This series, or should I say 'journey' you have started with Priscilla is absolutely amazing and I cant thank you guys at The Futur enough for doing this!!! These two episodes alone have helped so much in clearing the dust for me when it comes to planning the next move as a creative entrepreneur. I can totally relate to Priscilla when it comes to looking for that express train and no longer wanting to be on the multi-stop one. Anyway, I could go on all day. Thank you once again for doing this series and I will be tuning in for the next episode. Greetings from Warwickshire, UK.
This is a really important video. Thank you, Chris. As a father, I watch my wife struggle through some of the questions of motherhood and work even though she spends a lot of time with our kids. As a father, I have fewer social expectations to give more time to kids and home. TBH, most people won't say anything if a father's scale tips to work and away from taking care of kids or family. It's not right but it seems a fair assessment of the attitudes of most cultures. If your wife is still working I'd be interested in her take on working and motherhood. It might be very helpful in this coaching situation. Thanks again for the great content.
I'm only seeing this video now as I've only recently discovered The Futur website and all of it's amazing resources. Alongside the Melinda Livsey series, I can't tell you how brilliant these have been. I can relate so much, particularly to the work-life-mothering balance. It's so so tough, and I'm so happy such a respected community is finally discussing it. Thank you.
"When we're supposed to be working, we're thinking about our family and when we're with our family we're worried about the work we haven't finished, and so we're not good to our work and we're not good to our family." YYYYYYEEEEESSSSSS! This is the hardest challenge!
Keep this series coming, please! Sent our youngest of 8 to kindergarten this fall after 20+ years of FT parenting, a little design work from home, and a lot of learning. I’m stymied with all the opportunities but want to go all out with whatever I ultimately choose to focus on. I just need direction. Thanks so much!
Thank you for this content. I'm currently in that phase as well, a new mom to a 3-month old baby. One of the many reasons why I left the work force was because I wanted to establish my own practice for when I have a family and not to miss out on precious time. I have found that hiring a nanny for 6 hour days for half the week has worked well. I have also recruited family to help when I had to jump on a client call. I also work in between her naps to get work done.
Thank you for this vid. It's taken me a long time to get my schedule and work/life balance down. But i have a routine everyday now. I also have to keep in mind that even small victories are still victories.
Great content as always. As a (older, 40s) lone worker it seems there are a lot of very similar challenges facing designers who have worked as traditional graphic designers and need to move on. Thanks Chris and the team for helping give us a push in a forward direction.
This 19 min video literally took me an hour to watch because of my kids interruptions lol. The statement on diminishing returns makes complete sense. I've come to realize this myself, I just didn't know there was a term for it. Also Chris, those headphones look really comfortable.
Very relatable comment about life as a working parent being interruptive. Yes, it is a wonderful experience, but it does cause a HUGE disruption. At the time that my son was born, it made more financial sense for my wife to go back to work and for me to look after my son during his early years. As a designer who works from home, it had a BIG effect on my working day and therefore, my income. I had illusions that I could still work with my baby son around... I couldn't. It just simply wasn't practical. He's now almost six years old, and my working day is generally back to what it was prior to his birth. My work at the time was mostly for a regular repeat client, so I am grateful for that, but I found time constraints made it difficult to seek new opportunities. Again, wonderful experience, and one that you do your best to adapt to.
I don’t know if lifestyle is code for “I don’t want to work that much,” so much as it is that lifestyle businesses can have a more diverse focus that is capable of catering to, and amalgamating, broad and seemingly unrelated interests. Peloton is a bike company that publishes music. Red Bull is a sugary drink company that sponsors daring athletes, runs a music label and hosts extreme sports events. Supreme is a clothing company that makes bricks, hammers, and burner cell phones. Lifestyle brands can be hard to launch as a single person, but I can see why many find them to be so appealing in this day and age.
I like these videos but I feel like the reality of the Mental Load that full time parents experience is diminished or even ridiculed. That holding on the pool ladder example. It’s not that one is just holding on to the past. One may have just swam the long length of that pool and pushed up two others up that ladder to safety. Exhausted and needing to get those others (and ones self)dried off and taken care of. The money and warm meal look great but I just gave everything to keep others alive. I’m exhausted. I may not let go of that bar. I may climb up and take care of myself and the others. It’s not always being stuck in the past. Otherwise. The other content is helpful. I just dislike the vibe here.
She is trying to do the feminist lifestyle of being a mom and a career at the same time and it isn't working. Women can have both, but not at the same time. The obvious answer is she should stop working and parent her kids in the traditional style. She might be able to do some part time work on the side as they move out and go full time. They might have to move into a smaller house or cut costs, but that is the cost of properly raising children. She even went further in the wrong direction by paying a service to take care of her kids, like the feminists want. Only you can love your children. Do you hire a woman to go out to dinner with your husband? Of course not, then why do you do the same for your children! The mother is not just some warm body, it is an essential loving figure necessary for proper development of a human being. The feminist ideology is literally destroying the family and generations of humans. It is stressing marriages, stressing children, and making everyone unhappy, including women. It is also making it harder to have children and get married because of the lack of income polarity during the child raising years. The polarity between the sexes actually draws man and woman together to create a complimentary partnership. Also if a society tries to have dual income in your early 20's then if one person quits you just cut your income in half. But, if most women are working as mothers then the labor supply of people early in their careers is about half and the income should be higher for the young men in their careers. That then makes it easier for the women to work full time being the primary nurturer / parent.
How is her being a mother and wanting to have a flourishing career a radical feminist move? The "point" you're making is basically your own view on things and nothing more, women CAN have both and that's not for you to decide.
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So many of us are out here trying to balance parenting and career goals. Thank you for this video.
This series, or should I say 'journey' you have started with Priscilla is absolutely amazing and I cant thank you guys at The Futur enough for doing this!!! These two episodes alone have helped so much in clearing the dust for me when it comes to planning the next move as a creative entrepreneur. I can totally relate to Priscilla when it comes to looking for that express train and no longer wanting to be on the multi-stop one. Anyway, I could go on all day. Thank you once again for doing this series and I will be tuning in for the next episode. Greetings from Warwickshire, UK.
Cheers
This is a really important video. Thank you, Chris.
As a father, I watch my wife struggle through some of the questions of motherhood and work even though she spends a lot of time with our kids. As a father, I have fewer social expectations to give more time to kids and home. TBH, most people won't say anything if a father's scale tips to work and away from taking care of kids or family. It's not right but it seems a fair assessment of the attitudes of most cultures.
If your wife is still working I'd be interested in her take on working and motherhood. It might be very helpful in this coaching situation.
Thanks again for the great content.
I'm only seeing this video now as I've only recently discovered The Futur website and all of it's amazing resources. Alongside the Melinda Livsey series, I can't tell you how brilliant these have been. I can relate so much, particularly to the work-life-mothering balance. It's so so tough, and I'm so happy such a respected community is finally discussing it. Thank you.
"When we're supposed to be working, we're thinking about our family and when we're with our family we're worried about the work we haven't finished, and so we're not good to our work and we're not good to our family."
YYYYYYEEEEESSSSSS! This is the hardest challenge!
Jim Rohn. Read his book.
Keep this series coming, please! Sent our youngest of 8 to kindergarten this fall after 20+ years of FT parenting, a little design work from home, and a lot of learning. I’m stymied with all the opportunities but want to go all out with whatever I ultimately choose to focus on. I just need direction. Thanks so much!
I have been looking for this kind of content. As a mother of young kids, I truly struggle with balancing it all. Thank you for this.
You’re very welcome and keep it up mom
Thank you for this content. I'm currently in that phase as well, a new mom to a 3-month old baby. One of the many reasons why I left the work force was because I wanted to establish my own practice for when I have a family and not to miss out on precious time. I have found that hiring a nanny for 6 hour days for half the week has worked well. I have also recruited family to help when I had to jump on a client call. I also work in between her naps to get work done.
If you haven't seen it yet, don't forget to check out the first part of the conversation. 🖥 ua-cam.com/video/sRlJzrDa8Ak/v-deo.html
Really needed to hear this today. I sincerely thank you Chris and company
Just found out about this series. Totally can relate to Priscilla's position, thank you for this.
Love the way the chris do make the conversation !!! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
More content like this plz.
Interruption is the enemy of productivity. Big facts.
Oh My.. YES..
Feel this today, in particular.
yup!
Great interview, thanks for your honesty Priscilla, Letting go of the past....to get to the lifestyle career we really want.
Thank you for this vid. It's taken me a long time to get my schedule and work/life balance down. But i have a routine everyday now. I also have to keep in mind that even small victories are still victories.
I'd like to see more episodes with Priscilla 👍🏻
you got it Jen.
Thank you for the timestamps. I'm a father of two young kids and didn't have time for the whole video, lol.
We got you ;)
Play in the background.. 😀🤙
same here I saved the previous one cause it was longer and now I am watching this one in parts!!!
Great content as always. As a (older, 40s) lone worker it seems there are a lot of very similar challenges facing designers who have worked as traditional graphic designers and need to move on. Thanks Chris and the team for helping give us a push in a forward direction.
wow... WOW. Chris dropped a bomb on me with the diminishing returns reference. So much value in this, thanks so much Chris!!
You’re very welcome
Chris is Soo patient!
I’ve been accused of much worse
I'm right there with this series... really hitting "home" with me!! Thank you!!
You’re very welcome john
Yes yes at 2:07 my challenge everyday.
This 19 min video literally took me an hour to watch because of my kids interruptions lol.
The statement on diminishing returns makes complete sense. I've come to realize this myself, I just didn't know there was a term for it.
Also Chris, those headphones look really comfortable.
the headphones are comfy. I've tried many. It's form a brand call Aiaiai
Very relatable comment about life as a working parent being interruptive. Yes, it is a wonderful experience, but it does cause a HUGE disruption.
At the time that my son was born, it made more financial sense for my wife to go back to work and for me to look after my son during his early years. As a designer who works from home, it had a BIG effect on my working day and therefore, my income. I had illusions that I could still work with my baby son around... I couldn't. It just simply wasn't practical. He's now almost six years old, and my working day is generally back to what it was prior to his birth.
My work at the time was mostly for a regular repeat client, so I am grateful for that, but I found time constraints made it difficult to seek new opportunities. Again, wonderful experience, and one that you do your best to adapt to.
Chris "the hobo chieftain" Do (love these type of episodes)
Awesome one, looking forward to another episode :)
I don’t know if lifestyle is code for “I don’t want to work that much,” so much as it is that lifestyle businesses can have a more diverse focus that is capable of catering to, and amalgamating, broad and seemingly unrelated interests. Peloton is a bike company that publishes music. Red Bull is a sugary drink company that sponsors daring athletes, runs a music label and hosts extreme sports events. Supreme is a clothing company that makes bricks, hammers, and burner cell phones.
Lifestyle brands can be hard to launch as a single person, but I can see why many find them to be so appealing in this day and age.
Love it
hey i want to watch the series from the start but i cant find it ?
go to our youtube page and then click videos. they are displayed by date.
Let’s not forget that there are fathers that have kids and are single parents too. It’s not as rare as we are led to believe
Great video :)
Thanks
If your husband is able to support the family, I think you'd better be a great mom. :)
Me: nodding throughout the video.
After the video is over.....
Me: WTF?! I am not even a mother yet.
I like these videos but I feel like the reality of the Mental Load that full time parents experience is diminished or even ridiculed. That holding on the pool ladder example. It’s not that one is just holding on to the past. One may have just swam the long length of that pool and pushed up two others up that ladder to safety. Exhausted and needing to get those others (and ones self)dried off and taken care of. The money and warm meal look great but I just gave everything to keep others alive. I’m exhausted. I may not let go of that bar. I may climb up and take care of myself and the others. It’s not always being stuck in the past. Otherwise. The other content is helpful. I just dislike the vibe here.
Thank you for the feedback.
She is trying to do the feminist lifestyle of being a mom and a career at the same time and it isn't working. Women can have both, but not at the same time. The obvious answer is she should stop working and parent her kids in the traditional style. She might be able to do some part time work on the side as they move out and go full time.
They might have to move into a smaller house or cut costs, but that is the cost of properly raising children. She even went further in the wrong direction by paying a service to take care of her kids, like the feminists want. Only you can love your children. Do you hire a woman to go out to dinner with your husband? Of course not, then why do you do the same for your children!
The mother is not just some warm body, it is an essential loving figure necessary for proper development of a human being. The feminist ideology is literally destroying the family and generations of humans. It is stressing marriages, stressing children, and making everyone unhappy, including women.
It is also making it harder to have children and get married because of the lack of income polarity during the child raising years. The polarity between the sexes actually draws man and woman together to create a complimentary partnership. Also if a society tries to have dual income in your early 20's then if one person quits you just cut your income in half. But, if most women are working as mothers then the labor supply of people early in their careers is about half and the income should be higher for the young men in their careers. That then makes it easier for the women to work full time being the primary nurturer / parent.
How is her being a mother and wanting to have a flourishing career a radical feminist move? The "point" you're making is basically your own view on things and nothing more, women CAN have both and that's not for you to decide.
@@fernandoaleta9807 You can't decide to break the laws of space and time. No human can do that, man or woman.