The moment when you think that you are quiet so your words will not go unnoticed when you speak, and you find the perfect opportunity to speak when at the same time another person speaks and your words still go unnoticed and you get a reality check.
@@HeidiSue60 yes it's like being invisible, especially when you're Waiting patiently letting people finish what they're saying and you begin to talk then someone but in talking about something completely different and monopolies the conversation. This is edited because I forgot to put this up 😤
1. Active speaking 2. Smile with ur eyes and speak through a smile (just because someone speaks quietly doesn't mean they're boring) 3. Take advantage of 1st impression (try to be playful and fun in the first few minutes of meeting someone) 4. Be a likable listener who laughs easily ( your goal is not to fake laugh the goal is to laugh freely whenever you do find something funny) 5. Show your genuine emotional reaction (it shows confidence if you're willing to show your genuine reaction even when it makes you stand out from the people around you) 6. Ask energizing questions ( ~Open ended ~About a topic that excites the other person) 7. Raise your voice to recapture attention (once you've recaptured attention you can return to your quieter more natural speaking voice) Hope that will help :)
I just watch people like Johnny Depp and Keanu Reeves in Interviews. They seem more introverted than extroverted, but always find them very interesting when they are telling there stories. I like how they carry themselves.
#1: Active speaking #2: Smile with your eyes & speak through a smile #3: Take advantage of first minute bias #4: Be a likable listener who laughs easily #5: Show your genuine emotional reaction #6: Ask energizing questions #7: Raise your voice to recapture attention
In each of the examples Chris Pine was in the spotlight. I understand even being in the spotlight not everyone can act charismatic. But being in a spotlight gives certain advantage. Show some examples where the quiet guy is avoiding being ignored in a meeting or friendly chat.
the problem with this channel's videos is they always use celebrity interview clips. real life social interactions rarely play out the same way. Also, the celebrities they use as examples tend to be extremely attractive to begin with. Halo effect in action. People tend to pay greater attention to hot people. Hot people are assumed to be more interesting, intelligent, et al. Let's see how Chris Pine would do with average or ugly looks thrown into a regular social gathering.
@@xdproductions3087 well they cannot use non celebrity reactions/people who aren't already somewhat in the spotlight in their niche. Because guess what....? It's easy to look up an interview of a celebrity etc vs a random guy in a social interaction(how would you even find that?). Because people don't go around 24/7 videoing themselves, so this is the closest we're going to get plus anecdotes.
The first step to not to be ignored is. Not caring about people ignoring you or not. Just be comfortable be yourself. Do whatever you like. As simple as that. That's how you won't feel any pressure of being likable.
There's reasons to want to capture people's attention beyond just being liked. If I just chilled back everything I got talked over at work, then I wouldn't be able to do my job fully
@@aisherwasher6959 I get what you are saying. But remember going too hard to capture attention is a turn off for people. Even if you want to capture attention do it in your natural. It shouldn't be looking like you are trying.
@@srhira1344 being a try hard can be offputting, but I'd rather do that and go against my nature to reach goals. Of course, not in every scenario. I just thought it was worth pointing out that there's more reasons to push past your comfort zone besides trying to be well liked
@@aisherwasher6959 I think "Get out of your comfort zone" we are taking this sentence too much seriously. For me doing something which I never did before is getting out of comfort zone. But I will do that in my own comfortable way.
My personal life hack: introducing myself in a confident way with a beaming smile. a bit like mrs maisel does. (Like it says in the vif. Smile with ur eyes). I've noticed that I can afterwards go on with longer periods of being silently introverted and still having other people including me when they talk. As if they wait for my reaction bc they know i am a good and active listener. Also my extroverted friend said if everyone in the round is extroverted, worst case is nobody's listening. So they do seek out those who are able to listen...be mindful though to leave in case you are in an extroverted "i won't give space for you to talk"-pit. They usually aren't worth fighting and staying for...
I'm a naturally quiet person, but when I speak people seem to listen and react to my words. I think it's because I can make clever statements that pull people in. I wait for the perfect opportunity to speak
Right. In a group convo people will say things like “she doesn’t talk but when she does she always has these funny one liners” I’m observant and have a good sense of humor so I take advantage of it to show people who I am without having to say too much. So much of what people say is unnecessary. Unless I have something to say that might be insightful I don’t feel the need talk just so that there isn’t silence. If anything, the more silence in between sentences the better because there’s more time to think and say things that are valuable to the other person.
This channel is great. The tip about watching something you know will make you laugh is a trick I use before streaming to bring a happier, more energetic vibe
GREAT video!!! As someone who's naturally introverted and quiet, I found it really helpful. It's not always easy to make yourself heard when you're not the loudest person in the room, but these tips definitely gave me some ideas for how to better communicate and connect with others. One thing that really resonated with me was the idea of being a likable listener who laughs easily. I've always been a good listener, but I've struggled with showing my emotions and reactions in a way that feels genuine. But the video made me realize that it's okay to be vulnerable and show your true emotions - it can actually help to build stronger connections with people. I also loved the suggestion to ask energizing questions. I've found that when I'm talking to someone who's passionate about a particular topic, it's so much easier for me to get engaged and feel more confident in my own communication skills. And by asking open-ended questions, I'm able to keep the conversation going and show that I'm really interested in what the other person has to say. What's one social situation that you find particularly challenging as an introverted or quiet person, and how do you navigate it?
What are your personal keys to a champion's mindset or mentality? “ Just be yourself “ . That only works if you’re already somebody worth knowing , Without great social skills, it’s near impossible to make a lot of money , Start young, workout, diet . As you get older & responsibilities increase , you’d wish you had established a routine sooner , Avoid too many friends . Small circle is underrated. Have only few friends to get goofy with sometimes , Normalize putting nothing on a pedestal . Why ?? Because you’re conveying to your brain “ This is something I could never do “ , Don’t rush . Don’t let temporary feelings have you make the wrong decisions .Take your time , Building a “Thick Skin” is very important. As you grow , you’ll receive hate & criticism . Keep dominating your path , The biggest risk to Men as they move from youth to adulthood is not Smoking or Obesity . It’s the lack to strong relationships with High Value Men , Being nice is not the problem. The problem is being nice from a low-value position . Be high value first , be nice later , Just Chill.!!
Not putting anything on a pedestal is great advice, you don’t hear it often either. If there’s someone out there that I admire and want to be like I know that I can have what they have if I put my all into figuring out what they did to be that way. Of course natural strengths/talents play a part in getting what you want out of life, but I believe as long as it seems like a realistic goal and you have some sort of step by step plan you can be more like that person most people idolize
honestly it really depends on your looks. i've been ugly before, and my quietness was perceived as me being weird. however, now that i'm conventionally attractive, my quietness gets perceived as me being mysterious and intriguing.
Key Moments [square brackets = own thoughts] Hand gestures to explain ideas well 00:25 to take up space well 02:20 First impression bias is so important so take advantage of this by laughing by showing likeability First opinions can be sticky. [oh dear. Humans unwilling to change their minds] 4:00 Your goal is to laugh freely. Do not fake laugh. [You are lying to yourself and to the joker] Prime Trick 04:25 [said before in previous charisma videos] Watch something you know will make you laugh [ You set up your brain to be in a positive mindframe] Brad Pitt and George Clooney laugh in Ocean's 11,12,13 Many key points from this video! Thank you Charisma on Command !!
Chris Pine is a good looking, successful actor who is also quiet and maybe an introvert. Literally the only reason people regard him as the charismatic, strong, silent type is because of his looks and his career success. If you’re a regular dude who is introverted and you think trying these methods will make people think you’re charismatic, they won’t.
There is this noisy girl in my class who gets all the attention so the point in this video that we should raise our voice is actually good..I was considering it myself as well.
well they cannot use non celebrity reactions/people who aren't already somewhat in the spotlight in their niche. Because guess what....? It's easy to look up an interview of a celebrity etc vs a random guy in a social interaction(how would you even find that?). Because people don't go around 24/7 videoing themselves, so this is the closest we're going to get plus anecdotes.
As someone who looked very average growing up, then very cute, then very cute/handsome, then very VERY handsome, i can completely confirm the answer is : be handsome. For example, if you sit in a room as an unhandsome person and do nothing or sit in the corner or stand alone or admire the paintings or talk to a person (male or female) or talk to a group of people or stand silently by a group of people - then your impression will be judged accordingly to how weird that behaviour is. if you do these things as a VERY handsome (and cute person with soft brown skin and delicate chiseled features curly hair and glasses) person, you are immediately the coolest, most normal person in the room. Youre standing alone because youre a quite thoughful person rather than a weirdo. You dont talk much bcos youre thoughtful and demure rather than uncomfortable and awkward. Women will take anything you say positively and however they desire to take it. They will try very much to have a never-ending conversation with you. no matter how little or much you talk. or even what you say. this actually makes having conversation really easy because the other person is endlessly patient and desperate to talk with you. you dont have to say particularly conversational things, which incidentally means with the right people conversation will flow much more naturally. women will smile at you which is such a pleasant wonderful feeling in all the various types of smiles.
Charisma for people who are visually unattractive is very hard to achieve. These "tips" don't work unless you're already attractive or popular. People don't just pause to listen to what you have to say outside of a talk show. And if you're unattractive then even if you're "expressive", you'll still struggle to talk in group meals and will easily get ignored. If you're generally a quiet person then the only thing that can ever work for you is to deploy tactical jokes at the right moment. If you're not funny either, then God bless your poor soul
I don't know how you define attractive but as a straight woman, I can absolutely be charmed eventually by a man less attractive, even not conventionally attractive if he's not self conscious, and uses the tips above. The buzzkill is when I sense insecurity, not because I'm looking at an e.g. ugly nose.
I love your material. I've been watching your martial for years, and now I make my preteen kids watch one video every week as a "Life Lessons" activity. I'm a machine mechanic at an Amazon warehouse, but more than that, I'm "that guy". My motto has always been "People are always more important than things." So, I'm the guy who gets to walks around and help people feel validated and loved. People will naturally open up to me and share family or personal secrets that they wouldn't share with anyone - even their spouses. While their managers are breathing down their necks to increase productivity, I build their self esteem, their self worth, their value, and confident, and then watch their performance rise from the background. While this has always been my superpower, your videos have helped me immensely, to be more effective in building morale and rapport. You cover such an array of topics, but I've noticed a shortage in one topic: How to comfort someone in distress. I often encounter many people who are going through rough patches (relative dies, hard breakups/divorces, home damage by disaster, recent physical ailments, parent with children going down the wrong path...). I wonder if you would make a couple videos addressing this. Often, i will just hold them, and cry with them, or just validate how difficult it must be to go through something like this. Sometimes, I'll share some thoughts, or angles that they night not have considered, "On one hand, I can see their perspective, but I get how this would be really frustrating..." or something like that. I wonder: Do you have some effective ways to share and validate sympathy, condolences, and empathy during difficult conversations?
What surprising lessons have life taught you so far? 1- Being able to change your mind is one of the hardest things in the world. 2- You are not so different from some of the people you criticize. If you find yourself in their shoe, you'll probably behave the way they do. 3- It's a mistake to generalize people. Until you come closer to people, you won't know who they are. 4- Life is unpredictable. You'll get to experience things you never thought you'll experience and will find yourself in places you never thought you'll be. 5- Don't opt for shortcuts in life, they may give temporary satisfaction but they give lasting results, instead choose the long path which is more daunting, if you're successful, you'll get lasting success. 6- The greatest investment you can ever make is in yourself. 7- Try to be humble. Arrogance isn't a good thing. Thanks for reading! Your upvote is appreciation for me.
The most important is knowing how to ask interesting questions, people know that you are quiet so they must be thinking about why, by asking appealing questions everyone will gladly answer you. If you are beautiful people will freely give you attention, otherwise good luck my friend.
It's so strange. I have classic autism, not the kind of person that will attract other people, let alone girls, you probably think, but because I do a lot of yoga & meditation practice, I feel connected with everything and everyone, and not only during meditation. What's so strange is what happens when I have social interactions with other people while also have that feeling of being connected with everything and everyone, because it's like I'm a social magnetic person. Girls want to be around me, seriously? They even want to be touched by me. I'm happy of course, but somehow, this feels like magic lol. Being a social magnet, I never thought that could be me. There's something supernatural about charisma.
You shouldn't use these people as points of reference because they are guests on national television and they're obviously going to be given airtime when they want to speak. Plus, they're famous so people would listen and give them the space to speak even if they're not so confident
@@neropegaso7767 yup and the 120874 people who watched this are just not as smart as the random pleb writing hate comments on the channel with 6.13 million subs.
Also note how Kimmel immediately yields when Pine raises his voice. It turns into a very natural exchange that keeps the momentum of the conversation. Well played all around by both parties.
Umm We are quiet because we WANT to be ignored. It’s survival instinct. It’s like how a fawn will sit quietly in the grass hoping a grizzly bear doesn’t notice. It’s kinda like that. Except the grizzly bear is awkward conversational pauses.
Hey can you make a video analysis about Jesus from The Chosen? I find his character one of the most charismatic people Ive seen on television. It would be a great video idea!
Quiet, I go beyond quiet I'm downright invisible and I do it very well I can walk into a store and nobody says a word the next person walks in "hey welcome to so-and-so"and you know it doesn't even bother me anymore 😂
5:57 I suspect, Sally didn't know what 'yobs' meant, so was unsure how to react to the word, but was too proud to say ''I'm sorry, what does yobs mean?'' Chris clearly did, so he rephrased Graham's question to help Sally save face: Behaving like a gentleman, for sure 👍👍👍👍
Key insights 💬 "Some people mistakenly think that to be charismatic you have to be loud and energetic all the time but that isn't true." 🎥 Incorporating pauses and moments of dramatic tension in your speech can create a powerful impact and captivate your audience. 😄 Smiling while speaking primes people to smile and laugh with you, making you more socially attractive. 😄 Playfulness is important in the first few minutes of a conversation to create a positive first impression and set a more positive tone. 🎭 Being willing to show your genuine emotional reactions, even if they make you stand out, demonstrates confidence and can make you more socially attractive. 💬 Asking energizing questions can make people like you without you needing to do much talking. 😊 One member of Chris University was able to overcome their hesitations and overthinking in conversations, leading to increased confidence in expressing their thoughts and even making a great first impression on someone they had a crush on.
It’d be more impressive if your “quiet person” wasn’t someone considered extremely attractive. If you’re extremely attractive, you’ll be popular with almost no effort at all
Yeh very relatable when you use celebrities 🤦😣 Chris Pine is not what you call "quiet". He is actually quite charming and charismatic and easy on the eyes which is a bonus. How many can relate to that?! Makes little sense!! Your comparisons are terrible sometimes LOL
What does relatable have to do with anything? It's meant to teach, not be relatable. It's easier to find clips to prove the point from celebrities because they're constantly being interviewed and filmed. Most have had training to be that charming, so they're good data points. Yeah being attractive is a benefit, but that doesn't mean you can't be ugly and more likeable than you are. The process with the words and body language is the same, we ugly people just have to work a little harder for the same result. 🤣
Definition: Charisma - active listening(present tense) (Closeup) - speak through smile (It's okay) laugh with the lover - priming(genuine) (What compelled you to ..) Appreciation fame fist 👊 😊😁
100% agree. The guy that does these videos doesn't always have the best examples when comparing with these celebrities. He's kind of out of touch at times 😅🤦
Gal Gadot was the literal giggling school girl around him because she was clearly totally deliriously attracted to him & crushing Hard in front of the whole world 😅🤣 Bless her I do not balme her he is TASTY!! noticed how after all of a whole spate of interviews her publicists obviously spoke to her warning her about whether she wants to be seen as flirting with her co-star considering she is a married woman & whether she wants to be seen as a serious actress/actor or not..... at some point she matured during interviews at comic con you can see she had to pull her socks up & not be the giggling girl as wonder women but anyway just an observation I absolutely adore & respect her giggling or not!!
funny, you dont see a researcher with a 30 years finished project and being gangsta, they are always humble, calm and considering the possibility of having to deal with failures. in real life you have results first and atitude later.
My mom used to be that way in her 40s, I remember her saying she has to have something to show for her money. Meaning she has to buy something she wants before the money runs out. This is what I think they are doing.
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
I’ve been in the same school for a year and a half and I barely talk. When someone comes up to me I try to be as nice as possible but after one interaction they never talk to me again. How do I become the person that goes up to people when I’m already known as the shy and quiet guy by my whole class and grade? Am I too far gone now?
No, you aren't. You just over think stuff because you have expectations, and that's most likely why you're holding back. If you go out there with zero expectations, you'll be free from those nasty shackles.
I like talking with my hands although for so long we we taught that we shouldn’t😂😂😂it’s better to talk with your hands than to sit stiff like a robot 😂😂😂
The truth lol! I’m a chill person and I talk low like in the video. I forgot what video of theirs I saw and it mentioned using your hands. I fidget less, get interrupted less, and feel more like myself now that the limiter is off 😂
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Any video on how to make someone listen when the other feels that their belief is questioned and will tune out the conversation from then on believing they are not wrong when you try to make them look at things from a different or the other person's perspective Sir?
Does anyone feel like they want to laugh but because your shy around that person you just can’t? I don’t know how to explain it but the muscles of my face physically will not turn into a smile when I’m feeling shy, so I come off as a heartless robot
There can be many reasons for that. When you're not 100% comfortable around someone naturally you are more cautious about which side you want other people to see. This may lead to overthinking even most basic things like "oh I shouldn't have laughed that hard" or "does anyone else find this funny? I have no idea why I laughed at this" and so on. So you can become paranoid and afraid of being jugded to the point that you'd rather hide your natural reactions than let others see them for what they are. Even subconsciously. But understanding that no normal person would ever judge you simply because of the way you laugh is key. Not giving a damn really is a way to build self-confidence. Lemme give you an example. I have a friend that has a really peculiar laughter, like you could hear it a mile away kind of laughter. And I couldn't help but notice that he wouldn't laugh out loud around people he didn't know too well quite that often. But within smaller circle of friends, he laughs normally and personally I find this endearing, partly because this is something that sets him apart from other people and what makes him authentic, but also because it's really cool to know that someone trusts you enough to joke and laugh around you without constant fear of being judged and basically offers you the same courtesy. So sometimes you just gotta let it all go and see how people will react to this, more often than not you'll get positive reactions, because psychologically laughing is what puts other people at ease, it disarms them and make them like you more.
It's social anxiety. From my experience, you work on focusing on the humor until you train your body to relax. For practice, watch stand up comedy alone. Then, watch comedy in public, like on your phone so you're engaging your natural laugh and others around can see you, but you're still not actively in live conversations. It'll eventually come more naturally if you loosen your reactions over time.
Cool! Practice makes for natural charisma I suppose. It’s hard when most people tend to be kind of shallow. If you aren’t as physically attractive as these celebrities people are so dismissive of your presence or they just look at you like your super weird.
It only work on those gifted and genetically equip human being that happened to be quite good looking. Most of us if stay quiet would be view as creeps or serial killers.
I am a quite guy , but many times i find places to crack small jokes in my subtle and deep voice and theirs always one who listens to it and we laugh . Seeing us others also get interested in what i was saying. I think its not to hard to feel your presence when u are very silent guy.
I have this hand gesture habit not from any of these viedos. it's natural for me and people around me think as it is not a good thing to do. my teacher even once scold me while I was doing these gestures while I speak. So, does this really work??????
Ppl who touch your leg (knee) for any reason like a laugh or any excuse is definitely attract to u. It's insane ho some ppl are using any excuse to touch u like it's ok to do so.
Hey man, love your videos. I have watched a few of your videos about how quite people can be famous, likeable etc, but I believe most of those quite people are introverts. I have social anxiety, I can't interact with people even if I want to. Do have any tips for that ?
It should be a crime to say, "when someone tries to speak over you." without showing a clip of Neil deGrasse Tyson. 🤣 6:11 Real talk tho, I love him. His work is so important, inspiring the young people like he does.
The moment when you think that you are quiet so your words will not go unnoticed when you speak, and you find the perfect opportunity to speak when at the same time another person speaks and your words still go unnoticed and you get a reality check.
yeah..
Yeah and when it's happening all of the time with 3 or more people, it can make you feel like the invisible man
@@mauricebrocklehurst2358 when it goes on long enough, in repeated settings, it gets to feeling like you have no voice
@@HeidiSue60 yes it's like being invisible, especially when you're Waiting patiently letting people finish what they're saying and you begin to talk then someone but in talking about something completely different and monopolies the conversation. This is edited because I forgot to put this up 😤
Don't stop talking to establish dominance.
1. Active speaking
2. Smile with ur eyes and speak through a smile (just because someone speaks quietly doesn't mean they're boring)
3. Take advantage of 1st impression (try to be playful and fun in the first few minutes of meeting someone)
4. Be a likable listener who laughs easily ( your goal is not to fake laugh the goal is to laugh freely whenever you do find something funny)
5. Show your genuine emotional reaction (it shows confidence if you're willing to show your genuine reaction even when it makes you stand out from the people around you)
6. Ask energizing questions ( ~Open ended ~About a topic that excites the other person)
7. Raise your voice to recapture attention (once you've recaptured attention you can return to your quieter more natural speaking voice)
Hope that will help :)
Thanks
8. Make sure you're born handsome.
9. Become a rich moviestar.
@@daarom3472 🤣🤣😂
Would help so gratefully
Nice
I just watch people like Johnny Depp and Keanu Reeves in Interviews. They seem more introverted than extroverted, but always find them very interesting when they are telling there stories. I like how they carry themselves.
It’s because they’re very physically attractive
Indeed
and rob pattinson
Physically attractive and insanely famous too.
Cilian Murphy too
#1: Active speaking
#2: Smile with your eyes & speak through a smile
#3: Take advantage of first minute bias
#4: Be a likable listener who laughs easily
#5: Show your genuine emotional reaction
#6: Ask energizing questions
#7: Raise your voice to recapture attention
In each of the examples Chris Pine was in the spotlight. I understand even being in the spotlight not everyone can act charismatic. But being in a spotlight gives certain advantage. Show some examples where the quiet guy is avoiding being ignored in a meeting or friendly chat.
the problem with this channel's videos is they always use celebrity interview clips. real life social interactions rarely play out the same way. Also, the celebrities they use as examples tend to be extremely attractive to begin with. Halo effect in action. People tend to pay greater attention to hot people. Hot people are assumed to be more interesting, intelligent, et al. Let's see how Chris Pine would do with average or ugly looks thrown into a regular social gathering.
@@xdproductions3087 he has to sell a course though right
@@xdproductions3087 well they cannot use non celebrity reactions/people who aren't already somewhat in the spotlight in their niche.
Because guess what....? It's easy to look up an interview of a celebrity etc vs a random guy in a social interaction(how would you even find that?). Because people don't go around 24/7 videoing themselves, so this is the closest we're going to get plus anecdotes.
The first step to not to be ignored is. Not caring about people ignoring you or not. Just be comfortable be yourself. Do whatever you like. As simple as that. That's how you won't feel any pressure of being likable.
There's reasons to want to capture people's attention beyond just being liked. If I just chilled back everything I got talked over at work, then I wouldn't be able to do my job fully
@@aisherwasher6959 I get what you are saying. But remember going too hard to capture attention is a turn off for people. Even if you want to capture attention do it in your natural. It shouldn't be looking like you are trying.
@@srhira1344 being a try hard can be offputting, but I'd rather do that and go against my nature to reach goals. Of course, not in every scenario. I just thought it was worth pointing out that there's more reasons to push past your comfort zone besides trying to be well liked
@@aisherwasher6959 I think "Get out of your comfort zone" we are taking this sentence too much seriously. For me doing something which I never did before is getting out of comfort zone. But I will do that in my own comfortable way.
How to avoid being ignored if you're quiet like Chris Pine? Be famous, handsome, rich... , ooooh, then you won't need the talking!
Mald
Facts .
What can I do if I’m missing all three those
@@fifacraft49 Do what the video says.
You don't have to be any of those, don't underestimate the power of being funny.
Step 1: be attractive
Step 2: don't be unattractive
Actually i know alot of ugly people with better personalities and stand out then the typical hottie with nothing real to say.
Step 3: if you're unattractive, refer to step 1
bruh, there's always at least one person who says that
@@hel2727 They showed their insecurities and i pity them.
You will get noticed more if you're "attractive", the highs and lows of your quiet/introvertedness become more stark.
That was a straight G move he pulled with sally field. In a split second he saw she wasn't sure what to say, and asked his own question 👏🏻👏🏻
My personal life hack: introducing myself in a confident way with a beaming smile. a bit like mrs maisel does. (Like it says in the vif. Smile with ur eyes).
I've noticed that I can afterwards go on with longer periods of being silently introverted and still having other people including me when they talk. As if they wait for my reaction bc they know i am a good and active listener.
Also my extroverted friend said if everyone in the round is extroverted, worst case is nobody's listening. So they do seek out those who are able to listen...be mindful though to leave in case you are in an extroverted "i won't give space for you to talk"-pit. They usually aren't worth fighting and staying for...
I'm a naturally quiet person, but when I speak people seem to listen and react to my words. I think it's because I can make clever statements that pull people in. I wait for the perfect opportunity to speak
Right. In a group convo people will say things like “she doesn’t talk but when she does she always has these funny one liners” I’m observant and have a good sense of humor so I take advantage of it to show people who I am without having to say too much. So much of what people say is unnecessary. Unless I have something to say that might be insightful I don’t feel the need talk just so that there isn’t silence. If anything, the more silence in between sentences the better because there’s more time to think and say things that are valuable to the other person.
@@jasminecontreras7341 I agree. I do enjoy talking but only when I want or need to.
I only speak when I get comfortable with someone, most of the time I'm the quietest
@@helloworld2054 yep this too. I have to be comfortable as well
This channel is great. The tip about watching something you know will make you laugh is a trick I use before streaming to bring a happier, more energetic vibe
GREAT video!!! As someone who's naturally introverted and quiet, I found it really helpful. It's not always easy to make yourself heard when you're not the loudest person in the room, but these tips definitely gave me some ideas for how to better communicate and connect with others.
One thing that really resonated with me was the idea of being a likable listener who laughs easily. I've always been a good listener, but I've struggled with showing my emotions and reactions in a way that feels genuine. But the video made me realize that it's okay to be vulnerable and show your true emotions - it can actually help to build stronger connections with people.
I also loved the suggestion to ask energizing questions. I've found that when I'm talking to someone who's passionate about a particular topic, it's so much easier for me to get engaged and feel more confident in my own communication skills. And by asking open-ended questions, I'm able to keep the conversation going and show that I'm really interested in what the other person has to say.
What's one social situation that you find particularly challenging as an introverted or quiet person, and how do you navigate it?
Real niggas can see through your phony and will throw you a test to see if you laugh and then they will know you are a goofy
What are your personal keys to a champion's mindset or mentality?
“ Just be yourself “ . That only works if you’re already somebody worth knowing ,
Without great social skills, it’s near impossible to make a lot of money ,
Start young, workout, diet . As you get older & responsibilities increase , you’d wish you had established a routine sooner ,
Avoid too many friends . Small circle is underrated. Have only few friends to get goofy with sometimes ,
Normalize putting nothing on a pedestal . Why ?? Because you’re conveying to your brain “ This is something I could never do “ ,
Don’t rush . Don’t let temporary feelings have you make the wrong decisions .Take your time ,
Building a “Thick Skin” is very important. As you grow , you’ll receive hate & criticism . Keep dominating your path ,
The biggest risk to Men as they move from youth to adulthood is not Smoking or Obesity . It’s the lack to strong relationships with High Value Men ,
Being nice is not the problem. The problem is being nice from a low-value position . Be high value first , be nice later ,
Just Chill.!!
Not putting anything on a pedestal is great advice, you don’t hear it often either. If there’s someone out there that I admire and want to be like I know that I can have what they have if I put my all into figuring out what they did to be that way. Of course natural strengths/talents play a part in getting what you want out of life, but I believe as long as it seems like a realistic goal and you have some sort of step by step plan you can be more like that person most people idolize
@@jasminecontreras7341 🤝🤝🤝
honestly it really depends on your looks. i've been ugly before, and my quietness was perceived as me being weird. however, now that i'm conventionally attractive, my quietness gets perceived as me being mysterious and intriguing.
Y U P
Key Moments [square brackets = own thoughts]
Hand gestures to explain ideas well 00:25 to take up space well
02:20 First impression bias is so important so take advantage of this by laughing by showing likeability
First opinions can be sticky. [oh dear. Humans unwilling to change their minds]
4:00 Your goal is to laugh freely. Do not fake laugh. [You are lying to yourself and to the joker]
Prime Trick 04:25 [said before in previous charisma videos]
Watch something you know will make you laugh [ You set up your brain to be in a positive mindframe]
Brad Pitt and George Clooney laugh in Ocean's 11,12,13
Many key points from this video! Thank you Charisma on Command !!
That save he did with Sally Field was a most gentlemanly thing to do. I caught that and I instantly liked him for that.
Chris Pine is a good looking, successful actor who is also quiet and maybe an introvert. Literally the only reason people regard him as the charismatic, strong, silent type is because of his looks and his career success.
If you’re a regular dude who is introverted and you think trying these methods will make people think you’re charismatic, they won’t.
There is this noisy girl in my class who gets all the attention so the point in this video that we should raise our voice is actually good..I was considering it myself as well.
well they cannot use non celebrity reactions/people who aren't already somewhat in the spotlight in their niche.
Because guess what....? It's easy to look up an interview of a celebrity etc vs a random guy in a social interaction(how would you even find that?). Because people don't go around 24/7 videoing themselves, so this is the closest we're going to get plus anecdotes.
@@k.5425 OK, but the video is misleading
These work for everyone. They just work better the better you look
As someone who looked very average growing up, then very cute, then very cute/handsome, then very VERY handsome, i can completely confirm the answer is : be handsome. For example, if you sit in a room as an unhandsome person and do nothing or sit in the corner or stand alone or admire the paintings or talk to a person (male or female) or talk to a group of people or stand silently by a group of people - then your impression will be judged accordingly to how weird that behaviour is. if you do these things as a VERY handsome (and cute person with soft brown skin and delicate chiseled features curly hair and glasses) person, you are immediately the coolest, most normal person in the room. Youre standing alone because youre a quite thoughful person rather than a weirdo. You dont talk much bcos youre thoughtful and demure rather than uncomfortable and awkward. Women will take anything you say positively and however they desire to take it. They will try very much to have a never-ending conversation with you. no matter how little or much you talk. or even what you say. this actually makes having conversation really easy because the other person is endlessly patient and desperate to talk with you. you dont have to say particularly conversational things, which incidentally means with the right people conversation will flow much more naturally. women will smile at you which is such a pleasant wonderful feeling in all the various types of smiles.
Charisma for people who are visually unattractive is very hard to achieve. These "tips" don't work unless you're already attractive or popular. People don't just pause to listen to what you have to say outside of a talk show. And if you're unattractive then even if you're "expressive", you'll still struggle to talk in group meals and will easily get ignored. If you're generally a quiet person then the only thing that can ever work for you is to deploy tactical jokes at the right moment. If you're not funny either, then God bless your poor soul
I don't know how you define attractive but as a straight woman, I can absolutely be charmed eventually by a man less attractive, even not conventionally attractive if he's not self conscious, and uses the tips above. The buzzkill is when I sense insecurity, not because I'm looking at an e.g. ugly nose.
I love your material. I've been watching your martial for years, and now I make my preteen kids watch one video every week as a "Life Lessons" activity.
I'm a machine mechanic at an Amazon warehouse, but more than that, I'm "that guy". My motto has always been "People are always more important than things." So, I'm the guy who gets to walks around and help people feel validated and loved. People will naturally open up to me and share family or personal secrets that they wouldn't share with anyone - even their spouses. While their managers are breathing down their necks to increase productivity, I build their self esteem, their self worth, their value, and confident, and then watch their performance rise from the background.
While this has always been my superpower, your videos have helped me immensely, to be more effective in building morale and rapport. You cover such an array of topics, but I've noticed a shortage in one topic: How to comfort someone in distress.
I often encounter many people who are going through rough patches (relative dies, hard breakups/divorces, home damage by disaster, recent physical ailments, parent with children going down the wrong path...). I wonder if you would make a couple videos addressing this. Often, i will just hold them, and cry with them, or just validate how difficult it must be to go through something like this. Sometimes, I'll share some thoughts, or angles that they night not have considered, "On one hand, I can see their perspective, but I get how this would be really frustrating..." or something like that.
I wonder: Do you have some effective ways to share and validate sympathy, condolences, and empathy during difficult conversations?
the trick is to be very attractive and also only interact with people in interview type situations where their attention is already on you.
What surprising lessons have life taught you so far?
1- Being able to change your mind is one of the hardest things in the world.
2- You are not so different from some of the people you criticize. If you find yourself in their shoe, you'll probably behave the way they do.
3- It's a mistake to generalize people. Until you come closer to people, you won't know who they are.
4- Life is unpredictable. You'll get to experience things you never thought you'll experience and will find yourself in places you never thought you'll be.
5- Don't opt for shortcuts in life, they may give temporary satisfaction but they give lasting results, instead choose the long path which is more daunting, if you're successful, you'll get lasting success.
6- The greatest investment you can ever make is in yourself.
7- Try to be humble. Arrogance isn't a good thing.
Thanks for reading!
Your upvote is appreciation for me.
The most important is knowing how to ask interesting questions, people know that you are quiet so they must be thinking about why, by asking appealing questions everyone will gladly answer you.
If you are beautiful people will freely give you attention, otherwise good luck my friend.
It's so strange. I have classic autism, not the kind of person that will attract other people, let alone girls, you probably think, but because I do a lot of yoga & meditation practice, I feel connected with everything and everyone, and not only during meditation. What's so strange is what happens when I have social interactions with other people while also have that feeling of being connected with everything and everyone, because it's like I'm a social magnetic person. Girls want to be around me, seriously? They even want to be touched by me. I'm happy of course, but somehow, this feels like magic lol. Being a social magnet, I never thought that could be me. There's something supernatural about charisma.
10 Rules on how to avoid being ignored if you’re quiet:
1. Be attractive.
You shouldn't use these people as points of reference because they are guests on national television and they're obviously going to be given airtime when they want to speak. Plus, they're famous so people would listen and give them the space to speak even if they're not so confident
I really don't see why these still can't be used as examples
@@juiuice the point is ordinary people aren't famous lol
@@ComedyGlor ik, im just saying these could still be used for a smaller extent
Just be physically attractive and people will pay attention to you even if you’re mute. In other words get a better face.
How to do that ?
@@shaaaah6875 Plastic surgery
@@Caine61 y'all are something else 😭😭
@@shaaaah6875 Lose weight and workout, get a hair style, wear nice clothes.
@@shaaaah6875 Changing your whole head, or hope you'll get a 10/10 body / face next life.
I said it once and I'll say ot again, Charlie and Ben, you guys are changing lives.
this is the most generic advices possible, like seriously
@@neropegaso7767 yup and the 120874 people who watched this are just not as smart as the random pleb writing hate comments on the channel with 6.13 million subs.
@@TheNorseDinosaur hate comment ? you seem like a really sensitive person if you consider this a hate comment lmao
@@neropegaso7767 you silly goose 🤣🤣
@@TheNorseDinosaur but i was not joking bozo 🤡
Also note how Kimmel immediately yields when Pine raises his voice. It turns into a very natural exchange that keeps the momentum of the conversation. Well played all around by both parties.
Umm
We are quiet because we WANT to
be ignored. It’s survival instinct.
It’s like how a fawn will sit quietly in
the grass hoping a grizzly bear doesn’t
notice. It’s kinda like that.
Except the grizzly bear is awkward
conversational pauses.
Chris Pine is the best of all the Chris's!
Hey can you make a video analysis about Jesus from The Chosen? I find his character one of the most charismatic people Ive seen on television. It would be a great video idea!
Quiet, I go beyond quiet I'm downright invisible and I do it very well I can walk into a store and nobody says a word the next person walks in "hey welcome to so-and-so"and you know it doesn't even bother me anymore 😂
Same here!!! I have mastered nobody talk to me energy.
😍 useful video.
I work in a team of more experienced women. As the only guy and youngest on the team, it gets hard for me sometimes in meetings.
5:57 I suspect, Sally didn't know what 'yobs' meant, so was unsure how to react to the word, but was too proud to say ''I'm sorry, what does yobs mean?''
Chris clearly did, so he rephrased Graham's question to help Sally save face: Behaving like a gentleman, for sure 👍👍👍👍
Very helpful
okay
Tru tru
Video was published 5 mins ago and its 8 min long: how do you know if its really helpful? Kiddn of course
@@VVlktor It helped him so much, he went from being too quiet to speaking before experiencing.
Key insights
💬 "Some people mistakenly think that to be charismatic you have to be loud and energetic all the time but that isn't true."
🎥 Incorporating pauses and moments of dramatic tension in your speech can create a powerful impact and captivate your audience.
😄 Smiling while speaking primes people to smile and laugh with you, making you more socially attractive.
😄 Playfulness is important in the first few minutes of a conversation to create a positive first impression and set a more positive tone.
🎭 Being willing to show your genuine emotional reactions, even if they make you stand out, demonstrates confidence and can make you more socially attractive.
💬 Asking energizing questions can make people like you without you needing to do much talking.
😊 One member of Chris University was able to overcome their hesitations and overthinking in conversations, leading to increased confidence in expressing their thoughts and even making a great first impression on someone they had a crush on.
It’d be more impressive if your
“quiet person” wasn’t someone considered extremely attractive.
If you’re extremely attractive, you’ll be popular with almost no effort at all
Agreed. Bad subject to study showcased here.
Yeh very relatable when you use celebrities 🤦😣 Chris Pine is not what you call "quiet". He is actually quite charming and charismatic and easy on the eyes which is a bonus. How many can relate to that?! Makes little sense!! Your comparisons are terrible sometimes LOL
What does relatable have to do with anything? It's meant to teach, not be relatable. It's easier to find clips to prove the point from celebrities because they're constantly being interviewed and filmed. Most have had training to be that charming, so they're good data points.
Yeah being attractive is a benefit, but that doesn't mean you can't be ugly and more likeable than you are. The process with the words and body language is the same, we ugly people just have to work a little harder for the same result. 🤣
stop trying to relate just use the tips🤦♂️
Definition:
Charisma
- active listening(present tense)
(Closeup)
- speak through smile
(It's okay) laugh with the lover
- priming(genuine)
(What compelled you to ..)
Appreciation fame fist 👊 😊😁
Noticeability-open-ended thoughts😊
Curiosity-exploration- is okay.
Witty and playful(creation for YOU🎉)
:) genuine reaction
I am gonna start watching more Chris Pine Movies after this👍
Chris Pine is my favourite Chris.
Why use Chris Pine? He ain't quiet.
100% agree. The guy that does these videos doesn't always have the best examples when comparing with these celebrities. He's kind of out of touch at times 😅🤦
you can still implement these tips even if you're much more quiet than Chris pine is
Step 1: be attractive
Step 2: be emotional (but not weak)
Step 3: speak, even if you're quiet
Step 4: be confident
My quiet husband takes me to gatherings and people connect my easy laughter and conversation with him! He would tell you this without batting an eye!😆
How to not be ignored even if you’re quiet:
1. Look like Chris Pine.
Or Keanu Reeves
Gal Gadot was the literal giggling school girl around him because she was clearly totally deliriously attracted to him & crushing Hard in front of the whole world 😅🤣 Bless her I do not balme her he is TASTY!! noticed how after all of a whole spate of interviews her publicists obviously spoke to her warning her about whether she wants to be seen as flirting with her co-star considering she is a married woman & whether she wants to be seen as a serious actress/actor or not..... at some point she matured during interviews at comic con you can see she had to pull her socks up & not be the giggling girl as wonder women but anyway just an observation I absolutely adore & respect her giggling or not!!
funny, you dont see a researcher with a 30 years finished project and being gangsta, they are always humble, calm and considering the possibility of having to deal with failures. in real life you have results first and atitude later.
My mom used to be that way in her 40s, I remember her saying she has to have something to show for her money. Meaning she has to buy something she wants before the money runs out. This is what I think they are doing.
Let’s be honest: Chris pine would get my full attention no matter what he did
What compelled you to write it?
Yeah, yeah.
Your motivation, damn it!
Be Chris Pine. Got it.
Hey guys can y'all please, please do a video on James Spader's character of Raymond “Red” Reddington from The Blacklist, i mean not only is he a total badass but he's also super smart and confident and doesn't care what others think of him at all, he would be great to do a video on i think.
your channel is soo good
I’ve been in the same school for a year and a half and I barely talk. When someone comes up to me I try to be as nice as possible but after one interaction they never talk to me again. How do I become the person that goes up to people when I’m already known as the shy and quiet guy by my whole class and grade? Am I too far gone now?
No, you aren't. You just over think stuff because you have expectations, and that's most likely why you're holding back. If you go out there with zero expectations, you'll be free from those nasty shackles.
i've been in a similar situation. it is not easy to break out of the hole you've dug yourself into but it is not impossible.
this is a good one Im loving this channel
Love the pacing of this video!
sometimes I'm just not in the mood to be bubbly, and that's okay
It also helps if you’re incredibly good looking
I like talking with my hands although for so long we we taught that we shouldn’t😂😂😂it’s better to talk with your hands than to sit stiff like a robot 😂😂😂
The truth lol! I’m a chill person and I talk low like in the video. I forgot what video of theirs I saw and it mentioned using your hands. I fidget less, get interrupted less, and feel more like myself now that the limiter is off 😂
@@gerardodavis4343 ABSOLUTELY 😂
Hello
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Hey man please make confidence break down of Zlatan Ibrahimovic 💎
The reason Gal and Chris have such great chemistry is obvious. 😉
Thank you very much for insightful enlightenment
May i request🤔 to know is this Reese Witherspoon at 3minutes&58seconds approximately? ✨☘️🙏
Any video on how to make someone listen when the other feels that their belief is questioned and will tune out the conversation from then on believing they are not wrong when you try to make them look at things from a different or the other person's perspective Sir?
Most needed skill in 21st century
Does anyone feel like they want to laugh but because your shy around that person you just can’t? I don’t know how to explain it but the muscles of my face physically will not turn into a smile when I’m feeling shy, so I come off as a heartless robot
There can be many reasons for that. When you're not 100% comfortable around someone naturally you are more cautious about which side you want other people to see. This may lead to overthinking even most basic things like "oh I shouldn't have laughed that hard" or "does anyone else find this funny? I have no idea why I laughed at this" and so on. So you can become paranoid and afraid of being jugded to the point that you'd rather hide your natural reactions than let others see them for what they are. Even subconsciously. But understanding that no normal person would ever judge you simply because of the way you laugh is key. Not giving a damn really is a way to build self-confidence.
Lemme give you an example. I have a friend that has a really peculiar laughter, like you could hear it a mile away kind of laughter. And I couldn't help but notice that he wouldn't laugh out loud around people he didn't know too well quite that often. But within smaller circle of friends, he laughs normally and personally I find this endearing, partly because this is something that sets him apart from other people and what makes him authentic, but also because it's really cool to know that someone trusts you enough to joke and laugh around you without constant fear of being judged and basically offers you the same courtesy. So sometimes you just gotta let it all go and see how people will react to this, more often than not you'll get positive reactions, because psychologically laughing is what puts other people at ease, it disarms them and make them like you more.
That's what anxiety looks like :(
It's social anxiety. From my experience, you work on focusing on the humor until you train your body to relax. For practice, watch stand up comedy alone. Then, watch comedy in public, like on your phone so you're engaging your natural laugh and others around can see you, but you're still not actively in live conversations. It'll eventually come more naturally if you loosen your reactions over time.
Perhaps some examples of this happening in the real world might be nice
do you have tips for if your laugh is way too loud and obnoxious
Cool! Practice makes for natural charisma I suppose. It’s hard when most people tend to be kind of shallow. If you aren’t as physically attractive as these celebrities people are so dismissive of your presence or they just look at you like your super weird.
Please do a character study on Rhaegar Targaryen and daemon Targaryen
It only work on those gifted and genetically equip human being that happened to be quite good looking. Most of us if stay quiet would be view as creeps or serial killers.
Ok but giving your genuine opinion will never end well💔
I am a quite guy , but many times i find places to crack small jokes in my subtle and deep voice and theirs always one who listens to it and we laugh . Seeing us others also get interested in what i was saying.
I think its not to hard to feel your presence when u are very silent guy.
Be as handsome as Chris Pine. Got it.
If you're good looking like him, being weird and creepy is just being artistic
Ooo Gal Gadot would be a great charismatic person to analyze!
So basically when you're quiet, always be in a good mood and your good to go 👍
What is the clip at 5:59 from?
I have this hand gesture habit not from any of these viedos. it's natural for me and people around me think as it is not a good thing to do. my teacher even once scold me while I was doing these gestures while I speak. So, does this really work??????
Much needed for me.
Who could ignore Chris Pine? Yum.😋
I know that He isn't the topic of this video, but I just love Rami Malek. Talk about a ray of sunshine. And a sexy one, too. ❤😊
How to avoid being ignored if your quiet ... be good looking ✌️
Does anybody know the movie at 5:58
How to learn automatic gesturing?
How? Well be Chris Pine 😂😂😂
Pro tip: It helps a lot if you look like Chris Pine.
Ppl who touch your leg (knee) for any reason like a laugh or any excuse is definitely attract to u. It's insane ho some ppl are using any excuse to touch u like it's ok to do so.
Do a video about matt rife
Hey man, love your videos. I have watched a few of your videos about how quite people can be famous, likeable etc, but I believe most of those quite people are introverts. I have social anxiety, I can't interact with people even if I want to. Do have any tips for that ?
As a woman I have a low pitched voice and in a crowd of other women my voice always gets lost even when it's loud.
TL;DR be yourself, relax, show your emotions as they come.
I am waiting for Cory Ellison (The Morning Show) and Regus Patoff (Consultant) Breakdowns, as they both have some unique mix of qualities.
@Charismaoncommand.. spierdalaj oszuście
Be a handsome successful A List star promoting an upcoming movie.
4:00 That's me 🤣
Please do one on Shahrukh Khan
How to be interesting in any conversation
1: be attractive
2: say anything while being attractive
It should be a crime to say, "when someone tries to speak over you." without showing a clip of Neil deGrasse Tyson. 🤣 6:11
Real talk tho, I love him. His work is so important, inspiring the young people like he does.