I really appreciated her sincerity and transparency. She displays the adage, "people don't care what you know, they want to know that you care" quite beautifully. Thank you Dr. Kim for a speaking so eloquently on a much needed topic.
Personal experience on how I successfully overcame my anxiety: It's a cycle of thought --> emotion (what you feel) --> thought --> emotion (what you feel) .... First you need to differentiate between these two. Because dealing with one is different from dealing with the other. Since it's a circle, you must break one of these, but you can deal with both. Dealing with the thought(s) is more important. The circle (your anxiety) does not disappear instantly. But it becomes weaker every time you manage to break one element of it. 1. Regarding the emotions you might search for breathing techniques or methods to cause physical pain to lessen the feeling. And remember the emotion (= physical, what you actually feel when anxiety manifests itself) is not the same as the thought which triggered the emotion. You cannot fight the emotion itself or run away mentally without making things worse. But what you can do is to face the emotions which means to become aware of your bodily symptoms and accept them voluntarily. Your emotions cannot (!) force you to fight them mentally (= with your thoughts). That’s how the chain between emotion and thought can be cut by refusing to fight the emotion after having had the thought. 2. Regarding the thoughts themselves: Your thoughts can become an inner circle if you start catastrophising. Catastrophising should be interrupted right at the start and must not be thought through till some presumed result is found which falsely promises inner peace if you act according to it. How do you do it? Do not try to not think about it because that does not work. Instead, think about something else something that distracts you very easily (for instance, in my case that’s the latest football news). And now back to 1.. And remember, the anxiety circle doesn’t disappear instantly, but it becomes weaker every time focus on 1. or 2.. Your anxiety will steadily decrease by time, might take you days, weeks or months. But it works if you stick to it. You are in control: Your fear cannot force you to fight it. “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.” (1. John 4:18, highly recommend the entire 4th chapter) "God is love." 1. John 4:16
16:05 You have no idea how weird it is to hear somebody else say that, when you've always believed it yourself. Hit me right in the feels! Beautiful brave women! So it really is all about exposing yourself to your fears and replacing the wrong messages with new good ones.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and allowing us all to connect with you. You had my heart in the first 30 seconds. I wish you could see how beautiful I see you.
This has been posted more than a year but in case Dr Jee stumbles on this video.. Thank you for this beautiful Ted Talk. I teared up after watching this video as I always feel my childhood has been robbed and it has greatly my affected my personality and outlook in life. We never get to choose the family we are born with and the problems that might come our way as a child. In my case my mother has always been my saving grace and it keeps me from having any regrets being born in this surrounding. Too bad she has to work far away from me and I hate to bring her problems by opening up the conflicts we encounter at home but then she is the only one who truly cares about me. The last part is meaningful. I guess at the end, sharing our worries to someone who is willing to listen is better than confined emotions. I hope every parent considers the ideas here and the trauma their children get for every bad or selfish decisions they make.
Ris R It's kinda weird for me. I found the video to be very relevant to me and rang a bell. But I didn't feel those horrible feeling rooted in my childhood while watching, even though they still exist. I think it's mostly because I've acknowledged the damage ,stopped the blaming and realized that I have to work on myself and fix the damage by myself. I don't feel victimized anymore because I just accepted what happened and if I do feel victimized it's not gonna help me become better.
Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. Yes sharing our worries is better, speaking and listening is better. I hope things are better now and that you're sharing and helping others in similar situations. Thank you :)
I felt THE SAME WAY growing up, and to this day I struggle with thoughts like that. But there is power in knowing we're not alone! It's a relief to know I'm not alone, and at the same time I'm saddened to hear you had to go through that.
This is so relevant for those who have Childhood/complex PTSD. Thank you for shedding light on this issue that affects so many - and most often, silently and without help. Thank you Dr. Kim. I hope you go on to help many others
Wow.. I discovered this video at the perfect timing. I was having a chat with my mom this morning & she started to gaslight me so I called her out on it & for the first time in my 25 years of life she admitted to the emotionally abusing & neglecting me... I had to talk her through different scenarios of her abuse & what a covert narcissist would do & it clicked for her. It heavily affects me to this day how I was treated as a child. I searched on UA-cam how to live without fear & this video was the first to pop up. The introduction had me in disbelief.
It is a sympathetic form to explain the origins of anxiety in early experiences from childhood. Really we can change and eliminate our anxieties remembering and living more consciously about our lifes because we are made to live in our natural state: happiness. Thanks Dr.Kim.
Thank you.. it's been a rough 3 years, my research haven't been getting funded. :) I'm optimistic that it'll work out, and that you and I can all make this place a better world for people to live in!
Really touched by this Ted Talk. Thank you for your transparency and your insight. I feel like there's alot that I went through as a kid early on. I was always told "wow you're so strong for your age!". I always tried to be strong for myself and my parents but I think by doing this I pushed back alot of my traumatic experiences and never really reached a sense of peace with them. This really helped me know what I need to do next in life.
Loved the talk. The earliest onset of anxiety I had was when my parents sent me on a plane with my grandparents because they struggled to care for me. I woke up in the middle of the night screaming with tears in an unknown place. It wasn't the only thing but it's strange that this thing I hardly remember still affects me in having deep relationships with people in fear people will leave and there will be disappointment. I too, struggled with accepting love from others.
Jee--Thank you so much for being willing to be vulnerable, to share from your own experience. It made your talk hit home in a way that nothing else could have. Very brave, and very inspiring.
+Adrian Men like you are disgusting. This is a scientific talk on a deeply important and interesting subject. And that's your comment? Sincerely, all Asian women who are fetishized by such idiots. If you want to know why your fetishization is disgusting, listen to what Asian women really think about such people: gimletmedia.com/episode/27-the-fever/
+Agent Smidt Men like you are disgusting. This is a scientific talk on a deeply important and interesting subject. And that's your comment? Sincerely, all Asian women who are fetishized by such idiots. If you want to know why your fetishization is disgusting, listen to what Asian women really think about such people: gimletmedia.com/episode/27-the-fever/
+minimalist farmer People like you disgust me. Regardless of the subject / talk, it's within someone's right to comment on other aspects. At what point did a compliment (admittedly - by the poster - off topic) make someone a disgusting human being?
+Merke I only loved it when I had been objectified when I was younger - something others perhaps had taken with jealousy by others not so complimented in this way. I would remind one can be given "on topic" compliments so to be taken in a favorable way as well. Whether we want to accept it or not, we do exist on this plane in form.
Thank you for posting this and Dr. Kim thank you for sharing. At around 7 I noticed how my father changed when he drank. I'm now 42 and I don't drink. When I was around 9 my grandmother told me that my hair was far too nice to wear a hat. I probably haven't warn a hat 200 days since then including those cold Indiana winters in the U.S.. This talk reinforces for me how valuable lessons are at that age. If I ever have little ones I will understand how important it is to deal with them sweetly and help them build very good habits & self-esteem.
You should definitely look at the yt channel "Impact Theory" by Tom Bilyeu One of the best guests are David Goggins Deepak Chopra Sadhguru and many others
one of the best talks i've seen. really insightful even as a student of psychology and she's a great presenter!! i really admire her last point about talking to children early. as someone with my own history of child abuse, i didn't know what was happening to me i just knew it was wrong and maybe if teachers and other adults were more open about talking with us one on one, perhaps my later problems in life wouldn't be here.
I really like your speech a lot, Thanks for this. I have similar problem. Now i'm social worker. I've been working on my anxiety. When things are ok, I'm confident but when things get hard like being corrected by boss or authority figures, I start be anxious and despair. Feeling so hurt inside, just go back quickly to the old me. I really support your cause. I'm from Cambodia.
In my respectful heartfelt thanks to Dr. Kim: As a social political refugee from Vietnam since 2/1979 who have suffered too many painful events in life, I do thoroughly understand the values of your research. Thirty six of Services to Consumers with physical and mental limitations for employment in the USA, today enjoy your lecture, I cannot not hold my happy tears because you have done good job which reminded me what I have done now, unpaid. I would suggest if you have a chance, please share your knowledge with Vietnamese & Chinese Youths (I did lectures in Peking University 2010 which strongly impressed to students there).
I came across your comment and am very interested in what you talked about at Peking University. Currently researching what my parents, both Vietnam refugees from 1979, have possibly experienced during this time which has an impact on me today. I'd be glad if you could give me some information or some literature on that topic. Thank you very much.
shixshi Dr. Kim: I was in Peking for scholar exchanges. I did short lecture related to Yoga, Nutritional Foods for health (focused on traditional Chinese beliefs.)
I've managed to link my anxiety and depression back to when I was around the age of 10, or just before. I was 18 before I started even looking to get help with anything, and I'm 24 now and still struggling to get any help. I live in the UK. I am also volunteering at a high school in the art classroom one day a week, as I'm hoping it might help me in some way to maybe go into something involving mental health of teens and young adults, even if I just become someone who they can talk to when they need someone.
This is an excellent talk. I am an anxious person and currently in a very unhealthy place. However, you cannot completely eradicate fear since it can also occur at sporadic moments.
And of course, great talk..!! It shows that she cares about this seemingly impossible issue to grasp, while other doctors would just prescribe medications or something along those lines..
I already knew I wasn't the only person on earth with an anxiety disorder, but now I'm even happier knowing I'm not the only person with a strong positive association to cigarette smoke despite never having smoked!
i wish this was already happening when i was born...and was common knowledge to all the parents around the world...as if we were born with this knowledge...life would be a lot more easier
Thank you for your video. On a totally separate note (and not directed towards you), I feel so bad for little Albert! That experiment you described is so cruel! I hope that sort of thing isn’t done any longer. Poor little kid,
God.. the end got me in tears.. I didn't know there was someone else in the world who felt the same as I do when the crisis comes.. well thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one. And you look so cute btw. :'(
I was taught to embrace fear. Master it. Control it. You try to live without it. But I was born in it. I didn't see Hope until I was already a man, by then, I didn't need it.
I think it's more important to teach parents how to talk to their kids and not at their kids. I could have used a parent who wanted to know how I felt or thought about something, instead of your the child I'm the adult and you're young and you'll get over it!
Great advice thank you. Everyone of us should be a Councillor, sensitive to people around. And then when we are in need of someone to talk to, then we will find a Councillor within reach :)
I totally feel for her. I got bullied when I was in my kindergarten at age 4or5 and I became very introverted and shy. I got bullied again when I was in elementary school as a result of helping my friend who got bullied. and now iam 35 and now Iam fine with socializing but whenever I have a hard time, it comes up again and I cry alot. (I rarely cry. )
I wish I had seen it one year ago so I could have helped someone I used to love.. She still is in struggle with this, and her childhood relates so much to the last story Dr Kim tells about her childhood and not believing in Love cuz she didn't get it as a child. And I totally agree with people here saying parents should be taught those stuff. We sometime say there should be a licence to give birth! ^^ Now she just wouldn't talk to me anymore as she convinced herself I was the one making her suffer when I was just caring and trying to open her eyes to the beauty of life! Now I understand better the depth of her trouble. Hopefully she'll meet someone one day, hopefully people like Dr. Kim will keep on fighting those terrible demons.
Don't anyone take this to mean "if you're older, exposure therapy doesn't work." Because it obviously does, it just may take a little more effort, and as she said, is more "fragile." Which means that you may need tune-ups every once in a good while if your particular anxiety was strong enough. And you may need to be a little more extensive in your exposure than one single session. But take it from someone with experience, I have seen many elderly ones permanently conquer even the most severe anxiety with exposure therapy alone. (of course, there is more help available than just exposure therapy though)
Very sincere talk. with growing populations mental health experts are needed more and more, I personally think all Physical Education teachers should have a basic understanding psychology and counseling.
+Rich L education has nothing to do with that, smart doesnt mean educated. parents need stop being one dimensional and be flexible. for example teaching children that he cant pass the street when traffic light is red. wrong. need to teach children that he can pass street when red light if there is no police around so you wont get fined and if a car is far away. i have seen when woman with children stays on the pavement when red light glows, other people just passing the street, there is absolutely no car around and that kid does not understand wtf is happening. children need to be taught common sense not a particular thing.
+maisetas Common sense says to stop on red regardless because, if you go through it, you run the risk of getting t-boned, as the human eye is not perfect.
+cellogirl11RW risk is everywhere, you can get run over despite red or green light, car accidents are very common. and i never heard of nobody getting hurt running through red light. you can get stroke by lightning just by walking in a park also...
I was thinking... 'Man, she looks super-nervous on stage. The presentation, as useful as it is, seems over-rehearsed as well and not natural at all' ... By the end of the speech I realized she was suffering as a child the same issues she's addressing on stage. Now I can't deny that she really knows the subject matter, not only at an intellectual level but at an emotional level as well.
Hi Spongemind TV! To be honest, I wasn't too nervous after about 3 minutes in, but I had to keep the emotions down as I'm known to cry easily when I give talks, even when they're not about anxiety, but about love, or addiction. I feel things very strongly when I speak :), and I have been severely beaten throughout childhood, which calmed down a bit when I moved to Australia, and then stopped completely at 20. It is not easy to fight the feelings of worthlessness that I had when I speak about childhood anxieties even now. Also, most of my speeches do not involve rehearsals as I just jot down main points and run with it - but this particular one I did rehearse once as the curator wanted to make sure I was prepared. I cried a lot afterwards as heaps of people stood up to applaud and so many shared their child abuse stories. Some stories remain in my heart and I still cry about it. Oh why do we repeat the mistakes of our previous generations, and hurt those that we are meant to protect? I hope we can all learn to not to hurt one another so much because of our own insecurities and hurts.
This would also probably explain why women are more likely to be anxious as compared to men.. more often than not mothers are close to sons while fathers are close to daughters. Since in most families mothers are the primary care givers, young girls probably feel (even though they may not be able to articulate it) being not loved at par with their brother(s). In many countries girls are also more likely to be discriminated against. Thanks for this great talk!
That’s it !! I don’t have any fears or trauma... I’ve never smoked before , but I’ve decided to schedule therapy with you & start smoking in your presence ... Would that create temporary happiness for you ? You definitely deserve it ...
I was exposed to somewhat extreme domestic violence when I was a child. More and more continuous abuse in school and at home. Indeed, this cannot be the way children grow up...
When we know better we do better - not justifying for a moment that actions of psychopathic researchers, and I get the sentiment of wishing to punish those who did these innocents harm. That said, I'd rather we all resolve, as this wonderful speaker asks, to create a world where innocence is cherished and nurtured as it transitions to loving maturity.
If u dont know fear u r not human Fear create the need for being strong and over come it will lead to succes and greatness .. i want to live my life without regrets
I want to hug this woman and tell her that I love her.
thank you, i love you too
LITERALLY THE SAME.. ❤️
I really appreciated her sincerity and transparency. She displays the adage, "people don't care what you know, they want to know that you care" quite beautifully. Thank you Dr. Kim for a speaking so eloquently on a much needed topic.
Personal experience on how I successfully overcame my anxiety:
It's a cycle of thought --> emotion (what you feel) --> thought --> emotion (what you feel) ....
First you need to differentiate between these two. Because dealing with one is different from dealing with the other.
Since it's a circle, you must break one of these, but you can deal with both. Dealing with the thought(s) is more important.
The circle (your anxiety) does not disappear instantly. But it becomes weaker every time you manage to break one element of it.
1. Regarding the emotions you might search for breathing techniques or methods to cause physical pain to lessen the feeling. And remember the emotion (= physical, what you actually feel when anxiety manifests itself) is not the same as the thought which triggered the emotion. You cannot fight the emotion itself or run away mentally without making things worse. But what you can do is to face the emotions which means to become aware of your bodily symptoms and accept them voluntarily. Your emotions cannot (!) force you to fight them mentally (= with your thoughts). That’s how the chain between emotion and thought can be cut by refusing to fight the emotion after having had the thought.
2. Regarding the thoughts themselves:
Your thoughts can become an inner circle if you start catastrophising. Catastrophising should be interrupted right at the start and must not be thought through till some presumed result is found which falsely promises inner peace if you act according to it. How do you do it? Do not try to not think about it because that does not work. Instead, think about something else something that distracts you very easily (for instance, in my case that’s the latest football news).
And now back to 1..
And remember, the anxiety circle doesn’t disappear instantly, but it becomes weaker every time focus on 1. or 2..
Your anxiety will steadily decrease by time, might take you days, weeks or months. But it works if you stick to it.
You are in control: Your fear cannot force you to fight it.
“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear,
because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”
(1. John 4:18, highly recommend the entire 4th chapter)
"God is love." 1. John 4:16
16:05 You have no idea how weird it is to hear somebody else say that, when you've always believed it yourself. Hit me right in the feels! Beautiful brave women! So it really is all about exposing yourself to your fears and replacing the wrong messages with new good ones.
Thank you for being so vulnerable and allowing us all to connect with you. You had my heart in the first 30 seconds. I wish you could see how beautiful I see you.
Thank you, your encouragement has made me get through today and look forward to tomorrow.
I really enjoyed your tedx talk, I hope things are going well for you, thanks for sharing your experiences
This has been posted more than a year but in case Dr Jee stumbles on this video.. Thank you for this beautiful Ted Talk. I teared up after watching this video as I always feel my childhood has been robbed and it has greatly my affected my personality and outlook in life. We never get to choose the family we are born with and the problems that might come our way as a child. In my case my mother has always been my saving grace and it keeps me from having any regrets being born in this surrounding. Too bad she has to work far away from me and I hate to bring her problems by opening up the conflicts we encounter at home but then she is the only one who truly cares about me. The last part is meaningful. I guess at the end, sharing our worries to someone who is willing to listen is better than confined emotions. I hope every parent considers the ideas here and the trauma their children get for every bad or selfish decisions they make.
Ris R It's kinda weird for me. I found the video to be very relevant to me and rang a bell. But I didn't feel those horrible feeling rooted in my childhood while watching, even though they still exist. I think it's mostly because I've acknowledged the damage ,stopped the blaming and realized that I have to work on myself and fix the damage by myself. I don't feel victimized anymore because I just accepted what happened and if I do feel victimized it's not gonna help me become better.
Xeno Well said! I've come to the same realization and although the stress/anxiety is there, I can finally breathe a little easier.
Supernerd7
Good luck buddy :)
Thank you for opening up and being vulnerable. Yes sharing our worries is better, speaking and listening is better. I hope things are better now and that you're sharing and helping others in similar situations. Thank you :)
Well done, yes no need to dwell on our past, other than to use it to prevent further sadness in the world.
This is one of the Best TEDx Talk I've watched.
I could listen to everything people say with such a beautiful voice
I felt THE SAME WAY growing up, and to this day I struggle with thoughts like that. But there is power in knowing we're not alone! It's a relief to know I'm not alone, and at the same time I'm saddened to hear you had to go through that.
This is so relevant for those who have Childhood/complex PTSD. Thank you for shedding light on this issue that affects so many - and most often, silently and without help. Thank you Dr. Kim. I hope you go on to help many others
she has such a big heart and is so honest with her emotions. I also love, LOVE her voice/accent XD
Beautiful voice; could listen to it all day.
Such a good speech. She is very authentic and passionate about her topics !!!
Wow.. I discovered this video at the perfect timing. I was having a chat with my mom this morning & she started to gaslight me so I called her out on it & for the first time in my 25 years of life she admitted to the emotionally abusing & neglecting me... I had to talk her through different scenarios of her abuse & what a covert narcissist would do & it clicked for her. It heavily affects me to this day how I was treated as a child. I searched on UA-cam how to live without fear & this video was the first to pop up. The introduction had me in disbelief.
I'm so proud of you for having the courage to call her out, love from melbourne
It is a sympathetic form to explain the origins of anxiety in early experiences from childhood. Really we can change and eliminate our anxieties remembering and living more consciously about our lifes because we are made to live in our natural state: happiness. Thanks Dr.Kim.
Thanks, a very human scientist. You made me cry, Love it.
Dr. Hyun! You are AMAZING! Powerful, intelligent and driven to heal self and others with your gifts of COMPASSION & EMPATHY!!! Blessed!!!!
This made me cry. My favorite TED talk ever.
Thank you.. it's been a rough 3 years, my research haven't been getting funded. :) I'm optimistic that it'll work out, and that you and I can all make this place a better world for people to live in!
The video proves , everyone is not immune, not even the speaker, we all have life demons. A really genuine, empathetic person. Good video.
Really touched by this Ted Talk. Thank you for your transparency and your insight. I feel like there's alot that I went through as a kid early on. I was always told "wow you're so strong for your age!". I always tried to be strong for myself and my parents but I think by doing this I pushed back alot of my traumatic experiences and never really reached a sense of peace with them. This really helped me know what I need to do next in life.
Loved the talk.
The earliest onset of anxiety I had was when my parents sent me on a plane with my grandparents because they struggled to care for me. I woke up in the middle of the night screaming with tears in an unknown place. It wasn't the only thing but it's strange that this thing I hardly remember still affects me in having deep relationships with people in fear people will leave and there will be disappointment. I too, struggled with accepting love from others.
Jee--Thank you so much for being willing to be vulnerable, to share from your own experience. It made your talk hit home in a way that nothing else could have. Very brave, and very inspiring.
Sorry to be offtopic, but boy is Dr. Kim ever so gentle and sweet. Easily one of the most adorable, endearing women I've ever laid eyes on.
+Adrian Very rare. We are so used to the crazed feminazi women of the Anglophone persuasion.
+Adrian Men like you are disgusting. This is a scientific talk on a deeply important and interesting subject. And that's your comment?
Sincerely, all Asian women who are fetishized by such idiots.
If you want to know why your fetishization is disgusting, listen to what Asian women really think about such people: gimletmedia.com/episode/27-the-fever/
+Agent Smidt Men like you are disgusting. This is a scientific talk on a deeply important and interesting subject. And that's your comment?
Sincerely, all Asian women who are fetishized by such idiots.
If you want to know why your fetishization is disgusting, listen to what Asian women really think about such people: gimletmedia.com/episode/27-the-fever/
+minimalist farmer People like you disgust me. Regardless of the subject / talk, it's within someone's right to comment on other aspects. At what point did a compliment (admittedly - by the poster - off topic) make someone a disgusting human being?
+Merke I only loved it when I had been objectified when I was younger - something others perhaps had taken with jealousy by others not so complimented in this way. I would remind one can be given "on topic" compliments so to be taken in a favorable way as well. Whether we want to accept it or not, we do exist on this plane in form.
Thank you for posting this and Dr. Kim thank you for sharing. At around 7 I noticed how my father changed when he drank. I'm now 42 and I don't drink. When I was around 9 my grandmother told me that my hair was far too nice to wear a hat. I probably haven't warn a hat 200 days since then including those cold Indiana winters in the U.S.. This talk reinforces for me how valuable lessons are at that age. If I ever have little ones I will understand how important it is to deal with them sweetly and help them build very good habits & self-esteem.
'children might think nobody loves them, that's wrong but they have good reason to answer why they think like this..' that make my dayyy
what a beautiful human being! one of the very best TED talks I've ever seen.
I just started watching ted talks... I’m so grateful I stumbled across this channel
You should definitely look at the yt channel "Impact Theory" by Tom Bilyeu
One of the best guests are
David Goggins
Deepak Chopra
Sadhguru
and many others
Me too 🙏💫
...hello,...Munira
She was amazing. I hope she feels the love!!
Raw and authentic! Thank you for seeing!
one of the best talks i've seen. really insightful even as a student of psychology and she's a great presenter!! i really admire her last point about talking to children early. as someone with my own history of child abuse, i didn't know what was happening to me i just knew it was wrong and maybe if teachers and other adults were more open about talking with us one on one, perhaps my later problems in life wouldn't be here.
God so loved 💓 you, Dr Jee! And I thank God for you and praying for you! You are a blessing! 👏👏👏🙋💕
This was an incredible video. PLEASE, make more, you have so much insight to share. *hug*
I really like your speech a lot, Thanks for this. I have similar problem. Now i'm social worker. I've been working on my anxiety. When things are ok, I'm confident but when things get hard like being corrected by boss or authority figures, I start be anxious and despair. Feeling so hurt inside, just go back quickly to the old me. I really support your cause. I'm from Cambodia.
In my respectful heartfelt thanks to Dr. Kim:
As a social political refugee from Vietnam since 2/1979 who have suffered too many painful events in life, I do thoroughly understand the values of your research.
Thirty six of Services to Consumers with physical and mental limitations for employment in the USA, today enjoy your lecture, I cannot not hold my happy tears because you have done good job which reminded me what I have done now, unpaid.
I would suggest if you have a chance, please share your knowledge with Vietnamese & Chinese Youths (I did lectures in Peking University 2010 which strongly impressed to students there).
I came across your comment and am very interested in what you talked about at Peking University. Currently researching what my parents, both Vietnam refugees from 1979, have possibly experienced during this time which has an impact on me today. I'd be glad if you could give me some information or some literature on that topic. Thank you very much.
shixshi
Dr. Kim: I was in Peking for scholar exchanges. I did short lecture related to Yoga, Nutritional Foods for health (focused on traditional Chinese beliefs.)
I've managed to link my anxiety and depression back to when I was around the age of 10, or just before. I was 18 before I started even looking to get help with anything, and I'm 24 now and still struggling to get any help. I live in the UK. I am also volunteering at a high school in the art classroom one day a week, as I'm hoping it might help me in some way to maybe go into something involving mental health of teens and young adults, even if I just become someone who they can talk to when they need someone.
Jee, a very important topic. Very brave of you to include your own life examples. Makes it meaningful to the audience.
Thank you for sharing techniques to overcome fear. This topic is more serious than people realize.
This is an excellent talk. I am an anxious person and currently in a very unhealthy place. However, you cannot completely eradicate fear since it can also occur at sporadic moments.
ADORE this woman for a opn hearted intelligent important contribution - x
And of course, great talk..!! It shows that she cares about this seemingly impossible issue to grasp, while other doctors would just prescribe medications or something along those lines..
thank U Dr. Kim for shining a light on the reality of Anxiety disorders ... health & happiness to yr. journies
I have PTSD from the war. This video hit me.
this is something that society needs to pay much attention to
Wonderfully effective and educated speaker! Thanks, Dr.Kim.
Beautiful amazing impressive soul. Inspiring. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
What a wonderful discussion! Clearly spoken and very motivational. Thank you.
I love talks from the heart. Well done!
Hello Jee, Your speech was so amazing! after listening I feel like my anxiety has gooooooone:)
I already knew I wasn't the only person on earth with an anxiety disorder, but now I'm even happier knowing I'm not the only person with a strong positive association to cigarette smoke despite never having smoked!
one of my favorite Ted Talks ever. Brilliant.
this girl is so right
The justification about moving to australia and athletic ability is bs though
Passive smoking -- happiness
i wish this was already happening when i was born...and was common knowledge to all the parents around the world...as if we were born with this knowledge...life would be a lot more easier
This is a subject of study that I find very interesting. The message that she is trying to get across really is very critical.
That was a great talk. Thank you for sharing with us the importance of getting help early
Very informative Dr Kim...please share some more of the webinars on how to deal and come out of anxiety...
Amazingly interesting, totally relatable.... wonderfully spoken and presented.
Fear is normal and will always be there. You can't run away from it. However, you can learn how to deal with it.
Thank you for your video. On a totally separate note (and not directed towards you), I feel so bad for little Albert! That experiment you described is so cruel! I hope that sort of thing isn’t done any longer. Poor little kid,
Yep this experiment would never be allowed now.
God.. the end got me in tears.. I didn't know there was someone else in the world who felt the same as I do when the crisis comes.. well thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one. And you look so cute btw. :'(
I was taught to embrace fear. Master it. Control it. You try to live without it. But I was born in it. I didn't see Hope until I was already a man, by then, I didn't need it.
Best way to handle Fear is to face it .
Is this quote influenced by bane from the dark knight rises? lol.
Nelson Cheung yay someone got it ^_^
Specs8i Boo!
One of the best explanations of PTSD etc.
I did a playback just to hear her laughter... so sweet.
I think it's more important to teach parents how to talk to their kids and not at their kids. I could have used a parent who wanted to know how I felt or thought about something, instead of your the child I'm the adult and you're young and you'll get over it!
Yeah, they treat children as an annoyance. not as another soul with feelings that matter☹️
Wow I really appreciated this video. This topic was right on point, and the speaker was amazing!
love the talk
I loved this Dr so much, she felt very sweet and attractive in a very intellectual way, I loved the speech.
Thanks for sharing Dr. Kim. Bless you.
Great advice thank you.
Everyone of us should be a Councillor, sensitive to people around. And then when we are in need of someone to talk to, then we will find a Councillor within reach :)
estoy Muy Orgullosa de Ti Querida Jee
I totally feel for her. I got bullied when I was in my kindergarten at age 4or5 and I became very introverted and shy. I got bullied again when I was in elementary school as a result of helping my friend who got bullied. and now iam 35 and now Iam fine with socializing but whenever I have a hard time, it comes up again and I cry alot. (I rarely cry. )
thank you for sharing your story! hope you're doing well in this crazy time.
I wish I had seen it one year ago so I could have helped someone I used to love.. She still is in struggle with this, and her childhood relates so much to the last story Dr Kim tells about her childhood and not believing in Love cuz she didn't get it as a child. And I totally agree with people here saying parents should be taught those stuff. We sometime say there should be a licence to give birth! ^^
Now she just wouldn't talk to me anymore as she convinced herself I was the one making her suffer when I was just caring and trying to open her eyes to the beauty of life! Now I understand better the depth of her trouble.
Hopefully she'll meet someone one day, hopefully people like Dr. Kim will keep on fighting those terrible demons.
Pure grace! Love you are!
This should be titled "Living with Fear"
Don't anyone take this to mean "if you're older, exposure therapy doesn't work." Because it obviously does, it just may take a little more effort, and as she said, is more "fragile." Which means that you may need tune-ups every once in a good while if your particular anxiety was strong enough. And you may need to be a little more extensive in your exposure than one single session. But take it from someone with experience, I have seen many elderly ones permanently conquer even the most severe anxiety with exposure therapy alone. (of course, there is more help available than just exposure therapy though)
Very sincere talk. with growing populations mental health experts are needed more and more, I personally think all Physical Education teachers should have a basic understanding psychology and counseling.
Such an insightful talk, I can relate so much of this!
Thank you much for this "talk" Dr... Thank you.
Thank you so much :)
I like the Korean-Australian accent. Such a powerful message at the end.
강연 잘 봤어요 박사님. 감사합니다 😢
What a great speech. Humour, humanity, feeling and logic combined beautifully.
I don't think counselors are the problem I think parents need to be educated.
+Rich L education has nothing to do with that, smart doesnt mean educated. parents need stop being one dimensional and be flexible. for example teaching children that he cant pass the street when traffic light is red. wrong. need to teach children that he can pass street when red light if there is no police around so you wont get fined and if a car is far away. i have seen when woman with children stays on the pavement when red light glows, other people just passing the street, there is absolutely no car around and that kid does not understand wtf is happening. children need to be taught common sense not a particular thing.
+maisetas Common sense says to stop on red regardless because, if you go through it, you run the risk of getting t-boned, as the human eye is not perfect.
+cellogirl11RW risk is everywhere, you can get run over despite red or green light, car accidents are very common. and i never heard of nobody getting hurt running through red light. you can get stroke by lightning just by walking in a park also...
Amen amen
I was thinking... 'Man, she looks super-nervous on stage. The presentation, as useful as it is, seems over-rehearsed as well and not natural at all' ... By the end of the speech I realized she was suffering as a child the same issues she's addressing on stage. Now I can't deny that she really knows the subject matter, not only at an intellectual level but at an emotional level as well.
Hi Spongemind TV! To be honest, I wasn't too nervous after about 3 minutes in, but I had to keep the emotions down as I'm known to cry easily when I give talks, even when they're not about anxiety, but about love, or addiction. I feel things very strongly when I speak :), and I have been severely beaten throughout childhood, which calmed down a bit when I moved to Australia, and then stopped completely at 20. It is not easy to fight the feelings of worthlessness that I had when I speak about childhood anxieties even now.
Also, most of my speeches do not involve rehearsals as I just jot down main points and run with it - but this particular one I did rehearse once as the curator wanted to make sure I was prepared.
I cried a lot afterwards as heaps of people stood up to applaud and so many shared their child abuse stories. Some stories remain in my heart and I still cry about it. Oh why do we repeat the mistakes of our previous generations, and hurt those that we are meant to protect? I hope we can all learn to not to hurt one another so much because of our own insecurities and hurts.
Please bring Dr Jee back and can I get to see her talk in Melbourne? Please and thank you ya
This would also probably explain why women are more likely to be anxious as compared to men.. more often than not mothers are close to sons while fathers are close to daughters. Since in most families mothers are the primary care givers, young girls probably feel (even though they may not be able to articulate it) being not loved at par with their brother(s). In many countries girls are also more likely to be discriminated against.
Thanks for this great talk!
love this already, links to what ive been learning at A level psychology
That’s it !! I don’t have any fears or trauma... I’ve never smoked before , but I’ve decided to schedule therapy with you & start smoking in your presence ... Would that create temporary happiness for you ? You definitely deserve it ...
Sorry dr jee, u are totally right
I used to be anxious doing certain things, but now i'm anxious and scared 24/7 and even with meds, it's just constant.
You help me to understand my daughter, thank you.
Great talk Dr. Kim
Very brave speech :)
Beautiful message.
I conquered my fear of bats and become more powerful then I ever thought possible.
I was exposed to somewhat extreme domestic violence when I was a child. More and more continuous abuse in school and at home. Indeed, this cannot be the way children grow up...
Such a beautiful talk ❤️
When we know better we do better - not justifying for a moment that actions of psychopathic researchers, and I get the sentiment of wishing to punish those who did these innocents harm. That said, I'd rather we all resolve, as this wonderful speaker asks, to create a world where innocence is cherished and nurtured as it transitions to loving maturity.
If u dont know fear u r not human
Fear create the need for being strong and over come it will lead to succes and greatness .. i want to live my life without regrets
incredible speech.
Thanks Dr Kim I will.