Why Relationships Fail - Terry Real
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- Опубліковано 27 лип 2024
- Why relationships fail is multifaceted. Nowadays, women ask for more levels of intimacy but the problem is men have not been raised to deliver that thus the reason why women are unhappy.
Terry Real, a couple therapist, who master why relationships fail, shares how women can have a firm loving voice, and how men can become empathic listeners. These are very important because these are the secrets of being satisfied and happy in marriages.
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I know what I want, express my prefernces, desires, and non-negotiables to my partern, ask for what I want etc. -- and my partner is still blocking it. There's nothing left but leaving, really. It's shit. Unfortunately, expressing yourself as much as you want in a non-violent way is *not* by force going to lead to desired results. You need to find the right kinds of people to be real with.
What a man. He’s a special to the couples therapy profession.
Wow! Amazing and very validating interview. This man has a great deal of wisdom and has a deep understanding of the challenges that both genders face in navigating the minefield of relationships. Thankyou for this, it has really informed my thinking
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I believe more and more that there is no failure in Life. Only a higher or lower awareness like free birds can fly watching things in a blink of an eye and know.
“Honey, I could do this, if you would do this” is not a request. Don’t predicate a desire with a complaint. Simply make the request, get to the point. Could you do this...? You might get a “yes” or a “no” or a “maybe”. You have given the other the freedom to choose. Better yet, state a feeling, then make a request. For example, “I’m feeling frightened right now, could you be patient with me?”
Be creative, use “word pictures”. Dear, remember the animal we saw hit on the highway? That’s how I’m feeling right now. Could we take a break? I’m feeling kind of run over right now.
These are some approaches that I have found effective. Thank you.
Outstanding! Thank you Terry!!!!
This is such great insight. More need to hear !
Very much enjoyed this podcast. Thank you xx
He is great. Thank you for posting! A must listen!!
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Sadly it had been ingrained in us from early on to enact particular normative behaviours that are tied to prescribed gender normatives. They do little to help our most intimate relationships.
This is all learned behaviour, and thus, we can unlearn it, as this dialog attests to.
It’s about open, truthful, productive, non-critical communication of wants and needs and instruction. Women and men binary or not, people who deviate from the prescriptive heteronormative ascribed gender roles are the sorts we need to raise foster this unspilt sense of self.
I’m a tired husband and father . Come home I’m so tired . I’m a steel boy a welder . Gotta be tuff on the job site and come home and take off that armor . I’m too tired for all these extra things what she wants . I want to but in order to do that I need to change my job cause there is a better man underneath but tired to give . She doesn’t want me to change my occupation cause she likes the money . What then. I say “you want the money you get a tired man “ or “ new job and a energetic man for the family and love that I can deliver “ I want to but she doesn’t . I’m not succeeding because of my job that she wants me to keep . I just don’t have that energy after work with these extra things that women want . A lot of times I ask what can I do for you . Her answer is I’m suppose to know ?? If you tell me I will know and I can do whatever she asks . 🤷♂️
What serves your highest good? I would never let someone tell me whether I should leave my job or not. Take responsibility for your life.
I can empathize with your dilemna, Kenny--and I'm female. I do security at a fast-paced, busy account, and when it's over, I don't have a lot of physical energy to give to visiting friends ormaintaining and contributing to my friendships like I should. Believe me, I "get it:* I SHUDDER TO THINK what would happen if I got into a romantic relationship or marriage.
I'm thinking that the entire blue-collar world-blue collar women included-as being run ragged by our jobs, and this is increasingly making us much more socially isolated and unable to give. I fear the rise of robotics and AI, too--our jobs and ability will be the first to go.:(( What will this do to our marriages and relationships??
Good luck to you
Men Talking about women being more Empowered.....fail.
There are two hosts on this show - one is a woman (my wife). that being said, I am sure we could do more...Like, bring on women to discuss this topic too. And in other ways. Not sure I'd say this is a fail though, if people are discussing the topic of more equality, how to do it, and where we go wrong - it's a good thing. Similarly, even if it's just white people talking about racism and how to improve racial equality, it's not a fail, it's a step towards improving the issue. And then there are more steps. We will work harder to bring more women to talk on this topic for sure. Do you have any other suggestions? We are wide open to hearing from our audience. Thanks for commenting.
@@LuisCongdon Thank you. For adressing my rather blunt/ one sided comment. So...you are the man in charge behind all this? I would have appreciated if your spouse had commented.