Thanks for the warm reception, guys!! It's good to be back! ;) I'll be posting every Tuesday at 11am CST (check for livestream 15 minutes ahead). There will be 3 videos in this AEDP series, then a 5-part Coherence Therapy series, and then a few on self-compassion and Deliberate Practice (which is just a therapy training tool), and then a 8-part series pulling it all together by way of exploring the history and science and technique that makes experiential work unique. Thanks for being here everyone!! ;)
Thank you! I can't wait for those on self-compassion. Just recently found out that I have never had a concept on this and therefore am extremely und unnecessarily hard on myself.
I just did a little jump for joy sitting at my desk when your video came up! I've watched them all and find your thinking and presentation to be so clear-headed and clear-hearted (which I'm including because it autocorrected to this originally and thought it was perfect!). Thank you for all the effort that you put into these. This is one therapist who really appreciates your work.
This sounds profound and powerful, especially delivered with such deep serenitty. Really love it. I am curious, as we take an organic, human expression of connection and validation, and kind of recreate it in a therapeutic "laboratory", how does one offset the power/vulnerability imbalance? Even if I had a platonic friend who was a good soul and altruistic, and was generously available with emotional maturity to spare, at a point I would feel distant because of that -- again -- one-sided nature of the relationship. Unfortunately, in a capitalist society, commodifying that and paying for it actually feels a little bit natural and corrective but the responsible therapist who maintains appropriate boundaries still deals with the threat of an even greater sense of alienation of "almost known" -- right up until the point that the clock says time is up. This is worst-case so I apologize for bringing negativity to light but it makes me feel safe I guess cuz I believe there's an answer. Or I hope so As everyone said already: great work!
'What we are undoing is our aloneness.' Yes. This is at the core of the way I understand the difference between what you call primary and secondary emotions. The secondary emotions - shame, anxiety, self-punishment - are by definition hermetic and self involved precisely because they are born of a perceived need not to engage others. The primary emotions are all about engagement with others or with a reality beyond ourselves over which we may have little or no control. e.g. if I walk down the street crying, it might not lead to direct engagement with another, but it will be an honest admission of how I feel to others, and that something outside me has hurt or saddened me, and that openness to engagement is the foundation for it.
Your gift to synthesize and explain complex theory and therapeutic practice to make it understandable and usable is a true gift to humanity! Thank you!!
I missed you! I am SO excited you are back. I would love for you to do a series on Somatic Experiencing in the future 🙌🏻 Your series on IFS was extraordinary.
Thank you so much for this Tori and all of your videos!! I came upon AEDP a number of years ago. I think it's fabulous. And IFS and Somatic Experiencing are my 2 other favorite modalities. Unfortunately as someone on Medicaid I could not find an AEDP therapist who takes Medicaid insurance in NY. And the same is true for IFS. It's so sad that these wonderful forms of therapy are not easily accessed by those who have financial need. And this is also a sorely neglected topic. People for whom trauma and other emotional difficulties affect their ability to get along well in the world financially. Thank you again for the fantastic work you are doing here!!!!
The thing is that they are not subsidised because they work, and this takes money away from the pharmaceutical companies who profit off your trauma. As does the government. So they want you poor! Unhappy and controllable. Pharmaceutical companies fund the universities so the training that Drs get is in what drug to prescribe. That’s why the highest cause of death in America is from iatrogenesis- caused by the medical profession.
Thank you, Dr. Olds. Your content has helped me so much, and I really appreciate the calm and caring way you present this valuable information. The part where you talked about being shamed for expressing emotions really hit home for me. I wrote an essay about this very subject which I'd like to share, but I will paste it in a separate post below, as it might be triggering for some. *Do not click on the post below if you are sensitive to child neglect/abuse*
@@quarteracreadventures855 You have such insight into your experiences as a child and send compassion for all of those painful experiences. If everyone had such deep insight, healing may be a quicker process. I am so happy for you that you have been able to let that child feel her emotions and cry in a safe and loving place
This is so great! I'm planning on entering AEDP immersion later this year and have been reading every book and piece of research on it. I am continually blown away but the breadth and depth of AEDP from a technical standpoint, while also having a simplicity of how it plays out in the room. I believe AEDP will be at the heilm of the "fourth wave" modality paradigm shift in clinical psychology and psychotherapy.
Oh man .. finally tackling this. Thank you. 4 years in recovery. 3rd serious suds treatment center luckily had great lcsw that told me I needed this modality. She was right on. I am grateful for this info. Thank you.
I look forward to hearing your recap of the history of the development of IFS and AEDP. They evolved from a broad base of work by our psychoanalytic "ancestors" and I would love to see them get credit.
I absolutely love your stuff. SO articulate. I wish I could speak so eloquently. It would be awesome if you did a training that provides ceu and certification. With AEDP. IFS, Sensorimotor psychotherapy, EFT/TFT/Energy pysch.🎉🙏❗️❗️🤙
I have really benefited from your videos-thank you so much. However, I find it difficult to follow the order in which the videos are sorted, especially when watching on a TV screen. I suggest making the sorting clearer. Thank you again for the great content!
Please please please can you either have a drink or get a microphone that doesn’t pick up the mouth noises. It is sooooooo distracting and I have to say annoying. When I was little mealtimes were fraught with trauma, my mother would scream at my father for making noises while eating. So I know this is mine and and I need to work through it, but honestly it’s like listening to fingernails down a board and I don’t hear the content.
Thanks for the warm reception, guys!! It's good to be back! ;) I'll be posting every Tuesday at 11am CST (check for livestream 15 minutes ahead). There will be 3 videos in this AEDP series, then a 5-part Coherence Therapy series, and then a few on self-compassion and Deliberate Practice (which is just a therapy training tool), and then a 8-part series pulling it all together by way of exploring the history and science and technique that makes experiential work unique. Thanks for being here everyone!! ;)
Thank you! I can't wait for those on self-compassion. Just recently found out that I have never had a concept on this and therefore am extremely und unnecessarily hard on myself.
Amazing
I just did a little jump for joy sitting at my desk when your video came up! I've watched them all and find your thinking and presentation to be so clear-headed and clear-hearted (which I'm including because it autocorrected to this originally and thought it was perfect!). Thank you for all the effort that you put into these. This is one therapist who really appreciates your work.
Yay, welcome back Dr Olds.
This sounds profound and powerful, especially delivered with such deep serenitty. Really love it.
I am curious, as we take an organic, human expression of connection and validation, and kind of recreate it in a therapeutic "laboratory", how does one offset the power/vulnerability imbalance? Even if I had a platonic friend who was a good soul and altruistic, and was generously available with emotional maturity to spare, at a point I would feel distant because of that -- again -- one-sided nature of the relationship. Unfortunately, in a capitalist society, commodifying that and paying for it actually feels a little bit natural and corrective but the responsible therapist who maintains appropriate boundaries still deals with the threat of an even greater sense of alienation of "almost known" -- right up until the point that the clock says time is up. This is worst-case so I apologize for bringing negativity to light but it makes me feel safe I guess cuz I believe there's an answer. Or I hope so
As everyone said already: great work!
The thumbs up isn’t enough for videos this good
'What we are undoing is our aloneness.' Yes. This is at the core of the way I understand the difference between what you call primary and secondary emotions. The secondary emotions - shame, anxiety, self-punishment - are by definition hermetic and self involved precisely because they are born of a perceived need not to engage others. The primary emotions are all about engagement with others or with a reality beyond ourselves over which we may have little or no control. e.g. if I walk down the street crying, it might not lead to direct engagement with another, but it will be an honest admission of how I feel to others, and that something outside me has hurt or saddened me, and that openness to engagement is the foundation for it.
Your gift to synthesize and explain complex theory and therapeutic practice to make it understandable and usable is a true gift to humanity! Thank you!!
she's back!! 🎉
"No one even noticed that I was upset" - that hurt...
Great video as always 👌🏻
Thanks for putting the time and effort in making them!
I get so much from your talks. You have no idea how much they matter.
I missed you! I am SO excited you are back. I would love for you to do a series on Somatic Experiencing in the future 🙌🏻 Your series on IFS was extraordinary.
Yes! I'd also love to learn about some somatic practices ❤
I have waited like crazy for your new video. So grateful for you to be here.
Thank you so much for this Tori and all of your videos!! I came upon AEDP a number of years ago. I think it's fabulous. And IFS and Somatic Experiencing are my 2 other favorite modalities. Unfortunately as someone on Medicaid I could not find an AEDP therapist who takes Medicaid insurance in NY. And the same is true for IFS. It's so sad that these wonderful forms of therapy are not easily accessed by those who have financial need. And this is also a sorely neglected topic. People for whom trauma and other emotional difficulties affect their ability to get along well in the world financially. Thank you again for the fantastic work you are doing here!!!!
The thing is that they are not subsidised because they work, and this takes money away from the pharmaceutical companies who profit off your trauma. As does the government. So they want you poor! Unhappy and controllable. Pharmaceutical companies fund the universities so the training that Drs get is in what drug to prescribe. That’s why the highest cause of death in America is from iatrogenesis- caused by the medical profession.
You can check out Ally therapy. They accept Medicaid and some of their therapists are AEDP/IFS/EFT trained.
Thank you for this explanation. I really feel like it is what we do in IFS, when we are into our self (as a therapist).
Yeah!! Hooray for your return! Your trainings are so clear, comprehensive and clever. So happy to learn more from you!
Thank you, Dr. Olds.
Your content has helped me so much, and I really appreciate the calm and caring way you present this valuable information.
The part where you talked about being shamed for expressing emotions really hit home for me. I wrote an essay about this very subject which I'd like to share, but I will paste it in a separate post below, as it might be triggering for some.
*Do not click on the post below if you are sensitive to child neglect/abuse*
@@quarteracreadventures855 You have such insight into your experiences as a child and send compassion for all of those painful experiences. If everyone had such deep insight, healing may be a quicker process. I am so happy for you that you have been able to let that child feel her emotions and cry in a safe and loving place
@@quarteracreadventures855 this was so beautiful and touching to read. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for reading and for your kind words
So excited to see Dr. Olds is back! ❤
Excellent! Thank you so much.
Love seeing more quality content on AEDP!
Amazing video! I love how you explain this!
Wonderfully Presented! You are great!
This is so great! I'm planning on entering AEDP immersion later this year and have been reading every book and piece of research on it. I am continually blown away but the breadth and depth of AEDP from a technical standpoint, while also having a simplicity of how it plays out in the room. I believe AEDP will be at the heilm of the "fourth wave" modality paradigm shift in clinical psychology and psychotherapy.
Thank you for the thoughtful profiles on different types of therapy!
Oh man .. finally tackling this. Thank you. 4 years in recovery. 3rd serious suds treatment center luckily had great lcsw that told me I needed this modality. She was right on. I am grateful for this info. Thank you.
Great she pointed you in a helpful direction!! Good to hear :)
SE is incredibly similar!!! This explanation sums up a lot of the components of SE.
3:47 True that !! I feel a connection to my therapist that I have never felt before. Never.
I look forward to hearing your recap of the history of the development of IFS and AEDP. They evolved from a broad base of work by our psychoanalytic "ancestors" and I would love to see them get credit.
I kind of love that I can track the chronology of her videos based on her hair length. Thank you for that!😅
Good to see you, thank you!!
Your are a magical gift for me. thank you from all my heart..
Thank you so much.
Your mother must be so very proud of you. Great video!
Thank you so much!
Your mom sounds like a wonderful human and therapist. Any chance of getting her to illustrate what she does?
Yay!!! Love your videos!!!
Welcome back!
Beautiful.
Thank you! 💚
I absolutely love your stuff. SO articulate. I wish I could speak so eloquently. It would be awesome if you did a training that provides ceu and certification. With AEDP. IFS, Sensorimotor psychotherapy, EFT/TFT/Energy pysch.🎉🙏❗️❗️🤙
Amazing video. Thank you
Thank you Dr. Tori, what would say would be the difference between IFS and AEDP?
I have really benefited from your videos-thank you so much. However, I find it difficult to follow the order in which the videos are sorted, especially when watching on a TV screen. I suggest making the sorting clearer. Thank you again for the great content!
Flawless.
ThAnks, what about ifs? Is AEDP better?
This 💯
Te amo!!!
Yay!
can you make a video series on somatic experiencing and memory reconsolidation
Thanks
your support means a lot to me! 🧡
“Living life a few hundreds of milliseconds at a time.”
How do I become an AEDP therapist? I believe I am equipped. But I have no formal training other than my own awareness.....
I have a training, visit our website Toriolds.com, there you will find all the information, the next training starts in October!
Is it just me or this sounds like the kind of therapy that would be ideal for Cluster B disorders, especially BPD?
How to find an AEDP therapist?
Olson Bypass
Please please please can you either have a drink or get a microphone that doesn’t pick up the mouth noises. It is sooooooo distracting and I have to say annoying. When I was little mealtimes were fraught with trauma, my mother would scream at my father for making noises while eating. So I know this is mine and and I need to work through it, but honestly it’s like listening to fingernails down a board and I don’t hear the content.
Maybe CC will help you. Reading the script? It does help me.