Dyna what you’re feeling is very normal. Even couples living together go through this phase. It’s called MARRIAGE. It’s not supposed to be all rosy. It’s not age gap or friendship, it’s the fact that you’re growing, your husband is growing and the kids are also growing. I admire the fact that you’re not scared to share this aspect of your life but believe me it’s very normal. It’s called life. Continue trying and building rapport with your husband at every stage. Do not lose communication even if it’s hard and with time you all will adjust. I’ve been here since your single days and it’s inspiring to see every stage of life since I subscribed. You make motherhood look really easy and from my point of view you’re not lost in it. You really balance your life out even with how difficult it is. Sending you so much love❤
Yeah communication is key and many people think regular communication in a long distance marriage/relationship is unsustainable. However, if you spoke with couples living together, you'll be surprised majority don't even talk and are more of roommates than lovers.
Mama dyna you will knock of juice ooo if you go to the gym and want to shed weight. Salad cream is a NO NO too. Drink water or eat fresh fruits like apple and all the berries not mango, pineapple or watermelon
By far one of your best videos: The honesty, vulnerability, personal rebranding and your quest for balance is surely remarkable. You ll find yourself as you go on.
Since 2015 that i became a mother i am still finding myself 🙄 had kids back to back. My dear people of God, back to back is not for tge weak especially if you are in abroad.
Hhmmm this is my story. I had my 3 kids under 3years in the abroad, and my life hasn't been the same. I keep screaming out my lungs every day. Although, a lot of people have assured me that things will get better as they grow, and I honestly hope it does cos at this point, it feels like I am going mental. Let's not even speak about how this has affected my bond with my husband.
My dear even if you don't have kid's back to back once you become a mother it's never the same most especially abroad the lord is our strength just that it get to a point you are use to it
Thanks for being vulnerable dyna❤ I am 23 and my husband is older by 8 years and I know it’s not easy. It is not easy ooo eh! If I can advise you on one thing from the little I know so far, it takes two willing people to make a relationship work. Yes you will fight, infact e go belle full you, but as long as you both are willing to work and fight for what you have everything will be alright. As for that finding yourself topic… it’s is a table I am currently balancing on - please don’t break it😂 but I know we will figure this out! Weldone mama ❤ sending hugs from my side!
Dyna, this is quite a vulnerable period and a little bit of being more intentional from both of you will make all things perfect again. Never forget to set aside time no matter how little to pray together at your convenience. Your husband appears not to be as extroverted as you are so please bear that in mind and try to strike a balance. You are a smart young lady! I am sure the separation is transient and soon you both will figure out what works in the best interest of everyone. All the best! As a doctor working in a foreign country, he will also be faced with the pressure of work and foreign work-place dynamics, so always gently check up on him by dropping kind messages of how much he is appreciated by his family, I am sure he will reciprocate in applauding how you are taking care of the kids as well. As for finding your true self, personal purpose and fulfillment, just sit back, get a dairy and pen down in a prioritized manner what you think you derive joy doing then pursue it. If you know your strength and can multitask then go ahead and pursue.
A lot of my friends that married in their 20s say they struggle to find themselves after marriage and childbirth. So I find that getting married and having babies in my 30s gave me a chance to find myself before the craziness. So I’m able to just balance and enjoy this phase without scrambling for pieces of myself to hold on to. At the same time, a part of me misses the whole me before the chaos but I find consolation that this is a season in its own so I just relax and enjoy it while it lasts. As for the long distance marriage part, God is your muscle!!! I did it for 3 months and I almost craze. Na so I carry my load run come Qatar. I can’t even imagine doing it alone with kids. You’re strong!
@@Anjiexpicey you never forget if you really found yourself. It’ll only take you a while but slowly you’ll find your way back to who you were before kids. Took me over a year after my first baby to even begin to feel like myself again. But you will. Also the good thing about humans is the ability to always begin anew. You can rediscover yourself, you did it before, it’ll be much easier the second or third time around.
Dyna when you were talking it was like you were describing my situation. I did long distance for 6years the age gap is huge is bigger than yours started motherhood at 21 almost immediately after the marriage, and I married my husband 6months after we met. I have 3 kids which I had them back to backnow and it's so hard. I don't recognize myself don't even know what to do with myself. I recently started my faceless youtube channel(am Camera shy) and I pray it grows so that atleast I have some distractions.
Ever Heard of the 5yr Itch. Look it up. It's real and lots of married couples go through it. Need to try and reconnect with your spouse so you both dont drift apart
I have a baby less than 2years old and my husband keeps motivating me not to focus on our child but on myself and US as couples and I think he’s right so I have learned to focus on myself while he help out
I can relate to the gap between partners. My mum worked and lived in a different city while we lived with our dad in another city. Although my mum came home every weekend. When I got married I told myself I would never stay away from my spouse for any reason. My mum also strongly advised me to at all cost stick with my husband. Even though giving up my NYSC to relocate with hubby was a HARD decision in reality, I’m happy I moved with him. We saw the relocation shege together. I’m grateful it made us stronger. I can also relate to getting to know each other well before kids. I’m happy our plan of not having kids immediately worked. We had our first child in year 4 of our wedding. My husband is 9 years older than I am and honestly I don’t see the gap now. We’re more like mates. Well, marriage made up mates 😂. Keep up the good work Dyna. You’re doing well honestly.
Honestly Dyna, long distance marriage is not easy and also like u said having kids back to back, there is always a tendency to loose yourself. You’re doing a good job as a mum! You’re a super mum and don’t worry everything will fall in place with time❤
I wish older women youtubers can reply(reaction videos) to this topic and help us all younger wives to get a clear understanding of the different phases in marriage where age, distance and growth are factors.
We value your honesty, Dyna honestly! We women need to see both sides of marriage, when it's sweet and when it's not so sweet, and when it's sweet again. We are not judging you. We are here for more honest discussions. Honestly, love your vlogs - especially when you go to the village!
The way I love Dyna’s “over sharing” cos it shows her vulnerable side and human side. Your honesty is invaluable. Nne m all you discussed is all valid and true! Once you have kids, one does loose oneself in the process especially, if you’re an intentional and present parent. Study shows that postpartum lasts for as long as your last child is about 3 years old. So, be kind to yourself and take baby steps in rediscovering yourself. With time, you’ll become a whole new better human being xx hugs hugs Dyna xx
You are so honest and I respect this fact a lot, distance marriage can make a human insane if not carefully handled, you have no one except a few friends that are also busy most of the time with their own life, generally dear life is not easy...
Take a deep breath, it is a phase, even for we that live together. Pray, pray and pray. This phase will pass. When you come out of this phase, it will be like a rebirth for your relationship but you need the Holy Spirit s guidance and presence in your hearts. That third cord is needed in this phase now than ever.❤
I kind of understand how you feel, I was in similar situation with long distance marriage, a 14 years age gap with kids very young and I can tell you that this situation is part of the dynamics in marriage. The only difference is that I am now in my early 40's and I'll do things differently if I was 25 again or even 30! I'll separate motherhood from love and marriage and remember to always think of what the initial attraction was and create time. When the kids grow up you will have a big void otherwise. I might throw some more light on this topic in my next few UA-cam Videos. Very brave of you to share
Dyna I can relate very well my husband is 13years older than me but my husband don't even look like is age at all my marriage is 6years with to two beautiful kids my husband have been gone for 3month and it's looking like three years at first I cried most especially when the kids where back from holiday always crying my daddy I literally had to do every single thing myself oh my goodness and I realised my first 6 years of marriage have been centred around my children not having a life of our own now I even realise the things we don't do before like communicating real deep get to know things about each other always wanting to hear from each other is happening now it's made the bound so strong so I can relate so well may God keep blessing our man
Dyna, it is because of your brutal open intentional honesty that I started following you over 6 years ago. I've Iived the US all my life. I very much Enjoy watching your day to day of your life. Even though our lifestyles are different I'm so comfortable watching you live your life without judgment. You don't pretend like so many and that's what I enjoy the most.
Dyna, remember you said you wanted to do an msc. I think its time to do it now. You said sometimes feel like you are looking for what to do when your kids are at school. Please restart school, maybe msc and phd, it might help. I am rooting for you🎉
Your feelings are valid mama and its great that you can articulate your feelings ❤❤❤. Long distance marriages can be tough, but I know you"ll both look back on this time in the future and be proud of yourselves for making it work and pulling through. You both just need to ensure that you're constantly communicating your feelings to each other and finding ways to make each other feel like a priority even though you're miles apart. All is well! ❤❤❤
As for gym, hunger and nutrition, plan morning , afternoon and night snacks with your 3 square meals. Prioritise protein and vegetables. Greek Yogurt is a great snack to consider. Have a daily calorie budget
When your husband has a break, both of you fly and meet up somewhere and spend a week together, without chn! Honeymoon You must schedule talk time too without chn
Awww... Dyna. It's normal. I don't think it's because of a long-distance relationship or age difference. My hubby and I married late and started having children late (not our wish), but we some sometimes disconnect, especially when both of us want to be by ourselves. You are a good mother 👩. Keep it up 👍🏾😍❤️👌🏾!!! Please add yoga to your gym things. It will help you relax. That your homemade food looks good, send me a recipe, please 🙏🏾 !!! Love❤ and hugs 🫂 Dyna!!!
Thats like thesame thing i was complaining to my husband today, i am five years in marriage too and the communication has dropped, alot has dropped and i was blaming him initially but hearing that i am not the only pne in this im kinda relaxed now.... I hope we all pass this phase strong and much more wiser ❤
What you are feeling is very normal so give yourself some Grace. Long distance relationship are very difficult and add children to the mix takes things up a notch. The good thing is that you are being honest about your feelings. That is a step in the right direction toward communication. Marriage takes constant work and it is never 50/50. But at least you are taking the right step by being honest and open. And marrying young and to someone that you didn't get a chance to get to know and grow a friendship before marriage, you tend to loose yourself. Glad you are taking the steps to get to know you, what you want and desire.
Hey sis ♥️ i love your vlogs so much, makes me feel like how i would be enjoying life when i go back home again😍 (i’m Ghanaian by the way). I went through that 5th year marriage caos as well and i really felt like it was over. I prayed like never before and put all my marriage issues in the hands of God and God indeed showed Himself strongly in my marriage that season. Its just a difficult season but just pray and trust God, once you pass this season your marriage will just be amazing again and better and stronger than it has ever been💯💯. The devil is just a liar‼️‼️ Its only God that saved ny marriage m, looking back now, if it wasn’t for God i would have called it quit, but i thank God for so much patient that he gave us both. We have now embarked into our 10th year of marriage beautifully, i love my hubby soo much and wouldn’t replace him for nobody else ♥️♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾…. I wish you the very best sis i know that it is well with your family and your marriage 💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾
Dyna long distance relationship is not for the weak. I really understand everything you’re saying, my boyfriend and I have been in this long distance relationships and trust me is not easy. But all is well, I know both of you are really trying but all is well ❤❤❤❤❤
You aren't alone dear, keep doing your best Am in the same situation right, and I feel so confused and feel lonely You are doing great really and I wish to pick up myself just like you're doing and try to enjoy my life while motherhood and long-distance relationship is dealing with me Much love to you from here in ph ❤️
Dyna, I am Kenyan and I love following your channel. What if I suggest that you visit your husband in Saudi let’s say two weeks. This time do not go with your children but live them with your mum. This two weeks will be good for just you and your husband to bond without kids around. Your kids love their grandma and I believe they will be fine.
See me tearing up, just thinking how I would balance mother hood and work, am not married or pregnant not even engaged. I don't want long distance marriage abeg.First time staying away from my family and I can say,I won't do this again.
Everything seems to be happening fast right. It will pass once your kids are a bit grown, Say the last one be like 6yrs. Just consider this time as a sacrifice time and it’s good you are doing it early at your age . So don’t blame it on anyone, just engage yourself on something like a study or a professional prog and don’t get distracted. Take care of yourself 👍
Thank you for your honesty dyna...life isn't perfect, you a hubby will look back at your early years and realize it's all worth it...all the love to your beautiful family babes ❤
It’s not easy , even for simple boyfriend girlfriend situation. Communication changes and life is still happening for both parties sometimes you have to let things slide or else it will be arguments all the time.
I had to do this, remind yourself you have the greatest husband, you are blessed, everything you get a chance, was sap chat with your hubby. Its not easy. This is temporary
Very relatable blog, I don't think it's just about long distance because you can live in the same house with your spouse and be long distance if you get what I mean. For me, all I can see is growth. Most times when our expectations don't match our reality, it could be frustrating but I think it shows how far we've come. You've grown Dyna, and it's beautiful to see.
By the grace of GOD ALMIGHTY my marriage will be 15years in few days into November, Big thigt hug for you dyna .me i have lost myself long time ago hmmm it is well keep pushing GOD ALMIGHTY is our strength in JESUS MIGHTY name Amen
Dyna, you are doing you best. Although it’s not easy, God is your strength. Surely, everything will work out for you and your husband. You’ve come a long way but you are really doing your best. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing 🥁🤗.
All I can say to you. you the most amazing sweet loving Mum. You are raising those Angels very well. God made you a stay at home Mum for a reason and it is evident of how you are in the motherhood journey. Hubby can be far but how you both love your Angels is so amazing. I believe when you reunite it will all about the two of you, strengthening your marriage. May God keep blessing you in Jesus Mighty Name....Hugs from South Africa my dear sis
At this point in time I really think you and hubby need to be brutally honest with each other and find a balance in all of this ,I truely wish you both can get to a point where you and hubby make a proper decision that will be balanced in both marriage and parenthood ❤
12:55 sis not only long distance relationship,even when you guys are together the communication is far away now,i even beg for attention, after 3 months we met i got pregnant, we did introduction, my first child was about 2years i got my second child, we did our wedding after 5years i had my last child 2years ago afyer 4years of my second child,now we are 9years in this thing called togetherness,sometimes you feel like giving up,its MARRIAGE either staying together or not that feeling alone will happen
We choose to enjoy the journey of motherhood despite the challenges that come with it. It never ends , so enjoying it is a must #softlifemummy era❤. Welldone coachD🙌🏾
Yea human are insatiable and the fact that you have kids back to back is a contributing factor too. It's not easy dear dyna but i trust your energy in handling everything right with Jehovah's grace, just ask him for help on how to handle the feelings you are battling with, ok!. Love you.
Long distance has never been easy for anymore. When you have kids it is better for everyone to be together because when you feel tired of running after the kids, hubby can take over. May God strengthen your family! 🥰🥰🥰
Mama Dyna it’s the social life that affected the kids. I pray God to increase your strength. What you’re doing is called sacrifice. The Lord is with you so please hang in there. 🙏🙏🙏♥️♥️♥️.
Motherhood is a great blessing and yes when you have kids back to back the tendency to lose yourself in raising kids is very high. Marriage is not easy but it will settle as the kids grow. I had my kids back to back especially the first 2, the toddler stage seemed to be the hardest. But it will get better don't worry, God always makes a way
It feels that way at a point you will definitely be fine and try and communicate more and just say things the way it is. I trust you to do that you definitely know how to de- stress as a mom❤❤
Mama dyna u are in stage 2 in marriage i ve tried sharing with u a video but i cant on Instagram probably is large. You will get thru it. I sometimes feel same asking my self is this how my life will be. I got married 1 week later my husband travelled. We reunited after 7 months. 1 year later i left back to cmr bc i was pregnant. After 1 yr we travelled together here i am again bck to cmr having a baby. And all the times i had to quite my job. We dont talk often but we keep going. I dont keep that in time. We talk when we fit available. Relax and dont look much into that. It will pass. Pls share with me ur enail so i can share with u e video about stages in marriages 😊
Your feelings are valid Mama❤. If you are both on the same page on child birthing, you both will find purpose and clarity moving forward. Nursing pregnancies and new born till the age they are quite independent tend to take a lot of resources from both parents. All will definitely be well.
It is well my dear sis, most time we are lost in motherhood trying to find ourselves in as much as we are taking care of our kids. That phase of communication will be sorted out, some days are like that. Just keep doing you and what keeps you happy, you will be fine nne.
I see you I see myself ooh same but my age gap is 14 yrs and I also had 3kids back to back now am trying to find myself and it’s hard and it’s confusing
Dyna, please send me your email address. I feel your pain. There are some few things you might need to kill the time with and also advance your career whilst the kids are in school. There’s someone I think you need to listen to her podcast. I feel it will help you a great deal.
Dyna what you’re feeling is very normal. Even couples living together go through this phase. It’s called MARRIAGE. It’s not supposed to be all rosy. It’s not age gap or friendship, it’s the fact that you’re growing, your husband is growing and the kids are also growing. I admire the fact that you’re not scared to share this aspect of your life but believe me it’s very normal. It’s called life. Continue trying and building rapport with your husband at every stage. Do not lose communication even if it’s hard and with time you all will adjust. I’ve been here since your single days and it’s inspiring to see every stage of life since I subscribed. You make motherhood look really easy and from my point of view you’re not lost in it. You really balance your life out even with how difficult it is. Sending you so much love❤
I could not have said this better. Well said. Please load up on what @Tinfoil said.
Yeah communication is key and many people think regular communication in a long distance marriage/relationship is unsustainable. However, if you spoke with couples living together, you'll be surprised majority don't even talk and are more of roommates than lovers.
Mama dyna you will knock of juice ooo if you go to the gym and want to shed weight. Salad cream is a NO NO too. Drink water or eat fresh fruits like apple and all the berries not mango, pineapple or watermelon
I like that you strive to make honest content. Marriage is no cakewalk
By far one of your best videos: The honesty, vulnerability, personal rebranding and your quest for balance is surely remarkable. You ll find yourself as you go on.
Since 2015 that i became a mother i am still finding myself 🙄 had kids back to back. My dear people of God, back to back is not for tge weak especially if you are in abroad.
Hhmmm this is my story. I had my 3 kids under 3years in the abroad, and my life hasn't been the same. I keep screaming out my lungs every day. Although, a lot of people have assured me that things will get better as they grow, and I honestly hope it does cos at this point, it feels like I am going mental. Let's not even speak about how this has affected my bond with my husband.
My dear even if you don't have kid's back to back once you become a mother it's never the same most especially abroad the lord is our strength just that it get to a point you are use to it
Thanks for being vulnerable dyna❤ I am 23 and my husband is older by 8 years and I know it’s not easy. It is not easy ooo eh! If I can advise you on one thing from the little I know so far, it takes two willing people to make a relationship work. Yes you will fight, infact e go belle full you, but as long as you both are willing to work and fight for what you have everything will be alright.
As for that finding yourself topic… it’s is a table I am currently balancing on - please don’t break it😂 but I know we will figure this out! Weldone mama ❤ sending hugs from my side!
Dyna, this is quite a vulnerable period and a little bit of being more intentional from both of you will make all things perfect again. Never forget to set aside time no matter how little to pray together at your convenience.
Your husband appears not to be as extroverted as you are so please bear that in mind and try to strike a balance. You are a smart young lady!
I am sure the separation is transient and soon you both will figure out what works in the best interest of everyone. All the best!
As a doctor working in a foreign country, he will also be faced with the pressure of work and foreign work-place dynamics, so always gently check up on him by dropping kind messages of how much he is appreciated by his family, I am sure he will reciprocate in applauding how you are taking care of the kids as well. As for finding your true self, personal purpose and fulfillment, just sit back, get a dairy and pen down in a prioritized manner what you think you derive joy doing then pursue it. If you know your strength and can multitask then go ahead and pursue.
A lot of my friends that married in their 20s say they struggle to find themselves after marriage and childbirth.
So I find that getting married and having babies in my 30s gave me a chance to find myself before the craziness.
So I’m able to just balance and enjoy this phase without scrambling for pieces of myself to hold on to.
At the same time, a part of me misses the whole me before the chaos but I find consolation that this is a season in its own so I just relax and enjoy it while it lasts.
As for the long distance marriage part, God is your muscle!!!
I did it for 3 months and I almost craze. Na so I carry my load run come Qatar.
I can’t even imagine doing it alone with kids. You’re strong!
God is your Muscle, I like that.
Yea but motherhood takes over the. U forget how you were b4kids
@@Anjiexpicey you never forget if you really found yourself. It’ll only take you a while but slowly you’ll find your way back to who you were before kids.
Took me over a year after my first baby to even begin to feel like myself again. But you will.
Also the good thing about humans is the ability to always begin anew. You can rediscover yourself, you did it before, it’ll be much easier the second or third time around.
@@justporsh_ that’s very interesting and it makes sense a lot
mama hope you are using sunscreen?
Dyna when you were talking it was like you were describing my situation. I did long distance for 6years the age gap is huge is bigger than yours started motherhood at 21 almost immediately after the marriage, and I married my husband 6months after we met. I have 3 kids which I had them back to backnow and it's so hard. I don't recognize myself don't even know what to do with myself. I recently started my faceless youtube channel(am Camera shy) and I pray it grows so that atleast I have some distractions.
Ever Heard of the 5yr Itch. Look it up. It's real and lots of married couples go through it. Need to try and reconnect with your spouse so you both dont drift apart
I have a baby less than 2years old and my husband keeps motivating me not to focus on our child but on myself and US as couples and I think he’s right so I have learned to focus on myself while he help out
You are not alone. We give so much into "building family" that we forget our own needs or purpose.
I can relate to the gap between partners. My mum worked and lived in a different city while we lived with our dad in another city. Although my mum came home every weekend. When I got married I told myself I would never stay away from my spouse for any reason. My mum also strongly advised me to at all cost stick with my husband. Even though giving up my NYSC to relocate with hubby was a HARD decision in reality, I’m happy I moved with him. We saw the relocation shege together. I’m grateful it made us stronger. I can also relate to getting to know each other well before kids. I’m happy our plan of not having kids immediately worked. We had our first child in year 4 of our wedding. My husband is 9 years older than I am and honestly I don’t see the gap now. We’re more like mates. Well, marriage made up mates 😂.
Keep up the good work Dyna. You’re doing well honestly.
Honestly Dyna, long distance marriage is not easy and also like u said having kids back to back, there is always a tendency to loose yourself. You’re doing a good job as a mum! You’re a super mum and don’t worry everything will fall in place with time❤
Having to create contents having kids back to back is a while lot of hard work.
She tried
Dyna is eating chicken mama and chicken pikin together...😂😂😂😂
U both will be fine....the Lord's ur strength 🧡🧡🧡
you are indeed an open book..
I wish older women youtubers can reply(reaction videos) to this topic and help us all younger wives to get a clear understanding of the different phases in marriage where age, distance and growth are factors.
We value your honesty, Dyna honestly! We women need to see both sides of marriage, when it's sweet and when it's not so sweet, and when it's sweet again. We are not judging you. We are here for more honest discussions. Honestly, love your vlogs - especially when you go to the village!
The way I love Dyna’s “over sharing” cos it shows her vulnerable side and human side. Your honesty is invaluable. Nne m all you discussed is all valid and true! Once you have kids, one does loose oneself in the process especially, if you’re an intentional and present parent.
Study shows that postpartum lasts for as long as your last child is about 3 years old. So, be kind to yourself and take baby steps in rediscovering yourself. With time, you’ll become a whole new better human being xx hugs hugs Dyna xx
Dyna your honesty is remarkable. I hope you find yourself through all these changes and your marriage unravels beautifully
You are so honest and I respect this fact a lot, distance marriage can make a human insane if not carefully handled, you have no one except a few friends that are also busy most of the time with their own life, generally dear life is not easy...
Take a deep breath, it is a phase, even for we that live together. Pray, pray and pray. This phase will pass. When you come out of this phase, it will be like a rebirth for your relationship but you need the Holy Spirit s guidance and presence in your hearts. That third cord is needed in this phase now than ever.❤
I can totally relate cos I've done long-distance marriage before, and hmm,it's not easy😊 I'm sending you hugs from here.
The Lord is your strength
I kind of understand how you feel, I was in similar situation with long distance marriage, a 14 years age gap with kids very young and I can tell you that this situation is part of the dynamics in marriage.
The only difference is that I am now in my early 40's and I'll do things differently if I was 25 again or even 30! I'll separate motherhood from love and marriage and remember to always think of what the initial attraction was and create time. When the kids grow up you will have a big void otherwise. I might throw some more light on this topic in my next few UA-cam Videos.
Very brave of you to share
Dyna I can relate very well my husband is 13years older than me but my husband don't even look like is age at all my marriage is 6years with to two beautiful kids my husband have been gone for 3month and it's looking like three years at first I cried most especially when the kids where back from holiday always crying my daddy I literally had to do every single thing myself oh my goodness and I realised my first 6 years of marriage have been centred around my children not having a life of our own now I even realise the things we don't do before like communicating real deep get to know things about each other always wanting to hear from each other is happening now it's made the bound so strong so I can relate so well may God keep blessing our man
Dyna, it is because of your brutal open intentional honesty that I started following you over 6 years ago. I've Iived the US all my life. I very much Enjoy watching your day to day of your life. Even though our lifestyles are different I'm so comfortable watching you live your life without judgment. You don't pretend like so many and that's what I enjoy the most.
Dyna, remember you said you wanted to do an msc. I think its time to do it now. You said sometimes feel like you are looking for what to do when your kids are at school. Please restart school, maybe msc and phd, it might help. I am rooting for you🎉
It really takes a strong and genuine heart to say all this. Sending you all the love and hugs dearest ❤❤❤
Your feelings are valid mama and its great that you can articulate your feelings ❤❤❤. Long distance marriages can be tough, but I know you"ll both look back on this time in the future and be proud of yourselves for making it work and pulling through. You both just need to ensure that you're constantly communicating your feelings to each other and finding ways to make each other feel like a priority even though you're miles apart. All is well! ❤❤❤
So relatable my marriage is in 6 years and going through similar, so relatable, thank you for being so vulnerable love your content 💕😘
Very matured conversation. I did long distance marraige for 2 years I can tell you , it is not for the weak
As for gym, hunger and nutrition, plan morning , afternoon and night snacks with your 3 square meals. Prioritise protein and vegetables. Greek Yogurt is a great snack to consider. Have a daily calorie budget
When your husband has a break, both of you fly and meet up somewhere and spend a week together, without chn! Honeymoon
You must schedule talk time too without chn
Awww... Dyna. It's normal. I don't think it's because of a long-distance relationship or age difference. My hubby and I married late and started having children late (not our wish), but we some sometimes disconnect, especially when both of us want to be by ourselves.
You are a good mother 👩. Keep it up 👍🏾😍❤️👌🏾!!! Please add yoga to your gym things. It will help you relax. That your homemade food looks good, send me a recipe, please 🙏🏾 !!!
Love❤ and hugs 🫂 Dyna!!!
thanks for talking about this Dyna, i needed to hear this and understand i'm not alone.
Thats like thesame thing i was complaining to my husband today, i am five years in marriage too and the communication has dropped, alot has dropped and i was blaming him initially but hearing that i am not the only pne in this im kinda relaxed now....
I hope we all pass this phase strong and much more wiser ❤
What you are feeling is very normal so give yourself some Grace. Long distance relationship are very difficult and add children to the mix takes things up a notch. The good thing is that you are being honest about your feelings. That is a step in the right direction toward communication. Marriage takes constant work and it is never 50/50. But at least you are taking the right step by being honest and open. And marrying young and to someone that you didn't get a chance to get to know and grow a friendship before marriage, you tend to loose yourself. Glad you are taking the steps to get to know you, what you want and desire.
It's nice to see you making time for yourself.
Hey sis ♥️ i love your vlogs so much, makes me feel like how i would be enjoying life when i go back home again😍 (i’m Ghanaian by the way).
I went through that 5th year marriage caos as well and i really felt like it was over. I prayed like never before and put all my marriage issues in the hands of God and God indeed showed Himself strongly in my marriage that season.
Its just a difficult season but just pray and trust God, once you pass this season your marriage will just be amazing again and better and stronger than it has ever been💯💯.
The devil is just a liar‼️‼️
Its only God that saved ny marriage m, looking back now, if it wasn’t for God i would have called it quit, but i thank God for so much patient that he gave us both. We have now embarked into our 10th year of marriage beautifully, i love my hubby soo much and wouldn’t replace him for nobody else ♥️♥️🙏🏾🙏🏾…. I wish you the very best sis i know that it is well with your family and your marriage 💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾
Dyna long distance relationship is not for the weak. I really understand everything you’re saying, my boyfriend and I have been in this long distance relationships and trust me is not easy. But all is well, I know both of you are really trying but all is well ❤❤❤❤❤
The balance ‼️
Love that for you 🫶🫶
You aren't alone dear, keep doing your best
Am in the same situation right, and I feel so confused and feel lonely
You are doing great really and I wish to pick up myself just like you're doing and try to enjoy my life while motherhood and long-distance relationship is dealing with me
Much love to you from here in ph ❤️
Dyna, I am Kenyan and I love following your channel. What if I suggest that you visit your husband in Saudi let’s say two weeks. This time do not go with your children but live them with your mum. This two weeks will be good for just you and your husband to bond without kids around. Your kids love their grandma and I believe they will be fine.
theres something about year 5 my dear Dyna. you will be alright.
See me tearing up, just thinking how I would balance mother hood and work, am not married or pregnant not even engaged. I don't want long distance marriage abeg.First time staying away from my family and I can say,I won't do this again.
You’ve been a wonderful mum and this is cheers to being your authentic self in all of this❤️
Everything seems to be happening fast right. It will pass once your kids are a bit grown, Say the last one be like 6yrs. Just consider this time as a sacrifice time and it’s good you are doing it early at your age . So don’t blame it on anyone, just engage yourself on something like a study or a professional prog and don’t get distracted. Take care of yourself 👍
Hmmm I can relate with frustration of not having time for you’re own things hmm back to back is not easy❤
The distance marriage is not a joke, I can relate but try to communicate even if is message then he will reply you when his free ❤
Your meal looks yummy 😋 nice having this conversation with us ❤
Thank you for your honesty dyna...life isn't perfect, you a hubby will look back at your early years and realize it's all worth it...all the love to your beautiful family babes ❤
It’s not easy , even for simple boyfriend girlfriend situation. Communication changes and life is still happening for both parties sometimes you have to let things slide or else it will be arguments all the time.
I had to do this, remind yourself you have the greatest husband, you are blessed, everything you get a chance, was sap chat with your hubby. Its not easy. This is temporary
Very relatable blog, I don't think it's just about long distance because you can live in the same house with your spouse and be long distance if you get what I mean.
For me, all I can see is growth. Most times when our expectations don't match our reality, it could be frustrating but I think it shows how far we've come.
You've grown Dyna, and it's beautiful to see.
Dyna you are authentic 🎉🎉🎉seriously I appreciate you so much dear.
South Africa
I thought of you yesterday or earlier today. I was just wondering how you are doing.and then later today, I saw your video
By the grace of GOD ALMIGHTY my marriage will be 15years in few days into November, Big thigt hug for you dyna .me i have lost myself long time ago hmmm it is well keep pushing GOD ALMIGHTY is our strength in JESUS MIGHTY name Amen
HUGS….🤗
Do What Excites
Dyna, you are doing you best. Although it’s not easy, God is your strength. Surely, everything will work out for you and your husband. You’ve come a long way but you are really doing your best. You are not alone. Thank you for sharing 🥁🤗.
All I can say to you. you the most amazing sweet loving Mum. You are raising those Angels very well. God made you a stay at home Mum for a reason and it is evident of how you are in the motherhood journey. Hubby can be far but how you both love your Angels is so amazing. I believe when you reunite it will all about the two of you, strengthening your marriage. May God keep blessing you in Jesus Mighty Name....Hugs from South Africa my dear sis
Madam Okafor it is a phase that always take away our own desires and race children. we all go through that. sending hugs and kisses.
Dyna baby get sunscreen for your self and Maamaamaa🙏.
At this point in time I really think you and hubby need to be brutally honest with each other and find a balance in all of this ,I truely wish you both can get to a point where you and hubby make a proper decision that will be balanced in both marriage and parenthood ❤
Love from me Dyna 🤍
12:55 sis not only long distance relationship,even when you guys are together the communication is far away now,i even beg for attention, after 3 months we met i got pregnant, we did introduction, my first child was about 2years i got my second child, we did our wedding after 5years i had my last child 2years ago afyer 4years of my second child,now we are 9years in this thing called togetherness,sometimes you feel like giving up,its MARRIAGE either staying together or not that feeling alone will happen
First person here today,❤❤❤,God is your straight okay
Yes it happened to my relationship too, until finally we reconnected.
It's well my dear, you are so true about it...some times you know we can't help the situation ❤😊 delicious breakfast 😅
You are doing your best my sister love you jare
We choose to enjoy the journey of motherhood despite the challenges that come with it. It never ends , so enjoying it is a must #softlifemummy era❤. Welldone coachD🙌🏾
Yea human are insatiable and the fact that you have kids back to back is a contributing factor too. It's not easy dear dyna but i trust your energy in handling everything right with Jehovah's grace, just ask him for help on how to handle the feelings you are battling with, ok!. Love you.
Serve others, this will help, so you don't think too much about self, it works
Long distance has never been easy for anymore. When you have kids it is better for everyone to be together because when you feel tired of running after the kids, hubby can take over. May God strengthen your family! 🥰🥰🥰
Mama Dyna it’s the social life that affected the kids. I pray God to increase your strength. What you’re doing is called sacrifice. The Lord is with you so please hang in there.
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Bless you Dyna ..... It gets better, it will get Better
The Lord is your strenght. With time everything will be alright many people are also pass through this condition, keep loving your family. ❤❤❤❤
Motherhood is a great blessing and yes when you have kids back to back the tendency to lose yourself in raising kids is very high. Marriage is not easy but it will settle as the kids grow. I had my kids back to back especially the first 2, the toddler stage seemed to be the hardest. But it will get better don't worry, God always makes a way
It feels that way at a point you will definitely be fine and try and communicate more and just say things the way it is. I trust you to do that you definitely know how to de- stress as a mom❤❤
I’m glad I don’t feel like this alone
Dyna no dey scare me abeg oo 😂
Awwww mama Dyna , marriage ehen let alone long distance marriage no be anybody mate
Mama dyna u are in stage 2 in marriage i ve tried sharing with u a video but i cant on Instagram probably is large. You will get thru it. I sometimes feel same asking my self is this how my life will be. I got married 1 week later my husband travelled. We reunited after 7 months. 1 year later i left back to cmr bc i was pregnant. After 1 yr we travelled together here i am again bck to cmr having a baby. And all the times i had to quite my job. We dont talk often but we keep going. I dont keep that in time. We talk when we fit available. Relax and dont look much into that. It will pass. Pls share with me ur enail so i can share with u e video about stages in marriages 😊
Too much enjoyment in Nigeria... enjoy your self dear❤
LOT'S OF LOVE BEAUTIFUL QUEEN 🫡👑❤️💯
It should be finding your new self. You can't be your old self after 3kids.You are doing very well.
I love how honest and open you have been with your struggles. How much does your gym charge etc?
I can relate with the age gap thing, girl i understand 😂
Your feelings are valid Mama❤. If you are both on the same page on child birthing, you both will find purpose and clarity moving forward. Nursing pregnancies and new born till the age they are quite independent tend to take a lot of resources from both parents. All will definitely be well.
It is well my dear sis, most time we are lost in motherhood trying to find ourselves in as much as we are taking care of our kids. That phase of communication will be sorted out, some days are like that. Just keep doing you and what keeps you happy, you will be fine nne.
This is why preparation is impotent before marriage.
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From here,I can relate to everything you said
I can totally relate my husband is 21years older than me but we're not really doing well too
The Lord is your strength,How about you start a course at ALX? May be it will help.
I love this vlog.mama dyna u are doing well. I love u
I appreciate your honesty
Please find time to rest, is very important.
The Lord is your strength long distance relationship is not easy even if is for one week oo
It’s like we living the same life wow
"yey i overshared"😂😂😂
I see you I see myself ooh same but my age gap is 14 yrs and I also had 3kids back to back now am trying to find myself and it’s hard and it’s confusing
Dyna, please send me your email address. I feel your pain. There are some few things you might need to kill the time with and also advance your career whilst the kids are in school. There’s someone I think you need to listen to her podcast. I feel it will help you a great deal.