Well - as an INFP and a professional artist/art professor of about 40 years - I have long since learned not to wait for someone to discover me. I am proactive and get my artwork out there. We (INFP's) can adjust to reality - yet still live in our flow.
Im a pretty badass guitar player but I would never put out a video of me playing on UA-cam. I also struggle while playing live because I don't want to stand out and be in the center. After a gig I usually hide in the background cause I can't take critics, especially good critics.
To all my fellow INFPs I love you all and you are my soul group my best friends. I am in a dark place in my life and pretty tired of this life filled with others I have nothing in common with. I walk through crowds and feel completely alone. I am so diffrent from others
I understand that feeling all too well. It is a very deep sense of lonliness. This dark period will pass and in the meantime, know that while you feel alone, so do your fellow INFPs and others . We are all here for each other in our uniqueness and never truly alone. Wishing you all the best
You must be patient , there is people you will meet like you. Even that may seem small similarity to some but it means more cause that connection is rare. You get that spark to life. I am really observant , but sometimes I just start speaking about what I like and or see in front of me. Its up to them if they want to keep the conversation going, but i try and start speaking about my passions, cause I know alot and I love talking about it. Cause I dont like small talk. That's how I've chosen my tactics. Especially when you manage to turn the conversation onto your interests inconspicuous, is always a great reward for yourself. Aa
Joshua The seeker I hope you are doing ok Joshua. I’ve often found speaking to an understanding counsellor very useful when Im feeling overwhelmed by life and alone. I hope you have found someone to talk to? We are here for you if you need someone to listen. 🌻 May you encounter beauty and joy in your day today!
Hi Joshua. I know what you mean. I want some infp's and enfp's in my life right now. I recently added an enfp to my friend roster. He's such a breath of fresh air.
I love fantasizing about different time periods and what it would be like to live in them. Like the Middle Ages, the Renaissance,1900s, 1950s and 60s. 😀
@Nette-Nette Yes! I find it so relaxing. I often do it while I'm trying to fall asleep. I just feel like I should have been born in a different era. Lol
INFP here! This made me think about going to new places just looking at everyone walking by thinking what kind of life does that person have are they happy? what made them choose this place etc.. I love to try and figure out someone’s backstory without ever talking to them. Anyone else do that?
Nonstop. Hence I now live in a hermit shell as an artist to avoid my wheels burning with flames in the public bs surface settings resulting in analyzing every. single. Second. Every. Conversation (I shouldn’t hear but I can read their lips and body language). Every big or small Contact from the table to he bathroom.Their body language that says everything without them having the backbone to speak truth . ALL OF IT. Then comes the INFP hangover...
Cactus Flower Creations the hangover the worst! I remember going on an uncomfortable trip with someone and I could just sense the negative energy through the trip and felt drained for two weeks after it!
I love it too, it´s litteraly I hate when someone interacts with me and interrupts my thoughts, but love to walk in big mass of people and investigate, imagine ....
You know your INFP WHEN SOMEONE GIVES you a tasx to come complete, and you agree because that's how we are, and at the same time say to yourself" why the hell they ask me of all ppl, and you put immense pressure on yourself to get it done, knowing had you only been real with yourself, and say" will.....I don't know if I'll be about to do it in time, but at the last minute u complete said job/task and think to yourself" never again, I like to move at my own pace." Lol! And don't consider
Yeah lol INFPs love to procrastinate, talk a little about this in my INFP article www.erikthor.com/infp "They get stressed out easily by work life and outer pressure. They don’t like to be pushed or pressured and prefer to do things that feel more in tune with their authentic self. "
You made me cry with this video, I'm always upset for thinking that I'm awkward, so wrong, I hate that my head is this crazy jungle of chaos all the time, I hate that I can't follow a routine of a normal person or do anything without be a hopeless idealist... But you made me see beauty thought this mess :) (infp/t here)
INFP's answer questions with questions :D, get people to think and formulate their own answers instead of telling what to think, you tell them what to question and to come up with their own answers. I do the same thing.
When my friend asks me for advice I give them some options on what they might like to do about it but in the end I always just tell them to do whatever they feel like they want to do.
Infps has the super power of reading others minds. I never wait others opinions because I can see them from their body language before they say anything
Anyone else notice the flow of positive, supportive comments screaming you’re not alone? -no negative smart mouthed trolls? Only a true INFP or someone that connects with an INFP will watch the FULL video and never think about skipping to the next in their playlist. Because of Eric’s understanding on this deep inner reflection/struggle that many people don’t know how to put into words, time somewhat stands still when he speaks because I FEEL UNDERSTOOD and connected. Thanks to you, even if just for a little while, I hear fragments of my endless thoughts in a sea of emotions LEVEL OUT. Peace. Serenity. My life beautifully summed up with CLARITY in a short *priceless* 35 minutes. While the rest of the UA-cam crowd searching for “Who Am I” falls away within seconds. I love it. Very informative and motivating. That’s rare. THANK YOU.
The people reading part rang so true for me. People think I am crazy because I can always always tell when something is wrong. Even if its minor, I still pick up on it. I keep asking what's wrong until they break and tell. It blows my mind because I instinctively know something is wrong by the tone of their voice eyes just the energy I get from them. Very cool very wild!!
As an infp i really feel i am connected with the universe. I go searching bout my natal charts and all and its likely the same as my description as an infp. But my greatest downfall i feel drained when im in public seeing other peoples emotions when other dont see them. I constantly stare at a blank space without blinking absorbing everything. Thats why i always stick inside the room. Were like extra terrestrial beings.
I started a new job months ago and met all my new coworkers. I'm an INFP. Sometimes my intuition scares me. I met one of my new coworkers and after working with her for one shift, I thought about her later and thought: "I feel like she has troubles with getting pregnant". And weeks later, I find out she's doing IVF fertility treatments. And neither she nor anyone else ever hinted at that information until it was blatantly said. That is just one semi recent example. One time I was watching a show that I've never seen and did not know how the episode would end. And I told my bf that I feel like there's teddy bears in that box on the show. And low and behold. The box was full of teddy bears. Crazy
@Julie The biggest intuition was when I had project in college, that I must work with other students from different majors. The 12 of them, choosen by lecturer, somehow gave me chills and had thought "none of them have good attitude but they are faking it" . But I cannot change group because the dateline was too tight. So I try my best to set aside the feelings. We went to the village for college research, met a scouts leader who guide us. The intuition came again, "this leader is shady af" while the chief village, I have good feeling "this man is gonna be the hero". But turn out it was all true. The scout leader 'forcing' us to help campaigning his name for next chief village voting (which we cannot do as it will terminate the research agreement). But we got threat that we will reported for destroying the research field. My colleagues who were on the edge, making me as black sheep as I don't want to contribute to scout's word despite the threat. Thankfully chief of the village can snuff this out by inviting us for tea, and he quickly gave us samples and B score then send it to university. We can leave faster before the scout leader force us further. But the experience gave me some trauma about black sheep moments. And a lesson that I could never set aside the intuition.
I believe God has wired our brains to be sensitive for spiritual things. There's spiritual gifts mentioned in the Bible. One of them is called "word of knowledge". It's like getting downloads from the Holy Spirit. I used to think i was psychic until I understood the Holy Spirit, and the gifting that God gave me. I'm thankful i didn't get deep into the occult. There's a war for our gifts between kingdoms. I want to do everything to please my creator and to make Him known to others. God bless you❤
henlo fellow infp here. i once saw a video saying how infps will feel as if they can NEVER find someone that can relate to them because of their individuality and it can lead to them hating small talk and the like bc they crave that "deep" connection with other people and will feel like "no one understands me" because thats just how we and society are. we fail to socialize at times which is just bs because we CAN be fun and quirky and rly optimistic and just all around good people but we fail to get ourselves out there due to being inside our walls, the very walls we ourselves put us in. thats when the person in the video says that, mbti is kinda inaccurate in that the "i" part of infp, introverted, is not true and can change anytime or something. basically it says that if WE put ourselves out there, by not expecting everyone to understand right away who we are and what we stand for, we can create way more relationships and will find that hey, i do have something in common with this one person that i expected to be "not like me". its the way we become part of society. infps have to be more open to small talk and not just sit around hoping and dreaming for the life/friends/connections that they want because we can be quite rare in our way of thinking so it will take a while for us to find like minded people. in the mean time, we dont always have to shut ourselves in. just get out there and live i guess! (BLAH I cant explain shit lmao. the video is titled "why are infps never happy" or something now gO WATCH IT YOU SWEET INFPs I LOVE YOU)
As an Infp myself I tried to do what you said in the comment and I will talk from experience. I tried to be more social and interract more with others I force myself to be into small talk so as not to appeared awkward and to give the impression to others that I cared about them and This method really worked in the beginning I had several friends but there was a problem. I was not happy. A part of me was crying in frustration because I had the impression that I was Lying to myself to please the majority I was denying my true nature so as to appear 'normal' in the minds of others but despite my effort there was always a problem no matter the number of services I gave to these 'fake' friends it never happened to be enough and I was judge and critisize for my slightest mistakes... At the end my true nature reappeared and finally Said to myself that it is better to be alone than to surround with others who make you Feel lonely. I was not happy because I was not living in my conviction so I think it is better for us Infp to be true to ourself even if it means been alone for a while at least those who are mean for us will love of for who we are and not for what we are not. This is my experience
Introverted does not mean antisocial :) I’m a very open, smiling and social INFP ^^ But I need absolutely my alone time to process things every now and then :)
I'm so glad I found your channel. Thank you for the great video. For me it changed my life to find out I was an INFP. I am so much more confident. I used to think there was something wrong with me, I even thought I might be mentally ill - but it was just the symptoms of being an INFP 😂 I studied myself and it has helped me a lot in my life. The thing that is a little bit hard for me, is that I can't share my inner world with anyone. I would like to share my ideas and passion, but I never seem to find anyone who understands. Most of my friends seem to be sensors. I like to overanalyze, I can't share it. But I have a sister who also is an INFP so with her we usually overanalyze together. We also dream together and share our ideas. The problem is, we have a hard time getting anything actually done. 😂
This is the best thing I have ever watched in my life.. I did a personality test a few days ago and finally I know I am not alone.. I am not weird. I am me.. and thank you for this video. I now can move forward and not feel guilty for not wanting to conform to society. Thank you so much for giving me the ability to accept myself and may be love myself now. X
I want everyone else to be themselves, so it is hard, because I feel like there is pressure on me, not to be me. I will say this, I really get along with INFJs. They are deep and they do help me to mobilize myself! Thanks Erik, you and my daughter have helped me a lot.
People do come down on you, people judge you and when you tell them about how your mind works and how you can adjust yourself to their personality's then will look at you with paranoia like yoa are a evil manipulator. Careful who you open up to, also when you talk about issues in society peoples opinions will differ and not everyone is open to new ideas, they will take offense. INFP's can have a conversation about very touchy topics with a neutral point of view and look at all possibility's. Others can't, they get emotional and might take offense.
This exact thing happened to me! I told a coworker that I was interested in learning more about her personality because then I'll know how to act around her (what I meant was that I wanted to have this insight so that our work relationship could be harmonious). Next thing I know she's acting standoffish. Eventually I asked her about it and she told me that me wanting to know her personality type was manipulative! I was stunned.
I had never been so understood. As an Infp I like to learn about others and about myself I am open minded to others opinion and I say things as it is because I love honesty but I discover in a painful way that people are not as sensitive some people cannot handle my truth and might take it personally while might intention had never been to hurt anyone so I think it is important to chose people we surround with because not everybody will try to understand us.
As an infp I will think about touchy subjects with a concern for each perspective. I don't take a moral view of historical events, although I can look at behaviors that injure others as being bad. I want to understand the why of situations. People and groups of people do things for a reason.
You explained me perfectly. It gives me rest and happiness knowing I'm not alone. Tear rolls down face and slight small reveals. Thoughts of not being alone fades slightly.
It’s just so crazy I think all the things you talk about! The fear of being forced into “the many “ when I feel like I am one of “the few”. Fear of being ridiculous if I share my truth, but feeling like that truth is my mission in the world.
As an Infp myself who decided to live with his principles I Will be honest. You will always appear ridicullous when trying to express your mind because a part of you is not used to it. You will be critisize and judge by those who don't understand you because they have their own perception but it is only in trying to express yourself that you will learn how to interract with others. So talk your mind no matter what. You will be hurt but you will grow from it and if you made a mistake simply apologies but continue to be true to your self. Sorry if I appear harsh but I was like you before and I am talking To you from my own personal experience so that at least you will be prepared for the future. And remember you will never influence the world by trying to be like it.
I HAVE MANY, MANY, MANY MUSICIAN FRIENDS WHO ARE INFP., AND INFJ. MOST OF THEM PLAY THE GUITAR OR BASS, I am a drummer, even at 555 lady drummer. I lead the song, but I'm still in the background,
In the end, the summary of "speaking your truth" This is something i always want to do and comes very natural to me. Often i'm surprised how other people react on these honest thoughts of mine. I'm just playing with thoughts, but often i get judged or even ridiculed or scolded that i am a pervert or something. Because the thoughts i have are not very common, it's not a typical subject the average Joe talks about. The only thing that those people did to me, was making me more careful of what i share and with who. Effectively shutting me down or pushing me away in a sense. I really dislike this, btw.. I wish i could say anything at anytime. Often i mention it, because i notice someone doesn't get it. And it's my attempt to open their eyes, to make them understand a certain perspective that is not theirs. Sometimes it works, but in general it only makes me feel more misunderstood and i think that i only created a bigger barrier between that non-tolerant/non-open person. Since their lack of understanding, made me more look like a sick twisted freak. I feel this at work on a daily basis, more then 1 person in the office, that i actually know for years. But we never speak with each other, whenever we pass.. no eye contact (i do look up and look at you or who ever). But they... as if they avoid me. This stings off course, i do want to be liked. But at the same i think. "F-off then, you ain't worth my time anyway, probably your lacking intellect would irritate me anyway..." :p But it still stings. I'm just trying to not care about it. Still working on that.. The positive effect is that some folks do come to me and are quite open and honest about whatever their thing is.
Hi Eric - you really are a beautiful human being :-) Just listening to you and how u cleary verbalize insightfullness and complexities in such a calm and embracing way, warms my heart. 🙏♥️ As I said in another comment, I struggled to find my own type between INFP and INFJ - even if they're more different than just a letter. Also tests showed me mostly a INFX result with sometimes that X or close on the 50/50 line. Listening to INFJ always felt so close, like someone softly explained my inside world and experience of the outside world. But at the same time I knew, most of the people around me and even myself sometimes, would describe me more as an INFP type, as I appear. I guess why I'm still somehow questioning it, is, because of my strong inner "knowing", which always has been there and part of my life, and I found it best described in the INFJs introverted intuition! I know things, which I don't know, where they're coming from, usually profen right, later on. Like a puzzle without my doing solves in front of my eyes/mind/sensing/feeling. On the other hand - typing myself - I'm always struggling and don't know, how to fit in, haha. As it is always kinda moving, dancing, flowing and somehow, this (self) awareness, shows me, that there are no statics and life is balancing polarities in its expressions all the time. Still, I know, we also have stronger patterns or stronger tendencies, blind spots and abilities in ourselves, almost automatically (first aid) movements or natural approach and reactions to life, inwards and outwards expressed, which is shown and summed up in these different types. I'm highly interested in the Eneagramm as well, just because I'm really interested in those inner movements and patterns, in all its diverse facettes, different nuances and possibilities, unique expressions and still, how everything is connected. I love to understand and see people for who they are, maybe because I never really felt understood and that's the way how I connect with others or feel connected. So yeah, what I wanted to say (before writing a novel about myself ;)) I enjoy, watching your videos and listening to you. Great insights you put out there and one can feel, that you know, what you're talking about :) Also, I guess then.. It's obvious and I'm an INFP, xD.... just with a really strong intuition and empathy. HSP - and that's it. Mystery solved. Experiencing depression and social anxiety in the past, probably also makes this kind of more bubbly fairy(¿), spontaneous, creative and rebellious qualities, a little harder to see in myself. But yeah, it's there and most likely still the most natural to me, if I'm not under stress or feeling pressured. Quite interesting. Have a lovely weekend!
@@andytheindividual3862 Hey Andy, glad to see I'm not the only one in this spot, haha. - ".. before you discovered yourself" - yeah, I have to say, that after I wrote this comment, I dug even deeper into the cognitive functions, ending up back at the INFJ. I can see tendencies towards INFP, specially Fi, as I also experience feelings and values in a very multifaceted and deeply, clear nuanced way, but my inner way of processing things and my natural preferences, are clearly INFJ. Have you discovered your type yet?
Julia Nileen well I keep doing the same thing too.. I genuinely have symptoms of both too but I think one important thing to look at is primary stressor behavior. Because the critical parent of the infj is indeed the infp. When the infj is stressed that infp critical parent voice comes in.
Erik you bring so much healing to the world with what you do and who you are. This beautiful rallying cry is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you.
I can tell you are an INFJ when you talk about self as an adverb. As an INFP I am a self no matter what I do or don't do. That is the core of my authenticity. I express that self, and the expression is fluid but the self is bedrock. Immutable. I discover who that is but I don't change it. I learn and adapt but that is only becoming more me. Does this make sense to you? Even when I didn't know who I was I was me.
I always get a bit jealous of your friends when I watch your videos. Must be awesome to sit together over a cup of coffee and discuss hopes, dreams and visions for the whole night with you! Keep up your awesome work
I am GRATEFUL TO YOU ‼️❤️ you are a gift! And I was telling my husband this morning that I feel HUGE change coming 🙏🏻 I am feeling more supported than ever before. Thank you for your BEAUTIFUL video as an INFP I really appreciate how poignant your message was 🌈🙏🏻 thank you!
I'm infp surrounded by estjs /estps/istjs.. There are controlling behaviors too.. My outside world speaks in another language so my moves to find other NFs out there are limited. I'm slowly drying out, as you like, and your video gave me hope. Actually, made me cry a bit as you have given me an advice, sense of hope that not everything is lost.. Thank you, Erik.
I understand you in my country majority of my surroundings are estjs the opposite of me and always Feel like an alien because they were too draining and controlling I never had the impression to be able to fit in but simply understand that you are not alone
These videos are very helpful. I just recently found out I’m an INFP and I make so much more sense to myself now. I also believe in a human design; I think together they paint a pretty complete picture.
Your the best Erik. Thank you for that. It really really hit home for me. I'm in a big transitional period of my life and the one thing I need is to start speaking up. I make people feel good, comfortable to be themselves. People do laugh at me though and that used to discourage me, so much that I've spent the past 2 years mostly home alone. I was building up to something though. Now im moving and I'm gonna work for my uncle installing pools. He's finally having a baby at 48 years old. In April I'll be chilling with my uncle living the dream. He's gonna look out for me. My dreams will come true. My little brother is home from prison. Mom found a good man after my dad died. My baby sister is an adoptive mother at 22 years old and has 2 kids now and a great man for a husband. There's been alot of pain but I wouldn't let them give up on themselves and it finally just clicked. I miss my dad but he would be glad just to know what kind of life we all are achieving. I like to think he does, he believed I would find a way to keep us all together. The thing is that I'm just getting started. Much love Erik. I hope your life is great. I'm gonna imagine it is so I smile😁
I'm most definitely a INFP I've always did things my way against the grain I hated school because they tried to put me in a box I also was to distracted by other thoughts I could read or hear their minds school was also boring one teacher told my parents that I walk to my own drum my parents said I was hard to understand my friends said after knowing me 20 years they still don't know me when I would tell them some of my truths they would either be amazed from the depth of wisdom or think I was nuts but every thing you said is spot on I've got so many talents and gifts I want and need to share for my happiness I am a great story teller and original ideals I know if I put them out to the world it can take me to the next level and also a chance to do what I want to do in life I'm seeking a thought that no one has ever came up with but my friend you are a God sent thank you for the insights
This video made me smile knowing you know the truth of how an infp works and thinks and how great we can be be being the way we were ment to be great video your really genuine and sincere when you speak which is the best in an infp's eyes
I am so inspired by this video. As an INFP, I need to hear other INFP's and INFJ's speaking to us INFP's to inspire and push us where we need to be pushed. I will only listen to someone, when it comes to my own growth, who is another INFP. We get each other, we are a rare breed and until I found out what personality type I was and studied relentlessly on it did I've come to feel comfortable in my skin, that I am different but there are others like me. I didn't feel so weird any longer. I'm so thankful for UA-cam and those of you who take your time to make videos for us all. It has helped me tremendously and will be forever grateful for you and what role you played in my life's journey. This is HANDS DOWN the most inspirational, self aware, helpful video I have seen on UA-cam for INFP's. You are amazing and for me...you have made a tremendous positive difference in my growth. Much love and aloha🤙
Thanks for all of the videos on INFPs, Erik. I've been putting a lot of effort into improving myself and my own self-esteem recently, and your insight has been helping me a lot over the past few months.
unrelated, decided to watch this at 1.25x speed, and can honestly say i didn't notice any difference whatsoever. related, INFP here. thoroughly enjoy your videos, only seen those on INFP/INFJ thus far, but shall continue to explore the others. i really appreciate your insights and how you clarify distinctions between types.
I often find my self visualising vast worlds. With many individual characters. It just pains me so much that I feel I'm jot able to get my thoughts out there through art work, writing, songwriting etc. I just feel so burdened that I cant express my thoughts and show the world my expansive fantises and materialise these characters I have all in my head. I just wanna show people that there's more to me than you initially think. I visualise entire conversations between characters in my head and then I realise 30 minutes have passed and I'm no where near finished the test. I love and I hate being an INFP.
You were totally right. I was on seeking the truth, experiences, lessons, everything. Resulted by daydreaming. One of them is related to death. The ending part that always mysterious afterwards. Somehow there's part of me that just want to not thinking and only relies to religion's claims. But... I just can't. The death of people near me always got me thinking. People who are kind and I loved, must die faster. Though the question is not "why they must die faster", but "Where will they go? What happened to those who had different faith with me but the kindness is bigger than anyone? That's unfair if heaven only applied to one faith only, right? Then why must doing good if the religion is the only indicator?" Etc etc etc.... The question become longer and longer, which I must digging more by exploring human emotions, and probably learn other religion. I said "probably" because I need to be careful as society around me is very sensitive about person learning other religions, accusing that we are lack of faith....
You're great! saved my life...or sanity) Thank you! I'm an INFJ and my husband is INFP...we love but we suffered so much...you helped us understand and SEE each other again! Love you!
As an a INFP, I think of my dream state. How I grab and make sense of all sorts of different streams of information, feelings and tie them together and make a beautiful package for the universe. My package may or may not be ready for prime time but nevertheless I have this amazingsis. May what you have to share isn't for now but later, but as a INFP you have something we all need. Offer it! You are and we are authentic and that gives permission for others to be themselves as well and we all benefit. Thanks you Erik and making me feeling heard and loved.
As I was watching the video and there were a number of moments when I wanted to add something and the you covered it yourself... I'm speechless... I wish I had a friend like you, cose I was always that guy... But maybe that means I have to lift my own torture stake and take it to the mountains... Thank you...
Wow, I did not know what I truly needed to hear about myself until I watched this video. Thank you so much for the outstanding insight into the INFP personality type. I am currently in the process of finding and picking a working place to start my career at and this video has helped me remember what is most important to me. My values, and how I feel each workplace can help me solidify those foundations or adversely tear them down. Again, thank you for your videos, keep up the great work!!
What to do when everything comes to me like tidal waves, and forcing me to rush? I can see that I'm not gonna make it. The only way to pass is to work as hard as possible, but I'm never good enough. People constantly point out my shortcoming, constantly ignore(never appreciate) the things I'm good at. I feel like I don't belong to this place at all, but I can't quit cus I chose to study here, I have to finish my studies. I feel useless. At first I make myself think that I should make the most of my studies, but after 2 years I still feel the same- i hate the system, the environment. I'm fine if nobody understand me as long as i understand them(I tried explaining myself but eventually gave up), but I find it too hard to fit in. Everything is fast, nonsense, done for one goal- final exams. This school is soulless, the buildings, the people, the courses....there're no connections between us. kills me. everything is fake, rushed, not in the flow. so depressed. i tried. I'm so fed up. I should pump up myself. I should change myself. Be positive. I can't learn. I can't change myself. I can't. Trust me I've tried. Still trying.
I hope you are well. Some of your videos feel a little manic, but this one made me sad; as if you were battling depression. I am both blessed and cursed by having an extremely sheltered life. I don't have to work or do much of anything if I don't want to. It's a curse in that, because of that (and since being medicated for "anxiety" some 19 years ago) I don't FEEL as intensely as I once did. I wouldn't go back to how I was for ANYTHING, but I do miss my creativity from time to time. I shelter myself for my own mental health and only interact with others when I HAVE to. Everyone, at the stores I frequent, call me "Smiley". I'm very friendly, supportive and talkative when I go out (one cashier was even telling me about her love life after seeing me only a couple of times lol). It's just TOO draining. I tell my [adult] kids that everyone is at a different step in their journey, that certain truths are subjective, and that we will never know the full stories behind everything (from individual actions to governments). 3 out of my 4 kids are introverts, but that's where the similarities end. One is very bristly and serious with a dislike for authority and criminals alike. Another is a Social Justice Warrior type lol. I frequently have to make peace between them and interpret what they're saying to one another (they live at home). That's exhausting enough without having to get involved in something else! I keep myself to myself, alone in my room playing video games and binging TV shows. When people need me, they find me.
All of it except number 2, i still love wearing mask to interact with people, i like to hide my true feeling, my true self to other, but in the deep it made me exhausted and when i tired i just be INFP, being emotional and broken heart all day long, and i kniw when i do anything wrong, i know everything about my true self, i know everything what i need.. is that still count in as true to myself ?? cuz i know myself if i really need a lot of sugar and i know when to stop (even though its hard to stop 😂)
Thank you so much for these videos they are helping me so much I feel all these words in my heart so true I'm working on knowing my true self I've been blocking it out to long
Love those books!! Brian Sanders is awesome!!! Almost as good as forgotten realms books. I play DND every week if u couldn't tell my nerdiness. I luv it n I'm pump at it. Gencon was just few weeks ago too. Was fun!!
Thank you, Erik! Every time I watch one of your videos I'm reminded of what's really important and I feel inspired to be better and do better, to help people by being true to myself. It's awesome that you use your wisdom to help people in this way. Oh and I'm also currently reading Brandon Sanderson! I love the Mistborn trilogy.
Idk why but this might be the best video I have ever seen in UA-cam and I was really happy and impressed by the fact that I can agree with everything you've said!! I felt like someone really understand me and like u are a INFP too and if u are not that would be crazy . I'm glad that I didn't sleep and clicked on this video and had this feeling of happiness while watching this video and I am happy to getting to know you and your channel and this is the first video I have watched in your channel and I will try to watch more because I think that you are really interesting and I felt so comfortable watching you talk and express what's inside my brain
I have always tested as an ENFP. Yet, after being entirely depleted of my joy from giving too much to others, I have mastered effective use of boundaries and have spent much time focusing on personal development and recognizing that I need to be alone to recharge. I’m at peace now, I’m happier as an introvert, no doubt.
You know when you are an INFP when.... My first thought is, doesn't everybody think this? Now that i'm older i realize that it's not the case. I remember being very surprised about this fact. I always assumed that it's in everybody owns interest to figure stuff out. Or did you get a manual, when you got born? "How to be a human". I must have missed that then... ;) And yes, i hate authority or anyone telling me what to do or how to do it. i dislike laws that forbid me to do things and gladly break any rule if i don't understand the rule in the first place. Most things that you say, seem to apply on me. And i'm not really happy about that.. You just put me in a box called INFP :p Yet i'm intrigued, perhaps this personality system can teach me something profound. Which reminds me, i remember doing this little project. A holiday video, first time i tried editting. During my project my gf at the time also wanted some say of how the holiday clip should be like. This triggered me, basicaly i said. No. I cannot make that, because i simply don't feel that and does not comply with my vision/idea of it. Later i was thinking about this and wondered how come i feel so strong about this... well.. this INFP thing explains it all doesn't it.. I still find it freakingly accurate, that i almost start to distrust it, like if it's a horoscope.
Hey Erik, thanks for making these videos. A couple of years ago, I took the 16personalities test and my result was INFP. Since then, I've been learning all I can about MBTI, starting with my own type, and later branching out into other types so I can learn how to better navigate the world and it's really helped me out. I've watched quite a few of your videos too and I saw you had your own version on your website. I took it this morning after work (around 5 am; I work nights), and I came up as ENFJ. Any idea how I became my own shadow?
Hey bro would you help me? I've studied the cognitive functions so hard and I swear I was an infj. But after watching this.. there isnt one of these I dont do. Is it because I'm stressed as an infj and my critical parent infj is taking over ? Please help!
Big fan of your videos but a little confused because you say you are an INFP at 3:06 and then say you’re an INFJ at 11:04? My knowledge of personalities is not as deep as yours so maybe I’m missing something?
Well - as an INFP and a professional artist/art professor of about 40 years - I have long since learned not to wait for someone to discover me. I am proactive and get my artwork out there. We (INFP's) can adjust to reality - yet still live in our flow.
i'm working on getting my artwork out in the world (and on social media) and trying to not to care as much about what others think about it.
Im a pretty badass guitar player but I would never put out a video of me playing on UA-cam. I also struggle while playing live because I don't want to stand out and be in the center. After a gig I usually hide in the background cause I can't take critics, especially good critics.
Agree, became a nurse and never left bedside nursing because I knew being with the patients was where I was happiest (INFP nurse)
Once INFPs can let go of the fear of being ostracized for speaking our truths... we become so powerful
Honey that is the truuuttthhhh, it takes so much love kindness and exorcism of the outside world, but when we come into oneness, watch out!!!
To all my fellow INFPs I love you all and you are my soul group my best friends. I am in a dark place in my life and pretty tired of this life filled with others I have nothing in common with. I walk through crowds and feel completely alone. I am so diffrent from others
I understand that feeling all too well. It is a very deep sense of lonliness. This dark period will pass and in the meantime, know that while you feel alone, so do your fellow INFPs and others . We are all here for each other in our uniqueness and never truly alone. Wishing you all the best
I hope you are doing well. You are not alone.
You must be patient , there is people you will meet like you. Even that may seem small similarity to some but it means more cause that connection is rare. You get that spark to life. I am really observant , but sometimes I just start speaking about what I like and or see in front of me. Its up to them if they want to keep the conversation going, but i try and start speaking about my passions, cause I know alot and I love talking about it. Cause I dont like small talk. That's how I've chosen my tactics. Especially when you manage to turn the conversation onto your interests inconspicuous, is always a great reward for yourself. Aa
Joshua The seeker I hope you are doing ok Joshua. I’ve often found speaking to an understanding counsellor very useful when Im feeling overwhelmed by life and alone. I hope you have found someone to talk to? We are here for you if you need someone to listen. 🌻
May you encounter beauty and joy in your day today!
Hi Joshua. I know what you mean. I want some infp's and enfp's in my life right now. I recently added an enfp to my friend roster. He's such a breath of fresh air.
I love fantasizing about different time periods and what it would be like to live in them. Like the Middle Ages, the Renaissance,1900s, 1950s and 60s. 😀
@Nette-Nette Yes! I find it so relaxing. I often do it while I'm trying to fall asleep. I just feel like I should have been born in a different era. Lol
Me too!
I'd probably die early in any other time...
Same :D
Ahhh, thank you for validating us all!! 💕❤️❤️
INFP here! This made me think about going to new places just looking at everyone walking by thinking what kind of life does that person have are they happy? what made them choose this place etc.. I love to try and figure out someone’s backstory without ever talking to them. Anyone else do that?
Nonstop. Hence I now live in a hermit shell as an artist to avoid my wheels burning with flames in the public bs surface settings resulting in analyzing every. single. Second. Every. Conversation (I shouldn’t hear but I can read their lips and body language). Every big or small Contact from the table to he bathroom.Their body language that says everything without them having the backbone to speak truth . ALL OF IT. Then comes the INFP hangover...
Me too 🤗
Ikr !
Cactus Flower Creations the hangover the worst! I remember going on an uncomfortable trip with someone and I could just sense the negative energy through the trip and felt drained for two weeks after it!
I love it too, it´s litteraly I hate when someone interacts with me and interrupts my thoughts, but love to walk in big mass of people and investigate, imagine ....
You know your INFP WHEN SOMEONE GIVES you a tasx to come complete, and you agree because that's how we are, and at the same time say to yourself" why the hell they ask me of all ppl, and you put immense pressure on yourself to get it done, knowing had you only been real with yourself, and say" will.....I don't know if I'll be about to do it in time, but at the last minute u complete said job/task and think to yourself" never again, I like to move at my own pace." Lol! And don't consider
Yeah lol INFPs love to procrastinate, talk a little about this in my INFP article www.erikthor.com/infp "They get stressed out easily by work life and outer pressure. They don’t like to be pushed or pressured and prefer to do things that feel more in tune with their authentic self. "
Spot on !!! this is so true, do that a lot and yeah, some time i put my no sin face and just being "innocent" :')
@@iqbalfebri4082 LMFAO!
Accurate af 🤣
Yep
You made me cry with this video, I'm always upset for thinking that I'm awkward, so wrong, I hate that my head is this crazy jungle of chaos all the time, I hate that I can't follow a routine of a normal person or do anything without be a hopeless idealist... But you made me see beauty thought this mess :) (infp/t here)
INFP's answer questions with questions :D, get people to think and formulate their own answers instead of telling what to think, you tell them what to question and to come up with their own answers. I do the same thing.
When my friend asks me for advice I give them some options on what they might like to do about it but in the end I always just tell them to do whatever they feel like they want to do.
This souds like a lot of old wise guys of some movies or shows would be INFPs....
Infps has the super power of reading others minds. I never wait others opinions because I can see them from their body language before they say anything
Reading peoples mind and be able to connect with them is our superpower but not been able to be understood by these same people is our curse
Anyone else notice the flow of positive, supportive comments screaming you’re not alone? -no negative smart mouthed trolls? Only a true INFP or someone that connects with an INFP will watch the FULL video and never think about skipping to the next in their playlist. Because of Eric’s understanding on this deep inner reflection/struggle that many people don’t know how to put into words, time somewhat stands still when he speaks because I FEEL UNDERSTOOD and connected. Thanks to you, even if just for a little while, I hear fragments of my endless thoughts in a sea of emotions LEVEL OUT. Peace. Serenity. My life beautifully summed up with CLARITY in a short *priceless* 35 minutes. While the rest of the UA-cam crowd searching for “Who
Am
I” falls away within seconds. I love it. Very informative and motivating. That’s rare. THANK YOU.
I had to stop talking to people so mucj, Im too much of an INFP for them lol. Its actually really tough...
the way you counteract that is by talking too more people working youre frame up im an infp too
Too shut up sometimes? Yeah... that is really hard sometimes.. :p
The people reading part rang so true for me. People think I am crazy because I can always always tell when something is wrong. Even if its minor, I still pick up on it. I keep asking what's wrong until they break and tell. It blows my mind because I instinctively know something is wrong by the tone of their voice eyes just the energy I get from them. Very cool very wild!!
As an infp i really feel i am connected with the universe. I go searching bout my natal charts and all and its likely the same as my description as an infp. But my greatest downfall i feel drained when im in public seeing other peoples emotions when other dont see them. I constantly stare at a blank space without blinking absorbing everything. Thats why i always stick inside the room. Were like extra terrestrial beings.
You know you are an INFP when you think that the host is one of the most emotionally connected person, just by watching a few videos.
I started a new job months ago and met all my new coworkers. I'm an INFP. Sometimes my intuition scares me. I met one of my new coworkers and after working with her for one shift, I thought about her later and thought: "I feel like she has troubles with getting pregnant". And weeks later, I find out she's doing IVF fertility treatments. And neither she nor anyone else ever hinted at that information until it was blatantly said. That is just one semi recent example. One time I was watching a show that I've never seen and did not know how the episode would end. And I told my bf that I feel like there's teddy bears in that box on the show. And low and behold. The box was full of teddy bears. Crazy
Congrats on the new job! It's amazing how we can read between these lines, I find NFPs are really good at that!
@Julie The biggest intuition was when I had project in college, that I must work with other students from different majors. The 12 of them, choosen by lecturer, somehow gave me chills and had thought "none of them have good attitude but they are faking it" . But I cannot change group because the dateline was too tight. So I try my best to set aside the feelings. We went to the village for college research, met a scouts leader who guide us. The intuition came again, "this leader is shady af" while the chief village, I have good feeling "this man is gonna be the hero".
But turn out it was all true. The scout leader 'forcing' us to help campaigning his name for next chief village voting (which we cannot do as it will terminate the research agreement). But we got threat that we will reported for destroying the research field. My colleagues who were on the edge, making me as black sheep as I don't want to contribute to scout's word despite the threat. Thankfully chief of the village can snuff this out by inviting us for tea, and he quickly gave us samples and B score then send it to university. We can leave faster before the scout leader force us further.
But the experience gave me some trauma about black sheep moments. And a lesson that I could never set aside the intuition.
I believe God has wired our brains to be sensitive for spiritual things. There's spiritual gifts mentioned in the Bible. One of them is called "word of knowledge". It's like getting downloads from the Holy Spirit.
I used to think i was psychic until I understood the Holy Spirit, and the gifting that God gave me. I'm thankful i didn't get deep into the occult. There's a war for our gifts between kingdoms. I want to do everything to please my creator and to make Him known to others.
God bless you❤
Oh Erik, you have such a gentle and generous spirit. Thank you for making me proud to be an INFP :-)
Yes, I like to imagine this utopia, but the harsh reality is that many don't care about that possibility humanity can create 😪
So maybe that is why you are here
henlo fellow infp here. i once saw a video saying how infps will feel as if they can NEVER find someone that can relate to them because of their individuality and it can lead to them hating small talk and the like bc they crave that "deep" connection with other people and will feel like "no one understands me" because thats just how we and society are. we fail to socialize at times which is just bs because we CAN be fun and quirky and rly optimistic and just all around good people but we fail to get ourselves out there due to being inside our walls, the very walls we ourselves put us in. thats when the person in the video says that, mbti is kinda inaccurate in that the "i" part of infp, introverted, is not true and can change anytime or something. basically it says that if WE put ourselves out there, by not expecting everyone to understand right away who we are and what we stand for, we can create way more relationships and will find that hey, i do have something in common with this one person that i expected to be "not like me". its the way we become part of society. infps have to be more open to small talk and not just sit around hoping and dreaming for the life/friends/connections that they want because we can be quite rare in our way of thinking so it will take a while for us to find like minded people. in the mean time, we dont always have to shut ourselves in. just get out there and live i guess!
(BLAH I cant explain shit lmao. the video is titled "why are infps never happy" or something now gO WATCH IT YOU SWEET INFPs I LOVE YOU)
aiks This majorly hit home. Thank you. I have a lot to think about now, as always lol.
You make perfect sense. Thank you for this explaination. It resonates with me.
As an Infp myself I tried to do what you said in the comment and I will talk from experience. I tried to be more social and interract more with others I force myself to be into small talk so as not to appeared awkward and to give the impression to others that I cared about them and This method really worked in the beginning I had several friends but there was a problem. I was not happy. A part of me was crying in frustration because I had the impression that I was Lying to myself to please the majority I was denying my true nature so as to appear 'normal' in the minds of others but despite my effort there was always a problem no matter the number of services I gave to these 'fake' friends it never happened to be enough and I was judge and critisize for my slightest mistakes... At the end my true nature reappeared and finally Said to myself that it is better to be alone than to surround with others who make you Feel lonely. I was not happy because I was not living in my conviction so I think it is better for us Infp to be true to ourself even if it means been alone for a while at least those who are mean for us will love of for who we are and not for what we are not. This is my experience
Introverted does not mean antisocial :) I’m a very open, smiling and social INFP ^^
But I need absolutely my alone time to process things every now and then :)
you're adorable. All that you say is with heartfelt feelings, deep insight, honesty, and passion.... a true INFP.
I'm so glad I found your channel.
Thank you for the great video.
For me it changed my life to find out I was an INFP. I am so much more confident. I used to think there was something wrong with me, I even thought I might be mentally ill - but it was just the symptoms of being an INFP 😂
I studied myself and it has helped me a lot in my life.
The thing that is a little bit hard for me, is that I can't share my inner world with anyone. I would like to share my ideas and passion, but I never seem to find anyone who understands. Most of my friends seem to be sensors.
I like to overanalyze, I can't share it.
But I have a sister who also is an INFP so with her we usually overanalyze together. We also dream together and share our ideas. The problem is, we have a hard time getting anything actually done. 😂
This is the best thing I have ever watched in my life.. I did a personality test a few days ago and finally I know I am not alone.. I am not weird. I am me.. and thank you for this video. I now can move forward and not feel guilty for not wanting to conform to society. Thank you so much for giving me the ability to accept myself and may be love myself now. X
I want everyone else to be themselves, so it is hard, because I feel like there is pressure on me, not to be me. I will say this, I really get along with INFJs. They are deep and they do help me to mobilize myself! Thanks Erik, you and my daughter have helped me a lot.
People do come down on you, people judge you and when you tell them about how your mind works and how you can adjust yourself to their personality's then will look at you with paranoia like yoa are a evil manipulator. Careful who you open up to, also when you talk about issues in society peoples opinions will differ and not everyone is open to new ideas, they will take offense. INFP's can have a conversation about very touchy topics with a neutral point of view and look at all possibility's. Others can't, they get emotional and might take offense.
This exact thing happened to me! I told a coworker that I was interested in learning more about her personality because then I'll know how to act around her (what I meant was that I wanted to have this insight so that our work relationship could be harmonious). Next thing I know she's acting standoffish. Eventually I asked her about it and she told me that me wanting to know her personality type was manipulative! I was stunned.
I had never been so understood. As an Infp I like to learn about others and about myself I am open minded to others opinion and I say things as it is because I love honesty but I discover in a painful way that people are not as sensitive some people cannot handle my truth and might take it personally while might intention had never been to hurt anyone so I think it is important to chose people we surround with because not everybody will try to understand us.
As an infp I will think about touchy subjects with a concern for each perspective. I don't take a moral view of historical events, although I can look at behaviors that injure others as being bad. I want to understand the why of situations. People and groups of people do things for a reason.
You explained me perfectly. It gives me rest and happiness knowing I'm not alone. Tear rolls down face and slight small reveals. Thoughts of not being alone fades slightly.
We don't know each other but as an infp myself I Will tell you that you are not alone we are all family
It’s just so crazy I think all the things you talk about! The fear of being forced into “the many “ when I feel like I am one of “the few”. Fear of being ridiculous if I share my truth, but feeling like that truth is my mission in the world.
As an Infp myself who decided to live with his principles I Will be honest. You will always appear ridicullous when trying to express your mind because a part of you is not used to it. You will be critisize and judge by those who don't understand you because they have their own perception but it is only in trying to express yourself that you will learn how to interract with others. So talk your mind no matter what. You will be hurt but you will grow from it and if you made a mistake simply apologies but continue to be true to your self. Sorry if I appear harsh but I was like you before and I am talking To you from my own personal experience so that at least you will be prepared for the future. And remember you will never influence the world by trying to be like it.
I HAVE MANY, MANY, MANY MUSICIAN FRIENDS WHO ARE INFP., AND INFJ. MOST OF THEM PLAY THE GUITAR OR BASS, I am a drummer, even at 555 lady drummer. I lead the song, but I'm still in the background,
In the end, the summary of "speaking your truth"
This is something i always want to do and comes very natural to me. Often i'm surprised how other people react on these honest thoughts of mine. I'm just playing with thoughts, but often i get judged or even ridiculed or scolded that i am a pervert or something. Because the thoughts i have are not very common, it's not a typical subject the average Joe talks about.
The only thing that those people did to me, was making me more careful of what i share and with who. Effectively shutting me down or pushing me away in a sense. I really dislike this, btw.. I wish i could say anything at anytime. Often i mention it, because i notice someone doesn't get it. And it's my attempt to open their eyes, to make them understand a certain perspective that is not theirs. Sometimes it works, but in general it only makes me feel more misunderstood and i think that i only created a bigger barrier between that non-tolerant/non-open person. Since their lack of understanding, made me more look like a sick twisted freak.
I feel this at work on a daily basis, more then 1 person in the office, that i actually know for years. But we never speak with each other, whenever we pass.. no eye contact (i do look up and look at you or who ever). But they... as if they avoid me. This stings off course, i do want to be liked. But at the same i think. "F-off then, you ain't worth my time anyway, probably your lacking intellect would irritate me anyway..." :p But it still stings. I'm just trying to not care about it. Still working on that..
The positive effect is that some folks do come to me and are quite open and honest about whatever their thing is.
"Harmony, serenity" - I feel like this is more specific for an INFP who is also an enneagram type 9.
I have 9, 4 and 5 all equal in the enneagram test. Wonder what that means? All exactly 1/3...hmmm
Hi Eric - you really are a beautiful human being :-)
Just listening to you and how u cleary verbalize insightfullness and complexities in such a calm and embracing way, warms my heart. 🙏♥️
As I said in another comment, I struggled to find my own type between INFP and INFJ - even if they're more different than just a letter. Also tests showed me mostly a INFX result with sometimes that X or close on the 50/50 line. Listening to INFJ always felt so close, like someone softly explained my inside world and experience of the outside world. But at the same time I knew, most of the people around me and even myself sometimes, would describe me more as an INFP type, as I appear. I guess why I'm still somehow questioning it, is, because of my strong inner "knowing", which always has been there and part of my life, and I found it best described in the INFJs introverted intuition! I know things, which I don't know, where they're coming from, usually profen right, later on. Like a puzzle without my doing solves in front of my eyes/mind/sensing/feeling. On the other hand - typing myself - I'm always struggling and don't know, how to fit in, haha. As it is always kinda moving, dancing, flowing and somehow, this (self) awareness, shows me, that there are no statics and life is balancing polarities in its expressions all the time. Still, I know, we also have stronger patterns or stronger tendencies, blind spots and abilities in ourselves, almost automatically (first aid) movements or natural approach and reactions to life, inwards and outwards expressed, which is shown and summed up in these different types. I'm highly interested in the Eneagramm as well, just because I'm really interested in those inner movements and patterns, in all its diverse facettes, different nuances and possibilities, unique expressions and still, how everything is connected. I love to understand and see people for who they are, maybe because I never really felt understood and that's the way how I connect with others or feel connected.
So yeah, what I wanted to say (before writing a novel about myself ;)) I enjoy, watching your videos and listening to you. Great insights you put out there and one can feel, that you know, what you're talking about :)
Also, I guess then.. It's obvious and I'm an INFP, xD.... just with a really strong intuition and empathy. HSP - and that's it. Mystery solved.
Experiencing depression and social anxiety in the past, probably also makes this kind of more bubbly fairy(¿), spontaneous, creative and rebellious qualities, a little harder to see in myself. But yeah, it's there and most likely still the most natural to me, if I'm not under stress or feeling pressured.
Quite interesting.
Have a lovely weekend!
Julia Nileen wow, I'm like, in the exact spot you said before you discovered yourself. Actually.. I'm like. The same person as you. Holy shit. Crazy!
@@andytheindividual3862 Hey Andy, glad to see I'm not the only one in this spot, haha.
- ".. before you discovered yourself" - yeah, I have to say, that after I wrote this comment, I dug even deeper into the cognitive functions, ending up back at the INFJ. I can see tendencies towards INFP, specially Fi, as I also experience feelings and values in a very multifaceted and deeply, clear nuanced way, but my inner way of processing things and my natural preferences, are clearly INFJ.
Have you discovered your type yet?
Julia Nileen well I keep doing the same thing too.. I genuinely have symptoms of both too but I think one important thing to look at is primary stressor behavior. Because the critical parent of the infj is indeed the infp. When the infj is stressed that infp critical parent voice comes in.
Julia Nileen we could figure it out together though.. honestly there has to be some way to figure it out between the both of us.
Erik you bring so much healing to the world with what you do and who you are. This beautiful rallying cry is exactly what I needed right now. Thank you.
I can tell you are an INFJ when you talk about self as an adverb. As an INFP I am a self no matter what I do or don't do. That is the core of my authenticity. I express that self, and the expression is fluid but the self is bedrock. Immutable. I discover who that is but I don't change it. I learn and adapt but that is only becoming more me.
Does this make sense to you?
Even when I didn't know who I was I was me.
I always get a bit jealous of your friends when I watch your videos. Must be awesome to sit together over a cup of coffee and discuss hopes, dreams and visions for the whole night with you!
Keep up your awesome work
I am GRATEFUL TO YOU ‼️❤️ you are a gift! And I was telling my husband this morning that I feel HUGE change coming 🙏🏻 I am feeling more supported than ever before. Thank you for your BEAUTIFUL video as an INFP I really appreciate how poignant your message was 🌈🙏🏻 thank you!
I'm infp surrounded by estjs /estps/istjs.. There are controlling behaviors too.. My outside world speaks in another language so my moves to find other NFs out there are limited.
I'm slowly drying out, as you like, and your video gave me hope. Actually, made me cry a bit as you have given me an advice, sense of hope that not everything is lost..
Thank you, Erik.
I understand you in my country majority of my surroundings are estjs the opposite of me and always Feel like an alien because they were too draining and controlling I never had the impression to be able to fit in but simply understand that you are not alone
These videos are very helpful. I just recently found out I’m an INFP and I make so much more sense to myself now. I also believe in a human design; I think together they paint a pretty complete picture.
I'm INFP and its a hard world out there. I struggle thinking I am good enough. I am very imagative but then cry beyhind the scenes.
Your the best Erik. Thank you for that. It really really hit home for me. I'm in a big transitional period of my life and the one thing I need is to start speaking up. I make people feel good, comfortable to be themselves. People do laugh at me though and that used to discourage me, so much that I've spent the past 2 years mostly home alone. I was building up to something though. Now im moving and I'm gonna work for my uncle installing pools. He's finally having a baby at 48 years old. In April I'll be chilling with my uncle living the dream. He's gonna look out for me. My dreams will come true. My little brother is home from prison. Mom found a good man after my dad died. My baby sister is an adoptive mother at 22 years old and has 2 kids now and a great man for a husband. There's been alot of pain but I wouldn't let them give up on themselves and it finally just clicked. I miss my dad but he would be glad just to know what kind of life we all are achieving. I like to think he does, he believed I would find a way to keep us all together. The thing is that I'm just getting started. Much love Erik. I hope your life is great. I'm gonna imagine it is so I smile😁
I'm most definitely a INFP I've always did things my way against the grain I hated school because they tried to put me in a box I also was to distracted by other thoughts I could read or hear their minds school was also boring one teacher told my parents that I walk to my own drum my parents said I was hard to understand my friends said after knowing me 20 years they still don't know me when I would tell them some of my truths they would either be amazed from the depth of wisdom or think I was nuts but every thing you said is spot on I've got so many talents and gifts I want and need to share for my happiness I am a great story teller and original ideals I know if I put them out to the world it can take me to the next level and also a chance to do what I want to do in life I'm seeking a thought that no one has ever came up with but my friend you are a God sent thank you for the insights
This video made me smile knowing you know the truth of how an infp works and thinks and how great we can be be being the way we were ment to be great video your really genuine and sincere when you speak which is the best in an infp's eyes
When you watch this video get distracted and then see the Kitty!!
I am so inspired by this video. As an INFP, I need to hear other INFP's and INFJ's speaking to us INFP's to inspire and push us where we need to be pushed. I will only listen to someone, when it comes to my own growth, who is another INFP. We get each other, we are a rare breed and until I found out what personality type I was and studied relentlessly on it did I've come to feel comfortable in my skin, that I am different but there are others like me. I didn't feel so weird any longer. I'm so thankful for UA-cam and those of you who take your time to make videos for us all. It has helped me tremendously and will be forever grateful for you and what role you played in my life's journey. This is HANDS DOWN the most inspirational, self aware, helpful video I have seen on UA-cam for INFP's.
You are amazing and for me...you have made a tremendous positive difference in my growth.
Much love and aloha🤙
Thanks for all of the videos on INFPs, Erik. I've been putting a lot of effort into improving myself and my own self-esteem recently, and your insight has been helping me a lot over the past few months.
unrelated, decided to watch this at 1.25x speed, and can honestly say i didn't notice any difference whatsoever.
related, INFP here. thoroughly enjoy your videos, only seen those on INFP/INFJ thus far, but shall continue to explore the others. i really appreciate your insights and how you clarify distinctions between types.
I have ADD so I have to watch vids AT LEAST 1.5x in order for the speaker not to lose me
Oh god we even look alike😳
I often find my self visualising vast worlds. With many individual characters. It just pains me so much that I feel I'm jot able to get my thoughts out there through art work, writing, songwriting etc. I just feel so burdened that I cant express my thoughts and show the world my expansive fantises and materialise these characters I have all in my head. I just wanna show people that there's more to me than you initially think. I visualise entire conversations between characters in my head and then I realise 30 minutes have passed and I'm no where near finished the test. I love and I hate being an INFP.
I know what's going on inside your mind. I see you. I appreciate you.
Cassandra Rose any ideas on how to tell if your an infj from an infp?
You were totally right. I was on seeking the truth, experiences, lessons, everything. Resulted by daydreaming. One of them is related to death. The ending part that always mysterious afterwards. Somehow there's part of me that just want to not thinking and only relies to religion's claims. But... I just can't. The death of people near me always got me thinking. People who are kind and I loved, must die faster. Though the question is not "why they must die faster", but "Where will they go? What happened to those who had different faith with me but the kindness is bigger than anyone? That's unfair if heaven only applied to one faith only, right? Then why must doing good if the religion is the only indicator?" Etc etc etc.... The question become longer and longer, which I must digging more by exploring human emotions, and probably learn other religion. I said "probably" because I need to be careful as society around me is very sensitive about person learning other religions, accusing that we are lack of faith....
You're great! saved my life...or sanity) Thank you! I'm an INFJ and my husband is INFP...we love but we suffered so much...you helped us understand and SEE each other again! Love you!
As an a INFP, I think of my dream state. How I grab and make sense of all sorts of different streams of information, feelings and tie them together and make a beautiful package for the universe. My package may or may not be ready for prime time but nevertheless I have this amazingsis. May what you have to share isn't for now but later, but as a INFP you have something we all need. Offer it! You are and we are authentic and that gives permission for others to be themselves as well and we all benefit. Thanks you Erik and making me feeling heard and loved.
Feels 😭😭
~sincerely an INFP~
life is about the little things
Very good book. INTP approved!
Took me long enough to find this videos, brought me true peace. Thank you, brother, thank you
Happy to hear! But true peace can only be found inside. ;)
True, it was just the last piece to inner peace that i was wondering if i'm the only one feel positively seperated from the crowd 😊
Very uplifting! Thank you for helping infps. You make a great difference!
As I was watching the video and there were a number of moments when I wanted to add something and the you covered it yourself... I'm speechless... I wish I had a friend like you, cose I was always that guy... But maybe that means I have to lift my own torture stake and take it to the mountains... Thank you...
Speechless. Every.single.time. X Infinity within💕
Wow, I did not know what I truly needed to hear about myself until I watched this video. Thank you so much for the outstanding insight into the INFP personality type. I am currently in the process of finding and picking a working place to start my career at and this video has helped me remember what is most important to me. My values, and how I feel each workplace can help me solidify those foundations or adversely tear them down. Again, thank you for your videos, keep up the great work!!
What to do when everything comes to me like tidal waves, and forcing me to rush? I can see that I'm not gonna make it.
The only way to pass is to work as hard as possible, but I'm never good enough. People constantly point out my shortcoming, constantly ignore(never appreciate) the things I'm good at. I feel like I don't belong to this place at all, but I can't quit cus I chose to study here, I have to finish my studies.
I feel useless.
At first I make myself think that I should make the most of my studies, but after 2 years I still feel the same- i hate the system, the environment.
I'm fine if nobody understand me as long as i understand them(I tried explaining myself but eventually gave up), but I find it too hard to fit in.
Everything is fast, nonsense, done for one goal- final exams.
This school is soulless, the buildings, the people, the courses....there're no connections between us. kills me. everything is fake, rushed, not in the flow.
so depressed. i tried. I'm so fed up. I should pump up myself. I should change myself. Be positive.
I can't learn. I can't change myself. I can't. Trust me I've tried. Still trying.
Sorry to hear that but be positive about yourself because you have value
Thank you for validating my experience.
Another great video thank you!!! I love that pillow in the background... head in the clouds.... its way cool
I hope you are well. Some of your videos feel a little manic, but this one made me sad; as if you were battling depression.
I am both blessed and cursed by having an extremely sheltered life. I don't have to work or do much of anything if I don't want to. It's a curse in that, because of that (and since being medicated for "anxiety" some 19 years ago) I don't FEEL as intensely as I once did. I wouldn't go back to how I was for ANYTHING, but I do miss my creativity from time to time. I shelter myself for my own mental health and only interact with others when I HAVE to.
Everyone, at the stores I frequent, call me "Smiley". I'm very friendly, supportive and talkative when I go out (one cashier was even telling me about her love life after seeing me only a couple of times lol). It's just TOO draining.
I tell my [adult] kids that everyone is at a different step in their journey, that certain truths are subjective, and that we will never know the full stories behind everything (from individual actions to governments). 3 out of my 4 kids are introverts, but that's where the similarities end. One is very bristly and serious with a dislike for authority and criminals alike. Another is a Social Justice Warrior type lol. I frequently have to make peace between them and interpret what they're saying to one another (they live at home).
That's exhausting enough without having to get involved in something else!
I keep myself to myself, alone in my room playing video games and binging TV shows. When people need me, they find me.
ERIK THANK YOU FOR YOUR THOUGHTS
Thank you Erik, Peace and Love!
Thank you for your videos....they are truly a huge help in my journey to loving and understanding me. 🙏🏾
Excellent video!!!!!!!💗 I can sympathize with you as an INFP!!!!
Infps❤ we got this 💪🏻 we are the light in this world
That made me tear up...Awesome :)
This video was very insightful and moving for me. Thank you, Erik, you beautiful soul.
All of it except number 2, i still love wearing mask to interact with people, i like to hide my true feeling, my true self to other, but in the deep it made me exhausted and when i tired i just be INFP, being emotional and broken heart all day long, and i kniw when i do anything wrong, i know everything about my true self, i know everything what i need..
is that still count in as true to myself ??
cuz i know myself if i really need a lot of sugar and i know when to stop (even though its hard to stop 😂)
You really understand us ❤️ your videos are very self empowering! 👏👏
Thank you so much for these videos they are helping me so much I feel all these words in my heart so true I'm working on knowing my true self I've been blocking it out to long
Love those books!! Brian Sanders is awesome!!! Almost as good as forgotten realms books. I play DND every week if u couldn't tell my nerdiness. I luv it n I'm pump at it. Gencon was just few weeks ago too. Was fun!!
nice! I'd love to nerd out like that one day...
You are so insightful
thanks!
Great insights, Erik! I love your cat ♥
Em’s fan I heared some bars
Wonderful to hear. Thank you :)
Thank you, Erik! Every time I watch one of your videos I'm reminded of what's really important and I feel inspired to be better and do better, to help people by being true to myself. It's awesome that you use your wisdom to help people in this way. Oh and I'm also currently reading Brandon Sanderson! I love the Mistborn trilogy.
Idk why but this might be the best video I have ever seen in UA-cam and I was really happy and impressed by the fact that I can agree with everything you've said!! I felt like someone really understand me and like u are a INFP too and if u are not that would be crazy . I'm glad that I didn't sleep and clicked on this video and had this feeling of happiness while watching this video and I am happy to getting to know you and your channel and this is the first video I have watched in your channel and I will try to watch more because I think that you are really interesting and I felt so comfortable watching you talk and express what's inside my brain
Thanks Eve 😄
@@ErikThor No actually thank you Erik
Ha ha...ok, I need to go dream now.
Thank you very much!
I have always tested as an ENFP. Yet, after being entirely depleted of my joy from giving too much to others, I have mastered effective use of boundaries and have spent much time focusing on personal development and recognizing that I need to be alone to recharge. I’m at peace now, I’m happier as an introvert, no doubt.
carla.turner SAME🙌🏼
You just have the same thoughts as me. It's really incredible!
i discovered im a infp
Well, now I m sure I m INFP! Thank you!
Inspiring, thank you
You know when you are an INFP when....
My first thought is, doesn't everybody think this? Now that i'm older i realize that it's not the case. I remember being very surprised about this fact. I always assumed that it's in everybody owns interest to figure stuff out. Or did you get a manual, when you got born? "How to be a human". I must have missed that then... ;)
And yes, i hate authority or anyone telling me what to do or how to do it. i dislike laws that forbid me to do things and gladly break any rule if i don't understand the rule in the first place.
Most things that you say, seem to apply on me. And i'm not really happy about that.. You just put me in a box called INFP :p
Yet i'm intrigued, perhaps this personality system can teach me something profound.
Which reminds me, i remember doing this little project. A holiday video, first time i tried editting. During my project my gf at the time also wanted some say of how the holiday clip should be like. This triggered me, basicaly i said. No. I cannot make that, because i simply don't feel that and does not comply with my vision/idea of it.
Later i was thinking about this and wondered how come i feel so strong about this... well.. this INFP thing explains it all doesn't it.. I still find it freakingly accurate, that i almost start to distrust it, like if it's a horoscope.
The was a book "Moony Mouse" we had when I was a child. My mother told me that I was like Moony.
Hey Erik, thanks for making these videos. A couple of years ago, I took the 16personalities test and my result was INFP. Since then, I've been learning all I can about MBTI, starting with my own type, and later branching out into other types so I can learn how to better navigate the world and it's really helped me out. I've watched quite a few of your videos too and I saw you had your own version on your website. I took it this morning after work (around 5 am; I work nights), and I came up as ENFJ. Any idea how I became my own shadow?
🙂🤗👍 OMG! 🌻 Verbalized my mind!
Hey bro would you help me? I've studied the cognitive functions so hard and I swear I was an infj. But after watching this.. there isnt one of these I dont do. Is it because I'm stressed as an infj and my critical parent infj is taking over ? Please help!
It seems like everyone is an INFP. You know your an INFP if you bought the Myers Briggs book.
cat playing guitar made my day
👏👏👏
People when I make guesses about how they think :
« Get out of my head ! »
Female intj here. Any INTJS watching this??
Thank you, i appreciate your video's very much!
You know you're an INFP when your meditation cushion feels like home
Big fan of your videos but a little confused because you say you are an INFP at 3:06 and then say you’re an INFJ at 11:04? My knowledge of personalities is not as deep as yours so maybe I’m missing something?
At 3:06 he is not saying that HE is an INFP. He is telling us things that an INFP would say.
Cute cat
4:45!