Our teachers actually encourage us to take classes from people outside of the studio. Our only rule is to not have outside choreography done if we're competing under the studio name. (if we go as an independent, it doesn't matter)
yeah, it's the same with my teachers. the NUVO dance convention comes to our city every year, and my studio actively encourages all of us to go, and they love going themselves. it teaches us so many different techniques and styles and choreography that we wouldn't have learned otherwise
I kinda have to nuance this opinion : Our teacher always encourage us to dance more hours, whether it's by taking lower grades classes or by going to another school or summer classes, ... BUT sometimes she have to discuss with the student because even though she can't forbid attending another school, it's not always a good idea. This was this girl in my class that was hyperflexible and she started going to another school where they encourage her to lift her legs higher and higher ..., to the detriment of her placement. At our class, the teacher had to restart from the basics of alignment, placement, etc, which this girl did not like because her legs did not go as high as in the other school. She eventually leaved our school (and get injured in the other). But on the other hand, more recently another girl went to another school (our teacher did her researches and recommended it by the way), and it was fully positive ! Our teacher would frequently ask her what she learned, and in the end we all learned something. As for younger kids, I think it's better to stick to one school to acquire the fundamentals.
In gymnastics, when travelling to international events, the USA team not only are not allowed to stay with their parents, they aren't even allowed to see them before or during the event. The abuse being uncovered there is a shitfest. Similarly keeping parents out is a huge red flag for abusive teaching techniques, it should be that you can't talk to the kid during class and you shouldn't coach them.
Of course I agree with you about US Gymnastics being a shitfest, but I liked what Abby Lee did. The parents could watch practice, but they couldn't interfere. My nephew plays hockey on a pretty high level and some of the parents were freaking out at their kids when they were as young as five. It doesn't help. Of course parents have to be able to travel to and interact with their kids at tournaments, but some parents are...A lot.
@@StefSoleil Yeah, our circus school didn't allow parents watching at all, mostly for that reason. They told the parents that it was so the kids could let go of any inhibitions & freely learn and improve without being judged by their family, but I'm pretty sure a big part of the rule was escaping the reactions parents would naturally have seeing their wee little child learn sth like aerial silks... I was older by the time I joined, so I went there alone anyway, but for the really young kids I think this rule is good, that they can learn something without the parents being there, without the parents being concerned or scared for their kid most of the time, which likely would intimidate the kids too. I mean, it was circus school after all, so some things just come with a set element of danger.
I agree to this! A lot of studios don’t let parents backstage because of abusive teachings!! They most of the time only tell the rule to younger kids bc they aren’t going to tell their parents and it’ll make them more upset. A studio I heard of makes them do this and backstage they stretch the younger girls. Like, they would push them into an over split or one this I saw, they put a dancer on the teachers knee and made the dancer fold around her leg. She was crying and saying, “please stop it hurts” ugh broke me. Also, I saw a teacher put a dancer onto a beam that was about 1 1/2 feet tall and pulled their legs into a straddle and her feet were touching the ground. She was sobbing and couldn’t walk afterwards. The studio got shut down.
A “crazy” rule I had at one of my old studios growing up was - no bare feet. We ALWAYS wore full shoes (never those foot thing things or anything) and at a comp workshop, one of the junior/mini instructors had us all take off any dance shoes and go barefoot, and it was soo much easier. That next week, I went to class barefoot. Turns out - it wasn’t a “stupid” rule. The floor wasn’t up to code and was not a proper dance floor like the one at our workshop. Ended up with horrible splinters.
Whenever someone said “I can’t” they have to show their parents whatever choreo/dance they did that day in front of the teacher... happened twice and I could feel their embarrassment from metres away😂😂
I thought the “can't“ was a grammatical thing, that you had to speak properly and say “cannot“ 😂 I never danced, I was reading all the time and now it shows!
My old studio (I’m in college now) did no stomach period. Sometimes if everyone really loved a costume a sheer midsection would be allowed. I honestly think it was for the best since myself and just about everyone else I knew had lots of struggles with body image.
My old ballet teacher used to like us taking lessons from other teachers because it made us better at taking direction. It was also really useful to be taught different styles and terminology within ballet. I did RAD and ISTD ballet and I think it made me a better dancer
Why is "I can't" such a big deal. Dancing should be all about body control and self control, but if your personal borders get ignored by being punish for protect them, you'll learn the wrong things. You will learn to misstrust yourself and you'll not learn to decide, what is "good" pain, that gain your abilities and "bad" pains, caused by an injury, wich could get severe so quick. To helo someone over a border, to encourage someone needs more, than just block the option to say no.
I totally agree here. I was in winter guard in high school (dancing and doing choreography with flags and prop rifles) and we did a lot of dance training. I didn’t come from a dancer background so my body couldn’t do the same things as other people who had years of dance training. We used to have to hold splits for extended amounts of time, do complex jumps, etc that were out of the range of what I could physically do and I would get dragged for saying “i can’t do that”.
Also to add on: my senior year I broke my foot really bad at rehearsal and because I was able to move my toes a bit right after it happened my instructor decided that it was “just a pop” and that I needed to finish rehearsal with everyone else. I ended up in a cast for 14 weeks and caused extra damage by dancing on it for the 40 minutes until the end of practice.
Bc by saying just "i cant" you r implying that you are unable to do such thing and most of the time kids/teens tend to say it before even attempting to do something just bc they do bit belive they are able or think is too hard, istead the mindset should be "in this moment i can accomplish the task" or "I ll try and see what happens". The only time it is kinda ok is when there is an actual burden that prevents you from doing something (ex. You have and injury and it s forbbiden for u to try some step bc it ll hurt)
Because saying I can't is stopping you from improving um a dancer my self we can't say it because so people used to say it we dont get punished we are told to push yourself
We had that at my former company and I honestly think that it is a good way to go. The parents can see everything but there is no distraction in the studio, which can be a problem for the younger dancers. I feel like a big window/ mirror window in the hallway might also be good.
At my old dance school there was a one way mirror (parents see in, dancers can't see out) and the parents were out in the hall. I think that is really good/
Taking your classes seriously, training hard, having the proper equipment... That's what "respect for the art" is. Who cares if you wear a green leotard or a red one or whatever to class. Smart watches and jewelery, if don't interfere with your movement shouldn't be a problem. I wear a tiny necklace I have not taken off since I was 15. It belonged to my grandma and I feel incomplete without it. Why take it off for class when it doesn't make a difference at all in my dancing and it means so much to me? We are individuals with different tastes and needs, not f*cking robots or clones. We should be allowed to wear dance clothes that make us feel comfortable, happy, confident and motivated in class, as long as it doesn't affect our moves and our teacher's possibility to see what we're doing and correct us accordingly.
I get some of the parent rules. Some people might have cruel parents or parents that make their kids uncomfortable and the studio wants dance to be safe.
Agreed! Some parents so insistent on staying with the child to a problematic degree! Not when little but older kids should be able to feel safe without adults watching (especially in natural lighting in a leotard!), and some parents are SO controlling that keeping them away from child is the challenge!
I'm over 65, and I can not bend my knees to extreme grand plie any more . Physically can not. But I still enjoy ballet classes and still try do my best.
I would say smart watches/apple watches in class have to be turned off during class and can only be turned on at the end and if it's for fitness it can be kept on but if it's not and it's for getting online/checking messages/social media then yes to be taken off and put in your bag and left there in class and not warn Tracking fitness/steps = yes Other reasons = no
Tracking fitness/steps and health=yes Social media= no I say this because a few of the kids in my studio are diabetic and need to look at their continuous glucose monitor one their watch throughout class to stay in range.
Can I just point out that the “I can’t” thing could be REALLY dangerous. I’m a disabled dancer and a late starter (I’m 19 and have been ill since 14, so this is not an adult thing or just older dancers) I also know girls in my class with asthma. When I say I can’t, it’s usually because I’m about to collapse from my fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. Most of us know our limits very very well. I still dance even though it hurts every time because I love it (and it won’t worsen my condition if done correctly). I understand that it’s important to push yourself past your limits, but I actually developed PTSD from teachers pushing me past my breaking point until I felt like I was in a torture chamber (this was actually in school, my dance teacher is awesome and respects my disability ✊). This comment is not meant to shame anyone, but Claudia and other teachers please consider children with disabilities before ruling out “I can’t”, or at least accept “I can’t right now”. Just some advice from someone determined to raise awareness for invisible, and all for that matter, disabilities in dance 🦾💪
I totally get your point! I do see what not saying “i can’t” is supposed to do, but I also think that we should appreciate there simply are things we can’t do - may it be because of illness, disabilities or whatever. I guess we have to differ a bit here, in competitive dance/sports it makes sense to always push yourself and limit the words “I can’t” and change the words to “I’m not there yet”. However for those of us who dance/train for fun I think it’s a different matter. I do CrossFit when I’m able to (I struggle with some health issues to) and due to problems with my shoulder I’ll never be able to do a handstand. So why not say “I can’t do that” - I literally just can’t. Wish you all the best, xx
I agree with you 100% percent, especially with older dancers (I strarted in my teens), we tend to know our body better, and we are at the studio because we want to be there and try no matter what, so when we say we can't usually is for a good reason.
I understand your point but when teachers say we can’t say that word it’s usually because they don’t want us saying we can’t do it even though we haven’t tried
10000% agree with this! Picked up many injuries due to coaches not listening when I said no I can't. One of these is now a repetitive injury that leaves me in lots of pain! Respect peoples boundaries! If someone says they can't, ask them why. Jeez don't just force them to do it😂🤦♀️🤦♀️
I can say even from my brief time of dancing, there are definitely parents who are way to overbearing and controlling and it causes problems for the kids. So I understand why some studios have rules for the parents. When I would help teach I always tried to help the kids out if they needed so the parents wouldn't need to come in
I don’t get the probation thing for the over and under weight dancers. With my studio I was told that I had to gain weight to progress as a broad warning (was extremely underweight after coming out of quarantine) and that I do get because that is regarding the students health. But full out probation seems too excessive and more harmful then helpful :| Loved this tho!
A studio I used to work for put a dancer on probation because they were struggling from a very severe ED. I believe the student ended up going to an in-patient rehab to recover. I would agree with you that in most situations probation is too extreme, but for this student (and I’m sure others in specific situations) it was extremely unsafe to continue dancing and would’ve caused permanent damage because their body weight and muscle was so low. They ended up coming back to dance after recovery and did much better! It definitely needs to be a case-by-case decision, not if you’re over/under X lbs you’re on probation.
Scientific Humanist Yeah, It’s quite annoying. But the bathrooms are the only place we can get water from a faucet and the pipes must be bad or something because everyone there thinks it’s tastes really weird
Parents can only come in the studio on parent day but there is a waiting room with TVs so you can see in the studios without being distracting now you can not go in the waiting room cause quarantine but you can go on a zoom meeting and see the kids dance through the zoom meeting but sometimes you can go in at the end of class to video routine
The studio that I used to teach for required students to wear a nude unitard underneath all of their costumes. I thought it was kind of weird. but the demographic was a more modest and conservative area so I guess I understand.
My studio does that because a lot of the costumes are uncomfortable and itchy, so it makes them More comfortable. Also it’s a lot easier to change, last nutcracker I had 5 parts so you kinda have to because during the show you constantly are changing into a new costume
i think not enough people are talking about how when we say “i can’t” we don’t mean “i don’t want to” because if we can’t do something we shouldn’t have to be forced to do it and possibly injure ourselves very severely. when someone says “i can’t” as in “it is hard for me to do” than they should still do it, but be taught how first before maybe doing it wrong and hurting themselves. nobody is allowed to tell someone else what their body can and cannot do because it is not always just that they don’t want to do something or they don’t want to, sometimes they ACTUALLY CANNOT do something. u should except when someone can’t do something. i had a horrible experience where someone (not a dance teacher) told me to do a contortion handstand because they heard i was working on my flexibility and i said that i couldn’t and they said “just try it doesn’t have to be good” so i thought they had a good point so i tried and my back wasn’t flexible enough so my center of gravity got messed up (i also didn’t know how i was supposed to do it i kinda just did what i thought was right) and i fell on my hip and it could have been so much more than what happened. i could have pushed my flexibility too far and fell on my head. i could have lost balance and land on my ribs. so that is why you should NEVER make someone do something when they say they can’t.
i think a lot of these come from competition studios and had to be put in place because of crazy dance moms... that’s where most of our crazy rules have come from 🤣
I think students should be able to and encouraged to attend as many different teachers and workshops. Its important for them to learn and grow under different kinds of direction and teaching styles to better improve their craft
I can see both sides of the rule of “the student is not allowed to go to another studio.” On the teacher’s side, it solidifies one specific technique- that way you aren’t dancing certain pieces of technique in one style, and some in another.
Maybe the "no other teacher allowed" rule is a way to keep track of the hours, as to protect kids from overtraining 🤔 but probably not, your theory are most likely closer to the truth and that's just mind blowing
@@kimikowotherspoon-smith2462 yeah but like other studios probably like are. They could say. "Hey make sure if you do. It's a good place." Etc. And like competing with other studios I guess. The overtraining may not be an issue. Say you have class once or twice a week. You could easily have a rest day in between
@the phone call rule: you're supposed to have your phone turned off or on silent because it disturbs the whole class if it rings. In our dance school (not ballet) some teachers have the same rule with the teacher answering but in my class we have to bake a cake and bring it with us next time 😋🍰
More parts please can we have like a 30 min/1 hour version where you do tons cause I get so hooked!! Ours is no dark coloured leos cause the teacher says "girls your not at a funeral your in ballet class and it must be istd no other leos" (because of exams you have to have your istd leotard for exams so they get you used to wearing it in class)
Claudia Dean has a lot of charming ideas that are helpful for tweens and teens. At Medford Dance Arts Center we use some of her suggestions often.....thank you Claudia.
The no 2 piece rule makes sense in my head if you make it for team costumes. I remember growing up, the competetive team dancers in my studio got to pick the costumes. I always hated having to wear a two piece costume because I wasn't super confident in my body, but it was a group dance so I had to wear it. I think for solos/duets it would be okay to choose what you want though.
One of my leotards that is uniform is comfortable but it is really unflattering. Also, at my school in Australia we are asked to stand in a “turned out” position with ballet posture as apart of using our ballet manners.
At the dance school that i go to we have to stay on the same grade for like a year and a half until we can take the exam and its unfair on all the people that pick up on things really quickly
one thing that I don't like is that this year was my friend's first year at ballet and she gets to move up to the high school classes next year but I have been doing ballet for 8 years and I am not ready for it like what are your standards.
I play soccer and my coach makes them do a lap around the whole field or 50 burpees And I know it’s weird that I don’t dance in any shape way or form and I watch dance videos
My coaches used to make us do this. I feel like it actually makes for a hostile team environment tho bc we were kids so of course we are mad at the person who said it as well as the coach. I think it can backfire for sure basically.
wnterbird in my experience when I can’t rules made a hostile environment it was because my teammates didn’t get along so we were looking for fault in each other. But I also had a coach that would mark off any time we broke a rule and time we did something really well and at the end of the week she would tell us was conditioning we owed. So on friday she could say she heard 4 I cants, we missed 21 layup, and we had people late to practice 16 times. But we met 3 of our goals so we 3 I can’t are canceled and then she would tell us what conditioning was owed and no one person was at fault
it makes me so frustrated when i am actually unable to do something and someone is like “just do it, it doesn’t have to be perfect” like if i could i would but i have never been taught i cant just do something nobody has ever taught me how to do 🙄
At my studio we can't take classes at other studios without permission. It's mostly for the younger students so they don't get confused because different teachers do things differently.
I’ve never understood this. I always drank SO much water during class. I would literally pass out if my teachers didn’t allow drinking water whenever my body needed it.
At my studio the teachers always pick the costumes for the group dances and the never show your stomach because some parents don't like that. But when you have a solo you get to pick your costume and I know a bunch of people that picked two pieces for their solo costumes.
Our studio has a book that u go in if u cause drama etc and me and my friend got into it for people complaining about us cus we were better than their kids
At my dance school, we usually have costumes that are like a crop top and shorts for the girls over 13 and not everyone in the dance wears that, you can just choose.
Hi Claudia, if you ever do a part 3 could you please include this? I moved to a new studio this year and they enforce 180degree first and parallel fifths and fourths, as well as leg straight out to side (not one centimetre in front of your hips), idk if this is a "rule" as such but I'd like to know your opinion. Thank you I love your videos 🤩
I honestly think that it is a good thing to see various different teachers. I competed in horse riding for over 6 years and it always helped to get different opinions from different teachers because if the might have missed something someone else picked it up and taught me. I spoke about it with my riding instructors and the all said the same. :)
Some of these rules are crazy! My son was a very clingy 2 when he first danced to help correct kids knock knees and Mums weren’t allowed to sit at the back of the studio for such tiny kids. Many of the little girls were in tears and that was 31 years ago! I had hoped things had improved since then, especially for the older students.
At my dance school, we aren't allowed to eat in the main waiting room where the parents sit, only in the student lounge or the kitchen. BUT little kids aren't allowed in the student lounge if they can't be without a parent and kitchen only has two tables so there are little kids eating anywhere but when all the tables are full we (the older kids) get told off
In all of the studios that I have worked at (all in NY, USA) we had cameras in all the dance rooms for 2 reasons: as liability protection for teachers and for parents to watch. We often have dance moms that will stay for the entirety of class and watch; since there are cameras, they can watch from a TV in another room instead of from the doorway or through a window. As a teacher, it is definitely less intrusive and less distracting!
The only time I have used "I can't" in class is when I messed up my knee and could not turn on it. I would go exercise/plank on the side while they did the drill
The costume rule is one that we (sort of) have too. When I was a kid, we wore them all the time, and our school was very body positive, but people felt weird in them. Now we really discuss it at length and only for the high school levels. We also currently have the no parent beyond reception rule for covid. After the student goes through the health check, they go with their instructor. It cuts down on contamination potential. Once the pandemic has died down, I’m sure we will lift that rule (it’s exhausting for the preschool teachers!)
My mom was the receptionist at my studio and the window into the studio was right next to her desk. So she used to watch my private lessons. She even would come into the studio to video record for us 😂
Thanx for this Claudia, forgot how hard it can be in dance school- I tend to be over Protective so I would have a hard time as a parent with some of these situations❣️it IS good to remember that there are lots of schools and you can go elsewhere. A part three would be awesome!!❤️ so glad you have found your passion in coaching🩰
Instead of “I can’t” we had to say “I have not yet mastered this skill.” Ten years later and I still use that term in my office 😅
We had that rule in gymnastics. Our coach always said: If you say "I can't" you really mean "I don't want to".
OMG same. But it was not "I can't do it", but "I can't do it yet."
@@julianeugebauer2316 same
Yeah my teacher always has us add yet to the end when we say I can’t... she will go yet you can’t yet.
Olivia Grace Reed we have that same rule at my school.
one of my friend has a heart condition and she HAS to wear a fitbit in ballet to monitor her heart rate to make sure it doesn’t get too high
Will your friend cure?
If you read this please tell your friend that I think she is a very brave and dedicated person 💖💖
Paakhi M hopefully she does. i’ll tell her your kind words and i’m sure it will make her very happy :)
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I can say that She "have a heart do dance".
same, i always need mine
Our teachers actually encourage us to take classes from people outside of the studio. Our only rule is to not have outside choreography done if we're competing under the studio name. (if we go as an independent, it doesn't matter)
that seems very fair
yeah, it's the same with my teachers. the NUVO dance convention comes to our city every year, and my studio actively encourages all of us to go, and they love going themselves. it teaches us so many different techniques and styles and choreography that we wouldn't have learned otherwise
Our teachers encourage us to take classes she says that it’s a good thing and you can learn new techniques
I kinda have to nuance this opinion : Our teacher always encourage us to dance more hours, whether it's by taking lower grades classes or by going to another school or summer classes, ... BUT sometimes she have to discuss with the student because even though she can't forbid attending another school, it's not always a good idea.
This was this girl in my class that was hyperflexible and she started going to another school where they encourage her to lift her legs higher and higher ..., to the detriment of her placement. At our class, the teacher had to restart from the basics of alignment, placement, etc, which this girl did not like because her legs did not go as high as in the other school. She eventually leaved our school (and get injured in the other).
But on the other hand, more recently another girl went to another school (our teacher did her researches and recommended it by the way), and it was fully positive ! Our teacher would frequently ask her what she learned, and in the end we all learned something.
As for younger kids, I think it's better to stick to one school to acquire the fundamentals.
In gymnastics, when travelling to international events, the USA team not only are not allowed to stay with their parents, they aren't even allowed to see them before or during the event. The abuse being uncovered there is a shitfest. Similarly keeping parents out is a huge red flag for abusive teaching techniques, it should be that you can't talk to the kid during class and you shouldn't coach them.
Of course I agree with you about US Gymnastics being a shitfest, but I liked what Abby Lee did. The parents could watch practice, but they couldn't interfere. My nephew plays hockey on a pretty high level and some of the parents were freaking out at their kids when they were as young as five. It doesn't help. Of course parents have to be able to travel to and interact with their kids at tournaments, but some parents are...A lot.
@@StefSoleil Yeah, our circus school didn't allow parents watching at all, mostly for that reason. They told the parents that it was so the kids could let go of any inhibitions & freely learn and improve without being judged by their family, but I'm pretty sure a big part of the rule was escaping the reactions parents would naturally have seeing their wee little child learn sth like aerial silks... I was older by the time I joined, so I went there alone anyway, but for the really young kids I think this rule is good, that they can learn something without the parents being there, without the parents being concerned or scared for their kid most of the time, which likely would intimidate the kids too. I mean, it was circus school after all, so some things just come with a set element of danger.
@Lauren Vlogs But then the parents can be sitting right outside the door. My studio had giant areas for parents to sit outside of the rooms.
I agree to this! A lot of studios don’t let parents backstage because of abusive teachings!! They most of the time only tell the rule to younger kids bc they aren’t going to tell their parents and it’ll make them more upset. A studio I heard of makes them do this and backstage they stretch the younger girls. Like, they would push them into an over split or one this I saw, they put a dancer on the teachers knee and made the dancer fold around her leg. She was crying and saying, “please stop it hurts” ugh broke me. Also, I saw a teacher put a dancer onto a beam that was about 1 1/2 feet tall and pulled their legs into a straddle and her feet were touching the ground. She was sobbing and couldn’t walk afterwards. The studio got shut down.
At my studio if our pointe shoe ribbons come untucked, the whole class has to do 10 push ups. Beginning pointe was a lottttttt of push ups.
same lol
Oh wow. My ribbons come untucked a lot
Dafna Copelovitch Me too!
Damn. I can’t even do a push-up yet.
Same!!!!
PLEASE DO A PART THREE!!
Please!!!
Please
My daughter is almost 13 and her coach still won’t let have a two piece with her stomach showing and I’m definitely ok with that
A “crazy” rule I had at one of my old studios growing up was - no bare feet. We ALWAYS wore full shoes (never those foot thing things or anything) and at a comp workshop, one of the junior/mini instructors had us all take off any dance shoes and go barefoot, and it was soo much easier. That next week, I went to class barefoot. Turns out - it wasn’t a “stupid” rule. The floor wasn’t up to code and was not a proper dance floor like the one at our workshop. Ended up with horrible splinters.
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Yikes
I totally agree about the costume one. I think 2 piece costumes have become so popular in the past couple of years and they're not my fav!
They aren’t even little shorts either, they are underwear.
Like I started watching dance moms and I’d be uncomfortable wearing something like a bra on stage
The only time I really like two piece costumes is for coffee of arabia dance in the nutcracker
Ikr, like I get it if they are a teen or a senior but not for juniors or minis
Whenever someone said “I can’t” they have to show their parents whatever choreo/dance they did that day in front of the teacher... happened twice and I could feel their embarrassment from metres away😂😂
I thought the “can't“ was a grammatical thing, that you had to speak properly and say “cannot“ 😂
I never danced, I was reading all the time and now it shows!
It wasn’t an official rule but my teacher always made them do it! I mean it does depend in the context!
Am I just being a smart ass if I want to say I can not just to get around this rule.
do or not do; there is no try ! - the wise words of (ballet ) Master Yoda
We would do push-ups lol
Love the “teachers beware “in the title😂
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My old studio (I’m in college now) did no stomach period. Sometimes if everyone really loved a costume a sheer midsection would be allowed. I honestly think it was for the best since myself and just about everyone else I knew had lots of struggles with body image.
My old ballet teacher used to like us taking lessons from other teachers because it made us better at taking direction. It was also really useful to be taught different styles and terminology within ballet. I did RAD and ISTD ballet and I think it made me a better dancer
Why is "I can't" such a big deal. Dancing should be all about body control and self control, but if your personal borders get ignored by being punish for protect them, you'll learn the wrong things. You will learn to misstrust yourself and you'll not learn to decide, what is "good" pain, that gain your abilities and "bad" pains, caused by an injury, wich could get severe so quick.
To helo someone over a border, to encourage someone needs more, than just block the option to say no.
I totally agree here. I was in winter guard in high school (dancing and doing choreography with flags and prop rifles) and we did a lot of dance training. I didn’t come from a dancer background so my body couldn’t do the same things as other people who had years of dance training. We used to have to hold splits for extended amounts of time, do complex jumps, etc that were out of the range of what I could physically do and I would get dragged for saying “i can’t do that”.
Also to add on: my senior year I broke my foot really bad at rehearsal and because I was able to move my toes a bit right after it happened my instructor decided that it was “just a pop” and that I needed to finish rehearsal with everyone else. I ended up in a cast for 14 weeks and caused extra damage by dancing on it for the 40 minutes until the end of practice.
The I can’t rule is more about having a positive outlook and saying I’m working on it not forcing people to do things
Bc by saying just "i cant" you r implying that you are unable to do such thing and most of the time kids/teens tend to say it before even attempting to do something just bc they do bit belive they are able or think is too hard, istead the mindset should be "in this moment i can accomplish the task" or "I ll try and see what happens". The only time it is kinda ok is when there is an actual burden that prevents you from doing something (ex. You have and injury and it s forbbiden for u to try some step bc it ll hurt)
Because saying I can't is stopping you from improving um a dancer my self we can't say it because so people used to say it we dont get punished we are told to push yourself
I wear my medical alert jewelry and my watch for medical reasons and my studio is pretty cool with it
I liked what Abby Lee's studio did, have the parents up in the loft.
We had that at my former company and I honestly think that it is a good way to go. The parents can see everything but there is no distraction in the studio, which can be a problem for the younger dancers. I feel like a big window/ mirror window in the hallway might also be good.
@@melissag5505 I would go nuts if that was a rule in my studio.
Me too
Ema Gasparovski i would just leave lol
At my old dance school there was a one way mirror (parents see in, dancers can't see out) and the parents were out in the hall. I think that is really good/
I kinda get the parent one but as a relatively shy person, it would definitely be scary for me at first 😂
I don’t like my family watching me. Is why tho
I am so excited that you did a part two because I loved the first one!
This is actually a fantastic sounding board as to whether a studio’s rules are overly controlling/potentially abusive. Thanks!💗🌙
I agree. It sounds like some kids are getting groomed.
Taking your classes seriously, training hard, having the proper equipment... That's what "respect for the art" is. Who cares if you wear a green leotard or a red one or whatever to class.
Smart watches and jewelery, if don't interfere with your movement shouldn't be a problem. I wear a tiny necklace I have not taken off since I was 15. It belonged to my grandma and I feel incomplete without it. Why take it off for class when it doesn't make a difference at all in my dancing and it means so much to me?
We are individuals with different tastes and needs, not f*cking robots or clones. We should be allowed to wear dance clothes that make us feel comfortable, happy, confident and motivated in class, as long as it doesn't affect our moves and our teacher's possibility to see what we're doing and correct us accordingly.
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YES!! thank you! I'm really self conscious therefore I don't like wearing leos and stuff
Yaaassss ty
My teacher loves to talk about lots of things that are not related to dance.. But I still love to listen abt it😂
Can you share about what kind of bras to wear in different kinds leotards? Anyways lysm😍
yes please. especially for big boobs idk what im gonna do 💀
generally bras aren’t allowed
@@lindsayroberts6465 oww really but it's really obvious if I go braless tho..
Jeslyn Chua pasties or backless bras could be an alternative?
Lucy Macdonald Not for support. C or D cup and up usually the leotard liner isn’t enough and the stick on ones aren’t that supportive.
I think I’m kinda obsessed because I need part three😂💖
I get some of the parent rules. Some people might have cruel parents or parents that make their kids uncomfortable and the studio wants dance to be safe.
Yes absolutely
Agreed! Some parents so insistent on staying with the child to a problematic degree! Not when little but older kids should be able to feel safe without adults watching (especially in natural lighting in a leotard!), and some parents are SO controlling that keeping them away from child is the challenge!
I'm over 65, and I can not bend my knees to extreme grand plie any more . Physically can not. But I still enjoy ballet classes and still try do my best.
I would say smart watches/apple watches in class have to be turned off during class and can only be turned on at the end and if it's for fitness it can be kept on but if it's not and it's for getting online/checking messages/social media then yes to be taken off and put in your bag and left there in class and not warn
Tracking fitness/steps = yes
Other reasons = no
Tracking fitness/steps and health=yes
Social media= no
I say this because a few of the kids in my studio are diabetic and need to look at their continuous glucose monitor one their watch throughout class to stay in range.
Can I just point out that the “I can’t” thing could be REALLY dangerous. I’m a disabled dancer and a late starter (I’m 19 and have been ill since 14, so this is not an adult thing or just older dancers) I also know girls in my class with asthma. When I say I can’t, it’s usually because I’m about to collapse from my fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue. Most of us know our limits very very well. I still dance even though it hurts every time because I love it (and it won’t worsen my condition if done correctly). I understand that it’s important to push yourself past your limits, but I actually developed PTSD from teachers pushing me past my breaking point until I felt like I was in a torture chamber (this was actually in school, my dance teacher is awesome and respects my disability ✊). This comment is not meant to shame anyone, but Claudia and other teachers please consider children with disabilities before ruling out “I can’t”, or at least accept “I can’t right now”. Just some advice from someone determined to raise awareness for invisible, and all for that matter, disabilities in dance 🦾💪
I totally get your point! I do see what not saying “i can’t” is supposed to do, but I also think that we should appreciate there simply are things we can’t do - may it be because of illness, disabilities or whatever. I guess we have to differ a bit here, in competitive dance/sports it makes sense to always push yourself and limit the words “I can’t” and change the words to “I’m not there yet”. However for those of us who dance/train for fun I think it’s a different matter. I do CrossFit when I’m able to (I struggle with some health issues to) and due to problems with my shoulder I’ll never be able to do a handstand. So why not say “I can’t do that” - I literally just can’t.
Wish you all the best, xx
I agree with you 100% percent, especially with older dancers (I strarted in my teens), we tend to know our body better, and we are at the studio because we want to be there and try no matter what, so when we say we can't usually is for a good reason.
That's was my reaction. That it was a very abelist rule
I understand your point but when teachers say we can’t say that word it’s usually because they don’t want us saying we can’t do it even though we haven’t tried
10000% agree with this! Picked up many injuries due to coaches not listening when I said no I can't. One of these is now a repetitive injury that leaves me in lots of pain! Respect peoples boundaries! If someone says they can't, ask them why. Jeez don't just force them to do it😂🤦♀️🤦♀️
I agree with everything you said. I really love how you let the parents watch and everything you said on the parent topic 😘😍🙌
I can say even from my brief time of dancing, there are definitely parents who are way to overbearing and controlling and it causes problems for the kids. So I understand why some studios have rules for the parents. When I would help teach I always tried to help the kids out if they needed so the parents wouldn't need to come in
In my studio there’s a lounge which the parents can sit in but we have big glass doors so they can really always watch.
I don’t get the probation thing for the over and under weight dancers. With my studio I was told that I had to gain weight to progress as a broad warning (was extremely underweight after coming out of quarantine) and that I do get because that is regarding the students health. But full out probation seems too excessive and more harmful then helpful :| Loved this tho!
A studio I used to work for put a dancer on probation because they were struggling from a very severe ED. I believe the student ended up going to an in-patient rehab to recover. I would agree with you that in most situations probation is too extreme, but for this student (and I’m sure others in specific situations) it was extremely unsafe to continue dancing and would’ve caused permanent damage because their body weight and muscle was so low. They ended up coming back to dance after recovery and did much better! It definitely needs to be a case-by-case decision, not if you’re over/under X lbs you’re on probation.
Megan E Simpson agree with this!
I can’t believe you posted mine! And it is true robbery! And it’s a small water bottle too!
Scientific Humanist Yeah, It’s quite annoying. But the bathrooms are the only place we can get water from a faucet and the pipes must be bad or something because everyone there thinks it’s tastes really weird
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Rebecca Wayman
Yeah, it’s nasty
My dance teacher really encourages us to do any workshop or class we see cause she knows that every teacher has something useful to say or teach
Parents can only come in the studio on parent day but there is a waiting room with TVs so you can see in the studios without being distracting now you can not go in the waiting room cause quarantine but you can go on a zoom meeting and see the kids dance through the zoom meeting but sometimes you can go in at the end of class to video routine
The "I can't" rule is so true we have to do push ups if we do tho
Same and we also have to do 50 burpees and we also have to do 10 push ups if we say we can't
@@chronicallyjanine1506 oh God I hate burpees
@@Aqueduct2 me too
The studio that I used to teach for required students to wear a nude unitard underneath all of their costumes. I thought it was kind of weird. but the demographic was a more modest and conservative area so I guess I understand.
My studio does that. For any costume a nude Leo must be underneath, but I do go to a Christian dance studio!
beanlefiend I also have to do that, ours is like ballet tights material, and we wear it so it makes fast changes faster to already have nude tights on
My studio does that because a lot of the costumes are uncomfortable and itchy, so it makes them More comfortable. Also it’s a lot easier to change, last nutcracker I had 5 parts so you kinda have to because during the show you constantly are changing into a new costume
I think under is like more acceptable than like. The only thing you are wearing
Dutchik yeah, we wear it under our costumes to make quick changes faster
The first rule
Me: allergic to bananas
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That would be terrible.
Same!
i think not enough people are talking about how when we say “i can’t” we don’t mean “i don’t want to” because if we can’t do something we shouldn’t have to be forced to do it and possibly injure ourselves very severely. when someone says “i can’t” as in “it is hard for me to do” than they should still do it, but be taught how first before maybe doing it wrong and hurting themselves. nobody is allowed to tell someone else what their body can and cannot do because it is not always just that they don’t want to do something or they don’t want to, sometimes they ACTUALLY CANNOT do something. u should except when someone can’t do something. i had a horrible experience where someone (not a dance teacher) told me to do a contortion handstand because they heard i was working on my flexibility and i said that i couldn’t and they said “just try it doesn’t have to be good” so i thought they had a good point so i tried and my back wasn’t flexible enough so my center of gravity got messed up (i also didn’t know how i was supposed to do it i kinda just did what i thought was right) and i fell on my hip and it could have been so much more than what happened. i could have pushed my flexibility too far and fell on my head. i could have lost balance and land on my ribs. so that is why you should NEVER make someone do something when they say they can’t.
Part 3 Plz!! I don’t put any of my dance studio rules but I love to see these videos. Some of these r honestly really bizarre. 😆
i think a lot of these come from competition studios and had to be put in place because of crazy dance moms... that’s where most of our crazy rules have come from 🤣
good point. I am glad growing up I did not go to a competition school.
I got to a ballet studio now and all the moms are like the queen holly but at my old studio the moms were CRAZY!
I think students should be able to and encouraged to attend as many different teachers and workshops. Its important for them to learn and grow under different kinds of direction and teaching styles to better improve their craft
Our teacher sometimes films us in her iPad or phone so we can watch it back and we can try and point out our mistakes so we learn
I can see both sides of the rule of “the student is not allowed to go to another studio.” On the teacher’s side, it solidifies one specific technique- that way you aren’t dancing certain pieces of technique in one style, and some in another.
Maybe the "no other teacher allowed" rule is a way to keep track of the hours, as to protect kids from overtraining 🤔 but probably not, your theory are most likely closer to the truth and that's just mind blowing
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I think the only exception would be if they compete with that studio
It’s not just over training, it’s because you don’t know if they are qualified or if they will injure/badly teach your students.
Kimiko Wotherspoon-Smith oh yes! that makes sense ☺️
I love going to other studios and it helps to have other eyes on your dancing. That's why summer intensives are a big deal
@@kimikowotherspoon-smith2462 yeah but like other studios probably like are. They could say. "Hey make sure if you do. It's a good place." Etc. And like competing with other studios I guess.
The overtraining may not be an issue. Say you have class once or twice a week. You could easily have a rest day in between
@the phone call rule: you're supposed to have your phone turned off or on silent because it disturbs the whole class if it rings. In our dance school (not ballet) some teachers have the same rule with the teacher answering but in my class we have to bake a cake and bring it with us next time 😋🍰
So glad you made a pt2 I loved the first one. Can’t wait for the giveaway to be released tomorrow. ❤️
More parts please can we have like a 30 min/1 hour version where you do tons cause I get so hooked!!
Ours is no dark coloured leos cause the teacher says "girls your not at a funeral your in ballet class and it must be istd no other leos" (because of exams you have to have your istd leotard for exams so they get you used to wearing it in class)
10:30 amen! Teachers teach, they don’t ‘own’ students.
You should do a corona virus version like the wierd rules that we have when we go back to dance
Claudia Dean has a lot of charming ideas that are helpful for tweens and teens. At Medford Dance Arts Center we use some of her suggestions often.....thank you Claudia.
Full blown series! I love hearing about the “other side” of dance.
The no 2 piece rule makes sense in my head if you make it for team costumes. I remember growing up, the competetive team dancers in my studio got to pick the costumes. I always hated having to wear a two piece costume because I wasn't super confident in my body, but it was a group dance so I had to wear it. I think for solos/duets it would be okay to choose what you want though.
One of my leotards that is uniform is comfortable but it is really unflattering. Also, at my school in Australia we are asked to stand in a “turned out” position with ballet posture as apart of using our ballet manners.
We have just one rule. "Smile" :) We don't do competitions, so the most important thing is, to have fun.
At the dance school that i go to we have to stay on the same grade for like a year and a half until we can take the exam and its unfair on all the people that pick up on things really quickly
That's incredibly unfair! (And I'm a teacher!)
@Rachel Tolmach We have ballet and tap in a 45 minute lesson so we have to do half and half
one thing that I don't like is that this year was my friend's first year at ballet and she gets to move up to the high school classes next year but I have been doing ballet for 8 years and I am not ready for it like what are your standards.
Yes on the part 3.
I give classes to kids and if parents are around they don’t do anything
If u bring back the series:
“No wearing socks in the theatre”
Thank you for sharing and I would love a part 3, 4, and 5 at least 🤣😍🙏🏼 Love from Johanne, Norway
anything that involves separating children from their adults makes me uncomfortable.
When we say “can’t” our teacher makes the entire class do 10 push ups...
omg same but we have to do 75 😂
I play soccer and my coach makes them do a lap around the whole field or 50 burpees
And I know it’s weird that I don’t dance in any shape way or form and I watch dance videos
My coaches used to make us do this. I feel like it actually makes for a hostile team environment tho bc we were kids so of course we are mad at the person who said it as well as the coach. I think it can backfire for sure basically.
Same
wnterbird in my experience when I can’t rules made a hostile environment it was because my teammates didn’t get along so we were looking for fault in each other. But I also had a coach that would mark off any time we broke a rule and time we did something really well and at the end of the week she would tell us was conditioning we owed. So on friday she could say she heard 4 I cants, we missed 21 layup, and we had people late to practice 16 times. But we met 3 of our goals so we 3 I can’t are canceled and then she would tell us what conditioning was owed and no one person was at fault
it makes me so frustrated when i am actually unable to do something and someone is like “just do it, it doesn’t have to be perfect” like if i could i would but i have never been taught i cant just do something nobody has ever taught me how to do 🙄
Pleeaaase do a part 3!!!!
watching your Saturday videos are definitely the best part of my week!! 🕺✨
we have one camera in each studio for the parents to watch in the lobby but i don't ever notice it much
Love this video! Some of these rules made me laugh so hard! I love you so much💜😊
You should do a “ask Claudia” video where we ask you questions about ballet and you answer them,
me joking to the"I can't rule"- "I don't think its possible for me to do that"
At my studio we can't take classes at other studios without permission. It's mostly for the younger students so they don't get confused because different teachers do things differently.
At my studio, we can't drink water during class until we switch to center
cw_ballerina yes it was the same for us! And only then a few sips and no more until the end of class
@@Renxyuz yup!
I’ve never understood this. I always drank SO much water during class. I would literally pass out if my teachers didn’t allow drinking water whenever my body needed it.
Parents are not allowed to watch the classes and I really like it ! I would feel so self conscious if my parents could watch me dance !
I am not even a dancer, but I am obsessed with Claudia's content 😍😍
At my studio the teachers always pick the costumes for the group dances and the never show your stomach because some parents don't like that. But when you have a solo you get to pick your costume and I know a bunch of people that picked two pieces for their solo costumes.
Omg some of these were crazy 🤯 but still so much fun to watch 😂 plz plz do more!!!
I agree soo much with the one about only learning from one teacher/studio!!
Our studio has a book that u go in if u cause drama etc and me and my friend got into it for people complaining about us cus we were better than their kids
who else loves claudia soooo much💗💗❤️❤️💖😘😘😘
Can u pleas,please,please do a part 3
By my ballet company we have cameras in the wallway and the stage but not in class
We're not allowed to ask for the time during class.
you should do a collab with dancing with mackenzie!! also love your channel 💖
At my dance school, we usually have costumes that are like a crop top and shorts for the girls over 13 and not everyone in the dance wears that, you can just choose.
I loved the first one and am so excited you did a second one because I found the first one pretty funny
Hi Claudia, if you ever do a part 3 could you please include this? I moved to a new studio this year and they enforce 180degree first and parallel fifths and fourths, as well as leg straight out to side (not one centimetre in front of your hips), idk if this is a "rule" as such but I'd like to know your opinion. Thank you I love your videos 🤩
Claudia i think you could do a video on abuse bc i heard some stories and you could help a lot of ppl
Please do a part 3!!! I love these!!!
Watching these videos makes me realize how amazing my girls' dance school is.
I honestly think that it is a good thing to see various different teachers. I competed in horse riding for over 6 years and it always helped to get different opinions from different teachers because if the might have missed something someone else picked it up and taught me. I spoke about it with my riding instructors and the all said the same. :)
Some of these rules are crazy! My son was a very clingy 2 when he first danced to help correct kids knock knees and Mums weren’t allowed to sit at the back of the studio for such tiny kids. Many of the little girls were in tears and that was 31 years ago! I had hoped things had improved since then, especially for the older students.
Please do part 3
At my dance school, we aren't allowed to eat in the main waiting room where the parents sit, only in the student lounge or the kitchen. BUT little kids aren't allowed in the student lounge if they can't be without a parent and kitchen only has two tables so there are little kids eating anywhere but when all the tables are full we (the older kids) get told off
I think if the parent and the student is ok with their stomach showing then the costume is fine, but if they’re not, it’s not ok.
11:40 I kind of agree with this one. In all classes. Because watches aren’t always the most secure and can go flying around and hit someone
In all of the studios that I have worked at (all in NY, USA) we had cameras in all the dance rooms for 2 reasons: as liability protection for teachers and for parents to watch. We often have dance moms that will stay for the entirety of class and watch; since there are cameras, they can watch from a TV in another room instead of from the doorway or through a window. As a teacher, it is definitely less intrusive and less distracting!
Please make a part 3!!! I’m not a dancer, but I am a figure skater and it’s really interesting to see studio rules compared to the rinks rules!!!
The only time I have used "I can't" in class is when I messed up my knee and could not turn on it. I would go exercise/plank on the side while they did the drill
The costume rule is one that we (sort of) have too. When I was a kid, we wore them all the time, and our school was very body positive, but people felt weird in them. Now we really discuss it at length and only for the high school levels. We also currently have the no parent beyond reception rule for covid. After the student goes through the health check, they go with their instructor. It cuts down on contamination potential. Once the pandemic has died down, I’m sure we will lift that rule (it’s exhausting for the preschool teachers!)
My mom was the receptionist at my studio and the window into the studio was right next to her desk. So she used to watch my private lessons. She even would come into the studio to video record for us 😂
Thanx for this Claudia, forgot how hard it can be in dance school- I tend to be over
Protective so I would have a hard time as a parent with some of these situations❣️it IS good to remember that there are lots of schools and you can go elsewhere. A part three would be awesome!!❤️ so glad you have found your passion in coaching🩰