I agree. I find it interesting to learn about what someone’s been thru and how they handled it. Also, if they’re still emotional about it or want revenge or string feeling I’d hate toward that person then there’s still healing that needs to be done and a soign they may not be ready for relationship
I completely agree. If you don't know about the past, you won't understand why the way you react to something your partner says, might trigger negative memories.
It depends on what the past has been, how triggering it is for someone in the moment, and some spouses cannot deal with their partner's triggers. Then it is better to deal with these with a trained professional. Also it is usually better for women to not disclose their past relationships. Shows how truly special Mr. East is, but then you are (and were such a public figure it is also different because of your past trust issues that came with leading such a public life). Thanks for sharing ❤.
we can all say that moving forward and looking forward to the future is important as remembering the past and how things have impacted us what you’re saying is so right I remember one night a bottle of wine and my husband and I talking about all the bad things and we just got it out cried out screamswhatever needed to be done and we decided we put that on the table with no judgment before we got married and that helped us along the way then we’ve been married for over 20 years so far
You probably need to know each other’s traumas, it helps navigate things, but you don’t need to share everything. If you’ve had two or three traumatic relationships they probably need to know a bit about that, but if she tells me something like “back when I was 21, in college, I smashed 22 dudes in a weekend…” I’ll never see her the same. Chances that someone worthy of the long term ever having done that is slim, but on the off chance they are, they’ve done the work to become worthy, knowing that will poison that relationship for most, I think.
I would love to know if the person I'm dating would toss me because of something I've done in the past. I care about how my partner handles mistakes after they happen...I don't need to pretend they've never made mistakes. If my partner needs to pretend, they can go find an imaginary girlfriend.
Grow up. It lets you weed out women you probably don't want to engage with anyway. A person's past can help you see a bigger picture of your future with them
Us ladies don’t want to hear it either, it can also be repulsive to us, but a lot of adult men or women realize what is best for their partner & the betterment of the relationship so we push our feelings to the side ❤ it’s obvious unless you know you married a virgin that we all have had a past before our current
My brother, husband, and friends must be quite different than the average then... ❤ I have been surrounded by super kind and tender men in my life! My husband has helped me with my past, and I'm so thankful he wanted to know. ❤
Not in my experience. You can't fully know someone without knowing their past. No one said anything about in depth conversations about certain sides of past relationships
That's about ego...not about moving forward/progress. The past is never just the past. You are the end result of your past and understanding who you are today requires understanding where you came from.
I hate when people don't wanna know what you've been through. Like so you want to stay strangers?
This comment thou😂
No talk about it..and move on. There should be no feelings. It's the past. You should have healed
@@Timetravel755 I'm guessing you're not a therapist.
@@joel4960 no actually it my belief. I believe we are allowed to have one?
Of course.@@Timetravel755
I agree. I find it interesting to learn about what someone’s been thru and how they handled it. Also, if they’re still emotional about it or want revenge or string feeling I’d hate toward that person then there’s still healing that needs to be done and a soign they may not be ready for relationship
I completely agree. If you don't know about the past, you won't understand why the way you react to something your partner says, might trigger negative memories.
It depends on what the past has been, how triggering it is for someone in the moment, and some spouses cannot deal with their partner's triggers. Then it is better to deal with these with a trained professional.
Also it is usually better for women to not disclose their past relationships. Shows how truly special Mr. East is, but then you are (and were such a public figure it is also different because of your past trust issues that came with leading such a public life).
Thanks for sharing ❤.
we can all say that moving forward and looking forward to the future is important as remembering the past and how things have impacted us what you’re saying is so right I remember one night a bottle of wine and my husband and I talking about all the bad things and we just got it out cried out screamswhatever needed to be done and we decided we put that on the table with no judgment before we got married and that helped us along the way then we’ve been married for over 20 years so far
It's really hard to understand context without information.
Soo important love this ❤
You probably need to know each other’s traumas, it helps navigate things, but you don’t need to share everything. If you’ve had two or three traumatic relationships they probably need to know a bit about that, but if she tells me something like “back when I was 21, in college, I smashed 22 dudes in a weekend…” I’ll never see her the same. Chances that someone worthy of the long term ever having done that is slim, but on the off chance they are, they’ve done the work to become worthy, knowing that will poison that relationship for most, I think.
I would love to know if the person I'm dating would toss me because of something I've done in the past. I care about how my partner handles mistakes after they happen...I don't need to pretend they've never made mistakes. If my partner needs to pretend, they can go find an imaginary girlfriend.
Agreed.
Smart❤
Common sense 💯
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Y'all are so dang cute!!😍 How old are y'all in this video? If you don't mind me asking of course😉🥰
Nothing worse than hearing about how your old and ridin hard partner got that way. Mums the word.
No man ever wants to hear about his wife or girlfriends past sexual encounters and relationships. It’s repulsive to us.
There is nothing to gain from it.
Grow up. It lets you weed out women you probably don't want to engage with anyway. A person's past can help you see a bigger picture of your future with them
My husband has helped me so much with my past!!
I'm so thankful he wanted to know. ❤
It's not about that part of it.
Us ladies don’t want to hear it either, it can also be repulsive to us, but a lot of adult men or women realize what is best for their partner & the betterment of the relationship so we push our feelings to the side ❤ it’s obvious unless you know you married a virgin that we all have had a past before our current
Wait, so "talking" and "communication" and "listening", sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. Yes sarcasm sheldon.
Strongly disagree!! It’s almost always a woman wanting to know. A man doesn’t! He wants to progress and let the past be the past!
My brother, husband, and friends must be quite different than the average then... ❤
I have been surrounded by super kind and tender men in my life!
My husband has helped me with my past, and I'm so thankful he wanted to know. ❤
@@kindnessmatters4068 absolutely respect that!
Not in my experience. You can't fully know someone without knowing their past. No one said anything about in depth conversations about certain sides of past relationships
That's about ego...not about moving forward/progress. The past is never just the past. You are the end result of your past and understanding who you are today requires understanding where you came from.