You want to know whats really funny about that? Its deeply, deeply rooted in certain forms of Christianity/Catholicism. This concept of inherited sin for which you must atone, and self flagellation to 'make up' for the sins of others. By suffering for another persons sins, you are virtuous/Christ like. And yet most of the people that subscribe to it are viciously anti-religion. Its so, so funny 😆
@@impposter560I haven't really heard about that. I know about Adam/Eve and the apple and how evil is now here and we are suffering. But I don't think it makes us Christ like. Turning to God makes us Christ like.
@@impposter560 There's Bible passages that state every man will be accountable for their own actions. During the crusades, people forced others to convert to Christianity and thought the Bible said that’s okay even though the Bible never taught or encouraged it. If you take the Bible out of context, that doesn't mean the Bible is incorrect.
Someone shoplifted at the Best Buy I was at last night, and I feel guilty because my presence probably made the shoplifter do it 😢 Sarcasm if you couldn't tell
Social media really amplified this deep thirst for validation, to the point that people are willing to trash their own demographic (race or gender) just to prove themselves to whatever club they wanna join; it's a desire to be special, "guys look I condemn who I am please accept me!"
Agreed. I saw a white guy not too long ago saying white Americans have no culture of their own. I replied tell that to the rest of the damn world. American culture has spread around the world for better or worse. When you’ve grown up in a certain culture, you don’t see how different other cultures are until you leave that country.
I see this argument hurled at me when I criticize the black "community". Specifically when I point out things like the fact that the " 'no snitchin' " rule actively allows a free pass for criminals that live in our neighborhoods to skate on by and continue to victimize and destroy those same neighborhoods.
@@affablesage9582 the problem is that you consider it exclusive to black communities, when in reality that's just gang culture everywhere; Russian, Japanese, Mexican, Italian...gangs of all races do the "no snitching rule" and everything else you describe in your comment
That one black woman's speech about the rioting and destruction literally made me tear up. Her rage is justified and everything she's saying is so true. It's disgusting what happened during the riots and all the people who lost so much because the protesters "righteous" indignation
I love the point she made about the broken charging station being used by the homeless and how the rioters will go home to their comforts. And she is a veteran! Mad respect for her and her frustration! She is a voice of reason in a sea of actual bigotry. (Classism specifically)
Gay man here, I made a new friend who referred to herself as an ally when we met and I real quick put a stop to that nonesense. I am not a victim, and so don't need allies. If you want to be my friend there are more interesting aspects to my personality than my homosexuality.
Gay woman here im the same. I also dont identify as queer or the alphabet. Im an individual with my own thoughts and needs. I dont need any extra attention im just living my life.
The women’s speech gave me chills. You can tell she is screaming exactly how she and so many others in the now destroyed community feels and it’s all sadly correct. Especially about the people who’s lives they made harder for their own egos sake.
That clip also reminded me of another video where that poor woman was cleaning up the damage done to her looted store after a ““protest.”” There’s a way for you to get your message out there. Rampaging like an angry toddler is not the way, and it just ruins people’s livelihoods.
I wish I was that eloquent when I was that enraged. I do hope all those young folks there took her words to heart and stopped destroying property in the name of political protest.
What Kelly Stamps said was spot on! Most of us are not black activists, we don't subscribe to all these ideas, we don't want to be constantly racialised. Why can't we just be beautiful? Why do we have to be "beautiful for a black girl"? "Allies" can only see you as a skin tone because "helping the blacks" is part of their identity. Most of us just want to get on with our lives and be treates like everyone else, not racialised, pitied and patronised in every interaction.
They don't even want to help the minority, they want to help the stereotype of the minority they have in mind The moment the person have a slightly different idea from what they are supposed to have according to the stereotype they start with the insults
Because apparently "not seeing color" is racist. I don't see color and I don't care who thinks that's racist because that's an asinine position. I can't stand it when people give a compliment but add "for a __". When you qualify it like that it loses its value. That's like saying my dog is smart for a dog. That would still make him dumb for a human. It's a very back handed compliment.
The lady yelling in the street deserves to be lauded for what she said and did. Standing up for others with strength, a clear message and a lot of good sense.
Indeed. It takes incredible courage of conviction to speak out like that in public while, as you say, communicating her frustrations very clearly. Nothing she said can be spun in any other way than the way she meant it. Bravo!
Describing yourself as an "ally" is basically signalling to the world that you're not willing or able to form your own individual opinions on sociopolitical issues, instead you are simply choosing to pick a side and toe the line in the hopes of gaining social acceptance.
A UA-camr I used to like started constantly including something in her descriptions called "How to be a Trans Ally 101" a guide, which (no joke) included "Ask everyone you meet (not just people you think are trans) what their pronouns are". We're apparently supposed to greet people with "Hello. What are your pronouns?" Maybe that shit would fly in the rich parts of San Francisco, but literally everywhere else in the world you'll be treated like an escaped mental patient.
I feel like asking everyone their pronouns is only valid in spaces where there are a lot of queer people. I've been working with a company that has a lot of people in the LBGTQ+ community so we don't assume what one another's gender identities are, therefore it made sense for us to ask what each other's pronouns were off the bat. Other than that, an individual would just tell you what their pronouns are if they're different from one would assume.
"Ally" has always struck me as a more accurate term than the people using it know. It's basically an admission that yes, they are using you for their own gain. An alliance is strategic, you'll form a temporary, well, alliance in the hope of getting something out of it in the long run. It has nothing to do with friendship or brotherhood or unity. It's fundamentally self-serving.
I've always felt allies were always doing it for themselves more than for the people that they were supposedly defending. And I really dislike the term and I really appreciate that you're willing to be. Fair and not go to extremes.
That's what I think too! They are more interested in virtual signaling and demonising the other side than actually doing anything constructive or building bridges between communities. Nope. They prefer shouting at "the other side" and considered it a job well done
@@strkloCan co firm. I am disabled. I have said that you will never find an activist on a reservation, hospital, or ghetto. It is all luxury activism. It is also a religion. Liberalism comes from the Quakers who were kicked out of England for being insufferable extremists. "Whaever is right is right, even if everyone is against it. What is wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it." ~William Penn.
They're not allies. They're useful idiots. These woukd be puppet masters with savior complexes are themselves puppets of bigger puppet masters. All of them are useful only as a means to an end: increasing and growing authoritarianism and the power and control of central governments. Diminishing liberties and increasing censorship in the name of "progress" and "tolerance". Creating, maintaining and growing a forever victim class of perma-dependents. Conditioned from cradle all the way to the grave to never even try. While also convinced that utopia is just around the corner, and would be here already if it weren't for "those people". But remember, you need the allies. Because the boogeyman is real, ever present and all powerful, and you need THEM to save you from him. Slap! The bogeyman is defeated, and easily, seeing how he's made of straw. To convince the little people that they're winning. But then suprise, he was on a spring the whole time, and pops right back up, straw and all, and now he's even more powerful and dangerous and oppressive than before. And slap! Down he goes, the peasants rejoice, and he comes right back all over again. Remember, you need them! If they weren't here, the bogeyman would have already gotten every single one of you by now. As it is, despite their continued efforts, he's still managed to get some of you, and that's your fault for not giving them and the people they put in office enough money, authority, control, power and influence. Give them more if you don't want to get got, and be grateful for the crumbs that fall off their table.
I'm nice enough to acknowledge that some people really are just guilt-stricken or ashamed and have a righteous sense to defend the downtrodden. Yes, a minority is not by default downtrodden but they ARE a minority and I can see how they think non-whites, women, LGBT, etc. would and should have someone defending them. Can they be foolishly performative or zealot? Yes. But many are sincere and that is my point.
Yeah this is why I can’t stand allies that think they can speak for a community and that the community all thinks the same. I once had a white girl say my opinion on immigration was invalid because she assumed I was white, but when I pointed out I was Mexican, suddenly I was betraying my race. Great video girl❤
White girls always trying to leisure on things they have no clue about, i had a White woman say im racist against latinos, but i literally live in South America
I have had this same problem on numerous occasions. Apparently, if you ain't dark enough, don't speak broken English, and were born in the states, there's no way you're a "real Mexican."
It's just weird to claim that any group are 'oppressed' and any other group are 'oppressors.' Seeing any group as homogenous isn't a world lens I would embrace!
This is why individualism and character is very important. When your whole identity is your race, gender, or sexual orientation, are just lunacy. And most of all, turning it into these political campaigns and groups, turning it into "Our race/gender vs theirs". This is just manifesting divisions.
Hamas Piker is actually a rare species of shark that survives by consuming clout, so it's totally unfair to hold him to regular human standards of conduct, much less expect him to be an ally to anyone other than his own bank balance.
It’s amazing… at my BJJ gym, we have tons of diversity and it’s never mentioned. We just train together and love each other. Men, women, white, black, straight, gay/lesbian… no one cares. It’s not a discussion. We just see each other as individuals who are all striving for something. Stop trying to force diversity and just be human. It works.
That's exactly what we should aim for : everyone accepting each other and living in peace whatever they are... it's what most LGBTQ want but when you scroll through social media, it's some sort of ego and "do-you-see-me, I'm special" competition.... which is the opposite from productive (not that you can't be proud and stuff, but you're so much more than a sexual orientation as a person...)
No. Natural organic diversity and inclusion are not diverse and inclusive enough, and so we must bioengineer it and grow it in a lab. It must be forced and forged as a weapon against the enemies of diversity and inclusion. Diversity and inclusion today! Diversity and inclusion tomorrow! Diversity and inclusion no matter the cost, no matter how much it horribly backfires and makes things worse.
@@sunb5738it’s called attention seeking wanting more attention because it is necessary and it benefits their own ego. They are so obsessed with being the spotlight and having all the attention on them which is so embarrassing and just narcissistic..behavior
Exactly!! I support and care about people and would stand up for someone if they were being mistreated but I don’t consider it my whole identity 😂 Also, allies online tend to be overdo it and contribute to the stereotype of every LGBT person being a far leftist. In reality, I know plenty of conservatives and moderates who are LGBT, and they feel chased out of their own community by the allies
Amen to that. I was nearly suckered into being an "ally", until they revealed their true colors (pun intended). I quickly left the "socially aware" group for my sanity's sake.
I was in college a few years ago studying game design this woman came in and stopped the lesson and proceeded to go on about gay pride and “ being an Ally “ I got up and walked out and got yelled at because I refused to sit through a lecture that had nothing to do with the course I was studying
@@mannymushies5241 allyship is political. I don't look for political alliances in my personal relationships. I don't look to be seen as an interchangeable member of a demographic group or statistic. I look for individuals who appreciate me as an individual. And I think everyone does, deep down inside.
Nowadays you cant sit in a classroom for 10 minutes before some perverted ideologue gives you the ultimatum of either being on a leash or being ostracized
I've literally been dumped by my feminist boyfriend over the fact that he didn't agree on my views regarding my own experience as a woman. He claimed he was going to a women's march in my name, to "help me " and other women, but when I said I didn't see myself as oppressed he got up packed his stuff and stormed out.
Like the video says , the only way he explains away my views is by saying I have internalised something. It’s honestly nice coming here and see that I’m not alone in feeling this way. He literally shouted at me “nobody thinks like you”.
Being on the "good" side doesn't give you a pass to hurl slurs at the "bad" side. You're not an "ally" if you think it's okay to call black people you don't agree with the n-word, you're not an "ally" if you think it's okay to tell women who are anti-feminist to get back in the kitchen, you're not an "ally" if you think that you're allowed to say those things because you're the "good guy" so obviously you get a pass. People suck sometimes :/
Yup on a similair note there is a significant number of african americans that don't believe they can be racist even after saying something unquestionably racist and/or essentially promote segregation without knowing or blind to it it's very worrying in my opinion
Patience -- This analysis is remarkably insightful and engagingly conveyed. I mean it as a sincere compliment when I say that you have really upped your game here with the commentary and the editing. It's been a true pleasure to watch your channel grow. Keep up the fantastic work.
Dude the absolute worst thing about allies is that they keep trying to like turn their woke statements into songs They’re always horrible with 0 rhythm Edit: nevermind that whole segment about voter registration ID was 1000x worse That was so racist “those types of people don’t have access to…” “they don’t have the knowledge of how it works” “well…criminals aren’t allowed to vote”
Yeah, those comments were shocking! Do they think black people don’t own cell phones, tablets, laptops, gaming systems? If they can’t afford internet services, many cities provide free modems and service to homes with school age children, based on income (for any race). Anyone can also get free WiFi at Panera’s or the library. If black people don’t have ID, how do these allies think they are they able to attend school, drive, work, cash paychecks, serve in the military, or fly on vacation? Seems they’ve never had an actual relationship with a black person.
@XootrFoot yes they actually believe that lol it's insane. The worst part is that they don't think it's actually racist to believe those things. They think they're being compassionate and empathetic by pointing out that they believe minorities are simply incapable and too dumb to function properly in our country.
She's not wrong because it is odd to emphasize a comment or the like with "for a (insert race, gender, etc here)" Morgan Freeman actually said something I read about in an interview when the interviewer referred to him as a "very successful black man" He interjected saying I prefer to be referred to as a "successful man" - period
I grew up on American media but in Ukraine, a country that never had black slavery, only had slavic slavery. I found myself feeling guilty for being white at some point as a teenager. I then moved to the States as an adult, and that woke me up. I am never going to feel collective guilt again.
I keep on saying that the word slave comes from the word slavic but they keep on thinking the word is made for black people only which is racist in it's self
That’s what happens when you have white kids that grew up in these cloistered upper class neighborhoods and never talked to people or spent time in the hood.
Maybe she's thinking they can't afford the Internet bill, or that they're old people that have a hard time doing stuff online such as renewing their ID? She might not know about government assistance with phones if she's middle class.
Seeing allies reminds of those people who say yeah in the 1800’s I would have totally been part of the Underground Railroad . Yet they forget to consider how dangerous it was to be one of those people and it was much different from make a post online . I believe bill burr did a piece on it .
not exactly the same thing but, being a openly bisexual woman in online spaces (specifically with americans) is all "yas queen" and "pride" until they find out I'm *slightly* more center left than they are and I'm dating a man
Its cause most people saw through the facade, these rioters were just profiteers who wanted to feel social acceptance or financial gain, the best example was the BLM leader. All that money folks sent to her went to buying houses for her family, her wife or luxury trips and items. It was never about police brutality, black people or oppression. Its always about ill gotten gains and how to get more without anyone really finding out.
I had a nonbinary friend, who was male, but wanted to be viewed as a woman. Out of all my friends, including conservative friends, he was the most sexist and misogynistic towards women. Actually, he was my only friend who was sexist and mysoginistic. I am a woman, he would get angry if I misgendered him, but at the same time would spew the most hateful stuff at women and bully women who didn't want to be called cis.
Ah, the old “rules for thee but not for me.” I knew a trans mtf that I was friends with at one point, which I do not talk to anymore, nor consider a friend, for good reason. They kept flirting with my friend and getting up in his space on a frequent basis, which he did not like in the slightest. They then had the gall to call me phobic and target me when I told them that he wasn’t interested. He was a very shy gay dude, and didn’t have the courage himself to tell them that he’s (very obviously) not interested, and had asked me to do it for him.
@@cincinnati4391it's really bad, but things like this and OPs are why I actually tend not talk to the modern 'trans'(trenders lbr). There's invariably going to be drama, so I'd spare myself the BS and dodge it. Ironically they can then use to throw the phobics malarkey. But nope. I just don't suffer fools.
I think one of the problems is that millennials want to be heroes -- there were so many hero stories for children in the 90s, and since we lived in one of the most prosperous nations, the people that don't find outlets for these feelings create problems to fight for.
Is racism a problem yes do I need a bunch of middle class white people telling me about when am at the pub no It's just horrible they talk to you like you don't know what racism is it's very insulting and belittling and ........Racist
They don't want to BE heroes; they want to FEEL like heroes. Most of being an ally is utterly empty talk to make themselves feel and look better, to have a good conscience. In reality being a hero requires virtuos and costly action.
34:59 This whole segment reminded me of how struck I felt some time ago when I watched an interview with ContraPoints, which she was giving on some lgbt related podcast. At some point she and the interviewer began discussing her debate with Blaire white and the right in general, and instead of trying to engage with Blaire's actual ideas and points, THE ENTIRE SEGMENT they spent discussing psychological reasons and potential ulterior motives for Blaire being on the right. "She can't sincerely be right-wing, she must be getting paid by the right or have internalized transphobia or something else". It was absolutely degenerate, because framing like that inherently puts them on a higher level of consciousness and awareness, than those they were discussing, and frankly it just felt disgusting.
Agreed, I've seen videos of non trans people accusing her of betraying her community. They have no solid arguments for why she's wrong, just psychoanalysing her "true intentions" it's gross
It gets funnier when their inability to comprehend peaks and and they start saying stuff like "but why do they even like Blair she didn't even have bottom surgery essentially calling her not trans because of it. Gets me everytime
Yeah because blaire couldn't possibly have opinions and thoughts outside of a medical condition, right? 😂 they just don't understand that being a certain race, sex, gender, etc can have zero to do with how you align politically. It is entirely possible to separate politics from what you look like lol its such an odd concept to me that they are incapable of this
"Internalized transphobia" is the marxist false consciousness non-argument built into the left's gnostic logic. Either you agree with us or the demiurge of patriarchy/whiteness/capitalism/satan has tricked you. It is a way of avoiding challenging their own group's cultish beliefs.
One of my leftist "ally" friends was debating racism with me in early 2020 and said that white people don't have any circumstances in which they can feel uncomfortable in a public place unlike black people. So I told her an anecdote about how I (a white Englishman) once went to Wales with some friends and we were accosted by some local football hooligans. They heard our accents and decided to use regional prejudice as a reason to start a fight. They pushed us around, chanted anti English songs and it would have gotten far worse had security not stepped in. After my friend digested the story, she just said "well that's prejudice not racism" and then swiftly changed the subject. What she failed to see was that hate is hate and anyone can be a victim of it, but the vast majority of people just went to get along with everybody.
Thank you for making this video. We need more people like you calling out the issues that comes with these "allies." I used to be friends with a lot more people call themselves Allies and I got tired of their BS. I'm still friends with some of them but I had to cut ties with some of those guys because they got way too extreme and insane with the insistence they are are Allies and always need to tell me to check my priviledges more often that it got old and annoying.
I lost my friend and music group of over 10 years because I stated that men who transition into women still have physical advantages and that they are still biologically men. Suddenly I was the enemy, a tErF, a tRaNsPhoBe, a bIgoT, all the buzzwords. The irony is that they claim to champion for women’s rights, but in the same breath, they will also say that men (as “trans women”) should be allowed to beat the shit out of women in sports, which is directly misogynistic. 1) men have physical advantages, and 2) those biological men are still taking up spots that could have gone to actual women.
@@growingoaksThem believing that pills and surgery can overcome natural human development is utter nonsense to be honest. Unless it’s done incredibly early (before the point they’d even think they’re a different gender), it’s not going to work well enough to change bone structure and muscle mass. I don’t understand how people can think something is correct and in the same sentence invalidate their own beliefs.
I’m Jewish and… I’ve been told by non-Jews what is anti-Semitic even when it’s not, and what isn’t, even when it is. I remember some young Jewish congressman being saying he was confused when one of his political allies was being called an anti-Semite for something that just didn’t sound offensive
The only thing that makes racism grow is talking and thinking about it constantly. This applies to every race bc when you’re so focused on it you see racism everywhere. So if you think society is racist, that’s what you’ll see.
I think there are some truth to this, but I think talking about race productively can be beneficial as well. I did a live stream with a UA-camr about why black and white women need to get along. We have somethings to sort out, and in the end we showed that we are much more alike as women than we are different. I personally, would like to see some constructive talk about racism. All the rest is garbage.
Bro that is ridiculous. There is a reason authoritarian govts dont want ppl "talking" about issuse bro. You think about that and ask urself again why u dont want ppl talking about racism. 🤣🤣🤣
Ngl, I'm kinda confused by this comment. I mean, I agree that your life shouldn't be focusing to see if anything and everything is racist but if someone is being racist, shouldn't it be called out? Like, I'm genuinely confused.
@@blacksmoke6292I believe they’re not trying to say to ignore genuine racism, and that what they’re trying to say is to not bring up the talking point of racism when it’s not necessary or important to talk about in the moment, like, for example, bringing it up in a lecture about architectural engineering or something along those lines. It doesn’t need to be broadcasted everywhere for everyone to see, because forcing people to look at it when it’s not needed can cause unnecessary division, like bringing up politics at the dinner table.
@@blacksmoke6292I think this comment is basically saying if you want to find proof of something and look hard enough, you will most certainly find it. As with a lot of things in life. However, genuine racism should be called out.
This was my first time I ever saw that clip of the Lady in that ruined neighborhood. She really gave me goosebumps. I had to pause the video there to let that sink in. Never ever have I experienced a riot in my small town here in Germany. Seeing her makes me feel like a Hobbit in the Shire. Also I used to be a volunteer firefighter once. When I saw those guys in the clip I was wondering what was going on in their head while they were helping there.
I'm a white person so not part of a supposed oppressed racial group but I am a woman and have known men who act like they are our allies and going to the point that they know better than we do, not listening to actual women and telling us what we should think and feel. I have known one or two of these individuals later being outed as an abuser of women. Yes, their act was a good cover up. They still had their league of flying monkeys defending them of course. I suppose any other group who are told they are oppressed in some way is going to have these same type of "Allies" speaking on their behalf as well...
It's so hilarious. I work with college students and I've had men sit next to me and say to my face that they're not sure what women want, but they believe women should get to define what they want. And women should get this, and women should get that. If you really don't know what we want, why are you saying what we should do? I know they mean well--sometimes--but other times they just want to sound progressive and to listen to it as an actual woman makes me want to scream.
I'm sorry, but the first part of your comment reminded me of a joke. "If a white woman couldn't victimize herself as black, they can always victimize themselves as a woman"
As always, this is a really thorough and nuanced video. Me personally, I find the guilty ally to be as frustrating as the narcissistic and political allies. It's really awkward to meet white people for the first time, and the first thing they do is prove that they're not a racist or admit their guilt for things their ancestors did. It's like I'm not even thinking about race the first I meet someone. I'm just trying to have a conversation lol.
I used to date an "ally" who caught the social media post bug hard. I used to work tech in the performing arts and was surrounded by all kinds of actors and art directors. It made me realize there's a whole lot of shame/blame-geared virtue signalling that parades as "taking actions", yet there's very rarely anything else done. It was also exhausting to continuously be told to be offended about every single injustice. Quickly after you notice the tier list when problem A happens to matter more to them than problem B. Now I roll my eyes at people proudly doing land acknowledgments like it's it's more than talking. Heck, I had a teacher make us read a book on racism during Covid, and the only non-black chapter spent half its page count talking about the Model Minority.... which is a wild thing to read amidst all the Anti-Asian Hate Crime spike we were going through at the time. The echo chamber was mostly focused on everything else though so w/e.
Patience, I've watched every single one of your videos and this is the best one you've made yet. I'm a gay black man in and have had to end friendships with white allies in the past couple years for all the reasons you've listed, especially after the BLM hysteria here in the US. I've actually recalled that Malcom X quote once during it. This video was so well done. Thank you so much for doing it!
My friend and colleague is from Mexico and moved here with her parents and siblings about 30 years ago. One of our other colleagues had referred to her as "Mexican" the other day and then began backpedaling, asking "Wait, is that ok? " She and I started laughing and she said "Uh yeah, I AM Mexican". The other girl was like "Well I don't know! Some people get offended" and she explains "Well, it's not to me because I'm Mexican. Now if you assumed someone you don't know who's maybe Peruvian or Chilean and referred to them as 'Mexican', then yeah they might get irritated" I understood her mindspace right away which is why we both laughed.
i'm tired of racism to white people being this normalized okay thing. it's not. i'm white, and i don't see myself as any less or any more than anyone else. we are all people. okay we have different colors, doesn't matter. when people have this mindset that race matters, even in a progressive woke way like "you're white so you're privileged and rich", honestly in my opinion its racist. we need to stop looking at color and just judge based off of genuine character. this is only making people even more divided and that's not what the world needs! i'm not saying simply acknowledging someone's race is bad, just making some weird comment about their race like it changes anything is weird and problably racist.
I agree- 'race matters' is most literally the core belief of racism. I don't think many realize the word doesn't mean hatred towards one group, it means sorting everyone into races, believing race should be a factor in everyone's position. So it involves an attitude towards humanity as a whole- that it should be divided into groups- not towards only one of those groups. Its very definition includes everyone, since everyone has a race, or a mix. I also disagree with popular definitions in that they view racism as actions, I think it's a belief. Actions can be motivated by racism, but if they aren't, they aren't racist- we need to know the motive to label them as such.
Agreed. If you tell that to these people they’ll say “Oh well your white fragility is showing” No, people just don’t like being mocked by their immutable characteristics.
Fr, and if I say that, I’m racist because I “have to privilege to not experience the consequences of my white ancestors mistreating other races”. I didn’t do anything, I’m just living my life and everyone is just living theirs. If I acknowledge ppl’s race I’m racist of course, but now ppl will call you racist for not acknowledging race too. I’m tired of being called racist just for existing as a white person. I didn’t choose my skin color the same way no one else chose theirs.
@@Sarah-with-an-Hyes and no. "White privilege" is a term that is hyped and repeated to steer the focus away from actually rich people and criminals (millionares of any colour) and use the racially white low and middle class as the scape-goat to blaim for all the worlds problems. Now the whole world is hostile to people with white skin just for existing. Its defenetly about race at this point. Im from a eastern-european country that never did slav3ry or colonized anybody. My ancestors never even left europe but still i get hate online from POC just coz i exist in white skin.
Its us against the entire education SYSTEM, unfortunately. The idea that some people of a certain race are inherently indebted to another "group" is very convenient for the people who want the power to fiddle around with the systems for their own benefit.
The ally mentality is essentially “I need minorities to think I’m cool because I’m afraid of what they might do to me if they do to me if they don’t.” It’s insincere and insidious, and I’m glad more people are starting to see through it.
28:45 "I think it's possible to disagree with someone's political position without resorting to racism." Just want to give this observation its own thumbs-up. 31:45 Sadly I think some of the hate you because they resent not being able to control you, your refusal to read from the script they've written for you. If they really believe they had an "unfair privilege" they wouldn't be so quick to leverage it when they need it.
The guilt allies exist in the context of gender as well. It's a fascinating phenomenon I've observed in some men, particularly since the me too movement happened. Some men have taken their understanding and support of women's issues to such an extreme that they literally hate being men and are uncomfortable with masculinity. Some of these men even go as far as transitioning (or toying with the idea) in order to escape the shame and guilt of being a man and identify out of it. It's quite sad, really. I personally know a few men like this in real life (long term friends). They are classic woke left-wing people who subscribe to critical race theory, gender identity theory, etc. and have identified as allies for years. One of them is literally in the process of transitioning right now, one identifies as non-binary and the other admits he's toyed with the idea of non-binary. The irony is that the one transitioning right now is becoming increasingly angry with the world (especially women / terfs) for not accepting the "trans women are women" narrative and for protecting women-only spaces... and it's starting to have a borderline misogynistic tone. Not to mention, taking on womanhood and treating it as an easy costume you can just put on to relieve yourself of the 'burden' of being a man is pretty questionable in itself. This person appears to be totally oblivious to this though. I've had many conversations about this with the one who's toyed with the non-binary idea. I've repeated to him so many times that he's not responsible for what some other men have done/do to women. The only thing he can do in life is be a good person himself. That's all we have control of, really. No one is responsible for other people's actions.
I'm just a middle class white person who has always tried to treat everyone well. I was taught that skin colour is not that important. I didn't think a lot about race when dealing with people, I was just dealing with a person. Then this whole blm thing erupted and when I had to take my kid to emerg for a broken bone and the nurse who checked me in was dark skinned I was so insecure, worried that I might say something unintentionally offensive. It was ridiculous. She was just asking questions and I was answering them but I was so uncomfortable. That's what this whole, "if you're white you're most definitely racist" idea does. It makes you focus more on race than the human infront of you.
Honestly, I was the same. I’m already an over-thinker and I just got more anxiety from reading all left political stuff on social media during 2020-2022. I’m still more left, but I just don’t agree with every single thing a person says. It’s silly af, but I used to think I couldn’t disagree with a non-white person, otherwise I was racist. It makes it more racist when you can’t disagree with them because you’re basing it off their race.
You should do a video about Jane Elliot. She got popular in the U.S. a bit before everything went nuts, and built a career teaching about racism by traumatizing kids and making them cry. Her whole racism education thing is nuts imo. She created the "blue eyes, brown eyes" exercise.
You are misrepresenting that entire experiment and shame on you for doing so. The point of that experiment is to show how teaching one group of people that they are superior will manifest itself among social interactions. The result was whenever the group of children were given special privileges, they treated the other group of children badly and were arrogant and bossy towards them. The group that were not given special privileges also performed worse on tests and assignments, showing that unequal treatment can negatively impact groups and marginalize them. Essentially, it destroyed the sperate but equal doctrine that was used to justify segregation against black Americans. We can get into the ethics of using children for a social experiment and how it might be a bad idea but the experiment itself should not be discounted and its clear you are not knowledgeable on it and should probably research the experiment better.
Being one of the crazy allies sounds more like a detriment than a good thing. Involving and circulating your life around a certain community and speaking on their behalf sounds really draining
The lady at the end yelling at the rioters who destroyed her neighborhood broke my heart. Her anger is so eye-opening. I have no words. If she ran for office, she’d have my vote.
I manage a team of 8 people, no white people, 6 of which are women. THIS IS NOT a pat on the back just giving you the scenario. But in one of our one on one meetings, someone said "you are a good ally" and I told her to never call me that. We then had a discussion about how she thought she might have been hired just for diversity which was completely untrue. I hate that she felt that way and had to reassure her she was hired solely because I wanted her on the team and the interview we had. Its a shame that through DEI and people wearing a badge of honor being an ally, that its creating this self doubt and lack of worth.
I got into a dumb argument with somebody who was telling me that my political position was racist, so I sent him videos of black people saying the same thing. His reply was that he "only cares about the opinions of the good black people" and I just sat there dumbfounded, like 👀👀
It isn’t all that surprising once you start viewing those political ideologies as a secular offshoot of Protestant puritanical faiths which see themselves as God’s “chosen fews and true believers”, because that’s really the only way any of their contradictory doctrines and views can even begin to make sense.
I love your posts, whether we agree or disagree; but every time I still get blown away, it’s always so comprehensive. This has absolutely become one of my favourites
When I hear someone refer to themselves as an "ally" my immediate thought is that they're probably pretty racist. That shit is just projecting too hard. It's easy to show respect to another fellow human. It's a completely other thing to think they need a savior or ally. As if you're different enough from them to begin with.
The whole savior complex is just unreal. Supporting people in a respectful and honest way is one thing, but seeking out to be an “ally” and a “savior” is just attention seeking at its finest. I don’t care what someone says they are, if you respect me I respect you, and if you’re starving let’s go grab a bite to eat. I’m not going to go burn cities and preach hate because they want me to feel offended on the behalf of someone who could not care less.
Nah, I believe there are sincere but misguided people who do just want to help but go about clumsily. They do not understand that merely being respectfully indifferent about minor characteristics is enough. But yes, there ARE also bigots and performative allies that are just in it for personal gain.
Being an "ally" doesn't make you redeemable in their eyes. No amount of atonement and action can ever earn forgiveness. Being an "ally" just makes you "one of the good ones."
The worst part is that no one asked for allies... they just slapped that label on themselves and said "im better than these people and I'm gonna show it by calling myself an ally" 🤢🤢🤢 sooooo cringe!
I love how calmly you’ve analysed the situation. I deeply dislike those useful idiots who hijacked our community and call themselves queer and screem the loudest about discrimination and thus austrisize us further and further from the general population. What they forget is, that you will stay black and I will stay gay. For us this is neither a game nor a phase, for s this is our life.
9:50 So basically "after I'm dead all of my leftovers can go to black people and all of the beaches that I enjoy can be handed over. But as long as I live, I'll continue to enjoy it all and sacrifice nothing. I'm so woke and progressive."
The problem with the "ally" is that they are never your friend . Ill never be someones ally , if i cant be your "friend" i dont want to have anything to do with you .
I'm a straight white male. My allies are considered misogynistic. I am so tired of people assuming because you are pro male doesn't mean you're anti female. I'm pro common sense and you bring a lot of that to your videos. Thank you.
I’ve felt this way for a long time. To qualify, I’m a gay man, and one of the best ways to piss me off is to try to speak on my behalf, whether that is an “ally” or other gay people/charities/organisations. The assumption that I will subscribe to all gay talking points is abhorrent. I hate the calls to action that go something along the lines of “The LGBT+ community needs your help” - first of all, the community is a fictitious concept, and second, there are plenty of gay, lesbian and bi people who disagree with each other. You can’t possibly work on behalf of everyone because we don’t all agree. As an aside, this is the first video of yours that I’ve seen, but reading the comment section has been a wholesome experience. So many well-thought comments. Congrats on growing such a smart and engaged audience! Keep up the good work!
When I was at uni I had a close friend from Scandinavia, I went to visit her in her home town. She was telling me about her friend who has server depression because of his white privilege, he truly believes that the world is against minorities and he finds that overwhelming. I listened and said ahh wow I don’t think I understand that, my “friend” then yelled at me saying it was real and I didn’t need to understand it…. It’s almost like a comedy sketch she is a blonde hair blue eyed girl yelling at me for not understanding racism, here is the kicker I’m not white! Makes me feel sad that she just was reeling off things she saw on socials she was so desperate to flex her allyship versus having a conversation. I didn’t even challenge her beliefs but in the court of going even mildly against the narrative I was guilty. Things such an interesting topic thanks for going so deeply into it. I think people are so desperate for community that they will say whatever they can to feel a part of something.
No, I don't describe myself as an ally but I happily support those who desire and need my support. Excellent analysis and an intelligent conclusion. You deserve way more followers.
I tend to find the people who identify as 'allies' are usually the least well informed on subjects. They might have good intentions but they've heard they need to be an 'ally' to be supportive from someone so they start identifying as that but after that they don't actually bother doing their own research or looking at other media (outside of what's on ally websites or maybe they've read a book like "How to be an Ally") so they usually end up having VERY one sided views on most topics.
My *allies* are the bane of my existence. Everything pointed out here is 100% accurate, and there doesn't appear to be anyway of stopping them from "helping".
Thank you! Whenever I see criticism of this sort of behavior, it's always directed towards "white liberals" or outsiders. The criticism needs to also start being directed towards activists of these groups who monopolize the discourse and posture as spokespeople for their entire demographic.
I find ally's interesting because they claim to be incredibly educated about race, and self-aware about their racial bias's, yet they inadvertently can say some of the most condescending and insulting things about other ethnicities. It's clear that they look at black people as "others" and they would claim that this is a positive thing, so they can understand the unique lived realities of the black experience. But what this results in is them focusing on what makes their white experience different then the black experience, and they focus on what makes them different rather than what they have in common. It inadvertently creates unconscious negative thoughts. You compound that with the fact that it's pretty clear most of these allies don't know many/any black people, and as well intentioned as they are, they start to form this mythos of the "noble downtrodden black person", which creates a whole list of negative stereotypes, which is what they are ironically battling against. I think actually knowing and having regular interaction with everyday people of different ethnicities is what a lot of these liberal university students need, because they view black people and other races in the abstract, as a statistic, rather than complex human beings as we all are.
I live in Israel and had a friend who posted something ridiculously antisemitic. I asked her if she'd be interested in hearing my perspective. At first, she said she feels it's her duty to hear both sides, but before we could actually talk, she changed her mind and said I should educate myself instead of listening to Western propaganda. The irony is that my opinions are based on my actual life experiences as opposed to her living comfortably across the globe basing her opinions on well.... western propaganda.
Allies are all about passing the mic to minorities and amplifying their voices until the people they supposedly are allies of choose to think for themselves and express their own views. It’s not about being genuinely caring’ it’s about othering people with the veneer of ´be kind’
I'm theoretically LGBT (but I won't put that label on me, thank you) and if I ever met a person that called themselves an ally I would know that this is someone to not trust and keep my distance from
Theoretically 😂. Honestly, I don’t blame you for saying that, it’s honestly like a mark of shame for any of us at this point to be associated with the alphabet group. I absolutely agree on the whole not trusting “allies” as well.
The amount I've had to state "I'm gay but I'm not LGBTwtf" in real life the last while has been insane. Its that people can't fathom what or why too. Alphabet is a political thing, and one I do not subscribe, endorse or agree. The fact people assume we will be that, part of that hive mind. Is actually kind of weird Imo. Typo
I recall being told by an ally that I shouldn’t worry about white privilege because quote “You’re not white you’re Jewish!” I have a problem with one person telling another who and/or what they are, I suppose that’s the most polite way I can put it.
The way how I see "Allies" is political suicide and apologizing for stuff you didn't do are being a person you never were. Almost like putting your head in the ground and pretend nothing is wrong. Another thing about allies is that I can feel immense amounts of hypocrisy and they often get called out.
Its not the side theyre on. Its the malicious actions, hypocrisy, and attempt at being cruel that both sides extremists utilize to "advance" their own sides agenda.
The guilty ally makes me so sad. I have a lot of white friends and I hate it when they feel like they are beneath me or they should give me special treatment. It hurts me because they are my friends, my equals, my family. It's like if your brother suddenly apologized for existing near you
As a woman, it get a little annoyed when men try to act like an ally. Not all the time but sometimes. And from my perspective, it looks like they act out of fear instead of concern. I've had a guy apologize to me for "mansplaining" something to me and I've never rolled my eyes so hard before. I honestly don't believe in most of the concepts that feminist claim men perpetuate and if they do exist, its usually from the much older crowd of men who grew up in the 50's and 70s. Times were different back in those days. The only thing I want men to do is to call out other men for their shitty behavior. Thats really it for me.
Trying to reason with these "allies" is like trying to reason with someone who has a drinking problem. Everything is always the fault of others. As far as they're concerned everyone else has the problem, not them. And much like someone in denial about having a problem, be it drink, drugs or anything else, nothing will change unless these people first admit to themselves that they have a problem.
I have heard “you’re cute for a white boy” and “she’s cute for a white girl” plenty of times from black people, latinos, and even white people. In all reality, they are always coming from a good place. It seems like it always comes from people who don't have a lot of exposure to another race and is starting to associate new patterns in their mind. I can see how it can be perceived from both sides, but it really is a compliment in every instance I’ve witnessed.
Some of the best friendships I've made with people of different ethnicities, have been based on ott racism towards each other and having a laugh about it. And I'm convinced this is what people need to learn. Like when I was celebrating my birthday and the neighbours called the cops because of our nazi slogans, the police came and noticed most people there were fireigners. I told the police these foreigners are all nazis. They were super confused and just left us alone, only telling us to keep it a little more quiet
While I dislike mentioning conditions that I have, I believe it is necessary here; I have autism and this sort of Ally B.S. is something I despise. The amount of people who speak for those who have autism as if those with the condition are unable to speak for themselves makes my blood boil. It is condescending at best, and I want to see this sort of ideology die out.
I have autism as well, and I hate these capital-A Allies, too, though for different reasons. I’ve heard stuff about speaking up ( most grievously “men should be open about their feelings”), but I’ve seen people being vulnerable get absolutely reamed. Just look at the responses to ShoeonHead’s male lonliness video that she shows off, and witness the “compassion.”
There has been some recent research that i found interesting and think is part of the problem. It was about non active activists, so people who put a black square on their instagram, or people who will make a post about x y and z issue but don't actually go out and do anything about the issue. The research found that these people not only aren't helping their cause, but they might actually harm it. It also found that the majority of these people don't really care about their cause, but are really trying to get attention from other people. In fact, this drive for attention is the reason they can become so vicious about the cause or issue. So, to sum up, allies probably don't really care, but are just looking for attention from others. This is why they seem so crazy. Honestly, i think the solution to end all of this is to be kind to people, stop isolating people, and we need to build stronger communities so we can turn this need for attention into a real need and desire to help others.
It strikes me as quite odd that some people feel guilty over crimes they themselves did not commit!
Even the book of Genesis denounced original sin
You want to know whats really funny about that? Its deeply, deeply rooted in certain forms of Christianity/Catholicism. This concept of inherited sin for which you must atone, and self flagellation to 'make up' for the sins of others. By suffering for another persons sins, you are virtuous/Christ like. And yet most of the people that subscribe to it are viciously anti-religion. Its so, so funny 😆
@@impposter560I haven't really heard about that. I know about Adam/Eve and the apple and how evil is now here and we are suffering. But I don't think it makes us Christ like. Turning to God makes us Christ like.
@@impposter560 There's Bible passages that state every man will be accountable for their own actions. During the crusades, people forced others to convert to Christianity and thought the Bible said that’s okay even though the Bible never taught or encouraged it. If you take the Bible out of context, that doesn't mean the Bible is incorrect.
Someone shoplifted at the Best Buy I was at last night, and I feel guilty because my presence probably made the shoplifter do it 😢
Sarcasm if you couldn't tell
Social media really amplified this deep thirst for validation, to the point that people are willing to trash their own demographic (race or gender) just to prove themselves to whatever club they wanna join; it's a desire to be special, "guys look I condemn who I am please accept me!"
Agreed. I saw a white guy not too long ago saying white Americans have no culture of their own. I replied tell that to the rest of the damn world. American culture has spread around the world for better or worse. When you’ve grown up in a certain culture, you don’t see how different other cultures are until you leave that country.
oh yes, they do that alright lol (man hating men are pathetic)
I see this argument hurled at me when I criticize the black "community". Specifically when I point out things like the fact that the " 'no snitchin' " rule actively allows a free pass for criminals that live in our neighborhoods to skate on by and continue to victimize and destroy those same neighborhoods.
@@affablesage9582 the problem is that you consider it exclusive to black communities, when in reality that's just gang culture everywhere; Russian, Japanese, Mexican, Italian...gangs of all races do the "no snitching rule" and everything else you describe in your comment
its a trend especially amongst white women trashing white men for being white. as Bill Burr said; bitch, you are in this with me.
That one black woman's speech about the rioting and destruction literally made me tear up. Her rage is justified and everything she's saying is so true. It's disgusting what happened during the riots and all the people who lost so much because the protesters "righteous" indignation
I love the point she made about the broken charging station being used by the homeless and how the rioters will go home to their comforts. And she is a veteran! Mad respect for her and her frustration! She is a voice of reason in a sea of actual bigotry. (Classism specifically)
Gay man here, I made a new friend who referred to herself as an ally when we met and I real quick put a stop to that nonesense. I am not a victim, and so don't need allies. If you want to be my friend there are more interesting aspects to my personality than my homosexuality.
Exactly this! I'm gay and had a similar situation
Gay woman here im the same. I also dont identify as queer or the alphabet. Im an individual with my own thoughts and needs. I dont need any extra attention im just living my life.
Amen
Thank you. I always say that if who I sleep with is the most interesting thing about me, I have some work to do.
Not a victim!?
It's not true!
That's impossible!!
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The women’s speech gave me chills. You can tell she is screaming exactly how she and so many others in the now destroyed community feels and it’s all sadly correct. Especially about the people who’s lives they made harder for their own egos sake.
Yeah, that was powerful.
That clip also reminded me of another video where that poor woman was cleaning up the damage done to her looted store after a ““protest.””
There’s a way for you to get your message out there. Rampaging like an angry toddler is not the way, and it just ruins people’s livelihoods.
There was this older black dude who said similar things during the LA riots and Roof Korean situation
Yes it was so raw and 100 percent the truth. Amazing. Hopefully those “allies” got a big reality check.
I wish I was that eloquent when I was that enraged. I do hope all those young folks there took her words to heart and stopped destroying property in the name of political protest.
If your entire identity is based on "helping" oppressed groups, you don't want the oppression to stop at the cost of creating it yourself
Basically
Yeah that’s just pandering lol.
One day the “marginalized group” will be the straight white man!
I think they’re the most oppressed class in the western world.
By oppressed you mean people living in third world countries, right?
I’m not kidding when I say this-this is one of the most profound critiques of activism I’ve ever seen.
What Kelly Stamps said was spot on! Most of us are not black activists, we don't subscribe to all these ideas, we don't want to be constantly racialised. Why can't we just be beautiful? Why do we have to be "beautiful for a black girl"?
"Allies" can only see you as a skin tone because "helping the blacks" is part of their identity. Most of us just want to get on with our lives and be treates like everyone else, not racialised, pitied and patronised in every interaction.
They don't even want to help the minority, they want to help the stereotype of the minority they have in mind
The moment the person have a slightly different idea from what they are supposed to have according to the stereotype they start with the insults
True
I feel this as a gay man! don't think of me as 'special'... think of me as a regular human being, it's all I ask...
Because apparently "not seeing color" is racist. I don't see color and I don't care who thinks that's racist because that's an asinine position. I can't stand it when people give a compliment but add "for a __". When you qualify it like that it loses its value. That's like saying my dog is smart for a dog. That would still make him dumb for a human. It's a very back handed compliment.
You are so right.
The lady yelling in the street deserves to be lauded for what she said and did. Standing up for others with strength, a clear message and a lot of good sense.
Indeed. It takes incredible courage of conviction to speak out like that in public while, as you say, communicating her frustrations very clearly. Nothing she said can be spun in any other way than the way she meant it. Bravo!
Describing yourself as an "ally" is basically signalling to the world that you're not willing or able to form your own individual opinions on sociopolitical issues, instead you are simply choosing to pick a side and toe the line in the hopes of gaining social acceptance.
💯💯💯💯
Basically means to be a useful idiot.
A UA-camr I used to like started constantly including something in her descriptions called "How to be a Trans Ally 101" a guide, which (no joke) included "Ask everyone you meet (not just people you think are trans) what their pronouns are". We're apparently supposed to greet people with "Hello. What are your pronouns?" Maybe that shit would fly in the rich parts of San Francisco, but literally everywhere else in the world you'll be treated like an escaped mental patient.
I feel like asking everyone their pronouns is only valid in spaces where there are a lot of queer people. I've been working with a company that has a lot of people in the LBGTQ+ community so we don't assume what one another's gender identities are, therefore it made sense for us to ask what each other's pronouns were off the bat. Other than that, an individual would just tell you what their pronouns are if they're different from one would assume.
They're not fighting a war, so why do they need "allies"?
@@insertnamehere5809They believe they’re fighting a culture war.
"Ally" has always struck me as a more accurate term than the people using it know. It's basically an admission that yes, they are using you for their own gain. An alliance is strategic, you'll form a temporary, well, alliance in the hope of getting something out of it in the long run. It has nothing to do with friendship or brotherhood or unity. It's fundamentally self-serving.
Good point!
I've always felt allies were always doing it for themselves more than for the people that they were supposedly defending. And I really dislike the term and I really appreciate that you're willing to be. Fair and not go to extremes.
That's what I think too! They are more interested in virtual signaling and demonising the other side than actually doing anything constructive or building bridges between communities. Nope. They prefer shouting at "the other side" and considered it a job well done
@@strkloCan co firm. I am disabled. I have said that you will never find an activist on a reservation, hospital, or ghetto. It is all luxury activism.
It is also a religion. Liberalism comes from the Quakers who were kicked out of England for being insufferable extremists.
"Whaever is right is right, even if everyone is against it. What is wrong is wrong, even if everyone is for it." ~William Penn.
They're not allies. They're useful idiots. These woukd be puppet masters with savior complexes are themselves puppets of bigger puppet masters.
All of them are useful only as a means to an end: increasing and growing authoritarianism and the power and control of central governments.
Diminishing liberties and increasing censorship in the name of "progress" and "tolerance".
Creating, maintaining and growing a forever victim class of perma-dependents. Conditioned from cradle all the way to the grave to never even try. While also convinced that utopia is just around the corner, and would be here already if it weren't for "those people".
But remember, you need the allies. Because the boogeyman is real, ever present and all powerful, and you need THEM to save you from him.
Slap!
The bogeyman is defeated, and easily, seeing how he's made of straw. To convince the little people that they're winning. But then suprise, he was on a spring the whole time, and pops right back up, straw and all, and now he's even more powerful and dangerous and oppressive than before.
And slap!
Down he goes, the peasants rejoice, and he comes right back all over again.
Remember, you need them! If they weren't here, the bogeyman would have already gotten every single one of you by now.
As it is, despite their continued efforts, he's still managed to get some of you, and that's your fault for not giving them and the people they put in office enough money, authority, control, power and influence. Give them more if you don't want to get got, and be grateful for the crumbs that fall off their table.
I'm nice enough to acknowledge that some people really are just guilt-stricken or ashamed and have a righteous sense to defend the downtrodden.
Yes, a minority is not by default downtrodden but they ARE a minority and I can see how they think non-whites, women, LGBT, etc. would and should have someone defending them.
Can they be foolishly performative or zealot? Yes. But many are sincere and that is my point.
yesss
Yeah this is why I can’t stand allies that think they can speak for a community and that the community all thinks the same. I once had a white girl say my opinion on immigration was invalid because she assumed I was white, but when I pointed out I was Mexican, suddenly I was betraying my race. Great video girl❤
Improvise, adapt, overcome 😂
It's also insane how ignorant they are
Like, a white person can't talk about immigration, what? Being an immogrant says nothing about someone's race
White girls always trying to leisure on things they have no clue about, i had a White woman say im racist against latinos, but i literally live in South America
Advocating for a controlled & realistic immigration policy =/= anti-immigrant. Most liberals don't seem to understand that.
I have had this same problem on numerous occasions. Apparently, if you ain't dark enough, don't speak broken English, and were born in the states, there's no way you're a "real Mexican."
It's just weird to claim that any group are 'oppressed' and any other group are 'oppressors.' Seeing any group as homogenous isn't a world lens I would embrace!
yeah, it's the type of world lens that can get ppl to cheer for genocide and other atrocities.
Exactly. Us against them mentality has been the catalyst for many atrocities.
This is why individualism and character is very important. When your whole identity is your race, gender, or sexual orientation, are just lunacy.
And most of all, turning it into these political campaigns and groups, turning it into "Our race/gender vs theirs". This is just manifesting divisions.
Not sure if this is the exact video I watched where this point was explained but try watching "Ryan Chapman- Adapted Marxism-
@@SaschaBraus77Watching all of Ryan's content is good for understanding how everyone got where they are.
Hamas Piker is actually a rare species of shark that survives by consuming clout, so it's totally unfair to hold him to regular human standards of conduct, much less expect him to be an ally to anyone other than his own bank balance.
This was so well stated xD made me chuckle right at the beginning “Hamas Piker” 😂😂
As someone who is handicapped from birth, I hate allies, specifically the ones who have been offended on my behalf. If I am not offended, just stop!
It’s amazing… at my BJJ gym, we have tons of diversity and it’s never mentioned. We just train together and love each other. Men, women, white, black, straight, gay/lesbian… no one cares. It’s not a discussion. We just see each other as individuals who are all striving for something.
Stop trying to force diversity and just be human. It works.
That's exactly what we should aim for : everyone accepting each other and living in peace whatever they are... it's what most LGBTQ want but when you scroll through social media, it's some sort of ego and "do-you-see-me, I'm special" competition.... which is the opposite from productive (not that you can't be proud and stuff, but you're so much more than a sexual orientation as a person...)
No. Natural organic diversity and inclusion are not diverse and inclusive enough, and so we must bioengineer it and grow it in a lab.
It must be forced and forged as a weapon against the enemies of diversity and inclusion.
Diversity and inclusion today! Diversity and inclusion tomorrow!
Diversity and inclusion no matter the cost, no matter how much it horribly backfires and makes things worse.
@@sunb5738 Silent majority vs loud minority.
@@sunb5738 But everyone won't accept everything.
@@sunb5738it’s called attention seeking wanting more attention because it is necessary and it benefits their own ego. They are so obsessed with being the spotlight and having all the attention on them which is so embarrassing and just narcissistic..behavior
I've never once called myself an ally. I find it to be patronizing to the people I care about.
Exactly!! I support and care about people and would stand up for someone if they were being mistreated but I don’t consider it my whole identity 😂
Also, allies online tend to be overdo it and contribute to the stereotype of every LGBT person being a far leftist. In reality, I know plenty of conservatives and moderates who are LGBT, and they feel chased out of their own community by the allies
@@megana5766My thoughts exactly, honestly.
Amen to that.
I was nearly suckered into being an "ally", until they revealed their true colors (pun intended). I quickly left the "socially aware" group for my sanity's sake.
They're just a bunch of losers who is desperate to be recognize.
So true. It's so cringe
I was in college a few years ago studying game design this woman came in and stopped the lesson and proceeded to go on about gay pride and “ being an Ally “ I got up and walked out and got yelled at because I refused to sit through a lecture that had nothing to do with the course I was studying
Can't blame you. I'd walk out too, and I'm gay
@@ThinWhiteAxehearing the word ally makes me cringe because of that day
@@mannymushies5241 allyship is political. I don't look for political alliances in my personal relationships. I don't look to be seen as an interchangeable member of a demographic group or statistic. I look for individuals who appreciate me as an individual. And I think everyone does, deep down inside.
@@ThinWhiteAxe100 percent agree I feel like most of these ally’s just look at different groups as statistics rather than individuals
Nowadays you cant sit in a classroom for 10 minutes before some perverted ideologue gives you the ultimatum of either being on a leash or being ostracized
I've literally been dumped by my feminist boyfriend over the fact that he didn't agree on my views regarding my own experience as a woman. He claimed he was going to a women's march in my name, to "help me " and other women, but when I said I didn't see myself as oppressed he got up packed his stuff and stormed out.
If he's smart, he will reminisce one day and think again.
Yeah, there's no such thing as a male feminist. He just uses that to manipulate, control, and gaslight women.
Sounds like God blessed you
Wowwww probably for the best.
Like the video says , the only way he explains away my views is by saying I have internalised something. It’s honestly nice coming here and see that I’m not alone in feeling this way. He literally shouted at me “nobody thinks like you”.
Weaponised victimhood is a powerful, but evil, strategy.
Its gonna create a whole bunch of "boy who cried wolf" scenarios, and im pretty excited to watch it unfold
@@chrism4008it already has
Being on the "good" side doesn't give you a pass to hurl slurs at the "bad" side. You're not an "ally" if you think it's okay to call black people you don't agree with the n-word, you're not an "ally" if you think it's okay to tell women who are anti-feminist to get back in the kitchen, you're not an "ally" if you think that you're allowed to say those things because you're the "good guy" so obviously you get a pass.
People suck sometimes :/
Yup on a similair note there is a significant number of african americans that don't believe they can be racist even after saying something unquestionably racist and/or essentially promote segregation without knowing or blind to it it's very worrying in my opinion
@@fabianbiere5653 And they've managed to spread that belief like a virus to other parts of the African diaspora.
There’s all kinds of ignorant people and all kinds of sensitive people in America circa 2023
Preaching one thing while practicing another not only moves one over to the "bad" side, it makes them a hypocrite on top of it.
THIS!!!!!!!!!
Patience -- This analysis is remarkably insightful and engagingly conveyed. I mean it as a sincere compliment when I say that you have really upped your game here with the commentary and the editing. It's been a true pleasure to watch your channel grow. Keep up the fantastic work.
Thank you!
Dude the absolute worst thing about allies is that they keep trying to like turn their woke statements into songs
They’re always horrible with 0 rhythm
Edit: nevermind that whole segment about voter registration ID was 1000x worse
That was so racist “those types of people don’t have access to…” “they don’t have the knowledge of how it works” “well…criminals aren’t allowed to vote”
Yeah, those comments were shocking! Do they think black people don’t own cell phones, tablets, laptops, gaming systems? If they can’t afford internet services, many cities provide free modems and service to homes with school age children, based on income (for any race). Anyone can also get free WiFi at Panera’s or the library. If black people don’t have ID, how do these allies think they are they able to attend school, drive, work, cash paychecks, serve in the military, or fly on vacation? Seems they’ve never had an actual relationship with a black person.
@XootrFoot yes they actually believe that lol it's insane. The worst part is that they don't think it's actually racist to believe those things. They think they're being compassionate and empathetic by pointing out that they believe minorities are simply incapable and too dumb to function properly in our country.
It's because they are mentally children, and the people who think like them are also. So it's the best way to communicate.
Do you seriously trust prager u to portray unbiased testimonies?
She's not wrong because it is odd to emphasize a comment or the like with "for a (insert race, gender, etc here)" Morgan Freeman actually said something I read about in an interview when the interviewer referred to him as a "very successful black man" He interjected saying I prefer to be referred to as a "successful man" - period
Based Morgan Freeman.
I grew up on American media but in Ukraine, a country that never had black slavery, only had slavic slavery. I found myself feeling guilty for being white at some point as a teenager. I then moved to the States as an adult, and that woke me up. I am never going to feel collective guilt again.
I keep on saying that the word slave comes from the word slavic but they keep on thinking the word is made for black people only which is racist in it's self
this chick did not just say that there are black people don't know how to use the internet? children know how to use the internet.
That’s what happens when you have white kids that grew up in these cloistered upper class neighborhoods and never talked to people or spent time in the hood.
That one legit made me pause the video. Literal whiplash from that statement cause WHAT.
Maybe she's thinking they can't afford the Internet bill, or that they're old people that have a hard time doing stuff online such as renewing their ID? She might not know about government assistance with phones if she's middle class.
She 100% posted a black square on instagram and thought she was Coretta Scott
Seeing allies reminds of those people who say yeah in the 1800’s I would have totally been part of the Underground Railroad . Yet they forget to consider how dangerous it was to be one of those people and it was much different from make a post online . I believe bill burr did a piece on it .
Yeah, many of these armchair activists smugly claim if they had been born in a different time, they would still be progressives.
not exactly the same thing but, being a openly bisexual woman in online spaces (specifically with americans) is all "yas queen" and "pride" until they find out I'm *slightly* more center left than they are and I'm dating a man
Leftists do not like bisexuals.
I guess they think you are either greedy or do not exist.
Somehow more nonsensical for them than identifying as a “non-male lesbian”
That video of the woman calling out the rioters really resonated with me
Its cause most people saw through the facade, these rioters were just profiteers who wanted to feel social acceptance or financial gain, the best example was the BLM leader. All that money folks sent to her went to buying houses for her family, her wife or luxury trips and items. It was never about police brutality, black people or oppression. Its always about ill gotten gains and how to get more without anyone really finding out.
I had a nonbinary friend, who was male, but wanted to be viewed as a woman. Out of all my friends, including conservative friends, he was the most sexist and misogynistic towards women. Actually, he was my only friend who was sexist and mysoginistic. I am a woman, he would get angry if I misgendered him, but at the same time would spew the most hateful stuff at women and bully women who didn't want to be called cis.
Ah, the old “rules for thee but not for me.” I knew a trans mtf that I was friends with at one point, which I do not talk to anymore, nor consider a friend, for good reason. They kept flirting with my friend and getting up in his space on a frequent basis, which he did not like in the slightest. They then had the gall to call me phobic and target me when I told them that he wasn’t interested. He was a very shy gay dude, and didn’t have the courage himself to tell them that he’s (very obviously) not interested, and had asked me to do it for him.
@@cincinnati4391 it's very sad that situations like these keep happening
@@cincinnati4391it's really bad, but things like this and OPs are why I actually tend not talk to the modern 'trans'(trenders lbr). There's invariably going to be drama, so I'd spare myself the BS and dodge it. Ironically they can then use to throw the phobics malarkey. But nope. I just don't suffer fools.
I think one of the problems is that millennials want to be heroes -- there were so many hero stories for children in the 90s, and since we lived in one of the most prosperous nations, the people that don't find outlets for these feelings create problems to fight for.
Hero stories have been around for thousands of years - I think instead we're suffering from main character syndrome.
I believe what you're saying, but honestly I've had more problems with white liberal boomer women than anybody.
Is racism a problem yes do I need a bunch of middle class white people telling me about when am at the pub no
It's just horrible they talk to you like you don't know what racism is it's very insulting and belittling and ........Racist
They don't want to BE heroes; they want to FEEL like heroes. Most of being an ally is utterly empty talk to make themselves feel and look better, to have a good conscience. In reality being a hero requires virtuos and costly action.
That and so many of us thirsted for a revolution that never came and never will.
34:59 This whole segment reminded me of how struck I felt some time ago when I watched an interview with ContraPoints, which she was giving on some lgbt related podcast. At some point she and the interviewer began discussing her debate with Blaire white and the right in general, and instead of trying to engage with Blaire's actual ideas and points, THE ENTIRE SEGMENT they spent discussing psychological reasons and potential ulterior motives for Blaire being on the right. "She can't sincerely be right-wing, she must be getting paid by the right or have internalized transphobia or something else". It was absolutely degenerate, because framing like that inherently puts them on a higher level of consciousness and awareness, than those they were discussing, and frankly it just felt disgusting.
Agreed, I've seen videos of non trans people accusing her of betraying her community. They have no solid arguments for why she's wrong, just psychoanalysing her "true intentions" it's gross
It gets funnier when their inability to comprehend peaks and and they start saying stuff like "but why do they even like Blair she didn't even have bottom surgery essentially calling her not trans because of it. Gets me everytime
Yeah because blaire couldn't possibly have opinions and thoughts outside of a medical condition, right? 😂 they just don't understand that being a certain race, sex, gender, etc can have zero to do with how you align politically. It is entirely possible to separate politics from what you look like lol its such an odd concept to me that they are incapable of this
"Internalized transphobia" is the marxist false consciousness non-argument built into the left's gnostic logic. Either you agree with us or the demiurge of patriarchy/whiteness/capitalism/satan has tricked you. It is a way of avoiding challenging their own group's cultish beliefs.
One of my leftist "ally" friends was debating racism with me in early 2020 and said that white people don't have any circumstances in which they can feel uncomfortable in a public place unlike black people. So I told her an anecdote about how I (a white Englishman) once went to Wales with some friends and we were accosted by some local football hooligans. They heard our accents and decided to use regional prejudice as a reason to start a fight. They pushed us around, chanted anti English songs and it would have gotten far worse had security not stepped in. After my friend digested the story, she just said "well that's prejudice not racism" and then swiftly changed the subject. What she failed to see was that hate is hate and anyone can be a victim of it, but the vast majority of people just went to get along with everybody.
Thank you for making this video. We need more people like you calling out the issues that comes with these "allies." I used to be friends with a lot more people call themselves Allies and I got tired of their BS. I'm still friends with some of them but I had to cut ties with some of those guys because they got way too extreme and insane with the insistence they are are Allies and always need to tell me to check my priviledges more often that it got old and annoying.
I lost my friend and music group of over 10 years because I stated that men who transition into women still have physical advantages and that they are still biologically men. Suddenly I was the enemy, a tErF, a tRaNsPhoBe, a bIgoT, all the buzzwords.
The irony is that they claim to champion for women’s rights, but in the same breath, they will also say that men (as “trans women”) should be allowed to beat the shit out of women in sports, which is directly misogynistic. 1) men have physical advantages, and 2) those biological men are still taking up spots that could have gone to actual women.
@@growingoaksThem believing that pills and surgery can overcome natural human development is utter nonsense to be honest. Unless it’s done incredibly early (before the point they’d even think they’re a different gender), it’s not going to work well enough to change bone structure and muscle mass. I don’t understand how people can think something is correct and in the same sentence invalidate their own beliefs.
I’m Jewish and…
I’ve been told by non-Jews what is anti-Semitic even when it’s not, and what isn’t, even when it is. I remember some young Jewish congressman being saying he was confused when one of his political allies was being called an anti-Semite for something that just didn’t sound offensive
The only thing that makes racism grow is talking and thinking about it constantly. This applies to every race bc when you’re so focused on it you see racism everywhere. So if you think society is racist, that’s what you’ll see.
I think there are some truth to this, but I think talking about race productively can be beneficial as well. I did a live stream with a UA-camr about why black and white women need to get along. We have somethings to sort out, and in the end we showed that we are much more alike as women than we are different. I personally, would like to see some constructive talk about racism. All the rest is garbage.
Bro that is ridiculous. There is a reason authoritarian govts dont want ppl "talking" about issuse bro. You think about that and ask urself again why u dont want ppl talking about racism. 🤣🤣🤣
Ngl, I'm kinda confused by this comment. I mean, I agree that your life shouldn't be focusing to see if anything and everything is racist but if someone is being racist, shouldn't it be called out? Like, I'm genuinely confused.
@@blacksmoke6292I believe they’re not trying to say to ignore genuine racism, and that what they’re trying to say is to not bring up the talking point of racism when it’s not necessary or important to talk about in the moment, like, for example, bringing it up in a lecture about architectural engineering or something along those lines. It doesn’t need to be broadcasted everywhere for everyone to see, because forcing people to look at it when it’s not needed can cause unnecessary division, like bringing up politics at the dinner table.
@@blacksmoke6292I think this comment is basically saying if you want to find proof of something and look hard enough, you will most certainly find it. As with a lot of things in life. However, genuine racism should be called out.
This was my first time I ever saw that clip of the Lady in that ruined neighborhood. She really gave me goosebumps. I had to pause the video there to let that sink in. Never ever have I experienced a riot in my small town here in Germany. Seeing her makes me feel like a Hobbit in the Shire.
Also I used to be a volunteer firefighter once. When I saw those guys in the clip I was wondering what was going on in their head while they were helping there.
I'm a white person so not part of a supposed oppressed racial group but I am a woman and have known men who act like they are our allies and going to the point that they know better than we do, not listening to actual women and telling us what we should think and feel. I have known one or two of these individuals later being outed as an abuser of women. Yes, their act was a good cover up. They still had their league of flying monkeys defending them of course. I suppose any other group who are told they are oppressed in some way is going to have these same type of "Allies" speaking on their behalf as well...
Ah the wolf in sheep's clothing i see
It's so hilarious. I work with college students and I've had men sit next to me and say to my face that they're not sure what women want, but they believe women should get to define what they want. And women should get this, and women should get that.
If you really don't know what we want, why are you saying what we should do?
I know they mean well--sometimes--but other times they just want to sound progressive and to listen to it as an actual woman makes me want to scream.
I believe that's the idea that all men should be Feminists, and gender activists.
I'm sorry, but the first part of your comment reminded me of a joke.
"If a white woman couldn't victimize herself as black, they can always victimize themselves as a woman"
“but I am a woman” so you’re even more privileged? 😂
As always, this is a really thorough and nuanced video. Me personally, I find the guilty ally to be as frustrating as the narcissistic and political allies. It's really awkward to meet white people for the first time, and the first thing they do is prove that they're not a racist or admit their guilt for things their ancestors did. It's like I'm not even thinking about race the first I meet someone. I'm just trying to have a conversation lol.
I used to date an "ally" who caught the social media post bug hard. I used to work tech in the performing arts and was surrounded by all kinds of actors and art directors. It made me realize there's a whole lot of shame/blame-geared virtue signalling that parades as "taking actions", yet there's very rarely anything else done. It was also exhausting to continuously be told to be offended about every single injustice. Quickly after you notice the tier list when problem A happens to matter more to them than problem B.
Now I roll my eyes at people proudly doing land acknowledgments like it's it's more than talking.
Heck, I had a teacher make us read a book on racism during Covid, and the only non-black chapter spent half its page count talking about the Model Minority.... which is a wild thing to read amidst all the Anti-Asian Hate Crime spike we were going through at the time. The echo chamber was mostly focused on everything else though so w/e.
I'm disabled and have had to stop people being offended on my behalf. It's infuriating. If I'm insulted, that's my problem, not yours.
Patience, I've watched every single one of your videos and this is the best one you've made yet. I'm a gay black man in and have had to end friendships with white allies in the past couple years for all the reasons you've listed, especially after the BLM hysteria here in the US. I've actually recalled that Malcom X quote once during it. This video was so well done. Thank you so much for doing it!
My friend and colleague is from Mexico and moved here with her parents and siblings about 30 years ago. One of our other colleagues had referred to her as "Mexican" the other day and then began backpedaling, asking "Wait, is that ok? " She and I started laughing and she said "Uh yeah, I AM Mexican". The other girl was like "Well I don't know! Some people get offended" and she explains "Well, it's not to me because I'm Mexican. Now if you assumed someone you don't know who's maybe Peruvian or Chilean and referred to them as 'Mexican', then yeah they might get irritated" I understood her mindspace right away which is why we both laughed.
i'm tired of racism to white people being this normalized okay thing. it's not. i'm white, and i don't see myself as any less or any more than anyone else. we are all people. okay we have different colors, doesn't matter. when people have this mindset that race matters, even in a progressive woke way like "you're white so you're privileged and rich", honestly in my opinion its racist. we need to stop looking at color and just judge based off of genuine character. this is only making people even more divided and that's not what the world needs!
i'm not saying simply acknowledging someone's race is bad, just making some weird comment about their race like it changes anything is weird and problably racist.
I agree- 'race matters' is most literally the core belief of racism. I don't think many realize the word doesn't mean hatred towards one group, it means sorting everyone into races, believing race should be a factor in everyone's position. So it involves an attitude towards humanity as a whole- that it should be divided into groups- not towards only one of those groups. Its very definition includes everyone, since everyone has a race, or a mix.
I also disagree with popular definitions in that they view racism as actions, I think it's a belief. Actions can be motivated by racism, but if they aren't, they aren't racist- we need to know the motive to label them as such.
Agreed. If you tell that to these people they’ll say “Oh well your white fragility is showing”
No, people just don’t like being mocked by their immutable characteristics.
Fr, and if I say that, I’m racist because I “have to privilege to not experience the consequences of my white ancestors mistreating other races”. I didn’t do anything, I’m just living my life and everyone is just living theirs. If I acknowledge ppl’s race I’m racist of course, but now ppl will call you racist for not acknowledging race too. I’m tired of being called racist just for existing as a white person. I didn’t choose my skin color the same way no one else chose theirs.
@@Sarah-with-an-Hyes and no. "White privilege" is a term that is hyped and repeated to steer the focus away from actually rich people and criminals (millionares of any colour) and use the racially white low and middle class as the scape-goat to blaim for all the worlds problems. Now the whole world is hostile to people with white skin just for existing.
Its defenetly about race at this point. Im from a eastern-european country that never did slav3ry or colonized anybody. My ancestors never even left europe but still i get hate online from POC just coz i exist in white skin.
Its us against the entire education SYSTEM, unfortunately. The idea that some people of a certain race are inherently indebted to another "group" is very convenient for the people who want the power to fiddle around with the systems for their own benefit.
Congrats on your video. Despite your youth, you show a maturity and clairvoyance that's very rare, even in people with much more life experience.
when you started the narcissistic section, I immediately thought of ''Hasan Piker'' he is such a grifter.
The ally mentality is essentially “I need minorities to think I’m cool because I’m afraid of what they might do to me if they do to me if they don’t.” It’s insincere and insidious, and I’m glad more people are starting to see through it.
28:45 "I think it's possible to disagree with someone's political position without resorting to racism." Just want to give this observation its own thumbs-up.
31:45 Sadly I think some of the hate you because they resent not being able to control you, your refusal to read from the script they've written for you. If they really believe they had an "unfair privilege" they wouldn't be so quick to leverage it when they need it.
The guilt allies exist in the context of gender as well. It's a fascinating phenomenon I've observed in some men, particularly since the me too movement happened. Some men have taken their understanding and support of women's issues to such an extreme that they literally hate being men and are uncomfortable with masculinity. Some of these men even go as far as transitioning (or toying with the idea) in order to escape the shame and guilt of being a man and identify out of it. It's quite sad, really.
I personally know a few men like this in real life (long term friends). They are classic woke left-wing people who subscribe to critical race theory, gender identity theory, etc. and have identified as allies for years. One of them is literally in the process of transitioning right now, one identifies as non-binary and the other admits he's toyed with the idea of non-binary.
The irony is that the one transitioning right now is becoming increasingly angry with the world (especially women / terfs) for not accepting the "trans women are women" narrative and for protecting women-only spaces... and it's starting to have a borderline misogynistic tone. Not to mention, taking on womanhood and treating it as an easy costume you can just put on to relieve yourself of the 'burden' of being a man is pretty questionable in itself. This person appears to be totally oblivious to this though.
I've had many conversations about this with the one who's toyed with the non-binary idea. I've repeated to him so many times that he's not responsible for what some other men have done/do to women. The only thing he can do in life is be a good person himself. That's all we have control of, really. No one is responsible for other people's actions.
Now this is a fascinating story. Thanks for sharing it.
I'm just a middle class white person who has always tried to treat everyone well. I was taught that skin colour is not that important. I didn't think a lot about race when dealing with people, I was just dealing with a person. Then this whole blm thing erupted and when I had to take my kid to emerg for a broken bone and the nurse who checked me in was dark skinned I was so insecure, worried that I might say something unintentionally offensive. It was ridiculous. She was just asking questions and I was answering them but I was so uncomfortable. That's what this whole, "if you're white you're most definitely racist" idea does. It makes you focus more on race than the human infront of you.
Honestly, I was the same. I’m already an over-thinker and I just got more anxiety from reading all left political stuff on social media during 2020-2022. I’m still more left, but I just don’t agree with every single thing a person says. It’s silly af, but I used to think I couldn’t disagree with a non-white person, otherwise I was racist. It makes it more racist when you can’t disagree with them because you’re basing it off their race.
You should do a video about Jane Elliot. She got popular in the U.S. a bit before everything went nuts, and built a career teaching about racism by traumatizing kids and making them cry. Her whole racism education thing is nuts imo. She created the "blue eyes, brown eyes" exercise.
You are misrepresenting that entire experiment and shame on you for doing so. The point of that experiment is to show how teaching one group of people that they are superior will manifest itself among social interactions. The result was whenever the group of children were given special privileges, they treated the other group of children badly and were arrogant and bossy towards them. The group that were not given special privileges also performed worse on tests and assignments, showing that unequal treatment can negatively impact groups and marginalize them. Essentially, it destroyed the sperate but equal doctrine that was used to justify segregation against black Americans. We can get into the ethics of using children for a social experiment and how it might be a bad idea but the experiment itself should not be discounted and its clear you are not knowledgeable on it and should probably research the experiment better.
She was trying to prove how idiotic racism was.
Best video to date so far 👏 well done, bravo! Never felt more “victimized” by a group of people more than these lot.
Being one of the crazy allies sounds more like a detriment than a good thing.
Involving and circulating your life around a certain community and speaking on their behalf sounds really draining
The lady at the end yelling at the rioters who destroyed her neighborhood broke my heart. Her anger is so eye-opening. I have no words. If she ran for office, she’d have my vote.
I manage a team of 8 people, no white people, 6 of which are women. THIS IS NOT a pat on the back just giving you the scenario.
But in one of our one on one meetings, someone said "you are a good ally" and I told her to never call me that. We then had a discussion about how she thought she might have been hired just for diversity which was completely untrue. I hate that she felt that way and had to reassure her she was hired solely because I wanted her on the team and the interview we had. Its a shame that through DEI and people wearing a badge of honor being an ally, that its creating this self doubt and lack of worth.
This is really sad. The opposite of empowering 😏
I got into a dumb argument with somebody who was telling me that my political position was racist, so I sent him videos of black people saying the same thing. His reply was that he "only cares about the opinions of the good black people" and I just sat there dumbfounded, like 👀👀
It isn’t all that surprising once you start viewing those political ideologies as a secular offshoot of Protestant puritanical faiths which see themselves as God’s “chosen fews and true believers”, because that’s really the only way any of their contradictory doctrines and views can even begin to make sense.
I have learned that being an ally requires unquestioning acceptance of groupthink of other allies.
I love your posts, whether we agree or disagree; but every time I still get blown away, it’s always so comprehensive. This has absolutely become one of my favourites
How's it going, fellow Connor?
@@connoromalley4004 hi man it’s going good, how about you?
@@ConnorCocoas It's going good as well
When I hear someone refer to themselves as an "ally" my immediate thought is that they're probably pretty racist. That shit is just projecting too hard. It's easy to show respect to another fellow human. It's a completely other thing to think they need a savior or ally. As if you're different enough from them to begin with.
The whole savior complex is just unreal. Supporting people in a respectful and honest way is one thing, but seeking out to be an “ally” and a “savior” is just attention seeking at its finest. I don’t care what someone says they are, if you respect me I respect you, and if you’re starving let’s go grab a bite to eat. I’m not going to go burn cities and preach hate because they want me to feel offended on the behalf of someone who could not care less.
Nah, I believe there are sincere but misguided people who do just want to help but go about clumsily.
They do not understand that merely being respectfully indifferent about minor characteristics is enough.
But yes, there ARE also bigots and performative allies that are just in it for personal gain.
Being an "ally" doesn't make you redeemable in their eyes. No amount of atonement and action can ever earn forgiveness. Being an "ally" just makes you "one of the good ones."
The worst part is that no one asked for allies... they just slapped that label on themselves and said "im better than these people and I'm gonna show it by calling myself an ally" 🤢🤢🤢 sooooo cringe!
I love how calmly you’ve analysed the situation. I deeply dislike those useful idiots who hijacked our community and call themselves queer and screem the loudest about discrimination and thus austrisize us further and further from the general population. What they forget is, that you will stay black and I will stay gay. For us this is neither a game nor a phase, for s this is our life.
This is how I feel I am black it's not a hobby for me but it is for them
Popped up on my recommended, randomly, but I’m happy you did. Was worried this would be an “ally” video about being an “ally.” So glad it wasn’t.
Guilt is an emotion we generate when we are not prepared to change our negative behaviour.
Allies look down on who they're "allied" to.
Bc most of them are racist
That's why I always tell those people "be an ally for yourself dude. You only have you in the end."
9:50 So basically "after I'm dead all of my leftovers can go to black people and all of the beaches that I enjoy can be handed over. But as long as I live, I'll continue to enjoy it all and sacrifice nothing. I'm so woke and progressive."
The problem with the "ally" is that they are never your friend . Ill never be someones ally , if i cant be your "friend" i dont want to have anything to do with you .
I'm a straight white male. My allies are considered misogynistic.
I am so tired of people assuming because you are pro male doesn't mean you're anti female.
I'm pro common sense and you bring a lot of that to your videos. Thank you.
As a not so straight latino guy, I'll say just remember _Dudes_ _Rock_
If you get that you're more than an ally to me.
I’ve felt this way for a long time. To qualify, I’m a gay man, and one of the best ways to piss me off is to try to speak on my behalf, whether that is an “ally” or other gay people/charities/organisations. The assumption that I will subscribe to all gay talking points is abhorrent.
I hate the calls to action that go something along the lines of “The LGBT+ community needs your help” - first of all, the community is a fictitious concept, and second, there are plenty of gay, lesbian and bi people who disagree with each other. You can’t possibly work on behalf of everyone because we don’t all agree.
As an aside, this is the first video of yours that I’ve seen, but reading the comment section has been a wholesome experience. So many well-thought comments. Congrats on growing such a smart and engaged audience! Keep up the good work!
The clip of Kelly Osbourne will never NOT be funny because she truly thought she ate. Seeing the regret kick in in real time was truly a moment.
$2,500!!
God forbid they donate that money to a library or a school in a less affluent area.
When I was at uni I had a close friend from Scandinavia, I went to visit her in her home town. She was telling me about her friend who has server depression because of his white privilege, he truly believes that the world is against minorities and he finds that overwhelming. I listened and said ahh wow I don’t think I understand that, my “friend” then yelled at me saying it was real and I didn’t need to understand it…. It’s almost like a comedy sketch she is a blonde hair blue eyed girl yelling at me for not understanding racism, here is the kicker I’m not white! Makes me feel sad that she just was reeling off things she saw on socials she was so desperate to flex her allyship versus having a conversation. I didn’t even challenge her beliefs but in the court of going even mildly against the narrative I was guilty. Things such an interesting topic thanks for going so deeply into it. I think people are so desperate for community that they will say whatever they can to feel a part of something.
No, I don't describe myself as an ally but I happily support those who desire and need my support.
Excellent analysis and an intelligent conclusion.
You deserve way more followers.
I tend to find the people who identify as 'allies' are usually the least well informed on subjects. They might have good intentions but they've heard they need to be an 'ally' to be supportive from someone so they start identifying as that but after that they don't actually bother doing their own research or looking at other media (outside of what's on ally websites or maybe they've read a book like "How to be an Ally") so they usually end up having VERY one sided views on most topics.
My *allies* are the bane of my existence. Everything pointed out here is 100% accurate, and there doesn't appear to be anyway of stopping them from "helping".
The crazy thing is this doesn't only apply to allies. This applies to activists in each of the identity groups (feminists, pro-blacks, LGBT, etc.).
Thank you! Whenever I see criticism of this sort of behavior, it's always directed towards "white liberals" or outsiders. The criticism needs to also start being directed towards activists of these groups who monopolize the discourse and posture as spokespeople for their entire demographic.
Privilege always means "give us something we didn't earn for free"
I had forgotten about the “who’s going to clean your toilets Donald Trump!”. Absolute gold 😂
And then Rosie Perez was fired from the view right afterwards for saying that Kelly was wrong in saying that
I find ally's interesting because they claim to be incredibly educated about race, and self-aware about their racial bias's, yet they inadvertently can say some of the most condescending and insulting things about other ethnicities.
It's clear that they look at black people as "others" and they would claim that this is a positive thing, so they can understand the unique lived realities of the black experience. But what this results in is them focusing on what makes their white experience different then the black experience, and they focus on what makes them different rather than what they have in common. It inadvertently creates unconscious negative thoughts.
You compound that with the fact that it's pretty clear most of these allies don't know many/any black people, and as well intentioned as they are, they start to form this mythos of the "noble downtrodden black person", which creates a whole list of negative stereotypes, which is what they are ironically battling against.
I think actually knowing and having regular interaction with everyday people of different ethnicities is what a lot of these liberal university students need, because they view black people and other races in the abstract, as a statistic, rather than complex human beings as we all are.
I thought I was trippin I was like you reloaded the same video 😆 lol
BEEN WAITING FOR THIS
I live in Israel and had a friend who posted something ridiculously antisemitic. I asked her if she'd be interested in hearing my perspective. At first, she said she feels it's her duty to hear both sides, but before we could actually talk, she changed her mind and said I should educate myself instead of listening to Western propaganda. The irony is that my opinions are based on my actual life experiences as opposed to her living comfortably across the globe basing her opinions on well.... western propaganda.
Allies are all about passing the mic to minorities and amplifying their voices until the people they supposedly are allies of choose to think for themselves and express their own views. It’s not about being genuinely caring’ it’s about othering people with the veneer of ´be kind’
I'm theoretically LGBT (but I won't put that label on me, thank you) and if I ever met a person that called themselves an ally I would know that this is someone to not trust and keep my distance from
Theoretically 😂. Honestly, I don’t blame you for saying that, it’s honestly like a mark of shame for any of us at this point to be associated with the alphabet group. I absolutely agree on the whole not trusting “allies” as well.
The amount I've had to state "I'm gay but I'm not LGBTwtf" in real life the last while has been insane. Its that people can't fathom what or why too. Alphabet is a political thing, and one I do not subscribe, endorse or agree. The fact people assume we will be that, part of that hive mind. Is actually kind of weird Imo.
Typo
I cannot stand allies; please stop speaking for me.
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I recall being told by an ally that I shouldn’t worry about white privilege because quote “You’re not white you’re Jewish!”
I have a problem with one person telling another who and/or what they are, I suppose that’s the most polite way I can put it.
The way how I see "Allies" is political suicide and apologizing for stuff you didn't do are being a person you never were. Almost like putting your head in the ground and pretend nothing is wrong. Another thing about allies is that I can feel immense amounts of hypocrisy and they often get called out.
32:00 so true. I hate how often i get told i hate myself/have internalized homophobia, because I am a gay, conservative, Christian.
Its not the side theyre on. Its the malicious actions, hypocrisy, and attempt at being cruel that both sides extremists utilize to "advance" their own sides agenda.
18:02 "[...] the forces of racism [...]"
Wow, she speaks of it like it's an organized military group or something.
The guilty ally makes me so sad. I have a lot of white friends and I hate it when they feel like they are beneath me or they should give me special treatment. It hurts me because they are my friends, my equals, my family. It's like if your brother suddenly apologized for existing near you
As a woman, it get a little annoyed when men try to act like an ally. Not all the time but sometimes. And from my perspective, it looks like they act out of fear instead of concern. I've had a guy apologize to me for "mansplaining" something to me and I've never rolled my eyes so hard before. I honestly don't believe in most of the concepts that feminist claim men perpetuate and if they do exist, its usually from the much older crowd of men who grew up in the 50's and 70s. Times were different back in those days. The only thing I want men to do is to call out other men for their shitty behavior. Thats really it for me.
Trying to reason with these "allies" is like trying to reason with someone who has a drinking problem.
Everything is always the fault of others. As far as they're concerned everyone else has the problem, not them.
And much like someone in denial about having a problem, be it drink, drugs or anything else, nothing will change unless these people first admit to themselves that they have a problem.
27:43 - I'm glad you mentioned it, I watched Galatea's both first video and her response and am still puzzled that guy calls himself a feminist.
I have heard “you’re cute for a white boy” and “she’s cute for a white girl” plenty of times from black people, latinos, and even white people.
In all reality, they are always coming from a good place. It seems like it always comes from people who don't have a lot of exposure to another race and is starting to associate new patterns in their mind.
I can see how it can be perceived from both sides, but it really is a compliment in every instance I’ve witnessed.
Yeah I think that's why she called it "clumsy" instead of racist. It's worded in a way that unintentionally causes offence when that wasn't the intent
Some of the best friendships I've made with people of different ethnicities, have been based on ott racism towards each other and having a laugh about it. And I'm convinced this is what people need to learn.
Like when I was celebrating my birthday and the neighbours called the cops because of our nazi slogans, the police came and noticed most people there were fireigners. I told the police these foreigners are all nazis. They were super confused and just left us alone, only telling us to keep it a little more quiet
While I dislike mentioning conditions that I have, I believe it is necessary here; I have autism and this sort of Ally B.S. is something I despise. The amount of people who speak for those who have autism as if those with the condition are unable to speak for themselves makes my blood boil. It is condescending at best, and I want to see this sort of ideology die out.
I have autism as well, and I hate these capital-A Allies, too, though for different reasons. I’ve heard stuff about speaking up ( most grievously “men should be open about their feelings”), but I’ve seen people being vulnerable get absolutely reamed. Just look at the responses to ShoeonHead’s male lonliness video that she shows off, and witness the “compassion.”
There has been some recent research that i found interesting and think is part of the problem. It was about non active activists, so people who put a black square on their instagram, or people who will make a post about x y and z issue but don't actually go out and do anything about the issue. The research found that these people not only aren't helping their cause, but they might actually harm it. It also found that the majority of these people don't really care about their cause, but are really trying to get attention from other people. In fact, this drive for attention is the reason they can become so vicious about the cause or issue. So, to sum up, allies probably don't really care, but are just looking for attention from others. This is why they seem so crazy. Honestly, i think the solution to end all of this is to be kind to people, stop isolating people, and we need to build stronger communities so we can turn this need for attention into a real need and desire to help others.
10:25 I find this to be the most insulting thing about certain allies like tf you mean “they don’t have the knowledge of how it works”