Biggest thing I hate about the trend, is that they promote for lower class women to rely fully on someone else’s money and not working. But these women technically have a job or cone from a wealthy family, it’s like a pyramid scheme, they are making money off promoting you to lose money
What is so funny about the submit to your husband thing is, that yes, Paul writes in the bible "Women should submit to their husbands" BUT the very next line is "Also, husbands should submit to their wives." That her body is his, but also: HIS body is hers and he has to do his duty to her. That kind of conveniently gets left out a lot. When Paul wrote this, women already had to submit, that was the societal rule. It was absolutly revolutionary that the same goes for the husband and that his wife owns him, too.
@@i.b.640 it is always always left out, that’s how I know half the time it’s people pushing their own views and cultures onto others. Thanks for including this info, it adds more context 🫶🏽
Why has no one said this all this time?! Maybe they did not read that far? I'm sure they are ignoring that part... but the wives too? Thats sad, they have been lied to.
@@senselessplaceI told people that, and they laughed at me. The point of submission isn't codependency. It is interdependence. A team working together.
Love you for this but Ephesians uses the term “love” rather than submit specifically… which I’m worried (as the word love is so vague) it may be misconstrued and used to justify what should not be justified 😭where as with submit, it’s meaning is clearer
As a recently graduated 23 year old who was raised by a trad wife, the toughness of entering adulthood made me fantasize about this lifestyle but seeing the reality of my mothers life post divorce in her 50’ really brings into perspective that there’s nothing worse than being dependent on another person. There’s actually a Brazilian tiktoker who went viral after doing “trophy wife” content but after she started making money on TikTok she outright talked about the importance of having her own income and shifting her content to talk more about independence
“Toughness of entering adulthood” this is so relatable and a word because nothing prepares you for that transition and that’s why I can understand why women and girls would want this lifestyle
@@Itsbabygirlt I’ve actually been noticing throughout the years the return of more conservative values, maybe it’s recession core or the rise of the right wing throughout the world. But for gen z, as teenagers we saw the rise of the girl boss and as we get to be adults in a different economy and social structure, it feels very enticing to leave all of the difficult decision making behind and fit into the old fashioned gender roles, but it’s not as simple as that.
I am opposite than you. All my life I was watching my mother going to her full time job AND doing majority of housework because my father worked longer hours. My mother had to make almost all decisions herself, manage budget, plan everything, etc. She used to tell (she still does...) how important it is for woman to have her own money... I went to study IT just to have job that pays me well and I don't have to struggle with money like my parents did. Fast forward few years - I am stay home mom, not working outside of house, happily married with joined account (I worked before we had kids, it went to our joined account then). I gladly gave some responsibilities to my husband, I don't need to control everything. He is wonderful husband and father. We aren't Independent people, we are a team. I love it
Making middle class housewifery appear glamorous is a full time job. These women are not cleaning and cooking every day. They are prepping, filming, editing and emailing all day long. The big accounts have an entire team of employees and are multi-millionaires. Actual middle class housewives are way too busy to be influencers. Being a housewife is a valid choice and many women are happy with their lives as homemakers. But it’s not better than anything else. And nobody should be making that choice under false pretenses.
I'm a homemaker and stay home and take care of the house and our 4 kids while my husband works. When we got together we agreed a be a stay at home wife and mom. We are technically not middle class but working class poor even though we have everything we need and do not lack for essentials. For us our choice for me to stay home instead of work was not based on money but on our shared religious values. But my values are not every women's values so I definitely don't judge anyone for different lifestyle and values. I think supporting each other as women and not trying to feel superior to other women is very important.
Another thing that bothers me so much????? THEY TELL WOMEN ITS OKAY TO MARRY BROKE OR POOR MEN. While they are married to well off men from jump and also make money online . Like why cant they give these toumg women multiple lists of hardworking men careers to choose from and how much money their husbamds have to live comfortably so that other women can choose similar men . So now they have a slew of young women who cook and clean mich harder than what they represent.Ewwww
@@sakuraesther6309 I thought they mostly tell women to choose good men who are providers? So that if the man becomes a jerk later down the line, then they blame you for not choosing better
Yep, knew it, as soon as you said religious undertones I understood. I didn’t understand at first why there suddenly had to be a new name “trad wifes” for moms who are just stay at home moms b/c they want to and can - doesn’t need a new name or influencers for it. Smh
That's it .......I remember when Estee first blew up there were alot of women who came out and said that they have been living that life and they didn't know they had a name like Trad wife ......That was a comment from alot of women
I've always supported women's right to choose, if someone wants to be a stay t home mother/wife I think the magic of feminism is to be able to choose that life and not it being imposed to you. However, I also think that many woomen who choose this are influenced by their own upbringing and the patriarchy in their culture, telling them it is something that is more "correct" or that it is a woman's role. Usually leaving out of the picture all the uglyness that trad wifes in the 20th century had to suffer because of it. The lonelyness, the abuse, the inability to do anything alone. The endless hours of unpaid labor and to top it all, husbands leaving them for a younger woman, and the children leaving when they are all grown up and suddenly you find yourself living alone, with a distant husband, an empty house, no work experience, no way to earn money... many trad wifes ended upt being alcoholics iin their 40s and 50s because of all the sad days and depression they had. It wasnt all sunshine and rainbows, it was difficult. I think that before choosing something like this, people need to know what it involes, all the good, the bad and the future possible outcomes.
You summarized this perfectly & thanks for watching ❤️ there’s so much influence and pressure from culture, family and patriarchy, and a lot of women forget to consider just how much their choices are made based on those pressures. So many life altering decisions are made, when they’re young without considering the good, the bad and the future possible outcomes like you mentioned
I just found you this morning, and this is the 4th video of yours in a row! Thanks for making really good content, i cant wait to see more. I feel like this whole fancy tradwife thing is really disrespectful of actual housewives who are out there getting dirty and doing the hard and thankless jobs every single day, and now they are supposed to feel some kind of shame or whatever because they aren't doing it in a ball gown with a serene smile. Its maddening.
Thank you so much for watching and enjoying ❤️ the thing about content creation is that it is most often about putting on a show, trad wife content is just the latest trend and it’s profitable to make it as aspirational as possible, regardless of what the reality actually is
I work at a summer day camp and shoot taking care of kids is hard. I still want to be a parent but these young women and men should work at a summer day camp before they consider this.
Apart from exceptions, it’s mostly women who are taking on majority of the child care, so that’s why it’s so easy for men to say they want to have kids or start a family because they don’t do a lot of the day-to-day work
@babygirlt8938 That is why I think young men should work at day camps too. It is obviously not the same as being a parent, but you do learn a lot about kids and yourself.
They're just selling the aesthetic at this point, the content they make doesn't show the harsh reality of being a stay at home wife, they share only the good sides. Being a trad wife is a huge sacrifice and whether we like it or not it increases the chances of abuse if you marry a bad person.
Such a great video and it resonated with me as a stay at home mom and how glamorized it is on social media but in reality if you are fully involved there’s barley time for yourself let alone to record over glorified content about it.
@@drlimkitty5670 thank you 😊 I appreciate and love stay at home moms because that’s what I grew up with and because of that I know there is more to let on than what’s shown online. You’re right, there’s barely anytime for yourself because you’re so busy!
My mom's family is from south Carolina. One summer I was there with my dad in a store. And an older white lady said that i was pretty and she didn't know why I was still in school. Because she said when she was SIXTEEN she got married and became a housewife. Scrubbing the floors by hand and all. She talked as it'll it was a fairytale. Because down south that's the dream they sell you. I on the other hand was TERRIFIED, it did not seem like the dream to me. And I questioned why she was now working in the mall as a storehand, but still married. It seems they keep you on a leash, you can't go far.
Nowadays I never really get the rich all white or all beige homes aesthetic videos anymore cause I kept clicking not interested in anything that's bordering on trad-wifery or those lobotomy-core videos where the women is all smiley and posed for a minute straight cause it was genuinely disturbing to watch😅 I know, different strokes for different folks, but who watch that kinda thing and enjoy it? Think about the bigger picture people!
I think people like to watch it because it’s something they aspire to, others also watch it because it’s so far removed from their reality. Lol I keep seeing comments about lobotomy-core, I need to check that out 😂
Great video - Am here via the Blake Lively vid. Another good one. Wow - you were at 400 subs when you made this? Now at 3.76k. Fantastic and well deserved.
I’ve been a stay at home mom for many years but I would never ever say I’m a trad wife. There’s a lot to say about this, but my main beef is that creating content is so pervasive that it appears as natural as breathing, but in reality it’s constant work to prepare and preform for the trad wife aesthetic and hashtag. And I can’t believe that the public is falling for it. These are not moms in the wild being documented by a neutral third party undercover cameraman. This is extremely intentional curation and performance. it’s freaking work, it can be as much work as a job outside the house. I’m not talking about mom-ing being legitimate labor (albeit unpaid), which it is, but content creation. I’ve know a few mommy bloggers and they wrote off a lot of expenses for their IG and blog businesses and these tiktokers are no different.
Moms in the wild would be an interesting show 😂 you’re so right, it’s content creation and a good source of income if you become successful. It’s great and i support them but the audience, especially those who want to emulate the lifestyle blindly, need to be aware of the reality of the lifestyle before making a pretty significant lifelong choice
As a single mom I have no idea how these women could be like "I just wanna be home with my babies" like ma'am....bffr. No you don't lol. You wanna be with them when they are smiling, or asleep.
Life has no guarantees whether you choose a college education & career or becoming a stay at home wife. There are women in their 40s & 50s though they have achieved career success are miserable because they were never married & don’t have kids.There are women who wished they had careers now that their marriages have failed. A career is just a means of earning money which is important. People can start new careers in their 40s & rebuild themselves. Marriage is from God & you are blessed to become a wife go for it. Don’t be too preoccupied with the possibility of the marriage failing & should you divorce know it’s not the end of the world. You can still find love & marry again. Don’t be afraid to get married in life we are here to manifest the things we want.
Life has no guarantee i agree, but no grown adult who isn’t coming from wealth (which they can go back to) or isn’t guaranteed a comfortable life if their partner decides to leave or is no more, should be sold the idea that relying on another person for money is safe. People wanting to get married and being in love is great, that’s not the issue at all! Thanks for watching 😊
I'm with the tradwives. My wife and I have lived this way for 16 years now (13 with a son) and we're both very glad we did. And while people are naturally going to make things look better when recording a video (that's true of everyone, not just tradwives), I think it's great that so many of them are taking pride in their lifestyle to the point of sharing it on social media. As for whether you can be a traditional wife and social media influencer at the same time, this really comes down to how much time you're spending on the latter. If nothing is hindering your role of taking care of the home and any kids you may have, then there's no issue, same as how a traditional husband might cook or clean on occasion.
I think it’s great that people can choose how to live their lives and I’m glad for your family 😊. I don’t have a problem with tradwives and I don’t have a problem if they post on social media. what I do think is important, is for average viewers to know that she’s not 100% a trad wife because she’s earning an income and is therefore a working woman/social media influencer, which is the opposite of what she’s telling other young women to do
@@Itsbabygirlt Can you point me to the video in which she says "Do not earn income in any way ever"? Because again, there's nothing about being a traditional wife that says you can't earn money. So long as nothing interferes with your role as a homemaker, you can do that, post on social media, etc. Would you say that a husband isn't traditional by virtue of him cooking every now and then?
@@Vic2point0 that’s why I defined what a traditional wife is, and what traditional relationships are to avoid confusion.. the whole set up is that a Woman stays home and financially depends on her husbands income, and the husband goes to work to earn an income to provide for the family’s basic needs and wants
@@Itsbabygirlt Right, the husband is expected to provide income whereas the wife isn't. That doesn't mean the wife *can't* earn money (just like it doesn't mean the husband can't cook or clean), so long as she is prioritizing her primary role in taking care of the home. This is especially easy if the income is earned somewhat passively by making videos for UA-cam or TikTok.
@@Itsbabygirltin all fairness, biblical women actually do work, even "outside" of the home if necessary. The reason women mostly did work inside of the home had more to do with majority of people being farming peasants as anything else. In a certain sense, all of people worked "at home". Work outside of the home we know now is the product of industrial revolution. 1950s housewife only being a housewife is purely a US middle class phenomenon. However to call it traditional wife is an oxymoron. There's nothing traditional about it at all.
Your channel is wonderful pls keep up!!! Don't get discouraged by the lack of vues or followers they will come as far as you believe you can make it❤❤ God bless ❤
I love your videos and who says you make videos like a 6th grader ? My first video from you was the “ bad girl gone good “- it was such a unique perspective you gave and how you did that without blaming or shaming the women but making us understand it’s just women struggling to exist under the patriarchy Kudos Make more videos ❤
I am married with a child and work part time. I don’t like those videos, because it is just unrealistic. Most people can’t survive on one income anymore. Also while doing household stuff I don’t have time to wear make up 💄, styled hair, dresses etc. I mostly walk around the house in tied hair, no makeup, and comfortable pants.
So I just recently finished watching the Mormon wives reality show and what I find interesting about those women is that they are very clear about the fact that they ARE influencers. They also talk about the fact that most of them are making more money than their husbands and are the current breadwinners, so much so that one of them is paying for their husband to go to medical school and not work. And it’s just interesting because they do this and are like this but they are technically trad wives although they never refer to themselves like that. They seem to have a traditional 1950’s family structure and dynamic bc they are still Mormon, but they are clear about the fact that they still are influencers who make money and could be independent of their husbands
Yes, and it’s also so strange how a lot of the husbands try to act like the breadwinners or try to control the wives even though the reality is that they are the trad wives/husband.
You just made me research on her case and it’s so eerie, she gave him so much and then lost everything because he solely decided he wanted to move on with someone else
I’m so grateful to my working mom for showing me that anything is possible. My dad paid for my mom to finish college because he believed education and employment for women is the actual key to creating “generational wealth”. I went to college, my girls are in college. The funny part of this content, is that, from the 1960’s to the early 2000’s, we saw women becoming more powerful, educated, employed and actualized. Now, the women who benefited the most from the struggles of their foremothers are telling their peers to forget all of that and just “be a stay at home mom”. Before you do it call your grandmother and aunties. They’ll scare you back to a 9-5. 😂
@babygirlt8938 gratitude it's not easy but it can be done. I was almost tricked by my ex to leave the military once I got married and the future looked bleek for me so I stayed in until my time was done, and for that I'm an so glad my spirit led me to do so.
No one is responsible for your financial well being for the rest of your life except yourself. Making yourself completely dependent on a partner comes with huge risks. If you grew up in certain communities, abusive relationships or have certain disabilities that makes you dependent on another, that is a whole different ballgame from women who have options and privileges to take care of themselves, but then choose to make themselves dependent of another. I have sympathy for the first group, but none for the second group. You're a grown woman and choices have consequences. If you, as a fully actualized grown woman with options of studying and getting jobs, choose to reject this all and not make sure you have some other financial back up plan in place, then don't whine on the internet about how tough your life is if it doesn't turn out as expected. You accepted that risk. The only true victims are your kids because you gambled with their futures too.
Thanks for your watching! 😊 Kids often suffer in these dynamics and it’s rarely talked about or considered. If their mom suffers it hurts them and their mental health and if their dad “moves on” then they suffer parental and financial neglect, it’s such an overall gamble if you don’t have wealth to fall back on
Biggest thing I hate about the trend, is that they promote for lower class women to rely fully on someone else’s money and not working. But these women technically have a job or cone from a wealthy family, it’s like a pyramid scheme, they are making money off promoting you to lose money
You’re right, It’s lower income women who really pay the ultimate price if things don’t go well
What is so funny about the submit to your husband thing is, that yes, Paul writes in the bible "Women should submit to their husbands" BUT the very next line is "Also, husbands should submit to their wives." That her body is his, but also: HIS body is hers and he has to do his duty to her. That kind of conveniently gets left out a lot. When Paul wrote this, women already had to submit, that was the societal rule. It was absolutly revolutionary that the same goes for the husband and that his wife owns him, too.
@@i.b.640 it is always always left out, that’s how I know half the time it’s people pushing their own views and cultures onto others. Thanks for including this info, it adds more context 🫶🏽
Why has no one said this all this time?! Maybe they did not read that far? I'm sure they are ignoring that part... but the wives too? Thats sad, they have been lied to.
@@senselessplaceI told people that, and they laughed at me. The point of submission isn't codependency. It is interdependence. A team working together.
@@AngelisaHassan Exactly!
Love you for this but Ephesians uses the term “love” rather than submit specifically… which I’m worried (as the word love is so vague) it may be misconstrued and used to justify what should not be justified 😭where as with submit, it’s meaning is clearer
As a recently graduated 23 year old who was raised by a trad wife, the toughness of entering adulthood made me fantasize about this lifestyle but seeing the reality of my mothers life post divorce in her 50’ really brings into perspective that there’s nothing worse than being dependent on another person. There’s actually a Brazilian tiktoker who went viral after doing “trophy wife” content but after she started making money on TikTok she outright talked about the importance of having her own income and shifting her content to talk more about independence
“Toughness of entering adulthood” this is so relatable and a word because nothing prepares you for that transition and that’s why I can understand why women and girls would want this lifestyle
@@sarahf.9347 thanks for sharing your perspective 😊 could you share the name of the Brazilian tiktoker? I’d like to check out her content
@@Itsbabygirlt I’ve actually been noticing throughout the years the return of more conservative values, maybe it’s recession core or the rise of the right wing throughout the world. But for gen z, as teenagers we saw the rise of the girl boss and as we get to be adults in a different economy and social structure, it feels very enticing to leave all of the difficult decision making behind and fit into the old fashioned gender roles, but it’s not as simple as that.
I am opposite than you. All my life I was watching my mother going to her full time job AND doing majority of housework because my father worked longer hours. My mother had to make almost all decisions herself, manage budget, plan everything, etc. She used to tell (she still does...) how important it is for woman to have her own money... I went to study IT just to have job that pays me well and I don't have to struggle with money like my parents did.
Fast forward few years - I am stay home mom, not working outside of house, happily married with joined account (I worked before we had kids, it went to our joined account then). I gladly gave some responsibilities to my husband, I don't need to control everything. He is wonderful husband and father. We aren't Independent people, we are a team. I love it
Congratulations on your graduation @sarahf.9347🎉🎉🎉 and very good point
Making middle class housewifery appear glamorous is a full time job. These women are not cleaning and cooking every day. They are prepping, filming, editing and emailing all day long. The big accounts have an entire team of employees and are multi-millionaires. Actual middle class housewives are way too busy to be influencers. Being a housewife is a valid choice and many women are happy with their lives as homemakers. But it’s not better than anything else. And nobody should be making that choice under false pretenses.
Transparency is key, women and girls need to know the full extent of what they could be getting into. Thanks for watching! 😊
I'm a homemaker and stay home and take care of the house and our 4 kids while my husband works. When we got together we agreed a be a stay at home wife and mom. We are technically not middle class but working class poor even though we have everything we need and do not lack for essentials. For us our choice for me to stay home instead of work was not based on money but on our shared religious values. But my values are not every women's values so I definitely don't judge anyone for different lifestyle and values. I think supporting each other as women and not trying to feel superior to other women is very important.
You get an A+ for using the word Oxymoron! Haven't seen that word outside my old 3rd grade classroom lol
😂 thanks, glad it took you back to 3rd grade
Another thing that bothers me so much?????
THEY TELL WOMEN ITS OKAY TO MARRY BROKE OR POOR MEN.
While they are married to well off men from jump and also make money online .
Like why cant they give these toumg women multiple lists of hardworking men careers to choose from and how much money their husbamds have to live comfortably so that other women can choose similar men .
So now they have a slew of young women who cook and clean mich harder than what they represent.Ewwww
@@sakuraesther6309 I thought they mostly tell women to choose good men who are providers? So that if the man becomes a jerk later down the line, then they blame you for not choosing better
They tell you who to be, what to want and what the buy. While shaming you for evrything you do and dont have.
It’s truly an irony, that’s why average people have to become more informed and internet/media literate
THIS!! I just said this a few days ago.
Yep, knew it, as soon as you said religious undertones I understood. I didn’t understand at first why there suddenly had to be a new name “trad wifes” for moms who are just stay at home moms b/c they want to and can - doesn’t need a new name or influencers for it. Smh
@@sue7846 they’ve all kind of been grouped together even tho they have different meanings and expectations
That's it .......I remember when Estee first blew up there were alot of women who came out and said that they have been living that life and they didn't know they had a name like Trad wife ......That was a comment from alot of women
@@sakuraesther6309 one great thing about the internet is, it’s helped share information and bring so many things to light
I've always supported women's right to choose, if someone wants to be a stay t home mother/wife I think the magic of feminism is to be able to choose that life and not it being imposed to you. However, I also think that many woomen who choose this are influenced by their own upbringing and the patriarchy in their culture, telling them it is something that is more "correct" or that it is a woman's role. Usually leaving out of the picture all the uglyness that trad wifes in the 20th century had to suffer because of it. The lonelyness, the abuse, the inability to do anything alone. The endless hours of unpaid labor and to top it all, husbands leaving them for a younger woman, and the children leaving when they are all grown up and suddenly you find yourself living alone, with a distant husband, an empty house, no work experience, no way to earn money... many trad wifes ended upt being alcoholics iin their 40s and 50s because of all the sad days and depression they had. It wasnt all sunshine and rainbows, it was difficult.
I think that before choosing something like this, people need to know what it involes, all the good, the bad and the future possible outcomes.
You summarized this perfectly & thanks for watching ❤️ there’s so much influence and pressure from culture, family and patriarchy, and a lot of women forget to consider just how much their choices are made based on those pressures. So many life altering decisions are made, when they’re young without considering the good, the bad and the future possible outcomes like you mentioned
i was chocked when i saw the amount of subscribers😦 girl that's such a great videoo
@@lorenadasilva5741 ughhh you are too kind, thank you ❤️
Great comment, just subscribed, because she definitely deserves more subscribers.
I just found you this morning, and this is the 4th video of yours in a row! Thanks for making really good content, i cant wait to see more.
I feel like this whole fancy tradwife thing is really disrespectful of actual housewives who are out there getting dirty and doing the hard and thankless jobs every single day, and now they are supposed to feel some kind of shame or whatever because they aren't doing it in a ball gown with a serene smile. Its maddening.
Thank you so much for watching and enjoying ❤️
the thing about content creation is that it is most often about putting on a show, trad wife content is just the latest trend and it’s profitable to make it as aspirational as possible, regardless of what the reality actually is
I work at a summer day camp and shoot taking care of kids is hard. I still want to be a parent but these young women and men should work at a summer day camp before they consider this.
Apart from exceptions, it’s mostly women who are taking on majority of the child care, so that’s why it’s so easy for men to say they want to have kids or start a family because they don’t do a lot of the day-to-day work
@babygirlt8938 That is why I think young men should work at day camps too. It is obviously not the same as being a parent, but you do learn a lot about kids and yourself.
They're just selling the aesthetic at this point, the content they make doesn't show the harsh reality of being a stay at home wife, they share only the good sides.
Being a trad wife is a huge sacrifice and whether we like it or not it increases the chances of abuse if you marry a bad person.
It’s a very lucrative aesthetic
Such a great video and it resonated with me as a stay at home mom and how glamorized it is on social media but in reality if you are fully involved there’s barley time for yourself let alone to record over glorified content about it.
@@drlimkitty5670 thank you 😊 I appreciate and love stay at home moms because that’s what I grew up with and because of that I know there is more to let on than what’s shown online. You’re right, there’s barely anytime for yourself because you’re so busy!
My mom's family is from south Carolina. One summer I was there with my dad in a store. And an older white lady said that i was pretty and she didn't know why I was still in school. Because she said when she was SIXTEEN she got married and became a housewife. Scrubbing the floors by hand and all. She talked as it'll it was a fairytale. Because down south that's the dream they sell you. I on the other hand was TERRIFIED, it did not seem like the dream to me. And I questioned why she was now working in the mall as a storehand, but still married. It seems they keep you on a leash, you can't go far.
That’s interesting, why would she be working in the mall when she’s a housewife?
I think after they're kids are adults, they get bored and get a part time job somewhere. I've seen it in the south. This was a jewelry store.
great video, to the point, interesting and sharp commentary, not an hour long. literally what i have been looking for!!!! subscribed :)
Thanks so much ❤️ More videos are on the way!
Nowadays I never really get the rich all white or all beige homes aesthetic videos anymore cause I kept clicking not interested in anything that's bordering on trad-wifery or those lobotomy-core videos where the women is all smiley and posed for a minute straight cause it was genuinely disturbing to watch😅 I know, different strokes for different folks, but who watch that kinda thing and enjoy it? Think about the bigger picture people!
I think people like to watch it because it’s something they aspire to, others also watch it because it’s so far removed from their reality.
Lol I keep seeing comments about lobotomy-core, I need to check that out 😂
This was such an interesting video! I’m surprised your channel doesn’t have 1 million subscribers already 😭 you really deserve it!
@@StoriesThroughTime you as well! Your channel is so well put together. I Subscribed 🥰
@@StoriesThroughTime thank you, you are too kind
@@Itsbabygirlt ahww thank you so much! 🥹 I subscribed to yours too 🤗 I’m excited to see your channel grow!
Great video - Am here via the Blake Lively vid. Another good one. Wow - you were at 400 subs when you made this? Now at 3.76k. Fantastic and well deserved.
Thanks so much, lol yes, I also can’t believe I’ve made it this far either😁
I’ve been a stay at home mom for many years but I would never ever say I’m a trad wife. There’s a lot to say about this, but my main beef is that creating content is so pervasive that it appears as natural as breathing, but in reality it’s constant work to prepare and preform for the trad wife aesthetic and hashtag. And I can’t believe that the public is falling for it. These are not moms in the wild being documented by a neutral third party undercover cameraman. This is extremely intentional curation and performance. it’s freaking work, it can be as much work as a job outside the house. I’m not talking about mom-ing being legitimate labor (albeit unpaid), which it is, but content creation. I’ve know a few mommy bloggers and they wrote off a lot of expenses for their IG and blog businesses and these tiktokers are no different.
Moms in the wild would be an interesting show 😂 you’re so right, it’s content creation and a good source of income if you become successful. It’s great and i support them but the audience, especially those who want to emulate the lifestyle blindly, need to be aware of the reality of the lifestyle before making a pretty significant lifelong choice
As a single mom I have no idea how these women could be like "I just wanna be home with my babies" like ma'am....bffr. No you don't lol. You wanna be with them when they are smiling, or asleep.
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Shoutout to single moms 🫶
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Sometimes during the Bluey theme song I'd do the "Mom" and "Dad" parts 💀😭💀
@@vvitch-mist20 no shame in that 😂
@@Itsbabygirlt I like to be honest in talking about my parenting, and it's literally not fun.
Life has no guarantees whether you choose a college education & career or becoming a stay at home wife. There are women in their 40s & 50s though they have achieved career success are miserable because they were never married & don’t have kids.There are women who wished they had careers now that their marriages have failed. A career is just a means of earning money which is important. People can start new careers in their 40s & rebuild themselves. Marriage is from God & you are blessed to become a wife go for it. Don’t be too preoccupied with the possibility of the marriage failing & should you divorce know it’s not the end of the world. You can still find love & marry again. Don’t be afraid to get married in life we are here to manifest the things we want.
Life has no guarantee i agree, but no grown adult who isn’t coming from wealth (which they can go back to) or isn’t guaranteed a comfortable life if their partner decides to leave or is no more, should be sold the idea that relying on another person for money is safe. People wanting to get married and being in love is great, that’s not the issue at all! Thanks for watching 😊
I'm with the tradwives. My wife and I have lived this way for 16 years now (13 with a son) and we're both very glad we did. And while people are naturally going to make things look better when recording a video (that's true of everyone, not just tradwives), I think it's great that so many of them are taking pride in their lifestyle to the point of sharing it on social media.
As for whether you can be a traditional wife and social media influencer at the same time, this really comes down to how much time you're spending on the latter. If nothing is hindering your role of taking care of the home and any kids you may have, then there's no issue, same as how a traditional husband might cook or clean on occasion.
I think it’s great that people can choose how to live their lives and I’m glad for your family 😊. I don’t have a problem with tradwives and I don’t have a problem if they post on social media. what I do think is important, is for average viewers to know that she’s not 100% a trad wife because she’s earning an income and is therefore a working woman/social media influencer, which is the opposite of what she’s telling other young women to do
@@Itsbabygirlt Can you point me to the video in which she says "Do not earn income in any way ever"? Because again, there's nothing about being a traditional wife that says you can't earn money. So long as nothing interferes with your role as a homemaker, you can do that, post on social media, etc. Would you say that a husband isn't traditional by virtue of him cooking every now and then?
@@Vic2point0 that’s why I defined what a traditional wife is, and what traditional relationships are to avoid confusion.. the whole set up is that a Woman stays home and financially depends on her husbands income, and the husband goes to work to earn an income to provide for the family’s basic needs and wants
@@Itsbabygirlt Right, the husband is expected to provide income whereas the wife isn't. That doesn't mean the wife *can't* earn money (just like it doesn't mean the husband can't cook or clean), so long as she is prioritizing her primary role in taking care of the home. This is especially easy if the income is earned somewhat passively by making videos for UA-cam or TikTok.
@@Itsbabygirltin all fairness, biblical women actually do work, even "outside" of the home if necessary. The reason women mostly did work inside of the home had more to do with majority of people being farming peasants as anything else. In a certain sense, all of people worked "at home". Work outside of the home we know now is the product of industrial revolution.
1950s housewife only being a housewife is purely a US middle class phenomenon. However to call it traditional wife is an oxymoron. There's nothing traditional about it at all.
Your channel is wonderful pls keep up!!! Don't get discouraged by the lack of vues or followers they will come as far as you believe you can make it❤❤ God bless ❤
I can’t get discouraged when I get such kind messages from people like you, thanks so much ❤️
I love your videos and who says you make videos like a 6th grader ?
My first video from you was the
“ bad girl gone good “- it was such a unique perspective you gave and how you did that without blaming or shaming the women but making us understand it’s just women struggling to exist under the patriarchy
Kudos
Make more videos ❤
This is such a kind thing to say! I appreciate you ❤️
so I can't be a femboy tradwife?... ☹
You totally can! Go for it! 😅🫶
@@Itsbabygirlt :D I love serving my man!🥰✝🇺🇸❣
I am married with a child and work part time. I don’t like those videos, because it is just unrealistic. Most people can’t survive on one income anymore. Also while doing household stuff I don’t have time to wear make up 💄, styled hair, dresses etc. I mostly walk around the house in tied hair, no makeup, and comfortable pants.
Thanks for sharing your pov 😊
So I just recently finished watching the Mormon wives reality show and what I find interesting about those women is that they are very clear about the fact that they ARE influencers. They also talk about the fact that most of them are making more money than their husbands and are the current breadwinners, so much so that one of them is paying for their husband to go to medical school and not work. And it’s just interesting because they do this and are like this but they are technically trad wives although they never refer to themselves like that. They seem to have a traditional 1950’s family structure and dynamic bc they are still Mormon, but they are clear about the fact that they still are influencers who make money and could be independent of their husbands
Yes, and it’s also so strange how a lot of the husbands try to act like the breadwinners or try to control the wives even though the reality is that they are the trad wives/husband.
such a good video!!
@@jadyn7003 you’re too kind 🥰
I am not a trad wife but i like to bake bread..This reminds me of the Betty Broderick situation.
You just made me research on her case and it’s so eerie, she gave him so much and then lost everything because he solely decided he wanted to move on with someone else
Exactly I always mention her and Angela Basset's character on waiting to exhale
I’m so grateful to my working mom for showing me that anything is possible. My dad paid for my mom to finish college because he believed education and employment for women is the actual key to creating “generational wealth”. I went to college, my girls are in college. The funny part of this content, is that, from the 1960’s to the early 2000’s, we saw women becoming more powerful, educated, employed and actualized. Now, the women who benefited the most from the struggles of their foremothers are telling their peers to forget all of that and just “be a stay at home mom”. Before you do it call your grandmother and aunties. They’ll scare you back to a 9-5. 😂
@@dimplesd8931 shout out to your parents 🫶
Awesome video.
@@veronicaferrario2441 thank you Veronica 😊
This isn't it. I was so glad to get out the house and luckily for me I have my own income and I dropped the enery vampire.
Glad you made it out ❤️
@babygirlt8938 gratitude it's not easy but it can be done. I was almost tricked by my ex to leave the military once I got married and the future looked bleek for me so I stayed in until my time was done, and for that I'm an so glad my spirit led me to do so.
No one is responsible for your financial well being for the rest of your life except yourself. Making yourself completely dependent on a partner comes with huge risks. If you grew up in certain communities, abusive relationships or have certain disabilities that makes you dependent on another, that is a whole different ballgame from women who have options and privileges to take care of themselves, but then choose to make themselves dependent of another. I have sympathy for the first group, but none for the second group. You're a grown woman and choices have consequences. If you, as a fully actualized grown woman with options of studying and getting jobs, choose to reject this all and not make sure you have some other financial back up plan in place, then don't whine on the internet about how tough your life is if it doesn't turn out as expected. You accepted that risk. The only true victims are your kids because you gambled with their futures too.
Thanks for your watching! 😊 Kids often suffer in these dynamics and it’s rarely talked about or considered. If their mom suffers it hurts them and their mental health and if their dad “moves on” then they suffer parental and financial neglect, it’s such an overall gamble if you don’t have wealth to fall back on
02:55 I really hope that's just a joke 😅
@@TheORealWitch I’ve seen too much on the internet to know this could be 100% real lol
Now you a single a mom 😂
You can be a single parent under many different circumstances tbh