I had my daughter last August she’s 1 now. Keemi you’re an amazing mom don’t ever feel selfish for having all the help! You deserve your own time for yourself! I am a military spouse, I’m so far away from family I had no one when my daughter was born unfortunately. Me and my husband did it alone which was really hard for me and had PPD. Since I had her I haven’t had time for myself, if I do it’s rare I’m a SAHM so you would think I would but not 😢 Love that you have the support I think every mom needs it out there! To all the mommas out there you’re doing an amazing job ❤️
my son turned 1 in July, let me tell you i feel mom guilt everyday. i was really hesitant about daycare but around 7 months i noticed he wasn’t getting stimulated enough at home. didn’t matter how much i changed his routine or introduced new things, he needed more. we toured a couple daycares and found one we really liked. not joking after the first week of him going he was more social with others, he “talked” so much, he started doing so many new things. it’s hard because yes it is expensive and i feel like i work just to afford it but it really helped me mentally also. i suffered major PPD and just having time for myself to get the things i needed done, done and getting back into my routine. it helped a lot. you’re doing a great job ❤️
Mom guilt is rough. But the biggest disservice you can do is neglect and lose yourself. You aren’t only a mom. You are an individual that has other lives and interests. You need down time and space. If you don’t take advantage of those times you can just be alone or just with hubby it will weigh on you and you’ll feel worse. Also I would speak with your doctor about everything you’re feeling. The first couple months can be heavy “baby blues” with all your hormones going crazy. But it could be postpartum depression. I had very different symptoms than what I assumed PPD was. I was on medication for maybe 6 months and then was able to get off and felt so much better!!! ❤
I think once you become a parent you only see things as a parent. But I love the fact that my mom shared me with my aunts, grand parents and uncles. I grew up so close to them. It made it so, I didn’t solely rely on my mom. I had so many different comfort zones. Stay encouraged. Your natural nurturing spirit allows you to make good choices. Guilt, makes us brash & sometime unrealistic. Grace… give it to yourself.
My son turned 3 on July 2nd. Any time my mom or another family member asks to keep him I’m always excited because I’m like “well now I can get this done or that done” but the second he leaves I feel empty & guilty that I let him go. Not only is it mentally beneficial for me but also he gets to spend 1 on 1 time with other family members. Shortly before his birthday I also found out I’m pregnant. That makes me feel even more guilty because I never thought I would have another. In my eyes I didn’t think I was capable of loving another child the way I love him. I know deep down that isn’t true but the point is EVERY mama feels guilt. You are doing amazing & as long as he is happy & healthy then that’s all that matters! You’ve had my support for well over 5 years & you will continue to. Thank you for being so real with us Keemi!
Only child here🙋🏻♀️ I didn’t know any different growing up. I played very independently and learned how to communicate with adults differently. I think Aiden is very lucky to have you both as parents, regardless of Your decision to have another baby or not🤍
Mom guilt is normal and trust that it never goes away😩 I’m sure you’re doing an amazing job. If you have a village to help raise your child you’re extremely blessed because many don’t have that. I didn’t put any of my kids in day care don’t trust it. My kids started off with head start/preschool.
When I had my son I felt bad when my mom would get him because it felt like I was pushing him to her which wasn’t the case but my husband and my mom would say when you need a break it’s okay , and I’m also not putting my son in daycare I don’t trust it either
You’re doing an amazing Job! I’m not a mother but I think the same way on only having 1 kid. It really depends on the person, how you feel, your situation. Don’t give into what people tell you, your child will love you regardless 🩷
My son is 13 and I still feel mom guilt. If he’s spending the night at a friends house or needs a ride to practice. He’s capable of taking care of himself but we do just need that mom time to reset and still live life as well. It’s all about balance.
Hi keemi! I’ve been watching you for YEARS OG days and I never comment but I just wanted to say I’m very happy and proud of you on your new journey. I am not a mother and don’t plan to be but I appreciate your honesty/ transparency through the entire pregnancy process and even now that you’re a new mom; you literally say things most moms wouldn’t dare say for fear of seeming like a “ bad mom” or like “ you don’t care about your baby” which is absurd.Do you and your feelings are fucking valid and mothers need to hear these things so that they don’t continue to bash each other because what from I hear mom shaming mostly comes from other mothers Which is sad. You’re doing great and we support you and your family❤
I love the realest of the conversation …some moms would feel guilt for even expressing it. being a mom is hard work but I love it. Thanks for making this
NO guarantee of siblings getting along well. Please do CONTINUE to take time for yourself. Healthy mom is healthy baby. You are being a role model for other moms. You are doing great!!! Don’t let anyone pressure you into having a second baby.
There’s nothing wrong with taking time for you! It makes for a better mama and happier baby! It takes a village and he will have more room in his heart for other people ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You’re baby knows when he’s not with you. You are SO FORTUNATE to have a village to help care for your sweet boy!! Enjoy every moment of alone time as best you can. You got this!!
As someone who doesn’t really have any family, I don’t think you accepting help from family makes you any less of a great & capable mom. Not having family is what scares me about having kids, not having extra help. Having family you know are there for you & your child is so special & you clearly see that so don’t worry. You’re doing great ❤️
Raising a child alone is no easy task, especially these days. May you get blessed with the right people who will help you feel secure and ready enough for that.
Hi Keemi! I just want to say that I am following you for 6+ years. And I have seen you being the realist person on this platform! I believe you are doing a great job and when you become a mom, guilt comes with it. Im sure you will keep getting better in this ❤
speaking from a mom who was a single mom who raised 4 children by herself and two of my boys was special needs. no sweetie you are not being selfish for wanting time to yourself.enjoy your alone time. don't feel guilty about it.
My baby is just over 4 months old (First baby). The Mum/Mom guilt is real & i never realised how hard looking after a little human being is. I love my son with all my heart but you do find days were you're extremely emotional & 'Mourn' the days of freedom & it is amazing you have help, never feel guilty over that, enjoy it because you deserve it! We unfortunately don't have anyone who can help us but we make it work. I love that i now spend all my money on buying little outfits for him just to see how cute he is when he wears them😂 You are doing an amazing job with Aidan & i am sending you all the mummy love! Sending lots of love from Northern Ireland❤❤
I literally was 3 months old when i went to the daycare, my mom was a teacher and my dad was an engineer, so they had no choice but to send me to the daycare this early, my mom's guilt was REAL, but she said, you literally slept the whole period i was gone, and whenever you woke up, they would give you the bottle i prepared for you and then you would get back to sleep right away..😂❤
Hey girl, first of all I love you and your videos! ❤️ And second of all it is totally ok to feel how you’re feeling because I’m sure most of us moms have similar feelings like after having their first, second, third, or more babies. At least I did, but even though I do live with my mom I still felt discouraged about things after I had my first baby. It’s very normal to feel that way, once I learned that I really need help and I know I need the help when it’s hard I should really accept the help because later on down the road I will feel worse. I just wanted to throw that part out for you that it’s ok to feel how you feel, but it does feels like a reset before we take our baby back again and in our minds we’re like I really needed this. I’m currently pregnant with my second child right now and due in December, I’m sure after I have this one and I have those feelings come back to me again you’d give the same advice to me because being a mom even though some of us have help is hard. You’re doing an amazing job and you have all the support you need with you. You’ll be ok girl. ❤️😊
OMG, things have really changed. Daycare used to be a necessity if both parents worked. Now, it's considered important for socialization?? Kids get socialized on the playground and in school. Why is socialization all of a sudden important before the baby is even able to walk & talk? Time with mom and dad is also important for baby's growth & development. It seems like now, people send their kid away for everything 🙄. IMO, the more conversation, options and opportunities that we have for our kids, the more messed up they seem to become.
Yes I agree with the siblings you never know 💯 also, go with your mommy instincts with daycare or not if your not feeling it right now don’t and I agree up to 3 yr old like the lady told you, I see where she’s coming from and like you said your job is flexible so it’s not needed. the bonding in beginning is very important and you will never get that back when there that small. Also, having a mommy break is not a bad thing! Take advantage of it if you can 💞
Don't feel bad about not wanting to have another child! You are the one that will have to do the pregnancy and childbirth all over again. Not Dong. Not your friends or family. And for Aiden having another sibling... well it's not going to be picture perfect where your kids will love each other 24/7 lol I'm sure Aiden will be an amazing person when he grows up as long as you, Dong and Ame give him all the love in the world
I have a 8 week old so we basically had our babies at around the same Time ! But this is my second baby & im 24! So I do not have mom guilt this time around . But I totally understand everything you’re saying & def listen when they say this goes by SO fast
Mom guilt is ok! Having a village to raise a baby is a good thing. Needing help is normal! Having no help and no sleep can cause PPD. You're doing an amazing job!
Keemi! I think I saw you at Joongboo market. 키미씨 가서 인사해주고 싶었는데 아기랑 있어서 놀랄까봐 그냥 지나갔어요. 예전부터 잘 봤는데 그렇게 직접 보니깐 좋더라구요. 건강히 잘 지내시고~ 아이도 잘 키우는 모습이 너무 보기 좋고 응원해요. 더 웃는 날들도 많았으면 좋겠네요. 팬이 응원합니다 ❤
You're doing enough. Your decisions, whatever they are, are between you and your baby. You have a supportive husband. You are so blessed. If I can give you unsolicited mom advice, never compare your journey as a mama with another mother or the expectations of others. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. You have no reason whatsoever to feel guilt. New journey, new joys, new growth and learning. Keep up the good work and continue to take care of yourself too. Being a mom is hard work, rewarding, and wonderful all at the same time. Congratulations on your new baby and motherhood. 🙏🏻☺️
I uses to watch u all the time n then UA-cam stopped showing me anything about ur channel. I just came across this! I'm so excited n happy lol I'm making sure I'm subscribed n everything!
A baby that is fed, is a happy baby. You gave him the best start, and with breast milk and that's all that counts. You are lucky to have the relief sometimes, to have time for yourself. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY
I had my daughter at a young age. I didnt have any help with day to day things with her. When someone would offer to take her i would feel so guilty. But i realized that i needed the break and when she came home the next day i felt like i pushed a reset button. Nothing wrong with taking time for yourself
It’s normal to feel that way but if u have the help take it Omg it helps so much. My mom would help me so much with my son she would take care of him during the week for a couple of hours to help me get some sleep and over the weekend she would take care of him for most of the day so me and my husband can have little dates and spend quality time. Don’t feel bad for wanting some time to yourself as mothers we need that time ❤ your doing great and aiden is in the best care with his grandparents.
I don't even have a child yet (I'm 30 and planning to be a mom) and I don't feel comfortable to send my future child to daycare before 4 yo. I am an accounting clerk and I sometimes work from home (twice a week). So I might work 3 times a week at home and the 2 days I'll be in my office my mom will keep the baby since she wants to. At 5 yo he/she will going to preschool so it's all gonna be fine after that. Well that's my plan 😊 let's see if it turns out this way.
Hi Keemi, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, now I know I’m normal because I feel the same “mother guilt” everything you said I’ve been through it. My baby is 7 months old xx
i missed your video. btw, congratulations to you and dong! i wish all the happiness for you and your little baby. being parents are never easy. take care of yourself too ❤
It’s normal to feel mom guilt, if you have help don’t feel bad about accepting it.. it takes a village! Also that’s benefiting your baby in the end is more love for the baby!
don't feel guilty mama. your feelings are 100% valid! i'm 36 weeks now and almost there! i was bummed i was having a boy though so we want to try asap to try for a girl since it's not guaranteed haha -
None of my kids ever went to day care their first day of school was pre-school at 4 years old. My kids are 11, 8 and 11 months. I’m blessed enough to be a stay at home mom and I didn’t want to spend the money on them going to daycare when I’m home anyways. But my husband now is saying we might put our youngest in daycare just for em to get time during the day so I can have time to do things that I can’t get done while he’s home. At this age he’s wanting 100% of my attention so it’s a hard to do bigger projects around the house. My oldest 2 are 2 years and 9 months apart and having them grow up together was really great bc they always had someone kinda close in age to play with. And with Cash our baby now all the kids are a lot older and in school so he’s very attached to me and has no one else around his age to play with. But it is very nice that his big sister (11) helps a lot with him she’s been so good with him.
You’re not being selfish you’re just adjusting, but now you have to have the understanding of there’s no such thing as your own time your own space your own food, your own restroom time your own bed, etc. lol I think even when you’re exhausted you need to keep him and work through it. Are you going through postpartum depression?
I reallllyyy can relate how you feel kim... and i really love how transparent how true and bold all the things that you have share❤😊🥰 reallly love and time with you❤
IT TAKES A VILLAGE! Don’t be afraid or like your failure to lean on your family !! Moma’s need R&R too! The first years are harder because they are small and need so much attention but it does get easier!
Sadly, I made the decision to not have children when I was a little girl because I watched my mom struggle to put food on the table and pay bills after my father died. I regret that decision and now it’s to late because I am 54 years old,
I feel like every mother feels some level of guilt because they want to do what’s best for their children and feel like they never are doing enough the fact that you feel any guilt makes it obvious to me that your a great mother Keemi!! Your really doing your very best for Aiden! ❤️🩵
Mom guilt is sooo real!!! Mine are 9 and a half and 8 it NEVER goes away. As far as the 100% guarantee that your kids will always get along,that doesn’t happen! My kids are close my son will protect his sister like no other!! But he bullies her like no other also!😂. It’s comical and frustrating but it’s a way of life.
I m in the same boat! I have a 5 week old and I am just now feeling comfortable in my routine but it is so much work, rewarding but so intense! I m so blessed to have family a few hours away! Also I am so confused what to do………daycare or no daycare!!
Ur honesty is pure and keep that . Thar right there love proves ur a good mama . U will get the hang of things and honestly help is good . Not always but its good to have . Ur a very lucky mama ❤😊
No te sientas culpable, también necesitas tiempo para ti, para descansar y hacer tus cosas, y el esta bien cuidado 😊 no te preocupes tanto. Lo estás haciendo bien.
Keemi, I have 3 kids. 13 8 & 7 they are girl boy girl. . . My best advice is plan it out! Remember if u get pregnant again when baby (I don’t want to spell his name wrong🤣🤷🏻♀️😭) is around 12-14 months old ur babies will be 2 years apart! My kids are 13 months apart. 2&3rd grade && 8th my younger 2 are literally BEST FRIENDS. My kids got removed for domestic violence in the house and their bond grew sooo much. Thankfully they was placed with my dad and now they are back home with me❤️ I say this because I NEVER wanted kids I grew up real hard. I don’t talk to my sister but me and my younger brother are close. But I love your videos❤️ from chicago as well!!! I’ve never put my kids in daycare but would play and made a schedule with them❤️ you need time to yourself as well! Maybe if you drop him off in the am then pick him up in the pm after ur hubby gets off work.
I agree with you Keemi that the prices are high and the quality is low, unfortunately it will get worse.....Therefore, let's enjoy our loved ones and think positively as much as possible 🤗🤗🤗
I had mine june 29th and I'm not certain if i want another one as well. My significant other wants 3 but I'm okay with one right now. Guilt is there he says its good to have siblings i understand. But I'm not certain
@@ran_haibara It takes awhile to recover from having the first one. But not everyone gives me time they ask right away after giving birth to my son. It can be overwhelming at times.
This is all normal, and I believe that every Mom deserves alone time amd time to get yourself together. Self love is very Important and that's hard with a child. I also think the grandparents watching the him is best! He will also get used to being with others. My son had a REALLY hard time going with anyone else but my husband and myself. Because we made the choice not to have others watch him. And it was not the best idea, because then school was very very difficult to start as well. He had really bad separation anxiety. ❤
As a divorced single mom of 5 kids,,,you better take advantage of what "you time" you can get lol it doesn't mean you don't love your son but that you love him enough to make sure you are at your best :)
If you were raised well, then you should seek advise from your mom and dad, (in-laws too...if this works). Tell them to be honest with you and be willing to take their advise...100%. Parenting is hard, but very rewarding. It is a sacrifice, but only for a very short time. Keep reminding yourself that it is temporary and before you know it he will be off to college and living his own life. 💕
You're lucky to have help. I'm alone with my daughter all the time. Her dad is always at work and my family doesn't live near. So just be happy you have help all the time👍🤗
I work in child development and children don't become interested in social connections with other kids until they are 3. Prior to that all that matters is a strong attachment to their primary caretaker
Im due in 13 days and Im overwhelmed because I cant go back to work full-time when shes born. My husband works 12 hour shifts overnight, which leaves us with just me home to take care of her. His job has the benefits and income so much better than mine. I feel im losing my identity and freedom. I have a lot of guilt over those feelings.
I honestly don't want my baby to go to daycare at 1 yo (he's 9 weeks old), but I don't have a choice. EI is not enough right now & if I choose to stay home with my baby for a while then my savings would be all gone. Right now, I'm trying not to think about that & just enjoying my time with LO
And from just the little bit I know about you I feel like you are a very strong person on you can do it love yourself first then you can love baby and husband
It's okay to leave aiden with ur parents, he's safe and looked after. You need your own time and nothing to feel guilty about. I also feel exhausted looking after my 1 year old son, so I just drop him at my parents to get a break. There's nothing wrong with it. You're not a bad mum, ur a good mum
My mother looked after my daughter for 3-4 months non stop, don't blame yourself and underestimate 💖 Just try to be happy so that others around you will be as well💕💞❣️
I'm sorry but I really enjoying you as a creator but I really think you overthink things too much you got to take it as it comes there only that age one time learn to love yourself all at the same time
@@ran_haibaraI agree, being a new time parent is a shock to your body and your mind. She’s still figuring things out. Don’t disregard her feelings as “your thinking to much”. She has awhole person to worry about. It’s normal
I have 5 sisters and out of those five, only one is an angel and she’s my world! The rest and evil witches literally do spells and shit 😂 so I get that. Follow your heart 💜
Only in the last few generations had not having help from family and community with kids has become the norm. Before then since the beginning of humanoids, have people, family and. Communty helped with the raising of kids. Dont feel guilty.
To me daycare is something dangerous ,you don't know what goes on in those places ,don't put them in daycare ,,,raise him and then ,wait till he goes to school ,,,you teach him ,there's nothing better then a parent teaching there kids to be wise ,you don't want kids to pick up bad behavior
Awh I feel bad now for asking the question about mommy-baby bonding. I’m sorry if I made you upset in the slightest. There is nothing wrong with getting help from your parents and for them to look after their grandkid, you recently gave birth to your first baby. Sometimes it’s important to focus on yourself and your partner so that you can improve your relationship and feel better when your baby is around.
Mom guilt is totally normal. I’ve just never known someone who wasn’t a single parent to leave their child away from their home and parents so early? Postpartum depression does not always present itself as sadness etc. if your baby is this young and you’re craving your freedom and old life then you should seriously consider mentioning this to your doctor. There is no reason that a baby this young should be spending nights without his parents…
when you get a break ,it actually helps you to be a better mom. Your life is more balanced for him. Its a Blessing that you have so much help.
I had my daughter last August she’s 1 now. Keemi you’re an amazing mom don’t ever feel selfish for having all the help! You deserve your own time for yourself! I am a military spouse, I’m so far away from family I had no one when my daughter was born unfortunately. Me and my husband did it alone which was really hard for me and had PPD. Since I had her I haven’t had time for myself, if I do it’s rare I’m a SAHM so you would think I would but not 😢 Love that you have the support I think every mom needs it out there! To all the mommas out there you’re doing an amazing job ❤️
my son turned 1 in July, let me tell you i feel mom guilt everyday. i was really hesitant about daycare but around 7 months i noticed he wasn’t getting stimulated enough at home. didn’t matter how much i changed his routine or introduced new things, he needed more. we toured a couple daycares and found one we really liked. not joking after the first week of him going he was more social with others, he “talked” so much, he started doing so many new things. it’s hard because yes it is expensive and i feel like i work just to afford it but it really helped me mentally also. i suffered major PPD and just having time for myself to get the things i needed done, done and getting back into my routine. it helped a lot. you’re doing a great job ❤️
aww idk why this sounded so sweet to me loll...you sound like a great mom
Mom guilt is rough. But the biggest disservice you can do is neglect and lose yourself. You aren’t only a mom. You are an individual that has other lives and interests. You need down time and space. If you don’t take advantage of those times you can just be alone or just with hubby it will weigh on you and you’ll feel worse. Also I would speak with your doctor about everything you’re feeling. The first couple months can be heavy “baby blues” with all your hormones going crazy. But it could be postpartum depression. I had very different symptoms than what I assumed PPD was. I was on medication for maybe 6 months and then was able to get off and felt so much better!!! ❤
I think once you become a parent you only see things as a parent. But I love the fact that my mom shared me with my aunts, grand parents and uncles. I grew up so close to them. It made it so, I didn’t solely rely on my mom. I had so many different comfort zones. Stay encouraged. Your natural nurturing spirit allows you to make good choices. Guilt, makes us brash & sometime unrealistic. Grace… give it to yourself.
My son turned 3 on July 2nd. Any time my mom or another family member asks to keep him I’m always excited because I’m like “well now I can get this done or that done” but the second he leaves I feel empty & guilty that I let him go. Not only is it mentally beneficial for me but also he gets to spend 1 on 1 time with other family members. Shortly before his birthday I also found out I’m pregnant. That makes me feel even more guilty because I never thought I would have another. In my eyes I didn’t think I was capable of loving another child the way I love him. I know deep down that isn’t true but the point is EVERY mama feels guilt. You are doing amazing & as long as he is happy & healthy then that’s all that matters! You’ve had my support for well over 5 years & you will continue to. Thank you for being so real with us Keemi!
Only child here🙋🏻♀️ I didn’t know any different growing up. I played very independently and learned how to communicate with adults differently. I think Aiden is very lucky to have you both as parents, regardless of
Your decision to have another baby or not🤍
Mom guilt is normal and trust that it never goes away😩 I’m sure you’re doing an amazing job. If you have a village to help raise your child you’re extremely blessed because many don’t have that. I didn’t put any of my kids in day care don’t trust it. My kids started off with head start/preschool.
When I had my son I felt bad when my mom would get him because it felt like I was pushing him to her which wasn’t the case but my husband and my mom would say when you need a break it’s okay , and I’m also not putting my son in daycare I don’t trust it either
Please don't have mom guilt because you are doing a Fabulous job being a mommy!! ♥️♥️
You’re doing an amazing Job! I’m not a mother but I think the same way on only having 1 kid. It really depends on the person, how you feel, your situation.
Don’t give into what people tell you, your child will love you regardless 🩷
My son is 13 and I still feel mom guilt. If he’s spending the night at a friends house or needs a ride to practice. He’s capable of taking care of himself but we do just need that mom time to reset and still live life as well. It’s all about balance.
Hi keemi! I’ve been watching you for YEARS OG days and I never comment but I just wanted to say I’m very happy and proud of you on your new journey. I am not a mother and don’t plan to be but I appreciate your honesty/ transparency through the entire pregnancy process and even now that you’re a new mom; you literally say things most moms wouldn’t dare say for fear of seeming like a “ bad mom” or like “ you don’t care about your baby” which is absurd.Do you and your feelings are fucking valid and mothers need to hear these things so that they don’t continue to bash each other because what from I hear mom shaming mostly comes from other mothers Which is sad. You’re doing great and we support you and your family❤
I love the realest of the conversation …some moms would feel guilt for even expressing it. being a mom is hard work but I love it. Thanks for making this
NO guarantee of siblings getting along well.
Please do CONTINUE to take time for yourself. Healthy mom is healthy baby. You are being a role model for other moms. You are doing great!!!
Don’t let anyone pressure you into having a second baby.
There’s nothing wrong with taking time for you! It makes for a better mama and happier baby! It takes a village and he will have more room in his heart for other people ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You’re baby knows when he’s not with you. You are SO FORTUNATE to have a village to help care for your sweet boy!! Enjoy every moment of alone time as best you can. You got this!!
As someone who doesn’t really have any family, I don’t think you accepting help from family makes you any less of a great & capable mom. Not having family is what scares me about having kids, not having extra help. Having family you know are there for you & your child is so special & you clearly see that so don’t worry. You’re doing great ❤️
Raising a child alone is no easy task, especially these days. May you get blessed with the right people who will help you feel secure and ready enough for that.
Awe it’s so cute watching you be in love with Aiden! He is so handsome and beautiful. Congrats mama and just rest up and take care of yourself 🎉
Hi Keemi! I just want to say that I am following you for 6+ years. And I have seen you being the realist person on this platform! I believe you are doing a great job and when you become a mom, guilt comes with it. Im sure you will keep getting better in this ❤
speaking from a mom who was a single mom who raised 4 children by herself and two of my boys was special needs. no sweetie you are not being selfish for wanting time to yourself.enjoy your alone time. don't feel guilty about it.
My baby is just over 4 months old (First baby). The Mum/Mom guilt is real & i never realised how hard looking after a little human being is. I love my son with all my heart but you do find days were you're extremely emotional & 'Mourn' the days of freedom & it is amazing you have help, never feel guilty over that, enjoy it because you deserve it! We unfortunately don't have anyone who can help us but we make it work. I love that i now spend all my money on buying little outfits for him just to see how cute he is when he wears them😂 You are doing an amazing job with Aidan & i am sending you all the mummy love! Sending lots of love from Northern Ireland❤❤
It is so very normal to feel Mother's guilt, Keemi. Family love every moment they get to spend time with him as well.
I literally was 3 months old when i went to the daycare, my mom was a teacher and my dad was an engineer, so they had no choice but to send me to the daycare this early, my mom's guilt was REAL, but she said, you literally slept the whole period i was gone, and whenever you woke up, they would give you the bottle i prepared for you and then you would get back to sleep right away..😂❤
We were never meant to do it ALONE if you have the help take it ❤ the fact that you feel some guilt means your already an amazing mother!
Hey girl, first of all I love you and your videos! ❤️
And second of all it is totally ok to feel how you’re feeling because I’m sure most of us moms have similar feelings like after having their first, second, third, or more babies. At least I did, but even though I do live with my mom I still felt discouraged about things after I had my first baby. It’s very normal to feel that way, once I learned that I really need help and I know I need the help when it’s hard I should really accept the help because later on down the road I will feel worse. I just wanted to throw that part out for you that it’s ok to feel how you feel, but it does feels like a reset before we take our baby back again and in our minds we’re like I really needed this. I’m currently pregnant with my second child right now and due in December, I’m sure after I have this one and I have those feelings come back to me again you’d give the same advice to me because being a mom even though some of us have help is hard. You’re doing an amazing job and you have all the support you need with you. You’ll be ok girl. ❤️😊
OMG, things have really changed.
Daycare used to be a necessity if both parents worked.
Now, it's considered important for socialization??
Kids get socialized on the playground and in school.
Why is socialization all of a sudden important before the baby is even able to walk & talk?
Time with mom and dad is also important for baby's growth & development.
It seems like now, people send their kid away for everything 🙄.
IMO, the more conversation, options and opportunities that we have for our kids, the more messed up they seem to become.
Yes I agree with the siblings you never know 💯 also, go with your mommy instincts with daycare or not if your not feeling it right now don’t and I agree up to 3 yr old like the lady told you, I see where she’s coming from and like you said your job is flexible so it’s not needed. the bonding in beginning is very important and you will never get that back when there that small. Also, having a mommy break is not a bad thing! Take advantage of it if you can 💞
It’s natural to feel that way and we all need and accept help. It’s not easy, don’t be so hard on yourself.
100% agree with it doesn’t last forever you will get your lazy days back. Baby blues is also so real I had it with my first son.
Don't feel bad about not wanting to have another child! You are the one that will have to do the pregnancy and childbirth all over again. Not Dong. Not your friends or family. And for Aiden having another sibling... well it's not going to be picture perfect where your kids will love each other 24/7 lol I'm sure Aiden will be an amazing person when he grows up as long as you, Dong and Ame give him all the love in the world
I have a 8 week old so we basically had our babies at around the same
Time ! But this is my second baby & im 24! So I do not have mom guilt this time around . But I totally understand everything you’re saying & def listen when they say this goes by SO fast
Mom guilt is ok! Having a village to raise a baby is a good thing. Needing help is normal! Having no help and no sleep can cause PPD. You're doing an amazing job!
7 min in but the phrase “it takes a village to raise a child” is popping in my head at what youre saying. you got this 🖤
im honestly happy for u but this video reminded me why im happy being child free lol. you will find balance, you got this
Keemi! I think I saw you at Joongboo market. 키미씨 가서 인사해주고 싶었는데 아기랑 있어서 놀랄까봐 그냥 지나갔어요. 예전부터 잘 봤는데 그렇게 직접 보니깐 좋더라구요. 건강히 잘 지내시고~ 아이도 잘 키우는 모습이 너무 보기 좋고 응원해요. 더 웃는 날들도 많았으면 좋겠네요. 팬이 응원합니다 ❤
You're doing enough. Your decisions, whatever they are, are between you and your baby. You have a supportive husband. You are so blessed. If I can give you unsolicited mom advice, never compare your journey as a mama with another mother or the expectations of others. Remember, comparison is the thief of joy. You have no reason whatsoever to feel guilt. New journey, new joys, new growth and learning. Keep up the good work and continue to take care of yourself too. Being a mom is hard work, rewarding, and wonderful all at the same time. Congratulations on your new baby and motherhood. 🙏🏻☺️
Everyone turns away from their profound natural feeling that they don't want to be separated from their child: it's bizarre.
Having help is a good thing, he gets the best u when your Re-energised!
I uses to watch u all the time n then UA-cam stopped showing me anything about ur channel. I just came across this! I'm so excited n happy lol I'm making sure I'm subscribed n everything!
A baby that is fed, is a happy baby. You gave him the best start, and with breast milk and that's all that counts. You are lucky to have the relief sometimes, to have time for yourself. DO NOT FEEL GUILTY
I had my daughter at a young age. I didnt have any help with day to day things with her. When someone would offer to take her i would feel so guilty. But i realized that i needed the break and when she came home the next day i felt like i pushed a reset button. Nothing wrong with taking time for yourself
It’s normal to feel that way but if u have the help take it Omg it helps so much. My mom would help me so much with my son she would take care of him during the week for a couple of hours to help me get some sleep and over the weekend she would take care of him for most of the day so me and my husband can have little dates and spend quality time. Don’t feel bad for wanting some time to yourself as mothers we need that time ❤ your doing great and aiden is in the best care with his grandparents.
Don’t feel bad by love ❤ it seems like you have an amazing support system! You got This !!
I don't even have a child yet (I'm 30 and planning to be a mom) and I don't feel comfortable to send my future child to daycare before 4 yo. I am an accounting clerk and I sometimes work from home (twice a week). So I might work 3 times a week at home and the 2 days I'll be in my office my mom will keep the baby since she wants to. At 5 yo he/she will going to preschool so it's all gonna be fine after that. Well that's my plan 😊 let's see if it turns out this way.
Hi Keemi, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts, now I know I’m normal because I feel the same “mother guilt” everything you said I’ve been through it. My baby is 7 months old xx
The most important time to with the are the first three months
i missed your video. btw, congratulations to you and dong! i wish all the happiness for you and your little baby. being parents are never easy. take care of yourself too ❤
It’s normal to feel mom guilt, if you have help don’t feel bad about accepting it.. it takes a village! Also that’s benefiting your baby in the end is more love for the baby!
don't feel guilty mama. your feelings are 100% valid! i'm 36 weeks now and almost there! i was bummed i was having a boy though so we want to try asap to try for a girl since it's not guaranteed haha -
You can watch out all you want but that is close door in daycare alot can happen. Baby shakes everything
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None of my kids ever went to day care their first day of school was pre-school at 4 years old. My kids are 11, 8 and 11 months. I’m blessed enough to be a stay at home mom and I didn’t want to spend the money on them going to daycare when I’m home anyways. But my husband now is saying we might put our youngest in daycare just for em to get time during the day so I can have time to do things that I can’t get done while he’s home. At this age he’s wanting 100% of my attention so it’s a hard to do bigger projects around the house. My oldest 2 are 2 years and 9 months apart and having them grow up together was really great bc they always had someone kinda close in age to play with. And with Cash our baby now all the kids are a lot older and in school so he’s very attached to me and has no one else around his age to play with. But it is very nice that his big sister (11) helps a lot with him she’s been so good with him.
You’re not being selfish you’re just adjusting, but now you have to have the understanding of there’s no such thing as your own time your own space your own food, your own restroom time your own bed, etc. lol I think even when you’re exhausted you need to keep him and work through it. Are you going through postpartum depression?
I reallllyyy can relate how you feel kim... and i really love how transparent how true and bold all the things that you have share❤😊🥰 reallly love and time with you❤
IT TAKES A VILLAGE! Don’t be afraid or like your failure to lean on your family !! Moma’s need R&R too! The first years are harder because they are small and need so much attention but it does get easier!
Sadly, I made the decision to not have children when I was a little girl because I watched my mom struggle to put food on the table and pay bills after my father died. I regret that decision and now it’s to late because I am 54 years old,
I feel like every mother feels some level of guilt because they want to do what’s best for their children and feel like they never are doing enough the fact that you feel any guilt makes it obvious to me that your a great mother Keemi!! Your really doing your very best for Aiden! ❤️🩵
Mom guilt is sooo real!!! Mine are 9 and a half and 8 it NEVER goes away. As far as the 100% guarantee that your kids will always get along,that doesn’t happen! My kids are close my son will protect his sister like no other!! But he bullies her like no other also!😂. It’s comical and frustrating but it’s a way of life.
I m in the same boat! I have a 5 week old and I am just now feeling comfortable in my routine but it is so much work, rewarding but so intense! I m so blessed to have family a few hours away! Also I am so confused what to do………daycare or no daycare!!
28:44 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣 you are soooooooooo funny and cute 😍🤗 29:20 🤣🤣🤣
I just found your channel! Enjoying your videos!! You baby is So Adorable!! ♥️
Everything you feel and think is normal 🤗however, being a mother is not easy at all, even though it is the best thing in the world😍😍😍
Keemi, Bonchon also sells a Kimchee coleslaw that’s really good! Try it sometime.💕
Ur honesty is pure and keep that . Thar right there love proves ur a good mama . U will get the hang of things and honestly help is good . Not always but its good to have . Ur a very lucky mama ❤😊
No te sientas culpable, también necesitas tiempo para ti, para descansar y hacer tus cosas, y el esta bien cuidado 😊 no te preocupes tanto. Lo estás haciendo bien.
Keemi, I have 3 kids. 13 8 & 7 they are girl boy girl. . . My best advice is plan it out! Remember if u get pregnant again when baby (I don’t want to spell his name wrong🤣🤷🏻♀️😭) is around 12-14 months old ur babies will be 2 years apart! My kids are 13 months apart. 2&3rd grade && 8th my younger 2 are literally BEST FRIENDS. My kids got removed for domestic violence in the house and their bond grew sooo much. Thankfully they was placed with my dad and now they are back home with me❤️ I say this because I NEVER wanted kids I grew up real hard. I don’t talk to my sister but me and my younger brother are close. But I love your videos❤️ from chicago as well!!!
I’ve never put my kids in daycare but would play and made a schedule with them❤️ you need time to yourself as well! Maybe if you drop him off in the am then pick him up in the pm after ur hubby gets off work.
my son is 20yrs old. childhood is short. 5 yrs then they go to school full time until 17 yrs old. i loved being alone with my son.
I agree with you Keemi that the prices are high and the quality is low, unfortunately it will get worse.....Therefore, let's enjoy our loved ones and think positively as much as possible 🤗🤗🤗
I had mine june 29th and I'm not certain if i want another one as well. My significant other wants 3 but I'm okay with one right now. Guilt is there he says its good to have siblings i understand. But I'm not certain
pls dont feel guilty for it, especially youre the one who will carry the baby for another 9mos. Just decide when your body and mind is ready.
My lil girl was born 6/29 too! Congratulations!
@@ran_haibara It takes awhile to recover from having the first one. But not everyone gives me time they ask right away after giving birth to my son. It can be overwhelming at times.
@@chelsealynn2406 congratulations to you as well
This is all normal, and I believe that every Mom deserves alone time amd time to get yourself together. Self love is very Important and that's hard with a child.
I also think the grandparents watching the him is best! He will also get used to being with others. My son had a REALLY hard time going with anyone else but my husband and myself. Because we made the choice not to have others watch him. And it was not the best idea, because then school was very very difficult to start as well. He had really bad separation anxiety. ❤
As a divorced single mom of 5 kids,,,you better take advantage of what "you time" you can get lol it doesn't mean you don't love your son but that you love him enough to make sure you are at your best :)
💗💗💗💗 Sending so much love and postive vibes your way ✨️ 💖
If you were raised well, then you should seek advise from your mom and dad, (in-laws too...if this works). Tell them to be honest with you and be willing to take their advise...100%. Parenting is hard, but very rewarding. It is a sacrifice, but only for a very short time. Keep reminding yourself that it is temporary and before you know it he will be off to college and living his own life. 💕
He is a literal doll.🥰
Can do deep fried soft shell crab 🦀 mmm
You're lucky to have help. I'm alone with my daughter all the time. Her dad is always at work and my family doesn't live near. So just be happy you have help all the time👍🤗
Congratulations again to you guys!
You’re not too selfish, it takes a village to raise a baby❤
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I work in child development and children don't become interested in social connections with other kids until they are 3. Prior to that all that matters is a strong attachment to their primary caretaker
Im due in 13 days and Im overwhelmed because I cant go back to work full-time when shes born. My husband works 12 hour shifts overnight, which leaves us with just me home to take care of her. His job has the benefits and income so much better than mine. I feel im losing my identity and freedom. I have a lot of guilt over those feelings.
I honestly don't want my baby to go to daycare at 1 yo (he's 9 weeks old), but I don't have a choice. EI is not enough right now & if I choose to stay home with my baby for a while then my savings would be all gone. Right now, I'm trying not to think about that & just enjoying my time with LO
You are AWESOME mom ❤❤
And from just the little bit I know about you I feel like you are a very strong person on you can do it love yourself first then you can love baby and husband
Always mom guilt also. It happens part of figuring things out
I feel like it’s normal for mother to have atleast once a week of break from the baby so the mother mental health are good and have a rest
It's okay to leave aiden with ur parents, he's safe and looked after. You need your own time and nothing to feel guilty about. I also feel exhausted looking after my 1 year old son, so I just drop him at my parents to get a break. There's nothing wrong with it. You're not a bad mum, ur a good mum
My mother looked after my daughter for 3-4 months non stop, don't blame yourself and underestimate 💖 Just try to be happy so that others around you will be as well💕💞❣️
We had a Korean fried chicken place open recently in the city next to me. I can't wait to check it out. Think it's called K-Daak.
I think so
Hi don't you feel alone us moms all understand completely ❤
Aww I dont mind the whole you talking more baby stuff. ❤❤❤
I'm sorry but I really enjoying you as a creator but I really think you overthink things too much you got to take it as it comes there only that age one time learn to love yourself all at the same time
it's probably bc she's still a first time mom, it's still difficult to find a balance with a first born
@@ran_haibaraI agree, being a new time parent is a shock to your body and your mind. She’s still figuring things out. Don’t disregard her feelings as “your thinking to much”. She has awhole person to worry about. It’s normal
I stayed home with my son until he started Pre-K at like 4. I heard to many horror stories also
I have 5 sisters and out of those five, only one is an angel and she’s my world! The rest and evil witches literally do spells and shit 😂 so I get that. Follow your heart 💜
Only in the last few generations had not having help from family and community with kids has become the norm. Before then since the beginning of humanoids, have people, family and. Communty helped with the raising of kids. Dont feel guilty.
I miss dong and ame huhu😢
To me daycare is something dangerous ,you don't know what goes on in those places ,don't put them in daycare ,,,raise him and then ,wait till he goes to school ,,,you teach him ,there's nothing better then a parent teaching there kids to be wise ,you don't want kids to pick up bad behavior
From other kids
Awh I feel bad now for asking the question about mommy-baby bonding. I’m sorry if I made you upset in the slightest. There is nothing wrong with getting help from your parents and for them to look after their grandkid, you recently gave birth to your first baby. Sometimes it’s important to focus on yourself and your partner so that you can improve your relationship and feel better when your baby is around.
Youre attached now but give it a few years. You’ll need some alone time even if its few hours of daycare each week.
Kimmi you are so funny it's TRUE that's how I felt with my boy I keep sayng his me lol 😂❤
Mom guilt is totally normal. I’ve just never known someone who wasn’t a single parent to leave their child away from their home and parents so early? Postpartum depression does not always present itself as sadness etc. if your baby is this young and you’re craving your freedom and old life then you should seriously consider mentioning this to your doctor. There is no reason that a baby this young should be spending nights without his parents…