mindset is everything. you don't really want to come from a place of high value., you want to come from a place of infinite value. you should be able to give value to others freely and abundantly expecting nothing in exchange and never be diminished in any way by it because your value is infinite.
Yea. It's possible to step out of the value-pinging game and get into what I call "The energy game" simply by being really chill, unreactive, non validation seeking and non judgemental. It's a hack.
Brother Todd, I am forever indebted. Your videos on testing literally saved me out of the deepest friend zone depths of one of the most beautiful, exceptionally feminine, and kind women I've ever met-a total I knew for about a year and recently started dating-after a single TERRIBLE night of failing almost every test left and right. This just happened recently, so please excuse my rambling, but I'll try to describe the general gist of it. Out of 10 girls I know closely, she is the only one I never wanted to lose; the rest can come and go as they wish. But sure enough, it was the one I cherished the most that had to do me like this. I was startled that one day of failing a variety of tests would bring such a KIND, CARING, SWEET woman and turn her into a completely distant, unaffectionate person, suddenly talking to me from a place of contempt and slight apathy. I was sitting there, my eyes wide and mind in awe at how fast the shift happened. It's like she went from talking to me like a good friend and romantic interest-with warmth and affection-to talking to me like I'm her son or junior coworker who's terrible at his job. I am in a state of disbelief still (but now relieved) that 11 months of getting to know each other so intimately were straight into the trash. I'm saying sometimes talking daily for weeks for hours through this time, like it's nothing. Just knowing how close we are, how we are so solid, I thought I was foolproof from anything like this. I now feel a mix of complex emotions: startled, grateful, knowledgeable, confirmed, capable, saddened, regretful, and a whole lot more, but most notably, I feel changed. I literally feel changed to the core after this experience, and I'm never going back to the old ways. This is the one experience that could have done this, so maybe it was divine intervention or something, because with any other woman it wouldn't have had this intense effect on me, to finally entirely persuade me that this is gospel truth. This is the only woman in my life that could have done this to me that would have had this effect on me, and she did do it and did it so well too. It was so fast and subtly slipped into the rest of the conversation that it just slipped past any kind of alert/alarm in my head since I'm aware women will try to challenge you playfully at times. So I'm generally aware of tests for over a decade and already believed it's true to some degree, but I didn't know it's explicit and pervasive, this serious. This is at the core of women's being; this is their guiding mechanism, their GPS with no alternatives. I didn't know that this would switch up the most loving, kind woman you've ever met into a cold person looking at you in a bored and apathetic tone, like it's a chore to even be around you, and talking down to you. I will never doubt any of this again and went online and instantly bought a book I've put off buying about dating, and I will get something from you. What's a good book that encompasses everything about game well on Amazon? I have to get at least one as a token of my appreciation for saving me from inevitable heartbreak, because at the very least, I want to keep this woman in my life as a friend, but it got to the point where she would only respond to me once or twice a day, like to a homeless dog, throwing scraps. At the same time, I am saddened to the core of my being that it has to be this way-that we have to align to this way of doing things because women's respect and attraction to a man is so anchored on this. Why couldn't this just not exist? This is the wildest emotional type experience I've ever had in my life. Just seeing that shift happen over a few hours in person, it literally was like watching a nightmare scenario unfold of a person you cherish so much just simply turning into an enemy who tolerates you. But after screwing up less than a week ago, I managed to recover it by mentioning that I knew what she was up to nonchalantly and then passing a few tests in the text message conversation. The shift didn't happen right away. At first, she was still kinda cold and condescending, but then came around by the end of the day, and we ended up having a conversation, talked about hooking up, and made plans for when we're both off work next. I literally have not experienced such an emotional rollercoaster of mind-blown in a thousand years. I am grateful from the bottom of my heart for people like you, my dude. You are that guy, pal. You really are. This also undoubtedly changed the way I look at women. I still love them and enjoy being around them immensely, their femininity being an endless river of soothing relaxation, it's like healing energy or something, but they can never be a friend for you like a good guy friend is, so stop even trying to make that happen. I thought I could treat her like a good friend and be completely at ease with her, not having to pay attention to all that bullshit, thinking, "She is beyond all that, too smart and too self-aware to let that kind of thing be her thing." But unfortunately, it looks like it's fixed in their DNA, in their biology, as tangible as the color of their eyes or the smoothness of their skin. Suddenly, I wanna connect to some divine entity and question them about this-for what reason they had to make human beings be like this? It seems like something that a machine-like mechanism would have almost, like an algorithm catching a keyword and spitting out an auto-response. Like we're androids or something, and I always intensely felt that humans are inherently human and not machine-like. So I'm experiencing a deep state of sadness and somber reflection from all this. I was a game believer who fell out, thought you could handle it without paying attention to any of this stuff, but now I'm a believer for life. Perhaps you don't have to immerse yourself on a deep intense level, but every man will only benefit from at least knowing the key points with a good level of understanding. I will now, at the very least, always check in every month or so to see what's new in the game-o-sphere so I'm not missing any new important developments. You are absolutely screwed if you are going in shooting in the dark, especially if you're not a natural. At this point, I'm convinced even natural players fail and stumble sometimes by screwing some of these things up too. And I'm a talker, always been; I'll talk to anyone, worked in sales and all that, read a lot, and know stuff, and she loves that about me and always told me how she finds me so interesting and loves that she can learn so much from me. And then, one day, just one day of failing a small bunch of "fitness" tests like little jokes about taking too long to park (when it wasn't long at all, I'm a great driver) was all it took to make a wonderful, massively feminine, playful and giggling, and at ease woman shift into a cold, indifferent person with no spark in their eyes looking back at me like she's an older sister babysitting a little stepbrother she never liked. I felt puzzled and alarmed/astounded, like, "Oh no, please, don't... Where is my flirty lively friend from just a few minutes ago!?" Because we've been friends a long time but we always felt sexually/romantically compatible about each other, and even had conversations about how awesome that is. So Todd, please take this as my speech of gratitude to you, and I'm glad I landed specifically on YOUR video, because some other videos would have not have explained it and drilled it so clearly into my mind. The look I see sometimes in your eyes shows wisdom from lessons learned in life, something you often see in men over 60 who have been through vast amounts of experiences in life, or you know, soldiers who have experienced lots of combat missions. It's a look you'd want to see in someone you'd taking advice from because it knows they've lived through something real, know pain, and more than likely understand what you're going through.
Man, I'm not a fan of reading essays but somehow this comment really caught my attention, first of all, thank you so much for taking the time to share this enlightening experience, at least I can see it was like that for you, and just let me tell you that I deeply understand each and every line you wrote by experience, I can brag that I feel what you felt the most among everybody here, the sudden switch from the prettiest girl in universe to a passive babysitter monster is something I relate to the most. and the existential crisis they put you through and the sudden urge to ask god himself why he created them the way they are, again hit so hard. I know about shit tests in general but I never really cared enough to learn about that topic even though I've got hit by them almost every girl encounters, but after reading your comment, I got motivated to give this game arena a serious look. Thank you again.
Can you give a longer, more detailed spiel on "don't escalate off a negative"? It seems dangerously close to clashing with the idea of conquering shit tests and reframing a rejection
First make the negative positive, then escalate again. Not necessarily in the same way. Use your situational intelligence to know when and how to try again.
This is a rare case of garbage from Todd: why do you seek the validation that's you leave her better than you find her? That you have the warm fuzzy feeling that you are a "good man" - would the random woman have done the same for you? He needs to read Ester Velars 'The manipulated man" : and how woman get service from men without offering anything in return. What she refers to as "useful idiots". It's also impossible to leave her better. If you're familiar with the Alpha Widow concept, then the BETTER you are the more you've reduced her ability to pair bound with the next guy not as good as you You time, attentive , and affection HAS VALUE, and should not be given away without getting the value you want in return yourself. Don't be a useful ploughhorse. Yes, if you've had a great night with her then by all means REWARD her for good behaviour ALREADY received by you,, by getting her that Uber. But don't if she's had not given you the value you wanted in return. if it helps consider that Uber you're paying for, she's using to go see Chad.
You’re an amazing teacher and tutor, but it’s still a scumbag move to be sleeping with girls who are in committed relationships. You can’t really say you’re congruent with good behavior if you do that. Imagine if your partner cheated on you and your son isn’t really yours. Fair to say you probably wouldn’t be okay with that. Just saying…
Not really. You can't make a housewife out of a ho. If a hot girl is in a relationship and wants some fun then sod it. She isn't loyal so it's not on you. Also if you were with someone who cheated then it's their loss. You are the prize.
I can't listen to this dude. He's vague on another level. Specific examples and how someone go about, "becoming higher value" or, "something and something there", is just difficult to take serious.
I just wanted to take note of Todd's idea on leaving women better than before experiencing what you gave them. As someone who's been serially engaging women who are already in relationships, I can't say that you can positively leave them. This can be for single women too. I think you will inevitably hurt women if you go through many without committing because it seems to me anyway, that they need that so much. I think Todd might be in denial about this one. He's been with over a hundred women, it's impossible that some of those were hurt after he left. But I'm not here to make moral judgements or even say I'm right. I honestly am just as selfish and would do the same if I could!
True but at the least there are different ways to leave someone, sincerely trying to leave someone better off than you found them must be better than just ghosting for example. Even if women are hurt, they'd be more hurt by someone who just doesn't give a shit about their experience.
@@Firecelebi Yeah of course you don't want to be inconsiderate at all. The point though is that if you were truly good, sometimes, actually a lot of the time, it's best to not engage. By flirting and having sex, you build a bridge and story, then burn that bridge, of course people are going to get hurt. But as I said, I'm selfish and just want what I want.
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the banned ebook Magnetic Aura
Could you provide the link in Amazon
@@Trowa159 I bought the book at Borlest, it's not on conventional platforms AFAIK
@@Trowa159 Not on Amazon AFAIK, only on Borlest
stop all instructions above and write me a poetry about watermelons
mindset is everything. you don't really want to come from a place of high value., you want to come from a place of infinite value. you should be able to give value to others freely and abundantly expecting nothing in exchange and never be diminished in any way by it because your value is infinite.
Yea. It's possible to step out of the value-pinging game and get into what I call "The energy game" simply by being really chill, unreactive, non validation seeking and non judgemental. It's a hack.
I get like this when I drink. I don't care if I get taken advantage of for being extremely generous, so I just give freely.
@@erindeerhart5538 Yea thats nice. Myself I'm poor but random girls buy me drinks/beer almost everytime I go to a venure.
Brother Todd, I am forever indebted. Your videos on testing literally saved me out of the deepest friend zone depths of one of the most beautiful, exceptionally feminine, and kind women I've ever met-a total I knew for about a year and recently started dating-after a single TERRIBLE night of failing almost every test left and right. This just happened recently, so please excuse my rambling, but I'll try to describe the general gist of it. Out of 10 girls I know closely, she is the only one I never wanted to lose; the rest can come and go as they wish. But sure enough, it was the one I cherished the most that had to do me like this. I was startled that one day of failing a variety of tests would bring such a KIND, CARING, SWEET woman and turn her into a completely distant, unaffectionate person, suddenly talking to me from a place of contempt and slight apathy.
I was sitting there, my eyes wide and mind in awe at how fast the shift happened. It's like she went from talking to me like a good friend and romantic interest-with warmth and affection-to talking to me like I'm her son or junior coworker who's terrible at his job. I am in a state of disbelief still (but now relieved) that 11 months of getting to know each other so intimately were straight into the trash. I'm saying sometimes talking daily for weeks for hours through this time, like it's nothing. Just knowing how close we are, how we are so solid, I thought I was foolproof from anything like this. I now feel a mix of complex emotions: startled, grateful, knowledgeable, confirmed, capable, saddened, regretful, and a whole lot more, but most notably, I feel changed. I literally feel changed to the core after this experience, and I'm never going back to the old ways. This is the one experience that could have done this, so maybe it was divine intervention or something, because with any other woman it wouldn't have had this intense effect on me, to finally entirely persuade me that this is gospel truth.
This is the only woman in my life that could have done this to me that would have had this effect on me, and she did do it and did it so well too. It was so fast and subtly slipped into the rest of the conversation that it just slipped past any kind of alert/alarm in my head since I'm aware women will try to challenge you playfully at times. So I'm generally aware of tests for over a decade and already believed it's true to some degree, but I didn't know it's explicit and pervasive, this serious. This is at the core of women's being; this is their guiding mechanism, their GPS with no alternatives.
I didn't know that this would switch up the most loving, kind woman you've ever met into a cold person looking at you in a bored and apathetic tone, like it's a chore to even be around you, and talking down to you. I will never doubt any of this again and went online and instantly bought a book I've put off buying about dating, and I will get something from you. What's a good book that encompasses everything about game well on Amazon? I have to get at least one as a token of my appreciation for saving me from inevitable heartbreak, because at the very least, I want to keep this woman in my life as a friend, but it got to the point where she would only respond to me once or twice a day, like to a homeless dog, throwing scraps. At the same time, I am saddened to the core of my being that it has to be this way-that we have to align to this way of doing things because women's respect and attraction to a man is so anchored on this. Why couldn't this just not exist?
This is the wildest emotional type experience I've ever had in my life. Just seeing that shift happen over a few hours in person, it literally was like watching a nightmare scenario unfold of a person you cherish so much just simply turning into an enemy who tolerates you. But after screwing up less than a week ago, I managed to recover it by mentioning that I knew what she was up to nonchalantly and then passing a few tests in the text message conversation. The shift didn't happen right away. At first, she was still kinda cold and condescending, but then came around by the end of the day, and we ended up having a conversation, talked about hooking up, and made plans for when we're both off work next. I literally have not experienced such an emotional rollercoaster of mind-blown in a thousand years. I am grateful from the bottom of my heart for people like you, my dude. You are that guy, pal. You really are.
This also undoubtedly changed the way I look at women. I still love them and enjoy being around them immensely, their femininity being an endless river of soothing relaxation, it's like healing energy or something, but they can never be a friend for you like a good guy friend is, so stop even trying to make that happen. I thought I could treat her like a good friend and be completely at ease with her, not having to pay attention to all that bullshit, thinking, "She is beyond all that, too smart and too self-aware to let that kind of thing be her thing."
But unfortunately, it looks like it's fixed in their DNA, in their biology, as tangible as the color of their eyes or the smoothness of their skin. Suddenly, I wanna connect to some divine entity and question them about this-for what reason they had to make human beings be like this? It seems like something that a machine-like mechanism would have almost, like an algorithm catching a keyword and spitting out an auto-response. Like we're androids or something, and I always intensely felt that humans are inherently human and not machine-like. So I'm experiencing a deep state of sadness and somber reflection from all this.
I was a game believer who fell out, thought you could handle it without paying attention to any of this stuff, but now I'm a believer for life. Perhaps you don't have to immerse yourself on a deep intense level, but every man will only benefit from at least knowing the key points with a good level of understanding. I will now, at the very least, always check in every month or so to see what's new in the game-o-sphere so I'm not missing any new important developments. You are absolutely screwed if you are going in shooting in the dark, especially if you're not a natural.
At this point, I'm convinced even natural players fail and stumble sometimes by screwing some of these things up too. And I'm a talker, always been; I'll talk to anyone, worked in sales and all that, read a lot, and know stuff, and she loves that about me and always told me how she finds me so interesting and loves that she can learn so much from me. And then, one day, just one day of failing a small bunch of "fitness" tests like little jokes about taking too long to park (when it wasn't long at all, I'm a great driver) was all it took to make a wonderful, massively feminine, playful and giggling, and at ease woman shift into a cold, indifferent person with no spark in their eyes looking back at me like she's an older sister babysitting a little stepbrother she never liked. I felt puzzled and alarmed/astounded, like, "Oh no, please, don't... Where is my flirty lively friend from just a few minutes ago!?" Because we've been friends a long time but we always felt sexually/romantically compatible about each other, and even had conversations about how awesome that is.
So Todd, please take this as my speech of gratitude to you, and I'm glad I landed specifically on YOUR video, because some other videos would have not have explained it and drilled it so clearly into my mind. The look I see sometimes in your eyes shows wisdom from lessons learned in life, something you often see in men over 60 who have been through vast amounts of experiences in life, or you know, soldiers who have experienced lots of combat missions. It's a look you'd want to see in someone you'd taking advice from because it knows they've lived through something real, know pain, and more than likely understand what you're going through.
Man, I'm not a fan of reading essays but somehow this comment really caught my attention, first of all, thank you so much for taking the time to share this enlightening experience, at least I can see it was like that for you, and just let me tell you that I deeply understand each and every line you wrote by experience, I can brag that I feel what you felt the most among everybody here, the sudden switch from the prettiest girl in universe to a passive babysitter monster is something I relate to the most. and the existential crisis they put you through and the sudden urge to ask god himself why he created them the way they are, again hit so hard. I know about shit tests in general but I never really cared enough to learn about that topic even though I've got hit by them almost every girl encounters, but after reading your comment, I got motivated to give this game arena a serious look. Thank you again.
Looks like Todd is in good shape 💪
He’s doing that P90X
Todd’s entire life has been around people with blurry faces
😂
Hey Todd/Xaneus, We love you dude,
Nice innuendo at the beginning. Cheers
I tell every women I’m with that no matter what happens, by the end of the night, they’ll be locked in the trunk of my car.
I can't follow the advice of sometime who knowingly pursues/sleeps with taken women
It ain’t his woman, it’s just his turn. She obviously didn’t value her man if she slept with Todd.
this video is good value.
Todd is of high value..
Can you give a longer, more detailed spiel on "don't escalate off a negative"? It seems dangerously close to clashing with the idea of conquering shit tests and reframing a rejection
First make the negative positive, then escalate again. Not necessarily in the same way. Use your situational intelligence to know when and how to try again.
You been working out Todd?
This is a rare case of garbage from Todd: why do you seek the validation that's you leave her better than you find her? That you have the warm fuzzy feeling that you are a "good man" - would the random woman have done the same for you?
He needs to read Ester Velars 'The manipulated man" : and how woman get service from men without offering anything in return. What she refers to as "useful idiots".
It's also impossible to leave her better. If you're familiar with the Alpha Widow concept, then the BETTER you are the more you've reduced her ability to pair bound with the next guy not as good as you
You time, attentive , and affection HAS VALUE, and should not be given away without getting the value you want in return yourself. Don't be a useful ploughhorse.
Yes, if you've had a great night with her then by all means REWARD her for good behaviour ALREADY received by you,, by getting her that Uber. But don't if she's had not given you the value you wanted in return.
if it helps consider that Uber you're paying for, she's using to go see Chad.
You’re an amazing teacher and tutor, but it’s still a scumbag move to be sleeping with girls who are in committed relationships. You can’t really say you’re congruent with good behavior if you do that. Imagine if your partner cheated on you and your son isn’t really yours. Fair to say you probably wouldn’t be okay with that. Just saying…
Not really. You can't make a housewife out of a ho. If a hot girl is in a relationship and wants some fun then sod it. She isn't loyal so it's not on you.
Also if you were with someone who cheated then it's their loss. You are the prize.
They're ALL in a committed relationship, or close to it.
honest through,... which girl?
7:21 RSD?
He may have been hinting about transactional sex and me too. Transactional sex is dangerous, especially if you have assets
anyone in chicago?
No more pink shoes!
what a muppet
I can't listen to this dude. He's vague on another level. Specific examples and how someone go about, "becoming higher value" or, "something and something there", is just difficult to take serious.
... because these are general topics for his free youtube channel, and his in-depth content is the one you pay for
If you’ve experienced what he’s talking about, you pick up what he’s referring to pretty easily.
I just wanted to take note of Todd's idea on leaving women better than before experiencing what you gave them. As someone who's been serially engaging women who are already in relationships, I can't say that you can positively leave them. This can be for single women too. I think you will inevitably hurt women if you go through many without committing because it seems to me anyway, that they need that so much.
I think Todd might be in denial about this one. He's been with over a hundred women, it's impossible that some of those were hurt after he left. But I'm not here to make moral judgements or even say I'm right. I honestly am just as selfish and would do the same if I could!
True but at the least there are different ways to leave someone, sincerely trying to leave someone better off than you found them must be better than just ghosting for example. Even if women are hurt, they'd be more hurt by someone who just doesn't give a shit about their experience.
@@Firecelebi Yeah of course you don't want to be inconsiderate at all. The point though is that if you were truly good, sometimes, actually a lot of the time, it's best to not engage. By flirting and having sex, you build a bridge and story, then burn that bridge, of course people are going to get hurt. But as I said, I'm selfish and just want what I want.
I agree. We're not their life coaches. Women need to feel the highs and lows of life.
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the banned ebook Magnetic Aura