Am I ACTUALLY Aromantic? | Aro Quiz

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  • @LaziLee1129
    @LaziLee1129 Рік тому +97

    I took the test and got 'you could be aromantic'. Which is a little funny to me because I know I'm aromantic, but I am romantic positive so this why I most likely got this result.😆

    • @Aroacerat
      @Aroacerat 10 місяців тому +5

      Same! Then i took the am i ace test and got “you could be aromantic” again lol

  • @amberrichards2778
    @amberrichards2778 Рік тому +65

    I took the quiz and so did my wife. I'm not surprised that I'm Aro but they're also probably aro! Makes sense. Our relationship is very queer-platonic.

    • @worm4165
      @worm4165 5 місяців тому +2

      As a young bi-aro who only realized yesterday my very high aromanticism, one of my biggest worries was not being able to experience love that non-aro people do. As an aromantic, I still want a long-term relationship that may manifest some aspects of romantic relationships, yet my aromanticism and lack of aro models in my life is leading me to believe that that's unachievable.
      Which is why I want to say that reading your comment about your relationship as an aromantic with a possibly non-aro wife brings me a tremendous amount of comfort as someone who is only getting to know this part of myself. Thank you and I wish you a happy life together!

  • @BEX5397
    @BEX5397 Рік тому +45

    I took their asexual quiz and I got "most likely not asexual" just because I'm an asexual with an interest in sex. 🙃 bruh. so I'd take these quizes with a grain of salt.

  • @arrivtuber
    @arrivtuber Рік тому +19

    I got "You are likely aromantic." unsurprisingly. When I first looked into aromantisism and asexuality I though "damn that's totally me" and I haven't questioned it for a second since. I still remember how relived I was that I never have to have a romantic or sexual relationship with anyone. And I've been so much happier since then because everytime I pictured myself being in a romantic relationship it just felt miserable and ruin my mood for the entire day.
    I would love to see you talk more about it If you'd like to.

  • @Arakhor
    @Arakhor Рік тому +12

    I got that I could be on the aromantic spectrum, which I've basically concluded is true over the last couple of years. I do occasionally get strong aesthetic attraction to people, and I like the idea of romance, it just almost never visits my door. There's only been maybe three people in the last 25 years that I've experienced anything resembling a crush on, and one of them was much more of a squish than a true crush.

  • @meep-metal
    @meep-metal Рік тому +32

    I got “you are likely aromantic,” which is definitely true! 💚 Love your reaction to getting “you might be demiromantic” after realizing what it was gonna say while answering the first question 😂

    • @owli-wankenobi3727
      @owli-wankenobi3727 Рік тому +3

      I, too, got "you are likely aromantic," which is also very true for me. Romance is irrelevant. Friendship is where it's at.

    • @Aashbard01
      @Aashbard01 9 місяців тому

      Me too!

    • @cradica
      @cradica 6 місяців тому

      Same

  • @Atomic.Jellyy
    @Atomic.Jellyy Рік тому +4

    I got "You are likely aromantic." I know I am but I am finding it incredibly hard to accept. I feel like my friends will leave me behind and I won't be valued as much as their romantic partners or like I'll be unlovable if I accept that I am aromantic. (I know it's not true and that there are QPRs but I can't seem to shake those thoughts)

  • @StormsofPeril
    @StormsofPeril Рік тому +7

    I also got demiromantic. I've only had one crush, never kissed anyone, and I don't understand romance. I'd love to see more aro stuff on here! I'm also in the process of discovering who I'm attracted to

  • @jonawakens
    @jonawakens Рік тому +5

    got aromantic I agree fully

  • @paulaurban3028
    @paulaurban3028 Рік тому +1

    I got 'you could be aromantic' which is very accurate since I'm greyromantic! Really loved the video ✨

  • @michaelsingh8487
    @michaelsingh8487 Рік тому +4

    Man, Lynn, you keep coming out with bangers. How do you do it?
    Edit: you should totally talk about your romantic attraction!

  • @r_t1609
    @r_t1609 Рік тому +2

    I also got "you could be demi-romantic" which does make sense because I have a girlfriend but it took knowing them for 3 years for me to finally catch feelings for them :]

  • @acereporter266
    @acereporter266 Рік тому +2

    Most quizzes put me down for demi or gray. Spoiler alert, I’m actually aro/ace but have some microlabels going on that, long story short, mess with my head, and I also experience very strong emotional and platonic attraction that I’ve mistaken for crushes in the past. And yes, it is possible to feel an immediate emotional bond with someone that’s not romantic or sexual. I’ve experienced it and I’m still friends with those people.

  • @sofiaspeakman8086
    @sofiaspeakman8086 Рік тому +4

    I would enjoy more videos on romantic orientations! I’m aroace myself. (I’ve only ever had one crush, and it was on a fictional character :/ )

  • @hendersierra111
    @hendersierra111 Рік тому +3

    1:45 I really wish there was a “mostly fictional characters” option 😅

    • @Arakhor
      @Arakhor Рік тому

      Crushing on fictional characters rather than real people is generally a sign you're not straight. ;)

  • @Doomsword0
    @Doomsword0 Рік тому

    I'm aromantic (and somewhere on the ace spectrum but that's a different mess) and it's really cool to hear you talk about your demi ace and your demi aro being connected like that. I mean it makes sense you know but still interesting to hear!

  • @costelinha1867
    @costelinha1867 11 місяців тому

    After thinking about this for a while (after watching that video from Jaiden Animations), I concluded that I'm aromantic.
    Even that quiz you linked seems to agree with me here, so yeah.... I'm aro...... I feel really nice about this actually....

  • @Techniciancraft66
    @Techniciancraft66 Рік тому

    I’ve taken this test twice and I’ve gotten “You could be aromantic” and I’m like “yeah, that makes sense considering I only get crushes on people I interact with the most, whether it’s at school or online”.

  • @Oxnugget
    @Oxnugget Рік тому +2

    Once I took an ‘am I lesbian?’ Quiz and I got “you’re likely aromantic” 😭

  • @mkitten13
    @mkitten13 9 місяців тому

    My answers didn't diverge too far from yours (we had several overlaps), but I got. "You could be aromantic" For me my experience is that I very rarely at all catch any feelings for real people. And my two experiences (nearly a decade apart, and the last one over a decade ago) happened so differently so it wasn't so simple as just needing a strong bond first to catch the feelings. One of the experiences was a slowburn with a friend I was living with, something happening subconsciously and was only confronted when she revealed to me that she had feelings for me. The second happened on an LGBT+ dating site, where just from our written communication back and forth I formed this really intense need to meet her in person and when we did meet the feeling continued. Outside of those two experiences I've mostly just been confused and frustrated. Like I have confused flattery with catching feelings, I've misinterpreted other things for feelings and gotten caught up in confusing and uncomfortable situations where I couldn't express clearly to myself or the other person what was really going on. The biggest thing that kept me from considering myself a possible aromantic for a very long time (I'm turning 40 soon) was my love of romantic media, my shipping of characters left and right, but finding the aego-label has helped me figure things out. I don't lack a desire for romance, I just almost never catch feelings and navigating this with actual people gets confusing and frustrating. And people just don't seem to understand my perspective. I've been told I'm too picky, or that I've chosen to stay single, etc.

  • @nihil_nemo
    @nihil_nemo Рік тому +4

    i would love to hear abt your experiences with romance! I identify as aro and struggle to understand the difference between strong (queer-)platonic and romantic feelings and which kind of relationship I actually desire...

    • @Doomsword0
      @Doomsword0 Рік тому

      Same! I really like hearing about those experiences and trying to understand it all but I don't many friends to be able to ask

  • @HyperNovva
    @HyperNovva Рік тому +1

    4:50 THE CAT TAIL ON YOUR SHOULDER

  • @Pixis1
    @Pixis1 Рік тому

    Haven't taken the quiz yet but, listening to your answers, I'm likely demiromantic as well. A strong emotional bond has always been important to me and I've frequently developed crushes on friends of the opposite gender. Lately, I've been leaning towards the aromantic side since I've gotten a bit disgusted with dating and have de-prioritized it in my life. But demiromantic seems likely since I wouldn't rule out a relationship entirely if the opportunity presented itself.
    Side note: Are demiromantic and demisexual separate? Do they usually go together? I'm still getting used to the idea of romantic and sexual orientations being different things.

  • @Lysandra_Bouquet
    @Lysandra_Bouquet Рік тому

    Loved the video. I got aromantic and honestly I think that tracks. I like some displays of affection when it comes to romance and parts of romantic relationships but some things make me uncomfortable. I think I'm definitely going to do some more research.

  • @SevCaswell
    @SevCaswell Рік тому

    I am quite the romantic, but the feelings are certainly much deeper when I know the person well before the attraction develops. It's like I can imagine myself in a romantic relationship but not with anyone specific until I've met them and seen what kind of person they are. Also I can develop romantic feelings for people I'm not physically attracted to if we're close, so I'm lesbian (AFAB and strictly physically attracted to female bodies) but pan-romantic, which can get awkward.

  • @Doomsword0
    @Doomsword0 Рік тому +1

    question 6, I don't know anything about crushes (I'm aromantic) but isn't the butterflies like the standard assumed requirement kinda thing? A lot of these questions feel like they could use some nuance, it's a good basic quiz for someone who is less familiar with the whole thing I think

  • @Axolotl_e
    @Axolotl_e Рік тому

    I got demiromantic! I kinda agree. Now that I think about it I think the only crush I've had was on my friend that I'd known, then we stopped talking, then we started talking again a few years later and then I got a crush on her in the next few months.
    Edit: For the question at 4:31 I put I vibe with some because I will physically cringe at straight romance novels.

  • @owli-wankenobi3727
    @owli-wankenobi3727 4 місяці тому

    I got 'you are likely' aromantic'. Which is true. I am extremely aro and ace. But I'm also demi/panalterous... I only discovered that earlier this year... it's weird... having feelings that are somewhere in between romantic and platonic but also neither of them... but it's also beautiful in its own way. Like, I love relationships that stand in defiance of all cultural norms. And I wish that qprs got more representation.

  • @mirandarensberger6919
    @mirandarensberger6919 4 місяці тому

    Yeah, I'm definitely aro. I have an issue with question 9 on the quiz, though. The most aro answer choice is "Nah, it kinda feels like I have to, though." Where's just "Nah, full stop"? Because I've never felt like I had to.
    Also, I felt like the kissing question skewed my results a bit to make me sound less aro than I am. I know a lot of people see kissing as a romantic thing, but to me it's just a precursor to sex. Since I'm not ace, I'm fine with it, but the quiz is written in a way that makes enjoying kissing seem less aro.
    Edit: I know it's a spectrum, but my point is that I like kissing in an allosexual way, not an alloromantic way, and the quiz doesn't make that distinction.

  • @kerriebeech9560
    @kerriebeech9560 Рік тому

    Great video Lynn. I would love to see a video of you discussing your romantic attraction.

  • @Elena_7839
    @Elena_7839 Рік тому +1

    I got demiromantic as well.
    It's what I already identity as. But I've only ever experienced romantic attraction once, and now I have no clue what it actually feels like after the romantic relationship I had with that one person ended.

  • @jonasnelissen6162
    @jonasnelissen6162 Рік тому

    I got "you are likely aromatic". personally I think that (possibly) I am demiromantic. I have that feeling lately that I am also at the aromatic spectrum and the test seem to think so to 😊

  • @BGBTech
    @BGBTech Рік тому

    I got the "you could be aromantic" answer, but did not previously identify as aromantic.
    I am not opposed to finding someone, however, traditional depictions of romance do seem rather strange and unrealistic to me (and my emphasis had usually been more on trying to determine psychological compatibility; and concepts like "mutual usefulness" and similar). Interactions in these areas were often more intended to try to probe their responses than to try to win someone over.
    Some questions I was not entirely sure how to answer, like I am not exactly sure what a "crush" is exactly (so, am not sure how it relates to my experience).
    I do take an interest in people sometimes, if there seems like there might be some potential.
    Most recent examples for people I had talked to (within roughly the last 2 years):
    I had talked to one female; psychological compatibility was poor (her thinking style was more emotionally oriented), but she could drive and is self-sufficient (useful), she was not particularly attractive though (pros/cons; it seemed there was a probability she could have been "desperate" enough to consider me despite the obvious level of psychological incompatibility, however this turned out to not be the case). Nothing against her, even if the situation did not seem workable.
    I had talked some to another who seemed to potentially be similar to me in terms of psychology (as far as I can tell), and is able to talk using a similar communication style (direct and impersonal), however she has stated she is uninterested. No reason has been given beyond this. Some other factors remain unanswered (despite being able to communicate directly, she doesn't seem particularly inclined to answer questions; whereas I am more prone to "infodump" my thoughts).
    No one else has seemed like a possible match during this time-frame.
    I do identify as asexual though, and also seem to have alexithymia as well.
    I am not particularly emotional; and emotions in general don't play all that big of a role in my life (however, I do try to treat people fairly; and prefer to avoid unnecessary conflict and drama wherever possible). In my case, I don't particularly understand emotions, and most seem short-lived and fleeting. I am aware of the behaviors associated with various emotions, but often have difficulty relating to much sense of the feeling behind them (whereas things like imagining people acting to maximize self-interest is easier to reason about, and still tends to align fairly well with observed behaviors).
    Granted, it is possible that a lot of this could all be interrelated.

  • @Sancheroid
    @Sancheroid 5 місяців тому

    I've got "likely aromantic" but i'm not sure, and now that i spent multiple hours trying to figure it out, i really well understand what i want and need, but still not sure about my romantic attraction, it's really controversial, and i decided to not apply a label to myself, just follow what i feel is right :)

  • @matiasastudillo360
    @matiasastudillo360 5 місяців тому

    Had seen this video before but having a crisis right now, so I took the quiz again and it came out as probably aromantic. It seems correct, but I am so disney breed that it makes some noise. No idea what it said last time I took this test but anyways, thank you for this video.
    Maybe I'm aromatic and I smell, idk

  • @EUREKKA11924
    @EUREKKA11924 Рік тому +1

    everyone always says: "Yeah, so it's just like..." *silence*
    YOU DO THIS AND I DO THIS JUST ADMIT IT!! hahhaha lol

  • @silentglacierfang
    @silentglacierfang Рік тому

    I got "You are likely aromantic." Makes sense. I do identify as aromantic and have never had a crush (to my knowledge) but am open to potential romance, which is why I think it says "likely."

    • @cradica
      @cradica 6 місяців тому

      TBH, I have met people I was potentially interested in, but I never felt the "butterflies in your stomach" they talk about. I could be cupioromanic.

  • @smr6026
    @smr6026 Рік тому

    I got aro which I knew I’d get but I’ve been wondering if I’m also demi! If you ever do a/another video on being demiromantic or attraction I’d love to see it and learn more about it

  • @margaret.a
    @margaret.a 8 місяців тому

    I got demiromantic, and I am but I go by greyromantic because I also identify with approximately 9,999 other labels on the aromatic spectrum 😅

  • @ZanUchuu
    @ZanUchuu Рік тому

    I got "You might be Aromantic" but I already had discovered that I'm probably grayromantic (specifically graypanromantic) as I experience romantic very infrequently (like maybe only once or twice in my 30+ years of life).

  • @iconitoblubberry
    @iconitoblubberry 5 місяців тому

    the quiz was super ovious of 'option 1 is aro, option 2 is mabey or greyro,option 3 iddemi an option 4 id allo' ut i still took it hounestly and go aromantic

  • @Beam3178
    @Beam3178 Рік тому

    I got "you could be demiromantic"
    Yeah that makes sense lol
    I don't believe in love at first sight, but that doesn't mean there aren't some attractions at play at first sight that cis het people would attribute to general love

  • @gabriellegagne2020
    @gabriellegagne2020 Рік тому

    I'm definitely aro. 🏹

  • @Toni-lo9ms
    @Toni-lo9ms Рік тому +1

    I got demi-romantic as expected. Actually 4 crushes total too.

    • @Toni-lo9ms
      @Toni-lo9ms Рік тому

      Normally I'd just edit but a like from Lynn means I don't wanna
      9:03 I have an online friend who's always pining for a romantic relationship and I honestly do not understand it. I've been in exactly two relationships and those were among the 4 crushes I mentioned before. Both times it just kind of happened. Never once have I felt the need to look for one but I was happy with them once they started.

  • @rachel1021
    @rachel1021 Рік тому +1

    I got demiromantic, which is totally accurate. I'm a demiromantic and demisexual lesbian. :)

  • @LinnaAP
    @LinnaAP Рік тому +1

    I also don't believe in love at 1st sight, attraction? Yes. Love? Nope ksks

  • @dommyinnk
    @dommyinnk 4 місяці тому

    After multiple quizzes and tests I have made an conclusion I fit manly into (grey/demi romantic) yet also might fall into some other subcategories too from what I've noticed like cupioromantic even aroflux etc. So I decided to just go with aromantic. because I am literally the definition of little to no romantic attraction, I still question it and overthink about it beacuse it feels wrong but the realease of just accepting it was the best feeling in my life. Idk if it's somewhat right to call myself aro, idk if calling myself that will offend anyone it's just seems easier then explain how I fit in more then one subcategory of the spectrum 🤔

  • @shimblock
    @shimblock Рік тому +2

    Right now I see myself as hetroromantic asexual, but I took the quiz and it said I might be aro. So uhh. Time for another existential crisis lol

    • @crowbirdy
      @crowbirdy Рік тому +2

      Again a lot of these quizzes are inaccurate, I am like 100% aro and I got "maybe aro" but you know yourself better than some random quiz and also aro is just a label to help see a community or explain yourself to others, labels don't define you, you know yourself best! ❤

    • @shimblock
      @shimblock Рік тому

      ​​@@crowbirdyyeah obviously, with these quizes you learn most when you start to argue with the way the question is phrased. I know im not fullt aro like the test said because I have experienced romantic attraction before, though it has been a long ass time

  • @XimeNox
    @XimeNox Рік тому

    I got 'you could be aro' and I know i'm somewhere in there. The part of kissing i find it separated of the romantic attraction.
    I'm ~demi and grayace. It's chaotic :D

  • @liamodonovan6610
    @liamodonovan6610 Рік тому +1

    Awesome lynn you are the most wholesome sweet person i do not care about romane or love to me love is the biggest illusion in the world you are a beautiful loving lovable intelligent person awesome video love your channel

  • @reputationless13
    @reputationless13 Рік тому

    I got "You can be aromantic" but I am actually bi and demiromantic

  • @TheSkullKing850
    @TheSkullKing850 11 місяців тому +1

    Its right i am aro

  • @TheEpicPancake
    @TheEpicPancake Рік тому

    I'm a bit new 'round these parts, but I'd be happy to see more content on romantic orientation. Between aro and ase, I find aro is less focused on, much to my chagrin as an aro-allo person.

  • @dawntripp1974
    @dawntripp1974 Рік тому

    I don’t know why but I found it easier to identify as Ace than I am being grey-romantic.

  • @GruulAnarch
    @GruulAnarch 5 місяців тому +2

    I think I'm demiromantic, but it's weird because I do want a partner and idk how that's supposed to end up happening

    • @poo8220
      @poo8220 4 місяці тому +1

      honestly, same! I think the idea of a partner sounds really good but I have no idea what I should do to get that and maintain it in a healthy way

  • @popsquirt9370
    @popsquirt9370 Рік тому +2

    I genuinely thought that you could have a crush on someone until you knew them well until recently and I still don’t get why you would date a someone you only kinda know let alone a stranger I never got the hole dateing app thing

  • @hannahh8119
    @hannahh8119 Рік тому

    I tried to start the quiz but the first questions - I couln't answer them, there was no answer that felt right.. :/

  • @MyCatMyca
    @MyCatMyca Рік тому +1

    Right now I’m either demipanromantic asexual or aroace and demipan(insert somthing here) but I’m still questioning it

  • @almightycinder
    @almightycinder Рік тому

    A few of the questions were hard for me to answer since I'm aromatic but not asexual. I have crushes but they're not romantic crushes.

  • @arbiterdream
    @arbiterdream Рік тому

    Yo we got the same results!!!

  • @JulieMJ
    @JulieMJ Рік тому

    I am not aromantic,i prefer and would like to have partner and do everything couple will do ,kissing,romance ,cuddling but not s3x.hope i will meet someone who understand this

  • @LinnaAP
    @LinnaAP Рік тому +1

    I wish more people talked about being romance repulsed, feels lonely down here ksks

    • @sofiaspeakman8086
      @sofiaspeakman8086 Рік тому +1

      hello! I’m also romance-repulsed (I’m apothi aroace, so both sex-and-romance repulsed)

    • @crowbirdy
      @crowbirdy Рік тому +1

      Samee, I'm on the far ends of aro ace spectrum, never been in a relationship, nor dated or wanted anything more than friends and that's cool!

    • @LinnaAP
      @LinnaAP Рік тому

      @@crowbirdy oh, me too! someone tried to date me and it was awful. but I had crushes, I just never wanted anything more romantic from them, I liked just being friends!

    • @LinnaAP
      @LinnaAP Рік тому +1

      @@sofiaspeakman8086 oh I havent heard of that term before! I'm going to look it up right away bc it sounds like it totally could be me...sometimes I delude myself that I could try sex to see if I like it, that maybe is just penetration that is a total nono for me, but the feeling quickly passes and it always feels weird and just not me. so, something I'm still struggling about

  • @mylife-23
    @mylife-23 Рік тому

    I took it n it said I'm Demi.
    But I'm Aroflux XP which is only right sometimes lol

  • @darkangelprincess101
    @darkangelprincess101 Рік тому

    It says I'm demi romantic, as a demisexual I am not surprised

  • @ands_t
    @ands_t Рік тому

    I got demiromantic

  • @Jukari94
    @Jukari94 10 місяців тому

    Huh... Weird!🤔 I took both the Aromantic and Asexual quizes and both said that I am most likely Aromantic.

  • @VVloveinthedark98
    @VVloveinthedark98 2 місяці тому

    I got you could be demiromantic

  • @kerstinsweeney373
    @kerstinsweeney373 Рік тому

    I still find it very odd that 'kissing' is considered a romantic gesture, instead of a sexual one. you aren't holding hands. you're putting your mouth on theirs. that is a very physically intimate act, and very often is the start of a sexual encounter. Does every make out session go into sex? no. but... it's usually the precursor activity. I would always put intimate kissing in the sexual category, but that's just me.
    edit: I got demiromantic.

    • @Doomsword0
      @Doomsword0 Рік тому

      It's kind of both, like depends on the situation kinda thing I think

  • @missnaomi613
    @missnaomi613 Рік тому

    Just another comment for the algorithm. 🙂

  • @that_tikosh
    @that_tikosh 10 місяців тому +1

    "You could be aromantic"
    Thanks, quiz, you are not helping. I took it because I might be aro, so you are not telling me anything new..

  • @killianobrien2007
    @killianobrien2007 Рік тому +1

    If aro is short for aromantic then biromantic is biro?🖋

    • @Devlinator61116
      @Devlinator61116 Рік тому

      And pandemi is short for pan-demiromantic. I love confusing the autocomplete. 🤣

    • @Arakhor
      @Arakhor Рік тому

      I don't know if the pens are called Biros outside the UK and Ireland. :)

    • @crowbirdy
      @crowbirdy Рік тому

      Yes!

  • @minticat4702
    @minticat4702 Рік тому

    Wow I'm early

  • @NobodyImportant27
    @NobodyImportant27 4 місяці тому

    I watched her lesbian video AND this video and i releated with both of them
    IS IT POSSIBLE TO BE LESBIEN AND ARO HELP

  • @eduardovargas3814
    @eduardovargas3814 Рік тому

    Translation:
    Am I lunatic?

  • @_1Craig1_
    @_1Craig1_ Рік тому

    Can a non binary person have long hair???

    • @Olgabceot
      @Olgabceot Рік тому

      Yes anyone can. My brother who is cis male has long hair

  • @kaseyford1490
    @kaseyford1490 Рік тому

    I did them all with different answers just for fun haha! The results were all interesting but I got 'mostly' Aromantic. The very first quiz I did I was completely honest and that's the one that said I am fully Aromantic 💚🤍