What Does ADHD Actually Look Like For Women?
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- Опубліковано 23 лют 2019
- I don't believe that ADHD is a disorder. I believe that it's a different brain wiring, a brain that's wired for interest. Sure there are some pesky symptoms but there are also some incredible gifts. If you'd like to watch the entire video, join us in our Facebook group, ADHD for Smart Ass Women. / 1541724249266515
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You might have ADHD if you had to rewind and replay the list of symptoms countless times in order to keep count of how many you symptoms you have 🤦♀️😂
😂😂😂 that took so much concetration omg
Lol I think I forgot to count or got bored of counting because I dint keep track.
I had to write it down in my phone notes to keep track cause i tried like 3 times with my hands and i just couldn’t 😂
I got distracted with my phone while WatchKit the vídeo somewhere else in the middle of the count 🤡😂 but I still am not diagnosed
I thought about trying to keep track, rewinded multiple times to try to count first, and then got distracted before I could write down how many. (Does anyone else hate the 20min video thing on youtube? This is why I mostly watch shorts now.) Also watched it twice before my husband sped it up to 1.5 so he could listen to it ONE time... I stopped and had to rewind 3 times during his viewing. Hes convinced we are evolved humans in a world run by the non-evolved. 😶🌫
About keeping secrets: people always could trust me, I never told their secrets to anyone because I forgot what they just told me in, like, a few minutes after our conversation. I remember how in 4th grade one girl asked me "Won't you tell anyone?" and I was like "Bitch I won't even remember that we had this conversation as soon as I get out of school."
That’s me too, I am guaranteed to forget!
Yup. Also, I probably never really knew the name of the person who told me in the first place...
YES! 100%
Samesies 😅
True😂😂😂
"And ok, this is the big one: Do you look younger than your age?" I would love to hear why you stressed this one... never heard it before but I've always passed for ten years younger. At 66, I still pass easily in my 50s and occasionally late 40s.
1. exercise (always on the move)
2. young at heart
I’m 50 and only recently realised I’m adhd - I thought it was just my personality. I finally stopped buying planners 😂
I’m trying the bullet journal system and not following it by the instructions per se, pairing it with the app Habitica, again not perfectly, but it is helping, somewhat.
When she said that about buying the planners, I looked around my workspace and counted 7 planners and notebooks.
I’m 22 and I thought the same thing! (*^▽^*)
Yep. My doctor brought up ADD last year when I went to ask for advice because I get sooo fuzzy and fractured in the winter. Weird to find out at midlife that, oh by the way that’s why certain aspects of life have...inhaled with great vigor...when you were younger. I stopped planners years ago, but I’m still looking for a housekeeping methodology (other than Merry Maids) that lets me do something besides triage...
I stopped buying them as well!!! I’m a mom of 3 and omg it’s been so stressful! I just got diagnosed and I’ll be 30 this year. Medication has changed my life and my kids lives!!
I watch videos like these to affirm my diagnosis, since it still feels like I’ve somehow convinced my doctor I have ADHD to cover up my laziness.
But I identify with about 75% of your examples. Also, I’m currently watching this video at almost 1 am after procrastinating the entire day because I couldn’t decide which of several tasks I needed to do first and sort of... stalled out...
Edit: oh my god, hating exercise but it making me feel better is SUCH a mood
Oh my god. This. I keep booking and cancelling drs in fear im making it all up. X
@@rebellious_since_86 I feel this comments so bad!!
I just got my diagnosis of ADHD at 48, and I feel this so much. I've lived with this chronic feeling of not-being-good-enough-what's-wrong-with-me for so long that even when I know I have this, I still feel like I'm making an excuse, or like "Maybe I fooled her (my doc)".
Even though I was deeply honest, even though we went over all the symptoms, even though I can't take medication because it literally put me to sleep (I mean, if that's not a confirmation, I don't know what is 😂), there's still this impostor syndrome going on.
I think it's gonna take some time to settle in, accept and know it's ok, and finally relax that no, I'm not lazy, there's nothing wrong with me - I just think a little different.
I feel this so much 👋🏽
I felt this comment so much! And ughh I hate that exercise is so good... :(
Me rewinding the video multiple times because I was distracted by reading the comments 🤦🏻♀️ my life in a nutshell. 🤣 I got diagnosed when I was 17 years old, I am now 26 and I’m finally starting to accept this is me! I get bored so easily, love to be on the go! My mind is always thinking about so many things at once, which makes it so hard to focus on one thing. I’m hyper sensitive, have major fears of rejection, & impulsive. I have the skill to space out while in a full conversation when the topic begins to not interest me. 😅When I talk I switch from subject to subject and then after circling around I go back to what I was originally talking about or forget 🤣I’m spontaneous and never use to plan but hey? This is me 🙏🏼 I will always have to try to work best with my disorder because the struggle is REAL, I think the first step is acceptance 🙏🏼 We will all get through 🙏🏼😘
hi!! can i ask how it was like getting diagnosed at 17? im 18 and thinking of getting a diagnosis!!
I personnally am tired of this my ADHD is a superpower rethoric. I can't move forward because of it. I'm litterally stuck at 26 and I've exhausted all my motivation to hold on. How is that a superpower? This is toxic positivity, lets be more nuanced than pathology/superpower.
Never said it was a superpower, ever. This is not toxic positivity. For every weakness there is an opposing strength. Stop trying to shore up your weaknesses. Focus on your strengths. Positive emotion is the key to getting anything done with ADHD. When you feel good, you move things forward. When you don’t you stay exactly where you are. This is how our ADHD brains work. It’s all about the dopamine.
@@tracyotsuka4796 I’m slightly confused, as you say at :35 that you like to think of it as your superpower. Can you please explain what you meant, as I don’t want to misunderstand your message.
Thank you for the video, I recently put two and two together and realized I have both types of ADHD, and as menopause approaches, it’s getting so much worse. Videos like this gives me hope that one day I’ll fold my laundry and be on time for the first time in my life…once I find my keys, phone, and glasses 😉.
I said yes to all the symptoms, except for a whole 5 of them; I now wonder, while laying in bed trying to sleep, but my brain won’t stop, who or what I would’ve been had I know decades earlier…I feel a wee bit slighted.
@@tracyotsuka4796 at 0:35 you say, "I choose to believe that my ADHD is a superpower." So you have said it.
@@kmh997 she says she sees HER OWN ADHD as a superpower. That is a personal conclusion she has made about her own experiences. That doesn’t mean she sees it as a superpower for everyone else. You can come to a “positive” conclusion about something you have while knowing it may be imperative for others.
omg its so funny because people dont talk about how women internalize hyperactivity, but then we get talking and suddenly we're super animated and crazy engaged/engaging. i see that in you, and i see it in myself and my friends. i would get yelled at as a kid for being too loud or too animated or needing to be doing something else during a (grade school) lecture. and even though I don't have hyperactivity in the physical sense of needing to get up and do stuff, i have a ton of fidget toys because i need to be doing something with my hands while thinking (doodling while taking notes too)
also you're so pretty!! i love your aesthetic
I will be given an personality assessment in December. My grandchild has been diagnosed with autism and various executive dysfunctions, plus adhd. Since many of her symptoms are like my own, I decided to check things out, as the current pandemic has brought home to me many of my so-called “negative” behaviors. E.g. - tidying my house is challenging, because I require things to be where I can see them, or I’ll forget to do them. Also, cleaning is not one of my favorite things to do. I knit, so my “fidgety” nature is taking up by that, and can almost go into a meditative state. So, autism, adhd, or ????, I guess I’ll find out. Hopefully, there will be some help I can access to make my life better.
Blessings!
I think boys express things outwardly, whereas girls express it inwardly. I think that’s why girls are less diagnosed. I am the same way with needing to fidget and talking too much/ too loud.
I’m totally for being positive in our diagnoses, however, calling it a superpower can get dangerous for a few reasons:
1. It takes away from the struggles we face as a neuro-divergent population.
2. It gives the impression that we don’t need accommodations and we are doing just fine, if not better off, than the neuro-typical folks.
3. As a result of my first 2 points, people turn a blind eye to us, funding becomes limited, and awareness & research suffers.
4. People start thinking we are these illusive hyper-focus machines that can do so much even though that’s not always the case and oftentimes the opposite.
I think there’s a lot of fear of inadequacy we get when we receive or diagnosis because the world we live in wasn’t really made for us. On top of that, there’s a lot of pre-existing stigma around ADHD that causes us to push back and tell everyone that “it’s all a misunderstanding” and “actually, we’re super smart (yes, we are smart) and have superpowers - but we’re just different”. Like mentioned in my previous points, this can backfire because if people do listen, we create unrealistic expectations of ourselves from the the people that have listened - which makes things even more difficult for us because now they expect some hero to appear who can hyper focus for hours with no distractions when really, the reality is, hyper focus is very subjective and there are a boatload of other challenges that (can) counteract that benefit.
What I would personally love to see is a shift in perspective from the current views of ADHD such as “it’s not real” or the thought that we “aren’t employable”, are “lazy”, or don’t “try hard enough”. Instead, I would like for people to see the reality that we have major struggles but we also have strengths that really benefit our society, so long as we play to them correctly.
I agree that certain traits we have can be superpowers but they can be easily stifled if we don’t get the help we need in the areas we struggle. Being vulnerable and brave, explaining where we fall short, while also recognizing our “superpowers” will help to better navigate this neuro-typical world we live in and help people understand our dilemma in the process.
Right?? Like, if you need a Hallowe'en costume designed and produced by someone who will work on it every waking moment, forgetting to eat, and staying up each night until their eyes are crossing and they literally can't see what they're doing anymore, then I am your person!!
If you want the house cleaned, though... Well, I can sweep if it gets bad enough to be visually annoying, or irritating to walk on, and there will be a noticeable difference afterwards, because then that can trigger my dopamine levels from doing it (as well as the irritation finally spurring me to do it and getting me over that motivation hump). But if you want it mopped? :/ Yeah... probably best if you just do it yourself. If you want me to do it, the best thing you can do is to get it all set up and start in on it yourself, and just ask me to help out. Once the OCD/hyperfixation/perfectionism kicks in we're probably good, but whatever you do, *DON'T* pull me away from it until it's done because I will never, *ever* manage to get back to it. Because then the distractions will kick in again.
Sigh...
@@KryssLaBryn totally the same
This is so true and so well said. Thank you for being this voice in the conversation!
This video was incredibly helpful. I’m in the middle of getting a diagnosis and I’m going to be 30 this year. Thank you for doing this.
This is the best video I have seen about the real "symptoms", I can relate to every single thing you said, and I wish we had more experts to understand this! I was diagnosed with ADHD online, when to an Psychiatrist who said nope you have anxiety here is your drug. Then i had to research better for professionals experts in the area and yes its not just anxiety. I didn’t feel heard.
Same!! I literally had to beg to wean off. When I went again after a year, got pregnant. She was like do you need medication? And Iam like no lady I have ADHD!!!
That's the reason I haven't gotten help for this yet. Most doctors/psychiatrist are old school and aren't up to date on these issues and just pencil push mess more than listen to the actual patient and our problems. They mis diagnose. It's so frustrating going through what you went though and I'm sorry you are a victim to the flawed process in miss diagnosing patients. Thank you for sharing your story.
OMG. Like listening to a verbal mirror
I don't feel heard at all with the medical profession, so far.
Yes!! I was told I have ADHD but to also get checked for anxiety !! I’m like all the list of ADHD problems are what give me anxiety 😥
Oh. My. God. No wonder my son has adhd. Both his parents have it 🤦♀️ I never thought I had it because I did well with school work and I seem organized. But my brain feels like a tornado gone through a filing cabinet and I can't turn it off. And I hear everything you're saying and it's like ✅✅✅✅✅shit. Lol
I've been researching adhd to help my son. The more I research, the more I find myself. This video clinches it. I feel like you just held up a mirror in front of my face.
*Hope you can use some Compliments cuz here they come ^ ^*
Girl~ you just _own it_ in your ability to rock those Red~framed glasses! (it sure takes a very certain type to pull that off, yaKnow?) ~Paired with your lipstick color being a _just right darker than shade_ looks great:D ~and your Hair Style And color* perfectly frames your face. ^ ^*
Oh jeez I need to talk to my doctor about this lol. Adhd runs in my family but i was never assessed for it (probably because I’m introverted and got good grades). I do feel strong resonation with almost all of these things and there are certain parts that just feel so maladaptive and cause interpersonal stress. Thank you for breaking this down in application.
Thank you for presenting this in a manner that represents ADHD as a personality type, not a personality disorder. There are so many benefits to having ADHD that I wouldn’t wish mine away if I could. The key is managing the symptoms in order to leverage the positive aspects of the condition. If more people saw it this way, perhaps diagnosing and treating ADHD would be more readily acceptable, leading to a better quality of life for many.
My son at 18 recognises the positives. But he is insightful for his age.
I'm a champion at procrastinating! My sis bought me a little plaque that says: "I have not even begun to procrastinate". I find that so counteractive to my life along with inattentiveness, being painfully introverted, self-image problems, was very hard to make friends when I was in school. I read books I liked when in study hall, not doing my homework instead. And on and on it went and still does. I haven't changed. I'm still one of the best procrastinators around, among other things. Frustrating!
I think for ADHD it’s _chronic._
I’ve tried many diets. Keto helps most. However, who can say no to carbs?? Especially around X-mas. Yummm!!
There is not a single thing i did not relate to 😭😭
My Doctor screened me and thinks i’m severely depressed and that it could be situational .. she prescribed me Bupropion HCL XL same day and referred me to a Neurologist because i explained to her im concerned about me having ADHD .. something isn’t sitting right with me so i took the initiative to go see a Psychiatrist/ Therapist next Monday .. i’ll keep y’all updated 😭😂
How did it go?
this was so helpful and deeply relatable!
Oh my god, I recognize so much of this, thank you!
Loved knowing myself😊 Thanks a lot for the upload.
Universe smacked me in the face right now !! Thank you! Im gonna watch this over and over again.
FANTASTIC video! Thank you so much
You marked almost every point of my daily struggles. _Thank you!_ 🙏
Thank you for posting this! You concisely outline numerous examples while providing helpful commentary that a multitude of other videos on this same topic leave out.
You have described me so well!
I nearly qualified for almost every single one. There were maybe 3 or 4 things I didn’t match with. And yeah. I had my daughter a year ago and it has hit me hard, but looking back it was always there. Thank you so much for sharing. This was so very helpful to have the words to use as a guide.
Spot on , but when I am overwhelmed it's really hard, but thank you for this video it is very helpful 😊
Wow. You described me so well. I just set an alarm to call my doctors office, I knew something has been off with me. Thank you for this video.
I’ve come over from the Facebook group and pod cast and I love your work. You should keep going on UA-cam. It’s nice to put a visual to your voice!
I can't tell you how helpful this video was :')
Love your video. I feel a connection to many of these things and believe i have ADHD. My middle child definitely does but doesn’t need medication for it. I’m depressed without my stimuli. It’s a long story but I hit a deer and went off an embankment in heavy fog. I broke my neck & back, ending up with a massive spinal fusion. I was a firefighter before the accident and losing my physical ability to continue on serving my community about killed me. I started my own weather advisory thing for my county to be able to serve in my own way. It’s been helpful but I have all these plans and ideas to grow it to benefit so many people! It keeps me motivated and yes I’m a mom. I’m juggling a lot right now caring for my elderly parents and my children. It’s stressful because the thought of losing a loved one crushes me to the point of immobilizing anxiety and fear. It’s like I’m distracted by other thoughts like no I need to go do more storm research and prepare for our storm season... it’s my way of coping with everything. I’m also a musician lol I had a multi branch business prior to my accident and did best multi tasking and now as a stay at home mom I find myself uncomfortable with accepting this is all I’ll be.. yes it’s great being a mother and is the best part of my life! But I can’t sit down.. I’m always doing things. I know something is up with me, I talk A LOT.. all the time. I type like I speak.. detailed. Ahhhh I related to many of the things you mentioned. Thank you for such a wonderful video and thank you for your positive vibes! XOXO -Tessy
wow. I am so glad I found this video, was recently diagnosed this year at the age of 27 and I'm having a rough time dealing with it. The pandemic definitely put my symptoms under a microscope
Thank you for this video 🤍
Cried watching this, just my whole personality. I wasn't sure but now how can I not be
I'm glad I found this video. I was diagnosed with ADHD inattentive type when I was 13 and my mom and I kind of shrugged it off and that was the end of that. Just thought I had severe depression and never gave adhd another thought. I struggled all through the rest of grade school, and after graduating I felt so much better. Never went to college and worked easy jobs...so less responsibility and less to think about and do. 8 years ago I became a mother (I have three kids now) and I have been struggling so so much this whole time. Instead of getting help like an adult, I just hoped it would eventually go away again and I'd feel better. Never happened, and not long ago I came accross a video on adhd and realized it was all me to a T. This video was more in depth and I'm glad it mentioned the part about losing it after becoming a mother. Now to get help which is what my family deserves.
I truly enjoyed this video. You just described about 99% of what I am experiencing. I did not have these issues to the severity that I now have after a head trauma. I want to learn to manage this. It is so difficult when no one around you can see a “visible” injury and dismiss the tornado inside. Thanks for this video.
Your glasses are 🔥.
You described me completely. I’m everything you said.
Omg!! I just got diagnosed and this made me cry! I always knew something about me was different and I had such a hard childhood for being so dang talkative and girls never wanted to be my friend because I would forget their birthdays or invites and it was hard for me to listen or let them talk. I never paid attention in school and always forgot I had homework but still passed somehow. I feel like now I understand that there’s nothing wrong with me I am just different and I can’t believe there’s a whole group of people that have experienced life similar to me and my struggles 💕
Wow! So many of these resonates with me. I just got diagnosed yesterday at the age of 40. So many things that felt "normal" to me were signs that I missed. Heck, I have a Master's degree in counseling and could see ADHD in everyone but MYSELF. Geaux figure.
Wow. This was very helpful. I have an appointment next week to get an assessment. I relate to nearly all the symptoms, but so many others with ADHD experience not being able to keep a tidy home. I thought that maybe I didn’t have it, because I am constantly cleaning and organizing my home! So hearing your experience made me reconsider I feel that if my surroundings aren’t tidy, I can’t do anything else on my to do list. It gives me so much anxiety. Anyway, thank you for this!
Just realizing at 61 I have had ADHD all my life. This came as a shock to myself, but not a shock to anyone close to me. They thought I already knew. I am still coming to terms with it and researching everything I can, including two books you mentioned. I am addressing anxiety and depression that has reared its ugly head over the past few months. Right now I am trying to address it naturally as I don’t have health care and am (at this time) a “low earner” compared to my potential ... another ADHD trait. Thank you for the video it will be another addition to my research arsenal.
I'm a brand new subscriber watching from London UK. I was diagnosed with Adult ADHD Combined last year. ❤
Omg this is my life! Thank u!!
Wow you just described my entire personality. Between being an introvert, nerdy, and getting good grades I never even considered ADHD - but everything fits. The high risk tolerance, constant need for change, and executive dysfunction are things I never though went together.
Wording is very important. Hearing varied examples and synonyms for symptoms has been extremely helpful for me. I don't know if I have ADHD or not yet, but I only started to consider it when a range of hyperactivity was described instead of the stereotypical inability to sit still, fidgeting, and staying busy. Your examples of many ways symptoms can manifest for women is very helpful. Thank you!
Bloody love this....and yes to almost everything ❤️
My goodness I have every single one of those symptoms not one was missed out but I've never been diagnosed, I'm an intuitive Tarot reader and I'm kinda realising somehow if it weren't for my ADHDness I wouldn't be as intuitive and I wouldn't be able to read Tarot, I've always made most of my decisions in life based of intuition rather than logic too.. Almost all of my reports cards as a kid had 'she tends to daydream too much' from most of the teachers in classes which were of no interest to me but I would excel in subjects that I love and that felt natural to me.. And naturally as a kid my secret ambition was to become a psychic (even though at the time everyone around me told me there was no such thing, 'it's the stuff of fiction and fairytales') and now I am one and it's all thanks to my 'ADHDness' ✨🕊😊🙏🏽
Thank you for this video and sharing these messages! 🕊🤍
This video was very insightful for me as I am about to get a diagnosis. But just from reading about it I definitely have the combination adhd. Also I have always done this since I was a kid, where I don’t look at people in the eyes when I am talking to them or when they are talking to me unless I find what they are saying fascinating.
women with adhd get overlooked and accused of other issues like bipolar or bpd or just depression or anxiety
SO MANY OF THESE!! Only a few months ago I learned adhd was not just the noisy boy in the classroom - or my best girl friend who always lost her own and other's belongings.. My never ending frustration and inner un-ease, and countless crashes because I always go all in and never am able to rest or fins a middle ground... I never knew that was hyperactivity. I thought I was just "taking responsibility for my life". Here I am at 46 , have had my first assessment with a psychiatrist, and he had no doubt. Continuing my process tomorrow, and of course digging deep into this new topic of interest! Can't say I'm not disappointed about not being discovered through all my chrashes and illnesses, but ok. New journey ahead!
Wow! You are a blessing 🙏 this is 90% me! I’m 45 and finally someone put words to what I experience on a daily basis,,, have since my early teens and hit many brick walls on my journey through life - still getting up and dusting off ready for the next challenge even if some of my scars are pretty deep.
I feel you!! I am also 45 and it seems like I keep having to start over and try again, like I can never quite get my life on track or move towards the things that I really want to do. Hang in there!! Sending you love and positive vibes💜
Omg you are SO adorable. I laughed a lot during this video because I related to EVERYTHING in this.
I was fortunate to have been diagnosed at about 7, although everyone knew in first grade. That being said, I tried to ignore it and pretend I didn't have it and have really only been owning it over the last few years.
I sometimes make snap decisions, but then there are other times it takes me forever! It's hard to plan ahead and sometimes getting started on things is difficult. I drive my co-teacher nuts because I hardly ever just work on a single thing at a time when we have an opportunity to plan/prep!
Omg!!!! I’m a 56 3/4 year old nurse and just starting my path to a formal diagnosis of ADHD. But I had to stop your video @ 8:36 because I literally gasped and yelled out loud (scared the dog) because I have never ever heard of anyone else besides myself that had two bank accounts and when I had screwed up one I would start using the other account and let the screwed up account sit for several months and let it work itself out. I am sure I’m not the only person to say thank you for this information.
This gave me so much hope and I finally feel understood (23 y/o and just now realizing my brain might be working against me and I’m trying to figure it out).
thank you SO much for this! I feel like I finally understand myself after watching these kinds of videos highlighting how ADHD can present in women, and man do I have nearly every single symptom and went undiagnosed for years
Just diagnosed at age 40
I've recently been diagnosed with ADHD by a psychiatrist, after my son was diagnosed. This is literally me in a nutshell. I thought everyone was like this, even though I've always felt something was a little different about me. Thank you for talking fast enough and leaving out all the "extras", I can't stand it when people talk too slowly, haha!
Oh my gosh, I have been struggling for my whole life believing i was just stupid. I cried watching this, now I know, finally, what i've been struggling with for 34 years. I'm going to seek a diagnosis for myself and my son. Thank you so much
I'm so happy to have found you! I'm wondering what your source is for the long list of traits that you shared after 6 minutes? It's a great list and I'd love to read it as well as hear it from you! Thank you, Tracy.
Thank you for this information and I love your energy!! I’m in the midst of getting diagnosed (I am 45) and I literally said a resounding “yes” to 95% of your list. Also I’ve recently noticed that I find neuro typical people soooo boring!! And I agree that it is not a disorder but just a differently wired brain. When being able to just trudge along and repeat the same boring tasks over and over without going crazy is what’s considered “normal” or “healthy”, you’ve got to wonder about the sanity of this society as a whole including those making up these disorders. Not to say that the traits and characteristics are not real, on the contrary I know from personal experience that they are but I think they mostly are difficult because we live in a society based on those who are mostly asleep, satisfied with staying put and never evolving. It is thanks to people like us that this world has ever evolved at all!! Here’s to the pioneers who are dissatisfied with the status quo!😁
God yes house chores are so boring
I had to pause the video to say I like your style. personal and decor. spot on. back to the video....
I had to pause it a couple times and re-watched most of it and took notes I'll likely lose but I laughed when you mentioned the careers. I'm transitioning out of the military and was planning to be an entrepreneur and film travel videos from the van I plan to live in. I was only diagnosed about 2 years ago at 46 after my therapist suggested it. It was already diagnosed in my family. I am really trying to focus on what are my special gifts and superpowers because of the way I am wired. I'm not so good at mitigating some of the downsides yet but I'm driving full speed at the good stuff.
OMG Thank you!!!
I can't read all the following compliments..yet, coz I remembered there's a jar of Nutella in the pantry...BRB..so.. it took only 60 years to realise I had suffered so so much at school, having had ADHD since I was about 5 yrs old. I'm turning 64 this year, so it's lucky I look & feel ten years younger than my age. I've been (now) finally able to forgive myself for all the things I was feeling guilty about doing when I was little. I love people & have never wanted to upset anybody, to the point of instead being harmed myself. It's a relief to be able to live a happier life. note: I first felt alerted by watching "Gabor Mate" videos on the subject.
Thank you for this video. Very helpful.
Tracy, you are truly a gift to the world. I’ve been listening to your podcast for years now and so grateful for your courage to step into the arena every day, even when you might not think you are, you remind me that I AM, just by listening to you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤
Thank you for such kind words. It's listeners like you who keep me going. Really appreciate you being part of this community for so long.
Cannot follow in sequence..looks at camera.." I like to feel my way through it".
I think I found my twin!! Lol. Diagnosed last year, and grateful for finding out.
8/9 omg thanks for the video really informative :)
Yup to all of these, very comprehensive list of symptoms for us women. Only thing you didn’t touch on was the emotional regulation problems
I'm a brand new subscriber to your channel watching from London UK 🇬🇧
Yes, that’s me! I feel better now. I didn’t know all of this but I was diagnosed about 5 years ago. I am 56. Much Love (I hate it when people don’t get to the point! My husband can go on about something for 15 minutes when he could have said it in 2. ) 😬
Most of this was totally my mom! She never got diagnosed unfortunately 😢 I’m thinking about seeking a diagnosis myself to help with my inattentive-ness at work 😬 Thank you for your input!
Every single thing you read and said ! Holy crap!
So relatable!!
Tracy Those traits that you listed off, that is so me, I have very strong intuition, and I have walked Into a room and know what's going on before anyone else did. I was with my hubby in court he was called in as a character witness, before Cort resumed, I walked Into the room and knew right off that hubby's friend would loose his case. I payed attention to the judge and jurors. During lunch break I told his lawyer that he was going to loose sure enough he did and spent five yrs in prison. ( he didn't stick with a contract and was bullied into doing something that he knew was wrong ) my hubby compares me to others saying thar he dosen't have problems getting along with co workers. And he know that I have adhd and is mean when he compares me to his friends or Co workers. I also have dyslexia too.
Check. Check. Check. Check. Check. Check. Check. Check. Check. *sigh* I was diagnosed as a pre-teen, finally was able to get medication at age 32. The first time I took the medicine, I took a nap, then woke up and went about my day....shortly into my day I cried with frustration/joy at how simple life was and how I really should have tried it sooner. School, work, LIFE...would have been much easier had I allowed myself the medication I needed. It was really nice to hear someone speak on this topic in such a positive light! I feel like you KNOW me-- when you started listing of the personality traits! :P
I'm struggling to find women like who who are HYPERACTIVE!!!! I'M 35 OMG I CAN'T STOP MOVING it becomes overwhelming.. It's frustrating because I feel like going thru life alone.. I'm combined type but I suffer more from hyperactivity
Hey there. I would consider myself hyperactive; always moving, always thinking. Exercise is a huge help for me all around. That and nature and intermittent fasting. Come over to our FB Group, ADHD for Smart Ass Women. There are more women like you. :) facebook.com/groups/1541724249266515/
Hey I’m a 27 year old female who is super talkative, I can’t keep still and I also can’t keep a job 🤪 started my own business recently. I feel you!!
I feel you, although I am the combined type. I learned to always have something to fidget with, often a hairband or bracelet on my wrist. I move my legs while sitting and am basically incapable of just sitting and watching a movie without doing something else in addition.
In my point of view, the problem with adhd is not the disorder it self, but the fact that previous generations didn't have a diagnosis. We where label, as lazy, narcissist, self centred, we felt like outsiders our whole life for no obvious reasons, feeling stupid and smart at the same time and most of as made so much poor decisions in our lives believing those crap and doubting our own existence. To much self distraction, depression, anxiety. and much more.. I personal developed autistic elements in order to cope. Anyway, I'm 37 i recently got the diagnosis and finally things made sense.
I hope that soon i΄ll be able to transform my disorder to superpower as you said, but until then there is so much work to be done to all those psychological crap i built up all those years.
Anyway, im glad for my diagnosis and nice to finally not filling an alien.
loved your energy
keep it up
xxx
P.S. i might feel bitter at the moment, but i agree that we have a natural gift to find our way in any problem in a very impressive way.
Dang, I just thought I was having memory problems at 54!! Thank you for these very classy video.
Thank you for sharing your research! I wonder what it looking younger would be contributed to.
I'm diagnosed a.d.h.d and this was informative for people wondering if they have a.d.h.d, The only symptom I think you may have left out is the lack of fear and putting yourself in dangerous or vulnerable positions! That would be all I'd add to this information 😉😁🤗
My dad was a school teacher and I think that helped me learn to manage better as a kid. Coming from a complex trauma family it was a way to get needs met if I did well in school. In the second grade it got harder and I would spend loads of time on homework and my mom would then criticize me and tell me you're a kid not a college student. Go outside and play. Thereafter I put in less effort, but dad also taught me to stop and logic through things. I always had to explain what I was thinking if I messed something up...
As an adult though it turns out to have helped me. On the job where we manufacture a cannabis pain topical the others get lost counting product, but I don't and can tell you where we're at and what numbers of each product we have without ever counting above ten.
It's not that memory is my strength. It's that I built the flats with rows of 10 x 15, so each layer stacked has 150. It's a system. How many batches of samples fit in a small box? 5, ok, that's 50 per small box. How many go in the big shipping box? 600. Great, so then 12 small boxes equals 600, all by finding to ten repeatedly.
My skills have helped their bottom line. I've figured out which boxes we can reuse for which products so we don't have a bunch of different sizes with different amounts. I cut out a boxing step that was wasting loads of time. I see solutions others don't.
Interestingly I noticed when the team is there working with me I can focus way better than the days I've worked alone where I can hardly stay in my chair. There are pluses and minuses to ADHD for sure.
Everything you mentioned I possess. I find it very hard to function and it makes me so angry. I’m looking for ways to cope and when I find recommendations that too becomes a challenge. I just watch a program on block scheduling which you block every minute out. If you find yourself getting off task you st a 10 minute alarm to remind you to get back to what you were doing. I’m going to give this a shot and pray it works.
Thank you for this video. It’s just nice to know I’m not crazy.
I hate exercise... because after the first few days (or sooner), it's boring. And because it never seems to give the results as fast as I want. (Patience may be a virtue, but it's not virtuous enough to stay with me, damnit!) But I loved the hands on work that can push the body just as much as those mind-numbing reps, and was always up or building sets or moving furniture (or building furniture [primative]) when I was a theater geek.
Of your examples, I identified with a frightening number, or have fought for work arounds out of necessity. The directions ones especially. My mom teases me how rarely I follow the directions for patterns. When in an artist's chat and the question comes up about "what about when you don't feel like working on something" and a dear friend says in essence to just keep pushing through it, I have had to fight not to have an appalled look on my face, because for me, that's a good way to freeze my projects altogether. And I could go on... (and have!)
I need to get off my butt and call the doctor tomorrow about testing. I was given an off-hand "diagnosis" by a non-professional when I was a kid... but it was in the '70s, so my mother was told I would "grow out of it".
I'm 53... I haven't grown out of it yet.
THANKS BABY ! U R AMAZING ♥️
I just got diagnosed with ADHD combined type at 30 yo. I’ve been so so driven and thought my combo diagnosis was wrong... because I don’t constantly move my body. But my mind is hyperactive and I have to have a sense of moving forward in my life.
I Google every single question that pops up in my head LOL if the moon looks a little bigger while i’m driving on the highway ill pull out my phone to Google what type of moon it is and even the spiritual meaning behind it 😂
WHILE YOURE DRIVING??? On your phone while YOU ARE DRIVING???
This is me too! Go in deep research on the most random things and become an expert. Ask me anything about that subject and you’ll think I wrote a paper on it 😂
@@pt2163 oh I do the same! And then I forget most of it when I dive into something else 😁
@@lijouxmusic yasssss lol lol
I answer yes to so many of these , but, after a lot I shouted "TOO MANY QUESTIONS!! 😅😅
directions and burst of energy / inspiration until it gets deflated because its not the unique, grandest idea. perfectionism. memory problem yes yes. at 32 I thought for a time I'm having dementia. I think I'm a fast learner though.
and jee you're glamorous... I want to be like you
I think the over active mind is so hard to express to neuro typicals that they do not come close to understanding what we saw about 5 seconds into a situation before they started talking. Its hard to be understood most of the time. This turns into why I love hanging out with my family and kids. We talk at the same pace. No long pauses to lose me in. This video articulated to me things that seem so obvious to me but I had no words for why I am so different than others without adhd. Maybe its time for a diagnosis 😉👍
Not a journalist working with the military. I joined the military. I didn't know the adventure-seeking was part of ADHD, but it makes sense. Now, even with PTSD, my inner world is rich with torment, including things I didn't know happened to me until I meditated.
For the first 9 I got 5. But after the first 9 I can relate to almost all of them!! And being an entrepreneur is my dream but I’m having a hard time getting started.
I first thought maybe I had adhd in college when I tried to get serious about my education but couldn’t pay attention in class or read or study without getting distracted, but I dismissed it. Now that I just had my second baby I’ve had a hard time adjusting, I’m trying to get a diagnosis.
i did NOT think these symptoms would call me out like this omg
Wow you just described me
I can’t afford to get diagnosed, when people try to help me I have to follow this advice immediately or forget everything. I’ve learned to just live with everything. I will never find my birth family because my mom gave me all the info one night when I wasn’t ready for it, it was all verbal, and now she doesn’t remember anything...
I will have to live with the fact that I’ll never get a diagnosis because I live in America and healthcare is hard to get for poor people with a working brain, and I’ll have to accept the fact that none of the perks you mentioned will ever apply to me. I never know what’s going on, I’m the clueless character and the punchline of everyone else’s sitcom. No one tells me much, often the people that do are the narcissistic ones that throw in soul crushing disdain of my ignorance...
I love your content. The only thing I can't get past is the choice of background music. Maybe it's my own ADHD brain but it's very distracting and reminds me of an inspirational infomercial or something like that. Other than that I love your aesthetic as well as your helpful content. I'm just trying to give you some honest feedback. It could just be the way the music is hitting my ear thru my headphones though, which are admittedly quite shitty.
Contact list? What’s that? 🤦🏽♀️
I’m definitely an idea machine, but none of the ideas ever come to life. 🤦🏽♀️
The depression after a success hit home. 🤦🏽♀️
This was extremely helpful and I’d love to know what advice you’d have for someone in their 40s who’d like to be diagnosed? Apparently I’ve struggled with this all my life up to this point and didn’t know it even though I read a multitude of books on mental health trying to figure out what was going on with my brain. How often would you say women are misdiagnosed as bipolar when they actually have adhd?Also any good books focused on women with it, aside from those mentioned in video? Thanks
Hi Tracy,
Could you please include the list of books you referenced in your video? I have some of them and would like to get the one written by the woman.Thanks!
I check off all of those things you list,... I'm waiting to get an appointment with a specialist but the wait list is MONTHS long :')