How To Make Friends With A Swiss Person | SRF Deville
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- Опубліковано 26 вер 2024
- It's near impossible to make friends in Switzerland. Here are a few nifty tricks on how to fight your way into a swiss persons heart.
Neu in der Schweiz und auf der Suche nach Freunden? Die Wegleitung zum Herzen eines jeden Schweizers.
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I'm Swiss and this is brilliant. But even for us, living in Switzerland can be exhausting
Hi😀may I ask u a thing about swiss guys please?:generally speaking about which kind of girls are they atracted?I mean both aesthetical and as nature ?I am well to do so It s really not for ur money but I am having difficulties with swiss guys tks much If u can
@@Marriedwithagreatman It's as everywhere, every person has their own taste and the "general taste" matches the "western criterias".
@@Emon_Lusk_ tks much I asked u as for ex where I live most guys prefer very nordic girls I am glad there there is no stereothipe😀
Helo hi if its exhausting then u come to our our country and we dig their u won't be exhausted any way hi don't laugh at mi English have a nice day
@@nabirukasafina5879hahaha
After 10 years of personal experience all I can tell you is, that the film just hits the nail on the head, but with a portion of irony it is becoming bearable. I even regard it sometimes as a free of charge cabaret. Exceptions may exists: hope dies last ;)
Here's a hint - Swiss people are NOT like this ridiculous collection of stereotypes. On the contrary - as you are the foreigner, Swiss people will assume that you want privacy. If you want a conversation, you have to take the first step and initiate the interaction. Then the majority of Swiss people will open up and be very friendly.
Swiss people prefer long-lasting friendships over what they see as "shallow short-term connections". I actually like Americans and their spontaneous, outgoing nature, but that's very un-Swiss. You will have to establish yourself as someone trustworthy who is willing to form a long-term friendship or Swiss people be friendly but not very forthcoming.
I once met a black woman from Texas in Glarus, of all places. She loved it there. I was like "This is about the most extreme opposite to Texas you could find" and she explained that this is how she felt, at first. But her husband, a jazz musician, had fallen in love with Switzerland, so she stayed. Then he died of a serious illness at a fairly young age. She was devastated - but found that all her husband's Swiss friends were with her the hole time. She realized that they had formed really strong bonds and she stayed.
@@captainobvious-CH Yeah typical swiss making excuses.
@@captainobvious-CH über bunzli
@@captainobvious-CHMaybe you are one of the kindhearted people in Switzerland. But I have to tell you that it’s not about privacy in Most of the cases. It’s all about: „You don’t belong here unless you have proven it.“ We have been living in Switzerland for years and we have experienced very shocking situations. We have lived in 4 different countries. Our girl was lucky with her classmates. They all started the Swiss Gymnasium and it was the perfect timing and a lovely group. But our son has never had problems to find friends before. In two different swiss public schools he was treated so badly. He was told many times to go back to the country where we come from. That was one of the kindest treatments. Even when we were just standing in front of a public Christmas tree admiring the decoration and talking to each other in high German a Swiss man randomly started screaming at us to go back to Germany. He was a complete stranger. Our son is atending a private international school now and he‘s finally recovering. It’s not the majority of people.. But the problem with Swiss people is in my opinion that they follow the crowd and go silent. Kindness never helped. I was very devestated for a while. We are still in Switzerland and we stay positive. But I feel so sorry for kids (and adults) who are confronted with this situation. By the way: I am a warmhearted person who always invites people over. I never experienced this in any other country and I am opening up about our experience hoping to make a little change.
Hits blunt: Switzerland is just secular Japan.
as a person who was raised in Japan, I can confirm LMAO
If you smoke weed it’s alot easier to find friends in switzerland trust me, they smoke alot there…
As a swiss person I can say that this is correct. One small mistake though: 89.95 Fr for a beer is really cheap, that's not a good example for our prices
Triple it and you're at the average countryside price, quintuple it and it's city price
It's funny because it's true
yeah and sad at the same time lol
It's not.
This is not true
Absolutely not true
Linkario86 absolutely not true
How to lose a Swiss friend:
Step 1: Say "I love Steuererklärung"
Step 2: Enjoy
i'm swiss and i love meeting people from other countries
Glad to hear that
I love comunicate with other people around the world od they speak English or german im Swiss too 🇨🇭
alessandro vrábel Why do I say hello to the Swiss on ins and they ignore me? Some even blacklisted me
@@alessandror.andreoli8382 Unfortunately I agree with the video well
So you’re probably 1st or 2nd generation Swiss
Missed the "ja genau" 😀
Yes they say that a lot. Never "oder"
Ja genau. I have been living in Brazil for 2 years now and still use it in Portuguese sentences ;)
I was about to comment that!
@@peterowen345 genau
ja, genau!! the missed it, oder? :D
I grew up in Switerland. This is especially true for those over 25 years old.
yup same for me, born and raised in Switzerland, I’m 28 and I have a few friends I made in college/university, but since then I’m unable to make new friends. Im also not particularly sociable.
@@Fred-zt5ky I'm looking for new friends
That is AWESOME)) I`ve relocated to Switzerland about 2 years ago and now can say, that its soo true.
I came here 7 years ago, for the first year, I could not make any friends, and I was getting stressed. My family had already lived here 12-15 years before me, and they never had any Swiss friends, I thought there was something wrong with them. Anyway, to make a long story short, after 7 years, I still don't have any friends. Not even anything remotely close. The loneliness here is very hard, specially if you come from a vibrant country or community. I have given up now, and I don't even think about it. Making friends here is the most impossible thing you can imagine. It also makes learning the country's languages difficult, because in-order to learn a language, you must talk with people, and here aside from the usual greetings when buy milk or cigarettes in shops, you won't find anyone to speak with. It is a nice country no doubt in everything else, but you can't have everything.
Excuse me, which country is your hometown in?
I hope your're doing better now mate. I wish you all the best, from an Aussie.
Stay safe. 11/8/2020
Hit me up! Let's get a beer! I'm in Winterthur.
umm "when buy milk or cigarettes in shops, you won't find anyone to speak with"
is it true?
I actually needed 4 years to got a friend (childhood) but it after it the friendship preaty much never end
"Talking about insurance all night long"... Genius! ROFL
Lol.... my best friend is Swiss & she's the only Swiss friend I have living here for 10 years. They all have their own group of friends & to be honest I can't relate to them lol. My best friend is an exception 😂 I find it easier to be friends with expats cause we can all relate to all the struggles we have to deal trying to integrate to this country.
I'm a local Swiss ( half Greek by the way becouse of my famaly name but I'm Swiss and born in Swiss)
Its for me much easier to make friends with other peaple in other country or with foreigners moved to Switzerland as meeting new peaple from Switzerland than self.
I never understood why I don't make new friends in Switzerland but making new friends from other country's lol.
German speaking countries are known to be the most hardest to make a connection.
@@sucram1018 Not really. The only country we are talking about here is Switzerland.
Yes but they have a german speaking part of Switzerland. So by default, it's hard to engage with people there because of the German influence. And yes it is true about German speaking countries.
@@mellyklint6199I used to live in all of the German speaking country and I can only say that the exception are Austrians. I work there for two years and still catch up with my friends. Germany is a different story, and I used to live in every major town in Germany.
As a swiss citizen i can say that these tactics work, you can even make me your friend by following these steps
This video is hilarious because it's true. Coming from USA, the Swiss are on the opposite end of the spontaneous scale. So you must be patient... ⏳
I worked for a year in Zurich. Most unfriendly and skeptical people on Earth. My Swiss co-workers either didn’t understand my German or pretended not to. All communication was through email or text. I had an easier time communicating in the Netherlands speaking German!
Please tell me...what was it like really? I'd like to know more... I'm thinking of moving to southern Germany or Switzerland
That bad??
Even I as a Dutchman prefer 10 Germans to one Swiss...
Oh man... here for 2 years...felt still a lonnnnnnng way to go... 🤯 🤯🤯🤯
00:47 "you can compliment his money." This is so funny xD
Since 5 years they’re tough as hell
I thought the question would have been seriously addressed...it was
Well you can get swiss friends. Its just that it works so differently than in any other part of the world that no one from outside finds out how it works.
This is really telling...
No people understand it, it's just the culture in itself puts barriers in place that make it nearly impossible to connect with someone of Swiss descent.
I am swiss, I had my child in an international school and, believe me... it is very difficult to make friends with an expat, they always stick together and criticise the country they are in without trying to understand the difference . Their world is "expat" world. Never happy in any country
Those expats (kids in international school) will relocate again anyway. They don’t need to integrate into Switzerland. That’s why they don’t care so much about the locals.
But there are loads of foreigners including me who moved here because of work or personal reasons and live here for a long time and try to make Swiss friends. It’s really almost impossible to be friends with the Swiss. They stick to their old friends and don’t really bother getting to know new people. I say this from 15yrs living in Switzerland. Read all the other comments from foreigners living in Switzerland here- they all agree.
Swiss alert! He forgot to mention that most Swiss also LOATHE any criticism, so only praise them, even if it’s false praise, because many of not most would rather hear foolish lies rather than ANY criticism. Try not to be so sensitive-it’s mostly a joke, laced with gems of truth!🤗
Seriously, though-after 6 years the few friends I made in Switzerland were expats, naturalized Swiss and Swiss with one or both non-Swiss parents. 😢 We can’t ALL be wrong.
Bunzli
I made one friend in Switzerland! But he wasn't born in Switzerland. He was born in Portugal. But it doesn't matter! I made ONE friend.
I could be ur real swiss friend😉😆
@@sonjade You sound desperate.
The sad things is that this video is so true…. after living here for 15+ yrs, i can confirm 100%
Ohhhh, let me invite u for a drink then and proof the opposit🥰🤗
Yes me to its realy sad lol
@@sonjade how to befriend a swiss if we don't drink alcohol?
@@ginotsun a drink isnt automatically alcohol...grab a tea😉😄
@@sonjade oh my bad 😅 thanks for clarifying
My husband is a swiss and I became in the end also swiss. After almost 9 yrs living here, 2 kids, little bit working, take care of my family.... I think it's not about swiss people, but gernerally modern society🤔 We're all busy as hell!!🔥🔥🔥
No culture is a thing. Don't deny it.
I am Swiss and even I can't make new friends. I always found it very difficult, especially after you leave school. Swiss never seem interested in you in the long term. As a Swiss female and ENFJ type (!!) at the age of 44 I am still looking for friends. It's sad isn't it....? I just don't get it. Making friends with foreigners is so much easier! You can even show emotions and you're not being judged by it but appreciated for it. If I could be reborn, I will apply for birth relocation!
I hope you manage to find some friends here! Not all Swiss people are like that! 😘
@@whotookmybible3079 Most are!
Hey V H! Would love to be friends with you, I'm from Indonesia 🙌🤗
Fellow enfj, I think we are percieved as "efach zvil" here
Swiss Japanese mix here! Can’t make friends either. I’m an INTP
It did take me about 5 years to make a Swiss friend and about 15 to get invited for a beer. It’s funny and partly very true.
Swiss don’t love to pay their taxes though, they just have to like everybody else.
Philipp Thomas Mathis Peter Are the Swiss so bad?
@@张新立-y1z really depends on the neighbourhood. I live in Switzerland. Since I changed my neighborhood in Switzerland we get invited by our neighbours for a cup of coffee and exchange gifts when somebody does something nice for us. While in the other neighbourhood we could not make any friends. So, just inform yourself on where you live and good luck. I think it is easier when you live in landlied villages rather than in cities.
Hello am new in Switzerland I stay in Luzern been here for just three months will love to make friends 👬
Contact me then...im from Luzern and its not that hard to become friends with swiss as shown😝🤣
Welcome to switzerland my friend👋🏼☺️
Sonja De It's hard to be friends with the Swiss! I greeted the Swiss on ins, they ignored me, and some even blacklisted me
Swiss is like the video but central of swiss is DOUBLE TIME like this video worse and harder than western and southern part to make new friends
You my sir are in the HELL if you dont want to stay lonely :D
Oh...I'm afraid if you start it too early.😅 But wish you luck!
I am in Switzerland 6 months now and I have not made any Swiss friends
Swiss people are too stuck up, boring and unfriendly.
I don't know why you guys are having such a tough time making friends here. I made Swiss friends almost immediately and all my Swiss friends are wonderful.
Who cares?
@@mellyklint6199 Bitter much?
How? In general or a few people? General culture is different from a few people.
i live in Switzerland and agree 100% (((((
Tatiana Sadykova I stay in luzern and you?
100% Not true
@@alexgamingswiss4546 so true :-)
Oh this is so funny. Not all are the same or maybe it's easy for me to meet friends. But, we're in the French speaking area so it's much more international. 😂😂
Exactly that's why! It's a different ball game in the german speaking regions.
I know this is supposed to be funny but it's actually sad, I did an internship for 3 months in Switzerland and it was just horrible. The people I met there were almost all very rude and unfriendly, I couldn't imagine treating people I strongly disliked the way they treated me and each other. It was not about being reserved or private but just without basic human respect, I can't imagine how they could act in that way all the time and how they would ever have fallen in love or have friends.
That sucks!! I live at Switzerland but recently I did my internship at NYC and I had the best time ever! It's really hard to make friends here especially if you're an expat
This! I couldn’t treat my worst enemy the way they (with a few small exclusions in terms of people I’ve met) treat people, and have treated me. For me, I see them as living in unimaginable poverty as they don’t know the joy of being with people/togetherness/all the range of pleasures, ecstasies and spirit of fun, innocent hearted love and honoring themselves and another person. It’s a place that needs to live in shame that this hasn’t been addressed (stood up to and changed) given it’s approx 5 mill people this applies to and surrounded by more humane people who have hearts and naturally share them in daily life like I’m used to in the surrounding regions. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve screamed, share some emotion, be human, have a heart…!
@@mynameisheidi Which part of Switzerland do you live in?
It is true, the French and Italian part though are a bit better in terms of making friends and if you speak Swiss German in the German part it also gets slightly easier. Nevertheless it's very hard to socialize here and even having a coffee with a colleague from work may turn out impossible. Swiss people are friendly but seem not very interested in foreigners or even other Swiss people. However apart from this it's a great country second to none.
A swiss person could let his neighboor die of sickness in spite of helping him or her, because he would be too afraid to bother and talk to him/her.. A hard mixture of egoism (bad people) and shyness (good people suffering because of the other ones)
Lol Knight how shitty can they be not to help someone in need? wtf
@@hooman-26 clearly it's an exaggeration - most people here are very helpful and nice, just a bit wary of strangers.
@@hooman-26 Lived here 10 years - they help people because it’s a societal rule (being appropriate/polite), it’s not from their heart, a genuine act - they don’t know how to do this as they’ve never formed the bonds or trust to lower themselves to a broken person to say ‘hey, I’m here, lean on me’ (unless it’s self serving, an ego thing). They do acts of kindness (flowers etc) though not genuine pick you up if you’re down help - they won’t step in. It’s a beyond unimaginable nightmare. I’m Australian and it would be a source of social shame if you don’t care genuinely to help someone out or even just sit with them or go silent (generally speaking).
@@mynameisheidi Couldn't have said it better.
@@mynameisheidi I am Swiss and unfortunatelly I agree...
Swiss people are reserved calm
Hoffentlich goht das au wider viral, super gmacht :D 👌
Alter du bisch durre und zwar richtig....
Was ich gelernt hab...
Einfach überall ein ein Li drannhängen und gut is
Eifach mal gnau aaluege und es isch guet
You forgot: "auso"😂😂
After 11 years of experience I can tell you, you just CAN'T MAKE FRIENDS WITH A SWISS PERSON.
You can with me
you helped me understand why my daughter says maybe instead of no
Why is this so goddamn true
If after such an irrational perseverance (it depends on your level of masochisme) you finally manage to get over that river full of sharks, Swiss sharks, jump over and survive deadly belts of electric fences, you'll find... Nothing at all!
Complete emptiness, limitless vanity, and painful avarice!
Better save your nerves, time, money (!!!) and have a fondue elsewhere, with a FRIEND!
P.S.
22+ years of living by them...
How to make friends with an Argentinian: just say "hi".
Pity that it didn't work on WormNET (Worms Armageddon online community). From my experience there was seriously no more impolite nation than Argentinians... Germans were the nicest! Which is one of the reasons why Germans are the nation I respect the most.
@Roenie No need to make anything a thing of the past if your feelings remain the same :)
Eifach guet 😀
So good & true 😂💪🏼
Love it!
Hahaha this is actually pretty damn accurate!
Dan Sutherland ha ha ha funny 😒😒
💯! Been here 3 hears now and only friends with Germans, Aussies, etc.
Exactly how I experienced Switzerland...so happy I left after 1 year and 7 months... 😅
Great decision you took there mate. That country is horrible.
Are you crazy? I would do anything to move there.
Which country did you move to?
Very nice country
Das macht mich grad etwas traurig, aber so sind wir halt. Freunde vom Dorf wo man aufwuchs und von der Stadt wo man in die Berufsschule etc. ging. Sorry for the expats 😐😐
I love that video almost as much as I love Roger
Saying "Oder?" 😂😂😂
😆😄funny, so lovely!
😂 Love it ❤️🇨🇭
This is so sad !!! If it is true. ....So sad.
It's true. And very sad.
AWESOME VIDEO
Tiptop! 😂
And saying, “Doch, doch“ in agreement, because naturally, they’re also always right.😉
Momoll.
Das passt so perfekt zu mir :'D
My best friend is Swiss but he always send me this video...
The swiss exclude many native swiss ppl... Its not a joke, switzerland is in a regressive phase right now..
Das stemmt leider...
Nice
Simpático! Funny! Hat Spass gemacht!
Super. Lustig;-)
Wtf this video is making us look like wild animals😂😂
Gib üs doch eif schoggi und säg Chuchichäschtli🤷♂️
Ebbe!
Genau
Hahaha brilliant!
How to date a swiss person? I am swiss myself but found it impossible to date.
It's difficult to socialize in Switzerland.
Meet a non-Swiss. They are usually more open.
@@sherlyc1978 haha. That's what I do but I'm excluding a majority of the country I'm living in.. I want swiss friends at least
Once I stoppel laughing I might type a comment 🤣
wow actually accurate lol
You forgot the infamous "Swiss Glare"
I wish that I could be offended but I can't
I dont think this works cause im a real suiss person sooooo i dont think its the best idea to kill their friends 😅
great ))) I like this video
I hope i will make some friends since i move to Switzerland haha
There are stereotypes about every country.
Also I don't feel like this comment section is very representative of how most people feel about living here. Most people I know love living in Switzerland. I wish you a good time in Switzerland.
Wanna be friends?
My stepfather is like that. From the beginning, even is legally my father, my mother aware us (me and my sisters) to refer to him with his name, and never as a "Father", and it's really difficult to have a relation with him. Even living next to his house, I near to never see him.
Asian women don't seem to have much trouble making friends with Swiss men though
Different kind of friendship ;))
i does sound slightly adorable tough :D
And pay the 50cent back hahaha😂
it is virtually impossible to make friends with the swiss...been here for over five years now and my swiss friend counter is still at zero, if it wheren´t for the money, I´d be gone a.s.a.p. - sad but true...switzerland may be a nice country, but hell, the people are not...very superficial etc.
I am quite unhappy in switzerland to be honest...
Hmmmm
Great :)
Ich kann nicht mehr. 😂
You have very nice money. Can I touch it?
Maybe (means: No)
🤣🤣🤣 so silly
Odr?
what does mean oder?
We are not wild animals 😐
Now that's funny.
Cool 😎 jetzt habe ich verstanden wie ich als schweizerr so denke 🤔 denke ich 😁😎 das ich so ticke habe ich noch nicht gewusst 🤔
Aber egal ... 🤪
Das machen doch alle so auf diesem raumschif erde
Ja nice 😂
Im suiss this is sooo funny!
KDP Kitten Draws Pictures The Swiss are not friendly!
@@张新立-y1z Not at all.
I am friend with a half swiss 😂🤷♂️ without those steps...guess it's because we live in austria (p.s. keine ahnung warum ich den kommentar auf englisch geschrieben hab 🤷♂️)
Hilarious
Oder? Gal?! Mol!
hahahah good god how true - wär schön wenns andersch wär
😂😂😂😂I am european I love swiss guys coulf u make a video on this topic pls ;what do swiss guys like the most in a girl?? I ve asked some swiss here on it nd it would be great also a video😀💙😂nd If a swiss is here when u got time tell me about it?😊💙😂seriously tks much
I am Swiss American and half of the city of Kuttigen has the same last name as I do (Wehrli), I think I will start with trying to befriend them first. Who knows, some could be my family members.
das isch eif zu geil
odrrrrr XD
Nice :)