ever beg anyone to love me again and really what I begged for and tried to convince him of was, to give me the bare minimum. I’m okay and comfortable staying single forever. I love my alone time and I find peace in my own company. My small family, small tribe of friends and my dogs are enough. I’ll try to keep my heart open just in case, however this seems rare and that is sad and unfortunate. What you speak of is rare. You are a unicorn. It’s nice to see that there are unicorns though. So thank you. 🙏🏻
This is so true ❤.
I was confused cuz I'm to independent on myself 😢. Thank u for this❤
I’m glad I discovered you not long ago. You speak the truth and nothing but truth. I appreciate for your support and service you provide to the community. May God bless you abundantly. ❤️❤️❤️
I'm soooo glad that you touched on someone ending it because you are too good to be true. My ex (and favorite man) told me this yrs ago. We are now talking again and he said it feels like home ❤️.
Hello my handsome friend. You were on point about everything. Noticing the difference from my current relationship and my past relationship explains everything you mentioned. My ex did not give his all. He half ass everything during the relationship. I did all the giving and he did all the taking. My current relationship is all in. He was all in the first week we met. Like you said. I was very hesitant when he offered or just went out his way to assist me with whatever I needed. I felt he was moving too fast. But he slowed down for me. It's been 5 years now. He calls me his wife. To his family and friends. And now he's really going all in. He's doing exactly what you described a good man will do.😉😇
5 years and he hasn’t married you?🤔
@@carolyndaniels386my question as well but then again young people don't feel the need to be married as much I guess.
You got it right.
*Understanding the signs of when a man is ready to give his all can guide us towards a fulfilling relationship. Let's use this knowledge to embrace love, trust, and emotional connection.*
I’m so glad to finally see a video that talks about availability as a good thing, and something valued and appreciated.
Very true in the difference between Want & Need.
I really appreciate that you are making these videos. Helps us women understand how men think.
Hi Sealz the man, you are indeed the man! Thanks for all you do, for all you teach and for all you share. You are truly a great teacher, a wise coach and an amazing motivator. God bless you Sealz the man.
Damn, you've reminded me that he put it in my face.
I needed that and thank you.
@sealz the man
Please can you expand on this video and talk about some of the qualities the women would have in order for a man to see her like a wide or irreplaceable etc. That would be much appreciated. Your words of wisdom are truly medicine to the soul and I thank God we have strong biblical men like you preaching from an unbiased perspective.
It depends on the man. Part of finding happiness with a man, is to find the man who actually sees value in what you have to give in the first place. And so many times that means giving up a man that you think you want. Because you like certain qualities he has. Often, we disregard that a man isn’t receptive because we’ve been taught he can change. He can realize you’re wonderful if you show him enough love. Not true. Do you know the only time a man will ever change? When he already thinks he needs you, but he can’t have you until he is bringing you stability and happiness. Men want simple things. Warmth. Respect. To feel sexy to their partner. To feel attracted to their partner. But giving that to a man doesn’t mean he will wife you up. There’s something deeper that goes on. There’s usually something he doesn’t even know he needs until he meets the one. She gives it without even knowing what it is. And for her, he will do it all. Even though plenty of nice women have come and gone. What flips that switch can be different for each man. But i can say this- require of a man. That’s the only way to know if youre “the one” or not.
You make so much sense, especially about the wall being up, independent women 🤷🏾♀️
Love your perspective on what men think about women. Many men who have these channels to discuss relationships, are too wordy. They get off track and I lose the subject and the point. You get straight to the point and you stay on it. As a woman I find your explanations are on point, and you express it in a straight forward way. Thank you. It's a breath of fresh air to hear how men really feel about us, and what is going on inside of them. Appreciate this very much. Very insightful.
It doesn’t matter if you got great qualities or not, it doesn’t matter if he’s ready or not. NOTHING will make a man go all in.
I think your nieces will appreciate this advice just as we do. Thank you. Your words here are very true. It's not hard as we make it to know if a man is all in or if a woman is the type that a man should be all in with. Words n actions need to line up. Show n tell.
You show such positivity,after everything that you have been through.
TGIF! Great video, as always! I was thinking about your description of want vs need. That got me thinking of need vs. value. I do need water, but do I truly value it or take it for granted because it’s easily attainable? I like to be needed to a healthy degree, but what I really want is to be valued. Keeping that wall up can be easier than the pain of being taken for granted, discarded or not valued. That’s the question lingering in my mind. He may say he needs me, but does he really value me? Guess I won’t really know until I’m willing to try again and take my guard down.
It is a shame that all men aren't like you. You are a special man for sure! Love your channel!
Yes value is important
wow 😍
Yes very well said, this needs to be added to his video. To be needed in a healthy way can feel really good, but to be valued is amazing!
You are an Amazing Man! The way your mind is able to break down relationships between a Man and a Woman is incredible. 👁️👁️
You are unique man of Yah ❤ halleluyah. I was raised off survival in and the South im trying to break being so independant. thank you for helping me.. ❤
Yes we still need the information.
As a guy, I can say this is accurate
An another if he's sick, had surgery, mental health issues an can't do as he needs to. If you can be there for spourt an be his backbone an hold down things until he can get back on his feet. That will mean a lot to him as well. An dont put him down. Be there for him an love him an hold him down be his spourt an be his help mate have his back until he can get back in the game speaks volumes to him.
Yes! Ty Stealz the man.
Sealz
Come through! Just found you and wow I am so impressed and proud, God bless you!
We can blame ppl all we want but if we don't heal part of ourselves... it is rather hard to be with someone.
I just discovered you nd I have to admit, u r so right. I hope everyone is listening. Thanks again❤
Seals you don't just speak to me you impact me. Every video is not just a talk, it's soulfull. Thank you❤
There not out there no more
9:00 So sweet 😊
Thank you Sealz! You just make so much sense. That is rare, so sad to say. Keep keeping it REAL!!! Old and young alike need to hear your words ❤
When is it that he feels he needs him? When does he feel she is irreplaceable? Those are still unanswered.
You speak with God's wisdom. Thank you. I have learned so much from your videos. God bless you and your family and ministry abundantly.
I'm picking up what you puttin down!!!
Wow! I’ve never heard anything that good in my life.
It answers a question I’ve had for a long time.
Really, really like the bike analogy.
Now for the next question..,
How can you tell if a man needs you as opposed to just wanting you?
A man that inconveniences himself without hesitating, to be there for you. Thats the real answer. Anyone can do gifts and dates- but to drop everything because you need him? He’s real. My phone battery died before i got home and i decided to vacuum while it charged. I came back to 3 messages asking if i was ok. I always text my boyfriend when i get home from work. He stepped out and talked to me. “Oh my gosh. I was about to leave and look for you. I thought you got in an accident. You just always tell me you’re home. You’re ok. Everything is good.” That man has driven way out of his way to come get me. He has helped mow the lawn when i said i’m mowing. He drives over with his mower in the hot sun. My ex, he was all about how much he couldn’t live without me, but he disappeared when he was needed. Real quick.
My man tells me from time to time "I need you". He already treats me like his wife even though I'm not yet. I moved to another state when the lockdowns happened because he wasn't in my life at the time. He's been back in my life for over a year and a half and keeps asking me to marry him. Due to his work, I have to move back. I'll be doing that soon.
I would love for him to respond but I think men are simple...they will tell you and their actions will align 💯💕
U will know
Wow!👏👏👏 I am really enjoying tips I think I will never go wrong
Trust ...availability.....big fence to climb looking to climb a fence Thankyou
Wonderful job. Great content for women of all ages. Thanks for sharing.
Shalom!
Proverbs 18:22
Greetings, Salutations to you and all the beautiful souls out there. Great video. Thank you for sharing. Sending Love and Positive Vibes to you and all the beautiful souls out there. 💙💥🩷💥🩵💥❤️
Young man I appreciate the way you handle yourself, I'm sure that the one you love & loves you are blessed... Not stereotypical & I like that!
This is the most interesting & helpful thing I’ve heard! ❤ thank you!
thank you 😊🎉🎉💕, I'm 19 soon clocking 20 and it's amazing watching this
Thank you for this powerful video! You put everything in such clear perspective. There’s a man I’ve been friends with for a while that I would like a real relationship from, but he doesn’t see me as irreplaceable although I’ve made it clear what I’m looking for. I’m “available” as you described it, but he is not. I put my trust in God that He’ll bring the type of man that I deserve. 🙏😇❣️
Thank you. You always have great messages. When applied then homes will stand. God bless you richly.
I loved the video. It wasn’t drawn out and you got straight to your points. Very helpful
When I am listening to you I feel like I can fol in love again.
I love the ways you explain things
Yesssss!🙏🏾👏🏾
Trueeee!👏🏾🙏🏾
Tremendous Tuesday 🙌🏽😊
I wish there was a cousin of yours who makes a channel that is aimed at men. Many of them do not have what it takes to fulfill their role. And I speak for many women when I say that we really are in the place where we should be. We are independent, but we give them their space to act, we are irreplaceable, we are necessary, etc. and many of the points you mentioned
Seals You Really Is THE MAN !!!!!! Great advice Thank you ♥️
Thank you for sharing information for us women who just want to get it right with the right person!
So damn smart!! Ive watched many different channels on men giving out dating & relationship advice & most of it is all the same. This, that you're putting out is very unique & detailed, things we women haven't thought about. I've been in many relationships & married & sadly just ended a 5 yr relationship/engagement...so looking to establish some relationship "training" before getting back out there...I don't want to make the same mistakes again. Thank you for your valuable insights!
That independent statement it hard 😬🙋🏾♀️so true
Just found you. Fabulous and passionate communicator. Great work. Keep going.
I was the ginger ale. He drank it, left it open, I lost my bubbles. And then he got the water from a "friend" with whom he's getting all the nutrients. I'm just watching and souring. And I'm usually the ginger ale.
Great video!!
Very true bro! I wish more women will see your video! Thank you.
Wow wow, wow! Zeal's indeed the man. No truer truth! Smack on. Thank you my brother! ❤
This is literally eye opening
HAPPY BIRTHDAY😊🌷!
I just subscribed I’m taking lessons from you because you are a man and you know what goes on in a man head
Thank you. Understood where and why I stand ❤😂
Great message! Thank you😊 No more denying it for me.
Open, ready, sitting in feminine energy, available..but I run into men never married, but not emotionally ready , not traditional , don’t know how to court you, want u to “chip” in on house duties when I don’t live there .. that’s a no for me .
Eu don't really know a man until he has Confidence so fuel a man's confidence not only to make him feel good in the relationship fuel a man's confidence to sea who he really is
Wow! This video is so Illuminating, brilliant ! - THX for your insights ! 👏👏👏
THIS IS SO TRUE THANK YOU & GOOD MORNING
Thank You Truly, the best advice that I have heard!!! Much Love, 🌟
Thank you for all the information.🙏🏾❤️
Thank you for helping us ladies! You're the best 💞
6:13 I strongly agree with tat❤
Wow! Amazing content Sealz! Thank you so much for sharing. I pray God continues to keep and bless you! 🙏🏽💜
Explaining my whole relationship. Whew
Thank you , hope one day I get to meet a real good man. 💓
OMG! This is what I just came out of. This is why I had to move on. I really could not take it anymore. 🥺
Absolutely true..... every word ❤
So good, thank you sealz! God bless you 🙏🤍