2nd story. 2 hours is a short time, but if I were the wife the first thing on my mind would be to tell my husband first. She almost got me with wanting to make it a surprise, but OP made a good point with her being ready to tell him immediately when he called her. Her first reason of wanting to surprise OP was probably a result of panicking because of the call saying he already knew about the pregnancy.Honestly, this is just a result of shitty friends and I'm glad OP and his wife made up. Honestly, this is just a result of shitty friends and I'm glad OP and his wife made up.
Yes she has a shifty friend but 10 people before him? I mean I understand her parents (though honestly he should be told before them in most cases but it's not so bad it can't be ignored and let slide) but some of the people she told should be lower on her priority list then him even if she wants to surprise him (surprise him and then them). And this is a problem. It means that she either has her priorities a bit mixed up or that she has some kind of barrier tgat she has nit fully dropped with him that she has with them. Either way again this is a problem. It will mean that she will prioritize these people and their toughts and opinions over his this means everything will have these third parties interfering in it. Even when they are not intending to (and even more so when they are). And this can and likely will slowly (or less slowly if one of these people does it intentionally) drive a wedge between them.
It's not s**ty friends - it shows he is not her first priority even over her friends, let alone her family. Finding that out would be enough for me to start rethinking our future together. Better to co parent than spend the next few years in a degenerating marriage that is clearly already working in less than stable territory.
@@Duke00x She's with her Best Friend, in her Parents home, and in the same town as all of her teenaged girlfriends...The situation was ripped right out of her hands, and she fell into old behaviorial patterns. She and all of her Besties reveling in good news, any excuse to congregate and be giddy. She might not have realized she was late, until she talked with her girlfriend about them trying for a baby. What I'm seeing: The Wife is NOT the ring leader in her friend group, and she is very accostumed to just doing what everyone else tells her.
She literally explained that she wanted to talk about how to tell him and was backed by two trusted people. When emotions are high, logic leaves even the most sensible people. @@iamhector24
S1: Kira planned a party for herself.. Your bio mom is a crap mom, and I do not think laughing was all that rude.. You have had to suck it up since age 8; you've sucked it up enough for one lifetime.. Most states do allow kids to decide who they want to live with at age 14; but sadly not all, so a judge could've forced you to still see her.. Good Luck for your future OP.. S2: I understand why you're upset; but sounds like her friends got carried away.. I'd not blow up my life over a mistake.. The friend that posted it, is one of those "I gotta tell first" people.. She would not be a friend to me after that poop.
My problem is that she took 2 hours and already told 10 people (some which make sense like her parents but also meny that should be lower on the list then him) before she told him. That really shows that as much as she may care for him she has him lower on her priority list then he should be. And that is a problem.
@@Duke00x No, she took a bit of time and considered options to make it special and memorable, instead of just tossing a piss stick at him and saying "I'm knocked up". Supposed friend blew everything up because she's a pick me who has to be first for everything. The only way she gets the side eye from me is if she doesn't kick that supposed friend to the curb for eternity.
"S2: I understand why you're upset; but sounds like her friends got carried away.. I'd not blow up my life over a mistake" She told her friends first BEFORE her husband.... the father. That's not a mistake - that's a conscious choice that displays her priorities very clearly. Evidently he is not the top priority in her life, and I can completely understand how he feels bent out of shape about finding that out 2 years into a marriage with a child on the way to complicate things further. In his shoes I would be reevaluating everything, and wondering just how secure the relationship is - because it doesn't sound at all like it's secure to me.
Story 1. Tell your mother it is a party for Kira not you. Nothing you like, none of your friends... etc. Just go NC with your bio mom she doesn't love you.
As an Australian as well I never heard someone say the Australian dollar hole but I’m not a people person so I wouldn’t know much slangs hell I’m 19 and I don’t even understand the crap people in my generation say
S1 is 100% not a party for the mc - Doesn’t invite the mc’s friends / family - Planning on a restaurant with food specifically that the Mc can’t stand. - Choosing party events that are not even favored by the Mc.
It's clear that the relationship between OP and their biomom has been fraught with neglect and favoritism, making the "surprise" birthday party all the more inappropriate. The mom's disregard for OP's preferences, paired with Kira's self-centered planning, makes it seem like the party was never truly about celebrating OP. It’s understandable why OP reacted the way they did
Story 1) the party was for Kira. As the OP said that both the menu plan AND the activities were not things that the OP was interested in . story 2) OP, HAD the wife meant to tell the hubby first, she would have. Also, WHY announce at such an early time? Would it not be safer to WAIT to publically announce that news??? As after the dangerous 3 month hump?
Wait. So Bio Mom and step sis made plans for OP's b-day without telling them, but are upset that they made plans without telling her? . . . I smell hypocrisy.
Story2- wifey has immature friends, she's going to probably have to dump that old friend group if she wants to be a more secure/stable mother herself- and definitely don't invite that snarky friend to the gender reveal- she can read all about it on social media🙄😂😂
Story 2: I dont know a single happily married woman who wouldnt immediately call their hubby or plan something small with their closest two people. Best Friend and Mom makes since but 10 different people and then to lie and try to cover her ass? Sketch as hell
2 hours and 10 people and still didn't tell him. That's bullshit. He should have been the first one called then her parents and then the other people she told. As much as she may care about him she clearly has him much lower on her priority list then he should be. And that us a problem.
"You are not the Australian dollars hole" 😂
😂😂😂
The ai read A$$hole as Australian dollar hole
Since A$ means austrailian dollar
@@chowdhuryomar4993 No it doesn’t. The legal abbreviation is AUD.
2nd story. 2 hours is a short time, but if I were the wife the first thing on my mind would be to tell my husband first. She almost got me with wanting to make it a surprise, but OP made a good point with her being ready to tell him immediately when he called her. Her first reason of wanting to surprise OP was probably a result of panicking because of the call saying he already knew about the pregnancy.Honestly, this is just a result of shitty friends and I'm glad OP and his wife made up. Honestly, this is just a result of shitty friends and I'm glad OP and his wife made up.
Yes she has a shifty friend but 10 people before him? I mean I understand her parents (though honestly he should be told before them in most cases but it's not so bad it can't be ignored and let slide) but some of the people she told should be lower on her priority list then him even if she wants to surprise him (surprise him and then them). And this is a problem. It means that she either has her priorities a bit mixed up or that she has some kind of barrier tgat she has nit fully dropped with him that she has with them. Either way again this is a problem. It will mean that she will prioritize these people and their toughts and opinions over his this means everything will have these third parties interfering in it. Even when they are not intending to (and even more so when they are). And this can and likely will slowly (or less slowly if one of these people does it intentionally) drive a wedge between them.
In 2024 2 hours is a long time. Long enough to call 10 people to brag and invite them over. She coulda easily video called him before anyone else.
It's not s**ty friends - it shows he is not her first priority even over her friends, let alone her family.
Finding that out would be enough for me to start rethinking our future together.
Better to co parent than spend the next few years in a degenerating marriage that is clearly already working in less than stable territory.
@@Duke00x She's with her Best Friend, in her Parents home, and in the same town as all of her teenaged girlfriends...The situation was ripped right out of her hands, and she fell into old behaviorial patterns. She and all of her Besties reveling in good news, any excuse to congregate and be giddy.
She might not have realized she was late, until she talked with her girlfriend about them trying for a baby.
What I'm seeing: The Wife is NOT the ring leader in her friend group, and she is very accostumed to just doing what everyone else tells her.
She literally explained that she wanted to talk about how to tell him and was backed by two trusted people. When emotions are high, logic leaves even the most sensible people. @@iamhector24
S1: Kira planned a party for herself.. Your bio mom is a crap mom, and I do not think laughing was all that rude.. You have had to suck it up since age 8; you've sucked it up enough for one lifetime.. Most states do allow kids to decide who they want to live with at age 14; but sadly not all, so a judge could've forced you to still see her.. Good Luck for your future OP.. S2: I understand why you're upset; but sounds like her friends got carried away.. I'd not blow up my life over a mistake.. The friend that posted it, is one of those "I gotta tell first" people.. She would not be a friend to me after that poop.
My problem is that she took 2 hours and already told 10 people (some which make sense like her parents but also meny that should be lower on the list then him) before she told him. That really shows that as much as she may care for him she has him lower on her priority list then he should be. And that is a problem.
@@Duke00x No, she took a bit of time and considered options to make it special and memorable, instead of just tossing a piss stick at him and saying "I'm knocked up". Supposed friend blew everything up because she's a pick me who has to be first for everything. The only way she gets the side eye from me is if she doesn't kick that supposed friend to the curb for eternity.
"S2: I understand why you're upset; but sounds like her friends got carried away.. I'd not blow up my life over a mistake"
She told her friends first BEFORE her husband.... the father.
That's not a mistake - that's a conscious choice that displays her priorities very clearly.
Evidently he is not the top priority in her life, and I can completely understand how he feels bent out of shape about finding that out 2 years into a marriage with a child on the way to complicate things further.
In his shoes I would be reevaluating everything, and wondering just how secure the relationship is - because it doesn't sound at all like it's secure to me.
My ass looking like “season 1….When was that” but I got it now
#2 she didnt trust him. she dont and she will not ever. you think she is in the right? you lack braincells or something?
Story 1. Tell your mother it is a party for Kira not you. Nothing you like, none of your friends... etc. Just go NC with your bio mom she doesn't love you.
"Your not the Australian dollars hole"???? as an australian iam thinking wtf lol
Just to censor saying asshole, The op instead said A$ hole... Now the AI voice said Australian dollar since that's the symbol for it " A$ "
I mean our dollar is kinda shit so it makes sense
As an Australian as well I never heard someone say the Australian dollar hole but I’m not a people person so I wouldn’t know much slangs hell I’m 19 and I don’t even understand the crap people in my generation say
@@NeKo19113😂 when I heard that I was like what did he just say! Couldn’t figure it out, I just shrugged. Thank you for clearing that up! 🤣
I assume it's because they wrote it like A$$.
S1 is 100% not a party for the mc
- Doesn’t invite the mc’s friends / family
- Planning on a restaurant with food specifically that the Mc can’t stand.
- Choosing party events that are not even favored by the Mc.
The mom was lying she and Kira did not organize a party for OP.
It's clear that the relationship between OP and their biomom has been fraught with neglect and favoritism, making the "surprise" birthday party all the more inappropriate. The mom's disregard for OP's preferences, paired with Kira's self-centered planning, makes it seem like the party was never truly about celebrating OP. It’s understandable why OP reacted the way they did
a judge can't force you to be nice to "mothers" new family
S2: this guy was too ready to be mad at his wife
he has every right to be... after this story 100% paternity test. why should he believe her. he wasnt the first on her mind while he is the father.
Story 1) the party was for Kira. As the OP said that both the menu plan AND the activities were not things that the OP was interested in .
story 2) OP, HAD the wife meant to tell the hubby first, she would have. Also, WHY announce at such an early time? Would it not be safer to WAIT to publically announce that news??? As after the dangerous 3 month hump?
IS THAT A MOTHER FUCKING JOJO REFERENCE?!
OP had every right to laugh. The mother refuses to act like an adult, so why should OP give her that courtesy?
Story 2: I knew it was a crappy friend. Those are the worst.
Wait. So Bio Mom and step sis made plans for OP's b-day without telling them, but are upset that they made plans without telling her?
. . . I smell hypocrisy.
Story 2: Reddit is like that meme that says that you go to the hospital for a pimple and suddenly you have to get treated for cancer 😂
You can always tell which people don’t listen to the whole story before passing judgement 🙄
Story2- wifey has immature friends, she's going to probably have to dump that old friend group if she wants to be a more secure/stable mother herself- and definitely don't invite that snarky friend to the gender reveal- she can read all about it on social media🙄😂😂
What goes around comes around 😂
Nah not the australian dollar hole
"Older than I" (not "older than ME").
Kira gains death notes (sorry i can help nut say the joke)
1:31 im sorry but the way ai said that was funny af
What a horrible mother.
Story 2: I dont know a single happily married woman who wouldnt immediately call their hubby or plan something small with their closest two people. Best Friend and Mom makes since but 10 different people and then to lie and try to cover her ass? Sketch as hell
yes. he get tricked into paternity fraud is what I am thinking. her friend who found out by accident - okay, but then....
Oh no not the Australian dollars hole
2 hours and 10 people and still didn't tell him. That's bullshit. He should have been the first one called then her parents and then the other people she told. As much as she may care about him she clearly has him much lower on her priority list then he should be. And that us a problem.
#2 100% not the father.
second story is shit
Leyla is delusional, 99% of situations in life where you deal with idiots can be solved by laughing and hanging up the phone.