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  • @ajaidenleeaustin6297
    @ajaidenleeaustin6297 2 роки тому +344

    Trauma is like debt. If you bring it in to a relationship you both now have to pay for the debt. Be debt free before entering a marriage! Thank you Holy Spirit!

  • @Candie4JC
    @Candie4JC 2 роки тому +181

    “Get sick of yourself. Don’t get comfortable with your disfunction.” WOOO!!! Sister Flowerrrrrsssss!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @beauphomasterpiece3795
    @beauphomasterpiece3795 2 роки тому +51

    I said to myself I am no longer a rehabilitation center for men . This message confirmed

  • @aramisy.cajigas744
    @aramisy.cajigas744 2 роки тому +25

    The way she looks at him when he preaches.

  • @burntorangeofficial
    @burntorangeofficial 2 роки тому +65

    "You can never be too aggressive when you want to be free!"

  • @yahkar
    @yahkar 2 роки тому +140

    As I Mature in my Singleness I Reached a Place that I Understand that its things I Don't Want to Bring Over into my Relationship. I Should be a Help to my Wife, not a Weight.
    Great Lesson and Cant Wait for Pt.2 @REDEFINED TV

  • @womanuareloved2448
    @womanuareloved2448 2 роки тому +103

    This is where God has me now in 2022, almost 7 years of purity.
    The Lord exposed that I was at the threshing floor in November of 2021. I was like huh 🤔. Yeah, He’s stripping me from the old me (really not me) and making me the woman he ordained me to be at birth. Thank you Lord!
    He separated me from family and friends and moved me to Houston, Tx on January 4th. I’ve been all about my Father’s Kingdom business (purpose). While watching this beautiful video, God has exposed that this process is for my Kingdom husband as well. 😮😊 Thank you Lord!
    I thank God for these two willing vessels. PLEASE do another women be whole conference!

  • @diva7433
    @diva7433 2 роки тому +44

    I watched your video tonight! Oh my God! I had tears in my eyes. I am 65 years old and a widow. I was engaged to man 3 yrs ago. I thought he was the man God sent me to be my kingdom husband. After about 10 months of engagement, God showed me he was not sent by Him. I didn't see his fruit. He was broken. I thought I could mend his brokenness. I realized it wasn't my job to do that. Unfortunately, he passed away in 2021.
    I thank God for you and Mrs. Flowers for your wisdom, your transparency and your faithfulness to the kingdom of God! Bless you and may God continue to direct you and strengthen you always.

  • @yolandawilliams3319
    @yolandawilliams3319 2 роки тому +105

    THIS THERAPY THURSDAY IS WHAT I NEEDED TO HELP ME ALONG MY SINGLE JOURNEY!!!! THERE ARE SYSTEMS THAT NEED TO BE SEPARATED ....HABITS THAT NEED HEALING AND WOUNDS THAT NEED THE WORD!!!! I KNOW BY GOD'S GRACE AND ALLLLLL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS THAT HIS WILL BE DONE IN MY LIFE !!! I PRAY GOD CONTINUES TO BLESS THIS MINISTRY WITH OVERFLOW AND KEEP THEM HIGHLY FAVORED!!!

  • @tabithaesau9077
    @tabithaesau9077 2 роки тому +59

    Stop being comfortable with your dysfunction. Stop being okay with your trauma. What a word!!! Thank you for this therapy Thursday!! What a blessing y'all are!

  • @joycewatt800
    @joycewatt800 2 роки тому +13

    This is a whole word, a true word.
    To the Singles who desire marriage. Hear me when I say
    “Manage your single season wisely ”
    Marriage is delicious but it’s not “magically delicious.”
    It’s not Lucky Charms.
    You don’t need luck but
    You gone need God.
    I can testify!
    There are lessons in your blessings and blessings in your lessons. Learn BEFORE you even think about saying “I do.”
    There will be times when you feel I “don’t” or “I won’t”
    It is by the grace of God that you will be sustained.

  • @lilynama
    @lilynama Рік тому +3

    Wooo loving this.
    Marital length doesn't mean spiritually maturity.
    Don't be okay with your trauma
    #Lessons #Wisdom.
    Thank you for sharing 🇺🇬

  • @zakiyareignshinellc4299
    @zakiyareignshinellc4299 2 роки тому +26

    Do this every Thursday, please? This is a a blessing for single women like me.

  • @kimberlybennett3992
    @kimberlybennett3992 Рік тому +1

    Thank You!!!!! Again I am helped.

  • @ChosenDeeDee
    @ChosenDeeDee 2 роки тому +21

    Therapy Thursday is out here changing lives!!! Thank you Jesus. Can we just appreciate how beautiful Mrs. Flowers is? Thank you Lord for healthy leaders.

  • @tiaparkerbecomingherwomens7234
    @tiaparkerbecomingherwomens7234 2 роки тому +2

    "Most marital problems are single problems that were never addressed"...

  • @chanelle.n
    @chanelle.n 2 роки тому +7

    “Stop being comfortable with your trauma” that hit different Mrs Flowers 🙌🏽🙌🏽

  • @christinamontgomery9201
    @christinamontgomery9201 2 роки тому +12

    God allow me to affirm my future husband… I will continue to affirm the males already in my life. Zipper control for kingdom men and women… Amen. God continue to prepare me for my future husband 🙏🏾💪🏾❤️🤴🏾👸🏽This was truly an anointed word! Love and appreciate you both.

  • @t.b.2537
    @t.b.2537 2 роки тому +15

    I really appreciate your minister. I’m so ashamed of my underdeveloped growth. I should be further. God please help me. I’m tired of me

    • @yolandawilliams3319
      @yolandawilliams3319 2 роки тому +14

      Never be ashamed of where you are. Congratulate yourself on where you are, where you use to be, and where you are going.

    • @rosalindhayes1363
      @rosalindhayes1363 Рік тому

      No you’re not! You’re right on time.

  • @joycewatt800
    @joycewatt800 2 роки тому +3

    Yes
    The
    Physical, financial, emotional, and mental lack of wellbeing is so true. These are all things that need to be addressed as a whole.
    We often talk about prosperity as if it’s ONLY about money but total prosperity is being blessed in EVERY area not just your bank account.
    Your bank account won’t matter if most of your time is spent at the hospital and not at the bank.
    This is good teaching.
    Some generational curses are simply generational “choices”
    Somebody gotta make a different choice.

  • @ceeare12345
    @ceeare12345 2 роки тому +9

    Stop being comfortable with your trauma and dysfunction! Amen! We live in a society that labels everyone by their brokenness and actually wears terms of brokenness as an identity or badge of honor.

  • @carolinalugo-mx7yv
    @carolinalugo-mx7yv Рік тому +1

    Lord give me the grace, to change!.

  • @2rhythms
    @2rhythms 2 роки тому +6

    I believe… seeing this video is God’s way of preparing me :)

  • @margiemajor1311
    @margiemajor1311 Рік тому +1

    AMEN

  • @elegantlady7029
    @elegantlady7029 2 роки тому +4

    Psalms 121:3 says I will not allow your foot to slip, he who watches over you do not sleep nor slumber. God is always saving us from ourselves. We think we know what's best for our lives, but at the end of the day, God knows what's best. The day he walked away, was the day all of my trauma was exposed, LOL, It hurt like hell, but I thank God for doing for me what I couldn't do for myself. This video has helped me to LET GO AND LET GOD!!!! Thank you Therapy Thursday😆😇 #GOTTAKEEPITREAL#JOURNEYOFHEALING#

  • @dawngillett3356
    @dawngillett3356 2 роки тому +6

    The 'REALEST' word i have ever heard in regards to Individual healing so that your TOGETHERNESS can last a lifetime. You both are annointed servants of the Kingdom of God. Continue sharing TRUTH for those who are hungry for it and may God Almighty receive all the glory.

  • @cynthiastluce5840
    @cynthiastluce5840 2 роки тому +12

    It was really good to see you Mrs. Flowers we missed you. Welcome back. We love you.

  • @mandysmith4901
    @mandysmith4901 9 місяців тому +2

    I'm sick of myself! Pray for me men and women of faith. My mental health and lead me to healing.

  • @SheenaMarie05
    @SheenaMarie05 2 роки тому +8

    I’m 2 weeks late watching, but this word penetrated my heart so deeply! I thank you Mr. and Mrs. Flowers for delivering this transparent, authentic, honest therapy word. Y’all definitely came for my little edges lol. 😂 GBTG 🙌🏽

  • @evelizesther
    @evelizesther 2 роки тому +12

    This couple is both Beautiful and wise!! As godly examples in the word of God!!!!!! Lord continue to Bless and expand these two in Jesus Name!!!💯🙏🏽🕊

  • @bethesdabarrett5588
    @bethesdabarrett5588 Рік тому +1

    Amen!
    Thank you for sharing your experience!!!

  • @c_mercedess
    @c_mercedess Рік тому +1

    Amen 🙏🏻 God bless you both!!! I couldn’t have discovered your channel in better timing in my life!

  • @rafaelsantana7936
    @rafaelsantana7936 Рік тому +1

    I'm so thankful for the Flowers 🙏🏾👑❤️. God bless them to continue to uplift their community and the future generations. In Jesus Christ name amen

  • @msaverielle
    @msaverielle Рік тому +1

    Speak into each other.❤

  • @fbennett504
    @fbennett504 2 роки тому +17

    The Flowers Message always hit home... Now I have to get out here and tend to my garden🙌Thank you!!

  • @shanealopez4623
    @shanealopez4623 Рік тому

    God continue to bless your souls I sure appreciate these messages especially therapy Thursday 🙏☮️❤️‍🩹

  • @kaitlynwilliams3102
    @kaitlynwilliams3102 2 роки тому +23

    PLEASEEEE DO A PART 2!! This was so good and I learned so much from both perspectives!

  • @angelicaakers4445
    @angelicaakers4445 2 роки тому +7

    Lissseennnn! I'm never disappointed! I get my healing every session! First Lady Flowers its good to see you as always 💕

  • @tanecemiles7221
    @tanecemiles7221 2 роки тому +9

    Hey, Mrs. Flowers! Like my Great Grandmother used to say…”Thank God for the blessing”!

  • @missaraebiaphotography
    @missaraebiaphotography 2 роки тому +6

    WELP!!! Looks like I need just a little more time on the single train lol. This was so amazing. REAL KINGDOM MEN HAVE ZIPPER CONTROL
    #RedefinedTV

  • @rosepetty8531
    @rosepetty8531 2 роки тому +3

    Listen up God I know you have better 👍 things for me fix it. Amen

  • @jason_henry
    @jason_henry 2 роки тому +4

    This was the BEST devotion for my Sunday!! Time to go tend my Garden!!

  • @Lovingme626
    @Lovingme626 7 місяців тому

    I love how you both keep it real. The truth will make us free. This is a sermon and life lesson. Real talk! 🙋🏽‍♀️🙌🏽

  • @shermanbarno4207
    @shermanbarno4207 3 місяці тому

    The most amazing, needed podcast ever! You described my 20 year marriage as if you have a bird's eye view. Single issues that was addressed in dishonesty!
    Thank you!!

  • @Btj87
    @Btj87 2 роки тому +4

    Don’t get comfortable with your dysfunction! This is so good!

  • @claudiaferguson5829
    @claudiaferguson5829 2 роки тому +6

    I really loved this, can’t wait for part 2 🙌🏾🙏🏾

  • @darkmilwaukeeman
    @darkmilwaukeeman 2 роки тому +4

    If the Holy Spirit ain't in it, I don't want to be there.
    Thank you and bless you both Pastor Flowers and Mrs Flowers for all the wisdom and healing you are providing to me and the world. I know culture teaches us as men, not to be vulnerable but thank you for teaching us kingdom, may God continue to bless you and your family.

  • @th6223
    @th6223 2 роки тому +18

    Hey there Mr. and Mrs.Flowers I appreciate your sermons and content, it really is life changing on a spiritual level.

  • @ms_jblessed5031
    @ms_jblessed5031 2 роки тому +3

    Father deal with my systems please 💜🙌💜🙌

  • @maleahhall1981
    @maleahhall1981 2 роки тому +12

    This is life changing. Thank you for your commitment to the Lord, and to the rest of us. 🙏🏽🙌🏽

  • @staciastayelevated6168
    @staciastayelevated6168 2 роки тому +2

    Power couple! 💪🏽🙌🏽❤️🙏🏽

  • @thomasreid2772
    @thomasreid2772 2 роки тому +5

    Thank you Pastor and First Lady Flowers for your heartfelt transparency.
    I can feel it.

  • @JESUS10148
    @JESUS10148 2 роки тому +3

    @15:04-15:06 I was expecting Mrs flowers to say we ride together we die together bad boys for life 😂. Moreover, great words of wisdom. God has me in this season of pruning that I thought I was over but even though I'm not everything is making deeper sense and I'm accepting God's work. I do have to deal with the negative systems I'm used too because no one else will. Blessings Flowers fam

  • @OhToBeWHOLE
    @OhToBeWHOLE 2 роки тому +3

    Awesomeness!!!! Teaching the WHOLE truth!

  • @andrewwilliams2202
    @andrewwilliams2202 2 роки тому +12

    Amen My 2022 version won’t be the 23rd garden season✔️ intentionality ✔️ consistency ✔️= maturity, healing n Wholeness

  • @JT-sc4ke
    @JT-sc4ke 2 роки тому +3

    Oh you’re preaching real,really good Team Flowers! Father God in the name of Jesus, purge every fail and no good system that is residing in me!

  • @reyagrace9126
    @reyagrace9126 2 роки тому +1

    Looking good Ms.flowers

  • @eden6768
    @eden6768 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you for speaking Truth. Thank you for your vulnerability. Thank you are showing the world a Godly union. Showing me, a Godly union. This was a timely message for more reasons than one. I praise Holy Spirit for using you as vessels for His glory. May He continue to bless you, fill you, keep you, nourish and grow you and your family.

  • @tashiashines6948
    @tashiashines6948 2 роки тому +3

    Everything needed to be said in directed singleness and God's timing. You guys are truly a blessing to many, so powerful in ministry demonstrating God's Words. YES!

  • @carmenlopez3016
    @carmenlopez3016 Місяць тому

    Amen Thank God I needed to hear this message

  • @sharlettrose9590
    @sharlettrose9590 Рік тому

    You both said alot...I also like don't watch for his body but look out for his garden. Also, let God close his wounds...Amen

  • @geraldineandreas364
    @geraldineandreas364 2 роки тому +5

    Hey Mrs. Flowers, it was such a blessing to have you on tonight and I'm super excited for part 2. Wow this message was a blessing. I love the part where you said that we need to get sick of it. Get sick of the dysfunction, get sick of the systems of trauma. We need to want to be whole and healed. God bless you both for your obedience. Love you so much from South Africa

  • @terreceshannon9008
    @terreceshannon9008 2 роки тому +5

    Wonderful sermon! 🤩 and Mrs. Flowers, that lipstick is STUNNING on you!!!

  • @samuelbolufemi6075
    @samuelbolufemi6075 2 роки тому +6

    I’m happy I got introduced to this , I need this word! Thank you Mr and Mrs. Flowers and I give glory to God for using your both as vessels for his people 🙏🏾.

  • @Ambers_Walking_In_Freedom
    @Ambers_Walking_In_Freedom Рік тому

    Watching all these Therapy Thursdays makes me feel like I need to stay out of a relationship because the other person may have so much trauma and not deal with it. It's enough for me to deal with myself. Let alone somebody else not dealing with their trauma. And you never know until you get into a relationship. I'm good on all that

  • @jenicewilliams2085
    @jenicewilliams2085 2 роки тому +3

    UA-cam had your video on my thread and I’m so glad I watched it. I’m days away from getting married and I needed to hear ALL OF THIS!
    Thank you Therapy Thursday’s and I look forward to all of these videos plus the Word of GOD!! ❤️

  • @jewellyphe
    @jewellyphe 2 роки тому +3

    Beautiful message Flowers. May The LORD continues to bless you and your family.
    Amen

  • @matthewcallaway5223
    @matthewcallaway5223 2 роки тому +3

    This is the kind of conversation that can really change a life. Thank you 🙏🏻

  • @lindarushing638
    @lindarushing638 2 роки тому +3

    Great teaching it's sooo needed in the society we live in keep up the great work....

  • @dinajohnson5371
    @dinajohnson5371 2 роки тому +3

    This is so beautiful, and I have started my journey through this singleness. I just want thank you and your wife for this Therapy Thursday

  • @angelic7855
    @angelic7855 2 роки тому +3

    Oh dear me! I was praying intentionally as I embraced my single season. Knowing myself, there are a lot of things in me that I know I need to work on from trauma, past relationships and friendships that I saw were not only detrimental to myself in the long run but to the relationships I have now and for the future. Thank you RedefinedTV for your ministry. It has helped me for years! ♥️

  • @samtaylor7072
    @samtaylor7072 2 роки тому +3

    I wanna say a massive thank you! I don't have any Godly and strong marriages to look up to in my life and was honestly so disheartened/just writing off relationships in the future in fear of not being able to become the woman a man can partner with in building the kingdom of God. You both have helped me so much - I appreciate the straight talk so much ❤

  • @dominiqueconner1507
    @dominiqueconner1507 2 роки тому +3

    I just want to say I love ❤️ the flowers!! Y’all complement each other well, and speak the real!! This what our generation need! Thanks to y’all both! Y’all never disappoint with these messages.

  • @ladennayoung2939
    @ladennayoung2939 2 роки тому +5

    Yeah. MANY people are in denial about their shortcomings, and about the fact that they have made poor decisions based off of trauma. They are in denial about certain family members responding to things in a certain manner based off of the trauma they encountered in life as well.

  • @practicalteachingchronicle6631
    @practicalteachingchronicle6631 2 роки тому +3

    This was amazing! This is so needed. The church not preaching this. Thank you. May God grace, blessings and more anoint fall upon yall covenant.

  • @saintt3749
    @saintt3749 2 роки тому +3

    nothing else to say but thank you sir and ma’am, and praise God! hearing this word at 18 is gonna set me up for marriage and actually life in whole, overwhelmed by indescribable gratitude right now. God bless you both🙏🏾

  • @sherrysunshinefreeman3434
    @sherrysunshinefreeman3434 Рік тому +1

    Amen ❤

  • @tongulajones9910
    @tongulajones9910 2 роки тому +4

    Amen!! This is so true. I'm single and i speak on this to everybody I know. You have to do the self work!! You both be Blessed 🙌🏾

  • @congo_jon6303
    @congo_jon6303 Рік тому

    Amen!!!! Help me Jesus. Your will be done, not mine.

  • @arethaford3368
    @arethaford3368 Рік тому

    🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 Demolish and destroy anything that is not of you Jesus!

  • @ladennayoung2939
    @ladennayoung2939 2 роки тому +3

    NO. That WASN'T extreme whatsoever. I know EXACTLY what you mean and how you feel. May GOD continue to bless, keep, cover, carry, lead, guide, and protect you all in the mighty name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen and Amen. Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being SO transparent. Thank you all SO much. This is VERY much so needed to the young women and men of GOD. People truly have been craving this for quite sometime now. But many pastor's men/women of GOD wouldn't let the LORD take them to this level in order to get what they needed from HIM. In order to release this type of information to the men and women of GOD. (IN OTHER WORDS GOD'S SHEEP). WE ARE TO BE FEEDING GOD'S SHEEP.

  • @ivoryclark3839
    @ivoryclark3839 Рік тому

    Wow...this is definitely a message for me.

  • @tapreciousjones5435
    @tapreciousjones5435 2 роки тому +3

    Amen 🙏🏾 Great teaching thank you for breaking it down💕

  • @Goldy_Locz
    @Goldy_Locz 2 роки тому +1

    Yes...I agree about being healthy.

  • @iamvicklayo
    @iamvicklayo 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you Mrs. Flowers and Mr. Flowers so much for this therapy Thursday session! God is so faithful in all his ways! Father God thank you for pouring into these vessels to pour into others! Protect them, continue to guide them for your glory God! Have mercy on thee in Jesus name!

  • @markesabowers1567
    @markesabowers1567 2 роки тому +2

    I receive this rich empowerment of wisdom l'am in the process unlearning relearning healing restoration..help me see thank you Jesus for correction

  • @jokindheart
    @jokindheart 2 роки тому +8

    Man we needed this I been learning so much about myself through your ministry wow. I can’t wait til part two

  • @johannalarson113
    @johannalarson113 2 роки тому +1

    Wow. This is so good. I need this. Thanks.

  • @lynellb
    @lynellb Рік тому

    I appreciate his transparency.. we learn from other's testimony

  • @iamTiffanyEmpowermentPodcast

    I’m here for this whole conversation

  • @letitiasimpson7185
    @letitiasimpson7185 2 роки тому +2

    I truly needed this God lead me to this channel to night. The emotions and heartache i been going through today. Being in love with a man that clearly doesn’t see my value.
    However Mrs. Flowers made a very good valid point with you can’t be broken going into a relationship. Have to fix the things you got going on. Being A healthy individuals is very important. My God I understand

  • @PPWTD2022
    @PPWTD2022 2 роки тому +3

    Simply Amazing! Thank you guys for being obedient to share and show God’s word and knowing your assignments to serve His people! I pray that God keeps covering you and your ministry! In Jesus name, Amen!🙏🏽🙌🏽👏🏽💗

  • @DianaBranch
    @DianaBranch 2 роки тому +1

    It is such an AWESOME thing to see the younger generation such as yourself do things biblically... righteously... bringing back the STANDARD of the Lord .... for a long time GOD'S house have gone left may the LORD continuously and tremendously bless you both and your families I believe as the end times are so near the LORD is calling HIS HOUSE too true repentance .... sifting out the wheat from the TARE...your obedience is a GIFT TO HIS BODY

  • @nowKissthaQueen
    @nowKissthaQueen Рік тому

    This the #1. I can't wait to get home, rewatch and take notes

  • @tamaramorton2564
    @tamaramorton2564 2 роки тому +3

    Definitely needed this therapy Thursday!! Right on time 🙌🏾🙌🏾❤️❤️

  • @inspired8163
    @inspired8163 Рік тому

    There are so many gems in this. Definitely something I have to listen to over and over.

  • @DevotedLady53
    @DevotedLady53 Рік тому

    Instinctively True, Amen ❤️

  • @avisrandle8523
    @avisrandle8523 2 роки тому +8

    Amen 🙏🏽!!
    God is On Point for giving us this Word Thru y’all!! Thank y’all for your obedience!!

  • @cherielong-vansciver3652
    @cherielong-vansciver3652 2 роки тому +3

    Deliverance also from those issues from someone who truly has been delivered and teach you how to truly be free from it using the word of God

  • @Casey83Art
    @Casey83Art 2 роки тому +6

    God bless the pair of you, and thank YHWH for giving us the gift that is you both. This here message is healing for me in more ways than I can count. Thank you 🙏