Kevin you're correct when you say alcohol is an allusion. Very true. I started out drinking many years ago for self gratification. You worked hard this week, go get beers. My football team won lets go celebrate. All ending up feeling like shit the next day. But then i used alcohol to cope with the bad stuff in life. I lost people close to me. Got to drink to put the stuff under the rug. I was drinking for the good things in life and now the bad things. As you say alcohols tentacles were getting into all parts of my life. Ive been sober for over 2 yrs now and im doing a lot of things that i said i was going to do when i was drinking but never did. My discomfort from stopping drinking lasted 3 to 6 months. The cravings. Then they waned off. When i would get a craving i would find a project no matter how simple, pull fucking weeds or do some laundry. That 15 to 30 minutes of being involved in something go my mind off the drinking. It can be done to all of you out there who are stopping. Stop the drinking thinking.
I am on evening 4 without alcohol. I have been sleeping really well and thinking so clearly but was considering buying a can of bear tonight. But you have reminded me it is poison and I am missing nothing. Thank you. I am going to watch again tomorrow.
This is the second video I've watched with this guy. Everything he says i know but it's good to see someone else who understands. I hope to stop drinking soon.
I have to watch this over and over, it's actually my favorite video so far that I've watched, I haven't watched all of them, but you make some very wonderful and deep things to think about in this video, I thank you so much for making these videos! I'm also in process of quitting smoking, diet changes, and I've noticed that it's NOT a god idea to do them all at once! You are helping me personally and I wish I could let you know how much of a difference you've made for me. I'm going to watch more videos of yours! :) I also still love the thoughts, the view in the background of your videos, and the "companionship" that feels like I'm walking with you just having a one on one conversation.
Had to pause it for a moment to reflect on something you just said about how some people might go 5 years without drinking and then think they can moderate or manage and go back into it...for me when I go just a day or so, I start to think that maybe I can still drink but maybe just a few and then I'm back to a 6pk every night, and that leads to a 12pk on the weekend nights and to misery..every damn time
I had that thought for years.... I would have a horrible hang hover, feel bad about myself, depress and admit to myself that I have a problem, and then 2 days later I would think that maybe I could have just a beer or two and then whole cycle would repeat again getting drunk, over and over.
My problem is and was, I told myself that if I could just remember how bad the bad feels I would never touch the stuff again. But I only easily remember how good the endorphin high feels like.
I’ve watched so many of Kevin’s videos but I think this one has had the most impact. No idea why, but it has helped the most. Regardless, Thank you Kevin..... for all that you do. You’ve helped so many people ❤️
I'm about 4 months in and your videos helped me since day 1. I tried AA but I couldn't do that program. It made me get a drink before I went and sometimes afterwards but now I only go to collect my chips and to reflect on where I came from (hell) I use to feel ashamed collecting my 1st day chip which I have a collection of but now I walk with pride when they call out my month. I know I use that program wrong but going for my chip gives me a sense of accomplishment. I'm so happy for your videos it helped me at the darkest times and gave me something to look forward to. Like having a different picture of life, myself, and everything around me including nature. Please keep it up. Not just for me but for others as well. 😊
This is my favorite video yet, because you address what happens to your self-respect. Mine was being chipped away day by day until I stopped drinking 40 days ago. Now I'm putting it back together again and have never felt so confident! Thank you Kevin!
Thanks. Kevin. I really appreciate what you are doing ! It means a lot to many of us. I feel like God send you to save my life ! Like a big brother....I was going through a lot of alcohol addiction and I'm struggling to stay sobber. I been watching you videos lately and you the first person telling exactly what all of us going through and stay away from that poison. I'm working hard on it everyday after watching your video. I really appreciate . Thanks.
trying to get back on track, was sober for 1 yr, 10 months, thought I could have the occasional drink, but should have know better... we don't drink like normal people..
great videos Kevin😀 every night at the witching hour i move out of the living room where i used to drink, sip my valerian root tea and watch a couple of your videos. it works every time. thaaaank you!!!
I have watched a great many of your videos since 2013. I must say, this one is the best, the one I keep coming back to because of its powerful simplicity and matter-of-factness. A few weeks or months of decreasing discomfort versus a lifetime of pain - an easy choice. Puts the whole thing into perspective, really. And no, it's not an effin' hard thing to do! :D It's as hard as we make it, really. Thanks, Kevin.
Awesome content Kevin! I take something useful and inspiring from each video of yours that I watch, and will continue watching…thanks so much for all you do for this community!
Hi Kevin, Here's two ideas for daily challenges: * Learn a new word a day. This is one of my faves. For example, today was "Grandiloquent" - "pompous or extravagant in language, style, or manner, especially in a way that is intended to impress" lol! * Spend 5 minutes learning a foreign language. I'm currently trying to learn Urdu! :-)
Love it. Urdu is a cool language, especially useful in your part of the world. Good on you for trying to open yourself to other cultures instead of trying to hold on to a very narrow self-identity.
Been there, getting annoyed with the owner of the pub and then reckoning up what you've spent there, "I went into an ale house I used to frequent and I told the landlady my money was spent..."
As the days go by it gets easier and easier I can go into a store and not even look at the alcohol section! This is something I’ve wanted for so long to get clean and sober it’s actually fun because now I can spend money on things that’ll make me healthier instead of something that makes me forget what I did the night before!!!!! I’m feeling so happy these days even losing weight I felt so bloated when I use to drink thank you s😊 much for your videos that help me tremendously I love the way you explain it!
I built the habit gradually...shooting a pool and having a pitcher everyday after work with friends and it affects me the next day on my performance but the job still get done. Stupid things...Im throu with this shit long time a go ! I'm working on now drinking too much on the weekend. I do IT and I always blaming on my stressful job but I was wrong ! I just realize that....Thanks. Great vid.
During the early part of the day "everyday" I know that I never want to drink ever again..but something begins to change in me later and slowly I start thinking that there is misery in this world, and that I am missing my dad and my dogs who were my friends, and I think that I am always going to be a drinker..also, I say to myself that I do not want to live to be 60 or 70 and that I might as well drink up...but I have an enlarged heart and in my moments of clarity I fear that I might not last much longer....I'm 51 and with this bad heart, I m at risk of dying very soon..I feel ok but during the night after drinking my heart beats rapidly for no reason and sometimes it stops beating for a few seconds...I have begun to leave my door open at night so that if I die, my dogs can get out of the house...I have mentioned before that I'm bi-polar and not taking medication, and I do believe that there is another part of me that has a will power to destroy my life just as strong as my will power to live it to the fullest..big trouble in my little brain.
The “Candy Man” was executed in America for putting poison in candy and passing it out to neighborhood children on Halloween a few decades ago. True story Kevin.
Kevin heres another problem I am having, I don't know how to explain to my dad what I am going through, he doesn't seem to understand addiction, I told him I don't want to go back to work for another 3 months, infact he doesn't understand anything about addiction at all.
I haven’t crossed the line yet. I’m afraid but I have no option than to go cold turkey with a little help from a small amount of Valium. I have support from my partner so I won’t be alone in case anything goes wrong. Just got to make the date to actually do it. Find your videos very helpful. ☮️
I have one question, if I am not mistaken you said something like between you and your friend you spend 1000 dollars per week on drinks in a pub. I don't even earn that kind of money per week and I think a lot of people don't. What kind of job did or do you have that able you to spend that kind of money on drinks only?
Kevin you're correct when you say alcohol is an allusion. Very true. I started out drinking many years ago for self gratification. You worked hard this week, go get beers. My football team won lets go celebrate. All ending up feeling like shit the next day. But then i used alcohol to cope with the bad stuff in life. I lost people close to me. Got to drink to put the stuff under the rug. I was drinking for the good things in life and now the bad things. As you say alcohols tentacles were getting into all parts of my life. Ive been sober for over 2 yrs now and im doing a lot of things that i said i was going to do when i was drinking but never did. My discomfort from stopping drinking lasted 3 to 6 months. The cravings. Then they waned off. When i would get a craving i would find a project no matter how simple, pull fucking weeds or do some laundry. That 15 to 30 minutes of being involved in something go my mind off the drinking. It can be done to all of you out there who are stopping. Stop the drinking thinking.
I am on evening 4 without alcohol. I have been sleeping really well and thinking so clearly but was considering buying a can of bear tonight. But you have reminded me it is poison and I am missing nothing. Thank you. I am going to watch again tomorrow.
This is the second video I've watched with this guy. Everything he says i know but it's good to see someone else who understands. I hope to stop drinking soon.
I have to watch this over and over, it's actually my favorite video so far that I've watched, I haven't watched all of them, but you make some very wonderful and deep things to think about in this video, I thank you so much for making these videos! I'm also in process of quitting smoking, diet changes, and I've noticed that it's NOT a god idea to do them all at once! You are helping me personally and I wish I could let you know how much of a difference you've made for me. I'm going to watch more videos of yours! :) I also still love the thoughts, the view in the background of your videos, and the "companionship" that feels like I'm walking with you just having a one on one conversation.
Had to pause it for a moment to reflect on something you just said about how some people might go 5 years without drinking and then think they can moderate or manage and go back into it...for me when I go just a day or so, I start to think that maybe I can still drink but maybe just a few and then I'm back to a 6pk every night, and that leads to a 12pk on the weekend nights and to misery..every damn time
Admit you're powerless over alcohol. Admit it! ....and embrace it.
I had that thought for years.... I would have a horrible hang hover, feel bad about myself, depress and admit to myself that I have a problem, and then 2 days later I would think that maybe I could have just a beer or two and then whole cycle would repeat again getting drunk, over and over.
My problem is and was, I told myself that if I could just remember how bad the bad feels I would never touch the stuff again. But I only easily remember how good the endorphin high feels like.
I’ve watched so many of Kevin’s videos but I think this one has had the most impact. No idea why, but it has helped the most. Regardless, Thank you Kevin..... for all that you do. You’ve helped so many people ❤️
Same here. I think there was a lot of practical information around qutting in this one.
I'm about 4 months in and your videos helped me since day 1. I tried AA but I couldn't do that program. It made me get a drink before I went and sometimes afterwards but now I only go to collect my chips and to reflect on where I came from (hell) I use to feel ashamed collecting my 1st day chip which I have a collection of but now I walk with pride when they call out my month. I know I use that program wrong but going for my chip gives me a sense of accomplishment. I'm so happy for your videos it helped me at the darkest times and gave me something to look forward to. Like having a different picture of life, myself, and everything around me including nature. Please keep it up. Not just for me but for others as well. 😊
If you're staying sober your doing the right things. Don't let the AA fanatics browbeat you.
This is my favorite video yet, because you address what happens to your self-respect. Mine was being chipped away day by day until I stopped drinking 40 days ago. Now I'm putting it back together again and have never felt so confident! Thank you Kevin!
Karen Swanson Are you still going strong?
Hi Kevin,I'm five weeks of the booze tomorrow thanks to you,me and my wife's help.Feeling good.Keep up the good work.ATB John👍👍👍👍👍
Great message Kevin, addiction to alcohol is progressive and ends in misery!
Thanks. Kevin. I really appreciate what you are doing ! It means a lot to many of us. I feel like God send you to save my life ! Like a big brother....I was going through a lot of alcohol addiction and I'm struggling to stay sobber. I been watching you videos lately and you the first person telling exactly what all of us going through and stay away from that poison. I'm working hard on it everyday after watching your video. I really appreciate . Thanks.
That's a good way to think about alcohol..... stop thinking that alcohol is pleasure... think of it as poison...
Eight months AF today! Thank you!
You definitely make a difference mate! These videos are the only thing that gets through to me thus far.
trying to get back on track, was sober for 1 yr, 10 months, thought I could have the occasional drink, but should have know better... we don't drink like normal people..
This is a really focused one Kevin. Thank-you for helping so many people selflessly. Cheers (figuritivley speaking lol).
great videos Kevin😀
every night at the witching hour i move out of the living room where i used to drink, sip my valerian root tea and watch a couple of your videos. it works every time. thaaaank you!!!
Tate C the witching hour is my down fall.
I have watched a great many of your videos since 2013. I must say, this one is the best, the one I keep coming back to because of its powerful simplicity and matter-of-factness. A few weeks or months of decreasing discomfort versus a lifetime of pain - an easy choice. Puts the whole thing into perspective, really. And no, it's not an effin' hard thing to do! :D It's as hard as we make it, really. Thanks, Kevin.
Awesome content Kevin!
I take something useful and inspiring from each video of yours that I watch, and will continue watching…thanks so much for all you do for this community!
This is excellent. I needed this today. I’ve choosen to change things now. Thank you.
Brilliant chanel. I feel stopping completely is the best thing for me. Took me a long time to realise that
Hi Kevin,
Here's two ideas for daily challenges:
* Learn a new word a day. This is one of my faves. For example, today was "Grandiloquent" - "pompous or extravagant in language, style, or manner, especially in a way that is intended to impress" lol!
* Spend 5 minutes learning a foreign language. I'm currently trying to learn Urdu!
:-)
Love it. Urdu is a cool language, especially useful in your part of the world. Good on you for trying to open yourself to other cultures instead of trying to hold on to a very narrow self-identity.
Shukriya :-)
Paul Denman dang dude why not start with something hard?? 🤣
Been there, getting annoyed with the owner of the pub and then reckoning up what you've spent there, "I went into an ale house I used to frequent and I told the landlady my money was spent..."
I look forward to your videos everyday! Thank you!
I love you Kevin ❤️
As the days go by it gets easier and easier I can go into a store and not even look at the alcohol section! This is something I’ve wanted for so long to get clean and sober it’s actually fun because now I can spend money on things that’ll make me healthier instead of something that makes me forget what I did the night before!!!!! I’m feeling so happy these days even losing weight I felt so bloated when I use to drink thank you s😊 much for your videos that help me tremendously I love the way you explain it!
I built the habit gradually...shooting a pool and having a pitcher everyday after work with friends and it affects me the next day on my performance but the job still get done. Stupid things...Im throu with this shit long time a go ! I'm working on now drinking too much on the weekend. I do IT and I always blaming on my stressful job but I was wrong ! I just realize that....Thanks. Great vid.
The sugar and coffee now.. is super insane. I cant stop.. I never ate anything sweet before. I'm 80 days 0 alcohol
Yeah I'm 4 months in and I've never drank so much diet soda in my life
Kevina
It s a replacement....
Thank you for the straight up discussion. You are so right.
During the early part of the day "everyday" I know that I never want to drink ever again..but something begins to change in me later and slowly I start thinking that there is misery in this world, and that I am missing my dad and my dogs who were my friends, and I think that I am always going to be a drinker..also, I say to myself that I do not want to live to be 60 or 70 and that I might as well drink up...but I have an enlarged heart and in my moments of clarity I fear that I might not last much longer....I'm 51 and with this bad heart, I m at risk of dying very soon..I feel ok but during the night after drinking my heart beats rapidly for no reason and sometimes it stops beating for a few seconds...I have begun to leave my door open at night so that if I die, my dogs can get out of the house...I have mentioned before that I'm bi-polar and not taking medication, and I do believe that there is another part of me that has a will power to destroy my life just as strong as my will power to live it to the fullest..big trouble in my little brain.
How are you doing, man ? Have you managed to quit drinking?
Excellent talk very much appreciated Kevin
You are hitting the nail on the head in each video
After listening to your videos, it is so easy to quit
thank you Kevin, i am changing my life😂
Great one Kevin.
This is a strong video. Thank you Kevin.
You're welcome!
Very motivational Kevin. Thanks
The “Candy Man” was executed in America for putting poison in candy and passing it out to neighborhood children on Halloween a few decades ago. True story Kevin.
Great video Kevin...
Thanks Kevin.
This is a great video. Thank you
Thank you, Kevin
Thank you Kevin :)
Love the video’s!!!!
Kevin heres another problem I am having, I don't know how to explain to my dad what I am going through, he doesn't seem to understand addiction, I told him I don't want to go back to work for another 3 months, infact he doesn't understand anything about addiction at all.
seems you can only be truly honest about drinking after you've stopped, "...or
I'd go home and have one...One, ? haha. I'd have several..." @ 2:30
Hi Kevin, i would appreciate something on smoking, thank you for your help so far...
I haven’t crossed the line yet. I’m afraid but I have no option than to go cold turkey with a little help from a small amount of Valium. I have support from my partner so I won’t be alone in case anything goes wrong. Just got to make the date to actually do it. Find your videos very helpful. ☮️
I hear you speaking about quitting smoking in a few of your videos. Can you take the time and make a video about how you quit smoking?
By reading the Allen Carr books I believe
Day 1
Marty Roberts
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I have one question, if I am not mistaken you said something like between you and your friend you spend 1000 dollars per week on drinks in a pub. I don't even earn that kind of money per week and I think a lot of people don't. What kind of job did or do you have that able you to spend that kind of money on drinks only?
I think im replacing wine w sweets amd snacks in evenings. Im only 30 days sober- should i be worried
Yep, cant do just one or 2.....always means 12 shots
13:32 that exact same myth was here in the US lol
Truth
Is water retention a side of affect of withdrawal? Im on day three and extremely bloated.
Surrenderingall i had the same but it went away.
Drink warm water every morning ! 1st thing you wake up ! You see the big result in your body ! 😉 Chinese....remember...
Thank you
Thanks
Self-respect...hhmmm...maybe that’s what’s missing...😥
👍🤝😁
27,000 days = 75 years 😅