Dating in France (vs. USA): aka I went on a date in Paris and here's what happened...
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2020
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DATING IN FRANCE VS. DATING IN THE U.S....what I wish I knew | Whewww ... do I have some stories for you 🙂. Dating in Paris has been QUITE the experience. In this video I'm sharing what I WISH I knew before jumping into the Paris dating scene (aka dating in France vs. dating in the U.S.), along with a few stories from my personal experience with dating in Paris. If you're an expat moving to France and looking to date - WATCH THIS before you get yourself caught up ;).
In this video:
0:49 Dating in France vs. Dating in the U.S.
2:47 Personal Dating Stories
10:44 How I met baeeee
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Hey guys! I’m Tiff - a lover of food, travel, and good vibes. After traveling to Italy when I was 16, I made a promise to myself that I would live abroad before I was 30. And I made it happen! In 2017, I tapped out of my PRgirl lifestyle to pursue an MBA in Paris. Yes, Paris! The timing was all too perfect. Jumping out of my comfort zone and moving to Paris, was the scariest thing that I’ve done in life thus far, and I couldn’t be happier with my decision. This channel is my outlet for sharing more about my life abroad and the life lessons learned along the way.
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Well done for making the big move. Are you looking to become French as well?
I honestly don’t get how people can date someone for 6months and not be in a relationship or at least not discuss it long term intentions.
That’s my normal time frame in all my dating and relationships 😂it’s pretty ridiculous
Use the 3 month rule.
When you both have a lot going on like school and jobs, dating is tricky, aligning your schedules is not easy. So 6 months passes by so fast.
@@dantatadangote4700 bullshit detected
I did it for a year and a half because I was young and insecure about who I was. Just ducked buddies for that time. We ended up dating and got married this year. But I kinda got lucky.
In France, u will be in a relationship and not even know it ahahah.... entanglement
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“Entanglement” 🤣🤣🤣
YouKnowWasup and that’s on jada 😂
Je enteglementè
Do you think this means that loads of people go on max 2 dates with someone and make their mind up because they don't want to lead you on by asking you on another date?
Your hair tho😍😍
Thank you! x
Need a style video please :)
right ❤️
My thoughts exactly lol it's why I watch
Seriously!
I dated a guy from Paris and he was talking marriage in two weeks. He said in the US people waste too much time!
Talking marriage is smart, that means telling someone “this is my goal, if you don’t have the same one we will end here”. Proposing marriage in the first few weeks is entirely different. Which was it?
Yep but talking about that doesn’t specifically means considering it seriously
They def do. Too much time wasting.
@@lizam3846 better than what Americans do where they don't even discuss it for months and wanna bs and go with the flow.
I live in Germany and I met my significant other here who is also American. After going on dates like multiple times and spending a lot of time together I thought we were girlfriend and boyfriend.Two months later this dude comes to my house and ask me if I want to be his girlfriend 😅 I was so shocked because yeah in my head our relationship was obviously official lmao and I kinda felt embarrassed 😅.Now we've been married for 4 years and have 2 kids together. 🤗
At least it has a happy ending lol
Then after 4 years and two kids he came to you and ask: I would like to stay with you only if you feel it is a serious relationship...
@@vinct7023 🤣😂🤣
I'm so glad to see another black American in Paris channel, keep up the good work !!! :)
Chrisbit1 Thank you!! Appreciate the support 🙌🏾
I couldn’t care less
@@aaronmariscal7983 stop being bitchy and leave her account if u don't like it
@@weavesnatched_1153 How about you leave my country alone since we couldn’t care less about most attention getting blacks?
@@aaronmariscal7983 Treat your black Frenchs better, then talk.
“Didn’t want to get in trouble with his mom” I DIED! 😂😂
Nikayla Scott 😫😭 I was like if this man don’t get up out of my apartment....☠️
Bruh! That had me so weak! Like isn't dude grown???? 😂 I think he might've been married and Mom was code for WIFE.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
@@FreedomWriter3 I might be wrong, but moving out of your parents home asap is only the strongest in the States from my experience. In my culture and country it is encouraged to live with your family as long as you can (some must do that forever). Obviously France is a European country, so it's different, but most of my French friends, especially the ones that originally from Paris tend to live with their family too and it's fine.
@@TheAimanana Yeah! Of course! I didn't mean anything by my original comment. I was just trying to be funny.
Soo pretty love ur hair.. That guy that said that he was gonna get in trouble with his mom I’m pretty sure that it wasn’t his mom it was his wife
Lawdddd jesus 😂
Tiffanie Davis 😂 men can get pretty creative
@@mexicanbeautyqueen7988 100!!
As a French living in Paris for only 2years I was also really surprised when I arrived to see that a lot of men are still living with their parents, even though they would be 30 years old, but I learned from my Parisians friends that it was really normal and usual because the rent in the city is so up high that some of them just can't afford a rent, so they stay with their parents and it kinda makes sense... Paris is freaking expensive !
Either way, it's a bummer.
In France, you kiss---you date. But you can end it as soon as you want.
I learned that the hard way with my ex... 2 years living together and suddenly he didn’t love me anymore and I moved out. 😃
@@And-vm5ms so sad :(
I've found most of europe is like this tbh
And by the way, Tinder in France is really the app for people only looking for a one night stand
Yessss totally can see that now smh.
😯
in which country is that not the case lol
@@theBakinNoob yeah is like wtf. Lol don't take anyone serious from tinder. Never use it. But some folks told me bad stories...
That's everywhere. But some ppl have formed relationships there so ppl tend to try it anyway. (Yes I know it's not common)
Seems like we meet the right people when we least expect. Nice story.
100% agree! Always comes when you're not looking for it!
I am living vicariously through you!
🙌🏾😊🙌🏾 these experiences were too much!
ahah this "dating" concept is so weird to Europeans, at least to Frenchies. In theory, I can see the good side of it, but it feels sooo counter-intuitive, like "you seem nice but I keep my options open because I'm not so sure", which is something I would be so insulted if a guy was doing that to me.
The french mentality is more that you commit: you are in it and that's it, but on a day to day development, not thinking marriage or anything more than 1 year ahead. And then if it doesn't work out, you break up and done, you gave it a full shot, and won't be half not sure that maybe this guy was a good one but because you had others in mind it kinda took down your involvement. When you have too many available choices you almost end up not choosing anything.
I'll always remember the shook of my boyfriend when we never have had a date, we just knew each other from school, and when he told me "I am falling for you", I just kissed him x'D There's only one way to test the chemical side yo
As someone else was saying "In France, you kiss you date", so for me in order to "date" someone we need to kiss. Otherwise it's just undercover flirt that could as well be friendzone.
It's totally that, I always feel that the first month is like trial period of the relation and if it don't work then you break up, it's not a big deal you honestly give a try and focus on him or her at it's fullest. And if it go longer than a year it's that the real love is here and you can start to think about either moving together or something.
@@mokapeach1791 Very true and I feel like the French, maybe Europeans in general have different views on monogamy.
4:59 "C'est chaud" (it's hot) is slang for "it's complicated" maybe that was what he meant then. _It's complicated to go out to eat tonight_ ... but apparently y'all still had drinks, so Idk lol
Aka he probably didn’t have the money 😬
@@youayou31 Lolll
Lmao yesssss
Girl, "je suis chaud" means "I am down" so "I'm down to go and eat" loooool
@@joshuarodriguez5986 Really in my French class we learned that "Je suis chaud" means I'm horny - there's a strong sexual innuendo if you say that.
I am from Paris and living currently in Canada Toronto since 2 years. The dating culture was a shocked for me and it's still lol. I miss Paris for that, I think in France it's a bit more easier to get in a exclusive relationship than in America. Western and European culture is definitely different.
Not sure if it’s a European thing, here in Scandinavia we can date for months and months before we decide to go official. I, for one, decided to go exclusive with my now husband after just a few dates but we didn’t make it official (and I didn’t tell him I really liked him!) until six months later 😅😂 We’re happily married since 11 years now so it all worked out fine in the end though.
Europe is the west too
Je suis rentrée par rapport à ça j’ai passé un an au Canada . C’était bon pour moi j’allais pas resté célibataire à vie.
@@jessilicious243 Il y'a tellement de Français qui rentrent pour les mêmes raisons!
@@SM-fj4kz lmao 😅 I am kind of questioning my choice now, Toronto is an interesting city but dating here is a struggle.
You are DROP DEAD GORGEOUS!! As a fellow woman who is also DROP DEAD GORGEOUS I can tell you meeting a bunch of weirdos before you get ACTUAL bae is part of life. You are AWESOME!! I am happy you found your bae. I am still looking for mine. Thanks for sharing. :)
Yasss! Got to get through the bad to get to the good! x
I only dated Parisians for the longest time but ended up marrying an expat. An American like me who misses the Cheesecake Factory.
Omg LOL @ the Cheesecake Factory!! Love that resto though 🤣
*in France* “everyone was speaking French 🙄” LOOOL I LOVE YOU 😭
Ikr
dating? where should I start? dont smile too much like americans generally do or you will have an admirer before you know it!
LOL
Damn 😭😭
Really? How so? Smiling is normal and natural.
LOL AMEN 👏🏽
I probably need to learn to casually smile more in public.
this is the first video I'm watching from you, didn't even watch it yet but GIRL THAT IS THE MOST FABULOUS HAIR I'VE EVER SEEN
(btw that's what attracted me, your hair is so beautiful it works as a clickbait)
Lol thank you!! x
Me too 😂😅
Same here! Hair clickbait! Lol!
Photoshoot Bae was a scammmeerrrrr😂😂😂😂
Brad Pitt is on Tinder😂😂😂😂😂
100%!
And I guessed crime syndicate lol
Sex trafficker is my guess lol
Google Translate dating NO! You are so brave! 😂it all sounds too much work! You have my admiration for not giving up!
Girl .. too much!! HA
you are LITERALLY the BEST story teller IM DYINGG WITH YOUR STORIESSS
Hahahah thank youuu
You are one bold young lady. Moving to a foreign country, and making it work for you, wow! I'd be like "Paris", a nice place to visit, but....you know the rest.
Lol that's totally how I was at first I was like who the hell is moving to Paris!! Thank you so much for your kind words, it was a huge move but so glad I did it!
Sis, you said 21 sound bar ?? Fine men over there ?? 👀 Let me add this bar to my list lol I’m French and I didn’t even know
LOL! 😂Yesss girl, everytime I went there last year I wound up making eyes with someone! 😂
I had the best night of my life in that club lol. Met this fine ass group of jamaican men that were all over me and my girlfriends. But be mindful tho, they can be hella colorist. They love their lightskinned women lol
C est le 21 pas loin de Bastille
I need to go to this place!
This video was made 4 months ago and UA-cam is only just now recommending it to me. 😖😖😖
As a Mexican in Paris I also found myself in a situation where I was expecting a French man to ask me to be his girlfriend after a couple of months of going out 😂 maybe we were already together-together and I just wasn't aware. In Mexico we have the same perspective as US-Americans when it comes to having "the talk" that makes things official
@@matthieuschmitter6676 I quite like that, though. It's more romantic the French way.
The guy I dated in France at 21 still reaches out me to~15 years later and we ended on a BAD note. Dude move on!
Lawddd Jesus ☠️
isn't he just keeping in touch with a friend ?
Tiffany, thank you so much for making this channel and keeping us posted especially me I’ve been following you since I met a French boy on IG back in 2018 this has been a ongoing fiery passionate conversation . He and I are excited really refreshing to hear what you were saying because all those traits that you’re talking about with dating in France versus dating here in the US it is so true, we are now planning to see each other in person and have a whole bunch of sightseeing there in Paris. He’ll be coming back here after fall semester ends because I’m in medical school and I’m super excited. Thank you so much for just all the info and encouragement, love don’t have to be found where you live as long as it’s a healthy connection !
"What do you do for work"?...the answer he didn't want to give is.."i'ma scammer"😂😂😂
Hey girl! I just moved here from Canada & have had a similar culture shock surrounding how dating here works lol. It's very intense! Tinder bae sounds like a Grade A psycho - you really dodged a bullet with him 😳
Grace Report Hey! And welcome to Paris!! Yeah girl I was not expecting it to be so intense! haha yeah had to ‘thank you next’ tinder bae real quick... entirely too much
Same for me ! I moved from France to Canada and I had a BIG culture shock, and a lots of heartbreaks :'(
Didn’t know grace was doing teen mom reports from france
How do you know she dodged a bullet that may have been his job,military that’s why he can’t talk about it.
Hair looks amazing. Also, great video. It's good to showcase dating differences around the world.
What a great story🥰 So cute how you opened the gate.
You are a great storyteller - so interesting! I'm definitely subscribing!
The editing is really good! It's very engaging too. My husband said you are something that he'd follow (expat lol) I'll ask him to check it out!
Kelly Lei hey eboss!! thanks again for watching & for the feedback! 🖤
@Tiffanie Davis... love your content❤..I'm heading to Paris next month...what is the name of the club you mentioned?
Loved these stories and also you are GORGEOUS!
Thank you so much! haha, I'll have to do another 'storytime' video where I chat about other crazy experiences I've had here
OMG your hair is absolutely gorgeous.
Thank you! xx
Damn I'm French and I just understood that I am in relationship thanks to this video 😂😂😂 Didn't know this guy was being serious when he said he wanted to marry me haha
This was such a fun video to watch! (btw you are so beautiful!) I am glad you found your guy in the end!
I am English, live in France too, have grown up here and even I still find dating in France really intense ! I prefer not to date at all (which is sad I know) purely because guys just don't seem to understand the concept of me just wanting to get to know them without anything serious (even if I do like them). So I am happy to stay officially single and only date someone once I have already gotten to know them in another context. It's too complicated otherwise...
The video ive been looking for ..... love to see it!
Aamina Thanks!! Dating in Paris has definitely had its ups and downs haha - hope it helps!! 🖤
First time watching you and I just have to say your hair is GORGEOUS
Thank you so much!!
Loved your story about how you met bae! So cute
Shannon Jenkins Haha thank you!! xx
Bro I'm not even focused in the content of the video. Your hair is giving me liiiiiffffeeeee 😍😍😍😍😍 you're definitely my hair goals omg
Lol thank you so much!
Love hearing your stories!! Hilarious with some of them, but what fun and glad you got Henry. Thanks for your super relatable content, I love Paris and visit annually when I go back to the U.K. It's always a LOL culture shock/ feels so cheeky to be there so the cons fall away as we enjoy the beautiful city- even if we come across some grumps that hate the British accent , haha
Love your stories hon...so funny...some of them sound cray cray😂
Lol a mess!! x
Your hair is so beautiful! 😍
These stories are killing me 😂😂😂😂😂
Listennn 🤣🤣🤣.
Emily in Paris is QUAKING.
This gave me life! I really needed this right now 🙌🏽 BTW I bet photoshoot bae was being mysterious because he doesn’t have a job. I’m willing to bet money on it...
Oh god, lmao! 😂
I LOVE YOUR HAIR OMG
Watching from Toronto. Omg 😲 your dating stories are hilarious 😆. Reminds me of my early days. You should write a book about these experiences. May turn it to a movie. Glad you have your head on your shoulders. Stay safe and be well. Continue to have fun and live your life to the fullest. Take care. New subscriber.
Hahah I had no idea what I was getting myself into 🤣. Thanks so much! Welcome to the tribe!
You are Stunning !! Your hair is FABULOUS!!
Thanks very much for sharing your stories lol. I went on a tinder date or two when I lived in a smaller city in France. I speak French but That didn’t help me with the “3 dates and you’re together” concept. The guy seemed cool, cute, we went on a couple dates. We didn’t have much chemistry, I found. I was gunna have to move back home shortly anyway, so I more used that excuse 😅 he didn’t seem to understand why I was ending it 😅 Oh well. Love your hair and top and I’m glad you found bae in the end!
I loved Paris I went there three times and it was beautiful!
It’s been awesome here! 🙌🏾
I LOVE your hair!!! :)
Thank you! x
My goodness, I have just found and subscribed to your channel. You are beautiful inside and out!
This is hilarious, so good. Thank you so much for sharing.
Gf you were spot on. I'm a black american too and have been here +20yrs and have had similar expériences....lol!!
Now I have my man🙏
Thx for sharing👊🏾
Yasss to you finding your man! Guess we have. to get through the bad ones to get to the good ones ;)
Your hair is so incredibly beautiful!
Had a similar dating experience in Paris... after about 2-3 dates.. one day we were walking to the movie theater...we were passing a hotel and he suggested we go there ... in my best French.. which was horrible...I basically told him ... that was not going to happen and he was pretty much crazy for even suggesting it...we continued to the movie in silence... and the whole thing fizzled after that.😳 oh well.
Lol! Funny that you had the same experience, whewwww lawdd!
So basically in France, they date you for 3 dates to sleep with you and sugarcoat it as "after 3 dates we're automatically in a relationship"? Gotcha!
I just find your experience very interesting, thank you
thanks for sharing! Also, just and FYI the sound effects (especially the dinging) is super loud.
In my opinion, the fact the guy who still lived with his mom was not a reason to drop him... it was just a cultural difference.
Yes in african culture its normal for example.
Cecile g Girl I’m West African. Nigerian to be specific and that is not normal. Africa is a continent please specify what country you’re talking about. Cause not all Africans approve of that.
It's common in my culture as well. Depending on the part of the country where you live.
definitely , a lot of cultures you live with your parents until you get married, I have an uncle whose in his 60s still living at home cause he's been a bachelor, nobody says anything cause its not weird.
@Bougie Barb You'd never date in Italy, then. Lol
Not from France, but it's true that in Europe we go exclusive fast to see if it might go somewhere. But your stories cracked me up, I think you just had bad luck :))
This is the first video of yours. Subscribed!
Lol! Thanks for sharing! I know what to watch out for now.
I'm a Brit living in the French countryside. It would be cool to date but probably not as many options like in Paris. I think I'll give it a whirl with my limited French language skills! I might learn a few more new words 😅
Idk how I ended up here but I LOVE your hair!! 🙂
Lol thank you!!
The part about where you got stuck at the door, the same thing happened too me when I went to Paris. The air b&b that my family and I were staying at, to get out you have to press a button and push hard, but my aunt and I didn't know that so we were stuck at the door for 10 minutes trying to get out, and the security camera was looking right at us, very embarrassing.
😂😂😂
This was fun to watch 😉
"It's too hot to eat" had me dyingggg 😂
Your hairstyle is amazing !
These stories are hilarious! 🤣
Girl! Dating out here is a wholeeeee thing. hahaha
Tiffanie Davis haha I see!
You date a few months with someone before being into a relationship in the US ?
That does sound crazy to me 😅
i think i need to re-evaluate my dates, going take this notes to go to bars if they ever reopen here in paris... because girl, on these apps. no bueno.
oooh chile! my niece to see this! Love it!
Girl you got me at Fine tall men I live in Orlando FL but this past march I was in Paris for a day visiting and exploring now I know where to go next year 🙏🏽 when this virus is situated
Hahaha yess girl, I was always meeting people at that bar!! Yess keep it on your lit for one you come :)
I grew up here in Paris and exclusively dated black men and they were all sketchy and cringy. I dated in Uk as well, and the relationship were less complicated there
I’m sooo happy that you moved, I have wanted to move to France but I have been saying that for three years now -_- agh.
Ahhh you need to download my move abroad mindset guide! It’s totally free!
Love your hair! It’s so nice to see African American Women in Paris... I lived in Paris with my French Boyfriend (White guy) before dating app were discovered.... later Dated someone from Cameroon... Although this was long ago it was a big difference between the African French vs White French in between I had other dates. I really love Paris and still visit however, married an American!! Enjoy😘😘 Stay Beautiful💃🏽
African men move fast
“Hey baby i love you!” On day one before they ask you out 😂😂😂
Yes, to stay in the country 🤣
@@ketaviopinion8083 🤣
I can definitely second that! 😂😂😂😂😂😂
I've heard they are bad news.
Hey love this vlog! However I wanted to ask what lipstick brand and color are you wearing?
It's Too Faced!! Pretty sure I'm wearing the 'wine not' shade here :)
I like this! Lol that’s how I think anyway. That 3-5 thing 😂
As a French I chose to go exclusive or not after 2 or 3 date then drop the things If love does not follow the excitement and feeling of the beginning. You can saw it as a trial period where I only focus on one relation to see if it will work but generally I'm not wrong and get long relationships. But if it don't work breaking up after few week or a month is not a big deal
That’s it I’m done with America I’m moving to Europe
Dont come to U.K. it’s the same as USA
😂😂 me too
love your shirt!
Love this ❤️
🤩 your hair is beautiful ! Wonderfully styles 👏🏿
Thank you!
i live in the uk but originally from Cameroon and this is the second vid i am watching just found ur utube today and i am loving it when u said tinder bae was from cameroon i was like lets go lol
loving your channel, i just discovered it!! is it hard to live in paris without knowing a lot of french?
Love that style of braids!
Yasss I was hoping you’d talk about photo shoot bae.
mdshalom Lol! 😂 almost forgot about him
"A smooth ten minutes..." OMG, you're hilarious!
🤣🤣🤣
I love the colours that you are wearing. If you care to share, where did you get it from?
SZB Thank you! It’s a dress from Zara! xx
Yes, it is lovely!
I'd rather a man who doesn't want to get in trouble with his mum than with his wife lol
🤣☠️
This was a great vid! Part 2 popped up in my feed but I'm like - nope! Gotta start at the beginning! I live in Quebec, so we speak French here but I've never lived/dated outside of Quebec so I was very interested in your story.
Have you learned a bit more French? Est-ce tu pratiques plus souvent avec ton chum? ;)
Yesss just got a French tutor!
I met my Frenchman in Australia, he was here on a working visa and later sponsorship as a sous chef
Hey Tiffanie you look absolutely gorgeous hun! Can you please share the link for the Zara dress?
Ahh I don't think it's in stock anymore I bought this is 2019 but if I can find it I'll share :)
Omg! I live in Paris too and I have had a similar experience as tinder bae! So weird! I've currently given up on dating in Paris
Lol! The struggle! It's hit or miss over here
Try Bumble or Hinge, you may have better interactions and dates These apps force people to be more intentional and/or transparent that Tinder, and encourage real conversations. Plus, they are less time consuming.
I don't know if it's relevant for you but I would also suggest to 1) explore going on dates with other races, 2) Be more specific about what you value/love in relationships in your app description 3) Don't go on a date of the conversation does not feel great/amazing (Coucou ça va kind of chats)
All the best girl, keep your head up !
Feel free to follow my work empowering women from Africa and the black Diaspora >> instagram.com/candacenkoth
Take care
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