Black Brit Explains The Black Love Crisis In The UK!
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- Опубліковано 1 сер 2024
- Black Brit Explains Black Love Crisis In The UK!
0:00 Introduction
0:00 Black Englishwoman Complains About Black Love
2:00 Truth About Interracial Marriage
2:55 Interracial Relationships Don't Lead To Marrage
3:40 Marital Access vs Seggsual Access
5:23 Build A Boat
7:00 Good Black Men
In this eye-opening video, we delve into the Black Love crisis in the UK, sparked by a viral video of a Black woman from the UK who expressed surprise at the existence of Black Love among Black Americans. She shared that she rarely sees Black Love in the UK, prompting a deeper look into the situation.
Key points we'll cover include:
An interview with a Black British man discussing his experiences with dating and mating in the UK.
Insights into his interactions with Black American women.
A thorough exploration of whether Black Love is thriving or in danger in Great Britain.
A comparison of Black Love dynamics between the UK and the USA.
Join us as we uncover the state of Black Love in the UK and engage in an honest conversation about the challenges and triumphs within the Black British community.
Keywords: Black Love, UK, Black British, Black Americans, viral video, dating, mating, Black British man, Black American women, Black Love crisis, Great Britain, thriving Black Love, Black community, relationship dynamics.
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I live in the UK. Interracial relationships are not as big as people are making out. There is a percentage of high value black men that have white girlfriends, and black women get hyper fixated on them and act like they are the rule and not the exception.
That pretty much happens everywehre lol
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Doesn't seem like the exception to me. Name six - just six, all "black" UK celebrity couple. Difficult isn't it?
@@deeprose115y’all are obsessed with celebrities. Just like y’all think every man will make it the NFL or NBA. It’s just not healthy.
@deeprose115 I think you may be biased or looking to much into this as you could say UK black (M) and UK black (F) married celebrity couples in the UK and that would still be hard to name as well lol.
It was report that the black Caribbean community are the only shrinking demographic in the U.K. due to being absorbed into the dominant society.
All pushing out mix race kids because they don't love thier black race in the UK.
True. Many Afro-Caribbeans are marrying Africans also. So there is a lot of bi-ethnic generations. The Afro-Caribbean population is shrinking a bit. But there is still a significant remnant.
@@mariepearl-harbour2335 older generations Africans don't like Afro Carribbeans and most don't accept thier kids mixing especially in Nigerian culture there is a divide , both have Thier own culture even though both black.
@@Wayne-fn1sw I would agree to that. Afro-Caribbeans and West Africans are not the same people. Even though they have introduced the Black British box in an attempt to emerge the two ethnicities. Not buying this.
Interesting point and I agree entirely. I’m of West African origin and was married to someone of Caribbean origin. The BIG issue was the clash of cultures and values despite both of us being black. His mother had a child out of wedlock (after marriage to his father) and his sisters were teenage, single mothers!
There were just so many differences that it filters down into the relationship and mixing with the ‘in-laws’ was even harder (they weren’t nice people).
These different groups have completely different values.
I’m from the UK, my parents are Ghanaian, I’m 38 years of age.
BM are with BW on a whole, BM are marrying BW - there are large Ghanaian, Nigerian, Congolese communities, I could go on. These nationlities are marrying within their culture.
I find that it’s ALWAYS BW who point to the 1% and say “look, all BM love WW” which is utterly ridiculous.
They just need to look around their immediate circle to see that their Black female friends are dating black males.
I want to see if I can get sources on this. I know where to find sources in the USA. Not sure what the best reputatble source is out of the UK but will do a bit of research.
The young woman wasn’t talking about marriage and you guys know that.
Well the black population and the mixed population are quite similar in numbers in the UK. So … something is happening.
@@Kim-427Once again, BW will exaggerate this. They won’t even talk about their reality, they talk about what they think they see or what they see on social media.
In the UK, excluding proximity, most friendships groups are alike, backgrounds and ethnicities are similar. Young black boys in school date young black girls, same in sixth form/college, same in University.
Again, when people look at their immediate reality, this whole interracial conversation doesn’t exist to the extent that people say. Preferences if anything is the biggest talking point, maybe with BM preferring lighter skinned women.
That is not to say that interracial dating is non-existent.
@@carrington2949Adults are having sex!!!!! BM are sleeping with WW and WM are sleeping with BW and creating babies.
This still doesn’t mean that there is a grater evidence of BM not dating/marrying BW.
My wife is a dark skinned British born Ghanaian woman and we are both in the U.K.
I asked her once if she ever had difficulty attracting black men during her adult life.
She told me that this has never been a problem for her as an adult.
One of her closest friends she met in university is a white woman who exclusively dates black men. My wife told me that when they went to clubs that this friend chose for them to go too, she already knew she wouldn’t get any attention as they tended to be clubs where black men looking for white women would go.
However, when she went to clubs or events that predominantly black people frequented, men giving her attention was not an issue.
For the black women who think black men don’t check for them, what sort of places are you finding yourself in?
The clue to how to solve your problems can be found in my comment right here!
@@davidgriffiths6814 Thank you!! BM are not denying that IR dating doesn’t exist but to say that the majority of BM are strictly after WW is just false, a lie even.
If I’m tall dark and handsome and know that I can get attention from WW, I’m going Soho, Piccadilly Circus, West End. If I’m looking for BW, I’m going South London 😂😂
As a fellow Ghanaian, community is importing to our people, same as Nigerians, Zim, Kenya, Angola etc. Whether is family pressure or whatever, we’re not just bringing home white gfs or bfs.
For the woman in that video to insinuate that IR dating is seen moreso in the UK than in US, I respectfully disagree.
@@kingtchala6832nah man facts, interracial dating is more common in UK (and Europe) than US. Go anywhere out if London and you find so much more IR relationship
@@davidgriffiths6814 Some black men are only happy when they are race mixing with white women even though white women Will use them.
@@anfieldreds_1892 o
APART FROM LONDON other uk cities and towns people are more racist and closeted and don't mix only with thier own. Race .
@anfieldreds_1892 you've got to consider the size of the black dating pool outside of the major cities. It's pretty much non existent
He doesn’t know much. Black people are 3% of the U.K, the percentage of BM that date non-black women is 80%!!! That means the majority are with non-blk women...
2% of the population is misleading... even if that was 1% blk/non-blk and 1% white/Asian, thats a lot of blk people marrying out, that would be 1 in 3 of all blk couples. But it’s way higher...
@stocks-hz1hu You rarely see black men with black women in the UK.
@@AJ-nd4nk I’m glad yall telling the truth. All this gaslighting is ridiculous. We aren’t blind. Lol
Yes they are embarrassed and lying in these comments to appear pro black to Americans. It doesn't matter, but UK BM need to own it and stop comparing to newer immigrant populations in the UK and the Americans to pretend 99% of UK BM date black or aren't very anti the idea of dating a bw.
It is actually about 47% black caribbean men and 35% black African descent men so your stats are also overstated. Black women also marry out at 30% rate here last time I checked so fair amount of black women do too.. Most mixed race people here however do marry white people.
This conversation is so silly lol. Us being 2% of the population is precisely why people (men and women) date outside the community. Dating in the modern world is hard. You're trying to connect on so many different levels. You're no longer marrying the first or second person you have a serious relationship with. As a result it's MUCH harder to find a match. I've got barely any dating experience but I can tell you just based on numbers it'll be damn hard for me to find a woman I like who fits my criteria and is also black. And that's got nothing to do with black women. It's just people. It's a numbers game and most people, regardless of race, aren't going to be compatible. If you limit yourself to black people only you're signing up to a VERY hard game. Personally I am biased towards finding a black partner and put more effort in there, but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't a real struggle.
Two things can be true at once. I'll not deny there's a sizeable chunk of shallow self hating colourist white worshipping black dudes just looking for white women to have sex with. But at the same time, the numbers are against us no matter what you do or how pro-black you are. I wouldn't expect a black woman to pass up on a white man soulmate just for me when she probably hasn't even met me yet and maybe never will. And as much as we know those shitty black guys are out there you can't tell who's shitty just from looking at them. It's really sad listening to people low-key hating on mixed couples and mixed kids(!) that they see everywhere based on what they THINK those relationships must be like.
I think some of us need to grow up and realise that you can critique problematic interracial dating without throwing the baby out with the bath water and acting like interracial dating is something that's purely a negative thing.
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What I was told back in the 80s for the younger crowd was that the caucasian females were quicker to have sex than the Black females. So a lot of the Black males gravitated to the Caucasian females. However, when it came to marriage that wasn't happening.
He actually explains that a little further down in the interview
So white girls are easy? 😬
As a black man in England I can say that is true.
The freaky loose nature of white women gets a hold of a lot of black men
That makes no sense. Because black women are always single baby mommas
@@Unlimited-D-Works Caucasians can afford abortions. You think those caucasians who attack abortion clinics are doing it because Black people go there? Plus this is a discussion about England.
The reason why the Carribean population is shrinking is that post 1960, there has been no new wave of Carribeans coming to the UK, and those that came in the 60s have returned home. However, there are constant waves of Africans coming here as students, refugees, or illegal migrants. Carribean women are having less children and white women who are with carribean men are having more children. As the mixed race population grows, the black population shrinks.
Black Caribbean londoner, born and raised. In my 30s
There's a lot of mixed kids in my generation however the vast majority of my ethnic group marry or stay in black relationships.
And often when you see people together it's usually the young that interdate the most (for obvious reasons.)
On one day I once passed maybe 5/6 black men with their so called mixed race children all in row on one street alone. In the town centre there were probably 2 black men with their all black children. This matches the general pattern everywhere in the UK.
There's still a lot of black men that are free and available. I don't see the issue.
Besides, there's no shortage of black women with mixed babies too.
I see no issue
@@okenetrust me. Very disingenuous when they do this.
@masonbennett5019 What they don't talk about is most of the half black mixed race children actually comes from black women, more than black men
@@Eman14128 I have enough mixed cousins from black mothers to confirm this.
So it’s a thing there? Ok.
Most black men in the UK date white women.
I’m not sure why, but my guess is it’s because there’s less black women to choose from and there’s also more racial harmony between blacks and whites here. Therefore interracial relationships are more accepted.
Love the interview setup, chez!
Where did you get that stat of IR is 2% in the UK?
The current rate of interacial relationship/marriage was 7% at in the 2021 Census. That covers all ethnic groups. Largest percentage being black and white, however Chinese women being the most likely to marry out. For the UK at least BM and BW marry out at around the same rate, with BM only slightly more. But if you drill down on that figure, its more likely people of Caribbean. I put that down to the fact we have lived here longer and spread out of large cities to more predominantly white towns and cities.
The Caribbean dactor is due to culture or lack of it.
Haven't the Indians been here the same amount of time as the Carribeans? (Innocent question) and they have not sort out interriacal marriages. Sex is sex I won't say they haven't sort out sex with white women. But marriage itself? An extremely rare few.
@@TheDianaLDNI’m a Black Brit. Late thirties. 2nd generation Caribbean. I would say Asians (Pakistanis and Indians) do have relationships and/or sexual relationships with white women, but marriage is extremely rare. If so, it happens up north of England. There are mix race children (Asian/white) but it’s rare that it leads to marriage unless the woman converts to Islam (in relation to Pakistani). Or in regard to Indians, it’s mostly women and they will marry a white guy as it’s more acceptable to take that man home. Or a white guy that matches their social class. A couple of Asian girls have told me so directly.
Black people in the UK have a different context. Many of them still Identify with their original nationalities. The ones more assimilated mix well. I would check that 2% figure (interacial marriage?). When I lived anworked there in 20 ago It more normal than in the states.
The mixed relationships are 6 % now. Most black people marry in their ancestral community. UK doesn't have the US problem. That dynamic is closer in Carribeans but not Africans.
Great interview!
Thanks!
As a Black British millennial, most of my friends who are in long-term relationships are black couples. Inter racial couples are still in the minority but if you are perpetually online, you may think it's the opposite.
Exactly
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Awesome! Would love to have you on -- anytime if you're open to it. You live in the UK also -- right?
@@ChezCharde
Yes I’m in the U.K… Are you over here?
Lot's of interracial dating in the UK...BUT, there is also a lot of black love in the UK too....Visual black love as well, black couples holding hands, being together, actually interacting like a proper couple...
The mixed couples are visually 'together' as well, less overt hate, less stigma...The diversity of orientation in the UK is something else...(in a good way)...
It's very rare that you'll get racially motivated harrasment because of the colour of your partner...In the US, you sill get folk comeing up to your face and making rude comments about the colour your partner....
In the UK, majority of folk of whatever race will shut you down if you try to racially attack/harrass a mixed couple of ANY race...
A lot of white families hate Thier kids race mixing and it creates divisions and tensions in thier families.
In the US those couples are accepted it’s very rare you’ll get negative comments about interracial relationships in the US. Please you statement is inaccurate. I live here and see that these relationships don’t get much pushback as before.
@@empress9143 They do get looks still. No one is going to come up to you and say anything but people may give a surprise look even these days. And it depends on what state you live in America. Maybe where you live it’s no big deal but where I live in Pa. those couples still may get a stare or a glance. In some states it’s just not acceptable and the people of a community may let you know. As much as many of you try to act like it’s no big deal it really still is as you can see by these comments.
@@Kim-427 it’s still rare these things happen. Plus I’ve lived in various regions and got the most parts except for very bigoted areas, which is no surprise, you’ll get flack for interracial marriage. Plus the persons statement was ignorant, they put it as if every mixed race couple gets flack and is treated like a zoo animal.
@@empress9143 I’m older and I’ve seen much. And I happen to have been raised up in one of those racist cities in Pa. I’ve lived in other cities in the Northern part of America as well as the southern part of America. And maybe from that person perception it was bad. Many of us can only speak from our experiences. Your experiences are different from the commenter and mines as well.
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Haha! Planning on doing more! I hope this guest past the UK test I know you had some very strong thoughts about the last video I covered!
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No marriage, No cohabitation and No children.
Hmmm - I am U.K. based and I am not convinced that the stats he has provided is even close to being accurate.
This is a subject I am quite interested in as I do think that the issue has been inflated to leave black women in a state of perpetual victimhood.
I have been hearing that the majority of black men date white women for most of my 50 years and certainly since the 80s.
However, my personal experience shows otherwise with the vast majority of black men I know (and I know a lot), only exclusively dating black and mixed with black women.
Those who would sleep with non-black women don’t see them as an actual dating option, leaving a very very very small selection of black men who would date and / or marry non black women.
That is not to say that there isnt a disproportionate amount of black men, when compared to men of other ethnic groups who date outside of their race in the U.K.
I am aware of a few black men who only date white / Asian women but most black men I know are embarrassed to even let anyone know that they have been messing with a non-black woman and prefer to keep that secret!
Roughly from memory, the 2011 statistics provided by the Office of National Statistics (I haven’t had a proper look at the 2021 stats), around 30% of black people of marrying age have been married at some point.
Of the men who fall into that category, around 47% of men who identify as black British, black Caribbean, or black African (not including men who identify as mixed with black) are either married or living with a non-black partner.
However, around 39% of women who identify as black British, black African, or black Caribbean were also married or living with a non black partner.
That’s only a difference of 8%!
Further, if only 30% of black people have been married at some point, that leaves around 70% of people who we don’t know what their preference is.
In addition, just because someone happens to be with a non-black person at the time when they complete a census, that doesn’t mean that this is their preference or that they only date non-black people. It only shows that they wasn’t with a black person at the time when they completed the census.
So while I don’t agree with the stats presented during this discussion, the evidence still shows that the majority of black people date other black people in the uk
London yes the majority of Afro-Caribbeans and Africans marry amongst each other including those of mixed heritage. In cities like Nottingham and Leeds it's very different. In Nottingham, the majority of Afro-Caribbean men marry European/Caucasian women. Some marry mixed heritage women. Very few marry Afro-Caribbean women.
Something to think about. It depends on the UK cities you travel to.
Interesting.
@@mariepearl-harbour2335yes! This conversation may be more London centred. I’m from the counties and growing up it was rare to see black married couples. If you did see it, it was my grandparents generation. (Windrush generation)
“…just because someone happens to be with a non-black person at the time when they complete a census, that doesn’t mean that this is their preference or that they only date non-black people” I 100% agree with this!!!
@@Ne55y Which counties are you from?
3:36 Figured as much some folks always want to blow things up to be more than they are.
That seems to be a theme on social media lol
If interracial marriage is only 2% of the population. I would ask where was this sista looking?
@stocks-hz1huProve it. We are all ears.
they always focus on the rich black man that marries interracial, not the every day black man .
What on earth is that gentleman talking about? A simple google search will show you that in 2011 about 40 per cent of black men in marriages or civil partnerships were with white women. I myself remember reading an article about it, the figures were slightly higher amongst black men of Caribbean heritage in comparison to men of African heritage. In 2024 I imagine that has only gone up. I moved to the UK from Nigeria and have lived here for about 20+ years, I do a double take when I see black couples. Especially when it involves a black man who was born in the UK.
Because black men who were born and bred in the UK don't really go for black women. The black men I see marrying black women here are mainly men who have spent time in black majority countries (where black women's beauty is appreciated). I find, if he has spent some time in Africa or in the Caribbean he has less issues marrying a black woman. But the men who are born and bred in the UK will not touch a black woman with a barge pole!!! There is such a big difference in their attitude towards black women.
I know exactly what that young woman was talking about when she said she doesn't see black love.
Only God knows where that gentleman's 2% figure came from. It is not at all correct.
I'll have to see if he has sources. I know he was born and bred in the UK and he exclusively dates Black Women.
I'm Nigerian, too and you're looking through a narrow lens. Yes, the U.K. has very diverse communities, especially in North London. But the mass majority of couples still marry within their own ethnic groups and social circles. It's definitely NOT 40% of Black Men be it Brit Black or African or Caribbean men!
@ChezCharde Chez the guy is speaking much truth!
what constitutes intermarriage for multiracial people in britain? Search the former sentence to find the 2.2% number he cited. But yes, sara is right.
@sara...You are right if it's pertaining to London but definitely not the case in Birmingham both in the UK as you know. I expect most BM to dumb down the amount of IRR occurrences as it mostly doesn't impact on them, so they don't notice it as much.
I'm still wondering what percentage of Black British husbands are married to Black women. He kind of skirted around that question. Dittos for Black British wives.
I think he said its only about 2% interracial marriage but I want to see if he can get me sources on that i saw some who definitely challenged the claim
@ChezCharde That's what I'm confused about. Was that 2% of British marriages or 2% of Black British marriages? I suppose I could look it up too. 🤔
2% of all marriages in the UK are interracial. Meaning every other marriage in the UK is same race.
Though it wasn’t mentioned how many black people are getting married, it can be deduced that the ones who are are marrying each other. That’s what I’ve witnessed and what my own marriage reflects.
They scared to release the data it will freak you out.
4:30 Finally! someone who listens!
He's not telling the truth. Most carribean men in the UK marry or impregnate white women. His 1st mistake was comparing the UK to the US in regards to black people. The UK is very very white. All blacks in the UK only make up 4% of the population there while we make up 14% of the much larger US. So he shouldn't try to compare our stats to theirs. Saying international marriage is only 2% of the UK population while blacks only make up 4% doesn't help his story. It's interesting how the woman was wrong about what she saw living in the UK, but this man has all the answers.
She needs to interview someone who's going to tell the truth and has an understanding of how statistics work. Not someone who's simply going to fall in line for a message and agenda.
carribean men marrying and impregnating white women is just a stereotype and doesn't represent the majority in the UK.
I thought the 2% figure from the interviewee was suspect as it’s already known that the younger BM in the U.K. date out at around 50%. Mixed-relationships are more prevalent among blacks people in the U.K. than it is in the States. The last available marriage figures I could find from the Census of 2011 had black marriages at 23.6% which is quite low.
"The truth" is determined by
where you live in the UK!
Yes black males in the UK go for mixed race and white women. Some, like monoracial bw, but you will see a lot of ir relationships bm/ww in the UK, lots of ww with mixed kids in tow and white grandparents with mixed grandkids in tow. UK bw were very resistant to ir dating for decades, but these days, if it's a choice between being on the shelf like many, especially dark skinned women from Gen X back are or dating out, then Mills and Gen Z are going where they can find love and appreciation.
@@barryhamilton7254 I’m glad you mentioned the US and that it’s not the same as the UK. Many from the UK try to throw that back at us
I would say that 95% of blk households have a non blk person in it. In my family alone nearly everyone has a white or Asian in there. So yes there is a crisis for those of Caribbean descent. Especially as most of the offspring’s marry white therefore destroying the Caribbean heritage but that might be the plan. Who knows. People say love is love and you can’t help who you fall in love with yet people also manage to know whom not to fall in love with and to hate.
Lol how about preserve your culture in your homelands, you literally immigrate to a white country to be around white peoples but complain about marrying whites. Stop taking up black American talking points.
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The figures available online are not very reliable because they are based on surveys or census records. Many people in Black communities in the UK are suspicious of questions relating to their race and family life and therefore choose not to participate or respond to those questions.
What we know from anecdotal evidence and our intimate knowledge of life in the UK for Black people is that:
• Black Africans in the UK tend to marry other Black Africans. Interracial marriage is not common among Black Africans in the UK. Many Black African families in the UK do not approve of white-black interracial marriage. However, many Black Africans have relationships with white people but not necessarily with the intention of marriage, especially Black African men with white women. If the woman becomes pregnant, they may end up marrying her, even though she would not have been their personal preference for marriage. Such marriages do not last long. The man will often end up marrying a Black woman.
• Interracial relationships between Black and white people are more common in Black Caribbean communities than in Black African communities in the UK. The reason is that in African cultures, you don't marry the individual but the whole family. African men and women are raised to believe that the family always comes first, including extended family members. The concern among Africans is that marrying a white person may lead to serious clashes because white people are brought up in a culture of individualism, which is the complete opposite of African cultures. African Caribbeans, having adopted Western cultures and individualism, are less likely to find themselves at odds with white partners than Black Africans are.
Let me give you a real example. A Black African in the UK knows that he or she has responsibilities towards other members of the family, including extended family members. If your distant cousin's daughter needs school fees, you know that it is your duty to contribute. If your uncle's neighbours in Africa are sending their child to study in the UK and you're asked to accommodate that student you've never met, you do so as your duty to your family. You know that they would do the same for you or your children.
If you're married to a white person or even a Black person who is not of African origin in the sense that they were not brought up with the same values, you're always going to fight with your spouse because they won't understand why you have to do all that and spend money on others outside of your home.
For Africans, these values are more important than love. They define love and marriage in terms of these values: "If you truly love me, you'll not ask me why I'm always sending money to my relatives in Africa." That sort of thing.
I'm from the uk and every wedding I've been to has been young black couples, that young lady's truth is mad!!
Lady, you need to do a video about Ottawa,Canada. The most interracial couples I've ever seen
A gentleman would always wear a tie, and never sit with his legs splayed . Leg over leg is acceptable. I always find it laughable when black men TRY to appear more sophisticated than they actually are. His position and posture betray his upbringing and background.
But isn’t a man’s legs spread open more of a biological response than it is a cultural one? I hear men do it to assert dominance (subconsciously, of course).
Question though, I live in the US and i am first generation Trinidadian. I cant really relate to native Black Americans, the culture is very different than Caribbean culture.
Does abyone think im wrong for being open to dating and marrying any race?
You're not wrong
No you aren't. Even black American community states the Black American family crisis and it's cultural.
Who cares? If you were desirable the best black men would be seeking you out. Also, Caribbean culture is a plantation culture on steroids. Stop trolling.
Joe Gomez, Bukayo Saka and Raheem Sterling are the few British black footballers with black girlfriend I know...
So true. Most go white, especially after becoming successful.
He is being untruthful, like many black men in the USA they do prefer to date women who are lighter in complexion or a different race. Africans sometimes marry out of their race but not as often as people from the Caribbean. Having lived in the UK longer than he the stats of interracial marriages are much higher. What is black love? I thought the colour red represented love and the colour of blood.
Below is an excerpt of the figures in 2018.
"Interracial couples may seem common but the latest figures show they account for only 7% of relationships in England and Wales. The latest Newsbeat documentary, Interracial Couples: Our Stories, gives a snapshot of life in an interracial relationship in 2018.Jul 11, 2018"
Office for National Statistics estimates suggest that 956,700 mixed-ethnicity people were resident in England (as opposed to the whole of the country) as of mid-2009, compared to 654,000 at mid-2001.[12] As of May 2011, this figure surpassed 1 million.[13] It was estimated in 2007 that, by 2020, 1.24 million people in the UK would be of mixed race.[14] Research conducted by the BBC, however, suggests that the mixed race population could already be twice the official estimate figure - up to 2 million.[15] According to The Economist in October 2020, the 2011 census figure "is probably an undercount, since not all children of mixed marriages will have ticked one of the mixed categories, and the number is likely to have grown since the census".[16]
Just because you guys in the UK (especially Caribbeans) have a problem with self-hate and love dating anyone who doesn’t share the same skin tone as you, doesn’t mean you have to project your view onto Americans.
Besides, the USA is far too segregated compared to the UK for interracial dating/preferences to be as common as you think.
@@cypher3604 On the contrary, Generational black Americans, especially the men claim to have self-hate yet they chase after white women more than any other group. I do NOT have the same negative experience with white people as I have lived and assimilated with all races throughout my life. I go through life by judging people as an individual rather than by race.
I think that the West Indian and African communities may be different here..
They sure are. He is forgetting Afro-Caribbeans and West Indians who come from a MGM/admixtures background. Again a taboo subject.
Africans and west Indian's are not the same and don't tend to get on ot mix .
@@jonesroberts3640 In London, they are mixing a lot. A lot of West African men marrying Afro-Caribbean women. An increasing amount of Afro- Caribbean men marrying West African women also... A lot of Bi-ethnic children.
@@mariepearl-harbour2335outside of London other UK cities and towns people are very segregated and racist people mix with thier own communities because they are not open minded.
@@marthasheilds2446 Nottingham. There are more mixed heritage people than Afro-Caribbean people in this strange city. The people in this city are off key racist, and off key colourist and texturist.
London is beautifully multi-ethnic.
The most important question, because there are many discussions in the comment section, agree, disagree, statements, statistics, etc. etc.
The question: What is the GOAL of all this black and white interracial discussion?
Idk. But it's those types of relationships that helps weaken and reduce the "black" population; maybe that's the agenda of some?
My family are from the Caribbean so their generation mostly partnered up with people who came from the same background. Marriage and families started to breakdown in Britain. My aunts and my mum never married and the men were not fully committed. My uncles were not fully committed to the families they created, they were reckless for the most part. I have quite a few mixed cousins due to 2 of my uncles being with white women even my granddad left my grandmother for a French woman and they had a child together while my my gran was still married to him.When I first visited America it was very refreshing because of the black families I saw out and about. All of my mum's cousins there were married and had families. They couldn't understand how we were all single. I'm not saying I didn't get attention from black men in Britain but the attention I got in America from men was on another level. At one point I was ready to move to America but had a couple of relationships which didn't quite turn out. I have to say though that each time I went back to America I noticed more and more mixed relationships which saddened me.
@@icilmaa Judgement is coming for these reckless Afro-Caribbean men. Even European/Caucasian women are having problems with them. The BM and WW relationship ends up sour.
The WM and BW relationship is more genuine and a success.
There is an Indian men and Afro-Caribbean and African women Union emerging which seems to have a good success rate also...
@icilmaa your description is very normal for the UK Caribbean population minus the French mistress etc. Hen X and older women on the shelf and sadly many of them are the main advocates for black love while the men ignore them. Some have been single for decades, childless and past child bearing age. Mixed cousins is common in Caribbean families too and often left fatherless or estranged from one side of the family, either the black or white. The UK has been like this since the Windrush gen got here. Some men were with ww back then due to the lack of bw here at first and it continued. To me, Gen X men were the main gen to date out and the rest is history.
I've seen this same pattern amongst Carribbean men and it's sad really because they can't seem to see the direct connection between broken families and broken communities. They often complain about the broken community whilst not seeing their juvenile ways of being "lead by their loins" and refusing to take on the meaningful challenge of raising their own children, is DIRECTLY adding to the problem.
Where I grew up (Ladbroke Grove, Mozart in the 80's/90's), it wasn't uncommon for many of my Carribbean friends to talk about being a "gyalist" or "getting as much pum pum" as they could was the goal.
Sure, it's understandable for teenage boys to do this but if their only models for manhood/masculinity were the men in the community behaving in the SAME WAY as adults, there wasn't gonna be much chance for them. Unless they rejected that cultural norm and did it differently.
@@ancientfuture9690 Yes absolutely. Caribbean and West Indian men from South London areas like Peckham and Brixton are like this 'gyalis' a fashion trend, 'lustful' etc... Before you know it, they are a baby daddy with whole leap of children. Not much hope for these men or the women who end getting involved with these men, especially those women who end up being their baby mothers...
@@ancientfuture9690 It's the legacy of slavery when families were destroyed and men were sent to stud farms to produce children for the workforce. We see the consequence of that playing out today.
A very intelligent and honest answer. You'll have to go generation by generation. I've noticed interracial relations is just a dating and/or sexual thing.
Well said 💯
Yes it's a fetish.
@@larry_saytee More for BM and WW couples. It's different for WM and BW couples.
I agree. The proportions are far higher in dating/hookup culture than marriage. And when they do marry, I notice they always divorce as well. They never have longevity. When they have longevity, there’s cheating.
@@mariepearl-harbour2335 👈the denial is real with this one 🤣🤣. You keep telling yourself that if it helps you sleep better
Nice interview, chez you are so beautiful man , your husband find a real one ❤ very rare, congrats to that brother 😅😂😂😂.
Men do not need any wealth to crack a broad if he has physical attributes. All of that build a boat stuff is out.
You sound like a future cultivator of countless baby mammas. 😂
@@carrington2949 Yea mane not Future, current.
There are also a lot of black men in the UK who prefer biracial women. When you factor that in, you don't see a lot of black men with black women in the UK. Also, they have to use African or Caribbean couples to boost the black couple numbers. There aren't a lot of black men born and raised in the UK who want black women, like Janelle Monae black, not Zendaya black.
Every biracial woman iv seen has been with white men in the uk
@@jayreyndogz1791Same old story BM having a preference but not being preferred by their preferences.
It's interesting that this vid popped up on my feed. Im from the US but I previously lived in the UK. Just yesterday I was remembering how surprised I was at the lack of black couples I saw there. It was rare that I saw a black couple (unless they were from the Horn, which they typically stay within their nationality in the US as well). The vast majority of the time when I saw a black man or woman their significant other was non-black. It left me with the impression that for black ppl in the UK, they are not each other's first choice in dating and don't see each other as having any major commonalities.
@kgkg4118 correct. The men started dating out decades ago and the women had no choice but to follow suit. This is for Caribbeans. It was follow suit or be left on the shelf and childless. However, the newer African immigrants date intraracially more, but even a lot of the men do date and marry out.
@@rewghobyup.Black women have become more open to dating outside their race, it’s not a bad thing!
This woman was clearly flirting with the guy but she’s out of her league, she has more chance of winning the lottery than getting with this guy!!
Black women in the UK would turned down a black guy at an event but then complain when he leaves with the white women that wanted him😂, but in the end black men marry within there culture same with the white women.
It's just that young people are curious and go were they have positive experiences.
I often wonder about the success rate of interracial marriages.
I am from the U.K. and I attend a wedding every other weekend between black peoples. That woman is capping.
Some guy talks to some women and throws out stats.....
I know plenty of Black people in relationships with Black people. And White people and Asian people.
Race is not as big an issue here as it is in America and though I havent seen the video with the young lady in question, but, I would be very interested to understand her full context.
Race is always a issue in the UK, USA and Australia and Europe.
People of all races are more racist and even black Americans are racist and fed up of the treatment and the UK is following tolerance and attitudes are changing .
@jonesroberts3640 its an issue in EVERY country, some call it tribalism, but, its still race.
But, here, race isn't the issue it is in the US.
@RedPapaG Race is a issues all over the UK everyone complaining about how high levels is and how many feel uncomfortable and its left the UK people becoming racist and hostile.
@rogerdoger3347 the point is not that there is no racism in the UK, the point is that in America it is way more of an issue.
Context is everything. If levels of racism in country X is a 1/10 and it increases to 4/10 people will feel it and rightly complain, that still doesn't make it as prevalent a problem as racism in a country that has 8/10 racism.
Couch not long enough, lighting too soft, no barrier. If i was Mr. Charde I be like "hells no", can't you do this on zoom. Dude need to pull that arm in.
My husband was there behind the camera. Ain’t nothing happening 😂
@@ChezCharde I watched and listened to many of your videos and I have commented often. I recognize your excellence as a person, your religious conviction, and never doubted you. I actually thought to myself that your husband might be nearby: the Simone Biles husband interview came to my mind when she too, was right there. Different content however. I understand "setting a mood" and making the person interviewed feel comfortable (I get the Kevin Samuels vibe) but for such content between opposite sexes maybe two chairs and brighter lighting would be better. Perhaps an antiquated suggestion and outlook. I appreciate you and apologize for any offense.
This guy is from the UK? What part?
Statically African racial groups only marry at a 40% rate .carribeans marry at 26-28 % in the UK, so I would presume that the majority of interracial marriages stems from the Caribbean Across the board the black community have the lower marriage rate in comparison to other ethnic groups.
This could be for a list of reasons
-Financial instability
-Lack of mental health awareness
-the normalision of cohabitation .
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Thats a suspect uk accent, Has he lived in the US for many years?
He was trying to play down and Americanize his accent! He has also been in the US for a few years
Remember!: the children that are born, the offspring, are the future.
In this global system, those in power.
I was born and raised in England, my parents were part of the Windrush era from Jamaica. After living in the USA for 20+ years. And in returning to England I was mortified. I grew up in the north, and you will rarely find black Caribbean couples. All I saw were copious amounts of mixed-race children and interracial couples. There still is hope though, because it's going to take black Africans to replenish the black community.
The audio on this is terrible, particularly when the man is speaking.
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The very same philosophy of Divide and Conquer america uses, the Brits and greater western civilization - culture employ!!!! They share notes and strategies!!!
Wait. He doesn’t approve of interracial relationships?
I'm a black American who lives in a part of the country where there's not many other black people around. I would physically have to move to another state to Find "black love"
I live in long island NY, born and raised. But long island is Predominantly White people and Latinos.
The US statistics show that 36% of black men and 29% of black women are married. 21% of black men are married to non-black women, leaving 28.44% of black men married to black women. 0.56% of black women are married to non-black men. Between 2015 and 2019, black women have given birth to 3,443,589 children aged 15-49, with 36% of the children fathered by non-black men. Black men are getting married black women baby mamas
He said white people @stocks-hz1hu
I had a young lady that I used to go out with back in the 90's and she lived in Masappequa Park area. She was friends with some of the guys from the group Leaders of the New School (or whatever thier rap name was). I say that because from what I remember that area was filled with a lot of middle class black families when I went to see her. Back in the early 2000's my cousin moved to LI. I can't remember the name of the city but it starts with a B. Maybe Babylon I think but once you leave Queens its a couple exits off the LIE. But that area was filled with all kinds of black folks. I know the further east you went it was less BP but that's the Hamptons area. My family moved from LI and I haven't been there in years but the black population couldn't have declined that much
@@dbig48d yeah those dudes were from Freeport I believe. There's still black people on the island, but it's nothing like it used to be. Black people are surrounded by whites and Latinos now. Especially Suffolk and Nassau counties.
Whattt?!?! So it’s changed? I lived in LI for 4 yrs and I was in a black community. There were not many Caucasians where I were.
In my youth I dated snow bunnies. I was always going to get married, but was going to marry within my own race..long story short, my black wife turned out to be a narcissistic sociopath, who abused me and allowed her grown daughter to do the same.i even wrote a book about it. “ Back in the day “ sacrifice and “ Back in the day” redemption now available on Amazon, By Tony Gray
Narcissistic is In all races.
Oh sure, there are no narcissistic women amongst the daughters of colonizers. 🤣🤣🤣
@@jonesroberts3640 Absolutely 💯 in agreement, however I didn’t expect to be treated like a house slave by my own wife..
@@carrington2949 eh… come on now… I expect bad treatment from Caucasians, however women are women 🤔
@@keithgray4891 And So Caucasian women are the exception to history. Sure buddy. Just say you like who you like and keep it pushing. 🤣
Interracial marriage stats are only 2% in the UK. What are the percentage of married black men in the UK that are married to non-black women? I can guarantee its way higher that in the USA. 15% of married black men are married to non-black women. I would put money on it that its higher than 15%, especially among Caribbean men.
I'm black british, but with carribbean heritage. Most bkack carribbean people in UK, bred ourselves out. Most of us are mixed now. Most of my family married white people. Its only African people with African parents that stick to their culture, however even that is changing.
Finding Stats that concern UKs black population aren’t as comprehensive unfortunately. But I would like to know myself.
What about high powered blk american women who marry white guys. Especially actresses.
Not that common you don't see white men in the UK with black women most are racist .
Very rare Americans don't mix much tend to stick to thier own kind.
Shout out to Psychacks
Older blackwomen are getting into relationships with old WM, bcos old BMare looking for younger thing.
The 80/20 rule has destroyed our B.W. dating option's.Waiting at the finish line for a top 20% successful B.M.it get's crowded and the competition is real with different race's under 25yrs.Date who is in around you and stay in your league
Is the black Brit in the room with us😅
You have beautiful curly hair. Pretty lady.
Obviously, having sex does not equate to a relationship, and Love, is separate from marriage. No one is getting married these days. The game has been figured out. So please, stop with the cap
What he is saying is factually incorrect for the black Carribbean community which that woman probably comes from judging from her name I searched to be "Alexandra marshall grant".
"Black british" isn't an all encompassing term, and doesnt help when addressing things for specific communities.
According to the latest census, the Afro Caribbean community is 1% of the UK population around 600'000, and the mixed white/ black caribbean population has jumped up to 0.9% of the general population. By the next census, there will likely be more mixed- race carribeans people than black carribeans with two black parents.
According to the BBC in 2009, 48% of black Caribbean men and 34% of black Caribbean women was in interracial relationships, so it's probably even higher now.
Couple that with a low number of new immigration from the Carribbean due to their independence from the British commonwealth, we are on track to dissapearing as a distinct ethnic group from the UK.
The black African community however is indeed growing, going from 0.9% in 2001, to becoming the majority black community in 2011 at 1.8%, up to 2.5% in 2021 over the span of 20 years.
The black love most people see in the UK are from black African couples, not (young) black Carribbean people, but much love to the African community.
Most are african immigrants which has led to the increase in percentage.
Also, the caribbean is part of the commonwealth as are Ghana and Nigeria so thats not the reason.
@@ZuliailuZ183I made an error with the commonwealth part, I meant British colony, but will read up on both thanks.
@@AxiOll Most Afro-Caribbean households are single handed households. Many European women who go with Afro-Caribbean men usually end up single mothers.
2% is a lot!!
This her husband?
Nope!
@@malarki5 Ok. Im new to the channel so im still learning.
Chez, you need to teach black women how to look natural and beautiful.
That would be nice but weave lashes raptor claws over weight attitude is yucky most ❤❤❤
Word
@@truthtelling1195 now I definitely know your gender. 😂
@@vg1024 do you think you are perfect? Are you telling me? There’s absolutely nothing BM need to work on???
Do you think you are on the same level as Asian or WM ??? do you think you earn as much as them?
Do you think you have as many businesses and institutions or corporations as them?
Do you think you are represented politically?
Do you think you can readily go into a hospital and ask to be seen by a BM DR in the same way are the races can ???
Do you think a blck family can Easily find a Bank run by us and request a loan with no problems like other people can ???
@@vg1024 if you want to be the leaders of the community, you have to start behaving us such we have our problems but you also have your issues so if looking beautiful and being natural is the standard, fine I will accept it, but let’s also talk about the things you need to work on!!
Nahhhh he aint from UK
Acccent is fake
The funniest thing is us Black People ate probably the only race that sees this as an issue. Everybody else ar e concentraiting on serious issues.
Blacks have nothing better to do lol, blacks are obsessed with being black 🤣
Maybe it's the other way round, WW date BM but don't want to marry them.
Wrong. Great projection.
Just being honest no if they are into a black guy and they work together most would.
I’m a lifelong LONDONER, and that is fakest British accent ever. Don Cheadle Oceans 11.
Be competitive, stop assuming ownership, drop the low level contempt.
I lived in the UK for 6 years. From my experience black British come in 2 ways: either you're hood or you want to be whyte. I don't fit into those categories.
wow, a binary. You must be telling the truth!
So what category are u then
@@anubis8918 special snowflake
You contradicted your own statement. You’re not very good at this, are you?
I’m a black Brit, and I’m neither hood, or want to be white.. so what am I?
This is some bs. I’m in the UK and am 50 years old and most of the black men I know are married to white women. So what? 🤣
Gawsh, I love your look Mrs. Charde😍😍. I can't lie, after being with whte men ,(currently engaged to one) my attraction towards blk men have diminished down to almost zero. It's like the chemistry in my brain has changed. The blkman can even be considered "super foine" and I still don't see it. There's a lot of us BW who feel this way. Unfortunately, the future for blklove looks very bleak.
Why do BlkMen have to come out your mouth! Go be with you guy!! Trust and believe you WONT BE MISSED!!
The chemistry in your brain was changed a long time ago, lady. It comes from your life-long worship of Dwightman.
Here’s a joke for all:
How do you know that a black woman has a white significant other?
Don’t worry, she’ll let you know without being prompted.
Thank you for ur input miss, but unsure why you would post such a weird comment. Has anyone told you that you have crazy eyes and ur world view is probably trauma or mental health issues?? Anyways I hope the best for you miss :) also is that your fiance in your Facebook or someone's grandfather 👴 he looks like top shelf choice. 😂😂😂
I think you're JEALOUS of Che!!🤔
There's a lot of black women who don't feel that way. Wm are not even a thought.
As a BM I rarely see black couples in London. I think BW say they want BM but really they want a tiny percentage of BM. Then they give you a dirty look when you are on a date with a non-black woman.
Sir, I have respectfully disagree with you. Young black women now are dating outside of their own race, more than their parents generation. I see it in my own life and when I walk around here in big cities (Birmingham and Manchester to be precise). I’m married to a white German, my sister engaged to a white Brit, my best friend married to a white Austrian, another girlfriend married to a white Australian man. Young black women with sense don’t have a problem with BM dating other races because us black women know there is also other types of men out there. 🤷🏽♀️
@@roseakpan8883And black people won't exist by 2050 in uk
@@roseakpan8883 This is simply not the reality.
Go back to….
Black men and women need a break from each other romantically. We should have more of a brother sister vibe because romance wise just don’t work
I disagree. This is a very wild statement. We should keep having these discussions until things get right.
WTF
Are you mental? Then how does the black population continue if both aren't procreating together with eachother?
Speak for yourself. You and your ilk need a break. Other races of people do not spout such bs. It's embarrassing..
I agree.we are actually incompatible.