Breaking the Cycle (The Family Healing Continues…)

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  • Опубліковано 1 бер 2023
  • [TW: Mentions of abuse] Even though we’ve talked about our intergenerational trauma repeatedly on this channel, this was the first time hearing some of the things I never knew Mama Mai was feeling and still dealing with. It’s crazy to think how our experiences were so similar. This is why it is so important to talk about these things and address the issues to break the cycle of trauma so it won't repeat itself.
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  • @LadyTyger51ne
    @LadyTyger51ne Рік тому +807

    Wow…I was not ready for this episode this morning. I hope parents, no matter the culture really start to realize the impacts that they have on their children, both good and bad.

    • @phynnie
      @phynnie Рік тому +2

      Wow @ mama mai outfit

  • @soynalgona
    @soynalgona Рік тому +709

    I firmly believe that the more you get to know your parents, you'll get to learn the trauma that raised you.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  Рік тому +70

      Definitely.

    • @socialbuddafly6317
      @socialbuddafly6317 Рік тому +26

      So true and you begin to view them with a deeper level of understanding and sympathy

    • @monicaperry8663
      @monicaperry8663 Рік тому +3

      I did

    • @monicaperry8663
      @monicaperry8663 Рік тому

      ​@@socialbuddafly6317yes

    • @Abby-ll5yw
      @Abby-ll5yw Рік тому +9

      So true. Its even worse when they throw that trauma in your face, as if you had AnYTHING to do with it 😢

  • @Smiley-yk7vw
    @Smiley-yk7vw Рік тому +366

    Generational curse ends with with us! Thank you for this video. It was so needed.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  Рік тому +21

      ❤️

    • @evanganga5493
      @evanganga5493 Рік тому +3

      Amen.!

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @trlover111
    @trlover111 Рік тому +585

    Props to both Jeannie and Mama Mai for trying to confront the behaviors of their parents. 👏🏽👏🏽Letting your parents know that some of their methods did not help raise you in the best way and being able to say that to their face can be so daunting. I'm especially happy that Mama Mai tried to confront her father about it. Although he doesn't acknowledge how he traumatized her, he should hear (just like ALL parents should) that his way was not always right.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  Рік тому +33

      Well said!

    • @blondielee5227
      @blondielee5227 Рік тому +6

      However, Mama Mai did the same thing as her dad. She is just now admitting to the trauma she caused. Monaco's dad will never allow that behavior to repeat. I didn't like hearing Mama Mai criticizing a 10-month old child. Thats the way Jeannie and Jeezy chose to raise their child.

    • @janderson947
      @janderson947 Рік тому +11

      @@blondielee5227 yes but mamma Mai is trying there is a difference between criticism and causing generational traumas and they have therapy and healing and God is working on them daily for the next generation for Jeannie and Monaco ect it's not easy but it's needed I'm glad Jeannie and mamma Mai are touching on this topic 😃

    • @joycedominguez8997
      @joycedominguez8997 Рік тому

      @@janderson947 no matter what, I would keep this woman at an arms distance. She's just waiting to grab Coco and run, but there's no where to go. I'm referring to her ways.

  • @shahidarobertson7842
    @shahidarobertson7842 Рік тому +224

    Man, my heart goes out to Mama Mai every time she talks about how abusive her dad was. You can tell it still really hurts her.❤❤❤😢

    • @blondielee5227
      @blondielee5227 Рік тому +14

      She did the same to Jeannie, lucky for her Jeannie has forgiven her and kudos to Mama Mai for acknowledging her wrong, however, she needs to leave the raising of Monaco to Jeannie and Jeezy.

  • @LadyTyger51ne
    @LadyTyger51ne Рік тому +343

    Commenting again, I love how Mama Mai has just grown and even shares her feelings. You have a good mom, Jeannie, and you yourself are a good one to Monaco.

    • @focusvenesa
      @focusvenesa Рік тому +25

      She doesn't gaslight or deflect either. This was a blessing to witness the growth.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  Рік тому +93

      I realize the more we talk about it, the more we really understand and relate to each other. It's truly a healing process. 💜

    • @beckycorinagarcia2157
      @beckycorinagarcia2157 Рік тому

      @@HelloHunnay hello Jeannie, I think some one was trying to scam me. Telling me that I won a prize and that I had to pay for the delivery fee. I have the pictures on my phone from telegram.

    • @LadyTyger51ne
      @LadyTyger51ne Рік тому +14

      @@HelloHunnay It’s great your mom is willing to do it too. Some parents are too stuck in “I’m the parent, you’re the child and I’m always right” mindset, and it’s very hard to build or repair a relationship off that.

    • @Weqmn165
      @Weqmn165 Рік тому +1

      Mama Mai😂😂😂😂❤❤❤

  • @tay9sdaughter121
    @tay9sdaughter121 Рік тому +32

    I am a mom of 13 year old twins. When they were lil I never made them kiss or hug people if they did not want to. I told my children do NOT allow anyone to kiss you on the lips. My Aunt was do upset my daughter gave her cheek to be kissed and not her lips. I told my Aunt no one is to kiss my children on their lips. My children knew from a very young age to put up boundaries with people. Just because you are family don't make you a good person.

  • @tierrasardine562
    @tierrasardine562 Рік тому +181

    Who’s crying 🥺😢 …sheesh this conversation has us all in a choke hold. ❤ thank you

  • @bupekabamba6017
    @bupekabamba6017 Рік тому +64

    Oh my god. I've been reading "What happened to you" by Dr. Bruce Perry and Oprah, "It didn't begin with you," and "The body keeps a scores." And my heart sunk when I heard Mama say she ran away from home and also felt unheard, and it's the same cycle Jeannie went through. Family trauma repeats it self until someone recognises, acknowledges, and breaks it.

  • @dogood6848
    @dogood6848 Рік тому +33

    I'm a multi-ethnic person and my mother always made me feel I was never pretty enough. My hair is curly, she complained every time she did my hair, she told me I would be fat growing up and I was naturally tiny. When I had my son I remembered this and cried because I could feel all the pain I forgot. Every time I get him ready after bath time I let him know he's so handsome, his beautiful smile just heals my broken heart. Me correcting the wrong done to me, through him has definitely healed my inner child.

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @ravenpie1
    @ravenpie1 Рік тому +261

    Jeanie, the amount of compassion you show your mom who still is WRONG about the way she listens and reacts to your childhood trauma is beyond.

    • @lilchef6124
      @lilchef6124 Рік тому +74

      Mama Mai is trying and it shows! Abuse, a refugee, starting all over in a new country. She has been through SO much, and I can only imagine how much she's hiding because she's still so prideful.

    • @joycedominguez8997
      @joycedominguez8997 Рік тому +10

      Mama Mai will never change because she has to be right.

    • @thelifeuchoose
      @thelifeuchoose Рік тому +15

      Agree. I'm so hard on my mom and she's a better listener than Mama Mai. Jeanie helps me show more unconditional love and patience towards my mom. Cause Mama Mai is alot to take lol.

    • @mufarowashedondo9158
      @mufarowashedondo9158 Рік тому +14

      @@thelifeuchoose Mama Mai literally agreed with what Jeanie was saying. She just made a joke about coco being sassy at the end. She did agree maybe yall weren't hearing her. She said she never wants a kid to feel unheard, she said she regrets being scary to Jeanie growing up.

    • @PaulinaMedia
      @PaulinaMedia Рік тому +3

      This was healing for me too, Jeanie. My mother and I have a similar relationship to you and your mom. It’s truly a blessing that Mama Mai agreed to therapy and doing the work with you. My mom won’t don’t do it / will NEVER consider it as she’s too prideful and ALWAYS right.
      Unfortunately, it’s a culture thing for us too - Most Latinos don’t go to therapy. Ugh. 😞

  • @advice4u409
    @advice4u409 Рік тому +87

    Jeannie is such a good communicator! I get so touched every time Mama Mai talks about her childhood trauma because I have seen her growth in becoming less resistent and defensive when Jeannie shares how she experienced Mama Mai as a child. You all are breaking generational curses and Monaco will benefit from the love and understanding.

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @jazzminesteward8801
    @jazzminesteward8801 Рік тому +42

    Mama Mai grew up in a very different time…… based on how she responds to certain things shows this. She is getting better with understanding and sharing her feelings. My heart goes out to her because I can’t imagine being abused in that way by someone who is supposed to love you unconditionally. I am glad you Jeannie are bringing this to the surface and changing the generational trauma of not being able to speak up for yourself. I am glad you two are working together to heal as well ❤️

  • @oliviawonderful7555
    @oliviawonderful7555 Рік тому +61

    A lot of us grew up in strict households where you didn't have a voice as a child. We wouldn't dare ask why because we knew what we were going to get. I didn't realize just how much that affected me in life. Listening to these kinds of stories can help us get through it and grow because we know we are not alone. Thank you

  • @Thrivinginthespotlight
    @Thrivinginthespotlight Рік тому +211

    Jeannie, you are a role model. I feel like you have paved the way for so many people that would have never known this information otherwise to go get help for themselves and their family about this particular kind of generational trauma. you are amazing, and so strong and so brave to be facing this and fighting it instead of turning away and hiding. I'm so happy that you are in the world.

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  Рік тому +34

      This is such a beautiful compliment, and I do not take that lightly. You guys are Mai Fam and I mean it through and through❤

    • @Thrivinginthespotlight
      @Thrivinginthespotlight Рік тому

      You are so loved!
      Cheers
      Darya, an autistic writer from TX

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

    • @roberthutchins6959
      @roberthutchins6959 Рік тому

      @@HelloHunnay Hi Jeannie,have you ever considered converting back to your original Buddhist faith?

  • @martineonthescene
    @martineonthescene Рік тому +53

    This episode hit home really hard. 😢 Had me in tears. I grew up in a Haitian household and, just like the Vietnamese upbringing, so many of us have had too many generational curses to break. It can be super painful…

  • @Hispaniola.
    @Hispaniola. Рік тому +75

    This episode was great. As a kid, I felt alone and was abused, I no longer talk to a few family members because having them in my life remainds me of how they hurt me as a kid. I haven't fully healed, but looking back, I have come a long way and feel much better.

  • @resilientred1699
    @resilientred1699 Рік тому +26

    As a mother of a young adult, I'm learning so much about how to back-off from some of my beliefs and how to listen better and to trust my son's intuition. In my experience growing up, one of the things that hurt me most is that my folks taught me to be quiet out of respect and not to talk back so I was frustrated for not being allowed to stand up for myself. Now, as an adult, it makes me scream and yell in order to be heard, when it often times isn't warranted. Never too late to grow and learn better. I simply adore Mama Mai. "Don't forget to surprise"!!! KMSL!

  • @jyn88
    @jyn88 Рік тому +40

    Your relationship with Mama Mai grew so much over the years. It's truly beautiful to witness.

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

    • @Beth-mi2hf
      @Beth-mi2hf Рік тому

      ​@@dr.christopherjohnson4356 scammer

  • @Natikillz
    @Natikillz Рік тому +103

    This episode had me in tears my mom is a recovering alcoholic and chose to get sober when I had my son in 2020 to help care for him while I work. Our parents have trauma that they never got to let go of I’m so happy for this generation of parents healing our trauma and helping our parents heal theirs ❤❤❤

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  Рік тому +10

      Thank you for sharing!

    • @debora.426
      @debora.426 Рік тому +2

      Oh wow sis I'm in recovery for 24 years. I raised my son, got sober when he was 22. I AM SORRY DEAR HEART BUT TX GOODNESS FOR HER SOBRIETY, GBU & FAM

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @fakeaccount704
    @fakeaccount704 Рік тому +14

    Mama Mai cries about her own experiences, but still struggles to find empathy for her daughter. It’s tough to watch. Notice she rarely cries for Jeannie. When I told my mom about my childhood trauma, she couldn’t stop blaming herself and crying. She felt so much guilt. I don’t see that remorse with Mama Mai. But she’s starting to see her failings, and that’s a good first step.
    She’s trying and making baby steps towards progress though, and that’s always positive. Keep up the good work Mama Mai

  • @lareinalorena
    @lareinalorena Рік тому +41

    From my mom passing I realized how much trauma she suffered and how it passed along. The fact that I've had to forgive both parents as a result of their death always pains me. The beautiful thing in this moment is you both have a chance to discuss and resolve your traumas and foster a beautiful relationship in life. It's such hard work but it's necessary. Keep it going!! That's such a blessing, you should cherish it forever.

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @tweetyhearts3169
    @tweetyhearts3169 Рік тому +5

    Me too. What happened to Jeannie also happened to me also. It's so important to listen to our children . We all have some kind of trauma even our parents. Time to heal. Be safe everyone.❤

  • @cristinalebron4077
    @cristinalebron4077 Рік тому +54

    Wow, this was such a great video! 🥺
    I feel we all have childhood trauma and ghosts but I am so happy Jeannie and Mama Mai were able to talk through their pasts and have a better relationship now! 😊

  • @mrs.bondenglish
    @mrs.bondenglish Рік тому +2

    I ❤ this episode. Growing up, I experienced a lot of trauma. I was a senior in college when I learned that my trauma rewired my brain. As a parent and teacher, I am intentional about learning my triggers so that I can be better for my children/ students.
    Thank you both for being transparent, which helps others to be transparent and heal.

  • @lauralarrabee7870
    @lauralarrabee7870 Рік тому +7

    Thank you to Mama Mai for being so vulnerable. Recently I had the same conversation with my mother. My grandfather was similar and even after all these years she also remembers the physical abuse disguised as punishment. It was also a lesson in forgiveness because she did not prohibit us from getting to know my grandfather. Time to release and break the generational trauma. Forgiveness is the power to heal ourselves and break free from those chains for a brighter future.

  • @julievaldez21
    @julievaldez21 Рік тому +37

    Mama Mai has really come a long way 🥲

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @TiffTALKS22
    @TiffTALKS22 Рік тому +14

    Love this. This is Shadow Work. Breaking generational patterns/curses helps YOU to heal. Im actually posting a shadow work pick a card TODAY. so this is very timely. This video is how it impacts your child but you can also explore the impact of these things on YOURSELF and how it affects YOU TO THIS DAY. Some people don't think it does, but until you acknowledge it, it will affect you even if you don't realize it. Love this Jeannie.

  • @vhl333
    @vhl333 Рік тому +27

    This is the kind of healing that everyone needs. I'm a very reserved person, and really hope that I can talk about these sensitive and delicate subjects so openly one day.

    • @mentalhealthnamibia3926
      @mentalhealthnamibia3926 Рік тому +1

      same here and I've also realized that to heal myself I need to TALK, the greatest gift anyone can give to themselves

    • @fayechamp4156
      @fayechamp4156 Рік тому +1

      trust both parties needs to be ready! i tried the with my Mom and boy it didn’t end well stop talking for 3 months but i think it helped me. Good Luck

    • @vhl333
      @vhl333 Рік тому +1

      @@Britneyw1735 Thank you!

  • @e.t.5777
    @e.t.5777 Рік тому +8

    Thank you Jeannie for having the difficult conversations about your traumas with your mom. I can also appreciate that Mama Mai is also willing. There are many of us, (and im 53 yo) who have yet to get over the hurdle of beginning to have an open, honest conversation with our parents. There's a certain generations that, like Mama Mai's father, believe whatever they say as parents is the last word, and that what they've done is not to be spoken about. It has, and still is doing irrepairable damage to everyone involved. I commend you both.

  • @focusvenesa
    @focusvenesa Рік тому +16

    An emotional roller coaster I do not mind being on. I was able to see my mistakes. Moms teaching moms, I love it!

  • @WallFlower08
    @WallFlower08 Рік тому +16

    We need more episodes like this! I love seeing the growth in Jeannie and Mama Mai! Let’s break the generational curse!

  • @ashleyvega8470
    @ashleyvega8470 Рік тому +7

    Ahh this made me cry!! Mama Mai treats Monaco how my grandparents treated me and I’m forever grateful. The relationship Monaco and mama Mai is going to be even more beautiful than you can imagine

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @trashawn.w
    @trashawn.w Рік тому +32

    Welcome Back Jeannie!!! I missed y'all so much!!! And I felt EVERY word of what BOTH of you were saying. And I can relate to this a lot myself too, especially about parents yelling out my name with anger & showing affection to random so called "relatives". See... THIS RIGHT HERE is EXACTLY what the world needs!!! And I'm glad that everything's working out for you guys! Thanks for sharing this episode Jeannie!!! I luv y'all!!! 💚💚💚

  • @sincerelyabbeyy
    @sincerelyabbeyy Рік тому +39

    I love these type of videos it hits home, especially growing up in a traditional Mexican household. I think til this day i’m fully not understood why I struggled alot / still struggle with my mental health til this day.Thank you for sharing & posting this video💕💕💕

    • @greenbutterfly2421
      @greenbutterfly2421 Рік тому +3

      I definitely hear you and I can relate, growing up in an African home, the culture really messes us up. I have depression and anxiety to this day and I’m turning 30 years. We really need to break the cycle.

    • @sincerelyabbeyy
      @sincerelyabbeyy Рік тому

      @@greenbutterfly2421 praying for your healing 🌼🫶🏼

  • @MIKEYPROGAMER
    @MIKEYPROGAMER Рік тому +14

    This was so beautiful because normally Jeannie would really give it to her mom, but she really listened and was very empathic towards her mom!! I love you guys!!

  • @aleshadshay568
    @aleshadshay568 Рік тому +5

    This was SO good!!! It was so profound when Mama Mai stated that she still kind of spies on Jeannie because she realizes that she did some thing to Jeannie and realized it was generational and based on her traumas and she doesn't want another generation of the same thing happening!!
    "The ghost in the nursery." Thankful for this and makes me continue to work on my traumas and such because I realized recently that I had bad anxiety and saw how it was showing up in my 5 year old daughter.

  • @goodies28
    @goodies28 Рік тому +6

    Such an important episode. As an expectant mom with my first child I have to be so deliberate in not repeating the horrible cycles in my family. May the Lord helps us all.

  • @muppet08609
    @muppet08609 Рік тому +14

    This was so powerful to watch. I’m proud of both you and your mom Jeannie. Monaco is one lucky little girl to get to experience THIS version of her mom and grandma. I’ve been afraid to have children on my own for fear of passing on traumas I haven’t yet healed from. This really blessed me thank you ❤

  • @romnickduran4886
    @romnickduran4886 Рік тому +2

    such an underrated channel! we need to rally more people to subscribe!

  • @beatpirate8
    @beatpirate8 Рік тому +2

    Jeannie Mai I’m the same age as you. And it’s only recently that I’ve mended with my mother. We still get into arguments and my mother is hot headed like your mom. Thank you for these talks. The generational gap seems so wide and unmanageable. But with your discussions with a facilitator it seems so possible, so healing, so worth it to hold onto each other. Thank you!

  • @selinasoo8132
    @selinasoo8132 Рік тому +35

    How did I go from balling my eyes out to laughing by the end 😭🤣 Great episode!

    • @HelloHunnay
      @HelloHunnay  Рік тому +5

      Mama Mai knows how to do it all LOL

  • @pookieadw
    @pookieadw 4 дні тому

    Mama Mai is a victim of her circumstance's and upbringing and she internalized the violence and anger she endured as a child. Jeanie you are breaking generational curses. It's also amazing that Mama Mai is open to talking about this with you. I am south asian and my mom is a lot like Mama Mai. She wouldn't be open to ever discussing feelings or any sort.

  • @ytyt9195
    @ytyt9195 Рік тому +2

    Thank you Jeannie and mama Mai. I love videos like this. And I'm truly grateful for it. My family is very dysfunctional, but because of both of yall video like this, I'm the only one in the family that came back and talked to my mom. I'm the only one who cane forgive me mom because I know she has trauma too. Thank you mama Mai. ❤

  • @TiffTALKS22
    @TiffTALKS22 Рік тому +19

    Love this sooo much. If you are not growing, you're standing still. There is NEVER nothing new to learn or realize. Keep evolving guys.💙

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @Sandyyyyy91
    @Sandyyyyy91 Рік тому +2

    This episode hits close to him. My mom and I are both healing. It's been hard to go through, but we're determined to break this generational trauma. Thank you, Jeannie and Mama Mai!

  • @alliecr1057
    @alliecr1057 4 місяці тому

    Listening to Mama Mai share her traumatic childhood is so heartbreaking. The fact that she’s willing to open to share and try to love and understand Jeannie through her own experiences shows so much courage and strength. We all make mistakes as parents and do the best we can based on what we know . Some times we hurt our kids even when we try to do better than what we had. These videos have helped me so much in understanding the generational trauma in my own family and inspires me to work through them too

  • @Godisgreat-777
    @Godisgreat-777 Рік тому +6

    Wow, this really triggered me and brought memories of being in unsafe company. EMDR therapy is helping so much with those scary memories. I hope and pray I never did any of this with my own child. I hope and pray I kept him safe. No wonder our world is caving in on itself. God please heal, bless and protect ALL children and adults still suffering from their awful childhood.

  • @penelope.b3297
    @penelope.b3297 Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your stories. My mom passed away in 2020. I finally had the courage to ask her why she behaved the way she did before she passed. I had no idea that she experienced the same trauma from her mother. Her willingness to be vulnerable brought us closer together in the final year of her life.

  • @tarrickstewart3968
    @tarrickstewart3968 Рік тому +3

    I am so proud of Mama Mai! Such growth from just a couple years ago. Beautiful.

  • @charlottelisewilliams
    @charlottelisewilliams Рік тому +3

    Watching two generations of the same family break curses and healing is just amazing...not everyone has this and sometimes there are a lot of people that have to do it alone. Am proud of Jeannie and Mama Mia 💝 keep healing ❤️

  • @andreen596
    @andreen596 Рік тому +3

    These conversations are soo important. Jeannie showed healing and Mamma Mai showed soo much grown. I'm soo proud of you both. Dr. Cyndi is the best!!! This was amazing. Thank you for sharing.

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @sue_c
    @sue_c Рік тому +2

    Thank you for sharing your story! As a biracial child, I can relate to your relationship with your mother.
    You are breaking the trauma which is so BRAVE!
    Continues strength to you and your family! ❤

  • @chosenonekay
    @chosenonekay 11 місяців тому +1

    Those demons really do haunt you if you don’t deal with them correctly. They manifest in your actions and how you treat others. Its so important to heal and face them instead of running so you won’t repeat the same cycles.

  • @michaelaklenzo6191
    @michaelaklenzo6191 Рік тому +7

    This is beautiful… watching this video on UA-cam open my eyes to so many things that have happened in my past. Thank you the Mai family for being so venerable on screen.

  • @terraodell
    @terraodell Рік тому +1

    The nightmares of abuse are BAD, when mama mai brought it up I instantly started sobbing

    • @terraodell
      @terraodell Рік тому

      They can be so vivid sometimes I don't even realize I'm dreaming

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @larteley3723
    @larteley3723 Рік тому +19

    Jeannie, thank you so much for this episode. It’s healing 🙏

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @bettyboop2792
    @bettyboop2792 Рік тому +2

    Listening to you talk to your mom sounds like me talking with mine. Thanks for showing me that even with years there’s still hurdles. I admire y’all’s relationship, growth, and openness

  • @nicolereyes9420
    @nicolereyes9420 Рік тому +2

    You never realize until you start to discuss hard topics how much you uncover, which is a lead to needed healing

  • @tomishapolk6875
    @tomishapolk6875 Рік тому +11

    I love this! This was so deep and refreshing. Mama Mai showed true growth and evolution. I'm so proud of her. This talk seemed needed between you two. I wish other families would do this more, especially mine. This is where real healing starts!

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @TitiTAH
    @TitiTAH Рік тому +9

    The nightmares are true. I’ve been on my own now for 7 years and still wake up clutching myself to protect myself when my dad would hit me. My former partner use to just hold me and Tell me I was safe. This video was so necessary. 💙

    • @larissalaflore7202
      @larissalaflore7202 Рік тому +1

      Some people joke or make hitting children as something necessary for discipline. Some saying being hit til there were bruises or until they cried made them a stronger and better person. Those things get passed down in families. Sometimes hitting goes too far and in some situations parents get to take out their own frustrations and demons on their kids. I think people feel guilty saying their parents were wrong about some things.

  • @hammyithink5362
    @hammyithink5362 Рік тому +3

    jeannie thank you so much. this is the only channel where i feel my experiences and feelings and thoughts that have always been neglected re-surface. i can finally understand why i felt the way i did and have a bigger picture and it's an amazing opportunity for me to heal and i really want to thank you for shedding light on this. maybe there's so many more people going through what i've been going through as well. ❤💕

  • @WAKINUPwithDee
    @WAKINUPwithDee Рік тому +3

    Jeannie, your vulnerability is always so admirable. Mama Mai is awesome for being open to this process. You two are such a good example of working on healing. Healing is so much harder than I ever realized from doing my own work.
    I am so happy every time I see Monaco. As a 40 year old woman, you give me hope in possible motherhood.

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @Zuluisms
    @Zuluisms Рік тому +3

    keeping in mind a lot of work gets done off camera as well, I just love how much these two have grown their relationship over the years and have opened up and become way more vulnerable with one another. equally happy they are willing to share their stories, helping countless of others. sharing, understanding, and applying what’s been learned heals ♥️

  • @Dawn-xf6bh
    @Dawn-xf6bh Рік тому

    Thank you Jeannie, Mama Mai and Dr. Cyndie for fostering such healing for so many...❤

  • @emybacon
    @emybacon Рік тому

    What a powerful episode! Thank you for being so vulnerable and brave to share such intimate life-stories with us.

  • @snowflakeamber04
    @snowflakeamber04 Рік тому +9

    Generational curses are so real and I didn’t realize what it was till now and I am 36 . There is a root to the behavior and we have to talk to our family to get to the root of it. So awesome to see that healing taking place 💛🙌🏼

  • @bgirldskco
    @bgirldskco Рік тому +1

    Thank you for having this episode!!!!

  • @veronicasimubali2493
    @veronicasimubali2493 Рік тому

    Thank you so much to you and Mama Mai this was such a wholesome conversation.

  • @sashaalv7694
    @sashaalv7694 Рік тому

    ugh! these heart felt moments are the reason why I am so invested in your channel. It's been a while since i've watched and this episode hits hard. Thank you for this Jeannie! Blessing to you and the fam

  • @shivonneadams30
    @shivonneadams30 Рік тому +6

    Beautiful episode! The growth in both Jeannie and MamaMai's relarionship wrt their past is so very evident. So glad to see MamaMai recognizes those ghosts and does not want to see them repeated. Sad that her father still does not recognize the pain he inflicted.

  • @nay9702
    @nay9702 Рік тому

    I love this channel. You all are showing me examples of strength and forgiveness and it means a lot to me.

  • @ceessimplesecrets
    @ceessimplesecrets Рік тому +3

    I love that you and your mom are able to have these discussions. I’ve tried with my mom but she takes no responsibility and it still hurts. This is how healing can begin!

    • @siiiiiuu7
      @siiiiiuu7 Рік тому +1

      Both my parents (divorced) are the same. Unfortunately, not everyone gets to experience these breakthroughs, and because of that, I was stuck for a really long time. I heard a quote once that helped me change my perspective a bit. It went - "just because something isn't your fault, does not mean it's not your responsibility". I interpreted it as, we can't dwell and stir in pain (or worse, pass on the pain to others) simply because our loved one isn't willing to do the work with us. Although it may not be fair, and the source of pain isn't our fault, we can at least be responsible for taking steps towards healing the best we can and breaking the cycle. Hope this helps in some way ❤‍🩹

  • @MsPatricia2683
    @MsPatricia2683 Рік тому

    Thank you Jeannie for sharing. You can’t even imagine how much you are helping others with your life stories and your healing process. Continued blessings for you and your family🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾❤❤

  • @Thinkslikemakeup
    @Thinkslikemakeup Рік тому +3

    I always try to express myself to my mom of the feelings I had as a little girl and how it had affected me then and affects me now.... but all she does is say she doesn't want to talk about it and that I need to grow up and move on, she literally would hang the phone up if I brought up these "ghost in the nursery" (it has happened multiple times), I I wish we could hold a conversation like this.

  • @stephaniezaldivar4863
    @stephaniezaldivar4863 Рік тому +7

    Thank you for this episode. We need to have more of these cause it is so therapeutic… we need to have more conversations like these
    We always suppress as kids

  • @babalwazikhonangozi2426
    @babalwazikhonangozi2426 Рік тому +1

    Such a needed convernsation...we learn everyday and we are so grateful Jeannie for all this that you teach us on this amaizing channel...honestly needed this right now in my life and I will practice,I will try to do better...🙏🏾❤

  • @lisama4903
    @lisama4903 Рік тому

    Oh man you brought tears to my eyes . We all have hidden traumas that we carry around with us. They shape us without us even knowing it. It’s so important to talk about this stuff. Look at we can achieve ❤

  • @krystalreyes6499
    @krystalreyes6499 Рік тому

    Dr. Cyndie is an awesome facilitator. Way to lean in and do the hard emotional work ladies! ♥️

  • @victoriacastaneda4093
    @victoriacastaneda4093 Рік тому +1

    Love this!
    I got a giggle when Mama Mai wiped her tese THROUGH her glasses. I know her crying IS NOT funny. But I just LOVE Mama Mai and it helped LIGHTEN my feelings for just a SECOND. I am NOT undermining her feelings at all.. in any way, shap or form. This episode is AMAZING and never thought about that.. I have grands now and this says a LOT!

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @Selenalopezz
    @Selenalopezz Рік тому

    Thank you so much for being so open and vulnerable.

  • @shadyjoanneboots
    @shadyjoanneboots Рік тому +1

    It's really beautiful to see you and Mama Mai have this moment. Your relationship has come a long way and I think Monaco has been a huge help in bringing you closer

  • @shonquesanders4232
    @shonquesanders4232 Рік тому

    This is so deep and such a needed discussion. This hurts my heart so much. Brings up so many memories of my childhood. I wish I could give mama Mai a huge and tell her she is such a light in this world. Such a beautiful light. Jeanie you too are such a beautiful spirit and I love your honesty and openness about such important topics. You truly are a lovely human inside and out.

  • @aveplata1814
    @aveplata1814 Рік тому +1

    I never comment on videos but I feel called to do so now because this spoke to my soul!!
    I see & hear so much of my grandma in your mom (my grandma came to America from Thailand w/ my grandpa back in the 60’s/70’s) and now that I’m on my journey to healing & breaking the cycle, having conversations like this w/ my grandma has been difficult due to the language/cultural barriers.
    All this is to say, PLEASE continue this series &/or continue shedding light on this sector of healing generational + cultural trauma for those of us dealing w/ something so specific yet convoluted as this.
    Thank you so much, JM for speaking your truth & sharing some of your/your moms story w/ us; I genuinely look forward to hearing & seeing more!

  • @jayw3703
    @jayw3703 Рік тому

    I love you guys so much for this honesty! Generational trauma is a very real thing and needs to be talked about more! Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! Someone please give Moma Mai and Jeannie an Emmy or something!

  • @vthomas372
    @vthomas372 Рік тому +3

    This episode really makes me sad and happy at the same time. Realizing that our parents do have their own struggles, they just hide it from us. Thanks for sharing ❤

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @ericma9895
    @ericma9895 Рік тому +3

    This is an amazing video!! Thank you for shedding light on this topic - generational trauma is real, especially in the Asian community. So authentic & real.

  • @fannyhuamani3306
    @fannyhuamani3306 Рік тому

    I love these videos and really am so happy that you and your mom have continued with this journey… it takes a lot for a parent to admit their wrong doing and for you as the child as well. So happy for you both! ❤❤❤

  • @mrs.burgess8642
    @mrs.burgess8642 Рік тому

    You both are doing a great job with communication and talking about your past. I also recognize that you both have a special way of communicating to help each other understand. As parents the child will not always understand why they do things the way they do until they become parents themselves.

  • @leesmeereads2much
    @leesmeereads2much Рік тому +1

    I love this show , every episode is very vulnerable and usually has some laughter even in the seriousness. Love Momma Mai ♥️

  • @dahliavarghese6037
    @dahliavarghese6037 Рік тому +3

    Mama Mai looks beautiful. Love her headwrap & color choice. I appreciate her comic relief after a heavy session. Dr. Cyndie is such a supportive doctor 💜 Thank you ladies for being vulnerable & sharing your ghosts in the nursery. Hopefully this info will help many to try & heal from generational or personal trauma & break the pattern.

  • @Tressesbyjoanmary
    @Tressesbyjoanmary Рік тому +3

    The amount of love that outdoors from this episode is heartwarming ❤

  • @siabatumoe3933
    @siabatumoe3933 Рік тому

    I think we all needed this. Just seeing a mum wake up to her own behaviour and apologise healed a small part of us all that needed to hear that

  • @louelsla3070
    @louelsla3070 Рік тому +6

    I love seeing Mama mai and Jeannie speak on Breaking generational Curses 🥹 warms my heart so much because in my opinion, the Asian culture and Polynesian culture have so many similarities when it comes to our elders and honouring them no matter what, hiding our feelings, no matter how toxic your family can be you have to love them no matter what. I love you Jeannie 😩 AND mama mai of course 😌🖤 please do more videos like these! Is therapy for me in a way and also for my parents because I always play these videos on the TV for them to watch and hear too

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love 💚us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @camilliachatman5657
    @camilliachatman5657 Рік тому +1

    I just want to give momma Mai a BIG HUG 😢 ! Thank you Jeannie for speaking up for yourself and your transparency and vulnerability, this will help many!
    I know what it feels like when you are not believed or feel like being heard.😢
    Thank you again

  • @jonbarzanti8941
    @jonbarzanti8941 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤ This is such a wake up call. Thank you for expressing how you felt as a child when we all should be heard ❤

  • @yasminlbner9724
    @yasminlbner9724 Рік тому

    This episode is so healing! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story!

  • @ourbreakthroughpodcast9353
    @ourbreakthroughpodcast9353 Рік тому +6

    Wow!! This was everything!! The work that you and your mother have done on your relationship and past generational traumas is so incredibly inspiring!! Thank you so much for sharing, Jeannie 🙏🏾. I have so much respect for your transparency, candor and vulnerability...dating all the way back to the beginning of The Real.

    • @dr.christopherjohnson4356
      @dr.christopherjohnson4356 Рік тому

      Hello, I hope you're safe over there? I hope this year brings happiness, prosperity, and love all over the world, I would love us to be good friends in honesty and in trust if you don't mind. I'm Doctor Christopher Johnson from San Francisco, California, where are you from if I may ask?

  • @nateliontrueleo5436
    @nateliontrueleo5436 Рік тому +118

    Mamama Mai know how to close out the show... with everybody smiling and laughing

  • @ltv7268
    @ltv7268 8 місяців тому

    Love the honesty and authencity in this mother daughter relationship. Underneath all the hurt, pain and trauma...is LOVE. Deep unconditional love. I see two wounded souls through humility, readiness and willingness use respectful communication to understand and have compassion for each other. And in doing so, bring about true and lasting healing and transformation to their relationship.