A Mindset That Will Change How You See Yourself
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This video is a short fiction story about a man who, while on a short camping trip in the woods, finds himself in an unusual situation after encountering an ecovillage community.
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“And now, 8 days in, he wasn’t even sure what he was doing anymore”. Story of my life
Straight out of the wound? 😂
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…right.
All the best for the journey
Actually based on a true story. A woman on a tour bus supposedly got lost on a stopover. A search party was formed, and the woman looked for herself for 2 days.
Ha!
there is also a dude who looking for himself, the case was so crazy.
where can i find the full details of this story, what is it called?
Iceland tourist, I've heard that story! 😂
There are a few similar stories. Several "missing people" don't realize another person considers them to be missing.
I’d say it’s the expectation that causes you to feel you’re not getting where you want to be.
If you notice yourself get 10% better at something without trying, you’re happy because you didn’t expect it.
If you get 20% better at something after a lot of effort, you might not even notice it. Or if you do, it’s not enough and you thought you’d be further ahead by now.
Seems pretty universally applicable but just my opinion.
good take!
Yes expectations and comparisons
just have the general ability to be good at anything with sufficient time and resources. ezpz
Never thought it that way!
Love this story. As a music teacher I have said, "Stop trying so hard" many times. Sometimes when we try to MAKE things work we can get in the way of LETTING things work.
Salute
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So now I don't do anything...
Wu wei that shit
The takeaway, from my distorted point of view, is that people often externalize their search for meaning - they try to find a purpose, find a greater truth, etc. something to resonate with emotionally. But the meaning to be found is in a more intimate relationship with yourself. You feel “lost” because you’re not in touch with your feelings and body. In this way, you’ve lost your “authenticity”. Awareness of and steadfast love for your emotional self.
Finding the meaning of life may well be an inward journey, rather than an outward journey that many people think of. For me, meaning was found in trauma therapy for some rough childhood stuff and basic Tibetan Buddhism meditations. To be in touch with my emotions and able to feel love, empathy, and compassion for others in and of itself feels incredible meaningful.
But, I’m only months into this journey. It’s completely possible that i will be less confident of my path in the future 😂
True, if you believe in yourself, and believe in God, you will have a sense of purpose
beautifully said
From a Dàoist perspective and one that follows the Dào, I find many comparisons to compare against regarding the script of this video.
Let me say all paths up the mountain lead to the same destination.
The people that get this wrong are those that stay at the bottom of the mountain and tell everyone which is the best path to take.
In essence, the journey of self-discovery and self cultivation will and should look different from one another.
The path is always flowing and / or changing.
Following Wu-wei (the general flow of your own stream that is your life) it is best to go with how your life is flowing. You will end up at the end of that same stream in good time regardless. (Basically, like all paths up the mountain lead to the same destination)
At the end of the day, who you are is enough, where you're going, as long as you stay true to you, it will be the right destination.
You are the stream that you are going on. You are worth everything to yourself, you, for you are worth every ounce of love you have.
Kind words, The Dào ☯️
Thank you for sharing. Keep up the great work!
@@chrisjarmainagree I resonate with Daoist principles, the late Dr. Wayne Dyer was a really good western contemporary who as able to bring to light many of these principles to western audiences and finding enlightenment through detachment and going with the flow. This is why I’m not into the whole modern day internet grind bandwagon as much but stick to a routine discipline and wise decision making since repetition is key and knowing what your individual weaknesses, strengths and proclivities are so you can proactively manage them to live a right life.
Every 2-3 weeks, for the past 2 years, you come up, in my feed, giving me time to reflect, you have profoundly impacted my life with your videos, changing it for the better mentally and physically, thank you sir.
Wait till you see Jordan Shanks lmao
@@N1DMwho is that?
If you like Pursuit of Wonder, you might also like Aperture too. 🙂 Sort of similar vibe.
@@catfeatherss I find Aperture to basic, he conforms to popular views , this channel is much more genuine, and not as bloated, videos come rarely, but when they do, boy are they good
@@heartsofiron4ever ok, fair enough.
I think we search for purpose and meaning without realizing ourself is the gift
This! Ourself and our particular experience of the universe.
No.
A theatrical version of looking for your car keys when they've been in your car the whole time.
or searching for the phone while holding it as a flash light lol
Searching for your car while sitting in the car
or looking for your glasses when they were already on your face
Looking for your phone while talking on your phone
Looking for your specs while wearing them.
I actually cried while listening to this. I’ve been lost for 56 years
The answer is Jesus Christ
I hear ya.
you instantly bring up sin when someone is looking for compassion? Really? That's why people leave the church@@jasonr9678
Robert Menroe. This is loosh stop giving energy
*hug*
It's ok to be where you are.
Gives a whole new meaning to someone "trying to find themselves". Sometimes you can't find yourself until you realize you are lost.
Wherever you go, there you are
You can't wake up if you don't go to sleep.
Some people don't wake up. Others do and try to go back to sleep.
Sometimes we awaken to a new reality of awareness and understanding and you also feel confused wondering where you had been gone for so long.
Interesting.
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@@volkswagenationthank your soul
@@HelloMyNameIsCody I can agree with that. I believe the soul is our physical body having a connection to the greater consciousness outside of ourselves.
When we ignore the calls of the soul we sever our connection and everything that comes with it.
This has been me most of my life. I'm nowhere near where I thought I would be by now because I've not been living true to myself, the passions of my soul, my calling. I've been living to be who and what the situations or people called for, not being true to what I wanted or saying my peace because of the weight of the possible judgment and fear. My path in life got me lost for so many years looking and waiting for someone who would never be found. After 30+ years of being lost, I have found that I am the person I've been looking for this whole time, I was just looking in the wrong place, I got myself myself lost. Everything I was looking for I already possessed and every solution I found with focused, deep introspection. Love yourself. Love your life. You are easily found if you just look within.
What this means for me is: we, the separate self, are searching for wholeness. But as long as we search, we will not find it. Then, either accidentally or because you've created the right conditions, the search stops - a radical halt. And the feeling of separation dissolves. Then you realize that the diamond of life was always in your pocket. The 'separate you' who was searching was the knot preventing the real you from enjoying the inherent wholeness of being conscious.
wow that makes sense thank you
It's basically the ego disconnected from "the soul," as Jung put it. Your entire life, after becoming conscious and ego formation, is more or less a journey towards the return to wholeness, but we get glimpses of it throughout life.
It's like the paradox of enlightenment. To get enlightened, you do everything to get enlightened and, in essence, created the desire for enlightenment itself. Paradox of this nature can knky be overcome if one removes or let go that desire for it is itself that holds you back.
This literally happened in Turkey. The guy they were searching for joined the search and rescue team for a day and finally find out he’s the one they are looking for!
I formed a habit of watching and deeply pondering on your videos everyday before I go to sleep. I never did this even with my university books. Your content is super valuable and helpful. I’m truly pursuing wonders through them.
To discover meaning in life, I believe we must observe our feelings without suppressing them or feeling compelled to express them. However, to observe, I require a great deal of energy, which I often lose in the daily drama driven by the fear of not securing a place in society.
Same hits home wow
The war gave me stress, then I was depressed. A month ago I faced a breakdown... Last week I had another breakdown - I believed that I had worked for 15 years in a wrong way (I'm a tutor). So I tried to make a super-duper project, the best in my life, the world's ideal - and got insomnia. For what?! Nobody cared that I nearly died, nobody paid me more for my efforts - and kids still want only good marks at school. Don't torture yourself! Take it easy.
Indeed
The message for me is exactly what was said in the story. He failed in his desperate attempt to find some meaning that he panicked. It was only when he felt at peace that he found what he was looking for. The message is to always try and remain calm and never panic
You are an amazing story teller.
"The lesson is, never try." - Homer
Doh 😳
Lmao
If I had no responsibilities, I can easily see myself doing more or less this.
Agreed 😢
true
Your only responsibility is the attachments you choose
It's unfortunate how western society has developed to force prioritization of financial gain in order for one to survive, taking up vital time for reflection and philosophy-this is what often will bring some sense of fulfillment to someone's life.
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Idk, I'm fairly attached to keeping a roof over my head and ammo in my gun.
stay calm, trust your intuition, and stay the course
Ready for my existential crisis before work😎 all jokes aside I appreciate and enjoy your videos very much. I like how they make me think out side the box
This one is surprisingly uplifting and light
nice joke, couldn't imagine spending 8 hours a day making somebody else money
I just said to my husband, "I wish I was a different person" Things that come easily to most are hard for me. The harder I try the worse it is. I just want some peace.
I said the same thing to my husband❤
What's bothering you
Currently in that phase of who am I truly and what is my purpose here .. great video
Often, we seek validation and understanding from others, craving their perception of us and wishing for them to truly comprehend who we are. However, the reality lies in the fact that our deepest essence, our true self, remains a discovery that only we can unravel. It's in the journey of self-reflection and introspection that we come to understand and embrace our authentic being. Others might see fragments or projections of us, but the entirety of our essence is a treasure that we alone hold. This insight underscores the significance of looking within ourselves to unearth our true nature rather than seeking external validation for a complete understanding of who we are."
Every damn video you guys got me contemplating and reevaluating everything. This is the only channel I’ve ever recommended anyone, ever. Lol
I once freaked out searching for a pen in my room for like 5 minutes just to find it in my hand
Don’t ever stop makeing these beautiful stories I’m always so excited when you put out a new one and listened to all of your other short stories…you don’t even know how much they mean to me thankyou for another wonderful video (your voice❤)
The question that made me completely change my entire being, and every aspect about how I live, was the question of solipsism. Most people don't spend much time internally with it, but I was stuck on it for years. The way I see it, because solipsism IS possible, it's entirely possible that everything wrong with the world is coming from me. Subconsciously, unintentionally. But still my fault. And not to sound egotistical, but I do have my reasons for at least suspecting that reality is some weird cruel thing of that nature. Realizing that this could be the case, I started taking very real steps to change how I approached...well everything. And now here we are, humanity is pretty evenly split between ideas that were entertained and given traction for too long, and ideas that were always good ones but I very purposely ignored. Idk...I'm rambling I guess. But one way to change how you see yourself, is to convince yourself that solipsism IS the way of things. It's not, but living as if it is will force you to treat your people better.
“This whole time, you thought you were looking for someone else, and so, you were looking for nobody.”
Really puts the idea into perspective on how we’re always searching for a purpose in our lives, and run around never finding it, because that purpose should be ourselves.
Each one of us, is a complete life, we need the courage to understand, we don't need anyone 🎉 The whole world is a personal show, for us to enjoy ❤
Using your phone's flashlight to well, look for your phone!
Ooh, that’s a good one! Well said.
This video gave me a thrill. I was not expecting the twist.
I actually love all videos from this channel. I think I've seen them all.
You can’t find you looking outside yourself 💯
Amazing as usual! Thank you Robert!
For the first time in my life I've laughed and cried simultaneously. It was during the catharthic moment with the photo. Such a strong story and quite in the time I needed to hear it the most. Thank you
Yes, same. Very ironic for sure. I am Blind and my wife and I were married for 23 years and she had a mental health breakdown and started cheating on me with a coworker at our university that we worked at. Then she really had a mental breakdown and just started hating me for no reason When I was super loving. She just decided she grew tired of me and because she was higher than me. She caused me to lose my job. This normally wouldn’t be an issue but I’m blind and it takes a long long time for me to find a job.
So how are we supposed to understand ourselves? That's the hard part you keep trying new things and end up doing everything and now you are still back to square one
I think we have o get out side of ourselves
We cling to over thinking, cling to self.
AND we fear the emptiness of death.
@@oneseeker2 Thank you but still the question remains of how am I supposed to find me and myself
I'm sorry that this probably won't help as much as I would like, but it is different for everyone. For some people, going out and finding themselves works really well. They go try a bunch of things, find a couple that really resonate, and fall into a life flow that really speaks to them. Others let life happen to them, examining what they do and don't like that has crossed their path, and taking those parts they've liked to define who they are. But plenty of others never reach a place of self-understanding, or what they are changes, and so the journey of discovery never ends.
The journey of discovery is singularly unique to each person. There's no timetable, no guarantee that you'll ever reach that destination, and if you do there is no guarantee that you will somehow feel this sense of peace/accomplishment/satisfaction that you have finally completed your journey; or that you will even like the results of your discovery.
@@just_gut this is so true thank you for this ❤️
@@UsamaThakurr I think the world find could be swapped with the words, observe and/or create.... man will travel to the end of reality to find himself, If he achieves in finding himself, he may want to run to the other end... ;)
i owe you much.
Thank you for all the videos your putting out. Its fulfilling in a world so vague and chaotic you got no halt.
One who seeks will only always be a seeker.
I feel like this story parallels the meaning of Fight Club in ways
You have a beautiful way to touch peoples hearts with your voice.
I missed this kind of content, your story telling is unmatched
This is the second time I watched one of these videos. Both times the story hinged upon someone who did something that took a lot of time and effort, and evidently they had the time and energy to do whatever it was they did. Both struck me as arbitrary - in one, a man spent a looooong time digging a koi pond, and in this one, someone goes into the woods for a loooong time to think and reflect. While I am writing this now, my time is not spent mainly as I chose. I have responsibilities that require most of my attention, and people depend on me - a wife, children, my own parents and other relatives, my employer - they depend on me to focus on my work - which feeds, shelters and provides. My own struggle is not some arbitrary thing. Rather it’s an almost constant pursuit of some kind of security, not just for myself, but for others as well. It seems this channel attempts to get at issues that address something like what I deal with, but so far the two examples I’ve seen are so linked to the arbitrary decisions of people who, it appears, have the leisure of making arbitrary decisions and meditating on their navels. I do get the sense this channel is trying to deal with things that affect lives like mine, but with two pitches, for me the stories, while well told and well presented, have been two strikes, because I don’t relate to having the luxury of doing whatever I please.
You stories inspires me. Thank you for sharing 😊
Every time I think this couldn’t get any better it just blows my mind ,this channel ❤🎉
Thank you 💯
It's starting to feel like I'm searching for something that never existed
Wow, I needed this
The best way to search for your true self is to visit your childhood in imagination and talk to the little kid you once were, before he was forced by outside pressure to change the course of his life. Your life.
Thank you
this is theee most incredible channel, I pray you live very long and continue empowering humanity. Love from South Africa 🇿🇦
This was great, sometimes we tend to look for things that are right in front of us
I sincerily enjoy the story formats: And so, I hope that you could possibly consider making more videos of this type. Please papi
Searching for something you know nothing about will only be in vain because you will never find an answer for something you don't know. Instead let your life flow, as if you're reading a book. Let the story unfolds itself before your eyes and discover its truth in the ending. Live... let your life unfolds itself. No need to search for meaning and purpose in the middle because it will all be revealed at the end. So live and let life flow in the way its supposed to be. 😊😊😊
You are doing gods work sir
The stories are so good that you forget that the whole story is a metaphor. Truly incredible! Keep it up with the amazing Stories
you are my favorite writer. and i love your stories.
Loved this one.
Seeking yourself is being yourself, brilliant and profound
I have remembered that, when I visited my grandmother in the village, and my grandmother said, “Son one day some people will waste their time reading your comment”.
nah not a waste, made me laugh 🤣
Miss ya Deano, hoping you and your family keep rockin. You got this brother. Curious about your next chapter in life? Hope to see you with a mic in your hand announcing or? 15 for the win!
Thankyou
6:31 getting lost IS a terrifying feeling. But rule number one, for anything "terrifying" is simply *don't fucking panic* this story is beautiful. This whole channel is worth more than an outlet on the net forcing ads and informational "stories" under the guise of news and segments of a story you gotta click fifteen different b*llshts just to get through the next thing (we're looking at you, Funny-and) this comment only exists today and in memory 😅
The more you try, the worse things get. But it’s doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing a bad job.
The best lines from this:
1. "Getting lost is a terrifying feeling, but the key is to not panic. The more you panic, the more you try, the more you flail, the more you force things, the worse it gets. The people who survive are the ones who stay calm, trust their intuition, and stay the course."
We've all gotten lost before, when we feel like our reality has crumbled. It's normal to think that we've hit a dead end, and it's a good idea to not keep going. Whatever you've been doing probably hasn't been working. At that point you should reassess your options. Think about why you're on this path in the first place, and whether you still care about the destination, then find a new way to get there.
2. "This whole time, you thought you were looking for someone else, and so, you were looking for nobody. We found the person, but the person was never even missing. They were a part of the search party the whole time."
This thing that you want to find is already part of you. The whole thing is a paradox. The answer is not to look in search of finding it somewhere else, because that thing is already within you.
He was feeling lost because he didn't where he was let alone WHO he was, so he was searching for someone he couldn't recognize, he was searching for "nobody", he has to define himself before he can find himself otherwise he will not know who to look for.
That is how it felt for me before I found myself. Excellent video.
Ah
So, like, setting a vision for your life?
@@SyoDraws Yes, you need a map to know where you are, where are you going to and how to get there, the same applies for a person.
You need to know who you are, who do you want to be and how are you going to get there, what steps do you need to take in order to become the person you want to be.
@@vicentemorales2533 thank you for your response and elaboration ❤️
Good day to you 😊
@@SyoDraws Got you bro 🤛
Amazing video
Best one yet.
In a way Brandon now has to reevaluate things that ground a person to a reality we may all want to escape from. In the commune time passed with little regard to a reason or a responsibility or purpose. Life comes calling in the form of someone else's emotions that then spreads to hopelessness, panic and negative probabilities. If I were Brandon I'd comment, "Well you found me, everything is fine and I believe you're all the ones that need to be found."
I don't know what I am doing anymore as well, sometimes I keep doing things but for what and why? I have no idea...
This really happened to an Asian lady a few years back, she was part of the search crew
I guessed it was him... catch y'all on the next one
Ok, that was good.
"We found him!"
"Where was he??"
"...helping us look."
Great video.
Damn I need a little more clarity than dog chasing its own tail. That ending is so profound I didnt fully understand it. Help anyone?
chasing something he already has but can never reach until he stops chasing it.
I think it’s that you don’t improve yourself by “trying to find yourself”. You already are yourself, there’s nothing to find. Trying to find yourself just takes time away from improving the person you already are.
Can someone please explain this? I have a hard time grasping the story's ending
Wonderful video. We are all Brandon.
How ironic: the hiker started out trying to "find himself" and literally ended up looking for himself.
The end has the sum visual picture of what's called, "chasing one's own tail."
good day people;)
I saw that plot twist coming from a mile off. “Message” aside, how come once the authorities showed up none of the searchers, including Brandon, were given the name and description of the person they were looking for??? Might have saved them a whole lot of wasted time and effort… Worst missing person search ever 😬
Bro its not a story, its supposed to be a commentary on ourselves
I can really related to this video. Oddly enough, something similar happened to me when I was younger while I was traveling, I didn’t mean to cause trouble but I was out just doing my thing in a weird young immature way searching for myself but lost track of time, it was over months without contact & my family got worried filed for missing person almost caused an international incident…..
I can sorta relate Jaja something i would do nice video
How I look for my glasses when I’ve been wearing it the whole time
Don’t try to find yourself, just BE
Thats my interpretation.
What’s strange is a remote commune that accepts a hiker, but doesn’t tell officers there’s a new member that could be reported missing. There’s no way this was the first time that happened.
The point is not to create a realistic story. It's to try to express an idea through a narrative
Sort of like when you're conscious of yourself walking and then all of a sudden you don't know how to walk. Ok lemme watch the video
Sounds like Fariduddin Attar's "Mantiq al-Tayr" or "Conference of the birds". 😉
Contentment is an essential factor in happiness, so you need to try to be satisfied with the food, clothes and shelter you have.
This is strikingly similar to the plot of the alchemist
This is the second video I’m watching on this channel. And I swear, I feel like something tragic is going to go wrong. 😅
By being lost, you are found. Knowing where you are means you are lost.
Don't try, just Do! Maverick
"It's easy to find yourself. Just be silent and don't turn to religion. Remain pure and honest." -- Osho
Why silent?
@@kingriversea Silence is fundamental truth
Funny thing that something exactly like this happened in Iceland with a woman who's gone "missing".
that was pretty good
Wow!
Was confusing....
First it was a mature man. then, was more then one person missing. Finally, it was a young man missed by his parents?
There was never more than one person missing. The man went out into the woods without telling anyone, and nobody was able to contact him. So his family thought he went missing. Usually when this happens people will find their car or something and start looking in the area. But being cut off from what was going on, the guy started helping with the search efforts, not realizing he was the one they were looking for.
It’s a metaphor for “trying to find yourself”. Self-improvement comes from within. You improve by understanding yourself better, not by finding something external that changes who you are.
He's not even lost. He was just searching for something that wasn't even there in the first place.