Why Some of YOUR OWN FAMILY Will Never Champion Your Success ...Even If You Celebrate Theirs

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  • @lorrainegartrell1907
    @lorrainegartrell1907 10 місяців тому +4

    Thanks!

    • @CassandraMack
      @CassandraMack  10 місяців тому +2

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  • @Sweetdreamz313
    @Sweetdreamz313 10 місяців тому +82

    You can’t tell everyone everything sometimes your family may try to sabotage you

    • @Norton01ONE
      @Norton01ONE 9 місяців тому +2

      True story, my new Language is "SpeechLess"...but can be tough at times 😎🙂😉

    • @TMacro-w9d
      @TMacro-w9d 2 місяці тому

      True say😊

  • @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht
    @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht 10 місяців тому +51

    They get so triggered that we mind our own business and stay in our lane. Its sad

  • @n.g.l.
    @n.g.l. 10 місяців тому +77

    Their envy is so bad that they speak delay and setback and failure over my life. And then complain that they’re stuck in a dead end job where they’re experiencing delays, setbacks, and failures. And losing their job too. You see how God works? And now they’re angry because how dare God bless me because I’m a “terrible person”. The reality is you went against their human (in their delusional mind it’s divine) judgment on your life and your success is a constant reminder of their issues. I pay them no mind but pay them in dust and move on. Thank you as always ❤

    • @ChrisWalker-x6x
      @ChrisWalker-x6x 10 місяців тому +2

      I was in a similar situation like this God has blessed me pretty good I got two nice cars and my family got mad about it and they lost their cars lost their jobs stuck and can't get nothing shortly after that how about I got two more nicer cars thie how God does it when they hate on your blessings they're going to get set two steps back and you'll go two steps forward and if they keep on hating they're going to find themselves sinking in quick sand and never get out the more of what they hate on about you the more of that what you're going to get right in their face so really it works like a good luck charm your family should be the first ones glad for your success

    • @n.g.l.
      @n.g.l. 10 місяців тому +3

      @@ChrisWalker-x6x yup. You have to “dust the dirt off your feet” and move on bc clearly that ain’t the Lord there. God said He will be an enemy to your enemies. (Exodus 23:22). That malice in their heart comes out of their mouth too, just for them to feast on their own words and live a troublesome life. It’s a shame. God made us to glory Him and or live a life of fruitfulness and prosperity. They’re choosing the opposite. But God is good bc when they curse out blessings God pays us in blessings and pays them in curses. God

    • @ChrisWalker-x6x
      @ChrisWalker-x6x 10 місяців тому +1

      @@n.g.l. what ever they speak against you is going to come on them.

    • @n.g.l.
      @n.g.l. 10 місяців тому

      @@ChrisWalker-x6x right smh (to their actions but never to God protecting us from the wicked)

  • @ChevellePierce
    @ChevellePierce 10 місяців тому +94

    Unfortunately, this is so true. My biggest hater is MY OWN MOTHER. And yet , I'm still moving forward in DESTINY AND PURPOSE. NOTHING AND NO ONE can stop the blessings that God has commanded over my life.😊

    • @CassandraMack
      @CassandraMack  10 місяців тому +16

      Amen. Nothing can stop God's plan for your life

    • @user-ov4wr5yu4r
      @user-ov4wr5yu4r 10 місяців тому +11

      Me, too. It's sad that there's even one person who can say that, but I suspect there are quite a few. You have a great positive attitude. I believe you will transcend the sabotage.

    • @Sweetdreamz313
      @Sweetdreamz313 10 місяців тому +8

      Same sadly

    • @jasminebridgett9200
      @jasminebridgett9200 10 місяців тому +4

      Same with me too , she does this by raising the rent so I don't move out . But this year it's about to change because soon I will be out of the house .

    • @naturalgirldiy
      @naturalgirldiy 10 місяців тому +2

      Same here.

  • @CCGarland
    @CCGarland 10 місяців тому +60

    I am in a similar position to the young man you mentioned in this video. I was so confused because I was leveling up and blessing everybody in my family. However, I was becoming more ostracised the more successful I became. I went no contact with my entire close friend group and family in December of 2022. I have not spoken to any of them since then. I took several steps back and felt very lost for most of 2023, but I am at peace now and progressing forward with my goals undisturbed. Great message in this one!

    • @CassandraMack
      @CassandraMack  10 місяців тому +18

      The level up is not easy but you are not alone

    • @n.g.l.
      @n.g.l. 10 місяців тому +8

      Keep focusing my guy. Consider it a lesson. Everyday I’m relieved that they showed me how greedy and envious they are. You’re better off dude. Thorn bushes hath no place with your blessings!

    • @alinkuri4429
      @alinkuri4429 10 місяців тому +5

      Consider yourself to be lucky as you were able to spot that danger early on. You could have been deceived to the point of being deeply abused or even deleted.

    • @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht
      @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht 10 місяців тому +3

      Your not alone,keep on pushing and let God be your strength

  • @bridgettetraveler658
    @bridgettetraveler658 10 місяців тому +16

    I was fairly thick build after I had my son. I lost all that weight & more. I was almost skinny. I wasn't trying to lose so much it just happened. Someone told me that some of my relatives said I was on drugs & some of them said I had AIDS. Lol! Ppl hate to see us happy!!!

  • @divinecreation1217
    @divinecreation1217 10 місяців тому +45

    My siblings never openly congratulated me for graduating undergrad, getting into grad school, and becoming independent. Never came to see my new apartment when I invited them, never congratulated me when I got a new job after being laid off.. lol smh I always congratulate them and check up on them
    this video was helpful

    • @fumsy50
      @fumsy50 10 місяців тому +9

      I understand...been through it also. It's always one-sided

    • @STARSENMT
      @STARSENMT 10 місяців тому +11

      I’m learning that those people are better off never seeing your success anyway. At least they’re being real, it’s better than them coming and just criticizing everything or ruining the celebration because they’re not happy for you

    • @saharaoasis7
      @saharaoasis7 10 місяців тому +5

      My siblings are guilty of the same, totally jealous of my accomplishments.

    • @isabellopes890
      @isabellopes890 10 місяців тому +3

      I would start to give them the same energy, they have been given me.

  • @KayleneRomero-oz7yz
    @KayleneRomero-oz7yz 10 місяців тому +38

    After getting evicted, I stayed with someone who waslike a brother to me. I lived with him for six months, stacked my bread by getting the same high-paying job as him. Then next thing I know he started counting my pockets and making low-key jealous remarks. He felt secure with himself when I was struggling, but once he perceived me as doing better than HIM and I was ready to move out into a nicer neighborhood, he started his mess.

    • @historiqueafricaine
      @historiqueafricaine 10 місяців тому +4

      Your testimony make me think about what God said in Jeremiah 17:9 "The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?" The deeper we meditate the word of God and use his spiritual discernement in our lives the more we will see that everything he told us is indeed true💯 it's just sad that it has to come from loved one but if we look at the lives of King David his own family persecuted him, Abraham in order to enter to the promise land had to leave his family behind in his former country to the exception of his wife it's a reflexion of the Christian walk👍🏾 in our calling, few family members or loved-one will remain in our circle

    • @diamondjack-cooper5322
      @diamondjack-cooper5322 8 місяців тому +1

      AMEN!

    • @queenesther4142
      @queenesther4142 Місяць тому

      Amen! So true! To God be the glory. Jesus Christ is King! ​@@historiqueafricaine

  • @naturalgirldiy
    @naturalgirldiy 10 місяців тому +23

    I sighed so much during this teaching because it's taken me years to be honest about certain family members just not wanting me to win. I've always tried to be supportive of what they do but never really receive the same in return. It's almost like they expect you to be a cheerleader and fan standing on the sidelines. But the minute you have something to celebrate they're not happy or they try to downplay your wins. I'm well and truly over it.. I stopped sharing any of my goals and achievements with most of my family members.

  • @305heat_
    @305heat_ 10 місяців тому +29

    Education…, people without degrees always say you don’t need a degree.
    Completely dismissing your hard work and dedication.

    • @kiaj.d.5855
      @kiaj.d.5855 10 місяців тому +3

      Chile! One of my aunts told my mom she’s not trying to make her kids be something they’re not. Fast forward now everyone in her family wants to go to college. I was the first in our family to graduate. Most of them said I thought I was better etc. because I went to college though…

    • @gjinkalla23
      @gjinkalla23 10 місяців тому +6

      They hate they don't have the same patience as you bit want all the benefits of your work and so much more. They are entiteled to your benefits but you are not to your own, you get me?

    • @Sweetdreamz313
      @Sweetdreamz313 10 місяців тому +4

      Technically you don’t need a degree for certain fields or to be successful sometimes a trade or certification or raw talent is enough
      And I’m saying this out of love as woman with three degrees and two certifications on my own
      But I get the point you’re making usually when people say this they say it out of spite because they feel as if you’re one upping them because they didn’t take the time to achieve it themselves

    • @kiaj.d.5855
      @kiaj.d.5855 10 місяців тому

      @@Sweetdreamz313 I agree! I have a bachelor’s and a master’s degree. I am starting a certificate program for something totally different from my current career. My certificate has the capability to generate a higher income than my two degrees!

  • @StephanieBadAzz
    @StephanieBadAzz 10 місяців тому +18

    I’m so thankful the Lord just did a grand clearing in my life of all these people. These were people I grew up with and even family. I’m looking forward to not dealing with these people and all the peace in my life moving forward.

  • @kiaj.d.5855
    @kiaj.d.5855 10 місяців тому +12

    Listen!!!! This has been my whole life!! It’s like the hate etc. was passed down! They hated on my mama then her kids! Les Misérables!

  • @tallglasscocoa6105
    @tallglasscocoa6105 10 місяців тому +18

    When my mom lived she was only interested in if I had a man ♂️. I went to college and kept a part time job.(Crickets) When I had a job, you need a better job but when she wanted or needed money. She'll call me not my sister. When I was denied a business agreement. Don't waste your time fighting it just let it go. When I won the case, oh I knew you could do it. SMH. So I stopped sharing anything good in my life with my mom. She worked for the State government, lived in the suburbs and owned a house and car with a husband (stepdad). It was like I would never be good enough no matter what. When she was in the hospital something just didn't feel right and I kept buzzing for the nurses for assistance. She told me not to make a scene. The doctors rushed in and said the machine wasn't picking up her vitals she would've had a stroke. They had her on a watch. She passed away three hours later.

  • @calico-kat-mom6204
    @calico-kat-mom6204 10 місяців тому +21

    Well you said put this in I lost 32 lbs in 1997 through 1998 and I was told by a young lady at church that I looked in anorexic well it was not fun to hear that but I knew better I knew I didn't look Anorexic it wouldn't think you would hear somebody say something so unkind in church but it Happens

    • @CassandraMack
      @CassandraMack  10 місяців тому +13

      Yes haters are everywhere unfortunately including the church, Congrats on your weight loss

    • @beverleyreid7572
      @beverleyreid7572 10 місяців тому +7

      Most haters are in church. Smh

    • @ajl2232
      @ajl2232 10 місяців тому +8

      She was envious of you. Reminds me of the time that I dressed up in school and and let's just say all my 'friends' happy energy went down hill.

  • @latoyathomas9640
    @latoyathomas9640 10 місяців тому +5

    The biggest changes for me was changing my denomination,getting married,the privilege of being a stay at home wife,becoming vegetarian that cooks certain foods from scratch,losing weight&aging gracefully and being inclusive in a Women's magazine for many months as of last year!(HERE ARE SOME OF MY OLD TITLES:THE DRUNK,FAST,CLUB HOPPER,& DRUG USER)APTTMH!!!❤❤❤

  • @marygoodman9530
    @marygoodman9530 10 місяців тому +18

    Thank you Cassandra 💖We should be celebrating each other's success, achievements. God's blessings upon us all ✨💖✨🙏

  • @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht
    @JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht 10 місяців тому +13

    Its sad that the only reason any of my family would even talk to me is because they want something

  • @diamondjack-cooper5322
    @diamondjack-cooper5322 8 місяців тому +2

    Joy and peace
    And togetherness will make a person hate you!
    Also when they feel they have nothing to be happy about they will attack you everytime your in their presence!
    Its very draining and super evil!
    AMEN!

  • @fumsy50
    @fumsy50 10 місяців тому +11

    This video is really for me. This is has been the story of my life for years regarding my own family and sadly even some so called friends. This year God has really opened my eyes to the reality of relationships I have held on to for years

  • @apriljacobs8279
    @apriljacobs8279 10 місяців тому +13

    It’s ironic that you used the name Sam. My son’s name is Sam and he was a good student and went through bullying. Thank you for being used as a vessel

    • @CassandraMack
      @CassandraMack  10 місяців тому +3

      Praying God's hedge of protection for your son Sam

  • @a.8774
    @a.8774 10 місяців тому +1

    I can completely relate. My mother has turned all of my siblings against me and its been nearly a lifetime if envy, strife and i finally accepted it and have had to releade them and nolonger want a relationship with them. Its so toxic that the grandchildren and great grandchildren dont like me and I don't know them because of the toxicity from my own mother.
    Also to confirm this video,i lost my best friend who Ive known for 8 years and I supported on every single level including her business and had all of my friends do business with her and would promote her on social media. During the pandemic, i leveled up and changed my diet and lost noticable weight and my best friend only knew me to be a size 14 and now I'm a size 8-10 and wearing my Designer garments from before I knew her and she only knew me to wear my hair braided and now I wear it down and its natural,thick and at my waistline when I flat iron it. My friend is 5 years oldrt then me and she's not attractive and she's very large in size but I liked her for her niceness and never judged her. All of a sudden, she starts takking about Naomi Campbell and Kate Moss like a dog and she knows i used to be a magazine print model back in the day. With the weightloss, I look half my age and my dear friend finally ended our friendship. I had even told her a year ago I wasn't going to go back to a larger size and that i didn't want my weightloss to come between us and i had to tell ger this a few times when o started discernjng the jealousy. I didn't struggle when she cut ties with me and I'm at peace with it

  • @lbu9542
    @lbu9542 4 місяці тому

    This is so true on so many levels. I personally do not share anything I or my household (husband and children) are working on. The less they know, the more we get goals accomplished. I do believe there were family members praying (spells/witchcraft) against us years ago which is why I stopped sharing anything with them.

  • @carenjones3575
    @carenjones3575 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank you for this message❤
    I couldn't put 2 & 2 together with my Aunt, Mother, & Uncles and now this clears it up for me decades after their assaults against me. This is so true🎯

  • @AnnetteMorris-uy5vj
    @AnnetteMorris-uy5vj 10 місяців тому +11

    Another great message God Bless

  • @sempereadem1543
    @sempereadem1543 4 місяці тому

    Heavens, I wish I had found your channel earlier in my life, thank you so so much

  • @mr.isaacs9813
    @mr.isaacs9813 9 місяців тому

    Praise God for this divine message, I have been through a lot from 2020/to 2023 and I am now recovering from the trauma of family members and close friends I have been betrayed, envied, and my name has been slandered just because of material possessions and the favor of God.
    I Thank God for blessing us with you Casandra Mack

  • @PaulaMillington
    @PaulaMillington 10 місяців тому +4

    Very inspirational message! Great example and truth that transforms🙏🏾.

  • @Norton01ONE
    @Norton01ONE 9 місяців тому

    This exactly my position and currently happening to me right now and more, unbelievvvvvable 😐🤔🙆🏻
    Thanks.
    Bless Up, Stay Strong! 🙌🙏💪

  • @phoenixrising99
    @phoenixrising99 10 місяців тому +3

    Grand Rising Cassandra And All 🌹

  • @Nessajess7
    @Nessajess7 9 місяців тому +1

    Unfortunately, I can relate to the school situation. I remember I was the top performer a class and the teacher always called on me( which I couldn't stand and knew that would put a target on me) because either no one knew the answer or no one raised their hands. Next thing i knew, the class couldn't stand me, they even made it sexual! Stating he liked me smh🤢 . Little did anyone know, I was dealing with a lot at home and school was my only solace.

  • @ChrisWalker-x6x
    @ChrisWalker-x6x 10 місяців тому +3

    As long as my best friend since college was doing better than me everything was cool we always talked and we never fell out about anything but how about since I got a great job started leveling up getting nice things and he found out about it and saw it how about he don't even call me no more I guess he feels like I shut him down but it ain't even like that so all this is true once they feel like you're doing better than them they'll get jealous feel some type of way and everything is over

  • @chartydurrant744
    @chartydurrant744 10 місяців тому

    we so llove you Cassandra! I call it my Mac-Attack. It makes no sense when our own kin use us and hate us. Its sooo creepy.

  • @kimberly1868
    @kimberly1868 10 місяців тому

    Cassandra, this has been a great message for us that need to hear it. I greatly appreciate your Godly Wisdom!

  • @lorrainegartrell1907
    @lorrainegartrell1907 10 місяців тому

    You talking so much truth imma sow a seed!! Appreciate the word!!

  • @bernetajohnson3296
    @bernetajohnson3296 10 місяців тому

    Thank you Pastor Mack. Your videos are always on the mark.

  • @furiousstyleztv
    @furiousstyleztv 3 місяці тому +1

    Is it ok to just avoid these so called friends and family members? I’ve seen so many of these traits in people that I’ve pretty much stopped communicating with most of them for years

  • @Tissy94
    @Tissy94 5 місяців тому

    This was a great one I related to so many of the references 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

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    @LorizaRamzan 10 місяців тому +1

    Story of Jospeh

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  • @klevi1961
    @klevi1961 10 місяців тому

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  • @MelanatedHomesteadher
    @MelanatedHomesteadher 10 місяців тому

    Awesome message and it was needed

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    @tedrekaadams6216 3 місяці тому

    I love your video I was wondering is the soul fast book still available I know this is a old video

  • @wfrench2863
    @wfrench2863 10 місяців тому

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  • @savtelly3817
    @savtelly3817 10 місяців тому +9

    In a weight loss cult 🤣🤣 people will say anything to not give you a compliment smh

  • @naturalgirldiy
    @naturalgirldiy 10 місяців тому

    The student analogy was spot on..

  • @hers_bodysoulmind
    @hers_bodysoulmind 10 місяців тому

    I ❤this! 🙏

  • @downhomegirl5
    @downhomegirl5 5 місяців тому

    Facts!! ❤🙏🦁👑

  • @Deanthony-y6l
    @Deanthony-y6l 10 місяців тому +1

    Success ain't comin.

  • @dominicsparks631
    @dominicsparks631 10 місяців тому

    Damm the coment section made me see that it not just me ..

  • @Logan-m2m
    @Logan-m2m 10 місяців тому +1

    Meh i don't want that kind of people becouse i have to dim my light. I understand that nobody likes to be overshadow sometimes and that we all suffer from envy sometimes. But i don't like the fact that i have to dim my light and to hold back every time just becouse i'm scared that i will create enemy becouse of person's envy. And i don't like to bragging, i don't want to overshine others i just want when i share joy about my accomplishments people to be happy about me not hate me. I don't like to make people feel less than me in my shadow.
    I give some example:
    When my little brother had a birthday i didn't wanted to talk much and bragging just to get more attention. No it was his special day he deserve more attention becouse is his special day. When i have birthday i will get more attention becouse is my special day and he shoud let me have attention when is my special day. Give just exaple that people shoud be happy of us and its ok let us have more attention. In return when they have accomplish something will praise them for their accomplish 👋. And its ok if they get more attention. Just overcome envy and place it to alter peace ✌️.

  • @JerryA676
    @JerryA676 10 місяців тому +3

    Thanks for this....I'm struggling with a lot of envious people in my life....I'm in Australia....the world capital of envy....
    Otherwise known as "keeping up with the Joneses"...

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  • @888hereandnow
    @888hereandnow 10 місяців тому +2

    Negative micro expressions are also dead giveaways

  • @JuliaShalomJordan
    @JuliaShalomJordan 10 місяців тому +3

    It’s so sad but so true. Thank you for the wisdom encouragement and strength you give us, Miss Mack.
    Your posts always make me feel seen.🥹🤍🫶🏻