Everything is Valid: The crazy things I saw in the trans community
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
- Some stuff I experienced when I was trans identified.
00:00 intro
01:25 every cell in my body is trans now
04:11 the non-binary woman who wanted to be a drag queen
06:22 the true transsexual truscum way
08:22 The AGP dudes in bad wigs
09:33 The few gay dudes
11:19 nothing negative is allowed to be said about medicalization
13:50 The 17 year old girl who was groomed and her mentally ill mother
18:20 You don't need gender dysphoria to be trans
19:16 the 18 year old girl who had "man breast"
20:22 the old power dynamic
21:02 The young man who was having a mental brake
22:48 the trans community are colonizers
24:40 get the undesirable therapist !
27:54 the transing of a local gay man after his murder
32:45 the private conversations
35:25 trans culture and answering @tullipr question of T and self harm
43:38 final thoughts/ end
• Just Chatting with Car...
The minute you're not allowed to question anything you know there's a serious problem.
Yes, The last 4 years have taught us that.
I have experiences I could share about being in the LGBT community for a long time TBH. As a pansexual. You don't have to be part of the organization itself just because you identify as any of these labels. Also it shouldn't be shameful to ask questions, especially about health including sexual health. There's a lot of cult-like shaming for asking questions and warning others not to do common acts.
Another issue with the label of "pride". It usually gets taken too far. To be confident in who you are and to feel no shame in parts of yourself doesn't even need ro equate to "pride". That's another situation where langauge can have multiple context and sometimes people end up pushing definitons that are different levels of what those words mean.
It's unfortunate people have been treated unkindly, often by hypocrites. For being LGBT+ . Which is why there was a more severe need for attention at points in history. And when there is genuine prejudice. But going to the opposite extreme is no better. 😢
@@ari3lz3pp agree. I would like to see more autism acceptance but am worried about it going in the wrong direction.
@@ruthhorowitz7625
Acceptance of Autistic people isn't the problem.
Willingness to agree what the obvious cause of Autism is the problem.
@@hime273 it's simple, genetics. We've been around forever.
I'm a gay man, the whole porn thing has destroyed my faith in the lgbt community, everything is just sex sex sex, even pride is so sexualised....i really don't know where i fit in anymore
The devils agenda
As a gay mom I stopped going and I will not take my kids to the pride parade. There were naked men with dicks hanging out. Pasties on tits. People wearing strap ons. It was repulsive and demeaning to our community. It saddens me to see what it has become in the last few decades....
Just be a human and leave them behind. Join some groups based on normal human interests and where no one gives a s**t about your sex life.
Just Be YOURSELF, in your own healthy body! ❤
You're a gay man. You fit in with the human race, and you have self respect, outside of any ideological bubble. Realistically, we can't have pride in how we're born, but you can have pride in how you conduct your life. 👋
im 16 years old. at 11 i identified as a trans boy but when i was 12 i wanted to get hormones and suprisingly a doctor was willing to get me on hormones the same day the only reason i didnt start is because my mom felt unsure about it and said to give myself time . now im back to being a girl. it scares me how easy it was for me to change my life.
I'm glad your mother took caution and that you're doing better now. Enjoy your youth!
You were always a boy or a girl. You can't change your gender.
Imagine being a doctor and giving a child life changing hormones, thats crazy
@@Misbaxelbeats_ now that im older and understand the consequences of doing life changing hormones im also really shocked that it was that easy for me to get them even after just one appointment. honestly i think they want to expirement all these hormones on kids and stuff ngl. im glad my mother gave me grace and patience and let me figure things out on my own its never a good idea to give 12 year olds hormones
Your body could have been permanently damaged, destroyed and altered. We are made in God’s image. Read the Bible, choose Jesus.
As a gay man one of the things that worries me about the community right now is how it's taking young men and women that might be a little gender non-conforming and assuming that they are trans instead of gay/lesbian/bi/ace.
I feel like nowadays the very serious decision of transitioning is treated way too flippantly. I absolutely believe that trans people exist. But I don't believe that they do in the numbers that we are seeing in this more modern era.
Also, our definition of trans seems... so open as to not have a lot of meaning. And the only time I've seen the community fight against this is when people who clearly aren't trans start saying stuff like. "Well, then I'm a black trans woman." That's the only time they'll go "Well you clearly aren't."
But to me, their reasoning always falls flat because how do you know inside their head? And also based on the very open definitions what makes a flippant claim less valid than more unsure-sounding ones? Like that's the point, and if that's the case how do you know when someone who's already having issues isn't just confused.
If your very first reaction is complete support rather than telling the person to truly explore those feelings, of course, they'll go along with you because you're so confident and they are unsure.
One thing I don't understand is why non-binary people are considered trans? Why aren't they just their own thing? Why are they under the trans umbrella? They don't seem to have direct things in common. Non-binary seems to be whatever you want it to be and that doesn't seem to me to be the same thing as trans.
I agree with you on all points. I also believe trans people exist and deserve respect. At the same time, the society shouldn't shun detransitioners, the therapists and doctors should do a much better job in weeding out people who are just gender non conforming or with unindentified underlying issues from people with actual severe, untreatable dysphoria.
I'm going to tell you that I have hated my boobs since they first grew, and I have absolutely horrible periods and as an autistic person I have major major sensory issues and my boobs are one of the upmost uncomfortable things of my daily life and even before I ever heard of "being trans" I hated showing any cleavage when every other girl would, and I was not "conservative" I'll show off my body I don't care (I would never do Onlyfans or anything like that, but I'm all for free the boobs because if a man can be shirtless why can't a biological woman?? Whether I was trans or not (which I have realized on my own, 100% on my own on my own self growth journey that the past 6 years I have suppressed my feelings and just went with "yea! I'm a strong and powerful woman!" all "yea I'm proud to be a woman" come to find out after a lotttt of self reflection then no, I've never liked my curves,
keep in mind that all of this is coming from a very very self reflective person because I have had major trauma in childhood that I am "over" now and I am just ready to do my absolute best to be successful etc and just live my life and get my life going. I am 22 years old, 23 this year. Even while I had the "I'm a proud woman talk" going on then I wanted my boobs off, my sensory issues are horrible and I also have extremely sensitive skin so even the "most comfortable bras" that women will swear are the most comfortable ever are STILL uncomfortable on me. When I wear a bra then I am itchy or sweaty or it's tight and supportive bras are thick and underwire is a jail for my chest. But when I don't wear a bra my skin sticks together, all day long everyday I feel them shake and bounce around and it is an absolute hell (more physically then mentally) if I didn't have any sensory issues Idk if I would care as much. But when I am successful these bricks on my chest need to come off ASAP because I can't comfortably work out, sit up, or do anything comfortably and it is a pain every single day and they are sore all the time.
I don't want my own kids, a very very small part of me does but at the same time then as an autistic individual with sensory issues as bad as mine are then I do not think that I would be able to take care of a baby and deal with that, also I already did TWICE with my two little siblings from age 11 to 17 every day after school I would have to change their diapers, feed them, watch them, I was practically raising them until I was grown and it was hell and I never got any time to myself, I had to be an adult at only 11 years old because of being so neglected. So mentally I don't want kids, physically? On my periods I literally feel like I am dying and I am in so much pain I am borderline disabled temporarily for the week, I can't eat, I get sick and puke, I lay around sobbing in pain unable to do anything at all with whole body aches. As bad as my periods are then the symptoms of being pregnant and having a living being growing inside of me for 9 whole months sounds like an absolute hell and I can't imagine how awful it would make me feel to have a baby moving around inside me. Don't get me wrong, I think that life is a very beautiful thing and if someone can get pregnant and doesn't struggle with so many sensory issues I think it's lovely, I always wanted my own family since I've never had one that loved me and I wanted to be loving to my own family, but adoption exists, fostering exists, teaching kids art or what have you exists, theres so many other ways I could either have my own family or make a difference in someones life then having my own kids.
So I definitely want my whole reproductive system taken out, I CANNOT deal with this pain for 1 week every single month for the next 30-40 years, I cannot be disabled one week a month for half or over half of my life, it has to go ASAP as well, with all that being said then sure, I would love to have a deeper voice, be able to build muscle easier and have a box shaped body rather than a curvy one, and have facial hair, and look like a hot man rather then a hot woman. I've always wished I could just get treated like one of the guys but that would only happen in my own friend circles, and even then I'm seen as this woman with boobs and a reproductive system (the friends I have respect that I am trans etc)
I did not tell anyone at all that I came to the conclusion that I was trans until I self reflected on it for months all by myself, in fact the past year I've been right leaning and now I'm starting to realize that everything the right says the left does... they do the SAME thing... maybe I was brainwashed by the left at 19 and 20 who knows? but even if, then I was brainwashed by the right side in my 21st-22nd year of life. I think the only thing that matters in this very short lifetime is if someone is happy or not, I only have so many years on this earth to live and personally I don't want to live a large majority of my numbered days in either really bad pain or really bad discomfort. I don't even want bottom surgery other then to have the reproductive system out, I just don't want to be in pain anymore on the same day of the same week of every single month until I'm in my 40s or 50s. I think that if it would make me happy for the public eye to see me as a man rather than a woman theres no issue with that, you do what you want etc. And also I am not even attracted to women, I don't really like boobs in general. I am attracted to men.
With the way that my childhood was and the way I was raised, then I want nothing more than a best friend or a husband to travel the world with and to grow with me mentally and for me to have an art business and be my own boss and paint and draw and edit my life away with trips to all sorts of places whenever I take breaks. That's my dreams, to create, make a difference to others and to travel and see the wonders of the world before my time is up without being in discomfort every single day of my life or in excruciating pain like 60 days out of the year. Also as I mentioned I am autistic, my tone doesn't always come across the way that I intend for it to, so I mean no disrepect or saltiness or anything with this comment. This is just one autistic persons perspective on being trans and that I would want these parts of my body off and out whether I identified as trans or not.
It is interesting that you state "belief" in trans. Yes, it is a religion all of its own. The problem with it is that it is based upon rock solid stereotypes of masculine and feminine: if you don't conform, then you are clearly the opposite sex. No. Clearly you simply don't conform to the stereotype. One can either accept that or not. The problem is that the pharmaceutical industry makes billions out of convincing people, doctors included, to make life long medical patients out of what would have ordinarily have been called a tomboy or effeminate or lesbian or gay. Those with power-oppressor-victim agendas promote this to children who are so open to suggestive and magical thinking and rope them in to satisfy their own psychopathic desires. Yes, it is a religion and you are right to have used the word "belief" because that is what it takes not to be brow beaten by the cult.
Welcome to the cult that created you.
I can answer your last questions, nonbinary people are considered trans because by definition, the term transgender is applied to anyone who doesn't identify with their asigned gender at birth, some nonbianry people though do not identify with being trans but it's their personal choice, usually because they align with their birth gender in a way even though not fully. Plus gender is subjective, people can interpret being nonbinary how they want, like how people have different definitions of men and women.
What you're describing is not a support group. It is a religious devotional. As a gay guy, I was subjected to this nonsense in a different form. That's what it is.
So…..a cult?
Lots and lots of TIMs and their bisexual lovers (GAMPs) try to recruit feminine gays into medically "transitioning".
I would say more accurately, she is describing a cult.
Sounds like a cult to me.
There won't be any gay people left if it keeps on.
Cheers.
First part of your video reminds me of the emperor's new clothes. The pressure to remain silent, or act like you're fine with the absurdities being presented.
I've been feeling that way about this issue for a long time, hell not only this issue. The left wants us to believe there's no problem with the border and that Biden is a picture of health.
Another one is “The party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command...”
Trans bible study
It shares a lot of aspects with a cult, you get love bombed as long as you go along with everything. If you don't, then you get ostracized/threatened/punished/shamed and maybe even stalked if you have certain societal power positions. Questioning is not allowed. They isolate you from information and people that conflict with theirs, you are encouraged to stop associating with any naysayers even if family. They pressure you to 'work for the cause.' Shame is used as a control mechanism. Mind altering drugs are used (hormones). They change your name and identity and encourage black and white simplistic good vs evil thinking. Preoccupation with spreading the message and gaining new members. Members are told how to think, act, and feel. They try to instill fear of the outside world and those that do not fully support everything of the group by saying those people want to attack and destroy you. Any questioning from non cult members is characterized as persecution. The group claims a special exalted status for themselves. And they claim that the ends justify the means.
The emperor with no clothes on… good point!
Sounds like a cult
This is why, as a gender atypical person myself, I've steered clear of the whole LGBT community/activism aspect.
It gets weird real quick, and I just don't see a reason to make this one property of my identity the center of my entire life.
I take the meds that improve my well being, I dress how I like, and behave in a way that's true to myself. My friends treat me in ways that I'm comfortable with. That's all there is to it.
I do crave community, but I'd much rather find a community around making music, wildlife preservation, DnD or whatever.
I'm glad you're in a good place in life. You're right about things getting weird. I believe it's because
activists started politicizing things- Race, gender, sexuality.. And I'm not saying that those can't
be politicized, but I'm wondering if they should. It seems to have made things worse for every community.
I happen to be neurodivergent- I hope my condition doesn't become a soapbox for these crazies.
@@memeticvs6017 You mention race, gender, sexuality, all things that are not even political, just how we are. I am glad you mentioned it! It really sucks as a trans person to be used as a weapon or for political gain on either isle when I just wanna live, be happy, and die lmao.
what daw do u use to make music?
I am a straight white man, not living in the USA, and I clicked on this out of curiosity. I am so glad that I did. What a brave and honest person you are to open up about what is going on behind some of the scenes. It is so nice to hear your viewpoint. I hope that everything is going well for you.
YEah, me too. Stop trying to pick her up. I was here first.
Yah thanks to UA-cam algo magic. So glad to hear her
@@RaptorFromWeegee Weirdo;)
She's really funny, too! Randomly using the F-word and stuff.
i mean seeing how none of what she said is even remotely true and she doesn't provide any proof. it just shows how gullible and easy to manipulate some people are.
One of the things I find most disturbing from what you talked about was the young girl saying that she had nightmares about the surgery, yet she was just ignored by the group leader.
That’s incredibly bad; this girl is coming to this group for guidance and help with the struggle she’s going through and they just ignore her because the narrative is that much more important. That’s a child who is asking for help. The self centeredness to not even attempt to help a child is crazy.
Agreed.
I'm so sad for this person
Because thats the nature of support groups. They attract people who are very selfish and want others to vent to unconditionally and once you have critical mass of those they start evicting the sane people looking to problemsolve.
I also wouldn't be surprised to find out that big Pharma is funding many of those groups under the condition that leaders keep quiet about the harmfulness of the medical side.
This groups are specifically targeting children.
A transition before puberty starts is a win in their Agenda and also the highest damage they can Do against children.
What do you expect from a demographic that is working hard to normalize pedophilia and depopulation eugenics?
@@SvenHeidemann-uo2yl What agenda?
2015 was the year i started having some issues with the 'activism' in the trans community. an ex bf of mine, who is trans, got bullied off of tumblr for saying the cotton ceiling situation was awful and rapey. The screenshots he sent me of the vile hate he was getting from his own community was eye opening. Message after message telling him to kill himself and calling him a conservative bootlicker, all because he said that women, and everyone for that matter, have the full right to refuse to engage in any sexual act for whatever reason they decide, and referring to womens panties as a 'ceiling' that needs breaking is fucking weird and gross.
Very interesting nowadays to see some trans activists saying that whole cotton ceiling thing either didn't happen, or if it did its not as bad as the 'phobes make it out to be
i relate so much to your comment. my ex bf is trans as well. i dated him for 5 years and like a good liberal, i supported him in his transition and even did his testosterone injections for him because he was scared of needles (something i feel a lot of guilt about now, even though from what i've seen on social media he's still proudly and "happily" trans).
the "cotton ceiling" discourse was what initially peaked me, as a survivor of SA. the thing that peaked me fully was one of my abusers, my older brother who ruined my life with years of CSA, coming out as a trans woman. the predatory nature of so many in the trans community is absolutely terrifying. bless you for speaking out about it and sharing your experience.
oh my god…THAT is why it’s called the “cotton ceiling”??? a whole nother level of pornsickness…
There's a LOT of predators who have AGP and/or just use the whole thing as an excuse to change their personal situation and use their new identity as a means of more easily attacking women. Women need to be protected from these sickos.
I relate so much to your story. I’ve been on tumblr since 2009 and witnessed all of the cotton ceiling debates. I had to create a secret blog in 2015 to post my actual opinions on trans because I knew it was all garbage even back then.
Manipulating someone to have sex with you under duress IS rape. Full stop. That includes peer pressure.
Porn doesn't liberate anyone. Promiscuous sex doesn't liberate anyone, either ESPECIALLY women.
Normies would be extremely upset if they actually knew or saw some of the conversations that go on in trans forums, especially as it relates to children and women.
The trans community would have virtually no support in mainstream if people knew what was actually talked about regularly.
Yep 👍🏻
Sexual autonomy doesn't liberate anyone? Sure Jan.
How's the tradwife life working out for?
Some may ask, is the sexualization of America part of purposeful agenda in order to rocket the moral decay of society?
Yeah i never really understood how promiscuity is supposed to be liberating either. How is giving a bunch of fuckboys cheap no strings attached sex going to "smash the patriarchy"? You have to be delusional to believe something like that. But calling porn liberating is about as retarded calling cigarettes "torches of freedom".
the people that control mainstream media are worst then you can imagine, much worst then the plebs
I remember a social worker who works in mental health and addictions saying that one time a patient had mentioned pornography as one of his/her problems but one of the other "mental health professionals" was like, "But there's nothing wrong with using pornography so ... that's not something I think we should bother about ..."
Omg
Wow, clearly they have never seen a porn addict out there on the internet, that stuff messes up your mind and your interactions
As an ex social worker, I totally believe this story. They teach us to being so tolerant that we lost what is common sense, and how normal looks like. Something that it's important if we really want to integrate people into society.
Any good social worker/therapist would identify something interfering with your well being as a problem. Including porn.
Bet that 'professional' was a male.
One more thing I can speak on. I’m currently working on getting my masters in psychology (ideally I do want to be a therapist) and it is drilled into us that you HAVE to affirm even if there is a very apparent other issue that’s going on. So yes, I would say that therapists are trained to affirm/taught to fear being hunted down which is very unfortunate. Hopefully I can become the opposite
I just read a comment on another channel from a therapist who addresses the issues and will not play this game. He said he's so busy and sought after for actually doing his job honestly. So you may be a busy therapist! We need all the good ones we can get! Good luck!
The word "therapist" hits different when you split it into 2 words; "the rapi-..."
...and you can NEVER UN-SEE it.
If the creed is still “Do no harm” you need to be Brave, and don’t discuss that topic but redirect to the other issues are addressed. Stay on those, and the trans identity may even resolve itself. If all fails you press on it.
That’s the job. And truly what is needed versus wanted.
This is why therapy is b.s. in most cases. That is hindrance, harm, not help. All by design. The term PTSD is used often and incorrectly yet I am told they must accept a person who claims to have PTSD. That is an insult to people with true PTSD. Hurt feelings are not PTSD.
I think a large reason why therapists have been captured and held captive to this ideology is because it is strongest among liberal minded people who tend to be educated in higher ed. So for them it’s not just what they’re being taught, but the silence is almost a survival mode because within their circle of peers, coworkers and social group, this is accepted as the “right” way to think. With any pushback being labeled as far right and bigoted behavior, they’re not only afraid to speak out but also to be the lone voice of the dissection and potentially ostracized.
Eh, im straight as an arrow..actually i kind of lean on the asexual side if anything, so I "dont belong" in this arena at all, but ive noticed the trans obsession has totally wiped out the eccentric, androgynous people. Theres no such thing now as a weird poet with strange hair and guyliner and other weird things you want to add on, that are straight..or even just bi, or dont care. They will always have the LGBT as their entire personality and thrive off "queerness" alone, and half of the time they "transition" (quotes since a lot of people dont make any moves but say theyre trans anyway) .. theres just very few androgynous "weirdos" who dont care about their pronouns. The whole thing is super ironic when you think about it.
I used to be really butch before transitioning and detransitioning but now the only men's clothes I wear are shirts and I have mid length hair because of how tired I was of getting mistaken for a little boy. I mean before transition I was sometimes mistaken but they'd correct themselves after they heard my voice but now I'm stuck with the voice of a middle school boy forever. I think the worst thing is the fact I feel like I'll never stop being associated with being trans because of my voice. I can either dress masculine or androgynous and look ftm or I can dress more feminine and sound mtf. I can't believe I made a mistake this bad this early in life but I had dysphoria and a gender clinic way too eager to give me hormones without therapy.
From my experience bisexuality isn’t allowed anymore because the trans activists have labeled it as exclusionary, we’re only allowed to identify as pansexual now.
well maybe because being a weird misunderstood poet/eccentric and expressing your gender in a different way is synonymous with the lgbt experience 🤷🏻♀️ just a thought
Well said
@@piroshk1968 Poets wouldn't touch identity politics with a ten foot peen. As Patti Smith put it some years ago "As far as I'm, concerned being any gender is a drag."
I don’t like how in today’s society we can’t talk or share experiences that are negative. Sharing experiences and idea’s negative or positive can be useful to everyone. Some people want to know what happens if they take hormones or testosterone, we learn from others experiences. This is why people are doing things they think they want to, then come to regret it later because no one told them what to expect. Thank you for being brave to share, people need to know.
Depends on where you are. Go to alt right, conservative and or prepper side and all you see is negative. I have extremely conservative views and basically think we are all fucked and there is nothing we can do until everything collapses and a bunch of innocent and guilty people die due to chaos. Something between 100's of millions of billions.
“The Party told you to reject the evidence of your eyes and ears. It was their final, most essential command.”
― George Orwell, 1984
Read the book, not just parrot the lines that you picked up somewhere...
@@ickebins6948 Orwell would call the Western world crazy.. people making up genders and changing genders is ridiculous.
@@ickebins6948 And you know they didn't read the book how, exactly?
@@alfiovillordo350 The people who have read the book don't make such pointless posts.
Because it doesn't fit the book, but you only know that if you've actually read it.
@@ickebins6948 They're not pointless if you actually watched the video, which I hope you didn't. Because if you did, it means you don't see the connection.
It is this hyper sexualisation which unsettles me personally the most. As an asexual it has been hard to manoeuvre an already over sexualised society, which for decades appears to have striven to push boundaries more and more, but I have clearly sensed that trans activism is still going way further, and especially the AGP side of things, which really has been the tipping point for me. I was always in the 'be kind and affirm' camp in the past, but I refuse to be used and abused as a prop for someone else's fetish. Fetishes belong into the privacy of your home, explored and lived with consenting adults. The moment they are openly lived in the public, they begin to infringe on the rights of those none consenting, and as an asexual, who was slowly driven into sex repulsion due to over sexualisation in society, the AGP side feels like a violation to me, bordering rape. Also I have a transgender friend who transitioned fully, operation and all, just to find it did not even solve their issues. Instead they are now left with a damaged body and a need to take hormones to avoid even further severe health implications :/
Right there with you, rape victim here, I am deeply triggered by trans women in our spaces. What bothers me is the mens feelings are more important than women who have been hurt/ damaged by men
Asexual here too.To me not only the hyper sexualization of the society is scary and actually made me asexual but also scary is the fact that so many asexuals are woke with pronouns in their bio and pro validation and "explore your gender identity" stuff.Couldn't find a single FB group or Instagram page that isn't pro trans agenda.Then i went and searched for "celibate" in hopes i'll escape the woke stuff only to find conservatives there who are waiting until marriage. It's like almost everyone gravitates toward an extreme and there are very very few in the middle.
@@criticalthinking9924 I know what you mean. When I discovered that asexuality actually existed and was not just my isolated dilemma (and that discovery came around 10 years ago, and I wasn't a spring chicken anymore and every relationship I ever had, had broken down due to my asexuality), the internet groups forming around the subject where actually serious adult communities sharing serious experiences. These days they seem spaces where true asexuals do not dare speak openly anymore/are discouraged from serious exchange, and they appear infiltrated by teenage angst as well as activists pushing agendas. Alone the fact that asexuality has been grabbed and put under the 'rainbow umbrella', has boggled my mind. I could not even attend what is going on in most pride parades, that scene is all about sex drive, while we are by definition all about NO sex. We had a brief window of being able to exchange and through this, truly finding support and understanding, but that's done, and most asexuals find themselves alone again, trying to cope with the challenges that our orientation creates for us in society and relationships.
@@Grassdancer-ib2lw Oh it's great to read what someone who was in the scene before me has to say.I came into the scene recently though i'm single for 11 years as i felt way too pushed to have sex with my ex bfs.Yeah it's a relief that we can put a name on how we're feeling and don't have to explain it anymore.I felt exactly the same.
Where did those ppl who were reasonable left? Are they still there but low profile? I'm trying to stay optimistic about finding someone for a relationship without sex but it's hard.The asexual men are very rare already and coupled with the fact that many are woke...
@@criticalthinking9924 I don't even think that many asexuals are 'woke'. Most are simply flying under the radar. Years ago I experienced the online asexual community as people being relieved to be able to exchange with others, who often shared similar life experiences. Communication was quite open, but now it appears muted, even silenced to me. I remember a thread I read in one of the bigger asexual forums, maybe a year ago, where someone was asking others about their stance on pride parades, and you could sense the tension, the worry of those posting to not trigger some backlash. All these places are now having 'activists' in them, who watch and react immediately to anything they perceive as challenging the set narrative. Many 'ordinary' asexuals, I am certain, will feel pressured to put pronouns in their bios, to not stand out, to not end questioned and attacked. It is very sad.
But yes, we are a very small minority, and within our small community, you also still have asexuals who are aromantic, so they don't tend to seek any form of coupling. In a way I am glad I did not know about asexuality for most of my life. It was tough trying to exist within sexual relationships, if the partner didn't rape you, you ended raping yourself by trying to be something/provide something against your nature.. but I did not know any better and it helped me to somehow cope through it. Now I have reached a point where I am totally content with not having a partner, but I don't think I could have coped with this right from the start, so I really feel for asexuals who are still within phases of their lives, where they long for a romantic connection. Hang in there
This is why most Sane and Ethical therapists refused to work with the "nonbinary" and trans communities because you had to BLINDLY and UNQUESTIONINGLY support Anyone who claimed to be part of these groups. It is very sad because if we were allowed to actually practice ETHICALLY I am sure we could have helped many confused individuals avoid a lot of pain and suffering.
😢 Exactly. Which is so messed up for trans people etc also. People like Jordan Peterson have been torn up emotionally by this kind of thing because they truly want to help people. And that community often needs it more than most (as far as what dx are manageable vs some personality disorders). Yet they were blocked from treating them and helping them vs enabling their addiction to prescriptions and superficial surgeries. 😢
I wanted to become a clinical psychologist and I am grateful God had other plans because it would be terrible to dedicate oneself to that just to find out you're chained to a corrupt backwards system. In a role of play pretend.
How is that not gender discrimination? gets my noggin' joggin'
It’s honestly disgusting. Mental health professionals should band together against this BS if yall actually care about people.
I kind of doubt it matters whether you are allowed to practice how you want or not, given that the replication crisis is so incredibly terrible in psychology. I realize it's not something a psychologist wants to hear, but it's just common sense that with the replication crisis as bad as it is, that human beings really have no clue about how our minds work and we've just been making wild guesses.
@@patrickbarnes9874 what’s the replication crisis? Like social contagion?
I grew up in a cult, realized it was a cult and left. I've been seeing the same style of argument being used for the trans community. Unable to question, circular arguments, shaming anyone who disagrees....
@@FloridaGal813 its making them a lot of money rn that's the only reason they pander to this stuff
That's because it is a satanic cult.
You grew up in a cult? What, Christianity? That's pretty edgy.
Who is the cult leader? Hierarchy is a big part of cults, so who is the leader of the trans community?
@@notvcinema8741 the WEF, it is hidden eugenics
Hi! Thank you so much for that video, I could relate to a lot of things you said. I was myself a trans (ftm) identified person for 6 years. Thanks to government of my country I could not get access to hormones n stuff cause I was a minor, and I basically think It saved me. Agenda that I saw online made me 100% believe that my mental health issues could be solved by transition (and no other ways), and sadly, trans community gave me a support that made me confused even more. Now that Im an adult I can see how easy confused girls like me can be manipulated and its makin me sick. I really hope that every person in the world could find a good mental health care for themselves and just live their life happily
Glad you got out okay
@@wormwoodcocktail Thank you! ❤
Thankfully you were ok. This movement preys on vulnerable young women in particular imo.
Notice how the more we’ve focused on mental health we’ve gotten sicker in mental health. We used to teach and encourage resiliency, survival of trauma, purpose..
now it’s sickness while staying in the sickness.
You should read “Bad Therapy” by Abigail Shrier.
Wow, that hit the nail right on the head
It's not really any different than how the more we've focused on diversity and inclusion the worse race relations get, the more we've focused on feminism the more unhappy women get, the more we've spent on the war against poverty the lower the standard of living gets, etc. Everything becomes a political issue, which creates the incentive to exploit rather than solve the problems, and encourages people to view social issues through a lens of ideology rather than looking for truth. This is why nobody does anything to stop the violence in the black community, as an example. It has become politically unfeasible to treat the horrible murder rates as having anything to do with the community. It has to be racism. Therefore, the problems of drug abuse, financial illiteracy, lack of interest in academics, fatherlessness, etc are never looked at. So young black men continue to have being murdered as their #1 cause of death while the people rally around unethical exploitative people like Al Sharpton who are motivated by power and money rather than by any sincere desire to solve problems.
Mental health is not about sickness. There is no such thing as normal mental health. The DSM does not have a definition of what a normal person is. It only describes observable external traits of those who deviate from the mathematical statistical normal of the normal distribution across society. There is only the "normal" that the majority believe they should ask others to conform to. You are asking the majority to conform to the belief that there is no such thing as having a hard time fitting into what others expect of you. In the real world where people face themselves, representing oneself apart from groups is a very difficult thing to do. It does require resiliency but that is only realized after the vast amount of harm the majority can present to someone who is different than them. This is true across all human disciplines. The norming described in this video is just the age old human failure of collectivism as a way of identity. That problem started in the earliest days of the history of western civilization when we began to form what became cities. Such toxic behaviors are just the stuff being human is made of. If you want to transcend that, stop asking for others to be like you and accept that people are going to hate you for taking that position.
I took an Abnormal Psychology class in 2014 during college, and our professor who had been in the business for over four decades described to us how the emphasis on mental health has had an almost consistent level of peaks and valleys. We'll be all about mental health and the treatment and care of those that suffer with it for a decade, and then then we'll let it go to Hell for the next decade, and the cycle repeats itself over and over. We're at a very high peak about to fall into a very deep valley.
You're speaking truth not in a purposely mean way. You're saying the quiet thing many people even in the LGBT community can see but get silenced out of fear from the radical activists.
You know, I'm getting sick and tired of hearing about people being "scared" of a bunch of miscreants.
If these people scare you, you're no good.
Truth may be couched "respectful" or "disrespectful," but it's still the truth.
@@jibberism9910 I think you underestimate how far these people will go to harass people. In the UK we have had several cases that have gone to court because people have lost their jobs for defending sex based rights and reality. To be scared of losing your job is understandable. To be scared of mentally ill people harassing you is understandable.
Carol told us about several situations that I would find scary in real life. Yes, we can defend ourselves and most of them are full of s**t, but I've seen the footage of Let Women Speak events where women get attacked, and that is definitely scary
@@sparagmos4748 Okay, I respect your opinion.
I see it as an invitation, and my employer does not care, nor does he have anything to do with my political opinions.
If that changes, I think I ought to be feared more than they should. I think that is the attitude we need. But I also understand this is easier for those who travel light, so to say.
@@jibberism9910 I am not saying I think that anyone should give in, just that there are a lot of unstable people around, and a few who actually want to destroy a career/ home life. The people in the UK I was referring to did fight back, didn't just back down.
You are fortunate to have a sane employer. If I were to say I believe that we should have female only space (it's a community organisation) I would be out🫤
I can’t describe enough how demoralizing it has been to be forced to accept any given individual’s trans-ness at face value while simultaneously having my own bisexuality invalidated and denied, almost exclusively by my LGBT brothers and sisters. You are especially correct about the erosion of personal boundaries and the celebration of kink being used as tools to groom impressionable minds. I actually had a major falling out with my cousin over their own use of those kinds of tactics in the local drag scene. Thank you for your honesty and candor. I feel much less alone now.
Yes, monogamous or vanilla bi men & women are REVILED by every other 'letter' (hurrah, forced-teaming). Almost as if boundaries & preferences are rad!cal..
My experience in trans support groups in 2017 and the online trans community in 2020-2022 was some of the worst things I’ve gone through. Constant oppression Olympics, using identities as badges, not allowed to question ANYTHING… was (and still is) definitely a cult. My main gripe is that it is anti progress and anti getting better. It made me such an exhausting and annoying person and my time in that community created a lot of tension between my parents and i. Thankfully, I’ve matured and gotten past it. I still have a lot of friends who are stuck in those spaces, and if I were to voice my true opinions, I would be excommunicated very quickly. These young people are trying to find themselves and go into a deep and dangerous rabbit hole of being trans, I sure did. Thank you so much for your bravery and sharing your experiences. I wish I could do the same
This is all going to implode. No way can this continue.
@@ShuckleIIyeah let's not put any pressure on people by being intellectually honest about a serious topic. Let's all bs them
@@ShuckleII so do what this creator is ranting against? no, we will criticize whatever we want.
@@ShuckleII this is concern trolling and you are trying to deflect attention away from what this group of people is doing. Each individual can absolutely make mistakes and is deserving of forgiveness, but that doesn't entitle their group to be free from examination, nor does it mean that their actions should be treated as inconsequential.
If you want to spend time attacking other groups for other things, do it in addition to what this group is doing, don't give special privileges and then act like a hypocrite.
Nothing really can.
seems like it is in the UK, or starting to , hopefully. if that keeps going, which I really hope, I hope then it stops in the states. But idk. I kinda think humanity is just done. Let AI just take over at this point.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm the mom of a now 18 yr old girl that is insistent that she is medically transitioning. She had no signs of Trans until her friend group all came out together to their parents in middle school. I can't even explain how bonkers it all is...and I'm terrified she is going to destroy her body and regret it. I tried to share the WPATH documents with her the other day, and she couldn't even address what I was specifically addressing. She was insistent that I was trying to convince her not to do anything, when in this instant I was just trying to see if she was informed about what was going on. Because of HER I try to stay informed...and the more I find out the more scared for her I am. If ever you could say that someone has drunk the koolaide, it would be now. She is brain-washed and there is not convincing her of anything no matter how many facts I collect from reputable resources. It makes me so incredibly sad for her.
I've had children and am SO glad they are too old and too cis (🙄) to care. I can empathise with your fear, it must be a nightmare 🫤
I'm sorry this is happening to your family 😔.
You may need to treat this as an actual emergency. If your daughter had a medical condition that was being made much worse by where you are now, you'd probably think moving/upending your life would be a small price to pay for her mental/physical health.
The longer she's in this group and in this place, the harder it will be to get her back to sanity. Act soon. And don't feel like you're overreacting. Moving away or at the least getting her completely out of her current environment is probably going to be necessary to change things.
A fairly long time spent in nature with NO Internet will help immensely.
I’m so sorry. And yes, you are correct, there is no convincing her with logic. ❤️
I'm going through this too except my daughter refuses to have a relationship with us unless we call her by her preferred name and pronouns even though it breaks her heart not to have a relationship with us. I love her so much, I just cannot possibly do what she wants because I think if I do, it will solidify this in her head.
I think she might have congenital adrenal hyperplasia and I know she has multiple mental health diagnoses. If we didn't have such a blatantly corrupt mental health system, the young people could be truly helped through all of this.
What you said about the goal of the movement being to break down boundaries, and that's why polyamory and pansexuality are being celebrated/glorified, made so much sense. I have seen those two things being pushed as 'progressive' so much recently, and it was incomprehensible to me, but it being connected to the eradication of boundaries has made it click (as opposed to it simply being a 'you do you' thing).
Yes, say this. It's a short hop from poly/pan, to b!gamy and harems and ch!ld brides, which is what these creeps want to normalise.
I was in a cult about 10+ years ago, and everything i hear about this trans thing is very reminiscent of that cult experience i had.
The deprogramming is so destabilising, and integration back into the real world is really bloody tough 😢
I hope you are ok now and have real friends and true support in lace now. Thank you for speaking out and sharing these stories.
yeah I was groomed into this bs back on Tumblr in the 10s when I was a teen. trying to deprogram from it all is harder than I thought, especially since now that I know the truth seeing so many people around you being uncritical about everything is frustrating.
Thanks Carol. Very interesting stories. I have heard there is a suggestion going around that all gay men are actually trans same for lesbians as all being men. The level of homophobia is astonishing. I enjoy listeining to you and others on this subject. I haven't anyone I can speak to about this. My ex who is still the love of my life and we are extremely close is on the other side. I try to slip in a story or comment but he will explode no matter how logical my point is. I think many of us have experienced this.
Yeah it didnt help my dysphoria to be told I was actually a straight man in a woman's body and since I've detransitioned I know it's all homophobic and sexist bullshit. Also it's funny to suggest all gay people actually have opposite sex brains because by that logic "transbians" actually have the brains of men and ftms into men have the brains of women. Talk about shooting yourself in the foot
Those people are not ok in the head. So they want to turn everyone straight now?
My husband is also on the other side but he doesn’t explode, not sure he hears me.
Who the he is pushing that idea? Good luck trying to convince most gay men or gay women they are actually trans Lol.
What do you mean on the other side? My ex husband had a kid with me and after 7 years told me he'd had a cross dressing fetish and wanted to live his life as a woman. I never knew. Apparently he'd been buying "serious" f0rced f3minization hypnosis and listening to it and doing all kinds of shit when he was supposed to be at work sometimes. For years. Left his kid and everything. He literally moved out of state and is an escort.
I'm sure you don't mean "on the other side" in the same way , but know this kind of "other side" is really traumatic for the other person that gets left.. especially when there is a kid involved. The kid is really hurt.
The story about the big aggressive TIM guys insistince that the gay drag queen, was "really a transwoman" while simultaneously claiming society should accept how "trans people" self identify, is exemplary of the incongruence and irrationality of the whole philosophy.
This was VERY informative, I knew allot about why I didn't like the "Rainbow Mafia" from an outside perspective, but I didn't realize just how toxic and abusive it has been on the inside as well... The more people who do what you're doing, that is come out and just talk about what they're seeing in these "trans" spaces, the more likely the general population are going to think twice about subjecting themselves or their children to that same treatment.
Y'all out here hastening hair loss with hormone replacement while biological men are trying to cling to every follicle we have!
Yes. What you described at the end about trans culture and porn is literally word for word what was said to me by liberal feminists in the mid 2000s and in the asexual community, late 2000s. I don't think people realize just how much grooming goes on in the asexual community, especially for this; I often see it being referred to or seen as the "least threatening" of the communities. Just not true. At the time I was in it, it was a bunch of SA'd people, autistic people, and SA'd autistic people, basically the absolute perfect pickings not just for the trans movement but for any predator. Then around 2016 when I checked back in with it, they changed their "definition" of asexuality to anyone who does not produce the hormones to create sexual desire to someone who only has sex twice a week, which really falls in with what you say here about it being an "out" from the alternative.
On a better note, "That's a dude, that's a messed up dude...and he's dressed like a prostitute." might be one of my favorite new quotes.😂
Dude. I found AVEN early in the 2000s when I was 14 and was just ecstatic there were other people like me. Fast Forward to 2020 and I'm getting kicked out of the "asexual" subreddit for telling them you can't be ace and have kinks. It's contradictory. I had no idea about the grooming as I clearly have nothing in common with whatever asexuality is anymore. I couldn't believe all the posts I saw about "omg I came out as ace to my parents and they didn't care!!" like wtf is there to come out about?!?! The INSISTENCE that asexuality is a "queer identity" is absolutely reeking of "I want to be in this special group but I don't have any qualifications to be in this group so I'll just pick this one and mold it!" I mean now people who may have found peace and acceptance with asexuality places like aven have nowhere to go , because they apparently have a meticulous list of qualifiers and disqualifiers, and somehow enjoying sex (but only sometimes or in a certain way) is a qualifier. It's ridiculous.
Wait.....why do they consider ppl who 'only' have sex 2 x a week "As3xual"? Essentially, almost everyone in the world could be in that category. Most couples I know that work for a living...w or w/out kids don't have the luxury to do it more than once let alone 2x a week. That doesn't make them any special category. It just means that they are busy ppl that have to work, spend time with their children & elderly parents, & a thousand other things that grown, responsible ppl have to do. But I guess if ppl are taking T & are consuming prawn on a daily basis...they are s3x addicted...that used to be a mental health issue. Is that now considered "normal"?
43:00 , I was just going to comment that that at the end there. That's basically word for word Satanic Church philosophy. Now this makes much sense to me
Nother KMFDM fan in the comments, Hello.@@thekmfdmmachine3919
@MissMiseryGloom Yeah, I was so confused when they invented “Demi-sexual,” which was just anyone who needed and emotional connection to someone to want to have sex. The implication there is that the natural or default sexual state for humans is to want to have sex constantly with anyone you’re physically attracted to? And then throw in there that sexual orientation is now void, you’re also supposed to want to have sex with anyone anytime.
I deleted my post from yesterday, but I reconsidered. I was diagnosed with both Transsexualism and Gender Identity Disorder (GID) in 2010 at age 33. The "transgender umbrella" forced me into a space I do not belong. My diagnosis is not an "identity"; I have a mental disorder. I do not deny my biology nor had by biology changed since being on testosterone for over 12 yrs, i.e. I cannot change my biological sex, nor am I a man, that was never the point. I also do not regret my surgeries, but stopped testosterone in July 2023, by myself. Until August 2023, I had no idea transgenderism was an ideology. Transsexualism was redefined and recategorized into Gender Identity Disorder in the DSM-3R (1987), yes, the same timeframe of "Gender Theory" brewing in Academia; and then into Gender Dysphoria in the DSM-5 (2013). Transsexualism and transgenderism are different words for a reason. I am NOT transgender (cannot stress this enough!) and I am sorry I ever said or wrote that word anywhere near myself. My experience is different. I was never a "trans-kid" and it was not because there was not "the language" --- I did have all the language I needed to express myself back in the early 1980's, because I have Transsexualism. And yes, my disorder may be a result of SA until age 8, but I also said "I am a boy" before knowing the SA was not "normal". I digress, sorry for oversharing. My point is the transgender ideological (cult movement) hijacked a mental disorder to implement what we are seeing now. I feel like I am not being believed all over again and sucked into a nightmare against my will. "True Transsexuals" are diagnosed with Transsexualism (F64.0). Transsexualism is not an identity. We need separation. Thank you for reading this far. Thank you for your videos.
Transsexualism as a disorder is pseudoscience, it always has been. Harry Benjamin and the men that came before him created these categories and “diagnoses” based on homophobic and sexist stereotypes and ideas.
Do some people hate their sex? Yes, why? For many reasons the most likely being trauma or internalized homophobia being the 2 big reasons. So really there isn’t much difference between a transsexual and transgender. They believe the same basic things. The body and the brain are different and the body must be medicalized to ease the mental distress.
I disagree with any premise that states this. It’s not a disorder that should ever be treated with harmful drugs and a scalpel, by doctors or therapist.
@@SourPatches2077 Thank you. You are the only person to ever respond. That is it, the piece to make it all make sense: pseudoscience. It is not that I did not know this word, but I did not apply it because I could not see past the delusion. And you know, I am going to change my paperwork back since I can no longer spread my delusion to others. I have been leaning in this direction, even though I have felt "this way" since I was about 3. It just does not matter. Like I said, I do not deny my biology. People can call me whatever they want.
I hate my biological sex. And I don't have trauma or internalised homophobia. I agree with you though that hormones or surgery is not always the answer.
@@SourPatches2077 All this talk of homophobia, homophobic stereotypes, and internalized homophobia has me wondering about homosexuality in general, since this too was listed in the DSM as a mental disorder. This is not comparing "trans-" to homosexuality, but about pseudoscience. (However, why was non-fetish cross dressing seen as a symptom of mental disorder? Do you think it was just as a way to fuel their agenda?) We were told sex is for making children and any other sex is not "normal" (because there is no possibility for children). Yet homosexuality was normalized (in the USA). Do you think doctors and professors normalized homosexuality, removed it from the DSM, to bring their "invention" ("trans-") to life? To bring it all back around, I am wondering what is the point of all of this? It is all money, is it not? We are all just their "lab rats".
@@projectsjess read The 11th Hour Blog.
Your candor is so refreshing. You seem like a very good, no-nonsense type person
I transitioned over 25 years ago. Now local Facebook group is talking about kids identifying as animals, demanding to be referred to as such and insisting on talking in animal noises.
It's beyond me!
These are likely therians, which are a separate but occasionally overlapping community of ostracized people who feel in their minds that they are not fully human. They're a kind of otherkin group, which is a group that feels a strong affiliation with (but not always a shared identity) with fictional characters, animals, etc. The 2007 book A Field Guide to Otherkin by Lupa and its Wikipedia article explain it very well.
It's in schools. Local school my coworker said her daughter ended up in a class with manny Furries. School made sure they were "being cosidered" allowed to make animal noises to communicate. America has no idea there is a force destroying it from within.
@@mayc8674 whats destroying schools and kids in America is GUNS. Its a fact. Easy to look up and look into the sources(if you even know how to do that)
@@jellytribe1493 There is a gun in almost every household in Finland, and we have a school shooting once every blue moon. I believe there was like a 10 year gap between the recent one and the one before that. It's not the guns themselves, it's the easy access to guns. Also mental health needs to be prioritized, in Finland the mental health services are paid through taxes, so everyone has access to them.
They talk about kids workshop the devil by playing dungeons and dragons too, I'm sure
I’m a woman, and I literally got into a disagreement with a trans woman; a gay man who said he was on his period cause his stomach hurt. I explained it wasn’t a period cause he doesn’t have a uterus which is supposed to shed during a woman’s cycle. Ugh 😩 so I led.
That’s what enrages me the most: the delusion we are expected to partake in. The language twists that confuse normal people and especially the company virtue signaling from period wear companies that write of „menstruating people“ and „everyone no matter which gender“ that should be addressed. It’s disgusting and I write to every such company that I‘m boycotting their products.
@777Rowen, is there a typo in your last line? "so I led"? How is that supposed to read? So I left?
What pissed me off is when in our building we couldn't get free feminist hygene products in the bathrooms...but as soon as this trans thing started propping up ppl were donating to the office so that trans women had feminist products...
@midnull6009 anything goes in the Trans Ideology world. They can't tolerate dissension also known as Reality
@@midnull6009male privilage 😂, so typical.
The more I learn about this ideology the more I'm convinced that this is a bonafide cult on par with Scientology. It's absolutely mind boggling that this niche community has gained so much power in society. I am terrified to think of the harm this will cause unless it is stopped.
You must not know anything about Scientology
It is a cult. And their tactics of control is like any other.
@@SourPatches2077 you don’t know anything about cults
@@lampb0obs bro, I do. Lol
Samesexattractedandcacelled made a video about the similarities between the two. I don't know if this is still her username.
As a trans person, i dont desire to be with these sorts of people. I want community, but i escaped religion once already. Its like i dont belong in any space, since i dont fully conform to any group.
id say I agree with you and am in the same boat (I'm trans too) . I do not mind using neutral pronouns as well so I could be considered non binary based upon that, but I do not really want to associate myself with that community. my gender is what it is , just as my hair colour or eye colour are and i don't care enough to make it some central aspect of myself, I present however I like. I believe boxing or pushing people into categories is harmful, sure trans people exist and so do people who fall outside of the gender binary but the way this subject is approached seriously needs to be looked at. I despise this attitude of questioning =/= hate.
I've visited and read some of the forum posts in these groups and it's a militant level of recruitment that has no tether. When I saw someone timid and uncertain come into the forum, I saw them like a person who's at the edge of a rocky cliff and they aren't sure if they should jump off. And everyone in the forum was encouraging them to jump and giving them all this advise to help them but none of their guidance was going to keep this person from smashing their head on a rock if they did take the plunge. I didn't dare chime in with some logic and truth for the young confused teenage boy as the group just swarmed in on them to tell them just how easy it is to become a woman, just get your estrogen, get blockers, get your makeup on blah blah blah. If you speak up in these forums and give an alternative or just some sound advise, you'll likely get banned before anyone can read it. Most of these online forums aren't support groups they are just grooming portals.
Wish you the best with your journey and thanks for sharing your experience.
Its so wild how often some very religious people are against homosexuality but in favor of transition. Listening to Kai Shappleys mother talk about this is really horrifying.
I wonder how she mentally squares all of this now, as her main "support system" for transing her son, are all the old LGB groups.
she thinks she’s enlightened now, and this is unfortunately being celebrated by lgbt groups as a success story of a bigoted couple changing and becoming more “inclusive” 😔
As a religious person i can tell you we call those people. " Fucking stupid."
Some middle eastern countries fully support transition, because they refuse to accept that anyone could be gay.
They want to take away the freedom to love whoever you want. It's so sick.
It's a type of conversion therapy. Turn a gay guy into a trans woman and all of a sudden he'll appear straight. That's what the Islamic Republic of Iran does.
Your video is a refreshing reality check. I was in what is now called the trans community in the 80s and 90s and I did change my identity in '96 to that of a woman. I was seeking HRT and electrolysis, couldn't get either practically and gave up in '98 redoing my documents back to my male identity. The way gender and biological sex was viewed in the 90s made way more sense than today. Something changed between 2000 and 2010, I'm not sure where, but I think it was in the medical community. I tried to reconnect in 2015 and had a disastrous therapy session in 2018. The vocabulary was all different, the whole definition of gender was different. I was actually told my experience was transphobic. I never got on board with the self identification and pronoun choice crowd and it seemed like they were considering me a heretic. What's formed is definitely cult behavior, I just can't figure out who's leading the cult or where it started. Thank you for bringing a rational observation to light about this community.
Money, and lots of it by a man who wants to see trans humanism be implemented in our society.
@@SourPatches2077who is this person? This is fascinating - could you explain more?
@@jonathangmallender www.the11thhourblog.com/
It's no surprise that groups peopled by biological males would have lots of money and backing because, after all, it is still a man's world.
I feel like it started in academia. With the beginning of the “queer/gender ideology” I feel like the rise of that has caused major shifts in the lgbt community & is essentially taking over the community as a whole.
I really don't understand the logic that you can be trans without having gender-disphoria. Isn't feeling like your body doesn't match your gender the entire definition of trans? It's like saying you can be a gay man but not find men sexually attractive.
It is known as Pseudo Gender Persuasion. Referring to the many who have not had this inclination until someone persuaded them that they did. However, there are those with genuine thoughts and emotions who have gender dysphoria.
People who are transgender but don't have gender dysphoria usually just prefer it. "I do like my current shoes but I like those other shoes more."
OK but isn't preferring a gender other than the one you are a kind of gender dysphoria?
@@atablevendetta1429But why should everyone view the shoes you simply prefer as the only possible shoes for you when you could wear other shoes just fine? And if I suggest you could wear another pair of shoes you claim you’re at risk of killing yourself even though you don’t have a mental disorder of any kind…
I've heard people defend this by saying that they don't have gender dysphoria but "gender euphoria" As somebody who's transitioned and detransitioned if youre okay with your body but think that becoming trans will make you slightly happier DONT DO IT. Transitioning makes life way more difficult like avoiding doctors appointments, avoiding public bathrooms, obsession with appearance/ passing, treatment from my family, looking like a 13 year old boy at 20, etc and I at least had dysphoria 😭
My former roommate is fake trans. I moved out (this was 2017) when I found out he was sexually harassing female friends of mine. At that time, he was claiming non-binary, but now claims to be a teenage girl. You read that correctly. He is over 30, claiming to be a teenage girl. And people online eat it up. It was a real eye opener for me. Trans people deserve the same human rights as anyone else, but they also need to be held accountable like everyone else.
I don’t believe in true trans or fake trans. There is just people and they are either male or female. If we stick to facts we will see a clear picture.
@@SourPatches2077 Exactly!
@terminaldeity your former roommate mentioned here is a predator who seeks "loopholes" to practice violence, hatred, and degenerate deviancy towards the most vulnerable in human society.
Circumstances will present themselves so that he will remember what loopholes within loopholes purging is like ~ it is so
@@SourPatches2077
8:33 Why do they do that?
"His father hated him for being gay, but suddenly liked him when he transitioned" this is so fucking wild to me, I can never wrap my head around this. Why is it like this in so many conservative religious cultures?
Beats me.
But the worrying thing here is that the conservatives are becoming as nuts as the liberals
Why? Because if you’re trans you fit into a heterosexual norm. Instead of being a femme gay man attracted to men, now you’ll be a femme “woman” attracted to men which fits into the hetero norms. Thus, extremely homophobic ppl/cultures accept a trans over a gay. Transhood is all about rejecting yourself, gay is about loving yourself. Transhood is an extension of homophobia and hatred of self in order to align and “pass” as a hetero.
Why? Because if you’re trans you fit into a heterosexual norm. Instead of being a femme gay man attracted to men, now you’ll be a femme “woman” attracted to men which fits into the hetero norms. Thus, extremely homophobic ppl/cultures accept a trans over a gay. Transhood is all about rejecting yourself, gay is about loving yourself. Transhood is an extension of homophobia and hatred of self in order to align and “pass” as a hetero.
Why? Because if you’re trans you fit into a heterosexual norm. Instead of being a femme gay man attracted to men, now you’ll be a femme “woman” attracted to men which fits into the hetero norms. Thus, extremely homophobic ppl/cultures accept a trans over a gay. Transhood is all about rejecting yourself, gay is about loving yourself. Transhood is an extension of homophobia and hatred of self in order to align and “pass” as a hetero.
This was one of the things that really peaked me. Hearing actual conservative parents say exactly that. "We knew he was going to be gay when he was 2 and we couldn't have that", so the parents are literally brainwashing their toddlers that they're "in the wrong body". I didn't think homophobia was quite so alive and well. What's worse is the big orgs that used to fight for gay rights, now have shit on their website about how 2 yr olds can "transmit" their "true gender" to the parents. These innocent little creatures who can barely transmit what they want for breakfast are being groomed and destroyed from very powerful places.
I went to a CBT group and the leader was a lesbian and led the lgbt groups as well. She was always bringing her activism to group which had not place in our group. The final straw was one day she said a trans youth from her group killed themselves. She said that she went to the funeral with other people from group and the pastor said the deceased birth name and she and the group interrupted the service to demand they call the deceased by their trans name. And it infuriated the family and brought their activistism to shame the family when their child had just killed themself. You was furious. I never went back
That is so messed up, glad you left
These people do not know shame
I’m so sorry for your and that family’s loss…. So very sorry.
Jesus Christ!
Protesting at a funeral... Kind AND classy. Did the group leader used to be in the Westboro Baptist Church?
Thanks for talking openly about this. I wish people would talk openly in these groups.
I'm basically on the complete other end of the spectrum of all this but I've still got plenty of trans friends and I see the things they post / talk about. Some of the things you said about the community / support group is identical to what I've seen with them. And some of the things you talked about suddenly make a lot of common behaviors between them make sense. Videos like this are extremely important for helping to break all that conditioning and I hope more people see it.
It is blatently obvious that they always come for the kids who are vulnerable, unstable or damaged in some way and whip them away from the parents who love them, who may have spent years slogging away trying to stabilise them trying to help them reach adulthood in one piece. Years ago I read a very compelling piece of advice. Cleave to your kids. Never allow the “friend group” take over as the “parent” because they all are as immature as each other and their decisions can be disastrous. I followed that advice and I am very glad that I did.
They unironically repeating the past and setting up their own demise. They're no point in abusing kids they will make you pay in one way or another. Since we experienced it either first hand or seeing our peers fall. There's always somebody whispering "I can help you" when they're just helping themselves. This is why i dislike what's going on schools yet the fervor these young ones have are something I know my gen and gen X cannot really handle.
Thinking of yourself as a heroic martyr who's slaved away on your child's behalf and if only they hadn't met those witches who recruited them into their coven they would still be here today is kinda... 🚩🚩🚩
You talk like someone who gave their kid up to the troubled teen industry for listening to "satanic" music
Children aren't safe with their parents and outside influences aren't evil. You just can't accept that your child is a person separate from you and not a piece of you or something you own.
Well ppl who go into gender confusion and adverse sexual issues have already been abused by somebody, usually relatives. Or they've been indoctrinated by school and media, but it usually starts with home issues or lack of moral boundaries being set. Lack of moral boundaries being set will make a kid who doesn't even have same sex attraction or what ever willing go along with anything to be apart o something. But the trauma side actually makes ppl attracted to the same gender or gender confused.
@@amazinggrapes3045 Well the troubled teen industry/Cash for kids system is a cult and child abuse is a demonic ritual. So these systems aren't going to care abt a kid listening to "satanic" music anyways. Ppl just need to understand the agendas and teach their kids and pay attention to them, or not traumatize them so they won't fall into this stuff.
It’s really scary to imagine there are “support groups” out there where you can’t even discuss your very real and legitimate problems and concerns … I imagine this could actually lead to life threatening consequences. Imagine having a botched surgery but not wanting to share about it, and feeling the need to keep smiling and pretending like everything is great when it’s not… 😢 I sincerely hope these patients are not experiencing the same fear of speaking up when they talk to their doctors ! Just imagine THAT 🤔
I've never been to a group session that wasn't judgey, competitive in victimhood, hypercritical and badly run.
That's what this is all about. To harm people.
The point of Az Hakeem's group therapy seemed to be trans people hearing other trans people talk and going "wow you sound exactly like me and you sound crazy"...
I have just bought his book 'Detrans'. He says not to bother with his previous book as it was placatory😅
Therapists arent allowed to help them. They have to affirm the delusions or get blackballed out of their jobs and careers.
Sad.. As I've commented before on my roommates account, my therapist said I don't seem trans. Judt gay. 15 years ago now, and I should be writing her a thank you letter. She was the wife of the highschool principal, and not a good therapist. But that she spoke her mind then means everything to me.
@@raaaaaaarrif they're not a good therapist they need to be fired anyhow !
It depends what you mean by help. If you mean to do no harm, live without fear, to encourage mindfulness, speak honestly and truthfully, and encourage to live from your innate unconditioned being, then how can a therapist be doing the wrong thing? Affirming delusions is doing harm.
Therapists are like the chiropractors of the mental health world. You have professionals like psychiatrists who have legitimate degrees and practice and then you have therapists who are basically human emotional support animals. They don't actually diagnose and prescribe a solution. I know people find that they get something out of it but I promise it was just having someone to talk to. Get mad at that if you want but I have many friends who went into the field and it's so obvious that's it's BS.
@@demelza32 Imagine being a Therapists and having to work with someone who thinks that they are a dog and you as the Therapists have to ALWAYS start from the position that THEY ARE A DOG! and if you don't you get in trouble.... How could you help the person that believes that they are a dog?
When I was at uni, I knew a girl who underwent a severe heartbreak. She had problems with her family, and the only girl she ever loved used her and rejected her. She retreated from the world for around 5 weeks. When she came out the other side, she was "non-binary" and "asexual." Immediate accolades and acceptance. Every "non-binary" I've ever met is like this. Female, traumatized, needed therapy, but instead was in contact with college-campus LGBTQIA2++ ideology.
IA2?
@@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlightIntersex, asexual, Two-spirit.
Well maybe if they had decent support systems, they wouldn't resort to joining whatever group will take them...
happening on campus and jr and high schools too. same tactic. on some campuses, they are a secondary counselor seen in the library and seen on lunches or pulled out of class. This counselor is not reported to parents.
Really sad and chilling. It's true that many campuses & schools waste scant resources on this nonsense instead of getting real apt help for women who have been through a lot and struggle.
As a student in the 1990s I did my postgraduate thesis on cults and new religious movements - what you describe is so similar to cult behaviours. Primarily any type of criticism being taboo and not allowed coupled with group shunning or punishment (usually criticism, shaming and isolation) if any criticism no matter how legitimate or reasoned is raised. Also the gaslighting, ie men clearly being men with a bad wig on and everyone denying reality by agreeing 'hes a woman' - this cognitive dissonance of this creates a particular mental state in groups. This is common in cults, where the leader may claim to have supernatural powers like controlling the weather and all the cult members agree and reinforce this and repeat it and don't allow it to be questioned. The majority of the group know this is not true and know its ridiculous but at the same time are in a group where nobody is questioning it an appears to believe it - when you are in a cult and the cult has become your only social contacts and you no longer mix with friends not in the group, family work colleagues who - normally you may say, 'hey dude i'm in this group and everyone thinks the leader can control the weather, thats weird right? ' Obviously the person will respond with 'yes it's weird, thats ridiculous this doesn't sound like a healthy group to belong to'. Thats normal, it's reality testing, like when you hear a noise and not sure if you heard it and ask someone 'dis you hear that?' It sounds crazy, but when you remove all these normal social conditions it's amazing what people can be told to do and believe. Its a process where you lose the ability, but also the confidence that you are able to think for yourself - it shatters a persons self belief. I know this sounds extreme but this is how cult leaders can convince what on the outside seem rational, intelligent, educated people to commit mass self un-aliving.
It is a religion
@@wormwoodcocktail I completely agree, it has a belief in the supernatural too, ie some metaphysical 'sexed soul' that is somehow preexisting and popped into a body at birth - and sometimes it is popped into the 'wrong body'
This an an excellent articulation of the "problematic" aspects of the trans cult especially where it impacts lesbians and gays and in effect erases homosexuality and seeks to ride on the coat tails of the struggle of homosexuals for tolerance and acceptance...as an older gay man who remembers the 70s and 80s ive been particularly shocked at the treatment of lesbians and women in general by this propaganda...tell it like it is Carol ...sing it sister
Lmao, nobody is trying to erase anything but the lives of trans people with violence.
What an awful echo chamber you scream into lmao
It’s so important the things ur bringing up, I’m a gay male and even I realize it’s important to push back against pure affirmation. It’s not healthy, everyone needs their beliefs to be pushed back against regardless of their beliefs in order to strengthen them.
In therapy it's even more critical to be challenged, yet in recent years I've sat in rooms with counsellors who just nod with whatever nonsense I say, like I'm repeating their order at the drive-thru window. It seems they fear losing their jobs if they in any way 'invalidate' a word out of the patient's mouth. Disturbing.
I’m a straight, Christian woman and I appreciate this video. It helps me understand better what’s going on. It’s really sad how these people who are already hurting so much end up worse than before because of the evil, cultish behavior of these groups. It’s especially heartbreaking with young people who are so confused.
Thank you for sharing your experience. You’re easy to listen to and very articulate. I hope you’re doing well in your own life now.
Carol this is hands down the best, most honest, in depth information on transgender culture I’ve come across. It’s funny whenever I have tried to get this seen via a mention, poof! Gone! I’m not using certain words because I think they are why it happens. Anyhow great job. Fantastic information you’ve put out here.
you are incredibly easy to listen to. so eloquent, vulnerable, and honest.
I'm absolutely horrified but I've witnessed similar issues in an LGBTQ space where a visibly 35-40 yr old T woman claimed to be 14 (the age of consent is 14 in that country and there were underage girls there). I wrote an email to the two people in charge who were both gay people (which was ignored) and promptly left. I'm wondering about the lack of sexual boundaries. Would it not be equally valid to say you're simply not attracted to that particular person without bringing sexual labels or dysphoria into it? I mean, good old fashioned "I'm not into you". Surely anyone arguing against this would be violating someone's sexual autonomy and right to personal choice or were they too far gone to respect the basics?
in some queer/trans circles they claim relationships/sex are a form of activism and way to show you’re an ally, so it’s usually trans identified males pressuring young females into relationships and sex even if these women aren’t attracted to biological males. some of them even end up brainwashed to believe their innate sexuality is transphobic if it doesn’t include biological males
You can say “I’m not into you” and most of the time that was fine. What you can’t say is “I’m only into biological female” or whatever your sexuality is. Trans identities women who call themselves bi and only date females is a thing.
@@SourPatches2077 Yes of course, I understand. I can tell people I'm a lesbian but I would never say I only date biological females. Of course I do and I exclude the rest but I'd never make a verbal declarative statement about it. Wouldn't want to be wo-man-handled by these demure little ladies 🙄
Thanks. I understand, I also don't make any declarative statements for my own safety lol. It's interesting how you said nothing negative was allowed to be said about the effects of hormones because that has now spread to the mainstream. Seems like these groups were conditioning and recruiting disciples for their spiritual war which has now entered the mainstream. Really scary. As an L, this "community" (snort) is unsafe for us and has been taken over by the worst kinds of people.
@@SourPatches2077 Yes, I definitely don't make those kinds of declarative statements (about liking 👭) anymore for the same reason. It's almost like this community (big LOL) doesn't respect WLW or proper Ls which is why I don't spend time in those spaces anymore.
Life is difficult and mental health struggles make things all the more difficult. Thanks for sharing your story. I am glad you got away from the toxicity and good on you for trying to help people who are suffering in adversity. God Bless!
Reading these comments, I didn't realize the cult had grown to such a size. It'll all come crashing down on their heads in the end.
It was a top down agenda that went hard on indoctrinating children. They have grown up with this ideology and have no understanding of history. It took families by storm and has caused immeasurable harm all of the world. They are taught this for a reason. Read Martine Rothblatt Transgender to Transhumanism. They are after the gay and vulnerable. The AGP men behind this agenda like Jennifer Pritzker want to have every other young agp not have to go through puberty and sterilization and extremely poor health seems worth looking good. They all are invested in the medical industry that will have these kids for life.
The story about the gay man that was killed and person forced others to mark as trans makes me think of that Nex girl.
It's just my opinion but she seemed to be a little gay girl. Looked like a girl, dressed like a tomboy girl and had her same haircut she had for years being a girl. She was only 16 and do not think it was fair to label her with a permanent decision that she most likely would have changed several times during her teens as she already had done a few times.
The T community bullied and threatened her grieving family into changing her name, her to he and to trans including her headstone.
Very sad! All so they can have that marked as a trans death. They do not care about that little girl.
Also her grandmother called her Dagny which was her name and referred to her as she. The video of her shows she didn't care but smiled while her grandma said this. That was the day prior to her passing. Now her family is getting told off by activists for misgendering her and are being pressured to put the name Nex on her gravestone. The poor kid is just a pawn to an ideology.
100% agree! I seen the obituary the family put out asking for them to stop bulling and threatening them and that they apologize for not knowing better and that they have now changed it to nex, he and trans. The family actually had to apologize. I can not believe the T would actually harass a grieving family and to the point of getting their own way. What is sad is the family will be the only people that actually love the child and will visit the gravesite and they will have to have a headstone with an unrecognizable name! @@mjones8170
That is pretty outrageous.
I'd tell those people to go eff themselves. There's no way in hell I'd let anyone bully me about what to call my own daughter, except for maybe my own daughter 😂
The pain that family has to endure is unthinkable. The pain that young person was in is also unthinkable. That She/He/They were conflicted - confused - about their orientation and/or identity does not give anyone else the right to pressure or present other ways of referring the families lost love one. To continue this SHOW - - THIS UTTER ABUSE on that family after a loss of life and at a funeral ! Shows the level of ANTISOCIAL ENTITLED AGGRESSION That Has Become the HALLMARK of TRANS ACTIVISM. They ARENT FIGHTING FOR LIFE OR FOR ANYTHING - - THEY ARE SIMPLY JUST ALWAYS F I G H T I N G.
No-one should be having a phalloplasty in my opinion.
Unless it’s a man who has lost his in an accident
Nor a vaginoplasty. Imagine having to dilate - painfully - daily. I used to hate the speculum doctors use to take
cervical swabs - and that was once every two years!
@@kyoglesage Not to mention the disgusting smell and the nonstop discharge.
@@Woodman-Spare-that-treeno. Phalloplasties are just too dangerous
@@kyoglesage and now imagine these poor people getting old and maybe sick (eg. dementia, alzheimers) to the point where they can't take care of themselves anymore or can't even remember who or where they are. Will the caretakers in nursery homes or family members have to do this dilating then and how might that feel to a person in that state?
Dang, I'm sorry for your negative experiences in the community. I'm so glad you can come forward and tell your experiences and have the courage to not remain silent anymore. Thank you for sharing with us.
Carol thank you for your video. I feel for you and the tough journey you've been through. Take care.
One of the lawsuits that needs to happen is going to court to take back the words woman and women. These words must be enshrined in law as only being allowed to describe adult human biological female or females. Trans Identified Men will, hereafter be referred to as exactly that - Trans Identified Males/Men or TIMS.
Hear, hear.
as annoying as the PC language olympics are, I believe legislating speech is a slippery slope to tyranny.
They can just stop policing how we speak, and we won't police theirs.
@@joce11Agreed
“Biological” is redundant, sex is by definition a biological term, all other uses of the word are metaphorical.
I agree. Words matter. Language matters. The definition of words matters.
One word: Cult. Thankfully it is dying out. I believe it has reached its zenith with all the lovely people who chose to detrans, and have spoken so intelligently. about their experiences, disillusionment, loss of support, painful surgical experiences, mental health history-sometimes, the truth is coming to light.
Is it really dying out though? It is a daily common occurrence to see purple haired Ts in WA State.
I hope you're right
I don't know if it's safe to say that it's dying out. Remember, every single college student is spending at least 4 years in a seminary where they absorb this dogma and become acolytes and zealots.
@@NeoN-PeoN Yes - I think it will take longer. Unfortunately.
The detransitioners become nothing, invalid. Neuters and almost always give into the bigots. They represent a tiny group and I don't see them, I don't hear them. And no I am not a cultist but I think the host here is a cultist and is in a bubble of her own Marxism.
I understand what you mean about colonizing other groups. I remember seeing an acquaintance once post that we "need to center trans women in pro-choice movement". Huh? How does that make any sense at all lmaooo. I remember laughing for quite a while at that one.
Men cannot stand that women have rights and freedoms, they'll truly do anything to take us back into indentured servitude.
Lady, I'm glad you've come to your senses, and it shows. You have that glow about you that only honest people get. It's a spiritual thing I guess. Welcome back.
Thank you, that takes a massive amount of courage to speak out. I hope you find support and love in you're future. G
Hi Carol! I've just discovered your channel because I have two detrans friends and want to help them as much as I can.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. My friends went through similar situations so I'll let them know about your channel.
The best of luck to you and take care❤
I find Carol's and Whosebodyisit channels the most helpful and caring about this particular and sensitive topic. I hope your friends find all the support they'll need.
Carol. Your voice is so important and needed. I don't know how I got to this video but I'm so glad I did.
Btw, when did autogynophelia become a clinical indication for medical transitioning? I can only imagine that people with actual dysphoria aren't prioritised for surgery.
Thank you for bringing this to light. We need to be honest with other and hold strong to biological reality
Well, and still, if somebody would live a happy life with surgery and hormones and wouldn't have a happy life without it, it would be unnecessary and cruel to deny that.
For the actual 0.003 - 0.008% of the entire worlds population that truly would benefit from that yes, but not for everyone else who is only thinks it will help because of our modern culture and them having body dysmorphia and unresolved trauma.
@@reinhardt3090 Where do you have that 0.003% number from?
Also, why does the number of affected people matter? Are you saying that it's moral to let people unnecessarily suffer if it's just a small numbe rof people?
@hmgrraarrpffrzz9763 I took it from another comment on here but the exact number isn't what matters. Also no I'm saying we need to be careful as to make sure we aren't causing more suffering by giving that stuff to people who don't actually need it.
@@reinhardt3090 It doesn't create a good impression when you first provide numbers that on the first glance seem very accurate. On the second glance though they seem questionable. Then you can't provide any sources and state that accurate numbers are irrelevant, which creates the impression that the numbers are made up, and begs the question why you then provided them in the first place (probably to argue that a low number of people in need of help means that they don't matter?).
But you are right. We should always be careful not to cause more suffering, be it by applying an incorrect treatment or denying a treatment.
That's why people who suffer in that regard need a therapist who can help them figure out what is best, and then that should be done.
However, even if a treatment could hurt them, should anyone be in the position to deny it? It's their body after all. Shouldn't they have bodily autonomy and the right to choose themselves what to do with their body? If you no longer have the right to choose what to do with your body, aren't you in the end just a slave?
If you can deny people anything they want based on nothing but your assumption that it could harm them, what else could we deny people? I mean, there'd be circumcision, smoking, alcohol, fast food... And none of them are usually necessary. You could also deny any cosmetic surgery.
Can you imagine how much effort and energy was put into this? That alone is something worthy of respect. To dedicate so much time and energy for this purpose alone is something otherworldy.
I could listen to you all day Carol!! Fascinating recount. It’s sad but ironic about the leader going that way considering how “affirming care saves lives!” 😓
Maybe she had a lightbulb moment and realised the harm she had caused by her actions of bullying people and shutting them down when they needed help.
Oh the post-mortem transing is super crazy and hypocritical
How's it hypocritical?
@@willow1698 they always say to never assume gender or pronouns. Then they assume a dead drag queen was going by she/her and identified as a woman.
@@willow1698bc they object to assuming anyone's gender without asking first
Nothing new, though. Remember how they transed Kurt Cobain and even Joan of Arc?
@@HH-hm3qn thank you! My comment got filtered :((
I want you to know how amazing you are! And for making this video. I'm a retired mental-health therapist who worked primarily with women who have been sexually abused. You have shared so much remarkable information. I am also a Christian and have so much respect for you. You are amazing! Keep sharing your incredible experiences and liberating truths!
You are very likable!!!! Very well spoken and easy to listen to. Thanks for this vid 💓
thanks for telling us about your experiences. it is so important to hear your voice! it's a shame so many homosexual people feel pressured to transition. i think there should be way less confirming, and way more questioning going on. people can be confused sometimes, and thats okay too
Thank you for speaking up and speaking out. This video needs to be seen by every parent at least. I saw this in the medical community the lack of connection to reality and being forced to condone every whim a child had in the realm of sexuality and gender. These children were either there because they were suicidal or had STD's. The "advocates" for them held my job over my head and were ready to get me fired for even daring not play along with the thought of calling a 13 y/o a they them and asking about a period for a biological female. This world has gone mad.
Ironic how "safe spaces" can do more harm than good.
The world should see this and understand this, this is a very good video. There is INFINITELY more complexity in these issues that is being entirely erased in order to be easier to wield as a political tool and it is DESTROYING lives.
Even when they concede this medical transitioning is hurting at least some kids, they act like it's not a big deal cause it's only a fringe minority. But if only a fringe minority of kids were being rounded up a castrated forcibly, they'd be outraged. Kids have absolutely no agency to consent to this crap. Might as well have rounded them up and forced them. It's probably the worst travesty of our medical system of this century this far. We're gonna look back at this like we look at lobotomies back in the day.
You are SO WELL ARTICULATED AND BRAVE!
I lived in Eugene Oregon for 18 years. Up until 2021.
You're not exaggerating AT ALL. I literally started identifying as A sexual bc I wanted no part of the hyper sexualualization going on.
So the man outside the nightclub was not only re-identified to benefited the movement the most but stripped of the one they were....that's some kind of "alternate" mindset right there
Transing gay people, especially historical gay people who can't defend themselves (or women who just fought the patriarchy like the suffragettes) is a major tactic of theirs. The hypocrisy is painful, but also infuriating and playing a part in peaking gays and lesbians.
I’m a therapist and I do not support affirming delusions. The problem is the APA and medical “professionals” are corrupted and manipulated. But thanks to people like you and many others, this is being revealed! Thank you for confronting this and openly sharing the crazy with everyone!!!
Thank you so much for speaking up and sharing your honest thoughts and experiences. You are helping to heal my heart. I lost one of my best friends of over a decade to this whole thing. I tried asking her to teach me and listen to my questions, and I was essentially met with abandonment. I told her that her spirit and her personality was what made me love her as a friend, not her identity. I thought that would make her see through to the reality of what it means to be a friend and believed that we could allow each other to learn, agree and disagree, and still be friends. She hasn’t talked to me since that conversation many months ago. I’m grieving this loss. Thank you for all you are doing here. 💛
She might come around, and if she does she will realize you were a good friend. You did the right thing.
Your video just unexpectedly turned up in my feed. I listened the whole video.
That was quite an impressive video.
I’m shocked at how sheltered I am at 41. I am also now terrified for the younger generation. My brother is gay if he had been born a decade later would he be trans? Idk I don’t like anyone pushing any ideology.
Porn is addictive and addictions don't liberate. I believe that porn helped to ruin my first marriage.
Porn can definitely do that...
You are such a bright and engaging speaker, thank you for speaking about this. It is absolutely appalling to hear about the cult-like nature of this, which has permeated our culture in so many different ways that go beyond just the trans issue. These things absolutely need to be spoken of as a matter of public and childhood safety, thank you again for doing so.
if only she spoke up while so many lives were ruined before her own eyes. Now it's too late, the damage has been done. People have lost their jobs, families, body parts and even lives because of this silence. Now it's like putting band-aids on a corpse. Criminal silence.
It’s a shame women aren’t encouraged just to be themselves if they are tomboys that’s fine. They don’t need to sign up for a receding hairline. Strange times.
Yeah lmao. Literally now young people are convinced "tomboy" is just a style of clothing and hair.... I saw their minds struggle to comprehend that it's not that shallow, it is something that describes females who exhibit personality traits, preferences, hobbies, and ways of expression typically coded as masculine. There are many tomboys with long hair and vaguely feminine or neutral style, like me. These people however think that makes that a "transmasc". Bruh hell no. I don't know where all that reactionary reductive view of self expression comes from. I really hate this as a millenial that's spent all her teen years fervently fighting all limiting sexist stereotypes :/
@@Noelciaaauh, "tomboy" isn't some objective physical reality, it's a cultural concept. If the meaning of the word changes over time, whoop de do
Maybe if feminists stopped calling gender conforming women "pick me"...
So I was born in the early 1990s and going in to our 30s the girlies girls I know where tomboys.
I think it was a style and I think they are still in to style, but not in to being a man.
New viewer here, Carol!! Im so happy to have seen your channel, thanks for speaking up! Im a bi woman whos been out for 23yrs and i don't recognize the LGBT community at all. So much of this has become toxic and regressive and im so saddened for all the people who are being misled, and the trans being misrepresented.
We all need our spaces safe, and that does include gatekeeping. Weaponized inclusivity is a real destructive force to the safety of everyone's identity
LGB without the TQ is needed. The TQ is incredibly sexist and homophobic.
this is the first i've seen the term "weaponized inclusivity." it seems really useful. thank you!
I'm a part of the furry community as well as the LGBT community and I have a point of bringing the former up.
The amount of immaturity mixed with flat out delusional aggressiveness, in the former *always* revolves around the men's sexual fetishes in that group. Always. This 'shutting down' and 'doxxing' of anyone who questions anything in the trans spaces as well, is perpetuated by the same mind set as the former. I've found those who are actually *trans* don't shut down, don't get violent etc. They sit, listen and have very good things to say. The rest, are basically the same violent feeling as r@p3 when a man is told 'no'.
Edit: I paused this half way through to write my comment. I've had the same experience you have, it seems, based on the last 1/4 of your experience. Seriously. It's porn addicted men pushing the trans agenda and it's gone hype b/c of the internet, then high speed internet and I'd go far as to assume, smart phones is what's brought it to fever pitch.
Yes, almost every cult on Earth revolves around males desires being the most important thing.
Fascinating. Carol you’re a hero ❤
Dear Carol, I enjoyed listening to you sharing of these stories. I think you are a lovely human being regardless of how you identify. It is really brave and valuable for you to be so honest and address the complexity of mental health issues seem folded into the present state of the trans movement. We need more great humans like you who share, in a kind and honest way, your experience and your perspective. You are a light to others struggling within the trans community. All respect to you!
No this person isn't helpful. They get ready to demean anyone they think isn't worthy of the gender they want to be called and she would try it on me as I'm 6'5. She's one of those oh height indicates male type people .
Lots of (seemingly intentional) "schisms" in the gender "church".
I am very glad you have made this video. I am a heterosexual Woman, and I 100% support the LGBTQ+ community. You have put the highlight on the cult aspect of the Trans community, I have gay and bisexual friends and have met Trans people. I knew a customer in a previous job who had fully transitioned and the change in her over time was phenomenal. She transitioned from male to female and she blossomed once fully transitioned. My research has come across so many cases of people and young teens who have gone through the hormonal treatment and in some cases surgery only to have regretted it. A lot of cases involve mental health issues, Autism. sexual trauma and same sex attraction. And in the US particularly it has turned into a money making push. I am not against transitioning at all, but the need for mental health screening and psychological emphasis is very important. All teenagers have identity crises, that, however doesn't mean they are transgender. We are all different and gender dysphoria is real, we need to be more responsible when it comes to especially teens and young people who are having an issue with their identity, regardless of what that happens to be. I came across the same cult like atmosphere in Spiritual New Age Groups. Thank you again
Ive been warning my kids about the gender cult for a few years now (age appropriately) My son, 12 years old was asked to tick a box indicating what gender he was in school. Boy, girl or something else. He ticked something else and wrote "Im a croissant". Im so proud 😊
haha that was creative and funny of him😅
i wonder what was the teacher's reaction?
Nah he should’ve said he was a bomb and that his pronouns were ka/boom
Aw man the tucutes are back
I appreciate the density of info and the minimalistic editing. thank you for sharing!
This is very disturbing. I’m at 32:54 and idk if I can finish watching this. I feel frustrated, angry, disappointed, and saddened by everything you’ve said. It wasn’t like this before…but it is now. I feel like I have to revoke my support because of everything that I’ve watched, heard, read, and experienced from this current community the past 5 months. I hate that I ever got deep into automatically affirming and actively changing my reasoning just to make other people feel good while I said things I didn’t even fully believe myself. The only things I can really support in relation to the trans community now is better therapists who actually do their damn job, organizations like Gender Dysphoria Alliance and LGBT Courage Coalition, and basic rights unrelated to gender identity like employment and marriage or whatever. It sucks because i have a few friends who call themselves trans-nb. I’m not gonna say anything to them, but if i don’t fit in their reality, then I’ll hesitantly let them go. I can only do so much.