I remember coming out to my mom in the early '70s. She said, "Well, I never wanted grandchildren anyway." I cried with happiness and laughed my head off all at the same time.
Mine said something similar "At first I was sad I wouldn't get grandchildren, but I should have known better, you wouldn't want kids even if you were straight or bisexual, it's just not you, but this is"
@@cillianrussell4506 this is the most important message. Not everyone has to like gay people. It's okay that some people suck. Being proud of yourself and who you are is our cross to carry as gays
My uncle was an out and proud gay man in the 60s and died of probably aids in the 70s. He was disowned by our family. If he was still alive today he’d have a gay nephew and two bisexual nieces that are loved and accepted by the family. I wish he would have had the life me and my two cousins have being gay/bi in today’s world. RIP Uncle Jack!
My teenage daughter came out to my wife and I a couple weeks ago. The day after, we surprised her with a pride flag for her room to let her know that we support her and I can honestly say I have never seen my daughter so happy. Before she came out to us she seemed super depressed. This went on for a very, very long time. We'd ask her what's up, but she just wouldn't tell us what was bothering her. The burden of holding this secret had sunk her into a deep depression. When she told us and we told her we support and love her...it was like the depression had just been destroyed. She's made a complete 180. Super social, super optimistic, super happy. It's the best thing ever.
@@nicholashilton2514 Thank you. My wife and I would move mountains for her. I wish every parent could just stop and just listen to their kids and be there for them, understand them, accept them, and love them unconditionally. Mr. Rogers once said "When we love a person, we accept him or her exactly as is: the lovely with the unlovely, the strong along with the fearful, the true mixed in with the façade, and of course, the only way we can do it is by accepting ourselves that way."
@Cat Aye regardless of being problematic she's her true and authentic self and that's something that needs to be normalized. There are so many people that disrespect trans people's pronouns just because they simply don't like them. It's so disgusting.
when i came out as bisexual to my mother she just told me 'you don't like women, you just like sex'... I was a 15 year old virgin and to get labeled like that by my mother shut me back in the closet. now, all my friends know and love and support me. they've seen my date men and women, and their support has kept me going.
I had an extremely similar situation but with my step dad it hurts to know that they think that I'm 14 and a virgin as well. I understand what you felt.
I am so sorry. I have a best friend in the same situation and is horrible not being accepted because you’re not understood or are had prejudices against you. I am glad you are doing better now. You don’t need bad influences in your life, doesn’t matter where come from, although I’m sorry they’re from your mother.
Few months ago I came out as bi to my strictly Christian korean mom after 22years. She was devastated at first saying it's a sin. It was heartbreaking to see what had happen after I cracked the news but I wanted to remove that bandaid so I could feel free. I didn't. But about a month ago while I was at work she sent me a lengthy text saying 'I love you no matter what and hope that you'll find someone that will love you for who you are.' I broke down cried at work that day 💖💜💙
@@ariana-wu9td Apprehension makes total sense, and you're not alone in that. If you are happy and comfortable in your family as things are, coming out may feel like a test of both you and them. They may surprise you, or disappoint you. It may leave a lasting impression that affects all of your future relationship. That's a lot, and I think it's great you're thinking it through and preparing yourself. Coming out does free up a huge amount of emotional energy, and you really get to define who you are. Hopefully you will get to take your family on the journey, but you'll have yourself regardless!
I'm going to come out today to my brother..wish me luck friends UPDATE: he said,okay (with a smile) I know, and he hugged me.....( thank u guys for supporting me and I love u all)
Being born in an Asian household with a dad who's a soldier, I was beyond blessed and grateful they never made me feel like I was an outcast for being gay. I never have that moment when I say to them like, "Dad, I was gay" but instead they were the one who confronted me spontaneously when I was in 5th grade when they noticed that I always choose to distance myself to them. I thought my dad will gonna hurt me. He somehow knew that I was bullied in school because people made fun of me being gay and knowing that he's a soldier stresses me so much, making me feel suicidal. But He told me that no matter what will happen I'll always be their child as my mom sits beside him with a smile on her face. I was surprised and overwhelmed with the atmosphere they have created and I was there crying and couldn't say a single word. I saw how my dad looked at me like I was the most precious thing in the world and hugged me afterwards. If ever I'll be born again, I'll always choose them as my family despite all the circumstances. I never had that coming-out story but I'm proud of all of them and I wish them all the best things in life. Also to all those people who's still not ready to come out, take your time and I believe that you can do it. Always remember we all deserve to be accepted and loved unconditionally.
Awww, as an Asian born to a father whose extended family is fairly conservative, I can relate so much to you. I thought as conservative as his family is (and he also holds some traditional values as well), he would never have been acceptable for who I am. But boy was I so wrong, he took the news much better than my mom, and needless to say I was shocked, happily shocked it is. I'm forever thankful that my parents have accepted me and let me be myself, even sponsored me to study abroad and have a better life in another country they think safe for LGBT people. And bless your family too, much love from Germany.
If any of my kids are ever gay, I wanna find out the same way I’d find out if my kid was straight. Telling me about who their crush in school is, or who they bring home/date when they’re older. I’d hope they won’t feel like it’s something they should hide or be afraid to tell me.
If these old gentlemen who can barely figure out how to use headphones can so easily use a trans person's correct pronouns, then nobody else has any excuse.
I do think it can be easier for people to use the correct pronouns if they have someone in front of them that visibly identifies with one gender (this girl worn a lot of make up and had generally a female appearance) while people get more confused when someone identifies as she/her and has a rather male appearance (e. G. Beard etc).
@Butt Head I don't know any Mongolian people and I don't go out of my way to be friends with them. That said it's not a lot to ask of me to not call them Tibetans
Transphobic as well. I'm bisexual and MTF and have felt excluded once others find out I'm either trans or bi. I feel for the Asexual and nonbinary community since I know first hand how L and G can put you under a bus just to make straights see them positively
As a Japanese bisexual and who has a lot of lgbtq+ friends, it’s always unreal to see how many people outside of my country are supportive of our community. If I had the permission, I would love to translate this into Japanese and share this with more people.
I came out late in life. My mother was scared to accept it, because her first thoughts were AIDS, drugs & violence. I couldn't blame her, it took years to accept myself. My mother came around after my first break up. We had a good talk. My dad accepted me right away, saying he loves me & is proud of me no matter what.
I was a late bloomer too. My parents used to say really homophobic things when I was growing up. When I finally did tell them, they were as accepting as they could be, it took some adjusting, some talks and perspective, and they're fine now
@@smooches77 My parents never said anything homophobic, the subject never came up. That is until my sister's friend came out as a lesbian and my parents were so happy for her. I guess it's different when it's your own kid. The homophobia came from kids at school, so every night I would come home and try to pray the gay away. My dad told me he believed god is good, and don't take The Bible literally. No one goes to hell. It was harder for him when I also came out as an atheist.
It really hit me when Mick said that there’s no going back into the closet once you come out. I’ve lived almost everyday since coming out wishing I hadn’t, but maybe Mick is right. Soon, I hope to be happier with myself and thankful for coming out.
I LOVE YOU and support you !! Live your truth babe, life is way too short to be anything other than your wonderful self !! Take care of yourself beautiful ♥️♥️
I sometimes fall in the same mentality bc it traumatized me based on my brother’s reaction, but I have come to realize that as long as I am happy that I have accepted MYSELF is truly what sets you free. Of course we all have different experiences, but I’ll keep you in mind, and I truly hope you know there’s someone out here that supports you and wishes you happiness and peace. Take care ❤️
I also came out to my mom “in her coffin” so to speak. She died when I was 24 and we’d had one moment 4-5 years earlier where we were talking about LGBT things and she said something along the lines of “I think that if you were something you would have told me by now” and it froze me. I don’t remember my exact reaction but I brushed it off and it never came up again. So, a day or two after she died, I wrote her a letter and mentioned in it that I wasn’t straight and it wasn’t that I didn’t feel comfortable telling her exactly, just that I’d never really found the right words. And then the letter went in an envelope and the funeral director had it cremated with her.
Holy crap. Man bless you and your mother, keep going strong and head held high. I think your mom is proud of you to come out even when she died, and she is still proud of you now.
When I was 22 I get mad at my dad for always saying things like "if one of my sons is gay I will kick him out of the house" (we are 12, 7 girls and 5 boys)... One day I was so tired of this that I came out as Bi and tell him if he doesn't love me anymore then is his problem, because I'm the same girl he knows, being Bi or gay or whatever doesn't change who you are. He was silent, he spent hours without talking to me. Then, he came to my room and hug me. I wasn't expecting that. Honestly, I was thinking of leaving the house the same night but fortunately he understood what I was trying to say. Now he has a more open mind. I'm glad I came out to him because my biggest fear at that time was if one of my siblings turns to be gay, bi, pan or whatever, what kind of relationship they'll gonna have with him?
I've been out as asexual to my parents for years. They're supportive but kind of distant with it, I guess they can't really understand it. Only a few weeks ago I was watching asexual tiktoks, my mom came up and started watching with me, we laughed at a lot of them together, and at the end of it she asked if I wanted her to buy an asexual flag and put it in the window to support me. That was the moment for me
The weirdest thing about my coming out was that my dad who is Asian was the only one in my family that didn't treat me differently....eventually my other family came around since I have been with my boyfriend for 34 years....we both are now taking care of him he is in his eighties and I swear my boyfriend gets along with him better....😆 I am grateful for my life and my dad
That's great. I remember when I got the call from my mom one night that my dad had died. I just sat at the side of the bed in shock. My partner asked me what the call was about and when I told him he burst into tears and threw his arms around me.
if he's japanese (assuming that based on your name) maybe it's because people from japan are seemingly more accepting of lgb+ compared to other east asian countries?
@@melissam7146 wish there were more people like you. I'm a teen who was recently forced outta the closet by my parents and beat up and shamed for it. My mom said "I don't think we'll ever be able to accept you" to my face. I'm studying and working hard to move to another place when I turn 18, unless they accept me. My love to parents like you
Let's just note that he said the industry has changed within the DECADE. These words could not be more true. We are finally beginning to have fully realized, and fleshed out characters with lives and thoughts that don't just serve as a trope for a punchline.
This generation of LGBT is the luckiest. This is a great time to be young and gay. I'm Gen-X and when I was a young adult in the late 80's and early 90's, the world wasn't as welcoming as it is now.
@@mgeek1 it is but it being a young gay, many people my age aren't actually accepting. At my school, my bi friend has been continuously bullied for years and so no one else is really out (including me) despite there being quite a few of us. I hope the outside world after school is more accepting though :) (I still agree with you, although people aren't fully accepting, it's a heck of a lot more of an improvement than 10 years ago.)
Love these guys. I'm an old gay too (almost 72), but I knew Colton Haynes from Arrow! My dad died before I came out too. I never really came out to my family. My mom asked me if I were gay and I said yes and she told my brothers (which kind of pissed me off, since I wanted to, but then again made it easier), I did come out to my staff at the time. I was a branch manager of a public library.
@@percytheparkkeeper7826 I've been with my husband 21 years, have 2 step-daughters and a grandson, with a granddaughter on the way. Very happy, but would be happier if COVID were over!
I understand that. My mom actually did the same thing where she told my grandparents and family from my dad's side. Kind of pissed me off, but recently an opportunity came up in conversations and I got to tell them by my own mouth. Felt good! Kind of a round two lol. Glad to read you are doing well :)
Sexuality is not our choice Religion is a choice Sexuality is part of us, we were kinda born with it. We are humans. This is not our choice. Religion is who joins is a choice, but thinking it's a sin, that's their problem.
well most of the times, religions aren't a choice either. a lot of people (like me) are born into one and indoctrinated throughout childhood. I salute all the parents that let their kids choose to seek their own path, and give them unbiased information on all religions and not just theirs.
@@larsswig912 well parents tell children and guide them to the path they think it’s right Then when the kid becomes an adult he can chose to stay or change their believe Like if you believe in god why wouldn’t teach you’re kid about it Wouldn’t that be selfish is you don’t? cuz if he/she grew up not knowing they may go to the wrong path just bc you didn’t guide them Especially if you actually believe you’re religion is true And maybe it is who knows :)
@@imfine5960 when you believe in something it's not a choice, is just a matter of understanding the data/information available and realizing things with a more objective mindset...
@@gustavoruvalcaba89 My only point is that as a parent you love your children so much and you want them to be in the right path What’s the right path? What the parent THINK it is You will not teach them about some religion you find wrong You just can’t
Y'know, watching this I kind of felt a little weird at first. Because I'm a trans woman. Knowing they came from a different time, I thought many of them wouldn't accept me. Seeing that video of the trans woman coming out was like.... such a pleasant surprise, and it allowed me to relax and just enjoy the rest of the video
I’ve recently realised that it’s the LGBTQIA+ community or nothing. If you’re not supportive of the whole community, you’re not a part of it. I used to have friends who were old TERF lesbians, and I realised they don’t stand with us, they just aren’t part of our community xx
@@annaquillfeldt5598 PREACH LOUDER SIS/BRO. I'm a part of the community too, but I can't imagine how people disregard a particular spectrum/sexuality. Like it has to do with ace aros, transgender and nb pals
I know as a straight man I'll never be able to truly understand what you and others go through, just know though I believe you're all amazing and deserve basic human dignity like everyone else.
@@calebsmith7179 Thank you. It's a really weird adjustment to go from thinking you're a straight man to being a trans lesbian. It's a big 180. Granted I was still going through trans struggles back then and just didn't know, but I never really got harassed. It's so different now. I have to question if someone will respect me for who I am. I have to decide if it's safe to tell someone. It's scary
I wish for a time when telling your parents you're gay, bi, trans or non-binary, is just as normal as telling your parents that you love them. I wish people weren't always assumed to be straight, and LGBTQ+ folks weren't seen as the outsiders, rather seen as the people among us and who are just the same amount of 'normal' as any other person.
I love the way you said that... the same amount of normal as any other person because who is actually "normal"?! Lol thank you for your support it means more than you know :)
This is how I hope to raise my two kids. they are currently 5 and 3. I try my best to use inclusive language, and the kids can play with any toys, I don't gatekeep toys/hobbies based on gender like other parents. My daughter recently started playing football and I've faced backlash from my peers (we're all in our late 20s) I hope that when my children are older and if they are gay/bi etc. they can just come home with their partner and introduce them to me. Every decision I make now is an attempt to make it easier for them when older.
I came out to my husband as bisexual a couple months ago(he's the only one who knows about this) and he just said , " Cool , I love you still no matter what, I married you for you "
@@la_dweng6407 what? do you know what bisexuality means? just because we like more than one gender doesn't mean that we are going to cheat on our partners.
I didnt really have a “ coming out “! I was helping my mum wash the dishes one night when i was 20 yrs old. She looked at me and asked, Mate can i ask you something personal? I said yes of course mum. She asked, are you gay? Yes i am, was my reply. Ok mate, love you! Now lets finish these dishes. I asked her to tell my ex military father. Next day my dad said, all good mate! Hes not overly affectionate so for me, him saying that was my, i love you son!❤️❤️
What Jessay said to Bob, was something similar to what I was going to say to Bob, which was. "Go to your dads grave and tell him you're gay, not nastily but as if he was still alive. It can be liberating. Most of my family members I have not seen in many decades. It's been so long all my siblings are frozen in time, in their mid to late teens. There are two I've never seen. I have no regrets of being who I am. I have a wonderful partner of over twenty five years. He is my family. I love all you guys
Good for you. I am with my partner for 27 years but I was lucky when it came to my family. Both my parents and my 5 siblings accepted him into the family. They love him. Back then it was very scary to come out because we have all heard the horror stories but I had to tell them because I had my boyfriend move in with me and I had a 1 bedroom apt back then.
So fine some old gays that live in your area and go make friends. A lot of lgbtq support services will have programs that help old gays meet young gays and form a mentor like relationship, or even a grandparent type relationship, as most old gays don't have kids, especially if they realised they were gay when they were quite young, and a lot of younger queer people still are rejected by family members. A lot of programs like these will match you up with someone who has similar interests, the goal is to help queer people to create "found family".
When Jessay said he didn't come out to his dad for fear of being murdered, I felt that. As a black bi man who is afraid of my family ever finding out, for fear that the people who birthed and raised me would shoot me and bury me in their backyard, I felt that.
he played with barbies (his own), dressed up in my clothes, but the kicker was his ability to notice intricate details in women's clothes, like buttons, colors, etc. he was very sensitive and very sweet. I grew up with 2 brothers and he was the opposite of them in every way. it was obvious and we had no problem with it. He's amazing now at nearly 21 studying musical theater. couldn't ask for anything more. Perfect kid!!
My dear transphobes, did you see how easy it was to say "her" & "she" and "you go girl"??? Open your heart to everyone.. that's natural.. not your cruel & insensitive words..
I agree, the lack of empathy is a sad reality. Some decide to be transphobic behind the screens, but when it comes to talk to a trans person, face to face, would you really be that mean? That's what I would ask.
Help me out with something here; So when my sister came out as bisexual, my mom was perfectly fine with it, because a few of our cousins are gay, and her older sister (my late aunt) was a lesbian. She has no problem with people being gay in real life, but for some reason whenever she sees something like the 2 moms in Good Luck Charlie, or the 2 dads in The Loud House (who never even kiss on-screen), she hates it, and says that stuff shouldn’t be in kid’s shows because it’ll “turn them gay” (and don’t even get me *started* on Steven Universe!) I told her that was complete bullshit, and as long as they’re in a stable relationship & not making out on-screen (which I wouldn’t want kids to see even if it was a straight couple), then it should be fine. When she continued to argue, I brought up my aunt, and my cousin who was raised by 2 moms & turned out completely straight, and told her that they probably would’ve wanted shows like that back when they were kids, because it would’ve made them feel represented & included, and my cousin wouldn’t have felt so ostracized by her peers because her family was different. For some reason, my mom *still* doesn’t agree with me, and *still* thinks gay relationships shouldn’t be shown in kid’s shows at all. I honestly don’t know how to get through to her, and it feels kinda ridiculous to me because you would *think* she’d be more accepting of it because of the lgbtq+ people in her life, but sadly that’s not the case. 😔
Homosexuals are flooded with heterosexual norms from such a young age, yet they grow up knowing that they are 'different' even if they don't know what 'gay' means. Our sexuality is completely determined by the hormonal processes we undergo while in vitro. Our sexualities are determined before we are even born!! I have some notes on the science behind it if you'd like me to share it with you. Please remind your mom that majority of couples in movies are straight, yet this doesn't prevent homosexuals from becoming homosexual... So why should a gay couple here and there make straight people become homosexual?
If watching straight people in shows made people straight we'd never have homosexuals 😒 We had lgtbq+ people way before they were on TV. Honestly just sounds like your mom tolerates the fact that your family has lgbtq+ people in the family bc she loves her family the way people tolerate having family members that are of the opposite political party.
what if you asked her if she thinks that straight relationships in kids shows turn kids straight? maybe tell her that being straight isn’t the default sexuality? ahhh sorry if this doesn’t help
Be low key passive aggressive and freak out just like her when a straight couple kisses on screen, and when she asks you why ask her why gay people bother her so much
As a LGBT momma, I wish all LGBTQ people didn't have to have the fear of not being accepted. Of people being abusive and of people just not accepting their children. Thank God the people at stonewalled and channels like this have made it easier for today's LGBTQ and tomorrow's to get love and support to come out.
@@julieta5376 I feel bad for you, No parent should say this to their children, unfortunately there are still a lot of them. I know if I told my parents that I am bi, they would tell me the same. I don't think they would reject me from the family, but I would still be a "disappointment" to them. It terrifies me that's why I would probably never tell them.
@@julieta5376 I’m so sorry Sweetie💜 I have sort of Adopted a lot of my sons LGBTQ brothers and sisters. If ever you need help or a momma hug just let me know I’m here for you and I’m so PROUD of You!!!
To whoever is reading this, the first step is always the scariest. You need to feel comfortable in your own skin. There will be someone out there who accepts you, even if there are none at the moment. The people who truly matter are the ones who accept you as your true self whether that be you being gay, straight, trans, asexual, or whatever else you are. You are a star, shine on loves.
This comment section is so important. God bless all those sharing their stories. Reading them makes me feel so warm inside. It really helped me come out to my dad. My dad openly stated he doesn't agree with my lifestyle. But he did say because I am a kind, caring, and respectful person, that he will not voice his judgement. As long as my boyfriend and I treat him with respect, he will treat us with the same respect and that is all I could really ask for.
I can't express how much respect I have for these men. So wise and well spoken, making the world a better place video by video. Coming from a straight female I have so much respect for those who come out and I can only imagine how much courage it takes to risk not being accepted by those "closest" to you. Remember, there is always a community of people that will support you, you just gotta find them and surround yourself with as much positivity as you can. Keep on shining and being yourself ❤
I'm straight 30yo woman... but I have my transgender younger brother... His courage, his stubbournness and his amazing will of living his own wonderfull life is something I have never dared to do. Especially here, in Poland.
Well that should NEVER be a question! Of COURSE you want garlic bread with dinner! Who wouldn’t! I’d eat garlic bread all the time if I could! 😂 I’m happy your mom was so good ❤
I remember as a kid my mom asked me if i was gay i was so scared i would shake even tho she told me she would be okay with it ... the moment i excepted myself and didn’t want to live a lie it was amazing i am so blessed to have such an amazing family
I'm gay, I live in Syria. Coming out is a dream. To be liberated from the lies. To tell people that I met someone and I'm in love with. To hold his hand in the street. To feel just like any other human should.
Weird flex, but I went to high school with Austin and Aaron, they were around my class or possibly above me? Good people. So lovely to see them thriving after seeing part of their journey myself.
When Jessay talked about coming out to his father when he was in the coffin 😭that must of been such an emotional moment for him and I can’t even imagine how that must have felt ❤️
Eugene's video had me crying so much. What they say it's so important, when they started this back then it was almost unspeakable, they opened a way and now things are different thanks to them, it is still hard and emotional but now you can say it and it is thanks to them. ♡
Our Old Gays are back! I'm happy to see that all of you are in good health. 😘 This coming out episode reminded me of the time they reacted on the "old gay" title... they said something like, being proud to be one because not a lot of them survived to be this age. Their firsts and sufferings paved the way for individuals to be accepted. Thank you. ❤
I didnt have to come out as lesbian to my family. My mum yelled at me from across the house saying "Are you a lesbian" And I just yelled back yes and that was that. My mum told the rest of my family and I didnt have to mention it to anyone. Except my sister who didnt know what gay was. Bless her heart
I wanted to cry so bad. My family is extremely religious. My baby cousin came out as Gay and his parents aren’t supportive. I know the feeling of not having your parents support during something so big and it just hurts my heart to know how he must be feeling. It’s just so sad. I don’t understand why people rather hate than support love.
i really wish i could come out but unfortunately for now there's no point of coming out for me in my situation, literally no point.. wishing one day I'd be financially independent to move abroad and live my true self
same here. but hey, we're in no rush! the most important thing is to stay safe. also, i already came out to my friends so, small steps. i wish you luck and all the best 😊💖
I've been watching these and the positivity gave me the courage to finally come out as pan for the first time to my brother, it is such a huge relief to be able to tell someone and it feels so good to not hide.
3:22 Mick makes coming out sound like a one-time thing, but I think it's important to understand that's not always the case. Coming out is a lifelong adventure simply because straight is the default setting. (Granted, if you're a gay man whose fashion and makeup choices tell the gender-conformists where to stick it, then, yes, coming out will be more of a turning point.) As a confident gay man who doesn't fit most gay stereotypes, I have to say the most fun part of coming out is throwing people's expectations for a loop. Gay people come in all shapes and colors and sizes and mannerisms -- with so many different interests and hobbies and likes and dislikes. So my advice is this: make your coming-outs just as momentous or mundane as you want them to be. By all means, throw glitter and have backup dancers, or just go with, "Nah, bro, I like dick, so I'll pass on the titty bar."
This came up in my recommended, and am glad I saw it. As a lesbian, I realize how scary it is to come out...but our experiences are different from gay men. From everything I've seen at least, it is more socially acceptable for women to be gay than men. It's nice to see a different perspective.
I think my perspective on it is that homophobic men feel more personally attacked/offended/threatened by gay men than gay women. So the fear of coming out as a gay man stems from the huge amount of abuse and disgust shown towards gay men
It’s so weird to me that there is a “coming out” for anyone. Like I didn’t “come out” and say I’m straight. It should just be that you date, love, marry whoever with no explanation.
Ik, even though coming out is a mostly beautiful thing it does have sad aspects. We have to 'come out' because that is the only reason people would know, and it celebrates whi we are. However, we also have to come out due to the oppression we faced, and possibly face more rejection (which is why coming out is good, it normalises being homosexual, bisexual, trans ect).
@@spocksvulcanbrain I think you misunderstood what I was saying. My point was that society is making gays and lesbians come out and say that they are gay when honestly that shouldn’t have to be a thing. They should just love whoever it is that they love and there shouldn’t be a need to announce it as if it’s not ok. For example since I’m a woman that prefers men, no one expects me to say that I am heterosexual. It should be the same for anyone. It should just be “normal” and accepted.
@@gabriellemiller2877 I get what you're saying, but just to clarify; the reason people feel the need to "come out" as gay or trans is because queer people have been historically oppressed severely in society and legislature. We've only had legal gay marriage since 2015, 6 freaking years vs over a hundred years of legal oppression. The reason this "old gays" show even exists as a novelty is because most gay men were murdered or died in the closet before they could even get old. They even said "we're proud to be old gays because not many of us made it" Also the gay and trans community to this day have horrific hate crime statistics of people assaulting or murdering queer people for being different and not being punished for it. Currently 35 states have no legislation banning "trans panic" as a viable legal defense for murdering a trans person and there have been cases of people receiving lesser charges on the grounds of trans panic. There's also a lot of social stigma in the religious community, etc; that makes being accepted very difficult. Nobody expects you to come out as a straight person because this stigma and oppression doesn't exist for heterosexual people. Nobody has murdered a heterosexual person for being heterosexual and received lesser charges because of "straight panic", etc. People, now, feel the need to come out in order to build solidarity with the people who feel they can't come out because they fear losing their job, getting kicked out of their house because of prejudiced parents, losing friends, getting assaulted for being gay, etc. The more people come out the more it becomes a socially and legislatively accepted norm until "coming out" goes out of fashion because it's been normalized. People shouldn't need to come out, yes; but we're not at that level of social progress yet.
My cousin recently came out in a very public way to everyone in our family, and online a lot of the comments were "you know we 'still' love you," and I was joking with him that apparently 90% of them had seen the same after school special from the 90's. Like what does the pamphlet say you're "supposed to say" when a youth comes out. I was really happy for him though because his side of the family is very religious and those things tend not to mix very well. I am thankful that we are at a place in time where he no longer feels the need to hide or not live his life for himself. We all deserve that.
As the younger generation (16 years old) of our community, I have so much respect for the older generation, because of their stories, their courage, their will to fight, we can have these coming out videos that are helping even more LGBT+ people. I'm really so grateful for all of the beautiful and not so beautiful parts of our history, that we unfortunately still have to fight for, but we can do it together, and make the older generation proud. Thank you so much for all that you've done!
"I have deformed ears."
"I can see that."
I love these old gays.
It was such a READ XD
Being shady while not being shady. Lol
He was so cute
years of his ears being used as handles! : )
@@richiejohnson LMFAO I-
I remember coming out to my mom in the early '70s. She said, "Well, I never wanted grandchildren anyway." I cried with happiness and laughed my head off all at the same time.
@Maggie Mae Sounds like we both had great moms. I miss mine also. It's been 24 years now.
Love ur mom
Mine said something similar "At first I was sad I wouldn't get grandchildren, but I should have known better, you wouldn't want kids even if you were straight or bisexual, it's just not you, but this is"
CUTE!
That was so sweet of her 💙
"he's making fun of you, bob"
WHY WAS THAT SO WHOLESOME
IKR
Ikr?
i loved how 2 seconds later their names were shown and "bob" is called Robert LOL
IT REALLY WAS
I kNoW 😞
"As a minority, it's harder for us."
"Why?"
"I'd like to know why."
This was powerful
And it's so true
I need love for lifetime relationships I m gay
Made me cry
Also "if you have a problem with it its your problem not mine" 🥰
@@cillianrussell4506 this is the most important message. Not everyone has to like gay people. It's okay that some people suck. Being proud of yourself and who you are is our cross to carry as gays
"He's known by a younger generation"
"And we're old gays" 😄
me : just had a vibe of him being gay in teen wolf
I love them. Especially Robert
That moment cracked me up. He was like, just so we're clear.
My uncle was an out and proud gay man in the 60s and died of probably aids in the 70s. He was disowned by our family. If he was still alive today he’d have a gay nephew and two bisexual nieces that are loved and accepted by the family. I wish he would have had the life me and my two cousins have being gay/bi in today’s world. RIP Uncle Jack!
RIP
RIP 🥺💔
RIP
RIP ❤️
RIP Uncle Jack
My teenage daughter came out to my wife and I a couple weeks ago. The day after, we surprised her with a pride flag for her room to let her know that we support her and I can honestly say I have never seen my daughter so happy. Before she came out to us she seemed super depressed. This went on for a very, very long time. We'd ask her what's up, but she just wouldn't tell us what was bothering her. The burden of holding this secret had sunk her into a deep depression. When she told us and we told her we support and love her...it was like the depression had just been destroyed. She's made a complete 180. Super social, super optimistic, super happy. It's the best thing ever.
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
“It was like the depression had been destroyed” that got me. God bless you. The world needs more parents like you.
@@nicholashilton2514 Thank you. My wife and I would move mountains for her. I wish every parent could just stop and just listen to their kids and be there for them, understand them, accept them, and love them unconditionally. Mr. Rogers once said "When we love a person, we accept him or her exactly as is: the lovely with the unlovely, the strong along with the fearful, the true mixed in with the façade, and of course, the only way we can do it is by accepting ourselves that way."
@@frankreynolds9965 you sound like truly amazing parents
"I am transgender"
"oh and pretty too"
loved that
Amen🌊🖤😌
Honestly gorgeous, both her looks and her words!
@Cat Aye regardless of being problematic she's her true and authentic self and that's something that needs to be normalized. There are so many people that disrespect trans people's pronouns just because they simply don't like them. It's so disgusting.
A man
I normally do NOT associate this kind of wholesomeness with Grindr.
Ikr XD I was like, "0.o..." But I will say that if this is the direction they're going than I'm all for it. Time will tell.
I'm so glad I can now because I LOVE these guys
Idk man...I think Grindr is nothing but holesome 😉🤣
@@doc-savage gtfo! 😂😂😂😂😂
@@doc-savage Omg... NO! Stop it😂😂
As I like to say, LGBTQ+ doesn’t try to make others homosexual/transgender/etc, but homophobes will often try and make others homophobic
Damn right
Facts
Thats because you cant choose your identity but you can choose to be an asshole 😌
@@LYNN-id9rb whats wrong with the Q+?
@@LYNN-id9rb *LGBTQIA+
Basketball player: *comes out as gay
That one old gay: hE’s HoT
My heart: 🥺😖🥰
Sameeee
It was so cute 😖🤧😭🥺
Same here, so cute 🥰
it was so cute!!
That’s bill I think
I am committed to this mindset: "closets are for clothes not people!!" Be yourself.
Yesssssssssssssssssss!!!!
Wellll said! Love this
Yes!
(unless it's not safe, please stay safe❤️)
Bold of you to assume I’m not just a pile of clothing
@@alex.r.891 🤔🤔🤔 if so, I hope you are FABULOUS and high end designer 💋
“Every time someone steps up and says who they are, the world becomes a better, more interesting place.” Captain Holt, Brooklyn Nine Nine.
i just love this quote so much
I love B99 so much
Nine Nine
I love that quote. And Brooklyn 99 is so great 😁
NINE NINE!
when i came out as bisexual to my mother she just told me 'you don't like women, you just like sex'... I was a 15 year old virgin and to get labeled like that by my mother shut me back in the closet. now, all my friends know and love and support me. they've seen my date men and women, and their support has kept me going.
I'm sorry you got that reaction
I had an extremely similar situation but with my step dad it hurts to know that they think that I'm 14 and a virgin as well. I understand what you felt.
Gosh I'm sorry that happened to u
My mother told me the exact same thing but I was 12.
I am so sorry. I have a best friend in the same situation and is horrible not being accepted because you’re not understood or are had prejudices against you. I am glad you are doing better now. You don’t need bad influences in your life, doesn’t matter where come from, although I’m sorry they’re from your mother.
“He’s known by a younger generation “
“We’re old gays..”
🤣🤣🤣
I hollered when he said that
Im straight, daamn, just feel the weight that gay people should carry feels so stresful, hope no gay man have to continue dealing with that.
Thank you for the kind words 🥰
yess we stan an ally
Thanks for the support!!!
❤️
Not only gay man but all the lgbtq community
Few months ago I came out as bi to my strictly Christian korean mom after 22years. She was devastated at first saying it's a sin. It was heartbreaking to see what had happen after I cracked the news but I wanted to remove that bandaid so I could feel free. I didn't.
But about a month ago while I was at work she sent me a lengthy text saying 'I love you no matter what and hope that you'll find someone that will love you for who you are.'
I broke down cried at work that day 💖💜💙
Thank you for sharing your story. It made me cry too. I'm so glad your mom has been able to adapt and be accepting. Wishing you the best future! 🌈
I feel you 100% babe. Asian culture sometimes is furious. Iam glad that your mother accepted you already. Saranghe oppa ❤️👈
Oh Darling! You have done not just the right thing, but the good thing for Mom.
This is nice. I'm happy she accepted you
😍love to your mom
“The more we keep coming out, the more we can’t be denied.”
YASSSSSSSSSSSSS 🌈
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THAT QUOTE!!
@@ariana-wu9td me too but i have a family who would accept me and my mum already thinks im gay.
@@ariana-wu9td Apprehension makes total sense, and you're not alone in that. If you are happy and comfortable in your family as things are, coming out may feel like a test of both you and them. They may surprise you, or disappoint you. It may leave a lasting impression that affects all of your future relationship. That's a lot, and I think it's great you're thinking it through and preparing yourself. Coming out does free up a huge amount of emotional energy, and you really get to define who you are. Hopefully you will get to take your family on the journey, but you'll have yourself regardless!
@@ariana-wu9td How did it go?
I'm going to come out today to my brother..wish me luck friends
UPDATE:
he said,okay (with a smile) I know, and he hugged me.....( thank u guys for supporting me and I love u all)
Damn! Good for you.
Keep us posted!!
Good luck sis , we love u and we support you : ) 👍🏼🌺
❤️❤️❤️❤️
May you have love and acceptance.
Good Luck and remember that whatever happens you are loved and valued. Never be ashamed of who you are❤️
Being born in an Asian household with a dad who's a soldier, I was beyond blessed and grateful they never made me feel like I was an outcast for being gay. I never have that moment when I say to them like, "Dad, I was gay" but instead they were the one who confronted me spontaneously when I was in 5th grade when they noticed that I always choose to distance myself to them. I thought my dad will gonna hurt me. He somehow knew that I was bullied in school because people made fun of me being gay and knowing that he's a soldier stresses me so much, making me feel suicidal. But He told me that no matter what will happen I'll always be their child as my mom sits beside him with a smile on her face. I was surprised and overwhelmed with the atmosphere they have created and I was there crying and couldn't say a single word. I saw how my dad looked at me like I was the most precious thing in the world and hugged me afterwards. If ever I'll be born again, I'll always choose them as my family despite all the circumstances. I never had that coming-out story but I'm proud of all of them and I wish them all the best things in life. Also to all those people who's still not ready to come out, take your time and I believe that you can do it. Always remember we all deserve to be accepted and loved unconditionally.
thats so lovely
Awww, as an Asian born to a father whose extended family is fairly conservative, I can relate so much to you. I thought as conservative as his family is (and he also holds some traditional values as well), he would never have been acceptable for who I am. But boy was I so wrong, he took the news much better than my mom, and needless to say I was shocked, happily shocked it is. I'm forever thankful that my parents have accepted me and let me be myself, even sponsored me to study abroad and have a better life in another country they think safe for LGBT people. And bless your family too, much love from Germany.
I'm pretty happy for you and your awesome family ꒰⑅ᵕ༚ᵕ꒱˖♡
I'm so happy for you, your dad and whole family are amazing 💕
Omg I just cried reading your comment...
That is so precious
"Oh i know him"
"i'd like to..."
"he's hot"
the three musketeers of in the closet, out and very proud lmao
thank you!
lol your name though 😂
ahhh I missed the old gays, glad they're back!
Same 🙂
hi ariana sunde
@@Danish7689i hi
Aren’t they amazing????
Arianatorrr ❤❤❤
If any of my kids are ever gay, I wanna find out the same way I’d find out if my kid was straight. Telling me about who their crush in school is, or who they bring home/date when they’re older. I’d hope they won’t feel like it’s something they should hide or be afraid to tell me.
it was like that with my best friend a few years ago! so its already happening!
There need to be more people like you mate✊😢
My mom is like this. She always says to me, I will just see who you show up with at our door I don't care if it's a woman or a man. I love her 💅
I think the exact same way
Me too
If these old gentlemen who can barely figure out how to use headphones can so easily use a trans person's correct pronouns, then nobody else has any excuse.
I´d really like to give this comment a hundred likes
FACTS
Spitting straight FAX
I do think it can be easier for people to use the correct pronouns if they have someone in front of them that visibly identifies with one gender (this girl worn a lot of make up and had generally a female appearance) while people get more confused when someone identifies as she/her and has a rather male appearance (e. G. Beard etc).
@Butt Head I don't know any Mongolian people and I don't go out of my way to be friends with them. That said it's not a lot to ask of me to not call them Tibetans
Their strength is overwhelming! Their leadership has helped the world in so many ways. YAY, OLD GAYS!
Hello to u
There’s plenty of racists in the LGBTQI community too. It infuriates me!!!!
It is true. We are not completely innocent in our ways, but we’re growing just like anyone else.
Remember when they said that Pete Buttigieg wasn't 'gay enough'?! Well, I guess you can't be 'too gay', too!! SMH
Transphobic as well. I'm bisexual and MTF and have felt excluded once others find out I'm either trans or bi. I feel for the Asexual and nonbinary community since I know first hand how L and G can put you under a bus just to make straights see them positively
The transphobia in the gay community is also infuriating.
@@FlowWolf7 Awww, thanks! I'm nonbinary and demisexual and that made my heart so happy to hear.
As a Japanese bisexual and who has a lot of lgbtq+ friends, it’s always unreal to see how many people outside of my country are supportive of our community. If I had the permission, I would love to translate this into Japanese and share this with more people.
愛は愛，差別は止めるべきですね。日本もいつかLGBTQ+の方々への偏見が少なくなると良いですね。頑張ってくださいね
How do the Japanese people deal with homossexuality?
Im so happy you have a lot of lgbtq+ friends despite where you live i hope your country will be more open and accepting with people like us. 🌈
"I've gotten to the age that now I'm an old gay. It's like, you got a problem? Heh, deal with it baby. I don't have time." - 4:52
I came out late in life. My mother was scared to accept it, because her first thoughts were AIDS, drugs & violence. I couldn't blame her, it took years to accept myself.
My mother came around after my first break up. We had a good talk.
My dad accepted me right away, saying he loves me & is proud of me no matter what.
Oh that’s wonderful to hear. So glad that your mother came around and that you can be you around some of the people you love.
@@futuremaggotfood6875 I definitely got lucky.
I was a late bloomer too. My parents used to say really homophobic things when I was growing up. When I finally did tell them, they were as accepting as they could be, it took some adjusting, some talks and perspective, and they're fine now
@@smooches77 My parents never said anything homophobic, the subject never came up. That is until my sister's friend came out as a lesbian and my parents were so happy for her. I guess it's different when it's your own kid.
The homophobia came from kids at school, so every night I would come home and try to pray the gay away.
My dad told me he believed god is good, and don't take The Bible literally. No one goes to hell.
It was harder for him when I also came out as an atheist.
My parents acted similarly
society tells you to be you, but persecutes you if you’re different.
True. Double standards of society smh 😒
Exactly
We celebrate diversity, just not diversity of thought
Sooooo TRUE
I don't quite understand why society hates anything that's different
It really hit me when Mick said that there’s no going back into the closet once you come out. I’ve lived almost everyday since coming out wishing I hadn’t, but maybe Mick is right. Soon, I hope to be happier with myself and thankful for coming out.
Awe babe sorry it wasn't a better experience ❤️ there's a whole world out there of people who will love and support you x
I hope your situation gets better! Stay strong and don't be afraid to ask for help ❤️
I LOVE YOU and support you !! Live your truth babe, life is way too short to be anything other than your wonderful self !! Take care of yourself beautiful ♥️♥️
I sometimes fall in the same mentality bc it traumatized me based on my brother’s reaction, but I have come to realize that as long as I am happy that I have accepted MYSELF is truly what sets you free. Of course we all have different experiences, but I’ll keep you in mind, and I truly hope you know there’s someone out here that supports you and wishes you happiness and peace. Take care ❤️
You will. It get's better. Trust me.
I also came out to my mom “in her coffin” so to speak. She died when I was 24 and we’d had one moment 4-5 years earlier where we were talking about LGBT things and she said something along the lines of “I think that if you were something you would have told me by now” and it froze me. I don’t remember my exact reaction but I brushed it off and it never came up again. So, a day or two after she died, I wrote her a letter and mentioned in it that I wasn’t straight and it wasn’t that I didn’t feel comfortable telling her exactly, just that I’d never really found the right words. And then the letter went in an envelope and the funeral director had it cremated with her.
Holy crap. Man bless you and your mother, keep going strong and head held high. I think your mom is proud of you to come out even when she died, and she is still proud of you now.
LP.Skates a cop out??? Find some emotional intelligence.
@@nicolet8186 that came out wrong, sorry, I will delete my comment. not trying to hurt you
So proud of you x
Frick im tearing up
When I was 22 I get mad at my dad for always saying things like "if one of my sons is gay I will kick him out of the house" (we are 12, 7 girls and 5 boys)... One day I was so tired of this that I came out as Bi and tell him if he doesn't love me anymore then is his problem, because I'm the same girl he knows, being Bi or gay or whatever doesn't change who you are. He was silent, he spent hours without talking to me. Then, he came to my room and hug me. I wasn't expecting that. Honestly, I was thinking of leaving the house the same night but fortunately he understood what I was trying to say. Now he has a more open mind. I'm glad I came out to him because my biggest fear at that time was if one of my siblings turns to be gay, bi, pan or whatever, what kind of relationship they'll gonna have with him?
I'm just a straight guy, but I'm crying right now, reading your comment. Glad your dad opened up! Wish you all the best!
I've been out as asexual to my parents for years. They're supportive but kind of distant with it, I guess they can't really understand it. Only a few weeks ago I was watching asexual tiktoks, my mom came up and started watching with me, we laughed at a lot of them together, and at the end of it she asked if I wanted her to buy an asexual flag and put it in the window to support me. That was the moment for me
Awww, that’s wholesome :), my mom kinda confuses me because she’s fine with lgbt community but refuses to let me be apart of it :/
@@Vanessa-lw3ol Ohhh, that sucks :( I'm so sorry to hear that.
@@rozieredz it’s ok :) I don’t let her opinions define who I am, as much as she may push them on me
@@Vanessa-lw3ol ... That's the same thing with mine
Ohhhh I almost cried in joy for you! 🥺🤗
The weirdest thing about my coming out was that my dad who is Asian was the only one in my family that didn't treat me differently....eventually my other family came around since I have been with my boyfriend for 34 years....we both are now taking care of him he is in his eighties and I swear my boyfriend gets along with him better....😆 I am grateful for my life and my dad
That's great. I remember when I got the call from my mom one night that my dad had died. I just sat at the side of the bed in shock. My partner asked me what the call was about and when I told him he burst into tears and threw his arms around me.
34 years!!😲🥰That’s amazing honestly: You and your boyfriend’s relationship and how great your boyfriend is with your dad.
that’s so wholesome 🥺
♥️
if he's japanese (assuming that based on your name) maybe it's because people from japan are seemingly more accepting of lgb+ compared to other east asian countries?
i'm a trans guy and my mom doesn't support me :( to anyone's parents who don't accept them, i'm so sorry. i accept you 100%.
I’m not your mom, but I’m a mom. I accept you 100%!
@@melissam7146 wish there were more people like you. I'm a teen who was recently forced outta the closet by my parents and beat up and shamed for it. My mom said "I don't think we'll ever be able to accept you" to my face. I'm studying and working hard to move to another place when I turn 18, unless they accept me. My love to parents like you
@@lavanyaverma1194 I’m so sorry to hear that. Stay strong. I’m proud of you.
Alex, I am a mom! And I accept you honey. Don't let your mother dim your light.
@@victoriadiesattheend.8478 Awwww thank you! This made me smile.
Let's just note that he said the industry has changed within the DECADE. These words could not be more true. We are finally beginning to have fully realized, and fleshed out characters with lives and thoughts that don't just serve as a trope for a punchline.
This generation of LGBT is the luckiest. This is a great time to be young and gay. I'm Gen-X and when I was a young adult in the late 80's and early 90's, the world wasn't as welcoming as it is now.
@@mgeek1 I hope you are doing fine!
@@mgeek1 it is but it being a young gay, many people my age aren't actually accepting. At my school, my bi friend has been continuously bullied for years and so no one else is really out (including me) despite there being quite a few of us. I hope the outside world after school is more accepting though :) (I still agree with you, although people aren't fully accepting, it's a heck of a lot more of an improvement than 10 years ago.)
I love my gay grandpas 😭
As a straight, I cant imagine everything you guys have go through, stay strong! I try to help in any way I can :D
Thank you. Your an amazing person! -pansexual person💗💛💙
love u
Yea especially these elder guys that where gay in a time where it was looked down on ALOT
thank you for being supportive, we need more straight people like you!
@Ruby Crowell same
Love these guys. I'm an old gay too (almost 72), but I knew Colton Haynes from Arrow! My dad died before I came out too. I never really came out to my family. My mom asked me if I were gay and I said yes and she told my brothers (which kind of pissed me off, since I wanted to, but then again made it easier), I did come out to my staff at the time. I was a branch manager of a public library.
Love you, Arthur. Welcome to the party, my friend.
Are you happy?
@@percytheparkkeeper7826 I've been with my husband 21 years, have 2 step-daughters and a grandson, with a granddaughter on the way. Very happy, but would be happier if COVID were over!
I understand that. My mom actually did the same thing where she told my grandparents and family from my dad's side. Kind of pissed me off, but recently an opportunity came up in conversations and I got to tell them by my own mouth. Felt good! Kind of a round two lol. Glad to read you are doing well :)
When all of them addressed Nikita as “her” and “she”.
@Minty shut up and let people live
@Minty tf is your problem
When they did that i felt so strangely safe even though im not trans
@Minty When someone just subtly put out that they are softly disagreeing and being disrespectful towards other that have never directly offend them.
@Riya Gunda what did this ‘Minty’ person say?
Eugene Lee-Yang's video, years later, still brings me to tears every single time.
Absolutely!
MICK! I’m so happy to know you’re feeling better. We’ve been worried.
Also greetings to the other fine gentlemen.
He definitely looks and acts like he's feeling better. Wishing him and the rest of the gays good health ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you, Buddy. The infusions of immunoglobulin are working!
@@michaeljohnpeterson1056 ♥️
Yes I was happy to see him and he seems better
Sexuality is not our choice
Religion is a choice
Sexuality is part of us, we were kinda born with it. We are humans. This is not our choice.
Religion is who joins is a choice, but thinking it's a sin, that's their problem.
well most of the times, religions aren't a choice either. a lot of people (like me) are born into one and indoctrinated throughout childhood.
I salute all the parents that let their kids choose to seek their own path, and give them unbiased information on all religions and not just theirs.
@@larsswig912 well parents tell children and guide them to the path they think it’s right
Then when the kid becomes an adult he can chose to stay or change their believe
Like if you believe in god why wouldn’t teach you’re kid about it
Wouldn’t that be selfish is you don’t? cuz if he/she grew up not knowing they may go to the wrong path just bc you didn’t guide them
Especially if you actually believe you’re religion is true
And maybe it is who knows :)
@@imfine5960 that’s easier said than done. If you were raised one way, you’re going to accept that way more readily.
@@imfine5960 when you believe in something it's not a choice, is just a matter of understanding the data/information available and realizing things with a more objective mindset...
@@gustavoruvalcaba89
My only point is that as a parent you love your children so much and you want them to be in the right path
What’s the right path? What the parent THINK it is
You will not teach them about some religion you find wrong
You just can’t
Y'know, watching this I kind of felt a little weird at first. Because I'm a trans woman. Knowing they came from a different time, I thought many of them wouldn't accept me. Seeing that video of the trans woman coming out was like.... such a pleasant surprise, and it allowed me to relax and just enjoy the rest of the video
I’ve recently realised that it’s the LGBTQIA+ community or nothing. If you’re not supportive of the whole community, you’re not a part of it. I used to have friends who were old TERF lesbians, and I realised they don’t stand with us, they just aren’t part of our community xx
@@annaquillfeldt5598 PREACH LOUDER SIS/BRO. I'm a part of the community too, but I can't imagine how people disregard a particular spectrum/sexuality. Like it has to do with ace aros, transgender and nb pals
I know as a straight man I'll never be able to truly understand what you and others go through, just know though I believe you're all amazing and deserve basic human dignity like everyone else.
@@calebsmith7179 Thank you. It's a really weird adjustment to go from thinking you're a straight man to being a trans lesbian. It's a big 180. Granted I was still going through trans struggles back then and just didn't know, but I never really got harassed. It's so different now. I have to question if someone will respect me for who I am. I have to decide if it's safe to tell someone. It's scary
I wish for a time when telling your parents you're gay, bi, trans or non-binary, is just as normal as telling your parents that you love them.
I wish people weren't always assumed to be straight, and LGBTQ+ folks weren't seen as the outsiders, rather seen as the people among us and who are just the same amount of 'normal' as any other person.
I love the way you said that... the same amount of normal as any other person because who is actually "normal"?! Lol thank you for your support it means more than you know :)
@@emilydickinson5033 thank you, I’m glad you agree :)
This is how I hope to raise my two kids. they are currently 5 and 3. I try my best to use inclusive language, and the kids can play with any toys, I don't gatekeep toys/hobbies based on gender like other parents. My daughter recently started playing football and I've faced backlash from my peers (we're all in our late 20s)
I hope that when my children are older and if they are gay/bi etc. they can just come home with their partner and introduce them to me. Every decision I make now is an attempt to make it easier for them when older.
@@AlannahGardener that’s great!
@@AlannahGardener thank you for not gendering your kids toys. I didn't get a lot of "boy's" toys and I feel like I missed out
"You got a problem? Deal with it, baby."
*I LOVED THIS OMG*
я тоже. ты русский ?
@@welcmasher2471 no
@@JassenValentinovNede болгарский ?
@@welcmasher2471 yep
I came out to my husband as bisexual a couple months ago(he's the only one who knows about this) and he just said , " Cool , I love you still no matter what, I married you for you "
That is so sweet
Can I just ask does that mean cheating is accepted In a way or you are in a sort of polygamous relationship
@@la_dweng6407 no, they are bisexual so they like more than one gender so they can still like their husband
@@la_dweng6407 what? do you know what bisexuality means? just because we like more than one gender doesn't mean that we are going to cheat on our partners.
But you’re married so doesnt your attraction to women not really affect anything? Like you couldnt be with a woman unless you separate
I didnt really have a “ coming out “! I was helping my mum wash the dishes one night when i was 20 yrs old.
She looked at me and asked, Mate can i ask you something personal? I said yes of course mum.
She asked, are you gay? Yes i am, was my reply. Ok mate, love you! Now lets finish these dishes.
I asked her to tell my ex military father. Next day my dad said, all good mate! Hes not overly affectionate
so for me, him saying that was my, i love you son!❤️❤️
You're blessed to have such a wonderfully supportive family!
The mate got me cause I wasn’t expecting it but Awesome! 💜💜💜
What Jessay said to Bob, was something similar to what I was going to say to Bob, which was. "Go to your dads grave and tell him you're gay, not nastily but as if he was still alive. It can be liberating. Most of my family members I have not seen in many decades. It's been so long all my siblings are frozen in time, in their mid to late teens. There are two I've never seen. I have no regrets of being who I am. I have a wonderful partner of over twenty five years. He is my family. I love all you guys
Good for you. I am with my partner for 27 years but I was lucky when it came to my family. Both my parents and my 5 siblings accepted him into the family. They love him. Back then it was very scary to come out because we have all heard the horror stories but I had to tell them because I had my boyfriend move in with me and I had a 1 bedroom apt back then.
I WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM.
SAME
So fine some old gays that live in your area and go make friends. A lot of lgbtq support services will have programs that help old gays meet young gays and form a mentor like relationship, or even a grandparent type relationship, as most old gays don't have kids, especially if they realised they were gay when they were quite young, and a lot of younger queer people still are rejected by family members. A lot of programs like these will match you up with someone who has similar interests, the goal is to help queer people to create "found family".
Thanks
"The more we're coming out, the more we can't be denied." And that's on periodt!
I love teen wolf for showing Colton Haynes' sexuality in the ending season, and supporting him.
SAME
teen wolf was quite LGBT supportive, which is why i loved it so much
I JUST finished Teen Wolf. I loved that they did that
When Jessay said he didn't come out to his dad for fear of being murdered, I felt that. As a black bi man who is afraid of my family ever finding out, for fear that the people who birthed and raised me would shoot me and bury me in their backyard, I felt that.
I'm 31 and I still never came out to any of my family members. The same fear of being killed by my Father as well.
my son didn't need to come out because I knew when he was 3 years old. When he finally told me in 9th grade, my response was "What took you so long?"
How did u know at 3
Yeah how did you know?
Yeh how
he played with barbies (his own), dressed up in my clothes, but the kicker was his ability to notice intricate details in women's clothes, like buttons, colors, etc. he was very sensitive and very sweet. I grew up with 2 brothers and he was the opposite of them in every way. it was obvious and we had no problem with it. He's amazing now at nearly 21 studying musical theater. couldn't ask for anything more. Perfect kid!!
@@JennyRoses1975 this is so gorgeous and thank you for the love and support you have given your son... and the next generation! 🥰
“In the end they'll judge me anyway so whatever.” - Min Yoongi
My savage king
kid cudi*
Army
ahh yes one of my fav bi king
@@blumer9615 kid cudi?
My dear transphobes, did you see how easy it was to say "her" & "she" and "you go girl"???
Open your heart to everyone.. that's natural.. not your cruel & insensitive words..
Hear, hear
Couldn't agree more.
I 100% agree!
I agree, the lack of empathy is a sad reality. Some decide to be transphobic behind the screens, but when it comes to talk to a trans person, face to face, would you really be that mean? That's what I would ask.
Help me out with something here;
So when my sister came out as bisexual, my mom was perfectly fine with it, because a few of our cousins are gay, and her older sister (my late aunt) was a lesbian. She has no problem with people being gay in real life, but for some reason whenever she sees something like the 2 moms in Good Luck Charlie, or the 2 dads in The Loud House (who never even kiss on-screen), she hates it, and says that stuff shouldn’t be in kid’s shows because it’ll “turn them gay” (and don’t even get me *started* on Steven Universe!)
I told her that was complete bullshit, and as long as they’re in a stable relationship & not making out on-screen (which I wouldn’t want kids to see even if it was a straight couple), then it should be fine. When she continued to argue, I brought up my aunt, and my cousin who was raised by 2 moms & turned out completely straight, and told her that they probably would’ve wanted shows like that back when they were kids, because it would’ve made them feel represented & included, and my cousin wouldn’t have felt so ostracized by her peers because her family was different. For some reason, my mom *still* doesn’t agree with me, and *still* thinks gay relationships shouldn’t be shown in kid’s shows at all.
I honestly don’t know how to get through to her, and it feels kinda ridiculous to me because you would *think* she’d be more accepting of it because of the lgbtq+ people in her life, but sadly that’s not the case. 😔
Homosexuals are flooded with heterosexual norms from such a young age, yet they grow up knowing that they are 'different' even if they don't know what 'gay' means. Our sexuality is completely determined by the hormonal processes we undergo while in vitro. Our sexualities are determined before we are even born!! I have some notes on the science behind it if you'd like me to share it with you. Please remind your mom that majority of couples in movies are straight, yet this doesn't prevent homosexuals from becoming homosexual... So why should a gay couple here and there make straight people become homosexual?
If watching straight people in shows made people straight we'd never have homosexuals 😒
We had lgtbq+ people way before they were on TV.
Honestly just sounds like your mom tolerates the fact that your family has lgbtq+ people in the family bc she loves her family the way people tolerate having family members that are of the opposite political party.
She has a point, is saw a tree in a cartoon and now I’ve grown leaves
what if you asked her if she thinks that straight relationships in kids shows turn kids straight? maybe tell her that being straight isn’t the default sexuality? ahhh sorry if this doesn’t help
Be low key passive aggressive and freak out just like her when a straight couple kisses on screen, and when she asks you why ask her why gay people bother her so much
As a LGBT momma, I wish all LGBTQ people didn't have to have the fear of not being accepted. Of people being abusive and of people just not accepting their children. Thank God the people at stonewalled and channels like this have made it easier for today's LGBTQ and tomorrow's to get love and support to come out.
I was told "you were my pride" so... yeah, I'm still broken 5 years later
@@julieta5376
I feel bad for you, No parent should say this to their children, unfortunately there are still a lot of them. I know if I told my parents that I am bi, they would tell me the same. I don't think they would reject me from the family, but I would still be a "disappointment" to them. It terrifies me that's why I would probably never tell them.
@@julieta5376 I'm so sorry you had to go through that :'(
@@julieta5376
I’m so sorry Sweetie💜 I have sort of Adopted a lot of my sons LGBTQ brothers and sisters. If ever you need help or a momma hug just let me know I’m here for you and I’m so PROUD of You!!!
"This is who I am. If you have a problem with it, it's your problem. Not mine." That's amazing.
Very Amazing!!!!!
In the words of Macklemore,
“I might not be the same, but that’s not important. No freedom til we’re equal. Damn right I support it.”
💯💯
To whoever is reading this, the first step is always the scariest. You need to feel comfortable in your own skin. There will be someone out there who accepts you, even if there are none at the moment. The people who truly matter are the ones who accept you as your true self whether that be you being gay, straight, trans, asexual, or whatever else you are. You are a star, shine on loves.
Yes, we are your family.
@@michaeljohnpeterson1056 and the four of you are ours. I am so glad you are doing okay :)
@@michaeljohnpeterson1056 this honestly makes me happy thank you
@@nothingnothing7852 Very Good!! Thank you.
This comment section is so important. God bless all those sharing their stories. Reading them makes me feel so warm inside. It really helped me come out to my dad. My dad openly stated he doesn't agree with my lifestyle. But he did say because I am a kind, caring, and respectful person, that he will not voice his judgement. As long as my boyfriend and I treat him with respect, he will treat us with the same respect and that is all I could really ask for.
I can't express how much respect I have for these men. So wise and well spoken, making the world a better place video by video. Coming from a straight female I have so much respect for those who come out and I can only imagine how much courage it takes to risk not being accepted by those "closest" to you. Remember, there is always a community of people that will support you, you just gotta find them and surround yourself with as much positivity as you can. Keep on shining and being yourself ❤
We can all love them! No matter our preferences!
jessay for some reason gives me “id like to thing everyone else is gay unless they come out to me as straight” vibes and i love it.
ok, but same!!!
I'm straight 30yo woman... but I have my transgender younger brother... His courage, his stubbournness and his amazing will of living his own wonderfull life is something I have never dared to do. Especially here, in Poland.
"He's known by the younger generation."
I have no idea who that is, guess i'm an old gay too
@@misery5903 one second what?
Teen wolf? I liked that show, I didn't recognize him, now I need to find my glasses
deep down, we're all old gays
Good to see mick's healthy and back in video again🥺
I came out to my mum and her exact words were "okay but do you want garlic bread with dinner?"
That’s good
Boy, you lucked out!!!
Well that should NEVER be a question! Of COURSE you want garlic bread with dinner! Who wouldn’t! I’d eat garlic bread all the time if I could! 😂 I’m happy your mom was so good ❤
I remember as a kid my mom asked me if i was gay i was so scared i would shake even tho she told me she would be okay with it ... the moment i excepted myself and didn’t want to live a lie it was amazing i am so blessed to have such an amazing family
I'm gay, I live in Syria.
Coming out is a dream.
To be liberated from the lies.
To tell people that I met someone and I'm in love with.
To hold his hand in the street. To feel just like any other human should.
I know coming out isn’t safe for everyone. You do what is safe enough for you. Keep the dream alive.though!
@@slowfire2 Thanks for your kindness. I'll be strong as long as I can. Best of wishes to you.
Stay strong one fine day it will happen x
@@pet.me102 That would be great.
I'm so sorry, I can't imagine what that must feel like.
Weird flex, but I went to high school with Austin and Aaron, they were around my class or possibly above me? Good people. So lovely to see them thriving after seeing part of their journey myself.
When Jessay talked about coming out to his father when he was in the coffin 😭that must of been such an emotional moment for him and I can’t even imagine how that must have felt ❤️
"i LoSt mY aiRpOD aND i DonT kNoW WhErE iT WeNT"
YES
I love him
When Jessay was talking about Eugenes video and how minority cultures can be soooo much harsher than European cultures. Ugh the power.
"You can't go back in"
"Don't want to"
why is that a mood
Eugene's video had me crying so much.
What they say it's so important, when they started this back then it was almost unspeakable, they opened a way and now things are different thanks to them, it is still hard and emotional but now you can say it and it is thanks to them. ♡
"do you wish you'd had role models?"
"yes! it would have made a big difference!"
and now they get to be OUR role models :,)
I love that they didn't have role models growing up but now they are role models for our generation 🥰
They truly are
Our Old Gays are back! I'm happy to see that all of you are in good health. 😘 This coming out episode reminded me of the time they reacted on the "old gay" title... they said something like, being proud to be one because not a lot of them survived to be this age. Their firsts and sufferings paved the way for individuals to be accepted. Thank you. ❤
I didnt have to come out as lesbian to my family. My mum yelled at me from across the house saying "Are you a lesbian" And I just yelled back yes and that was that. My mum told the rest of my family and I didnt have to mention it to anyone. Except my sister who didnt know what gay was. Bless her heart
Very happy for you. :)
The 2 twins coming out over the phone was literally my first exposure to coming out videos and it inspired me
The Old Gays are so endearing, bless their trailblazing, privilege-gifting souls!! 🖤
I love all of these guys, so wholesome and so accepting. These guys set a great example for the younger generation
I wanted to cry so bad. My family is extremely religious. My baby cousin came out as Gay and his parents aren’t supportive. I know the feeling of not having your parents support during something so big and it just hurts my heart to know how he must be feeling. It’s just so sad. I don’t understand why people rather hate than support love.
i really wish i could come out but unfortunately for now there's no point of coming out for me in my situation, literally no point.. wishing one day I'd be financially independent to move abroad and live my true self
I wish you luck my friend. Stay strong.
same here. but hey, we're in no rush! the most important thing is to stay safe. also, i already came out to my friends so, small steps. i wish you luck and all the best 😊💖
It is something that you don't have to do. Be true to yourself my friend. You are loved. Jessay
Contact the Trevor Project. They may be able to help find you resources.
❤️❤️❤️
"He's making fun of you Bob."
*in really sweet and gentle voice* "I knooow"
YES, THE LEGENDS ARE BACK
When he said "good for you girl" I felt that.
I've been watching these and the positivity gave me the courage to finally come out as pan for the first time to my brother, it is such a huge relief to be able to tell someone and it feels so good to not hide.
3:22 Mick makes coming out sound like a one-time thing, but I think it's important to understand that's not always the case. Coming out is a lifelong adventure simply because straight is the default setting. (Granted, if you're a gay man whose fashion and makeup choices tell the gender-conformists where to stick it, then, yes, coming out will be more of a turning point.)
As a confident gay man who doesn't fit most gay stereotypes, I have to say the most fun part of coming out is throwing people's expectations for a loop. Gay people come in all shapes and colors and sizes and mannerisms -- with so many different interests and hobbies and likes and dislikes. So my advice is this: make your coming-outs just as momentous or mundane as you want them to be. By all means, throw glitter and have backup dancers, or just go with, "Nah, bro, I like dick, so I'll pass on the titty bar."
Coming out is a repetitive process.
This came up in my recommended, and am glad I saw it. As a lesbian, I realize how scary it is to come out...but our experiences are different from gay men. From everything I've seen at least, it is more socially acceptable for women to be gay than men. It's nice to see a different perspective.
I think my perspective on it is that homophobic men feel more personally attacked/offended/threatened by gay men than gay women. So the fear of coming out as a gay man stems from the huge amount of abuse and disgust shown towards gay men
Yes that is so true and even then if you’re bi or pan you’re attacked for being “greedy” and it hurts
It’s so weird to me that there is a “coming out” for anyone. Like I didn’t “come out” and say I’m straight. It should just be that you date, love, marry whoever with no explanation.
Things are changing, but there is still a long ways to go.
Ik, even though coming out is a mostly beautiful thing it does have sad aspects. We have to 'come out' because that is the only reason people would know, and it celebrates whi we are. However, we also have to come out due to the oppression we faced, and possibly face more rejection (which is why coming out is good, it normalises being homosexual, bisexual, trans ect).
Do you even know any gays or lesbians? I suggest that you talk with some to learn how incredibly common the trauma of coming out can be.
@@spocksvulcanbrain I think you misunderstood what I was saying. My point was that society is making gays and lesbians come out and say that they are gay when honestly that shouldn’t have to be a thing. They should just love whoever it is that they love and there shouldn’t be a need to announce it as if it’s not ok. For example since I’m a woman that prefers men, no one expects me to say that I am heterosexual. It should be the same for anyone. It should just be “normal” and accepted.
@@gabriellemiller2877 I get what you're saying, but just to clarify; the reason people feel the need to "come out" as gay or trans is because queer people have been historically oppressed severely in society and legislature. We've only had legal gay marriage since 2015, 6 freaking years vs over a hundred years of legal oppression. The reason this "old gays" show even exists as a novelty is because most gay men were murdered or died in the closet before they could even get old. They even said "we're proud to be old gays because not many of us made it"
Also the gay and trans community to this day have horrific hate crime statistics of people assaulting or murdering queer people for being different and not being punished for it. Currently 35 states have no legislation banning "trans panic" as a viable legal defense for murdering a trans person and there have been cases of people receiving lesser charges on the grounds of trans panic. There's also a lot of social stigma in the religious community, etc; that makes being accepted very difficult.
Nobody expects you to come out as a straight person because this stigma and oppression doesn't exist for heterosexual people. Nobody has murdered a heterosexual person for being heterosexual and received lesser charges because of "straight panic", etc.
People, now, feel the need to come out in order to build solidarity with the people who feel they can't come out because they fear losing their job, getting kicked out of their house because of prejudiced parents, losing friends, getting assaulted for being gay, etc. The more people come out the more it becomes a socially and legislatively accepted norm until "coming out" goes out of fashion because it's been normalized. People shouldn't need to come out, yes; but we're not at that level of social progress yet.
My cousin recently came out in a very public way to everyone in our family, and online a lot of the comments were "you know we 'still' love you," and I was joking with him that apparently 90% of them had seen the same after school special from the 90's. Like what does the pamphlet say you're "supposed to say" when a youth comes out. I was really happy for him though because his side of the family is very religious and those things tend not to mix very well. I am thankful that we are at a place in time where he no longer feels the need to hide or not live his life for himself. We all deserve that.
I'm a lesbian, and I look forward to being old and happy and gay like these wonderful men :)
3:52
"*hes hot*"
I died of laughter xd
I love you guys!
"I lost one of my earphones and I dont know where it went"
He really knows how to crack me up everytime.
As the younger generation (16 years old) of our community, I have so much respect for the older generation, because of their stories, their courage, their will to fight, we can have these coming out videos that are helping even more LGBT+ people. I'm really so grateful for all of the beautiful and not so beautiful parts of our history, that we unfortunately still have to fight for, but we can do it together, and make the older generation proud. Thank you so much for all that you've done!
“ the more we come out the more we can’t be denied” yes! Love that. Simple and strong!
I only wish this video was longer! Can we get an extended version please of their reactions?