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I can’t wait for people to gatekeep the gatekeepers!
Okay someone has to do this as a troll account
_you can only gatekeep if you're a part of the group that you're gatekeeping others from_
on!y 80s kids can gatekeep😂
i love how most of these gatekeepers gatekeep something that they didn't actually do/participate/involved in, they just presumed themselves.
and that folks is how you gatekeep the gatekeepers. thank you for coming to my TEDtalk.
I love the moment when the gatekeepers say "It's gatekeeping time!" And they gatekeep on everyone
The "Only 90s kids remember the 90s" brings forth a confounding conundrum. Do the 80s kids remember the 90s? In this essay, I will
Where's the essay op?
I definitely do.
I have a 500 video playlist of video essays, docu’s and other things. The top playlist I could find is 600.
I’m am trying to get the biggest video essay playlist
Edit*one day later*: at 580 right now
Edit: same day. At 600 now. I added 100 in one day
I was born in 89, can confirm I remember nothing before midnight 2000.
@@potatogaming7044 steal some from the other guy and find the ones he missed
"tofu is strictly for vegans and vegetarians "
*east and southeast asians have left the chat*
It's so tasty and versatile!
This! So much this. Japan doesn't really have much vegetarian or veganism and that's where the English word comes from.
@@co.b.2334 And the Japanese 豆腐 (toufu) comes from the Chinese 豆腐 (dòufu). But non of them have this vegan bullsh*t.
My husband loves tofu and he's Argentinian. 'Nuff said.
That’s exactly what I thought
Why cant parents look after and care for you when you're no longer a kid? I read somewhere that a mother in her 90s and her daughter in her 70s both lived together in an old care home and the mother was still giving her daughter sweets. Some parents will always be parents. Heck some hens will still drop food to their fully grown children. Its cute and adorable
11:34 honestly as a Thai I’m glad seeing westerners eat at our restaurants instead of cooking it incorrectly and posting videos for uncle Roger to start being depressed
😂😂
I'm a gatekeeper myself, I sometimes stand in front of the gate and make sure people I don't want inside my house don't get inside my house
Heheheheheh
Good keep them out
They might steal all the good snacks
@@ISWEARIDONTEATDRYWALL Anything for the snacks.
you need to protect the holy water
it keeps her calm
@@WormOnAString69 Understood
If my dad asks me what a carburetor is I can just fire back with, "What's a GPU?"
😂😂
... my dad knows both please advise
Nah, ask him if you can install RAM.
@@Tectonic_Leader use Redstone engineering then
A GPU, a HUD, a UI. Heck, just ask if he knows what USB stands for. 🤣
I once got gatekeeped from being trans.
My gender dysphoria means I hate being told to just accept my body, hate "feminine" compliments, can't stand being compared to women ect. Apparently, me being pissed off that people won't stop doing that shit makes me invid as a trans because "they're just trying to help and real trans people accept help not snarl and snap"
As a trans guy, hell yeah. I hate fem compliments unless Its my bf or if its a close friend. I feel extremely uncomfortable when people call me beautiful or compare me to my mom. It happens, your allowed t have different was of feeling Dysphoria.
Me too lol. Got told if I didn't dissassociate when I saw my body in the mirror I wasn't trans.
...Turned out they had trauma and are now happily cis and I'm on testosterone. Oops.
Well that’s because your not a man, feminine compliments are people complimenting your actual sex
ywnbaw
@@lamntox8172 my dude i don't think they *want* to be a woman
My history teacher told us that in ancient times it was considered especially manly to have a male lover, because it was very manly to top another man and therefore only weak men would stick to women partners. I have taken this to heart.
he lied
There once was a woman who had 100 children. She named each of them after numbers in the order they were born. There was a fire and all of them died except Ninety. Ninety went off to have kids of her own. They were very kind and loving. One day they found an injured dog. They took it home and nursed it back to health. They hid the dog and never told their mother afraid she would kick the dog out. In fact, they never told anyone. To keep from arousing any suspicions they named the dog "This" so the name could be used in conversation. One day This ran away. They never saw This again. No one else knew about This. No one even knew a dog named This existed.
Only Ninety's kids remember This.
Dang, bro made the best joke
Beautiful story, I applaud you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Jesus Christ.
omg i know this from that vanegood video 💀
Only millennials will remember
I find it funny when they say "let's confuse the 2000s kids" like we didn't do that stuff too. Everything mentioned that I wouldn't understand as a 2000s kid I understood😂
as a woman i can say that i feel way sexier in a dress rather than in pants. no matter how tight or whatever.
As your stalker, I also think you feel way sexier in a dress. I mean, what?
@@titusfortunus2916thanks for giving me a chuckler lmao
@@titusfortunus2916 lol
Reminds me of the time my mom asked me how I was doing and I replied "tired" and she scoffed at me and told me "you think you're tired?? Try being a single mother. You're young, you can't be tired."
I straight up laughed at her and said "are you gatekeeping being tired??????"
Your mom sounds toxic 😅
that's the correct response haha
What was her response?!
@@Luna_tech2 I don't really remember. Probably more anger
@@via3600 lmao
If you aren't a giant floating hand, you can't call yourself an EmKay narrator.
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18:34 As a software developer who recently "gave birth" to a whole new product after months and months of labor to build it up, i can see where the PhD writer is coming from.
I'm really open about having narcolepsy and I STILL have parents gatekeeping tiredness with me.
Having parents that actually understand you or truly care about your issues seems to be a very rare blessing. The media makes it seems like that's the norm, but I don't think it's common at *all*.
feel you so hard on the "bi person in straight relationship." I did a lot of activism work for LGBTQ+ in my university and had people tell me as a "straight person"I should give up the mic to someone lgbtq+... and I have been out of the closet since I was 12 or so.
It is so strange when you hear people on opposite ends of the political spectrum agree with each other about bi folk.
Feel ya too. I'm married to a man but I will always be attracted to both the guys and the gals. Not that the latter gender matters much anymore but I was never straight, neither before or after marriage.
The bi erasure is unfortunately very strong in the community. I lost count on how many times i got the " but but, you said you're bi , why are you dating a man ?" . Well that's kinda the point you see , I'm bi , not a lesbian , so i can date men too
@@KrysLeHobbit Know that feeling. I feel more welcome as a bi person hanging around people that hate the lgbtq+ movement than I do around people from said movement.
oh god that's horrible - I'm ace, not bi, so i cant exactly relate but... it's really gross how some people treat bi people. as if it even effects them!
15:27
Robin: “You’re not a cooler person, because your winters are on average a couple of degrees colder”
Well technically…
LMAO THAT TOOK ME A MOMENT
*wheeze*
This deserves more likes
6:01 Ironically, when jeans were originally invented, they were mostly for women, and men usually wore more skirts
same thing with makeup, originally made to make men look more masculine until woman picked it up.
The fact that Robin instinctively said “It’s time for you to go get some b*tch*s,” really makes it perfect
In a single episode I learned that Robin is both bi and ND
nice to get representation
Oh wow, I just learned that from this comment while watching the video. The more you knooooooow!
And he's on the spectrum!
I thought he was bi and odkfklflf
@@ultrauniqueRRRfan216 that's what ND (neurodivergent) was referring to
As a bi ND we loved that
I not only ate at a Chinese restaurant, I *performed* at one for my grandparents' 50th wedding anniversary. We weren't intruding, we were *invited*, because guess what? Chinese people can have friends and family who aren't Chinese!
Also, if that guy is so nice and knows so much about other cultures, wouldn’t he go to other countries? If that happened, I hope that he knows that he is intruding on their space and he has no right doing that.
Oh, snap, yet another thing the gatekeeper didn't take into account.
...or DID they?
28:56 I had a hazelnut coffee from Dunkin donuts one day at work and my boss said "real men don't drink flavored coffee." Same boss saw my bifold wallet and said "real men have trifold wallets." After the second one I looked at him and said "real men do whatever the fuck they want even when some old guy says otherwise."
(21:31) "A society which separates its warriors from its scholars, will have its fighting done by cowards and its thinking done by fools."
6:06 fun fact, simply by looking at anatonomy and the structure of genitalia, it's actually women who should be wearing pants and men are the one who should be wearing skirts instead
Can you please elaborate? I’m not catching how so?
@@lightfurya2087 Comfort, it was actually, supposedly, intended to be the other way around, skirts were meant to be for men (To give the dangly bits some breathing room) and pants were meant to be for women, since y'know, they don't really have anything down there they need a lot of room for.
Clothes don't have gender, anyone is free to wear whatever they want
@@palomaelegante
Of course, they're just saying that technically, the other way around would be more comfortable for our genitalia, since skirts don't push against the crotch,
@@WestGarbage6"trousers are girly" started more because those barbarians in the North wore them and calling a man a girl as an insult was the height of Roman wit.
The Chinese restaurant one was kind of funny.made me giggle since most of the Chinese restaurants around my area are actually owned and run by Hispanic families. XD
Ironically most of the "Chinese" restaurants around me are run by Japanese or Korean people with a few Chinese places mixed in there lol that one was hilarious for me
Not to mention you largely can't survive as a restaurant by only having a minority for guests.
Sure, in a large city you can have that authentic eatery where you cater to a Chinese audience. But in rural areas you just don't have enough Chinese people to do that.
And even if you're de facto a community institution, you still have to serve every customer and why not?
Not having enough room to seat everyone is a rare luxury problem.
There is a kind of trend towards more interest in exotic and novel food, particularly a larger variety of ethnicities and their dishes.
Gatekeeping people from experiencing food, among the most accessible and shareable cultural expressions, is stupid and segregationist.
I never heard of someone resenting paying customers for enjoying their food so long as they are halfway respectful.
ah yes california or arizona?
Food is meant to be shared, and what better way to share your culture?
Where I am in northern Europe very few Chinese restaurants are run by Chinese people too.
Imagine thinking that a Chinese restaurant should only be for the Chinese, what kind of segregation bs is that lol
8:30 hell yes! I, being from Finland with English as my third language (Swedish first, Finnish second), got told "you should speak better English" when I had a non-pinpointable Fenno-Swedish accent but grammatically spoke perfect English. The "complaint" came from a guy in The South who had such a thick dialect that I had problems understanding him even compared to the standard US English I'm very used to and do my best to imitate.
I feel you fr
Yeah, I don't wanna insult regional dialects, but when a certain type of Deep South redneck is ranting about foreigners needing to learn better English... the call is coming from inside the house.
Lol I'm American and not even I can speak perfect English.
17:39 i don't know if my school was just poor, but we had the EXACT same things. Those tiny scooters hurt my knees so much but I loved it more
Edit: I would like to clarify that I went to my elementary school in the late *2010s*
Karen: Why don’t you want any kids? They are life’s biggest blessing and it’s cruel that you don’t want to give that to them!
Also Karen: MY 7 CHILDREN ARE ALL HELLSPAWN AND I WISH THEY WERE NEVER BORN!! 😡😡😡😡😡🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬
Also Karen: I am SO tired and no person without kids knows what sleep deprivation is. Anyways, why don't you have children?
Also Karen: Omggggg I don't get to go out and do anything fun anymore! None of my friends want to hang out because all we can do is stay here, watch Peppa Pig and listen to me bitch about being a mom!
Anyways, why don't you have children?
Adults are more annoying than kids... nobody wants to acknowledge that though. Never seen a 6 year old yell at a customer service worker or throw a full blown tantrum over someone with a rainbow shirt... just saying
@@PippyPopsSelfHarmMonica Literally lmao, in my town, there were some drag queens in carnival festival week and the adults are the ones who look at them. Toddlers will call them princesses and to pls take a pic with them 💀
Karen : omg why you are such an unnatural parent not having traditional marriage???
Also Karen : * neglects her kids and causes them traumas *
we have masculine men and feminine men, we have masculine women and feminine women. and it's gunna be okay. people need to relax and realize that their are many different kinds of people on this planet, and that's okay. thank you and i hope everyone has a good day today.
I don't understand why that is so important for some people whether a man is masculine or feminine or the same for women. Just let them be whatever they feel like and whatever makes them happy 😊
@@chris_the_heartbeat_lover.1994 fr though like isnt there already enough feminine women and masculine men for yall? 🤨 why does EVERYONE have to be like that huh??
And you have those of us who are somewhere in between, gender-wise. You can be a masculine enby. You can be a feminine enby. You can be an androgynous enby. Or an androgynous man, or woman. It's all good.
@@pokaay3163 Sadly some people just can't accept if the others not the exact same as they want everyone to be. Even psychology hates if someone not fits in their made-up standard uniform-pattern. Same goes for regular people, lot of them just can't understand that everyone can be different from the person's imagined standard patterns.
I agree. Telling your kid he's a girl because he likes to paint his nails is a gatekeep of gender roles. Just let him be camp and leave his pp alone.
18:43 the neat part is, most automatic sports cars(or just automatic cars in general) have a manual mode, be that paddle shifters or something on the stick
Speaking as both a parent and a PhD... The PhD was far harder... There's a reason very few people have a PhD but any old person can be a parent
"they have good noodles" I LOVE THE BLUNTNESS OMFG
they have good noodles
For the writing one, the key thing:
You cannot be limited to just your race and sexuality. I write the story of a guy with a Russian mother and an Inuit Father.
My IRL parents are American. What I can do though is TALK to people who do have those experiences, to learn of the cultures, see how they may interact, etc.
You don’t have to write yourself to be a legitimate writer, and it really pisses me off when people say otherwise.
My protagonist and I would disagree on a lot of things. In my Aspergers I talk to women to see if another character who is also a woman, has a similar socialization (expressed via thoughts, behaviours etc)
If you want to make a character that is not you, great! It is suggested to learn so that you properly represent people. This way you don’t make stupid mistakes, like merging the Inca and the Aztecs because that is all you think old Mesoamerican cultures were like, and not as diverse and fascinating as they actually are.
TL;DR write what you know, is beautiful because you can LEARN. You do NOT need to write what you ARE.
Wouldn't it be really boring if everyone just wrote about people like them? There'd be no diversity in the cast of characters. I like when people write about their experiences, but it's so important to also learn about others. We wouldn't have people who study history and write reports on it if that was gatekept, but they look into the region, the artifacts, the folklore and passed down history, to write about what that culture or that experience is.
Us Aspies gotta stick together. :) But, seriously, I try to do the same thing when interacting with people from other cultures.
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I wish it were so simple as just asking people for how to write something. I want to be inclusive in my writing, especially with neurodivergent characters since I'm autistic myself and I know good neurodivergent characters are few and far between, but often when I ask, I'm shut down, told "just don't write about us you'll only fuck it up and if you even try we'll do everything we can to shut you down" and like. I get it, but how are you ever going to get more accurate representation, more people to understand you, and less people who think there's something *wrong* with you, when you lambast people for asking and wanting to get it right?
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The lord da rings
The last one hit home with me.
I go out to the bar or drink at home on my days off. I usually purchase the "women drinks" because they taste better and are easier to get down. You'd be surprised the amount of people that make comments about me not being a man or that I'm gay or a woman. Like dude it gives me a buzz and it taste good, what more can you ask for when consuming liquor?
It's not just the gatekeeping masculinity, but also the stereotypes about women and gay men that are inherent in saying someone's "not a real man." They're the poster children for gatekeeping.
I love it when people try to gatekeep with stuff like “YoU cAn’T bE a GaMeR iF yOu DoN’t PlAy ThEsE gAmEs!1!1!1!”
I don't think I ever saw a drawing of 'the S' in 3D back when I was a kid, so I think another generation can take credit for the 3D effect. A simple and effective touch that I respect!
Edit: clarified wording to reflect the S drawing, not the 3DS console. Lol
I haven't even seen it so it's probably like 10 year olds or a thing from a certain country
I’ve seen one growing up but never owned one
I used to use it in my room and hide it under my pillow whenever my mom came to check on me at night
I had the red one
Ayy it's you again!
Just wanting to say for the first one:
Getting a tip at all is something to be happy for. I just recently got a parttime job at a restaurant and at my second day of work someone gave me a $2.50 tip and I was so goddamn happy that I could buy something nice from it.
And here are people complaining about getting "only" a $10 tip for doing shit all work, if you don't like it, give it back.
I’d be so happy and thankful! Every little bit helps. I’d buy a bottle of sprite with it and enjoy every last drop or buy my son an ice cream
I give 20% on deliveries and waiters, also hair stylist. More if it's good service and I can afford it.
If the service was really great at other establishments, I might tip.
Idk what else I'm supposed to do.
See, getting a tip is a good thing, but your whole fucking pay shouldn't be what you make in tips. Realistically you should be making a bare minimum of $20 an hour, an actual wage, not borderline single digits an hour with the rest covered in tips, that's just god-awful.
@@xnyxiee1784 maybe not 20 and hour, but at least a livable wage.
20 is alot more than people need.
@@iPodgirl This is the mindset. Everything I make outside my 6,70 an hour is something I am happy with. Those people don't know how much of a favor they actually do, it's sad to see that some people aren't satisfied with it.
16:33 And that is why I got my little sister a beer she wanted.
“Lets confuse the 2000’s kids”
Like our 5 year old hands werent constantly getting crushed by those scooter things you could sit on, still my favorite part of PE
I don't care what anyone says, if you're happy with just your partner and a cat, that's a family as far as I'm concerned
And to the jackass saying not to celebrate quitting an addiction before 2 years, I spent the last 4 fighting alcoholism and you bet your ass I celebrated the first month I didn't cave. To anyone else in that fight, you got this!
Awesome dude! Keep it up youre doing good!
Congratulations!!!
Congratulations! Currently battling what I think might be the start of an addiction. Caffeine. Literally I feel like I cannot go a day without having a cup of coffee, it feels like a necessity and just last week I downed 26oz of strong black coffee in one sitting. Woke up the next day feeling like absolute shit and my girlfriend informed me that I may have actually overdosed on caffeine, so that was... fun... bro, if I can manage to even go one day without caving, you best your ass I'm gonna celebrate, so props to you for lasting 4 years! Keep up the great work, my man!
@@Kinokoumori You got this!!! I believe in you!
@@Shinyspddmn Thanks! Woke up this morning and said no to coffee when my mom asked if I wanted some! I'm still itching for a cup though... But I got this! I will stay strong! POWER TO THE PEOPLE!
Thank you for standing up for us Subtitle users.
Yes
4:45 POV: the random white girl from my class gets triggered when I tell my friends how my family celebrated Lunar New Year.
I am adopted and my asian mother has raised us to celebrate.
2:36 As a purple person myself, I am very offended. I had to use a filter on my pfp so people wouldn't oppress me for that.
Also, my name is Steven, soooooo
I like subtitles because sometimes i feel that if somebody makes a joke, and you laugh, you might not notice another even funnier joke that comes right after the first one, but subtitles make it easier to. It also works when you are watching something where a lot of other noisy people are. Or, heck, if you just like to be able to know what characters are saying when they talk quietly.
I always use subtitles because I freaking hate it when they decide to make the music 90000000000x louder than every other noise in the entire movie so I always keep it lower volume than I need to, which of course means the dialogue is inelligible mumbling
thank god for loudness equalisation settings on my computer, I wish everything else had the same option... :/
I stay up late everyone else asleep and I have the volume low but don't want to miss any dialogue so subtitles are great for me.
I have a hard time hearing sometimes. Especially if there's background noise, whether it's in the movie or IRL. Subtitles are a godsend
Yeah, sometime the character mumbles or talks really fast and you can't understand what they said. I also like to see how names are spelled.
@@alittleimagination9023 oh right! names! cool!
A teen girl at a pizza shop gave me a dirty look because I wouldn't tip on a $10 pizza when all she did was hand me the card machine. I'd tip for a pizza delivery, but not that. "Guilt tipping" is getting out of hand. I empathize with service workers, especially considering the sitatution and the last few years, but geeeeeeeeeeeeeeez. I don't have a lot of money (poor) and so it just seems like there's so much extortion of extra costs where there used to be none. I can't afford to pay an extra 2-5$ for every cost on top of tax. Tipping isn't a thing in places like Europe. Restaurants need to pay their workers more and stop shifting the burden to customers.
You do realize that increasing the wage of employees is going to increase the price of the food too right? That 10$ pizza isn’t going to be 10$ anymore…
@@arrogantfop If you can't afford to pay your employees a living wage, you shouldn't be in business.
tipping is common here in germany, but it is very rarely 5€. most people give 1-3€ tip in restaurants or for deliveries.
and people get a livable wage, at least minimum wage allows a single person to live comfortably, not well, but comfortably in a 1 bedroom apartment.
@@arrogantfop ...it already isn't. It's about 15% too low...
@@arrogantfop well but in Europe people can get LIVABLE minimum wage + free healthcare and guess what, food costs basically same as in America.
With tv shows going from too quiet to hear the voices to the loud booming music, subtitles are the true hero in these situations.
For the subtitles one, I agree with Robin. I wanna focus on the show and not have to glance down after every sentence. Also, for the one about only speaking English, I don't make fun of people who aren't fluent in it, but I do try to make an effort to help them speak the language better, and I'm careful to do it in a way that isn't condescending or patronizing or anything. They're trying to learn a language I'm fluent in, it's the least I can do.
7:45 ~ the saddest part is that that woman clearly tried to have kids but obviously can’t. Seven miscarriages must have been very hard on her. I’m sure it wasn’t easy for her to come to grips with that. She’s now happy with her partner and cat and that’s all that matters! Don’t flipping tell her what does and doesn’t make a family! 😡
The true intent, or the subconscious intent, is often to wound, because they have no better way to feel good about themselves.
Someone once told me "YOU DON'T LIKE CARS? YOU'RE NOT A REAL MAN!" And it took every ounce of self control I had to not tell them "Thank you, I'm actually trans and that makes me feel better about myself!" because I'm not in a safe place to come out yet.
@@Rawkfist1501well nobody here knows who they really are, so there is a huge difference
10:20
So I'm Latino. I used to be relatively dark skinned. Idk what happened but every fucking ounce of melanin left my body. My black, Kinky hair uncurled and is straight/brown now. My brown eyes turned blue. My skin is so goddamn pale that I don't tan, I burn, INSTANTLY. I have no idea what happened. I just faded over 4-5 years. My brother too.
There's no way it's vitiligo. Idk.
But when I used to show my face I would get so heavily harrassed because I specifically said I was Latino and everyone was accusing me left and right of lying, that latinos are brown not white ect. I've never felt more goddamn rage.
But the worst part? My hair REFUSES to curl. I tried so many ways and it won't. I used to be so proud and happy with my looks because I looked just like mi abuelo and it made me feel big and strong and brave just like he was!
And after being harrassed it made my insecurity about whatever happened to me so much worse and now I won't even put my HANDS in public photos and I actively darken my skin tone when I post my face (which again, I keep to friends).
I at least want my hair back...
10:51 as a Chinese person I can confirm I use my dad’s Chinese restaurant as gathering spot for my fellow Chinese people
The correct response to “I’m sad” isn’t “NO YOU AREN’T! I AM”
Its “me too”
Yes. When Robin said "We don't need to make suffering a competition" I said "YES! SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE ONES IN THE BACK!"
21:49 | I'm coming up on four (4) years of sobriety from alcohol. Anytime somebody tells me they struggled and made it a week or month, I congratulate them and tell them to keep going. That shit was hard, and every day you don't give in to your cravings/urges is a win.
I got gatekept because I used a vape to quit smoking. "You never quit." Really? The doctor happily put me down as "non smoker," just not as a non-nicotine user.
I put down the vape two years later after reducing nicotine at a slow level. People still tell me I quit the "wrong" way. I tell them to F off.
Are you by any chance now getting, or did you get meds to boost serotonin? They can be helpful to keep urges to drink down.
@@BronzeDragon133 i am glad you got the monkey off your back!
@@BronzeDragon133 that’s a load of horseshit. I mean, yeah there might have been healthier or faster ways of quitting, but you *did quit.* If you’re clean, then you’re clean, and whatever process you used *worked.*
@@lordfelidae4505 That's what I said. But no, it was good enough for my doctor (seriously, he said non-smoker after I quit the cigs and went with the vape, just still nicotine [and even said he really didn't care if I vaped forever as long as I avoided any flavor except menthol[).
It wasn't good enough for half the nose-in-the-air purists, who whined they didn't want to smell it (it's scentless with no flavoring). Or I was doing it wrong (my doctor disagrees, so...) Or they just didn't like it (so not my problem).
People gripe about anything. I see a smoker turn to vaping, they get major congratulations for making a healthier choice from me--and are welcome to vape in my home.
I got a good gatekeeping story,
So not too long ago, it was a couple of days before winter break. So my history teacher didn’t wasn’t to give us a hard assignment, so he let us research a topic of our choice and take some notes. So I was talking to my table about what I should research. I love history so I wanted to do some research on either the Spanish empire, or the Berlin Wall. Some kid that was near me thought called me out saying how I shouldn’t choose to do that because it was very harmful for his “ancestors.” He said that I should’ve chosen to research the Mexican American war instead because of the fact that I am Mexican.
WTF, what were HIS ancestors? And where does he get off, telling you that you must research your own country? I think that'd be pretty limiting, actually.
As someone on the spectrum that cant not stand messy foods(or anything that causes ick on hands and face). Its really comforting and reliving to know others deal with the same things.
I know I don't have that problem, my favorite foods are the messiest, I love mangos and spaghetti.
28:15 my roommate is a lesbian and her lover was very abusive and controlling of her. She got rejected from many support groups because her abuser was another woman.
That’s bullshit. I am so sorry for her.
As a fellow lesbian, I am so sorry for your friend. People need to understand that any gender can abuse their s/o.
Oh, gad, that is absolutely terrifying. I am hanging on that "many," desperately hoping she found a support group full of mature and sapient individuals!
@@Vinemaple she didn't.
@@DUxMORTEM That's grim news. I hope this changes soon.
As someone with some addiction issues i really dislike the people who gatekeep friggin sobriety. The fact that you have been sober longer than me does not take away anything from my own sense of achievement.
Ikr it’s so annoying
Apparently that guy is addicted to gatekeeping now. Well, at least it's not a chemical addiction... I guess.
6:57 for those who don't know: A carburetor is an enginepart that was responsible for creating and maintaining the air-fuel mixture needed to run the engine. It got replaced by direct fuel injection into the piston chamber in the 90s, but it's still used in small motors, like those in lawnmowers or motorbikes. Also: 12:37 I also drive a manual, but boy do I love the crisp gear changes from certain DCT transmissions
Aye, thanks!
21:55 personally I am impressed and proud of any one who can be a week clean
fun story about people getting offended by pants
one of my friends told me this story about her mom. so I'm guesstimating it happened in 1970-80
she (my friend's mom) came from a very rural area, very traditionalist. But she went to study in a big city in the north for university and picked up some more relaxed habits. especially about dressing. she started wearing pants because everyone else was doing it and she found them comfortable. not a problem untill she went back to her parent's house for summer vacation.
she didn't want to get back into a gown because comfort so she just went with pants.
her parents didn't really love it as much as she did but they knew better than judge her from her clothes' choice. her father told her that if anyone ever disrespected her she should tell him and that ended the conversation.
well, as it happened there was no need for it because no one told her anything (apart from the disapproving looks)
they just went directly to her father with their complaints (they were sure he could make her stop or something)
the conversation went something like this:
"Why are you letting your daughter dress like that? it's immodest and immoral. She should be wearing a gown!"
"why? so that it's easier for you to lift it?"
and no one ever said anything again.
Savage.
Exactly. This is why I hated wearing dresses growing up. Especially as a kid, since kids are more likely to be upsidedown at any given moment. I always wore shorts under. The idea that pants are immodest is bullshit. Clothes fit onto a body. That's how clothes work.
@@Queer_Nerd_For_Human_Justice oh my, how impudent. that only works if you have a dick. actually in that case you don't need much more than pants unless it's formal attire.
but if you are a possessor of boobs you better be wearing at least 15 layers of clothes and a veil if you don't want to be through of as immodest.
the example you brought of being upside down is also invalid because obviously fallopian tubes make it impossible to have muscles. or legs.
That's a cool ass dad and I'm happy that the person experienced true parental love
Exactly, OP! Blaming others for one's own sexual incontinence is one of the oldest tricks in the book...
for the one that was like “every muscle in a bodybuilder symbolises every poem he didnt memorize:
“any nation that separates its warriors from its poets will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting done by fools”
Dolph Lundgren has a Master's degree in chemical engineering and got a Fulbright scholarship to MIT.
i found this channel recently and i haven't been able to stop watching and literally this morning i was wondering if this dude was neurodivergent because this is a really specific click with the humor i like, and now he just said he's on the spectrum! I feel so seen. Great content!!
This comment is making me wonder if I'm more neurodivergent than I realize...
A fun thing to do when people quiz you on band t-shirts is say you didn't know it was a band, you just thought the design was cute
Robin defending subtitles made me feel a lot better as someone who's hard of hearing. I've had a lot of people give me crap over asking to turn on the subtitles when it's incredibly hard for me to follow the plot without them.
I need subtitles to watch "Shetland" and "Vera" because I'm very, very North American
just make them feel like shit by telling them you're disabled
and if they reply negatively, just tell them: "you haven't ever experienced being disabled, so you can't speak about this"
Even as someone who can hear, I STILL prefer subtitles being on.
@@aiodensghost8645same, its this one thing in my brain that doesn't let me follow the plot without them
The starbucks barista waiting for you to give 40% tip for your microwaved croissant:
Tell me about it. I just dropped a $200 donation-tip on top of an $80 expense, but it was an exceptional case. This person really helped out, it's a non-profit organization on a shoestring budget, and I really needed the assistance that I couldn't get on my own without spending a whole hell of a lot more than $280. They were pathetically grateful, it was really a good deal all around.
16:28 what a legend
Are you a part of the OSC?
That person complaining about someone daring to patronise a Chinese restaurant is literally asking for raced based segregation.
And in their mind it's perfectly okay and reasonable.
Because they're actually just a racist In denial
Culture is made to be shared. Cultural appropriation is taking aspects of culture without knowing the culture around it
My favorite example is a feathered headdress is something you have to earn in Native American culture. That's why people wearing it and their halloween costumes is racist
Food on the other hand is Like the number one thing you share when sharing your culture
You probably know that I just like to ramble
If you look at the timestamps, that guy at 10:00 went from "what's your Nintendo ID" to "this is why girls..." in 20 minutes of spam posting.
He never considered that the girl might simply not want to share that info.
Rahhh
@@ladykoiwolfe she dodged a poisonous, toxic bullet
@@ladykoiwolfe i mean, could have just said so.
but considering its just 20 minutes, probably just didnt read it yet.
He could have waited, but nooo
As someone with autism, If someone tells me they've slept a short amount of hours and I respond with saying I've slept less it's mostly cause that's how I show understanding and not to minimise the other persons experiance (same thing is true in generall and not only sleep)
Same! I find it helps to be less specific with people who don't understand this, like "Oh I often don't get much sleep either, it sucks"
That's how my brain works too lol I always feel bad but I don't mean it like that
Yeah, but you've gotta be careful with that, especially when normative people are getting more insecure every year
15:00 I am Canadian and I would never say that it's colder where I am from to a man suffering from hypothermia
6:14 My grandma still buys my dad a cake, my dad is 45. Ppl who say "WeLl aFtEr __ YeArs Old Ur PaReNtS cAnT gEt U a CaKe" are just mad cuz their parents don't love them
I can't believe it Robin finally did it. He straight-up said out loud that he is bi!
Why does that matter?
@@cujoedaman it's important because he's mostly danced around the topic for a while and never really gave us a straight answer or more accurately I should say never give us a queer answer ;)
@@zachattack1279 heh nice pun !
@@zachattack1279 I mean, he doesn’t have to tell us anything if he doesn’t want to. I’m happy for Robin ofc and not mad at you, but I do want to remind people (not just you!) to be careful not to pressure anyone to explain their sexuality :)
But again, not saying it’s bad to be encouraging or anything like that!! I just know the internet too well haha
@@SketchUT I never pressured Robin to come out I kept my thoughts to myself I never said anything
Well. ..for the pants thing, I'd think that person will have an aneurysm when they find out mini skirts or any type of short skirts were for men.
Yeah really. Have they never seen those wider loincloths, or kilts? Even a drawing of a caveman with a sheepskin skirt?
Just wait until they go over to Scotland
enough of this gatekeeping.
youve been clean from self harm for a few days? im so proud of you. genuinely, youre doing amazing
havent had alcohol in a week? youre sooooo tough, and im so happy for you
went on a walk this week? im so freaking impressed, youre amazing
had a shower or did some skin care? thats so great, keep up the amazing work
finally finished that homework/assignment? i bet youll get a perfect grade
went out with some friends or family? i bet it mustve felt amazing
even the small things are worth being proud of, trust me, ive been through everything, and it is tough, but it will get better, okay?
im proud of you
I've heard more about the concept of masculinity in this video than in my entire life.
I consider myself very lucky.
I love the moment when the gatekeepers say " It's gatekeeping time!" And they gatekeep on everyone.
just like in the puss in boots movie where puss says "it's pussin' time!" and pusses all over everyone, or in the upcoming mario movie where mario is going to say "itsa mario time" and mar's the o on everyone
23:57 Robin just awoke his inner New York.
Robin you savage
I'm sick and tired of my mom gatekeeping pretty much anything. Most of all productivity. It's always, you're lazy, you can't be stressed, you can't be depressed, you can't be tired.
First it was: "you're in college and I have to work, you live in luxury"
Then it became: "You work in shifts and get to go home, I work with sick people 24/7"
And now I'm almost never home because of work: "You're a manager, you don't do real work. Can't you just take a day off and come home?!"
I'm sick of this bullshit attitude where boomers shoot down other generations without even thinking about it, just to make themselves feel better, but then instantly regret it once they run out of negative things to say. WHAT ARE YOU, 12?!
As a big fan of Robin and a native Spanish speaker who knows English as a second language, it is extremely funny to me when Robin doesn't know a word that I do (like "fiefdoms" for instance). I'm not saying that as a disservice--those are rare words and I love him so much
7:07
Just because you know a fact that children know doesn't mean you're childish.
HOW CAN YOU BE A PARENT WITHOUT KNOWING THAT STUFF?
21:49 THIS HAPPENED TO ME BEFORE some millennial got pissy with me bc i was three weeks clean from SH whereas they were six months, they told me i've "never really fought addiction" and said they hope i relapse 💀
phrick that dude. Congrats on being clean, this internet weirdo's proud of you!
That's actually disgusting. I have a friend who used to SH a lot and I know it's tough. Hope you get through it man.
What the fuck.
Someone doing that to a minor is so disgusting omg
27:10 actually, the fact that I have been suffering from insomnia my entire life is a substantial part of the reason why I don't want kids
26:24 my man got the tism I would have never known. Cool.
In Spain you're not even expected to tip because waiter can sustain themselves. Although it's not like in Japan where it would be seen as awkward.
More than awkward. It's even considered rude there. To be honest, it would be the best for every country to copy Japan in lot of things even in tipping.
@@tovarishcheleonora8542 even high school being the only chance for people to get a bf/gf?
@@neonvortex what?
@@Zaidency work culture
I know it's already been featured on this channel before, but I really like that one reply to the guy talking about how every muscle a bodybuilder has represents something he didn't learn, that says "The society that separates its scholars from its warriors will have its thinking done by cowards and its fighting by fools." Also, it's very easy and common to watch or listen to things while you work out, so he could very well be learning something at the same time he's making those muscles.
*Podcasts and audio books*: exist
True! I saw that post in an r/fatlogic video and someone was using 'gym bros are dumb' as an excuse to validate why they didn't hit the gym and exercise. I like to do both. Read poetry while doing bicep curls. Multitasking is best. 😆
If ever one of my friends start asking why don't I have twitter or reddit anymore, I will just send them some of your videos. Hell isn't that fun
Thanks so much, I was considering making a reddit account, I hadn't actually thought it through!
Being Bisexual who often leans towards male partners I felt like guilty for saying I'm in the LBGTQ. There is that worry about how people would be if I dated a woman seriously.
I don't want to be a mother and some people respond with 'people have kids in wars and it works out' and I'm like....thats not good.
Gatekeeping is insanity. It is important to call out people faking disorders or self diagnosis but yay.
I know how you feel pal, I’m Arrow ace and I identify as every gender (meaning I use any pronouns) and sometimes since I don’t give a big deal about people using my birth pronouns or because I’m not in any queer relationships sometimes I feel like my gender is isn’t as important but over time I learned that you shouldn’t worry too much about conforming to not conforming and no matter what you’re gender is valid
I noticed most of the restaurants being safe spaces for other Chinese people a lot. It's honestly really cool to see so many people of an entirely different ethnicity all in one place just, chatting and eating food. Not being harassed by others like you would see in schools or on the streets, just living their own lives and enjoying it.
My family is hispanic mostly, so sometimes when we eat at a Chinese restaurants we kind of just go "hah that's funny. we the only non-asians here" and sit down and eat. We didn't bother anyone, we didn't try to, we were just there for the food. And hey, we're supporting a local business and not McDonald's for once. I joke about the chopsticks being annoying to use but it's because I lack the proper skill and practice to use them. I'm bad at sculpting too you expect me to throw shade at Alice Adams?
Chinese food tastes amazing and I don't understand why someone would get so worked up about eating food people like. If I told everyone to stop consuming tamales because it's cultural appropriation my family would disown me on the spot. The idea that you cannot eat certain dishes because they were created by people who you weren't descended from is stupid and ironically enough is pretty racist on it's own.
I'm not speaking on behalf of chinese people, I'm speaking from experience as a POC myself and applying that logic to this situation. Eat whatever you want, I don't care.
9/10 that particular gatekeeper was White. I was yelling at my screen, "So you're saying I should boycott Chinese businesses? Is that what you're saying?"
@@Vinemaple IKR??? what else am i supposed to do, eat a goddamn basic ass sandwich from subway??
The pick me energy
@@itsgonnabeanaurfromme what, like the women who hate feminists??? the people who are fucking annoying as hell and demand attention??? neither of those are my fucking comment??? disagreeing with an idiot online is suddenly being a pick me????
i am chinese
i love chinese food
i agree with this comment
Okay but as a Chinese person I can say that Chinese restaurants are commonly used as meeting up places but we are perfectly fine with people who are not Chinese coming in an ordering food and eating out of Chinese place and in my experience it kind of makes me happy to see that people are enjoying the food of my culture
11:00
Sometimes gatekeepers are just trying to pick a fight or make themselves feel better by putting someone else down. Same old, same old. Bullies learn to use whatever tools are available to them.
Those do. I think that doctor thing is just usually before the first responders arrived like boy scouts. If you get your first stage first aid badge in boy scouts you like learn how to do first aid for before the first responders arrived to help and keep the person living and no longer going to the realm of the shadows, so I think it's more of that than anything
If you get crappy service, a small tip or no tip is understandable. The thing many people don't understand is that even if you don't tip the server, that server still has to tip out the kitchen on that bill out of their own money. That's one of the reasons I always made sure I put the best on the plate that I could. I didn't want to be the reason the server didn't get tipped and then have to tip us in the kitchen. The kitchen always gets tipped out, the servers don't always get a tip.
I was 5 years old, in prep (before year 1 in aus) and I remember this little kid teaching me how to draw a graffiti S. he explained it so clearly, I can remember the entire thing. Every single time in my life when I’ve drawn one, I remember that little kid explaining it to me, and do it step by step to his voice. It’s the only way I remember
“You draw 3 lines, then you draw another 3 lines”
“Then you connect these ones”
“Then you draw triangles on the top and bottom”
“The join the ends”
That's wholesome.
I had a dream last night where Robin, Jack and Damien were Snails in my Garden and They were Eating my Vegetables for My Soup
That’s wild
Fun
12:10 OK but my dad taught me to drive his manual truck, and I get it. The feeling of being 'one with the machine'. But he and I both agree that these days, it's just easier to have an automatic. It gets tiring.
I DONT COMMENT ON UA-cam VIDEOS BUT I GOT UNREASONABLY HAPPY WHEN I HEARD "BUT BEING ON THE SPECTRUM" BECAUSE I AM TOO AND I FEEL THE SAME WAY
Same
25:54
Kind of unrelated but the boneless chicken thing reminded me of something. My dad was eating boneless chicken with a fork. He bit the fork by accident a piece of his tooth came off. He fished it out of his mouth, showed us the piece and said
“Yeah, that’s my tooth.”
We were like
“Oh.”
We then continued eating supper like nothing happened.
WHAT- I would be crying 😭😭
My tooth hurts just from reading this.
@@Cosmicgh0stieman18 my dads a weirdly emotionless guy?? He told me he had someone fucking DIE IN HIS ARMS and didn’t lose his fucking mind????? He could’ve been screwing with me but that’s a fucked up joke anyway
Reminds me of something that happenned with my family at christmas- my brother's boyfriend was visiting us and he suddenly lost 1 of his fingers that he had a couple of days ago. All of my family ignored it and acted like it was just a normal, totally average day. I mean thats a surprising or shocking thing right? At least unexpected, and even i didnt think anything about it but i feel like i should have lol
8:42 i clapped and said it along with him and it brung me so much joy and serotonin
When my younger brother was learning to read, I(8 or 9 at the time) took the initiative and set subtitles on every single streaming platform we had.
I still use subtitles to this day. I literally won't watch any tv show or movie with dialogue and NOT have subtitles on. If there's no subtitles, chances are I won't watch it all the way through.
The whole manual transmission thing for me really is about knowing that it's a part of the past that will eventually be gone, I enjoy using them, but I don't expect others to, and I know that both automatics and automated manuals (in commercial trucks) are faster and more efficient. Still love the experience 😊
Now that automatic transmissions don't suck, I don't mind them at all. I still prefer interactive, but, man, there are so many advantages, it's worth the loss of control, now that it doesn't feel like you're driving through molasses!
@@Vinemaple hah I repeated myself 😂